tometo souce And I finally grasped the concept of going out with friends (I'm bit of a introvert, that also doesn't live in suburbia, or the city), man i feel that my biggest enemy today is the PRC, like the millennials had the 2008 recession, while me turning 18 last year get this absolute BS, the economy of the world barely holding on and many people around the world dying, i think we Zoomers, are going to be Stagnators, or even Collapsers, I'm big enough of a History Nerd to know what happens next...
i'm supposed to be moving across the country for school starting in September... lets hope this all dies down by then so i can actually get out of my comfort zone and grow
Also quick thing. Don't look for perfection at first try. I can't stress this enough. A lot of times when we approach something we look for perfection at the first try and a lot of times we don't even try those things because we feel we will fuck it up. Chances are you will fuck it up and it's fine. We've all been there. Do many things and fail at those things and fix your mistakes cause you will acquire more skills than those who don't attempt it.
1. Take responsibility for yourself 0:46 2. Confidence builds by doing 2:07 3. Document more 3:35 4. Use moisturiser 6:11 5. Go on more dates 7:22 6. Travel now 9:31
There's even someone out there for you who thinks the same of themselves. Just live it. You will regret it more not trying than doing it and screwing it up.
I was broke and that didn't prevent me from going couchsurfing, hitchhiking, figuring out how to make money while travelling, making new experiences etc, that's not an excuse. And "ugly", seriously?
That hilarious moment when is midnight, you've just turned 20 and this is is the first thing that appears in your youtube recommendations.. After a year edit: Happy Birthday everyone!!
Disagreed. No person is "negative" per se. There is always more to a character, there are reasons behind behaviour and different subjective perspectives to everything. As long as you're not hurt by encountering those people and as long as you can come up with the energy to deal with them, it can be very fulfilling to help them. Because in the end, that's what they need most of the time (at least in my personal experience). There are very few people that enjoy being negative when being honest with themselves.
nice guys dont get girls, I am 25 and a nice guy, and nobody wants a nice guy with interesting hobbies and interests. I actually have no idea what girls want from guys, BEEF'd up muscles? being jerks? cos I suck at both
Things i wish i had started doing earlier (i'm 25) 1. Reading at least 10 pages x day of a great book. (May not sound like alot but just do the math and see how many books you could be reading in a year). 2. Exercise at least 5 - 10 minutes every day (Same principle. Several ppl tries to do huge exercise routines that they can't keep up with. Keep it simple and easy but steady) 3. Meditate (I used to laugh of ppl doing meditation until i really tried it and found my inner self. This is hard to explain so just give it a try and you'll experience what i mean) 4. Cut distractions (NetFlix, Excessive amount of hours playing online games, Phone and social media) 5. Devote at least 90 minutes of conscious hard work x day to my craft (profession) 6. Be a student at least for 60 minutes a day. (it can be anything... a book, a podcast, a youtube video from one of your mentors) 7. Be grateful for the things that i already have and those that i'm in the process of manifesting. Gratefulness is very powerfull! 8. Waking up early at least from Monday to Friday (5 am) --> There's magic and alot of room for self development in the early hours of the day (while everyone else is sleeping) 9. Understanding that will power is a muscle. So you need to exercise every single day by taking action . 10. When you feel like you don't really want to do something that you should do (wathever it is) is definitely the best time to do it (builds will power)
It's amazing how you described these 10 things. I would say the same and add started a youtube channel just uploading once a week. It would be something huge after a couple of years
I just turned 21 and this was really nice to hear, I’ve been feeling bad about myself that I let my depression and mental health destroy all my love and passions, if I could talk to my 16 year old self I would tell myself please do not give up on photography, piano, writing poetry, RUclips ideas, and anything else you love because now I do regret not starting but I also know that the more I focus on what I gave up because of my struggles I’ll never have the courage to start again, so to myself and anyone who reads this, please know it is never too late to do something you love, you are on your OWN timeline for a reason and the way society makes us feel so rushed and compared to one another is unrealistic and damaging, you’re where you’re at no matter what you have or HAVEN’T done yet for a reason and it’s OKAY. We won’t regret when we started what we love, we will regret that we gave up
1. DON'T SMOKE 2. Your opinión about yourself is the only one that matters so work hard on accepting yourself. 3. Be present in the beautiful moments 5. Put limits to your phone 6. Allow yourself to love more
*#1 thing to know in 20's is that everything worthwhile, takes time to build, achieve, attain and master.* Take your time to figure out what you love and don't be rushed by societal pressure.
Another important thing: Never regret anything. No matter how small or how big it is. People really don't know how much time and energy it eats up from your life.
YES turn that feeling of regret into processing it and learning something new about yourself or life . Not I regret doing this but now I know I shouldn't do this
Disagree. There are some things you should regret, and use them as guideposts for what you should do in the future. Like if you wanted to talk to that cute girl at the mall, but didn't. You should feel that regret. So when the next opportunity arises, you'd dare not miss it. Lest you should have to feel that pain of regret all over again.
@@invaderz1919 what I meant was to take the lesson from your mistake, keep it with you, and leave the regret behind. In the end, you shouldn't compulsively ask yourself why you did or didn't do something. Just come to terms with it and believe in yourself that you wouldn't let that happen again.
1. Show those you love, that you love them. 2. Stop comparing your life to others . 3. Plan for the Future, but Enjoy the Present. Really..don't let not having money stand in your way.
Things I wish I knew when I was 20: - don’t wait for your parents’ approval to do the things you love - take a chance on yourself because the path you want to take might not look the same as someone else doing what you want to do - i’ve got a sh*t ton of limiting beliefs about money and it’s better I look at it 20 - don’t take myself too seriously and enjoy the creative process of getting to know myself and my purpose - get rid of the sentence “when I achieve X, then I’ll be happy”
Things I wish I knew: 1) Don't spend more than you earn. 2) Make time for your friends 3) Don't settle with someone, just because it's been this way for a while. 4) Seek out your friends and family for advice. 5) Invest time and money into the thing(s) that you truly care about.
@@klutz3955 I was in a relationship that gradually turned toxic the older we got, but because we were together for years I wasn't confident enough in myself to just end it. I missed out on so much because I put too my wasted time and energy into someone that didn't make me happy anymore, and hadn't done for a long time no matter how much we tried to fix the problems we had. Ev
"Confidence builds by doing" - As someone who overthinks himself into being paralyzed and unable to just take action so often, this is so true. The simple act of getting started almost always turns into a snowball effect of confidence and motivation.
*Six Things I Knew At 20* 1. Take Responsibility 0:47 2. Confidence Builds By Doing 2:09 3. Document More 3:36 4. Use Moisturizer 6:11 5. Go On More Dates 7:23 6. Travel Now 9:32
1. Take responsibility 2. Confidence builds by doing 3. Document more 4. Go on more dates 5. Travel now 6. Use moisturizer EDIT: I'm not discouraging you to watch the whole video, I just needed to write the 6 points down :D
Things i'm learning in my 20s: -Take risks NOW -Take these years as a training for the game of life, don't be hard on yourself - Don't accept the reality you've been sold, you can get out of the box
1. Taking responsibility. (0:46) 2. Confidence builds by doing. (2:08) 3. Document more. (3:36) 4. Use Moisturiser. (6:12) 5. Go on more dates. ( 7:21) 6. Travel now. (9:32)
Now, I'm on my 20s. And I have accumulated these lessons for myself: 1. Develop your curiosity 2. Less is more (that's why I love minimalism) 3. Invest in your mind 4. Whatever you're doing (hate it or love it), do your best.
Things I wish I knew when I was 20 1. Spend quality time with family, as you never know when they will be taken away from you. 2. Start good habits such as meditation and working out. 3. Girls aren't everything. 4. Materialist items aren't everything. 5. Don't take anything for granted.
Skinny_Cam. 1.Parents are so hard to have a relationship with... atm 2. Meditation is amazing but for working out, I’m too self conscious and am too lazy to get to a gym 3. Don’t have the courage yet too get rid of social awkwardness and anxiety 4. Don’t have a job because I don’t have the courage to try get hired 5. I’ll try to be grateful. My (hopefully) Honest replies to these, Hope you don’t cringe too hard.
