So far as I can see on RUclips, you are the one that cuts straight to it at the beginning, that Monkey Branch does not work.. you deserve a whole lot more views for this video
Thank you so much for your kind word man! I appreciate it. Relationships that come from cheating (monkey branching) do not work ever long term! That’s just the way it is.
Everything u said in this video matches my past relationship. Its like you sharing my past here. She lined up a married guy n jumped to him, leaving me in a terrible pain. And when I confronted her with her cheating she had zero remorse. I was so shocked to see the drastic change in her behaviour. But I’m glad that I finally moved on and rejected her when she texted back after a year. For everyone who has been cheated/ monkey branched, trust me friends it gets better once u move on.
My ex wife cheated on me with a guy, and then with our 22F daycare worker. They live together in my old house with my 2 and 4 year old. We were married 10 years. Some people just suck. I’m looking forward to moving on, but it’s tough
This man. I stole my ex away from a guy that was verbally abusive to her. Only had been with the guy for 2 months. Fast forward 4 years and I put a ring on her finger. Our relationship got to room mate like and she leave me for a jobless stoner who makes her feel sexy…. Lesson learned
I don't feel sorry for her and definitely not for you. You say he was abusive as she told you so. My ex did the same. She monkey branched to a guy who had wife. Supposedly she lied to him as she didn't want to have kids, and as far as I know he can't have them because of 2 courses of chemo and radio therapy for cancer he had. She said a lot of BS about me to him and also our friends and her family. My only faul t was that I became not present and didn't support her as I did before. All because of work which have fried my brain and health. My neurotransmitters plundged to symbolic amount, sama as my hormones were a mess. I had issues with my memory (still have). Never, ever I hurt her in any way or cheated her etc. Same manner I don't believe his wife lied to him, but I don't give a f**k. I am hoping their relationship will burn, and will burn them in pain.
I love your voice ! It’s so soothing as I’m going through the pain and sleepless nights trying to heal after he monkey branched. I’m still trying to recover even though it’s been half a year now and I blocked him everywhere so I didn’t have to see all his happy pictures having the best time of his life with his new gf.
My ex left me and our 3 year old for someone he’d known for 4 months. It lasted 3 months. This guys right, healthy people work on their relationships, they don’t think an outside person is going to solve their issues.
Not really. I find it easier to trust. Especially if you now know all of the red flags and tactics of a cheating person. A person who doesn’t cheat has nothing to hide. A classic cheater spends hours on their phone, constantly changes the passcode, has sketchy friends who cheat too, keeps platonic friendships with the opposite sex, meets them frequently, disappears on you, starts fights with you , doesn’t listen to you, doesn’t respect you, make you do all of the work, is constantly happy that you’re not around , doesn’t miss you, doesn’t tell you that they love you, doesn’t reciprocate your attention nor affection. And so much more. If there’s even one of this signs, you have to pull them up give them a chance to explain themselves and if they can’t or refuse, you dump them. Plain and simple. Learn from your mistakes with a cheater.
@@kiddytube3915I was in a six-year relationship, the first serious relationship for both of us. From the beginning, there were issues, such as her cheating on me, which I decided to forgive, believing we could overcome it together. However, over time, new problems arose. She started secretly talking to a guy from the United States (we are from Spain), exchanging photos, videos, and even having video calls without telling me. This triggered my insecurities, and I ended up exhibiting jealous and controlling behavior that I never wanted to have. The arguments became constant, and although I tried to fight to save the relationship, it felt like all the effort was on me. She avoided discussing problems or finding solutions and started becoming more distant, while I just wanted to fix things. Sometimes I felt like she made me doubt everything, as if I was always my fault, when she was the one making me feel that way. In the end, she decided to end the relationship, saying that she didn’t know what she felt anymore. A week later, I asked how she was doing, and she said she felt relieved and free, that she didn’t love me, and that she was never coming back. A few weeks later, I discovered that she is in a long-distance relationship with that guy. I feel so bad; I gave her everything I had, and she didn’t value it.
Went through this. She cheated on her husband with me. I got complacent enough to marry her. Then she cheated on me when things got bad for a while. I was blindsided for a minute. Thanks man.
Yup, happened here too 👋 She branched onto me after going to jail beating up her ex boyfriend. Fast forward 2.5 years, she monkey branched onto the new supply but it started 2 years being together. Don't think I can take her back. The trust is gone 💯
So my ex branches away from me to another guy after 7 years. This other guy branched away from his gf (7yrs) to be with my now ex. I should go grab some popcorn. This is gonna burn down gloriously.
@@Onetakelifestyle3323it might last a few years but rarely beyond that. My ex wife monkeybranched to our 22F daycare worker, who is this sorta ghetto chick. Really surprising. 10 years of marriage wasted. 2 young kids too
I’ve found if you watch for it or hope for it it never happens. You’ll be sure the same bad thing will happen to them and check their social media or ask a friend about them periodically and you’ll find every time you look they’re happier and more committed, just wash it from your mind and find happiness within yourself
Sucks when you have kids with one of these people. They think it’s fine to destroy a family for their own personal desires. Not even thinking about what effects it might have on the children.
Hi Christian. Love the hair! Love the videos and message. I cheated once when I was younger. I destroyed my best friend and partner. Over the years she forgave me, but it screwed up her future endeavors. I learned and never did it again.
Thanks for this video, I agree 100%. This happened to me. My ex boyfriend cheated on me, once he secured a bond with the other woman he dumped me. We lived together for 5 years. When I moved out I went through his things & found a letter from his previous ex. He monkey branched with me w/o my knowledge. He's never been single to deal with his baggage. He married the girl he cheated with, she knew about me because I confronted her, so they deserve each other. They got off on my heartbreak.
Yeah other girl thinks she is better than you, or he would not have left you. Not true though. Most likely they are having rough relationship. My ex of 7 years, 5 live together did this to me. She went to a high school boyfriend from 30+ years ago that reached out on fakebook. Within only a couple to few months, they bought a house and now married for just over 2 months. Had to sell our townhouse and I had to find apartment. She tried Fucking me out of my home equity. I sued and got lots more than her! She was devastated that I ruined her life.... Go figure". Now after she has sent me over 400 texts and her mom voice messages me that she is very depressed and wanting me back. She is trapped in house title with him etc. And OMG he is an ugly guy!! Not to be mean but?.... You should see the text messages I have from her. Unreal the shit they put you through just to learn they made a mistake. Was I heartbroken? Absolutely devastated! If it was simple breakup it would be easy to reconcile, but when they betray you and choose another, that is the worst! We are both 57. This stuff about wanting to return is true. I learned about no contact from previous relationship where I used to blow up her phone crying etc... Than after months of her ignoring me and a month after I stopped, she did end up contacting me many times. But I ignored and let her go because I found a new girlfriend which is the one that did this to me. Always find out how many exes your partner had before you. That's a tell tale sign of what to expect. Your just next in line and another number to them. Worst thing for one to go through I will tell you that!!
@@antilaw9911 - I'm glad you found a new partner that is better for you. Definitely learned my lesson to ask about past relationships. Best wishes to you!
I believed social media plays a big part on all these shits. You can imagine how many hundreds of guys direct messaging, complimenting & liking their selfies especially from those beta & simps followers. Mr Christian, maybe you can do a video of should you stop or control your girl or guy from having social media accounts.
My ex tried to talk just !one time! when I was feeling bad and stressed. After this time, she gave our relationship up and decided to not fight for the relationship. Result , she never talked about our issues again and broke up months later, leaving our afforded home with some stuff in her baggage. All the time, the last months, she was a good actor pretending everything was fine... leaving behind her a 10yr relationship and the dream of having kids or getting married... Result of one momentof weakness: she was writing with others to see where she could go after the break up I am devasted
Thank you so much for the channel. I wish I had known that 3.5yrs ago. But you do awesome work. Now I understand and it's a bit easier to get through that pain.
