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r/BestofRedditorUpdates - My Wife threw out the flowers I got her for Valentine's Day, I destroyed her late-husband's wedding ring and messed everything up.
r/BestofRedditorUpdates - My Boyfriend broke up with me on Valentine’s Day because I ate too much at dinner
r/AITA - AITA for sending my girlfriend too many valentine's day flowers and making her sisters' husbands look bad?
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As someone whose currently engaged again after being a widow for 10 years since age of 21. The only thing I have left of my late husband is his ring. If my current fiance did something like that I wouldn't even feel the same for him anymore.
Exactly. There are some things you don't ever get over, you just get through and find your new normal. You don't push that person and that love aside, you make room for more, for someone else. Congratulations on your engagement. I hope you have many happy years ahead of you.
But you didn't emotional abuse your fiancee your whole relationship.
@@julieannewaller7541 Cute... you have another account just so you can agree with yourself. 🤣
absolutely, not only is it a violent outburst but a really cruel and awful thing to do 😰
Did you treat your fiancé as a rebound just a year after your loss? If not, you're not the asshole. The wife didn't make things better.
Violence is such an ick, like you can’t recover from being so angry that you harm someone (emotionally and physically) because if you do it once, you can do it again. The safety is broken
Wouldn't say that. Maybe after the first time, sure.
i think if you are a widow(er) you will never not be in love with the person that died. it’s not like a divorce it’s death- they’re not an ex partner they are a late partner and those are two very different things. if you can handle that then don’t fucking date that person you will drive yourself and them insane
This!
Exactly, you can't just fall out of love with a love that was still open. A love that had no mutual ending. It was cut short on one side, but the frayed end always stays open.
I strongly believe you can love more than one person, even if you think you've found your "soulmate." The idea that one can ONLY EVER have a singular true love does nothing but cause immense grief to those who are led to believe they lost their only chance. You can totally love someone new while still feeling the love for the lost.
@@yoyohayli So many people seem to view love as a finite resource, especially when it comes to romantic partners. People you lose still have a place in your heart, but you build more space to let someone new in. It's so sad when I hear stories where people feel like they're competing with ghosts.
You are right. I am dating a widower and he didn’t stop loving his wife. He didn’t choose for her to be gone. The heart can still love again and it does but you’re never just going to stop loving that person. The OP was horrible to his wife for this and even though he may have been a rebound to start with (lol I’m pretty sure I was at first too), she fell in love and married him! I can’t even imagine doing this to my partner. It would be devastating.
They shouldn't be dating or marrying anyone if they're going to be like this all their lives. The wife was in the wrong.
There are 364 other days in a the year. If someone you love asks you not to celebrate Valentines because it was special to them and their deceased partner, the easy answer should be 'Let's pick a different day to celebrate us'. Is this one day really so important to be *the* day you celebrate that you ignore their feelings? I mean, new husband not letting her keep photos of the past husband is huge red flags so I'm not surprised her feelings didn't matter in this case.
That's not a marriage to me.
I'd make that day all about the lost loved one and keep a good memory even if it may be "in competition".
If my partner would not use the day to grieve, let alone invite me to join respectfully, I'd be asking serious questions about the integrity of our relationship.
My wife's ex-husband (while not dead) was a good guy imo and I like him (he just wasn't right for her).
I don't (intentionally) deprive her of the memories she had with him and respect that he was part of her life at some point and meant at least a little something.
You have to be emotionally mature to date a widow. Willing to accept they will always love the former partner but that they can still love you too. It is a different relationship, a different love. That first OP just really compounded trauma.
OP's wife was emotionally immature herself. Screaming and crying and walking out to the dumpster to make a show of it, over flowers? Emotionally abusive, she's trying to control his future actions with huge displays of negative reactions
Don't get me flowers again or else the neighbors are gonna be watch me cry on the front lawn and throw flowers on Valentine's Day into the trash can 😮 everyone gonna be judgin op for weeks with assumptions
@@Monster_sky_highhow about you grow up he is a abuser and a huge red flag this is why woman are scared of man like you
@@Monster_sky_highI don't think she's abusive that's a natural emotional response it may have been too much but then she calmed down, also shw never compared him to her late husband and never brought him up except for that day she uses to grieve every year, there are a lot of other days and occasions they can celebrate love and he can get her flowers. He should've asked for confirmation
Valentine's day was my grandma's birthday and she just passed away on Christmas Eve. So today is a little rough. Happy Valentine's Day to everyone.
