Episode Thirty-Five: Facetune | Violating Community Guidelines Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 21 сен 2024
- Put your hand up if you've NEVER used Facetune or Photoshop on any of your Instagram photos. Now put your hands down, because we all know you're lying. This week, Brittany and Sarah discuss Facetune, photo-posting culture, and social media trends as a whole.
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Guys pls don’t be feel that these episodes need to be shortened. I would listen to you guys talk for 5 hours straight and never get bored. Your conversations are so fun and interesting to listen to. Maybe you feel rushed cuz you’re busy or something idk, but don’t feel you need to rush for the fans sake. Love u guys 💗
It probably has something to do w The company they work for and their sponsors. 🤷
These episodes are my only way of knowing that weeks are passing
Since Bailey Sarian stopped MM&MM I have to rely on VCG(Monday), Two Idiot Girls(Tuesday), Stiff Socks/DCMWG/MessyPod(Wednesday) and Unhinged(Thursday) to keep track bc my work is oncall so no keeping track that way lol
FR 😭 I would have no sense of time without this podcast
how do i rt a RUclips comment
Broo 😭
Literally
I will never get over how well spoken both Brittany and Sarah are, they’re so good at not only saying things in a way that’s understandable but still eloquent and makes u want to like.. do something lol
Literally, like imagine any other influencer trying to make an entire episode on FaceTune, bronies 😂😂, so many other topics, & it being interesting, they just do it so damn well they could talk about anything
“I’ll show you a face in hole!” Brittany Broski. 😂❤
Pete the cat!!
I used to have a false sense of superiority because I didn't use Facetune, turns out I just hated myself and refused to post photos of myself in any context regardless of editing lmao
Yeah same
Oooof that hits close to home 😅
Oop same
This is actually such a vulnerable episode. Feels like my two big sisters are giving me life lessons and I'm so here for it
Siblings vibes fr
Read this comment while they were googling how to sniff glue 😂😂
this podcast is one of my fav examples that the funniest internet personalities are always mad intellectual/knowledgeable outside of their short form content
And then they have moments of like not knowing about space
It’s beautiful
They really scratch that itch that Jenna left me with, and I think it’s for this reason.
humor and wit do take a certain level of intelliegience to execute!
@@minokawasum love this bestie, you’re so right
@@lumpy5733 completely agreed lumpy space princess. I miss Jenna so much 😭😭😭
It’s honestly really sad how much Facetune I used on myself when I was in middle school, a literal child editing my waist smaller when I was already skinny
Felt that 🥲 and it's so sad that nowadays I look back and go "god I wish I was still that skinny."
I never was!!! it was facetuuuuune! Brain damage
This just supports how I feel that children shouldn’t have access to these things or social media.. it’s sad how much it affects them.. No child in middle school should feel they need a small waist.. 😞
I feel so bad for the younger generation having access to social media at such a young age, becoming completely obsessed with their body image, it's so incredibly sad to see kids today acting and looking like they're in their 20s, they're completely robbed of their childhood and when they realize it themselves, it's already too late. I feel very fortunate to be born in the late 90s and didn't have to go through all of this growing up.
@@aspannas On one hand thats true but on the other, we grew up in a time of edited magazines and tv shows and movies that lacked diversity of all sorts such as ethnicities, body types etc. We didn't have this much access to a wide variety of media. Although younger kids are growing up in a generation with ample social media, at least theres a lot of discussion around beauty standards (which we didn't have) and a variety of diverse media they can access. So yeah we still grew up with a lot of body image pressure and standards that still exist today, even though we weren't on our phones 24/7
@@SO-vw8nx That’s also very true! There’s so much more awareness, diversity and open discussion about beauty standards today than when we grew up.
It’s just unfortunate that they’re exposed so early to it, especially at an age where they’re so impressionable. Personally I never really cared about my looks until I became a teenager, I wasn’t reading magazines where there would be focus on beauty standards.
