I'M stuck in survival mode all time. I'm nervous all the time. A lot of times I feel anxious. Alcohol solves everything, next day anxiety hits me even harder. I have depressions and had a severe burn-out. I can't stand loud noices, violence on television, problems.
Get your thyroid levels checked first. I had hyperthyroidism which went undiagnosed for 6 years. I was extremely anxious all the time. After treatment, im a different person. Also adding Escitalopram an SSRI, has made it even better. 🥰🥰🥰
Hi Charles, I'm so sorry that you find it so hard to relax. You're saying that you use alcohol to treat the symptoms. I hope that you don't do that too often. If you do, please seek help, which I think that you deserve anyway. Take care, be kind to yourself and all the very best.
For me, mind-altering chemicals (alcohol and caffeine) give me anxiety. I've had to pretty much cut them both out and I've discovered I'm actually not a very anxious person. Maybe cutting down would help you too?
@@cmkrcs1 Yes, you are right. I get caught in a downward spiral. Alcohol solves my anxiety for the moment. Next day it returns but worse. With caffeine it's the same: if I drink coffee I get more anxious after a while, I sleep worse, next I am sleep deprived and get more anxious, and so on. I allready quit alcohol and coffee for that reason. And anxiety is really much less. Only when I'm really stressed or anxious, I make mistakes again. Going to bed and try to have a nap should be better.
I know a person who was suffering from being stuck in survival mode. She was constantly anxious, panic attacks, gaining weight. Nobody had a working solution, until accidentally they found a tumor in her adrenal gland during a CAT scan. It was dumping cortisol and making her stressed. And even then, the recommendation was to keep to tumor in. So she found a surgeon in Florida, who was an adrenal expert. Based on his advice they removed the tumor and all the horror of excess stress and panic attacks went away. Apparently this was Cushing's syndrome, even if nobody diagnosed it. If you're suffering from high levels of anxiety, there might be a physiological cause, that you can't treat with meditation, therapy etc. Check your adrenals, please! Hope you get better ♥
I know a person who was suffering from being stuck in survival mode. She was constantly anxious, panic attacks, gaining weight. Nobody had a working solution, until accidentally they found a tumor in her adrenal gland during a CAT scan. It was dumping cortisol and making her stressed. And even then, the recommendation was to keep to tumor in. So she found a surgeon in Florida, who was an adrenal expert. Based on his advice they removed the tumor and all the horror of excess stress and panic attacks went away. Apparently this was Cushing's syndrome, even if nobody diagnosed it. If you're suffering from high levels of anxiety, there might be a physiological cause, that you can't treat with meditation, therapy etc. Check your adrenals, please! ♥
Agree...always rule out a medical/physical cause before you settle on it being completely psychological!! Wishing everyone well in their healing journeys...from a fellow journeyer!!!
We have had problems with our thyroid gland in the past. It never occurred to me to have it checked again. Thank you. We just simply went hay wire all of a sudden... yes there were triggers and stresses, but normally, we manage! Right now, we are not managing.
I feel like I'm in survival mode right now, highly stressed, sometimes even depressed. I have an MRI scheduled soon (to rule out any medical/physical causes). Hoping it gets better, b/c I don't want my whole life to be like this.
The HPA axis is the boss of hormone production. Thanks for sharing. The connection between mental and physical health is never considered and blows my mind given evidence like the ACE study. I have a mass on my pituitary gland, probably has been there my entire life. I suffered with chronic allergies, asthma, etc which is interesting given a study done on the correlation of birth order. The eldest child has a higher risk of developing allergies, yet my older sister was in perfect health. The difference? She wasn't abused. Psychological abuse and mental health is no different than physical abuse and physical health.
Gosh I feel like I’m stuck in survival mode all the time!! Every small tasks feels like a marathon, I can’t remember anything, noises from tv or people talking makes me panic and irritable! I can’t relax ever, I will find things to clean or something to organize. But even then I start cleaning and I get so overwhelmed I can’t even complete it! I dissociate all the time and have such a hard time keeping up with work! Where to even start to heal?
Your description is similar to what I had been experiencing for many years. I did ketamine therapy about a year ago and it worked wonders for me! I’m in a much better place now! Anxiety gone. Depression gone. I’m actually able to relax and enjoy life now.
Best to all of you who are still stuck in survival mode. There is hope... After 24 years of therapy, a deep spiritual practice, and restorative relationships, I can say now that I am truly happy, joyous & free!
@@LM-nn7sg Thanks for asking! I think the thing that helped and continues to help me the most is my relationship with my higher power. When I got sober, 37 years ago, they told me I would need one to stay sober. So, I reconnected and found a very healing relationship.
Imagine being unemployed, down to your last money. You can’t pay bills and about to lose your home. Constantly worried about money. You’ve done everything you can to scrape whatever money you can but it doesn’t seem to help. How can anyone enjoy living?
So true, I had to explain to someone that I had stress induced ibs and they said I’m so sorry you have been stressed. I realised I am always stressed and others aren’t
I’m a nurse and I would say 70 percent of patients are on a psych med of some sort, some people don’t even know they are stressed because mentally I’m ok but my body is not, I would even go and say that a lot of the reasons people come into the doctor is due to stress, even the rise in fertility issues, a body in survival mode won’t want to prioritize a pregnancy
I’m stuck in survival mode - freeze. I can’t do anything when I have an attack. I have ALL the symptoms, anxiety, depression, stress, ptsd, can’t concentrate, I fall apart and cry and can’t stop. I can’t live like this. It’s been two and a half years since I lost Leesa. 😢 That’s when it all started. I’ve never been like this before in my life. I have trouble falling asleep, sleeping and waking up. I hate this. I just want to be normal again. I’m so lost. I can’t function.😢
Oh God, I have been in survival mode for 18 years straight ever since Mom died. She didn't have a will or anything. She became the city's property because we lived in poverty. I couldn't even have a funeral for her. She was only 44 and I was 17. The city took her body and I never saw her again.
I think it's worth acknowledging that sometimes we *can* accurately anticipate what's coming. If the person who asked the fourth question is informed on current events, societal trends, and history, I'd argue the feeling that something bad is coming is entirely warranted. I know that "fortune telling" is a cognitive distortion, but pattern recognition is a genuine skill that some people are quite good at. "History doesn't repeat itself, but it often rhymes."
Yeah but she's talking about this being out of balance and almost always a negative emotion. You are completely right it's just that the argument you're making has no place here. At least i think.
