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r/BestofRedditorUpdates - My (29F) husband (31M) got a paternity test on our daughter (5F) and it came back negative, but I never cheated. Now he thinks our relationship is a lie and wants to divorce. What do I do? + UPDATE
r/BestofRedditorUpdates - How do I(24m) get my dad(52m) to relise his wife(38) is not my mom and to quit pressing a relationship. (NEW UPDATE)
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Before I even hear the story I just want to say, if my dude ever asks for a paternity test, we taking a maternity test too. The only way it's not his baby is if it's not mine
My thing would also be therapy. If you’re asking me for a paternity test you better be willing to admit your insecurities are a problem and be willing to work on them. If you expect to just accuse me a cheating and then move on like nothing happened you are poorly mistaken
I would be upset still, though. Maybe misplaced but I eould be resentful if the baby ends up not being mine either because now we realized we have a baby somewhere else and now I have to surrend my baby that I have been raising and all because of him
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@@bridgetwilliams3775 ?
THEIR BIO BABY BEING IN FOSTER CARE IS WILD. I really hope she's okay 😭
I'm just glad they can adopt their own kid back and she's still very young so may not remember all the stuff that happened to her long term
TLDR: there’s no way that that baby was safe with that family as Kids taken into foster care have VILE VILE VILE VILE upbringings. I would contact the social worker/case manager before initiating ANY contact at all.
My bio parents does foster care. There are so many cases where the gov won’t take a child unless there was severe neglect/ drug abuse/ sexual abuse/severe physical abuse.
The kids that come here have lived with parasites ALL OVER the house. Lice, worms, mild, flies, cockroaches. My foster sister was like a twin to me and she shared with me her story:
My foster sister at age 17:
I never wanted to call the cops on my mom. I was the baby and a mommas girl. I was like the happiness glue that kept our family together. I stayed the longest out of my two other siblings trying to make it work. They both left around 13 and would come by if they came on hard times.
The day that I made the call, I was desperate. My mom had come into the bathroom where I was on the toilet and started hitting me again. I still had visible bruises from the last time. After she finished hitting and screaming at me, I stayed in the bathroom longer because I was at a loss. The bathroom was the only place that I could have some sort of safety but this wasn’t the first time that she had invaded that space.
I didn’t even know what I was doing. She had told me time and time again that our family breaking was my fault. My dad leaving her was my fault. My sister becoming a prostitute and losing custody of her child was my fault. My brother dying of an overdose was my fault. No blame was put on her for pushing us out of the house with abuse.
I called the cops and they didn’t want to call cps. I had to cry and beg them for hours to do something. After they eventually did more investigation, they took me in a couple days later.
My mom hasn’t stopped calling to cuss me out and guilt me.
-end-
Eventually, her mom used her brothers passing to convince her to start visiting again. She almost got hit again and her family brought drugs back into her life. She was my twin. She was my baby girl. We found out that she was driving her new car( Ford Edge 2022) under the influence.
My bio mom(her foster mom) had put it under her name and ended up having to sell it back to the dealers after foster sister got into multiple accidents. We were unaware that she totaled her first car(2002 Mustang) due to being drunk. She told us it was a drive by.
She ended up going to assisted living and is probably still lost in drugs, doing the bare minimum at work, and dysfunctional. It pains me to see a bright future put out like that. She was supposed to be my future kids auntie. At some point, I realized that we were seeing who she could be and not who she was. We decided to not go forward with adoption. If it wasn’t for that, we would legally be family right now. 💔
Right but how did they manage to hold on to the non-bio girl? Did they go through adoption measures for her too?
@@chocolatte522 they didn't have to, legally she's theirs unless contested as they're both on her birth certificate. It's like when a guy signs a birth certificate and later finds out the kid isn't his, he has to file to be removed from paying child support and is at the mercy of th court re if it's approved since he voluntarily agreed to sign legal documents.
No child that's been in foster care is okay. The foster care system is horribly abusive. 😢
Hold up- the State did a DNA test and after it was negative they put the kid in foster care? Not once trying to find her family?! What if she was kidnapped at some point? That is terrifying to think most missing kids could be in the foster system right under our noses.
I would hire a private investigator to look in to the other family and see what they were under investigation for and what kind of life they have now.
What for? It’s just going to invite trouble. They could go back and sue the hospital too especially when they find out about the settlement and with the new found money battle them for custody. I say don’t even worry about those people, they blew their chance with having that child. When she is an adult she can go looking for them herself
@@Kyotopearlthat’s why @BunnyNorris said to hire a private investigator to find out why they were under investigation. People are framed for crimes every day and, if for some reason, the police didn’t like the couple they would plant evidence. Police are known to be corrupt too, ya know! But anyways, put yourself in those other parents shoes and try to understand how they would feel if they found out their child was swapped at birth. Sure the daughter has been raised for 5 years by OP and her husband, but now they get both girls while the other couple gets none? I would want to know if my child was swapped. It would be traumatizing to have to hand over a girl I have raised but really the only solution that would not end up hurting either child, would be to live close enough that they both could spend time equally with both families. They don’t have to live in the same house, but close.
@@Kyotopearl Their daughter is 5 at the time of the story and was in foster care for being taken away from the parents. I would want to know what happened to make sure my daughter wasn't treated badly by them. There's a possibility whatever it was could have been traumatic for the girl, so I would want to know.