@@nameisrango hey, I'm 19 too, trying to improve myself everyday, I read books, I work out and meditate, I found myself a job, I'm also trying to spend more time with my mom , best of luck to you y'all❤
Fuck no. You're young as fuck and got loads of time to figure it out to make it better. In 20 years you'll be so glad you didn't take the way out and instead built a meaningful life. Seek professional help if needed, that investment (both time and money) will be worth it if it gets your mental state up!
@MaskSo James I understand the frustration. I'm 32 and I'm still frustrated about my success not being what I hoped for. Financially I'm doing really ok though, maybe human nature makes us too hard on ourselves. There's always someone above you to compare one's self to. The trick is to be content with less. I don't know how to do that though :D
@K. Gábor I'm trying in a way. I do a daily journal of day's successes, thing I felt happy about and failures before I go to sleep. Quite a few times by forcing myself to think I've realized that the day has been better than I felt about it during.
@@AMR-zo5ut that's quite true. There's always the next level. One can try to bullshit themselves and say that the next level is where I'll be content, but if it's too hard to stop leveling up now, why would it be easier on the next level..
Things I wish I knew when I was 20 * happiness is a choice that you make * Meditating 5-10 minutes a day drastically everyday decreases anxiety * Pursue whatever passion intrigues you * your posture and body language determine and influence your mood
As someone with severe depression and anxiety who recently started taking proper medication for it I don't find the first one to be true. You can do steps towards it and practice positive thinking but you don't know what life can throw at you. I can't truly feel happiness but at least I'm not in a dark place either thanks to my anti-depressants, it's just neutral and I'm fine with that.
1) be grateful for the mundane. After you've been through it, being "just ok" can be really, really good 2) don't compare your circumstances to others 3) use every drop of your "young" energy/drive 4) but have a routine/ritual for self care 5) some people are only meant to be a part of your life for a certain duration, don't hold on too tightly (still learning that one)
1. Taking responsibility 2. Confidence builds by doing 3. Document more 4. Use moisturiser - good skincare routine 5. Go on more dates 6. Travel now Watch the video anyway. Was very helpful
I'm in my early 20s and one thing I would advise is while you may not be chasing your passions, be passionate about what you chase. Thanks for the video, Matt!
@@Classic_literature I think he kind of means, your trajectory is the same as your friends. If you don't like where you are, look to see if you respect where your friends are too. You can learn a lot from how similar your life choices are to your friends and if you feel unfulfilled you might find that the things you want from your future might not be the same as those you spend time with. This can lead to a lot of unhappiness.
I've always been the closest friends with cats, although I'd get really depressed from time to time (due to the people around me in general), I'd get my self confidence back on track perfectly. It's a bit tough for someone who literally has no one to talk to about their emotions. Yet I do it. Trust me, cats taught me the subtle art of not giving a f.
I'm currently 19 and am continuously sabotaging myself with self- doubts about my future and what I'd like to do. But your videos provide some guidance. Thank you Matt!
*Ey ey ey* You're both good bois. You'll become better bois one day. But every boi does. So start slow, do a little a day. Start a new small habit boi. Like doing your bed every morning. It's not always going to be an easy boi, but you're a good boi. Everyone starts as young dumb bois, some more and some less. But that's variation boi. You have the power of most of your life ahead of you. A lot of people realize this when they have less life ahead of them. To conclude, be the good bois you were always going to be.
I just 20, I struggle with the same issues though I’m trying to fight it. There was a quote in To Kill A mockingbird where it said and I’m paraphrasing courage is doing something even if you know you will fail, but you see it through. Nothing that you truly want in life will be handed to you, so just try. Day by day.
Everyone is saying they are “poor” to travel. Change that mindset. Be positive, don’t ever say you’re poor even when money is limited. A little adventure in your backyard, town, or down the road is ok!! Also, save some money and plan a small trip with a significant one (a friend, a love one, or a family member) and meet new places. You won’t regret it.
Being poor is a mindset and lasts forever... Being broke is temporary. Just because your money is limited now doesn't mean your poor, however if you see yourself as poor and see success and riches as impossible because you don't have the resorces than in that case, yes your poor. I highly recommend reading rich dad poor dad it will change your mindset.
I turned 20 today, and this legend uploaded a video about what to do at the age of 20, thank you for uploading this video, Matt. Honestly, you've helped me change so much. Love from India! :D
as a 20 year old watching this, some of the things you said really make me think deeper about my life and where i am now. so much respect for you and what you do, matt! don't ever stop doing what you do. your filmmaking is inspiring.
Top 5 things I've learned and practice since I was 20 (I'm 27 now): 1. Reliability 2. Accountability 3. Responsibility 4. Financial awareness 5. Getting over my fear of answering the phone/emails (still have to put effort into that one).
@@Michellemccoolrocks9 I am currently in the process of closing a deal for my internship, and sometimes I find myself denying to open up a mail (from them) because I feel like it's gonna be some bad news about it. This feeling comes from a certain point in the past, but I haven't figured it out completely yet.
1. Don’t buy stuff that you’re not gonna use in a year or 10 years 2. Don’t split your focus on more than 1-2 ventures 3. Think about 2nd and 3rd order consequences 4. Invest in stocks extra money instead of investing them on drugs, alcohol and cigarettes 5. Track your habits P.s. I tried a lot of shit(drugs,girls) traveled to 24 counties by hitchhiking and all of that when I was 18-20 I am so glad that I did all of that stupid shit and didn’t die and I have all of that documented on my Instagram which I don’t use lol. Now I just work on my self, improving my job skills, read books, eat healthy and workout everyday, plan my days and stay very minimalistic
Would you recommend doing drugs and girls to a person in early 20s ? what was your experience with these things?.....are these things just a waste if time and we should just focus on improving ourselves?
I'm 21. I'm a quite introverted person and growing up I never really liked changing/trying new things, but from being in college and some significant life-changing events happened the last couple of years, I really feel the "Confidence builds by doing" segment of the video, you gotta get out of your comfort zone, to truly experience and learn, whether it's school or dating, just don't stick with one routine just because it's comfortable/has been working for you, you never know what else is out there, so never stop trying
Things I wish I knew before I was 20 1 - If I want to make others smile, I have to learn to genuinely smile first 2 - If I want to find love, I have to learn how to love myself first, no matter how long it takes. Having huge insecurities while in a relationship could possibly drag the other person down, or others around you (not your SO) 3 - I deserve my own love more than anyone else 4 - Everyone has different goals in life, some goals require different steps than the norm, and that's completely okay (example is whether going to college may be a good idea or not) 5 - I like to imagine my insecurities are a separate entity, and me and this entity are in a boxing rink. I need to beat this person up, I have to win, I feel like shit if I lose. But if I lose it's fine, because I can meet that person again and kick their ass later 6 - When I feel like crying, just take many deep breaths, doesn't work always for me but it's cool I guess. Although crying is never wrong, sometimes I just prefer to hold it in EDIT: About #2, I still believe what I say, but I also agree with Ruby Rootless, both options are fine. I know we will always have insecurities no matter what, so it's totally cool if you get help, keep it a good healthy balance between getting help from friends and solving your own problems
People say that a lot - "love yourself before you're loved by someone else". Yes, it can drag the other person down, but the point is that you need to know how to process your own thoughts if you're not comfortable with yourself. Self-reflection can make up for a lack of self-love. It's a problem if you just lash out at your person because of yohr insecurities, but if you're able to comprehend you you feel a certain way and then tell your partner calmly after you had some time to think, what's the matter?
