man i've learned so much from when breakup happened til now. people really ARE addicted to that honeymoon phase. it's insane. those same people are addicted to short term gains. i just don't get the logic. but hey, we all make our own hell, right? so let them keep making theirs while the smart people like us level up and move on to greater things.
Read a book called Everything is f*cked by Mark Manson. It explains why humans chase this honeyMoon period with everything in life, not just relationships.
they don’t know any better these days. a lot of people come from broken families or single parent households so they don’t know our grand parents who stayed together for years and taught what it took to stay together. All people see now is divorces and parents move from person to person. my opinion
@@1111spiritualone that and that people don't love themselves enough to be alone. Society makes you feel as if being single is a bad thing, so people force relationships just to have someone.
@@ozzie-no-sweat i agree. We have to do better. I love my ex and since the breakup i chose to be alone, however she started seeing someone else as soon as we broke up. she just keeps moving from person to person. Our whole relationship she talked about her previous ex and compared us but sweared she was over her. i decided to just heal the right way. i wish her well 🤓.
As a wise turtle once said : ''We are too concerned with what was and what will be, there is a saying: yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mistery, but today is a gift, that is why it is called the present ;)'' ''We must believe''
Just had a zoom session with Nick. Was really insightful and understanding and sometimes it's just good to explain everything to someone who understands or reinforces things you already think too. He even extended my time too and I feel a bit of clarity and optimism going forward 👌
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Curious Nick on how much time you’d say for the one who comes back because there was a fight and we broke up.. Going on 5 weeks now, Very minimal contact only a couple texts between but she is very cold and distant. How much time till I should I “hope” is needed (While still doing my best and no contact of course) (replying here so you see my comment hopefully haha)
Missed the worst one. My dumper came back to sleep with me just to make her new bf jealous after he dumped her, hoping she could get him back. Took me a bit to realize this and when I did, it broke my heart all over again.
me and my gf had a good relationship but she was struggling to be affectionate due to her mental state she broke up with me and apologized called me her best friend etc i did not beg i simply said we should work through it together but i accept the breakup and left i started no contact straight away. 1 day going strong!
I listened to you and the music in the background.. relaxing.. good work!!! I implemented radio silence, with the girlfriend who backed off out of jealousy...so I simply went back to the local community center up here in the high country of Colorado.. I'm 45 and self-employed and do what I choose: so ya" it's good! So anyway 11 days passed and I messaged her: It was a misunderstanding on her part so I Let things air out. You know keep my distance kinda thing. She responded positively and she also called but I didn't feel like answering as I was in training. Later at night she messaged several times: I miss you so much! I send you kisses.. Good night... Remember: there is a simple balance.its like this... You can't be like everyone else. Don't be afraid to let her go because the minute you are is when you will lose her. Get away from the TV and video games. You have to be DIFFERENT! I can't stress it enough man!! Just trust me on this one And trust yourself.. there's more to you and you know it. So stop wasting time!!! Jack from the high country of Colorado!
God talks to me directly! 😂😂😂 Just kidding. Thanks mate. Appreciate your kind words.
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He’s not in a relationship with anyone but he is dealing with someone after the breakup smh . Tryna stay focused on myself . We have 3 kids . I’m not chasing him anymore I took accountability but he won’t take accountability for any wrong he did as well so I’m over it . Thanks for the video!
I think you’re taking the best course of action. I will just add, try not to have any information on him because it will just drive you crazy. Lions don’t concern themselves with the opinions of sheep.
My ex is still in a rebound relationship but I don’t know of what he wanted. It felt like he’s giving me a mixed signal. I still loved him though. But I respect his relationship with my ex friend slash rebound girl. Ps the funny thing is my ex friend still got the nerve to get mad at me. LOL
yea man, screw that. but change it from "i don't want to be" to "i will not be". let her h o e around. she can eat your dust as you leave her behind you're way ahead leveled up. that always motivated me during my healing time: knowing that she was getting her short term gains now but had long term pains awaiting her. cuz i knew i wouldn't take her back after what she did and how she went about it.
