1. You already know what you need to change & do. Stop being stuck in analysis paralysis and take action. You don’t need to watch another self help youtube video. What you need to do is doing the stuff you tell yourself you’re going to do without shortcuts or excuses 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
Thats your analysis of life, but its not mine. Do what works for you, I hope your expectations and needs are met, but we only need to please ourselves in the end.
I used to watch these homeless. Was for 5 years nearly. Now, I'm working 40-48 hours a week. I'm going to Texas to becomems diesel technician. I'm aurviving until february when i start paid school. Haven't missed a day in 60 days now. Worked longer than i ever have in my life. I'm 38. I realize it's never over while you're still alive. If you can read this. You can change your life. I've slept on cardboard and porches for YEARS... Now I'm heading towards making $90,000 a year. It can be done. I still drink. I still struggle. You need to get to a point where you're tired of your life, and you're ready... Only then will you START to make necessary changes. This isn't easy.
Its tough to make the internal change unless something forces you like circumstances or getting to the point where, like you said, you just get tired of how things are and just make a change
This thing I have listened to 3 times now and I'm finally actually hearing it. I'm turning 60 in a month or so. I can't belive how this completely relates to my situation. Amazing content from you. Thank you.
Really enjoyed this! The advice is spot on, especially when it comes to making the most out of every moment. I’ve found that focusing on what truly matters is key. A while back, I came across some mind-opening concepts in the Nixorus secrets that really helped me put things into perspective. Definitely looking to apply more of these ideas in my daily routine!
Joey I appreciate you for not using generic stock footage. I'm so tired of seeing it. I love seeing your own b-roll and footage. It makes it more personal, relatable and unique.
1. Nobody is on their way to save you. 2. Guard your eyes. 3. Change your inputs to change outputs. 4. There is nothing wrong with you. 5. Embrace chosen suffering. 6. Get hyped.
@@stronglegs-s3lYeah man is like a reminder of the video. If there's people that don't want to watch the video and only read the comments then they are aliens
That's the one gem in the entire list. Guard your eyes is kinda BS filler stuff. Sheep will continue to be sheep. A tip on YT isn't going to change that fact. Your life, your relationships, your body, your bank account, your quality of retirement is reflective of behavior over time. Some men make it about other people... my wife, my boss, my parents...but it's all about you bro. Stop being a victim and take charge. At the risk of sounding sexist...that's what men are supposed to do. Do it.
I have felt this imense sense of insecurity. I tried to combat it by achieving fitness goals. Somehow in my mind I was convinced if I became stronger people would like me more. Now im here and its still the same. Dont get me wrong, exercise does make my life alot better in a lot of ways, and people even compliment me on my goals. Yet still, it doesnt fill the void. It feels like fighting to keep your head above water. A constant struggle to try to prove yourself. A week ago in a meditation I felt a surge of surrender. A feeling of 'let me be weak' giving into the fear. And for some reason i felt a sigh of relief No more need to proof anything. No more need to keep my head above water. It felt like peace It's like I broke through a wall, like the negative thoughts didnt had any meaning anymore. Ofcoures this was a moment, and the old feeling came back a day after that. But it does seem to give me a different sense of direction
That's good! Your surrender sounded a bit like what Eckhart Tolle experienced and described in Chapter 1 of The Power of Now. Also, you countered the "what you resist, persists". All the best!
I understand you man. Sometimes you don't have the strength of fighting every day. But let me tell you it's totally worth it, so don't totally stop trying and relax sometimes. It's ok
Similar thing I realized recently. All these goals that I have which I sometimes pursue intensely for short bursts, most of which I never even start chasing, are, in essence, me trying to make myself "more acceptable" to some outside person I couldn't even name. It's insecurity all the way down. Which sucks cause I always thought I'd gotten over that brutally insecure phase once I left my teens but I guess it's still the same, I just learned to effectively mask it to the point where not even I even notived it anymore. But as you say, I know that chasing these things won't change the inherent insecurity. The goalpost will just move and shift and I will never be good enough either way. Learning to be okay with yourself as you are, even though you're so very imperfect, is a real tough one lmao. (Not saying that you shouldn't change at all obviously, it's the WHY that's important here.)
I do this thing recently where I don't shy away from re-reading a paragraph or page, or chapter or few pages in book. It is hard because somewhere in our brain we are in a rush to finish the book, even if we don't say it. And I do it with shorts too, it is very hard to watch same video multiple times the instinct is to move on to the next thing. But I'm going to watch it again, and I want to take notes this time. Because it is surprising how much I needed to hear all of this.
Thank you for this Joey. Been watching since 2019, you have been one of my biggest motivators on this platform. I cannot tell you how much your work has gotten me out of ruts. Now. To go do the THING.
This really clicks with the stuff I have been reading in Casanova: The path to success, wealth and love. It's a masterpiece in my opinion, and the author has released two new books this week (both about dating life and relationships).
About #4, I think the phrase "you can't hate yourself into a version of yourself that you love" is definitely one of the biggest lessons I learned in my 20s. Shame was such a big part of my identity, and I felt stuck in this mindset. I'm now 31 and so much happier with my imperfect self. A much healthier approach to life is to ask yourself "what do I dislike in my life right now, what am I not proud of? And how can I improve those things, so I can start feeling better just by knowing I'm taking action?". Two big examples for me somewhat recently was that my freelance job 1- didn't fulfill me, and 2- made me too sedentary and lead to weight gain and sluggishness. So I took it easy and took steps to fix those things while staying gentle with myself. Today, I've lost the extra weight and feel much stronger and energetic thanks to exercise, and I'm still taking steps to change careers, while also trying to make my current one happier! It takes work and time, but it's worth it. Embrace the daily improvements you make, don't just dream about the results. Love yall ♥
How do I deal with a strict dad who does not even allow me to improve , level 1 of self improvement is health and I can't even do that , I am not special, I am not the kind of person who can sacrifice their health for studying , I can't do anything when I'm unhealthy , I can do everything when I'm healthy , I'm an Indian , 15 year old high schooler about to face boards And like most people, I don't cope , but this is a genuine problem , because without my health, I cannot be productive I think you are one of the few people who can understand me , I am not stupid , my family literally stops me from improving Even if I'm going to pursue business, I want a good class 10 result so that I can get a high paying job from the start, like a head start, the reason why my dad does not let me improve my health is because I am in class 10 and he thinks it's a waste of time I'm not going to tell you my problems , my comment is long enough I'm gonna go insane , I'm not progressing on anything, I feel behind , no , it's not even that , I just want to take care of my health , that's it. Why do I have such strict parents , if they allowed me to do these things , I would be so happier , and they would be too because I would get good grades
I love when you and other podcasters like Huberman and Williamson change the tone of your voice when doing an advert, making it really easy to hear when it's over so I can skip through it quickly. Helps me to guard my eyes
I'd also add kind of my own take on #4: stop yourself from doing more than you planned and need to do during the day. This may be part of my OCD, but it easily slipped into productivity becoming my self worth and me questioning every bit of my leisure time wondering what I "should" be doing and if I'm worthy of love yet. Obviously it is crucial we meet our own needs and do work with stuff like exercise and cooking and education, not denying that, but it can also breach a barrier where all that runs through your mind is an obsession with productivity and it burns you out quick. I still dont really know how to do things without my mind ruminating on all of the shoulds I set for myself. Best thing I've found yet overall for an OCD ADHD brain like mine is The Bullet Journal Method by Ryder Caroll. I'd say that books lays out nearly everything you need for both organization and your mental wellbeing. Love your content Joey, and it continues to inspire me to keep working on treating my depression. I just wanted to point out a pitfall for me.
