If the frame you are currently in is one of pursuit. One of chasing or begging them, or even WAITING for them to come back, you are agreeing to a frame that puts them above you. How can they ever realize what they lost, when you never stopped being an option.
@blacademic your dead right I am opinion I must let her go with new man I did send her photo of me with beautiful lady way better looking than my ex and way younger that will show her I have life also my ex adored me minute she went on holidays to France she found a man with money of she went thanks for ur advice I am keep fit gent her men are over weight ugly but there bank balance more important to her
Is it not impossible to exit pursuit mindset when one still wants them?? That’s quite a conundrum. So consider it a relationship loss and they’ll return??
9 months of no contact, and he has come back telling me he’s sorry for hurting me and that he’s been wanting to reach out for a long time but he didn’t have the words and was afraid I would reject him. He told me that leaving me was the worst thing he could’ve ever done…you guys, focus on you, get in the gym, become the best version of yourselves! They’ll be back…and when they return, you may not even want them anymore! But no contact is a WIN, even if they don’t reach out. It allows you to heal and Level up!!! Trust me.
That’s exactly what happened! He doesn’t know I know but I know he was seeing someone…word got back to me that the girl he left me for turned out to be one big illusion…smh now he thinks he can run back to me! Not gonna happen!
Man I remember months back when I was watching your videos stressing out about getting her back. Now I don’t care to do that anymore. Such a good feeling. Appreciate you coach, if it wasn’t for your content, I still would of been stuck. To anyone reading this, DONT BOTHER GETTING YOUR EX BACK. You only want them because there’s a sense of attachment….once you detach, you’ll see how easy it is to start moving on.
@@Layla-hg4ux Deleted her number, blocked her on IG, got rid of every gift, every photo on my gallery and so forth. Hell I even made it a rule to not even say her name. Out of sight, out of mind. I promise you’ll feel stronger when you do that. That’s gonna motivate you to move forward. I still miss her sometimes but I’ve built enough pride and self respect to miss her with no intention of texting her again. She’s come back about 6 times over a course of a year tryna rekindle and sh*t. When you truly leave people alone, they come back. Go MIA and work on your healing, you got this.
Had the woman of my dreams walk out on me and my son and moved 1700 miles away overnight to start over with her ex. I have been in NC for a month now, and it’s very hard. I lost 62 pounds thanks to dieting and being dedicated to the gym, getting ready to build a new custom home, saving money and getting ready for my future with my son. I was destroyed and broken, but I’m pushing forward. It’s very hard, but it can be done. Focus on yourself and your goals everyone
@@XxAXELxXYT I couldn’t call her a bitch because I still love her brotha but karma is going to take care of that for me. She made a poor decision and ima let life show her that
They had been split up for a couple years but she was still dating him when we met so who knows. It’s ironic but it’s all good man. It’s her loss at the end of the day. I will say I had a one on one with coach and he changes the game. It’s her loss at the end of the day.
@@vesrt403 Yea, you meeting when they were still together screams monkey branching, even if you didn’t cheat together. I’m sure you now know is a major red flag and even someone freshly out of a long relationship within past couple months is a no go for a LTR also. Cuz is a rebound scenario for them. We live and learn
Almost 3mo’s I haven’t reached out because there’s no need in my mind. I don’t want to just be friends, but I do miss him. No one ever discusses the difficulty of the grief you feel from making the right decision. Whew! I don’t want to ever feel this again.
I had the same discussion with my ex three months ago. We were never platonic and I don't ever want to be. All or nothing. Don't close your heart though you're strong!
Had the same thing happen to me in April. She broke up with me, but requested that we become friends. I politely declined her goodwill offer. Why? The offer to remain friends translates to keeping you in a corner in case her other ventures don't work.
Me either because feels terrible and hurt too bad because I loved him and was loyal to him whole 15 yrs I walked away because he wouldn’t stop drunk and disrespecting me in front our son..so I moved out thinking maybe he will change but I started missing him and thought we could wrk it out he came back but I knew something was different way acted with his phone and he in btwn time start dating someone at his job while I was on my no contact hoping he change😢I’m still trying move on with the hurt each day.
If you are struggling with NC, just imagine this situation: After a few days or even weeks of NC, you decide to text them. The moment you’ve sent the message, you have a weird feeling about it. Was it right to break NC? It felt right before, but now it’s kind of different. Your ex doesn’t answer as fast as they usually did. Still no answer after 1 hour. Or maybe they are busy? Your feeling gets worse. It seems like you just ruined your NC strategy and hope things don’t get worse. You can’t delete the message anymore because if they have seen it, they have seen it. You feel needy, like all the pain during NC was for nothing. Maybe you pushed them even further away, because you’ve interrupted their relief phase. If only you didn’t text them. But since this was just your imagination and you haven’t actually texted them, just keep it this way. Breathe! It didn’t happen. You haven’t broken the NC rule, and you never want to experience that feeling that you have just imagined.
It’s been a 5 weeks since it ended officially, and a month since she came and got her things, then no contact since then. I was creeping (she didn’t see) and saw she posted on her story some song that I looked up about not needing a man and being independent. Then she unfriended me on FB the same day. This was a couple days ago, almost 1 month after no contact. I’m sure this is her expressing her mood and feeling at the moment, which leads me to believe I’m still on her mind. There was no big blowout, just a breakup. Is it really best to just wait? I know NC is for me, myself, and I’ve been working out, dieting, paying down debt crazily and doing all the right things to become the best version of myself. But I still think about her everyday. Is there ever a situation where I should reach out, that they would be stubborn and waiting for me to fight for her? I’m just so confused and don’t want to lose her. NC is counterintuitive to me, that maybe she will get over me overtime and move on.
Trying to show an ex what they lost is crazy to me. Yall better start feeling yourselves out there. Screw your ex, they know what they had. Move on, access denied
Bear in mind nobody has the same exact situation so before you pass judgment and use all the assumptions, reflect on the fact that there’s a lot of information that you don’t know any people are not going to be Reyes in the same way you are eating their perspective is not going to be anywhere near yours
I remember when I was going through the breakup phase 😂 always use to watch your videos cause I gave me hope but as time went on I realised she ain’t coming back and I slowly grew to accept that , it’s been 11 months still no contact. I’ve moved on and finally found peace and happiness but I sometimes find myself thinking of her and it does hurt me but it’s okay , it’s life , things happen . I’m in a new relationship but my feelings are numb and I’m trying my best to forget the past and live happily.❤ but all I wanna say is thank you for your videos 🙏🏾❤️. The harsh truth I learnt is you don’t heal , you just learn to live with it cause thats just life . Whoever is reading this just know you gonna be okay ❤ trust me .
