The fact that they did move on quickly gives you all the answers you need. They have deep seated issues which most likely manifested within the relationship and most certainly contributed to the break-up. Allow them to bask in victim hood with their new rebound. They not only took our hearts, they took their box of issues as well. Give it time, they'll be gifting those issues to the rebound at some point.
I feel like the big cheat code for no contact is realizing that whether they come back or not, even if it takes years, eventually they will realize that you're gone and you're not coming back, and they WILL be surprised even if they never say anything. No one can take that away from you, as long as you remain in no contact. Look at it as a challenge until it isn't a challenge anymore.
Sometimes its not that they think *you* are always going to be an option. They can be become convinced that someone as good as you is always going to be an option. And it can take years and years and years for them to try out that theory before they realize they were wrong.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back. I had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
It was myself respect that sustained me..I learned from channels like this ti allow self respect to guide. You avoid humiliating and embarrassing yourself when you go no contact. You can't embarrass and devalue yourself by doing nothing 😊
2 years for me. We have a child so we talk about her sometimes but thats it. I dont beg and be nice but he is not giving me hints and he is not beging me to come back....its painfull and i dont feel like i can move on with someone else cause my heart is with him
Hey that’s good; I’m at 5 months of no contact and I can’t wait to get to the one year mark. That’s a huge accomplishment and you should be proud of yourself.
No contact for about 1-2 months after a 4 years relationship, and I feel much better Started a new job I like (and still attending the university) and a diary in which I write down my emotions (not every day, but when i feel so) Making online friends and discovering new hobbys or passions "The best relationship you'll have, is the one with yourself only"
I wish I never even considered “NC” I feel it held me back in moving on and realizing my real self worth. As soon as I quit watching ex videos and started bringing back the things I loved about me and discovering who I am I stopped obsessing about what my husband was doing and who he was doing it with. Best advice is get out walking and recreating a new version of you where your “ex” doesn’t exist. You got this!
@@CoolBreeze1128 If they steal, killed, and destroyed with out any regrets, and stated never to apologize for anything said, nor done. But I had to learn to forgive her with the help of the Lord.
You’ve help a lot through this break up I’m going through. Who knows if everything you’ve experienced in your career will apply to my situation, but I’m 1 month in no contact. She has blocked and unblocked me multiple times. I’ve come to the conclusion that she has just had a really difficult life of suppressed feelings that stemmed from parental rolls and exes who made them feel like being vulnerable was unexceptionable wrong in their eyes. I’ve grown to know that I personally hope she seeks the help she needs, and one day is able to find happiness. I have so much to offer, and I will have someone come in to my life that will prove that all the exs in my past were there to lead me to them. Hope all is well with everyone who’s dealing with heart break. Learn your flaws, adjust those flaws, and be the best partner you can be for the future.
Thank you very much for the clarification. I don't think my ex will come back or with full heart and understanding. It's been 8 months now, yesterday was my birthday, and I haven't heard from her either. I'm working a lot on myself at the moment and I'm very happy that everything turned out this way. I think I'm on the safe path, I know it. I just wanted to thank you again. I think it's great that there are people like you who support others in working on themselves. Thanks. I wish you all a nice day.
I’m kinda dreading my birthday for this reason my heart may want him back but my mind knows it’s not the best but damn i feel like part of me wishes he’d be there for my bday, Valentine’s Day etc.. knowing he moved on in less than a week after saying to have faith in us should be enough to move on but it hurts to know it’s completely over if he chose someone over me
Two weeks ago we broke up, few days ago I tried to talk with her about making it work, next day I let her know how hurt I was and she asked me to stop, I replied with I will respect your wishes. I’m no contact and will let yall know what happens.
Once People start looking into Personality disorders this will be a wake up call as to who their ex really were. I recommend looking up border line personality disorder or Narcissist. These are highly manipulative evil people.
I think this applies more to men than women, just my personal opinion, but if your ex gf dumped you and then sleeps with someone else or rebounds, then there is really no going back. Even if they come back and apologize it will never be the same.
Bro you are so on point, I'm having the same crisis as well. I don't think I can forgive her for allowing a man inside her so easily 2 weeks after our break up
I am going through this now. I started doubting myself and asking myself a million questions every single day. But, I decided enough is enough. I just stopped caring. The train keeps moving and life goes on. I'm at the point where I don't care even though it hurts me. The feeling of not caring allows me to accept it and keep pushing. Again, the train doesn't stop. Life doesn't stop. I don't want to continue a life with someone who doesn't want to be with me or fight for me.
Wow, great video yesterday me and my Ex talk and I were able to let him know that we can be friends and literally have no harsh feelings. So he started telling me that the females out here are rude and always asking for money 😅. Then he decided to start talking about our relationship and a few issues that we had, and then he told me how he left a lot of other girls for me. Then he wanted to run a few things by me that he had done. I didn't answer. I told him to have a great day, and NOW I'm taking this NO CONTACT SERIOUSLY. Thank you for the advice ❤
If you want him back maybe you should think carefully about your moves.. If you are sure you don't want him back, go buy him a kite and ask him to go fly off the cliff with it.😂
Yes, the absolute best thing you can do is stay in no contact and away from individuals like these. They are the epitome of self centered and will never have the potential to be a good partner to you anyway. You want to be with someone who loves and values you ultimately. Not someone who is just out for themself
@marguskiis7711 Oh, he definitely tried to come back after me being 1year and a half of no contact. His left message unread and his phone call never returned. I'm never going back!
I let mine avoidant come back 3 times over 4 years. Everytime it ended it was always a similar reason….he would say things like “I can’t meet your needs” or “I need space and time to focus and you are a distraction” or “I’m working on myself” or “I am on my healing path”. I let him back each time he resurfaced. He broke up with us again 3 weeks ago. This has happened now 3 times over 4 years. They do come back. But unless healed it’s a hard no. I will not let him back a 4th time. Maybe I will, when I’m 70. Still so painful. I feel lost confused scared abandoned alone but this time fuck him I need to show up for me and love me and shine bright for me. Also working on dis identification to separate myself from the ego. So hard. I just can’t believe I let him back a 3rd time. He’s 53 and still playing charades.
He's 💯 percent right, I acted crazy and wanted him back. I stopped and started working and I started a house cleaning business. He started calling me and tells me that him and his new supply fight all the time. He comes over every to see our daughter. I can tell he wants to come home. It's been one a half years since we broke up. If I didn't acted crazy we probably would be back together. Ladies just give them space and let them wounder.
Coach Blac! Please accept this small taken of my appreciation for you! 9 months ago my ex dumped me out of nowhere after years . I cried my eyes out trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I found your videos and no contact helped ME relearn how to Love myself and find the strength to keep moving forward. I do not ever want her back! She’s a bad person. You really saved my life! Cause it got really bad for me. At the end of the tunnel, I found the light of no contact helped me keep my Self Respect and Dignity, I stayed true to my myself and kept it solid 100%. Thank you for taking the time to help us. Bless you and your family.
Thank you. I really needed to hear this right now. My wife has made a deal with the devil in order to pursue a relationship outside of our marriage with a “shiny new toy”, and has been prioritizing this relationship over her young children. I plan on booking a call with you in the very near future in order to discuss my unique situation and figure out the best way to handle it .
This was really good. Really good. One of the best explanations I’ve heard. All of it true too. It’s so hard because we tend to get bogged down in the details of worrying about them and what they’re doing. When we should be focusing on getting better for ourselves. They will eventually learn the hard way if they moved on that quickly. Most especially if you were a loving kind and respectful partner to them. They can’t or wii ok not just forget you out of thin air. But he’s right, the best thing you can do is keep to yourself and keep improving your life. Whether or not you decide they are truly right for you!