Thanks For this man, you got it bang on man i learned alot that i didnt know oh well rather late than never, im recently tryna get over my ex of 3 yrs who monkey branched for someone else im.3 months into mt recovery and i really needed to.hear this it helped me alot with my recovery, great Content Brother keep it up 💯
Another great video! One thing I don't understand tho. How can a guy, get into a relationship with someone who cheated on their current partner to be with him? Like you mentioned, nothing makes you different from the previous guy, if she did it once, she can always do it again. These kind of people are a cancer to relationships.
when a guy is desperate, in scarcity, he will overlook flaws and red flags because he feels like “he finally got a woman” “he will be different than the other guy”. So, when she says “I’ll leave my boyfriend or husband for you or has confessed that she has a bf or husband, the guy won’t see it as an issue because he will project his fantasy onto her. Then when he doesn’t meet her needs and she finally cheats on him ( just like she did to the other guy) he’s left heartbroken because he was too blinded by lust and fantasy to see the truth. You are correct. People like this are a cancer to relationships. It’s terrible , there are women who do this and there are men also who do this to women. This is why it’s best to meet women who are single, willing and ready to date with no emotional baggage or no ex in the background and for sure no way a woman who would cheat on her current partner for someone new. Meet and focus on good, high quality women who come from a good background or who have down the work on themselves. Check out my video on the biggest red flag you shouldn’t avoid in a woman
Ton Robert never ever go for a woman who’s cheating on their current partner for you! you found out the hardy way that they will do it to you eventually
@MK Duke Men monkey branch too. I didn't know my ex had branched to me. It came out when we were already in an established relationship: he made up a convincing story and I believed him. However, when he dumped me, I suspected that he already had had his new love interest lined up while he was still with me as just days after our breakup they were out together acting like lovebirds. Also his brother told me that my suspicions were correct which is something he privately confessed to me only and did not make public knowledge. I don't think my ex expected his brother to fight my corner. I also sensed something was amiss when I'd call my ex at his father's business and the staff would act embarrassed and uncomfortable whereas they'd always been friendly before. It turned out that his new interest had started working at the business a few months earlier. His friends, on the other hand, didn't have a clue and swore they never suspected a thing. I knew they weren't trying to cover for him because some had fallen out with him and had no reason to protect him and were, therefore, unwitting alibi. Since my ex's new romantic interest was working for his father, I presume she probably knew something about him even if just through coworkers mentioning me: at the beginning of our relationship I used to occasionally stop by the business so all the staff knew me. Also a couple of staff members even invited us, as a couple, to have dinner in their homes. So it was a well known fact among the staff that he was in a serious long term relationship. It's also possible that his brother may have told her outright that he already had a girlfriend (I'm not sure about this though). So if his new romantic interest knew he was still in a relationship and didn't care (btw she too was a monkey brancher and left her fiancè to be with my ex: a match made in heaven: sarcasm), perhaps his motivation was that he didn't want his new woman and himself to be considered douches by his social circle (which was important to him). At any rate he was very good at covering his tracks with them and was successful at not arousing suspicion. Even years later they still say that he had always acted head over heels about me and they swear there were no hints that he was seeing anyone behind my back (they thought mine was unfounded jealousy/paranoia) and I believe they are sincere when they say this. However, only a couple of people know the truth and believe my side of the story. They were speechless when I told them that I knew for sure (and how I was so certain) that they had been seeing each other before he dumped me. It just goes to show how deceitful, manipulative and sneaky he was: he had everyone duped not just me (which helps me feel a little less stupid). Good riddance! In order for his friends to be so genuinely unsuspecting, however, it must mean that she kept up the pretense as well. My feeling was and still is that they deserved each other (they married, cheated on each other and eventually divorced). As for me I ended up completely changing my life, moved to a different country, town and have a new circle of friends. The experience left me heartbroken for a number of years but today I feel like I was incredibly lucky and that I dodged a very toxic bullet.
@@anta3612 the same happened to me! It's always someone really close to them generally a coworker. Mine was. But at the end of day you can sleep so well under your blanket cause you didn't hurt anyone and there is no remorse. They know what they did was really wrong, both are guilty and start a relationship with guilty and mislead someone innocent is not cool! Live your life to the best enjoy the opportunity to grow as a human! Big hug from Portugal
I think it’s different with monkey branches - cheaters often just have one time flings but monkey branches tend to emotionally attach to the branch and then slowly detach from the current person. That’s why they can dump you and move on to the branch. Those relationships can last because feelings have developed. Yes it’s still a form of cheating and it ain’t right that as opposed to communicating their issues with you they started talking and sharing their issues with a new person and then they ‘trauma bond’. So yes monkey brancher can marry their branch and they may well settle and be together for life. It doesn’t make it right but it does happen that they end up being committed and settled / married with the person they cheated on. Best thing is for us to move on and forget about people that were so childish they could hurt us like that.
@Gem you have a point. But at the time of the "trauma bond". The other person views the person you're with as a potential catch. This person will do everything they can to impress this person and draw them out of the relationship. And when they do, it becomes a different situation. Eventually the person will get tired of the monkey branch person complain ing... I mean their goal is already achieved in getting the person. Once they get the person, they won't be as supportive as they once were because they already achieved their goal. Eventually the true colors and cracks from both partners start to show, that's why it'll end in most cases. A good example is a job interview. In the interview and even the first few weeks of the job, you'll put on your best effort and front. You'll give your best to impress the boss. As time passes, you start to lay off and chill and not care as much anymore.
Shv M you make a good counter point and certainly different insight re - new job analogy. However what if the branch draws your partner out seeing them as a potential catch because they themselves are in a bad relationship? Often that’s why they trauma bond with your partner - you right it’s the goal of getting a new partner but to these two people they getting a fresh start and they believe they have learned about what didn’t work (ie with us / their respective partner) and since they weren’t happy with us they know and get ‘each other’s pain’ exactly and know how to be better in their new relationship together. Sure like any couple there will be issues but often their emotions are strong enough depending on how long they knew each other before dumping you. I guess it’s hard one for me to fathom when it’s happened and while I’m not a person to wish anyone ‘ill’ the worse is when they think it’s been absolutely innocent and they have no guilty conscience whatsoever they don’t think they have hurt or wrecked anyone’s life or the real collateral damage as a result of their selfish actions. For them they can live their lives for themselves selfishly and unapologetically and I guess if we as the ones that get left behind would objectively have to face that ‘wouldn’t we also want to do what makes us happy?’ But the difference between us and them is that we would not have acted in the way they did and never have sought out comfort from someone else - we would have spoken and told them we were unhappy not go seek that comfort and validation from someone else first. So for them they doing just that - doing what it takes to make them happy - and I guess that’s why they need to detach and be so cold towards us - they can’t ever face what they truly did to you so they paint a version of reality in their heads that the two of you were long done and over before they monkey branched. And I guess they need to believe this so strongly or else they wouldn’t be able to face what they actually did to you to the person they became. It’s sad that that as a result of their irresponsible and reckless actions, they lose the very essence and part of themselves that you probably saw and fell in love with at the onset of your relationship in the first place :(
@@gem3530 then it's different. If the other person was also in a bad relationship, then it may work. But this is a very selfish act. Because you're emotionally checking out on your partner and just stringing them along until you find somebody to monkey branch to. People do this mainly because they're afraid of being single. You're totally right in the sense that they behave very cold and distant towards you afterwards. They try to make you look as if you're "beneath" them. These kind of people aren't even worth it, it shows the person has little values and lacks morals. People like this are a cancer to relationships. And like you mentioned, we'd never want to do that, even if we wanted to. Because we know how much hurt it would do to the other person. Them on the other hand, they just don't care and only worry about themselves. Again people like that are not worth a dime!
@@RelearningRelationships yeah could take me years as don’t want anyone else!! When I love I’m not interested in anyone! Just need to stay single till I’m over it I still can’t eat much two months on and have heartache everyday so it’s going to take a very long time to recover! Thank you for being kind!
The same thing happens to me, 2 months after the end, they made the relationship official and exchanged oaths of love on IG. And here I am suffering. Glad I didn't humiliate myself or ask to come back, I only found out the real reason for the breakup 15 days after the end of the relationship. As always a co-worker. I wish from the bottom of my heart that she would repent and realize that she lost me forever.
I had girl a reached out to me in my high school she was flirting with me a lot later I got to know that I was the other branch so as soon as I got to know about her relationship, I ghosted her. Because I didn’t want to be the reason for their break up. But in my case my recent relationship ended after 6 years and she monkey branched with a friend she told not to worry about.(little brother she says) So yeah this shit is fucked up. Us as men we should never lower ourselves because they hold us for long as they could as well as the other guy. When she has options just walk away.
Personnel insecurityes is the reasons why monkey branching happens. They dont love themselves and needs validation from another person. They have childhood trauma and no boundaries.