That really is a huge adult problem. Because you can have everything you need, be blessed with loved ones, and have opportunities knocking, and just feel stuck. So don’t be so hard on yourself. That’s what I take from the video. 💯👈🏻
Yesterday I was cleaning up a little (cleaning up can be overwhelming for me sometimes) and bumped into the fridge with a plate. Without thinking I hit the fridge with the plate and smashed it. Then I calmly swept it up and thought “that’s not a normal response.” I didn’t even feel angry. Usually I’ll feel angry and 8/10 times I’ll stop myself before doing something reckless (that usual involves throwing or breaking my own things). I don’t even know wtf that was.
its a split second of total loss of control. you just don't care literally about anything even death for one second. and we all know one second can change a life.if it keeps up one day you'll be smashing people instead
To get myself out of survival mode, I joined a theater group. That said, I was in survival mode going in, flight to be exact. But by the end of my first day, I felt secure with everyone. I even told the director and the assistant director that I have PTSD the second week.
Everyone of this scenarios is true in my case. I'm tired of my life full of depression, stress and severe anxiety. Its like too many thoughts firing up in my head. I cannot study properly due to all that and have been procrastinating important things for months and its stressing me out. Oh and I'm just 19. I'm just 19 and I'm tired of my life already. Its been like this 4 years... And my parents refuse to understand me and think everything is my fault... I'm just alone in this world with no one to help me..
I work In healthcare. I’ve noticed the patient population , even In the last few years, has become a lot sicker. While nutrition, genetics, lifestyle, environmental factors and other aspects of life play a role in our health. I whole heartedly believe stress is the number one reason for our health declining. I experience every example you mentionEd daily. I’m sorry to say I’ve been in therapy for over a decade and it just doesn’t help, if anything in more recent years it’s been unbearable. I feel that there is nothing I can do to fix any of this. I dot. Have help. Everyone else around me is in survival mode too. It’s great I can recognize it but medication is a bandaid and all the alternatives feel like temporary fixes that lead to more stress and anxiety and a perpetual spiral of threats.
Practice gratitude. Create a friendship with yourself (by an imagined friend in your mind, that is always on your side. Your self talk will always be positive)
@@sonyxperia7881 I have had 6 therapist over the past 13 years. About 3 months to 1 year in, they go on to do other things with their career, so I keep having to start over and tell these people everything all over again. But thanks for the suggestion. All you can do is keep trying.
We have society-level problems (and global) and the Powers That Be keep trying to make them personal/individual. It doesn't work but it lets them keep screwing everyone over for their financial benefit. (Community mental health therapist/manager here)
I related to 3 of the signs. This was very helpful. It was comforting to see that there is nothing wrong with me. I can now go about dealing with the real/ underlying issues. The first step to correcting a problem is to see it. The body and mind are amazing instruments. Fear can be crippling both literally and figuratively. Thank you for this video.
I've been in & out of survival mode most of my life. I lost my only sibling at a young age & fell into survival mode to get through school without giving my parents anything extra to worry about. Being around close friends helps pull me back to reality, but then I married someone who has a lot of emotional needs. I suspect his survival mode has thrown me right back to my childhood survival mode. I have been the one to forget a grocery list/chop an onion incorrectly/not reply to a question fast enough, and have a volley of cutting insults screamed at me. I am not able to see my friends nearly as often as I would like, so I find myself hearing my mother's voice from my childhood reminding me to "just get through the day", so that is what I do.
No, it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship, and need to get safe. If you can, please find support. I was there, and it's not easy to leave them, but it will be so much better soon. Please take care of you.
4:30 Hi Kati, and Wow.. that diagram speaks volumes to me of why I am the way I am, or in my case, why we are the way we are. I'm D.I.D., and myself, and most of my alters, are all constantly in fight or flight mode. stuck there! every little piss ass thing seems to set us off at different times and we are labelled "TOO sensitive, TOO over reactive, take things TOO much to heart, TOO emotional, TOO overbearing, TOO direct, TOO blunt, TOO much of a drama queen... etc etc. Everything is TOO much of something. On what scale though? what's normal? Where is the baseline to gauge of you are too this or too that? So as a survivor of trauma, being in fight flight mode every day, every moment is our normal. It's how we try to keep ourselves safe, as the world has proven to be an unsafe, scary, unkind place where bad things can happen. Yes there are good people out there. Yes there are safe situations out there, yes kindness is still alive in the human race, but for us, the opposite is still so blatantly obvious, that it doesn't feel safe to come out of fight or flight mode or even freeze. Freeze was our old response. we'd freeze! we'd dissociate from the problem/trauma/bully/situation. It was working too! til we had 20 or so years of therapy to learn to be more assertive and stand up for ourselves and face the world. NOW... we get angry at people. we blurt out things, we set boundaries and it isn't always in the most compassionate way. We are like "stands with a fist" from Dances with Wolves... we stand... with our fists held high always on guard ready to block abuse and hurtful words... we are constantly, waiting. Expecting someone to hurt us and so therefore, constantly ready with our shields up! Recently, someone called us the bully. What have we become? the very thing we hate? the very thing that ruined us, split us, hurt us, and put us in the constant state of fight or flight? We don't want to be that person.... I relate so much to the person in that letter you read. We... are ruining our lives and worse, the lives of everyone else around us too. The Fireflies system.
Thank you very much, Kati The last half a year I have tried to get myself out of survival mode knowing about it almost nothing, but that almost half of my life I was functioning in that mode. Since I moved to other country to live..I'm 64 now. Tried to climb down from high tree as I called it and dial down from stress.. Your video was extremely informative to me, I wish I had found it half year ago All of scenarios are familiar, two last also present though in very masked form.. Never would have guessed that me, wondering if I have narcissistic traits are related to stress, and not because I had an ex with now diagnosed with full blown NPD... I got material to work with.. Thank you very much Very grateful
I’ve been in it for12 years! I’m finally making myself have fun as an adult and forget about it! Don’t forget to play and do something active and enjoyable! I joined a clowning class and I LOVE IT ❤
Yes. CBT can help one ease those types of thoughts. There is an Estonian artist named Kerli it would be cool for you to reach out to (she was in the LA music industry for years, but had a bad experience) and has moved back to the "woods" of Estonia. She is very interested in psychology/spirituality and has talked about things like this.
