Hei guys, nice work, as always. I was thinking if would not be better to ask the partner if he wanted to have meals, a cleaned house and presents? If yes is the answer ....he can do them all, because we are busy....leaving home....for the holidays😉
Great video as always Jimmy 💥❤️🩹💯 I'm sure I'm not the only bereaved Mum and was wondering if anyone could also help people like me who has noone to feel my feelings with.... I'd love to feel all the burdens and stresses most people resent and hate!
I recently saw your short on spontaneous vs. Responsive desire. I (26f) personally have spontaneous desire and find it really hard to be aroused through touching and affection. It has happened, but it's extremely rare and in those instances I started the day feeling "in the mood". Could you address that? How can I as a partner who doesn't become aroused through affection help my partner get me there? Because I do love him and greatly enjoy physical intimacy, but unless I'm in the mood, I find it hard to be idk immersed(?) in the experience and it takes away the enjoyment for me.
Yes and then next year and the next year after that and the next year after that we can just keep repeating this toxic pattern until finally we end the relationship because we just can't talk to each other
Anyone else feel Jimmy's getting better and better at making these? Personally, I love the ones where the mustachioed cap-wearing auteur filmmaker interrupts to tell us what is wrong in the scenario, but these one-on-ones are just as brilliant. Many many thanks for helping us learn ans laugh while sharing such wisdom Jimmy!!
This brings so many bad memories... The holidays were by far the worst moments of my relationship. I was so exhausted with having to do it all while the person who made me slave spent his time drinking, having fun, and putting me down for "not enjoying the merriest time of the year" that I developped complete holiday avoidance. It took year (after terminating the relationship) to be able to enjoy them again. I find that abusive relationships are even more so during the holidays (and illnesses, and life crisis).
I feel you. He would promise me that he would help me, but inevitably “something” came up and eventually the responsibility and the cost of managing the expenses also fell on me. And a day before Christmas he would go shopping and bring not required things and then tell me I helped 😡and would be on work leave after Christmas pretending he did all the work 🤦🏻♀️ Never ending. Stopped expecting anything.
Well done! Oh dear it takes me back! 24 years a widow here, after raising the last child alone, life is so good without all that! I can be vulnerable and respectful to the people in my life after becoming acquainted with my inner core personality and becoming friends with her. I have the option of the quiet of the night and watching the moon rise without having to rush off to keep someone else happy. I do see great relationships around me, and appreciate them. So many of us, however, have deep wounds. Keep on with your work.
best advice ever is to schedule heavy discussions (when you can) to when you are both fed and decently well rested - and ideally regulated and prepared. Means it never becomes a fight
This gave me flashbacks to my ex. I was never a perfect angel but your vids really help me unravel things from my past relationships. Looking back me and my last term partner were totally incompatable when it came to communication.
Love the little detail at the beginning of the 3 horsemen being written upside down so when Jimmily lifts up the page on the clipboard the camera sees them...
I wish these healthy tactics worked in real life. Sadly, so many people have been allowed to excuse their behaviors that civil discourse is near impossible. Any communication seems impossible and then you get accused of being bossy or uppity for trying to solve a problem. Human connection has been damaged.
You can try the third option, but your partner might not be emotionally responsive. How can we achieve that? Sometimes, it can be a lack of emotional intelligence and/or empathy. Other times, they might focus on solutions but not truly understand the problem and how it affects others.
The husband and I have found that if we actually tell each other (when we have the presence of mind to do so) that we need to rant or we need this fixed that it helps the mindset of both parties. The other day someone did something really offensive and it triggered a bit of minor PTSD for me. I needed to rant about it for a bit, and my husband wanted very much to fix it for me. But he heard me when I said I just needed to rant (I repeated it a few times, but he got it). He listened and then helped me into a better emotional place as I was coming off my soap box. We haven't always been this way. But we do actually go over our next fights (not in so many words) but more in the vein of "that was harder than it should have been for both of us, so what can we each do better?" We're still practicing.
Yes! Contribution is very important to family activities. And also, when I put too many expectations on myself during the holidays, how can my husband say “hey this doesn’t need to be done” without making me feel like he’s just making an excuse to get out of things? He will help me out with things he doesn’t care about, but some things will inherently stress him out so he knows it’s better for him not to do them. And if I’m being stressed by the same thing, maybe it’s a sign that it’s an unnecessary expectation for the holiday we’ve put in our heads through business marketing, keeping up with the Jones, and tradition/older relatives expectations. We can let these get in between our relationships. As long as we are both willing to give a little when it comes to each the other’s enjoyments during the holidays and don’t automatically label the other person as selfish when they’re honest about being stressed, then things can be worked through way more smoothly.
