Getting Your Ex Back | Why You Should Never Take An Ex Back
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Getting your ex back is the one thing on your mind, but find out why you should never take an ex back.
In today's video, Nick will discuss 5 key reasons why getting your back is a bad idea.
Take a walk with me and find out why you must never go back to your ex
If you would like personalised advice and coaching regarding your breakup situation, email me at TheLoveFix20@gmail.com to arrange an appointment.
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I went back to my ex. There had been abuse in the break up and she rebounded (possibly monkey branched). The break up was so painful I waited it out to 'fix' it. And I got her back. It was an absolute disaster. Her behaviour was extremely challenging and the second break up was far more painful and damaging than the first. No matter how painful a break up seems, going back will only make it worse.
That sucks buddy. When there is abuse in Involved you should never go back.
100%
Never go back when someone has shown you who they are. They are damaged they won’t change.
Agreed for the most, but people can change. People only change when staying the same is so painful, they have no choice but to change.
That’s ridiculous. Are you saying you are the same person you always were? You’ve never grown and improved?
So true. I recently tried it and got burned.
If you read the same book twice, you get the same ending .. ex to next .. forever forward, never backward
It actually rubbed me the wrong way when they tried to come back. If they left for greener grass make them stand on that. They're just coming back to drain you again.
Truer words have never been spoken nick. People Listen to him. When you get back together it hurts 10 times worse when they leave again. And the worst part is it's your fault the 2nd time for opening the door again. All your hard work on yourself is diminished and you're back at square one. Just pick up the pieces and move forward people. Trust me
Thanks Carl. I hope you’re doing well.
Been through the ringer buddy. But im finally on the other side. Your videos really do help alot. A no nonsense, sometimes harsh but necessary to hear approach. I wish i found your channel in the beginning of my breakup. Thank you and keep em coming 👍
Appreciate it man.
Sadly, the harsh side is required, but it comes with compassion. I hate to think of people wasting a year of their life investing in someone who does not invest in them.
I’m glad you’re doing better buddy. It’s hard work but you’re rocking it. Stay strong 💪
"The grass is greener where u water it." I love it and share the same view!!
Appreciate it. I hope you’re well.
My ex left me before Christmas to "work on himself." As it turns out, he left me because he wanted to "work on" other women. I left the door open for him until finding out how quickly he rebounded and now the thought of him touching me after touching someone else makes me feel ill. He has zero access to me now. There is no reason whatsoever to take someone back who felt the need to try on other people before deciding you were the right fit after all. He can have his stupid prizes, 'cause I won't be playing his stupid games anymore.
I am sorry you had to go through that, it must have been heartbreaking. I agree with your assessment and wouldn’t take someone back who rebounded.
My codependat ex wife ended a 17 year old marriage over Messenger. She could not look me in the eyes because she was cheating on me for 3 months. She went into a rebound relationship right away and it destroyed me and my 13 year old daughter. Never forget the pain in my daughters eyes and see the same the thing in my own through the mirror. Its been 2 months I am slowly healing and I know I can never go back. My trust and loyalty is broken and must admit that pain is an excellent teacher. Thank you for this video it helped me❤
Ahh man that’s devastating. I’m sorry you and your daughter had to experience that. I am a big believer in find opportunities in obstacles. When the pain recedes, which it will, you will find opportunities in new people you never thought imaginable. I hope you and your daughter are okay.
Hang in there.
Absolutely I took my ex girlfriend back twice and the and it was the same shit on the second break up lesson learned
I hope you’re okay man. 🫂
This is the analysis that many heartbroken people need to listen too. There are too many “get your ex back” videos out there, but there needs to be more conversation about not going back.. An ex is an ex for a reason. Thank you for this.
I've been binging on "no contact" videos for 9.5 months. I think thus video just put the last nail in her coffin.
Im going to block her and move on. I need to love myself more than this.
Yeah, time to come away from them. Get on the self improvement stuff. Plenty of that on my channel.