The best advice my photography professor gave me was "if they can't fix it immediately or it's permanent, don't edit it out." For example you can edit stray hairs or lipstick on teeth (even a pimple or dark circles under the eyes) but not freckles, scars or wrinkles or their body type!
i have freckles on my face, but not in the cute way, and it took me so long to get comfortable with the idea of leaving them uncovered. my college graduation pictures were the first pictures where i left them visible, and the freckle by my eye was mistaken for a makeup mistake, so they edited it out. i haven’t left them uncovered since because i was so embarrassed 💀 that’s definitely just a me problem though- i get why they did it.
When Sarah said that they felt like their only way of connecting to society was conforming to beauty standards,,, something in my brain clicked and I need to go have a solid 4 hour crisis about it and then feel stellar afterward
As of seeing this comment it's been 3 hrs since you posted it; can't wait for those newfound good feelings to emerge in the next hr
It's been 5 are you good?
6 hours in, im rooting for u
10 hours. Bestie you good
11 hours. Please update us.
“The prettier you are, the weirder you can be” really hit home as someone who also grew up with sensory processing difficulties. As a chubby, ratty-haired kid with sensory processing disorder, I did not feel accepted by my peers. And I certainly noticed their increased reception to being my friend when I lost weight and started taking care of my hair and wearing makeup as a teenager
Same thing happened to me, now I just make a game of it and see how weird I can be in front of others or see what I can get through pretty privilege😌💅
“do you wanna just skip to body dysmorphia”
*my brain at 15 deciding having depression just wasn’t enough*
Was genuinely so scary when brittany said it’s been 12 minutes and then literally 5 minutes later 40 minutes had passed
It was actually so weird
I didn't check the timestamp but I refuse to believe
I love how Brittany’s chaos is depicted on her laptop with stickers but Sarah is just out here raw dogging her emotions and anxiety for our entertainment. 🤣♥️
sarah is the type that if she were to get stickers she wouldn’t use them bc she wouldnt be able to decide where to put it
@@skyemccready me too, bestie. I would just collect them lol
@@smolbean9435 I use blue tack to put stickers on things so I don’t have to commit to their placement
@@Zimzum93 you’re a genius
This doesn’t even make sense.
Sarah’s vulnerability in expressing why she wears makeup was so relatable and comforting as a fellow neuro divergent. I teared up as she was explaining how beauty has softened the blow of her social blunders - I definitely relate. I’m so grateful for the genuine conversations and ideas expressed in this podcast. Thank you Sarah and Brittany both for this incredible episode.
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Yes yes yes i related so much as well
This!!
I just think that eventually makeup will become known to be genderless
I really really loved sarah’s points about neurodivergency and being conventionally attractive! as an autistic person who is generally moderately pretty, I was definitely well liked for being “weird” but it also very negatively impacted me because all of my needs for accommodation went unnoticed for so long because people would just say “oh she’s just quirky!” when really I was having a very hard time assimilating with my peers. and on another note I also feel very detached from my gender as a result of being neurodivergent for the same reason sarah said, I already felt like the “other” for my whole life growing up no matter who I was with. just wanted to say thanks for such an interesting conversation 💛
im autistic too and i noticed that the prettier i got, the more tolerant people were of my autism. its fucked up. made me pine after unhealthy beauty standards as a kid in a hope to one day actually be accepted. perhaps thats another contributing factor to why there is a strong cross over with anorexia and asd? (just an idea, i have no credibility)
@@Asbestoslover666 I had a super similar experience and I also suffered from anorexia/bulimia for sooo many years and from very early on in my childhood :/ makes me so sad to think how differently we might’ve grown up if we were recognized as autistic earlier
@@princesstuesday5287 I relate to this so hard… what an interesting point of view I never thought about those two things corresponding. I love what you said up there and am thankful you could sum up what I was thinking about my autism when Sarah said that. The acceptance I’ve felt for being a decent looking female. People accepting me for my weirdness especially men. It makes me wonder how accepted I’d be if I looked different does that make sense?
