Monkey Branching: Why Your Ex Doesn’t Miss You | Relearning Relationships
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- A question I get asked a lot : will she miss me?
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My situation is slightly different to this and I wondered if you might comment on it. My ex didn't monkey branch so much as went into a rebound relationship a few months after we split. I was the iniator of the break up as I had to move a long way away and we just split without saying anything or concluding anything. We then had no real contact for a few months. Now I find she is seeing someone new and may have even lined him up when we were together. I can't say for sure. She may have not been able to get with him right away as he was with his wife, who has sadly just died in early May. She has been very cold to me last few months and indifferent. This is why I think she may have monkey branched. He is someone from her past who she had an affair with in her first marriage 20 years ago. If she didn't monkey branch but did a rebound after I moved away (thus ending relationship) is your advice exactly the same and she couldn't give two fucks about me?
She was already a cheater to begin with. She is not marriage minded or traditional by the sounds of it. The fact that she betrayed her ex husband is a tell tale sign she is capable of doing it again; and that’s exactly what she did. Feel free to send me an email; with your story. Keep it concise yet detailed & I’ll upload it in an upcoming video to help educate men & women!
@@RelearningRelationships I think that, with this video and your reply to my comment, that you may have turned this around for me and I can move on. The key question is has she cheated on me? If she has then I can forget about her and move on. I will send in my case study so you can disect it.
@@breakupsos2078 she was u faithful to begin with. Sure; send in your case study
Dude… the exact same thing happened to me. It was her coworker. She swore they were just “friends” but they got closer and closer, and as they did, I was increasingly devalued. I initiated the breakup because my nervous system couldn’t handle the flip outs anymore, the insults, emasculation and devaluation. He was already on a pedestal in her mind, getting her best. He was married… but within a week after our breakup, they broke up, and my ex and him started spending all their time together (which I could gather from friends seeing them out, and piecing together the morsels of things see told me). It was the most devastating experience of my life. Not only because she jumped straight into a relationship, but she intentionally tried to hurt me with it, consistently comparing me to him (“you’re just mad because he’s nicer than you”). Even telling me she couldn’t wait to fuck him. She tried lying about it for months, but it became completely obvious that’s what was happening. It’s been six months and I’m only now beginning to feel human again.
My recent ex gf has to have just done this to me......If she comes bk I'm gonna do it bk to her.I never cheated on her or wanted to.i loved her so much and it crushed me but she ain't getting away with this.i been good to her
The worst is the monkey branchers who validate themselves, don't see it as cheating, etc.
Yep. Good riddance to them!
My wife she insisted on telling me that she is single and do what she wants. Monkey branchers don't even care that theirmarried
It sounds like my ex she didn't cheat because she was making plans to meet at the hotel with her new man AFTER she told me she was done with me . All within a two day span
@@sbecker334its open hypergamy for all women im from morocco we have the same probleme in third world
@@gelgoorx she absolutely did. To have this lined up so soon she was arranging this behind your back for weeks if not months
Remember one thing- hard truth - time doesn't heal anything. You just learn to live with it.
Betrayal is betrayal. That’s it… all you need to know.
Its funny how cold they get with you after the monkey branch.
The daily “I love yous” and “love you babes” texts replaced by “I don’t want to talk about it” or, “I don’t want to dwell on the past”, LITERALLY from one day to the next. As if the “past”was so long ago when it was literally yesterday. Its like a light switch being hit on their emotions and feelings towards you.
Any overtures or attempts to reach out on your end are immediately rebuffed or ignored, as if they can’t be bothered with having to explain themselves to you. If they give you a response, its half hearted and vague, and when you try to probe deeper, they shut down and cut you off again, thus leaving you with more questions than answers.
While you’re shocked and confused as to how they changed on you so abruptly that they seem like two different people, they casually move on and leave you broken and picking up the pieces while trying to make sense of it all.
In their minds, they wrapped up a loose end, while to you, its a sudden and devastating impact that destroys your psyche, self esteem, and mental health. And im some instances, leaves you emotionally broken to the point that you never recover and future outlook and perspective on relationships suffer as a result.
Funny how love, or loss thereof can turn someone into a sociopath in their actions, with no empathy for the other person.
Living exactly that right now.
Lost is an understatement
Yup same here ….. but she is still being friendly with me
Thank you for sharing this....
I had the same like you....
Now I try to understand how devastating is this behavior, i still feel destroyed like you said is a damage for life 💔😢... But we will survive 💪🙏💪🏻
yeah like one day we are in bed eating food watching netflix. The next day we are apparent strangers, like how does 4 years of history go up in flames.
Don’t get involved with someone who is settling for you, incompatible or full of red flags.
I can say exes will miss you regardless what happens, just know people that cheat are cowards and are miserable! Keep ya head up kings and put God first!
100% Correct Always the Cowards
False, they will never miss you if there's another in her mind and bed
You said it "cowards" ! My ex monkey branched me with her coworker and broke up via text and she is 53 years old ! COWARD !
It's cheating period.
They don't miss you. Just the attention you gave them
This is a hard pill to swallow. Been with him for 4 years. We were going through difficult times with a tricky family situation. He said I needed space and time to grow but in reality he was monkey branching behind my back cause “why not find people who give you the same feelings but a better situation.” He says he’s still in love with me and falling in love with her. There’s no way you can love someone and do what he did to me. I wouldn’t even do this to someone I didn’t like.