There should be a splitting of the list: someone cleans the living room while the other does the bathroom. Both partners should make a list if they're hosting and know their families tastes and come up with a compromise for each person to being something so it wont be overwhelming to the host. Once the list is done, go to the store(s) and split the list to go get, bonus points if your store does the pickup option for time saving. Next is laundry, one makes sure that the sheets are clean and that you have enough while the other washes/drys them and you both set up the room(s), depending on how many people are staying with you. And last is the cooking: if one person is great at baking and the other is better at cooking, go with that, you do not have the time, energy nor money to waste on doing everything yourself. If you want to start the dinner first, ask your partner to cut up the veggies (if you want them to look pretty, show them how, if it looks ok it doesn't matter as long as it's edible. Also, once they're done with cutting up everything, they can help clean as you go and help you get stuff thst you need for other recipes. For baking same thing. Now ofnyou have kids, i would recommend getting a sitter to watch them in another room while all this is going on so you both can be focused on the tasks at hand (and have a lunch date in between, probably either a quick one at home or out close to home). Also, meal prep everything the day before if you and your partner has the time to do so. If you have older kids, get them to help with age appropriate tasks, teens can help out too, especially if they can drive to get something that you forgot you dont have or running out of or you pay them to watch the younger siblings.
Very good! I’ve been saying women keep these “mandatory” lists in their heads and then get mad that he doesn’t 1. Know everything that needs to be done and 2. Select the tasks she’s not doing to complement her task list.
Jimmy can you talk about compassion fatigue in a short or a video?? I’m struggling to know if I actually lack compassion and how to reset or get around that
My best friend has a lot of medical and mental health issues and her husband supports her emotionally and financially (he makes at least 2/3 of the income). They don’t have kids and neither of them do much cooking or cleaning. Sometimes when she complains about him not listening or not having the right reaction I want to tell her she doesn’t know how much energy he spends caring for her emotional needs.
Tell her! Don't just "want to tell her." She needs to hear truth from someone. She's self-sabotagjng her relationship with her husband and in the long run it will cause problems and burnout - he may no longer be able and available to be there for her emotionally and financially.
K Wel starting to feel a bit of comfort in knowing that I’m not a heartless or compassion-less man. I just want to know how to get past that and make my partner know and feel that I truly do care
So, communication needs to happen in order to understand stressors and burdens, and that's good. But if you ask them to make a list of what you can do to relieve those stressors or help them, then it's bad.
Why is it such a big deal to opt out of the holidays. I'm not asking you to opt out. Go, have fun, tell me about it when you get back. I respect your desire to indulge, respect my desire to opt out. I find all aspects of it to be unpleasant, with few to no redeeming qualities. Okay, the food is pretty good. But to guilt me into a situation I find unpleasant? Consent is backwards on this one.
"He" may like the holidays as much as "she" does. However, this scenario isn't only limited to the holidays. It presents itself in every day life consistently.
@@ticketforepic4429 ah I see. I'm with you on that one then 😃. I haven't celebrated Xmas since my early 20s and that's going back almost 30 years. The season to be merry seems like a season of stress to most people. It's my season to hibernate and do me, lol
Idk if these have helped my relationship, but they have helped me. Just kind of do me, and speak the way i need to speak, and allow him to be him. We still fight over the same shit but I'm starting to care less and less. I tried sharing these to him but all he did was trash them and use the logic against me, which is funny bc the guy version in this does that too. It really does feel like they are watching my life 😮
AND you'd have to actually change the things that instigated the issue. Like the next holiday better go differently without my prompting. This is apparently too much to ask, so I'm divorcing him instead.
14 years in a relationship still happy, each still prepping the first coffee of the day for each other, still worried on her health on snowy days, still reading through endless board game-explanations to not ignore her interests, rather enhance them.... list keeps going on.. How? Just fcking be honest and take your time in a relatinship to truly speak to oneanother about everything.
Well that sounds like one great way to prestress the relationship in advance of the fight: make innumerable unrealistic holiday goals that serve no purpose other than guaranteeing misery for everyone involved. So you are at least off to a promising start of harrowing agony. 😎
I know this channel is aimed at marriages and adult relationships. What about people who are totally checked out but show their affection with money and gifts?
