I used to feel single when I was with someone but I think I found my soulmate. My message to anyone single, if you are in a relationship that *you* don't like, leave, you *will* find that person that is best for u
I was until 1 month ago then she broke up with me to date another guy and i was broken but im now fine and hoping for better in the futare and wish everybody to not go throght this
*Timestamps* 1:05 1) Being too dependent 1:38 2) Being too independent 2:21 3) Manipulation 3:12 4) You emerge Identities 4:09 5) Acting Selfish and making demands 5:13 6) Confusing Love with emotional hunger
I can easily say that I have dropped all of my hobbies and pastimes to adopt my partner’s hobbies and pastimes. Realizing too late that I’ve lost who I am because I don’t do what I love anymore. I am also probably emotional hungry and very well could me mistaking it for love at this point. Wonderful video, greatly appreciate this awareness
If People talk like this, they show their toxic nature, that gave no room for real interaction: "I think it's hilarious you think I'm the one being disrespectful, mean and abusive. Have you read any of your comments.?! Your contempt is astounding!" As if this kind of person ever care about how they talk as long as they get from others what they want, as if they are a teacher, just because of the fact that they watch everything from the outside.
Ugh... This gives me chills back when I called out my narcissistic father for his physical abuse. He almost said the same thing from your quoted statement while he was hitting me at the same time after. Eugh, chills. Tried to gaslight me that "I was the one physically abusing him" for DEFENDING myself. Jesus, fucking pathetic.
I would too. It gave me a new term to look into. I was always questioning how to know you're in love or just thriving from the attention and companionship.
This is a sign that it's okay to say no. You have permission to protect your boundaries. Stretch the corners of your mouth up. You are enough. You are worthy. You are loved. You can do hard things. 💗 Dr. Liz
when you get rid of a toxic relationship it feels good. But the people who will you meet will be affected, trust issues, being too emotional, overthinking, and we become sensitive. sometimes we got the toxicity because of our past, but then we need a partner to gradually understand us, feel secure and gain out trusts. its not a fast phase, but a step by step so we can had a peace of mind in our new and next relationships
These signs are not just for romantic relationships, but platonic, friendships, and family relationships too! All of these signs perfectly describe the best friend I had for 44 years!! Some of the most toxic people are the ones that seem the closest to you!! 💕💕💕💕💕
I broke up with my girlfriend because she was too dependent. She needed me at every hour of every second. And when I went to work or hung out with my friend, all hell broke lose with her.
Don't get me wrong, but it is not always that your partner is toxic it can be you too but you may not realize. If you ever feel you're in a toxic relationship first think then talk with your partner. Whenever you have a problem leaving a relationship is definitely not a solution. Talk let them know how they behave, or if it is you think if you can change that behavior. Not everyone is perfect, people have flaws. As mentioned in this video changing in a positive way matters example may be working on your toxic behaviors to change them. Hold on to your relationship if you think maybe you or your partner can work on these issues, if it still doesn't work then maybe you should consider leaving. Communication is the key part, when you talk with your partner you can work on many issues if you have any. Whatever it is talk let them know. Running away from problems ain't a solution for anything try working on it if it still doesn't make any changes then you may consider leaving.
People are really quick to forget that it often takes two to dance a "toxic" tango. IMO most people -- if not all -- have some "toxic" relationship behaviors (a WAY over-utilized blanket term). Some people are truly awful and simply cannot take responsibility for their actions. In that case, leave. But one must remember that there is likely an unhealthy element to THEIR personality if they wound up in a long-term relationship with this person in the first place. Very few relationships start out unhealthy and unfulfilling -- they become that way because of communication issues, unresolved deep-seated personality/ideological differences, and unaddressed baggage/insecurities. Maybe the "non-toxic" partner (haha, funny joke) struggles with some codependent, enabling tendencies, maybe a fear of being alone, of abandonment, of conflict and accountability (so nothing gets resolved)...perhaps they even thrive off of the conflict in their relationship, as it gives them a sense of composed superiority (parent to an emotional child) over their "dramatic" partner (who really just wants to be listened to and keeps creating conflict in the hopes of resolving deeper issues). Maybe the "non-toxic" partner derives worth from trying to "fix" people or being a "nice" person. In some cases, addressing these relationship patterns would result in a totally different relationship (or relationship failure), so both partners stay in the same unproductive cycle out of fear. These are things that can and should be addressed, because they can absolutely be overcome -- provided both partners are still actually invested each other as humans, and not just in the relationship dynamic/status quo (from which a part of them benefits in some way). On the other hand, if someone is physically, financially, or verbally abusing you (male or female), GTFO. If you are unsafe, that is a totally worthy reason to give up on "fixing it."
Yeah- uhm., I don't really know if I'm in a toxic relationship so I need someone to confirm it. You see.. I've been dating this girl at my school- and she seems to be really obsessed with me. She says she keeps following me to my classes and somehow knows my schedule- my teachers and whatnot- she said that she wanted to kidnap me and leave me in her basement. She keeps taking pictures of me without me knowing, even when I ask her not to, because it makes me uncomfortable. She even took an inappropriate picture of me- and when she showed it to me I told her that I was angry with her. She ran away and started crying, saying that she didn't mean to, and that she was going to cut herself. I felt really bad so I forgave her. And there was this one time when I was sitting down, hanging out and talking to our friends. I needed to go to the bathroom so I got out of my seat and went. When I came back, one of her friends was sitting on my chair. I didn't really mid that much because I felt like standing up anyways. When my girlfriend saw me, she literally, full force pushed her out of the chair and looked at me, waiting for me to claim my seat back. Her own friend. I told her "Why the hell did you do that-" and helped her friend back up. Her friend was just in total shock.. but it seems like she expected it for some reason..She just kept looking at me like some obedient dog after she pushed her.. I couldn't remember the rest but yeah. And there was this one time- (lol i feel like I'm saying too much) when I couldn't come to school one day, my friends told me the next day that she threw whole tantrum In her last class just because I wasn't here.. for one day. He weird behavior makes me feel weirdly unsafe in her presence. Like she could just walk calmly right next to me and say hi, and I still would jump. I'm starting to think it's toxic, and ive been thinking about breaking up with her, but I'm scared. I'm scared about what she would do to herself and others if I did that. Help.
Yes, leaving was the best part as she had mental disorders..... She can't take any joke, while im at my worst, and depressed, i make mistake, and yet, just for the sake of one wrong word she bring all of her friends and boyfriend..... Guess she will never happy for the rest of her life, she had her own flaws and trauma, maybe there's another guy better for her....
@Lana Hasan how do you think a person knows their own toxic behavior? You gotta let them know, if you don’t then they’ll be like “I’m always right” blah and blah. Let them fucking know you’re toxic you’re hurting me if they try to change good for you, if they don’t then the only option will be letting them go. People sometimes need to have their chance, what if they change when you let them know their behavior is hurting you? Some might or might not. You can’t expect a person to change all of a sudden. Plus if person is so toxic you gotta let them fucking know!
If you’re in a toxic relationship, you let your partner know about their behavior, if they correct it that’s good if not, it’s better leaving them. Cause at the end, you’re the one who gets hurt at the end.