@@bombdotcom2168my guess is that it was traumatic, why else would a dna test be done? And maybe the specific abuse case was not mentioned in the edits for their biological daughters privacy😢
Edit: I think the biological parents would be owed the details on what justified their daughter being placed in the foster care system
@@Kyotopearlif you were the other family wouldn’t you want to know where your kid is
I was switched at birth, and thankfully it was with a baby of a different race, so it was more immediately apparent. It still took the hospital 9 hours to find the real me. We still joke if I’m my mom’s real daughter, but thankfully I’m her genetic twin, so there’s never been any questions. She swore she’d never have another baby in the hospital, and she held true to that. She had both of my younger brother at home without medication!! My mom’s incredible.
Very incredible. I had one unmedicated birth and it was traumatising. The second one was unmedicated until I wasn't coping anymore and baby wasn't coming out. There is no pain like it
I’m sorry that happened to you, but having babies at home is idiotic. My mother is a NICU nurse and has seen how often absolutely standard pregnancies go wrong and only the presence of medical staff saved both lives. Hospital staff are trained to teach a mother in distress in under 60 seconds. If you go into distress at home, all you can do is call emergency services. By the time they arrive, it is often too late and that is all on the stupidity of the mother. Emergencies are not predictable, I cannot imagine being willing to gamble on my baby’s life, but that’s just me.
They give babies bracelets now that match the mother and father and scan for every check, and before you leave the hospital to prevent this. That's literally how big of a problem it is.
I believe there was a case a few years ago, despite all the precautions. There’s still some crazy nurses and doctors out there, who would totally do it as a power thing. It’s common for the mom to instinctively suspect, but then get gaslit by medical professionals with “post partem depression.” Babies should have a camera on them at all times in the hospital. Too many cases of psychopathic nurses targeting babies and elderly people.
@be.A.b this is so true. I honestly can’t help but laugh whenever I hear people praising nurses for their service on social media.. I got my RN, you would be so surprised how many nurses are genuinely some of the meanest, most petty women out there. I hear a lot of stories of the typical bullies and “mean girls“ becoming nurses, and never really changing.
It’s a great, rewarding job, and a lot of wonderful people in the field too but it definitely attracts a certain type of person…
It actually got so bad that I completely gave up my career, I went back to school and switched to radiology tech.
@@TheMasochistKnight ok thank you! I considered nursing too, but quickly changed my mind for that very reason.
I had surgery at 16. I started tearing up because my insides hurt, and I thought something got messed up. They treated me like I was the most annoying attention seeking person on earth. I’m not a very attention seeking person at all. More of a self-negligent people pleaser tbh lol.
Apparently it was just surgery gas or something lol, but how was I supposed to know?? I was just 16 and on painkillers. My mom was very neglectful, so I was mostly alone in the hospital the entire time. They made me feel like a gross obstruction for recovering in their wing.
Now that I’m older, I realize they were literally just bullying a vulnerable 16 year old. There were a few good nurses. One of them was very visibly pregnant, and they had her running around doing everything. She looked exhausted and I felt so bad for her, even at that age I could tell!
Witnessed the same thing when my friend had a baby. I could hear the nurses gossiping about a 15 year old giving birth in the next room. They were gossiping about the dad not being there. When her family wasn’t in the room, their tone would change into a catty condescending one. I wish I could have said something, but didn’t know what to say. It’s one of those indirect things that are hard to address, unfortunately.
@@be.A.b I had to Google it because I wow lol. Seems at least 18 in 500,000 are switched very year, but it also said that due to these measures "most" are caught immediately. Not sure of the number that slipped through the cracks of "most".
The nurse can put them on too loose and they can fall off, happened to me, luckily I was holding her and had the nurse redo it
This first story is so messed up. I mean imagine how many people out there raised kids that aren’t biologically theirs, with out knowing because of a hospital mistake!!! I heard this story a while back and it’s one of those that has hung around in my mind for a while.
I could see it happening. I barely saw my son for an hour after I had him because of an emergency C section. He was very specific looking and both overterm but tiny. I think babies do get switched pretty often though which is crazy
When I was born 40 years ago the nurses were always surprised that my mom could hear me cry from the hospital nursery. Also one of the nurses tried to bring my mom a baby since it was feeding time. It took a minute for my mom to convince the nurse to recheck the hospital id bracelet. My mom 100% knew this was not her baby.
Removing child from mother from birth, makes No sence 😬 its stressing both mother and child and it litteraly create attachment traumas.. Especially if there is a risk of the nurses giving you the wrong child... 😢😮
I’m going to write ANDY on my babies foot😂
Most hospitals have anklets and wristbands on both Mom and baby and the staff checks to make sure the info on the bands match at every interaction. You also can't leave hospital grounds without having the info checked by security. Some hospitals have bands that set off an alarm if anyone tries to leave with a baby or if the wristbands don't match.
My kids are 15 and 11. They both had ankle bands that played a lullaby when I touched it with my own wristband. I had to tap bands every single time they brought and took the baby from/ into our room. And again, it's been 15 years! I'm in the Denver metro, so big, not huge, city.
The hospital my grandchildren were born in had alarmed bracelets that matched the mother and the room she was in.
At my hospital they had a nurse walk us out and clip the wrist bands when we left. It was reassuring.
That was put in place BCUZ of this stuff happening
@@jes6427 for sure! But the point is that there have been safeguards in place since at least the W Bush administration, so there ought to be something in the present
Why didn't CPS try to find her parents? They put her in foster care without a care in the world to find her bio parents?