Hey Jimmy! I’m not sure if you take requests from comments ever, but is it alright if I ask a question? I had a boyfriend of 9ish months, we were in love with each other, but he couldn’t do it anymore because of his parents. I ignored my sadness because I simply didn’t want to feel it at first, but now I’m making myself pay attention to the hurt, but I’m worried I don’t actually know how to get over him. He was a huge part of my life, but also my first boyfriend, so I don’t have experience with dealing with the fallout after being forced into no contact with the person who knew me best out of anyone but my family. Sorry if it’s an unreasonable request, but you seem like you’d have more knowledge than me. Thank you if you read this!
What you're going through sounds like grieving and coming to accept that such an impactful chapter of your life is over for reasons largely outside your control. These things happen sometimes and aren't always easy to move on from.
Put the free workshop on my calendar and tried to do it today but the play button doesn’t work and the workshop says 9am. Did we miss it? Nowhere did I see I had to do it at 9am
Number 3 is great but it limits the already small pool of Girls that are relationship considerable to a tiny size and will create a lot more of rejecting from girls that woudve usually at least slept with you. I dont say its wrong choice, i just say its incrediblely hard in the datingmarket. Tried it for 2 years. nothing but avoidant girls who expected me to explode so they can get silent but all i did was talking about my feelings, so they left since it wasnt any toxic xD
Okay so a problem i have, I'm a teenager who hasnt been in a relationship since i think that the guys in my high school just do not take relationships seriously. But also, i have always understood the importance of communication in a relationship but the thing is, I am really bad at it. Like i dont communicate to my friends and family when they do and say something that makes me sad because i part of me thinks its cringy and like weird since im really an unserious person in general. My parents never communicated to each other, which is why they currently very much dislike each other and rant to me. But thats not the point, the point is that no one around me really communicates, and i have gotten to a point that even saying things like 'i love you' to my parents or telling someone that i do care about the cringes me out even tho its true. Typing this isnt cringing me out at the moment but it definitely will be a few minutes. The main thing is, how do i stop thinking of communicating and expressing myself as cringy and awkward
It sounds less like you think it's "cringe" and more like you have issues being vulnerable because you grew up in an environment where vulnerability was not only not rewarded but in fact punished. This contributes to how you see others and yourself. You think no one really communicates because that's the lens you operate from most often, you not being great at communication also makes you a bit oblivious to the things other people notice immediately. i imagine there are a lot of things you currently think are normal that you will grow up to find REALLY aren't. But to answer your question, you just have to keep doing it. Express yourself more, embrace the cringe, learn to feel your feelings authentically. It's a muscle, and like any other muscle in your body you either use it or lose it. And you won't get it right on the first, second, or 20th time BUT it will get easier and you will get better at it.
@ajregalia1334 I mean, when I entered high school i realised some things my parents did weren't really normal things that all parents do but I don't think of it as a big deal. I have been trying to communicate more lately, mostly with my mother since I find it slightly more easier with her but communicating with my dad is out of the question, I just can't get myself to do it and just let him say and do whatever he wants. My friends is more like I feel weird to talk about things so I don't but I'll work on that. Thanks
Just because Jimmy portrays these issues within a 'couple' setting doesn't mean you can't apply what you are learning to your relationship with your brother or your boss or your beat friend or your parents. Communication issues exist in ALL relationships. And while your obligations to each of these people is different, figuring out how to actually talk to any other person in a respectful way that meets your needs (& hopefully theirs) and avoids known pitfalls like blame and resentment is a skill that will benefit you for a lifetime.
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Or maybe, just maybe, consider pointing out the things that need to be done and let the man come up with solutions and action points? You know, triggering the very primal mechanisms men developed throughout the last 300 thousand years? Yes, it's that simple, just say what needs to be done, and trust him to prioritise things!
Free Conflict Workshop matthiasjbarker.com/holiday-stress
Hei guys, nice work, as always. I was thinking if would not be better to ask the partner if he wanted to have meals, a cleaned house and presents? If yes is the answer ....he can do them all, because we are busy....leaving home....for the holidays😉
I really wish RUclips would allow links in the comments. It won't even let me copy and paste
Great video as always Jimmy
💥❤️🩹💯
I'm sure I'm not the only bereaved Mum and was wondering if anyone could also help people like me who has noone to feel my feelings with.... I'd love to feel all the burdens and stresses most people resent and hate!