I feel like my the relationship I had with my toxic partner was super one-sided. I would always put my effort into giving him support, time, and so much love. While he kept talking about his own interests and not letting me talk about mines without him pushing them away or questioning me about it. He'd never support me if I ever reached a goal, he'd only get mad at me for it and say that he's not good at anything. Which made me feel like it was my fault. I think I had the right to slowly avoid him from time to time, because I really didn't feel loved enough. Just felt used most of the time. In the past, he would also get upset with me if I did one thing wrong, he'd call me stupid many times. I stayed in that relationship with him for 8 years. He did became a bit more nicer but it felt like he only wanted me for his own benefit and only cause he felt alone. I also had a gut feeling something bad was bound to happen soon. It was so hard to trust him. After that, he started to cheat on me with someone younger because I gave him less attention and I was so depressed talking to him. He moved on so quickly like if our relationship really meant nothing. It still breaks my heart to see he never apologized for anything he's done to me.
Who is good, who is bad: that is the question. Nearly everyone falls short of being totally one or the other. The question is, when looking out for someone as a partner of some sort, how are they being to you. They could be an absolute angel to everyone but abusive to you. For example, certain abusive polygamists have been discovered who had been “model Christians”.
i remebember having someone who used to manipulate me into doing what they wanted(they would say they're gonna leave me if I dont), i also used to emerge my personality and be too emotionally hungry. it's a big difference now that i'm aware of it and not around them anymore. take care you guys♡ edit: i just realized we were on and off for 4years and 5months, that's such a long time omg🥲
Toxic people talk like this, just because they think the know who they are and how they talk: "whatever you said?!. I have no clue what you are blading about incoherently. I never mentioned any of that. Please don't explain either it will fall on grayrocked ears." Narcissists know how to focus on their victim as if their own nature is nothing bad at all, only "selfprotection", not gaslightning or blaming or slander.
Yup. I had a frie d who manipulated me by talking exactly like tnat. She always played the victim. I once asked her to stop messaging me as much, and she blew up. What got me to leave was when she bought me a game I played a few times, and when I started playing a new one, she complained I wasn't playing the game she got me more. She said "What a waste of money." That was the last straw.
Loneliness isn't the most fun or desirable of emotions, but it does beat being in any kind of toxic relationship. I consider myself blessed to only be lonely.
i just blocked him after a year of friendship and being on and off. he would brag about making people cry, and whenever i would confront him about his wrongdoings, he would break down and play victim, often threatening to hurt himself. i was vulnerable with him and told him about my trauma, and his immediate reaction was to make fun of what happened and begged for me to tell him more even though i voiced that i felt uncomfortable. his reaction to me cutting him off was absolutely awful, he played the victim even though i said that it was all my fault to protect him. i'm lonely now. have no one to talk to. no one truly knows me. this is going to be a long journey. edit: 3 months later, 18th October 2021. to be honest i'm not very fulfilled with life, things that interested me no longer bring me joy. but i'm so much happier out of that relationship and haven't contacted him since. i'm looking forward to my journey in getting the help and love that i deserve. i am a must stronger person, and i know my worth. thank you to all that replied to my comment, your words really helped me so so so much.
You need to love yourself and make yourself happy first, grow strong find some friends and have fun! Experience life, and then you can find a relationship, no one will step on you like he did
He sounds like a sociopath and NPD.. believe me, you did the right thing... these kind of people destroy you first, isolate you from family and friends by playing the victim to them then they'll take it all online FB/Instagram or whoever will listen with a smear campaign.. then break you down and manipulate you so much.. they own you.. from what you've said... Your trauma bonded to him.. read up on it and enjoy your escape and freedom because believe me.. he would've took you apart till there was nothing left.. celebrate .. your never alone.. take care ❤️
It's better to leave a relationship that will hurt you, than to stay unhappy, and toxic. Life is short. It'll be painful in the next few days, or months, or weeks, but you're on your way to becoming the best you can be. Without anyone holding you down or causing toxic issues.
I have emotional hunger, my psychologist literally told me that i need to slowly taste the emotions and enjoy them, not eat all the affection and needing more. Now I understand why
On the #1 dependency issue, inviting one's partner along, etc. can also mean that the partner gets angry if not included. It's not necessarily that the person wants to bring their partner along.
Found myself to be clingy because of what I lacked in my own life since childhood. So now I have to tell people that or keep my distance to avoid doing so. It’s really hard to express to someone that may have feelings for me, that I feel like I’m not mentally well enough to get into a relationship. So far I’ve been focusing on myself for a year and hopefully another.
This sounds like me and is the main reason why I don’t trust my gut when it comes to wanting to dump someone or not, I can’t tell if I need them or actually have strong romantic feelings. Gotta say, you have come a long way just be acknowledged that you need to figure your self out first
Same here. Especially because I deal with family drama still, I tend to attach to people who actually respect me and don't make me feel like shit. I can't express myself really good either. If I do, I'm over the top and I feel bad bc I worry I scare off people. I've started to isolate a lot more. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality and i feel like it's consuming me. It's hard to talk to people without people thinking you're crazy or something. It sucks ass
Gosh, my eyes being more opened with this. Both of me and my ex have toxic relationship tendencies. While I was being too independent, avoid doing usual romantic activities, and losing my friends. He was the dependent, manipulative, always thinking being disrespected, and the hunger ones. Unfortunately, I got used to these and become more in love with him, even though I have acknowledged that toxicness since the first five month of dating
I didnt experience this on a personal level, but I saw it in my parents’ relationship, THANK GOD they are not together anymore because it was extended to us as well, it was too difficult to handle
I'm here to say that i just got out of a toxic relationship. This video, among others, helped me recognize these red flags. I watched it way long ago [before the relationship] and even if it took a while for me to really set my mind and recognize that something was wrong it really helped me admit that this was not ok and eventually I had to get out of there. Even if you don't see a toxic relationship right away, remember that the important thing is that you regonize this flaws and don't let anyone manipulate you into thinking that 'love can deal with everything' or anything like this. If you're not comfortable, tell them, and if they don't respect that, they don't deserve you. Plain and simple. No one should feel trapped with someone if they're not fully sure or comfortable. And even if it takes a while, don't be afraid to ve direct, ask for help, or seek a professional. I wish you all a good day and happy lives❤
It's interesting how a toxic partner can influence you. When you finally get into a mutual love relationship, you appreciate the small things about your partner the affection, support, love, honesty, etc. I would say the hardship and suffering makes you appreciate others more than if you did not have the toxic relationship, just my opinion. So by that I would say that everything bad is good for something, might sound like a clycheé, but IMO it is partly based on reality. Whoever is reading this, you will eventually find someone who will love you for who you are, stay safe and whatever you do, believe in yourself and be happy.
So happy to got off a toxic relationship, no wonder my Mom is against him and the family (including extended fam) do not agree with the relationship. They saw the red flags that i was too blind to see. I thank my family and my Lord for the guidance and strength. I hope someone in a toxic relationship can get out too and find happiness
Can’t break up because once he mentioned that “you might see me on the headlines of newspaper.” He also said “you won’t see me no more" , “I’ll go far away” People always sees him as an “innocent” person but deep down I’m just drowning from his attitude or his true side. So sorry if he sees this but I also have feelings to be alive in this world
That is a very big sign he may be manipulating you or using you. You are in no way responsible for someone's life, and no one should be threatening to run away or kill themselves to get you to do something that they want, that is a very easy way to control someone. If you feel as though leaving is dangerous for either you or him, ironically that's a pretty good reason to leave in the first place. If you can I encourage you to at least talk to him and explain that it's really not healthy for him to be saying stuff like that, make it clear that you're not okay with it and that it hurts you. Best of luck to you, hope that you're able to figure things out or that you're able to leave
I had to laugh at the bit about keeping your own identity. After being single and alone for 14 years, I don't even know who I am any more. It's like this: Being alone increased my perception. But when I applied my increased perception to myself, I lost my identity. There was no need to define myself and I became irrelevant in the universe.