One year no contact. Thank you for your advice when we talked. Made it thru thanks to your help. Still miss him but I feel proud of myself for staying true to myself. I cannot believe I’ve made it this long.
Been 6 months since my girl moved 1700 miles away over night while I was at work. I will say stuff has been very tough. I’m loosing hope in no contact that she’ll ever come back. It’s hard when you envisioned a whole life with someone to be blindsided by betrayal
Same thing happened to me...I'm sorry you're going through this. No closure, no discussions, just poof! Just gone...I'm really hurting too. Taking one day at a time...
Bro I’m really sorry you are going through this, nothing worse than an unexpected betrayal. But 6 months and 1700 miles, is enough to walk away. You have to let her go and stop waiting. Especially if she left to be with someone else
@@Stirredupagain I planned my whole life with her. She was the one girl I really loved and my son loved her (he’s from a previous relationship) she was the first and only woman he has ever met and it ultimately broke his heart also because he continues to talk about her and ask when she’s coming home. I’m destroyed inside
Love is an emotion. Emotions flow and change based on our thinking. It's not stable in the short term moment to moment. It's when their respect, appreciation and admiration are gone that women leave men.
I was with my wife for 20 years and she left me for a nother guy overnight. I have been doing NC for for 9 months I do have to see her on Fridays because I have to pick my little ones up for the weekend. I can feel that I have changed a lot I have been going to the gym. I don’t even act the same way I used to. I have grown . And when I do have to talk to her I can see and hear that she hasn’t grown she still acts the same . I used to do everything and told her that I loved her at a daily basis I truly don’t know what I did or where I went wrong she was my high school sweetheart 😢. I’ll keep working hard on myself specially my mental and make that money for my little ones future.
She`s gone. She betrayed you. Repeat yourself: She. Betrayed. You. Thats a crime. She is evil. Treat her like an enemy. Do NOT forgive the betrayal. Never. What happened to Judas, remember?
@@pablosarrabbia4162 it’s been a long and difficult journey but still pushing forward at times I do feel lonely but then I get up and go to the gym. I try to stay positive and busy when I’m off work
Great video. My wife of 7 years (together 11 years total), is an alcoholic. She was sober for 8 years before she relapsed. She started going to AA and eventually she met a guy there at the AA meetings. They started talking and texting for 4 months which caused multiple arguments between us. This past October, she eventually left me for him. They've been living together ever since. Everyone tells me this new relationship she's in is not going to work out.
@blacademic He hasn't moved on to anyone that I know of, we just left our cruise last week and kinda had an argument, and he thinks he's always right, so he feels I disrespect him in front of some ppl we don't even know and probably will Never see them again, I did not at anyway disrespect him. But after coming home he saids he we don't have anything in common.. whattttttt! So im listening to your videos. Thank you (the heart is so sad right now)
4 months since discard… and 3 of no Contact… he left after 7 years with no explanation… went back to his Ex…. I hope he is happy and never ever look back….. It’s very hard for me to forget all the lies he was saying……
That’s so devastating. I’m so sorry. Reading what has happened to all of us makes me feel less alone and I feel for all of us. At the same note, we have all likely also broken up with someone and broke their heart. Ugh.
It's been 10 months since the breakup and 8 months no contact. He started dating the new chick 6 weeks after we broke up. He never went to therapy or anything. The weird thing is he takes her to all of the places he took me like he's trying to relive the memories with her. Literally doing the exact same thing with her on the same days. I don't want him back. He doesn't even look attractive to me anymore.
Oh trust and believe he’s going to reach out. My ex fiance left in January because I wouldn’t continue to give him money. Anywho… he blocked me on everything. And said I will never say nothing else to you as long as I’m alive. I said oh okay. He went back to the dummy who probably was there the whole time. So, I was in church yesterday and I looked on my phone and it showed everyone who like and commented on my ig posts. Why, he liked all my posts and then commented on them. Boy I don’t want you. Gone on and stay with your lady. Can’t come back here ever.
@@marguskiis7711 Oh I know, all my Exs try to circle back because I'm a good person and they know that. and they realize they love me too late by that time I don't love them anymore.
Men don't that, they have a routine on how to date women. They are called serial daters. My ex of 18 years dated this way. I disnt find out until I talked to 5 of his ex 15 years in. No. He's still friends with my family and I see he's dating his wife the same way. I have no desire at all to want him back.
Can you make a video on getting over someone? I don't want my ex back. I just want to stop thinking about them. I'm currently seeing someone else, but I still miss her. Would really love to hear your advice, Coach.
I think it’s worse if they don’t move on. It hurts knowing my ex would rather be alone than with me. At least you can attribute their moving on to the buzz of meeting somebody new, when they just want you gone and they’d rather be on their own, that hurts it really makes you question yourself, I feel like I disappointed, that I failed, that I’m not enough - because the truth is I was a disappointment, I wasn’t enough, I was a disappointment to them or they wouldn’t have let me go.
Dated this guy for only a month and now we're in no contact,,i miss him badly and feel like reaching out back but I don't want him to reject me ...I'll just die so I'm keeping my distance...i hope it works out between us soon enough 😢
Sometimes break ups are hard. I know that feeling it’s hard for me because I want break up coach he always help me doing something good not doing bad but he helps me to calm me down and I want that happen. Break up is not for me Andrew that but sometimes it hard of me and him I wanna get him on the last chance one more chance with him all I know is hard and give him another chance chances are hard to do, but I know it’s hard. You can do this thing not doing a bad thing it’s OK breaking up is really hard. I know that feeling sad angry doing saying something wrong And it’s hard to do it just give it up coach black is right 😢
Thanks for the insight…2 weeks no contact since he left the relationship. It’s definitely different after our 8 yr relationship ended so suddenly for me to come home from work and he’s gone. He could have just communicated with me that he was ready to leave the relationship. Any other time we had issues we talked it out. I’m using this time to focus in on me again.
Working on yourself gets them to come back that's the secret.... Work on your physique, appearance, finance and mental.... Become a superior man... And she will hit you up definitely.... Had an ex hit me up after 2 years no contact....it works trust the process.... Just work on yourself
If she starts dating someone quickly after leaving you, this is accurate. She's probably just trying to avoid feeling the pain of losing you by distracting herself with someone new, or "exploring her options", which she assumes will be much better. However... if she left you FOR someone else, none of this applies. The moment she met him, she lost all attraction and interest for you, and won't feel any pain from losing you because she's too busy getting railed by him every night. And if she left you for someone who is VERY similar to you, just younger, cooler, and with a bigger social circle, then she's pretty much just upgraded and won't feel any loss whatsoever, because he's just like you, only better.
It’s been since January 16th 2024 for me. First few months was hard but then when she wanted to meet up at the end of March cause she needed to “talk.” So I did but even before meeting her I knew it would be bullshit. All she said was how everything was my fault for how it ended. She never holds accountability for anything. Nothing was ever her fault. But after that pointless meet up that was is it for me. Haven’t seen or talked to her since. Life goes on. 2 years together. Last November I was really thinking about asking her to marry me sometime in 2024. I loved her. I loved her more than anything. But after that meet up me and her had I knew me and her was over for good. I want nothing to do with her ever again.
That meet up wasn't for u .. it was for her. She wanted to relive the blame game and pointing fingers at you... I lived this its annoying and unhealthy for your mental state.