The cut to Sophia after John says “shawty” is killing me 😂
The guy who doesn't like eating - notice he broke up with her after Valentine's Day. He knew he would be getting an expensive present
He didn't deserve that Apple watch smh
OP showed his true colors in the way he reacted. To shove his wife's husband's death in her face and smash what she has left of him is despicable. It may be hard to live in the shadownof a ghost, but no one was forcing him to. He'd been living in that shadow from the start and still chose to marry her.
Actually she was the one who kept showing her husbands death down OP's throat. They literally weren't allowed to do Valentine's Day because ops wife was so controlling. Imagine getting emotionally punished by you wife for bringing flowers. Like screaming and throwing a fit to throw them in the dumpster, OUTSIDE where the neighbors are seeing this, probably thinking OP cheated or did something actually horrible. Not give her flowers to show love, she can't dictate how he shows love, yet she has been. She's emotionally abusing him, and to do a show in front of the neighbors? Most people would have hit their breaking point like OP. Imagine the eggshells he's been walking on of flowers cause a melt down
Did you even listen to the story? Sounds like after the first year, she literally stopped talking about her dead husband. She got rid of PHOTOS of someone who DIED for OP.
Her compromise to him was trying to show him that she moved on by NOT bringing it up and getting rid of most of his tangible memorabilia. HIS compromise should've been to NOT celebrate Valentines Day because it is basically haunted by the memory of her dead husband. If he really wanted to do a valentines day equivalent would've been a great compromise-a week before, the week after, white day?? OP choosing to celebrate Valentine's Day is shoving her husbands death down her throat and shows his lack of empathy because he's afraid that he's a 6yr rebound.
@@Monster_sky_high even according to OP that was the only thing she requested of them because that was HER WEDDING DAY with her late husband. She only kept his ring. She removed his pictures from their home. She only asked that OP didn't celebrate a day that she would've been celebrating doubly with her late husband if he were alive. She got emotional because he agreed not to 5 years prior and for those 5 years, he obliged. She was blindsided on her anniversary after a previous agreement not to celebrate it. That's a betrayal regardless what day of the year it is. If celebrating Valentine's Day was so important to him, he should've found someone else.
@@Monster_sky_high And if giving flowers was such a big deal he could've chosen literally any other day than the day they agreed not to celebrate. Mate you clearly don't know what emotional abuse is if you think he's the only victim here. They AGREED not to celebrate the day, and knowing this he still proposed to and married her. She removed his pictures from their home, but he couldn't stick to his agreement. Oh and he only hit a breaking point because he wasn't prepared for the answer to the question HE ASKED.
@@Monster_sky_highI hope you either change, or at least never trap someone else with your inability to empathize even with a literal widow grieving her husband.
Riley slowly raising the mic for Sofia without looking 😂
I messaged my husband this morning “Happy V Day” he responded “Happy D Day 😏” lol
Happy Lovey Day friends! ❤
That's flippin adorable! Have a beautiful day together ❤
Lol. I love that!
STORM THE BEACHES OF NORMANDY, CAPTAIN!
There's a story similar to the first one
OP was a woman dating this guy who she's had a crush on for years. Dude was married and had two children before the wife passed away. He kept everything of hers in a box in the attic. The daughter had a stuffy that was left to her from her mom. OP became so jealous she destroyed everything in the box and destroyed her stepdaughter's stuffy. She doubled down in her updates though. Would love to hear this if it can be found in BORU.
It’s a shitty person who stops loving someone because they died. She has baggage, Valentine’s Day was her wedding anniversary. She will always feel that way. It’s not about being ready for a new relationship. He is jealous of a memory.
15:52 - I can totally understand both sides.
Imagine thinking you found the love of your life. Almost like a fairytale she had this boy in her life and it was wonderful. It may not have been perfect but it was a ‘lifelong’ love, then for some reason he’s taken away. At 20 your ‘other half’ severed away from you.
He was COMPLETELY in the wrong, but imagine it from his side, thinking that she loves him. Then, realizing after six years that she will never love him as much as she loved her first husband. And, knowing deep down that she would’ve never chosen him, he is essentially a consolation prize.
Story #1 is CRAZY! I do think it was a healthy decision to not have ex-husbands photos up around the house since it would make husband compare himself every day.
But destroying the ring when that's all she has of her DEAD partner who she grew up with and thought she'd share the rest of her life with? Nahhh.
To break the no-Valentine's day agreement RANDOMLY without having a chat with her about it? NAH.
She made the right choice leaving him and not letting him think lashing out at her is okay.
She was not ready for a relationship and he seems to lack any grasp of what it means to lose a life partner.