Wow you just nailed it. Ive never once reached out and ignored two feeble attempts of him reaching out. Turns out he rebounded almost immediately after he and I broke up. It’s been 6 months of NC and I’m feeling so much better but always in the back of my mind is the what if. I needed to hear this today. I AM THE BACKUP OPTION. Never going back bc I am no one’s back up option.
Broke up with her 3 years ago. She came back and i accepted. After 3 years, in this may we broke apart in the most horrible way i could ever imagine. Nearly 10 years since we knew each other, she started to cheat for a long period of time and showed me the door. She broke trust, faith and loyalty with me that day. Never again.
That’s horrible buddy. No one should have to experience that. I’m sorry . 🙁
This is a much needed video. Can't believe there are only 5 reasons as I have been journaling hundreds of reasons not to take my ex back. Ready to find my partner at my level and emotionally availability.
Keep journaling 😊
There are way more than 5, but you’d be listening for 2 hours if I listed them all 😁
How'd that go?
Harsh but true. After listening to this entry, I - as the regretful dumper - reluctantly deleted all media accounts still connecting me to her. I realized that things wouldn’t work out even if we had another go. Bitter, bitter medicine.
Bitter medicines tend to be the best cures.
Thank you for this and I mean that seriously. Thank you for this. I listen to this three times in a row and I’m probably gonna listen to it again I needed this really bad. I’ve been missing my extra 45 days and we’ve broken up and we’ve gotten back together and I don’t want her back anymore. It will just happen again and it is more painful each and every time I am her fallback plan and I’ve lost all of my dignity. I’ve lost all of my self-respect I’m done with this I’m not gonna be somebody’s back up plan
The fact you’ve realised that, is the first step towards loving yourself. You’re doing great.
I know heartbreak hurts. The dumper has all the power and the dumpee initially does not. As time passes, the odds are very high that the dumper will reach out and at that point, the dumpee has the power. However, if the dumpee gets back together with the dumper, the power has returned to the dumper and they can do more damage than before.
My advice would be to only consider getting back if time apart is short, a couple of weeks or so. Beyond that, the dumpee is the second choice.
I know it is tough but walk and keep walking. When the dumper reaches out, be very polite and just say that you have moved on. Wish them all the best and don’t look back.
I disagree. I think the dumpee has more power than they realise because they can control how they respond. That’s where true power lies.
@ageofprogressive2248Cheating is a no choice? Usually there is that involved.
Just don’t reply if either party reaches out. Keep them in no contact forever if they caused you harm
It does hurt so much worse the second time especially if time has passed. I healed as much as I could.
Broke up 7 years ago with me, came back after months. Had 3 beautiful years this time and then suddenly he wasn’t sure if he would stay in the future, saying:“I’m not sure I can stay in 3,5 or 10 years.“
I was shocked, it came suddenly. I still am so shocked.
And he’s messaging me, his family telling me: hes feeling bad. We were engaged the last 1 1/2 years. And out of a sudden…
I’m so done with this world
I’m sorry to hear that Didi. I know how bad it can hurt.
Are you able to seek help from a therapist or a doctor?
Yes, do not go back. He revealed how he cannot make a commitment because he has no purpose
I appreciate this, because it’s honest - many coaches promote getting back together because they can promote a program.
Appreciate your honesty here
so true nick!!i experience all of that with my ex!!stay strong fellas!!!!sometimes the upgrade is to be alone and find you self!never going back to the thing that causes the trauma bond.stay away!!!!let them live with their choise....
The reality is when a relationship ends it should definitely stay that way. I dated my ex for 6 months before we split the first time. We split for almost a month before getting back together. It lasted for about two months before we split again. There were definitely issues that plagued the relationship and I take full accountability for my part. However, I'm here to tell you women will more than likely push MOST of the blame on you. They NEVER take accountability for anything.
As mentioned in my other post. In some cases yes. The quality of women we lay with is a reflection of us.
Dude, cut the red pill BS!
