Why do cheaters reach out? | Relearning Relationships

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  • Опубликовано: 2 ноя 2024

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  • @antoniolazos87
    @antoniolazos87 3 года назад +26

    This guy, his wisdom is way beyond his age.
    In fact beyond 90% of all men alive today.

  • @N1Norm
    @N1Norm 6 месяцев назад +6

    Great info!
    My ex from 13yrs ago (whom monkey branched from me) recently texted me to see how I’m doing. It’s been 2yrs since she last reached out. Each time she contacts me, I believe she’s having relationship issues or right around the time of a breakup. She’s been in 2 long term relationships since me.

  • @goldenlass9488
    @goldenlass9488 2 года назад +20

    Sad but true. I’m a woman dealing with an ex (man) who faded out of our relationship a year ago, but kept me on a hook by texting every few weeks. I just found out he has been in another relationship the entire time! I think he keeps ‘spares’ at the ready for when his current ‘main’ relationship inevitably fails. How do these people live with themselves?! 👺

  • @antilaw9911
    @antilaw9911 3 года назад +15

    This is #1 video on you tube everyone been waiting for!

  • @Kyle-pj2vc
    @Kyle-pj2vc Год назад +8

    I replay this video everytime I start missing the narc, cheating ex. This is my reality check when I pretend to be willfully ignorant. Don't know why my mind only gravitates towards our good memories and not the times she betrayed me. I wish I wasn't attached easy to people, but I think it has something to do with not having friends growing up and no one to talk to.

  • @MarcMolk
    @MarcMolk 3 года назад +10

    Don't eat in your own trash. Don't respond at all and block her number.

  • @sammoe1292
    @sammoe1292 Год назад +3

    The thing about these women is that the stronger you are, the longer she will stay around and wear the mask. But it will eventually come off and you will see that they can not respect masculinity, they can only pretend to. However, if this heartbreak has happened to you, as a man, you should be grateful on two fronts. First, you have been fortunate enough to have someone not there for you to be gone. Second, and first and foremost, you have had a mirror put up which shows you flaws you have which you may have looked over. You can go handle them now. Don’t go masturbate. Don’t go sleep around. Don’t drink. Just go get after it. The gym, your craft, meditation/walks/praying, finances, etc… and when they come back to see how you’re doing, if you’re doing it correctly, you won’t need to show them how well you’re doing and the new path you’re on.

  • @KJ-pu8dw
    @KJ-pu8dw 2 года назад +6

    It is either attention seeking or comparing your situation to hers so she can gloat if she’s doing better.
    Neither is good.

  • @breakthemould8540
    @breakthemould8540 3 года назад +13

    Christian, been watching for a while now and your knowledge, wise thoughts and advice is perfect for anyone that is/has suffered in a relationship. Great education for all of us when it comes to relationships. Look forward to more of your content!

  • @patrik-vw4ek
    @patrik-vw4ek 10 месяцев назад +2

    God bless you...words of sense and comfort...thank you!

  • @cosmicsummerdaze4429
    @cosmicsummerdaze4429 3 года назад +11

    I'm a girl so this is the reverse situation for me. It is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. My ex's rebound contacted me last year, but she started patronizing me which kind of tells me there may be trouble in 'paradise'. I appreciate your words.

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  3 года назад +4

      I’m sorry that happened to you. You should Definitely check out one of my recent videos which was titled “monkey breaching and narcissism”.
      Take your time to heal.
      I appreciate all the love and support.
      Always at your Service,
      Christian.

    • @cosmicsummerdaze4429
      @cosmicsummerdaze4429 3 года назад +2

      @@RelearningRelationships Thank you.

  • @andrewh2u
    @andrewh2u 4 месяца назад +1

    Getting a call or text or email from your ex-partner, then be civil and just block them afterwards. Bump into them in some place, then be civil and polite and avoid returning to that locality again. Its a big world full of new opportunities without rehashing what has proven unsuitable already.