Hmmm thanks for this Matt; it reminded me of a lot of past memories I've glazed over now. Here's my list: 1) Find your community. That club? That soririty? That frat you were so worried about joining? JOIN IT. Your future friends and future self will thank you. 2) Ask for help. Seek that guidance counselor, use the psych counseling resources on campus, there is nothing worse than isolating yourself in your apartment thinking you can't do shit when really you very much can. 3) Keep learning, keep asking questions. Yes, the classes you attend are huge and intimidating but 9 times out of 10 there's another student waiting for an answer for your question or a teacher waiting for a student to help them teach you better. 4) Find one creative hobby to exercise besides cooking/baking. Food is great but not when you consume it at your emotional convenience. You've always loved music singing, and writing, but maybe instead find a hobby which guarantees you will make time to destress (aka find a friend to keep you accountable). 5) Document your experiences, mundane or not. Your memory will falter and only get worse with your depression, so take the time to write down all the small things that made you happy or made you feel accomplished (again, your future self will thank you). 6) Tell your parents more about yourself. They'll ask you questions about your grades and how you're doing in class but don't let those things define you. Yes doing well in school is important but so is growing as a person. Whether this is gaining a new skill set, being more invested in social/political issues around you or being more aware of your emotions, don't be afraid to speak up. Don't let your parents say "I hardly know you". LET THEM SEE YOU. Whoo hoo this was fun! Definitely writing this down and pinning it for a reminder on days I forget to do these things.
@@artemmartus4253 maybe that's something to ask yourself. Personally, me distancing myself from my parents caused unecessary stress in university and isolating behaviors in my social life. I didn't feel like I knew myself emotionally or socially because I associated my value with good grades. So when my grades tanked....well so did my confidence and self-worth
"I ended a long term relationship at 20 and never went on a date for 5 years which was the longest" me sitting here being 19 and never going on a date O_o
I think it is not the most important thing to go on dates. First of all it is quite stressing. And secondly, you meet the best people always accidentally. After my ex-bf ended our relationship I was going desperately on dates. But I met my current bf while playing pokemon go and this was way more fun and relaxing. So I would say, dont feel bad, if you dont go on dates.
Things I'm learning a week away from being 20: -It's okay to say no, it's your life and you get to choose what you're okay with. - just because you're sad doesn't mean you're sick or broken, you have to eat right, drink water, sleep, socialise, exercise and meet your other personal needs first. - Try to make the most out of your money, sometimes spending all your money on partying is just not worth it. -There's always tomorrow, a bad day doesn't have to be a bad week :) -Rediscovering things you loved as a child is so important -EXPLORE
Holy crap, Matt! Best day ever : woke up, got ready, opened up RUclips, and Matt uploads a video!!! Matt, can you do a video on finding meaning in your life ?????
I'm 19 but then I thought: What if I write a book about "things I wish to know when I am 19"... And then, next year to write another book about all the things I wanted to do and I did in that short-term last year.... Idk, would somebody read those books? what do you think? it just came to my mind.
Things I wish I knew at 20: 1. Do more self-help and development 2. Spend less time on dating 3. Be patient and don’t try to master everything 4. Read more books 5. Document my thoughts more often 6. Explore more unconventional paths
Love this!!! Thanks for sharing! Almost 30 and I would agree with all of your points. Also would add: Don’t live in fear of what others might or do think of you. It doesn’t matter. Your happiness is much more important than the opinions of others!
Yes. I think I have a serious problem. I overthink everything and always feel stupid about something I did or didn't say or do, I even begin to stumble over my words
i don't actually have fear. but i'm too lazy to socialize. it's easier to make friends (and i've many friends or semi-friends...) than keep them. i figure i'm just a loner. :(
@@yihsiao_47426 no dont think like that, join a club in college become part of the eboard of that club. You will start spending more time with other people. Get to know them, treat them the way you want to be treated. You will realize how close youre getting to them. Then start hanging out every week, go to restaurants, watch movies, play some sports together! Hope this helps, cause i was also in your position a few years ago when i was in high school. I didnt have an actual group of friends and i hated that cause i was shy, i missed out on so much. Thats never happening again, try practicing affirmations, it will take time but still keep repeating them whenever you can!
There are SO. MANY. THINGS. I wish I knew at 20 but one thing I do know now at 37 is to not have any regrets about my past, that I did the best I could with with what I did know, I made the decisions I did with the info I had at the time and that I can't go back and change the past but I can start to make a better future right here, right now, today. Thanks Matt for all that you are and for having the courage to share.
Go somewhere in your city you've never been champ. Walk there, borrow a tent from a friend or relative. The only thing between you and your goals are your excuses. Get creative.
Go to a cafe you've never been to. Go to a small restaurant in your town that you've never been to. Just go somewhere new in your home town, a new corner you haven't explored yet, and just take in the atmosphere.
@@taylorbritt499 I like that, it's so true, I've felt a bit down in the dumps at times and went to Brighton for the day (about an hour from me) and hadn't been in years. And it really helped get that travel vibe. Because that's all you're really doing when you travel, as you say, taking in the atmosphere.
@@jambononi thanks! That's awesome, I'm glad you were able to have that experience :) I go to college in a fairly big town and anytime I get to go to a new area of town, I get so excited. It's fun exploring new places!
I’m still 23, but I’ve already noticed a pattern of worrying too much about the future so I’m *trying* to meditate and stay in the present as much as possible 🤗 Thanks for the great video, Matt!
This video was insightful and I enjoyed the concept! I’m about to turn 20, so I can speak on my life thus far. 1) being emotional is a gift, don’t feel shame for feeling. 2) do it, try new things. Don’t wait, you will back down. 3) your worth does not come from pleasing other people and achieving things. 4) your future is not predictable, you can’t plan it. You can face the future with courage and gratitude. You don’t know what the next minute holds.
Things i wish i knew in my 20s (I'm 27): 1. College is not equal success 2. Start working on small goals and build small companies 3. Go out more and network more 4. Try as many different things as possible not just your passion 5. Take more risk in business 6. High gpa is not equal success or better job. 7. Don't workout for 2 hours every day is you're not going to be a fitness influencer or bodybuilder. 8. Travel and take your family with you
I’m 19 this year, and I keep coming back to this video to remind myself of the things you say in it. Each time, I realise I’ve been neglecting at least 1 of the 6 things on this list. Thanks, Matt. You’ve made a world of difference in my life.
Thank you Matt, i'm actually 26 yo, so i'm planning to go to Canada to become a real estate agent, i'm french and it's the project of my Life, your podcasts help me a lot to get confidence and strenght. I'm actually passing my diploma and then here i go for a new beginning in a new country !
-"confidence builds by doing." That really hit home. Don't get paralysis by analysis guys, there's so much information out there on what you could be doing to better your life and stuff like that. But when you actually START doing it, you'll realize you had it in the first place, I just think its a problem that goes un-noticed. Great content man, you've got yourself a sub!
1. 'Stay calm and confident' is my life motto which I wish I embraced in many many years ago; no reason for panic, things will work out and if not, there's probably nothing you can do about it now... worrying sure isn't going to help. Embrace whatever's coming. Chin up! 2. Can't ask more of yourself than doing your best; I mean, hey, atleast you've been trying to the best of your ability (don't measure yourself with others) 3. Time is about the only constant in life, whatever happens... the sun will rise again and you'll get over stuff that you're dealing with right now
Thanks! I guess I could at another 3 then! 4. Don't assume the worst of people. You'd especially be surprised how understanding and supportive people close to you are. Trust them. Which leads to... 5. Be honest, open and own it. Don't construct webs of mad lies (a little white lie can be a good thing sometimes however), it will catch up to you 6. Try new things. I've seen the movie 'Yes Man' (w/ Jim Carrey) once and following I tried to say 'yes' to everything for a day and ultimately ended up at an epic party I got invited to by strangers. We don't like to go out of our comfort zones. Why get up and do something, when you can Netflix and chill from the comfort of your couch? But you've got to live a little! Meet new people, experience new things, be open to new oppertunities that come your way. It's a much richer and fulfilling way to live. Being dismissive of change because it's easier is like opting for fast food. It's comforting and shortly satisfying, but it's not really sustainable and healthy long-term. Don't live to regret, live to live!
@@Gnnesh Saying you do not need a degree is such a fad that is bullshit lazy ppl make to make themselves feel better. Try getting a good job without a degree and lmk.
What I learned is contradictory to his: Don't date too many girls. Ugly relationship can ruin you life. You can have a good relationship when you're already happy and content.
Yes, it's not about the date I think. More like socialize more, and learn what's best for you Even with the good people, doesn't mean we'll make good relationship
Maybe a bit of a nuance, but I'm not sure that 'dating girls' and 'going on dates' are the same thing, you can just go on a date with a girl without 'dating' them. Like Ghina says, it's more about meeting new people and expanding your horizons
Matt: Travel.