I’m autistic and have ADHD and I relate to your comment soooo much
@@Asbestoslover666 people are so much less tolerant of my autism and adhd and even my fibromyalgia symptoms now that I’m overweight and present visibly non-binary. When I was under weight and conceptually pretty people just thought I was quirky and loved my beutodivergent traits and were sooo accomodating of my fibro symptoms and now I’m treated soooo differently. I made a whole comment about how shit I’m treated now compared to when I had thin privilege and pretty privilege.
I had to pause and gasp when Sarah described the neurodivergent experience of using beauty standards to feel accepted and included oh my god
I know right! I was so excited someone put into words how I have felt but could never verbalize.
Mmmh usually pretty girls migh have beauty privilege but they don’t have that much friends... witnessed it and that’s sad. And people have the worse assomption about pretty girls who wear makeup and are hyper feminine. Beauty standards were never meant to make women happier or included....but I still relate to the comment💀💀
I started crying. I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD and Autism until a year ago. I remember in high school I legitimately had the thought “I might be weird, but he couldn’t go out and find someone skinnier than me.” about my first relationship. I never put two and two together 🤯
Called my poor ADHD goldfish brain out 🥲 like maybe i'll have a sensory freakout cuz someone touched me or something but at least i'll look hot while doing it lmao
I would love to be in a car with them on the way to film their episodes. They always make it sound like I’m missing out on the best conversations😂😂😂😂
they need to just do a podcast episode while driving in the car lol
I get the humor of facetuning for political purposes but it actually impacts real life. The main example I can think of was during 2008 when John McCain's campaign ads darkened Obama's skin to make him seem more "intimidating". A lot of political researchers think McCain's presidential campaign kicked off extremist "Trump-ers" movement in right wing politics and we're absolutely seeing the effects of that today.
Recently left the house without eyeliner on for the first time in years, and nothing bad happened. I leave the house sans liner half the week now. I know that's a small, stupid thing but it felt big to me. I still can't take a photo of my face though, but I'm getting there. This episode feels very encouraging ☺️ thank you
Sarah’s “I would kill it with a hammer” to that one dog photo is making me lose it holy shit. I love how violent you guys are towards fictional characters
u can tell how old an episode is based on how many stickers brittany has on her laptop
as a trans girl this episode is so fulfilling. i have an incredibly complicated relationship with my own appearance as a result of gender dysphoria and hearing yall talk about your own struggles with your appearances makes me feel a lot less alone
THIS!!!! fellow trans girl here, hearing sarah and brit talk about body dysmorphia was so comforting to hear. :)
Holy shit, Sarah's thing about using pretty privilege when youre younger so your neurodivergence is semi-accepted made me reframe MY ENTIRE ADOLESCENCE (I'm nonbinary too btw)
Hay same *fist bump*
@@IONE_the_Enby should we start a club?
@@donotgotthis absolutely lol
Same (I'm genderfluid)
SAAAAAMMMEEEEEE
I sometimes really miss having thin privilege and pretty privilege. When I was underweight and conventionally femininely attractive people were SOOOOO MUCH nicer and more polite to me. I got better customer service everywhere. Bus drivers were nicer to me. Strangers were nicer to me. Job interviewers were nicer to me and it was easier to get a job. Social workers and mental health professionals and doctors even treated me better and took me more seriously. Now that I present as visibly queer/non-binary and I have gotten a little bit overweight people treat me like absolute SHIT in comparison. Even my boss is less nice to me now, and the receptionists are less patient with me at work and the security guards are less kind to me too. Oh god security guards at bars and bar tenders used to be my BESTIES instantly everywhere I went and now I’m the LAST person at the bar to be served, they get my order wrong etc and security guards are straight up RUDE to me. It’s fucking WILD how differently everyone treats me now that they don’t want to either fuck me or look like me anymore.
I am sorry you experience this. It's incredibly unfortunate and should not be common practice to disrespect people just because they do not fit your standard of pretty. Everyone deserves to feel safe and respected imo.