I drew a star in sharpie on my son before I let them take him to the nursery.
The fact that you felt the need to do that is scary and sad. Nobody should EVER have to do that. Yeah mistakes happen but holy shit swapping babies is a BIG mistake
good thinking
When I had my daughters they immediately put a bracelet and their ankle and a bracelet on my hand and my husband's hand and anyone not wearing the bracelets that matched was not allowed to walk even out in the hall with the baby, they double checked them every time they came in the room too, I found it excessive but I guess I'm glad they took the precautions 😬
Fucking GENIUS.
Wow, I'd never think to do this. My kiddos all look like their dad though so no mistaking them.
Walking away from toxic people is not holding a grudge. It is self preservation, life is hard enough. Even though the dad may be dying, they still used it as a manipulation tactic.
As someone who lost my mom 2 weeks after I turned 15. My Dad remarried within 2 years I so felt for OP. I know what its like coming home to a dumpster full of your moms things. It ruins your relationship with the surviving parent.She tried to force a relationship with me and my brother. I went low contact for 20 years. My Dad past last November and all I felt was relief.
I’m so sorry about that. Not the same but I lost my dad two weeks after my 14th birthday :(
I literally teared up when they said they found their bio daughter. That’s amazing and hope that they have such an amazing life with those two little girls
I did too!! I was do happy I started crying. I heard this story on Two Hot Takes and never found out of an update so this was amazing to hear ❤❤❤❤
People who think that OP is being too cold to his dad have never had to deal with narcissistic and abusive parents, who really just ever want things from you and don’t care about the way that they treat you. They want you to help display the perfect family that they are convinced they have.
She needs to have a test too just to make sure the baby was not switched. He needs to have a second test for conformation. And yes two blued eyed people CAN make a brown eyed child although it is rare. Also very rare but two brown eyed people can also make a blue eyed child.
My causin has a blue eyed baby girl. They both have dark brown eyes. She got them from her grandma and great grandma.
@@scarlettg.5772 Same case with my relatives! My aunt and uncle have brown eyes, my cousin has blue eyes like our grandpa.
I agree that the mother needs to be tested too, as being switched at birth is more common than most people realize. However, even though you’ll find mixed results on Google regarding the question as to whether 2 brown eyed people can have a blue eyed child, while I stand firm that ANYTHING in this reality is possible, it is not possible for 2 blue eyed people to make a brown eyed child. There is a very small chance they can make a green or hazel eyed child, but not blue. Because a true blue eyed person cannot be a carrier of the brown eye gene, even if there are many brown eyed people within their bloodline. All that said, 2 brown eyed people CAN make a blue eyed baby. Not common, but it happens more often than people think because the blue eyed gene is recessive
@@scarlettg.5772Yes, because 2 brown eyed people can make a blue eyed child, but 2 blue eyed people cannot make a brown eyed child
@@stepheniecourter985Certain genetic anomalies can cause two blue eyed people to have a brown eyed kid, but it's exceedingly rare.
Chimerism, for example, is a condition where fraternal twins fuse together in utero and grow into one person with two distinct, sibling-related genetic codes. If a person is a chimera, their head could have one genetic code that has blue eyes, and their gametes could have a different (though sibling-related) genetic code that has the gene for brown eyes. They could conceive a kid that has brown eyes without having brown eyes themselves.
The baby swap story is absolutely BOTH heartbreaking & warming
The dad and new wife threw out all op’s dead mothers items. OP had to grab and hide a few things just to remember his mother. Can you imagine how painful and traumatic that was for a 14 year old?
Shared custody 💯 if there is health problems with the child down the road, you’ll need to know about that other families medical issues.
You can get medical background DNA testing that can even warn you of potential future problems way better than anything anyone can tell you.
I went no contact with my parents, and "broke up" with my mother at a coffee shop. I won't go to their funeral. Dying doesn't matter. If you can't be good to me at your best, you don't deserve me at your worst.
what did they even do to deserve this... just asking politely
@fatimaNoor098 well there is a books worth, but can offer highlights.
My mother is a pill addicted crack head. She will steal the shirt off your back and say "you weren't wearing a shirt."
I had to sleep sitting up with the lights on because of strangers rifling through my room while I slept.
Bio dad not in picture, but step father was. He was mentally and physically abusive.
When I tried to unalive myself, he kicked me down and said "ill give you something to be depressed about."
Final straw was when my mother was living with my grandparents and she tried beating them up, she was thrown out. Stepfather then threatened to kill them.
During that time, my stepfather teamed up with an ex of mine to print my nudes and put it into a scrapbook. Sent it to my grandma.
There's 20 years worth of pain (I'm 27, cut them off 5 years ago)
Some people won't acknowledge wrong doings and don't deserve forgiveness.
@@fatimaNoor098it shouldn’t matter . My dad is a bad person, it’s been years and he’s tried apologizing but his character has never changed so I know it’s an empty apology. I won’t be forgiving him and have moved on . He’s just not someone I would ever want in my life. That’s that.
@@wendyWERKKZ Is he bad to you ? If yes what he did to you for you to feel that ,and if he is generally a bad person than until and unless he isn't a ropist or a murderer you don't need to be ruthless to him ,you are here in this world bcz of his choice,I basically think mostly Americans cutoff family members at the tiniest minute disagreements ,so I would like to know if that's the case with u as well ,can u tell me how is he a bad person
Myth: Two blue-eyed parents can't produce a child with brown eyes. Fact: Two blue-eyed parents can have a child with brown eyes, although it's very rare. Likewise, two brown-eyed parents can have a child with blue eyes, although this is also uncommon.
