10 Signs You're Being Manipulated
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- Do you wonder about the meaning and definition of manipulation, because you feel as though someone is using psychological manipulation techniques on you? 10 signs of manipulation include when someone constantly makes you prove yourself or they communicate passive-aggressively. Manipulators often use gaslighting techniques, and are "always joking". Also, manipulators play the victim card, or kill you with sporadic kindness, followed by moments when they make you feel small. Manipulators emphasize their calm, cool, and collected side, use emotional blackmail, and take advantage of your trusting and sensitive nature.
References:
How to Recognize the 8 Signs of Emotional Manipulation. (2018). Live Bold & Bloom. Retrieved May 31, 2018.
Newsome, T. (2016, May 24). 11 Signs You're Being Manipulated in a Relationship & How to Fix It. Bustle. Retrieved May 31, 2018.
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Hi uhmm i really want advice on something:( I have a stalker who has a disorder thats affecting him. I really wanna be friends with him but he keeps making me uncomfortable and when i politely explain to him wrong from right, he just twists the story and make me seem like im ezzagerating or im the bad guy:( Idk what to do anymore, all im doing now is im avoiding them , this isnt the full story yall so pls dont judge me and ask if you wanna
Woww. This is spot on. I need to get out of my situation badly. This made me realize how manipulative and toxic this person is.
What if somwone has only one to two of these habits.. are they manipulators as well??
I need your help
@@camperellaillustz1995 if you have a stalker, the worst thing to do is to show them too much empathy. You don't have to be kind to someone who makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. You don't owe anyone your friendship. I would suggest staying away from him and advise adults / your parents (if you are young), especially if your stalker goes to the same school. Always stay polite (to keep things peaceful) but don't follow him anywhere or agree to do activities you don't want to. Listen to your gut feeling. Some people are good at guilt tripping others in order to hurt them.
We were all thinking about that one friend...
nah my friend is actually real
Yep. And I cut him off for good today, thanks to this video.
U mean that one enemy, I've never had friends in my life and I love it that way
HOW DID U KNOW🤯🤯🤯
Yep
“Manipulators often target insecure, sensitive, and trusting people.”
Wow. The definition of me.
Same.
😂😂😂😂
me ;-;
the most annoying thing is that we all forget about signs bc we want to enjoy
Introvert Teenager nailed it! Same here!
It really hurts when you're re kinda remembering someone right now and realize what they did
Literally...
Exactly, Shame.on them
I’m literally so frustrated trying to realize what they’ve done versus what I’ve done LOL
One thing you might want to add is that manipulators try to convince you that to do things their way is in your best interest, but in reality it is not, it is only in their best interest.
yes patrick you are true especially in this phishing world one of my friend got a call i told her not to pick up but she listened to me as i explained her about the phishing going on what she did is she went a public telephone told that she feel uncomfortable to speak in front of parents in order to find the intention of the caller and she told him not to call in the cell as it is not her
number you are correct they keep on convincing to do thing according to their interest
she told yes yes gave some wrong address called up the police and the thieves were caught
beware manipulators are dangerous it can be your own friend they try to get things
even in marriage market if you are engaged never introduce to your spouce once introduce they will recognise each other while conversing they may exchange mob number they will meet eachother and finally wedding will be their both s it has happened in one of my friends life this is the meaning of manipulation
Frr
100% true - this is so painful to realised you've been manipulated :(
Exactly
Thank you for informing me that my friends are manipulative
it is worse than you are even aware of
Ouch..
My friend is a manipulator!!!!!!!!!!! 😨😱😱😱😨😱😱😱😨😱😱😱
Me too, but I wonder if they would think we are manipulators to them
I know this is told a lot but you should just be honest with them. there are always other people you can go to as well. I hope it gets better. I wish you the best. :)
Manipulator: I will kill myself if you leave
Me: *leaves*
Yeah man
Go ahead...do it. :-/
*adds on*
Manipulator: I will kill myself if you leave
Me: *walks out the door* Perish, then
Vladimir Lenin we all die at some pt, & other's choices r *not* r responsibility. 👊
Someone told me that and I said "Do it no balls you wont"
Every single manipulation tactic all but implies the use of the lying tactic and the gaslighting tactic. I actually dislike it a little calling out gaslighting as a manipulation tactic as it's actually an effect. All manipulation tactics will contribute to it by nature of what manipulation is. Some tactics however certainly take the gaslighting effect to a whole different level. Blatant lies that are so bad they insult your intelligence is one of them. That kind of shit will make you feel like you are in the twilight zone after a while. Here are some of the reasons they do this: To test their control. To feel superior and/or entertainment. This proves to themselves how much control they have over you. In the end, you will give up and you will not leave (trauma bonded). In the process of getting to the giving up stage, you will go through some pretty nasty emotional states ending in massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to swallow all of that. Cognitive dissonance is a trauma defense mechanism where you essentially lie to yourself in various ways so that you can bring back some semblance of equilibrium to the insanity you find yourself unable to escape from. As part of the ‘backing you into an emotional corner’ tactic. This is a tactic where you are manipulated into being emotionally unstable inevitably leading to you losing your shit. This gives the narcissist a big dopamine burst, they feel powerful and superior having so deftly controlled you and manipulated into this emotional state. To finish the little game they play, they make sure to point out how unhinged and unstable you are and suggest that perhaps you need help or medication. Of course, you will internalize all that shame and guilt and the million other raging emotions they have created and swallow all that essentially allowing them to scapegoat their blame and accountability onto you. Bring on some more cognitive dissonance and gaslighting effects. To condition you to expect less respect, and ultimately put up with more abuse. You will tire of the inevitable circular argument trying to convince the narcissist of the blatantly obvious lie and eventually find yourself challenging them less and less as you subconsciously accept the fact that if you do it will just make your life and emotional state more miserable and you will be denied the satisfaction of any kind of ‘win’ even if it is easy to disprove. This is part of the domination process and makes sure all the power in the relationship ends up with them by the end. To turn your mind to mush as the gaslighting effect takes hold more and more over time. This makes you even easier to control. Many times while easy to disprove it requires some kind of concession of some obvious truth that the narcissist can just doggedly refuse to agree with or remember (‘the intentional forgetting’ tactic and the ‘feigned confusion or ignorance’ tactics are often employed for this). So, in fact, it is not so easy to prove when the narcissist refuses to correctly remember what happened 10 min ago or accept sound logic or reasoning. You will just turn blue in the face trying. Of course, in some cases it is indisputable. A phone log or something. My experience is when this kind of stuff happens it wasn’t their intention typically, although sometimes it was. But in these scenarios, you will typically get some sort of angry ‘invalidating’ tactic, with some good old ‘manufactured rage’ and ‘intimidation’ tactics to ‘put you on the defensive’ and get you more susceptible to further manipulation. Maybe something like: “Get over yourself already” followed up by some ‘blame-shifting’ tactics with some good old ‘guilt’ and ‘shame’ tactics, like “Why the hell are you spying on my phone records anyway? What kind of relationship is this? I don’t have any privacy? I don’t know if I can do this anymore! You have major jealousy issues! You need help!” You will walk away as the loser either way. There are resistance tactics that can be used but this is a very difficult tactic to deal with and it is one of their favorites. I won’t get into the counter-tactics here though. The only way to really win in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave them and go no contact. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,
Wow! You summed up my life's troubles. Thanks 👍
Tldr
I am not gonna read that long ass paragraph.