Be strong enough to cut him off and take your time to heal. Once you are ready find a man with a good heart, morals and values. There are plenty of good masculine men who would never do that to you.
Keep your head up and give yourself all the time in the world to recover.
hurts bad
My ex bf monkey branched me too and has cheated on every relationship he’s ever been in (learned about that wayy after the fact) he’s a piece of work
After 4 years together, she was jobless with no eduction made her a Bank manager and changed her and family life ...she said she wanted "to find her self" and she cant do family and kids,,,in 20 days she was in Maldive with her new boyfriend from her town! for me she is dead
My ex did it to me this summer. Asked for "space" then took 2 months to finally call it quits after I demanded answers, it felt like she was squeezing me to death slowly like a python. Come to find out a month later her FB says "in love" & "in a relationship". Like give me a break, thats when I realized she monkey branched me. But I've been working on myself hard & learning & growing since June, reflecting on my own issues & mistakes, & I realized I wasn't even mad when I found out, I actually was sad for her bcuz I know it is a reflection of her depression & fear of being alone & it will probably slap her in the face hard soon enough, exes who do this can't keep running from their bad feelings & expecting to use other ppl to feel better, eventually they will have to face their bad emotions. And she will then realize what she threw away bcuz I was a good faithful committed & loyal man. Not perfect, but who is? Smh, I wish I met you instead! 😂 take care, there's a lot of good ppl still. I really trusted her tho, ugh... I won't let it turn me cold either. If anything I'm a better man for it.
Just got out of a relationship with a girl with BPD who monkey-branched on me. I asked her why she didn't just break up with me instead of cheating (something we both promised at the start of the relationship), and she said because "she loved me." Yeah sure, but clearly not enough to not screw some guy and lie to me for months.
That’s the nature of the borderline. You obviously don’t respect yourself or believe you’re worthy of being loved if you’re getting involved with borderlines.
Yeah dude samw here, now idk what she had was bpd or ncd lol.. but yeah she was my first love and relationship i was 20 and she was 19, we made promises, big plans of our future together, traveling, a family one day ahhh i could say she was fully invested into the plans and committed to our relationship .... fast forward to 2nd year of our relationship, when lockdown was relaxed,i started to attend college focused on graduating my degree, i was in final year btw, also improvising myself so that i can fulfill the dreams we discussed , i had backlogs so had to clear them too lol..i gotta say since i met her, i got a better as a person changed myself got confident...but yeah after graduation looking, things were getting rough , we both got complecent.. anyways at the end she played her breakup drama, i want space, i want to work on myself, i want to be alone, i was never there for her, even tho i would give her time everyday after my college and other work ..i was begging to stay that i would give her more time, at the very end i found out the other guy was involved in this scene...she said he was her friend that she never told me abt coz i would get react in a bad way (our rule was...no, boys and no girls) .. but yeah she blocked when i found out abt this new dude... later when I was going through our old texts and conversations we had, found out this dude was there for months 5-6 mnths or 11 months.....ngl still breaks my heart... never doubted her faithfulness and loyalty, im soooooo broken rn.. never thought our 2.5 yrs would fade away just like that
For BPD monkey branching is their go to.
And of course labeling you 'narcissist' and 'abusive' later on social media, even if you never contacted her.
Sad but the honest truth.
We have to let them go, let go of what we think they are. And replace it with what they ACTUALLY are.
We still see them in the limerance stage of the relationship, after that goes we become meaningless to them.
They're low quality people like he mentions always.
Another great one Christian 👌💯
You’re learning! That’s the spirit!
I’m glad you value the video! Thank you for your support!!
It hurts deeply when you realize you meant nothing to them while you cared deeply for them. I agree: they are low quality people. When I realised this there was no way I'd take him back.
I think this advise is rare. It's not the positive stuff people wanna hear when a relationship is over like this, but it is the best advise to learn and move on. Thank you for clearly explaining this. I learned this a few months ago already, but when I see people using NC to "make her realise she will miss me", I am only thinking: "oh no". Great stuff dude.
Thank you! You should check out my most recent uploads. I think you’d enjoy them! Also, my book is out if you’re interested in learning more :)
Feel free to reach out anytime via email and share your story and I’ll be sure to make a video out of it to further educate men and women
she already monkey branch to another relationship while im stuck thinking how she managed to leave with the 6 years we've been together
She did this to me. After two years. We had horrible fights. I never expected her to do this and she is with a guy who is far beneath her now. The same day she broke up with me she put in a relationship. I am heartbroken and in severe torture. This video helped. But I can’t believe the woman I loved could be so heartless. She didn’t love me. It’s apparent
I’m still in my healing process. I was feeling so bad until I saw this video. Honestly thank you. Will rewatch this when I feel bad again.
Take care of yourself, it gets better. Be good to yourself, nobody loves you like you !
Thank you for being so honest. This explained everything that happened to me. Two years gone like the snap of a finger.
Same here
This really helped me man, lost my girlfriend of 5.5 years she chose to leave me for another man she’d been talking to a couple of months prior to our breakup.