@@blacademichi Coach , I set boundaries Telling her NO Male friends and demand her stop act single in the gym.she Said I stress her out.she reluctantly agreed but I guess she think I am Controlling and Insecure!? What should I do...she ghosting me and flakes our Sunday outing plan
@@blacademichi Coach I need your advice if can help me out. I caught my girlfriend sit into another man car. I did No Contact 4 months ..I guess she felt guilty, she blow up my phone but I didn't want to reply to her 250 text .. Last Saturday she came to my house with a gift. I thought I got the Upper hand I told her I don't want a Cheating Girlfriend she said She Didn't Cheat because NO Sex...if I take her back am I a Cuck? She will cheat again ?
The best option is free on your phone 📱 block 🚫 and delete! Learn the power of walking away, your thoughts will be clear, and your head will be above water! Thank me later ❤
Yeah, if you absolutely want nothing to do with him and couldn’t care less if he kicked to rocks, then block. If you want to leave an avenue for a reach out, then don’t block. Walk away, but don’t block.
I wouldn’t say block anyone because you might one day miss out on your healing. Don’t wait on it, but it could happen. Blocking is reserved for those who aren’t completely over someone because it’s easier to fool themselves into believing they have some iota of control. Negative. You’ll truly know you’re over someone not when you are able to block them but rather whenever you think about them and you feel absolutely numb/nothing. In my experience, indifference hurts an ex lover who wronged you more than anything because it renders them powerless. Moreover ignoring someone psychologically analogous to real actual physical pain because they perceive it as rejection which reverses the pain dynamic. I’ve dated a lot of narcs in my day and what I can say is that all exes, especially those who hurt you, eventually come back. And whenever they do, I never send them to voicemail. I don’t reply to texts, I do nothing and believe you me it humbles them and puts them back into their place a heck of a lot quicker than hearing my voicemail and automatically knowing it’s because they’re blocked. Try it, trust me it works. You think they show their asses when they believe they have power over you, then just wait and see how much they show it when a bitch realizes they now don’t. That’s what you call getting the last laugh 😂😂😂
It’s hard to explain. It’s almost like Stockholm Syndrome (where the captive ends up loving their captor). The difference is... In the beginning the avoidant love bombs and says things to reel you into them... It’s a subtle knowledge in your gut that something is wrong with them, but... The more fun adventures and the more affection and the more quality time spent... You get blinded...
i listen to this to calm my nerves and realize im finally in control again so once i decide to let her back in i've perfected my approach and control on my emotions
i decided i will NOT let her back in, im focused on school and proceeding to a real career. She called me last week 12 times , no need to answer especially when you chose another man over me. Im grateful for the people in the comments. This is genuinely a safe space. Thank you
Both of you are living life on Easy mode, I hope you know that. Saying that once you decide to let her back, like you know she'll come back, and how she called you 12 times in a week but you're over her. That's not what we all experience. For some of us, they're never coming back, calling us, or reaching out. We know because that hasn't happened once in our entire life.
My ex and I broke up 6 days ago, and we texted for a few days afterwards. Started with no contact 3 days ago, and I'm hurting tremendously, but watching videos like this helps quite a bit. Hoping to get stronger by the day, thank you for your content. 🙏🏾
Met with my ex the other night after not seeing her for 7 months. It was going well until it wasn’t. Her avoidance was triggered and she became extremely cruel. Tried to stay strong but I did become a bit emotional. For some reason my heart is still open to her but I can’t wait like I was. Really closing the door. No contact does work and keep focusing on yourself!!
If anyone cares.. she was putting out feelers.. playing the little games.. eventually she asked to get drinks, I said yes.. it was going very well.. too much alcohol was involved. She ended up at my place and it went sour. She made moves on me then ended up being very cruel. This time back to no contact truly with the mindset of forever. I would need to see big changes. I’ve put in the work.. better mindset, less anxious.. ripped up body.. new car.. new job.. new apartment.. feeling like him. The past two days have been extremely painful. I won’t let her take me back to a dark place though. I think she saw me doing well (IG) and got curious.. maybe even wanted to spoil it. Childish. Be someone YOU will be proud of.. not anyone else. Someone great will accept all of you and it won’t have to be so difficult. Haven’t even watched the video but thanks coach.
Love your channel brother. Thanks for all the great wisdom. It gets easier every day. No contact 6 weeks and not looking back. If she wants to reach out that’s on her.
I’m a month no contact. We broke up nearly 2 months ago. It’s comforting to hear that someone else is in the same boat as me. It does get easier everyday. But you still feel that love there.
@@blacademici lost my ex for the second time cause he cheated once again after I gave him a second chance he told me we would never get back together im so hurt I real so lost
@@MonishaJefferson The hurt is so bad. Can’t eat or sleep. I did everything right. I feel for you and hope you get to healing soon. Sending you love and hugs. We’ll both find healthy people that won’t treat us like this. I promise. We have to have that mindset like Coach Blac says. It sucks so bad but we can only control ourselves and not bleed out. We got this!
@@TheDarthpaully thank you so much for the encouragement I really needed it I never thought I would feel pain like this by him again I thought he would've change since we're older but I guess not
This just saved me… I still live with my ex wife and we’ve been in and out for the past few years… she just told me she is ready for us to move forward with our lives.. and I agreed… but when I see her she doesn’t talk like she’s moving out, nor does she talk about how we’re going to manage our 3 children… I was just about to ask her to chill with me until I seen this video… thanks
@@starlight1514If they leave and it’s not like a couple months (3 max I would say) or less, then they are not worth it. If they’ve slept with someone else within that 3 months and try to come back, then they are also disqualified, do not take em back. They will never respect you and always think about doing it again. In reality no contact is really for yourself most of the time.
my boyfriend of 11 months left and it’s been 2 weeks NC. he’s a virgo and i don’t think im ever getting him back. heard he has a rebound and it hurts. i treated him so good and i love him. it hurts to see his love for me wasn’t the same.
Wait...your boyfriend has a rebound in just 2 weeks? How? Are you sure? I know most girls can get rebounds as quickly as they want, but for guys, it's not so easy.