@@limeflavoredbleach5570 😂😂 it was interesting nevertheless
How did these 203 person read this? :)
One of my friends has most of these traits and I can't believe I have been normalising it.
This video was just too relatable and I was able to be more aware of this. I thought she was just stressed so I didn't want to hurt my friend but apparently there's more to it than that. Thank you for making me be aware of these things.
@Moog City Mayor are things better now?
"ur being too sensitive" hit close to home lmfao
" this shit not even real"
Especially if your someone like me that has HSP (highly sensitive person)
exactly! my ex-friend did all of these things, and it hurt ngl but she mostly said i was too sensitive
Right that's the only argument he gives me
“ it’s just a joke , chill”
10 signs:
1. They constantly make you prove yourself.
2. They communicate passively aggressively.
3. They gaslight you.
4. They are always "just joking".
5. They play the victim card.
6. They kill you with kindness.
7. They make your problems feel small.
8. They emphasize their calm, cool and collective side.
9. They use emotional blackmail.
10. They take advantage of your trusting and sensitive nature.
So you just summed up my high school friends that I don't keep in contact with anymore.
True
I didn't realize this was my ex for three years. He totally burnt me out and I cried almost every single night. Genuinely started to ask myself if I was crazy.
My parents tell me I always manipulate people into buying me stuff I want but I never realize it,i have realized that when me and my dad argue I already know he is gonna come in any second and give me my stuff back so I never really care..... help I think I manipulate.....
All or most of these describe narcissistic behaviour.This is deadly in the family .They are not worth the effort as they cannot love anybody even if they fawn all over you..You will never get consistent affection or support from them
As someone who had manipulative peers growing up, I can definitely tell you that I constantly felt like shit because of them, even for things that weren't my fault, playing the victim card, denying things when I called them out, and threatening to punish me if I called them out any further, you name it.
I felt like I was the problem for years, but your videos have brought awareness to so many issues that I don't think I ever could've grasped on my own, and for that, I am grateful
I'm kind of dealing with this now unfortunately with a family member:
1. she gave me different stories as to why she left her job (we work together i basically got her the job)
2. she told me something about our other relative and basically said she doesn't want this other person tagging along with events with her and this 'friend" of hers because she swears this other relative is jealous of her friend instead of just goin directly to that person and talking with them. then basically in a round about way swore me to secrecy. and it's really bothering me but i don't want to hurt our relative by saying this to her and it would start drama.
3. she slips herself into my planned events with my child using another family member as backdoor to do it without even asking me if that's ok.
does this sound manipulative??
The amount of times I found myself apologizing for something that wasn't my fault is embarrassing. But I see now that it was just the result of some really cunning manipulation.
10 Signs You Have A Mom.
😂😂😂
1 sign
If you're born
Oh my god so true though 😂😂
Your mom may have a serious problem then. Not every mom is like a manipulator.
Pixel Maniac dUDE I LOVE YOO
i was being manipulated by my ex-bf. now I'm in relationship with a loving and caring guy and i realized I'm not supposed to have mental breakdown every night lol
update: we broke up a month ago, he forced me to do things I didn't want to do. I guess I have to heal everything and only then get into a relationship or else it won't work
Same I'm currently trying to break up with my toxic bf but I feel bad
zosia ping I think I’m in the same situation... idk what’s the right thing to do. maybe I’m overreacting?
@@zutsmakeupcorner2374 you're not over reacting. you know he's toxic, you just try to deny it bcs you're scared. but you don't have to be, girl trust me, it may be hard but once you break up with him you're going to be so much more happy, i can promise that to you
@@weronikawisz7011 just do it 💜 everything will be fine, don't worry
Update he said he'll change and do everything to stay with me cuz he loves me hehe
My ex has all these signs (if not all, majority). Good thing I broke up with her even before the pandemic started. So at least, I only worried about the pandemic, without worrying being inside an abusive relationship. Now I'm happily single and have been enjoying it for two years now. And lesson for others who are in a relationship with an abuser, let go, learn to say no, and don't let them have power over you.
I was accused of guilt tripping and being toxic.