Once she knew it would work with him she chose him over me, left me in the dust to grieve, where she never looked back. The last 5 days have been the lowest and most painful point in my life. My self esteem and self worth shattered. But slowly I’m going to beat this, grow out of it and become a better man than ever.
Did she ever come back.
How do you feel now?
Thank you, I’ve been crying a lot lately. Tonight this made me feel better.
We both have our flaws and being complacent in the relationship, but I chose to stay. Now I’ve not only fall to the ground, I’ve basically left friendless because of all the times I poured into the relationship.
What
Happened ?
@@RelearningRelationships well, we broke up about 4 months ago. She has fallen in love with the other guy at university. I have move back after graduating and started working. Obviously the pandemic makes it hard for us to meet up.
I guess all these factors aren’t really the reason, but more like the catalyst of the inevitable. Lately I’ve been taking a few step backward after watching the latest Godzilla movie, the kid looked quite like her and that reminds me of our daughter we have talked about but will never have.
You realise she’s found some other guy and she’s only coming back to settle temporarily use you because of the emotional connection you had?
@@RelearningRelationships nah, we’ve been on ldr for almost a year before she monkey branched to her simp. She told me about him, and I specifically requested her to stay away from him. That worked out well for me 3 months later.
She cheated on you with this guy and you think she loves or respects you? Heal. Later on find a woman that respects you !
My ex wife did this, she monkey branched to someone who was also in a marriage at the time. I found out about them through his wife catching them hanging out. He divorce his wife and my ex wife divorced me. Now they are together and rushing to meet my kids. It’s crazy, but I know better days are ahead.
You should marry his ex wife 😂
god damn man. are they still together?
My ex tried to get me to believe she just wasn't in love with me anymore. She had been lining up her childhood "friend" and was already meeting up and hooking up with him about a year before leaving me. They are keeping the relationship hush hush but she has my kids over at his house all the time . I did not give her the pleasure of being her "friend" like her other ex is simply because she treats him less like a friend and more like someone she talks shit about. She acts indifferent towards me and honestly, everyday I could care less.
My ex monkey branched with her ex to me. Then back to her ex. I found out months later. I want to confront her about it but don’t know if it’s worth it
What is there to gain ? Tbh you’re better off never speaking to that person
How much time you spent with her?
Take a lesson from me people. This guy nailed it. This is a long story but true. Read it. We were living in separate houses. She broke up with me. A month later after a lot of angry narcissistic games & flying monkeys on her side. She started coming back to my house on the odd occasion. But not giving me the time of day when she wasn't with me. Then I found out that a guy we had a problem with from the very start was on the seen again. She was being a bi#ch to me. It got so bad I resorted to looking in her phone. She had left it on the table to go to the toilet. But it hadn't switched off yet. So I looked. I'm not proud of looking in her phone. But I got what I wanted. She was talking to him on an average of 2 hours a day & multiple messages a day. She said they were only talking. She did admit he was talking trash about me. A couple of weeks later. I was still getting messed about. So I said ring him I want to talk to him. I gave him a reality check. I didn't mention that she was saying all a long that he has a friend's with benefits partner him self. He was playing both sides. She got in her car a went home still talking to this guy on the phone as she drove off. We ended up going to a cancelling session. She promised he was off the seen. She ended up shifting into my house. Things seen to be going great. Planing our future together. 6 weeks after she shifted in. She started being strange again. Glued to her phone & getting all weird & snappy for about. 2 weeks. Starting fights & storming off. I busted her on the phone to some guy. I presume it was him. She shit herself. When she seen me there & I had busted her on the phone to him. She just said it was her cousin. The next morning she packed her stuff and left. "GUILT" That was just over 3 weeks ago. She blocked me on everything. I haven't heard from her since. So nooo they can't be trusted even again. I'm moving on now. 5years down the drain. Cheers 👍
Everything you said in this one is so accurate in describing my ex girlfriend who monkey branched on me 2 weeks ago...yep, she had low self esteem and tons of insecurities in general, not to mention she craved for attention way too much than normal and just when I got busy for a couple of weeks, I found out she's seeing someone else behind my back and man she's already acting like she's gonna get married to this new guy like wtf? I know she's totally not suitable for a healthy relationship but knowing her for a year got me attached...I do miss her but I'm trying hard to burn every remaining string of attachment I have towards her, she literally did what I could've never imagined coming from her. Your videos have helped a lot mate, I know I deserve better and I'm tryna heal as soon as possible. Keep up the good work!
Man I feel the same. Shit hurts af
@@koniu_fatality3040 you're not alone. But you gotta remember if she really was worth it, she would had stayed. Getting haunted by the memories is the hard part though.
Thanks bro. I really want to move on, it's just this feeling that I was just a toy that can be easly exchanged for the person I really trusted. And it was that easy for her. My story is almost 1:1 as your comment mate
@@koniu_fatality3040 Man I totally feel you..it just doesn't make sense really, this person was so freaking into me once upon a time and she left just like that as if I meant nothing at all..? Or probably just a source of attention, I got no idea but the fact is I got emotionally attached and it hurts a hell lot. Take your time to heal. I know its easier said than done but that's all you can do. Try using this as a motivating fuel for you to not lose to her in life :)
@@yadhaider807 Thanks Bro. We will get through this 💪
I've lost nearly 10 years of my life .. she broke up and is niw, 8 Weeks (maybe even earlier) for sur with her new guy... with whom she probably was writing on snapchat while we were in a relationship....