Gospel. Truth bombs. We don't want to hear it most times, but this young man - unusually wise for his years - gets it. If she was bad news to one guy, she'll be bad news to you.
I really apreciare your kind words. Thank you!. I’ve taken a break from uploading content recently but I’ll be back on track in the next few days. Thank you for all the love and support!
My soon ex husband did this, he monkey branched to his coworker, who also knew he is married & flat out said she didn't care. Good luck to them. Both toxic
why all stories are same,...my ex of 13 years and three kids together left me for som lowlife character who also cheats on his girlfriend, cant express how much pain i am in which i never felt in 44 years of my life. 6 months and still in inexpalinable pain.
You also have to be careful with people pleasers. They tend to be very thoughtful in some instances (considerate, even empathetic, maybe even good at nursing when you feel under the weather, etc.) but they can also be notorious liars and flakers and damned good at it, keeping their poker face and having a cool answer for everything. Trust your gut. If your woman is getting "dolled" up to go to some mondain function or needing to hit the town with her single friend a couple or more times a month, take note; especially if she monkey branched to get to you. There's a near certain chance history is repeating itself. To think otherwise is to be a chump.
My ex is a people pleaser. He wanted to make other people feel good about themselves, especially women. They’re weak minded and don’t have a strong stance against temptation.
She Monkey branched with a coworker. But My ex kind of trails me. She now dates this guy but yet she joined my laboratory job, I had to quit because it prevented my healing seeing hickys and shit😞, I also heard she wants to transfer to the same 4year institution that I just transferred to, she previously had zero interest in. Tbh I was thirsty like you said in the video, not sure if she likes using me to get herself ahead or she wants to keep me on the shelf. I haven’t heard from her since I quit. Your first is always the hardest. I hate the feeling of betrayal. Now I have a woman who comes from a strong family but every relationship comes with different challenges. I hate to say it but trama bonding blinds you from relationships that are actually worthwhile. This fall my ex may or may not be in the same college as me. Logically I must be cold and move on but when they do contact you your heart races and emotions fill up. My ex often mentioned getting back together but would just stand me up…
You know how my ex of 5 1/2 years justified his monkey branching to a coworker? She is married and polyamorous. And now he says that one person is never going to be all of the things he needs, so he wants a non monogamous lifestyle now. They've been together for 8 months now. He found another cheater who is just reinforcing that behavior in him. Before our relationship, he had never had sex outside of a relationship, never a one night stand, we were eachother's first loves, first LTR. And now he leaves me for this. I'm 39. The past 8 months have been so hard to get through. I am slowly getting there, but betrayal just completely ruins every bit of your self worth and esteem.
I am sorry, but being an atheist, I totally love your message and videos. What you say makes sense! Isn't that ironic? Moreover, you've got gorgeous hair. Thank you.
I experienced this for the 1st time she was beautiful but toxic with me in our relationship but I was caught off guard but she did go back to her ex for a brief moment I didn't know how to react because he thought he still had her but long story short she ended up playing and using both of us and now wanting to be with me to end up in a another relationship after me🤦🏾♂️
Thank you for the videos. I feel real dumb, pathetic. My girl of 2 years, 4 months was pressuring me to marry her, told me many times that's what she wanted, and i told her I'd propose when I'm ready, just to chill, but i will do it. She was real into me, but i was sensing a lot of anger/resentment coming from her. As i was getting ready to explain my feelings and propose, i found out she had already monkeybranched me. It was too late. Took her for granted, and certainly didn't see it coming. Well, it happened. F'ing heartbroken now. i should have taken her more seriously, and feel it's all my fault, now she is with another guy, who she says is already looking at engagement rings, doing all the stuff i didn't do, in a matter of just 2-3 weeks. I realize i gotta move on, hold myself in higher regard, but because it's my fault... it ain't F easy.
Dude , she's getting engaged already with this dude? That should tell you alot about the guy she is now with. By the sounds he is weak and will get divorced eventually.... Count yourself lucky bro.
@@MLNLad thank u, i appreciate it. Though consciously/logically I'm aware of it, it's still F hard, though. Thank you for the kind intention, Brother. Nice of u
You shouldn’t feel pathetic at all. You dodged a bullet. This didn’t happen because you “took her for granted” it happened because she doesn’t have any integrity. Walk away and heal
@@JohnDoe-id1es we got the same story,,,,my girl of over 2 years and 3/4 ask me ,,to live with me,,,i refuse since im still 25 got ton of responsibility with my old parents and i still got a dream i want to achieve,,,guess what she monkey branch ,,,now ,,,,i think she give me freedom i want ,,,,i feel miserable after that but red pill help me
Dude, I hope you've never returned to this EFFEMINATE hairstyle! You're a great looking guy, it's just the styling of your hair in this vid that is EFFEMINATE af!
This girl monkey branched to me but she treated me so well that I ended up forgetting all about it. That is until she did the same thing to me 4 years later..
My ex monkey branch into a new relationship and I found out the new girl was announcing her pregnancy with him 2 months after our break up. The last month of the relationship he was acting weird, distant and annoying, he broke up suddenly accusing me of cheating on him which never happen... When I found out I saw they were kind of same heritage, values and emotionally wounded... also the new girl just acquire a huge property. Any thoughts on how this can end up for them...?
Projection is the worst form of abuse. Not only did he cheat, but also made you feel like you were the cheater prior. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Brand new sir. Came across this video while looking to heal as this happened to me a month ago. If I could suggest a video topic. My ex did this to me yet wants to be friends (a solid no) but I imagine a lot of the average guys would. She even told her new partner ‘who she left me for’ that she’s going to be friends with me, coffee, cinema etc. What’s up with that mentality?! Take care and thanks. Liam
Relearning Relationships thanks Pal. Just watched it. Confirms my thoughts. She’s quite constant with the ‘breadcrumbs’ texts. Trying to establish power and keep options open I assume. Your videos help. Thanks
I have to believe that cheaters can learn, and stop. Or there is zero hope for me. I have commented before but it’s like, I didn’t cheat at first, but as time has gone on I have no idea what our title was or when we were ever truly committed. So anytime I pursued validation, I felt guilty each time. Till I got to today, and realize that I can’t keep putting all my eggs into the relationship basket without triggering poor behaviors. I need to focus on my dreams and goals. They were always there but I’ve always had reasons to be “stuck” I’ve never had support financially or otherwise from family, and I’ve never been super successful. I can survive, and take care of my kids but I can’t seem to get ahead. Too much time effort and energy solving the problems of all my relationships, romantic and otherwise. I guess I was a people pleaser or attempted to be such.
I have to break it off with my ex fiance she Ghost it me after pressure me to marry her There she goes and cheats on me Honestly she tried to keep me and him at the same time But she like him and I backed off I never did get the ring backHow is weather for 4 yearsI think she has grass is greener syndrome but I can't take her back because I did a lot with her a lot of time invested with her And her kids But she is so into him she's waiting on him to marry her she used to pressure me into marrying her
my ex monkey branched with a coworker and moved him in as soon as she dumped me via text ! what I would like to know is how monkey branching with a coworker work out ?
My coworker seduced me and monkey branched TO me. She talked all types of sh!t about her bf which I now believe to be all lies. She was so amazing for 4 years that I forgot all about her monkey ways. We had a baby, bought a house, and got engaged. But one day she ghosted, cheated, and monkey branched. Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater is unavoidable and inevitable.
I do not agree with the part of how she grew up . She had good parents like how you describe they should be, and she still monkey branched while we were living togheter with a coworker. She was a people pleaser, low self esteem , lack of confidence, trying to search for validation . This is the reason . So avoid people like this in a relationship . You will just end up with a heart broken.
It’s not about the parents it’s about how she responds to her upbringing and who she chooses to me moving forward with her life. It’s always good to look at the relationship between her and her family go gain insight into how she manages conflict, etc.
@@RelearningRelationships That's the point brother . She was fine with the parents . Her mother was over protective, didnt let her express herself and be an individual . She kept telling her what to do even when she's adult. And her reaction was frustration, because she was considered not good enough , mad cuz she still is view as a child . So we can say some low self esteem come from this. But yeah, still doesn't excuse cheating and monkey branching . And funny it was that type of a girl like : kind hearted , good girl , sweet girl, always caring, innocent character and looks, family oriented , country side roots and raised . A girl you will never ever expect to do such an awful thing . But yeah, people show their true colors eventually. And show you how low , pitiful and without any value or morals they are in the end .