Well , my situation it's little weird, year ago a war broke out in my country ( Sudan) , and I travel to another country month, in the beginning I feel so bad that why I'm not suffering like all people then after couple of months I feel like I'm so alone and distant form all the people I know , then by some sort of magic I get better i start to get my life together but two months ago I feel stuck again in days I can't even leave the bed , I've read alot of book and watch alot of things about mental health but still don't know what happened with me , and i just feel so bad , and try to feel good but end up feel bad And it just something bigger than me
Have you heard of the term "survivor guilt"? It is where you feel bad for surviving something where others did or suffered. In your case, you escaped from a civil war between competing factions, but you feel bad for those who were left back home. This can cause you to fall into a deep depression. This happens to many who go through (or escape from) a war or natural disaster. I have seen on the news what is going on in Sudan. I do not blame you for getting out. Please look up "survivor guilt" and see if it fits what you are going through. Hope this helps.
Some people don't have flight or fight response, some have freeze or fawn responses, so not burst of anger, but alternating between freeze doing nothing or fawning to others or ourselves. I will add the fears is learn, so if you are in survival mode it is because something scare you, something that did hurt you in the past, so you are right to be scared.
I am. Chronic anxiety in my body in varying degrees. You have to commit to whatever lifestyle changes you can whenever you are able. The smallest efforts add up.
My experience has told me that if I just get out of bed (or couch) that is the most important step! Spread out your tasks if you can, so that you’re not doing too much ( in one day)..every little step is a BIG step!
Me suffering from depression, bipolar disorder, body dysmorphic, ocd, anxiety, but there's no cure i dont know what to do , where to go am tired, medications dont cure and u relapse
Thank you for this video dear Kati. I've noticed I've in this mode for almost 2,5 years. I finally got out of this survival game. Feeling so great now (changed my horrible job with insane coworkers, even during days off I couldn't be productive and relax). This winter was so hard, I came home and went straight to the couch and fell asleep. All the energy I had - I saved to go to work, take a shower, put clothes on and as soon as I came home I've been lazy. The worst thing was that my head didn't work at all. I couldn't manage the thoughts; nothing made sense; I used "simple language" to express my feelings and emotions in communication with coworkers (that were ok). My body felt exhausted. Unfortunately I have to go "alone" through my life (my family and relatives never have been there for me). I managed to be there for myself but sometimes we people just need help from others. At least I have a little kitty, he gives me so much love and affection. Cheers from Germany, Lana
I tend to self sabotage and I'm on the brink of my relationship ending. I relate to number 3 so so SO much! I get called lazy all the time because I procrastinate ALL the time with cleaning and dishes and laundry. I need help. I can't lose my relationship and family.
Procrastinating is linked to fear of failure which is linked to perfectionism which is linked to the belief that when we're good enough we will do it. Which means we don't feel worthy now. Which leads to self fulfilling prophecy: we procrastinate. What a trap. We are good enough! What we do is good enough. Let's go for it 🎉
@@aprylrader8275 I'm so sorry to hear that. All of the below may not be new to you, but here are some ideas that hopefully help a bit: - Tell your partner you're feeling stressed out and overwhelmed at the moment and that you struggle with getting things done. - Doing things in very small steps / trying to do very small tasks - using the 3-3-3, 5-4-3-2-1 and other relaxing techniques - Going for walks
This was great information and the examples and explanations were clear and easy to understand - but how do we work through it if we're stuck in survival mode!?
I've been stuck in this since December I got triggered and then overworked myself to burnout and have been stuck since and have been spiraling and my emotions have been way up and way down or sometimes my emotions are flat and it's driving me crazy😢. Seeking new therapists and doctors
Why do I always think that people are out to get me or use me and take advantage of me? As if they're only keeping me around in their life for potential personal gain and would immediately leave you or ghost once that perceived potential personal gain is no longer achievable.
Hi, I feel pretty much like this. Being taken advantage of, even by people I consider friends because they seem to be there for me more, if I have something for them….silly little things like organic blueberry muffins. My partner, however, once told me, he ‘thought I was rich’. Yes, I am. I have so much to give. Or, am I a ppl pleaser, anxious to make everyone feel good, even at my own expense?
I never really understood the freeze response until I flew a half hour flight on a plane that had... I don't know, _something_ loose and flapping/vibrating on the outside of the emergency exit. I wanted to record it to show people what exactly it sounded like, but me and the two other guys in the exit row just sat there watching, listening, and waiting. I couldn't will myself to take my phone out of my pocket.
I really wished people would get away from using the word "normal"all the time and trying to find out if they are "normal"or "ok"because they feel certain things...I mean there is not suuc thing as "normal",there is healthy and there is helpful in terms of does this feeling help me live life better,more fully or does it just hold me back and make me miserable. But I so wish we could get away from using this word "normal",its also sad how little we talk to others about our feelings and tend to check or look to others to see what is or isn't normal",when we just feel what we feel and its all trying to tell us something. We also need to get away from these labels too like narcissist or sociopath"because they can also make us feel trapped or forver worried that maybe we are one or another or could be stigmatised when in fact ALL these feelings and "symptoms"are indications of possible traumas both large and small or unresolved trauma.Its what we do with them that matters and how to find ways of relating to them with curiosity and less judgement.These labels are so loaded with all sorts of value judgements that it can be hard to get past that or reach out for help or be open. So much of what keeps us from being mentally healthy is shame and fear of judgement and these ideas of normality"or some of these labels can be so inhibiting of us seeking help instead of just seeing these expereinces as part of being human.
I've been in survival mode bc the danger that started it has been ongoing. Yesterday I found a way to change that & I feel 1,000 lbs lighter. I couldn't survive another day without peace of mind & I was going to have that by whatever means necessary. My breathing has returned to normal as well as my heart rate & my mind isn't racing anymore.
I’ve been suffering from severe anxiety and depression for the last 25 years and it’s not getting better. I’ve done everything from seeing a psychologist to taking antidepressants and even doing hypnotherapy. Nothing works my anxiety just gets worse day by day I don’t know what to do anymore 😢
What if that woman senses covert prolonged insidious abuse? What if the “forgetting” of the shopping list was a passive aggressive attack? What if her body knows before her head that she’s being emotionally neglected and/or abused? I’d like to know, how often does he “forget” the list. Because, honestly, then her blaming herself for a “minor” infraction of forgetting a list, is another abusive strategy.
In Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown in chapter 4 she covers how useful Awe is as an emotion, and its ability to connect you with yourself and others. The concept of the limbic system is rooted in an outdated model of the brain known as the triune brain model, and Joseph LeDoux’s early research on the amygdala has been widely misunderstood by the clinical psych community as it being the “fear center of the brain” when it is, instead, a salience oriented structure that communicates with the rest of the brain. He talks about this in his Joe Rogan interview.
What’s useful is recontextualizing the high arousal as itself being protective and therefore useful. That is difficult without Awe and connection. Which is why I love pyrotechnics. They are intrinsically high arousal and awe inducing. Or roller coasters. Exposure is useful for grounding.