I did freak out and was a bit obsessive because I cared that much. I felt like it was my job to keep them happy. I gone through hell just to make them happy. Though I probably became toxic. And he said I was toxic and he doesn't wanna be my friend anymore. I was kinda unaware what I was doing I was just trying to help.
I HATE IT WHEN THEY SAY “You’re just imagining, don’t make a big deal out of it.”
Ikr. Then they will say you assume too much and overthink. Then they will play the victim card
assia Taki no, not because they’re telling the truth, but when people manipulate events, play dumb, and do bad things to you indirectly to the extent that they make you question your memory. I don’t know how you wanted to sound with that sentence, but it sounded rude.
I hate that shit to my favorite one is it is all in your head go see a doctor and get on meds fuck that and fuck medication
@@Itskeshy_ SAMEEE
@@Itskeshy_ same here
The response “k” is passive aggressive.
K.
O.o *Are you ok?*
And the word sure
K, sure.
especially when its lowercased and has a period
It’s been 8 years, 8 Years! Yesterday I had to separate myself from my friend, and I felt terrible but it’s the only way. It’s sad how she makes me feel so worthless but I know that today I’m literally going to try and be friends with her. Honestly I’m tired of being the one that listens, why can’t I have a friend that also allows me to speak. Friends are people you should trust and have fun with, not someone that makes you feel useless and gives you trust issues.
Been through this still going through this! I’m so Tired OF THIS!!💔💔💔😭😢😔😞😡😠
it's more painful that the one who's manipulating you was your own family.
You're not alone because I been through it too
That's usually the case isnt it 😔
Just take it as a lesson, people are either in your life for: a reason / a season/ or a lifetime💕
i'm in the same situation ... it's the worst
Girl same my little brother tries to all the time. I think he got it from my dad. But it’s so embarrassing when he does it because I know exactly what he’s does and I call him out. I need to talk to my mom about him going to therapy because this breaks my heart that my 5 year old brother is a narcissistic manipulator.
If you have strings coming out of your back that's a red flag.
Lol
Haha! Yes. For something more serious as well.
Oh no, I need scissors!
Another one is if you have buttons as eyes.
*Sudden Coraline flashbacks*
My back's been hurting today. Should I be worried?
I am ashamed to admit I am guilty of some of these examples 🙁, but not to such an extent or even being aware of what my behaviour was. Now I am aware I know better. These videos are good and educational. It helps me work on myself to be a better person . Thank you
I was friends with someone who basically fit the entire description of being a manipulator. I unfortunately ended up dating this person for 10 months, but knew him for about 6 years. I wish I had found this video sooner, but such is life. The breaking point for me was when I spent time with other friends (who did also know my now-ex), and realized how great I felt when I was with them, but compared that feeling to how I would feel when I was with my ex. I talked to him about how I felt specifically about that, and he basically told me that my relationships with my friends weren’t meaningful, and that I just wanted something easy. That they weren’t meaningful because I wasn’t telling my friends I loved them and I wasn’t having sex with them. The second he said that, I just knew that that would be the last time I’d see him (especially considering he made my birthday really awful), and it became plain-as-day as to why nobody associated with him.
I’m still really glad I watched this video though. It’s nice to spread awareness to those who may be completely oblivious. It’s a real eye-opener.
So yes I'm being manipulated
My dad is just like this
Same
Me too. I can't escape though, because my manipulaters are my parents.
My friend... that I really hate it.
Oniscia Bruno same
The lower your self-esteem is, the worse your ability to defend yourself. So if you feel weak or insecure, it is important to get help and work with your self-image.
👍✔💯
Mo Ab this is me I have very very low self esteem and ect. In my friend group I’m constantly feeling like i can’t say anything right, they laugh at me, though they are not 100% like mean but more like 70%. All my other friends are fine but there’s this one friend like for example this guy had a crush on me and my friend just kept laughing in the situation and I always feel like in my friend group I can never be myself. Like idk when the jokes are too far omg please help!! I literally don’t know when they are joking or when they are hurting me because 9/10 I have that gut feeling around them at school. I want to just walk away and not be such a pushover. I get angry thinking about this because they always laugh and I do nothing please help I really am stuck right now. For some reason to I have a feeling that I’ll be like more successful than my ‘friends’ one day? Like because I’m too nice to people and I help people idk I just have always a gut feeling in the future, I’ll prove them wrong idk
Mo Ab Is it bad my best friend who I think is manipulating me has a worse self esteem than me?
But how?
@@futuristiccat5636 trust your gut and feelings.
Content like this has helped me come to terms with situations where the people who were very close to me in my life were using me and I am currently in therapy working through it. I really appreciate your resources. I don't think I would have sought help if I didn't come across free educational content like this, and it made me realize just how important content like this is to people who don't have as much accessibility. you guys are awesome. 💛
Just broke up with someone, and I'm crying because I'm able to relate to every single point :'), now he is gaining sympathy from everyone I know and asking me to get back with him, I'm sick of ppl like him, i just wanna stay alone
Stay away from those craps
Yes there not worth it won’t change your worth more
The Gaslighting thing is so true! I thought that they just have bad memory... but thanks for telling me it is a manipulative technique. Now I know that they didn't forget anything, they are just lying... :) This channel is awesome!
Rajatava Kar I thought my mom was dense... Now I believe she has so much against me... 😑
My parents do that too. I once confronted my mother about how she said I have no skills, but she acted as if she didn't remember saying it.
Alyssa Watava That happened to me so many times!
@@shithead593 wanna talk about it?
Alyssa Watava I mean, it's kinda weird for me. Most of the times, the things my dad didn't admit to weren't even that big, so I thought that maybe i just didn't remember the situation correctly or whatever. But that one time he said that ,,me and my opinions mean nothing to him anyway" and it really hurted me. And when I tried to talk about it later, he just denied everything.
