i dated a narcissist for 6 YEARS. were about to get married and he cheated on me. he then go ghosting on me and just dissapear without giving me any closure. i thank God that this happen before we go settle for a lifetime.
I also dated a narcissistic sociopath for 6 years. The first few years were great (or at least I thought so), but my friends and family all seemed to disapprove of the way he treated me, or just didn’t like him. The last two years were a living nightmare. He also cheated on me, and because he was upfront about it (told me the next day), I decided to give him a second chance because he seemed to genuinely regret it and hadn’t tried to hide it from me. I loved him very much, and even though I always thought that I would never get back together with a cheater...I did. Things weren’t the same afterward, and he became very cold and extremely critical of everything I did. He demanded that I pay most of our bills, do all the cooking and cleaning (if I asked him to do it, he’d get angry and just refuse to help), and sex basically became him using me to masturbate. No reciprocation. One day, he called me a “r*tard” and that was the final straw. I moved out and left him with all of the bills I had been paying for so long. It was unbelievably hard for me to leave, because my self-esteem was at an all time low, and I still loved him despite the abuse. He’d been the only real long-term partner I’d ever had, and being alone after 6 years was brutal. But it was the right choice. I’m still going to therapy, years later, because he made me so depressed and feel so worthless that I struggled with day to day life. I wouldn’t say that I’m happy now and have zero regrets, but I am much stronger and wiser, at least. He didn’t deserve my love and dedication.
Dang that’s bad, mine did that a month ago and left without closure too... I guess it could have always been longer, I don’t know why I’m still so attached and missing her when we weren’t even that long yet and my longest was 2yrs ... hmm
I don’t care who you are. Get a prenup & immediately tell those closest to you about their behavior, & even the authorities if you need to so they can get the proper treatment that is required for them. Knowing yourself really helps to keep you from giving them what they want or becoming what they want. Just remember they’re the mess, you aren’t. That’s probably why they’re divorced now. Who would really want to be in any kind of relationship with that type of person. You should always call out the narcissist for their behavior. That should go for anyone doing stupid shit that they know damn well isn’t right. People should have some damn balls & a fucking backbone to show or tell these cowards that you aren’t falling for their bs. Shows them that you’re wise to their bullshit & their not as cunning or smart as they think they are. Really rattles their fragile ego & false sense of grandiosity & believing that they are superior. Like anybody else they must take responsibility for themselves & their actions. Finding self-identity & self-motivation from another is kinda strange, don’t you think? They obviously don’t really know who they really are. It’s not a narcissists fault for turning out that way but anyone has the ability to change if they really want to. Being like that most certainly won’t get a person like that real respect.
Vienticus - I don't think it's necessarily worse. Like everything in life, it's largely dependent on individual circumstances. I can say that my personal experience has proven that my parent who is diagnosed with NPD has been far more painful and lastingly detrimental than the few relationships I've had with narcissists. It's been a brutal, ongoing issue, in which cutting off contact is not an option. That alone makes it so much harder. However, I know people whose lives have been completely ruined by romantic partners with NPD. For example, my other parent. I'd never wish what they've been through on anyone. Each situation is unique, and all of them are truly terrible. I'm sorry you had to go through that, and/or are still going through it. Healing thoughts and lots of empathy to you!
First off, thank you. Secondly, yes, you are correct. Everything is situational. But I do think that the experience of being related to someone who's narcissistic is worse for most people, especially if the person they have to deal with is a parent or two, because of the stigmas that society has on family relationships. Personally, I've gotten to the point where I've just cut off my family.
Vienticus or a whole group of them. Sometimes it's better to not have them in your life anymore. You've gotta look after yourself too. Being connected by blood is overrated if it means putting up with abusive behaviour just for that identity of family. I think a lot of people are too scared to walk away because they rely too much on their family for their sense of self, financially, nostalgia, I've had inheritance waved around so much to try and get me to comply, threats of defamation (or in their words theirs more of us than you, nobody will believe you) and then when I didn't 'i'll just spend it all before I die so you won't get anything' , money doesn't mean enough to me to degrade and abuse myself in the process, what's sad is when you never asked for money or said if a gift was too large, yet they seem to have derived that you could be bought with money.
Stella McFly I think the difference is there is an element of control, yes you can't help who you fall in love with but there is at least the feeling of choice, you choose your partner, friends etc you are not born with them, your usually an adult by the time of a partner so you can get out of the blaming and start to see that you picked that person so either put up or shut up if he/she won't get help and you choose to stay. Love is biological, they'll always be another match waiting out there. You can't change your early years and imprinting etc I think that is the difference, it shapes everything and takes a lot more therapy and soul searching and things to try and view things differently if your not naturally intelligent when it comes to these things. Many people I've come across will put up with abuse from their families yet have a hostile and no empathy or compassion to the outside world when they do the same things, it's like very mild Stockholm syndrome in families, but strong enough to have people ruffling their fathers hair and seeing he was just having a bad day/year/life when he abused them. Praise the lord for science.
1:Bragging 2:Self-Centeredness 3:Gas-Lighting 4:Emotional detachment 5: Hates slow messages replies 6: Drama 7:Controlling 8: Hates you saying No 9: A user
1: Lack of Empathy 2: Avoids tackling issues honestly and directly 3: Bullshit conversations. Superficial 4: Never comes through on a promise, stubborness, very irresponsible 5: Never values your time. Always late or flakey 6: Hyper aggressive flirting. Reckless. You are being targeted, watch out ! I told this woman,"you're one of my closest friends." She said,"Yes, I understand." Chilled me to the core.
right now im thinking about video games, getting laid & tv shows and anime. N.P.D.s focus only on one thing, the 🎮 they're making out of their victims life. they hyperfocus only on that & you can catch them out that way.
Ok you're replying to a person who was severely abused by a psychopathic narcissist for 8 years. Of course I have been traumatized and want to stay the hell away from your kind. Do you blame me? I want your kind to be happy; happy a long distance away from me please.
People in the comments need to stop calling themselves narcissists. Not only because it's stupid to diagnose yourself with a video, but because a real narcissist would never call themselves a narcissist. It hurts their ego too much. So if you think you're a narcissist, chances are you're not.
anime june nope. I am a narcissist and I admit that I am one. I want to change myself and I am working on it. Wish me luck my friend. People say it is incurable and it scares the shit out of me.
Were you clinically diagnosed? Because if so, you've probably come a long way with treatment and support. Otherwise your either just a bit of a jerk and not a full blown narcissist or you need to go to a psychologist for a different reason...
anime june Once in awhile during therapy, narcissists can give up on trying to convince themselves that they aren't narcissists, and they admit that their wrong even though it's extremely hard for them. Just because someone says they have a mental disorder doesn't mean they're lying. Most of the time though, narcissists ALWAYS convince themselves that they're not a narcissist. Not always though.
ɾσɡσɾαtհ δαεδɾίɕ Թɾίηɕε օƒ ʍɑժղҽՏՏ thanks for your reply. I am not on treatment. I just watched many videos and noticed the way I treated my first and only gf, I came to the conclusion that I am a full blown narc. I tortured her badly and I did all that knowingly (I am just realizing it now). I am a damaged soul. I want to change myself by any means.