0:00 - Introduction: Six things you probably need to hear 0:02 - Number 1: Nobody is on their way 1:10 - Number 2: Guard your eyes 3:06 - Number 3: Change your inputs to change your outputs 5:45 - Sponsor message: AG1 6:50 - Number 4: There is nothing wrong with you 10:48 - Number 5: Embrace chosen suffering 13:52 - Number 6: Get hyped and stop overthinking
just stop, man. the last thing people watching these videos need is to read a summary because they're too lazy or unable to focus for a 15 min video. don't enable that behavior
@@inventiveowl395 I assumed that this was for people who couldn't focus through a 15 minute video. You confirmed that you couldn't focus through a 15 minute video. I'm failing to see the reason why I shouldn't make assumptions.
@@voskresenie- The assumption I refered to wasn't _"people can't focus through a 15min video"_ but _"people who can't focus through a 15min video are lazy and will use the summary to jump through the video or skip it entirely"._
Thanks on sharing this valueable information! I wanna add this : You should change your inputs to change your outputs, but the function(relationship between inputs & outputs) changes over time, since it's based on your past. You shouldn't treat life as a rigid machine, which is indeed a comforting view, but as a playful interaction with yourself.
On the topic of "chosen suffering"- that was my dad’s philosophy when he taught me to drive. He always made me take the busiest roads or drive in challenging conditions, thinking that if I got comfortable with discomfort in a "safe" environment, I'd be more resilient later on. While I don’t dislike the philosophy, I feel like there has to be a balance. Instead of building my confidence, his approach made driving feel stressful, and I never learned to actually enjoy it. There’s a fine line between learning through discomfort and creating a lasting sense of dread-and finding that balance might be the key to making "chosen suffering" truly effective.
Just a thought: try to challenge yourself in a sustainable way, one step at a time - not too little (boredom), and not too much (one step forward but to steps back). The difficulty is balance and consistency (in gym strength training, it's called progressive overload). That's why the first step is to know yourself: what do you like and dislike; what's your strengths and weaknesses, etc. Compare yourself only with your yesterday's self and see the progress. Don't make the mistake and compare yourself to others - because you don't know their journey and hardships/life lessons they've overcame. Life is a different kind of race, and in the end, you're only competing with yourself. Be kind to yourself to keep maintaining positive outlook for progressive overload aka. "chosen suffering".
If you trusted your father you would have known what his intentions were and that he would be there to swoop in the moment you felt overwhelmed. I believe that it also depends on your mindset and from this you experience the world. You were negative and apprehensive about his teaching methods, Perhaps you did not trust him or the relationship between you was not a solid one. At the end of it all, once you understand or rather familiarize yourself with the "discomfort" of that situation its easy to excel in it the next time you feel it. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your practice. Personally i hated working out, but once i started understanding this discomfort and getting used to it, my mindset about working out completely changed.. Embrace the suck!
This is a great thought. If the suffering is too big a step, we don't overcome it, so we never build the overcoming muscle up -- and on top of that, we have suffered!
1. Nobody's on their way. No one will save you. 2. Guard your eyes 3. If you want to change your output, change your input. 4. There is nothing wrong with you. 5. Embrace the chosen suffering. 6. Get hyped. Some things just suck. Don't overthink it. Blast past that obstacle. I hope this helps. Have a good day.
I don't think I've ever commented before but your videos are so great! You always find really interesting and inspirational content here. Just wanted to share.
I really enjoyed this. Very good advice for your age group and younger. I would love for you to age another 20+ years and redo this video. I've learned over time that although I listened, I, like most, didn't really hear the advice received from elderly individuals, and I am finding that it's truly invaluable for both survival and the process of expiring. Live long and prosper people. ❤ 😊 🖖
0:33 I had to roll that back and look again because for a hot second there it looked like the guy was coming to console his friend with a box of the same canned cat food we buy for our cats 😂
Another way to look at #5 is think of the hardships you've already been through. I don't know about you, but mine made me stronger. In many ways I both glad I went through it. I learned so many lessons through those hardships. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." It's made me less reactive (shorter reaction) and also patient (a really big struggle for me that I'm still teaching myself constantly, but I'm aware of what I do).
This advice may sound motivational, but it’s packed with flaws that don’t hold up under scrutiny. First off, Telling people “nobody’s on their way” might sound empowering, but it sets up an isolating, cynical worldview that ignores the reality that we all rely on each other. Life isn’t just about standing alone; it’s about forming connections, building trust, and knowing when to ask for help. The advice to “guard your eyes” assumes that complete control over your attention is possible or even healthy-when in reality, exposure to diverse ideas and experiences, even distracting ones, can lead to unexpected growth. This “guarding” approach can turn you into a rigid gatekeeper of your own mind, missing out on the richness of life. Then there’s the whole “change your inputs to change your outputs” cliché lol. as if external tweaks alone could solve deep-seated issues. This advice leans heavily on external changes and gives an easy excuse to blame everything around you instead of dealing with your own habits, choices, and mindset. The idea that “there’s nothing wrong with you” is a comforting lie that glosses over the hard truth-self-improvement requires facing your flaws. Thinking you’re “fine as you are” sounds nice, but it’s an excuse to avoid the brutal self-assessment that real change demands. “Embrace chosen suffering” is another half-baked notion that glorifies hardship for its own sake. Pushing yourself is valuable, sure, but valorizing pain as a pathway to growth ignores the importance of balance and wisdom. This approach risks making struggle your identity, trapping you in a loop of unnecessary hardship. This one -- “get hyped” is flimsy advice dressed up as motivation--relying on hype to push through challenges is a short-lived solution that crashes quickly. Hype doesn’t breed discipline, and trying to “get excited” about difficult tasks is a poor substitute for the kind of deep-seated motivation that actually drives sustainable progress. Each piece of this advice has an alluring ring, but none hold up to the realities of what it takes to genuinely grow and succeed.