I really do not know what my ex-wife thinks. She will contact me then vanish again. In January, she contacted me, but I have changed throughout the years. I exercise and learned to love myself. I have learned the only person that will be there for me, is me. Not my ex-wife. She wanted a picture, and I sent her one. She was impressed. My ex is very pretty, but she knows I won't jump through hoops for her anymore. I feel the gym saved my life. I was in a huge depression for many years. It takes a long time, but the human body is amazing and will get stronger with exercise. My goal is to lose a total of 60 pounds by December. I can do it. Life is good.
I’ve been watching a lot of videos but this one. Hit different. I feel it. Down to earth. Direct like words can’t explain. Thank Coach Blac. Needed that new insight. Don’t worry about her/him coming. They come when they come. If not it’s okay. Just keep doing you and excel in life! You got this love y’all
@coachblac I had a reach out a couple weeks ago from my ex. It pissed me off..but surprised me. I didn’t reply until the next day and only said, it’s not ok (him reaching out to apologize after 3 months!) he didn’t reply. So it was a temp check. Few days ago, I told him to stop playing games, you wanted me gone, I’m gone. He replied an hour later (it was early) saying he doesn’t want me gone. I replied, actions say diff and left it at that. Of course he hasn’t responded lol. I feel so good that I no longer am triggered by his avoidant immaturity. Thank you for your videos! One live you advised me to not go to an event he was posting he’d be at near my gym. I lost who I was for a second with his confusing behavior.. I’m back to being me but with more insight and accountability of my past avoidant behavior with other people.
He was bread-crumbing you. He wanted to confirm your interest level in him. Judging from the conversation you had, It seems like you still have feelings for him. Personally, I wouldn’t have engaged in such a conversation whereby I had to tell him to stop playing games. You should have kept it simple and casual, Like he was a normal friend. If he says hi, say hey. If he says he doesn’t want you gone, simply type ‘awwwwwwww these things happen’ and leave it at that! He sounds like a narcissist! Well done for not giving in!! 👏
Best advice: don’t build your life around another person. Build your life around yourself and welcome in the right person to add to your life. It’s much more healthy and way more attractive.
It's been for 7 month with no contect for me and I realized that if she truly love me care about me she won't do this I have experienced with my previous relationship so she didn't deserve me when we are together she fell like my soulmate and I thought that she will be the one send by God but it didn't work its a lesson for me now I'm a better person☺
I really enjoy watching all your videos. It really gives me strength and positivity. I have really started doing no contact, and it really made me value myself more, so thank you for all the advices, the videos u did. God bless u.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
You’re attached bro, you wanting her back tells me you still are. How do I know this? Coz I went through the same process you’re going through right now. You don’t see your life with anyone else coz you don’t value yourself enough. I went through a 4 year relationship, completely heartbroken I decided to chase and chase but nothing came out of it. The moment I moved on, I’ve gotten over 50 calls, some “I regret my decision” and a couple of “I miss you”. The only thing need you need to focus on is getting your power back. I still think about her and miss her but my mind is stronger than my heart due to detaching from her which enables me and hopefully you too, to make the decision that only benefits your wellbeing and not hers.
In my experience: When we say they “come back “ we refer to back to the relationship we have had before… i have an ex now that has “came back” for a day or two.. but it always turns out the same way…me wanting us back in a relationship, them making me feel even though they may show up sometimes, they are still looking for the greener grass…leavening you feel wiener even when they may spend “some” time with you… they walked out on you…they look down on you….them “coming back” for a day or two doesn’t change anything…they left you!!!! And even when they come back for dates…they will keep leaving you !!!
Thank you I am high vibe but he’s tried to bring down my vibration, I manifested a new car for free, he wasn’t happy, I bought a caravan, wasn’t happy, bought another puppy, wasn’t happy, it goes on and now he’s ignoring me, if the script was flipped I’d be delighted I love seeing people get what they set out to get, love from the Emerald Isle ☘️
For me it's been a year and a half. Through children you always have contact and you always hope and it is precisely this hope that kills you inside. Whenever he comes to pick up the child you think "maybe he'll say something today" but it doesn't happen. I try to be as passive as possible but I feel trapped
You are a breakup wizard .. thank you so much for putting your wisdom out here for all us going through really tough situations. It’s helped me so much. Thank you 🙏
I got 3 kids with my ex, married and separated for 5months now. Moved out. Went no contact as much as possible with 3 kids, and she rang flipping out crying, emotional....it works man I've since slipped back to the needy and can work things out phase as my birthday just passed and meant regular contact and high emotions, but going no contact again for my own mental health and to build for me It works but it's not easy with 3 kids man
Its been 7 weeks no contact. This is the second time he walked away. Its so devastating. I dont think i can ever trust him again. He came back last time at 7 weeks. I am trying to move on but hes still in my mind. Better off without him thats for sure
I own up to my mistakes and wish I could change some things. Almost a year ago, I vowed to grow better for you, or who’s gonna be in my life . Forgive what happened in the past There actually no excuses why we couldn’t be together . You know that I am not sacrificial , I been there in the worse moments all my life and when you were down I still didn’t give up. I still believe in what I told you all my feelings . but I must respect and love my myself and my progress, not get stepped on my face by nobody or would be like I did nothing, I'm proud of my growth and the battles I've won, I will live freely with who deserves it. I'm second to no one, but first in my love for you, yes many ideas but you know when I say something I’ll do it , we need goals in life ... If you choose to stay away, that's okay. I need someone who shares my values and commitment to growth. To be clear, I'm not desperate for anyone love, be with somebody is a choice I'm in love, maybe I am humble but I am all about respect. I respect your decision and wish you well.
My ex and I had a very strict frame out of respect for each other that went both ways. From the very beginning and for THREE years. When he dumped me and wanted to relieve himself of guilt he threw it all back in my face and said I was strangling him and controlling him. Ridiculous. We both were jealous and sensitive and always protected each other. That is until he cheated on me and I stayed LOL
Oh my i lost my Son 2 years ago and Celtics is his favorite team ..on top of that going through a heartbreak 😢 i don't think my ex will ever come back i tried and tried nothing 😢
firstly, please accept my condolences for the loss of your son. Although my daugther and I are estranged, it's a severe loss for me. As for the ex, stop trying to get someone back who obviously can't understand grief and loss. What a horrible person. You deserve support, not further heartbreak. Grief is not linear. Be gentle with you. Be loving to yourself. Be kind to you. Lord knows the world needs more love and compassion now.