I’m not even fully sure who was what this final time. We had serious tension and stress and fights just never ended. She said she fell out of love with me. I was hurt and ultimately left. Can’t fight those things. But this is the same woman who wouldn’t accept my boundaries for years. Got me to have a child with her. Used that child to further shame me and devalue me through smiles. I felt I was leaving to give her what she wanted and then she said that’s finally what she wants. But it wasn’t simple like that. She didn’t want to say any final statements. Anything to signal she was done and wouldn’t try to hoover me again. The lack of responses and closure she always promised she would give If we ended as to why, and obviously why she didn’t want to make an effort to work on the relationship together. So I’m a tad borderline my self, and completely bottomed out. Just typical bpd cycle or anxiety anger paranoia sadness pleasing boundary rolling apologizing for every issue ever. But then remembering the reasons I initiated to space. The fact she immediately has a replacement a day after head in my lap trying to talk through things, just completely gutted me. I don’t know which way is up atm.
That sounds like a rough situation man and I’m sorry to hear that. But here’s the thing. We are who we attract, so why did you stay with a woman that wouldn’t accept your boundaries? That’s where your self work needs to be focused on.
My ex dumped me because things were going to slow he wanted to be living together within a year of knowing me and other stuff but I found out yesterday I’m not the first girl he’s done this to I’m the third person that when things are going great he ends it and he also has no empathy so NC won’t work either 😔😔😔
The restaurant analogy is a good one even when I go to new restaurants I try things I’m siimilar with I know what I want soon as I look at the menu but still spend 20 min pretending I’m going try something new 😂
What if he left he said he going to focus on work would like to come back in future. He called me and text me with indirect messages after 2 months I ignored him because I was expecting an apology text. Not a hope you are ok and a phone call. Any way it’s 5 month since he last phoned and I am still in no contact. But I am sure he want to fix things between us do you think he will finally come forward?
Jog him on. Why should you have to wait? Actions speak louder than words and the current action is that he is not there. Don’t be the go to person for the person you can’t go to.
When her and I reconnected she made an Instagram account to communicate with me, ive noticed she has been logging in consistently for a bit, she doesn't follow anyone but me and a few meme pages, does this mean anything?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick last time we saw each other she said she still loved me, never lost feelings. This was before she changed her mind after I gave her a second chance. I'm guessing she's probably missing me a little bit, but not enough to call. She logs on late at night. and I've been talking to this other girl so the timing is bad
I hear you buddy, but actions speak louder than words so maybe it’s a good idea to focus on yourself? Dude, stop looking at her social media. Look what it is doing to you. It’s not good for you.
Hi im secure attachment I only discovered my ex was DA/FA after we broke up .... we grew very close quickly .. she started to share and be vulnerable with me ... " ive never dated anyone like you she "said " ive always dated the wrong kind of men " Then out of the blue "i only want to be friends" she said .... I said no we are already friends .... i have too much of romantic connection to remain only friends ... im about 95% healed now .... 6 months into no contact ... She said In her words "i was the best thing thats happened to her and her daughter ... i bought her calm, stability, security and order " We even talked about blended families I Discovered last week im blocked on WhatsApp.... even though i have never contacted her.... Thoughts anyone ❤
Sorry to hear that Martin. It sounds like she’s not emotionally available and it’s not your problem to fix. With DA attachment they want connection but it terrifies them. Only she can fix that. I think you will be better served staying no contact, work on you and know there are better options out there. I hope you feel better.
man i've learned so much from when breakup happened til now. people really ARE addicted to that honeymoon phase. it's insane. those same people are addicted to short term gains. i just don't get the logic. but hey, we all make our own hell, right? so let them keep making theirs while the smart people like us level up and move on to greater things.
Read a book called Everything is f*cked by Mark Manson. It explains why humans chase this honeyMoon period with everything in life, not just relationships.
they don’t know any better these days. a lot of people come from broken families or single parent households so they don’t know our grand parents who stayed together for years and taught what it took to stay together. All people see now is divorces and parents move from person to person. my opinion
i’m going to read that book
@@1111spiritualone that and that people don't love themselves enough to be alone. Society makes you feel as if being single is a bad thing, so people force relationships just to have someone.
@@ozzie-no-sweat i agree. We have to do better. I love my ex and since the breakup i chose to be alone, however she started seeing someone else as soon as we broke up. she just keeps moving from person to person. Our whole relationship she talked about her previous ex and compared us but sweared she was over her. i decided to just heal the right way. i wish her well 🤓.