I was gonna say I miss that too but it actually hasn't stopped happening to me so still bangin I guess 🤷♂️
Broski, girl, thank you for saying what I’ve been trying to explain to people for the past year. I have excepted that I am not “get into the club for free” pretty, but I love myself regardless 💕
Sarah on your huffing glue point. I’m an FX Artist and used to work for a haunted house making sets. So I used to use rubber cement and all sorts of construction glue in a small enclosed space. I was making a cemetery in 109 degree heat in an enclosed warehouse and long story short inhaled waaaay too much glue fumes. I have never been more fucked up in my entire life than when I made 20 graves in 2 hours using nothing but glues styrofoam and paints. It is 110% nightmare fuel. I saw shadow people heard noises I definitely should not have and ended up sleeping in the parking lot for 45min until my boyfriend came to pick me up. I was just laying on the ground high out of my gourd. so like honestly I don’t recommend unless 👀 you want to feel like you’ve been hit by a truck and woke up from a 30 year coma.
I'm not even sure Brittany is aware of how often she slips into the voice of Chills and I am absolutely here for it...every time
It's one of her many accents lmaoooo
whenever i go see my therapist i just quote whatever sarah said in the most recent episode because she's able to put the thoughts and feelings that i feel into words when i can't. i love them so much, i can't wait to hug my favorite silly goofy cousins this month on tour 😍😍
As a trans-man body dysmorphic disorder is truly devastating in every sense as you never really escape it on a daily basis
just know you’re valid, and people who can’t accept that lack the education of how diverse this world really is, and IT IS, they just grow up in a world where they’ve been convinced to the point where if they see something that doesn’t fit what they’ve seen or known, they try to block it out because they think it’s bad and gonna ruin the black and white world they grew up living in…
…but the world is SO DIVERSE beyond what anyone can really imagine.
so tldr from guy to guy, ur valid, and I believe you can get thru this dog shit world in an identity you see the most fitting for yourself :)
Circling back to the topic of "messy makeup", that's exactly what I loved, and miss, about Jenna Marbles and her Ratchet Salon. Her "extra gene" was so relatable!
i’ve been struggling so much with self image recently and this episode genuinely provided me with so much comfort. seeing my favorite people talk about feeling exactly how i’ve felt/have been feeling is so cool. sarah talking about their experiences with being non binary, and brittany talking about really just finding herself made me feel so seen. i love you guys
also this isn’t meant as the backhanded compliments type of thing. like them just talking about experiences helped me so much
i wish brittany and sarah knew how much one podcast episode a week can impact MY week. it’s genuinely so comforting
holy shit Sarah talking about being nonbinary and having a relationship with makeup... I relate to that so hard and it's surreal to hear someone else express that, I'd never really thought of it in that way. I love both of you guys so much!!
Same!! I am very conscious of my pretty privileges and I'll tell you what- I get treated waaaaaaaaayyy better when I'm preforming femininity.
Week 35 of saying “the best part of Monday has arrived” !!!
What’s crazy too if you think about it is how long doctoring photos to fit beauty standards as been around, like literally since the beginning of photography in the Victorian era they were editing women’s waists (under the request of the women) in order to look like they fit into their unrealistic beauty standards
Edit: you could also make the case for portraiture being a way of photo editing too kinda, the rich would ask for their image to be painted a certain way to make them look better and fit into the standards more, even if they didn’t look like that at all lol
Ooo interesting, how did they edit photos back then?