@@MrRomero161 I understand your feelings on that, but always remember, PAY DAY will make them all wish that they didn’t do what they did. “VENGEANCE IS MY SAYS THE LORD.” I know that sounds easy, but that’s what KARMA is all about. It gets easier, stay prayerful.
I was his situationship for months after his big breakup, when the breakup became official.. I longed for 8 months to be his girlfriend, and now he’s official with another girl (who was his rebound even before me, when the breakup was still on trial). I don’t know if he will ever come back.. I’m still hoping, and asking myself what she brings to the table that I didn’t bring.
The point of no contact is not obsessing abt the x or just sit there and wait for your ex to come back (this never works). Just work on urself , put that energy to urself, no reaching out..not moving an inch...! It might take years, months etc...if the love was genuine, trust they will come back!
I've been doing no contact for 2 months just to found out that after she left me for her ex bf and it didn't work, she found another guy instead reaching out to me and now she is very happy. I don't know what to do anymore. But one thing for sure i don't want to move on because I love her too much.
Move on bro, go to therapist, work on yourself, dont be stucked coz you love someone who doenst love you back, they dont deserve the love you feel for them. You will feel better. Trust.
My ex was very sweet and then he dumped me because I accused him of being jealous to his friend and since has been so nasty and abusive I’ve never experienced verbal abuse like it, I’ve lost all my confidence, I feel so ugly and worthless, he’s destroyed me. He played games messaging me pretending he wanted me back then saying he thought he was messaging my best friend, he has sent me explicit details of women he’s slept with, his messages literally started with I had sex last night and went into the details, nothing else just that. I’ve never experienced cruelty like it.
Breakup and NC was on the 4th of July. Breadcrumbed me 3 weeks later with a text “Hey hope you’re doing ok.” I didn’t reply. Her bday was the 2nd week of August. I didn’t wish her a happy bday. She’s Clinically bipolar. 10 years. Any words of encouragement, advice, or support is appreciated. Thanks.
@glight23 doing ok. She had an abortion and just been a mess but I have accepted and trying best to heal. Highly recommend watching "corey wayne 7 principles dealing with an ex" his channel is great. Though, our exes are bi polar, so not sure if these structures work with mentally unstable people. Just gotta keep pushing forward becoming your best version mentally, physically, spiritually. Everything else will fall into place.
My question is to coach black . My ex girlfriend was monckey branching me for over 6 months witch I had no idea, when I found out we broke up and 3 months later she got back saying was a mistake, bit she did it again few months later going with the same monckey branching , now I cut her out ,os she really mixed up or she is in love with the new shiny objects? Our relationship was 8 years we were engaged already. Thank you
Oh my goodness! We talked about therapy. He asked to contact some, he would do the same. He finally told me that he had found two that we could go to try out. A day before the therapy, he asked me to meet, then he said we had better break up, that he is so busy and therapy is hard work and that the problem was me. The same night, he called me to tell me how much he loved me and the he had not meant that we break up, but call it a day for that day. And that he thought that we should not have a couples therapy but solo therapy, because he did not want to shame me infront of a therapist. . M
Trying to heal. He tortured me until I gave up. Now I know it is called a reverse discard. He wanted me to leave. I did peacefully..Now he is with the woman he was cheating with.
Our relationship was of 3 years and his family refused me but immediately after 3 months of this refusal, he became ready to get engaged with someone else and will also get married.I followed no contact for 2 months and upgraded myself in this 2 months, after that he further says that we can remain friends.... please help me....i am from India.....i am still doing now contact 😢
He cheated on me abused me, used me. I am black and he is white. He came like an angel and I am sure he was writing a book about how to destroy a black woman. He reverse discarded me. I left the man I loved and I realised, that he never even liked as a living creature. I have stayed in no contact. It is hard because I love him so much. What helps survive is the reminder that he hatede me.
Stay strong. Sometimes it's better to be by yourself. First love yourself and things get better. When you love yourself, everyone starts loving you. Recently I learned my lesson. Now, I am in love with myself... Don't look back.
@@Gelila05 I live alone, I love myself and nobody knows about me. No one cares. Btw, I am talking about my real life. How the "everyone" can start loving me? It is absurd.
@@marguskiis7711You are right. I am talking about life in general. It could be family members or coworkers. When you put yourself first, they start respect and love it. That is my point.
Give it time. Avoidance need space and time to reconsider the relationship. Do not try to make contact, let your absence do the work. Just be patient for 3-4 months.
@@mroakens It works well with men and if woman do not find another then with women too BUT then the man have to reach out himself first. If the woman is with another (even with worse man) then NC does not work at all.
My ex break up for me lastnigth for a new girl and block me. by the next day he was calling to ask me... if i want him to unblock me. I told him you blocked me for a reason and I shouldn't give you a reason to unblock me and I seeded to hang up the phone on him. Because he is worried about the friend group that we was in. My plan is to just avoid or contact necessary even down to the friend group.
Hey coach Blac! Appreciate the content! My ex sent me and i replied, first message went great she replied immediately but i felt like my last messages I overdid by being to act too funny.. what is your advice?
He hurt me while choosing to date someone else despite his initial interest in me and promises. I called him out for his behavior. After 3 weeks, he even blocked me. I was not talking to him anyway. What was his idea of doing that?
My ex came back after 4 months. She did try to move on, I suspected but I didn't know for sure until after she came back. I tried to to move on too so I can't be mad at her.
6 years together and he moved on in 3 weeks.. already has a whole new gf. I’m blocked on everything and he hates me. I did act crazy but I didn’t know what else to do. I don’t think he’ll ever come back.
In this situation of 10 years with someone he met in a club and accidentally got pregnant and the baby died he came back home we were okay for a while but I'm still hurting times got hard and he went back to the hoe one day he was gone so now I'm in new contact he still stalks me but I still love him and want him back he been gone 2 months I had him 10 years I did everything for this man and 3 kids
If someone is in no contact rule and still his/hee ex runs in the mind and the person is thinking about intensely even manifesting his / her ex. Is that be called proper no contact ? As we all are connected with each other and by missing someone deeply and thinking about them we send our energy to them so will it be called no contact yet? Please solve this . I’m confused.
Too many negatives inside the relationship to even THINK about, to go back. Wouldn’t wanna go back never, ever go back. Been there done that, no no, no, hell no, NO MORE! I’ve learned my lesson you CAN’T build yourself to be a BETTER YOU, with someone who is needy, insecure, unaccountable and childish when it comes to ALL attention on ME, to feel secure. I DON’T NEED IT and I DEFINITELY DON’T want it!!! Now don’t get me wrong I have issues too. One I need to be Financial Stability, respect and SELF LOVE, for myself, before I can Love ANYONE else again. That’s why I’m taking a HARD 6 to 10 months, to GET MYSELF RIGHT!!! No more, NO MORE, ex-Friends and SPECIALLY ex-girlfriends. I’m OUT I gotta go, WRK-ON-MYSELF; bye…
Is it ok to show emotions when she reaches out? She is in a relationship and reaches out to me. I told her that the breakup hurted me and i am not feeling good when she texts me and she should stay away from me. I send her some pictures i drew for her when we were together writing i cannot see this anymore. Back in no contact again.