I just got out of a toxic one. I'm not dependant on anyone, but my partner just disappeared like nothing, off for like 1 week and then everytime i would get a talk with her, she would ignore me sometime and the cycle starts again. Everytime we would build plans to make something together and most of the time she would just dump me, and i went like that for almost 8 months. Just to discover she was betraying me. Its been 2 months since erased her number and every social media we share, she didn't even bother texting me...
I feel the same way there. After four years of an unhealthy cycle, I finally managed to walk out as well. It just seemed like I was doing all the effort to keep the relationship going, and she didn’t. Much like your experience, every time I try to make plans for us together, she would just make up random excuses - “What if someone else sees us?” “Is it just gonna be the both of us?” Shit hurt. But yeah, I try not to delve much into that anymore. Above all, I hope things will get better for you Eugenest.
I’ve been so hooked up over my ex who I’ve now realized was SO TOXIC. I could have been doing so much stuff! If only I had literally watched this sooner, maybe I wouldn’t have been so hurt.
You hit the nail on the head when you stated that maybe you need to work on your relationship with yourself before moving on to a new relationship with someone else. I left my ex-husband in 1995 - I've been single ever since. Never looked back. At least I know that when I talk to myself I'll be guaranteed to get a superior, more intelligent response than I ever did with any of my exes and/or family members.
My older sister abuses me. She lies to me, starts arguments with me, steals from me. And yet gets angry at me whenever I block her. She has never apologized and never seems to feel guilty
It's weird to see this video after breaking up with my ex and both of us realizing we had most of these issues on our own. Well I had some and she had some I mean. It's just hard to give up knowing we can (and have) learn from these mistakes and are working on fixing them on our own lives, but not as a team like we used to... Well sorta, it's hard and complicated, giving up on someone you love even when knowing deep down that they're not the best for you.
I think a lot of people do #6. I try not to, which is why I'm still single. It's not easy when you can easily find someone to be that person you need, but if you don't love them, the relationship shouldn't happen. So I'm waiting to have feelings for someone, not get with someone out of vulnerability.
I haven’t been in a toxic relationship yet but I am worried about one of my friends who has recently been talking and tryna get back with her ex. Her ex left her with a lot of trauma and insecurities and SA her and cheated… if that wasn’t enough they had already gotten back together twice and I’m scared this’ll be their third time. She always mentions how much they’ve changed and though that’s good and all, I just wish she didn’t even talk to them. It really worries me because I’ve commented my feelings with it and they seem to be dead straight on this. I guess I can’t like and forgive someone who hurted and manipulated them and im scared she’s too attached to them but she just sees it as a sign of true love and forgets about it. She deserves way better and it’s a shame she’s going for the bottom of the barrel.(edit: she never did anything wrong but she always blames herself and feels bad because they feel they were the problem of the relationship…)
@@RayzorWingTCE Thanks I try to but I’m worried I’ll anger/annoy them because the last time I told them this they ignored me for a couple days and I’ve known them for 3 years now but it’s an online thing so we’ve never actually seen each other irl but I appreciate it a lot! Thank you.
Mmm I kinda felt this :/ But you can't force someone to see reason, they will feel how they feel. We were to try to manipulate their free will, we'd be no better than the toxic ex right? I dunno... that's how I think of it
My ex was extremely toxic. She wanted everything Becher way and despite our being in a committed relationship, she was actually cheating on me during our what I thought was a committed relationship. She was selfish and wanted all the power in our relationship. She shut down my romantic affections. She told me when I asked for her number at first she said I was “trying to own her.” I gave 110% to us. But she didn't commit to me after 2.5 years. She cheated on me and was emotionally unavailable. I committed in everything I did. But she didn't commit to me and “us”. She lashed out at me saying “There is no “us.” she destroyed my heart!!!
Yeah, there certainly are plenty of fish in the sea, but there's also a lot of trash in it too. And guess what I got the last three times, hook, line, and sinker?
When narcissist be like this you know you are talking to a wall: "I see letters on the screen like it's some form of communication, but I can't recognize it as such. If you are trying to communicate please try again." And when then react like this, if you comment, you know you are talking with a machine, not a person: "DO DUH DEE- we're sorry- the person you are trying to harass is currently unavailable oh, don't try again later."
when some is mental and obsessed about a person and claim they loOoOOOove this person i tell them “sounds a lot more like infatuation, don’t confuse the 2”
Hahahah I feel ya 😅 but one can't open their eyes nor judge them. Their path is their own and their life is their business. Lets just be wise in our own lives if we can
I have suffered from a toxic relationship except it was mostly me being the toxic one, i have done wrong, so much wrong, and i do regret some of the things i have done, but many things were outta self defense too, she wouldnt respect when i wanted to be alone...
The way it took me so long to realise that my ex gave zero fucks about me that when my dad saw it and broke us up, my ex moved on so quickly like days after.. and I suffered for months wanting them back but when I with them I became a horrible person and isolated myself from people.. it took me 5 months to get over this.. if I could go back, I would listen to my family and friends about the red flags and talk to someone about it I hope others reach out when they feel unsure about a relationship and always make sure that your needs are also balanced with your s/o needs so you both are healthy and happy
@@sprout12730 yeah it hurts in so many kinds of ways like you feel betrayed, annoyed, hurt, fear of being in a relationship again.. but you learn how to heal over time. and ive learned that i should always considerng my feelings as well as othe
@@TrashyStar9 I really do hope you feel a lot better now! It takes time and acceptance, it's best to surround yourself with positive people in your life. Or to maybe try to work on yourself and mental health more! I'm still trying to cope with my ex moving on, since we've been together for about 7 years, im still not completely over it. But the thing he was doing for me to stay was manipulation. I wished I could have left them sooner because I was more likely risking getting hurt again. Sorry for venting btw!
@@sprout12730 no no its all good venting, its good to let out vents once in a while, personally sometimes talking to people idk personally helps me better than people im close too.. but yeah ive gotten way better
That moment when all of these points hit on one of my previous relationships. Weeeelllllp, thanks for the information, I had a feeling although this kinda hit it home.
There is no black and white in any relationship, there are lots of grey. If we strictly follow all the guidelines shown in this channel we won't be able to get into any relationship
Wait- How can you all time travel?? I can't think straight because of curiosity lol I am the only one who is single but still watching this because of the soothing, calm vioce & their cute, aesthetic animation?