Yeah he should have noticed the red flags and stayed away widows and widowers just aren't worth dating they should date each other that way they understand one another's previous loss of a partner but I've never seen an actual in real life arrangement of them going well after they've lost a spouse or partner even if they hadn't married them.
@@kateajurors8640, wow! You went south on that response fast. That is not what I said, but clearly you should stay aware and spare a widow/widower the grief that will come from such a union. Better for both of you.
@@kateajurors8640Yeah, never marry, please k thx
I think you can still grieve and miss your late partner but still be ready for a relationship and find your new normal, he was really a bad person for how he handled things. Her previous husband is dead it's not like they broke up and she's finding her new normal in love while still remembering him and OP is really incapable of understanding this
Sam: "What's that quote from Batman...?"
Riley: "I'M BATMAN"
*Sophia* not Riley but yes 😂
OP in the first story needs some serious therapy and probably some anger management. His wife was so mature about everything. He needs to get her the ring back and then pay her for any repairs. She needs the ring back, though, because she can not trust him with it. OP even SAID he was tempted to get rid of the dead husband's ring. He needs to give it back before anything else happens in an "out of body experience."
Was she.
How was her over the top psychotic reaction going outside without shoes, dramatically throwing the flowers in the dumpster, screaming on the top of her lungs and theatrically sobbing on the ground, by any means, mature?!
@@alboichone1153 Not to mention just taking off her wedding ring and leaving (indicating the relationship was over) without even so much as a conversation with her husband
@@emb21982 I wouldn't have had a conversation with a man who had pulled out a hammer on the last thing I had to remind me of my dead husband. That does not deserve an immediate response.
@@alboichone1153 tell me you've never been this heartbroken or hurt without telling me. That is not a "phycotic" response. It was an emotional one born of pure heartbreak.
Clear and often communication from the start is so important. It makes good relationships better, and can prevent bad relationships from forming in the first place
If he had been so worried about "being a rebound", he probably shouldn’t have married a widow. I can’t speak from experience, but I assume a widow doesn’t "stop loving" their late partner. You'll have to have the empathy, respect and patience to work around that.
Okay, dude accepted the Apple Watch knowing he had a whole other girl and date and wanted to break up with OP?! He for sure should’ve given the watch back, cuz keeping it makes him an even bigger jerk. Especially when he barely got her anything.
Honestly I feel like he stayed with her til V day expecting some kind of gift.
I feel bad for OP in the first story because that was probably burning away at him for years, slowly but surely, then asking the question, then not getting an answer, and then her lastly putting her wedding ring down. Mind you, she was quicker to proverbially “throw their marriage away” faster than she could ever get over her ex. He just wanted to love her and she just had rules based on her last marriage. *WITH ALL OF THAT BEING SAID THO* OP should’ve addressed this *_YEARS AGO._* She probably was giving off signals and ref flags that she was still in love with her deceased ex and OP probably kept ignoring them. 6 years into a marriage isn’t the time to ask if she was still in love with him, it should’ve been years ago. She’s still wrong tho for basically using him as a placeholder and jumping into a relationship when she *CLEARLY* wasn’t ready for one and it was shown that her loyalties still lied with the first husband when she took the wedding ring off so quickly when she still held onto basically the memory of her ex that long.
He's talking about living in the shadow of a ghost, but he even said she didn't talk about him that often. HE'S the one conjuring up spirits
I wear my late husbands ring on my thumb. I started dating my current boyfriend while I was still grieving my late husband. He took his life in 2019 and I'm still grieving him, and I always will.
Yeah I know it’s scary and stuff but I think the woman whose husband passed in the accident needs to be single and in therapy for a bit but also her husband is the AH for smashing the ring and needs therapy too
The emotional immaturity of OP in the first story is astounding. He wanted to push out OP’s late husband entirely, saw himself in competition with him instead of accepting that him and his wife had a new, separate thing. The question “do you still love him or am I just a rebound?” Is telling, as if it has to be one or the other, as if she had to give up loving her deceased partner in order to love a mother person again. From the way OP tells the story this issue seems to have been festering for years. This could have been resolved with healthy communication, but instead she chose to avoid the topic and he chose petty retaliation.
Happy Valentine's Day beautiful souls!! 🌈💛
Happy Valentines day 💞
Happy Valentine’s Day 🎉
OP for the first story is an insecure POS. She has every right to love her dead husband and remember him. Her love for him doesn't overshadow her love for OP but he's such an insecure butt hole that he can't see past anything but his own selfish needs. He could pick 364 different days to shower her with flowers and gifts but he can't respect the one thing she asked.