Let's reframe it: 1. Don't wait, start assisting yourself immediately. Someone else cannot start this process for you. 2. Be intentional about your attention. Spend it like a budget. 3. Examine the familiar. Things closest to you are invisible, be aware of them. 4. Don't hate yourself for past mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, you can grow and move on without shame. 5. Something is going to be hard, but you can choose what it is. Difficult preparation is healthier than the difficulty of being unprepared. 6. Don't overthink it. Some tasks are unpleasant no matter how they are approached, but if they are necessary the only solution is to do them anyway.
Talk about analysis paralysis. All advice can be scrutinized if you are a pessimist. It won’t get you anywhere. These tips are good, but it was not meant to be an end all, be all. And it seems like this is an AI generated response…so maybe stop trolling people that are doing good and do something good yourself. Best of luck to you.
here is my the three things from this video that resonated with me the most : 1- Look at something to focus on it Genuinely helpful and applicable instantly, want to play guitar, just look at it 30 sec and it will become natural to get it, want to get out of your bed, look at your door handle etc 2-You will always be scared of suffering No matter the confort the money the happiness you will always be scared of suffering, so make it be something you’re used to. I think it’s actually really motivating, idk want to tell someone you love them but scared ? well do it and if it turns out great then great if it turns out bad you’ll become stronger at facing suffering and be thankful of becoming stronger 3-Stop using self hatred as motivation I always treat myself like a rubber ball that i squeeze by hating it a lot until i can’t handle it anymore and i jump very high and fall very fast. Everyone could has reasons to hate themselves, happy people just don’t do it
Thanks for this video Jeremy i love the fact that you go straight to the point instead of wasting time and just showing some random sponsors in the beginning, your videos are truly a life changer.
Thanks Joey! For some of your points, I thought I already knew the answer until you (pleasantly) surprised me with a new perspective. Since quite a few youtubers lowered their amount of new content about self improvement, since we are getting in this era of repetition, it's so good to see you being capable of showing new ways to think about life. Thanks man!
You have to be one of if not my favorite. First you don’t have to make a video every day. And your content is valuable without having to have some guru. I really love your approach. Thanks
Excellent video but Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!
@betterideas Agreed.😌 You know what sounds even better? I wouldn't necessarily say that. I get that people, including myself, are the only people who can help themselves get out of a rut and change themselves for the better, but YOU came and saved US. You gave us the help we need to get the opportunities to be richer and better. As people, no matter who we are or how old we get, we always have the time to help each other out to change our stories. We give each other good tips and wisdom based on our own perspectives on reality. It's not like a fairy or someone from the future is going to suddenly appear and give us the change we want. Although, it would be pretty nice if someone from the future did come and save me.
@@jacobb8832 yeah id even say that people will help, but you just have to be willing to open your fuffin eyes for once and see the right hands reaching out to you and actually take it
Thank you for sharing and the first point resonates. I had to make the change after 32 years of neglect, negativity, and depression. I disappeared for 8 years, and I'm so glad I made the move.
Not only is no one on their way but also no body cares. lol. And the saying “it’ll happen” never happens unless you’re putting in work daily. Nothing just comes to you when you’re just wishing for it and that’s it. You have to put in the time and really want it. Make it no other option but for it to be yours. The universe is always watching and it rewards the “relentless”. You must be relentless. When an issue arises , it’s the universe asking “yea, you really that guy?” And you have to smash that challenge and beg for more. Relentless. Only after many challenges (failures) will the universe back off and then reward you. Be relentless
Life is like a path that slowly crumbles and plunges into the abyss. If you don't move, you will fall into this abyss and return will be difficult. So always keep moving and never fall into the abyss.
I’ll tell you this fellas - the first point is abundantly true. No one is coming to help you. Happily married now, but when my first married went south due to cheating (not on my side), I had a stupid expectation that my friends would come and hang out and get me through it. What I found out is that people do legit just care about themselves and they’re not coming to help. You’ve got to get back up and do it on your own. Amazing how those same people suddenly want to talk again when things are going well for you.
This is probably one of the most valid videos on RUclips: everyone, no matter your situation in life, needs to hear it because at some time in the future you’ll wish you had.
Someone else feel like selfimprovement is in a way kinda depressing? Things that remind you how unsatisfying your current thing is.. anyways, try to stat positive and go and get it. Yeah..
@myyoutubeaccount4167 I guess everyone feels that way at some point.. but remember not to stay in that space bro. You'll find something thats like.. the thing. You know? Best of wishes
I found myself in obsession with it which caused me to take a long break. You can definitely go too far and have all your thoughts revolve around improvement. The balance is so hard for me to find
I’m 66 years old and they totally agree with this little talk. And if you are struggling with any one of these points, I highly recommend self-help books or counseling or therapy because it’s very important if you want to be happy in your life.
When you realize that real life is the exact opposite of your University's current advertising campaign that's aired during College Football Saturdays... and that they are gaslighting another generation of students with false expectations in life.
Solid list . I would say that you missed or maybe you covered it and I just didn't pick up on it . Things are not always going to go your way. I would say that is a good 90% chance. Another one is that there are people that live just to put pain in the lives of others.
I got divorced recently, and I'm really butthurt that a lot of people stopped interacting with me (I am really not an asshole, I am a decent dude) like my luck is an infectious disease they better not catch.
People stopped interacting and hanging with me and my mom after my dad died, even her family. it's the dynamic that people are not comfortable with anymore, having a single person over instead of a couple or a family
Nobody is coming to save you - No one else will rescue you from undesirable situations, so you’re responsible for creating the life you want. This realisation can be empowering, as it encourages you to take control. Guard your eyes - What you look at holds your attention and can influence you, especially with modern marketing. Be mindful of what you consume visually, focusing on what truly matters to you. Change your inputs to change your outputs - To alter your actions and perspectives, adjust what you feed your mind. If you’re feeling stuck, consider new information, surroundings, or people to inspire change. There’s nothing wrong with you - Self-improvement is valuable, but it doesn’t mean you’re fundamentally flawed. Self-worth isn’t conditional on accomplishments; instead, you improve because you already have value. Embrace chosen suffering - By voluntarily undertaking challenges, you build resilience for life’s inevitable hardships. This helps you face unpredictable struggles more effectively. Get hyped - Stop overthinking tasks; embrace energy and excitement to tackle obstacles. Boosting your motivation can break through procrastination and inertia.
Its like you sent this video directly to me. This morning I said my prayers, and told God that everything is in his hands. I praised him for all of my blessings. Everything you said has been in my head lately. Thank you...