Bragging: ✅ Making everything (including my anxiety) about him, yet making me feel like I MAKE everything about me: ✅ Gaslight: ✅ Emotional detachment: ✅ Sudden moving on: ✅ More than loving drama, creating drama and “rising” above it: ✅ Reputation > relationship: ✅ “No” issues: ✅ Overstepping: ✅ DO I FEEL USED AFTER 9 YEARS OF THIS: HELL ✅
Sounds just like my ex. Everything was my fault. I could never do anything right. When I was packing to leave, he said so many hurtful things. Also told me that I would never find someone like him again, etc...I left and never looked back. I was broken down by him for years; and it took years to undo the damage done to my self-esteem and emotional well being. Leaving him was the hardest thing that I had ever done in my life; however, I made the right choice. I met my current partner/best friend 18 months later, whose love is unconditional & immense. I don't miss the narc ex...I think of the wasted time spent with him as a learning experience. I had to go through hell to get to heaven. Best revenge is moving on with one's life and being happy.
It also took years for me to recover. That's how damaging these vile things are. Once you're out, you'll realize everyday with the narc was torture. And how they took advantage of your emotions and well-being. All to put you in distress, so they can feed from you. The monsters
I can relate you on this i just recently had a break up with my ex and it's really traumatic to stay with that relationship. He always blame you with everything, even if it's just a small issue, manipulative and he told all the hurtful words that affects my whole being and it's really hard for me to move on 🥺🥺🥺. I wish I cut off the relationship early so it won't cause me more emotional damage.
Apparantly narcissists might also ask you a lot of questions about yourself, and not give up much about themselves because that's how they find your vulnerabilities. Point being that a person doesn't always have to be really self centred in conversations to be a narcissist, just like they might be really nice and affectionate, but it's really just to get what they want from you.
That has been my experience. He was always asking questions, like he was fact finding. I later realised he just wanted to find out as much as he could to use it against me. He spoke very little about himself apart from saying how great he was at this that and the other. Super shallow
I didn't notice before that my ex was a narcissist, I always see the good things in him, maybe because I was madly in love with him. But things get really worse between us because he always makes me feel undesirable. Dating a narcissist was really toxic because having him in my life was the saddest part of my life but I didn't have regrets because I've learned so many things.
sometimes narcissists are really damn good at making themselves look like the opposite of a narcissist. remember, they're HIGHLY manipulative, some of these "signs" won't be shown when you're dating one. they'll make sure those signs aren't there.
My advice is to NOT use these videos as a means of diagnosis. If you or someone you care about has these signs, seek professional help from a licensed psychologist and/or psychiatrist.
tho if your partner does shit like this you should dump their ass anyway. I wish I had, it only got worse. he's not a narcissist to my knowledge, but the "no means no" part of the video for example really describes him. he wouldn't stop his sexual advances on me even when I said no, when I said I don't want to eat something he'd try to coerce me to eat it, and when I said I don't want to go to his brother's party well oh shit guess what he'd made me go :)))) it doesn't matter if your partner isn't a narcissist, if they do these things on a regular basis you gotta dump their ass because you deserve better.
Skye ID ..sorry, but narcs won't go for help.. they think only you need help. If a counselor told them they were a narc they'd say that counselor is a quack!!
I was involved with one on and off for nearly four years ago. I met him four years ago today. They have this pattern of being able to pull you back in and then ghosting you once you served a purpose and then bringing you back. I was told the last time we spoke that “I’ve never loved you, I liked the idea of being with someone.” Then ran into him two days later and he had the audacity to wave to me as I was with my friend after he dropped a huge bomb. It wasn’t until I started reading the description on how a narcissist acts in a romantic relationship that I realized I was in that deep. It sucks when you love one and can’t see the writing on the wall for who they actually are.
Well what do you know, my sister is married to a narcissist. The guy is the most self centered person I've had the displeasure of knowing. He did everything, he knows everything, he's the best at everything, he can't keep quiet about himself EVER. He can't keep a job more than a year, he's broke as shit, had his car repossesed by the bank and somehow made my sister believe he's a victim in all of that.
We should get rid of all narcissists....I mean I wish I could kill them...they make me Soo mad as fuck ...but I'm being nice so I would prefer them to send in mental hospital...if we get rid of all narcissists then our nation would be more prosperous than it is now
You have a nice voice Ashley. I think I married a Narcissist. This video, brought me back my painful and mind numbing times when I was married to someone I believe is a Narcissist. She had no empathy. Never cared about how I felt. Most of the arguments we had ,centered around her problems. I almost forgot the little things I loved to do, coz she didn't like me doing them. She wanted constant attention. She got way with everything. Things went crazy. I can't share a lot of things here. It was mentally exhausting. We're separated now. And I feel a lot better. My suggestion is: If you feel like you are emotionally exhausted when you are with someone, you gotta get out of that relationship.
I went on a date with a guy I had amazing (sexual) chemistry with last year. But he was 100% all these, a textbook narcissist. I had a really bad gut feeling about him and the feeling kept getting stronger. So glad I quickly got out of things getting serious!
They're often very good at knowing what you want and giving you what you want until they're ready to bleed you dry of joy and life. Best sex was with a narcissist. They observe you. Give you what you want, to reel you in. And then go about destroying you. It's rather too bad because if they used these powers for good, they probably could regulate their self esteem, but they have to keep you down because they feel threatened...
Same story :( I found the strenght to finally leave him after going through hell for months...The dangerous part is that they're very magnetic people...
Yep same here but because of previous experience with narcissistic relationships, I was able fast to recognise the red flags and run away. It’s so sad that they can be really attractive sometimes but often horrible persons.
The unspoken ugly Psych2Go can't say, but we can, is that narcissistic parents operate the EXACT SAME WAY. Trust me on that! If you find that this describes your relationship with your parents/caregivers, get help asap. PTSD is no joke, and nobody can afford to take it lightly.
DR Evil narcissists love people who pour forth a steady amount of empathic traits, then when that is not enough they break them down over time for more narcissistic supply.
When I was dating my now husband he proudly told me that he was a diagnosed narcissist. At the time I really had no idea what that meant. After 13 years of hell...I now fully understand.
Unfortunately I didn't just date the narcissists I married him. 16 years later after being discarded for a younger woman I am just now learning that I was married to a total narcissist. Too bad I could never convince him of that. He himself just got discarded by the lady he left me for. and when he came back to try to Hoover me in I told him exactly what he is and why it will never happen again. Because no matter how much I loved him he was emotionally unavailable and therefore unable to reciprocate. Never again will I allow him to use me as a pedestal to stand on when all the while he is sucking every bit of hope and positive energy out of me that I had to give. #overitandmovinon #loveyourselffirst
u should never call out a narcissist. But I guess since it was your husband for 16 years that can be an exception. Fuck him but for other people reading this comment don’t follow her footsteps. Don’t call out narcissist,don’t bother wasting your time,and it Can backfire on you,
The last one describes my mom so well. She will interrupt whatever I'm talking about to whomever and start talking about an unrelated topic that is about her and keep talking with no one responding for sometimes 30 minutes
I am now convinced my ex bf is a narcissist! When we first started dating he came off as charming, all about getting money, his music career, and me... Then after 2 years i find out he has been with someone else for 3! Years! So I was tbe side chick. As hard and embarrasing as it is to say. So I was very very heart broken but today i just told myself "Maybe he was emotionally abused" You know? Hurt people, hurt people so that's why what I told myself and now i feel better. I'm not as heart broken as I was 3 days ago! But its still messed up if he was emotionally abused... Ill pray for him. This is a sad and fucked up world!