I've made my errors, who doesn't in 10 years... lack of attraction, no feelings she said...
Guys, a relationship which has passion at his high level, just exists in movies... we are humans and can have a long phase where nothing seems to work in our lives...
She left and left me for dead in our house... marriage and having kids was on sight.... I'm 34 and she's 33 ... how can a woman chose to reset our lives at this moment? And being so cold and without empathie...
I know what you’re going through man. My ex wife left me for someone else three years ago and after two and a half years she wanted to leave him and come back to me which I allowed because we have children together and I do also truly love her. Hopeful that things would be better this time around we only made it a mere 10 months and after asking me to leave our home a few weeks ago I find out from my own children that she’s seeing someone else within days of me being out of the house, which in reality most likely means that he was around for some time before she actually ended our relationship. She’ll barely even entertain a text from me at this point even if it’s just me checking up on the kids, and when we speak she’s just angry and cold. Not that it makes your situation any easier but just know you’re not alone in the pain and confusion you’re feeling right now after having your life pulled right out from underneath your own two feet. I’ve been here twice now with the same woman and while I’m down right now, I know it gets better because I’ve lived it. Hang in there man.
Stay strong Ryan. I have a few question for you? How did you feel taking her back? Was her behaviour any better or did she lack respect and love for you?
What red flags did you see in the last 10 months of being with her ?
@@ryanherron7071 thanks Ryan... helping each other, here on this channel, is a bless for us all... everyone lives his break up in a different way, depending on his attachment type, I've learned...
I hope you're better now.... in my case, I still miss her, unfortunately... but maybe I just miss the illusion I was living.... because afterwards, I know I've been betrayed and exchanged like an object... and in the middle of this, we still have our business stuff to clarify but she clearly disappeared and doesn't shows up to talk about...
I'm so happy to have found this channel who helps me going through this...
We are not alone Ryan...
Take your time to heal Charles. You deserve to be happy and to have a good woman by your side. Rebuild your identity, your life. There is always hope and a chance to have a more fulfilling life.
Learn from your experience, extract the lessons it taught you and keep moving forward
No contact is the first step to help you heal.
In regards to your ex, during the 10 years you were with her did you spot any red flags? Did anything seem off with her?
People who do this have high self-esteem (arrogance) but have no self-respect. They also don’t always do it to push away feelings of guilt. Usually it’s because they lack feelings of guilt, which is why they act that way in the first place.
My wife did this after 25 years marriage. Her excuse was she was not attracted to me. I know that was not the first time. I caught her 20 years ago and took her back it was a huge mistake. Now I realize there were many more . Listen to this guy don’t take her back she doesn’t love you. You deserve better. 31 years together wasted. I never played around on her and she dumped me brutally with NO remorse or emotion. This guy is right on the money don’t get sucked in
I know this is an older video but damn man you are so spot on. I'm going through this now and this is exactly what I needed to hear. I need to let go and realize this person will never change.
Really hit the nail on the head ...I had this done to me I've done N.C ... how can a woman of 6years turn freezer COLD and constantly tell me got a new job and new monkey branch relationship...surely this going to FAIL ...no closure nothing ....
Happened to me. I Tbh I saw the signs and and knew at some point it would probably happen, and I mentioned to her during the duration of our relationship that it bothered me how she swings from man to man with no period of reflection or solace before venturing out again. I tried my own experiment of going out constantly and meeting women to get my needs met with the void that had been created as a result of her bullshit, and it just isn't. In fact I slept with a woman a few days ago and it made me realize asinine cheating is. That people give up so much to just simpl satisfy "needs".
I'd say to anyone going through it that time and self improvement will help dramatically in your healing. Took me a long time but I'm alot better just focusing on me.
Cheers Christian for your help .
Can't recommend this guy enough.
You’re more than welcome mate.
I’m glad you are doing much better. Give me an update anytime, always lovely to hear from you!
Thank you for your kind words man
It's frustrating how long it takes to heal. As soon as I realised I'd been monkey branched I knew in my head that he was low quality and that I was done with him forever. However, it still hurt deeply and the heartbreak was real. I've stayed single for years and am so glad I did. I worked (and continued to work) on myself and invested in growing spiritually and emotionally. I guess I'm here because I still feel angry about the betrayal and these videos are helping me to let go even more.
OMG this video is right on, thank u so much for being straight this is so true. These type of women/men are not worth having…its horrible to be betrayed, its not about you it’s nothing to do with you. These people have no self respect, and will never really love anyone. The poor new person….be glad they took out your trash…
My BPD ex broke up with me on Valentine's for this guy she only knew for a month because she developed feelings, cheated on me.
Yeah, and now what's the situation?
This just happened to me ,He started doing the slow fade. Telling me he was stressed and busy. Eventually I asked him what's up ?
He simply told me I know u did everything u can, but I can't see myself in this anymore .after almost two years. .
I said nothing I didn't fight it nor argue i simply walked away, i know he said nothing, but I can't help but think he is talking t someone else ,Bc he is not the type who like t be alone, I'm hurt but let's say even if he came back one day which I highly doubt ,I can't take him back. The trust is gone and myself respect would never allow me. I just want forget him and move on .I know it's gonna take time I know I'm gonna be b in pain for a while but it's just part of the process. I'm just doing me and focusing on myself.