@☁︎caught a thought☁︎ Yaz her voice helps me sleep at night, love your surname and the cloud thingy btw! 💜 And we have the same name, my name is Julia too
@☁︎caught a thought☁︎ You're welcome! I hope your safe & healthy, 'cause we still have a lot of covid cases here in my country. Oh and if you want, I'll share with you a video that makes me laugh everytime I'm sad, maybe you already watched this but I'll just share it with you! ( Here it is!: ruclips.net/video/AnneBSXX4hc/видео.html) 2:29 is the one who got me laughing on the floor 🤣 💜
Remember, everything has beneficial and dentrimental sides: Most of these signs are detrimental for relationships that are based on commonality, but could be beneficial for relationships based on being complimentary. Aside from that: Without the beneficial side of manipulation, psychology courses wouldn't have existed
Me and my boyfriend use to fight a lot like it's almost every alternate day which affects my daily life and ends up draining my whole energy. So when it gets too much I take up around 2-3 days to recover like I don't talk to him much or call him and that lead to him getting anxious that I am drifting away from him. Even after doing everything and telling him it's just me who needs time seems like there's no end to this. I considered breaking up but he ended up saying I am abondoning him and that we can change the situation. I have no clue what to do😔 Also as a college student these fights consume so much time of my study hours.
Oh god I relate to this so much. This was a viscous cycle that started 2 months after our relationship started, and I'd have a tendency to get out of it everytime it took a toll on my mental health, but he'd say something similar like I would be abandoning him, given that he already had issues at home with his father. I'd feel bad and go back every single time. But then I realised, I wasn't happy in the relationship, and neither was he. I finally took the big step 10 months later and let him go. It was painful, because we had a toxic parasitic relationship, but after a point, I felt so relieved. I know he eventually moved on too and he's with someone else. Ever since it got over, I've chosen to stay single. It's so relieving.
I recently got out of a toxic relationship. She was always really depending on me. Wanting to talk on the phone with me everyday for hours. I was literally abandoning everything I wanted to do, just to talk with her. Because if I said no she would be upset or get one of her freak outs that I would leave her. That and a few other things (like lying to me) really drained me to a point where I had small breakdowns and sleepless nights. I'm happy that I got out of this relationship and now I'm trying to get mentally better again. She still wants to be friends with me.. But I don't know what to think about it
Im single and it feels like that will never change again. Dont know if it was me or her, but it was toxic. She gave me the feeling to be nothing, like 'you dont earn enough money, dont drive fat cars, dont have 2 jobs, and thousands of friends'. She started this behaviour after 3 of 4 years, when she started earning more than me. Before that she made me feel very happy in love. Lost all my contacts, all feelings of fun and good life, even the emotional near to my family, my hobbies felt senseless, just lost my complete self. While trying to get "better". Then she left me for someone with a buisiness. As i saw, her new partner dropped her after 2 weeks, for getting his ex back. But the feelings all this gave me, especially to feel a big shame,wont go ever. Feeling like a dead person in a living world 5 years now(im 28). Tried so much, but nothing helps. Not new friends, not new partners, not family contact, no new jobs, no new hobbies, also professional help doesnt. Just feel like life s*cks hard,everyday since that. And its hard to resist suicidal thoughts aswell. :/
Who here is single? Raise your hands ;)
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I’m single, but I’m pretty sure there is someone who has a crush on me ✋
I used to feel single when I was with someone but I think I found my soulmate. My message to anyone single, if you are in a relationship that *you* don't like, leave, you *will* find that person that is best for u
*raise hand*
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Hoping that everyone here won't be in a toxic relationship
Pfft I am not even interested in a relationship.
@@afriendlyhermit1080 mood
You too
I was until 1 month ago then she broke up with me to date another guy and i was broken but im now fine and hoping for better in the futare and wish everybody to not go throght this
@NURNAJWA ZULAIQHA BINTI MOHD ZOLKIFLY Moe thx im pretty much happy rn because i understood that it was for the best
*Timestamps*
1:05 1) Being too dependent
1:38 2) Being too independent
2:21 3) Manipulation
3:12 4) You emerge Identities
4:09 5) Acting Selfish and making demands
5:13 6) Confusing Love with emotional hunger
Ty fellow time traveler
Thanks for putting this together! :)
Thank you 🙏
Thanks kind traveler!
Wth time traveler
I can easily say that I have dropped all of my hobbies and pastimes to adopt my partner’s hobbies and pastimes. Realizing too late that I’ve lost who I am because I don’t do what I love anymore. I am also probably emotional hungry and very well could me mistaking it for love at this point. Wonderful video, greatly appreciate this awareness
Hope you are doing better
I'm watching this just in case I DO get into a toxic relationship.
Gotta be prepared, thanks for the lesson!
Same reason Im here, mate👍
I think we just hope a relationship and no matter how is going good or bad buddy :,(
If People talk like this, they show their toxic nature, that gave no room for real interaction: "I think it's hilarious you think I'm the one being disrespectful, mean and abusive. Have you read any of your comments.?! Your contempt is astounding!" As if this kind of person ever care about how they talk as long as they get from others what they want, as if they are a teacher, just because of the fact that they watch everything from the outside.
omg i’m like that lowkey...
Ugh... This gives me chills back when I called out my narcissistic father for his physical abuse. He almost said the same thing from your quoted statement while he was hitting me at the same time after. Eugh, chills.
Tried to gaslight me that "I was the one physically abusing him" for DEFENDING myself. Jesus, fucking pathetic.
Who else wants a full video on Emotional Hunger
Mee
@@gachanow8910 why? She’s just a normal girl
Emotional Hunger is the name of my new fast food restaurant
yes plzz
It’s bad to be selfish, and it’s bad when you always listen to others.
We can try to strike a balance or set some healthy boundaries for ourselves.
True
A certain amount of selfishness is normal and acceptable. To be the opposite, totally selfless, is to be a jellyfish, a spineless wimp.
yes
I would be interested in hearing more about the topic of emotional hunger.
Same
No don’t pay attention to it 😊
I would too. It gave me a new term to look into. I was always questioning how to know you're in love or just thriving from the attention and companionship.
Me too
yep
This is a sign that it's okay to say no.
You have permission to protect your boundaries. Stretch the corners of your mouth up. You are enough. You are worthy. You are loved. You can do hard things.
💗 Dr. Liz
😭😭😭😭😭😭❤❤❤❤❤
when you get rid of a toxic relationship it feels good. But the people who will you meet will be affected, trust issues, being too emotional, overthinking, and we become sensitive. sometimes we got the toxicity because of our past, but then we need a partner to gradually understand us, feel secure and gain out trusts. its not a fast phase, but a step by step so we can had a peace of mind in our new and next relationships
What Netflix series are you currently watching? If you're not watching Netflix, what do you watch? Comment below.
I dont watch Netflix :')
sorry, I dont watch Netflix :')
La Casa de Papel ( MONEY HEIST )
TRESE! It's an anime that showcases Philippine Mythology, y'all should definitely check it out!
Carla Samuel
i recommend it:D👍
it is new and you might not understand it
so the prequel of that love story is Elite
These signs are not just for romantic relationships, but platonic, friendships, and family relationships too! All of these signs perfectly describe the best friend I had for 44 years!! Some of the most toxic people are the ones that seem the closest to you!! 💕💕💕💕💕
I broke up with my girlfriend because she was too dependent. She needed me at every hour of every second. And when I went to work or hung out with my friend, all hell broke lose with her.
Damn, sorry to hear. Are you doing okay right now after that?