I recently saw your short on spontaneous vs. Responsive desire. I (26f) personally have spontaneous desire and find it really hard to be aroused through touching and affection. It has happened, but it's extremely rare and in those instances I started the day feeling "in the mood". Could you address that? How can I as a partner who doesn't become aroused through affection help my partner get me there? Because I do love him and greatly enjoy physical intimacy, but unless I'm in the mood, I find it hard to be idk immersed(?) in the experience and it takes away the enjoyment for me.
Yeaaaaaaah, 3rd one is too much work. Let's go for the 2nd one since we can do it spontaneously 🤔
Honestly, the second one seems like it would be a lot quicker. We got shit to do. The holidays are coming!
😂😂😂
....and nothing has to change
Yes and then next year and the next year after that and the next year after that we can just keep repeating this toxic pattern until finally we end the relationship because we just can't talk to each other
The fact that the words are written upside down so that they're legible when casually flipping through the pages.
I just caught that 😂👍🏾
Anyone else feel Jimmy's getting better and better at making these?
Personally, I love the ones where the mustachioed cap-wearing auteur filmmaker interrupts to tell us what is wrong in the scenario, but these one-on-ones are just as brilliant.
Many many thanks for helping us learn ans laugh while sharing such wisdom Jimmy!!
This brings so many bad memories... The holidays were by far the worst moments of my relationship. I was so exhausted with having to do it all while the person who made me slave spent his time drinking, having fun, and putting me down for "not enjoying the merriest time of the year" that I developped complete holiday avoidance. It took year (after terminating the relationship) to be able to enjoy them again. I find that abusive relationships are even more so during the holidays (and illnesses, and life crisis).
Interesting term: "holiday avoidant". Have been since 2018, when I decided that never again I would have holidays under the same conditions again.
I feel you. He would promise me that he would help me, but inevitably “something” came up and eventually the responsibility and the cost of managing the expenses also fell on me. And a day before Christmas he would go shopping and bring not required things and then tell me I helped 😡and would be on work leave after Christmas pretending he did all the work 🤦🏻♀️
Never ending. Stopped expecting anything.
I love how you present these topics. Serious but humerous.
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@@taylorjade6918clever ;)
Well done! Oh dear it takes me back! 24 years a widow here, after raising the last child alone, life is so good without all that! I can be vulnerable and respectful to the people in my life after becoming acquainted with my inner core personality and becoming friends with her. I have the option of the quiet of the night and watching the moon rise without having to rush off to keep someone else happy. I do see great relationships around me, and appreciate them. So many of us, however, have deep wounds. Keep on with your work.
best advice ever is to schedule heavy discussions (when you can) to when you are both fed and decently well rested - and ideally regulated and prepared. Means it never becomes a fight
Love you Jimmy!
You bring comedy and clarity simultaneously.
❤
Let's go for option 3...and I appreciate having choices to choose from explicitly instead of them just being implied!
CLASSIC JIMMY. The role playing illuminates it ALL. 🎉 🌲 Brilliant
Awesome shorts. Love the sarcastic tone of this one. Makes a great point.❤
Wow, another masterpiece!!!
I know that I’m growing when I can laugh at this and see the insanity in our natural behavior !
This gave me flashbacks to my ex. I was never a perfect angel but your vids really help me unravel things from my past relationships. Looking back me and my last term partner were totally incompatable when it came to communication.
Discussing tactical maneuvers instead of the argument itself. Hilarious!
Jimmy you are so good at your role-playing that I actually find myself thinking you are two different people
Omg, i just remembered a saying i made up.
Christmas: kids love it, women hate it
and men wonder what all the fuss is about.
Christmas sweater is needed..❤
😂Mann lol you are gold just pure gold🎉🎉🎉🎉
It’s simple. Don’t do anything for the holidays and see if anyone notices. If they do ask for suggestions and their timeline to get it done.
Love the little detail at the beginning of the 3 horsemen being written upside down so when Jimmily lifts up the page on the clipboard the camera sees them...