I’m very glad to hear you have self respect and strong boundaries. Take your time to heal. There’s good masculine men out there.
Stay modest and feminine and you will come across a great man when you are healed.
I wish you all the best & stay strong !
I’m always at your service,
Christian
Wow, thank you so much! Seen a lot of other advice out there but this is it. Watching this video is helping me know that it is possible for me to move on! My ex boyfriend recently monkey branched from me to someone else. I’ve been heartbroken, feeling paralyzed, and utterly confused. Watching this, I don’t feel so confused anymore because everything you mentioned about the monkey brancher’s actions and behavior was so so accurate!
God bless you
Why in the hell don't you have more than 800 followers? You make more sense on the topic of monkey branching than any of these other "coaches" that either ignore the difference between MB and a rebound; or they are not comfortable telling people to cut the cancer out and forget about getting that kind of ex back.
I really appreciate that David.
Most people don’t like hearing the truth because its a hard and bitter pill to swallow.
Lots of “coaches” focus on scamming and manipulating those who are vulnerable.
I focus on saying it how it is. The only way to help people is to tell them what they need to hear. Most people run when they hear something that goes against what they feel.
Also I am only in my twenties so I’m sure most people assume I’m too young to have had any experience or situations like this happen to me!
I’m very grateful for all the love and support. I’m happy to see the channel grow slowly and steadily.
Thank you.
Always at your service,
Christian.
I agree mate I sometimes watch these get your ex back coaches! God it makes me cringe they just prey on desperate people
I thought the same thing! It will grow in time, great content.
Thanks for this video, he doesn’t love me or think about me at all. This is the ego death I needed to move on, he really hurt me bad lol. I’m angry he’s happy in that relationship and flaunting it everywhere. I’m also embarrassed I reached out and I need to improve and grow desperately. Three years thrown out just like that lol!
That is exactly what happened to me. Love your content man. Spread the knowledge. I hope everyone heals quickly and well.
I’m really glad you enjoy the content Mikey! Thank you for your support!
@@RelearningRelationships since my horrible breakup and losing not only the woman I love but all of my belongings I have been in very deep research on narcissism and psychopathy, partner abuse, reactants. I'm 40 years old and never knew just how dangerous this all can be. If your partner is a monkey brancher let them go it can get much much worse. God help anyone who crosses paths with these people.
I’m terribly sorry to hear that. Women like that are a danger to all!
I'm crying right now...
You're crying now, but months you will be glad they are gone ! Take care !
Naw they don’t miss you they got who they want.
This is the most articulate and logic explanation you'll ever need or find. The hardest part is leaving in denial ('it didn't happened, she can't be like that after all we've been through , there's a misunderstanding etc) and trauma bonding ( "If I do more for her, maybe she will come back, even if she treats me bad, it's better than without her..."). This video makes an important reality check i.e. face the facts and accept the situation for what it is. It's over and you're monkey branched for all the reasons and explanations the author skillfully presents.
We were together (engaged) for 5 years, and he met his WIFE in a bar 2 weeks after i left him. Yes, he is a narcissist. I never knew what that was until I found out years later. It's been over 12.7 years now, and i don't know where he is or who he's with. NEVER TAKE BACK A NARCISSIST. NEVER TAKE BACK A CHEATER.
كلامك صحيح و يشفي القلوب و كل ما قلته حقيقي ، نفس السلوك نفس المشكلة نفس الغدر يحدث على اختلاف الاجناس و الديانات و في الأخير يجب فقط فهم الذي حدث و انه تحصيل حاصل لتلك الشخصية الغدارة و لا يجب عليا انا أن اتحمل مسؤولية اختياراتها أو اختياراته ، ما حدث قد حدث و هو من الماضي و هو فرصة و وِلادة جديدة علينا استغلالها لاسترجاع أنفسنا اولا ثم تطويرها و وضعها في المكان المناسب ، we bornes a second time after beings betrayed....or we die, .
No thanks tomorrow is a better new day
We payed the price to grow up better tomorrow
Thank you
Was with my ex for 7 years replaced me a month later call her few months ago and tried one last time to reason with just got told she got tired of my bullshit and that she was happy with the new guy and that I was just trying to make her feel bad.... Smh I really can't believe I was with that person now to be treated like this:(
Similar story bro... 😐
Let her go keep moving along.
Never break no contact
Update? Same thing but 2 years
Lots of true words as Christian always has !! I have been branched on many times in my life . But as a 1 time branched myself , I can say that I DID feel very guilty for the girl I branched on . 3 years after it , I still feel horrible . She was a amazing women with great character and she loved me completely . She was the most genuine woman I’ve ever been with ( and there’s been many ) . Unfortunately I didn’t have enough sexual attraction for her since the beginning ( which is even weirder because she is a perfect ten physically also ) . I was always so perplexed as to why I knew she was beautiful physically , but I just didn’t have the chemistry with her . It’s like life’s cruel joke to drop an amazingly beautiful woman in my life that was of very high quality , but I wasn’t interested in her sexually . I’ll never understand it . In the end I thought I could overcome it and maybe I was just going through a phase . I knew it was time to end it after a year with her . I was trying to figure out how to end it with her , and right about that time came a attractive girl that was asking me out . So I ended up branching . I don’t regret ending the relationship with the girl I was with for a year , because ending it was for the best and had to be done . However my point is that as a brancher myself , I can say that I feel horrible to have hurt a person that loved me so much , and such a good person . Even after I branched and was in a new relationship, I still thought of her often and wondered if I made the right choice . Some branchers can regret it , do feel guilty , do doubt their choice to leave , do remember the person for the awesome person that they were to them . It happens, and I’m here to tell you because I had all those things . Is that a common occurrence? Maybe not . But that’s my story
Do you have any tips for someone who’s in the same situation as the first girl that you regret losing bc I’m not sure if I should contact my ex or let him experience his new relationship eventho they are in honey moon phase now
Why would you choose to be in a relationship that you were not attracted to? Why would you lead someone on like that?