@gabrieldimancea7065 this girl has very clear red flags she chose to life an immoral life. Doesn’t matter what her parents gave her, it’s who she chose to be.
@@RelearningRelationships Yes 100% . Funny part was she was speaking with me about mariage and kids while she was building connection with other man , and give all kind of bullshit. She was avoiding eye contact , she started crying why i didnt tell her earlier that i wanna make kids with her and marriage ( even tho i let her know that before , but i considered we wasn't ready for this financially) and cry again saying it's to late. Not understanding why she was like this , because is not something we couldn't work on, it was normal relationship things to deal with . I was blind sided . Then after the brake up i realized she actually had intimate relationship with this coworker and building a connection, and that was the reason why . She felt guilt and then wanted to preserve the new connection and dump me in the process. Excuses to not find out the real truth. I did the diging , and find it on my own . They went in a vacation 20 days after our break up so for all of this concluded. And cheating and monkey branching was the last reason i was expecting from her for the break up, and not even taken in consideration, that's how blindsided i was, and how much trust and love i had in her. I was searching for an answer all this time . In some way i was glad that i finally found out the truth. It relieved me of a lot of guilt out of my shoulders. She had many red flags indeed, that i was blind to it. And she started exponsing more during our last months of relationship.
I did this and found it so hard to deal with. She was in a different state. Married for almost a decade. He neglected her and was emotionally nd physically abusive. She had no family anywhere close nd a child she was trying to keep a marriage for the child. I made a exception for this reason. Nd other reasons she didn't leave. Is this a bad exception to have? I been her for 4 years now. Many ups and downs and she never left when she easily could of. I was her way out. I don't think she was strong enough to leave in her situation. Was scared too but idk
Ill give you guys an answer lol,,,,that time i was naive,,,my old schoolmate chat me out of nowhere,,after 10 years she has a bf that time,,,,i think she manipulate me and i fallen to her then she broke up with her current bf,,,then werw relationship for over two years guess what happen next??? She monkey branch with other guy lol,,,,,i think this is my karma lol
Is it not monkey branching if the person starts developing feelings and then breaks it off? Sees where things go w the person they like? It seems like guys always pursue me when they have gfs and I try and avoid them but we work together
I value family over my self, I can deal with the cheating but I can’t deal with my 4 year old crying for me not to leave, broken family’s are shit, I trust her as mad as that may sound I wasn’t at my best now I’m better than I was when she wanted to marry me , so why should she want to leave again ?, we have to blame our selves sometimes fix our mistakes and make sure they never happen again, if ever do get her back this situation wouldn’t bother me how many of us have been with a virgin does it really matter in the grand scheme of things ? My morals scream family 🤷🏼♂️ guy was friends with her for 10 years he saw weakness and took it, will it work out between them who knows 🤣
I was monkey branched to unknowingly until close to the end of the relationship and was in what I thought was a very happy relationship for 8 years. We planned to get married and then she left our house and took the pets to go be with a coworker. 8 months later they’re engaged. I’ll never trust another person. The things she hid from me that I found out way too late will haunt me for the rest of my life.
Similar scenario for me. Red flags: 1. Spoke poorly of her father and her brother 2. All of her past relationships ended badly with her being the “victim” in some way 3. No female friends 4. Impulsive - spending, drinking, drugs, etc. 5. Poor communication/lack of accountability/gaslighting 6. Love bombing/idealization/advancing relationship too quickly 7. Blatantly flirting with other men
Ok But all these so called experts say they always cheat. But what about a Thirty year marriage when she never cheated. But flipped like a switch turned back on kids and family. And strait to relationship with a cheater and lier. And knows he is But is in complete denial and avoiding any thing to do with reality? Like to know answers to this other then obvious of probably Drugs
@@RelearningRelationships do these monkeybranch, rebound can work? If she dumped me for a guy just to have kids? Even that we had it all coming just behind corner, she thought I don’t wanna engage, I showed her my ring. She thought I can’t speak of emotions so I was at the end pouring my heart open. She is selfish and self centred. Narcissistic behaviour and with a time line, by 30 she wants kids and be engaged. The other dude now got a lot of pressure as it’s only 9 months left.even that she wants to stay in touch time to time. She reckons still have feelings for me, we slept twice when she was meeting the other guy, such a emotional baggage, feelings for ex, relationship building on cheat and lies. Pressure for kids and engagement, can that work out?? Or the better question, when it will fail ?
@@RelearningRelationships too late, i've done it. my check mate from the grave as she blocked me everywhere. i don't owe her anything for the turmoil which she putted me thorugh. now i forgived after telling hew new BF how she played both of us. funny thing its. they are still together lol. but thanks for video. now i know that she is messed up in a long run, as the pictures which i showed him gonna always stay with them, that's a blood in clean water
@@Kevvvinus1 lol thats savage, move on mate. These people are their own karma, they will never be happy, miserable cruel souls wandering this planet. I actually pity them.
A cheater will always be a cheater. You are right. His true color will show and the mask his wearing will be taken off. He told me Karma is a bitch so let him wait for it.
Gotta remind myself of this. Trust the process. They’re not in a healthy relationship and things will fail. He’s going to make the same mistakes and play victim again. The other fucker is in a friendship rebound(?) it’s not the first time that fucker lost an entire friend group this is a pattern of behaviour it will happen again. Monkey branching on one side and rebound on the other this will fail.
I will be uploading a video next week from a Female subscriber who was monkey branched by a guy. I know I have a few female subscribers and I want them to be aware too of the dangers of choosing the wrong partner.
My last one came from a good family, but she was a bad communicator; she admitted growing up her family didn’t communicate well and would shut down and be passive aggressive. But the family is kind and generous and cohesive, not much divorce, except for my ex, she left her husband and I was next up after she was single for a year. Then she monkey branched on me; she didn’t communicate any issues, and just blind sided me. She never admitted that she cheated/monkey branched; I found out through social media 3 weeks after when she was in a full blown relationship lol. Crazy
So far as I can see on RUclips, you are the one that cuts straight to it at the beginning, that Monkey Branch does not work.. you deserve a whole lot more views for this video
Thank you so much for your kind word man! I appreciate it.
Relationships that come from cheating (monkey branching) do not work ever long term! That’s just the way it is.
Everything u said in this video matches my past relationship. Its like you sharing my past here. She lined up a married guy n jumped to him, leaving me in a terrible pain. And when I confronted her with her cheating she had zero remorse. I was so shocked to see the drastic change in her behaviour. But I’m glad that I finally moved on and rejected her when she texted back after a year. For everyone who has been cheated/ monkey branched, trust me friends it gets better once u move on.
how long were u in a relationship with her for?
@@conboz 5 years
@@subyawanadamn
My ex wife cheated on me with a guy, and then with our 22F daycare worker. They live together in my old house with my 2 and 4 year old. We were married 10 years. Some people just suck. I’m looking forward to moving on, but it’s tough
@@t-pain3343 I feel ur pain bro.
This man. I stole my ex away from a guy that was verbally abusive to her. Only had been with the guy for 2 months. Fast forward 4 years and I put a ring on her finger. Our relationship got to room mate like and she leave me for a jobless stoner who makes her feel sexy…. Lesson learned
I wonder why he was verbally abusive now 😂
@@TonisScene lmao 😂😂
I'm I allowed to laugh?😂
@@katushabelillian6756 yeah lol I deserved it. Much happier now days.
I don't feel sorry for her and definitely not for you. You say he was abusive as she told you so. My ex did the same. She monkey branched to a guy who had wife. Supposedly she lied to him as she didn't want to have kids, and as far as I know he can't have them because of 2 courses of chemo and radio therapy for cancer he had.
She said a lot of BS about me to him and also our friends and her family. My only faul t was that I became not present and didn't support her as I did before. All because of work which have fried my brain and health. My neurotransmitters plundged to symbolic amount, sama as my hormones were a mess. I had issues with my memory (still have). Never, ever I hurt her in any way or cheated her etc. Same manner I don't believe his wife lied to him, but I don't give a f**k.
I am hoping their relationship will burn, and will burn them in pain.
I love your voice ! It’s so soothing as I’m going through the pain and sleepless nights trying to heal after he monkey branched. I’m still trying to recover even though it’s been half a year now and I blocked him everywhere so I didn’t have to see all his happy pictures having the best time of his life with his new gf.