I plan my breakdowns like this 😂
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There's only so much time in a day, and I've got things to do! Scheduling works better 😂
@taylorjade6918 Exactly 💯 Let's schedule our "fights", because I didn't go through a "Time Management" class for no reason. 😏😎😂✌️💃💅🥳🥂💫
That last face… “right… and that’s not going to happen so…. 2?” 🤣😂
I love how you had to write that on the pad so we could actually read it from the camera perspective ❤
The subtle page flip at the start. 😁
At least they’re talking. 😊
I wish these healthy tactics worked in real life. Sadly, so many people have been allowed to excuse their behaviors that civil discourse is near impossible. Any communication seems impossible and then you get accused of being bossy or uppity for trying to solve a problem. Human connection has been damaged.
You can try the third option, but your partner might not be emotionally responsive. How can we achieve that? Sometimes, it can be a lack of emotional intelligence and/or empathy. Other times, they might focus on solutions but not truly understand the problem and how it affects others.
The husband and I have found that if we actually tell each other (when we have the presence of mind to do so) that we need to rant or we need this fixed that it helps the mindset of both parties. The other day someone did something really offensive and it triggered a bit of minor PTSD for me. I needed to rant about it for a bit, and my husband wanted very much to fix it for me. But he heard me when I said I just needed to rant (I repeated it a few times, but he got it). He listened and then helped me into a better emotional place as I was coming off my soap box.
We haven't always been this way. But we do actually go over our next fights (not in so many words) but more in the vein of "that was harder than it should have been for both of us, so what can we each do better?" We're still practicing.
I love these shorts so much. 2 used to be my go-to but now 3 but only after a time out.
This IS perfection
Yes! Contribution is very important to family activities. And also, when I put too many expectations on myself during the holidays, how can my husband say “hey this doesn’t need to be done” without making me feel like he’s just making an excuse to get out of things? He will help me out with things he doesn’t care about, but some things will inherently stress him out so he knows it’s better for him not to do them. And if I’m being stressed by the same thing, maybe it’s a sign that it’s an unnecessary expectation for the holiday we’ve put in our heads through business marketing, keeping up with the Jones, and tradition/older relatives expectations. We can let these get in between our relationships. As long as we are both willing to give a little when it comes to each the other’s enjoyments during the holidays and don’t automatically label the other person as selfish when they’re honest about being stressed, then things can be worked through way more smoothly.
There should be a splitting of the list: someone cleans the living room while the other does the bathroom. Both partners should make a list if they're hosting and know their families tastes and come up with a compromise for each person to being something so it wont be overwhelming to the host. Once the list is done, go to the store(s) and split the list to go get, bonus points if your store does the pickup option for time saving. Next is laundry, one makes sure that the sheets are clean and that you have enough while the other washes/drys them and you both set up the room(s), depending on how many people are staying with you. And last is the cooking: if one person is great at baking and the other is better at cooking, go with that, you do not have the time, energy nor money to waste on doing everything yourself. If you want to start the dinner first, ask your partner to cut up the veggies (if you want them to look pretty, show them how, if it looks ok it doesn't matter as long as it's edible. Also, once they're done with cutting up everything, they can help clean as you go and help you get stuff thst you need for other recipes. For baking same thing.
Now ofnyou have kids, i would recommend getting a sitter to watch them in another room while all this is going on so you both can be focused on the tasks at hand (and have a lunch date in between, probably either a quick one at home or out close to home).
Also, meal prep everything the day before if you and your partner has the time to do so.
If you have older kids, get them to help with age appropriate tasks, teens can help out too, especially if they can drive to get something that you forgot you dont have or running out of or you pay them to watch the younger siblings.
You nees to see his last videos.lol
Very good! I’ve been saying women keep these “mandatory” lists in their heads and then get mad that he doesn’t 1. Know everything that needs to be done and 2. Select the tasks she’s not doing to complement her task list.
AND he’d need to take on his fair share long term to stop the cycle.
Issue is indeed if the guy's not willing to do no. 3, and she feels trapped not being allowed to be honest with him
Jimmy sometimes you are a menace at these 😂😂
Jimmy can you talk about compassion fatigue in a short or a video?? I’m struggling to know if I actually lack compassion and how to reset or get around that
I feel ya, I think I’m starting to feel that fatigue too😞; that would be a good video!
My best friend has a lot of medical and mental health issues and her husband supports her emotionally and financially (he makes at least 2/3 of the income). They don’t have kids and neither of them do much cooking or cleaning. Sometimes when she complains about him not listening or not having the right reaction I want to tell her she doesn’t know how much energy he spends caring for her emotional needs.