Been about 7 months since my avoidant ex walks out of the relationship.. would I ever hear from him? it’s not like I’m still anxiously waiting for him .. but it’s the little ego factor that makes him say he regretted letting me go because of everything I had to go through and how he completely broke me ruthlessly..
My boyfriend of 4yrs just broke up with me tonight. He said, WE were just friends. That shattered me. I just responded with Thank You and left it there. But cried my eyes out behind closed doors. 💔😢
That's the spirit. PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT HIM! I love the fact you left it on a high. The moment he realises you have not been in contact, it will hit his reset button.
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I had a similar situation and months later when he happened to see me by chance, he apologized but I didn’t linger to talk, all I said was, that’s alright, and walked away but it hurt to do it. It was the most painful thing I had to do, but I figured if he couldn’t say more to me than 2 words upon seeing me by circumstance, why should I say or do more? It’s not like he made an effort to call or come to see me to talk to me, oh no, he took the easy way out when he happened to see me after 6 months,; he wouldn’t have apologized yet if he hadn’t run into me that day. The same will happen to you, he’ll be back if you stay away, but you might find it difficult to do anything if he acts like my ex and doesn’t make a special deliberate effort to contact you and then apologize to you. My ex had a half smile as he said it, maybe as an unsaid hello, but it was weird and hurtful at the same time. I’m hearing he’s regretting having walked out on me for no reason, he just disappeared on me, there was no argument or signs of anything wrong. Hugs to you, you’ll get through this. Remember to be gentle on yourself as you heal.
Thank you for PAYING IT FORWARD, from your relationship experiences and insight. Your advice are pearls of wisdom on human dynamics and relationships. 🙏🙌
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Listening to you everything you said is true. If loving a person takes so much effort one can let go of that love for good. To me it means my ex is not the one for me. In my opinion love needs to be effortless and not feel like alot of rules and extreme hard work to get your ex to love you back and respect you. Listening to you make me realize this isn't what I want and my ex fall short in many ways to really satisfy me. I need to work on me and make myself a priority and also change the frame in my new journey.
I struggle with staying in NC ….. she treated me better than anyone and I let my emotions and feelings lead the whole relationship and pushed her so far away that she was just over it and I ruined things ….. it’s hard not messaging her or hearing from her after talking every day for the last 2 and half years lol , this fukin sucksss
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If the frame you are currently in is one of pursuit. One of chasing or begging them, or even WAITING for them to come back, you are agreeing to a frame that puts them above you.
How can they ever realize what they lost, when you never stopped being an option.
No sir
@blacademic your dead right I am opinion I must let her go with new man I did send her photo of me with beautiful lady way better looking than my ex and way younger that will show her I have life also my ex adored me minute she went on holidays to France she found a man with money of she went thanks for ur advice I am keep fit gent her men are over weight ugly but there bank balance more important to her
@blacademic she with another man now after telling me she adored me i think she has screw lose
Is it not impossible to exit pursuit mindset when one still wants them?? That’s quite a conundrum.
So consider it a relationship loss and they’ll return??
9 months of no contact, and he has come back telling me he’s sorry for hurting me and that he’s been wanting to reach out for a long time but he didn’t have the words and was afraid I would reject him. He told me that leaving me was the worst thing he could’ve ever done…you guys, focus on you, get in the gym, become the best version of yourselves! They’ll be back…and when they return, you may not even want them anymore! But no contact is a WIN, even if they don’t reach out. It allows you to heal and Level up!!! Trust me.
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The healing process is the key. #newmode
Sounds like he went into the world and found out the grass ain't greener on the other side. typical 😒
That’s exactly what happened! He doesn’t know I know but I know he was seeing someone…word got back to me that the girl he left me for turned out to be one big illusion…smh now he thinks he can run back to me! Not gonna happen!
9 months is too long
Man I remember months back when I was watching your videos stressing out about getting her back. Now I don’t care to do that anymore. Such a good feeling. Appreciate you coach, if it wasn’t for your content, I still would of been stuck. To anyone reading this, DONT BOTHER GETTING YOUR EX BACK. You only want them because there’s a sense of attachment….once you detach, you’ll see how easy it is to start moving on.
How did you keep yourself motivated and strong not to break no contact or move on completely?
what if you have kids. ? reunite the family worth it
@@Layla-hg4ux Deleted her number, blocked her on IG, got rid of every gift, every photo on my gallery and so forth. Hell I even made it a rule to not even say her name. Out of sight, out of mind. I promise you’ll feel stronger when you do that. That’s gonna motivate you to move forward. I still miss her sometimes but I’ve built enough pride and self respect to miss her with no intention of texting her again. She’s come back about 6 times over a course of a year tryna rekindle and sh*t. When you truly leave people alone, they come back. Go MIA and work on your healing, you got this.
Same @@freehighlander-u2w
Thank you for this update, and encouragement,it helps.
Had the woman of my dreams walk out on me and my son and moved 1700 miles away overnight to start over with her ex. I have been in NC for a month now, and it’s very hard. I lost 62 pounds thanks to dieting and being dedicated to the gym, getting ready to build a new custom home, saving money and getting ready for my future with my son. I was destroyed and broken, but I’m pushing forward. It’s very hard, but it can be done. Focus on yourself and your goals everyone
@@XxAXELxXYT I couldn’t call her a bitch because I still love her brotha but karma is going to take care of that for me. She made a poor decision and ima let life show her that
Her ex must have been in no contact to get her back. Ironic. But Sorry to hear, you’re better without her
They had been split up for a couple years but she was still dating him when we met so who knows. It’s ironic but it’s all good man. It’s her loss at the end of the day. I will say I had a one on one with coach and he changes the game. It’s her loss at the end of the day.
@@vesrt403 Yea, you meeting when they were still together screams monkey branching, even if you didn’t cheat together. I’m sure you now know is a major red flag and even someone freshly out of a long relationship within past couple months is a no go for a LTR also. Cuz is a rebound scenario for them. We live and learn
Your 100% right
“Who’s at the bottom” hit me like a ton of bricks. This was gold. I was going to text him for his birthday, but not anymore lol.
Almost 3mo’s I haven’t reached out because there’s no need in my mind. I don’t want to just be friends, but I do miss him. No one ever discusses the difficulty of the grief you feel from making the right decision. Whew! I don’t want to ever feel this again.