My ex left me and our 3 year old for someone he’d known for 4 months. It lasted 3 months. This guys right, healthy people work on their relationships, they don’t think an outside person is going to solve their issues.
I’m terribly sorry to hear that. I pray you and your child find peace
Hard to trust after this happens to you. Every new person is taking a chance
Facts
Not really. I find it easier to trust.
Especially if you now know all of the red flags and tactics of a cheating person.
A person who doesn’t cheat has nothing to hide.
A classic cheater spends hours on their phone, constantly changes the passcode, has sketchy friends who cheat too, keeps platonic friendships with the opposite sex, meets them frequently, disappears on you, starts fights with you , doesn’t listen to you, doesn’t respect you, make you do all of the work, is constantly happy that you’re not around , doesn’t miss you, doesn’t tell you that they love you, doesn’t reciprocate your attention nor affection.
And so much more.
If there’s even one of this signs, you have to pull them up give them a chance to explain themselves and if they can’t or refuse, you dump them.
Plain and simple.
Learn from your mistakes with a cheater.
@@kiddytube3915I was in a six-year relationship, the first serious relationship for both of us. From the beginning, there were issues, such as her cheating on me, which I decided to forgive, believing we could overcome it together. However, over time, new problems arose. She started secretly talking to a guy from the United States (we are from Spain), exchanging photos, videos, and even having video calls without telling me. This triggered my insecurities, and I ended up exhibiting jealous and controlling behavior that I never wanted to have.
The arguments became constant, and although I tried to fight to save the relationship, it felt like all the effort was on me. She avoided discussing problems or finding solutions and started becoming more distant, while I just wanted to fix things. Sometimes I felt like she made me doubt everything, as if I was always my fault, when she was the one making me feel that way.
In the end, she decided to end the relationship, saying that she didn’t know what she felt anymore. A week later, I asked how she was doing, and she said she felt relieved and free, that she didn’t love me, and that she was never coming back. A few weeks later, I discovered that she is in a long-distance relationship with that guy. I feel so bad; I gave her everything I had, and she didn’t value it.
Went through this. She cheated on her husband with me. I got complacent enough to marry her.
Then she cheated on me when things got bad for a while.
I was blindsided for a minute. Thanks man.
Not a good woman to marry at all!
Yeah, looking back now I realize this... lol
Lesson learned for sure!
Scott Petheram you need to be able to distinguish a good woman from a bad one.
If you have any questions, let me know. I hope you enjoy the content and subscribe
@@RelearningRelationships I thought I did subscribe. Will now!
Always been a flaw of mine but working on picking better ones !
You are a beautiful human with a clear and precise understanding of reality. Much appreciated
Thank you Ryan!
I didn't believe this a year ago but I believe it now; "If she did it with me, she'll do it too me."
Yup, happened here too 👋
She branched onto me after going to jail beating up her ex boyfriend. Fast forward 2.5 years, she monkey branched onto the new supply but it started 2 years being together. Don't think I can take her back. The trust is gone 💯
So my ex branches away from me to another guy after 7 years. This other guy branched away from his gf (7yrs) to be with my now ex.
I should go grab some popcorn. This is gonna burn down gloriously.
same thing happened to me man 12 years gone poof! they been together about a year not sure how its going, cant see it lasting but who knows....
@@Onetakelifestyle3323it might last a few years but rarely beyond that. My ex wife monkeybranched to our 22F daycare worker, who is this sorta ghetto chick. Really surprising. 10 years of marriage wasted. 2 young kids too
I’ve found if you watch for it or hope for it it never happens. You’ll be sure the same bad thing will happen to them and check their social media or ask a friend about them periodically and you’ll find every time you look they’re happier and more committed, just wash it from your mind and find happiness within yourself
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what happened afterward? please can you update, thanks in advance.
Sucks when you have kids with one of these people. They think it’s fine to destroy a family for their own personal desires. Not even thinking about what effects it might have on the children.
Hi Christian. Love the hair! Love the videos and message.
I cheated once when I was younger. I destroyed my best friend and partner. Over the years she forgave me, but it screwed up her future endeavors. I learned and never did it again.
I’m glad you changed! Amen
Thanks for this video, I agree 100%. This happened to me. My ex boyfriend cheated on me, once he secured a bond with the other woman he dumped me. We lived together for 5 years. When I moved out I went through his things & found a letter from his previous ex. He monkey branched with me w/o my knowledge. He's never been single to deal with his baggage. He married the girl he cheated with, she knew about me because I confronted her, so they deserve each other. They got off on my heartbreak.
I’m sorry to hear that. This exactly what guys need to hear. There’s bad women and men. Both men and women can be victims of monkey branching
Yeah other girl thinks she is better than you, or he would not have left you. Not true though. Most likely they are having rough relationship. My ex of 7 years, 5 live together did this to me. She went to a high school boyfriend from 30+ years ago that reached out on fakebook. Within only a couple to few months, they bought a house and now married for just over 2 months. Had to sell our townhouse and I had to find apartment. She tried Fucking me out of my home equity. I sued and got lots more than her! She was devastated that I ruined her life.... Go figure". Now after she has sent me over 400 texts and her mom voice messages me that she is very depressed and wanting me back. She is trapped in house title with him etc. And OMG he is an ugly guy!! Not to be mean but?.... You should see the text messages I have from her. Unreal the shit they put you through just to learn they made a mistake. Was I heartbroken? Absolutely devastated! If it was simple breakup it would be easy to reconcile, but when they betray you and choose another, that is the worst! We are both 57. This stuff about wanting to return is true. I learned about no contact from previous relationship where I used to blow up her phone crying etc... Than after months of her ignoring me and a month after I stopped, she did end up contacting me many times. But I ignored and let her go because I found a new girlfriend which is the one that did this to me. Always find out how many exes your partner had before you. That's a tell tale sign of what to expect. Your just next in line and another number to them. Worst thing for one to go through I will tell you that!!
@@antilaw9911 - I'm glad you found a new partner that is better for you. Definitely learned my lesson to ask about past relationships. Best wishes to you!
@@RelearningRelationships - Thank you, and yes both men & women hurt their partners. But I'm happy I got out of that relationship. Best wishes to you!
She went back to him because he was the emotional imprint
I believed social media plays a big part on all these shits. You can imagine how many hundreds of guys direct messaging, complimenting & liking their selfies especially from those beta & simps followers. Mr Christian, maybe you can do a video of should you stop or control your girl or guy from having social media accounts.
Well said!
I will dona video on this. Have some good ones planned. It will be up soon.
One hard part with this is I never meet women that were single. They may have lied about it. But they don’t take time to be single anymore.
My ex tried to talk just !one time! when I was feeling bad and stressed.
After this time, she gave our relationship up and decided to not fight for the relationship. Result , she never talked about our issues again and broke up months later, leaving our afforded home with some stuff in her baggage.
All the time, the last months, she was a good actor pretending everything was fine... leaving behind her a 10yr relationship and the dream of having kids or getting married...
Result of one momentof weakness: she was writing with others to see where she could go after the break up
I am devasted
Ahahaha fuck same story here exact same story 🙈
Same as me
Thank you so much for the channel. I wish I had known that 3.5yrs ago. But you do awesome work. Now I understand and it's a bit easier to get through that pain.
Thanks For this man, you got it bang on man i learned alot that i didnt know oh well rather late than never, im recently tryna get over my ex of 3 yrs who monkey branched for someone else im.3 months into mt recovery and i really needed to.hear this it helped me alot with my recovery, great Content Brother keep it up 💯
I’m glad the content is helping you learn and grow.
I appreciate your kind words! New content drops weekly!
Another great video!
One thing I don't understand tho.
How can a guy, get into a relationship with someone who cheated on their current partner to be with him? Like you mentioned, nothing makes you different from the previous guy, if she did it once, she can always do it again. These kind of people are a cancer to relationships.
when a guy is desperate, in scarcity, he will overlook flaws and red flags because he feels like “he finally got a woman” “he will be different than the other guy”. So, when she says “I’ll leave my boyfriend or husband for you or has confessed that she has a bf or husband, the guy won’t see it as an issue because he will project his fantasy onto her.
Then when he doesn’t meet her needs and she finally cheats on him ( just like she did to the other guy)
he’s left heartbroken because he was too blinded by lust and fantasy to see the truth.
You are correct. People like this are a cancer to relationships. It’s terrible , there are women who do this and there are men also who do this to women.