The messaging one can also be tied to anxiety, Like I have soooo much anxiety if i dont get a reply soooo you could also be dating someone who has anxiety ahahahahaha
Adela Setara yes they'll give their victim anxiety, its a sea-saw. with no boundaries it become this way, the more successful they are in abusing & exploiting their victim the less desirable they'll be. an N.P.D. will hate the people above them viciously and scorn and detest those below them, as they win against a victim they go up while they go down, if they lose the opposite happens. treat an N.P.D. like crap & they'll stick to you like glue, treat them nicely and you'll find yourself with the trash. all N.P.D.s switch between overt and covert states depending solely on their relative social status/amount of N.S. they are currently getting verses how much their ego has been accustomed to. like a drug addict from overt-high to covert-jonesing. to a N.P.D. only other N.P.D.s exist, they project perpetually, its almost supernatural. 😎
CarmenMichelle Or maybe they wanna point out a mistake. Oops, I'm also a narcissist now because I tried to prove you're wrong, or at the least assuming out of minimal evidence.
a part of me is narc but its mostly when i feel insecure. When im feeling good im the total opposite. Im working on providing value instead of needing it from others.
"if you are dating a narcissist you gonna get feel a little used sometimes"?! Are you joking me?! Used feeling is the first red flag in this kind of relationship and you gonna feel it all the way until you will manage to get out of it. In the end that's what it is- you are nothing but a toy in the hands of a sick person.
Much of the characteristics mentioned here aren't the full picture of the narcissist. The number one tell of the narcissist, is how they respond to being told no.
Ok, but like if it's a personality disorder, then they can't really control it... so maybe the whole "narcissistic jerk" thing shouldn't have been brought up at all? Like I'm not saying stay with them and let their actions bring you down, but maybe like use this to understand why they act like that, and have empathy for them from afar? Or even try to tell them "hey, you might have x, i would go see a therapist about it cause it can harm future/is harming our current relationship(s).
Katia De Haardt the Dark Mage they are not mentally handicapped its not outside their control , you are describing narcissist as if they are a cancer patient , they still they are in some sense victims for being such immature toddlers , but they should be removed from your life because they will drain you , and their bad traits will rub off onto you.
Even if it's not technically a mental illness, it's still not something you can wake up with out. One has to go through therapy if they want to change it. And if they are draining you, then yeah, you have to get away, but leave that as a last resort, try to help them see that the disorder isn't helping them (as trying to get them to empathize probably won't work) and convince them to get the therapy. And you can have a disorder without being classified as being handicapped. www.psycom.net/personality-disorders/narcissistic/ (I would suggest reading the "What Causes Narcissistic Personality Disorder and How is it Diagnosed?" as well as "What are the Treatment Options?"sections to get my point)
The main sign of a narcissist is that they have low empathy and the all fear of showing their real face. They have a huge past of dumping and they never like talking that past.
Dating a narcissist is the worst thing. They drain you of all you have, and warp your perception of what type of person you are. They can manipulate you so easily... its the worst feeling. They always win, no matter what. They could clearly come last in a race, and they'd say that they got first for effort and persistence. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, please end it
I hate to be the person who immediately goes, "ohp. that's me. I have that disorder." However, I was diagnosed with this disorder and me and my therapist have talked about what it actually means. After reading a few books after sessions, the main key of narcissism, is that the narcissist dislikes themselves. This is why they always look for others to built them up; simply, they can't do it themselves. Yes, they can always remember the compliments that others gave them and boast the ego, but they never like theirselves to begin with. Then again, narcissists are rude and can be harmful. But it's important to understand that narcissists are only like this because they haven't exactly learned how to love theirselves, so they expect others to. :/ just a little note from your neighborhood narcissist.
I often come to this channel to check my own personality and behaviour and end up gaining much more psychological knowledge. Thank you very much Psyc2go.
my father is a narcissist! i really really wish my mother would leave him as this affects her greatly, to the point where she’s scared. I get my anxiety from my mother but it’s dangerous that she’s soon to be alone with him as im moving to college. i’m studying to become a psychiatrist and become a trauma doctor to help kids like me who suffer from ptsd and anxiety. i want to make a difference and your videos inspire me (: so thank you, thank you for giving me hope and information that is more than interesting. you all are amazing
Most Narcissist will not admit that they are this personality tell a person No and you will see what they are narcissists ignore what you want and lack basic. Control and empathy for others... ..
*Sees self-centered and instant messages* oh pfft that's not relatable probably. *After seeing it* wtf is this?! NO! nO! No! SHEIT,I CAN'T BE A NARRSICIST!
The Narc lives to get "Narc Supply" which is basically them receiving a sense of validation, approval, and acceptance even when they cheat, for example.
I've been dating a punk biker chick the past 4 months and Christ this video speaks volumes for why I'm so unhappy with such a bombshell of a lady. Came looking for videos after she told me she doesn't want to hear anything at all about my friends which was the last straw, time to jump off this ship. Damnit.
Wow! My crazy exgf was all of these! Thank God she broke up with me 😂 it was a complete hell at times but I'm just happy i didn't get to propose, good riddance!
My dad is a narcissist. I hate him. I’m sorry. He told us that he wishes we (his daughters) will jump off a cliff. He doesn’t care about us. He is trying to get money off my mom. One day he is just having a good conversation then the next he is just grumpy and abusive. Whenever he is wrong he gets so mad about it. He loves attention.
Dating a narcisist is like the worst thing ever. Super emotionally abusive. I'm sure dating one isn't like that for everybody, but in my experience, it's actual hell. I live with one too, so it's just great haha :')
kinda funny how no one ever talks about how the narcissists feel. depression is a mental illness that people take seriously, so why not do the same to NPD? they have feelings too you know.
lol. I was thinking of Zen while watching this XD he's not a narcissist! He just accepts himself for who he is, and wants the whole world to know that :3
SaltySaeran *-* if you date "zen" in real life you'll feel how fucked up dating a narcissistic person. I played mystic messenger too and have a narcissistic friend that like zen. People may like his look until they know their fuck up inner personality. mm is just a game but I still hate it when people praise zen. He have face and mouth to praise himself but zero intolerance and faith. Sorry if i sounds mean i just hate narcissistic people.
Phew. This actually makes it easier to ghost him and not feel so guilty or overthink. He's obviously a narcissist. I started looking for what the hell was wrong with him as SOON as he started being inconsistent.
The effects of this video are extraordinarily insidious. To discuss very serious personality disorders, of which can only be diagnosed by a qualified professional (qualifications the author of this video may, or may not have) in such a blasé manner to a sizeable audience, of what is most likely impressionable teenagers with limited understanding of legitimate psychological practice, and the immense responsibilities that come with said practice, is extremely irresponsible. Statements such as "if… it's a sign you've found yourself dating a narcissist", or "if your date made fun of you for screwing up a mini golf hole… narcissist", merely apply textbook definitions of diagnostic criteria to the hypothetical situations of anonymous viewers, to which the author of this video has never had any significant interaction, and cheapen psychology as a science. Videos such as these should be laden with disclaimers concerning the inapplicability of these 'signs' by someone who lacks the necessary qualifications so as to not have very serious terms such as NPD thrown around, lessening their legitimacy with each vocalisation, or instil those with a weak understanding of narcissism with a gross and irrational mistrust of everyone they encounter. Content like this is why psychology is still regarded by some as a pseudo-science.