As someone with Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder (DPDR) I can definitely see how it links in ways to my own body dysmorphia. Because I’m so completely disconnected from my own body and have a hard time feeling ownership over my body/words/actions, it can be really jarring to look at myself in the mirror. Majority of my memories and how I perceive life is through a 3rd person perspective, kind of like watching a shitty blurry movie. This completely contributes to how I perceive myself because with my body dysmorphia I already have an extremely skewed idea of how I look, and when I go through these DPDR moments (which is every day) I perceive myself in a blurrier, even more skewed way than through just my body dysmorphic lens. So when I finally do look in the mirror, none of it makes sense. I usually feel like I’m confronted with a complete stranger- same goes for photos. I’m always shocked/confused (and usually disgusted) with how I show up in photos. Also, I tend to forget things like how quickly my hair grows so when I don’t get a haircut after a year, I still have this idea in my head that I have short hair and it takes forever to recognize the change in myself. I also had to make a conscious effort to completely stop using any altering face filters because it would only contribute to the confusion even more. Not sure if any of this makes sense, but just wanted to share my experiences in case anyone else struggles with DPDR and are feeling uncomfortable in their lives. You are not alone, friend! ❤
Sarahs description of feeling detached from the world and using makeup/ looking pretty to feel connected to others hit the nail on the head of what i've been experiencing my whole life
Same
i’m going to overshare a bit, but don’t get me started on the misrepresentation of body dysmorphia. i’ve been 30 pounds underweight and still cried every day about being too fat, too ugly, because i did not see what other people saw to an extreme amount. my nose looked twice the size it actually is to me for years. i would try to scratch off fat that wasn’t there. i look back at pictures of me from high school and my heart breaks for what she saw, and the aftermath still affects me to this day. to me, i can look tens of pounds heavier than i actually am in the mirror sometimes. i can look at myself and swear i’ve gained 20 pounds in the span of a day. its still so hard to differentiate what i actually look like some days, but i’ve learned what my brain does. body dysmorphia not just being insecure, or comparing yourself to others. it’s seeing a completely different person in your own reflection.
I've recently gained a lot of weight and I'm now able to look at photos from 2/3 years ago and actually see what I looked like and it breaks my heart because I thought I was overweight when I was literally thin. I used to hate looking in mirrors and refuse to take off my shirt in front of anyone when nothing was wrong with how I looked. I don't even know if I can actually see myself right now or if it's the same thing all over again
sarah: “yeah”
me in my head: *in an ariana grande voice* “yuh”
The age old rivalry between the brittany and the dopey dates back millennia. Before dopey was born to this world brittany heard a voice from the lord above that in her lifetime a fierce enemy would emerge under her very own roof. What the two of them don’t know is that they were foes in their past lives as well. In dopeys previous lifetime he was a fisherman named Adam. He received the nickname “dopey” by his mother because in every area of his life he just “couldn’t get it right”. Brittany was an aristocrat who would walk past dopeys dock on her way home from tea with the other noblewoman. He loved her from afar until one day he asked if she would join him on his next fishing excursion. After minutes of her declining and his repeated begging brittany looked him in the eye and said quote “I just don’t fuck with you like that”. This lit a fire in the young fisherman’s heart. A a feverish rage would plague him from that day forth until he decided he needed revenge not only on the noblewoman, but every brittany in the world. Over time he fashioned an armada and set out on his journey to destroy the “brittany empire” as he called it. but as long as he searched, he could never again find brittany the noblewoman and furthermore never quench his thirst for revenge. Dopeys sinful ways angered the lord above, so the lord cursed him to be a cat in his next life who still can’t get anything right. But that’s not all. He would be cursed to live under the same roof of his beloved as brittany’s cousinuncle Sharea Shower’s pet cat. In the sacred texts it is prophesied there will be a battle called the Battle of B and D which many believe to be brittany and dopeys final fate. Only one can survive.
This episode is so good. As an autistic person, I really gravitated toward the conversation about microtrends and how it’s hard to keep up. I do not have the ability to keep up with what is cool, so I just always look way behind and lame. Which sucks, but this social game where we just speedrun trends is just not me-friendly
Shout out to all the girlies still shoving their pit skin into their bras and then actively trying to keep your arms pinned to your sides all day like 💁♀️
Omg I'm so glad Sarah said that about how they would just kill themself in zombie apocalypse. that's always been my plan too. I would just give myself over to the zombies.
Currently starving waiting for my folks to show up for the surprise lunch they just sprung on me and this notification saved me. Mangia! I have an olive garden gift card. Brittany's from Positano, she'll back me up on this.
