It’s been over 2 years now and I’m glad I’m over it. She rebounded right after me and has been with them since then as far as I know. I was devastated but finally I understood that it wasn’t about me but it was her toxic pattern ever since. She was never really alone in her life before me. She has always been rebounding from relationship to another. So it’s not about you, it’s because they can’t stand themselves when they are alone: They always need a distraction from their emotions. So be glad you‘re not their distraction anymore.
Spot on: they can't stand their own company. Do they love you or do they just want someone? It could be a hard truth and one might secretly suspect that they are not loved but just a distraction and might spend a long time looking for signs. Then again, most people can't bear to be alone and want to attach the label, love, to anyone who can help their emotions.
Best advice i heard. Don't give a fu**.. they're watching you, asking about you somewhere, as soon as they find out that you don't care it'll hurt them..
Some folks just want someone to hang out with and do boyfriend/girlfriend stuff. Its a form of avoidance and escapism. These are the types most likely to bum rush into a new romantic involvement as soon as you exit their lives. Their goal isn't inner healing, introspection, self awareness etc. They just want to scratch the itch of loneliness because as another commenter so eloquently put it, they cannot stand their own company. So, whilst you are taking a dating hiatus and focusing on self improvement they havent done all that much to be a better individual than the version you broke up with. Honestly, you have to see it for what it is which shows someone who may not have much else going on to show for themselves except for a new paramour. Big whoop
yup their addicted to the honeymoon stage. as soon as things get tough they move on to the next honeymoon stage. I saw all those red flags in my ex but I knew her for over 10 years so I gave her the benefit of the doubt... damn was I wrong.
Moving forward and healing daily. We've been in no contact. I've accepted that I will never get the closure I deserve, so I kicked her and everyone associated with her, including my own former DJ peers, all to the curb. I'm focusing on my personal growth and healing. Let them all sink together. It's funny how I keep hearing how "I've changed," but all I really did was set simple boundaries, and everyones true colors came to light. It is better to be alone than in bad company. Thank you for these amazing videos. ❤
You already have the closure my man. The relationship ended. That’s the closure. Keep focusing on yourself and heal. You’re doing great. Thanks for sharing.
It's interesting to me, to see how much my feelings changed from the time I first listened to you then and now ! I was devastated in the beginning ! Now I hope to never hear from her again ! Hope she's doing well ! I am !
How do I keep the past from haunting and torturing and tormenting and raping me? I'm a slave to the past, to my mind, to the memories. It's utter hell. How do I stop this? I am shattered at the reality of my life at 44.
45 days no contact with my ex gf, she rebounded and bragged about it , i heard all nasty stuff from her whole i was buidling my online business. I went crazy knowing she rebounded, i said fuck it and i walked away never looked back , no contact... I feel the pain and i am loving the teacher ..
She’s been acting strange… When I started to get something going on with a new girl, literally the following day she drove past my house (which is in a busy street and there’s no reason why she would drive past there) at 9:30 am on a Friday, I’m brushing it off as a coincidence tho. Later the past week she contacted my best friend telling him about one of her girls that supposedly liked him but she knows he’s seeing other woman, this is middle high sh*t at this point. Have her blocked on everything and I’m not planing on reconciling honestly. It’s been about +3 months since we last talked to each other and I’m pretty sure she’s just throwing baits to see if I’m going to fall. This is another chapter of weird shit dumper exes tend to do
MY VOICE HAS BEEN SILENCED MY WHOLE DAMN LIFE. MY BEAUTIFUL SACRED MIRACULOUS VOICE. MY VOICE IS MY MAGICAL GIFT OF TRANSMUTATION! that being said, all my life... I have given people access to me in ways that I should not have EVER granted them access now, I want to scream at the top of my lungs: FUCK OFF!! YOU DO NOT GET TO HAVE ACCESS TO ME IN THAT WAY!! THE DOOR IS NOT OPEN!! YOU MAY NOT COME IN!! ACCESS DENIED!! I've been programmed my whole life to be silent, conditioned to have no boundaries...
10 years 3 married 2 kids 1 home He left after an argument and started talking to someone online same night and they (love) each other by week 1 😂 shes online relationship they never met .... Week 7 now hes booked flights to meet her for 6 weeks time but I've moved on solo and making myself better. I no longer want him back ....