Hobo Jeff- You are right. This video doesn't express the severity of what true Narcissism is. In that these narcs can not only completely ruin ones life in many areas, but also they can severely damage a person's psychological well being. I believe Narcissists are equal and can be worse than Psychopaths. Psychopaths will straight up murder people, and Narcissists will murder your soul, spirit, identity, energy, life force, reputation, finances, relationships, and anything else they can destroy in your life, which living through this is worse than physical murder. Narcissism is more serious than what most people perceive it to be.
Definitively my ex, she is so self absorbed that doesnt realize the damage she did to me and our common friends, along with lot of things that Im not going to write right now. This video is pretty clear and spot on every single point.
Just got out of a relationship with one. Never knew anybody before that could make every conversation about herself. I knew she was odd from the get go. But it finally dawned on me she's a classic narcissist. Jealous, controlling, vain, etc. Glad to be out of it!
TheReal Jan Wholeheartedly agreed. All it does is reaffirm someone's built in confirmation biases. People take anything on social media way too seriously for their own betterment.
I lived with a Narcissist for 6 months, the last 3 were the worst... she didn't worried about my day, she only worried about why I wasn't at my supposed time to arrival... it's something like why are you late? hey baby, hello I am ok thank you for asking.... she was only worried about her control, not me.
My ex used to get angry if I did not answer my phone immediately and rushed me into a relationship. He quickly said he love me in 2 weeks. He did talk about his tragic night. He did take control of the date night and the fb status and the road trip we took
Y'all stop demonizing people. The way people end up in life is due to a combination of their experiences and their natural personality. If you find someone is a "narcissist", ok cool. Move on and leave them for someone else.
so should narcissists just be lonely and unloved their whole lives then? because to me it's someone who's been torn down so much at a young age they have no self worth left and need other people to tell them what they're worth. they wanna be someone and something but can't see it themselves so need other people to constantly help. if you're dating a narcissist don't leave. help. because at the end of the day loneliness will only make them worse and they're people to and they'll just find someone else eventually and their new partner will end up feeling the exact same way you have felt. but get them help and they might learn how to not hurt other people and how to value themselves. everyone needs to feel special sometimes. narcissists just lack the ability to do that without someone telling them they are. we are all human
He literally got mad because I sent him a photo of when I was little and I said I was a “ little sh*t” he took offence and kept boasting about how naughty he was. I pointed it out that he didn’t need to do that and he didn’t talk to me for 3 days. That’s just HALF of it
i dated a narcissist for 6 YEARS. were about to get married and he cheated on me. he then go ghosting on me and just dissapear without giving me any closure. i thank God that this happen before we go settle for a lifetime.
aprissy 22 im sorry.. going through this right now he ghosted me after 6 yrs and i feel so lost and broken.. 💔
Congrats
I also dated a narcissistic sociopath for 6 years. The first few years were great (or at least I thought so), but my friends and family all seemed to disapprove of the way he treated me, or just didn’t like him.
The last two years were a living nightmare. He also cheated on me, and because he was upfront about it (told me the next day), I decided to give him a second chance because he seemed to genuinely regret it and hadn’t tried to hide it from me. I loved him very much, and even though I always thought that I would never get back together with a cheater...I did. Things weren’t the same afterward, and he became very cold and extremely critical of everything I did. He demanded that I pay most of our bills, do all the cooking and cleaning (if I asked him to do it, he’d get angry and just refuse to help), and sex basically became him using me to masturbate. No reciprocation. One day, he called me a “r*tard” and that was the final straw. I moved out and left him with all of the bills I had been paying for so long.
It was unbelievably hard for me to leave, because my self-esteem was at an all time low, and I still loved him despite the abuse. He’d been the only real long-term partner I’d ever had, and being alone after 6 years was brutal. But it was the right choice. I’m still going to therapy, years later, because he made me so depressed and feel so worthless that I struggled with day to day life. I wouldn’t say that I’m happy now and have zero regrets, but I am much stronger and wiser, at least. He didn’t deserve my love and dedication.
6 years! God Bless you❤️
Dang that’s bad, mine did that a month ago and left without closure too... I guess it could have always been longer, I don’t know why I’m still so attached and missing her when we weren’t even that long yet and my longest was 2yrs ... hmm
they are pretty good at lying and keeping their true self hidden until the ring is on your finger. then the narcissism comes out.
Only took him 3 months
Or until they just get tired of pretending
She proposes to me a month in on my birthday...
I don’t care who you are. Get a prenup & immediately tell those closest to you about their behavior, & even the authorities if you need to so they can get the proper treatment that is required for them. Knowing yourself really helps to keep you from giving them what they want or becoming what they want. Just remember they’re the mess, you aren’t. That’s probably why they’re divorced now. Who would really want to be in any kind of relationship with that type of person. You should always call out the narcissist for their behavior. That should go for anyone doing stupid shit that they know damn well isn’t right. People should have some damn balls & a fucking backbone to show or tell these cowards that you aren’t falling for their bs. Shows them that you’re wise to their bullshit & their not as cunning or smart as they think they are. Really rattles their fragile ego & false sense of grandiosity & believing that they are superior. Like anybody else they must take responsibility for themselves & their actions. Finding self-identity & self-motivation from another is kinda strange, don’t you think? They obviously don’t really know who they really are. It’s not a narcissists fault for turning out that way but anyone has the ability to change if they really want to. Being like that most certainly won’t get a person like that real respect.
Dude, the mask came off the day we got married! Not 2 months in, not 1 month in, the day. I've been living a nightmare ever since. #planning my exit
it's worse when you're related to one
Vienticus - I don't think it's necessarily worse. Like everything in life, it's largely dependent on individual circumstances. I can say that my personal experience has proven that my parent who is diagnosed with NPD has been far more painful and lastingly detrimental than the few relationships I've had with narcissists. It's been a brutal, ongoing issue, in which cutting off contact is not an option. That alone makes it so much harder.
However, I know people whose lives have been completely ruined by romantic partners with NPD. For example, my other parent. I'd never wish what they've been through on anyone. Each situation is unique, and all of them are truly terrible.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, and/or are still going through it. Healing thoughts and lots of empathy to you!
First off, thank you. Secondly, yes, you are correct. Everything is situational. But I do think that the experience of being related to someone who's narcissistic is worse for most people, especially if the person they have to deal with is a parent or two, because of the stigmas that society has on family relationships. Personally, I've gotten to the point where I've just cut off my family.
Vienticus or a whole group of them. Sometimes it's better to not have them in your life anymore. You've gotta look after yourself too. Being connected by blood is overrated if it means putting up with abusive behaviour just for that identity of family. I think a lot of people are too scared to walk away because they rely too much on their family for their sense of self, financially, nostalgia, I've had inheritance waved around so much to try and get me to comply, threats of defamation (or in their words theirs more of us than you, nobody will believe you) and then when I didn't 'i'll just spend it all before I die so you won't get anything' , money doesn't mean enough to me to degrade and abuse myself in the process, what's sad is when you never asked for money or said if a gift was too large, yet they seem to have derived that you could be bought with money.
