After I left after all these red flags, he met and married a low value woman in 3 months. It took me 9 months to heal. I’m so happy now and learned a great lesson from this relationship. Ty to the rebound for taking this low value man from my life. 😂 Ty for this very informative video.
UPDATE for those interested: I was devastated when she told me and I found out just 1 week later she dumped him 🤣✌🏼 So guys trust me ob that, don’t take everything your ex tells you or you see for the truth. Often they just trying to cope with the pain and tell themselves a story… rebounds never work out. It’s build on false „love“ and that NEVER works! She told me today she‘s been with someone for 2 months now. 1 month after our break up. That’s sick. She even told me she met them when she was devastated about us and they made her feel better and that’s what she needed. She even said it’s not love or anything even close as what we had. WTF?! Why is she with someone she is not even convinced about. I assume it’s her ex from 3 years ago….. I really don’t get it.
The fact she is rebounding mostly likely means the relationship meant a great deal to her. A rebound is the ex trying to skip the grieving process altogether.
Then my friend, why would you want to be with such a low calibre woman? That’s the real question and that’s a reflection of you. There are much better quality women out there.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Hurting very, very badly, but have startet in therapy with a psychologist today. I'll focus on working out and try to find a place for her in my heart where she doesn't hurt so much and find peace in that. And then if one day (which I still hope, after she burns through her rebound) that she'll reach out and hopefully want to reconnect, that I have found inner strenght I had before, my attrativeness, the things you talk about that I can say with force, "Either we start immediately in therapy with a psychologist with speciality with BPD," along with others supportive structures such a strategys to deescalate the vulcanic eruption after being triggered, if "yes", then lets proceed very slowly, if "no", then goodbye and take care. That's my goal now, and who knows where I'll hopefully be in a couple of months time. Also going to focus on my history lecture at Uni in march. I'll remember to give you an update about how things went. Thanks for all the videos, they are truly a god sent. By the way, how long after did you talk with your dismissive ex? after the breakup and her rebound?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick As I said, if she comes back, and IF I'm in a good place myself, then we can have a conversation and If shes ready to do the work, then I could see us trying again. A deep connection, compatibility, chemistry, etc. those things are not easy to find, establishig a genuince rapport with another person is rare and something I'm willing to work to maintain. And as I youself said so eloquently, I know that's she's running and acting on deep subconscious fears and who amongst us are perfect. 15 years ago, I left my ex, rebounded due to grass-is-green, but was a classic rebound, found out I wanted my ex. We got together and had 12 mostly very good years after that, two beautiful kids and today a really good friendship. I've never cheated since, so don't knock second chances. It depends on the situation and the person and your invesmest etc.
@Rick, I try not to encourage any kind of mind reading but it could mean she’s just attracted to “your type”, or it could mean she’s subconsciously found someone who looks like you to cover her pain from the breakup, or it could mean nothing. The important thing here is acceptance on your part. You’re no longer together and therefore you need to focus on getting yourself back and healthy. Rebounds are typically a band aid to cover emotional pain and it catches up sooner or later. The advantage dumpees have is that they’re forced to deal with their pain and anxiety almost straight away. So my friend work on you to the point that it’s no longer about her rebounding, but it’s about you levelling up and finding someone much better than your ex.
We had an argument and she started chatting on dating apps the next day. She said she lost feelings for me and was dating within 4 wks. She said she loves me and misses me but its time to move on.... how can she say that and put her efforts into starting a relationship with a stranger rather than fixing our relationship?
Wow that sucks. It’s almost certainly rebound. And to marry 4 months after splitting with you, seems like a knee jerk reaction. With that said, I strongly advise you mourn your ex the same way you would a family member who has died. Do your crying, make peace with it, focus on you. It will take time and work on yourself, but you will be fine.
So my situation is that i was with my partner for 15 and a half years. We broke up a little less than 2 months ago. I fell into depression etc that led to the break. I started to work on myself. New job, therapy etc. The realtionship was rocky but good. She jumped into a relationship with this new guy after around 4 weeks. They are in LDR for now. Its a long term friends and they know each other well enough. I dont know who the guy is yet as she wont divulge. She was thinking of giving me another go before this new thing but then this new thing happened and boom. Shes very happy. She says he isnt her usual type but i know little about him and she wants to commit to their relationship. Im trying to get her back and my family. But i think i have to give up. She really wants friendship and knows i cant but she does have feelings for me i believe unless im dilided. Update on this: obviously doing a lot more with my children, therapy going very well. Still miss her like nuts. She is still very much in love with new LDR guy and planning trips etc. I know this because of our brief interactions around the kids and shes just so overly happy about it all 😑 i do hope it crashes and burns but i dont think it will as shes the type to stick at something hard. Meanwhile i just keep working on me. New hobbies and friends are helping.