(If I don’t reply, my notifications broke)
Did you try to communicate with her about it ?
@@lianakeirasky3877 i did over and over again.
@@SillySamWho it was hard the first at first. But I think I’ve for the most part healed
@@MissSirenita Would she scream at you if you didn't spend time with her ? Or when you would communicate about it to her ?
Don't get me wrong, but it is not always that your partner is toxic it can be you too but you may not realize. If you ever feel you're in a toxic relationship first think then talk with your partner. Whenever you have a problem leaving a relationship is definitely not a solution. Talk let them know how they behave, or if it is you think if you can change that behavior. Not everyone is perfect, people have flaws. As mentioned in this video changing in a positive way matters example may be working on your toxic behaviors to change them. Hold on to your relationship if you think maybe you or your partner can work on these issues, if it still doesn't work then maybe you should consider leaving. Communication is the key part, when you talk with your partner you can work on many issues if you have any. Whatever it is talk let them know. Running away from problems ain't a solution for anything try working on it if it still doesn't make any changes then you may consider leaving.
People are really quick to forget that it often takes two to dance a "toxic" tango. IMO most people -- if not all -- have some "toxic" relationship behaviors (a WAY over-utilized blanket term). Some people are truly awful and simply cannot take responsibility for their actions. In that case, leave. But one must remember that there is likely an unhealthy element to THEIR personality if they wound up in a long-term relationship with this person in the first place. Very few relationships start out unhealthy and unfulfilling -- they become that way because of communication issues, unresolved deep-seated personality/ideological differences, and unaddressed baggage/insecurities. Maybe the "non-toxic" partner (haha, funny joke) struggles with some codependent, enabling tendencies, maybe a fear of being alone, of abandonment, of conflict and accountability (so nothing gets resolved)...perhaps they even thrive off of the conflict in their relationship, as it gives them a sense of composed superiority (parent to an emotional child) over their "dramatic" partner (who really just wants to be listened to and keeps creating conflict in the hopes of resolving deeper issues). Maybe the "non-toxic" partner derives worth from trying to "fix" people or being a "nice" person. In some cases, addressing these relationship patterns would result in a totally different relationship (or relationship failure), so both partners stay in the same unproductive cycle out of fear. These are things that can and should be addressed, because they can absolutely be overcome -- provided both partners are still actually invested each other as humans, and not just in the relationship dynamic/status quo (from which a part of them benefits in some way). On the other hand, if someone is physically, financially, or verbally abusing you (male or female), GTFO. If you are unsafe, that is a totally worthy reason to give up on "fixing it."
Yeah- uhm., I don't really know if I'm in a toxic relationship so I need someone to confirm it. You see.. I've been dating this girl at my school- and she seems to be really obsessed with me. She says she keeps following me to my classes and somehow knows my schedule- my teachers and whatnot- she said that she wanted to kidnap me and leave me in her basement. She keeps taking pictures of me without me knowing, even when I ask her not to, because it makes me uncomfortable. She even took an inappropriate picture of me- and when she showed it to me I told her that I was angry with her. She ran away and started crying, saying that she didn't mean to, and that she was going to cut herself. I felt really bad so I forgave her. And there was this one time when I was sitting down, hanging out and talking to our friends. I needed to go to the bathroom so I got out of my seat and went. When I came back, one of her friends was sitting on my chair. I didn't really mid that much because I felt like standing up anyways. When my girlfriend saw me, she literally, full force pushed her out of the chair and looked at me, waiting for me to claim my seat back. Her own friend. I told her "Why the hell did you do that-" and helped her friend back up. Her friend was just in total shock.. but it seems like she expected it for some reason..She just kept looking at me like some obedient dog after she pushed her.. I couldn't remember the rest but yeah. And there was this one time- (lol i feel like I'm saying too much) when I couldn't come to school one day, my friends told me the next day that she threw whole tantrum In her last class just because I wasn't here.. for one day. He weird behavior makes me feel weirdly unsafe in her presence. Like she could just walk calmly right next to me and say hi, and I still would jump. I'm starting to think it's toxic, and ive been thinking about breaking up with her, but I'm scared. I'm scared about what she would do to herself and others if I did that.
Help.
Yes, leaving was the best part as she had mental disorders.....
She can't take any joke, while im at my worst, and depressed, i make mistake, and yet, just for the sake of one wrong word she bring all of her friends and boyfriend.....
Guess she will never happy for the rest of her life, she had her own flaws and trauma, maybe there's another guy better for her....
@Lana Hasan how do you think a person knows their own toxic behavior? You gotta let them know, if you don’t then they’ll be like “I’m always right” blah and blah. Let them fucking know you’re toxic you’re hurting me if they try to change good for you, if they don’t then the only option will be letting them go. People sometimes need to have their chance, what if they change when you let them know their behavior is hurting you? Some might or might not. You can’t expect a person to change all of a sudden. Plus if person is so toxic you gotta let them fucking know!
If you’re in a toxic relationship, you let your partner know about their behavior, if they correct it that’s good if not, it’s better leaving them. Cause at the end, you’re the one who gets hurt at the end.
I feel like my the relationship I had with my toxic partner was super one-sided. I would always put my effort into giving him support, time, and so much love. While he kept talking about his own interests and not letting me talk about mines without him pushing them away or questioning me about it. He'd never support me if I ever reached a goal, he'd only get mad at me for it and say that he's not good at anything. Which made me feel like it was my fault. I think I had the right to slowly avoid him from time to time, because I really didn't feel loved enough. Just felt used most of the time. In the past, he would also get upset with me if I did one thing wrong, he'd call me stupid many times. I stayed in that relationship with him for 8 years. He did became a bit more nicer but it felt like he only wanted me for his own benefit and only cause he felt alone. I also had a gut feeling something bad was bound to happen soon. It was so hard to trust him. After that, he started to cheat on me with someone younger because I gave him less attention and I was so depressed talking to him. He moved on so quickly like if our relationship really meant nothing. It still breaks my heart to see he never apologized for anything he's done to me.
Who is good, who is bad: that is the question. Nearly everyone falls short of being totally one or the other. The question is, when looking out for someone as a partner of some sort, how are they being to you. They could be an absolute angel to everyone but abusive to you. For example, certain abusive polygamists have been discovered who had been “model Christians”.
i remebember having someone who used to manipulate me into doing what they wanted(they would say they're gonna leave me if I dont), i also used to emerge my personality and be too emotionally hungry. it's a big difference now that i'm aware of it and not around them anymore. take care you guys♡
edit: i just realized we were on and off for 4years and 5months, that's such a long time omg🥲
World taking out the bad things of your way 🙏❤️
@@eugenest thank you, I wish you the best😊🤍
Feel
scary ... i hope you'll heal as soon as possible
To be honest these could also be helpful for family/friend relationship(s).
Toxic people talk like this, just because they think the know who they are and how they talk: "whatever you said?!. I have no clue what you are blading about incoherently. I never mentioned any of that. Please don't explain either it will fall on grayrocked ears." Narcissists know how to focus on their victim as if their own nature is nothing bad at all, only "selfprotection", not gaslightning or blaming or slander.
Yup. I had a frie d who manipulated me by talking exactly like tnat. She always played the victim. I once asked her to stop messaging me as much, and she blew up. What got me to leave was when she bought me a game I played a few times, and when I started playing a new one, she complained I wasn't playing the game she got me more. She said "What a waste of money." That was the last straw.