The *BIGGEST* impact to my productivity this month was turning off RUclips’s watch history. It deletes your entire home page and removes 100% of the attention traps
6 things you definitely need to hear: 1. I love you. 2. It's going to be okay. 3. You're working really hard and doing a great job. 4. Your efforts are making a positive impact. 5. I'm proud of you. 6. The world is better for simply having you exist in it.
I agree 100 percent. I work from home as an SRE and I was so afraid to leave my city because of the possibility of losing my remote job. in retrospect. I had a remote job. nothing was forcing me to live there. took me a while to figure this out and to move.
I do stuff that sucks every day. I have been for years. I got addicted to it, almost to the point where that's ALL I did. There was no reward. I'm now in therapy, working to undo all the damage I've done to myself trying to improve myself. Yes, I'm ready for big challenges. I've built that muscle. But I also now need to learn to relax it--both psychologically and literally. I have been tensing my body up for so long that it's a struggle, minute to minute, to relax it. Careful with how many rules you set for yourself and how austere you become. Moderation is critical.
Great video man, one thing I'd point out about the "Chosen Suffering" bit - you should never, ever, EVER 'choose' to 'suffer'. The activities you label as 'suffering' have a tendency to become suffering even if they're not actually that bad just because you're saying "This activity is suffering, I'm going to suffer while I do this." You can be in incredible pain and not suffer, because suffering is totally in the mind. Suffering is the mind telling itself that whatever you're doing is terrible. It's like you're trying to shovel dog shit, and the whole time someone is screaming at you: "Oh my GOD you are shoveling DOG SHIT that is so AWFUL!" If you have to shovel dog shit, why would you not at least TRY to do it with peace and joy and not constantly pester yourself about how terrible it is? Once you understand that suffering is just in your mind, then you realize that you can create literally any other experience inside of yourself that you want - you just have to be doing it consciously and not impulsively. Impulsivity is just this - once upon a time you did something that created the intended effect you wanted, so your body encoded that experience to use later - now you're just doing it as a reflex because it's easier and more energy-efficient to rely on bodily reflexes than to be in a constant state of meditativeness. So to be conscious means: "I'm not going to rely on whatever is going on in my mind/body." That's how you become someone that "does a lot of things that suck" - they just stop defining those things as "sucking" and just accept responsibility for making every experience "good".
I wouldn't mind friends.I usually just keep my head down and work on my Art/Music/Horror Short channel.Also, about a year ago I discovered that I was autistic, which makes socializing pretty tough.Love the channel.Keep up the good work!
I very very much needed to hear this especially points 4&5. Thankyou sir for your content and this amazing video. Appreciate your efforts for making this video.🤍
Perfect timing to hear this in my life. I’m 62 and I really needed to hear this. Thanks.
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1. You already know what you need to change & do. Stop being stuck in analysis paralysis and take action. You don’t need to watch another self help youtube video. What you need to do is doing the stuff you tell yourself you’re going to do without shortcuts or excuses
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This hit too close to home.. honestly thank you man
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Thats your analysis of life, but its not mine. Do what works for you, I hope your expectations and needs are met, but we only need to please ourselves in the end.
Brilliant.
there is a skit by Andrew Rousso "When your phone is on 1% but you just keep scrolling" worth waching
I used to watch these homeless. Was for 5 years nearly. Now, I'm working 40-48 hours a week. I'm going to Texas to becomems diesel technician. I'm aurviving until february when i start paid school. Haven't missed a day in 60 days now. Worked longer than i ever have in my life. I'm 38. I realize it's never over while you're still alive. If you can read this. You can change your life. I've slept on cardboard and porches for YEARS... Now I'm heading towards making $90,000 a year. It can be done. I still drink. I still struggle. You need to get to a point where you're tired of your life, and you're ready... Only then will you START to make necessary changes. This isn't easy.
Oh shit, congrats!
Right on man, eloquent comment too. I’m glad you worked your way up off the streets, what a great story, you’re strong bro!
Holy shift bro! Way to go! You’re an inspiration! Best of luck going on huh?! 💪🏾😺
Its tough to make the internal change unless something forces you like circumstances or getting to the point where, like you said, you just get tired of how things are and just make a change
It's not over until it's over.
Dude LITERALLY last night I’m laying in bed at like 1 am, on your channel, like “cmon man… I need another video from you”
This thing I have listened to 3 times now and I'm finally actually hearing it. I'm turning 60 in a month or so. I can't belive how this completely relates to my situation. Amazing content from you. Thank you.
7. Don't try to live someone else's life, just because others do it doesn't mean its always right.
Golden advice 💯.
Really enjoyed this! The advice is spot on, especially when it comes to making the most out of every moment. I’ve found that focusing on what truly matters is key. A while back, I came across some mind-opening concepts in the Nixorus secrets that really helped me put things into perspective. Definitely looking to apply more of these ideas in my daily routine!
thank you for share! they have great books
@@stephanndon no problem bro!
Joey I appreciate you for not using generic stock footage. I'm so tired of seeing it. I love seeing your own b-roll and footage. It makes it more personal, relatable and unique.
Yeah, Joey preparing for war at 11:40 in black and white just for this video, *chefs kiss* just cinematographer things 🥹
1. Nobody is on their way to save you.
2. Guard your eyes.
3. Change your inputs to change outputs.
4. There is nothing wrong with you.
5. Embrace chosen suffering.
6. Get hyped.
@@stronglegs-s3l bit harsh? My comment is mostly to help people follow along, not to replace an in-depth video.
@@stronglegs-s3lYeah man is like a reminder of the video. If there's people that don't want to watch the video and only read the comments then they are aliens
I appreciated the notes bud
@@BendingPinkSteel Thanks for the notes, appreciate it.
@@stronglegs-s3l it would be useful with timestamps
withouth them, I agree that it's useless
"If you don't change your inputs don't expect your output to change" is such a powerful mindset, accurately summarizes the video.
That's the one gem in the entire list. Guard your eyes is kinda BS filler stuff. Sheep will continue to be sheep. A tip on YT isn't going to change that fact. Your life, your relationships, your body, your bank account, your quality of retirement is reflective of behavior over time. Some men make it about other people... my wife, my boss, my parents...but it's all about you bro. Stop being a victim and take charge. At the risk of sounding sexist...that's what men are supposed to do. Do it.
I cut all my subscriptions to 5. You are by far the one who delivers the most value. I highly appreciate you work. thank you!
I should go get a life.