Tell her! Don't just "want to tell her." She needs to hear truth from someone.
She's self-sabotagjng her relationship with her husband and in the long run it will cause problems and burnout - he may no longer be able and available to be there for her emotionally and financially.
K Wel starting to feel a bit of comfort in knowing that I’m not a heartless or compassion-less man. I just want to know how to get past that and make my partner know and feel that I truly do care
You are so brilliant and talented💡🤩 Thank youuuuu. Love from Italy ❣️
Another brilliant one. SO good.
So, communication needs to happen in order to understand stressors and burdens, and that's good. But if you ask them to make a list of what you can do to relieve those stressors or help them, then it's bad.
Love the tone of the Rrright at the end hahaha
Well she got her answer 😂.
Why is it such a big deal to opt out of the holidays. I'm not asking you to opt out. Go, have fun, tell me about it when you get back. I respect your desire to indulge, respect my desire to opt out. I find all aspects of it to be unpleasant, with few to no redeeming qualities. Okay, the food is pretty good. But to guilt me into a situation I find unpleasant? Consent is backwards on this one.
"He" may like the holidays as much as "she" does.
However, this scenario isn't only limited to the holidays. It presents itself in every day life consistently.
@Abena1709 I really wasn't commenting on the video, just the holidays issue in general.
@@ticketforepic4429 ah I see. I'm with you on that one then 😃.
I haven't celebrated Xmas since my early 20s and that's going back almost 30 years.
The season to be merry seems like a season of stress to most people. It's my season to hibernate and do me, lol
I laugh every time I watch the first line. So funny!
Your content is so helpful.
He is so good!
omg this is true and the way you did the video hilarious. you are amazing
😂😂😂
Wife : "If I don't do it, it won't get done"
Husband : "Naturally!!!"
😂😂😂 Perfect and classic!
Idk if these have helped my relationship, but they have helped me. Just kind of do me, and speak the way i need to speak, and allow him to be him. We still fight over the same shit but I'm starting to care less and less.
I tried sharing these to him but all he did was trash them and use the logic against me, which is funny bc the guy version in this does that too.
It really does feel like they are watching my life 😮
She's carrying the mental load of planning the next fight....
AND you'd have to actually change the things that instigated the issue. Like the next holiday better go differently without my prompting.
This is apparently too much to ask, so I'm divorcing him instead.
This is awesome ! Nailed it for me. Hope it doesn’t trigger my husband if I send this to him 😂
14 years in a relationship still happy, each still prepping the first coffee of the day for each other, still worried on her health on snowy days, still reading through endless board game-explanations to not ignore her interests, rather enhance them.... list keeps going on..
How? Just fcking be honest and take your time in a relatinship to truly speak to oneanother about everything.
Love this!
This is such a mood😂😂
I SWEAR!!! Spot on
Genius ❤
You are hilarious!!!😂
this hit on a personal lvl lol
I do number 3 until I feel I'm talking to a brick wall constantly and then become 1. How does one avoid that
Jimmy makes me laugh so hard.
I love his videos ❤
Bahahah oh thank you Jesus for this guy !! 😂
Good one 👍
I am not even in a relationship but just watching these makes me exhausted .
If you ever decide to deviate from regularly scheduled programming I need a plant tour. They're sooooo lush
When you share this with your potential partner and they turn around and say “jimmy is ghay”
Triggered!! And I’m like “next”
WOW! 😳 😮 😳
...just... wow...
So good 😍
Well that sounds like one great way to prestress the relationship in advance of the fight: make innumerable unrealistic holiday goals that serve no purpose other than guaranteeing misery for everyone involved. So you are at least off to a promising start of harrowing agony. 😎
This is a real!!
Last option left out .." and stepnup and participate". Yeah ..that's not happening..
criticism
blame
accuse
is the written words on the paper
i dont even get to the ; "yeah whats up?" The situation immediately gets avoided. oh well fuck my life
Our next fight hahaha love it
I dont care if it doesn't get this year. ❤
Brilliant😂
I know this channel is aimed at marriages and adult relationships. What about people who are totally checked out but show their affection with money and gifts?
If the 3rd one is a fight you are in a toxic relationship
Naturally.