“The reason why Manipulators Always want attention is because they had none as a child.” - Brendan, 2021
@Silver & Cold yep it can go both ways . Parents who are overly attentive and under attentive can both breed narcissistic personalities
Not all of them. I had an ex-friend with an extreme sense of entitlement bc she was used to getting everything exactly the way she wanted. I was in the way of getting something she wanted. So she manipulated me and even resorted to gaslighting to get me out of the way.
Not true my friend had all the attention in the world and was controlling
hit hard when you manipulated people
True, family personal problems.
A manipulator who throws subtle comments implying they know you better than yourself is the worst I’ve come across. They act like you malfunctioned when things didn’t go their way, exactly by comparing you to their delusional version of you from when you first meet like the ‘good times’. I experienced this from a guy who had nothing more but emotional needs and problems.
I admit that it was obvious to see then, why I didn’t act sooner I do regret and feel so foolish since I didn’t take my intuition seriously just cause I was the nice thoughtful person in the circle
Yep, I need to set boundaries in all my relationships now ☔️ thankful for this channel
It's painful to be in a manipulative relationship 😣
This video made me realize that I was the manipulator...
I used to be so dramatic in middle school and acted pressured most of the time, it came to a point where my friends would get tired of my excuses. I was so ignorant of my actions...
Thank you for making this video, it made me realize my true self and I hope that I can become a better person while in highschool... but at the same time I'm kinda scared to even go to high school since now I fear that my manipulative self will come back again...
I'll try my best to fix myself as possible.
But truly from the bottom of my heart... thank you for making this video... I'm truly grateful ❤
Introverted Mexican me too. I’ve realized through this video that I really have the best friends that don’t apply to any of these. But I feel like I do many of these a lot, and I want to improve myself too.
Same here too.
A lot of school is spent figuring out yourself. Aim to be a better person than you were before, and you'll be fine by the time you get out into the world of being an adult. You're young and developing; spend that time developing, not comparing with others and needlessly worrying.
@@KarmaSangheili thank you for your attention, I'll keep that in mind ❤
I think at some point many people unknowingly become manipulative. I’ve done some of these things too but more and more I’m noticing it and trying to prevent it. It’s good to catch ourselves so we can improve it before it becomes our entire personality!
Thank you so much for posting this info. More than half of these signs are shown by my boyfriend of 7 years. I was blown away. I feel validated that I'm not just imagining things.
Anytime! I hope that everything works out for you. Feel free to reach out! We are always here for you
Is it possible to accidentally and (or) subconsciously manipulate someone
I unfortunately married my manipulator...
I do think so as I feel like I do that sometimes, for example giving gifts without reason, emphasizing my calmness and similar things. I sometimes feel like I manipulate my friends, they sometimes feel like they have to give something back although I don't ask for it and it feels a bit "unreal", if you know what I mean.
Rethinking this message as well, this could be interpreted as falling into the victim role as the manipulator. Damn.
NICOLE TORRANCE you’re not imagining things Nicole! I too was in a seven year relationship that ended in a three month marriage!.... covert, underhanded manipulation! He had me exactly where he wanted me, walking on eggshells too afraid to rock the boat in case he’d leave!... in the end, I could tolerate not a second more! 11months after kicking him out I thank God every day that I am free from repression! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Get out and don’t look back, they truly don’t love you, they’re incapable! x anna x
I've definitely been manipulated to get married with a woman from another country thinking it was Tru love and now she's seriously manipulating me consistently to divorce her now that she received her green card I've been depressed 😔 and feeling not self I'm definitely hurting as well all this gas lighting has mad me question even my self never knew someone could be so evil she's even told me I'm obsessed with her 😭
Sounds like a narcissist!
Very true how they target over sensitive, trusting and insecure people. I can relate to this very much so. Thanks for the video.
*Moral of the story, do not trust everyone, even your own "friends". Choose who you associate with wisely, trust your gut instinct before you trust someone's smile and charming demeanor.*
Kasey Lock go eat then
Stop being paranoid. YOU CAN trust people
so, trust only yourself?
*Moral of the story, trust only people who actually is willing to earn up for their mistakes cause in this world perfection doesn't exist. take precaution and recognize the repetitive red flags because if you continue you're only letting that person consume you emotionally and you'll be spoiling them the chances they dont deserve ..love yourself, trust, and love others cause there are people out there that can be family and hear you out. bubbling yourself with lethal confinement is easy but it'll trade to bitterness (^:
I respect your comment and agree with the overall message. Not everyone out there is a bad guy or not to be trusted, but it is wise to always have caution and as you said, "recognize the repetitive red flags"..
I was manipulated so much in childhood n thru the years that I became manipulative in relationships without even knowing it. Thank you for making this vid which helped me to become more self aware. Time to grow.
Same bro
I just figured this out myself. Time to heal and grow. Picked up a book called "Toxic Parents"
Yep
Yea a sucky upbringing made me suck
GingstaWorld
I kinda think I’m manipulative, because I talk behind her back, since she’s always saying she’s ugly and I keep saying she just wants attention, but it’s not really talking behind her back since it’s actually true, when she got a boyfriend, the next day everybody knew because she told everyone, I’m too scared to tell her that, but I’m planning to do it soon.
I sent this to a friend who is being manipulated and is having a hard time standing up to the person, I hope this helps them to see the truth 🤞🏻
Thank you for the help . This just proves most of my "friends" are manipulating me , my brother has gaslighted me before , and sadly enough so have most of my friends .
One "friend" called me manipulative when i wasnt even being close to manipulative when it actually turns out she was the one being manipulative
Ah, the politics defense.
Distract, then attack?
and that's gaslighting, uno reverse card
When somebody makes assumptions about you it’s usually just a reflection of themselves and has nothing to do with you, have a nice day ya’ll⛅️🦋🌸
Its the classic projection move most narcissists employ. Its immaturity at its worst, really, as many of us while young and covering up hurt feelings have said something along the lines of "I'm not stupid! You are!" But the manipulative narcissists never develop past that.