Covid-19: No.
xdd I felt like travelling only after lockdown started
tometo souce And I finally grasped the concept of going out with friends (I'm bit of a introvert, that also doesn't live in suburbia, or the city), man i feel that my biggest enemy today is the PRC, like the millennials had the 2008 recession, while me turning 18 last year get this absolute BS, the economy of the world barely holding on and many people around the world dying, i think we Zoomers, are going to be Stagnators, or even Collapsers, I'm big enough of a History Nerd to know what happens next...
i'm supposed to be moving across the country for school starting in September... lets hope this all dies down by then so i can actually get out of my comfort zone and grow
A good time to learn to ascend into the heavens
WISE SERPENT I think i like Earth just fine, at the moment.
Still only being 17 and having all these wise people to learn from is sure as hell nice.
Thanks, Matt.
Dont blink or you will miss it. Just like I did.
This is what I exactly wanted to comment. Guess I'm not the only one!
Same here, I am so grateful for it
Also quick thing. Don't look for perfection at first try. I can't stress this enough. A lot of times when we approach something we look for perfection at the first try and a lot of times we don't even try those things because we feel we will fuck it up. Chances are you will fuck it up and it's fine. We've all been there. Do many things and fail at those things and fix your mistakes cause you will acquire more skills than those who don't attempt it.
Yeah,me too 17 broda
Matt: “i hadn’t gone on a date in FIVE years”
Me: *hasn’t been on a date in 19 years*
lol
20 and single since birth
Same
26 and still no date 😅
@@LD1E60 well I'm 19 and 3 years of LDR means no dates for me... at least not until 2021
1. Take responsibility for yourself 0:46
2. Confidence builds by doing 2:07
3. Document more 3:35
4. Use moisturiser 6:11
5. Go on more dates 7:22
6. Travel now 9:31
Thanks!
Things I wish I knew:
1. Do what makes your soul happy.
2. Dont force relationships/friendships.
3. Stop buying things only to impress other people.
That third point reminds me of Fight Club
God damnit yes
The third one i followed when I was 12. The second one I followed when I 15.
1 & 2
A good list
“Go on more dates”
“Travel more”
Bold of you to assume I’m not ugly and broke.
Relatable
lmao
There's even someone out there for you who thinks the same of themselves. Just live it. You will regret it more not trying than doing it and screwing it up.
I was broke and that didn't prevent me from going couchsurfing, hitchhiking, figuring out how to make money while travelling, making new experiences etc, that's not an excuse. And "ugly", seriously?
lol
Two things I wish I knew when I was 20: mental health is just as important as physical health and it’s okay to ask for help
furly6321 true as fuck. Never thought mental health was a big deal till mine when down the drain lol. I’m getting better though
True
Never realized that before now. How to get better if you burned out? What are some steps that you did?
ok good i’m 14 and physical, mentally, and spiritually in tune
Agree
That hilarious moment when is midnight, you've just turned 20 and this is is the first thing that appears in your youtube recommendations..
After a year edit: Happy Birthday everyone!!
RUclips be sus.
Good luck!
The same, man))
Today is my 20th birthday and this is what RUclips gave me 😂😂
Atotwe Mpetemoya happy birthday then)
the world is so lucky to have this man
JaySteelGuitar Well said
Super Lucky!
agreed
@@slimjim4773 how's this relevant ?
@@slimjim4773 But Earth is oval though, not flat.
Things I wish I knew when I was 20
Stay away from negative people and don't try to change them!
@Slimjay you god dem right that's what i been thought just time and u become like them
I would definitely advise myself to be more persistent with everything.
What if they are family and you are 18?
@@periteu my same predicament. my way is to move out as soon as possible while trying to be as kind as possible.
Disagreed. No person is "negative" per se. There is always more to a character, there are reasons behind behaviour and different subjective perspectives to everything.
As long as you're not hurt by encountering those people and as long as you can come up with the energy to deal with them, it can be very fulfilling to help them. Because in the end, that's what they need most of the time (at least in my personal experience). There are very few people that enjoy being negative when being honest with themselves.
1.4M subs... unreal dude. So happy to see quality channels getting the recognition they deserve. Keep doing your thing my dude!
He deserves every single one of them, and much more!
It makes me a little sad (and very respectful!) that he doesn't have Adsense on!
Oh ma gah. I didn't even see how much his sub count has grown
" 6 Things I Wish I Knew at 20 "
*sweats in 27*
😂😂😂
I don't know why but i laughed so hard on this comment😂😂
He’s so proud of his opening joke 😂 that lil’ smirk
Emily French lol I laughed pretty hard 😂
Ik, I was scared. I thought he was going to get political 😂.
In fairness, we all laughed too right? 😂
1. Develop good hobbies.
2. Make friendships last. Work on good friendships.
3. Don’t be rude. Being nice is cool.
Number 3 is definitely underrated
@@trishzed3791 I agree, sometimes being an asshole with stupid people is cool jajajajajaaja
Being nice all the time is not a good idea
nice guys dont get girls, I am 25 and a nice guy, and nobody wants a nice guy with interesting hobbies and interests. I actually have no idea what girls want from guys, BEEF'd up muscles? being jerks? cos I suck at both
imicca
Just meet more girls. Stop blaming yourself.
Ed Gepixel where can i meet them?
I'm 18 and I'm so glad that I stepped accidentally with your channel 3 months ago. Thank you for your advice and thanks for existing
Zuru__ me too I am 18 too and I step across this channel about months 8 ago. He is awesome 👏
Exactly..thanks for existing 😊
same
Im already 18 😍✋
Same
Things i wish i had started doing earlier (i'm 25)
1. Reading at least 10 pages x day of a great book. (May not sound like alot but just do the math and see how many books you could be reading in a year).
2. Exercise at least 5 - 10 minutes every day (Same principle. Several ppl tries to do huge exercise routines that they can't keep up with. Keep it simple and easy but steady)
3. Meditate (I used to laugh of ppl doing meditation until i really tried it and found my inner self. This is hard to explain so just give it a try and you'll experience what i mean)
4. Cut distractions (NetFlix, Excessive amount of hours playing online games, Phone and social media)
5. Devote at least 90 minutes of conscious hard work x day to my craft (profession)
6. Be a student at least for 60 minutes a day. (it can be anything... a book, a podcast, a youtube video from one of your mentors)
7. Be grateful for the things that i already have and those that i'm in the process of manifesting. Gratefulness is very powerfull!
8. Waking up early at least from Monday to Friday (5 am) --> There's magic and alot of room for self development in the early hours of the day (while everyone else is sleeping)
9. Understanding that will power is a muscle. So you need to exercise every single day by taking action .
10. When you feel like you don't really want to do something that you should do (wathever it is) is definitely the best time to do it (builds will power)
Underrated
THANKS SO MUCH MAN IM 12 SO ITS GOOD TO HEAR THESE THINGS NOW
It's amazing how you described these 10 things. I would say the same and add started a youtube channel just uploading once a week. It would be something huge after a couple of years
I just turned 21 and this was really nice to hear, I’ve been feeling bad about myself that I let my depression and mental health destroy all my love and passions, if I could talk to my 16 year old self I would tell myself please do not give up on photography, piano, writing poetry, RUclips ideas, and anything else you love because now I do regret not starting but I also know that the more I focus on what I gave up because of my struggles I’ll never have the courage to start again, so to myself and anyone who reads this, please know it is never too late to do something you love, you are on your OWN timeline for a reason and the way society makes us feel so rushed and compared to one another is unrealistic and damaging, you’re where you’re at no matter what you have or HAVEN’T done yet for a reason and it’s OKAY. We won’t regret when we started what we love, we will regret that we gave up
i wish i can save this.. can u like my comment
Things I Wish I Knew at 20
1. Matt
This comment 🥰
2) Matt's biceps
I am so glad I knew about Matt's channel earlier this year and I'm just 19. Things could never get better than this. We're so lucky to have Matt..
2. Nathaniel Drew
3. Kraig Adams
Agreed.