Then when he asks her an impossible question because of his insecurities, he violently attacks a sacred momento from her dead husband? What the hell did he think would happen? Smash the ring and suddenly she's "ok". What an insane narcissist. I don't blame her for being afraid. If he gets jealous will he hit her next? He attacked something deeply personal and he obviously doesn't get it still. His comments about throwing away the ring in the update show that even more. Give her the ring and an easy divorce and never bother her again. OP is cruel and he needs therapy.
Happy Valentine's Day, OKOP fam!!!! Love to all of you ❤️
I lost my first love to a car accident in 2020. If my current boyfriend did anything like that, I have no words. Disgusting. You can never grieve away that love. As OP said, she has always been an amazing partner to him. She is not the problem. OP having no understanding of grief or capacity for empathy is the problem.
I started dating my hubby 2 months after my cheating husband left. I knew current hubby before, but had lost touch. After 1 year of dating, current hubby and I got engaged and 6 months later got married.
20 + years later, I tease hubby that he is my rebound. But I am one of the lucky ones.
Pfft, this marriage is toast. I give it 50 more years, tops. 😌
Happy Valentines/Galentines/Palentines day!!
She isn't wrong about valentine's being commercial though 😄 the chocolate prices and flower prices tripple in prices compared to the rest of the year. Could aswell celebrate a week later, or choose any other special day to celebrate your love (way cheaper)
I’ve never really liked to celebrate Valentine’s Day as I prefer to make my partner feel special everyday and the same for me. I have got angry in the past when I have been given a gift after we agreed not to as I then felt shit for not getting them something. I’ve always been upfront with expectations for the day and as long as you and your partner talk about it and agree on what to do or not to do, that’s what is important. If my partner wanted to celebrate, I would for them.
Although what I did think was super cute and totally made me catch the warm fuzzies is that my partner had a “daddy/daughter date” with my daughter. She is 8 and he has been in our lives for 2.5yrs. He loves her and she loves him. They bought each other gifts and had a special dinner together while I was at work. For me, that was way better than me getting a gift.
This episode was so chaotic in the BEST way. I loved it so much 😂
I lost my boyfriend when i was 19. I have always dated with the intention to build a life with that person. I loved and still love him. My husband knows this. I still have some things that were his but my husband would never destroy them. If he did, I wouldn't be able to look at him the same. We have had conversations about how he feels and it's mostly the "what-ifs" that get him. I love them both but in different ways. I think OP should have talked to her about how he felt. It is a hard conversation to have but a necessary one. It isn't easy being on either side.
The thumbnail is a father upset in court because the person that killed his son was trying to claim insanity
Dude, I'm listening to this at work and that burp at the 42 minute mark made me audibly gasp/laugh in my silent office 😂
what story 1 op did was so vile and evil that i have no words
I recently discovered a new ick. I asked this guy I went to high school with out for coffee and every time he texted me anything at all he would add “😂” at the end of it. “Good night!😂” “See you tomorrow!😂”
😂
The fact that he was cheating is the exact reason he should give the watch back. She did dodge a bullet!
I'm not finished listening but as a self-identified idiot in relationships myself, the husband was an absolute idiot to even get with his wife so soon after her husband died and then to MARRY HER?? Girl did not have any time to grieve, and it's clear OP was taking a backseat to the dead husband in the relationship.
Also to Sam- your dad passing and the one you were planning to spend the rest of your life passing are different but also consider that Valentine's Day, the most romantic day of the year, is the anniversary of a milestone she took with someone she considered the love of her life who is no longer with her. Grief takes a lot of time, and since she jumped into another relationship so soon after his passing, she didn't have the chance to grieve properly.
Ring dude showed that he's abusive and controlling, and I'm glad that she's getting away from him
She's abusive and controlling. She made a whole show in front of the neighbors over flowers after years married
@studioskyla2918 Abusive for being upset at one of the ONLY THINGS they had ALREADY DISCUSSED he shouldn't do?
It seems like you are incapable of empathizing with either women, or people who have had spouses die.
@@yoyohayli I think someone wants attention because they're not getting it anywhere else. And I think I can see why.
@@callitags Yeah, he's been ALL OVER ANYONE realistically reacting to the first story, trying to spread as much ill will toward a suffering woman as possible. All I can do is try to punch back, I guess.