My dad has blue eyes, I think my grandad had blue-grey eyes, I don’t remember my grandmother’s eye colour.
My mom’s eyes are brown, unfortunately, my grandma died when I was 9 and I also forgot my grandpa’s eye colour.
My brother has green eyes and I have brown eyes.
Genetics is so cool!
Yep. We have both cases in my family. I have a brown eyed niece whose bioparents both had blue eyes. My brown haired brown eyes in-laws had a blond haired blue eyed son.
my youngest has blue eyes! mine and her dads are both hazel (green with brown) shes also blonde her dad had black hair and i am a gingery brown
My aunt and uncle have brown eyes, but my cousin has blue eyes and they resemble the eyes of our grandpa🥰
It's less than 1% chance for brown eyes from 2 blue-eyed parents. It's much more common for 2 brown eyed parents to have a blue-eyed child, depending on whether one or both have the recessive gene. It would be 25-50% with recessive genes. It would be
I'm currently in no contact with my father, if he told my baby sister that he was having health problems, which he does have a autoimmune disease, I will continue to be in no contact until he and his wife are dead. Making my life a living hell does not give him a right to get back into my life, of course, I'd love to get rid of all the memories but I still can't go a day without thinking about everything that they did to me until I was 18. I can still try to forget but I will never forgive.
My childhood was robbed, I had to grow up and take care of my younger sisters and myself at a very young age.
I would be just as cold to the dad not only for the 10 years of familial issues but more about how callous his dad was with not even keeping anything when ops mom passed away...
First Story: What about hiring a PI to investigate the other family? That would give them a better idea of what kind of people they are.
I think it’s Pandora’s box, although it is possible to learn that the other family is bad.
It is almost worse (for OPs) to find out the other family isn’t dangerous, they’d have to chose between hiding their kids (biological and the one that was taken to foster care) which would feel horrible, or risk the custody of their children. They might be risking the settlement as well (if they signed an NDA).
It’s almost pragmatically and emotionally a safer choice to hold off on finding out information about the second family.
I’d wait at least a year so the custody of their bio child is cemented. Because the second family might have a bigger case than OPs.
Im so glad tjere was an update for the first story. I remembered hearing it ages ago and being worried for that kid but never finding an update.
The last story the son has already grieved the loss of his father when he was 14.
After 5 years, switching for the bio kids is CRAZY. The only thing I'm switching is medical info with the bio parents lmfao.
there was a case in italy where the parents decided to move next door to eachother and then there were many sleepovers and such and both kids belong to both families
@@moniquedhooghe That’s the dream solution
I wonder what they were being investigated for, for them to be like “Is this even your baby?”
42:01 I would not let them in. Period. I’d also get a new therapist. 43:06 No one is obligated to give other ppl time when they’ve deeply harmed you, in whatever way. His father & step mother were horrible to him…he can HEALTHFULLY move on & heal himself through a proper therapist, with current quality education. If they’re not going to try once in the 4 years of his adolescence, it’s likely far, far better for the person to move on. And it’s more than okay. It’s 100% valid. He owes no one anything.
About the first child, it was going to go out either sooner or later. We've heard so many stories of people gifting heritage studies that end up revealing the truth that it's better sooner than later. They can still find the biological child but imagine in ten or more years
When I gave birth in 2019, my fiancé had a medical bracelet that matched an anklet on our newborn. The baby's anklet had a chip in it that would set off an alarm if the baby left the ward.
The only thing that I really worried about was if the hospital would give our newborn a circumcision without our permission. We even signed documents weeks before I went into labor to guarantee that there was paperwork saying that we do not and will not consent to him getting circumcised.
He can always get it done later its just more painful and sometimes doesn't end well. Alot of men do it. Being uncircumcised is just nasty and gives women infections, I did some historical research and that is why they started doing it as to protect women from infections. Men that aren't circumcized even give them self Chlamydia 🤢
@@DonaldBridges-pf4zc Please try researching using reliable resources. Men are not more prone to infections if not circumcised. Chlamydia is caused by bacteria; it does not spontaneously generate.
Circumcision became "popular" to do to newborn boys because it was believed to lessen the child's urge to masterbate when they started puberty.
@@DonaldBridges-pf4zc Also, circumcising a baby causes just as much if not more pain than it does an adult. At least the adult consented to the procedure. A newborn was just born within 24 hours and are then strapped to a table and a delicate area (full of nerves) is cut off. The medical community didn't even start giving newborns pain medication for the procedure until the 1990s.
@@DonaldBridges-pf4zc by that same logic we should all shave off our hair because sometimes people dont know how to wash it properly and they get infested with nits which spread, and if left untreated lead to other health problems. I'd much rather teach my son to clean himself correctly than chop off part of his body just in case he doesnt bother washing it.
@@DonaldBridges-pf4zc you couldn't be more wrong. The reason for it changed over the decades and they are all debunked. A big one was to stop masturbation. Makes you wonder why they would push it now if it's all debunked? Well, they use foreskin in the medical industry believe it or not and make $$$$
My husband went with our daughter every time they needed to leave the room. Hospitals now have really strict rules about arm bands for momma/dad/baby to avoid these mishaps. No one wants a code pink. (Missing baby)
Second story… I am glad that I have closure with my relationship with my father that was estranged for many years.