My heart lowkey hurts right now, I am being manipulated rn.
Dont be manipulated
Same. Both my parents manipulate me..
Hahahah
My heart hurts because not only am I an easy victim of manipulation, I'm also guilty of manipulating. It's just less obvious I realised
I am to.....
I’m thankful for running across your videos, I recommend this video to anyone for even just the knowledge to know that there are manipulative people out here.
The fact that I've thought about a few friends while watching this is just scary
“Manipulators often target insecure, sensitive, and trusting people.”
Me: *looks in mirror and slowly turns around to look at my friend*
Jackie Samayoa 😔
Jackie Samayoa ditto
😂
plot twist: they're not there.
-haha dark humor I know-
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I WAS MANIPULATED into watching 2 ads first
ik that happens to me all the time
D Wood hahahahaha
Theres a trick you can do about that; get two interests in youtube then when an ad comes straight up click on the next then as the video is loading get ready for the next!! This is a manipulation strategy that is used with power and people!!! Haha
HAHA 😂
Same
I’ve gotten so much value out of this channel. Whenever it is that I start getting paid for my work, I’ll definitely subscribe or donate or something helpful.
Thank you for helping me realize my best friend is manipulating me. And has been for a long time. She’s been gaslighting me and making me feel like the bad guy, and I’m realizing it’s her. I’ve set boundaries before, but she never followed them. I’ve decided to tell her we are not friends anymore.
She played victim, saying how much she cared for me and never wanted anything back. And she said that in a science project we did, she never wanted to do it with me, and she did it with me because she trusted me and that we were friends. She said, “I never meant to hurt you!”. But she did urge me. She always says she never means to do things. But she does do things that hurt me. She’s either super unaware, or super manipulative. It’s both.
Great!...My Mom is Manipulating Me.
Same 🖐️
Same here. But I'm quite good at adressing it. Making our relationship better.
Same here :'(((
This is why im moving out in january and going to my grandparents place. Even though ill probably lose the money my parents have saved for my college ed. I wouldbt doubt its just another way to hold a debt over me like I own them my life. Not anymore.
Both of my parents are manipulating me.
When every one of these signs apply to that one person........
same
@@myseveredwrjsts I hope you find the courage to make them see that you are too beautiful and loved and amazing to be manipulated. You deserve better! Have a great day! ❤
#MyFamily
@Erin Mcsweeney I'm sorry! I really wasn't trying to! I just felt the same way. I had no intention of plagiarism. I'm sorry. ❤❤
@@freeheart306 Oof I hope your situation gets better
Wow it turns out I REALLY have no friends at all…
A couple months ago I realized I've been in a toxic friendship for 10 years...we meet in grade school, and while others tried to tell me she wasn't any good for me, or that she was manipulating me I always jumped right to her defense. Watching this is kinda hard, recognizing her having done most of these things to me
Sometimes i feel like im left out ....
yep...
yes
Same, but it’s ok, one day a someone won’t make u feel alone
All the time
@@tomurashigaraki--murielgar8349 yeah, fr..
I think I’m being manipulated by who I thought was my best friend😔
I'm sorry, they don't deserve you! I get that it's hard but they WANT you to be in their control, which doesn't mean they're your actual friend. I wish you good luck though !
L&Np aren’t we all
Hitoshi Shinsou thank u
GalaxyClang same and thank u
I feel that so hard. It fucking sucks. Please leave them. It WILL get worse!
I am printing out this posting a putting it on my refrigerator and the bathroom mirror just for quick reference. I wish I had see this five years ago! This would have saved me tons of grief and heartache!
I have this friend, and one day I invited her over, and I went to the bathroom and when I came back she was going through my freakin search history, and she found an "Are my friends toxic quiz" I took about a week ago. She acted super offended, and I was trying to calm her down by telling her that the results were negative, (which actually wasn't the case) Anyways, she told everyone about it, and how I made her cry, acting like she was the victim. To this day, she still says stuff like, "remember that time you made me cry? How do you feel about that, hm?" In front of people, and I go into full guilt-mode, and when I DON'T show her that I'm guilty, she acts all annoyed and cold at me.
I have finally come to realize what's been going on, and I am working on setting boundaries.
This video was such great help to me!
Insecure, Sensitive, Overly Trusting. Yep that's me
Same XD
yep
same
I’m 2 of those Insecure and overly trusting
Same... I even believe the "I won't do it again" line every time
*target located* jk
It's horrifying when you find almost every sign in the person you're in love with. Thank you so much, Psych2Go. Always opening my eyes.
Phantom Alma what did you do? Hi. Just a random person:)
@@haranoa0620 hi! Believe it or not, this person changed most of those behaviors, kind of a miracle. Still, the drama hasn't completely disappeared, so stay tuned(?
I do want to clarify that, if anyone told me they have a similar experience, I would tell them to lose touch. It's so different when it's you who should stay strong :(
Ouch ouch ouch
Hi, what did you do to help your situation? I’m in this situation with my husband and I don’t know where to start because I don’t even know how to speak up anymore.
@@gracie912 hello Psych2Go also made a video titled How to deal with manipulative people. You can search it. I'm dealing with a person being manipulative to me right now and I'm glad I watched this video. I wanted to save our relationship, I just want him to see how manipulate he is and hoped for the best he will realize.
These videos are helpful, they help make sure I'm doing things correctly
Thank you... You made me realize so much. I'll be more firm now.
You guys made me realise so many things. I always thought that I was being apathetic or rude and not aware of whether or not I was hurting people. When in reality, I was only just being manipulated. Thank you so much for sharing this. I really needed this.
NP! That's the thing with manipulation and such. It makes us question ourselves. Glad this video helped in you making the right choices!