  • @zipeto
    @zipeto 5 месяцев назад +1

    My ex tried to come back after choosing another guy.She reached back to me after two months,you are right she was emotionaly venting on me about that guy.I dumped her ass after one week i could not take her bs any more,you are right about everything,they will use you and dump you.

  • @dt8427
    @dt8427 3 года назад +6

    I wish you 1 million subscribers. Love from Australia. Keep the videos comming bro

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  3 года назад +2

      Awesome to see some subs down under!
      Ive got a few cousins in Perth and Melbourne.
      It would be awesome to hit 1 million subs one day!
      I am currently writing a book to educate men on relationships so I’ll be announcing that as soon as it’s ready.
      I will keep up the weekly videos
      . Thank you for all the love and support.

    • @lmfisher650
      @lmfisher650 9 месяцев назад +1

      I'm Aussie too. From Victoria.

  • @bch5758
    @bch5758 2 года назад +5

    I was dumped by text message .. after 4 years.. no closure or proper adult conversation - I have no idea why or what happened. She just said ‘I need to concentrate on my work and health’ .. strangest excuse I’ve ever heard.
    She never reached out.

    • @dennishaas4745
      @dennishaas4745 13 дней назад +1

      Mine did the same, they are cowards. They know what they have done and can't face the consequences !

  • @michaelroca3097
    @michaelroca3097 3 года назад +10

    This happened to me and my wife. We separated 7 months ago. Monkey branched to her ex. I went no contact immediately. She filed for divorce and we finally had our court date a couple of weeks ago. Guess what? She didn't even show up to her own court hearing! Who does that?

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  3 года назад +4

      Only a narcissist would do that to you. I’m sorry to hear that Michael.
      How is your recovery going ?

  • @richardunis9204
    @richardunis9204 3 года назад +9

    Excellent video. my wife of 21 years left me and my three children behind for an old man because she said her needs weren't met.

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  3 года назад +6

      I’m sorry to hear that Richard. Take your time to heal. Focus on being a good father to your children. I wish you all the best!

  • @triston5515
    @triston5515 Год назад +1

    I support this message. 💪🏼

  • @shvm7489
    @shvm7489 3 года назад +6

    Another great episode here from coach Christian.
    Absolutely true, they always come back for the wrong reasons, these women are never up to any good.
    Timing for this video couldn't have been better!
    17:10, this is so fucking true, this mindset is really toxic.

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  3 года назад +1

      I always look forward to your comments!
      Thank you sherav for always supporting the channel!!

  • @carlmarch9591
    @carlmarch9591 3 года назад +6

    Your description is spot on you must know my ex wife 😂 great stuff mate

  • @mudduck754
    @mudduck754 3 года назад +5

    Have a ten dollar bet with another you tuber that she shows back up about the time it starts getting cold out.
    I told him yeah that's par for the course and seen his $10 and raised him another $10. Seriously,thinking about hooking up the trailer and heading heading south for the winter leaving her without me as an option. Maybe a little prospecting in Arizona,

  • @cameogutierrez3466
    @cameogutierrez3466 Год назад

    You young man are brilliant! Your words are the truth!

  • @JohnDoe-id1es
    @JohnDoe-id1es 3 года назад +1

    Nine to see you w another great video, Christian. Hope ur feeling better. (Constantin)

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  3 года назад

      Thank you constantin!
      I saw your email. I will be responding in a couple hours with voice notes (my voice has recovered now)

  • @ita746abhishekkhairnar5
    @ita746abhishekkhairnar5 Год назад +2

    Thanks a lot, brother exactly the video I wanted , btw have someone told you before that you look like Cillian Murphy.

  • @yadhaider807
    @yadhaider807 3 года назад +8

    Okay I don't know if this is a coincidence but my ex who monkey branched on me reached out to me tonight with a text saying all those typical stuff like missing me and wondering what I've been up to...apparently her new relationship didn't work out or at least that's what she said.

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  3 года назад +6

      Yep. She’s trying to reach out for temporary comfort.

    • @Mocski00
      @Mocski00 3 года назад +4

      Use her and leave as she did with you. Then ask how it felt.