@@LeftytheGansterGremlin same, and my ex bff manipulated me for 8 years ;-;
@@rawr8242 I'm sorry to hear that. I know how difficult it is to try and move on when it's been that long.
@@rawr8242 Same here!! But it was with my ex partner 🤧
Loneliness isn't the most fun or desirable of emotions, but it does beat being in any kind of toxic relationship.
I consider myself blessed to only be lonely.
got here real fast dont know what to say but drink water and take care of yourself, everybody!
Me: *is single*
Brain: Just in case bro
exactly :D
This also goes for friendships, so it’s never wrong to watch.
I think my parents are toxic (NO THIS IS NOT A INCEST JOKE)
ME
I'm aroace (romance repulsed), but i had a toxic friendship, so here we are
i just blocked him after a year of friendship and being on and off. he would brag about making people cry, and whenever i would confront him about his wrongdoings, he would break down and play victim, often threatening to hurt himself. i was vulnerable with him and told him about my trauma, and his immediate reaction was to make fun of what happened and begged for me to tell him more even though i voiced that i felt uncomfortable. his reaction to me cutting him off was absolutely awful, he played the victim even though i said that it was all my fault to protect him.
i'm lonely now. have no one to talk to. no one truly knows me. this is going to be a long journey.
edit: 3 months later, 18th October 2021. to be honest i'm not very fulfilled with life, things that interested me no longer bring me joy. but i'm so much happier out of that relationship and haven't contacted him since. i'm looking forward to my journey in getting the help and love that i deserve. i am a must stronger person, and i know my worth. thank you to all that replied to my comment, your words really helped me so so so much.
God, it's amazing how evil people can be. I'm SO GLAD you got out of that cicle. This random stranger is happy for you!
You need to love yourself and make yourself happy first, grow strong find some friends and have fun! Experience life, and then you can find a relationship, no one will step on you like he did
He sounds like a sociopath and NPD.. believe me, you did the right thing... these kind of people destroy you first, isolate you from family and friends by playing the victim to them then they'll take it all online FB/Instagram or whoever will listen with a smear campaign.. then break you down and manipulate you so much.. they own you.. from what you've said... Your trauma bonded to him.. read up on it and enjoy your escape and freedom because believe me.. he would've took you apart till there was nothing left.. celebrate .. your never alone.. take care ❤️
It's better to leave a relationship that will hurt you, than to stay unhappy, and toxic. Life is short. It'll be painful in the next few days, or months, or weeks, but you're on your way to becoming the best you can be. Without anyone holding you down or causing toxic issues.
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 I'm sending you a VERY BIG BEAR HUG🤗!!! and wish you to find someone who will support and care for you 😘😘😌!
I have emotional hunger, my psychologist literally told me that i need to slowly taste the emotions and enjoy them, not eat all the affection and needing more. Now I understand why
On the #1 dependency issue, inviting one's partner along, etc. can also mean that the partner gets angry if not included. It's not necessarily that the person wants to bring their partner along.
Hi Time Traveller Again 👋
Hello there!
Oh, hello dear!!
Hi fellow time traveler
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Hi
Found myself to be clingy because of what I lacked in my own life since childhood. So now I have to tell people that or keep my distance to avoid doing so.
It’s really hard to express to someone that may have feelings for me, that I feel like I’m not mentally well enough to get into a relationship.
So far I’ve been focusing on myself for a year and hopefully another.
This sounds like me and is the main reason why I don’t trust my gut when it comes to wanting to dump someone or not, I can’t tell if I need them or actually have strong romantic feelings. Gotta say, you have come a long way just be acknowledged that you need to figure your self out first
Same here. Especially because I deal with family drama still, I tend to attach to people who actually respect me and don't make me feel like shit. I can't express myself really good either. If I do, I'm over the top and I feel bad bc I worry I scare off people. I've started to isolate a lot more. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality and i feel like it's consuming me. It's hard to talk to people without people thinking you're crazy or something. It sucks ass
Gosh, my eyes being more opened with this. Both of me and my ex have toxic relationship tendencies. While I was being too independent, avoid doing usual romantic activities, and losing my friends. He was the dependent, manipulative, always thinking being disrespected, and the hunger ones. Unfortunately, I got used to these and become more in love with him, even though I have acknowledged that toxicness since the first five month of dating
Narcissists be like: "what? I really wish you'd quit abusing me. I have reported
I didnt experience this on a personal level, but I saw it in my parents’ relationship, THANK GOD they are not together anymore because it was extended to us as well, it was too difficult to handle
I'm here to say that i just got out of a toxic relationship.
This video, among others, helped me recognize these red flags. I watched it way long ago [before the relationship] and even if it took a while for me to really set my mind and recognize that something was wrong it really helped me admit that this was not ok and eventually I had to get out of there.
Even if you don't see a toxic relationship right away, remember that the important thing is that you regonize this flaws and don't let anyone manipulate you into thinking that 'love can deal with everything' or anything like this.
If you're not comfortable, tell them, and if they don't respect that, they don't deserve you. Plain and simple.
No one should feel trapped with someone if they're not fully sure or comfortable. And even if it takes a while, don't be afraid to ve direct, ask for help, or seek a professional.
I wish you all a good day and happy lives❤
Just a random Time traveler saying avoid Toxic people at all cause
Yep
Waitt...wtf? Teach me master🙏
Cost*
Toxic people show themselves, early,one sided ,selfish and controlling...
It's interesting how a toxic partner can influence you. When you finally get into a mutual love relationship, you appreciate the small things about your partner the affection, support, love, honesty, etc. I would say the hardship and suffering makes you appreciate others more than if you did not have the toxic relationship, just my opinion. So by that I would say that everything bad is good for something, might sound like a clycheé, but IMO it is partly based on reality.
Whoever is reading this, you will eventually find someone who will love you for who you are, stay safe and whatever you do, believe in yourself and be happy.
So happy to got off a toxic relationship, no wonder my Mom is against him and the family (including extended fam) do not agree with the relationship. They saw the red flags that i was too blind to see. I thank my family and my Lord for the guidance and strength. I hope someone in a toxic relationship can get out too and find happiness
Can’t break up because once he mentioned that “you might see me on the headlines of newspaper.”
He also said “you won’t see me no more" , “I’ll go far away”
People always sees him as an “innocent” person but deep down I’m just drowning from his attitude or his true side. So sorry if he sees this but I also have feelings to be alive in this world
That is a very big sign he may be manipulating you or using you. You are in no way responsible for someone's life, and no one should be threatening to run away or kill themselves to get you to do something that they want, that is a very easy way to control someone. If you feel as though leaving is dangerous for either you or him, ironically that's a pretty good reason to leave in the first place. If you can I encourage you to at least talk to him and explain that it's really not healthy for him to be saying stuff like that, make it clear that you're not okay with it and that it hurts you. Best of luck to you, hope that you're able to figure things out or that you're able to leave
I find it sad that nowadays toxic relationships are more than healthy relationships
:(
Im in a relationship where Iam too independent and my partner barely bother or care about my life!!
I am not chasing behind anyone.