Pooja Kameshwaran ...sigh.. And the worst thing is I'm doing it to someone who loves me world without end.... idk how to stop or why I'm even doing it because I really really hate it and always regret it.😞😞
@@khaeliag.gordon8722 I'm glad you at least have the heart to admit it and are willing to change. I agree that it happens unintentionally too. And it could be because of your love for them. So little by little maybe you should respect their boundaries and trust them a bit more. ♥️
Pooja Kameshwaran you kinda hit the nail on the head . . . trust, smh. Is like some times, they are just too simple. They can do so much more in life and with themselves but they shy away from it and I get so upset with them. I do love them, more than anything. Is just that I am angry that they don't see the potential I see in them. I hold them so high, yet they walk with their head hanged down...and because they put others above themselves, they put others above me... sometimes I feel I can never trust them to make the right decision for us, because they are going to make others walk over them.....this is so hard. I honestly have no bad intent, I swear. I can't believe I am struggling with this
@@khaeliag.gordon8722 If you want to change how you are, it's not going to happen in one day. You have to let it slowly evolve. Thanks to the internet, we have tons of articles that help us better ourselves. And strongly believing in the fact that you always mean well and care for them, will make you change yourself positively. Don't lose hope. It will happen soon enough♥️
There's probably someone out there using this as a tutorial
i don have any idea what to call my account most likely
i don have any idea what to call my account
You gotta play devils advocate with everything, well honed
i don have any idea what to call my account gotta learn something somewhere and wiki is not the answer EVER
... *cough cough* me *cough cough*
@@randomtrooper3150 wtf why?!
This has been so informational!
This information is good to help someone discern whether they are in a cult. Thank you for these videos, they are helpful tools for manipulation awareness.
This video make me realise something I never realise until now...I feel like I manipulate my friends...I want to stop it but I don't know how. I think I should stop being friends with them so they won't get hurt. When I ask if they feel manipulated or have a negative feel towards me they say no but I think differently. I need help. I don't know what to do.
I understand that 100%, over the past couple of days I've been doing a lot of self reflection and I've been wondering if I am manipulating people too. It's just gotta be one of those things you have to stop doing and improve yourself and how you interact with others.
I recommend talking to them. Ask them to be honest (i hope you get better ♡)
Same it made me think the same
i have this with my best friend!! i only have point 1. and i asked him 100 times if i'm a toxic friend. answer being "no" i love this guy with all my heart. and i don't wanna hurt him. i'm afraid that i'll hurt his feelings by asking him to be 100% honest, that he'll think i don't trust him. ;; but i don't trust myself.
Exacto, esa es la razón por la que ya no tengo amigos, preferí "protegerlos" de mi 😂
When you realise that you’ve been manipulated by everyone:
this describes virtually every boss out there. also politicians.
Yes my exact thoughts
Haha 😁 or should I cry 😭😭 omg right on. I'm all alone in the bush
I've never really had friends before but my parent's are sure manipulative
Xavier P
Parents manipulate????
Don’t I know it, my father ORDERED me, when I was 18, to go 200 miles to help him move house 10 days before my A levels started and when I told him about it he said.... well that’s your fault, if you’d done more work it wouldn’t now be a problem. That was 30 years ago and he’s dead now but I remember that every day.
I thought about the last long relationship I was in… it was during my last year of college. He was highly toxic and majority of the traits shared in the video, I was nodding my head to. I didnt realize how sensitive and people pleasing I was/am until now. I’m glad I came across this video it provides practical perspective
It's so sad that this happened to me without fully realizing the situation. I wish my bestfriend didn't do this, I was honest and he knew that I had trust issues even before. Regardless, he still did what he did and it hurt me. Manipulation sucks, I'm happy I'm out of that friendship and I can continue to be myself and still be kind with others but it's getting harder for me to form deeper bonds because I'm scared it might happen again.
I got manipulated before..
She matched almost every one.
Vanessa Vatev I been manipulated too..
Same here. i was manipulated by 2 of my "best" friends. Now i know how Julius Ceasar felt.
@@vxy357 no you don't, cuz they killed him xD
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Same here! She matched almost all of these. The friendship ended with me apologizing.
I’ve been manipulated by my “friend” for the past 5 years. I stuck by him for far too long. I’m done with all his shit now. It just pains me knowing of all the time I wasted.
Dude, I get ya. I really hope you are gonna make the right call to protect yourself and to end that relationship. You deserve someone better dude! I am kinda in that situation also and because with me this has been going on since corona, they manipulated me a long time and now I am second guessing weither to leave or stay. I never knew my situation was f-ed up till I saw this vid.. thank god I saw this vid.
does 8 have to be manipulating
@@soomiewleng5227 if this person you are talking about does everything like they say at Sign 8 (aka being calm and telling you that you are Just overreacting and then walk away to let you blow off some steam), Then yes it is manipulating you. If they are calm and they do respect your feelings even if they themselfes wouldn't react that way, Then you can safely assume that they dont have such bad intentions and are just a very calm person in general. Just ask yourself this question: "Are they a calm person in general or do they only act like this when I "overreact" in they're eyes?" You will find the awnser to your question once you have awnsered this one
Exactly I knew this “friend” for 2 years and I’ve finally left that toxicity behind me. I am so much better in every way now.
@@Britskee2003 I'm happy for ya dude! With me and my friend its a little bit more complicated then just clear manipulation =w= Its hard to tell when my friend is being manipulative or if they are in a depressive state and need help.. but hey, I help them whenever, but I also let them know when I can't or when I want some time alone (god that sounds so selfish, I Promise you that there is more to that, but for privacy reasons, I'd rather not tell my whole life in a RUclips comment lol)
tysm for this video it helped me rethink about who is manipulating me i cannot wait to confront them about it.
Yeah I agree with everything and this reminds me with what situation I'm in right now. Really good!
sadly, our culture and religious traditions idealize 'putting the needs of others ahead of your own' as a virtue, and not as a warning sign of having low self-worth, codependency, or susceptibility to narcissistic abuse!