@@TheLoveFix-NickHe told the truth.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you so much for saying this. My ex and I have known each other most of our lives but didnt get together til 2021. We were long distance then, but he met someone else who happened to live in the same city as me, unbeknownst to me. I didnt find out for 6 months that he was seeing someone else, and he ended up being diagnosed with prostate cancer. When he told me about the diagnosis, I put him on a low GI diet and it literally lowered his PSA count within 2 months. Lets just say he was still pining after that girl, and she didnt want him, and blocked him. He's been sending me random text, and calling apologizing, but I cant get past it. I wanted him to beat this, and did everything I could to make just he stayed healthy while dealing with this crisis. He disrespected me for this horrible human being that blocked him knowing he was sick. This situation has ruined our 30 plus year friendship. I'll never look at him the same, and you're right, men are attracted to certain types of women, those who hold the same toxic frequencies as their Mothers.
I went through the same scenario as you, I wanted to breakup at one point but held on, and she ended it roughly a year or 2 after. So thank you for keeping it real! This is the first channel that I stumbled across that recommends not to get back together. I was going through all the motions of NC, going to the gym frequently and having a social life again but my mindset was doing the opposite, hoping for something from my ex but not anymore. I was "fake" getting over my ex without even realizing it and your content gave me the final push to actually get over it. Keep up the great work!
I think we all “fake” getting over it at one point. That’s just our limbic brain hanging onto the relationship. I hope you’re feeling better now.
Where did you get the 90% number?
You're right. Also, thank you for not adding any distracting background music. Thank you also for not sugar coating your words. You kept it real. ✌️
🤣🤣 all my other videos has distracting background music 🤣🤣
Honestly, given the odds you gave in the video, I wouldn't even go for an 80 to 90% chance of failure, makes me wonder why people even bother with relationships full stop lol
It’s more important to understand why the failure rate is so high. It’s because people don’t work on themselves and outsource love and validation. It’s important to not give up.
I’m not anti love, I’m anti bullshit relationships.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Well I'm sure that's a good reason, but I reckon there's many more, incompatibilities being the first thing that comes to mind that may only come to light down the line etc. But your comment does raise an interesting point, if you're not wanting a relationship for love and validation, then what's the point of one other than procreation? Just looking at things logically, I'm mid 40s, every relationship I've had thus far has failed. So by the time you get to my point in life, you are starting to wonder what the point was lol. Maybe you could do a video on this?
You raise some interesting points.
For sure it’s okay to get love and validation from your partner, but like 10% to 20%.
80% to 90% should be coming from ourselves.
What does compatibility look like to you?
@The Love Fix I don't know, I guess attraction would be the first one, but then I suppose you wouldn't even go on a first date if that wasn't there. It's easy to get lost in the moment especially during the limerence/honeymoon stage, but I think things like similar life goals, similar views on the bigger topics (like if one person believes in marriage and the other doesn't), or religious views. The honeymoon phase can blind you to a lot of incompatibilities because you're both infatuated with each other.
I think one thing I've learnt from my last breakup is actually that I'm really independent. I like having my own space, don't really want marriage or to live with someone, and can do everything for myself - hence my original question, it made me think with a 90% failure rate, and all the advise to love yourself and not get it from elsewhere, then there's really nothing left for a relationship to offer for someone who is incredibly independent, so perhaps I've wasted my time and just got lost in the feelings (and the good sex lol).
What about maturity? For me that’s huge for compatibility.
Getting love and validation from a partner is the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.
Your partner is an enhancing to your already great single life, but most people get this wrong. They outsource the entire love and validation. They have a disorder of responsibility and therefore never take care of their own shit.
Thanks bro you make a lot of sense man. No more self-pity no more I’m not good enough I know I was too much. That’s the truth. She couldn’t handle a real man. Can’t wait to meet the person that can. Thanks again bro. Thanks again.
You are good enough man, you just wasn’t right for her. There’s a big difference.
Take ownership of what you need to improve and be better than you were yesterday.
You’ve got this.
You will because you deserve that🤗 there isn't many real man out there. I'm still searching...
