Key Phases For The DUMPER in a Monkey Branching Relationship

[@Flufero23]

This is so true. Another aspect:: my FA had planned to keep me as a friend. He had not planned for my walking away without a tear or drama. NC forever for me. He was stuck with his new love, without me. It didn't go as planned. I have healed and moved on with my life. It took one year of inner and outer work, but I did it. I watch your videos in order to be sure I recognize the red flags. Never again!!!

[@robertanna9964]

What a great analysis-
I won't bore anyone with my experience but I will say that anyone who can do this (MB) literally has no soul.
Are you out now with no children involved? No legal entanglements (marriage, mortgages loans) ?
If so, you need to get on your knees and thank the Almighty with your whole heart.
Confront, embrace and process the pain. Wear it like a badge of honor. No one will ever know but you how bad it hurts sometimes. And that's a good thing.
Do not accept their calls, texts or overtures of any kind.
Do not creep on their social media.
Get on your knees again. Thank him for what you have. And for what you don't.

[@kieranmcgarvie2902]

Best coach out there. No BS. Helping me heal and seeing things for what they are!

[@user-fk8yp7fr7w]

Paz, it’s really great how good you explain all what happens in a breakup!!!

[@PazGoldmanOfficial]

Thank you so much for your acknowledgment of the hard work I put into my videos to explain it in the best possible way for you guys 🙏🏽🤍
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[@Freudster21]

One of the best I have seen on this topic, very detailed and nuanced breakdown of the subject matter and accurate info, and matches up with reality of what I have seen in my romantic/dating experience dealing with this stuff throughout life. I’m sure the channel will blow up and grow over time

[@Freudster21]

Would be cool to see the estimated timelines for each stage

[@killingjoke535]

My ex got engaged after eight months dating the new guy. Just move on, people. It's not worth the pain holding on to them

[@SNEAKVS]

Sorry that has to be painful

[@user-cy1wx8gg6v]

after one month of our breakup, she started t date this new guy, when i see her new guy I felt something relief coz thats way more ugly than me lol haha

[@Bopsterjazz]

Ha! This is me and my ex to a T. Crazy how formulaic it is, but, yeah, it’s awful to experience. That guy really had me thinking for a long time that I was this awful person and that I did something to deserve it somehow. It was simply a decision he made. It hurt a lot, but he had no remorse, he just didn’t care and it baffled me so much. I get it now, I dodged a bullet, but man, I really did care for the guy. . .

[@aleksandras4659]

My ex went back and forth between me and another guy several times, since august. This guy doesn’t even know anything. She is now with him again for 3 months already, funny thing is, at the beginning of the month she unblocked me and started stalking my stories again, She does not even follow me. Several days ago even congratulated on my graduation. and she is still with that guy. So basically Paz explained what is happening there. She is again starting to do same things all over again, wishing for the different result, but relationship built on lies is doomed to fail.

[@ktorr9413]

Have some respect for yourself and kick her out of your life man

[@raymondcopperfield884]

Block that shit out of your life. You are a King 👑 and kings don't tolerate shit around their lives.

[@sunnykhan5451]

Why ain't you blocking this person? I mean do you like this person to use you and others?

[@aleksandras4659]

@@sunnykhan5451 funny thing she blocked me out of nowhere several days ago, but throughout whole July she was stalking my stories.

[@matthewgarvin1165]

This is 100% correct. I recently took my ex back after two months. After she dated another guy. We re-connected and things were amazing. Two weeks later she walked through my door. Her face, the energy, everything was off. She started a fight that day out of nowhere from the past and was completely blind sided. Come to find out she went on a date with another guy the night before!l from a mutual friend. After the fight and asking her if she was talking to someone else she offered friendship and cut off emotional/physical contact between us. I declined her offer. Went no-contact and my mutual friend a week later that she continues to see the new guy.

[@raymondcopperfield884]

Don't accept any shit from her by blocking her first. That will be healthy for your spirit.

[@user-cy1wx8gg6v]

bro respext your self, she betrayed you but why do you still acept her?

[@arifkhan5600]

Another excellent video Brother Paz!! very true and point to point explanation 👍

[@bradballard4588]

This is absolutely brilliant.

[@timtim237]

Thank you for your explanation and help

[@PazGoldmanOfficial]

You got it brother 🙏🏽💪🏽 Tnx for the acknowledgement!