More of a flight/ freeze response. 😫 dislike fighting. For the first scenario, I would just say I'm exhausted. 2nd scenario - meditation or rest or do brain dump. 3rd scenario - maybe get new job loll 4th - is like anxiety attack... retreat 😅 5th. - I do this sometimes... you're just kind of checking out. ..
This is my life right now. I feel so stuck in my living situation right now…I’m in ED PHP stuck living with family, one member who is actually living with us on house arrest…we do not get along…it has been awful…
Let’s extend your example of the woman whose husband forgot the grocery list. An overreaction on the wife’s part? Maybe, but what if the husband routinely exhibits similar behavior and won’t adopt a different habit no matter how many times the situation occurs? Why is the expression of anger deemed pathological regardless of the underlying circumstances?
Sometimes, there is no alternative to living in survival mode. I have taken the point of view that I've reached a plateau; if I change things then the consequences are negative and my overall situation will become worse. I can't make things better, but I can avoid making my life into a dumpster fire.
I feel like we didn't resolve number two because she said that she didn't have the stress from work and also that she Was doing the mindfulness activities but feeling shitty anyways 😬
Whilst I have experienced all 5 scenarios of Survival mode for me its been working hard and not been able to move ahead financially which means stuck in the rental apartment no friends or relationships
I have the feeling of being in danger, but the thing is I live in Poland, so I’ve been scared of the war and unfortunately I think it’s kind of understandable. 😢
I have been in survival mode since the 8th of August 2000 at 18:34. However, it has served me well over the years. True, I have no finds nor a girlfriend. However,, that keeps me from being hurt again.
How to achieve that is by getting our nervous system to live less in sympathetic mode ( fight or flight) and more in parasympathetic mode ( digest and rest). First it's an effort because it doesn't feel familiar but then it becomes our usual state.
Get help from a social worker from your city council. They can arange professional help like therapists, psychiaters, financial help, detox, and much more
It’s making me sick physically. I try not to overthink, be too needy, or be super emotional. Mood swings are watched for, self talk handles needless fear, stressors are dealt with by walking, relaxation, and activity. Food and sleep help. Talking to people too. It still feels like we have to throw up but nothing comes out. As in, GAG ME WITH A SPOON.” Quote unquote. 😂❤brutal. Having people in your life you need to convince. Being counted as last. Looked down on, disparaged in some way. We are probably right. But are we too needy to ask for understanding? Idk. I think balance is key. Talk, but don’t harp. Watch your volume. Watch your body language. Hey extra rest and give yourself a break. 🤢💯🙏
My workplace has started to trigger panic attacks and disassociation that i havent felt in over 10 years, not only are they unsympathetic, they frankly dont give a shit, "pull your head out of your arse, do your fricking job and do it well" was the comment from the 2IC to me recently, today was the first time i just wanted to run away from it all
3:05 stuff like that are consider survival mode ? i was expecting to hear like always been ready to answer any threat in public transport or stuff like that (survival meaning something have a chance to make you lose your life, like been aggressed in public transport or other stuff like that). I didn't know it could be trigger for other issue. (not posting this in a bad way, i was just surprised by some stuff consider also survival) (edit: 12:10 kind of can join the 3:05 with the anger becose sometimes it's both, been hypervigileant and ready to burst out all the anger on the threat but i only feel that when i'm outside, at home i have a dog who guard the home so except when he react to something i don't feel any survival mode.) 6:33 i kind of feel him if i don't have my full day free without any responsabilities, if i only have 2-3h of free time during a day, i can't relax becose i know after i have to do something or that i need to go sleep after to can work tomorrow, etc etc. But look more like anxiety than survival mode. 11:00 Feeling like that when your "instinct" don't like someone who kind of look strange and/or act strangely. Sometime that feeling get correct, but less than 50% of the time so can't say it's the instinct i think.
I'M stuck in survival mode all time. I'm nervous all the time. A lot of times I feel anxious. Alcohol solves everything, next day anxiety hits me even harder. I have depressions and had a severe burn-out. I can't stand loud noices, violence on television, problems.
Get your thyroid levels checked first. I had hyperthyroidism which went undiagnosed for 6 years. I was extremely anxious all the time. After treatment, im a different person. Also adding Escitalopram an SSRI, has made it even better. 🥰🥰🥰
Hi Charles,
I'm so sorry that you find it so hard to relax.
You're saying that you use alcohol to treat the symptoms. I hope that you don't do that too often. If you do, please seek help, which I think that you deserve anyway.
Take care, be kind to yourself and all the very best.
For me, mind-altering chemicals (alcohol and caffeine) give me anxiety. I've had to pretty much cut them both out and I've discovered I'm actually not a very anxious person. Maybe cutting down would help you too?
@@cmkrcs1 Yes, you are right. I get caught in a downward spiral. Alcohol solves my anxiety for the moment. Next day it returns but worse. With caffeine it's the same: if I drink coffee I get more anxious after a while, I sleep worse, next I am sleep deprived and get more anxious, and so on. I allready quit alcohol and coffee for that reason. And anxiety is really much less. Only when I'm really stressed or anxious, I make mistakes again. Going to bed and try to have a nap should be better.
I know a person who was suffering from being stuck in survival mode. She was constantly anxious, panic attacks, gaining weight. Nobody had a working solution, until accidentally they found a tumor in her adrenal gland during a CAT scan. It was dumping cortisol and making her stressed. And even then, the recommendation was to keep to tumor in. So she found a surgeon in Florida, who was an adrenal expert. Based on his advice they removed the tumor and all the horror of excess stress and panic attacks went away.
Apparently this was Cushing's syndrome, even if nobody diagnosed it.
If you're suffering from high levels of anxiety, there might be a physiological cause, that you can't treat with meditation, therapy etc. Check your adrenals, please!
Hope you get better ♥
I know a person who was suffering from being stuck in survival mode. She was constantly anxious, panic attacks, gaining weight. Nobody had a working solution, until accidentally they found a tumor in her adrenal gland during a CAT scan. It was dumping cortisol and making her stressed. And even then, the recommendation was to keep to tumor in. So she found a surgeon in Florida, who was an adrenal expert. Based on his advice they removed the tumor and all the horror of excess stress and panic attacks went away.
Apparently this was Cushing's syndrome, even if nobody diagnosed it.
If you're suffering from high levels of anxiety, there might be a physiological cause, that you can't treat with meditation, therapy etc. Check your adrenals, please! ♥
Agree...always rule out a medical/physical cause before you settle on it being completely psychological!! Wishing everyone well in their healing journeys...from a fellow journeyer!!!