But, I agree with whoever said that his dad picked the wife over his son for many many years.
My older sister, nor I or my younger brother were bald babies. My sister had enough hair that the nurses kept playing with it and there is a picture that my sister hates with her hair styled in a swirl like ice cream.
For the first story --- that lawsuit money should cover buying two houses next to each other to be neighbors ❤❤ but absolutely wild
I'd like to say that a rabbit hole about my partner cheated, is not always a red pill rabbit hole. Because there are tons of people both men and women that are damaged by a cheating spouse, and subsequent divorce. And to say that he was searching for an out is very presumptuous. He was feeling insecure about himself. He wasn't looking for an out. He was insecure and depressed, he admitted as much, and he went looking for ways to tell if your partner was cheating. Which, if you've ever been depressed or insecure, you know that your mental processes are not always 100% solid.
I don’t think switches happen often anymore, when my sister gave birth her son was basically tagged I think some hospitals even tag the mom just to make sure but I don’t remember if they did that with my sister. I heard another crazy story where a family member who worked at the hospital switched her family members baby because they had Down syndrome, but the other family abandoned him and they’re somewhere in the foster system it was so sad.
Damn, OP can’t get anyone to respect his boundaries and his decline on a relationship with them.
OP: I can’t to this anymore, I’m thinking I’m gonna see another therapist
Therapist: *LIKE HELL YOU ARE!!!* I introduce you to all of my friends as my patient!
There is zero percent chance that this couple would be able to just keep both kids without the other family being informed, especially if one of the kids is in the system.
Sometimes the people with the bad experiences are the only ones with any useful advice.
I was in an emotionally and financially abusive relationship. When i first started seeing things that concerned me, everyone reassured me and did everything they could to help us stay together. They thought they were being helpful and fair. "There are two sides to every story" "You can't just look at him. How are you contributing to this issue? What can you adjust?" "He wouldn't do that to you. Maybe it was this. Ask him... so it was? See, I told you he wouldn't do that." "At least he is outting in effort and compromising. Many guys wouldn't even try to make any changes." They weren't collaborating with him. He is just charismatic and comes off as a genuinely good and thoughtful person to everyone. Strangers who meet us come up to me and tell me how lucky I was to have snagged him.
It was the people with the horror stories that could read between the lies and see the manipulations.
The birthing center of the hospital we had our kiddo at kept the baby in the room with us for our whole stay. I had thought places were shifting to that form of after birth care as it lessens the issues. I remember my mum saying that when she had me and my siblings that she made sure they hand the little baby bracelets to assign baby to parent before they ever left the room.
Mine also kept baby with me. Both local hospitals did. 12 years ago and 2 years ago. I guess some areas are lagging.
when there's situation like this can be a few things.
1. the woman has both male and female organs (Its super rare)
2. the child was switched
3.the test was either fixxed by know ppl or the lab messed up Dna
4. mother did cheat
42:40 mark: OP says that this has all been too much for him and he has a strict boundary against, so his therapist tells to just _let them in???_ What kind of shit therapist is that?!
OP: Hey, I I have all of these extremely important boundaries for myself.
OP’s therapist: Have you thought about letting them just have their way, trampling all over your boundaries, and letting them have a place in your life that they did *0* to earn and just reward their behavior?
I could tell. My first one had a Mohawk and looked just like he had in my dreams of him. My second is my mini mi down to the full head of straight black hair . It falls off and turns golden brown with blonde. . So happy they found there daughter.
The hospital tried to give me somebody's baby instead of mine too. I was all kinds of loopy, 19 yrs old, alone and this was my first baby and they woke me up in the middle of the night trying to give her to me and to feed her. They got mad when I didnt take her and refused to listen to me. But despite how out of it I was and overwhelmed by it all, i could smell it wasn't mine even before I could see her. I had a boy on top of it all so how they managed to confuse her for mine is beyond me. We live in a super tiny town and the kids are still going to school together and I still know the child and her family. If it could happen here, i won't doubt it would happen many more times in bigger cities etc.
Wonder if they were trying to trick you into breastfeeding a baby whose mom couldn’t produce milk 😂😂
No way....once Dad passed on; new wife will continue to crawl all over their be lives!!!!!
Shouldn’t she just remarry in few a months or so?😂
My newborn was distinctive... he came out looking a little like gollum...
There's a spanish movie that talks about switched babies.
(Spoilers, the main character lost not-his baby to the bios and her bil kid died soooo, quite sad story)
My biggest fear working at the maternity floor at the hospital was to mistake the baby and put it in the wrong room. When I took care of a baby (bath, measurements...) I made sure no one distracted me, kept chanting the number of the room in my head and having a mental map in my head with the way back to the mom's room. Please, please, put a brazalet with your name/room in your baby. The chaos at hospitals is real and understaffed mistakes can happen (never to me, thankfully)
You have to do something quite horrible for the state to even actually get involved with your kids, let alone actually take them from you
Right?! Would you expose your (now claimed) daughter to these people? People saying they may not have resources but when dna came back, for sure a lawyer would take their case to sue the hosiptal since they'd get a cut of the winnings then they'd have resourced to find their bio daughter but they didn't do that. Sounds like the other girl had been in foster care for a while.
Not necessarily. They could have just been smoking pot or something. There have been horror stories of child servises breaking up happy families as well. Imagine not knowing how your kid is doing until their 18 knowing someone could have told you they are doing fine. And under investigation doesn't mean they were guilty.