Very well spoken. You guessed well haha, she left me for the coworker.
Sorry to hear that man. Wish you all the best in your recovery
Haha same thing here
Damm, i needed this. Thank you for this video! For a while ive been wondering what shes thinking.. Not because i want to get back with her but I think more for validation of the relationship we had. I feel like this video validates everything for me so thank you. I know that I now need to focus 100% on my self-esteem & self-respect so that i can take this into new fullfilling relationships.
Well the only hope about her coming back 6months later and it happens quite often is revenge. And the revenge i mean is Accountability and rejection. They chase you and you can be nice to them but they will never get you back
Really great work mate, my ex wife tried to monkey branch with our neighbour her friends husband! He was not interested long term was also seeing his wife's best friend obviously her new branch broke in the meantime I hit the gym hard 46 best shape ever lots of female attention from woman my wife new, surprise surprise guess who tried to lure me back! Hated my self improvement I just live well for me and my broken hearted son she can carry on trying to recover from her mess, obviously she lost a friend too
Good man. Stay focused on yourself and be the best dad for your son.
Cheers mate 👍
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Love this one Christian be careful guys of when they try and branch back as the new shiny branch broke, Christian knows my story, I even had a couple of months ago everytime I picked my son up "oh I've got your favourite perfume on tonight" attention attention unbelievable, don't let them walk back in have self respect and leave them in the dust good work as usual mate
Even if they communicated, that doesn't give them moral right to monkey branching, period!!!
Just stumbled across this....if the world was filled with more like you..thanks 👌🏽
This means a lot to me
It's exactly what I'm currently going through right now, it's a really painful experience and worse part we have a 2 year old daughter. This woman broke off our marriage last year only to find out that she was seeing someone else since 2017 and I only found out about it yesterday after a heated argument with her. I don't know what to do next
I’m so sorry to hear that man! If you want to tell me more privately or want coaching,
Hit me up: coachchristiankoziol@gmail.com
@@RelearningRelationships thank you Christian, I've just emailed you my story
Perfect!
I pushed her to do it, I literally told her to f*** off & find someone who will meet her needs, so she did. She warned me & she's been contacting me still telling me she prefers me & can't stop thinking about me blah blah. I guess it's over.
Good Guess Mate.
@@davidcoppotelli3957 Actually we got back together lol.
@@UltrafineDeluxe Chris, your 1 lucky Guy. Keep it going forever. Frank Sinatra, Sang Second Time Round. Check it out.
@@UltrafineDeluxe oh no. Welp good for you I guess. Hope she changed her way of doing, but its rare that people change
Can you please Update? and How long were u guys together for before all this happened?
Thank you for this video . My ex monkey branched me just after an arguing we had and while I was still loyal and committed and reached out to resolve this situation , he put up videos and pictures of his new gf all over social media . He also accused me that it was my fault he left and that he found a woman who opened his heart . I cut him off entirely but still heartbroken , can’t believe he did this to me…while I still was trying to fix things he was already on holidays with his new gf. Hurts like nothing I’ve experienced before.
Best heartbreak video I've seen in a long time. Excellently delivered and full of stuff I hadn't thought about before. Just what I needed right now. Thank you.
I’m happy to hear that roger! Enjoy the rest of the content! Filter through my latest videos. I have more up to date, in depth videos :)
@@RelearningRelationships I will do thanks once again.
One of the best videos I've ever watched. I needed to hear this.
damn I needed this video, she cheated on me multiple times and I still have hope because I'm stuck thinking about the amazing past we had. But that past is gone, even if we got together again she would never be the same to me. She showed me her true colours. If she didn't cheat, she would have still been the same person, I just wouldn't have known. Thank you so much for this video
I’m glad it helped. Take your time to heal and be careful of the women you date!
Amazing words said. You said some last few words I needed to hear to come full circle again and REALLY realize I don’t need her anymore. Thank you. Definitely added some new perspectives
You are my favourite dude that talks about this evil people.
Thx bro all about clear now .....she lost Spark, disrespect my love ,my loyalty....she just need spark now she dating new guy ...
I’m going through this right now. It hurts I had invested and did a lot for her.
She betrayed me honestly
I’m done yes I need to cut her off. But the pain and misss is their.
And everyday I’m getting used to cutting her off.
Mehn but I’m still surprised so surprised I never thought she had it in her to do that
You don’t need them back.
Dear Christian,
Thank you so much for opening my eyes.
I'm in my mid 40's. I have learned so much from watching your video.