I guess u right...3rys passed and I thought about her but I know it will never be..because she doesn't love me or never loved me the way I did. So I let it go" and I moved on to better myself right now I don't need anything just money.
Thank you soo much. You can‘t believe, how much this helps me. I was battling in my mind for months. Now that I got a better perspective, I can really move on!!!
It feels like a breakthrough not a breakup anymore. Again Thank you so much! ❤
My pleasure buddy, i hope you’re doing well.
You are amazing. Every single thing you said makes sense. Once the boat is rocked there is no going back. I went one step further. After the separation I filed for divorce.
Thanks for your kind words and I’m happy to be of some help.
2:40..."they brought a lot of shit to the party." Says it best.
The thing with women though is they will NEVER take accountability for their role in the breakup. More than likely the blame will fall solely on you.
Not all women buddy. Don’t play the blame game. I’m sure there are things you got wrong too.
When we make us vs them, everyone loses.
We have to screen better.
I like that, the grass is greener where you alter it......nice and true
Thanks so much for this video my ex left me when I treated her so well and she didn't even tell me the real reason why we broke it she just lied to me and it hurt I'm in no contact 2 months and she's regretting the break up
How do you know she is regretting it if you're in No Contact?
Sorry to hear that CLS. How’d you she lied buddy.
@@dr.options I can tell by the way she looks at me she's sad she's lonely she looks at me a lot and she's trying to get me back in her life
@@TheLoveFix-Nick she lied by saying that she lost feelings for me(which wasn't true) and that she didn't want the relationship in the beginning then she told me she was bi(which was just a lie) lie by lie I fell for it don't believe everything your ex tells you
How do you know it’s a lie?
Man this is sooooo tough. i still desire to be with my ex but i know we are over for good even though im working on myself. she ended things because i expressed my frustrations of not having sex enough. although i left that night thinking we weren’t having sex because once again she was sleepy too tired. came back the next morning didn’t express to her why i didn’t come back. once i left again i expressed my frustrations thru text and she broke up with me. I feel like that stuff is easy to change but man the fact that she can break up with me any given moment over any concern i just don’t wanna do it but i can’t stop thinking about being with her again even though she says she’s done this time and tired of the break up and make up. i can’t stop wanting her back it’s been over a month now and i’m still just as sad😢
My man, read this book.
www.audible.co.uk/pd?asin=B07896PR72&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=library_overflow
@@TheLoveFix-Nick just got a link to different stuff
@@TheLoveFix-Nick just got a link to different stuff
I truly admire your positioning.
It's ALWAYS very precise & accurate ...
Thank you for your kind words.
I hope you’re well. 😊
From pedestal to the bog !
=> Can people repent and change?
My take is that with God it is possible, and it is not easy, desire for it should be intense and fruits should be visible.
=> Are there reasons for getting your ex back?
I have to be honest I did no contact as a cope for the pain of the breakup. I didn't want to admit it was over. The pain subsided a bit once I could answer the question. “What do you not miss about the relationship?”
Glad you’re feeling better, buddy.
I appreciate what's being said here, but what I don't like about this video is that it's not a video!
Why does it need do be a video to communicate the message?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick You might be able to communicate the message, but this is a video platform. Besides, my ex could communicate the break up trhough a call, but we should agree they should show their face.
Fair point, but for what I do it Is not necessary.
The message is the most important thing. The medium of delivery is largely irrelevant and the channel is growing without video.
If people want to see my face they can join my free Facebook group. 😊
facebook.com/groups/369216338064474/?ref=share_group_link
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Fair enough, your channel, your rules.
Some real gems 💎of wisdom here. So many points hit the nail right on the head. I agree with you about.. “98%” . 🙃..
I especially appreciate the 5th reason.
Build a newer, wiser, happier YOU, so you are ready when the Right One appears.
Thanks Natalie. I hope you’re well.
So true ❤ though I’m the dumper, I really got hurt through his actions post breakup - rebounding fast, not wanting to talk and end in good terms… he was an asshole and he won’t change.