Op should investigate further. If it's like tax evasion or something they should tell the other parents.
When my nephew was born, the nurses and doctor needed to run tests on him so they asked a family member to go with them so nobody loses track of him. I went with them while my family stayed with my sister. After my sister got her room to recover in, my nephew never left her side. Any other tests, measurements, and bathing are done in the room so it's pretty much impossible so mix up babies here in Canada
Was the baby switched at birth???? Did she get a test??
Yes it was
My immediate thought was the same...
Op in last story needs to check his car for a tracker, the fact that they would randomly pop up at places "out of the way"
The dad step mom story is so tough to relate to & understand. I'm too empathic & would probably do everything in my power to have a relationship with my dad. I'd let boundaries be known years before it got that bad, again really knows what we would do!
Loved this ep, good stories!
My husband and his siblings all have green, hazel, or blue eyes. Both their parents have brown eyes. It happens. If my kids were switched (they are 7 and 4) I'd keep them. They're my babies. I'd want to know where my bio child is but as long as they were safe and happy, I'd be okay with being family friends and telling everyone the truth when they are older.
Also in the states, babies are rarely switched these days. Mom and baby are tagged before baby is taken from the room, IF they are taken from the room at all. My first was taken to the NICU for being early but he was tagged before he left my sight. My 2nd born never left my sight, which is the case for most babies these days.
The other family should no, at the very least to get compensation. I don't think they'd have a case for suing for custody considering they've already lost custody of one child. The courts err on the side of what is best for the child. The bio child has no memory of the family, and the non-bio child is 5 and securely bonded to her parents. But honestly, they might not have a choice. Law enforcement and the hospital have to divulge a mistake this big. They can't just sweep it under the rug, so they should prepare and get a good lawyer.
Wonder if she lives in a different country.
Even back in the 80s when I had my first they put on identity tags that matched the mom and baby before they left the birthing room.
I started having kids 18 years ago and I guess we just have an awesome hospital but with how many safety things they have in place for this reason blows my mind that it still happens today!
My hospital was very diligent about security and identification for the baby/mother pair and had all sorts of procedures in place. Hes almost 3 now
Idk if it's the same at all US hospitals, I believe so, but when I had my child, my baby had an anklet that matched my bracelet. Matching numerical code, matching info. Every time baby was brought into my hospital room, or left my hospital room, the nurses made sure the bracelet & anklet matched. My child was born early and had to stay in the special care nursery after I was cleared to leave the hospital. every single day, until they got to come home, I came to see them, and even after the nurses got to know me and were familiar with me, they still checked and made sure out bracelets matched. I didn't cut it off until I brought my baby home, and even kept it for our baby book.
Edit: oh yeah, and if you look at my child's newborn photos and look at them now, years later, you almost wouldn't believe it's the same child! Lol, baby's change so much, so quickly! and their not all born bald either 🤣
I'm from the UK. Same thing but my babies never left my side. Unless my bf took them to another room so I could sleep and he could feed them instead. I was in hospital for a week after both births and either my bf or myself had the babies at all times. Outside of school the only people that babysit are their grandma's. That's it! No sleepovers nothing. We don't trust people other than those we truly trust... ourselves and our mums
If the mom is wide awake during the birth and is given bonding time before the baby is taken away, yes you would recognize the baby. Or is the baby is distinctive in some way- like being 2 pounds heavier than the other babies. 😊
Black and mixed babies do not look alike at all. Too many feature diversity. My babies had very very distinctive features when born. I am mixed with Chinese and both my babies were born looking very Asian and pale. The second had hair down her back when born that was pin straight and very unique features. There would be no way to switch them and us not realising. I don't know about babies of other races as much... but all babies have their own distinct features. I don't know how anyone would mix them up. Plus taking the baby out the room without the parents should be illegal. Its straight up wrong idc. Even if baby is in NICU... only move the baby with the parents consent... let the parent come... my friend had her baby in NICU for her first 2 months and it was so hard to have her baby taken off her. It's like a major heartbreak. And going home without them is even harder. Of course that is necessary but the hospital should be doing everything in their power to avoid switch ups.
This is why a lot of hospitals practice passwords for each baby. I only know because they tried to pass me off to my grandma because she looked so much like my mom. Also, a lot of babies are born with blue eyes! Brown is a protective layer that grows in for most people, which is why blue eyes are a mutation (technically) and why brown eyes are more common as they’re a dominant gene.
@@lmnop6140 no it's not... I have some cousins who are black and some mixed that were born with blue eyes that turned brown later on... maybe days or weeks later
I can 😂 my three girls look like triplets despite them being 6,4 and 9 months. Their baby pictures look like the exact same baby 🤣
Oh wow. My babies looked like maybe they were siblings but looked nothing alike.
@@strivingtoonedaybeuseful6049 honest mine looks like little copy paste kids 🤣🤣🤣
The truth always comes out. It took us 21 years. I'm still processing it. It's better earlier than later. Resentment goes harder later because now it's about being lied to and trust.
I’m a nurse & I’ve worked in l&d & postpartum. Immediately after birth 2 ID bands matching mom’s ID band & a tracker are put on baby, before baby leaves the room (if baby even leaves the room). I was also present for my sister’s😊 delivery at a small county hospital a couple years ago that wasn’t the best. They didn’t have the trackers but they still put 2 ID bands on baby immediately after birth. I just don’t see how this would unintentionally happen in today’s world. At least in the US.
Oh my gosh this 1st story blew my mind!