We have had problems with our thyroid gland in the past. It never occurred to me to have it checked again. Thank you. We just simply went hay wire all of a sudden... yes there were triggers and stresses, but normally, we manage! Right now, we are not managing.
I feel like I'm in survival mode right now, highly stressed, sometimes even depressed. I have an MRI scheduled soon (to rule out any medical/physical causes). Hoping it gets better, b/c I don't want my whole life to be like this.
The HPA axis is the boss of hormone production. Thanks for sharing. The connection between mental and physical health is never considered and blows my mind given evidence like the ACE study.
I have a mass on my pituitary gland, probably has been there my entire life. I suffered with chronic allergies, asthma, etc which is interesting given a study done on the correlation of birth order. The eldest child has a higher risk of developing allergies, yet my older sister was in perfect health. The difference? She wasn't abused.
Psychological abuse and mental health is no different than physical abuse and physical health.
Thank you for the good advice!
The 5 F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Fantasy.
Gosh I feel like I’m stuck in survival mode all the time!! Every small tasks feels like a marathon, I can’t remember anything, noises from tv or people talking makes me panic and irritable! I can’t relax ever, I will find things to clean or something to organize. But even then I start cleaning and I get so overwhelmed I can’t even complete it! I dissociate all the time and have such a hard time keeping up with work! Where to even start to heal?
Healing with you
Your description is similar to what I had been experiencing for many years. I did ketamine therapy about a year ago and it worked wonders for me! I’m in a much better place now! Anxiety gone. Depression gone. I’m actually able to relax and enjoy life now.
Maybe God is trying to slow His people down so they realize where the true priorities or treasures are?
Same
Katie you sound like me. I get started ,then frustrated,then done. All I know need to get done but most times it doesn't. A tiny bit at a time
Best to all of you who are still stuck in survival mode. There is hope... After 24 years of therapy, a deep spiritual practice, and restorative relationships, I can say now that I am truly happy, joyous & free!
What helped you the most? And what advice do you have for someone starting that journey?
@@LM-nn7sg Thanks for asking! I think the thing that helped and continues to help me the most is my relationship with my higher power. When I got sober, 37 years ago, they told me I would need one to stay sober. So, I reconnected and found a very healing relationship.
Trying to pay the bills. But literally freeze and cant open the post box.
Omg can we be friends? I thought I was the only one 😢
Totally cue the scary music !
Imagine being unemployed, down to your last money. You can’t pay bills and about to lose your home. Constantly worried about money. You’ve done everything you can to scrape whatever money you can but it doesn’t seem to help. How can anyone enjoy living?
@qelement50 That's me now and what's even worse is that l lost my job 😭😭😭 l just can't function like I used to 😞😞
So true, I had to explain to someone that I had stress induced ibs and they said I’m so sorry you have been stressed. I realised I am always stressed and others aren’t
I’m a nurse and I would say 70 percent of patients are on a psych med of some sort, some people don’t even know they are stressed because mentally I’m ok but my body is not, I would even go and say that a lot of the reasons people come into the doctor is due to stress, even the rise in fertility issues, a body in survival mode won’t want to prioritize a pregnancy
I’m stuck in survival mode - freeze. I can’t do anything when I have an attack. I have ALL the symptoms, anxiety, depression, stress, ptsd, can’t concentrate, I fall apart and cry and can’t stop. I can’t live like this. It’s been two and a half years since I lost Leesa. 😢 That’s when it all started. I’ve never been like this before in my life. I have trouble falling asleep, sleeping and waking up. I hate this. I just want to be normal again. I’m so lost. I can’t function.😢
Nature?
maybe caused to trauma? that was in my case (annd i couldnt 'see' that), its not 'solved' knowing it, we can learn & find courses online etc
Oh God, I have been in survival mode for 18 years straight ever since Mom died. She didn't have a will or anything. She became the city's property because we lived in poverty. I couldn't even have a funeral for her. She was only 44 and I was 17. The city took her body and I never saw her again.
I’m really sorry that happened to you. I hope you can find some peace and closure that it sounds like you didn’t get after her death. ❤
Well something has to be done with a dead body...thinking.
@@raee1265 , it was very sudden like the day before, we was shopping at Walmart.
@@aimeeseekwhat a crass comment
So sorry that happened to you. At 17, you were so young and that would've been very traumatic. I can see how you would be affected by that forever.
I think it's worth acknowledging that sometimes we *can* accurately anticipate what's coming. If the person who asked the fourth question is informed on current events, societal trends, and history, I'd argue the feeling that something bad is coming is entirely warranted. I know that "fortune telling" is a cognitive distortion, but pattern recognition is a genuine skill that some people are quite good at.
"History doesn't repeat itself, but it often rhymes."
Yeah but she's talking about this being out of balance and almost always a negative emotion. You are completely right it's just that the argument you're making has no place here. At least i think.
That really is a huge adult problem. Because you can have everything you need, be blessed with loved ones, and have opportunities knocking, and just feel stuck. So don’t be so hard on yourself. That’s what I take from the video. 💯👈🏻
Yesterday I was cleaning up a little (cleaning up can be overwhelming for me sometimes) and bumped into the fridge with a plate. Without thinking I hit the fridge with the plate and smashed it. Then I calmly swept it up and thought “that’s not a normal response.” I didn’t even feel angry. Usually I’ll feel angry and 8/10 times I’ll stop myself before doing something reckless (that usual involves throwing or breaking my own things). I don’t even know wtf that was.
its a split second of total loss of control. you just don't care literally about anything even death for one second. and we all know one second can change a life.if it keeps up one day you'll be smashing people instead
To get myself out of survival mode, I joined a theater group. That said, I was in survival mode going in, flight to be exact. But by the end of my first day, I felt secure with everyone. I even told the director and the assistant director that I have PTSD the second week.
Good for you! Sounds awesome. 😊
Everyone of this scenarios is true in my case. I'm tired of my life full of depression, stress and severe anxiety. Its like too many thoughts firing up in my head. I cannot study properly due to all that and have been procrastinating important things for months and its stressing me out. Oh and I'm just 19. I'm just 19 and I'm tired of my life already. Its been like this 4 years... And my parents refuse to understand me and think everything is my fault... I'm just alone in this world with no one to help me..
i can relate :(
I work In healthcare. I’ve noticed the patient population , even In the last few years, has become a lot sicker. While nutrition, genetics, lifestyle, environmental factors and other aspects of life play a role in our health. I whole heartedly believe stress is the number one reason for our health declining. I experience every example you mentionEd daily. I’m sorry to say I’ve been in therapy for over a decade and it just doesn’t help, if anything in more recent years it’s been unbearable. I feel that there is nothing I can do to fix any of this. I dot. Have help. Everyone else around me is in survival mode too. It’s great I can recognize it but medication is a bandaid and all the alternatives feel like temporary fixes that lead to more stress and anxiety and a perpetual spiral of threats.