I’m sorry to hear that Lily.
Why did you end the relationship?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick had a gut feeling that he’s doing something behind my back… I took his phone (never did before) and discovered he deleted whatsapp conversations with a female client. Couldn’t trust him anymore, it’s cheating for me… the act itself, I can’t comprehend something that isn’t exist (the texts) we were engaged so I broke it off. Two weeks later he rebounded with someone else…
I’m sorry to hear that Lily.
But I must say, I’m not sure that’s enough proof to confirm cheating.
I’m not doubting your gut feeling, but it’s wise to get the evidence first.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick The moment someone deletes messages it means that they have something to hide. When I asked him to send her a message she immediately sent pictures of her from her birthday… if she was a female friend he would have told me about her… and if there is nothing wrong in the conversation why deleting it when you don’t do it with others? He said he was scared of my reaction so he deleted, but I never reacted, even when women flirted with him and he told me about it, I completely trusted him and never asked to see the conversation or asked questions, just told him to say them that he is in a relationship. So I gave him no reason to be scared.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick and one more thing - after I broke up with him he confessed that he was always thinking of cheating on me but never did it… so I think that concludes… I didn’t have to wait until in becomes physical. I wasn’t happy as well I was kind of miserable and he didn’t treat me well, but never thought of cheating… relationships require work within them and not searching for solutions outside of them… that’s not a person to build my life with so god have me enough evidence that he is not the right one for me.
same as me I really wanted to break up with her but did not do it I requested a space and to move out and work on myself she refused and then still thought about it plenty of times but did not dumped her thought I could go through this but out of a sudden she dumped me and it just hurts so bad its been about 2 months.
Sorry to hear that. That sounds rough. It’s gonna be okay and my channel is here to help.
I literally was going to reconcile this weekend with the ex i broke up a week ago for toxicity on both our parts. We just werent compatable together, 2 ppl trying to make it. After loss of sleep and couldnt stop questioning my attempt to reconcile i knew it was the wrong decision. I sent her a text saying i couldnt do it, wished her luck and now in no contact. She tried calling 5 times when she woke up and got the text, i didnt answer.
Moral of the story, i knew we could reconcile but i knew i would dump her again when it got comfortable and the toxicity started again. It stings, it hurts, but in time it will be the better decision in the long run. Save yourselves, learn from the mistakes in that relationship, rip the bandaid off sooner than later, and work on that shit. There is so many fuckin ppl out there that are a better match for you. Currently in rebuild mode, being single doesnt mean you're a pathetic loser, it just means were doing it smarter this time. Just had to get that off my chest. Youre not alone, im literally doing it now, we got this shit.
I offered several times to make it work, but women have a national archive.."1973 at 3:00 pm u said bla bla..the relationship is infected" then more withdrawal of closeness and intimacy to punish me...
People say shit in the relationship, not every moment is all sugar. There needs to be forgiveness and rebuilding.
In the worst moments i never considered another woman. But her solution became ..a rebound.
Naturally, at some point I will get all the shit when rebound doesn't work.
The go to default mode is shite.
It will be a sad day when it comes, but my answer will be no.
The “archive” is a proxy for deeper issues, my friend.
The sooner you realise that, the easier relationships will be.
Sir, I don’t how I came across your channel, but thank you for all of your knowledge and wisdom. You helped me so much my ex did not want me but I miss him so so deeply.
Aww thank you for your kind words.
Indeed I know the pain. You just to hear and feel them again. It’s really tough.
I promise it’s gets better with time and working on yourself.
I hope you feel better
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I’m feeling better. I went no contact two weeks ago. Out of sight out of mind.
You’re doing great. Baby steps.
When you talk about reconciling being foul or failing, does this mean across all age groups, like people in their 50's ??-thank you Nick
Please tell them don't leave each other, at least person that we ever lived with
I’m not sure what you mean.