It's sold out man
@@shapur_IITicket Master has my back
@@shapur_IIyou're just looking in the wrong stores
Temu
Ditto
I have felt this imense sense of insecurity. I tried to combat it by achieving fitness goals. Somehow in my mind I was convinced if I became stronger people would like me more. Now im here and its still the same. Dont get me wrong, exercise does make my life alot better in a lot of ways, and people even compliment me on my goals. Yet still, it doesnt fill the void.
It feels like fighting to keep your head above water. A constant struggle to try to prove yourself.
A week ago in a meditation I felt a surge of surrender. A feeling of 'let me be weak' giving into the fear. And for some reason i felt a sigh of relief
No more need to proof anything. No more need to keep my head above water.
It felt like peace
It's like I broke through a wall, like the negative thoughts didnt had any meaning anymore.
Ofcoures this was a moment, and the old feeling came back a day after that. But it does seem to give me a different sense of direction
That's good! Your surrender sounded a bit like what Eckhart Tolle experienced and described in Chapter 1 of The Power of Now. Also, you countered the "what you resist, persists". All the best!
I understand you man. Sometimes you don't have the strength of fighting every day. But let me tell you it's totally worth it, so don't totally stop trying and relax sometimes. It's ok
wait wait wait
you ENJOYED that?!
but about the feeling of drowning? loosing sense and purpose? what about guidance?
Similar thing I realized recently. All these goals that I have which I sometimes pursue intensely for short bursts, most of which I never even start chasing, are, in essence, me trying to make myself "more acceptable" to some outside person I couldn't even name. It's insecurity all the way down. Which sucks cause I always thought I'd gotten over that brutally insecure phase once I left my teens but I guess it's still the same, I just learned to effectively mask it to the point where not even I even notived it anymore. But as you say, I know that chasing these things won't change the inherent insecurity. The goalpost will just move and shift and I will never be good enough either way.
Learning to be okay with yourself as you are, even though you're so very imperfect, is a real tough one lmao. (Not saying that you shouldn't change at all obviously, it's the WHY that's important here.)
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I do this thing recently where I don't shy away from re-reading a paragraph or page, or chapter or few pages in book. It is hard because somewhere in our brain we are in a rush to finish the book, even if we don't say it. And I do it with shorts too, it is very hard to watch same video multiple times the instinct is to move on to the next thing. But I'm going to watch it again, and I want to take notes this time. Because it is surprising how much I needed to hear all of this.
How bizarre - I have the exact opposite problem - I wish I could stop re-reading and just move on
#5 is.. wow.. eye-opening to say the least. This is one of the best videos I've seen in a while. Thank you Joey. love u & all that you do
I like men
5:50 don't put AG1 in front of your eyes
I wish he put the endorsement right after "Guard your eyes"😂
My attention has been farmed. Lol 😂. Do like this video, that comment was just funny.
Thank you for this Joey. Been watching since 2019, you have been one of my biggest motivators on this platform. I cannot tell you how much your work has gotten me out of ruts.
Now. To go do the THING.
Wow! I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much.
This really clicks with the stuff I have been reading in Casanova: The path to success, wealth and love. It's a masterpiece in my opinion, and the author has released two new books this week (both about dating life and relationships).
Hey, thanks for the 6th tip. The problem with overthinking has been a huge part of my recent struggle.
About #4, I think the phrase "you can't hate yourself into a version of yourself that you love" is definitely one of the biggest lessons I learned in my 20s. Shame was such a big part of my identity, and I felt stuck in this mindset. I'm now 31 and so much happier with my imperfect self. A much healthier approach to life is to ask yourself "what do I dislike in my life right now, what am I not proud of? And how can I improve those things, so I can start feeling better just by knowing I'm taking action?". Two big examples for me somewhat recently was that my freelance job 1- didn't fulfill me, and 2- made me too sedentary and lead to weight gain and sluggishness. So I took it easy and took steps to fix those things while staying gentle with myself. Today, I've lost the extra weight and feel much stronger and energetic thanks to exercise, and I'm still taking steps to change careers, while also trying to make my current one happier! It takes work and time, but it's worth it. Embrace the daily improvements you make, don't just dream about the results. Love yall ♥
I love how straight to the point you are in the content you create. One of the only I have seen that seem to be practicing what they preach!
Always glad when these videos pop up
How do I deal with a strict dad who does not even allow me to improve , level 1 of self improvement is health and I can't even do that , I am not special, I am not the kind of person who can sacrifice their health for studying , I can't do anything when I'm unhealthy , I can do everything when I'm healthy , I'm an Indian , 15 year old high schooler about to face boards
And like most people, I don't cope , but this is a genuine problem , because without my health, I cannot be productive
I think you are one of the few people who can understand me , I am not stupid , my family literally stops me from improving
Even if I'm going to pursue business, I want a good class 10 result so that I can get a high paying job from the start, like a head start, the reason why my dad does not let me improve my health is because I am in class 10 and he thinks it's a waste of time
I'm not going to tell you my problems , my comment is long enough
I'm gonna go insane , I'm not progressing on anything, I feel behind , no , it's not even that , I just want to take care of my health , that's it. Why do I have such strict parents , if they allowed me to do these things , I would be so happier , and they would be too because I would get good grades
I love when you and other podcasters like Huberman and Williamson change the tone of your voice when doing an advert, making it really easy to hear when it's over so I can skip through it quickly. Helps me to guard my eyes
It's all bullshit.
I'd also add kind of my own take on #4: stop yourself from doing more than you planned and need to do during the day.
This may be part of my OCD, but it easily slipped into productivity becoming my self worth and me questioning every bit of my leisure time wondering what I "should" be doing and if I'm worthy of love yet.
Obviously it is crucial we meet our own needs and do work with stuff like exercise and cooking and education, not denying that, but it can also breach a barrier where all that runs through your mind is an obsession with productivity and it burns you out quick. I still dont really know how to do things without my mind ruminating on all of the shoulds I set for myself.
Best thing I've found yet overall for an OCD ADHD brain like mine is The Bullet Journal Method by Ryder Caroll. I'd say that books lays out nearly everything you need for both organization and your mental wellbeing.
Love your content Joey, and it continues to inspire me to keep working on treating my depression. I just wanted to point out a pitfall for me.
0:00 - Introduction: Six things you probably need to hear
0:02 - Number 1: Nobody is on their way
1:10 - Number 2: Guard your eyes
3:06 - Number 3: Change your inputs to change your outputs
5:45 - Sponsor message: AG1
6:50 - Number 4: There is nothing wrong with you
10:48 - Number 5: Embrace chosen suffering
13:52 - Number 6: Get hyped and stop overthinking
just stop, man. the last thing people watching these videos need is to read a summary because they're too lazy or unable to focus for a 15 min video. don't enable that behavior
Thanks for the summary! After watching the video with much joy and attention, it was nice to go over the short summary you made 👍🏼
@@voskresenie- Except people like me who can't focus and use timestamps to return and rewatch multiple times...