Practice gratitude.
Create a friendship with yourself (by an imagined friend in your mind, that is always on your side. Your self talk will always be positive)
Covid has affected the brain of a lot of persons, leading to being sicker.
Align with your needs and fill yourself with gratitude for every day. If therapy is not working say so to the therapist,we could find another way
@@sonyxperia7881 I have had 6 therapist over the past 13 years. About 3 months to 1 year in, they go on to do other things with their career, so I keep having to start over and tell these people everything all over again. But thanks for the suggestion. All you can do is keep trying.
We have society-level problems (and global) and the Powers That Be keep trying to make them personal/individual. It doesn't work but it lets them keep screwing everyone over for their financial benefit. (Community mental health therapist/manager here)
Are you making a part two on ways to get out of survival mode? Thanks
❤❤❤❤ pure gold… 5 out of 5… 😔 I call it the “trench soldier’s status”. Thank you for sharing. Very very useful.
I related to 3 of the signs. This was very helpful. It was comforting to see that there is nothing wrong with me. I can now go about dealing with the real/ underlying issues. The first step to correcting a problem is to see it.
The body and mind are amazing instruments. Fear can be crippling both literally and figuratively.
Thank you for this video.
Narcissist in the workplace will always accuse others of being narcissists when the narcissist is exposed.
I've been in & out of survival mode most of my life. I lost my only sibling at a young age & fell into survival mode to get through school without giving my parents anything extra to worry about. Being around close friends helps pull me back to reality, but then I married someone who has a lot of emotional needs. I suspect his survival mode has thrown me right back to my childhood survival mode. I have been the one to forget a grocery list/chop an onion incorrectly/not reply to a question fast enough, and have a volley of cutting insults screamed at me. I am not able to see my friends nearly as often as I would like, so I find myself hearing my mother's voice from my childhood reminding me to "just get through the day", so that is what I do.
No, it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship, and need to get safe. If you can, please find support. I was there, and it's not easy to leave them, but it will be so much better soon. Please take care of you.
4:30 Hi Kati, and Wow.. that diagram speaks volumes to me of why I am the way I am, or in my case, why we are the way we are. I'm D.I.D., and myself, and most of my alters, are all constantly in fight or flight mode. stuck there! every little piss ass thing seems to set us off at different times and we are labelled "TOO sensitive, TOO over reactive, take things TOO much to heart, TOO emotional, TOO overbearing, TOO direct, TOO blunt, TOO much of a drama queen... etc etc. Everything is TOO much of something. On what scale though? what's normal? Where is the baseline to gauge of you are too this or too that?
So as a survivor of trauma, being in fight flight mode every day, every moment is our normal. It's how we try to keep ourselves safe, as the world has proven to be an unsafe, scary, unkind place where bad things can happen. Yes there are good people out there. Yes there are safe situations out there, yes kindness is still alive in the human race, but for us, the opposite is still so blatantly obvious, that it doesn't feel safe to come out of fight or flight mode or even freeze. Freeze was our old response. we'd freeze! we'd dissociate from the problem/trauma/bully/situation. It was working too! til we had 20 or so years of therapy to learn to be more assertive and stand up for ourselves and face the world. NOW... we get angry at people. we blurt out things, we set boundaries and it isn't always in the most compassionate way. We are like "stands with a fist" from Dances with Wolves... we stand... with our fists held high always on guard ready to block abuse and hurtful words... we are constantly, waiting. Expecting someone to hurt us and so therefore, constantly ready with our shields up!
Recently, someone called us the bully. What have we become? the very thing we hate? the very thing that ruined us, split us, hurt us, and put us in the constant state of fight or flight? We don't want to be that person.... I relate so much to the person in that letter you read. We... are ruining our lives and worse, the lives of everyone else around us too.
The Fireflies system.
Kati
I feel this as a caregiver
My inner child is triggered by theirs and am exhausted
They may also have narcissism
Great
Will watch more!
Thank you very much, Kati
The last half a year I have tried to get myself out of survival mode knowing about it almost nothing, but that almost half of my life I was functioning in that mode. Since I moved to other country to live..I'm 64 now. Tried to climb down from high tree as I called it and dial down from stress..
Your video was extremely informative to me, I wish I had found it half year ago
All of scenarios are familiar, two last also present though in very masked form.. Never would have guessed that me, wondering if I have narcissistic traits are related to stress, and not because I had an ex with now diagnosed with full blown NPD...
I got material to work with..
Thank you very much
Very grateful
About to start my third listen-through- this one is especially on-target for me.
I have become so depressed from "survival" mode - I don't care anymore
I’ve been in it for12 years! I’m finally making myself have fun as an adult and forget about it! Don’t forget to play and do something active and enjoyable! I joined a clowning class and I LOVE IT ❤
Yes. CBT can help one ease those types of thoughts. There is an Estonian artist named Kerli it would be cool for you to reach out to (she was in the LA music industry for years, but had a bad experience) and has moved back to the "woods" of Estonia. She is very interested in psychology/spirituality and has talked about things like this.
Well , my situation it's little weird, year ago a war broke out in my country ( Sudan) , and I travel to another country month, in the beginning I feel so bad that why I'm not suffering like all people then after couple of months I feel like I'm so alone and distant form all the people I know , then by some sort of magic I get better i start to get my life together but two months ago I feel stuck again in days I can't even leave the bed , I've read alot of book and watch alot of things about mental health but still don't know what happened with me , and i just feel so bad , and try to feel good but end up feel bad
And it just something bigger than me
Have you heard of the term "survivor guilt"? It is where you feel bad for surviving something where others did or suffered. In your case, you escaped from a civil war between competing factions, but you feel bad for those who were left back home. This can cause you to fall into a deep depression. This happens to many who go through (or escape from) a war or natural disaster.
I have seen on the news what is going on in Sudan. I do not blame you for getting out. Please look up "survivor guilt" and see if it fits what you are going through. Hope this helps.
This video was very helpful! Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you Kati, I didn't think this video would help me but it has given me more insight
Wow! There's a surprising amount here that feels like you read it in my brain.
Thank you Kati, your video absolutely nailed the way I’m existing right now.
Some people don't have flight or fight response, some have freeze or fawn responses, so not burst of anger, but alternating between freeze doing nothing or fawning to others or ourselves.