I had to laugh at the bit about keeping your own identity. After being single and alone for 14 years, I don't even know who I am any more. It's like this: Being alone increased my perception. But when I applied my increased perception to myself, I lost my identity. There was no need to define myself and I became irrelevant in the universe.
What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.
Thanks man now I wanna watch Night at the Roxbury! 😆🤘🏼
Whoa, whoa, oh
Whoa, whoa, oh
Oh, I don't know, what can I do?
What else can I say? It's up to you
I know we're one, just me and you
I can't go on 💛
I just got out of a toxic one. I'm not dependant on anyone, but my partner just disappeared like nothing, off for like 1 week and then everytime i would get a talk with her, she would ignore me sometime and the cycle starts again. Everytime we would build plans to make something together and most of the time she would just dump me, and i went like that for almost 8 months. Just to discover she was betraying me. Its been 2 months since erased her number and every social media we share, she didn't even bother texting me...
I'm sorry you went through that.
I feel the same way there. After four years of an unhealthy cycle, I finally managed to walk out as well. It just seemed like I was doing all the effort to keep the relationship going, and she didn’t.
Much like your experience, every time I try to make plans for us together, she would just make up random excuses - “What if someone else sees us?” “Is it just gonna be the both of us?” Shit hurt.
But yeah, I try not to delve much into that anymore.
Above all, I hope things will get better for you Eugenest.
Sorry you went through that!
I’ve been so hooked up over my ex who I’ve now realized was SO TOXIC. I could have been doing so much stuff! If only I had literally watched this sooner, maybe I wouldn’t have been so hurt.
What I considered as the desire for romantic love was actually emotional hunger. Thank you psych2go for your insightful content.🤗🥰
You hit the nail on the head when you stated that maybe you need to work on your relationship with yourself before moving on to a new relationship with someone else.
I left my ex-husband in 1995 - I've been single ever since. Never looked back. At least I know that when I talk to myself I'll be guaranteed to get a superior, more intelligent response than I ever did with any of my exes and/or family members.
My older sister abuses me. She lies to me, starts arguments with me, steals from me. And yet gets angry at me whenever I block her. She has never apologized and never seems to feel guilty
People who emotionally hungry need an emotional snack
Yeah! They need emotional juice!
What about an emotional buffay
And emotional Doritos! 😏
@@meghana1113 emotional baja blast
thats why I have kitkat and marshmallow with me. 😐
*britney spears plays in the distance*
*break dances suductivly*
Perfect timing for the second time today. Earlier video I watched that helped was about trusting your gut "intuition ". Thanks so much!
It's weird to see this video after breaking up with my ex and both of us realizing we had most of these issues on our own. Well I had some and she had some I mean.
It's just hard to give up knowing we can (and have) learn from these mistakes and are working on fixing them on our own lives, but not as a team like we used to... Well sorta, it's hard and complicated, giving up on someone you love even when knowing deep down that they're not the best for you.
I was in a manipulative relationship. Ugh!! What a tough time
I think a lot of people do #6. I try not to, which is why I'm still single. It's not easy when you can easily find someone to be that person you need, but if you don't love them, the relationship shouldn't happen. So I'm waiting to have feelings for someone, not get with someone out of vulnerability.
The worst part is honestly when your relatives are the toxic once.
I think my relationship is so toxic that it's taking a physical toll on me.
OMG.
A friend of mine once mentioned that being in a toxic relationship is like owning a crazy pet cat. He's right. The signs are the same!
I broke up with him because he was not only manipulative he wanted to control my life and didn't gave me any freedom.
Thats exactly what my ex girlfriend did to me, she tried to keep me with her all the time and never let me see my friends. It was horrible
I understand that, had it happen to me with someone I was with. Drove me crazy that& getting accused of stuff I didn't do & called disgusting names
Same to me 😞
I've already lost myself. Others please be strong. You deserve love.
I actually loved the self fish one ❤️😂
How are there no comments about your voice.
its divine! so smooth and calming!
It's better to be single and happy then to be with someone and be miserable 👍
I haven’t been in a toxic relationship yet but I am worried about one of my friends who has recently been talking and tryna get back with her ex. Her ex left her with a lot of trauma and insecurities and SA her and cheated… if that wasn’t enough they had already gotten back together twice and I’m scared this’ll be their third time. She always mentions how much they’ve changed and though that’s good and all, I just wish she didn’t even talk to them. It really worries me because I’ve commented my feelings with it and they seem to be dead straight on this. I guess I can’t like and forgive someone who hurted and manipulated them and im scared she’s too attached to them but she just sees it as a sign of true love and forgets about it. She deserves way better and it’s a shame she’s going for the bottom of the barrel.(edit: she never did anything wrong but she always blames herself and feels bad because they feel they were the problem of the relationship…)
oh god thats a bit,disturbing,even if doesnt work,try help ger as much as you can
@@RayzorWingTCE Thanks I try to but I’m worried I’ll anger/annoy them because the last time I told them this they ignored me for a couple days and I’ve known them for 3 years now but it’s an online thing so we’ve never actually seen each other irl but I appreciate it a lot! Thank you.
Mmm I kinda felt this :/
But you can't force someone to see reason, they will feel how they feel. We were to try to manipulate their free will, we'd be no better than the toxic ex right? I dunno... that's how I think of it
This sounds like everything a narcassist would do
Toxicity has many forms, narcisissm is just the one that gets thrown around a lot. You can be toxic without being mentally ill.
My ex was extremely toxic. She wanted everything Becher way and despite our being in a committed relationship, she was actually cheating on me during our what I thought was a committed relationship. She was selfish and wanted all the power in our relationship. She shut down my romantic affections. She told me when I asked for her number at first she said I was “trying to own her.” I gave 110% to us. But she didn't commit to me after 2.5 years. She cheated on me and was emotionally unavailable. I committed in everything I did. But she didn't commit to me and “us”. She lashed out at me saying “There is no “us.” she destroyed my heart!!!
Yeah, there certainly are plenty of fish in the sea, but there's also a lot of trash in it too. And guess what I got the last three times, hook, line, and sinker?
The one catch I had was basically a discarded firecracker. Then again, I guess they don't dump nuclear weapons into the sea, if you catch my drift.
Oddly, we need information like this to help us figure out this stuff…✨
(Nice narration and colorful video)
Im actually still in a dependent relationship but I am figuring myself out after 7 years so it's progress. This video definitely resonated with me.
Vibes my friend 💞
Thank you :)
4:40 The pun though... "There are plenty of fish in the sea... perhaps you'll meet one who isn't as sel'fish' " 😂😂
im early for once !! never been in a relationship but the animation is pulling me in love ur videos !!!
Wow , what a .coincidence. me too
we love it when we're in a toxic relationship and they show at least 70% of the signs 😃
Dang, look at all these time travelers.
So grateful you guys still make videos.
Me watching this while not being in one relationship:👁️👄👁️
you don't need to
I am independent and I don't chase behind anyone. People like to make themselves look good by giving false information.
The animation is so cute 🥺💖
Thank you so much, I got this notification right when I needed it!