Dear Coach Blac 🙏 Your video lessons really helped me to get over my ex and move along with my life. I don't even care if he will call me or not. I am busy with my own peace of mind and growing. Everything you say is absolutely true. Thank you so much 🙏❤😊 God bless you 🙏 Oh....and he has birthday today but I will treat him like a stranger, no contact, no call for his birthday....as you say 😊
I'm going threw a brake up right now and it's been almost two weeks and I'm still needing answer's I don't have anyone to talk to about it and im kinda going crazy I really need someone to talk to that will understand me and listen to me and help me with my break up can you please help me
Coach blac, my ex ended things with me after 18 months despite being in love with me because I still refuse to commit to staying in her country forever (the UK). Is NC worth it for her “non-negotiable?”. Will she realise that I’m a catch and worth compromising her non negotiable for? I do love her a lot but that’s asking me for a lifetime commitment right off the bat when nobody knows what will happen in the future We are both 34 no kids
I was 31 and left my country for hers. I jumped in 100%, full commitment and we got married. 23 yrs later and a dad, I have no regrets. I do miss my friends on another continent tho. If you don’t want to commit to her, she won’t commit to you either. You can always negotiate where you’re gonna live later down the line..
@@rovingenglishman which was your country? I’m from NZ but the UK is extremely hard for me, it’s always very cloudy and overcast, raining all the time even in summer. It’s very depressing for me but I love her so much. I just don’t know if I will be able to last
How can I stop comparing myself to the potential that she’s hooking up with people already? 41 days post break up. She reached out to me on the 22nd for my birthday and like a dummy I responded the next day.
What if they tell you one day they still love you and care about you and the a few days later she says she is over you bc she went out a date and likes him and then few days later she tells you she ant never coming back its over and all
My girl went through my phone and caught me txting other females she told me that she wanted to be celibate for a while and I respected it but i had a weak moment and I was entertaining someone through out the relationship she said things to me that was real hurtful like I wasn’t a real man and I’m saying do I feel threatened by her kid father because every time she talks to him she gets mad and take it out on me and I felt it wasn’t right at all. But I do love her greatly and I wanna give our relationship another chance cuz I been with her 6 years… idk what to do should I move on or give it time? I’m stuck any advice for me anyone?
Lets just say weve been broken up for bearly 3 months and since we split up has been talking to anything and anyone who would pay attention to him. He decided to talk to this girl for a week and now theyre dating. She herself just broke up with someone and has a 7 month old baby and 4 other kids back to back.. does this apply too
We were back and forth for almost 2 months. I tried taking a break but I couldn’t let go of her. She couldn’t let go of me. Her behavior made me think she was cheating, after the 5th time we got back together she said she needed me and was addicted to me and was telling me she was not messing this up. It was me. I said some fuck shit. Thought she was cheating on me and manipulating me. She exploded. Said she’s doesn’t know if it can ever be the same again. I tried apologizing. I owned what I said and what I said was unjustified. Apologizing a lot. She doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. Says she doesn’t know if she wants to try again. I still do I know I will. I’m working on myself and my communication. Yet I know no contact works. I haven’t texted her in a day as it’s only been a few days. What should I do, I won’t see her again until I get to where she is in 3 months because of work.
Why am i watching these videos now i messed up with my gf after she broke up with me a month ago we both were still in frequent contact but last night after 3 days of not talking to her i reached out and said i miss her and want her back and she said "she doesnt wanna talk with me sorry" and i messaged bombed her but yeah she looks like shes is over me she blocked me on Spotify 😂 funniest shit a week ago and told me i blocked you but last night i wished her good luck with her life and i love her and yeah im in process of moving on now 😅 messed this one up but life goes on boys!!
Oh man.. You really messed this up big time.. Shouldn't have texted her but no worries.. Now's the time for you to move on by improving your well-being. Find new hobbies.. Travel the world.. Then show her that you're a different beast and if she wants you back, by that time, you probably found someone better.. Trust the process..
@@Rishachino No contact is the most powerful method to actually get your ex back. Every woman needs attention, that's their flaws and it's our advantage. She'll probably be happy with someone new and she knows you're missing her, that's our flaws. So by not giving her what she wants is the only way to win her back again and do not react when she suddenly texts or calls you back. Just don't. Let her be. She'll play with your heart, so you play with her mind..
My Ex messaged me after 48 days of no contact to meet up. I met up with her and she didn’t say anything significant about getting back together just talked like how we normally use to. I know she is dating someone else but she didn’t mention anything. She has been texting and calling me for 3 days now. Should I go back to no contact? I previously told her not to message me if she is still dating someone but not sure if I should ask her if she still is
The fact that they did move on quickly gives you all the answers you need. They have deep seated issues which most likely manifested within the relationship and most certainly contributed to the break-up. Allow them to bask in victim hood with their new rebound. They not only took our hearts, they took their box of issues as well. Give it time, they'll be gifting those issues to the rebound at some point.
none ex partner move on overnight...they have been slowly deattaching you
@@sreach93 Yes.. Sounds about right.
My thoughts exactly!
@sreach93 Yes , he said he had never been married , about 15 years in the marriage , I found out I was his 4th wife
Lol, talk about covert.
I feel like the big cheat code for no contact is realizing that whether they come back or not, even if it takes years, eventually they will realize that you're gone and you're not coming back, and they WILL be surprised even if they never say anything. No one can take that away from you, as long as you remain in no contact. Look at it as a challenge until it isn't a challenge anymore.
@EdwardGodstime-r2l no
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That’s real bro.
Good analogy.
That’s not a bad way to look at it!
Sometimes its not that they think *you* are always going to be an option. They can be become convinced that someone as good as you is always going to be an option. And it can take years and years and years for them to try out that theory before they realize they were wrong.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back. I had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@stanleymason-od4ls just let her go bro. all that spiritual bs is a scam
Its been two months of no contact. I really miss him but my self respect will not allow me to reach out to him.
It was myself respect that sustained me..I learned from channels like this ti allow self respect to guide. You avoid humiliating and embarrassing yourself when you go no contact. You can't embarrass and devalue yourself by doing nothing 😊
Men come to you themselves. No problem.
Don’t do it… everyday your body wants to give in fight back.
in a no contact rule ...dont wait him/her because waiting for some cant make you self development ...remember
I respect you for that,,it's not easy especially when you love someone deeply 😢hang in there good luck 🤞
1 Year No Contact. Nothing. I wouldn’t say I’ve moved on, but I’ve learned and coped to live without her.
2 years for me. We have a child so we talk about her sometimes but thats it. I dont beg and be nice but he is not giving me hints and he is not beging me to come back....its painfull and i dont feel like i can move on with someone else cause my heart is with him
I have never seen any positive comments or possibilities that ex who moved on fast come back.🤦
Hey that’s good; I’m at 5 months of no contact and I can’t wait to get to the one year mark. That’s a huge accomplishment and you should be proud of yourself.
No contact doesn’t work if a person is no good for you
@@Ivy89261 gotta let it go 2 years time is still ticking
I know who i am i know what i gave to the table im irreplacable
He will look for me in everywoman he met but will never replace me
No contact for about 1-2 months after a 4 years relationship, and I feel much better
Started a new job I like (and still attending the university) and a diary in which I write down my emotions (not every day, but when i feel so)
Making online friends and discovering new hobbys or passions
"The best relationship you'll have, is the one with yourself only"
You are not here if you are OK:
@@marguskiis7711 Never said Im Ok
Feeling better is different from being completely ok
This is close to home
I wish I never even considered “NC” I feel it held me back in moving on and realizing my real self worth. As soon as I quit watching ex videos and started bringing back the things I loved about me and discovering who I am I stopped obsessing about what my husband was doing and who he was doing it with. Best advice is get out walking and recreating a new version of you where your “ex” doesn’t exist. You got this!
Thank u
Demons don’t feel regret.
You ex isn’t that bad is she? Lol
Mine was the devil
@@blacademic sometimes break ups are hard for me 😢 4:05
@@blacademic YES SIR SHE WAS!