There is also the fact she is talking about me a lot to her rebound. I have to see her because of our kids and she does speak to me. Hes helping her get through all this turmoil lol but yeah her words. I no longer care and trying to focus on me and my kids.
Discuss your kids only with her. If she brings the rebound just say it’s none of my business and it’s not something I’m prepared to discuss. Boundaries!!!
My girlfriend got in a relationship 4 months after we broke up. It was my fault and I owned up to it and haven't heard from her since. We were together for over 2 years and spent everyday together I got severe separation anxiety because of my childhood. Is this considered a rebound? I really enjoy your videos and taking time out of your day to help people out there like me. Also everyone says breakups don't happen over night but mine really did would that make things take longer?
Hi Jon. I’m sorry to hear you’re hurting. May I ask what makes you think it’s entirely your fault? Also, how did you breakup happen overnight? A rebound isn’t really about tilt, albeit most rebounds do occur 1 to 3 months post breakup. People can rebound a year later because it’s more of an emotional state. The context of breakup and quality of your overall relationship with her will also be a factor. Right now buddy it’s best to focus on you and level up. Fix internally what you got wrong.
My Ex gf broke up with me. We've been in relationship about 3 years. She was in a rebound relationship right after a week we broke up. Now im in a No Contact for almost 40 days. Within the 2 weeks of no contact she unblock me and watch my stories all over the social media. After a month of No Contact, she suddenly stop watching my stories. She suddenly post more stories as compared previously. But i didn't watch her stories as she will noticed the viewers. So, What does that means? Is it a positive sign or maybe she is probably pissed off when im not watching her stories?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick : If social media didn't exist, I would probably not worried on this issue. But hopefully it would make some positive progress while I'm trying to improve on myself.
Hi, nice videos. What if the rebound has the same interests as you and is similar to you in some ways? But has extra qualities that the ex wishes you had.
Thanks for the question. 😊 There are times ex’s can go for a similar personality to you. It can work both ways, either going for someone the complete opposite to you or someone very similar. It’s been my experience however that the former is more likely. Either way your response should be the same. No contact, do not comment to your ex about their rebound and do not compete with the rebound. Put yourself in a position of strength and higher value by not giving any of your time and attention to it. You should always make it your business to know as little about your ex as possible. Ignorance is bliss in these cases, and you do not have the time or the energy to waste on someone who has said they do not want to be with you any longer. Focus on you, work on you, and if they come back you then have the power. Hopefully you won’t want them back because you’re so much further ahead than they are 😊
Hii I need some advice on this i believe it was monkey branching, she had this guy in the picture towards the end of our 2 year relationship, she cut all contact with me didnt talk to me, then all if a sudden she unblocked me, its been about a month shes not stating shes in a relationship with the new guy though all though im pretty sure he's still in the picture isit a rebound if she takes time with him?🤷♂️ I'm not sure of what to make of it
I’ll ask you this. Is it worth your time and effort to find out? Probably not. But to validate you, a rebound is starting a new relationship when is not emotionally ready. Only your ex will know the true answer to that, but i would say if this guys was already in the picture it’s probably a monkey branch. Dude, stay off her social media. It will just drive you crazy.