When narcissist be like this you know you are talking to a wall: "I see letters on the screen like it's some form of communication, but I can't recognize it as such. If you are trying to communicate please try again." And when then react like this, if you comment, you know you are talking with a machine, not a person: "DO DUH DEE- we're sorry- the person you are trying to
harass is currently unavailable oh, don't try again later."
when some is mental and obsessed about a person and claim they loOoOOOove this person i tell them “sounds a lot more like infatuation, don’t confuse the 2”
Hahahah I feel ya 😅 but one can't open their eyes nor judge them. Their path is their own and their life is their business.
Lets just be wise in our own lives if we can
I have suffered from a toxic relationship except it was mostly me being the toxic one, i have done wrong, so much wrong, and i do regret some of the things i have done, but many things were outta self defense too, she wouldnt respect when i wanted to be alone...
Adding this to one of my fave videos of you💛 I would like to hear more about emotional hunger pls
LOVE must not be abusive or obsessive.
can they still love you if they do that? even the victim?
ABSOLUTELY!!
Manipulation and selfish Demand is the worst part that happened in my life thanks for helping me I autosubsribe :)
The way it took me so long to realise that my ex gave zero fucks about me that when my dad saw it and broke us up, my ex moved on so quickly like days after.. and I suffered for months wanting them back but when I with them I became a horrible person and isolated myself from people.. it took me 5 months to get over this.. if I could go back, I would listen to my family and friends about the red flags and talk to someone about it
I hope others reach out when they feel unsure about a relationship and always make sure that your needs are also balanced with your s/o needs so you both are healthy and happy
I'm really sorry about that! The same thing happened with my ex too, he moved on so quickly without considering my own feelings.
@@sprout12730 yeah it hurts in so many kinds of ways like you feel betrayed, annoyed, hurt, fear of being in a relationship again.. but you learn how to heal over time. and ive learned that i should always considerng my feelings as well as othe
@@TrashyStar9 I really do hope you feel a lot better now! It takes time and acceptance, it's best to surround yourself with positive people in your life. Or to maybe try to work on yourself and mental health more! I'm still trying to cope with my ex moving on, since we've been together for about 7 years, im still not completely over it. But the thing he was doing for me to stay was manipulation. I wished I could have left them sooner because I was more likely risking getting hurt again. Sorry for venting btw!
@@sprout12730 no no its all good venting, its good to let out vents once in a while, personally sometimes talking to people idk personally helps me better than people im close too.. but yeah ive gotten way better
That moment when all of these points hit on one of my previous relationships. Weeeelllllp, thanks for the information, I had a feeling although this kinda hit it home.
There is no black and white in any relationship, there are lots of grey. If we strictly follow all the guidelines shown in this channel we won't be able to get into any relationship
My husband does all of the above... I'm creating a safety plan and leaving soon because it's really THAT bad
Is there a way to... "handle" emotional hunger so you know it's not screwing with you?
Being in a toxic relationship where everything you say is wrong is worse than being single
@☁︎caught a thought☁︎ definitely it's better to be selective and love yourself than get used
😭😭😭😭 now i'm so confused if i was or he was the one making our relationship toxic😭
Just let it be.. no point thinking about it now. But you can keep it in mind for the future.
Me and my ex: *happy that we are together*
Not even 2 months later: *breaks up with me*
Wait-
How can you all time travel?? I can't think straight because of curiosity lol
I am the only one who is single but still watching this because of the soothing, calm vioce & their cute, aesthetic animation?
members of the channel get early access to the videos!
@@starjammm Oh that's why. Thank you so much for the information, so kind of you! 💜
@☁︎caught a thought☁︎ Yaz her voice helps me sleep at night, love your surname and the cloud thingy btw! 💜 And we have the same name, my name is Julia too
@☁︎caught a thought☁︎ We have a lot of similarities lol I'm glad I made someone's day better, I liked spreading love & positive vibes as much as I can
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Remember, everything has beneficial and dentrimental sides: Most of these signs are detrimental for relationships that are based on commonality, but could be beneficial for relationships based on being complimentary. Aside from that: Without the beneficial side of manipulation, psychology courses wouldn't have existed
I don't know, maybe this has an obvious answer but, can you turn a relationship that started from being emotionally hungry into one with actual love?
I think so, yes
Yes, I also think you can. It's why people fall in love with their best friend or a co-worker (someone they spend a lot of time with)
Doesn't any relationship start with an emotional hunger of sorts? So yes, I still think so.. and agree with the other comment most definitely
I experienced all of them and I am now HAPPY and single ! I had to just walk away from my ex !
I'm proud of me
these toxic behaviors are not healthy...equal give and take = balance...♡
Living the most high way relationships standards you'll always be happy!!!
Me and my boyfriend use to fight a lot like it's almost every alternate day which affects my daily life and ends up draining my whole energy. So when it gets too much I take up around 2-3 days to recover like I don't talk to him much or call him and that lead to him getting anxious that I am drifting away from him. Even after doing everything and telling him it's just me who needs time seems like there's no end to this. I considered breaking up but he ended up saying I am abondoning him and that we can change the situation. I have no clue what to do😔 Also as a college student these fights consume so much time of my study hours.
I was just in a very similar situation as you. I have hope that we will get through this. :)
Oh god I relate to this so much. This was a viscous cycle that started 2 months after our relationship started, and I'd have a tendency to get out of it everytime it took a toll on my mental health, but he'd say something similar like I would be abandoning him, given that he already had issues at home with his father. I'd feel bad and go back every single time. But then I realised, I wasn't happy in the relationship, and neither was he. I finally took the big step 10 months later and let him go. It was painful, because we had a toxic parasitic relationship, but after a point, I felt so relieved. I know he eventually moved on too and he's with someone else. Ever since it got over, I've chosen to stay single. It's so relieving.
@@Emeshards Yess bestie wishing us luck🤞
@@sudakbhatt I am so happy for you and always remember you don't have to compromise your happiness ever🤝
And this is why guys,gals,and others, being single isn't such a bad option either 😌✨
#LoveYourself💜
✨💜#Loveyourself💜✨
Mabye you could do a future video on emotional hunger? 😊
Emotional Hunger: Pls educate more on that
I recently got out of a toxic relationship. She was always really depending on me. Wanting to talk on the phone with me everyday for hours. I was literally abandoning everything I wanted to do, just to talk with her. Because if I said no she would be upset or get one of her freak outs that I would leave her. That and a few other things (like lying to me) really drained me to a point where I had small breakdowns and sleepless nights. I'm happy that I got out of this relationship and now I'm trying to get mentally better again. She still wants to be friends with me.. But I don't know what to think about it
Im single and it feels like that will never change again.
Dont know if it was me or her, but it was toxic. She gave me the feeling to be nothing, like 'you dont earn enough money, dont drive fat cars, dont have 2 jobs, and thousands of friends'. She started this behaviour after 3 of 4 years, when she started earning more than me. Before that she made me feel very happy in love.
Lost all my contacts, all feelings of fun and good life, even the emotional near to my family, my hobbies felt senseless, just lost my complete self. While trying to get "better".
Then she left me for someone with a buisiness. As i saw, her new partner dropped her after 2 weeks, for getting his ex back.
But the feelings all this gave me, especially to feel a big shame,wont go ever. Feeling like a dead person in a living world 5 years now(im 28). Tried so much, but nothing helps. Not new friends, not new partners, not family contact, no new jobs, no new hobbies, also professional help doesnt. Just feel like life s*cks hard,everyday since that. And its hard to resist suicidal thoughts aswell. :/