Agree with you, be good, but not naive. You gotta be desagreeable and say no sometimes, even if it hurts others, but you always ask yourself "what is the worse my actions can cause?, if the other person feels bad is it my problem or his/hers? "
well the way of the world is not the same as the ways of God. The essence of it is to be a beneficial presence to others. People are going to try to take advantage of you either way you choose to move through this world but at the end of the day what you will be held accountable for is your own actions. Now having said that being beneficial to others does not always mean being a yes man. Jesus wasn't a yes man
Yes. It’s important to put others before yourself. But it’s even more important to recognise when that harms you and it’s seriously the hardest thing ever
Yes everyone always talks about how Jesus says to forgive. Yes he says to forgive but not be a fool. Be wise as serpents but harmless as doves.
This video describes how manipulative was my ex
Yeah, in retrospect usually we can see things clearly once we no longer interact with them.
did you get a closure tho?
Same. You never see how wrong your relationship is until you're out of it.
Mine was an 8 type who'd swear to kill himself when I don't continue loving him anymore because he was SUFFOCATING.
@@octoberrie562 that's awful! I'm glad you got away from that =\
I cant trust some ppl anymore because every time i tell the something personal about myself they later on use it against me
This is really good! Thank you.
This sounds like my parents...
wow that's I'm sad Relateable too
Lol that's true XD
@@Bubby2509 thats the facts
Same but only my birthmother
0of Yes indeed Dat boi
when you get manipulated by your family
-_-'
I feel you
Cool name
feel ya, its hard to set boundaries with family members, when all minor tries to find a solution dont work, i guess its distance for you. I personally got a shitty family too and i just moved away and broke up with that part of my life. Unless I see that their behavior wont stop, i wont talk to them, dont need negativity in my life, neither do you.
Yep
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Thank you so much for this video. This video has really given me some thought from a person I once thought as a person who needed "help".
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thank you for making this video. this has told me that my ‘friends’ who ive been ‘bffs’ with for a couple years, is just (beep)ing manipulating me into thinking im their best friend just so they can get a good reputation. (my teacher says im the most gifted in class) now i know i should just hang out with the people who will actually be REAL friends.
Oh... well.... I'm a manipulator and I'm being manipulated
*NICE-*
Same
Lmaooooo 😂😂
@@hqx479 guess I'm not lol
Me too. I kinda hate myself for being like that but idk if I could live through my current situation otherwise. My father is one as well and so was his father.
Same
I was manipulated. They caused me to lose all my friends and then lost interest with me and moved on. I'm only just starting to get back the friends I lost, and I now have severe anxiety and trust issues...
I was manipulated also by tis man...
That's how my bff is being manipulated. Though i will never leave him even though he got turned against me....
Hey..am exactly going through it...my bestf was a manipulater
How did they cause you to lose your friends?
@@ebonyjoseph9489 are you going through it?
This is so accurate. I’m 3 years into my relationship and I feel so stuck. Whenever I want to leave I’m given a sob story about how they are so depressed and don’t wanna deal with life anymore. Same thing with arguments. I feel like he belittles my problems and he literally tells me they are nothing compared to his… at the same time he expects so much from me but will do nothing in return. It’s a constant cycle and idk how to break it.😐
All so true.well said.protect yourself
I don't know if anyone will see this, but I feel it needs to be said.
If you were/are in some kind of long-term manipulative relationship or environment, you sometimes can take on those manipulative quality's whether it be for self-preservation or simply a kind of mirroring from so much interaction with said manipulator(s) or environment. It's a normal thing, and doesn't make you a terrible person.
That's why it's important to be just as aware of yourself as other people.
thank you because i was freaking out on whether or not i was a bad person when i realise i only ever do manipulate when im mirroring someone even so i will try my best to keep away from that and instead just remove the manipulator from my life.
Thank you so much. My counselor says “you’re not manipulative” and I’m like 🤨🤨 are you sure? It’s so hard to trust myself after manipulative abuse. Idk if you feel the same?
this is very true in my situation my mother in law displays all on this list but crazy enough my father in law now retired for 5 years has adopted more then half of her traits It's scary we all only see a glimpse of his former cool and kind self on occassion sad but I dont feel sorry for him because he 100% backs her terrible habbits and hurtful personality traits. They have destroyed my relationship in 3 short years of 12yr relationship sincw moving closer after our first child. I have started to see the traits in our daughter as well. Currently working on moving far away
How to avoid these things:
1. Just don't have friends or family cut all ties with anybody talk only to random strangers on the internet for 2 days and you're good.
Great advice.. and too true I might add.
Thats been my strategy for the last 20 years. There's a great country song by Merle Haggard called "From Now on, All of My Friends are Gonna Be Strangers". It's a beauty...great lyrics.
Phillip Playz not having friends sucks because you get too lonely after a while
@@Kalanigomz No kidding, I was saying as a joke.
Doesn't work my online friend has been manipulating me for a while
Nawww this is scarily true, this is very helpful. All of them except 9 are directly in someone I know
Even tho they've been so manipulative and a snitch to me so many times, I'm still supporting them.
Love you Big brother and Little brother❤
bro... im sitting here stunned. ugh.... I am being manipulated
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Same I used to be Manipulated by my Mom
Suggestion
Run
Run for the hills
Like the plague is following you
kiz saaaameeee
@@iniubongnkanga9390 I know what you mean, I watched this and realized my girlfriend does all of these except for emotional blackmail
This is very accurate. I used to be in a very toxic long distance relationship. As it turns out, both my ex girlfriend and I were manipulators. Manipulating each others actions on every turn. She was the type to love attention from everyone else which is what made me become jealous and insecure. At the same time, she was kind sweet, gave me so many gifts(we physically met)etc. I was the type to manipulate her with emotions. Becoming very needy, controlling, jealous. She wasn't any different. I couldn't even hangout with my brother without any repercussions. She couldn't hangout with her friends without any repercussions from me. We mirrored each other perfectly. But I have changed. I hope she has too. I learned my lesson and now I feel at peace. But it just goes to show that sometimes, either you mirror your partners actions, or you both are 2 sides of the same coin.