I messed up which caused the breakup I was abusing drugs and messaged another girl and had no idea about it , she found out left me of course told me how hurt she is and upset , she was all in with me would do anything then she splits up gets in to a rebound 3 weeks after with a friend of hers I’m assuming she friendzined in the past , I saw them for the first time and she drove past quickly ! She told my sister she moved on too so feel like it was to get a reaction . So confused because I love this girl I have stopped all the drugs , I’m still blocked from pushing too much . She used another friend before we were together too
That’s tough man. Firstly I hope you’re well and doing what you need to do to get healthy. I guess in this case it’s okay to send an apology message. “Hey. I know I’ve royally messed up and that’s on me. I’ve got some issues but it’s my responsibility and I’ll take care of it. I’m so sorry that I took you for granted but I do appreciate your decision to end our relationship. It would be a shame to let things end here. If you do change your mind about us, let me know” That’s it buddy. Own up to it, go fix yourself and the chips fall where they may. Stay no contact from that point on. Respect her rebound. Don’t say anything about it and don’t get involved. I hope you feel better.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks man I haven’t reacted in any way , I know there’s a lot of anger and hurt about , she was a lot more invested in the relationship now when I look back at it all . I know I gotta let her get her head straight as my friend tried talking to her when they was on holiday with families but she got really angry as I wasn’t respecting her space still . When she came back she told my sister about the guy . I’m not mentioning anything now to my family as I can’t trust what will go back to my ex . I guess I gave her no time to miss me and kept pushing I’ll disappear off the radar . I’ve apologised etc so maybe the rebound will make her see what we had plus I also think if she liked her friend in that way she would’ve been with him way before so feel it’s more of a jealousy thing and to help her over it all
I hear you. All you can do is get yourself right. You have control over that so try not to waste that. She may or may not come back. Either way, love the shit out of yourself.
She will start to miss you when she fails to replace you. Do not believe any of her BS when she reach out to you.
After I left after all these red flags, he met and married a low value woman in 3 months. It took me 9 months to heal. I’m so happy now and learned a great lesson from this relationship. Ty to the rebound for taking this low value man from my life. 😂
Ty for this very informative video.
Well done. That’s great news 😊😊
Time, gym, breakup coaching, new hobbies, volunteering, meditation, journaling, reading books, meeting new people, and so on.
UPDATE for those interested: I was devastated when she told me and I found out just 1 week later she dumped him 🤣✌🏼 So guys trust me ob that, don’t take everything your ex tells you or you see for the truth. Often they just trying to cope with the pain and tell themselves a story… rebounds never work out. It’s build on false „love“ and that NEVER works!
She told me today she‘s been with someone for 2 months now. 1 month after our break up. That’s sick. She even told me she met them when she was devastated about us and they made her feel better and that’s what she needed. She even said it’s not love or anything even close as what we had. WTF?! Why is she with someone she is not even convinced about. I assume it’s her ex from 3 years ago….. I really don’t get it.
Because she is using the rebound to make herself feel better. It will catch up with her sooner or later. Stay strong 💪
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I hope ur right 😞 She makes our relationship look like it was nothing to her…
The fact she is rebounding mostly likely means the relationship meant a great deal to her.
A rebound is the ex trying to skip the grieving process altogether.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thanks. Yes she even told me she met them when she was completely devastated and they helped her to feel better.
Then my friend, why would you want to be with such a low calibre woman? That’s the real question and that’s a reflection of you.
There are much better quality women out there.
Love this !!! 🙌🏾
Really, really strong video :) Thanks.
Thank you, I hope you’re well.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Hurting very, very badly, but have startet in therapy with a psychologist today. I'll focus on working out and try to find a place for her in my heart where she doesn't hurt so much and find peace in that. And then if one day (which I still hope, after she burns through her rebound) that she'll reach out and hopefully want to reconnect, that I have found inner strenght I had before, my attrativeness, the things you talk about that I can say with force, "Either we start immediately in therapy with a psychologist with speciality with BPD," along with others supportive structures such a strategys to deescalate the vulcanic eruption after being triggered, if "yes", then lets proceed very slowly, if "no", then goodbye and take care. That's my goal now, and who knows where I'll hopefully be in a couple of months time. Also going to focus on my history lecture at Uni in march. I'll remember to give you an update about how things went. Thanks for all the videos, they are truly a god sent. By the way, how long after did you talk with your dismissive ex? after the breakup and her rebound?
Dude. Never take anyone back if they rebounded. They belong to the streets.
Do you want to be the backup option?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick As I said, if she comes back, and IF I'm in a good place myself, then we can have a conversation and If shes ready to do the work, then I could see us trying again. A deep connection, compatibility, chemistry, etc. those things are not easy to find, establishig a genuince rapport with another person is rare and something I'm willing to work to maintain. And as I youself said so eloquently, I know that's she's running and acting on deep subconscious fears and who amongst us are perfect. 15 years ago, I left my ex, rebounded due to grass-is-green, but was a classic rebound, found out I wanted my ex. We got together and had 12 mostly very good years after that, two beautiful kids and today a really good friendship. I've never cheated since, so don't knock second chances. It depends on the situation and the person and your invesmest etc.