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  3 года назад +16

      Revenge will just cause you more pain. Just walk away and date a woman that actually has integrity

    • @davidcoppotelli3957
      @davidcoppotelli3957 3 года назад

      What's your move going to be POP

    • @yadhaider807
      @yadhaider807 3 года назад +3

      @@davidcoppotelli3957 Sadly I stayed in touch with her for a few days after that and she slowly started being distant again lol, Christian was spot on. So I stopped reaching out.

  • @antilaw9911
    @antilaw9911 3 года назад +4

    This exactly happened to me. Got married. Then contacting me hundreds of times etc...

  • @AnthonyJohnson-t7z
    @AnthonyJohnson-t7z 11 месяцев назад +1

    Why would a girl do this after being together for 9 years, as far as possibly being narcissistic. Why would she take that long to begin living like that?

  • @ronjones2435
    @ronjones2435 Год назад +1

    Is this video include marriage?
    Mine isn't finished but we are divorcing
    The ap left her when is it typically for the ex to start the calls and texts ?
    1 month 2 months?
    I'm sure she needs to heel from this affair

  • @specialforces72
    @specialforces72 2 месяца назад

    Mate you killed this video. I had to subscribe.

  • @1971ChevelleSS
    @1971ChevelleSS Год назад +3

    What if you just ghost them? No contact at all move on.

  • @Flufero23
    @Flufero23 Год назад

    Excellent advice!!

  • @dansogordon1010
    @dansogordon1010 10 месяцев назад

    Great video!

  • @Schizophrenic_Knowledge
    @Schizophrenic_Knowledge 3 года назад +1

    Great advice!

  • @TheGloryHole16
    @TheGloryHole16 3 года назад +6

    Wouldn’t it be amazing if every Narcissistic/Sociopathic/bpd/bipolar whatever the gender person, was to be made to watch this video…………… 😂
    Edit = if they did watch this video it’ll only be spun around on us norm’s, and they’ll end up the bloody victims !

    • @Jjjjjjj750
      @Jjjjjjj750 Год назад +1

      How dare you blame me!?!? This video is about you and not me!. This video explains everything that you do and do wrong….ahhh I can hear my ex from a mile away like it’s fresh. Hated when we discussed issues in the relationship, but the issue was always me…never her

    • @camellia8625
      @camellia8625 11 месяцев назад

      I am sorry but bipolar disorder is not a character disorder or a personality disorder. People with bipolar have enough stigma to contend with without being unfairly lumped in with sociopaths etc.

  • @Schroomp
    @Schroomp 6 месяцев назад

    Thanks for the advice!

  • @frankshanks9726
    @frankshanks9726 2 года назад +1

    I’m pretty sure my ex has BPD. She had a second life going on being in a serious relationship 9 out of 12 months we where together. It was long distance but seen each other on occasion and spent the whole summer together before going long distance. She painted a beautiful picture about moving in and starting a family when done with school by that next summer. Come to find out she was seeing someone else spending holidays with his family and everything. Not to mention she turned it around on me after finding out and all the mental breakdowns and verbal and emotional abuse she did to me throughout relationship. I was trauma bonded.

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  2 года назад

      If you want me to make a video about your experience; shoot me an email and I’ll prepare it. Sounds like your situation was quite hectic.

    • @frankshanks9726
      @frankshanks9726 2 года назад +1

      @@RelearningRelationships I will do that. I can even send you the texts where she said I couldn’t come see her for Christmas because her and her mom where fighting but she loves me and can’t wait to have a big Christmas at my house next year. Then I see her tagged in a picture on Christmas with the other guys family.

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  2 года назад

      @@frankshanks9726 send it !

    • @RelearningRelationships
      @RelearningRelationships  2 года назад

      coachchristiankoziol@gmail.com

  • @plantskywalka
    @plantskywalka 10 месяцев назад

    17:15 hold your peanuts 🌰 🥜

  • @abdulrokeebjakkari5166
    @abdulrokeebjakkari5166 Год назад

    نع.