@studioskyla2918, I don't know what experiences or indoctrination warped your mind so much that a person having reasonable boundaries is abusive, but I sincerely feel for you. The ex wife clearly stated why Valentine's Day was painful for her, and he trampled on her feelings because he felt small. He then chose to violently react, AFTER SHE HAD GOTTEN RID OF ALL OTHER PHYSICAL REMINDERS, and destroy the ring. His actions were petty, mean-spirited and cruel. Those are not the actions of someone that's actually loving or even deserving of love.
honestly, she hasnt moved on from her first husband enough to add to her memories. This poor guy was an ultimate safe rebound. He deserved better and she deserved counselling. the minute he realized that she was a recent widow, thats the sign to get her help. No matter what your spouse used to do for you, you shouldn't allow that to stop you from moving forward with the person that you are now with. Poor guy and poor her.
This episode is so chaotic i love it
Even if I got over a dead spouse, I would not get over the CRUELTY of the ring bashing husband.
Ps I like this new angle with Sophie and Riley also in the conversation. And I see the Modellos🎉
The first story is so sad. As you guys mentioned, they were too young and she probably wasn't used to being alone. I think she just wanted someone to help her with such a burden and op didn't say no. It's weird from his part too to know she's grieving and kinda taking advantage of that and being her boyfriend in such a vulnerable state. Of course she needs to come to terms with that passing but she has to do it on her own terms and, if you married her, you accepted her and no one forced you to. OP knew what he was getting into. Even though she is broken and hopeless it seems, she still tried to be a good wife and love him. It's so disheartening to see she's being paid with this.
And besides the fact that their frontal lobes have just completely matured, they started the relationship very young. Their capacity to take mature and conscious decisions wasn't the best
As someone who knows they got the jealous bone in my body and is just waiting for an excuse to use it, never in my wildest revenge would I ever think to do this to someone I once cared about. Like this goes beyond petty. A true loss of control moment and I'd be terrified of myself to take some sick revenge on a dead person who really didn't do shit to you. He 100% played himself
You never really stop grieving.
Poor baby 🤦🏾♀️ at 20 yrs old she’s been married 2x and widowed! Omg🤦🏾♀️ thought my life was hard bc I had 2 kids by age 20 but this just humbled me.
She could have built a literal shrine to this dude who passed away in fact as her dude I probably would have done it for her as a way for her to remember him every year she can keep as many pictures in the house of them as she wants I don't care he's dead.
OG maturity level drop. I won’t point fingers LOL. No need. 😂
She tells him that she never wants to celebrate Valentine's Day. He says ok. 6 years later & they're married, he can't even bring her flowers that day? I think that's OP's 1st screw up, not asking "Is getting you flowers celebrating? In my view celebrating is making a big deal, going out on a date, a heart shaped box of candy, all that. If I got you flowers is that breaking our deal?" I don't advocate boundary stomping, but she really wasn't specific to OP on the boundary & he didn't ask because he wanted to surprise her. Bad communication on both their parts. [For example, when I say "I don't care about celebrating my birthday now that I'm older" it doesn't mean I don't want any acknowledgement ever & no one can even talk about it. I tell people "Sure send a card or text! It's nice you remember, I just really feel I outgrew parties years ago." See? More specific. I don't tell them I might pick up takeout to treat myself because then I don't have to consider everyone else's diet/preferences. I tell them I don't want a party & I mean I don't want a party because it's just not me. I really don't like all that. So that's what I mean about being clearer on the definition of the boundary.]
But then I understand OP's initial anger, how when he asked if she actually loved him or was he just a placeholder for her 1st husband, SHE DIDN'T ANSWER HIM! He only freaked out after she continued not answering him verbally & then she took off her wedding rings! How can she claim later in her letter that of course she loves him? She literally couldn't say "I love you" when he asked & then she did the literal "I'm ending our marriage" move of taking off her rings!! He yelled a bit, yes, but he only lost it & freaked out when he got her VERY clear answer that she did NOT love him by taking off the rings. So again, why is she gaslighting him in her note that she did love him & only decided it wasn't going to work after he lost control of himself? She took off her rings 1st! She decided to end their marriage 1st.
Of course OP is wrong for letting his feelings turn into destructive actions. SO MASSIVELY WRONG. But she clearly contributed to his freak out. She didn't really love him, at least not like that. She couldn't even say "Yes I love you, but I'm too screwed up & get flashbacks from even flowers. You shouldn't even have brought flowers. Never give me flowers the rest of my life, because it makes me think of him. I don't care if you feel societal pressure to do flowers as a sign of love. Think of something else." It still would've hurt his feelings, but the boundary would be made clearer & reestablished, he would've apologised & they would've gone on for a few more years in their screwed up marriage.