The way I read that as “Mangina!”
@@a.m.b.e.r I did too 😆
I love the new sound panels! They really help with the eye strain feeling I got from the solid wood stripes.
there are SO MANY things i wanted to say here but i wanted to commend Brittany on making the distinction between body dysmorphia & dissatisfaction. i was diagnosed @ 15 and since i can recall, i have not had more than a fleeting moment of clarity on what i may look like in reality. i look 100% different in my brain than what’s real. the most palpable way this was depicted to me was when i was instructed to draw an outline of what _i think_ i look like. i’m then traced on that exact piece of paper to visually compare the dissonance. it’s shocking.
as a trans man i used/ still do use facetune to make my chest look smaller. i've even used it to photoshop a shirtless pic of me to make me look like i have no biddies. i feel like that, and using it in a funny way is the only good facetune has ever done for people.
I'm sorry but I'm dying that this is an episode about body image, and in the middle Sarah and Brittany pause to take turns roasting the fuck out of ET's appearance, and then they just left an image of him up on the screen shaming him while they continued on about body image for the last 10 minutes 😂
As someone whose best friend just got signed to a modeling agency - i understand the concept of being a “side character” that supports the pretty “main character” however- its so freeing knowing that this is my life and I can do what I want with it and I don’t need to participate in this weird competitive way of living. I just stared an art page, I got a new tattoo, getting my hair dyed tomorrow- because I want to, because I can
At about 15:50 all Sarah was saying was "Yuh. Yuh. Yuh." for a solid minute 😂😂
sarah, i really related to your point about pursuing traditional beauty standards because being pretty makes it acceptable to be weird and still be liked. now, i allow myself to stray from feminine gender presentation, but i’m still breaking that down
That bit about microtrends cycling and things being cool and not cool at the same time is so interesting to me. I am chronically online and like to think I'm good at keeping up with popular mindsets/opinions but nowadays I'll be looking at the most innocuous tiktok in the world and the comments are just absolutely obliviating the person and for the life of me I cannot even figure out truly why. I see so many younger people preaching "like what you like, do what you love, don't hate on people when they're not hurting anyone" but roast tf out of anyone who dares show up at school in a somewhat "different" outfit. It's all happening at once like ya'll said and I'm lowkey afraid to post things anymore in case I'm accidentally doing something cringy lol
When Sarah said that stuff about being pretty enough that people still accept being weird. I felt that
sarah constantly going “YUH” in the microphone after the sponsors is halarious😂😂
God I have so much to say about the plus size fashion industry and shopping online - especially being extremely “unproportionate” aka having my tummy stick out more than my butt and smaller boobs for my size. So glad these girls touched on it, would love to see a more in depth convo especially from Brittany. Love y’all so much, thank you for doing this 🥺💓
I had surgery on Saturday & I’ve been bed-ridden, in extreme pain and this podcast has been the only thing making me smile. Thank you both ❤️
Before FaceTune and photoshop, my younger sister used to make her eyelashes longer on the Microsoft paint program 😭
Waiting for the Bald and the Beautiful x VCG crossover 🥹
It messed me up when everyone called Hillary Duff fat when she was doing Lizzie McGuire. The early 00s were a hellish time.
I just adore these ladies so much. Everytime I listen to them speak, I genuinely just hope my kids grow up to be such as an awesome example as they are. Brittany is so educated, emotionally mature and at the same time so funny and relatable and I love it. That’s all.
she said "we're all just trying to learn how to do internet stuff without going to prison for Tax Evasion and without getting cancelled" LMAO
I have a HORRIBLE fear of E.T from recurring nightmares that I had about him when I was younger ... I screamed so loud when y'all pulled up a picture of him.. im cryin I wasnt ready
When Sarah talked about being “pretty” as a way to relate to people and use that as a type of protection for yourself to make up for the “weird” traits you can’t hide or change…my life flashed before my eyes. What an incredible realization.