Love that only choice line. 👍🏽
Did I say “only choice”? 😂
15 years plus 3 beautifull daughters and got cheated and dumped and ex wife married the affair partner who is 12 years younger the same day she dumped me. the pain cant be described. healing proces is painstakingly slow one step forward and two steps backward.
Love this. Make me feel better.
I’m happy it helped 😊
Thankyou brother. You got my respect.
Appreciate it. I hope you’re well.
Towards the end you said if someone is happy single but a relationship is not necessary. I feel like in a way, my ex BROKE me! I was actually HAPPY without a relationship in the past...ugh...but I don't have a choice BUT to go on without his unappreciative fucktard of a brain! I gave him A LOT of me, and "my best" and still he didn't acknowledge or appreciate that! What kind of??!! He even said in the begging that we BOTH try our best (bring our A game in other words), but did HE??! Good god..
Edit: Also, you said to bring your happy. Umm, LIFE isn't always ROSES and CANDY dude.. Don't expect people to always be perfect and on their good side all the time, just saying. If they happen to fuck up or mess up, a true lover, WILL forgive. People don't forgive enough these days in my opnion! Not trying to be mean, I am just saying.
BOY THAT IS GOOD NICK 👍
Thank you Cheryl. I am glad it can help.
No. F***ing. Way. She monkey branched and cheated. Every action has an equal and positive reaction. I hope she’s enjoying her relationship, I wish her well.
I hope you’re doing okay. 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick 7 months on but found out about the monkey branch cheating 2 weeks ago so it’s like opening old wounds but I’m accepting it and moving on. I was dumped. Since then lost 30 kilos, bought my first home, and now getting a puppy :) going to enjoy my new beginnings in solitude.
That’s rough but well done on your progress.
I just got a puppy too. Hard work but so fulfilling. 😊😊
Really, really good and helpful video. Thank you. 😊
My pleasure, I’m glad it helped.
I needed to hear this
I hope you’re feeling better.
THANK YOU I AM NT YOUR BACK UP HELL NO
Mate you helped a lot this was spot on, subscribed
My pleasure, buddy. I hope you’re well, and thank you 😊
Breakups Are Like "The Broken Plate Analogy". "Cracks never let the plate be as strong as it was originally". Just Get Another Plate Folks
There are exceptions to every rule. My content is general but we have to allow exceptions to every rule. Some reconcile and are forever stronger.
@@TheLoveFix-NickThis is true, I also believe in the philosophy of "kintsugi".
I have one doubt you said grass is greener where you water it than why didn't you workout your problems with your ex when you were in relationship just wanted to know
It takes two people to water it, and some relationships she never be, and are not meant to last.
Opinions r opinions. Data r data. I wonder where that data comes from 😅
What are you referring to specifically?
Yes can any person get evidence of the data as it surprised me.
It’s observational based on the hundreds I’ve worked with, and thousands I’ve spoken to.
But please, if you have data to say otherwise, I’m open to it.
Great video
Thank you 😊
I think you should never take an ex because they may hurt you again. Which happened to me. Mine sending me a friend request and blocked me last night. Last night I just found out my friend passed away 😢 going to his funeral tomorrow. And my ex is not being supportive about it he said he doesn't care that my friend died he doesn't care how I'm feeling. He's like yeah yeah whatever he's mad at me over being busy not responding to his messages not saying Merry Christmas not saying Happy New years too him that's what he's all mad about like seriously I was busy I guess I'll put my life on hold and stop being busy if I'm going to date him. He seriously wasn't giving me space after the breakup. This other friend said I'm sorry for your loss then he told me my ex got annoyed for talking to me and helping me and being there for me he's like to this friend really you're talking to Kristen Fuller.
By that logic then we should stay single because anyone can hurt, old and new partners alike.
But, your particular ex, given what he said about your friend, then yes don’t take someone like that back.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend. RIP. 🫂
@@TheLoveFix-Nick wish my friend was here alive to stand up to him. ☹️
Sending hugs 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
Thank you sir
Thank you 😊
You are on the money with this! All of my ex’s always came back to me and they still try. I made my mind up to NEVER take them back. Thank you ❤
Would hate to get on the wrong side of you 🤣🤣
I’m happy you’re doing well.