I had the same discussion with my ex three months ago. We were never platonic and I don't ever want to be. All or nothing. Don't close your heart though you're strong!
Had the same thing happen to me in April. She broke up with me, but requested that we become friends. I politely declined her goodwill offer. Why? The offer to remain friends translates to keeping you in a corner in case her other ventures don't work.
Me either because feels terrible and hurt too bad because I loved him and was loyal to him whole 15 yrs I walked away because he wouldn’t stop drunk and disrespecting me in front our son..so I moved out thinking maybe he will change but I started missing him and thought we could wrk it out he came back but I knew something was different way acted with his phone and he in btwn time start dating someone at his job while I was on my no contact hoping he change😢I’m still trying move on with the hurt each day.
@@tonjagee11 stay strong. You sound like a good person you’ll be okay
@@tonjagee11❤ It is well
If you are struggling with NC, just imagine this situation:
After a few days or even weeks of NC, you decide to text them. The moment you’ve sent the message, you have a weird feeling about it. Was it right to break NC? It felt right before, but now it’s kind of different. Your ex doesn’t answer as fast as they usually did. Still no answer after 1 hour. Or maybe they are busy?
Your feeling gets worse. It seems like you just ruined your NC strategy and hope things don’t get worse. You can’t delete the message anymore because if they have seen it, they have seen it. You feel needy, like all the pain during NC was for nothing. Maybe you pushed them even further away, because you’ve interrupted their relief phase. If only you didn’t text them.
But since this was just your imagination and you haven’t actually texted them, just keep it this way. Breathe! It didn’t happen. You haven’t broken the NC rule, and you never want to experience that feeling that you have just imagined.
Exactly!
Genius!
Thank you
It’s been a 5 weeks since it ended officially, and a month since she came and got her things, then no contact since then. I was creeping (she didn’t see) and saw she posted on her story some song that I looked up about not needing a man and being independent. Then she unfriended me on FB the same day. This was a couple days ago, almost 1 month after no contact. I’m sure this is her expressing her mood and feeling at the moment, which leads me to believe I’m still on her mind. There was no big blowout, just a breakup. Is it really best to just wait? I know NC is for me, myself, and I’ve been working out, dieting, paying down debt crazily and doing all the right things to become the best version of myself. But I still think about her everyday. Is there ever a situation where I should reach out, that they would be stubborn and waiting for me to fight for her? I’m just so confused and don’t want to lose her. NC is counterintuitive to me, that maybe she will get over me overtime and move on.
@@t.m.6579Lol what..This is rambo4presidents comment thread and the comment I was replying to. What are you talking about?
Trying to show an ex what they lost is crazy to me. Yall better start feeling yourselves out there. Screw your ex, they know what they had. Move on, access denied
Bear in mind nobody has the same exact situation so before you pass judgment and use all the assumptions, reflect on the fact that there’s a lot of information that you don’t know any people are not going to be Reyes in the same way you are eating their perspective is not going to be anywhere near yours
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 I know I'm pressure
Wow that not good advice what do you tell all the ex's that has gotten back together sometimes mistake happen people can work it out
I remember when I was going through the breakup phase 😂 always use to watch your videos cause I gave me hope but as time went on I realised she ain’t coming back and I slowly grew to accept that , it’s been 11 months still no contact. I’ve moved on and finally found peace and happiness but I sometimes find myself thinking of her and it does hurt me but it’s okay , it’s life , things happen . I’m in a new relationship but my feelings are numb and I’m trying my best to forget the past and live happily.❤ but all I wanna say is thank you for your videos 🙏🏾❤️. The harsh truth I learnt is you don’t heal , you just learn to live with it cause thats just life . Whoever is reading this just know you gonna be okay ❤ trust me .
I’m the best he can do for sure. He’s going to regret choosing the downgrade rebound over me.
Stay strong then, and never forget your worth
@@blacademichi Coach , I set boundaries Telling her NO Male friends and demand her stop act single in the gym.she Said I stress her out.she reluctantly agreed but I guess she think I am Controlling and Insecure!? What should I do...she ghosting me and flakes our Sunday outing plan
@@blacademichi Coach I need your advice if can help me out. I caught my girlfriend sit into another man car. I did No Contact 4 months ..I guess she felt guilty, she blow up my phone but I didn't want to reply to her 250 text .. Last Saturday she came to my house with a gift. I thought I got the Upper hand I told her I don't want a Cheating Girlfriend she said She Didn't Cheat because NO Sex...if I take her back am I a Cuck? She will cheat again ?
I doubt it…u sound toxic, kiss that victim goodbye and watch him be happy with someone else now
@@II-kd1gi need your advice what should I do ..I caught her sit into another man car
Stay strong. I'm going through the same thing. I have been no contact. July 2, 2024, will be three months. It's hard, but Im standing my ground.
Update?
The best option is free on your phone 📱 block 🚫 and delete! Learn the power of walking away, your thoughts will be clear, and your head will be above water! Thank me later ❤
Yeah, if you absolutely want nothing to do with him and couldn’t care less if he kicked to rocks, then block. If you want to leave an avenue for a reach out, then don’t block. Walk away, but don’t block.
I wouldn’t say block anyone because you might one day miss out on your healing. Don’t wait on it, but it could happen. Blocking is reserved for those who aren’t completely over someone because it’s easier to fool themselves into believing they have some iota of control. Negative. You’ll truly know you’re over someone not when you are able to block them but rather whenever you think about them and you feel absolutely numb/nothing.
In my experience, indifference hurts an ex lover who wronged you more than anything because it renders them powerless. Moreover ignoring someone psychologically analogous to real actual physical pain because they perceive it as rejection which reverses the pain dynamic.
I’ve dated a lot of narcs in my day and what I can say is that all exes, especially those who hurt you, eventually come back. And whenever they do, I never send them to voicemail. I don’t reply to texts, I do nothing and believe you me it humbles them and puts them back into their place a heck of a lot quicker than hearing my voicemail and automatically knowing it’s because they’re blocked. Try it, trust me it works. You think they show their asses when they believe they have power over you, then just wait and see how much they show it when a bitch realizes they now don’t. That’s what you call getting the last laugh
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@@Omnitrix8I just unfollowed made him unfollow me and unfriended. But I didn’t block him on anything. Will this still work for me?
It’s hard to explain.