Stop with the assumptions.
@@inventiveowl395 I assumed that this was for people who couldn't focus through a 15 minute video. You confirmed that you couldn't focus through a 15 minute video. I'm failing to see the reason why I shouldn't make assumptions.
@@voskresenie- The assumption I refered to wasn't _"people can't focus through a 15min video"_ but _"people who can't focus through a 15min video are lazy and will use the summary to jump through the video or skip it entirely"._
Thanks on sharing this valueable information! I wanna add this : You should change your inputs to change your outputs, but the function(relationship between inputs & outputs) changes over time, since it's based on your past. You shouldn't treat life as a rigid machine, which is indeed a comforting view, but as a playful interaction with yourself.
Thats it. I commit to getting off social media for 60 days while i focus that time on my bodybuilding and mental health. This time I know I wont fail.
RUclips too?
good luck!
Not here to doubt you, and I'm glad you're doing this, but make sure you set up a manageable plan that doesn't burn you out for each day.
Your articulation is a gift! Thank you for sharing yourself.
On the topic of "chosen suffering"- that was my dad’s philosophy when he taught me to drive. He always made me take the busiest roads or drive in challenging conditions, thinking that if I got comfortable with discomfort in a "safe" environment, I'd be more resilient later on. While I don’t dislike the philosophy, I feel like there has to be a balance. Instead of building my confidence, his approach made driving feel stressful, and I never learned to actually enjoy it. There’s a fine line between learning through discomfort and creating a lasting sense of dread-and finding that balance might be the key to making "chosen suffering" truly effective.
Just a thought: try to challenge yourself in a sustainable way, one step at a time - not too little (boredom), and not too much (one step forward but to steps back). The difficulty is balance and consistency (in gym strength training, it's called progressive overload). That's why the first step is to know yourself: what do you like and dislike; what's your strengths and weaknesses, etc. Compare yourself only with your yesterday's self and see the progress. Don't make the mistake and compare yourself to others - because you don't know their journey and hardships/life lessons they've overcame. Life is a different kind of race, and in the end, you're only competing with yourself. Be kind to yourself to keep maintaining positive outlook for progressive overload aka. "chosen suffering".
If you trusted your father you would have known what his intentions were and that he would be there to swoop in the moment you felt overwhelmed. I believe that it also depends on your mindset and from this you experience the world. You were negative and apprehensive about his teaching methods, Perhaps you did not trust him or the relationship between you was not a solid one. At the end of it all, once you understand or rather familiarize yourself with the "discomfort" of that situation its easy to excel in it the next time you feel it. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your practice. Personally i hated working out, but once i started understanding this discomfort and getting used to it, my mindset about working out completely changed.. Embrace the suck!
This is a great thought. If the suffering is too big a step, we don't overcome it, so we never build the overcoming muscle up -- and on top of that, we have suffered!
1. Nobody's on their way. No one will save you.
2. Guard your eyes
3. If you want to change your output, change your input.
4. There is nothing wrong with you.
5. Embrace the chosen suffering.
6. Get hyped. Some things just suck. Don't overthink it. Blast past that obstacle.
I hope this helps. Have a good day.
I don't think I've ever commented before but your videos are so great! You always find really interesting and inspirational content here. Just wanted to share.
I really enjoyed this. Very good advice for your age group and younger. I would love for you to age another 20+ years and redo this video.
I've learned over time that although I listened, I, like most, didn't really hear the advice received from elderly individuals, and I am finding that it's truly invaluable for both survival and the process of expiring.
Live long and prosper people.
❤ 😊 🖖
0:33 I had to roll that back and look again because for a hot second there it looked like the guy was coming to console his friend with a box of the same canned cat food we buy for our cats 😂
Another way to look at #5 is think of the hardships you've already been through. I don't know about you, but mine made me stronger. In many ways I both glad I went through it. I learned so many lessons through those hardships. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." It's made me less reactive (shorter reaction) and also patient (a really big struggle for me that I'm still teaching myself constantly, but I'm aware of what I do).
This advice may sound motivational, but it’s packed with flaws that don’t hold up under scrutiny.
First off, Telling people “nobody’s on their way” might sound empowering, but it sets up an isolating, cynical worldview that ignores the reality that we all rely on each other. Life isn’t just about standing alone; it’s about forming connections, building trust, and knowing when to ask for help.
The advice to “guard your eyes” assumes that complete control over your attention is possible or even healthy-when in reality, exposure to diverse ideas and experiences, even distracting ones, can lead to unexpected growth. This “guarding” approach can turn you into a rigid gatekeeper of your own mind, missing out on the richness of life.
Then there’s the whole “change your inputs to change your outputs” cliché lol. as if external tweaks alone could solve deep-seated issues. This advice leans heavily on external changes and gives an easy excuse to blame everything around you instead of dealing with your own habits, choices, and mindset.
The idea that “there’s nothing wrong with you” is a comforting lie that glosses over the hard truth-self-improvement requires facing your flaws. Thinking you’re “fine as you are” sounds nice, but it’s an excuse to avoid the brutal self-assessment that real change demands.
“Embrace chosen suffering” is another half-baked notion that glorifies hardship for its own sake. Pushing yourself is valuable, sure, but valorizing pain as a pathway to growth ignores the importance of balance and wisdom. This approach risks making struggle your identity, trapping you in a loop of unnecessary hardship.
This one -- “get hyped” is flimsy advice dressed up as motivation--relying on hype to push through challenges is a short-lived solution that crashes quickly. Hype doesn’t breed discipline, and trying to “get excited” about difficult tasks is a poor substitute for the kind of deep-seated motivation that actually drives sustainable progress.
Each piece of this advice has an alluring ring, but none hold up to the realities of what it takes to genuinely grow and succeed.
So what would you suggest friend?
Let's reframe it:
1. Don't wait, start assisting yourself immediately. Someone else cannot start this process for you.
2. Be intentional about your attention. Spend it like a budget.
3. Examine the familiar. Things closest to you are invisible, be aware of them.
4. Don't hate yourself for past mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, you can grow and move on without shame.
5. Something is going to be hard, but you can choose what it is. Difficult preparation is healthier than the difficulty of being unprepared.
6. Don't overthink it. Some tasks are unpleasant no matter how they are approached, but if they are necessary the only solution is to do them anyway.