Stella McFly I think the difference is there is an element of control, yes you can't help who you fall in love with but there is at least the feeling of choice, you choose your partner, friends etc you are not born with them, your usually an adult by the time of a partner so you can get out of the blaming and start to see that you picked that person so either put up or shut up if he/she won't get help and you choose to stay. Love is biological, they'll always be another match waiting out there. You can't change your early years and imprinting etc I think that is the difference, it shapes everything and takes a lot more therapy and soul searching and things to try and view things differently if your not naturally intelligent when it comes to these things. Many people I've come across will put up with abuse from their families yet have a hostile and no empathy or compassion to the outside world when they do the same things, it's like very mild Stockholm syndrome in families, but strong enough to have people ruffling their fathers hair and seeing he was just having a bad day/year/life when he abused them. Praise the lord for science.
Having a narcissistic parent = lifetime psychotherapy
1:Bragging
2:Self-Centeredness
3:Gas-Lighting
4:Emotional detachment
5: Hates slow messages replies
6: Drama
7:Controlling
8: Hates you saying No
9: A user
Fucks its meeeeee no no nonoooooooooooooooo! :(
1: Lack of Empathy
2: Avoids tackling issues honestly and directly
3: Bullshit conversations. Superficial
4: Never comes through on a promise, stubborness, very irresponsible
5: Never values your time. Always late or flakey
6: Hyper aggressive flirting. Reckless. You are being targeted, watch out !
I told this woman,"you're one of my closest friends." She said,"Yes, I understand." Chilled me to the core.
@@Ston247 if that "chilled you to the core" then your getting paranoid m8 :P
This is really poorly explained? It is true they use you. It goes far deeper than someone not texting you back lol
@zumzy u do they cost anything in return??
Remember to trust your gut feelings - "intuition"- you deserve respect- Detach, Forgive and move on...
be careful they can also remember everything about you and seem interested so they can better manipulate you later
right now im thinking about video games, getting laid & tv shows and anime. N.P.D.s focus only on one thing, the 🎮 they're making out of their victims life. they hyperfocus only on that & you can catch them out that way.
Expose the Narcissist Yes. Every weakness is noted and mentally filed away for later use as ammunition.
Ok you're replying to a person who was severely abused by a psychopathic narcissist for 8 years. Of course I have been traumatized and want to stay the hell away from your kind. Do you blame me? I want your kind to be happy; happy a long distance away from me please.
And i hope you are better now. Best of luck to you.
ok then you have empathy? because how can you truly hope that without empathy?
People in the comments need to stop calling themselves narcissists. Not only because it's stupid to diagnose yourself with a video, but because a real narcissist would never call themselves a narcissist. It hurts their ego too much. So if you think you're a narcissist, chances are you're not.
anime june Thank you!
anime june nope. I am a narcissist and I admit that I am one. I want to change myself and I am working on it. Wish me luck my friend. People say it is incurable and it scares the shit out of me.
Were you clinically diagnosed? Because if so, you've probably come a long way with treatment and support. Otherwise your either just a bit of a jerk and not a full blown narcissist or you need to go to a psychologist for a different reason...
anime june Once in awhile during therapy, narcissists can give up on trying to convince themselves that they aren't narcissists, and they admit that their wrong even though it's extremely hard for them. Just because someone says they have a mental disorder doesn't mean they're lying.
Most of the time though, narcissists ALWAYS convince themselves that they're not a narcissist. Not always though.
ɾσɡσɾαtհ δαεδɾίɕ Թɾίηɕε օƒ ʍɑժղҽՏՏ thanks for your reply. I am not on treatment. I just watched many videos and noticed the way I treated my first and only gf, I came to the conclusion that I am a full blown narc. I tortured her badly and I did all that knowingly (I am just realizing it now). I am a damaged soul. I want to change myself by any means.
Bragging: ✅
Making everything (including my anxiety) about him, yet making me feel like I MAKE everything about me: ✅
Gaslight: ✅
Emotional detachment: ✅
Sudden moving on: ✅
More than loving drama, creating drama and “rising” above it: ✅
Reputation > relationship: ✅
“No” issues: ✅
Overstepping: ✅
DO I FEEL USED AFTER 9 YEARS OF THIS: HELL ✅
7 years for me.
3 years for me
1.5 years of relationship & 1 year of married life, made hell by ex Covert evil narcissist.
Sounds just like my ex. Everything was my fault. I could never do anything right. When I was packing to leave, he said so many hurtful things. Also told me that I would never find someone like him again, etc...I left and never looked back. I was broken down by him for years; and it took years to undo the damage done to my self-esteem and emotional well being. Leaving him was the hardest thing that I had ever done in my life; however, I made the right choice. I met my current partner/best friend 18 months later, whose love is unconditional & immense. I don't miss the narc ex...I think of the wasted time spent with him as a learning experience. I had to go through hell to get to heaven. Best revenge is moving on with one's life and being happy.
It also took years for me to recover. That's how damaging these vile things are. Once you're out, you'll realize everyday with the narc was torture. And how they took advantage of your emotions and well-being. All to put you in distress, so they can feed from you. The monsters
I can relate you on this i just recently had a break up with my ex and it's really traumatic to stay with that relationship. He always blame you with everything, even if it's just a small issue, manipulative and he told all the hurtful words that affects my whole being and it's really hard for me to move on 🥺🥺🥺. I wish I cut off the relationship early so it won't cause me more emotional damage.
Apparantly narcissists might also ask you a lot of questions about yourself, and not give up much about themselves because that's how they find your vulnerabilities. Point being that a person doesn't always have to be really self centred in conversations to be a narcissist, just like they might be really nice and affectionate, but it's really just to get what they want from you.
David Haynes
David Haynes Certainly my experience a couple of times, good point.
Always wondered why a lot of narcs I interacted with had no depths
That has been my experience. He was always asking questions, like he was fact finding. I later realised he just wanted to find out as much as he could to use it against me. He spoke very little about himself apart from saying how great he was at this that and the other. Super shallow
Ed Cho i wonder WHY you hang out with LOTS of NARCISSIST
one thing that definetely klicked with me was when I realised: He brings out the worst in me. That isn't love people
I didn't notice before that my ex was a narcissist, I always see the good things in him, maybe because I was madly in love with him. But things get really worse between us because he always makes me feel undesirable. Dating a narcissist was really toxic because having him in my life was the saddest part of my life but I didn't have regrets because I've learned so many things.
sometimes narcissists are really damn good at making themselves look like the opposite of a narcissist. remember, they're HIGHLY manipulative, some of these "signs" won't be shown when you're dating one. they'll make sure those signs aren't there.
My advice is to NOT use these videos as a means of diagnosis. If you or someone you care about has these signs, seek professional help from a licensed psychologist and/or psychiatrist.
Skye ID Totally agree. People need to be told that.