This is what happened 2 Fridays ago and they went out and went home with this new person that night and didn’t come back. Wtf. I have gone no contact and this am he asked me what I was doing and happy Easter. Why? Why? Who does that. Now that is more of a mind F than him not coming home! He is so ignorant!
I’m sorry to hear that. It’s a savage pain! Why do that? Why does it matter? He did what he did and said what he said. His actions tell you everything. I hope you feel better. 🫂
She rebounded the literal same day. Still sucks and I feel hurt every single day ever since late September 2023. Like, the new guy is a literal 1 to 1 copy of her absive first boyfriend.
The DA that was in & out of my life for 3 &1/2 years was talking about living together/marriage in November 2023. He ended things early January 2024 saying he loved me but wasn't in love with me - this was a Saturday - 2 days later he asked a workmate out. Their 1st date was the following Sunday (8 days after we ended) and again 3 days later at which point he has since told me that he knew he wanted to do life with her - she is "the one"! He called me a few nights ago (7 weeks post break up & 6 weeks dating the new person) drunk and was Mr Chatterbox revealing the above & that they have already; exchanged "I love you", been away for a weekend, posted an outing on Facebook, have booked an overseas holiday for May! She apparently makes him laugh! She has given him a reason to be the best version of himself! Throughout our relationship he was a depressed alcoholic who never got off the couch! Meanwhile, he said he missed me, I'm his best friend & he loves me!!!
Rebound is less about time and where someone is emotionally. If she was outsourcing the pain of a breakup and not emotionally ready, then it’s likely a rebound. If she had already done her grievance pre breakup, then started dating, it’s less likely to be a rebound.
It’s possible they may have emotionally checked out, sure, but have they dealt with the pain from the fact they had to check out? Emotionally checking out, and dealing with the fallout of that are two different things.
My husband emotionally checked out apparently and went numb for while before he dumped me but he never grieved and monkey branched to his coworker. I'm not sure if he has grieved at all yet. He is living with her now only after us being split for 5 months. I think he is in midlife crisis thus the numbness and cheating too. People need to do more videos on midlife crisis and cheating.
This I know to be true, that person that u trusted was and is the same person you thought. Look at there past relationships very closely and u will see patters of behavior that they can't completely hide. Change is hard for ourselves. If it looks like a duck and behaves like a duck it probably is in fact a rabbit
Monkey branching is emotional cheating, so I personally wouldn’t waste my time on entertaining these thoughts. I know that’s brutal advice, but I give that energy to a cheater?
Let her beg! She’s with another man my friend. You must have more love for yourself and boundaries. If you treat her like a celebrity she will only ever see you as a fan.
Maybe you should be talking to women more 85% of divorces are initiated by women! Not men. I’m sick of it. I’m sure the rest of the men in this country are as well. All we get is raked over by the criminal justice system and the family court system because one woman thought she can find greener pastures! You need to stick up for men! And more of us are sick and tired of this
My friend, correlation does not equal causation. If you blame women for how you feel and for your mistakes, you don’t ever level up and be very lonely. Let’s cut the red pill BS and get more real world pill. Feel better.
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It’s been over 2 years now and I’m glad I’m over it. She rebounded right after me and has been with them since then as far as I know. I was devastated but finally I understood that it wasn’t about me but it was her toxic pattern ever since. She was never really alone in her life before me. She has always been rebounding from relationship to another. So it’s not about you, it’s because they can’t stand themselves when they are alone: They always need a distraction from their emotions. So be glad you‘re not their distraction anymore.
And the truth shall set you free.
It’s about them, not you. Agreed.
Keep up the great work.
Spot on: they can't stand their own company.
Do they love you or do they just want someone? It could be a hard truth and one might secretly suspect that they are not loved but just a distraction and might spend a long time looking for signs. Then again, most people can't bear to be alone and want to attach the label, love, to anyone who can help their emotions.
Did they ever come back?
Best advice i heard. Don't give a fu**.. they're watching you, asking about you somewhere, as soon as they find out that you don't care it'll hurt them..