1- take responsibilities
2- confidence builds by doing
3- document more
4- use moisturizer
5- go on more dates
6- travel now
Thanks!
8. Grow a man bun
Thank you
thank you!
9. Subscribe and Hit that bell icon
I'm glad I failed early on in life. Sometimes you have to struggle now if you want to be great in the future.
Eric Stanley Violin wise words
Eric Stanley Violin what do you do when your success can also be considered a failure?
@@ItsWhoIAmItsHowILive the same thing you would do if it was a regular failure. Start again
Thank you Eric.
Very interesting
1. DON'T SMOKE
2. Your opinión about yourself is the only one that matters so work hard on accepting yourself.
3. Be present in the beautiful moments
5. Put limits to your phone
6. Allow yourself to love more
AndréSuzarte allow yourself to love more despite the fear of rejection or getting your heart broken?
@@kaoi6871 but you have to eventually untill you find the one
MaLeK yeaah
❤️❤️❤️❤️
4. Take math classes
I can't believe this included a skin care routine; amazing
I'm 20 now and i have never clicked so fast on a notification from youtube 😂
One hundred percent!
Same here, I’m 19.
I'm 18 and same
Same
same
*#1 thing to know in 20's is that everything worthwhile, takes time to build, achieve, attain and master.*
Take your time to figure out what you love and don't be rushed by societal pressure.
First time i find your comment relatable.. thank you !
But still I'll say your most of the comments sucks.
best one! thank you!
Thanks bro!
Thank you. This was really uplifting.
That's so nicely said 💕
Thank you
I am 17 and tend to put a lot of pressure on myself, what you said is what I have to learn first 😊
Another important thing: Never regret anything. No matter how small or how big it is. People really don't know how much time and energy it eats up from your life.
YES turn that feeling of regret into processing it and learning something new about yourself or life . Not I regret doing this but now I know I shouldn't do this
Gagan so what if u kill someone out of impulsive anger for no good reason, would u say u would not regret that?
Disagree. There are some things you should regret, and use them as guideposts for what you should do in the future. Like if you wanted to talk to that cute girl at the mall, but didn't. You should feel that regret. So when the next opportunity arises, you'd dare not miss it. Lest you should have to feel that pain of regret all over again.
Invader Z exactly
@@invaderz1919 what I meant was to take the lesson from your mistake, keep it with you, and leave the regret behind.
In the end, you shouldn't compulsively ask yourself why you did or didn't do something. Just come to terms with it and believe in yourself that you wouldn't let that happen again.
Turning 20 in half an hour. Quick, I gotta know all the stuff!
how have your 20's been? i turned 20 a few days ago :)
Live your life
Make the most out of your youth.
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
THIS WAS PUBLISHED ON MY BIRTHDAY. AND TODAY IS ALSO MY 20TH BIRTHDAY!!! I'M SO LUCKYYY!!!
Wew happy birthday
Happy birthday!
Happy birthdayyy!!
Happy Birthday brother!
Happy birthday!
1. Show those you love, that you love them.
2. Stop comparing your life to others .
3. Plan for the Future, but Enjoy the Present. Really..don't let not having money stand in your way.
Fuck Yea
Thank you, I needed this today. Going through a hard time
3 is great
Very guilty of 2
Things I wish I knew when I was 20:
- don’t wait for your parents’ approval to do the things you love
- take a chance on yourself because the path you want to take might not look the same as someone else doing what you want to do
- i’ve got a sh*t ton of limiting beliefs about money and it’s better I look at it 20
- don’t take myself too seriously and enjoy the creative process of getting to know myself and my purpose
- get rid of the sentence “when I achieve X, then I’ll be happy”
your right man. After i achieve X, theres no happiness afterwards. Just a bigger hurdle to overcome.
this!
nothing wrong with smoking...
Fun fact: my dopamine levels go up 10.3% when I see a Matt D'Avella video.
Hahaha
6 Things I Wish I Knew at 20
Me: *interesting these could help me . . I'm 21*
Also me: *ends up being distracted by those biceps*
Couldn't relate more to this comment lmao
Bruh you’re hip distractions 🤔🤔
Turn 21 days ago and... look at those arms
i'm watching it again, i was distracted as hell :P
Wasn’t expecting a gun show
Things I wish I knew:
1) Don't spend more than you earn.
2) Make time for your friends
3) Don't settle with someone, just because it's been this way for a while.
4) Seek out your friends and family for advice.
5) Invest time and money into the thing(s) that you truly care about.
oh no Number 3 I can definitely agree with... and number 4 too, but mostly 3.
Thanks for number 3, needed that 🙏🏼
Thanks for this.
What do you mean by number 3?
@@klutz3955 I was in a relationship that gradually turned toxic the older we got, but because we were together for years I wasn't confident enough in myself to just end it. I missed out on so much because I put too my wasted time and energy into someone that didn't make me happy anymore, and hadn't done for a long time no matter how much we tried to fix the problems we had. Ev
"Confidence builds by doing" - As someone who overthinks himself into being paralyzed and unable to just take action so often, this is so true. The simple act of getting started almost always turns into a snowball effect of confidence and motivation.
I feel the same, the fear of doing something makes me do nothing. I am learning how to cope with this and push myself out of my comfort zone.
*Six Things I Knew At 20*
1. Take Responsibility 0:47
2. Confidence Builds By Doing 2:09
3. Document More 3:36
4. Use Moisturizer 6:11
5. Go On More Dates 7:23
6. Travel Now 9:32
Legend
Thanks man
sayitlike umemeit not all hero’s wear capes
Thank you for highlighting the points
Ik would broaden 5. Expose yourself more to thing you are afraid off. The thing not always becomes less fear inducing, but you get braver.
Yes! More minimalistic goodness, and not so minimalistic biceps. Thanks for what you do Matt!
😂😂👌
1. Take responsibility
2. Confidence builds by doing
3. Document more
4. Go on more dates
5. Travel now
6. Use moisturizer
EDIT: I'm not discouraging you to watch the whole video, I just needed to write the 6 points down :D
Being on date why you need Mostiuzier?
W
Nice one
You didn't write math and Physical education
This is helpful
Things i'm learning in my 20s:
-Take risks NOW
-Take these years as a training for the game of life, don't be hard on yourself
- Don't accept the reality you've been sold, you can get out of the box
"Travel now"
me, a broke ass 21 y/o who can't even afford my lunch sometimes: now sounds like a GREAT time to go to japan
Lol
Ever tried traveling homeless? Some people do it lol
@@nicolasgomez5207 how do you get to japan if you can't buy a plane ticket. Don't think I want to sneak on a boat for months... twice.
@@dddmemaybe I want answers too
Google it? 😉
1. Taking responsibility.
(0:46)
2. Confidence builds by doing.
(2:08)
3. Document more.
(3:36)
4. Use Moisturiser. (6:12)
5. Go on more dates. (
7:21)
6. Travel now. (9:32)
Thanks
So this is what I learned since I turned 20:
Ah shit I'm 14
shiieet
Johannes Laukart 😂
That’s great that you’re watching something like this
Same 😂😂😂
@@beatrizcansado8080 eyyyyy
Now, I'm on my 20s. And I have accumulated these lessons for myself:
1. Develop your curiosity
2. Less is more (that's why I love minimalism)
3. Invest in your mind
4. Whatever you're doing (hate it or love it), do your best.
I'm about to hit my 20s, thanks for ur advice :)
Things I wish I knew when I was 20
1. Spend quality time with family, as you never know when they will be taken away from you.
2. Start good habits such as meditation and working out.
3. Girls aren't everything.
4. Materialist items aren't everything.
5. Don't take anything for granted.
How old are you? I´m lucky to be 20 now
Skinny_Cam.
1.Parents are so hard to have a relationship with... atm
2. Meditation is amazing but for working out, I’m too self conscious and am too lazy to get to a gym
3. Don’t have the courage yet too get rid of social awkwardness and anxiety
4. Don’t have a job because I don’t have the courage to try get hired
5. I’ll try to be grateful.
My (hopefully) Honest replies to these, Hope you don’t cringe too hard.
I'm 19 now , implementing everything except 2nd point..