It’s almost like Stockholm Syndrome (where the captive ends up loving their captor).
The difference is...
In the beginning the avoidant love bombs
and says things to reel you into them...
It’s a subtle knowledge in your gut
that something is wrong with them, but...
The more fun adventures and the more affection and the more quality time spent...
You get blinded...
This is the best response and explanation. You absolutely nailed it. You literally described my relationship. Thank you❤
happened to me, it’s very painful process to detach 😢
i listen to this to calm my nerves and realize im finally in control again so once i decide to let her back in i've perfected my approach and control on my emotions
i decided i will NOT let her back in, im focused on school and proceeding to a real career. She called me last week 12 times , no need to answer especially when you chose another man over me. Im grateful for the people in the comments. This is genuinely a safe space. Thank you
Both of you are living life on Easy mode, I hope you know that. Saying that once you decide to let her back, like you know she'll come back, and how she called you 12 times in a week but you're over her. That's not what we all experience. For some of us, they're never coming back, calling us, or reaching out. We know because that hasn't happened once in our entire life.
I sent 6 msgs over a 2 or 3 week time frame. Never again. The betrayal i felt is out of this world. Never again.
My ex and I broke up 6 days ago, and we texted for a few days afterwards. Started with no contact 3 days ago, and I'm hurting tremendously, but watching videos like this helps quite a bit. Hoping to get stronger by the day, thank you for your content. 🙏🏾
Met with my ex the other night after not seeing her for 7 months. It was going well until it wasn’t. Her avoidance was triggered and she became extremely cruel. Tried to stay strong but I did become a bit emotional. For some reason my heart is still open to her but I can’t wait like I was. Really closing the door. No contact does work and keep focusing on yourself!!
If anyone cares.. she was putting out feelers.. playing the little games.. eventually she asked to get drinks, I said yes.. it was going very well.. too much alcohol was involved. She ended up at my place and it went sour. She made moves on me then ended up being very cruel. This time back to no contact truly with the mindset of forever. I would need to see big changes. I’ve put in the work.. better mindset, less anxious.. ripped up body.. new car.. new job.. new apartment.. feeling like him. The past two days have been extremely painful. I won’t let her take me back to a dark place though. I think she saw me doing well (IG) and got curious.. maybe even wanted to spoil it. Childish. Be someone YOU will be proud of.. not anyone else. Someone great will accept all of you and it won’t have to be so difficult. Haven’t even watched the video but thanks coach.
Love your channel brother. Thanks for all the great wisdom. It gets easier every day. No contact 6 weeks and not looking back. If she wants to reach out that’s on her.
That’s the mindset bro! If you have been solid in no contact, she will either come back chasing.
Or you will move on to a healthier relationship
I’m a month no contact. We broke up nearly 2 months ago. It’s comforting to hear that someone else is in the same boat as me. It does get easier everyday. But you still feel that love there.
@@blacademici lost my ex for the second time cause he cheated once again after I gave him a second chance he told me we would never get back together im so hurt I real so lost
@@MonishaJefferson The hurt is so bad. Can’t eat or sleep. I did everything right. I feel for you and hope you get to healing soon. Sending you love and hugs. We’ll both find healthy people that won’t treat us like this. I promise. We have to have that mindset like Coach Blac says. It sucks so bad but we can only control ourselves and not bleed out. We got this!
@@TheDarthpaully thank you so much for the encouragement I really needed it I never thought I would feel pain like this by him again I thought he would've change since we're older but I guess not
This just saved me… I still live with my ex wife and we’ve been in and out for the past few years… she just told me she is ready for us to move forward with our lives.. and I agreed… but when I see her she doesn’t talk like she’s moving out, nor does she talk about how we’re going to manage our 3 children… I was just about to ask her to chill with me until I seen this video… thanks
Thank you for your help. This didn't work for me in getting my ex but it did help me to get better for myself. I am ready to date again.
Then that’s awesome and I’m proud of you.
Everything is happening for your highest good
@@blacademic Thank you. Blessings for you too.
@@starlight1514If they leave and it’s not like a couple months (3 max I would say) or less, then they are not worth it. If they’ve slept with someone else within that 3 months and try to come back, then they are also disqualified, do not take em back. They will never respect you and always think about doing it again. In reality no contact is really for yourself most of the time.
my boyfriend of 11 months left and it’s been 2 weeks NC. he’s a virgo and i don’t think im ever getting him
back. heard he has a rebound and it hurts. i treated him so good and i love him. it hurts to see his love for me wasn’t the same.
If you lost a Virgo man be glad. I just broke up with my Virgo. He’s a cheater and liar. Let him go. Rebound relationships never last.
Wait...your boyfriend has a rebound in just 2 weeks? How? Are you sure? I know most girls can get rebounds as quickly as they want, but for guys, it's not so easy.
I really do not know what my ex-wife thinks. She will contact me then vanish again. In January, she contacted me, but I have changed throughout the years. I exercise and learned to love myself. I have learned the only person that will be there for me, is me. Not my ex-wife. She wanted a picture, and I sent her one. She was impressed. My ex is very pretty, but she knows I won't jump through hoops for her anymore. I feel the gym saved my life. I was in a huge depression for many years. It takes a long time, but the human body is amazing and will get stronger with exercise. My goal is to lose a total of 60 pounds by December. I can do it. Life is good.
I’ve been watching a lot of videos but this one. Hit different. I feel it. Down to earth. Direct like words can’t explain. Thank Coach Blac. Needed that new insight. Don’t worry about her/him coming. They come when they come. If not it’s okay. Just keep doing you and excel in life! You got this love y’all
@coachblac I had a reach out a couple weeks ago from my ex. It pissed me off..but surprised me. I didn’t reply until the next day and only said, it’s not ok (him reaching out to apologize after 3 months!) he didn’t reply. So it was a temp check. Few days ago, I told him to stop playing games, you wanted me gone, I’m gone. He replied an hour later (it was early) saying he doesn’t want me gone. I replied, actions say diff and left it at that. Of course he hasn’t responded lol. I feel so good that I no longer am triggered by his avoidant immaturity. Thank you for your videos! One live you advised me to not go to an event he was posting he’d be at near my gym. I lost who I was for a second with his confusing behavior.. I’m back to being me but with more insight and accountability of my past avoidant behavior with other people.