I will add the fears is learn, so if you are in survival mode it is because something scare you, something that did hurt you in the past, so you are right to be scared.
But how can we overcome survival mode 😢
This video is like subliminial hype for anxiety in Inside Out 2! :)
I am. Chronic anxiety in my body in varying degrees. You have to commit to whatever lifestyle changes you can whenever you are able. The smallest efforts add up.
Thanks for the explanation. That helps. Do you have a vid about getting unstuck?
My experience has told me that if I just get out of bed (or couch) that is the most important step! Spread out your tasks if you can, so that you’re not doing too much ( in one day)..every little step is a BIG step!
I found a great resource book: The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through the Inertia to Find the Path Forward ~ Britt Frank, LSCSW. Hope this helps!? 😉💛
Me suffering from depression, bipolar disorder, body dysmorphic, ocd, anxiety, but there's no cure i dont know what to do , where to go am tired, medications dont cure and u relapse
Thank you for this video dear Kati. I've noticed I've in this mode for almost 2,5 years. I finally got out of this survival game. Feeling so great now (changed my horrible job with insane coworkers, even during days off I couldn't be productive and relax). This winter was so hard, I came home and went straight to the couch and fell asleep. All the energy I had - I saved to go to work, take a shower, put clothes on and as soon as I came home I've been lazy. The worst thing was that my head didn't work at all. I couldn't manage the thoughts; nothing made sense; I used "simple language" to express my feelings and emotions in communication with coworkers (that were ok). My body felt exhausted.
Unfortunately I have to go "alone" through my life (my family and relatives never have been there for me). I managed to be there for myself but sometimes we people just need help from others. At least I have a little kitty, he gives me so much love and affection.
Cheers from Germany, Lana
I loved these explanations Katie. ❤
I tend to self sabotage and I'm on the brink of my relationship ending. I relate to number 3 so so SO much! I get called lazy all the time because I procrastinate ALL the time with cleaning and dishes and laundry. I need help. I can't lose my relationship and family.
Procrastinating is linked to fear of failure which is linked to perfectionism which is linked to the belief that when we're good enough we will do it. Which means we don't feel worthy now. Which leads to self fulfilling prophecy: we procrastinate. What a trap. We are good enough! What we do is good enough. Let's go for it 🎉
If you're in such serious problems, you deserve and need professional help, I think.
@@diedertspijkerboer I unfortunately can't afford therapy right now or I would be in it again.
@@sunbeam9222 it's a vicious cycle and I'm trying to find the way out.
@@aprylrader8275 I'm so sorry to hear that.
All of the below may not be new to you, but here are some ideas that hopefully help a bit:
- Tell your partner you're feeling stressed out and overwhelmed at the moment and that you struggle with getting things done.
- Doing things in very small steps / trying to do very small tasks
- using the 3-3-3, 5-4-3-2-1 and other relaxing techniques
- Going for walks
This was great information and the examples and explanations were clear and easy to understand - but how do we work through it if we're stuck in survival mode!?
Can you cover, what to do if you're stuck in survival mode? thank you.
Thanks for sharing this❤
Thanks for watching!
I've been stuck in this since December I got triggered and then overworked myself to burnout and have been stuck since and have been spiraling and my emotions have been way up and way down or sometimes my emotions are flat and it's driving me crazy😢. Seeking new therapists and doctors
Holy cow! I’m in survival mode!!!! Thank you for this information!🤗
Why do I always think that people are out to get me or use me and take advantage of me? As if they're only keeping me around in their life for potential personal gain and would immediately leave you or ghost once that perceived potential personal gain is no longer achievable.
Hi, I feel pretty much like this. Being taken advantage of, even by people I consider friends because they seem to be there for me more, if I have something for them….silly little things like organic blueberry muffins. My partner, however, once told me, he ‘thought I was rich’. Yes, I am. I have so much to give.
Or, am I a ppl pleaser, anxious to make everyone feel good, even at my own expense?
I definitely relate to this Kati!
I never really understood the freeze response until I flew a half hour flight on a plane that had... I don't know, _something_ loose and flapping/vibrating on the outside of the emergency exit. I wanted to record it to show people what exactly it sounded like, but me and the two other guys in the exit row just sat there watching, listening, and waiting. I couldn't will myself to take my phone out of my pocket.
Biggest tip i can provide is to listen to your body. Its trying to tell you something, not work against you.
I have enjoyed your videos - thanks.
This video made me cry 😢
Likewise. It hit hard. I feel I have wasted and am still wasting my life because I am in the survivor mode most of the time. 😢
I really wished people would get away from using the word "normal"all the time and trying to find out if they are "normal"or "ok"because they feel certain things...I mean there is not suuc thing as "normal",there is healthy and there is helpful in terms of does this feeling help me live life better,more fully or does it just hold me back and make me miserable.
But I so wish we could get away from using this word "normal",its also sad how little we talk to others about our feelings and tend to check or look to others to see what is or isn't normal",when we just feel what we feel and its all trying to tell us something.
We also need to get away from these labels too like narcissist or sociopath"because they can also make us feel trapped or forver worried that maybe we are one or another or could be stigmatised when in fact ALL these feelings and "symptoms"are indications of possible traumas both large and small or unresolved trauma.Its what we do with them that matters and how to find ways of relating to them with curiosity and less judgement.These labels are so loaded with all sorts of value judgements that it can be hard to get past that or reach out for help or be open.
So much of what keeps us from being mentally healthy is shame and fear of judgement and these ideas of normality"or some of these labels can be so inhibiting of us seeking help instead of just seeing these expereinces as part of being human.
great thanks for providing solutions
I have never been able to relax. I don’t think I even know what relaxation feels like. And yes, it’s exhausting
I've been in survival mode bc the danger that started it has been ongoing. Yesterday I found a way to change that & I feel 1,000 lbs lighter. I couldn't survive another day without peace of mind & I was going to have that by whatever means necessary. My breathing has returned to normal as well as my heart rate & my mind isn't racing anymore.
So, how do you work on getting out of survival mode?
I’ve been suffering from severe anxiety and depression for the last 25 years and it’s not getting better. I’ve done everything from seeing a psychologist to taking antidepressants and even doing hypnotherapy. Nothing works my anxiety just gets worse day by day I don’t know what to do anymore 😢
It might be your adrenals Dr Neville is a specialist in adrenals
What if that woman senses covert prolonged insidious abuse? What if the “forgetting” of the shopping list was a passive aggressive attack? What if her body knows before her head that she’s being emotionally neglected and/or abused? I’d like to know, how often does he “forget” the list. Because, honestly, then her blaming herself for a “minor” infraction of forgetting a list, is another abusive strategy.