Skye ID nah
Skye ID very good contribution.
tho if your partner does shit like this you should dump their ass anyway. I wish I had, it only got worse. he's not a narcissist to my knowledge, but the "no means no" part of the video for example really describes him. he wouldn't stop his sexual advances on me even when I said no, when I said I don't want to eat something he'd try to coerce me to eat it, and when I said I don't want to go to his brother's party well oh shit guess what he'd made me go :)))) it doesn't matter if your partner isn't a narcissist, if they do these things on a regular basis you gotta dump their ass because you deserve better.
Skye ID ..sorry, but narcs won't go for help.. they think only you need help. If a counselor told them they were a narc they'd say that counselor is a quack!!
Covert narcissist are the worse.
Laura Thompson yes
I was involved with one on and off for nearly four years ago. I met him four years ago today. They have this pattern of being able to pull you back in and then ghosting you once you served a purpose and then bringing you back. I was told the last time we spoke that “I’ve never loved you, I liked the idea of being with someone.” Then ran into him two days later and he had the audacity to wave to me as I was with my friend after he dropped a huge bomb. It wasn’t until I started reading the description on how a narcissist acts in a romantic relationship that I realized I was in that deep. It sucks when you love one and can’t see the writing on the wall for who they actually are.
OK if your date picks on you for being bad at mini golf you can relax cause thats a stupid example of narcissism
My brother would pick on any chance he gets. I don’t talk to him anymore.
Daniel le Kingofthingswhichshouldnotmattertoyou
Now that sounds more like narcissism
*looks at self
SHIT THEY'RE ONTO ME
Jet Kwan 2 HAHAHAHA!! Clever ;)!
I love it
Well what do you know, my sister is married to a narcissist. The guy is the most self centered person I've had the displeasure of knowing. He did everything, he knows everything, he's the best at everything, he can't keep quiet about himself EVER. He can't keep a job more than a year, he's broke as shit, had his car repossesed by the bank and somehow made my sister believe he's a victim in all of that.
my exhusband was like that. finally got away
Narcissists are disease in the society
We should get rid of all narcissists....I mean I wish I could kill them...they make me Soo mad as fuck ...but I'm being nice so I would prefer them to send in mental hospital...if we get rid of all narcissists then our nation would be more prosperous than it is now
Narcisim means their self interested.....not unsuccessful....maybe ur sister is in a relation with a loser.....not a narcissist
Omg yes they play victim all the time !!!!
You have a nice voice Ashley. I think I married a Narcissist. This video, brought me back my painful and mind numbing times when I was married to someone I believe is a Narcissist. She had no empathy. Never cared about how I felt. Most of the arguments we had ,centered around her problems. I almost forgot the little things I loved to do, coz she didn't like me doing them. She wanted constant attention. She got way with everything. Things went crazy. I can't share a lot of things here. It was mentally exhausting. We're separated now. And I feel a lot better. My suggestion is: If you feel like you are emotionally exhausted when you are with someone, you gotta get out of that relationship.
Omg i have been hanging out with a narcissist for 2 years and i was so depressed! This explains so mich
I went on a date with a guy I had amazing (sexual) chemistry with last year. But he was 100% all these, a textbook narcissist. I had a really bad gut feeling about him and the feeling kept getting stronger. So glad I quickly got out of things getting serious!
They're often very good at knowing what you want and giving you what you want until they're ready to bleed you dry of joy and life. Best sex was with a narcissist. They observe you. Give you what you want, to reel you in. And then go about destroying you. It's rather too bad because if they used these powers for good, they probably could regulate their self esteem, but they have to keep you down because they feel threatened...
Truth
Same story :( I found the strenght to finally leave him after going through hell for months...The dangerous part is that they're very magnetic people...
Yep same here but because of previous experience with narcissistic relationships, I was able fast to recognise the red flags and run away. It’s so sad that they can be really attractive sometimes but often horrible persons.
The unspoken ugly Psych2Go can't say, but we can, is that narcissistic parents operate the EXACT SAME WAY. Trust me on that!
If you find that this describes your relationship with your parents/caregivers, get help asap. PTSD is no joke, and nobody can afford to take it lightly.
welp
he's a narcissist
Silvy Animator same I wonder if it can be undone. I become more like this as I get older lol
sis leave him please
Leave him bby
girl, i feel u
You're gonna stay with him
Holy shit my emotionally abusive ex had every one of these traits
I'm a narcissist, dating a narcissist, who doesn't know that either of us are narcasists, I think I broke the world
no,you broke spelling😐
DR Evil narcissists love people who pour forth a steady amount of empathic traits, then when that is not enough they break them down over time for more narcissistic supply.
Hahahah
Taserface seems unlikely, narcissists tend to prey on empathetic people.
Taserface I think that happens a lot.
ONISION
He defiantly has a personality disorder.
Michael B What did he do?
MusicFeeds TheSoul: read this onisiondrama.tumblr.com/post/62460123571
Holy shit that makes the most sense
I knew someone would bring him up.
When I was dating my now husband he proudly told me that he was a diagnosed narcissist. At the time I really had no idea what that meant. After 13 years of hell...I now fully understand.
Oh dear. So sorry.
Unfortunately I didn't just date the narcissists I married him. 16 years later after being discarded for a younger woman I am just now learning that I was married to a total narcissist. Too bad I could never convince him of that. He himself just got discarded by the lady he left me for. and when he came back to try to Hoover me in I told him exactly what he is and why it will never happen again. Because no matter how much I loved him he was emotionally unavailable and therefore unable to reciprocate. Never again will I allow him to use me as a pedestal to stand on when all the while he is sucking every bit of hope and positive energy out of me that I had to give. #overitandmovinon
#loveyourselffirst
You go girl
Amen sister!
u should never call out a narcissist. But I guess since it was your husband for 16 years that can be an exception. Fuck him but for other people reading this comment don’t follow her footsteps. Don’t call out narcissist,don’t bother wasting your time,and it Can backfire on you,
Gray Rock and No Contact will save your mind and your life.
That moment when you don't have a partner and you're forever alone...
Sophie Sharma Eh. Sometimes it's better that way.
Sophie Sharma Better alone than with a narcissist.
better alone to better know yourself since we're all alone,'would be cool to know how to have fun y ourselves,don'tyoufeelsooo?
This. I dated a narcissist for 4 months. My self esteem was completely shot to pieces.
HA, better than being with a narcissist
The last one describes my mom so well. She will interrupt whatever I'm talking about to whomever and start talking about an unrelated topic that is about her and keep talking with no one responding for sometimes 30 minutes
Lol my dad is a narcissist
Bye dad
I have a narcissistic parent....I wanna die .....:-(
Me too
I am now convinced my ex bf is a narcissist! When we first started dating he came off as charming, all about getting money, his music career, and me... Then after 2 years i find out he has been with someone else for 3! Years! So I was tbe side chick. As hard and embarrasing as it is to say. So I was very very heart broken but today i just told myself "Maybe he was emotionally abused" You know? Hurt people, hurt people so that's why what I told myself and now i feel better. I'm not as heart broken as I was 3 days ago! But its still messed up if he was emotionally abused... Ill pray for him. This is a sad and fucked up world!
The messaging one can also be tied to anxiety, Like I have soooo much anxiety if i dont get a reply soooo you could also be dating someone who has anxiety ahahahahaha
its both, both instant messaging & couldn't give a buiscuit messaging depending on whether or not they need you. its predictable.