I wish you well man but all you’re showing her is that she can leave, mess around and come back whenever she wants. You’ll never have her respect.
Great point about validation. Love this video :)
Thank you Nikki. I’m glad you like it. Thanks for the support. 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick what if my ex is seeing someone that looks similar to me
@Rick, I try not to encourage any kind of mind reading but it could mean she’s just attracted to “your type”, or it could mean she’s subconsciously found someone who looks like you to cover her pain from the breakup, or it could mean nothing.
The important thing here is acceptance on your part. You’re no longer together and therefore you need to focus on getting yourself back and healthy.
Rebounds are typically a band aid to cover emotional pain and it catches up sooner or later.
The advantage dumpees have is that they’re forced to deal with their pain and anxiety almost straight away. So my friend work on you to the point that it’s no longer about her rebounding, but it’s about you levelling up and finding someone much better than your ex.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I already have some prospects. But I do not want a relationship Love being single
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you
We had an argument and she started chatting on dating apps the next day. She said she lost feelings for me and was dating within 4 wks. She said she loves me and misses me but its time to move on.... how can she say that and put her efforts into starting a relationship with a stranger rather than fixing our relationship?
Ex girl got married 4 month post Bu . 3.5 year relationship . Is this a rebound of what
Wow that sucks.
It’s almost certainly rebound.
And to marry 4 months after splitting with you, seems like a knee jerk reaction.
With that said, I strongly advise you mourn your ex the same way you would a family member who has died.
Do your crying, make peace with it, focus on you.
It will take time and work on yourself, but you will be fine.
So my situation is that i was with my partner for 15 and a half years. We broke up a little less than 2 months ago. I fell into depression etc that led to the break. I started to work on myself. New job, therapy etc. The realtionship was rocky but good. She jumped into a relationship with this new guy after around 4 weeks. They are in LDR for now. Its a long term friends and they know each other well enough. I dont know who the guy is yet as she wont divulge. She was thinking of giving me another go before this new thing but then this new thing happened and boom. Shes very happy. She says he isnt her usual type but i know little about him and she wants to commit to their relationship. Im trying to get her back and my family. But i think i have to give up. She really wants friendship and knows i cant but she does have feelings for me i believe unless im dilided.
Update on this: obviously doing a lot more with my children, therapy going very well. Still miss her like nuts. She is still very much in love with new LDR guy and planning trips etc. I know this because of our brief interactions around the kids and shes just so overly happy about it all 😑 i do hope it crashes and burns but i dont think it will as shes the type to stick at something hard. Meanwhile i just keep working on me. New hobbies and friends are helping.
There is also the fact she is talking about me a lot to her rebound. I have to see her because of our kids and she does speak to me. Hes helping her get through all this turmoil lol but yeah her words. I no longer care and trying to focus on me and my kids.
Don’t try to her back buddy. Get yourself back. The more you try to get her back the more you’ll push her away.
Discuss your kids only with her. If she brings the rebound just say it’s none of my business and it’s not something I’m prepared to discuss.
Boundaries!!!
Slowly getting there and cut contact to almost zero. Already sorted out scheduel for kids and such so now its full silence.
Well done buddy, you’re doing well 💪💪💪
My girlfriend got in a relationship 4 months after we broke up. It was my fault and I owned up to it and haven't heard from her since. We were together for over 2 years and spent everyday together I got severe separation anxiety because of my childhood. Is this considered a rebound? I really enjoy your videos and taking time out of your day to help people out there like me. Also everyone says breakups don't happen over night but mine really did would that make things take longer?
Hi Jon.
I’m sorry to hear you’re hurting.
May I ask what makes you think it’s entirely your fault? Also, how did you breakup happen overnight?
A rebound isn’t really about tilt, albeit most rebounds do occur 1 to 3 months post breakup.
People can rebound a year later because it’s more of an emotional state.
The context of breakup and quality of your overall relationship with her will also be a factor.
Right now buddy it’s best to focus on you and level up. Fix internally what you got wrong.