This is why it’s best to meet women who are single, willing and ready to date with no emotional baggage or no ex in the background and for sure no way a woman who would cheat on her current partner for someone new.
Meet and focus on good, high quality women who come from a good background or who have down the work on themselves.
Check out my video on the biggest red flag you shouldn’t avoid in a woman
That’s happen to me I met my ex basically in a bad relationships he cheated on him for me. Then she did the same thing to me 15 yrs later.
Ton Robert never ever go for a woman who’s cheating on their current partner for you! you found out the hardy way that they will do it to you eventually
@MK Duke Men monkey branch too. I didn't know my ex had branched to me. It came out when we were already in an established relationship: he made up a convincing story and I believed him. However, when he dumped me, I suspected that he already had had his new love interest lined up while he was still with me as just days after our breakup they were out together acting like lovebirds. Also his brother told me that my suspicions were correct which is something he privately confessed to me only and did not make public knowledge. I don't think my ex expected his brother to fight my corner. I also sensed something was amiss when I'd call my ex at his father's business and the staff would act embarrassed and uncomfortable whereas they'd always been friendly before. It turned out that his new interest had started working at the business a few months earlier. His friends, on the other hand, didn't have a clue and swore they never suspected a thing. I knew they weren't trying to cover for him because some had fallen out with him and had no reason to protect him and were, therefore, unwitting alibi. Since my ex's new romantic interest was working for his father, I presume she probably knew something about him even if just through coworkers mentioning me: at the beginning of our relationship I used to occasionally stop by the business so all the staff knew me. Also a couple of staff members even invited us, as a couple, to have dinner in their homes. So it was a well known fact among the staff that he was in a serious long term relationship. It's also possible that his brother may have told her outright that he already had a girlfriend (I'm not sure about this though). So if his new romantic interest knew he was still in a relationship and didn't care (btw she too was a monkey brancher and left her fiancè to be with my ex: a match made in heaven: sarcasm), perhaps his motivation was that he didn't want his new woman and himself to be considered douches by his social circle (which was important to him). At any rate he was very good at covering his tracks with them and was successful at not arousing suspicion. Even years later they still say that he had always acted head over heels about me and they swear there were no hints that he was seeing anyone behind my back (they thought mine was unfounded jealousy/paranoia) and I believe they are sincere when they say this. However, only a couple of people know the truth and believe my side of the story. They were speechless when I told them that I knew for sure (and how I was so certain) that they had been seeing each other before he dumped me. It just goes to show how deceitful, manipulative and sneaky he was: he had everyone duped not just me (which helps me feel a little less stupid). Good riddance! In order for his friends to be so genuinely unsuspecting, however, it must mean that she kept up the pretense as well. My feeling was and still is that they deserved each other (they married, cheated on each other and eventually divorced). As for me I ended up completely changing my life, moved to a different country, town and have a new circle of friends. The experience left me heartbroken for a number of years but today I feel like I was incredibly lucky and that I dodged a very toxic bullet.
@@anta3612 the same happened to me! It's always someone really close to them generally a coworker. Mine was. But at the end of day you can sleep so well under your blanket cause you didn't hurt anyone and there is no remorse. They know what they did was really wrong, both are guilty and start a relationship with guilty and mislead someone innocent is not cool! Live your life to the best enjoy the opportunity to grow as a human! Big hug from Portugal
I think it’s different with monkey branches - cheaters often just have one time flings but monkey branches tend to emotionally attach to the branch and then slowly detach from the current person. That’s why they can dump you and move on to the branch. Those relationships can last because feelings have developed. Yes it’s still a form of cheating and it ain’t right that as opposed to communicating their issues with you they started talking and sharing their issues with a new person and then they ‘trauma bond’. So yes monkey brancher can marry their branch and they may well settle and be together for life. It doesn’t make it right but it does happen that they end up being committed and settled / married with the person they cheated on. Best thing is for us to move on and forget about people that were so childish they could hurt us like that.
So very true. It’s important to evaluate your partner and make sure they have integrity and dignity.
@Gem you have a point. But at the time of the "trauma bond". The other person views the person you're with as a potential catch. This person will do everything they can to impress this person and draw them out of the relationship. And when they do, it becomes a different situation. Eventually the person will get tired of the monkey branch person complain ing... I mean their goal is already achieved in getting the person. Once they get the person, they won't be as supportive as they once were because they already achieved their goal. Eventually the true colors and cracks from both partners start to show, that's why it'll end in most cases. A good example is a job interview. In the interview and even the first few weeks of the job, you'll put on your best effort and front. You'll give your best to impress the boss. As time passes, you start to lay off and chill and not care as much anymore.
Shv M you make a good counter point and certainly different insight re - new job analogy. However what if the branch draws your partner out seeing them as a potential catch because they themselves are in a bad relationship? Often that’s why they trauma bond with your partner - you right it’s the goal of getting a new partner but to these two people they getting a fresh start and they believe they have learned about what didn’t work (ie with us / their respective partner) and since they weren’t happy with us they know and get ‘each other’s pain’ exactly and know how to be better in their new relationship together. Sure like any couple there will be issues but often their emotions are strong enough depending on how long they knew each other before dumping you. I guess it’s hard one for me to fathom when it’s happened and while I’m not a person to wish anyone ‘ill’ the worse is when they think it’s been absolutely innocent and they have no guilty conscience whatsoever they don’t think they have hurt or wrecked anyone’s life or the real collateral damage as a result of their selfish actions.
For them they can live their lives for themselves selfishly and unapologetically and I guess if we as the ones that get left behind would objectively have to face that ‘wouldn’t we also want to do what makes us happy?’ But the difference between us and them is that we would not have acted in the way they did and never have sought out comfort from someone else - we would have spoken and told them we were unhappy not go seek that comfort and validation from someone else first.
So for them they doing just that - doing what it takes to make them happy - and I guess that’s why they need to detach and be so cold towards us - they can’t ever face what they truly did to you so they paint a version of reality in their heads that the two of you were long done and over before they monkey branched. And I guess they need to believe this so strongly or else they wouldn’t be able to face what they actually did to you to the person they became. It’s sad that that as a result of their irresponsible and reckless actions, they lose the very essence and part of themselves that you probably saw and fell in love with at the onset of your relationship in the first place :(
@@gem3530 then it's different. If the other person was also in a bad relationship, then it may work. But this is a very selfish act. Because you're emotionally checking out on your partner and just stringing them along until you find somebody to monkey branch to. People do this mainly because they're afraid of being single. You're totally right in the sense that they behave very cold and distant towards you afterwards. They try to make you look as if you're "beneath" them. These kind of people aren't even worth it, it shows the person has little values and lacks morals. People like this are a cancer to relationships. And like you mentioned, we'd never want to do that, even if we wanted to. Because we know how much hurt it would do to the other person. Them on the other hand, they just don't care and only worry about themselves. Again people like that are not worth a dime!
Well said
listen to this guy, he speaks utter truth 😇
Thanks for your support
My ex of four years he was already in full blown relationship in one month I’m heartbroken
He checked out of the relationships ages ago. I’m sorry to hear that. Take your time to heal.
There’s plenty of good, masculine men out there.
@@RelearningRelationships yeah could take me years as don’t want anyone else!! When I love I’m not interested in anyone! Just need to stay single till I’m over it I still can’t eat much two months on and have heartache everyday so it’s going to take a very long time to recover! Thank you for being kind!
it hurts i know, it gets better but very slowly
It won’t last
The same thing happens to me, 2 months after the end, they made the relationship official and exchanged oaths of love on IG. And here I am suffering. Glad I didn't humiliate myself or ask to come back, I only found out the real reason for the breakup 15 days after the end of the relationship. As always a co-worker.
I wish from the bottom of my heart that she would repent and realize that she lost me forever.
I had girl a reached out to me in my high school she was flirting with me a lot later I got to know that I was the other branch so as soon as I got to know about her relationship, I ghosted her. Because I didn’t want to be the reason for their break up.
But in my case my recent relationship ended after 6 years and she monkey branched with a friend she told not to worry about.(little brother she says)
So yeah this shit is fucked up.
Us as men we should never lower ourselves because they hold us for long as they could as well as the other guy.
When she has options just walk away.
Personnel insecurityes is the reasons why monkey branching happens. They dont love themselves and needs validation from another person. They have childhood trauma and no boundaries.