@@TheWerewolfJesus Thank you werewolfjesus, it's easy to twist the meaning of the advice just to conclude that everything said is shit
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Talk about analysis paralysis. All advice can be scrutinized if you are a pessimist. It won’t get you anywhere. These tips are good, but it was not meant to be an end all, be all. And it seems like this is an AI generated response…so maybe stop trolling people that are doing good and do something good yourself. Best of luck to you.
banned books you need to read
1. Hidden Laws Of The Game
2. Money Borlest
3. Money Hidden Magic
Tell me about them if u can spare the time.
Some bot shit?
@@marcussachse9353probably
@@marcussachse9353 sure
banned cuz they suck
You are amazing both cinematics and how you present ideas. I dont know man they just stick unlike many other people on RUclips!
here is my the three things from this video that resonated with me the most :
1- Look at something to focus on it
Genuinely helpful and applicable instantly, want to play guitar, just look at it 30 sec and it will become natural to get it, want to get out of your bed, look at your door handle etc
2-You will always be scared of suffering
No matter the confort the money the happiness you will always be scared of suffering, so make it be something you’re used to. I think it’s actually really motivating, idk want to tell someone you love them but scared ? well do it and if it turns out great then great if it turns out bad you’ll become stronger at facing suffering and be thankful of becoming stronger
3-Stop using self hatred as motivation
I always treat myself like a rubber ball that i squeeze by hating it a lot until i can’t handle it anymore and i jump very high and fall very fast. Everyone could has reasons to hate themselves, happy people just don’t do it
this is brilliant
Thanks for this video Jeremy i love the fact that you go straight to the point instead of wasting time and just showing some random sponsors in the beginning, your videos are truly a life changer.
Guarding your eyes is important in 2024.
Social media is a double edged sword, and we should be intentional with our scrolling!
Thanks Joey! For some of your points, I thought I already knew the answer until you (pleasantly) surprised me with a new perspective. Since quite a few youtubers lowered their amount of new content about self improvement, since we are getting in this era of repetition, it's so good to see you being capable of showing new ways to think about life. Thanks man!
You have to be one of if not my favorite. First you don’t have to make a video every day. And your content is valuable without having to have some guru.
I really love your approach.
Thanks
Excellent video but Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!
You're correct!! I make a lot of money without relying on the government,
Investing in stocks and digital currencies is beneficial at this moment.
Job will pay your bills, business make you rich but investment build and wealth long term, the future is coming.
Life is easier when the cash keeps popping in, thanks to jeffery kathryn services. Glad she's getting the recognition she deserves
@@SofiaVitali-w9hWow! Kind of in shock you mentioned expert, Jeffrey Kathryn What a coincidence!!
Thank you Lord Jesus for bringing expert Kathryn into my life and my family, $14,120.47 weekly profit Our lord Jesus have lifted up my Life!!!
So on point. The timing was right. Thank you…a Christmas gift to me haha
Joey is like Johnny if he never sinned! 😁💥
Corn degenerates
Thank you for this enlightening perspective! Please know that your work is very much appreciated.
Me pressing the emergency button in the stuck elevator hearing that no one is going to come save me. 😭
lmao😂
Hahahah no one is on their way 💀
@betterideas Agreed.😌
You know what sounds even better? I wouldn't necessarily say that.
I get that people, including myself, are the only people who can help themselves get out of a rut and change themselves for the better, but YOU came and saved US. You gave us the help we need to get the opportunities to be richer and better. As people, no matter who we are or how old we get, we always have the time to help each other out to change our stories. We give each other good tips and wisdom based on our own perspectives on reality. It's not like a fairy or someone from the future is going to suddenly appear and give us the change we want. Although, it would be pretty nice if someone from the future did come and save me.
@@jacobb8832 yeah id even say that people will help, but you just have to be willing to open your fuffin eyes for once and see the right hands reaching out to you and actually take it
Get hyped.
Thank you for sharing and the first point resonates. I had to make the change after 32 years of neglect, negativity, and depression. I disappeared for 8 years, and I'm so glad I made the move.
Brilliant video, I truly need this video, thank you.
I've been learning from you for years, and am so glad you are making me laugh now and not just teaching me.
This video was helpful, thanks dude
Thanks for the six things! Now I am aware that I am the best person capable of moving myself forward, and I am worth it.
Sad to see someone still promoting AG1
I really needed this this morning. Thank you, sir !
Wow! What a video. Definitely one of your best. Please consider making something on 'chosen suffering '.
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Dude, you are refined in the fire, your content is gold✨️
Not only is no one on their way but also no body cares. lol. And the saying “it’ll happen” never happens unless you’re putting in work daily. Nothing just comes to you when you’re just wishing for it and that’s it. You have to put in the time and really want it. Make it no other option but for it to be yours. The universe is always watching and it rewards the “relentless”. You must be relentless. When an issue arises , it’s the universe asking “yea, you really that guy?” And you have to smash that challenge and beg for more. Relentless. Only after many challenges (failures) will the universe back off and then reward you. Be relentless
I needed to hear this today thank you. I mean that it really helped me.
Life is like a path that slowly crumbles and plunges into the abyss. If you don't move, you will fall into this abyss and return will be difficult. So always keep moving and never fall into the abyss.
The abyss is safe. Your path is your own, your expectations are not universal.
@@roxtendo I don't want to be in this abyss forever.😞
I am chilling in the abyss 🤷♀️
I’ll tell you this fellas - the first point is abundantly true. No one is coming to help you. Happily married now, but when my first married went south due to cheating (not on my side), I had a stupid expectation that my friends would come and hang out and get me through it. What I found out is that people do legit just care about themselves and they’re not coming to help. You’ve got to get back up and do it on your own. Amazing how those same people suddenly want to talk again when things are going well for you.
Embrace your chosen suffering. Deep wisdom. Love this message!
This is probably one of the most valid videos on RUclips: everyone, no matter your situation in life, needs to hear it because at some time in the future you’ll wish you had.
I Suffer Everyday at Work. So I just wait for the unchosen suffering, I will ace that unchosen suffering
This video spoke to me more then any I've ever seen. I don't know how much it will help but I know that I'm not alone.
Someone else feel like selfimprovement is in a way kinda depressing? Things that remind you how unsatisfying your current thing is.. anyways, try to stat positive and go and get it. Yeah..
@myyoutubeaccount4167 I guess everyone feels that way at some point.. but remember not to stay in that space bro. You'll find something thats like.. the thing. You know? Best of wishes
@@alex2410
I appreciate the sentiment.
Best of wishes to you too.
I found myself in obsession with it which caused me to take a long break. You can definitely go too far and have all your thoughts revolve around improvement. The balance is so hard for me to find
I’m 66 years old and they totally agree with this little talk. And if you are struggling with any one of these points, I highly recommend self-help books or counseling or therapy because it’s very important if you want to be happy in your life.