Why did she feel the need to keep the other guy's ring handy right in her drawer IN THEIR BEDROOM? Why wasn't it in a safe? She put the pictures away, not around the rest of the house, supposedly to make him happy, yet she kept the ring handy. To me it seems a passive-aggressive move to make sure he gets reminded of the 1st husband constantly, even while she puts on the public face of "considering his feelings" by not having the photos up in the hall & living room along with all other family photos. Sorry, but really this part of where she kept the ring catches my attention. I have more than 1 family member that has issues & rather than self-feflect they do passive-aggressive manipulation like that to make it seem they're never responsible for the relationship trouble.
Story 1:
Op: What can I do to fix this?
Me: Die
Gifts given freely should be kept by the receiver...unless the receiver gets that gift under false pretenses created by the receiver for the purpose of getting that gift.
He could take it to be repaired at a jeweler and let her know when she can pick it up 😢 20:00 he should have asked her first or waited a few days afterwards or taken flowers to his grave with her on that day.
Happy Valentine's Day OKOP family 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹💜
Is Big Protine teaching Sophia how to produce??
The first story, he was SO wrong. But to be honest they didn’t have a chance really, because she wasn’t ready for that relationship and hadn’t grieved like she needed. Because he also deserved more, too, that she wasn’t ready to give and since she never dealt with what she needed to or healed enough she was never going to get there. So, they’re both in the wrong, he’s just WAY more in the wrong and he blew up the relationship. They could’ve actually got help and she could’ve gotten help too and they fixed it eventually, but instead he did what he did.
Hot take: I think yes she rushed into that relationship. She probably didnt know how to cope or self soothe and only knew how to do that with a partner. However! I think 6 years is good time to seek therapy and grieve. I feel like her reaction to the flowers was reactive and doesnt demonstrate someone who has grieved or accepted her ex- spouse's passing. To have that reaction 6 years later is alot i feel. And to be with someone else for 6 years which is the length of her last relationship and to watch her react that way would be upsetting. I think his reaction was also natural as well since his own love language may be gift giving so to throw away that can really hurt those types of people. Do i think he could have given her flowers any other day? Sure of course. But going so far as to break the ring i think his rage and feelings of rejection got the best of him. And he will have to deal with those consequences. Thats just life. Ps. Dont come for me. Im not here to argue.
Not to mention, she showed with her actions that he is indeed a rebound. Pretty over the top reaction on his part, but completely understandable.
Piggy boy Sam.🐖 I'm loving all the uploads lately. Keep up the good work.
Second situation, dude sounds like he has a eating disorder.
Omg grief can end pre-existing relationships. She jumped in that new relationship really quickly. That's definitely not healthy. My husband and I almost got divorced, because of grief that I was dealing with after we were already married. How she made a new relationship work for so long, I have no idea. I hope she is okay, and not just burying her feelings. Like it seems she did for her entire relationship with OP. After what he did, there is no way. You don't get over someone who dies. You just learn to live without them. 6 years is not enough time to just get over him like OP wants.
Being jealous of a dead ex-lover/husband is pathetic. Let her mourn and keep old momentos. Dude, HE'S D-E-A-D. She had a life BEFORE you, DURING you... and now she will, AFTER YOU! #GrowManBallz
I knew a guy who had a terrible temper but was simultaneously very kind. He was a very nice guy until something ticked him off, then he would massively overreact. He was cutting strawberries at work and something happened so he decided to stab the countertop. Eventually, he and his girlfriend got into a fight and he decided to hold her at gun point because he couldn’t control his anger. I think uncontrolled anger is so dangerous. Doesn’t matter how nice he acts at times or how good he thinks he is. Nobody good or safe will do any of that. If you have issues with anger, seek help now. Right now.
Saying something is an "Ick", is an ick!
I felt bad for OP up until he intentionally smashed the ring and said that. That’s straight up abuse and he can’t take it back. It was more than a mess up.
So smashing a ring is abuse but smashing the flowers and having walk on eggshells around his wife... Isn't?
@studioskyla2918 Yes, smashing a RING THAT BELONGED TO HER DEAD LOVED ONE while yelling that she needs to get over his DEATH over and over is SO MUCH WORSE than reacting negatively to flowers you ASKED TO NOT BE GIVEN ON THIS ONE DAY, flowers that the guy bought that same day from the store and had zero attachment to.
Are you able to understand grief? Like, come on, you troglodyte.
@@Monster_sky_highHaving to walk on eggshells...on a single fucking day. By not celebrating that one holiday.
Like, come on.