Solutions please
This is 100% relatable
In Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown in chapter 4 she covers how useful Awe is as an emotion, and its ability to connect you with yourself and others. The concept of the limbic system is rooted in an outdated model of the brain known as the triune brain model, and Joseph LeDoux’s early research on the amygdala has been widely misunderstood by the clinical psych community as it being the “fear center of the brain” when it is, instead, a salience oriented structure that communicates with the rest of the brain. He talks about this in his Joe Rogan interview.
What’s useful is recontextualizing the high arousal as itself being protective and therefore useful. That is difficult without Awe and connection. Which is why I love pyrotechnics. They are intrinsically high arousal and awe inducing. Or roller coasters. Exposure is useful for grounding.
More of a flight/ freeze response. 😫 dislike fighting. For the first scenario, I would just say I'm exhausted. 2nd scenario - meditation or rest or do brain dump. 3rd scenario - maybe get new job loll 4th - is like anxiety attack... retreat 😅 5th. - I do this sometimes... you're just kind of checking out.
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I recall a day when I finally felt like my body’s circuit board fried. Now I have autonomic dysfunction. I wonder if there’s a correlation.
This is my life right now. I feel so stuck in my living situation right now…I’m in ED PHP stuck living with family, one member who is actually living with us on house arrest…we do not get along…it has been awful…
Let’s extend your example of the woman whose husband forgot the grocery list. An overreaction on the wife’s part? Maybe, but what if the husband routinely exhibits similar behavior and won’t adopt a different habit no matter how many times the situation occurs? Why is the expression of anger deemed pathological regardless of the underlying circumstances?
Sometimes, there is no alternative to living in survival mode. I have taken the point of view that I've reached a plateau; if I change things then the consequences are negative and my overall situation will become worse. I can't make things better, but I can avoid making my life into a dumpster fire.
Great video lady.
I feel like we didn't resolve number two because she said that she didn't have the stress from work and also that she Was doing the mindfulness activities but feeling shitty anyways 😬
I think there's more to the sense of danger and impending doom, but that directed energy and mindcontrol stuff is for The Why Files.
What kind of things can I do to help my nervous system? I'm definitely stuck in Fight or Flight, no question
Whilst I have experienced all 5 scenarios of Survival mode for me its been working hard and not been able to move ahead financially which means stuck in the rental apartment no friends or relationships
I didn't realize there were other modes.
You think monks are stuck in fight or flight mode? 😅
@@sunbeam9222 why would they be trying so hard to relax all the time lol
@@acidjumps😂😂
@@acidjumps they don't 😂 you re projecting
@@sunbeam9222 I know 🥲
I have the feeling of being in danger, but the thing is I live in Poland, so I’ve been scared of the war and unfortunately I think it’s kind of understandable. 😢
I have been in survival mode since the 8th of August 2000 at 18:34. However, it has served me well over the years. True, I have no finds nor a girlfriend. However,, that keeps me from being hurt again.
Thanks for Posting.
You're welcome
How to achieve that is by getting our nervous system to live less in sympathetic mode ( fight or flight) and more in parasympathetic mode ( digest and rest). First it's an effort because it doesn't feel familiar but then it becomes our usual state.
I need help to get out.
Get help from a social worker from your city council. They can arange professional help like therapists, psychiaters, financial help, detox, and much more
Escitalopram 🥰🥰🥰
Thanks
I swing back & forth from 100% apathy to full survival mode... It's exhausting !
Living on wheels (effectively homeless) means I'm pretty consistently in survival mode. It's really hard 😞
Well how do you know if the procrastination is survival mode or executive function?
OK, great, but now what to do about it???
So. I’m convinced this is about me. But now what?
It’s crippling and really effecting my life. I don’t know where to start..
Katie lately I wish I had gone to cinary school. I'm tired if studying ...and I'm much older and it's a hopeless task dealing with toxic neigbhors
It’s making me sick physically. I try not to overthink, be too needy, or be super emotional. Mood swings are watched for, self talk handles needless fear, stressors are dealt with by walking, relaxation, and activity. Food and sleep help. Talking to people too. It still feels like we have to throw up but nothing comes out. As in, GAG ME WITH A SPOON.” Quote unquote. 😂❤brutal. Having people in your life you need to convince. Being counted as last. Looked down on, disparaged in some way. We are probably right. But are we too needy to ask for understanding? Idk. I think balance is key. Talk, but don’t harp. Watch your volume. Watch your body language. Hey extra rest and give yourself a break. 🤢💯🙏
also hey could u pls cover how to recover from survival mode pls its rlly bothering me
This is so relatable… like WOW 😳
My workplace has started to trigger panic attacks and disassociation that i havent felt in over 10 years, not only are they unsympathetic, they frankly dont give a shit, "pull your head out of your arse, do your fricking job and do it well" was the comment from the 2IC to me recently, today was the first time i just wanted to run away from it all
So yes i am stuck in survival mode but how do i get unstuck?
good to know that
3:05 stuff like that are consider survival mode ? i was expecting to hear like always been ready to answer any threat in public transport or stuff like that (survival meaning something have a chance to make you lose your life, like been aggressed in public transport or other stuff like that). I didn't know it could be trigger for other issue. (not posting this in a bad way, i was just surprised by some stuff consider also survival)
(edit: 12:10 kind of can join the 3:05 with the anger becose sometimes it's both, been hypervigileant and ready to burst out all the anger on the threat but i only feel that when i'm outside, at home i have a dog who guard the home so except when he react to something i don't feel any survival mode.)
6:33 i kind of feel him if i don't have my full day free without any responsabilities, if i only have 2-3h of free time during a day, i can't relax becose i know after i have to do something or that i need to go sleep after to can work tomorrow, etc etc. But look more like anxiety than survival mode.
11:00 Feeling like that when your "instinct" don't like someone who kind of look strange and/or act strangely. Sometime that feeling get correct, but less than 50% of the time so can't say it's the instinct i think.
But you didn't tell us how to fix it....
if I have to come here while seeing a therapist do i need a new therapist lol. i came here bc i felt like no improvement is happening
Ok, how do I get out of survival mode?
Great. How do we get out of survival mode?
2:54 and of course in this day an era, making a photo and sending it on the phone was absolutely not an option
Solid.
I'm also stuck in survival mode. I have all of the 5 symptoms. But How to fix it?
Nuts. Is Melinda planning on leaving the country soon? Final PR tour?
any solutions? ways to cope/heal ?