Never were truer words spoken in this topic - thank you
Gospel. Truth bombs. We don't want to hear it most times, but this young man - unusually wise for his years - gets it. If she was bad news to one guy, she'll be bad news to you.
I really apreciare your kind words. Thank you!.
I’ve taken a break from uploading content recently but I’ll be back on track in the next few days. Thank you for all the love and support!
My soon ex husband did this, he monkey branched to his coworker, who also knew he is married & flat out said she didn't care. Good luck to them. Both toxic
Sorry this happened to you, it’s the worst feeling.
@@kerrymillar1267 agreed
Thankyou. Your voice is so calming too.
Unfortunately, you’re right 😓
My ex and me started a relationship from her leaving her ex bf. 4 months later she monkey branches to another guy 😞
💀💀💀💀
Sorry g
why all stories are same,...my ex of 13 years and three kids together left me for som lowlife character who also cheats on his girlfriend, cant express how much pain i am in which i never felt in 44 years of my life. 6 months and still in inexpalinable pain.
Great video my man.. happend to me and u are so right.. i was blind to it and she did it to me aswell
I wish you the best moving forward. You know better now so you can choose a better girl
You also have to be careful with people pleasers. They tend to be very thoughtful in some instances (considerate, even empathetic, maybe even good at nursing when you feel under the weather, etc.) but they can also be notorious liars and flakers and damned good at it, keeping their poker face and having a cool answer for everything. Trust your gut. If your woman is getting "dolled" up to go to some mondain function or needing to hit the town with her single friend a couple or more times a month, take note; especially if she monkey branched to get to you. There's a near certain chance history is repeating itself. To think otherwise is to be a chump.
My ex is a people pleaser. He wanted to make other people feel good about themselves, especially women. They’re weak minded and don’t have a strong stance against temptation.
She Monkey branched with a coworker. But My ex kind of trails me. She now dates this guy but yet she joined my laboratory job, I had to quit because it prevented my healing seeing hickys and shit😞, I also heard she wants to transfer to the same 4year institution that I just transferred to, she previously had zero interest in. Tbh I was thirsty like you said in the video, not sure if she likes using me to get herself ahead or she wants to keep me on the shelf. I haven’t heard from her since I quit. Your first is always the hardest. I hate the feeling of betrayal. Now I have a woman who comes from a strong family but every relationship comes with different challenges. I hate to say it but trama bonding blinds you from relationships that are actually worthwhile. This fall my ex may or may not be in the same college as me. Logically I must be cold and move on but when they do contact you your heart races and emotions fill up. My ex often mentioned getting back together but would just stand me up…
When people show you who they are believe it .
Always know you are better off than her next guy if she swang away from you. As Christian said....they are only looking out for tbier selfish needs.
Amen
You know how my ex of 5 1/2 years justified his monkey branching to a coworker? She is married and polyamorous. And now he says that one person is never going to be all of the things he needs, so he wants a non monogamous lifestyle now. They've been together for 8 months now. He found another cheater who is just reinforcing that behavior in him.
Before our relationship, he had never had sex outside of a relationship, never a one night stand, we were eachother's first loves, first LTR. And now he leaves me for this. I'm 39. The past 8 months have been so hard to get through. I am slowly getting there, but betrayal just completely ruins every bit of your self worth and esteem.
I'm so so so so so sorry. You're story sounds like a jackpot turned to the worst nightmare ever omg omg omg
You have changed my whole life
I’m very happy to hear this! Thank you so much
Just learning this and boy is he good
you are very good at this. also, your personality is adorable. bravo to you, wise man.
That means a lot. Thank you!
I am sorry, but being an atheist, I totally love your message and videos. What you say makes sense! Isn't that ironic?
Moreover, you've got gorgeous hair. Thank you.
I experienced this for the 1st time she was beautiful but toxic with me in our relationship but I was caught off guard but she did go back to her ex for a brief moment I didn't know how to react because he thought he still had her but long story short she ended up playing and using both of us and now wanting to be with me to end up in a another relationship after me🤦🏾♂️
Thank you for the videos. I feel real dumb, pathetic. My girl of 2 years, 4 months was pressuring me to marry her, told me many times that's what she wanted, and i told her I'd propose when I'm ready, just to chill, but i will do it. She was real into me, but i was sensing a lot of anger/resentment coming from her. As i was getting ready to explain my feelings and propose, i found out she had already monkeybranched me. It was too late. Took her for granted, and certainly didn't see it coming. Well, it happened. F'ing heartbroken now. i should have taken her more seriously, and feel it's all my fault, now she is with another guy, who she says is already looking at engagement rings, doing all the stuff i didn't do, in a matter of just 2-3 weeks. I realize i gotta move on, hold myself in higher regard, but because it's my fault... it ain't F easy.
Dude , she's getting engaged already with this dude? That should tell you alot about the guy she is now with. By the sounds he is weak and will get divorced eventually.... Count yourself lucky bro.
@@MLNLad thank u, i appreciate it. Though consciously/logically I'm aware of it, it's still F hard, though. Thank you for the kind intention, Brother. Nice of u
You shouldn’t feel pathetic at all. You dodged a bullet.
This didn’t happen because you “took her for granted” it happened because she doesn’t have any integrity.
Walk away and heal
@@RelearningRelationships Thank u, Dear Christian.
@@JohnDoe-id1es we got the same story,,,,my girl of over 2 years and 3/4 ask me ,,to live with me,,,i refuse since im still 25 got ton of responsibility with my old parents and i still got a dream i want to achieve,,,guess what she monkey branch ,,,now ,,,,i think she give me freedom i want ,,,,i feel miserable after that but red pill help me
To be fair, after being cheated on, if I ever find another woman I am sleeping with both eyes open.
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This girl monkey branched to me but she treated me so well that I ended up forgetting all about it. That is until she did the same thing to me 4 years later..
I call them "body snatchers" lol
Good video man. This just happened with my last girlfriend. Monkey brancher and liar
My ex monkey branch into a new relationship and I found out the new girl was announcing her pregnancy with him 2 months after our break up. The last month of the relationship he was acting weird, distant and annoying, he broke up suddenly accusing me of cheating on him which never happen... When I found out I saw they were kind of same heritage, values and emotionally wounded... also the new girl just acquire a huge property. Any thoughts on how this can end up for them...?
Projection is the worst form of abuse. Not only did he cheat, but also made you feel like you were the cheater prior. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Wow! On point!
Your videos….. so on point. Thank you so much
alotta good stuff in this video, thanks bro
Thanks man
This helped man. Thanks very much
Liam McManus you are welcome! Are you a new subscriber?
If you have any questions or would like to request a video topic, let me know!!
Brand new sir. Came across this video while looking to heal as this happened to me a month ago.
If I could suggest a video topic. My ex did this to me yet wants to be friends (a solid no) but I imagine a lot of the average guys would. She even told her new partner ‘who she left me for’ that she’s going to be friends with me, coffee, cinema etc. What’s up with that mentality?!
Take care and thanks. Liam
I do have a video on “should you be friends with your ex” you should check it out. Never ever agree to be friends with an ex !
Relearning Relationships thanks Pal. Just watched it. Confirms my thoughts. She’s quite constant with the ‘breadcrumbs’ texts. Trying to establish power and keep options open I assume. Your videos help. Thanks
Liam McManus you’re welcome man! Stay strong, keep learning. This stuff is important !!
I have to believe that cheaters can learn, and stop. Or there is zero hope for me. I have commented before but it’s like, I didn’t cheat at first, but as time has gone on I have no idea what our title was or when we were ever truly committed. So anytime I pursued validation, I felt guilty each time. Till I got to today, and realize that I can’t keep putting all my eggs into the relationship basket without triggering poor behaviors. I need to focus on my dreams and goals. They were always there but I’ve always had reasons to be “stuck” I’ve never had support financially or otherwise from family, and I’ve never been super successful. I can survive, and take care of my kids but I can’t seem to get ahead. Too much time effort and energy solving the problems of all my relationships, romantic and otherwise. I guess I was a people pleaser or attempted to be such.
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I have to break it off with my ex fiance she Ghost it me after pressure me to marry her There she goes and cheats on me Honestly she tried to keep me and him at the same time But she like him and I backed off I never did get the ring backHow is weather for 4 yearsI think she has grass is greener syndrome but I can't take her back because I did a lot with her a lot of time invested with her And her kids But she is so into him she's waiting on him to marry her she used to pressure me into marrying her
my ex monkey branched with a coworker and moved him in as soon as she dumped me via text ! what I would like to know is how monkey branching with a coworker work out ?