Will try to do that too.
Thank you !
I am realy happy that I am doing your number one.
And I hope I can learn your number 4 and 5 in the future.
@@nameisrango hey, I'm 19 too, trying to improve myself everyday, I read books, I work out and meditate, I found myself a job, I'm also trying to spend more time with my mom , best of luck to you y'all❤
Im sitting here at 20 years old, frustrated with myself and looking for the way out. This video helps put things into perspective for me. Thanks Matt.
Fuck no. You're young as fuck and got loads of time to figure it out to make it better. In 20 years you'll be so glad you didn't take the way out and instead built a meaningful life. Seek professional help if needed, that investment (both time and money) will be worth it if it gets your mental state up!
Oh and most of all, I'm sorry that things are not ok. I hope it gets better for you!
@MaskSo James I understand the frustration. I'm 32 and I'm still frustrated about my success not being what I hoped for. Financially I'm doing really ok though, maybe human nature makes us too hard on ourselves. There's always someone above you to compare one's self to. The trick is to be content with less. I don't know how to do that though :D
@K. Gábor I'm trying in a way. I do a daily journal of day's successes, thing I felt happy about and failures before I go to sleep. Quite a few times by forcing myself to think I've realized that the day has been better than I felt about it during.
@@AMR-zo5ut that's quite true. There's always the next level. One can try to bullshit themselves and say that the next level is where I'll be content, but if it's too hard to stop leveling up now, why would it be easier on the next level..
Things I wish I knew when I was 20
* happiness is a choice that you make
* Meditating 5-10 minutes a day drastically everyday decreases anxiety
* Pursue whatever passion intrigues you
* your posture and body language determine and influence your mood
Really agree with the meditating one, after a few months I noticed that I was wayyy more confident and more energetic!
Especially the first one! 🙏🏼
how do you meditate? Don't know how to do it? Just sit down and think on what?
Damn Daniel: Try out Sam Harris' "Waking Up" meditation app.
As someone with severe depression and anxiety who recently started taking proper medication for it I don't find the first one to be true. You can do steps towards it and practice positive thinking but you don't know what life can throw at you. I can't truly feel happiness but at least I'm not in a dark place either thanks to my anti-depressants, it's just neutral and I'm fine with that.
1) be grateful for the mundane. After you've been through it, being "just ok" can be really, really good
2) don't compare your circumstances to others
3) use every drop of your "young" energy/drive
4) but have a routine/ritual for self care
5) some people are only meant to be a part of your life for a certain duration, don't hold on too tightly (still learning that one)
Agree with all, but I wish focused more on “don’t compare your circumstances with others “
Alexea Malaletkin Thnks
Last one stings bad, but true af
I really hate that last one. I am going to experience it soon and Idk if I am ready to feel the sting
1. Taking responsibility
2. Confidence builds by doing
3. Document more
4. Use moisturiser - good skincare routine
5. Go on more dates
6. Travel now
Watch the video anyway. Was very helpful
Thx man
@Jacques Vermeulen very true. Was really helpful
EVOO is better than lotion. Trying to make skin healthier from the outside is treating the symptoms, not the cause.
Thanks man hate giving these people ad money
Thank you ☺️
23 currently and I am thankful for this video!💛
23 as well :) all the best!
23 here
23 years young :)
There's hundreds of us! XD
same
I'm in my early 20s and one thing I would advise is while you may not be chasing your passions, be passionate about what you chase.
Thanks for the video, Matt!
That's wise
God tier love that
underrated
I wish i knew two things at 20.
"You are who your friends are...."
"Meditation."
Not necessarily you can be different than your friends but still be friends
True most of the time
@@Classic_literature I think he kind of means, your trajectory is the same as your friends. If you don't like where you are, look to see if you respect where your friends are too. You can learn a lot from how similar your life choices are to your friends and if you feel unfulfilled you might find that the things you want from your future might not be the same as those you spend time with. This can lead to a lot of unhappiness.
That's why I have never had any friends
I've always been the closest friends with cats, although I'd get really depressed from time to time (due to the people around me in general), I'd get my self confidence back on track perfectly. It's a bit tough for someone who literally has no one to talk to about their emotions. Yet I do it.
Trust me, cats taught me the subtle art of not giving a f.
"go on more dates"
*laughs in lonely*
Player 4 lol I feel your pain. Avoiding dating apps too.
Basic Algebra in weightlifting? Is that what he said
@@Atufa_Raqshee what kind of a college makes you take weight lifting as a CLASS?
:(
You mean single, cause lonely and single are very different.
I always feel so motivated and inspired to be a good person after watching your videos
Also in need of coffee
I'm currently 19 and am continuously sabotaging myself with self- doubts about my future and what I'd like to do. But your videos provide some guidance. Thank you Matt!
Nilay Yener same:(
*Ey ey ey*
You're both good bois.
You'll become better bois one day.
But every boi does.
So start slow, do a little a day. Start a new small habit boi. Like doing your bed every morning.
It's not always going to be an easy boi, but you're a good boi.
Everyone starts as young dumb bois, some more and some less. But that's variation boi.
You have the power of most of your life ahead of you. A lot of people realize this when they have less life ahead of them.
To conclude, be the good bois you were always going to be.
Dude, I thought it was me talking.
I wish you all the best on your journey and a lot of courage.
I know how hard it can be💕
I just 20, I struggle with the same issues though I’m trying to fight it. There was a quote in To Kill A mockingbird where it said and I’m paraphrasing courage is doing something even if you know you will fail, but you see it through. Nothing that you truly want in life will be handed to you, so just try. Day by day.
Everyone is saying they are “poor” to travel. Change that mindset. Be positive, don’t ever say you’re poor even when money is limited. A little adventure in your backyard, town, or down the road is ok!! Also, save some money and plan a small trip with a significant one (a friend, a love one, or a family member) and meet new places. You won’t regret it.
“Don’t ever say you’re poor even when money is limited”, what? What does that mean? That’s what being poor is? And a lot of people are poor?
Mrs. Featherbottom Hi. Of course not. I was reading the comments and went towards what people were saying.
Diana Herrera alright. Cheers!
Being poor is a mindset and lasts forever... Being broke is temporary. Just because your money is limited now doesn't mean your poor, however if you see yourself as poor and see success and riches as impossible because you don't have the resorces than in that case, yes your poor. I highly recommend reading rich dad poor dad it will change your mindset.
@@espaciovirtual6699 most definitely!
It’s nice to know that a hunk like Matt was anxious about self-appearance and dating.
Appreciate you for sharing with such honesty 🙂
I turned 20 today, and this legend uploaded a video about what to do at the age of 20, thank you for uploading this video, Matt. Honestly, you've helped me change so much. Love from India! :D
Happy Birthday
Ram Gautam Happy Birthday 🎈🎊🎁🎉🎂😀
Ram Gautam I turned 19! On 17th
Happy birthday! :)
happy birthday!!!
I am 20... this was perfect. Thank you Matt, just some stuff I really needed to hear
as a 20 year old watching this, some of the things you said really make me think deeper about my life and where i am now.
so much respect for you and what you do, matt! don't ever stop doing what you do. your filmmaking is inspiring.
Top 5 things I've learned and practice since I was 20 (I'm 27 now):
1. Reliability
2. Accountability
3. Responsibility
4. Financial awareness
5. Getting over my fear of answering the phone/emails (still have to put effort into that one).
Hey, can you elaborate more on number 5? Cause I think I have the same issue and I'm curious what other people feel and react about it
Tomislav Sili I thought I was the only one with number 5 too
Numero 4 please
@@Michellemccoolrocks9 I am currently in the process of closing a deal for my internship, and sometimes I find myself denying to open up a mail (from them) because I feel like it's gonna be some bad news about it. This feeling comes from a certain point in the past, but I haven't figured it out completely yet.
Fear of answering an email? WTF? I can understand the phone call, but an email?
I can't believe you came to Costa Rica! I live here! Daaamn!
Next time I go to USA I won't let you know either.
Enzo Zonta lmao
I'm 22 right now and glad to see someone telling it how it is. Thanks matt I'm going to go to Bali now.
I heard the volcano erupts. I hope it doesnt ruin your trip
All the best!