SHE has to walk eggshells around her OWN TRAUMA. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
@@Monster_sky_highthis. It seems like OP always had to be careful what he did to avoid his wife having a meltdown. Her reaction to him giving her flowers on Valentine’s Day was WAY over the top. I don’t care if it reminds you of your late spouse. You don’t treat your current spouse like that. OP communicated that it means something to him to be able to do that for her and she’s like “no, it meant something to me and my dead husband so it can’t mean anything to us.” Yeah, OP absolutely is the AH for smashing the ring. He says the wife was always loving toward him and never compared him to her dead husband but part of me thinks he’s protecting her so he gets the full force of the backlash. The wife is an AH for getting in a relationship when she wasn’t ready. I wonder if she truly loves OP or if she just couldn’t stand the thought of being alone. Now, I’m only 13 minutes into the video so idk how it’s gonna go but while I absolutely do not condone what he did, I don’t blame him one bit for, after a while, questioning if he was just a rebound. I think the wife got mad because she got called out and didn’t want to answer or didn’t realize it until then.
Yeah, OP is an AH but at least his wife admitted she got into a relationship with him too quickly. OP couldn’t get past his own insecurities. Neither of them wanted to be single it seems like.
I agree, she’s an AH. I was on his side until he turned Hulk on the ring.
I must say, Sophia is always right
Yeah, the partner forcing Valentine's Day on her, as well as seeing it as a good thing she no longer speaks of her husband that had passed, is THE BIGGEST RED FLAG on OP. Evil creature. Unempathetic. Possessive. Selfish. Stop empathising with this sociopath because of Commercially Made Gift Giving Day.
Note: I wrote all of this before the yelling from him started. Holy crap. That person is a timebomb.
4:20 My parents got married on Valentine's because my dad wanted to remember his anniversary easily and to combine two holidays 😅
My parents got married on V day too.. I asked and my dad just said ‘it was a Saturday.. seemed like a good day’ lol😂
Happy Valentine’s Day OK Fam 💗❤️
Story one - she never should have gotten into a relationship that quickly. OP kind of glosses over it, but his wife had been engaging in borderline emotionally abusive behavior since they got together. OP is not better, his behavior was atrocious, but she is the one that brought destructive violence to the situation first. She wrecked the flowers and started screaming, then wouldn't talk to him at all. Those behaviors don't come out of nowhere.
OP is better off. So is the wife. Hopefully, she gets the help she needs before she tries to date again.
Ok, I'm glad I wasn't the only one that had an issue with the wife. Not everything is about me. If my husband went out of his way to do something nice for me, I'd acknowledge that thing even if it made me uncomfortable. And maybe the next day speak to him calmly and tell him I appreciate his thoughtfulness and ask that he not do what he did to make me feel uncomfortable again.
He bought her flowers because he thought it would be ok. Because he loves his wife. That's not a horrible thing. Destroying the flowers was just wasteful. She could have said thank you and given them away or something.
Idk why it would be wrong for the wife and the new husband to celebrate the dead husband's life or something on Valentine's day. Yeah, the wife could be sad about not having her old husband but she could be grateful that she has a new partner to share her life with.
For her to walk away because he lost his cool when he stayed when she lost hers... Is unfair in my opinion. And ignoring him was also ridiculous. I would have been mad too. Not smash stuff mad but a person can only take so much.
I'm sure there's a couple out there but personally I've never seen a widowed or widower relationship really ever go well. I could because they pushed to move on too soon or pushed at least act normal too soon.
But point is that they never truly get over it and they're never fully invested in the current life in relationship.
I honestly felt like his "smash stuff" anger came from a place of the emotional and mental abuse he had been subjected to for so long. The wife's narcissism is unreal... it's akin to people who deliberately push people to a breaking point, then record them once the other person snaps while they behave like they're the innocent one or the victim while on record. Her excuse is ridiculous. She basically picked up his emotional breaking point off the floor and beat him with it. At any point in their relationship she could have taken personal responsibility for herself put on the breaks. But it seems to me sadistically making someone pine for your heart knowing you'll never fully give them what they want is just incredibly self serving. I feel like he got gaslit to all hell. Granted he shouldn't have behaved the way he did, but I'm not sure if expect differently of someone being slowly emotionally and mentally poisoned.
THANK YOU. SHE started it by throwing his flowers away and engaging in emotionally manipulative behaviour!! She has the right to grieve her dead husband, but she doesn’t have the right to make it another person’s problem by using them as a REBOUND.
OH MY GOD I LOVE THE OK STORY TIMES AND THE COMMENTARY!❤
ME TOO AAAAAAHHHHHHH
OP in the first story escalated so fast. Like, why would destroying that ring and yelling at her like that be a good idea?
My friendship ick is when someone makes plans and consistently cancels them for no good reasons.
Is this the new setup? I am really liking this room they are sitting in. Having Sophia and Riley in the background is so cute. Love the OkOp fam ❤❤😂🎉
Warning: Rant incoming!