As a wise turtle once said :
''We are too concerned with what was and what will be, there is a saying: yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mistery, but today is a gift, that is why it is called the present ;)''
''We must believe''
Can't take somebody back after they went and ''tasted'' a lot of different flavours....It's sick
SAME HERE. I DON'T TAKE SLOPPY SECONDS
Just had a zoom session with Nick. Was really insightful and understanding and sometimes it's just good to explain everything to someone who understands or reinforces things you already think too. He even extended my time too and I feel a bit of clarity and optimism going forward 👌
Thanks buddy. Was a please to speak with. Looking forward to next call.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Curious Nick on how much time you’d say for the one who comes back because there was a fight and we broke up..
Going on 5 weeks now,
Very minimal contact only a couple texts between but she is very cold and distant.
How much time till I should I “hope” is needed
(While still doing my best and no contact of course) (replying here so you see my comment hopefully haha)
Missed the worst one. My dumper came back to sleep with me just to make her new bf jealous after he dumped her, hoping she could get him back. Took me a bit to realize this and when I did, it broke my heart all over again.
Wow, that’s tough buddy. What was the outcome?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick 35 years of MGTOW.
Whilst MGTOW has some good ideas, it also has a lot of issues in my opinion. But as long it works for you, keep going buddy.
Same just happened to me
me and my gf had a good relationship but she was struggling to be affectionate due to her mental state she broke up with me and apologized called me her best friend etc i did not beg i simply said we should work through it together but i accept the breakup and left i started no contact straight away. 1 day going strong!
How’d it work out?
I listened to you and the music in the background.. relaxing.. good work!!! I implemented radio silence, with the girlfriend who backed off out of jealousy...so I simply went back to the local community center up here in the high country of Colorado.. I'm 45 and self-employed and do what I choose: so ya" it's good! So anyway
11 days passed and I messaged her:
It was a misunderstanding on her part so I
Let things air out. You know keep my distance kinda thing. She responded positively and she also called but I didn't feel like answering as I was in training.
Later at night she messaged several times: I miss you so much!
I send you kisses..
Good night...
Remember: there is a simple balance.its like this... You can't be like everyone else.
Don't be afraid to let her go because the minute you are is when you will lose her.
Get away from the TV and video games.
You have to be DIFFERENT! I can't stress it enough man!! Just trust me on this one
And trust yourself.. there's more to you and you know it. So stop wasting time!!!
Jack from the high country of Colorado!
I tried many restaurants and ordered from the variety of menus. Nothing beats good old fashioned home cooked meals.
Doesn’t mean you to stop the search. 😊
God mate you make a lot of sense helps me heaps
God talks to me directly! 😂😂😂
Just kidding.
Thanks mate. Appreciate your kind words.
He’s not in a relationship with anyone but he is dealing with someone after the breakup smh . Tryna stay focused on myself . We have 3 kids . I’m not chasing him anymore I took accountability but he won’t take accountability for any wrong he did as well so I’m over it . Thanks for the video!
I think you’re taking the best course of action. I will just add, try not to have any information on him because it will just drive you crazy.
Lions don’t concern themselves with the opinions of sheep.
No matter what happens, I am proud of you, we all are! you are enough, you always were, and always will be :) Love ya
@@leo_501 love ya to 🥰💕
You speak unconditional and thats who i am
Very true you have woken my arse up cheers mate
My pleasure buddy. I hope you’re well.
My ex is still in a rebound relationship but I don’t know of what he wanted. It felt like he’s giving me a mixed signal. I still loved him though. But I respect his relationship with my ex friend slash rebound girl.
Ps the funny thing is my ex friend still got the nerve to get mad at me. LOL
You are the very best THANK YOU NICK A THOUSAND TIMES
Appreciate the support. I hope you’re doing well today.
She wants to try different dudes, instantly I lose attraction. I don't want to be the nice guy she settles down with after her H o e phase
yea man, screw that. but change it from "i don't want to be" to "i will not be". let her h o e around. she can eat your dust as you leave her behind you're way ahead leveled up. that always motivated me during my healing time: knowing that she was getting her short term gains now but had long term pains awaiting her. cuz i knew i wouldn't take her back after what she did and how she went about it.
Facts
Right! Guys NEVER take a woman back if she circles back around to you after rejecting you the first time! She was holding out for "better". 😏
You think she came to you a virgin? And yourself, you slept with chicks before and after her too, drop the pride.
Great video
Appreciate it buddy. I hope you’re well. 😊
She came back and left again and I did level up
Sometimes you can do no wrong and still lose. That’s not weakness! That’s life!