When I see this it feels so useless to fight 😂😂😂
Hey Jimmy! I’m not sure if you take requests from comments ever, but is it alright if I ask a question? I had a boyfriend of 9ish months, we were in love with each other, but he couldn’t do it anymore because of his parents. I ignored my sadness because I simply didn’t want to feel it at first, but now I’m making myself pay attention to the hurt, but I’m worried I don’t actually know how to get over him. He was a huge part of my life, but also my first boyfriend, so I don’t have experience with dealing with the fallout after being forced into no contact with the person who knew me best out of anyone but my family. Sorry if it’s an unreasonable request, but you seem like you’d have more knowledge than me. Thank you if you read this!
What you're going through sounds like grieving and coming to accept that such an impactful chapter of your life is over for reasons largely outside your control.
These things happen sometimes and aren't always easy to move on from.
Put the free workshop on my calendar and tried to do it today but the play button doesn’t work and the workshop says 9am. Did we miss it? Nowhere did I see I had to do it at 9am
Hahaha love it!
The 3rd option would make a fight obviously his fault, his safest option is 2
Really good but it makes me laugh😂
Love it
Understand is all well and good. But if that doesn't translate to him going to the store or grabbing the vacuum, what good does it do?
I love when you dress as a woman. Lol
I really appreciate and like your videos.
Thank you for doing the videos.
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Number 3 is great but it limits the already small pool of Girls that are relationship considerable to a tiny size and will create a lot more of rejecting from girls that woudve usually at least slept with you. I dont say its wrong choice, i just say its incrediblely hard in the datingmarket. Tried it for 2 years. nothing but avoidant girls who expected me to explode so they can get silent but all i did was talking about my feelings, so they left since it wasnt any toxic xD
Ayy yooo,imagine planning ur next fight 😂
This is really favourite video
AAAAAAHAHAHA! OK, this is my favorit, ever!
Absolutely
AND, we can carry out #2 on Christmas Eve because, why not?!
Okay so a problem i have, I'm a teenager who hasnt been in a relationship since i think that the guys in my high school just do not take relationships seriously. But also, i have always understood the importance of communication in a relationship but the thing is, I am really bad at it. Like i dont communicate to my friends and family when they do and say something that makes me sad because i part of me thinks its cringy and like weird since im really an unserious person in general. My parents never communicated to each other, which is why they currently very much dislike each other and rant to me. But thats not the point, the point is that no one around me really communicates, and i have gotten to a point that even saying things like 'i love you' to my parents or telling someone that i do care about the cringes me out even tho its true. Typing this isnt cringing me out at the moment but it definitely will be a few minutes.
The main thing is, how do i stop thinking of communicating and expressing myself as cringy and awkward
It sounds less like you think it's "cringe" and more like you have issues being vulnerable because you grew up in an environment where vulnerability was not only not rewarded but in fact punished.
This contributes to how you see others and yourself. You think no one really communicates because that's the lens you operate from most often, you not being great at communication also makes you a bit oblivious to the things other people notice immediately. i imagine there are a lot of things you currently think are normal that you will grow up to find REALLY aren't.
But to answer your question, you just have to keep doing it. Express yourself more, embrace the cringe, learn to feel your feelings authentically. It's a muscle, and like any other muscle in your body you either use it or lose it. And you won't get it right on the first, second, or 20th time BUT it will get easier and you will get better at it.
@ajregalia1334 I mean, when I entered high school i realised some things my parents did weren't really normal things that all parents do but I don't think of it as a big deal. I have been trying to communicate more lately, mostly with my mother since I find it slightly more easier with her but communicating with my dad is out of the question, I just can't get myself to do it and just let him say and do whatever he wants. My friends is more like I feel weird to talk about things so I don't but I'll work on that. Thanks
Naturally...
Uh huh make sense
I like that peaceful route but that requires effort and work😂
So option 2 😂
why do these mostly just feel like the living situation and relationship between my brother and I...
Just because Jimmy portrays these issues within a 'couple' setting doesn't mean you can't apply what you are learning to your relationship with your brother or your boss or your beat friend or your parents.
Communication issues exist in ALL relationships. And while your obligations to each of these people is different, figuring out how to actually talk to any other person in a respectful way that meets your needs (& hopefully theirs) and avoids known pitfalls like blame and resentment is a skill that will benefit you for a lifetime.
Or maybe, just maybe, consider pointing out the things that need to be done and let the man come up with solutions and action points? You know, triggering the very primal mechanisms men developed throughout the last 300 thousand years?
Yes, it's that simple, just say what needs to be done, and trust him to prioritise things!
This guy's good