My coworker seduced me and monkey branched TO me. She talked all types of sh!t about her bf which I now believe to be all lies. She was so amazing for 4 years that I forgot all about her monkey ways. We had a baby, bought a house, and got engaged. But one day she ghosted, cheated, and monkey branched. Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater is unavoidable and inevitable.
I do not agree with the part of how she grew up . She had good parents like how you describe they should be, and she still monkey branched while we were living togheter with a coworker. She was a people pleaser, low self esteem , lack of confidence, trying to search for validation . This is the reason . So avoid people like this in a relationship . You will just end up with a heart broken.
It’s not about the parents it’s about how she responds to her upbringing and who she chooses to me moving forward with her life. It’s always good to look at the relationship between her and her family go gain insight into how she manages conflict, etc.
@@RelearningRelationships That's the point brother . She was fine with the parents . Her mother was over protective, didnt let her express herself and be an individual . She kept telling her what to do even when she's adult. And her reaction was frustration, because she was considered not good enough , mad cuz she still is view as a child . So we can say some low self esteem come from this. But yeah, still doesn't excuse cheating and monkey branching . And funny it was that type of a girl like : kind hearted , good girl , sweet girl, always caring, innocent character and looks, family oriented , country side roots and raised . A girl you will never ever expect to do such an awful thing . But yeah, people show their true colors eventually. And show you how low , pitiful and without any value or morals they are in the end .
@gabrieldimancea7065 this girl has very clear red flags she chose to life an immoral life. Doesn’t matter what her parents gave her, it’s who she chose to be.
@@RelearningRelationships Yes 100% . Funny part was she was speaking with me about mariage and kids while she was building connection with other man , and give all kind of bullshit. She was avoiding eye contact , she started crying why i didnt tell her earlier that i wanna make kids with her and marriage ( even tho i let her know that before , but i considered we wasn't ready for this financially) and cry again saying it's to late. Not understanding why she was like this , because is not something we couldn't work on, it was normal relationship things to deal with . I was blind sided . Then after the brake up i realized she actually had intimate relationship with this coworker and building a connection, and that was the reason why . She felt guilt and then wanted to preserve the new connection and dump me in the process. Excuses to not find out the real truth. I did the diging , and find it on my own . They went in a vacation 20 days after our break up so for all of this concluded. And cheating and monkey branching was the last reason i was expecting from her for the break up, and not even taken in consideration, that's how blindsided i was, and how much trust and love i had in her. I was searching for an answer all this time . In some way i was glad that i finally found out the truth. It relieved me of a lot of guilt out of my shoulders. She had many red flags indeed, that i was blind to it. And she started exponsing more during our last months of relationship.
I did this and found it so hard to deal with. She was in a different state. Married for almost a decade. He neglected her and was emotionally nd physically abusive. She had no family anywhere close nd a child she was trying to keep a marriage for the child. I made a exception for this reason. Nd other reasons she didn't leave. Is this a bad exception to have? I been her for 4 years now. Many ups and downs and she never left when she easily could of. I was her way out. I don't think she was strong enough to leave in her situation. Was scared too but idk
Don’t go for women who have kids from previous marriages. You’ll only end up hurting yourself. Raise your standards.
Ill give you guys an answer lol,,,,that time i was naive,,,my old schoolmate chat me out of nowhere,,after 10 years she has a bf that time,,,,i think she manipulate me and i fallen to her then she broke up with her current bf,,,then werw relationship for over two years guess what happen next???
She monkey branch with other guy lol,,,,,i think this is my karma lol
Wise words to all
Is it not monkey branching if the person starts developing feelings and then breaks it off? Sees where things go w the person they like? It seems like guys always pursue me when they have gfs and I try and avoid them but we work together
I value family over my self, I can deal with the cheating but I can’t deal with my 4 year old crying for me not to leave, broken family’s are shit, I trust her as mad as that may sound I wasn’t at my best now I’m better than I was when she wanted to marry me , so why should she want to leave again ?, we have to blame our selves sometimes fix our mistakes and make sure they never happen again, if ever do get her back this situation wouldn’t bother me how many of us have been with a virgin does it really matter in the grand scheme of things ? My morals scream family 🤷🏼♂️ guy was friends with her for 10 years he saw weakness and took it, will it work out between them who knows 🤣
Tale as old as time is seems
When she met you she was already touched after you she will be touched
I was monkey branched to unknowingly until close to the end of the relationship and was in what I thought was a very happy relationship for 8 years. We planned to get married and then she left our house and took the pets to go be with a coworker. 8 months later they’re engaged. I’ll never trust another person. The things she hid from me that I found out way too late will haunt me for the rest of my life.
What red flags did she display at the beginning ?
Similar scenario for me. Red flags:
1. Spoke poorly of her father and her brother
2. All of her past relationships ended badly with her being the “victim” in some way
3. No female friends
4. Impulsive - spending, drinking, drugs, etc.
5. Poor communication/lack of accountability/gaslighting
6. Love bombing/idealization/advancing relationship too quickly
7. Blatantly flirting with other men
Ok But all these so called experts say they always cheat. But what about a Thirty year marriage when she never cheated. But flipped like a switch turned back on kids and family. And strait to relationship with a cheater and lier. And knows he is But is in complete denial and avoiding any thing to do with reality? Like to know answers to this other then obvious of probably Drugs
Guys that do this, and know she’s cheating aren’t the brightest most intelligent people. So asking why is a moot point.
thank you
You're welcome
I can expose my cheater to her bf?? Or let it be bitter revenge
You need to forgive and move on. Revenge is cowardly.
@@RelearningRelationships do these monkeybranch, rebound can work? If she dumped me for a guy just to have kids? Even that we had it all coming just behind corner, she thought I don’t wanna engage, I showed her my ring. She thought I can’t speak of emotions so I was at the end pouring my heart open. She is selfish and self centred. Narcissistic behaviour and with a time line, by 30 she wants kids and be engaged. The other dude now got a lot of pressure as it’s only 9 months left.even that she wants to stay in touch time to time. She reckons still have feelings for me, we slept twice when she was meeting the other guy, such a emotional baggage, feelings for ex, relationship building on cheat and lies. Pressure for kids and engagement, can that work out?? Or the better question, when it will fail ?
@@RelearningRelationships too late, i've done it. my check mate from the grave as she blocked me everywhere. i don't owe her anything for the turmoil which she putted me thorugh. now i forgived after telling hew new BF how she played both of us. funny thing its. they are still together lol. but thanks for video. now i know that she is messed up in a long run, as the pictures which i showed him gonna always stay with them, that's a blood in clean water
@@Kevvvinus1 lol thats savage, move on mate. These people are their own karma, they will never be happy, miserable cruel souls wandering this planet. I actually pity them.
@@PeterAlhussein thx mate. Thx god I’m over her. Had to accept it. Moved on, lesson learnt.
A cheater will always be a cheater. You are right. His true color will show and the mask his wearing will be taken off. He told me Karma is a bitch so let him wait for it.
Same goes for men
Gotta remind myself of this. Trust the process. They’re not in a healthy relationship and things will fail. He’s going to make the same mistakes and play victim again. The other fucker is in a friendship rebound(?) it’s not the first time that fucker lost an entire friend group this is a pattern of behaviour it will happen again. Monkey branching on one side and rebound on the other this will fail.
Yep!
I know this is a mans channel but I can still relate. My ex jist did thos to me. It hurts terribly
Can this apply for guys ?
Yes. There are guys who are narcissistic or lack morals and they will do this to you. Just how some women have done this to men.
I will be uploading a video next week from a Female subscriber who was monkey branched by a guy. I know I have a few female subscribers and I want them to be aware too of the dangers of choosing the wrong partner.
This is sibel in a nutshell 😂😂😂
Hypergamy
My last one came from a good family, but she was a bad communicator; she admitted growing up her family didn’t communicate well and would shut down and be passive aggressive. But the family is kind and generous and cohesive, not much divorce, except for my ex, she left her husband and I was next up after she was single for a year. Then she monkey branched on me; she didn’t communicate any issues, and just blind sided me. She never admitted that she cheated/monkey branched; I found out through social media 3 weeks after when she was in a full blown relationship lol. Crazy
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Trauma is so bad I puke