Thanks for supporting the channel 😊
Does failure in reconciliation imply across all age groups including people in their 50's or limited to a certain age bracket??
Holly words ;)
Nick 😉👍
This works on women dumpees too! =)
Where is he getting the stats in his fifth point when he talked about reconciliation?
They’re not official. They’re observations from working with hundreds of one to one clients, taking to thousands over this channel and from my facebook group.
Thank you for responding. I really appreciate it. I am 56 years old and innocently assisted my female friend who is also 56 when her boyfriend and her broke up. In the course of assisting her she stated to me that she had feelings for me. She always texted me, said that she missed me, sent pictures of herself, said that she adored me and had feelings for me. My intuition did tell me that there was something wrong here. Nonetheless, we were dating casually, and I became emotionally attached to her and started to have feelings for her. In addition, there were opportunities where she invited me for sex, and I am glad I did not proceed. She was definitely hurting and, I not being with a woman for years opened my heart to her thinking that perhaps we would be great partners. I also knew the boyfriend on a superficial level and when I ran into him, he did inquire about her ex as he knew we were good friends. I did convey to her that I ran into her ex-boyfriend and when I asked her if she would go back to her ex, she replied, 'I am not sure'. This was very hurtful to me as she always criticized him and had mentioned how much better I was with her. She would also constantly say the ' we were meant to be together, which I found very odd. I had spent so much time helping her heal. In short, I knew the outcome as she or her ex would reach out, and so the very next day I emailed her saying that I am severing ties with her. I spoke to many of my female friends and others, and they clearly confirmed to me how she manipulated and used as a temporary replacement. This is so selfish of her. However, saying this I also have to blame myself for condoning the signs as I enjoyed the hugging and kissing. But she was always saying that she adored me and cried one time to say that she had feelings for me. This is such a betrayal as a friend to have me open my heart to her and then stab me. I was the band aid for 6 months. I have too much respect for myself that there is no way I can consider even to be a friend. I have learned that being kind and compassionate one has to invoke knowledge and wisdom. Anyone's comments would be much appreciated- Thank you@@TheLoveFix-Nick
I want to thank you very much. This is the most logical video I have viewed. I have placed my story above and would appreciate your views. Thank you again!
@Frank, I’m sorry to hear that. It sounds brutal.
It seems to me you may have been looking for a project to work on, and that’s exactly what you got.
We must never date projects because they must fix themselves. It’s not your responsibility to fix them.
When we date projects we merely inherit something that’s in disrepair.
@user, I don’t see your story.
I cheated on her...and i want her back what is ur advice?
She is rebounding
Say sorry but expect her to reject your apology.
Brutal honesty. Anyone cheats on me, they ain’t ever coming back.
I think you should spend this time to figure why you need to cheat. Own it and take responsibility. That’s the best thing you can do for your healing and growth.
I did it has been 7 months
I do healing 24/7 sitting at home just practising peace
But i rlly want her back she saw me many time in november and told me she is gonna get back and cant forget me
And unblocked me many times
What should i do to get her back?
I cheated because she lied many times and got pressured and left then cheated but i i was away when i cheated
Lana, you cheated because you wanted to, not because someone lied to you. That’s deferring responsibility.
I think only once you can be truly honest about why you cheated, you can begin to level up. Step 1 is brutal honesty.
I know you’re hurting, and I’m sorry you are going through that, but we all have to pay the piper for our indiscretions.
Just being real with you.
Im start getting very thankful about mine break up. Im Learning a lot of new things about realtionship itself. While she is asking her friends to stalk me on IG. (im the dumpee)
Why do you feel like you could have reconciled when your ex broke up with you? Did you have a choice?
Where did I say that buddy?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick nope...that's why I asked. Part of the formula is that reconciliation is a mutual decision.
For me, I felt it could’ve been salvaged. But did I want to? No.
Did she want to? I have to assume no as she never reached out.