[@lubaaustin9915]

The information you provide for us on this subject is Outstanding , for me personally it feels like I find a Priceless Jem it gives me so much understanding, clarity and peace. I have Great Appreciation for your work,personal experience, wisdom, knowledge and dedication to help people is Amazing. Thank you and Love you for that ❤

[@williamdepa3570]

Thanks coach yiu do a nice job in providing detail.. I am heartbroken but I needed to hear this as I thought I was going crazy.

[@collettekingrodriguez4492]

Majority of women do not come back. Also, what if the person is their person. Age comes into factor and coworkers. They connect through work experience. I just want the pain to submerge. Also, I don’t talk to ex 11years.

[@dianameyer9361]

Thank you Paz! This has helped me a lot! ❤

[@1111spiritualone]

I went through everything you just discussed. I went no contact two years ago. I would assume they probably with the monkey branch they left me for. I wouldn’t know. I never been reached out to.

[@davidparks8681]

Mine left with my friend and is in the honeymoon phase. I went straight into no contact and haven’t heard anything. But, it’s not time and by the time she comes around ( because our mutual friend is a loser) I will be over it

[@thomasthetankengin7722]

Literally the same thing happened to me. Ex and I lived together for 2 years, she is now with my friend of 25 years who I believe just casually swooped in there and flirted with her when he could see things were rocky. She does actually seem confused and remorseful. Not brazen and bold about it, but still doing it because she can't handle the pain of being alone. Low value people like this don't deserve our presence

[@a.m.8895]

Really good analysis

[@brianbondy5667]

I am curious when reality sets in at a month or so how long do they stay in each of the stages for? Do they jump back and fourth between stages?

[@jaycole6824]

Damn... She got me good then. The week before our 5th anniversary too. Why is hindsight so clear? Time to heal.

[@thomasthetankengin7722]

Try on your birthday weekend bro... With my oldest "friend"

[@jaycole6824]

@thomasthetankengin7722 my condolences, brother. This shit isn't easy. But after a couple weeks I found my traction and have got a new job, house, car, and added 12 lbs of muscle. My goal is now to be both my best self and her greatest regret. How are you doing lately?

[@thomasthetankengin7722]

@@jaycole6824 I'm in the same boat man. I'm adding muscle every day, I'm working on my anxious attachment style, I'm finding myself slowly but it isn't easy. I don't even want her but I think my ego is hurting. Strength to both of us. Keep me posted on your progress brother. I'll do the same

[@jaycole6824]

@thomasthetankengin7722 yeah we definitely are in the same boat. In hindsight I'm an anxious attachment as well and she's an avoidant. She didn't cheat or monkey branch as far as I know so bro, no homo, but my heart feels for you man I can't imagine that pain. Speaking of the gym. I assume your strength is through the roof given the emotional drive behind it. Shit I almost cried in the gym a few times and that's when I grin and bear it and fucking push the limits to transform the negativity into productivity. Luckily this hasn't been my first rodeo, yet this time it's definitely hard, yet easier from experience on how to handle it. That first love though is always the worst, and hope this isn't your first love. My first I became depressed for years and didn't know how to cope

[@thomasthetankengin7722]

@@jaycole6824 man, we got to work on our self esteem dude. Anxiety has ruined so many relationships for me, I know it. But, I also think I've never been with a fully secure woman. So maybe we just need to weed out the avoidants and anxious types early! Have a read of Attached if you haven't. Fascinating audiobook. Glad yours didn't monkey branch, that is my situation but like you, not my first rodeo either and luckily not the love of my life... That time I ate porridge once a day for a month and lost muscle. This was always a difficult relationship so even though it's horrible thinking about her and my "friend" I just tell myself I dodged a bullet and now know who my friends are. There are some f***ed up ppl around I tell you. Sorry it's this painful my brother, keep pumping that iron and become the best version of yourself physically and spiritually! I will too! ✌️

[@a.d.b535]

I think he's been monkey branching between me and an ex GF. I'm trying to let the reality of that sink in. Need to get away from this pain.

[@malvoguest9199]

My wife monkey branch to her co-worker and she now divorcing me to be be him. Her new lover knew about me. Its been 8 months that I know of, but he said he been dealing with her a year. Will it last

[@shanea9613]

@@malvoguest9199 I don't think it will last my friend. They are both cheaters and will never have any trust. Without trust nothing will progress

[@neodistinct]

Coaz Paz, shalom! What are usual dymanics when they branch to Long Distance Relationship?
My ex monkey branched to LDR and is with that person for 14 months already. She posts their trips but never posts him.