I have stumbled upon your channel over 5he weekend.
I appreciate your blunt advice.
My number one channel right now.
Back at this video two years later!
You said this so damn perfect ! Definitely nasty piece of shit COWARDS . I will never take a cheater back ( EVER ) .
Never Ever We don't do DO Over's.
My ex cheated on me in the beginning stages of our relationship, and my mistake was accepting her back. Four years later, I made the mistake of talking to another woman, and I apologized for it, but she never let it go and accused me of cheating with other women... I am not!!
She broke up a month and a half ago, and I find out she's dating a man she's known since fourteen. She said he just randomly contacted her, but I know she's been talking to him for a min. Stuck in a lease with her, we separated rooms, and I heard her sex chatting him on the phone, I was sick, and my heart dropped. The things she was telling him hurt. But I've quickly realized that she never truly loved me. It was my potential that she loved, and when that wasn't met, she dipped on me. 7 years wasted, but I thank God I didn't put a ring on her finger. I see her for what she is. I'm not perfect and have made mistakes. Now, I'm just focused on healing and self-improvement.
Thanks dude this really helped me. I got monkey branched a month ago after being together 2 and a half years.
My ex monkey branched me his loss, the trash took itself out 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Christian, couldn't you be more clear about a person who betrays oneself. Im so hurt right now i live together for 7 years and married 6 months ago for love and so she can have the papers needed to work on Spain (im Spanish) 2 weeks she got the papers and the job i went overseas for work and came back 2 months later, she didn't allow me to live with her. She was already cheated with a co-worker. I got to find a house a job and alone..
Elegiste la mujer equivocada. 7 años y os cásateis hace poco? Veo tu conocimiento sobre relaciones es muy básica. Te falta aprender todavía. Te podría ayudar. Lo único que te puedo ofrece es enseñarte como maestra relaciones. Si quieres, pide una llamada aquí conmigo y discutiremos todo:calendly.com/relearningrelationships/call?back=1&month=2023-05
Mine just did this to me after 6 1/2 years and two kids!!! Already has my children living with him 2 months after the split. Oh did I mention it’s her boss as well. She is so beyond fucked up as a person to not only hurt me like this but to bring our children into. The old saying if it wasn’t for my kids I wish I never met her.? Yeah it’s real
Mine love bombed me hard at the start man..she had a new bf within 4 days of the breakup..and married him in 5 months!..nearly sure she's a covert narc now which i knew nothing about til it happened me..I've been ruminating badly the past 6 months i can't get past it..a shell of myself tbh..he was a co worker to.. :( regards from Ireland
This cut the shit out of me but Ima get stronger got to kids to live for
Well put my friend. Thank you for making this simple to understand.
Glad it was helpful!
You've been so calm and poised man. I will like and subscribe. All the best to you dude. Rn I'm hurting and am sad but ur video was an eye opener.
Thank you for your support Ateesh.
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Total truth. Great advice Mr Christian. I admit my ex is super hot. I failed to see her true nature is. She's a complete attention whore in her social media, promiscuous & a single mum with 2 kids from 2 different father. A complete damaged goods & thrash woman. And in the end left me for the bigger better deal who can give her more benefits than me. So just like Mr Christian said move on, cut her off totally & stop thinking about getting back with this type of thrash low quality woman. It's not worth it at all.
I hope you’re doing well Terry! How is everything going?
@@RelearningRelationshipsGood day to you Mr Christian. I'm doing fine here. Thank you. By the way Mr Christian, 2 days ago I was discussing this topic with my friend about beta simp orbiters in social media. They are becoming a big threat to us now on their behavior. Constantly validating, complimenting & giving free attention to women which ultimately boosting their ego high up to Heaven. It not only ruined relationships but also make things difficult for an average men to chase & find good quality girls.
She'll do the same thing when she gets Bored.
You're right. You're absolutely right
That was an awesome video, I really appreciate your insight.
This happened to me a month ago...was a shock at first but am finally realising she was low grade material and not worthy of my affection..you can't make good wine from bad grapes..onwards and upwards is say..🎉
Wow...I'm 3 years late but this is an excellent video, bruh
I appreciate it!
Absolutely disgusting. My ex of 8 years did this to me 2 months ago. Doesn’t view it as cheating and blamed the fact that I’m trans as the reason he did it. (He was with me longer while I was out as trans than before) Dude really had 5 years to tell me he was struggling with the trans thing and kept his mouth shut through all of it just to hop to his new coworker.
If he was struggling with the trans thing, why did he even go along with it in the first place?
Not basically are cowards, just say are lustful addicted immature cowards
Say it as a fact not a maybe
Sorry for my English (im French) my recent experience:
I saw her with her rebound in a bar after 6 month after breakup. She turn her eyes far from me, she cannot even look at me, turning her head in the opposite side. She was really uncomfortable. I stayed up 2min front of here waiting for something (like hello!) with my glass of wine asking my self what to do, I feel anxious. When I see her immature reaction I turn back with my friends. We stay far as possible and I feel immediately more comfortable. I finished my drink, look at her for few moments. I smile and laughed with my friends about the unexpected situation. She was also looking at me and sometimes laughed with her rebound (obviously about me) but when we had eyes contact I feel her pain and shame and who she feels bad (I know her after 4years). I finished my drink and leave the place with my friends. All my friends tells me she act immature. I feel it also.