He was bread-crumbing you. He wanted to confirm your interest level in him. Judging from the conversation you had, It seems like you still have feelings for him. Personally, I wouldn’t have engaged in such a conversation whereby I had to tell him to stop playing games. You should have kept it simple and casual, Like he was a normal friend. If he says hi, say hey. If he says he doesn’t want you gone, simply type ‘awwwwwwww these things happen’ and leave it at that! He sounds like a narcissist! Well done for not giving in!! 👏
It sounds like he just wanted to make sure you’d still reply and you confirmed it.
Best advice: don’t build your life around another person. Build your life around yourself and welcome in the right person to add to your life. It’s much more healthy and way more attractive.
Coach Blac in the hood with the letterman jacket. lookin' good, I see u brotha 👀
Haha never hood, but if you watch most of my older videos I rocked this style a lot. Just depends on the mood
It's been for 7 month with no contect for me and I realized that if she truly love me care about me she won't do this I have experienced with my previous relationship so she didn't deserve me when we are together she fell like my soulmate and I thought that she will be the one send by God but it didn't work its a lesson for me now I'm a better person☺
It's over boss
Force or manipulate is exactly what they are doing. Amazing video. Thanks coach.
I really enjoy watching all your videos. It really gives me strength and positivity. I have really started doing no contact, and it really made me value myself more, so thank you for all the advices, the videos u did. God bless u.
Thanks for watching! And I wish you Good luck! You will come out on the other side better off
These words are Gold.!!!
good evening. been done it. thanks for all the advice. i appreciate God for healing. bless all us here locked in with God amen
GOD GOT YOU🎉
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
You’re attached bro, you wanting her back tells me you still are. How do I know this? Coz I went through the same process you’re going through right now. You don’t see your life with anyone else coz you don’t value yourself enough. I went through a 4 year relationship, completely heartbroken I decided to chase and chase but nothing came out of it. The moment I moved on, I’ve gotten over 50 calls, some “I regret my decision” and a couple of “I miss you”. The only thing need you need to focus on is getting your power back. I still think about her and miss her but my mind is stronger than my heart due to detaching from her which enables me and hopefully you too, to make the decision that only benefits your wellbeing and not hers.
In my experience: When we say they “come back “ we refer to back to the relationship we have had before… i have an ex now that has “came back” for a day or two.. but it always turns out the same way…me wanting us back in a relationship, them making me feel even though they may show up sometimes, they are still looking for the greener grass…leavening you feel wiener even when they may spend “some” time with you… they walked out on you…they look down on you….them “coming back” for a day or two doesn’t change anything…they left you!!!! And even when they come back for dates…they will keep leaving you !!!
So very valuable insights and advice!!❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏
DAMN!!!! This is gold! Thank you. ❤️🙏🏾
You are the best coach Blac your advice is exactly correct, you are a king of philosophy in my life, keep it going Coach!
Thank you I am high vibe but he’s tried to bring down my vibration, I manifested a new car for free, he wasn’t happy, I bought a caravan, wasn’t happy, bought another puppy, wasn’t happy, it goes on and now he’s ignoring me, if the script was flipped I’d be delighted I love seeing people get what they set out to get, love from the Emerald Isle ☘️
He made me feel so low and so unworthy. I will never see things like how I did before in a relationship again .
Hi Coach. Cool jacket. The colors look great on you.🔥💚 Thank you for all your hard work. You’re appreciated.☺️
Thank you! I always see you in the comments and I appreciate you. Hope you are doing well on
@@blacademic doing fantastic, thank you.
For me it's been a year and a half. Through children you always have contact and you always hope and it is precisely this hope that kills you inside. Whenever he comes to pick up the child you think "maybe he'll say something today" but it doesn't happen. I try to be as passive as possible but I feel trapped
You are a breakup wizard .. thank you so much for putting your wisdom out here for all us going through really tough situations. It’s helped me so much. Thank you 🙏
I got 3 kids with my ex, married and separated for 5months now. Moved out.
Went no contact as much as possible with 3 kids, and she rang flipping out crying, emotional....it works man
I've since slipped back to the needy and can work things out phase as my birthday just passed and meant regular contact and high emotions, but going no contact again for my own mental health and to build for me
It works but it's not easy with 3 kids man
No contact and just focus on myself? I just have doubts. Yes I still want them. I just need to know that this is the right thing.
It really depends on the situation
What is the alternative? Keep messaging them? Just move forward
@sheemery2024 move forward
Its been 7 weeks no contact. This is the second time he walked away. Its so devastating. I dont think i can ever trust him again. He came back last time at 7 weeks. I am trying to move on but hes still in my mind. Better off without him thats for sure
Same here..but I'm not letting him back. I know he's with the dusties..and he can have them. Don't let nobody save u on a shelf. They don't change
Me Too! Made that mistake taking him back. Never again. I told him off with every word!! I'll doubt if he'll come back.
It really sucks that my ex is from Boston🙄. Nice jacket though
I own up to my mistakes and wish I could change some things. Almost a year ago, I vowed to grow better for you, or who’s gonna be in my life . Forgive what happened in the past
There actually no excuses why we couldn’t be together . You know that
I am not sacrificial , I been there in the worse moments all my life and when you were down I still didn’t give up.
I still believe in what I told you all my feelings .
but I must respect and love my myself and my progress, not get stepped on my face by nobody or would be like I did nothing,
I'm proud of my growth and the battles I've won, I will live freely with who deserves it.
I'm second to no one, but first in my love for you, yes many ideas but you know when I say something I’ll do it , we need goals in life ... If you choose to stay away, that's okay. I need someone who shares my values and commitment to growth.
To be clear, I'm not desperate for anyone love, be with somebody is a choice I'm in love, maybe I am humble but I am all about respect.
I respect your decision and wish you well.
My ex and I had a very strict frame out of respect for each other that went both ways. From the very beginning and for THREE years. When he dumped me and wanted to relieve himself of guilt he threw it all back in my face and said I was strangling him and controlling him. Ridiculous. We both were jealous and sensitive and always protected each other. That is until he cheated on me and I stayed LOL
I know that feeling.. throw things in my face iv never heared before till the break up.. just to hold his feet down that iam the part also
Love the jacket Coach Blac!