There’s not enough room here to tell the true, real story.
@@CoolBreeze1128 If they steal,
killed, and destroyed with out any regrets, and stated never to apologize for anything said, nor done. But I had to learn to forgive her with the help of the Lord.
You’ve help a lot through this break up I’m going through. Who knows if everything you’ve experienced in your career will apply to my situation, but I’m 1 month in no contact. She has blocked and unblocked me multiple times. I’ve come to the conclusion that she has just had a really difficult life of suppressed feelings that stemmed from parental rolls and exes who made them feel like being vulnerable was unexceptionable wrong in their eyes. I’ve grown to know that I personally hope she seeks the help she needs, and one day is able to find happiness. I have so much to offer, and I will have someone come in to my life that will prove that all the exs in my past were there to lead me to them. Hope all is well with everyone who’s dealing with heart break. Learn your flaws, adjust those flaws, and be the best partner you can be for the future.
When this man had nothing I was there pick this man off the ground but I'm trying to heal thanks for the video
I gave my ex husband 21 yrs. Move on it isn't worth it
Thank you very much for the clarification. I don't think my ex will come back or with full heart and understanding. It's been 8 months now, yesterday was my birthday, and I haven't heard from her either. I'm working a lot on myself at the moment and I'm very happy that everything turned out this way. I think I'm on the safe path, I know it. I just wanted to thank you again. I think it's great that there are people like you who support others in working on themselves. Thanks. I wish you all a nice day.
I’m kinda dreading my birthday for this reason my heart may want him back but my mind knows it’s not the best but damn i feel like part of me wishes he’d be there for my bday, Valentine’s Day etc.. knowing he moved on in less than a week after saying to have faith in us should be enough to move on but it hurts to know it’s completely over if he chose someone over me
Two weeks ago we broke up, few days ago I tried to talk with her about making it work, next day I let her know how hurt I was and she asked me to stop, I replied with I will respect your wishes. I’m no contact and will let yall know what happens.
Your videos have been getting through the worst time of my life with my break up. thanks
Once People start looking into Personality disorders this will be a wake up call as to who their ex really were. I recommend looking up border line personality disorder or Narcissist. These are highly manipulative evil people.
Avoidants arw manipulative and evil as well
I think this applies more to men than women, just my personal opinion, but if your ex gf dumped you and then sleeps with someone else or rebounds, then there is really no going back. Even if they come back and apologize it will never be the same.
Bro you are so on point, I'm having the same crisis as well. I don't think I can forgive her for allowing a man inside her so easily 2 weeks after our break up
@@KenuDRoger Please don’t go back because it will happen over and over again and again. Demons have no heart, but love to see you hurting.
She betrayed you. Repeat yourself: She. Betrayed. You. Thats a crime. She is evil. Treat her like an enemy.
They are demons
@@KenuDRogerI’m with you on that
I am going through this now. I started doubting myself and asking myself a million questions every single day. But, I decided enough is enough. I just stopped caring. The train keeps moving and life goes on. I'm at the point where I don't care even though it hurts me. The feeling of not caring allows me to accept it and keep pushing. Again, the train doesn't stop. Life doesn't stop. I don't want to continue a life with someone who doesn't want to be with me or fight for me.
Wow, great video yesterday me and my Ex talk and I were able to let him know that we can be friends and literally have no harsh feelings. So he started telling me that the females out here are rude and always asking for money 😅. Then he decided to start talking about our relationship and a few issues that we had, and then he told me how he left a lot of other girls for me. Then he wanted to run a few things by me that he had done. I didn't answer. I told him to have a great day, and NOW I'm taking this NO CONTACT SERIOUSLY. Thank you for the advice ❤
If you want him back maybe you should think carefully about your moves.. If you are sure you don't want him back, go buy him a kite and ask him to go fly off the cliff with it.😂
@@movingsaudade6028 nice one 🤔😆
My ex damn sure made the wrong decision. Then again, he did me a favor because i didn't realize until afterwards that he was a narcissist.
Same here and I’m glad that I don’t have to deal with him anymore after that awful discard
Don`t miss these human crap. And one day, when you yourself are happy with someone else, he will come back. Most of men do.
Yes, the absolute best thing you can do is stay in no contact and away from individuals like these. They are the epitome of self centered and will never have the potential to be a good partner to you anyway. You want to be with someone who loves and values you ultimately. Not someone who is just out for themself
@marguskiis7711 Oh, he definitely tried to come back after me being 1year and a half of no contact. His left message unread and his phone call never returned. I'm never going back!
I needed this video from you today. No contact is hard when you have a kid together.
My parents taught me to give my used toys to the less fortunate.
Lol I love it 😂
All the restaurants, the time, trips, sex, gifts, private moments, family time and all of a sudden its OVER. 🤷🏾♂️
That’s why sex shouldn’t be introduced during dating.
Just imagine!! Gone! Just like that...luckily I didn't have sex with him
I let mine avoidant come back 3 times over 4 years. Everytime it ended it was always a similar reason….he would say things like “I can’t meet your needs” or “I need space and time to focus and you are a distraction” or “I’m working on myself” or “I am on my healing path”.
I let him back each time he resurfaced.
He broke up with us again 3 weeks ago. This has happened now 3 times over 4 years.
They do come back. But unless healed it’s a hard no.
I will not let him back a 4th time. Maybe I will, when I’m 70.
Still so painful. I feel lost confused scared abandoned alone but this time fuck him I need to show up for me and love me and shine bright for me. Also working on dis identification to separate myself from the ego.
So hard. I just can’t believe I let him back a 3rd time. He’s 53 and still playing charades.
Avoidant are draining never again
Avoidants are worse then narcs
He's 💯 percent right, I acted crazy and wanted him back. I stopped and started working and I started a house cleaning business. He started calling me and tells me that him and his new supply fight all the time. He comes over every to see our daughter. I can tell he wants to come home. It's been one a half years since we broke up. If I didn't acted crazy we probably would be back together. Ladies just give them space and let them wounder.
Do you think no contact works for females when they leave
It does work on females, these avoidants are all tje same
@ArtRice-s6f Yes, it would. Focus on yourself. So if or when she comes back you'll be a better person.
Coach Blac! Please accept this small taken of my appreciation for you! 9 months ago my ex dumped me out of nowhere after years . I cried my eyes out trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I found your videos and no contact helped ME relearn how to Love myself and find the strength to keep moving forward. I do not ever want her back! She’s a bad person. You really saved my life! Cause it got really bad for me. At the end of the tunnel, I found the light of no contact helped me keep my Self Respect and Dignity, I stayed true to my myself and kept it solid 100%. Thank you for taking the time to help us. Bless you and your family.
Thank you. I really needed to hear this right now. My wife has made a deal with the devil in order to pursue a relationship outside of our marriage with a “shiny new toy”, and has been prioritizing this relationship over her young children.
I plan on booking a call with you in the very near future in order to discuss my unique situation and figure out the best way to handle it .
This was really good. Really good. One of the best explanations I’ve heard. All of it true too. It’s so hard because we tend to get bogged down in the details of worrying about them and what they’re doing. When we should be focusing on getting better for ourselves. They will eventually learn the hard way if they moved on that quickly. Most especially if you were a loving kind and respectful partner to them. They can’t or wii ok not just forget you out of thin air. But he’s right, the best thing you can do is keep to yourself and keep improving your life. Whether or not you decide they are truly right for you!