Know I feel kind of relif cause I know I was wrong about her. I put her in pedestal. She meets her rebound (6years younger than her) with me at party so I guess she keep contact and there is some monkeys branching. She wasn't dressed good and no make up...
i was dress very nice and my body is better look know after many exercises in the gym😅
In conclusion I feel better know.
Also for the note I wasn't go out for long time cause the breakup make me sad and finally when I decided to go out for the first time I found her in the first bar (also the first ber we meet, close to my home) 😂karma!
Sorry for my English, I'm French
Love you all
Keep the faith to all
Of course she feels bad about herself when she sees you, it remindes her how horribly she f-d you over
Thanks Travis, really helped me to get my thoughts straight. Cheers!
I needed this
thanks for the advice! in my case, i was in a virtual relationship talking through skype, we made a plan to meet on vacation in another country, then she told me she got hpv which cause cancer, she did a test and didn't have it no more, still it can always come back, i decided to not to go and take the risk, then she put me in the friend zone, she was dating someone on. a dating app while she was with me, he was probably the backup plan, and one day she said i got a boyfriend, i was is deep shock and there was no shame or sorry from her side, she seemed to be proud of her new brave boyfriend, it was a horrible experience, any advice for my situation? Thanks
Thank you for this video. It really hurt to hear this but I think I really needed some tough love to set me straight.
This video was so truthful
Hey man, I just have a question,
Im trying to move on and forget her, but I feel like an important stage in order to do that would be to forgive her. Which is incredibly hard due to the feeling of betrayal. Any tips on how to forgive a former partner who betrayed you?
BTW, this video and another one of yours truly helped me get my sh*t together and man up about everything. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Hope everything is going well for you in these trying times.
1) Forgiving her doesn’t mean you keep her in your life. You forgive her to free yourself of the pain. To accept the reality that, she cheated on you because of who she IS, it has nothing to do with YOU.
If she had been with you longer, she would have done it eventually because it’s who she is!
To forgive her you must accept that what she did to you was her own choice. It is a reflection of her lack of character and values.
2) once you realise that she cheated on you because of WHO she IS. You can begin to separate yourself from her.
3) the good news is that YOU as man value loyalty and commitment which is why the betray hurt you in the first place. Stay true to your integrity and remember that you deserve a 10/10 feminine woman who will be loyal to you! Thanks to your ex cheating and walking away you now have a chance to heal, move on, become a better man and attract a higher quality woman!
P.S. thank you for your kind words! I’m glad you enjoy the channel and that my videos have been of help to you!
Always at your service,
Christian
Always enjoy your content.
Cheers man
Amazing videos but voice is low, I hope new videos will have louder voice. Thanks man, you are doing great job
I have to say with out a doubt your videos are some of best if not the Best. Good Luck to you Sir.
Thank you so much David! This means a lot to me!
Does karma hits monkeybranchers? Eye for an eye thing. I would really like that they experience same spectrums of pain and suffering, as what they caused.
Their entire lives are void of love. Their karma is a generational curse of miserable relationships unless they repent.
Usually, monkey branchers are narcistic, or have borderline personality disorder or anything else. Anyone without empathy is therefore usually unhappy because their needs are never met. Life, and their disorder, is their karma. You will feel pain for months, they will for the rest of their lives
@@VixenTMthat's right. Most branches are Cluster B
Not always. Current era is very feministic so everything is for them. They are in high demand so they can monkey branch without consequences.
@@neodistinct Although you are right, I think it will bite them later. Monkey branching or extensive hookup periods dont make them happier. More often then not, it becomes a needed dopamine hit rather than something personal. I think they have even done studies on this (but feel free to correct me) that monkey branchers and people engaging in hook up culture lose their ability to truly bond and love. They become reliant on attention in order to feel secure and happy for a short while. I've never seen someone in hook up culture or who monley branched that was happy in life. They either had a underlying mental disorder or general depression.
Thank you for this……. Thank you so much. I wish I could tell you my story.
Shoot me an email
Damn, happened to me a month ago. Im still crying.
Time will heal you.
Thank you so much for helping us out.❤️
I’m always here for you guys and girls
Speak for yourself, my ex has to miss all the benefits, didn't need to work, living in luxury with 3 maids 2 housemen, 6 cars, love and affection, busted cheating killed all of that, now she works like a dog and lives in a small apartment, and no italian stalian, I heard her life is hell...
Man, you speak the truth
I had this and she was making out she is heart broken I recon that was guilt
This will be my second time on a video of yours that I’ve had to pause it cus the information is heavy 😢
It’s spot on but that’s what hurts. I have to co parent with this person 😔 and they work together alone the monkey branched and often I have to pick my kid up from that work spot …
Advise tips ?
Thank you for the videos they have been extremely helpful although they can be quit hard truths
I hope you comment on this! My ex did this and is in a relationship with that person however she doesn’t know I know she cheated. Like she had his initials on her profile, I asked her about it while we were together and she lied straight to me and said I have nothing to worry about and now she’s in a relationship with the very person cause he has the same initials on his page my question is should I confront her and let her know that she betrayed me and I know it cause I feel like she thinks she got away with it
Walk away. Vengeance is in God’s hands.
thank you for these words!
This has really help me. Thanks very much 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