Some folks just want someone to hang out with and do boyfriend/girlfriend stuff. Its a form of avoidance and escapism. These are the types most likely to bum rush into a new romantic involvement as soon as you exit their lives. Their goal isn't inner healing, introspection, self awareness etc. They just want to scratch the itch of loneliness because as another commenter so eloquently put it, they cannot stand their own company. So, whilst you are taking a dating hiatus and focusing on self improvement they havent done all that much to be a better individual than the version you broke up with. Honestly, you have to see it for what it is which shows someone who may not have much else going on to show for themselves except for a new paramour. Big whoop
And those folks can fu*k off 😊
yup their addicted to the honeymoon stage. as soon as things get tough they move on to the next honeymoon stage. I saw all those red flags in my ex but I knew her for over 10 years so I gave her the benefit of the doubt... damn was I wrong.
Moving forward and healing daily. We've been in no contact. I've accepted that I will never get the closure I deserve, so I kicked her and everyone associated with her, including my own former DJ peers, all to the curb. I'm focusing on my personal growth and healing. Let them all sink together. It's funny how I keep hearing how "I've changed," but all I really did was set simple boundaries, and everyones true colors came to light. It is better to be alone than in bad company. Thank you for these amazing videos. ❤
You already have the closure my man. The relationship ended. That’s the closure.
Keep focusing on yourself and heal.
You’re doing great.
Thanks for sharing.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I appreciate the kind words.
Happy for you thanks for sharing😊
It's interesting to me, to see how much my feelings changed from the time I first listened to you then and now !
I was devastated in the beginning !
Now I hope to never hear from her again !
Hope she's doing well !
I am !
Mission accomplished my friend.
Well done. 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick
You helped a lot !
I appreciate your vids !
The videos helped me maintain sanity !
Cheers !
I appreciate your kind words. You did the work buddy.
We just blind ourselves to actors because we as men don't comprehend what that person can and will do to you
How do I keep the past from haunting and torturing and tormenting and raping me?
I'm a slave to the past, to my mind, to the memories.
It's utter hell.
How do I stop this?
I am shattered at the reality of my life at 44.
Therapy may be a good place to start but, ultimately, it’s who we choose to respond to our feelings.
45 days no contact with my ex gf, she rebounded and bragged about it , i heard all nasty stuff from her whole i was buidling my online business. I went crazy knowing she rebounded, i said fuck it and i walked away never looked back , no contact... I feel the pain and i am loving the teacher ..
That’s rough man but I’m glad you’re putting yourself first. Stay strong. 😊
If your bed is still warm than it was shared by someone that didn't invite you into it when you weren't looking
She’s been acting strange… When I started to get something going on with a new girl, literally the following day she drove past my house (which is in a busy street and there’s no reason why she would drive past there) at 9:30 am on a Friday, I’m brushing it off as a coincidence tho. Later the past week she contacted my best friend telling him about one of her girls that supposedly liked him but she knows he’s seeing other woman, this is middle high sh*t at this point. Have her blocked on everything and I’m not planing on reconciling honestly. It’s been about +3 months since we last talked to each other and I’m pretty sure she’s just throwing baits to see if I’m going to fall. This is another chapter of weird shit dumper exes tend to do
She’s showing you exactly who she is. Believe her!
MY VOICE HAS BEEN SILENCED
MY WHOLE DAMN LIFE.
MY BEAUTIFUL SACRED MIRACULOUS VOICE.
MY VOICE IS MY MAGICAL GIFT OF TRANSMUTATION!
that being said,
all my life...
I have given people access to me
in ways that I should not have EVER
granted them access
now,
I want to scream
at the top of my lungs:
FUCK OFF!!
YOU DO NOT GET TO HAVE ACCESS TO ME IN THAT WAY!!
THE DOOR IS NOT OPEN!!
YOU MAY NOT COME IN!!
ACCESS DENIED!!
I've been programmed my whole life to be silent,
conditioned to have no boundaries...
So timely, thank you for this
Great video!
My pleasure, I hope it helped.
10 years 3 married 2 kids 1 home
He left after an argument and started talking to someone online same night and they (love) each other by week 1 😂 shes online relationship they never met ....
Week 7 now hes booked flights to meet her for 6 weeks time but I've moved on solo and making myself better. I no longer want him back ....
That’s rough. 🫂🫂🫂
He is mistaking highs for happiness.
Let it crash and burn.
Just make sure you have popcorn when it happens. 😈
In conclusion despite our wants you can trust no one
The sound manically co decent on being alone
This is what happened 2 Fridays ago and they went out and went home with this new person that night and didn’t come back. Wtf. I have gone no contact and this am he asked me what I was doing and happy Easter. Why? Why? Who does that. Now that is more of a mind F than him not coming home! He is so ignorant!