If you are dating someone whose significant other passed away, NO they would not be with you if their partner hadn’t died! They also wouldn’t be dating you if they had died or you had died or a meteor had destroyed the planet!! That’s is a ridiculous and destructive train of thought! They are with you now because they want to be with you now. Either get over whatever fairy tale bs idea of “the one and only” you have in your head, or let them go find someone mature enough to love them the way they deserve.
Ok rant over.
There is no such thing as “fully grieve” you simply learn to live with it and cherish your love ones memories.
This was a hilarious one, the commentary was so funny!
Riley it’s called an, “Indian giver”
First story: that’s genuinely terrifying for a person to have to experience. That’s unspeakably horrific behavior.
The person in the comments constantly calling the first wife abusive is so cringe omg
Thank the lord my husband thought the amount I eat was impressive. Lol. Clearly, he married me. 😂
Stop picking on Sophia 😤
This reminds me of my younger brother dying on my youngest son’s birthday. I made a bow that day that I would never let it interfere with my son and his birthday. Ops wife needs to put the past in the past and leave it there and move on with the future
My ex had an obsession with throat singing and meditation songs and I absolutely hated it and I said something ONE TIME and she held onto it and mentioned my disdain daily lol
2. Story: AFTER He confessed to seeing another girl, I would've checked with my lawyer again. Cause in my country there is a law: "If you are giftig someone something and that person is ungrateful, you are entitled to get it back." The ex-bf has shown his ungratefullnes by cheating/being unfaithful + he allready wanted to break up with OP but waited, so he got a watch he would'nt have in the first place if he ended the relationship when he started seeing the other girl.
A big ig/yuk for me: eating noisily! I've hated it since childhood and do it ever since. Big "No.No!"
Lmao, not Sophia's face 🤣 😂 😭 I'm working with idiots
They should have never been married, she isn't ready to be in any sort of relationship. N to expect ur partner to NEVER celebrate Valentine's day is insane. It's not fair to him honestly she needs help n to be single. Dude is on eggshells n can't be affectionate with his own partner. there's someone else who would appreciate what he is offering. She used dude to get over her ex husband passing lets be honest. His reaction was extreme but honestly I can see why he snapped. Dude wasted 6 yrs of his life essentially. Can't even believe they got married. He definitely ain't gonna hear from her either cuz she didn't really love him, he was a rebound n I think that's why he snapped so badly.
Sure OP went off-road when he asked her if he was a rebound and smashing the ring was just going full train wreck.
But, some forget where OP started the off-road turn.
After 6 years and then married, she could just as easily has expressed that she still doesn't want to celebrate valentine's day and tell him to give the flowers to someone else. But SHE stormed out throwing a $100 bouquet in the dumpster and scream crying outside. So, she started it all, so in some way, I understand why OP asked her if he was a rebound, coz if she, after 6 years react like that to a bouquet of flowers she certainly don't sound like she's over her late husband at all. And when he asked her, she should have answered him, coz her silence was the reason he started yelling for an answer, coz silence would just make him feel like a rebound even more and so, her action to then lack of responding sende OP to the edge where he bashed the ring and box it was in.
So Sure OP is an A-hole, but she ain't better herself, coz her reaction and silence was his beginning to go off-road. So she is J st as big of an A-hole.
I think OPs wife’s an AH. I was feeling bad for him and on his side UNTIL he turned Hulk on the ring. I would be scared of my husband if he did something like that but I feel sorry for him and think they’re better apart.
Sophia is so right! Baby talk of any kind is a huge turn off and deal breaker, guy or girl! UNLESS they are talking to animals then thats a huge green flag!
How on earth did the couple in the first story end up married?
8:24 valid question? Which is why I’m confused about how they even got married.
She wasn't ready for another relationship, but once he pulled out the hammer, id never be in the same room with that psychopath again.
She's screamed over flowers 😂 she's just as psychotic
@@Monster_sky_high says the person who needed to use a separate account just so someone agreed with them lol
I just realized this is also going to be the anniversary of he break up now. So much trama to be reminded of every year. :(
you guys need a bigger table for the lego castle
Valentine's Day for me is February 12th when I met the love of my life 14 years ago. Happy Valentine's Day OKOP 💘
Like it’s not that she celebrated Valentines Day with him , it’s that it’s their anniversary.
He could pick ANY day of the year to be like a special day to celebrate.
Like it could be turned into their own cute little tradition. But it wasn’t about that to him. It was about trying to erase her late husband.
The op with the young widow. A widow myself op was looking for an easy relationship. Widow's have a different brain waves