Como on guys! Cheer up! It works both ways. Even if they don’t come back, you won’t give a F after a year of NC. Believe me
One year no contact. Thank you for your advice when we talked. Made it thru thanks to your help. Still miss him but I feel proud of myself for staying true to myself. I cannot believe I’ve made it this long.
Been 6 months since my girl moved 1700 miles away over night while I was at work. I will say stuff has been very tough. I’m loosing hope in no contact that she’ll ever come back. It’s hard when you envisioned a whole life with someone to be blindsided by betrayal
That sounds painful 💔 sorry that happened
Same thing happened to me...I'm sorry you're going through this. No closure, no discussions, just poof! Just gone...I'm really hurting too. Taking one day at a time...
Bro I’m really sorry you are going through this, nothing worse than an unexpected betrayal. But 6 months and 1700 miles, is enough to walk away. You have to let her go and stop waiting. Especially if she left to be with someone else
@@blacademic I’m going to be booking with you in the next two weeks, really need to go through it all
@@Stirredupagain I planned my whole life with her. She was the one girl I really loved and my son loved her (he’s from a previous relationship) she was the first and only woman he has ever met and it ultimately broke his heart also because he continues to talk about her and ask when she’s coming home. I’m destroyed inside
Love is an emotion. Emotions flow and change based on our thinking. It's not stable in the short term moment to moment. It's when their respect, appreciation and admiration are gone that women leave men.
I was with my wife for 20 years and she left me for a nother guy overnight.
I have been doing NC for for 9 months I do have to see her on Fridays because I have to pick my little ones up for the weekend.
I can feel that I have changed a lot I have been going to the gym.
I don’t even act the same way I used to.
I have grown .
And when I do have to talk to her I can see and hear that she hasn’t grown she still acts the same .
I used to do everything and told her that I
loved her at a daily basis I truly don’t know what I did or where I went wrong she was my high school sweetheart 😢.
I’ll keep working hard on myself specially my mental and make that money for my little ones future.
She`s gone. She betrayed you. Repeat yourself: She. Betrayed. You. Thats a crime. She is evil. Treat her like an enemy.
Do NOT forgive the betrayal. Never. What happened to Judas, remember?
11 yrs same story 🙏🏽
Man you won already, you are working on you while she's still the same person making the same mistakes
@@pablosarrabbia4162 it’s been a long and difficult journey but still pushing forward at times I do feel lonely but then I get up and go to the gym.
I try to stay positive and busy when I’m off work
It’s been 2 years for me after being married for 20 years and I am broken but I am coping and making it through
Great video. My wife of 7 years (together 11 years total), is an alcoholic. She was sober for 8 years before she relapsed. She started going to AA and eventually she met a guy there at the AA meetings. They started talking and texting for 4 months which caused multiple arguments between us. This past October, she eventually left me for him. They've been living together ever since. Everyone tells me this new relationship she's in is not going to work out.
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Thank you for your content, it is helping me in the hardest time of my life!
Stay strong! Glad you find help and calm in the videos
Coach blac this is so hard, but im trying this NC but I don't know...
@blacademic He hasn't moved on to anyone that I know of, we just left our cruise last week and kinda had an argument, and he thinks he's always right, so he feels I disrespect him in front of some ppl we don't even know and probably will Never see them again, I did not at anyway disrespect him.
But after coming home he saids he we don't have anything in common.. whattttttt!
So im listening to your videos.
Thank you (the heart is so sad right now)
4 months since discard… and 3 of no Contact… he left after 7 years with no explanation… went back to his Ex….
I hope he is happy and never ever look back…..
It’s very hard for me to forget all the lies he was saying……
He will try to come back to you, I can bet.
@@marguskiis7711 I hope to heal by then and to give him a decent pull Back….
@blacademic2 Thanks for support
That’s so devastating. I’m so sorry. Reading what has happened to all of us makes me feel less alone and I feel for all of us. At the same note, we have all likely also broken up with someone and broke their heart. Ugh.
@@marguskiis7711yes because the grass is not greener. Ever.
Yes I agree just move on because if Thay cere about you Thay would make affort
Come on brother 🗣️💯 and pray while you watch it unfold. The best feeling ever 🙌🏾💯💯
It's been 10 months since the breakup and 8 months no contact. He started dating the new chick 6 weeks after we broke up. He never went to therapy or anything. The weird thing is he takes her to all of the places he took me like he's trying to relive the memories with her. Literally doing the exact same thing with her on the same days. I don't want him back. He doesn't even look attractive to me anymore.
Oh trust and believe he’s going to reach out. My ex fiance left in January because I wouldn’t continue to give him money. Anywho… he blocked me on everything. And said I will never say nothing else to you as long as I’m alive. I said oh okay. He went back to the dummy who probably was there the whole time. So, I was in church yesterday and I looked on my phone and it showed everyone who like and commented on my ig posts. Why, he liked all my posts and then commented on them. Boy I don’t want you. Gone on and stay with your lady. Can’t come back here ever.
Don`t miss these human crap. And one day, when you yourself are happy with someone else, he will come back. Most of men do.
@@marguskiis7711 Oh I know, all my Exs try to circle back because I'm a good person and they know that. and they realize they love me too late by that time I don't love them anymore.
What if you have a kid by that person how do you go about that??
Men don't that, they have a routine on how to date women. They are called serial daters. My ex of 18 years dated this way. I disnt find out until I talked to 5 of his ex 15 years in. No. He's still friends with my family and I see he's dating his wife the same way. I have no desire at all to want him back.
Can you make a video on getting over someone? I don't want my ex back. I just want to stop thinking about them. I'm currently seeing someone else, but I still miss her. Would really love to hear your advice, Coach.
Hey Big Guns! Gotta watch later…date night tonight around here. Have a great weekend. 💪☺️
I think it’s worse if they don’t move on. It hurts knowing my ex would rather be alone than with me. At least you can attribute their moving on to the buzz of meeting somebody new, when they just want you gone and they’d rather be on their own, that hurts it really makes you question yourself, I feel like I disappointed, that I failed, that I’m not enough - because the truth is I was a disappointment, I wasn’t enough, I was a disappointment to them or they wouldn’t have let me go.
Not everything that glitters is gold..
Dated this guy for only a month and now we're in no contact,,i miss him badly and feel like reaching out back but I don't want him to reject me ...I'll just die so I'm keeping my distance...i hope it works out between us soon enough 😢
Let the Blac Man Speak
Sometimes break ups are hard. I know that feeling it’s hard for me because I want break up coach he always help me doing something good not doing bad but he helps me to calm me down and I want that happen. Break up is not for me Andrew that but sometimes it hard of me and him I wanna get him on the last chance one more chance with him all I know is hard and give him another chance chances are hard to do, but I know it’s hard. You can do this thing not doing a bad thing it’s OK breaking up is really hard. I know that feeling sad angry doing saying something wrong And it’s hard to do it just give it up coach black is right
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Thanks for the insight…2 weeks no contact since he left the relationship. It’s definitely different after our 8 yr relationship ended so suddenly for me to come home from work and he’s gone. He could have just communicated with me that he was ready to leave the relationship. Any other time we had issues we talked it out. I’m using this time to focus in on me again.
@DavidChoe-j8k no….I’m moving on
Working on yourself gets them to come back that's the secret.... Work on your physique, appearance, finance and mental.... Become a superior man... And she will hit you up definitely.... Had an ex hit me up after 2 years no contact....it works trust the process.... Just work on yourself
If she starts dating someone quickly after leaving you, this is accurate. She's probably just trying to avoid feeling the pain of losing you by distracting herself with someone new, or "exploring her options", which she assumes will be much better.