I’m sorry to hear that. It’s a savage pain!
Why do that?
Why does it matter?
He did what he did and said what he said. His actions tell you everything.
I hope you feel better. 🫂
As always SPOT ON THANK YOU..
Thank you, buddy.
9yrs. Things great on Friday. She was with new guy on Monday. Brutal discard. Timely.
She rebounded the literal same day. Still sucks and I feel hurt every single day ever since late September 2023. Like, the new guy is a literal 1 to 1 copy of her absive first boyfriend.
I’m sorry to hear that, my friend.
Wounded animals attract wounded animals.
Do you want to be with a wounded animal for the rest of your life?
The DA that was in & out of my life for 3 &1/2 years was talking about living together/marriage in November 2023.
He ended things early January 2024 saying he loved me but wasn't in love with me - this was a Saturday - 2 days later he asked a workmate out. Their 1st date was the following Sunday (8 days after we ended) and again 3 days later at which point he has since told me that he knew he wanted to do life with her - she is "the one"!
He called me a few nights ago (7 weeks post break up & 6 weeks dating the new person) drunk and was Mr Chatterbox revealing the above & that they have already; exchanged "I love you", been away for a weekend, posted an outing on Facebook, have booked an overseas holiday for May! She apparently makes him laugh! She has given him a reason to be the best version of himself!
Throughout our relationship he was a depressed alcoholic who never got off the couch!
Meanwhile, he said he missed me, I'm his best friend & he loves me!!!
It was 3 to 4 months after she left that she was talking to him. Is that considered a rebound?
Rebound is less about time and where someone is emotionally.
If she was outsourcing the pain of a breakup and not emotionally ready, then it’s likely a rebound.
If she had already done her grievance pre breakup, then started dating, it’s less likely to be a rebound.
Don't fool yourself into thinking so.eone has changed
but don't they emotionally checkout before physically leaving since you said they haven't emotionally moved on to the rebound but only physically
It’s possible they may have emotionally checked out, sure, but have they dealt with the pain from the fact they had to check out?
Emotionally checking out, and dealing with the fallout of that are two different things.
thanks, nick @@TheLoveFix-Nick
My husband emotionally checked out apparently and went numb for while before he dumped me but he never grieved and monkey branched to his coworker. I'm not sure if he has grieved at all yet. He is living with her now only after us being split for 5 months. I think he is in midlife crisis thus the numbness and cheating too. People need to do more videos on midlife crisis and cheating.
Imfisher650
We need more content on radical responsibility
People need to start taking better responsibility for their feelings.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick are you referring to me taking radical responsibility or my husband?
This I know to be true, that person that u trusted was and is the same person you thought. Look at there past relationships very closely and u will see patters of behavior that they can't completely hide. Change is hard for ourselves. If it looks like a duck and behaves like a duck it probably is in fact a rabbit
Well he is married in less than a year after breakup. So idk what to say.
Don’t say anything.
Focus on yourself so you can feel better, my friend.
If he is married already, why are you waiting around? 🫂
It is almost always the most obvious answer.
Try and better your self
Sounds like they are the one who is lucky enough to not feel these emotions
Respectfully disagree.
Ignorance is bliss
Or so they say
Took her 2 fucking days to meet someone else...2
Sorry to hear that man. That’s savage. I hope you’re okay. 🫂
What if they monkey branched?
Monkey branching is emotional cheating, so I personally wouldn’t waste my time on entertaining these thoughts.
I know that’s brutal advice, but I give that energy to a cheater?
Ugh....these damn shelves....shes begging me!!!
Let her beg!
She’s with another man my friend.
You must have more love for yourself and boundaries.
If you treat her like a celebrity she will only ever see you as a fan.
Maybe you should be talking to women more 85% of divorces are initiated by women! Not men. I’m sick of it. I’m sure the rest of the men in this country are as well. All we get is raked over by the criminal justice system and the family court system because one woman thought she can find greener pastures! You need to stick up for men! And more of us are sick and tired of this
My friend, correlation does not equal causation.
If you blame women for how you feel and for your mistakes, you don’t ever level up and be very lonely.
Let’s cut the red pill BS and get more real world pill.
Feel better.