Adela Setara yes they'll give their victim anxiety, its a sea-saw. with no boundaries it become this way, the more successful they are in abusing & exploiting their victim the less desirable they'll be. an N.P.D. will hate the people above them viciously and scorn and detest those below them, as they win against a victim they go up while they go down, if they lose the opposite happens. treat an N.P.D. like crap & they'll stick to you like glue, treat them nicely and you'll find yourself with the trash. all N.P.D.s switch between overt and covert states depending solely on their relative social status/amount of N.S. they are currently getting verses how much their ego has been accustomed to. like a drug addict from overt-high to covert-jonesing. to a N.P.D. only other N.P.D.s exist, they project perpetually, its almost supernatural. 😎
Just stop
Just stop
?addiction
2:22 They *do* remember your insecurities and fears & forget alot of the other stuff.
trouble is everyone is guilty of at least one or more of these things...
Right?? How do you know whether you're being a genuine friend or not?
Imagine if a child is diagnosed with narcissistic disorder. The struggle of their parents 😢
I left my narcissistic husband in May 2018. While watching this I realized, he did every effing thing on this list on me...
Well done
Because no one else seems to have mentioned it yet, I'd like to point out a small mistake at 5:50: it should be spelled "boundaries", with an A.
Of course you would point that out.... Narcissist;)
CarmenMichelle Or maybe they wanna point out a mistake.
Oops, I'm also a narcissist now because I tried to prove you're wrong, or at the least assuming out of minimal evidence.
C.G. shut up lol
Bilious Slick shut up
Virgo
Thanks God my relationship with a narcissistic dork has ended
Now I don't need anybody in my life EVER
a part of me is narc but its mostly when i feel insecure. When im feeling good im the total opposite. Im working on providing value instead of needing it from others.
"if you are dating a narcissist you gonna get feel a little used sometimes"?! Are you joking me?! Used feeling is the first red flag in this kind of relationship and you gonna feel it all the way until you will manage to get out of it. In the end that's what it is- you are nothing but a toy in the hands of a sick person.
Sounds like my capricorn ex
My capricorn mother in law!
oh... hi
have a nice day/night/afternoon :)
myfreckledelf thanks,you too 😊
myfreckledelf aww, thank you
myfreckledelf thank you very much
you have a nice day/night/afternoon too :)
ow thank you
😊🌛
Much of the characteristics mentioned here aren't the full picture of the narcissist. The number one tell of the narcissist, is how they respond to being told no.
Wait to narcissist no doesn't mean no omg all sales man are narcissists
Imagine when a narcissist dates a narcissist and they actually went well together lmao
she is so right! i just had to let someone go in may and he exhibited ALL of these qualities
Ok, but like if it's a personality disorder, then they can't really control it... so maybe the whole "narcissistic jerk" thing shouldn't have been brought up at all? Like I'm not saying stay with them and let their actions bring you down, but maybe like use this to understand why they act like that, and have empathy for them from afar? Or even try to tell them "hey, you might have x, i would go see a therapist about it cause it can harm future/is harming our current relationship(s).
Katia De Haardt the Dark Mage
they are not mentally handicapped its not outside their control , you are describing narcissist as if they are a cancer patient , they still they are in some sense victims for being such immature toddlers , but they should be removed from your life because they will drain you , and their bad traits will rub off onto you.
Even if it's not technically a mental illness, it's still not something you can wake up with out. One has to go through therapy if they want to change it. And if they are draining you, then yeah, you have to get away, but leave that as a last resort, try to help them see that the disorder isn't helping them (as trying to get them to empathize probably won't work) and convince them to get the therapy. And you can have a disorder without being classified as being handicapped.
www.psycom.net/personality-disorders/narcissistic/
(I would suggest reading the "What Causes Narcissistic Personality Disorder and How is it Diagnosed?" as well as "What are the Treatment Options?"sections to get my point)
Good luck getting a narc to go to therapy or even want to change, even if they admit that they're a narc.
Katia The Cake-Loving Cat Lol no. Most of them are abusive and have no intention of getting better because they just can't admit they're jerks.
narc
They remember everything about you... to user it against you later
Jesus, you have just described a sister, who does all 10 of these and an 11th too: revenge mode when confronted.
Woah.. the emotional detachment describes me :(
Bea W 🙄
this is why i dont have crushes in 7 years
The main sign of a narcissist is that they have low empathy and the all fear of showing their real face. They have a huge past of dumping and they never like talking that past.
Dating a narcissist is the worst thing. They drain you of all you have, and warp your perception of what type of person you are. They can manipulate you so easily... its the worst feeling. They always win, no matter what. They could clearly come last in a race, and they'd say that they got first for effort and persistence. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, please end it
All I can think of is Gaston from Beauty And The Beast XD
so I guess im not a narcissist, that means im the best in the world, bow down to me peasants
Aryaman Manish Joshi haha, savage !
Aryaman Manish Joshi lol 😂
😂🤣😁
I hate to be the person who immediately goes, "ohp. that's me. I have that disorder." However, I was diagnosed with this disorder and me and my therapist have talked about what it actually means. After reading a few books after sessions, the main key of narcissism, is that the narcissist dislikes themselves. This is why they always look for others to built them up; simply, they can't do it themselves. Yes, they can always remember the compliments that others gave them and boast the ego, but they never like theirselves to begin with. Then again, narcissists are rude and can be harmful. But it's important to understand that narcissists are only like this because they haven't exactly learned how to love theirselves, so they expect others to.
:/ just a little note from your neighborhood narcissist.
I often come to this channel to check my own personality and behaviour and end up gaining much more psychological knowledge. Thank you very much Psyc2go.
my father is a narcissist! i really really wish my mother would leave him as this affects her greatly, to the point where she’s scared. I get my anxiety from my mother but it’s dangerous that she’s soon to be alone with him as im moving to college. i’m studying to become a psychiatrist and become a trauma doctor to help kids like me who suffer from ptsd and anxiety. i want to make a difference and your videos inspire me (: so thank you, thank you for giving me hope and information that is more than interesting. you all are amazing
Reddish Riot Good on you for doing something positive with an extremely awful situation. Best wishes to you.
Stay strong for your mother.⚘
I'm thankful these are none of my traits. It makes me feel good that im superior to these people. Im a god compared to them.
Jingalls 20 ha
Just keep playing 'god' with other people's life...I feel sorry for you 😥😥
This is obviously a sarcastic manner of commenting a narcissist, c'mon guys....😒😒
I see what you did there.
😂😂😂
Self esteem defeats the narcissist. Period.
10 of a 10 ....omg.. lucky im out of that nightmare.... before get crazy....
If you both can drive but your partner INSISTS that he or she MUST drive every time.... you have a narcissist on your hands.
Most Narcissist will not admit that they are this personality tell a person No and you will see what they are narcissists ignore what you want and lack basic. Control and empathy for others... ..
Thank you for another great video
This would have been so helpful in my last relationship. Why do I find these videos after the fact.
Same
@Willy Wonka that's true. Not only do you produce wonderful chocolate, mr. Wonka, but you also give very good advice! Haha. Thank you, my friend.
*Sees self-centered and instant messages*
oh pfft that's not relatable probably.
*After seeing it*
wtf is this?! NO! nO! No! SHEIT,I CAN'T BE A NARRSICIST!