[@PazGoldmanOfficial]

@@neodistinct that’s a great question brother and I think you already know the answer if she doesn’t post him she’s keeping her options open and the fact that this is a long distance relationship just means that it’s an unhealthy relationship that will not last for long even if they are 14 months together, doesn’t mean that this is a healthy relationship or successful one.
I would highly encourage you to stop tracking how long they’ve been together or if she posts him or not focus on yourself and heal !
I’m here for you, my friend if you need help

[@bodhi9464]

our EGO ~ especially as a man.
as Tate says; breakup hits a man harder, because a woman (especially in todays digital world), has instant abundance of options straight away.
Be strong ~ male ~ female or non binary types; listen to Coach Paz.
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[@IvanSladoja-tj5cx]

I fully understand when you suggest that l move on, but this is not an ex gf l am dealing with. I am dealing with letting go of a 20 year marriage with now almost adult children. I could easily walk away from a ex gf, but not so easily from a spouse that l have loved and committed to for twenty years.

[@parkerberlin4410]

I agree. Not easy at all, but still just as necessary. Fiance left after 9 yr relationship. I should've went NC from the beginning

[@IvanSladoja-tj5cx]

I feel your pain, stay strong. That's all we can do

[@mikein60fps30]

I feel your pain. NC from the moment she walked, just got out of a 13yr relationship. Its been hard but its what i got to do for my mental being/not just to try and get her back. Weave broken up and got back together 4 times over the years, its a straight up mess. Wishing you the best in whatever the future brings for you 💪. -Cheers

[@thomasthetankengin7722]

I'm sorry to hear this man. What is the situation tho? Is your wife talking about reconciliation? Or is she still with the other guy? If the latter, i would aim to move on, and IF she comes back you need to set the rules and boundaries and not just let her straight back into the bed. Counselling (for her personally, then maybe marriage counselling) is probably a must if it's going to ever become a healthy relationship again. I'm not saying this is your fault at all, but there may have been things that you should have paid more attention to early on to keep this marriage going successfully. Be strong.

[@bvhia]

@@IvanSladoja-tj5cx its tough but its essentially the same situation whether its a 1 year relationship or 20 year.
Yeah she was married to you for 20 years but now shes cheating on you with another person and planned the whole thing out

[@askquestions1236]

what about when he's been in a long distance for 2 years? and I didn't knw?

[@rosemariefelgenhauer6957]

Well they have been 2 yrs tog. now and I've heard they have been off and on but still tog. Till now..

[@Ypc_media.network]

Paz mines married her coworker became pregnant after 2 months. It's been almost 2 years now. We share a 9 year old son together.

[@raymondcopperfield884]

Is she now happy in her marriage with her co-worker?

[@bvhia]

Sounds just like she got more problems. Doesnt mean her mind isnt shredded.

[@Tashapantasia]

Coach Paz, what can you say about a common friend of mine and my ex started massaging me for asking about me and my ex. These friends chatted me suddenly asking how they can help me and my ex bring back together.i hope you can make a video about it too since i don't understand what is happening. My ex is still with his gf(my replacement) but these friends is asking me how can they help me. My ex seems happy and contented and actually blocked me, but there's our friends trying to get info from me out of no where. Im not communicating these friends for a while. I just don't understand. I hope you can make an honest content about it.

[@kiddytube3915]

Normal. They’ll send a mutual friend to soften you up. Just ignore them.

[@PazGoldmanOfficial]

🗣️ I mentioned this in few of my videos about the “Indirect direct approach” that an ex will take in order for them to try getting you back.
I would suggest that you MOVE ON due to the fact that he has been with someone else.
Now all you need to do is to take this time for you to DO THE WORK! Heal & grow from this!
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[@Tashapantasia]

@@PazGoldmanOfficial I just don't understand why they're sending people to soften me but kept me on their blacklist coach. And they're not single. It's a dick approach for me

[@PazGoldmanOfficial]

@Tashapantasia Yes it is a dick and a cowered approach! But he act like this because he is emotionally immature, he can’t handle you directly…
In any case as I already said, focus on yourself now and move on, HE IS NO GOOD FOR YOU, YOU ARE WORTHY OF SO MUCH MORE 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🥊

[@Tashapantasia]

Btw, he broke up to me 4 yrs ago. But we're together for 13yrs and we have a son. He's acting cold everytime as well.

[@Lkay4867]

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