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you
I’m not even fully sure who was what this final time. We had serious tension and stress and fights just never ended. She said she fell out of love with me. I was hurt and ultimately left. Can’t fight those things. But this is the same woman who wouldn’t accept my boundaries for years. Got me to have a child with her. Used that child to further shame me and devalue me through smiles. I felt I was leaving to give her what she wanted and then she said that’s finally what she wants. But it wasn’t simple like that. She didn’t want to say any final statements. Anything to signal she was done and wouldn’t try to hoover me again. The lack of responses and closure she always promised she would give If we ended as to why, and obviously why she didn’t want to make an effort to work on the relationship together. So I’m a tad borderline my self, and completely bottomed out. Just typical bpd cycle or anxiety anger paranoia sadness pleasing boundary rolling apologizing for every issue ever. But then remembering the reasons I initiated to space. The fact she immediately has a replacement a day after head in my lap trying to talk through things, just completely gutted me. I don’t know which way is up atm.
That sounds like a rough situation man and I’m sorry to hear that.
But here’s the thing. We are who we attract, so why did you stay with a woman that wouldn’t accept your boundaries? That’s where your self work needs to be focused on.
My ex dumped me because things were going to slow he wanted to be living together within a year of knowing me and other stuff but I found out yesterday I’m not the first girl he’s done this to I’m the third person that when things are going great he ends it and he also has no empathy so NC won’t work either 😔😔😔
If you’re not the first he’s done it to then it’s probably him who is the problem.
The restaurant analogy is a good one even when I go to new restaurants I try things I’m siimilar with I know what I want soon as I look at the menu but still spend 20 min pretending I’m going try something new 😂
What if he left he said he going to focus on work would like to come back in future. He called me and text me with indirect messages after 2 months I ignored him because I was expecting an apology text. Not a hope you are ok and a phone call. Any way it’s 5 month since he last phoned and I am still in no contact. But I am sure he want to fix things between us do you think he will finally come forward?
Jog him on. Why should you have to wait?
Actions speak louder than words and the current action is that he is not there.
Don’t be the go to person for the person you can’t go to.
Unconditional love from a mother? The pre existing condition from a mother is that, being the mom.
It’s still a condition. Being the mother is a condition of loving that child, ergo it is NOT unconditional.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Exactly.
When her and I reconnected she made an Instagram account to communicate with me, ive noticed she has been logging in consistently for a bit, she doesn't follow anyone but me and a few meme pages, does this mean anything?
What do you think it means James?
If you were advising me, what would you say?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick last time we saw each other she said she still loved me, never lost feelings. This was before she changed her mind after I gave her a second chance.
I'm guessing she's probably missing me a little bit, but not enough to call. She logs on late at night.
and I've been talking to this other girl so the timing is bad
I hear you buddy, but actions speak louder than words so maybe it’s a good idea to focus on yourself?
Dude, stop looking at her social media. Look what it is doing to you. It’s not good for you.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick im not going out of my way, I've just seen it in my inbox list whenever I go to message someone else
Unfollow or block my man. Cut the last string.
NICK THANK YOU FOR RECOMMENDING THE BOOK BY MARK MANSON IT'S BEYOND GREAT !!! AND SO ARE YOU , YOU HAVE HELPED ME SO MUCH THANKS AGAIN.
Thank you William. I appreciate your kind words. It sounds like you’re doing well. Great work. I hope everything is well for you.
This video su x z
You’re welcome 😈😊
Hi im secure attachment
I only discovered my ex was
DA/FA after we broke up ....
we grew very close quickly ..
she started to share and be vulnerable with me ...
" ive never dated anyone like you she "said " ive always dated the wrong kind of men "
Then out of the blue
"i only want to be friends" she said ....
I said no we are already friends .... i have too much of romantic connection to remain only friends ...
im about 95% healed now ....
6 months into no contact ...
She said In her words
"i was the best thing thats happened to her and her daughter ... i bought her calm, stability, security and order "
We even talked about blended families
I Discovered last week im blocked on WhatsApp.... even though i have never contacted her....
Thoughts anyone ❤
Sorry to hear that Martin.
It sounds like she’s not emotionally available and it’s not your problem to fix.
With DA attachment they want connection but it terrifies them. Only she can fix that.
I think you will be better served staying no contact, work on you and know there are better options out there.
I hope you feel better.
I went through the exact same thing. 😢