I’m glad I’m not the only one that found/finds ET horrific. I was terrified of him as a child. Like driven to tears could not even be in the same room as anything with ET on it.
I wait for these every Monday afternoon (uk here btw) and I’m always so happy
The detachment from neurodivergency leading to a detachment to other people leading to a detachment from gender is SUCH a good thought and honestly one I never considered. But that resonates so hard for me. I cannot comprehend how gender is something others think or care about - no shade, I respect it, I just cannot understand it. That disconnect gives me some really great context to think about as to why
on the topic of irony and sincerity around the 20 minute mark, the song Sincerity Is Scary by The 1975 is all about that! really great lyrics
Just here to say that Sarah made me realize I was bisexual and Brittany made me realize I love FanFiction
I'm pissing laughing at the absolute HATRED for E.T.!!! THANK YOU for this episode. For YEARS E.T. has plagued my nightmares and once I had one where he ticked my neck with his extend-o fingers and I pissed myself in fear.
I really appreciate Sarah for being more open and sharing about their experience as a neurodivergent person! I feel seen!!! ❤️❤️❤️
TW ED
I’ve struggled with an eating disorder since I was sixteen, I was nearly hospitalized. It’s truly crazy how the dysmorphia affected me, I think that a lot of skinny people,especially ones who are models/ judged critically online for their looks do feel incredibly self conscious of their stomachs, and I do find value in seeing people online showing it and not being negative about it. I do understand why videos about it can be triggering for people who are not/have not ever been that skinny, but I think it’s important to not shame skinny people for also being affected by dysmorphia. I am finally a healthy weight but I battle thinking about how I have looked in the past every day, comparing myself to it, longing to look how I looked when I was even more self-conscious.
Sitting on the porch with a blunt, listening to my favorite podcast ❤️❤️
Mondays are my favorite because these episodes always come out right before I go on my lunch break
god every time sarah talks about their experience being an afab nby neurodiverse person i relate to her more and more 😭 thank you guys for this episode, its so nice to hear people talk about stuff like this in such a genuine sincere way
holy shit ic ant believe they did a slotomania ad LMFAOOOOO SLAY IG
I love this podcast so much ! I think it would be really great to add reference photos/videos up on the TVs for the RUclips videos ! I honestly only stream once it drops on here so the extra visuals would be nice and more intriguing to watch on this platform
The internet is if you joke about hating it enough you'll end up "unironically" love it
Also its a scapegoat for when you talk online, like you say "oh hear that new X artist song?" Then they give a response of "yes" then sweet. But if its "no" it is more acceptable to say "I unironically love it"
Then wait a few months then the same friend will shamelessly advocate how that song changed their whole week and they love it
💀
brittany makes me feel so happy and i don't even know how to explain it i just love her so much
i look forward to each time y’all post. it makes my day :)
sarah can go from talking about her childhood body image issues to “i was trying to use the minion filter with a ball gag” in 60 seconds and then… resume normal conversation like nothing happened
I knew pretty privilege was a thing, but I didn’t realize how serious until I became more conventionally attractive. I lost a shit ton of weight, and the difference in the way people treat me then vs now? Oh my god dude. Validating at first, now just sad. Like literally people on the street treating me different.
For me it went in the opposite direction. I knew it was a thing but didn’t realise how much of it I had until I lost it.
Same. As someone who has on and off again acne. When my skin is clear suddenly everyone is so nice
Excited to see what Brittany’s last edition to her sticker collection will be
I went on a date with a guy whose pictures were all from at least a year prior, he'd gained a lot of weight and grown a whole beard since those photos had been taken. And he argued that it was still him. I think a big part of the "we don't take into account we have to actually see these people in real life" comes largely from the idea that if you form a connection with someone, they'll overlook you looking different in personn
The call out to Emma Chamberlain being the "blueprint" made me so happy because I also view her as a foundational figure in the way we think about influencers/social media personalities. The para-social relationship I have with her and her content has shaped my sense of self so much and I've always loved how "real" she is.