When you realize that real life is the exact opposite of your University's current advertising campaign that's aired during College Football Saturdays... and that they are gaslighting another generation of students with false expectations in life.
Solid list . I would say that you missed or maybe you covered it and I just didn't pick up on it . Things are not always going to go your way. I would say that is a good 90% chance. Another one is that there are people that live just to put pain in the lives of others.
I love how the thumbnail is almost always just him staring straight into your soul😂😂😂
Idk why but really get addicted to your better ideas and base my entire life on the concepts you talk about. Happened multiple times.
Who needed to hear that?! 🙋🏽♀️ inspiring ❤ Positive vibes for everybody ❤
Love this video , love your channel . I subscribed years ago , will never unsubscribe
Love this list!
I appreciated the perspectives here too 🙌
Woah look who's here. Much love Psych2go ❤
Im guarding my eyes from you.
Psych2go was also waiting for the video to drop😂😂
Btw dang I didn't know you were so famous
I randomly found your channel tonight and I’m very glad that I did
I got divorced recently, and I'm really butthurt that a lot of people stopped interacting with me (I am really not an asshole, I am a decent dude) like my luck is an infectious disease they better not catch.
People stopped interacting and hanging with me and my mom after my dad died, even her family. it's the dynamic that people are not comfortable with anymore, having a single person over instead of a couple or a family
@@Nikki..... I'm sorry. Some people suck.
Hey man, providing so much advices and good vibes to people, I hope you yourself have been doing well. Love the content man.
3:12 Did you vape just to prove a point? That's some commitment 👏🏻
Joey is actually a competitive vaper
Nobody is coming to save you - No one else will rescue you from undesirable situations, so you’re responsible for creating the life you want. This realisation can be empowering, as it encourages you to take control.
Guard your eyes - What you look at holds your attention and can influence you, especially with modern marketing. Be mindful of what you consume visually, focusing on what truly matters to you.
Change your inputs to change your outputs - To alter your actions and perspectives, adjust what you feed your mind. If you’re feeling stuck, consider new information, surroundings, or people to inspire change.
There’s nothing wrong with you - Self-improvement is valuable, but it doesn’t mean you’re fundamentally flawed. Self-worth isn’t conditional on accomplishments; instead, you improve because you already have value.
Embrace chosen suffering - By voluntarily undertaking challenges, you build resilience for life’s inevitable hardships. This helps you face unpredictable struggles more effectively.
Get hyped - Stop overthinking tasks; embrace energy and excitement to tackle obstacles. Boosting your motivation can break through procrastination and inertia.
Its like you sent this video directly to me.
This morning I said my prayers, and told God that everything is in his hands. I praised him for all of my blessings. Everything you said has been in my head lately.
Thank you...
You have no idea how much i needed to hear this at the point i´m at in my life. Thank you.
10:28 thank you.
The *BIGGEST* impact to my productivity this month was turning off RUclips’s watch history. It deletes your entire home page and removes 100% of the attention traps
it's kinda crazy how nobody talks about Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood
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what do you mean? literally everyon is talking about it.
@@flflflflflfl it's a bot
@@StückaEsser me too
Yes, it's VERY crazy.
joey, this has been one of your best videos on your channel man!
You're on your own, kid. Yeah you can face this. You're on your own, kid. You always have been.
Face what? Theres nothing to prove, only a conception of more, should you try. But who needs more if your content in being alone?
@@HomeAutomated-v2r It's a Taylor Swift song
@@Achelois7gay
@@unknown00910 sure.
CAUSE THERE WERE PAGES TURNED WITH THE BRIDGES BURNED, EVERYTHING YOU LOSE IS A STEP YOU TAKE ❤
6 things you definitely need to hear:
1. I love you.
2. It's going to be okay.
3. You're working really hard and doing a great job.
4. Your efforts are making a positive impact.
5. I'm proud of you.
6. The world is better for simply having you exist in it.
4:20 Peter from Family Guy, "ha! He said it, he said the thing"😆
What a great video! I really like this compilation of tips
I agree 100 percent. I work from home as an SRE and I was so afraid to leave my city because of the possibility of losing my remote job. in retrospect. I had a remote job. nothing was forcing me to live there. took me a while to figure this out and to move.
I do stuff that sucks every day. I have been for years. I got addicted to it, almost to the point where that's ALL I did. There was no reward.
I'm now in therapy, working to undo all the damage I've done to myself trying to improve myself.
Yes, I'm ready for big challenges. I've built that muscle. But I also now need to learn to relax it--both psychologically and literally. I have been tensing my body up for so long that it's a struggle, minute to minute, to relax it.
Careful with how many rules you set for yourself and how austere you become. Moderation is critical.
I just love how straightforward you are and also confident in what you are saying. I always leave your videos more motivated than I came 😊
the fact that nobody talks about the book called Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
Okay dude who did you pay for your likes? Come on, let’s have it. Caught in 4k.
Are you here to sell your book? Of course you are 🙄
spam comment guys
Dude yes I needed to hear this, thank you
Great video man, one thing I'd point out about the "Chosen Suffering" bit - you should never, ever, EVER 'choose' to 'suffer'. The activities you label as 'suffering' have a tendency to become suffering even if they're not actually that bad just because you're saying "This activity is suffering, I'm going to suffer while I do this."
You can be in incredible pain and not suffer, because suffering is totally in the mind. Suffering is the mind telling itself that whatever you're doing is terrible. It's like you're trying to shovel dog shit, and the whole time someone is screaming at you: "Oh my GOD you are shoveling DOG SHIT that is so AWFUL!"
If you have to shovel dog shit, why would you not at least TRY to do it with peace and joy and not constantly pester yourself about how terrible it is?
Once you understand that suffering is just in your mind, then you realize that you can create literally any other experience inside of yourself that you want - you just have to be doing it consciously and not impulsively. Impulsivity is just this - once upon a time you did something that created the intended effect you wanted, so your body encoded that experience to use later - now you're just doing it as a reflex because it's easier and more energy-efficient to rely on bodily reflexes than to be in a constant state of meditativeness. So to be conscious means: "I'm not going to rely on whatever is going on in my mind/body."
That's how you become someone that "does a lot of things that suck" - they just stop defining those things as "sucking" and just accept responsibility for making every experience "good".
I wouldn't mind friends.I usually just keep my head down and work on my Art/Music/Horror Short channel.Also, about a year ago I discovered that I was autistic, which makes socializing pretty tough.Love the channel.Keep up the good work!
15:15 A legal alien is Sting in New York
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Truly appreciate you Joey. You're really trying to help.
I very very much needed to hear this especially points 4&5. Thankyou sir for your content and this amazing video. Appreciate your efforts for making this video.🤍