Nice hair John! Looking good today 👌
My hair goals
I hate this narrative that men always cheat, and that be the first thing ppl jump too when things aren't working in a Relationship that's completely bias and unfair
But they always do... soooo
@@emajohnes372no, women cheat quite a lot as well and saying it’s always men is quite sexist
@emajohnes372 I've never cheated in my life and I never will but ive had girlfriends who cheated on me if i went around saying all women do is cheat id be seen as a sexist and misogynistic person but I don't, your way of thinking is bias and one-sided
@emajohnes372 Wtf no they don't? Stop having trash men around you all the time.
@@emajohnes372no not all. I know for a fact my husband never has and never will.
But my ex and my dad were both cheating scum bags. My dad bragged about sleeping with 200 women and he was v good looking so believable.
But I often catch my husband looking at me and even after 30 years together he looks at me like he loves me so much.
Yes a lot of men cheat, but I am so glad that I gave men another chance.
Ps he is also the most amazing step dad. My daughter and grandsons love him to bits and they have nothing to do with the bio dad. Their choice. She chose to cut off her bio at 21 years
Hah I guessed that switch at birth!
I wouldn’t tell the bio parents. OP and husband put effort into finding their daughter, let the other parents put some effort too. Especially if they messed up enough to have a kid taken away from them.
And to the 2nd story - if I was going no contact, dad being on a deathbed wouldn’t change shit. He in a way disrespected OP’s mom death so why should OP respect his? OP doesn’t feel love towards dad anymore and he doesn’t owe him anything.
So two blue eyed people should have a 99% chance of having a blue eyed child and a 1% chance of having a green eyed child genetically typically. Which would mean no chance at a brown eyed baby unless a parent has a non working brown eyed gene which pretty much means a parent has a “broken” brown eyed gene but can give their kid a working one. Also there’s a possible for hyperpigmentation to be at play which will more often cause heterochromia vs full on brown eyes and sometimes it’s coupled with hyperpigmentation of the skin to. So in short it’s rare for two blue eyed people to have a brown eyed child and it will be very genetically apparent why if you ever go in for genetic testing.
@@lmnop6140 you’ve got a perfect example there of the non working brown eyed gene at play. Just one parent having a single non working brown eyed gene would cause their probability of having brown eyed child up to 50% depending on what genetic factors lead to the brown eyed gene to not work such as ocular vitiligo.
Oh man... what I would do in OPs shoes for the crappy dad & step mom is I'd go to their place, reiterate one more that the wife is NOT my mom. If dad starts to get angry just say "Did she give birth to me? Did she raise me? Did she take care of me when I was sick?" Etc etc saying ALL the things OP remembers his mother did. & say "No, she didn't because SHE is NOT my mom. Accept that out get hit with a restraining order" and leave.
After Updates: Good on OP! Standing his ground & saying what needed to be said. The nerve of his dad & his dad's wife to try & somehow guilt him back into their lives. Oh nay nay!
We live rurally, so I was the only one in the maternity ward when my child was born (prematurely). My husband went in the husband that took our baby to a hospital with a NICU. They put bands on multiple limbs with "Baby of [my name]". NICU babies are pretty easy to tell apart.
Babies all start with blue eyes for about 6-12 months.
25:33 not a mum but i've worked with a lot of pregnant animals of many species. As soon as they give birth you can shove another animal in the litter with them and the mum has no idea it's not hers, the hormones make them very nurturing. The only exception i've really noticed are sheep if you do it a bit too late and if there kid has passed, still sometimes they'll take the orphan anyway.
Funny story. There is a ram I work with and his best friend is a bull (both are such sweethearts). The bulls kid looks just like the ram in colours, both have a black head and white body, the ram's been with it as much as the mum and dad because he's best friends with the bull and likes the cow. The baby absolutely thinks the ram is it's dad and follows him everywhere, the ram doesn't seem to mind at all even though the calf's bigger then him now, it's quite funny.
It's past lamb season but when it is the ram has a parade of baby animals that follow him because he's so good natured, his lambs and the calves who think he's there uncle.
Oh god, I'm from North dakota and this isn't how I want to be relevant😂😂😂 DON'T MOVE HERE, IT SUCKS
As someone who’s literally told a parent to never speak to me again, I get it. I have a parent, I have a stepparent who is also my parent, the parent whom I cut off was easy to cut off because they were never actually a parent lol. I’ve literally never looked back.
I woulda known, but sometimes they take them super quick to the nursery, like right away, depending on everything that happened during birth. But usually they barely let you hold them, then take them for the doc to assess etc. so she may not have even really gotten to see the baby before they were switched
Where I’m from our hospitals put an ankle monitor that’s link to the mom and hospital so they don’t get switched or stolen.
My son and his daughter's mother both have brown eyes, and their daughter has blue eyes. She is the spitting image of him. They both have blue eye recessive genes.
When my kids were born, we have matching bands: mom, dad, & baby. They have to match the numbers when they bring the baby back from the nursery. My baby was with us most of the time. He only went to the nursery to be weighed and washed. They left him with my husband, kids and I in our hospital room. My hubby brought his tv and game system while i was in labor. It was hilarious when the nurses and doctors would come in.
So glad my hospital had a policy that put an ID tag on the baby before they leave the delivery room.