Sarah. Thank you thank you thank you for always talking about your neurodivergency. That talk in the beginning about having to use thinness or beauty to feel any sense of connection hit hard for me. Especially as a late diagnosed adult. This podcast, Brittany and Sarah mean a lot to me
sarah ggfgttt when i was in high school my art teacher would always give us rubber cement which was stored in a paper bag and be like “do Not huff this glue”.
I grew up looking pretty busted until like 17-18 so it took me a while to realize that my track record (so far) for always getting the jobs I applied for in person was not because I was qualified or charismatic but because I now look more conventionally attractive and I unintentionally played into it by wearing makeup when I interview; I'm nonbinary and pretty much never wear makeup outside of applying for jobs or formal occasions but I guess I always subconsciously had this idea that as an afab it's expected of me
my parents got me an ET plushie when I was younger and I was so scared of it. I would have to hide it under a pile of cushions to be able to sleep in the same room as it.
My journey with makeup has definitely evolved in a way where I can recognize that yes, I do my makeup for men. But now, as someone who either does a complex eye look/full glam or no makeup whatsoever (the latter of which is the majority of the time), I see my makeup as more of a form of ART. Such as in the way that when I, for example, paint something that I'm proud of and want to show it off. Yes, I want compliments. Yes, I want people to think I am talented (or at least fairly competent in the skill). It makes me feel good, and that's ultimately what matters. I have been working towards perceiving makeup in this way because I definitely used to place my self worth entirely in if other people find me attractive. Now, I want people (men included) to notice my makeup and think wow! She looks great! But not in a way where their opinions affect how I perceive myself, but rather for that extra boost of confidence, ya know?
anyways love u both, always a pleasure tuning in xo
had a rough day im glad this podcast uploads on mondays lmao
Y’all could do an episode on a play-by-play of paint drying and i’d eat it up. i love this podcast.
et coming out of brittany’s closet and her screaming at the top of her lungs jumping out a two story window in the middle of the night has me pissing laughing
Thank you for your videos! I’m currently pregnant in my first trimester & feel like shit. I re-listen to your episodes in the middle of the night when I’m nauseous with an ice pack on the back of my neck while eating a granola bar like a gremlin in my bathroom at 2am, so, thanks! You guys make me laugh through the night & provide me a distraction from feeling like shit.
idk if yall read comments or not. but i just want to say there is nothing wrong with being ugly. or having ugly features. i grew up ugly. i have ugly features. but I'm at peace with being ugly, and seeing myself as ugly. i don't care anymore. I'm perfect, and ugly. ugly is not an imperfection. ugly is a construct.
Love that Sarah keeps saying altercation like we're fighting with photos of ourselves
I was listening to this as audio only at first cuz I'm on a roadtrip and get motion sickness but had to switch to youtube once they pulled up the yassified memes 😂
Take a shot every time Sarah says yuh
As a military brat I felt the “Being able to adapt to a situation”. You get to rebuild yourself every few years, and make new friends. I do find it’s lonely because I don’t have very many childhood friends and long term relationships are difficult as I never really had the time to develop those. Other than that, we do develop one hell of a sense of humor.
You both are completely correct about the affect attractiveness has on how the world treats you. It is a known sociological concept beginning at infancy. For example, you are held more as a baby if you are cuter. Conventionally attractive people are treated differently than those deemed conventionally unattractive. "The Importance of Being Beautiful" by Sidney Katz explains it so well.
until now, i never put together that my constant urge to conform to beauty standards was a "safety net" to mask more obvious ND traits. i didn't really have time to hone in on my conversation skills because i was so focused with my appearance and how i was physically perceived
THANK YOU for being real yall. It's nice to hear someone else tell it like it is because many women DO put on makeup for men, even if they say its for themselves. I like to do it every now and then -but for me I know it would be unhealthy to make it a daily occasion, especially knowing that you receive more respect when you wear makeup. It makes you believe it's a necessity to be the best version of yourself when in reality it's not.