My Ex gf broke up with me. We've been in relationship about 3 years. She was in a rebound relationship right after a week we broke up. Now im in a No Contact for almost 40 days. Within the 2 weeks of no contact she unblock me and watch my stories all over the social media. After a month of No Contact, she suddenly stop watching my stories. She suddenly post more stories as compared previously. But i didn't watch her stories as she will noticed the viewers. So, What does that means? Is it a positive sign or maybe she is probably pissed off when im not watching her stories?
Let me ask you this. If social media didn’t exist, would this be an issue?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick : If social media didn't exist, I would probably not worried on this issue. But hopefully it would make some positive progress while I'm trying to improve on myself.
Try deleting your socials for a while. It’ll change your life.
I flipped the script. I divorced my ex and moved on with my life.
M a dumpee… should I block him in watsapp n phone calls.
I don’t think it’s necessary. Unless you want him to leave you alone and he keeps contacting you, then blocking him would be necessary.
Hi, nice videos. What if the rebound has the same interests as you and is similar to you in some ways? But has extra qualities that the ex wishes you had.
Thanks for the question. 😊
There are times ex’s can go for a similar personality to you. It can work both ways, either going for someone the complete opposite to you or someone very similar. It’s been my experience however that the former is more likely.
Either way your response should be the same. No contact, do not comment to your ex about their rebound and do not compete with the rebound.
Put yourself in a position of strength and higher value by not giving any of your time and attention to it.
You should always make it your business to know as little about your ex as possible. Ignorance is bliss in these cases, and you do not have the time or the energy to waste on someone who has said they do not want to be with you any longer.
Focus on you, work on you, and if they come back you then have the power. Hopefully you won’t want them back because you’re so much further ahead than they are 😊
Hii I need some advice on this i believe it was monkey branching, she had this guy in the picture towards the end of our 2 year relationship, she cut all contact with me didnt talk to me, then all if a sudden she unblocked me, its been about a month shes not stating shes in a relationship with the new guy though all though im pretty sure he's still in the picture isit a rebound if she takes time with him?🤷♂️ I'm not sure of what to make of it
I’ll ask you this. Is it worth your time and effort to find out? Probably not. But to validate you, a rebound is starting a new relationship when is not emotionally ready. Only your ex will know the true answer to that, but i would say if this guys was already in the picture it’s probably a monkey branch. Dude, stay off her social media. It will just drive you crazy.
I did better. I divorced my ex husband.
I messed up which caused the breakup I was abusing drugs and messaged another girl and had no idea about it , she found out left me of course told me how hurt she is and upset , she was all in with me would do anything then she splits up gets in to a rebound 3 weeks after with a friend of hers I’m assuming she friendzined in the past , I saw them for the first time and she drove past quickly ! She told my sister she moved on too so feel like it was to get a reaction . So confused because I love this girl I have stopped all the drugs , I’m still blocked from pushing too much . She used another friend before we were together too
That’s tough man.
Firstly I hope you’re well and doing what you need to do to get healthy.
I guess in this case it’s okay to send an apology message.
“Hey. I know I’ve royally messed up and that’s on me. I’ve got some issues but it’s my responsibility and I’ll take care of it. I’m so sorry that I took you for granted but I do appreciate your decision to end our relationship. It would be a shame to let things end here. If you do change your mind about us, let me know”
That’s it buddy. Own up to it, go fix yourself and the chips fall where they may.
Stay no contact from that point on.
Respect her rebound. Don’t say anything about it and don’t get involved.
I hope you feel better.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks man I haven’t reacted in any way , I know there’s a lot of anger and hurt about , she was a lot more invested in the relationship now when I look back at it all . I know I gotta let her get her head straight as my friend tried talking to her when they was on holiday with families but she got really angry as I wasn’t respecting her space still . When she came back she told my sister about the guy . I’m not mentioning anything now to my family as I can’t trust what will go back to my ex . I guess I gave her no time to miss me and kept pushing I’ll disappear off the radar . I’ve apologised etc so maybe the rebound will make her see what we had plus I also think if she liked her friend in that way she would’ve been with him way before so feel it’s more of a jealousy thing and to help her over it all
I hear you.
All you can do is get yourself right. You have control over that so try not to waste that.
She may or may not come back. Either way, love the shit out of yourself.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick think the best thing to do is no contact and let her calm down and give her a chance to feel the absence?
Yes, but work on yourself buddy. That’s the most important thing.
No contact is to get you back. 😊