However... if she left you FOR someone else, none of this applies. The moment she met him, she lost all attraction and interest for you, and won't feel any pain from losing you because she's too busy getting railed by him every night.
And if she left you for someone who is VERY similar to you, just younger, cooler, and with a bigger social circle, then she's pretty much just upgraded and won't feel any loss whatsoever, because he's just like you, only better.
It’s been since January 16th 2024 for me. First few months was hard but then when she wanted to meet up at the end of March cause she needed to “talk.” So I did but even before meeting her I knew it would be bullshit. All she said was how everything was my fault for how it ended. She never holds accountability for anything. Nothing was ever her fault. But after that pointless meet up that was is it for me. Haven’t seen or talked to her since. Life goes on. 2 years together. Last November I was really thinking about asking her to marry me sometime in 2024. I loved her. I loved her more than anything. But after that meet up me and her had I knew me and her was over for good. I want nothing to do with her ever again.
That meet up wasn't for u .. it was for her. She wanted to relive the blame game and pointing fingers at you... I lived this its annoying and unhealthy for your mental state.
I know she's out there having fun, and it's ok. But it hurts to much knowing she' happy without me...
@@MrRomero161 I understand your feelings on that, but always remember, PAY DAY will make them all wish that they didn’t do what they did. “VENGEANCE IS MY SAYS THE LORD.” I know that sounds easy, but that’s what KARMA is all about. It gets easier, stay prayerful.
She’s not having fun she’s stressed fam
I was his situationship for months after his big breakup, when the breakup became official.. I longed for 8 months to be his girlfriend, and now he’s official with another girl (who was his rebound even before me, when the breakup was still on trial). I don’t know if he will ever come back.. I’m still hoping, and asking myself what she brings to the table that I didn’t bring.
All the coaching videos are always about the ex. Can you tell us subtle ways to create more attraction when you're long time friends?
You safe my life under God. God bless you 🙏
The point of no contact is not obsessing abt the x or just sit there and wait for your ex to come back (this never works). Just work on urself , put that energy to urself, no reaching out..not moving an inch...! It might take years, months etc...if the love was genuine, trust they will come back!
Coach I'm trusting you with my life.
your videos really helped a lot. thank you very much
I've been doing no contact for 2 months just to found out that after she left me for her ex bf and it didn't work, she found another guy instead reaching out to me and now she is very happy. I don't know what to do anymore. But one thing for sure i don't want to move on because I love her too much.
Find just other more attractive and work on yourself
Move on bro, go to therapist, work on yourself, dont be stucked coz you love someone who doenst love you back, they dont deserve the love you feel for them. You will feel better. Trust.
That's encouraging,,,🎉is a good one to implement through such scenarios....
@EdwardGodstime-r2l great to hear 💯💯
My ex was very sweet and then he dumped me because I accused him of being jealous to his friend and since has been so nasty and abusive I’ve never experienced verbal abuse like it, I’ve lost all my confidence, I feel so ugly and worthless, he’s destroyed me. He played games messaging me pretending he wanted me back then saying he thought he was messaging my best friend, he has sent me explicit details of women he’s slept with, his messages literally started with I had sex last night and went into the details, nothing else just that. I’ve never experienced cruelty like it.
Breakup and NC was on the 4th of July. Breadcrumbed me 3 weeks later with a text “Hey hope you’re doing ok.” I didn’t reply. Her bday was the 2nd week of August. I didn’t wish her a happy bday. She’s Clinically bipolar. 10 years. Any words of encouragement, advice, or support is appreciated. Thanks.
Similar situation here.
@@calishiiine0006 How are you doing?
@glight23 doing ok. She had an abortion and just been a mess but I have accepted and trying best to heal. Highly recommend watching "corey wayne 7 principles dealing with an ex" his channel is great. Though, our exes are bi polar, so not sure if these structures work with mentally unstable people. Just gotta keep pushing forward becoming your best version mentally, physically, spiritually. Everything else will fall into place.
My question is to coach black .
My ex girlfriend was monckey branching me for over 6 months witch I had no idea, when I found out we broke up and 3 months later she got back saying was a mistake, bit she did it again few months later going with the same monckey branching , now I cut her out ,os she really mixed up or she is in love with the new shiny objects?
Our relationship was 8 years we were engaged already.
Thank you
Good stuff
I appreciate your content..Thank you!
Oh my goodness! We talked about therapy. He asked to contact some, he would do the same. He finally told me that he had found two that we could go to try out. A day before the therapy, he asked me to meet, then he said we had better break up, that he is so busy and therapy is hard work and that the problem was me. The same night, he called me to tell me how much he loved me and the he had not meant that we break up, but call it a day for that day. And that he thought that we should not have a couples therapy but solo therapy, because he did not want to shame me infront of a therapist. .
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Trying to heal. He tortured me until I gave up. Now I know it is called a reverse discard. He wanted me to leave. I did peacefully..Now he is with the woman he was cheating with.
Our relationship was of 3 years and his family refused me but immediately after 3 months of this refusal, he became ready to get engaged with someone else and will also get married.I followed no contact for 2 months and upgraded myself in this 2 months, after that he further says that we can remain friends.... please help me....i am from India.....i am still doing now contact 😢
He cheated on me abused me, used me. I am black and he is white. He came like an angel and I am sure he was writing a book about how to destroy a black woman. He reverse discarded me. I left the man I loved and I realised, that he never even liked as a living creature. I have stayed in no contact. It is hard because I love him so much. What helps survive is the reminder that he hatede me.
Don`t miss these human crap. And one day, when you yourself are happy with someone else, he will come back. Most of men do.
Stay strong. Sometimes it's better to be by yourself. First love yourself and things get better. When you love yourself, everyone starts loving you. Recently I learned my lesson. Now, I am in love with myself... Don't look back.
@@Gelila05 ❤️💜 🙏
@@Gelila05 I live alone, I love myself and nobody knows about me. No one cares. Btw, I am talking about my real life. How the "everyone" can start loving me? It is absurd.
@@marguskiis7711You are right. I am talking about life in general. It could be family members or coworkers. When you put yourself first, they start respect and love it. That is my point.
Still no contact since July 13 2024.. it’s August 31, 2024.. it’s been really rough… I wonder what she’s thinking…?
Give it time. Avoidance need space and time to reconsider the relationship. Do not try to make contact, let your absence do the work. Just be patient for 3-4 months.
Bless you. It is so hard. But don’t put no contact above your own needs if it gets too painful.
Is this no contact actually a thing ?
@@mroakens It works well with men and if woman do not find another then with women too BUT then the man have to reach out himself first. If the woman is with another (even with worse man) then NC does not work at all.
I love the work that you do and your content BTW, I am a video editor reaching out do you need help in editing?
Great video
My ex break up for me lastnigth for a new girl and block me. by the next day he was calling to ask me... if i want him to unblock me. I told him you blocked me for a reason and I shouldn't give you a reason to unblock me and I seeded to hang up the phone on him. Because he is worried about the friend group that we was in. My plan is to just avoid or contact necessary even down to the friend group.
Hey coach Blac! Appreciate the content! My ex sent me and i replied, first message went great she replied immediately but i felt like my last messages I overdid by being to act too funny.. what is your advice?
💯 facts!
He hurt me while choosing to date someone else despite his initial interest in me and promises. I called him out for his behavior. After 3 weeks, he even blocked me. I was not talking to him anyway. What was his idea of doing that?
My ex came back after 4 months. She did try to move on, I suspected but I didn't know for sure until after she came back. I tried to to move on too so I can't be mad at her.