God, this is SO scary because I'm starting to realise that I've been dealing with this type of abuse my whole life. Seriously questioning whether I'm the one to blame. I think blame is usually shared in most cases. I've had thoughts of killing myself since I was a kid. I keep wondering if it's even possible to salvage any type of life worth living. I've had M.S. since 2005 .
Cold Eyes Yes I Had The Same Thing, but i wasn't so on the manipulative side, i did get jealous at points but it was because of my life situations, she had it better than me a bit, but she was the one who manipulated me the most and guilt tripping me and went by a friend and played victim and acused mé of dóing thát, ALOT Of Hell I Went through, also made me fall in love then turned on me just like that now of course i would lose my shit and get hurt then she just turned hostile and malovelent first hand then i get branded the bad piece of shit and she went by a friend of mine to Triangulating, another form of manipulation i learned of here and go off by him how i am this and that and doing this that to her, playing the victim to win him over to her side and ultimately got him to brand me a "someone like that" making me bad like i am such a horrible thing that would abuse and hit her and it went to mind games with me staying away from her cause of her hostility only for her to come and frantically cry by me i leave and ignore her "while she just wants to talk" and so forth and denied the hostile things she spew when i took her on over it, she even made this friend of mine to step on me too one time with shit when i tried crying by him for help for the pain i was going through but at least we still friends, All i know is i didnt and NEVER did this girl ANYTHING she was the one who came into my life and turned it around only to mess it all up again and even told me things about "i must not mess up others 'socalled fun" while in Gods name she was the one messing my life up...
@@johnk6023 i was abused all my life too, abusive family abusive household
@@johnk6023 That's a sign of gaslighting.
@@johnk6023 Life, if you look at it from a better perspective, can bring wonders.
idk if the creator see this, but i just want to say thank you so much for doing this. this help me a lot going through hard time with my toxic ex bf. thankyou so much for make me or even others to understand if someone being manipulated
Thank you sm for those infos.I found out my mom is manipulative.I always knew something was off
It’s hard to determine if you’re truly being manipulated, because most of the points mentioned are what all people do to some extent.
Sometimes without meaning harm
Not true, if someone shows even 80% of these signs then they are either knowingly a manipulator or unknowingly one.
Michael Guajardo Yeah agreed. I don’t know many people who threaten to kill themselves when someone leaves and it sure as hell isnt normal.
True
Also 100 likes yasss
Well, most people do this to get a social advantage. Even me, my sister, teachers, classmates, or just about anyone who had been manipulated before/forced by their environment to manipulate others to get an advantage.
I had never heard of gaslighting before,just realized it was driving me crazy, over apologing and over thinking...
Be careful with that. Im definitely not saying it's not possible or likely and I am saying, avoid labelling what isn't gaslighting, gaslighting, if it's not gaslighting. My ex was told and/or read all this "narcissist" crap and started interpreting all my behaviors based on that, but it was wrong, very wrong. And she caused me a lot of risk at that point. I was harmless and she would barely have a 2 way conversation.
leave me alone...... you trashed me ten years ago I didn't get to see anything since frankly..... leave me alone
Fuck it gets bad, “you don’t remember everything”, “why do you think you know everything” “I KNOW what happened” they can target the smallest detail and made me feel little, dumb and crazy.
Thank you thank you thank you so much for this🤗🤗🤗🙏🙏🙏 i wasnt sure if my mom is and was manipulating me but now i know! Now i am learning how to respond!!🙏
#8 my friend is doing number #8 to me. I felt like this was happening but I couldn’t put it into words- but I’m so happy I watched this video. This shows that this can happen
Its sad when manpiluators are family......
Yes, it is...and I'm sorry if you're going through your motions yourself. ♥ Please stay safe and know that you can always reach out for help.
It's hard if it's within your family. But if it's your friend, just follow your path, say that you don't have time right now.
Make your life filled with events, it'll make you grow as a person and will make that manipulative person go away on it's own.
There should be some events about professional skills, how to use your knowledge...
Or just start to study some language and whenever he want's to do something you can say that you are occupied with study.
I have the same fate, but that guy is my sisters husband and I just don't talk to him more than enough, we don't live in same house, just the same city. -.-
I don't know how much time I wasted on him, to help him with his ''problems''.
When I need something or just want to talk, his reply is: say what you need, I don't have time.
When there is a problem, they would wait for me 2hrs (time to get to their house by walking) to start doing something that they need. They wont start unless I'm there -.-
That's what I hate the most, it's like they don't have hands or brain...
But when we need to study (or something like that), they can't wait a single sec...
Now I contact them only when it's urgent and my life became more durable :)
My message to you, hang on a little longer until you can move out (if you live with them).
Same, my dad and his family is like this. It got horrible to the point I stopped hanging around them. Sometimes you have to do that and it sucks. :(
@@Gazettelover9 yeah sometimes you have to go no contact.😰
its insane if its your parents (but luckily for me its not)
but its bad with my cousin
1:44
Manipulator:"lol chicken"
Victim:"yeah haha"
Manipulator:"you=chicken lol"
Victim:"oh no"
10/10
LMAO
Yeah, that joke crossed the line 😂
Lmaaaoooo
After I watched this I just realized that majority of my friends are like this like everytime I don’t feel like doing something or can’t help them and I say “No” they make me feel like that “bad guy” and smooth talk me into doing something and tbh it kinda sucks being the nice person because people just use you and hurt you 😔