I think OP sees this as emotional manipulation from his father. You wronged him, you dismissed him, you ignored him and his boundaries, you did so much bad, then you tried to do good for yourself, before ultimately trying to have your death wish acquiesced. There are processes to these types of things. You wrong someone, you don’t immediately get to jump to showering and lavishing them with gifts and love/even worse, trying to manipulate them. You have to make right by someone before you you tried to do good for them, get from them, and then expect emotional lifting on their part. It would be like cheating on someone, getting caught, and then trying to marry them. You couldn’t even say you’re sorry, you never acknowledged what you did wrong before trying to buildup good in your life again. All it is is trying to build on a terrible foundation.
OP’s dad is literally just saying, “I will never acknowledge my wrongs, not even on my deathbed, and I’m gonna try and leverage my dying now on you to ultimately get what I want without ever giving you the respect you deserve.”
The thing about setting boundaries and going no contact is, its about protecting yourself and setting boundaries for yourself about how you want to be treated and to act. It shouldn't (and usually isn't) about controlling and punishing others, but rather taking yourself out of situations where you are inevitably going to be hurt, because unfortunately some people (even loved ones) are incapable of not hurting you.
Some people just can't stand not being the centre of attention in everybody else's lives, so they assume that its about punishing them when its really about showing respect and kindness to oneself. Sure, some people do weaponise boundaries (probably more often they just don't realise that they should be governing their own behaviour only) but the vast majority just want to stop suffering.
8:46 This is the reason I never let anyone take my daughter out of my room. I told my mom to stay with my baby when they measured and weighted her.
I’ve heard horror stories from babies getting switched or taken from the hospital nursery.
I may be paranoid but I’m making sure my kid is safe the moment they entered the world.
John looking snazzy today 😂 love u guys!
He always looks on point - at least his hair does ❤
@@DuchessCassandahis hair is GLORIOUS
@@syndira3692 there was a story they did a while back about a jogger the OP dubbed 'my dude' and now I can never look at John without thinking of that story. I always picture him as My Dude just running in the rain with a garbage bag poncho 🤣🤣
Hello OKOP crew from Kansas City, KS. Loving the shows
On the first story, there’s a really good Mexican Netflix show that the whole premise is this.
Where I live, the newborn never leaves the mothers side while in the hospital.
Also, my newborn had so much hair that he was very recognisable.
i had my son last year and the hospital i gave birth at, gave me a bracelet and my son an anklet the would make a chime noise when we were together. it would also set off a code pink and lock down the maternity ward if you tried to take the baby’s anklet off or even if it slipped. the only reason i could tell me son apart was because he was so tiny and had a full head of hair and the hospital where i had him also kept him in the room with me at all times with the exception of his car seat test and i went to check in on him during the test so i knew i had that right baby lol
There were quite a few stories in the last few years where native children were switched at birth at the "indian hospitals" a few decades past. There wasnt an inquiry but whatever kind of investigation they had they released a statement they did not think it was malicious in intention yet come on ...one case a mistake...several is a pattern. The one case the boys lived in same community and people would tease them for looking like the other's fathers etc. It was heartbreaking for the other cases where the children realized they never got to know their parents because the parents died young etc.
When I had my daughter right after she was born they put a bracelet on her ankle that couldn't come off. The bracelet had info on it that matched my bracelet and every time they took her and brought her back I had to read the special info to verify she was mine. Her bracelet also had a security device in it so no one could walk out of the unit with my baby either. Plus most moms have the choice to keep the baby with them almost the whole time they only have to leave for a few tests to make sure they're healthy
You asked what scorched earth means…that was it.
As someone who has watched Switched at Birth, I wish I was in the live chat because I was talking to my tv ALOT. Sam saying she had to have cheated and them asking what would be the relationship after that, all I could think was yall ain’t watching no ABC Family original programming? 😂😂
The mother and the baby have the same numbered bracelet. Every time you get your baby or put them in the nursery, they are supposed to confirm the numbers.
Omg these poor people and the children this is so wrong that the hospital did this someone should be prosecuted
Chimera or baby mix up. I remember the hospital switched babies like this and the families decided to raise the babies together, close by. It’s wild.
I recognize my daughter by her cry. I immediately knew that she was mine. My second and third have a birthmark in the nape of their neck in the shape of a QR Code. Their dad and paternal grandfather also has it 😂
How much you wanna bet they put a tracking device on OP’s car in that last story
In my province’s hospitals, newborns are never taken from mom’s sight unless needing nicu, and the babies get a hospital wrist or ankle ID with moms info, to prevent this from ever happening.
I would have been able to tell my baby appart from the other newborns... but he also came out with 2 inches of thick hair 😂
My 3 kids all in their mid 20s to almost 30..... when they were born all those years ago my kids had an ankle bracelet that matched my wrist bracelet. I was the only one allowed to carry them out of the maternity ward when I was released to go home.
Their ankle bracelets also had an alarm that would go off if anyone without my bracelet tried to leave the maternity ward or even the hospital with my kids.
So, to hear the switch in the first story is horrifying to me. Like, wtf is wrong with that hospital.
Well sometimes these labs do mix up samples too. There are certian circumstances that they probably didnt notice. Like if something was wrong and they had to rush the baby and or the mother off and they didnt really get to see them before hand
46:54 When I had to get a restraining order on someone, it did little to nothing to actually keep me safe. He still followed me everywhere, threatened me, sent other people to my door, and called nonstop. He spent some nights in jail, a few weeks in a mental hospital, and then had to go to court at some point. That was it. He continued for years until he got bored. In comparison, I suffered far more. The system does not do what it should to protect victims. ☹