6 years together and he moved on in 3 weeks.. already has a whole new gf. I’m blocked on everything and he hates me. I did act crazy but I didn’t know what else to do. I don’t think he’ll ever come back.
In this situation of 10 years with someone he met in a club and accidentally got pregnant and the baby died he came back home we were okay for a while but I'm still hurting times got hard and he went back to the hoe one day he was gone so now I'm in new contact he still stalks me but I still love him and want him back he been gone 2 months I had him 10 years I did everything for this man and 3 kids
If someone is in no contact rule and still his/hee ex runs in the mind and the person is thinking about intensely even manifesting his / her ex. Is that be called proper no contact ?
As we all are connected with each other and by missing someone deeply and thinking about them we send our energy to them so will it be called no contact yet?
Please solve this . I’m confused.
yes so long as you have not been talking to them.
May love life us❤ love en hate😢
Too many negatives inside the relationship to even THINK about, to go back. Wouldn’t wanna go back never, ever go back. Been there done that, no no, no, hell no, NO MORE!
I’ve learned my lesson you CAN’T build yourself to be a BETTER YOU, with someone who is needy, insecure, unaccountable and childish when it comes to ALL attention on ME, to feel secure.
I DON’T NEED IT and I DEFINITELY DON’T want it!!!
Now don’t get me wrong I have issues too. One I need to be Financial Stability, respect and SELF LOVE, for myself, before I can Love ANYONE else again.
That’s why I’m taking a HARD 6 to 10 months, to GET MYSELF RIGHT!!!
No more, NO MORE, ex-Friends and SPECIALLY ex-girlfriends.
I’m OUT I gotta go, WRK-ON-MYSELF; bye…
I follow you mate, we will do it easily ❤
But fuck i dnt even care i still miss her and want her back. I'll do the heavy lifting for us both now that i know what I didnt know then.
Thank you.
Is it ok to show emotions when she reaches out? She is in a relationship and reaches out to me. I told her that the breakup hurted me and i am not feeling good when she texts me and she should stay away from me. I send her some pictures i drew for her when we were together writing i cannot see this anymore. Back in no contact again.
How can I ever trust him again???
He will come back when you are happy with someone else. I can bet.
Dear Coach Blac 🙏 Your video lessons really helped me to get over my ex and move along with my life. I don't even care if he will call me or not. I am busy with my own peace of mind and growing. Everything you say is absolutely true. Thank you so much 🙏❤😊 God bless you 🙏
Oh....and he has birthday today but I will treat him like a stranger, no contact, no call for his birthday....as you say 😊
I'm going threw a brake up right now and it's been almost two weeks and I'm still needing answer's I don't have anyone to talk to about it and im kinda going crazy I really need someone to talk to that will understand me and listen to me and help me with my break up can you please help me
Coach blac, my ex ended things with me after 18 months despite being in love with me because I still refuse to commit to staying in her country forever (the UK). Is NC worth it for her “non-negotiable?”. Will she realise that I’m a catch and worth compromising her non negotiable for? I do love her a lot but that’s asking me for a lifetime commitment right off the bat when nobody knows what will happen in the future
We are both 34 no kids
I was 31 and left my country for hers. I jumped in 100%, full commitment and we got married. 23 yrs later and a dad, I have no regrets. I do miss my friends on another continent tho. If you don’t want to commit to her, she won’t commit to you either. You can always negotiate where you’re gonna live later down the line..
@@rovingenglishman which was your country? I’m from NZ but the UK is extremely hard for me, it’s always very cloudy and overcast, raining all the time even in summer. It’s very depressing for me but I love her so much. I just don’t know if I will be able to last
@@Seqhael Bro you'll meet someone you will happily move for. If she is not that then don't waste her or your time anymore
Thank you❤
How can I stop comparing myself to the potential that she’s hooking up with people already? 41 days post break up. She reached out to me on the 22nd for my birthday and like a dummy I responded the next day.
What do you recommend for a relationship where you still live together with other roommates and see each other every day?
What if they tell you one day they still love you and care about you and the a few days later she says she is over you bc she went out a date and likes him and then few days later she tells you she ant never coming back its over and all
What if he tells you that he doesn't love u and wants his family back. 2 years
My girl went through my phone and caught me txting other females she told me that she wanted to be celibate for a while and I respected it but i had a weak moment and I was entertaining someone through out the relationship she said things to me that was real hurtful like I wasn’t a real man and I’m saying do I feel threatened by her kid father because every time she talks to him she gets mad and take it out on me and I felt it wasn’t right at all. But I do love her greatly and I wanna give our relationship another chance cuz I been with her 6 years… idk what to do should I move on or give it time?
I’m stuck any advice for me anyone?
She reached me out after no contact, but she already in a relationship i think she wanna keep me as a backup plan
Lets just say weve been broken up for bearly 3 months and since we split up has been talking to anything and anyone who would pay attention to him. He decided to talk to this girl for a week and now theyre dating. She herself just broke up with someone and has a 7 month old baby and 4 other kids back to back.. does this apply too
We were back and forth for almost 2 months. I tried taking a break but I couldn’t let go of her. She couldn’t let go of me. Her behavior made me think she was cheating, after the 5th time we got back together she said she needed me and was addicted to me and was telling me she was not messing this up. It was me. I said some fuck shit. Thought she was cheating on me and manipulating me. She exploded. Said she’s doesn’t know if it can ever be the same again. I tried apologizing. I owned what I said and what I said was unjustified. Apologizing a lot. She doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. Says she doesn’t know if she wants to try again. I still do I know I will. I’m working on myself and my communication. Yet I know no contact works. I haven’t texted her in a day as it’s only been a few days. What should I do, I won’t see her again until I get to where she is in 3 months because of work.
Why am i watching these videos now i messed up with my gf after she broke up with me a month ago we both were still in frequent contact but last night after 3 days of not talking to her i reached out and said i miss her and want her back and she said "she doesnt wanna talk with me sorry" and i messaged bombed her but yeah she looks like shes is over me she blocked me on Spotify 😂 funniest shit a week ago and told me i blocked you but last night i wished her good luck with her life and i love her and yeah im in process of moving on now 😅 messed this one up but life goes on boys!!
Oh man.. You really messed this up big time.. Shouldn't have texted her but no worries.. Now's the time for you to move on by improving your well-being. Find new hobbies.. Travel the world..
Then show her that you're a different beast and if she wants you back, by that time, you probably found someone better.. Trust the process..
@@Red_John. So no contact doesn't work the second time?
@@Rishachino No contact is the most powerful method to actually get your ex back. Every woman needs attention, that's their flaws and it's our advantage. She'll probably be happy with someone new and she knows you're missing her, that's our flaws.
So by not giving her what she wants is the only way to win her back again and do not react when she suddenly texts or calls you back. Just don't. Let her be.
She'll play with your heart, so you play with her mind..
What should i do if my gf just broke up with me but is still keeping our streak on snapchat
@LeiWu-mw8kg yea
My Ex messaged me after 48 days of no contact to meet up. I met up with her and she didn’t say anything significant about getting back together just talked like how we normally use to. I know she is dating someone else but she didn’t mention anything. She has been texting and calling me for 3 days now. Should I go back to no contact? I previously told her not to message me if she is still dating someone but not sure if I should ask her if she still is
What does it mean if she made a few songs about me about 2months ago
And recently persay made I guess you could say a music video of sort sort
By reading these comments seems like NC doesn’t work… I’m at a full month today.. haven’t gotten a peep yet!
it works, for getting yourself, not getting her back.