@@keheungan I've been waiting to die for a long time now.
@@v-rexx356 that got me lmaoooooo
I am a balinese. Bali is okay and its fine :)
As a 19 year old, i really needed to hear some of this. Thanks
I am sorry but your biceps are really distracting.
Your body is literally goals
So true
We must tell him to wear a cape. We do.
BoniBon 666 my body is like a galon of wadrrrr
Damn! Your biceps look bigger the more I stare at them
Projit Deb omg i stared at them too😂
Projit Deb if I were you instead of starting I’d go out and make biceps just like them if not better looking ones, but I’m not into that stuff.
YRUG
Remember he's really short.
...and that's how nice comments evolve into insecure comments!
I think my biggest one would be to stop jumping to conclusions about everything lol.
Zara Bird that’s like 90% of girls
That's 90% of guys too
That's 90% of guys too
1. Don’t buy stuff that you’re not gonna use in a year or 10 years
2. Don’t split your focus on more than 1-2 ventures
3. Think about 2nd and 3rd order consequences
4. Invest in stocks extra money instead of investing them on drugs, alcohol and cigarettes
5. Track your habits
P.s.
I tried a lot of shit(drugs,girls) traveled to 24 counties by hitchhiking and all of that when I was 18-20
I am so glad that I did all of that stupid shit and didn’t die and I have all of that documented on my Instagram which I don’t use lol.
Now I just work on my self, improving my job skills, read books, eat healthy and workout everyday, plan my days and stay very minimalistic
„Tried a lot of shit like girls“ ok mate be gay then
Would you recommend doing drugs and girls to a person in early 20s ? what was your experience with these things?.....are these things just a waste if time and we should just focus on improving ourselves?
I'm 21. I'm a quite introverted person and growing up I never really liked changing/trying new things, but from being in college and some significant life-changing events happened the last couple of years, I really feel the "Confidence builds by doing" segment of the video, you gotta get out of your comfort zone, to truly experience and learn, whether it's school or dating, just don't stick with one routine just because it's comfortable/has been working for you, you never know what else is out there, so never stop trying
Things I wish I knew before I was 20
1 - If I want to make others smile, I have to learn to genuinely smile first
2 - If I want to find love, I have to learn how to love myself first, no matter how long it takes. Having huge insecurities while in a relationship could possibly drag the other person down, or others around you (not your SO)
3 - I deserve my own love more than anyone else
4 - Everyone has different goals in life, some goals require different steps than the norm, and that's completely okay (example is whether going to college may be a good idea or not)
5 - I like to imagine my insecurities are a separate entity, and me and this entity are in a boxing rink. I need to beat this person up, I have to win, I feel like shit if I lose. But if I lose it's fine, because I can meet that person again and kick their ass later
6 - When I feel like crying, just take many deep breaths, doesn't work always for me but it's cool I guess. Although crying is never wrong, sometimes I just prefer to hold it in
EDIT: About #2, I still believe what I say, but I also agree with Ruby Rootless, both options are fine.
I know we will always have insecurities no matter what, so it's totally cool if you get help, keep it a good healthy balance between getting help from friends and solving your own problems
People say that a lot - "love yourself before you're loved by someone else". Yes, it can drag the other person down, but the point is that you need to know how to process your own thoughts if you're not comfortable with yourself. Self-reflection can make up for a lack of self-love. It's a problem if you just lash out at your person because of yohr insecurities, but if you're able to comprehend you you feel a certain way and then tell your partner calmly after you had some time to think, what's the matter?
Also, I do that "seperate entities" thing too. Me and my brain, haha. That wrestling analogy is pretty good, I totally get you
I agree with you 100%👊
I feel like my new mantra is going to be, “Confidence Builds By Doing”
Thank you ♥️
as me
I really wish I knew this earlier:
DON'T LEAVE YOUR SELF HANGING IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. SAVE YOUR TIME AND ENERGY FOR BETTER RELATIONSHIPS.
I really needed this😅
💯 agree
that was what destroyed my life
@@Sebl191 you gotta believe it's never too late to turn your life around
Hmmm thanks for this Matt; it reminded me of a lot of past memories I've glazed over now. Here's my list:
1) Find your community. That club? That soririty? That frat you were so worried about joining? JOIN IT. Your future friends and future self will thank you.
2) Ask for help. Seek that guidance counselor, use the psych counseling resources on campus, there is nothing worse than isolating yourself in your apartment thinking you can't do shit when really you very much can.
3) Keep learning, keep asking questions. Yes, the classes you attend are huge and intimidating but 9 times out of 10 there's another student waiting for an answer for your question or a teacher waiting for a student to help them teach you better.
4) Find one creative hobby to exercise besides cooking/baking. Food is great but not when you consume it at your emotional convenience. You've always loved music singing, and writing, but maybe instead find a hobby which guarantees you will make time to destress (aka find a friend to keep you accountable).
5) Document your experiences, mundane or not. Your memory will falter and only get worse with your depression, so take the time to write down all the small things that made you happy or made you feel accomplished (again, your future self will thank you).
6) Tell your parents more about yourself. They'll ask you questions about your grades and how you're doing in class but don't let those things define you. Yes doing well in school is important but so is growing as a person. Whether this is gaining a new skill set, being more invested in social/political issues around you or being more aware of your emotions, don't be afraid to speak up. Don't let your parents say "I hardly know you". LET THEM SEE YOU.
Whoo hoo this was fun! Definitely writing this down and pinning it for a reminder on days I forget to do these things.
Emaline L. Man do I need to work on number 6
This is absolutely wonderful 💜 Thank you writing this down. I love this more than you know
Whats the point of 6?
@@artemmartus4253 maybe that's something to ask yourself. Personally, me distancing myself from my parents caused unecessary stress in university and isolating behaviors in my social life. I didn't feel like I knew myself emotionally or socially because I associated my value with good grades. So when my grades tanked....well so did my confidence and self-worth
Yes 🙌
"I ended a long term relationship at 20 and never went on a date for 5 years which was the longest" me sitting here being 19 and never going on a date O_o
Yup
safe same here, 19 and never been on a date 😂
Who's that in your picture though? 🤔
same here...
I think it is not the most important thing to go on dates. First of all it is quite stressing. And secondly, you meet the best people always accidentally. After my ex-bf ended our relationship I was going desperately on dates. But I met my current bf while playing pokemon go and this was way more fun and relaxing. So I would say, dont feel bad, if you dont go on dates.
Things I wish I knew:
1. Take the time to find what makes you happy
I Love you.
Things I'm learning a week away from being 20:
-It's okay to say no, it's your life and you get to choose what you're okay with.
- just because you're sad doesn't mean you're sick or broken, you have to eat right, drink water, sleep, socialise, exercise and meet your other personal needs first.
- Try to make the most out of your money, sometimes spending all your money on partying is just not worth it.
-There's always tomorrow, a bad day doesn't have to be a bad week :)
-Rediscovering things you loved as a child is so important
-EXPLORE
Holy crap, Matt! Best day ever : woke up, got ready, opened up RUclips, and Matt uploads a video!!! Matt, can you do a video on finding meaning in your life ?????
What is life?
Am i alive?
What am i doing?
Is there god?
Spoiler: life has no meaning. We all come and go and the universe is still the universe.
It's 42
“Life is only as meaningful as you fool yourself into thinking it is” (from Stuck In Love, a really great movie)
There is meaning in life, it's just not where or how you expect it. If you'd like to talk about it, i'd be happy to enlighten you :)
Things I wish I knew at 20:
*Don’t give up your own dreams for someone else’s
*Find mentors
*Learn to build good habits
*Travel
Katy McDonald, Matt is our M E N T O R
Windak yes he is one of mine now but he wasn’t around when I was 20 😊
Things I Wish I Knew at 20...
Oh shit I'm 20 right now
Anouk de Jonge same. Atleast I’m about to be 20
ikr lol
hell !!! yeah......me too.
I'm 23
I'm 19 but then I thought: What if I write a book about "things I wish to know when I am 19"... And then, next year to write another book about all the things I wanted to do and I did in that short-term last year.... Idk, would somebody read those books? what do you think? it just came to my mind.