Now I feel like the narcissist 🤷♀️
The Narc lives to get "Narc Supply" which is basically them receiving a sense of validation, approval, and acceptance even when they cheat, for example.
I've been dating a punk biker chick the past 4 months and Christ this video speaks volumes for why I'm so unhappy with such a bombshell of a lady. Came looking for videos after she told me she doesn't want to hear anything at all about my friends which was the last straw, time to jump off this ship. Damnit.
Wow! My crazy exgf was all of these! Thank God she broke up with me 😂 it was a complete hell at times but I'm just happy i didn't get to propose, good riddance!
Being involved with a narcissist is like riding a run away roller coaster.
My dad is a narcissist. I hate him. I’m sorry. He told us that he wishes we (his daughters) will jump off a cliff. He doesn’t care about us. He is trying to get money off my mom. One day he is just having a good conversation then the next he is just grumpy and abusive. Whenever he is wrong he gets so mad about it. He loves attention.
A lot of narcissists are fat. Menial tasks are above them - but not everybody else! How dare other people not wait on them?!
WillWilsonII
your talking about scapegoats
My talking about scapegoats? I don't remember buying a talking about scapegoats?
WillWilsonII
It was sarcasim in reference to the fat part...during abuse they become emotional eaters with low energy.
I'm not saying being overweight means narcissist, but a lot of them get REALLY big.
WillWilsonII
wow ok
Suprisedly I havnt known any narcs that are overwieght....but scapegoats tend. to be from the abuse endured by narcissism.
Dating a narcisist is like the worst thing ever. Super emotionally abusive. I'm sure dating one isn't like that for everybody, but in my experience, it's actual hell. I live with one too, so it's just great haha :')
kinda funny how no one ever talks about how the narcissists feel. depression is a mental illness that people take seriously, so why not do the same to NPD? they have feelings too you know.
How much does it suck when you never really knew what narcissist was then you watch these videos and realise your dating one😕
I will use this information to do good!
lol. I was thinking of Zen while watching this XD he's not a narcissist! He just accepts himself for who he is, and wants the whole world to know that :3
Omg, I was thinking of that too!
MC :3 Yesss :3
What or who is, "Zen?"
😂 I can't escape Mystic messenger
SaltySaeran *-* if you date "zen" in real life you'll feel how fucked up dating a narcissistic person. I played mystic messenger too and have a narcissistic friend that like zen. People may like his look until they know their fuck up inner personality. mm is just a game but I still hate it when people praise zen. He have face and mouth to praise himself but zero intolerance and faith. Sorry if i sounds mean i just hate narcissistic people.
Phew. This actually makes it easier to ghost him and not feel so guilty or overthink. He's obviously a narcissist. I started looking for what the hell was wrong with him as SOON as he started being inconsistent.
I dated a narcissit guy, he wasnt controling because he was/is SO proud to show his jealousy.
The effects of this video are extraordinarily insidious. To discuss very serious personality disorders, of which can only be diagnosed by a qualified professional (qualifications the author of this video may, or may not have) in such a blasé manner to a sizeable audience, of what is most likely impressionable teenagers with limited understanding of legitimate psychological practice, and the immense responsibilities that come with said practice, is extremely irresponsible. Statements such as "if… it's a sign you've found yourself dating a narcissist", or "if your date made fun of you for screwing up a mini golf hole… narcissist", merely apply textbook definitions of diagnostic criteria to the hypothetical situations of anonymous viewers, to which the author of this video has never had any significant interaction, and cheapen psychology as a science. Videos such as these should be laden with disclaimers concerning the inapplicability of these 'signs' by someone who lacks the necessary qualifications so as to not have very serious terms such as NPD thrown around, lessening their legitimacy with each vocalisation, or instil those with a weak understanding of narcissism with a gross and irrational mistrust of everyone they encounter. Content like this is why psychology is still regarded by some as a pseudo-science.
Stfu dude..
Hobo Jeff- You are right. This video doesn't express the severity of what true Narcissism is. In that these narcs can not only completely ruin ones life in many areas, but also they can severely damage a person's psychological well being. I believe Narcissists are equal and can be worse than Psychopaths. Psychopaths will straight up murder people, and Narcissists will murder your soul, spirit, identity, energy, life force, reputation, finances, relationships, and anything else they can destroy in your life, which living through this is worse than physical murder. Narcissism is more serious than what most people perceive it to be.
Hobo Jeff Welcome to youtube...you just got clickbaited “are you dating a narcissist?”
Definitively my ex, she is so self absorbed that doesnt realize the damage she did to me and our common friends, along with lot of things that Im not going to write right now. This video is pretty clear and spot on every single point.
The biggest thing i noticed was the lack of real romance in the relationship. Nothing tender gentle and loving w these damaged people.
so my mom is one. hm, interesting.
Wow! Very informative! Thanks!
I’m a narcissist and I feel really bad about it and i try to work on it
My last relationship sounds like a narcissist, like the Dead Sea, receives all, but gives back nothing.
Just got out of a relationship with one. Never knew anybody before that could make every conversation about herself. I knew she was odd from the get go. But it finally dawned on me she's a classic narcissist. Jealous, controlling, vain, etc. Glad to be out of it!
I feel sad for everyone who takes these videos too seriously . EVERYONE has narcissistic traits sometimes. Signs don't actually mean shit.
TheReal Jan Wholeheartedly agreed. All it does is reaffirm someone's built in confirmation biases. People take anything on social media way too seriously for their own betterment.
Yep and the DSM is a load of crap too
Ppl with brains already know that. The problem is when a person is so toxic that they slowly begin to destroy everyone around them.
I wish I found this half a year ago
This only confirmed my suspicion that my stepdad is a narcissist
I lived with a Narcissist for 6 months, the last 3 were the worst... she didn't worried about my day, she only worried about why I wasn't at my supposed time to arrival... it's something like why are you late? hey baby, hello I am ok thank you for asking.... she was only worried about her control, not me.
Yeah I’m a narcissist
My ex used to get angry if I did not answer my phone immediately and rushed me into a relationship. He quickly said he love me in 2 weeks. He did talk about his tragic night. He did take control of the date night and the fb status and the road trip we took
Y'all stop demonizing people. The way people end up in life is due to a combination of their experiences and their natural personality. If you find someone is a "narcissist", ok cool. Move on and leave them for someone else.
so should narcissists just be lonely and unloved their whole lives then? because to me it's someone who's been torn down so much at a young age they have no self worth left and need other people to tell them what they're worth. they wanna be someone and something but can't see it themselves so need other people to constantly help. if you're dating a narcissist don't leave. help. because at the end of the day loneliness will only make them worse and they're people to and they'll just find someone else eventually and their new partner will end up feeling the exact same way you have felt. but get them help and they might learn how to not hurt other people and how to value themselves. everyone needs to feel special sometimes. narcissists just lack the ability to do that without someone telling them they are. we are all human
He literally got mad because I sent him a photo of when I was little and I said I was a “ little sh*t” he took offence and kept boasting about how naughty he was. I pointed it out that he didn’t need to do that and he didn’t talk to me for 3 days. That’s just HALF of it
Well I think there is a difference between bragging and being cocky. Then actually being a narc but still a good sign