That's jacket is cold 🥶
Oh my i lost my Son 2 years ago and Celtics is his favorite team ..on top of that going through a heartbreak 😢 i don't think my ex will ever come back i tried and tried nothing 😢
My apologies for the loss. With regards to your ex, move on and don't look back!
firstly, please accept my condolences for the loss of your son. Although my daugther and I are estranged, it's a severe loss for me. As for the ex, stop trying to get someone back who obviously can't understand grief and loss. What a horrible person. You deserve support, not further heartbreak. Grief is not linear. Be gentle with you. Be loving to yourself. Be kind to you. Lord knows the world needs more love and compassion now.
Been about 7 months since my avoidant ex walks out of the relationship.. would I ever hear from him? it’s not like I’m still anxiously waiting for him .. but it’s the little ego factor that makes him say he regretted letting me go because of everything I had to go through and how he completely broke me ruthlessly..
Did your ex ever reach out to you??
That jacket is DOPE!
Coach Blac is one of the best at this game. Has helped me, even though im in a good place, these videos keep me on my toes.
My boyfriend of 4yrs just broke up with me tonight. He said, WE were just friends. That shattered me. I just responded with Thank You and left it there. But cried my eyes out behind closed doors. 💔😢
That's the spirit. PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT HIM! I love the fact you left it on a high. The moment he realises you have not been in contact, it will hit his reset button.
You have started off well, cry but don't make him know you are hurting
Don't beg him ever, it will inflate his ego
He will be back
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I had a similar situation and months later when he happened to see me by chance, he apologized but I didn’t linger to talk, all I said was, that’s alright, and walked away but it hurt to do it. It was the most painful thing I had to do, but I figured if he couldn’t say more to me than 2 words upon seeing me by circumstance, why should I say or do more? It’s not like he made an effort to call or come to see me to talk to me, oh no, he took the easy way out when he happened to see me after 6 months,; he wouldn’t have apologized yet if he hadn’t run into me that day. The same will happen to you, he’ll be back if you stay away, but you might find it difficult to do anything if he acts like my ex and doesn’t make a special deliberate effort to contact you and then apologize to you. My ex had a half smile as he said it, maybe as an unsaid hello, but it was weird and hurtful at the same time. I’m hearing he’s regretting having walked out on me for no reason, he just disappeared on me, there was no argument or signs of anything wrong. Hugs to you, you’ll get through this. Remember to be gentle on yourself as you heal.
It's crazy how much the majority of men play mind games I really just don't have time it's absolutely ridiculous
Lmao men?
@justinava1675 That's what I said! Is that not who he is talking about? I date men so that's who I would be talking about not women. So lmao that!
@@Capricorn-mt1ke idk I just broke up with a girl because she lie too much and play too many games
Thank you for PAYING IT FORWARD, from your relationship experiences and insight. Your advice are pearls of wisdom on human dynamics and relationships. 🙏🙌
I appreciate the kind words. It’s truly a blessing to have a platform to help people. I’m really the lucky one.
Thanks for watching
I hurting crying all the time because i was nothing but nice to him in good and bad
I'm hurting soo bad 😢
Im feeling the same way
@@adgrizzard86 we gonna get through this
Jacket is fire!
Awesome jacket! Another banner!!!
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach him?
Dr Ben Spell Castle is the advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with to set up an appointment
you can look his name up online and you will find all you need.
Thanks for sharing. I curiously searched for his full name and his website popped up after scrolling a bit.
Coach that jacket is 🔥 Love it!!
I needed this.... thank you so much Coach Blac
Listening to you everything you said is true. If loving a person takes so much effort one can let go of that love for good. To me it means my ex is not the one for me. In my opinion love needs to be effortless and not feel like alot of rules and extreme hard work to get your ex to love you back and respect you. Listening to you make me realize this isn't what I want and my ex fall short in many ways to really satisfy me. I need to work on me and make myself a priority and also change the frame in my new journey.
As a Raptors fan I cannot watch this. But I will close my eyes and listen.
Wow couldn’t explain it any better thank you sir .
This was an amazing breakdown! Thanks
Thanks for watching! I appreciate the feedback
The goat of advice
Your videos help o lot. Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Dope dope jacket coach
I miss my girlfriend terribly. After a year she went from I love you to I have feelings for you…biggest drop off of my life. It broke me…
Thanks!
I needed this
So it helps to know I’m one of the best looking guys almost anywhere I go😂
And fashion coach…..you look great
This video came right on TIME
So accurate! Thank you 🌹 ❤
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Your voice is so humble i receive it ❤ thank you
Love the jacket. Huge Boston fan here! Go Celtics! Plus, I watch a lot of your videos. Learned a lot from you! Ty
Love the jacket btw!
I'm from Boston ❤ love the jacket. 😅
Great advice!
smooth ass jacket
Thank you 🤞🏿
Right??? Celtics are my rival, and I still love the jacket!!! 😂
#Lakers4life
u paid for it! lol
Lmao 😅😂
Everyone with a phone 📱 is automatically a relationship coach
@@USAMAGATrump pathetic isnt it? robbing people due to low self esteem…these people will make an industry out of thin air due to returning customers
Coach couldn’t wait to wear that Celtics jacket 😂😅
lol I’ve had it for a while… today just happened to be a good day to pull it out. Thanks for watching bro
Absolutely right again❤
Thank you very much for great inspirations again.
My situation actually changed, l am doing well now
@blacademic-4 Thank you.
How so we do this?
Good advice
Coach Blac! My man!
Shout out to you brother 🙏
Thank u coach ❤❤❤
Love your videos! And glad to see you are a fellow Celtics fan!! - viewer from CA
Digging that Boston fit coach 🔥 Celtics 24 🙌
Thank you so much AMEN AND AMEN
I love your videos. Can you please do a video on how to get over an ex? I know the fastest way isn’t always the best way. Thanks!
I got more angry than chase them, still said i haven't moved on but more like in an angry "you failed us" kind of was
Yeah if you have the ability to disrespect and discard me ..... I'm good 👍🏽
Greetings from germany Bro 🤝❤️🇩🇪
I struggle with staying in NC ….. she treated me better than anyone and I let my emotions and feelings lead the whole relationship and pushed her so far away that she was just over it and I ruined things ….. it’s hard not messaging her or hearing from her after talking every day for the last 2 and half years lol , this fukin sucksss
It's been 2weeks since split & no contact and having a 2yr old makes it difficult... i also listen to you to calm nerves as well ... thanks
This VIDEO IS ON POINT!!! Please listen to this advice as I will do the same
Getting back with an ex will very very rarely work out and that’s a fact