Things I wish I knew at 20:
1. Do more self-help and development
2. Spend less time on dating
3. Be patient and don’t try to master everything
4. Read more books
5. Document my thoughts more often
6. Explore more unconventional paths
I agree with the less dates part! 🤦🏻♂️
cleansing 2/day (morning & night)
moisturizing 2/day after cleanse
exfoliating 2-3/week
Thanks Natalie (& Matt:D)
idk what any of these things are
2 words TIEGE HANLEY
Love this!!! Thanks for sharing! Almost 30 and I would agree with all of your points. Also would add: Don’t live in fear of what others might or do think of you. It doesn’t matter. Your happiness is much more important than the opinions of others!
It's the moment when you click on a video of Matt D'Avella and start smiling.
Things I wish I knew
1. Do things for my own life no one else’s
2. Learn financial skills
3. Travel
4. Do more hobbies I love
5. Take responsibility
The one of several things I am trying to improve is to socialize more. Does anybody else have that problem, the fear to socialize?
Yes.
Yes. I think I have a serious problem. I overthink everything and always feel stupid about something I did or didn't say or do, I even begin to stumble over my words
Same here. Once a group of college friends approached me for some help in a group. Trust me. I was in severe anxious state.
i don't actually have fear. but i'm too lazy to socialize. it's easier to make friends (and i've many friends or semi-friends...) than keep them.
i figure i'm just a loner. :(
@@yihsiao_47426 no dont think like that, join a club in college become part of the eboard of that club. You will start spending more time with other people. Get to know them, treat them the way you want to be treated. You will realize how close youre getting to them. Then start hanging out every week, go to restaurants, watch movies, play some sports together! Hope this helps, cause i was also in your position a few years ago when i was in high school. I didnt have an actual group of friends and i hated that cause i was shy, i missed out on so much. Thats never happening again, try practicing affirmations, it will take time but still keep repeating them whenever you can!
You're a good man. Thank you for sharing yourself to everyone who's having doubts.
There are SO. MANY. THINGS. I wish I knew at 20 but one thing I do know now at 37 is to not have any regrets about my past, that I did the best I could with with what I did know, I made the decisions I did with the info I had at the time and that I can't go back and change the past but I can start to make a better future right here, right now, today. Thanks Matt for all that you are and for having the courage to share.
"Travel now"
Me : damn he's right thats actually a good idea, i think imma travel to...
My wallet : no
Save
Go somewhere in your city you've never been champ. Walk there, borrow a tent from a friend or relative. The only thing between you and your goals are your excuses. Get creative.
Go to a cafe you've never been to. Go to a small restaurant in your town that you've never been to. Just go somewhere new in your home town, a new corner you haven't explored yet, and just take in the atmosphere.
@@taylorbritt499 I like that, it's so true, I've felt a bit down in the dumps at times and went to Brighton for the day (about an hour from me) and hadn't been in years. And it really helped get that travel vibe. Because that's all you're really doing when you travel, as you say, taking in the atmosphere.
@@jambononi thanks! That's awesome, I'm glad you were able to have that experience :) I go to college in a fairly big town and anytime I get to go to a new area of town, I get so excited. It's fun exploring new places!
Somehow, he make me feel like there is a second chance for me to fix everything before 20.
Thank you..
I'm so glad this is the first video I saw this morning. Gonna have a productive day today :)
But what about tomorrow?
I’m still 23, but I’ve already noticed a pattern of worrying too much about the future so I’m *trying* to meditate and stay in the present as much as possible 🤗
Thanks for the great video, Matt!
Count me in
This video was insightful and I enjoyed the concept! I’m about to turn 20, so I can speak on my life thus far.
1) being emotional is a gift, don’t feel shame for feeling.
2) do it, try new things. Don’t wait, you will back down.
3) your worth does not come from pleasing other people and achieving things.
4) your future is not predictable, you can’t plan it. You can face the future with courage and gratitude. You don’t know what the next minute holds.
Things i wish i knew in my 20s (I'm 27):
1. College is not equal success
2. Start working on small goals and build small companies
3. Go out more and network more
4. Try as many different things as possible not just your passion
5. Take more risk in business
6. High gpa is not equal success or better job.
7. Don't workout for 2 hours every day is you're not going to be a fitness influencer or bodybuilder.
8. Travel and take your family with you
Travel and (dont) take your family.
Advice for an introverted person like me 😔
Disagree with the last 2
I LOVE THIS
Could not relate more to nr 1
*scrolling through the comments to see if anyone else had commented about how Matt’s eyes MATCH HIS SHIRT*
Somebody had to say it!!!
Wow I was thinking exactly the same!
NUMBER ONE thing to know in your 20's... Discover Matt D'Avella
fuck yes
I’m 19 this year, and I keep coming back to this video to remind myself of the things you say in it. Each time, I realise I’ve been neglecting at least 1 of the 6 things on this list. Thanks, Matt. You’ve made a world of difference in my life.
"confidence builds by doing"
Thank you.
"Confidence builds by doing." I love this.
Thank you Matt, i'm actually 26 yo, so i'm planning to go to Canada to become a real estate agent, i'm french and it's the project of my Life, your podcasts help me a lot to get confidence and strenght.
I'm actually passing my diploma and then here i go for a new beginning in a new country !
KaioKev Prod Are yo going to be selling to Chinese people?
“Confidence builds by doing” that’s a gem.
-"confidence builds by doing."
That really hit home. Don't get paralysis by analysis guys, there's so much information out there on what you could be doing to better your life and stuff like that. But when you actually START doing it, you'll realize you had it in the first place, I just think its a problem that goes un-noticed. Great content man, you've got yourself a sub!
1. 'Stay calm and confident' is my life motto which I wish I embraced in many many years ago; no reason for panic, things will work out and if not, there's probably nothing you can do about it now... worrying sure isn't going to help. Embrace whatever's coming. Chin up!
2. Can't ask more of yourself than doing your best; I mean, hey, atleast you've been trying to the best of your ability (don't measure yourself with others)
3. Time is about the only constant in life, whatever happens... the sun will rise again and you'll get over stuff that you're dealing with right now
I need the first rule in my life.
Your tips are awesome! Highly recommended for others
Thanks! I guess I could at another 3 then!
4. Don't assume the worst of people. You'd especially be surprised how understanding and supportive people close to you are. Trust them. Which leads to...
5. Be honest, open and own it. Don't construct webs of mad lies (a little white lie can be a good thing sometimes however), it will catch up to you
6. Try new things. I've seen the movie 'Yes Man' (w/ Jim Carrey) once and following I tried to say 'yes' to everything for a day and ultimately ended up at an epic party I got invited to by strangers. We don't like to go out of our comfort zones. Why get up and do something, when you can Netflix and chill from the comfort of your couch? But you've got to live a little! Meet new people, experience new things, be open to new oppertunities that come your way. It's a much richer and fulfilling way to live. Being dismissive of change because it's easier is like opting for fast food. It's comforting and shortly satisfying, but it's not really sustainable and healthy long-term. Don't live to regret, live to live!
This is incredible man, really hit the nail on this for me. Took a screenshot right after I read this, thanks for the wisdom! 😅
Great advice man
I feel old an worthless because I'm 24 and still working on my undergrad degree still. It's amazing how the mind finds ways to crush one's self image.
Most people have no degree at all, keep going man.
I’m 23 and I’m just starting mine.
You don't even need a degree so does not matter.
@@Gnnesh Saying you do not need a degree is such a fad that is bullshit lazy ppl make to make themselves feel better. Try getting a good job without a degree and lmk.
@@airlebron7467 If you stop your degree to investe full time in your dreams isnt lazy.
What I learned is contradictory to his:
Don't date too many girls. Ugly relationship can ruin you life. You can have a good relationship when you're already happy and content.
Yes, it's not about the date I think. More like socialize more, and learn what's best for you
Even with the good people, doesn't mean we'll make good relationship
Maybe a bit of a nuance, but I'm not sure that 'dating girls' and 'going on dates' are the same thing, you can just go on a date with a girl without 'dating' them.
Like Ghina says, it's more about meeting new people and expanding your horizons