Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship
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If we ever want to have a relationship with connection and passion and trust, we need to understand what our partner needs to feel close and connected to us. We will not have intimacy without understanding and meeting our partners legitimate needs. The hard part is figuring out what are healthy needs and what are unhealthy needs, this video will answer that question for you.
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Healthy needs that aren't met lead to resentment. Communication is key 🗝
Disappointment maybe.
But resentment is not healthy. It implies blame and anger... maybe a form of making them a supplier, rather than a whole person.
@@tuvoca825 having healthy needs not met already is unhealthy.
Geez. I'm the one who says one thing and end up doing another :( Just yesterday I was supposed to wait for her to come back late from work and go meet her at her house once she arrived there... but we barely slept the night before, so when she was on her way home, I told her I was so tired and sleepy that I couldn't keep my eyes open and asked her if she would be mad if I cancelled. She said no, but she was disappointed. This morning I messaged her using tips from a video I watched on this channel the day before (the name is "Fix your Fights in 30 minutes") and I managed to get her into meeting me today. She gets away when she's mad, so I guess she wouldn't talk to me for about 2 days if it wasn't for that video, so thank you, Jimmy. Your work here is treasure
If I may say this - admitting that shows me, a random internet stranger, just how dedicated you are to real change and a healthy relationship. While I could sit here and list the things I am justified in asking for and justifiably disappointed by not getting, I want to follow your lead... you are absolutely not the only person who says one thing and does another. Speaking for myself here, not you, I often get lost in my needs not being met to the detriment of meeting someone else's. When I say I will do something because I have full intention to and then I don't do it, I get defensive. Because I know I'm wrong. However... there's a nice warm freedom in admitting a wrong and being strong enough to be vulnerable enough to change. I'm not sure if I'm making any sense here. I just wanted to say that your willingness to post this and the actions you took to address it to affect change are truly admirable. Thank you for posting this. I wish you two all the best!!
If you are so tired .. you shouldn’t drive. It’s unsafe for you and others.
If she is mad at that , she needs a reality check
@Mandijune17 he's dedicated but canceled plans because he was tired? He needed a random video to get through to him when his girlfriend has been trying to get him to be thoughtful for how long? Men only change when they face the reality of possibly losing someone.
@walkertranger5746 if he knew they had plans he should've made sure he was well rested. I'm a parent to 3 kids and homeschool, also work second shift. I'm also 30, this dude looks 24. I'm never too tired to do something with my man. He needs to be checked for medical conditions if he's THAT tired.
@@Alixir1228 I mean sure, he should have make sure he was rested but if it was not possible and he was really tired to the point he couldn't keep his eyes open it's probably best to cancel plans just for this time instead of driving bc it could be dangerous, I get why his girlfriend would feel a bit disappointed thought
Thank you for this! Healthy needs doesnt work with a narcissist. Learned that the hard way.
For sure it doesn't!
even a call and be there with me when i had miscarriage …was not reasonable.. calling him while he was enjoying the bar and drinking with friends .My nac ex made me believe that all my needs was not reasonable …but i should respect him by leaving him be the selfish way as he was single
@@xuemma-pb7ysMine acted like he was there for me during my miscarriage, but had other priorities by the time I birthed.
Choose a healthier partner to birth with.
@@runr100mine had 2 kids already so kept convince me it was not good time for us to have new baby ,but i was 40 yrd…and he did not care
My little grain of salt, evn a hurt forgiven is not forgot. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting about it. It mean moving forward with the pain the other person inflicted to you. When the person hurt you again in the same way again though throwing the mistake back into the argument isn't resentment, it's supporting the point that the second time hurt even more than the first. My ex kept hurting me in the same way over and over again and I forgave her but at some point started reminding her all the previous time she hurt me the same way, that I discussed it with her, she said sorry and she wouldn't do it again but still did it again. She told me I was just holding a grudge and these were only past and why I couldn't forgive her. It made me think ... I did forgive her, I didn't forget.
Well said I wish mine did that
Couldn’t agree more. Repeated acts = broken trust for sure
Doing God's work. We're moving from a time of duty to knowing what love is and what love requires. 💖
It’s hard to imagine someone communicating so clearly and pleasantly. Also, congrats on the 1 million subs, you deserve it, your videos are so beneficial
This is the first time I've heard someone talk about Terry Real. I got two of his books few years back in an attempt to understand my husband's issues. Terry's work is so inciteful. But adding the information that you share has given me tools to help get us on a level communication field. We are both conflict avoidant, so it is really hard for us to actually "fight", this leads to so many stuffed-down feelings. He has listened to some of your videos and agreed to make a start, after 41 years of marriage, to try to develop the connection we need. Thanks so much Jimmy.
Helpful ! Each of these could be a video topic. Also maybe add a reminder that giving your partner a chance might include explaining yourself more than once. We sabotage ourselves by assuming that if they didn't make changes quickly that they just don't want to change. Change takes time so instead of that assumption, choose to find another way to explain it. But before you go at it each time, get their opt in by asking them if they'd be willing to revisit that previous request.
So much respect for your channel, thank you for sharing your knowledge. You are helping me understand relationships. That is a blessing, thank you!
“ How we communicate matters.”
Love this video! I am shocked when I see how many dating and relationship Coaches here on RUclips recommend that women "submit" to a man. This sounds so last century and is just the opposite of what´s been recommended here. Thank you so much!
There have certainly been a lot of misconceptions and negative connotation and emphasis on women submitting, but it’s definitely about mutual submission. Loving someone sacrificially is a form of submitting in a way and Ephesians tells men to love their wife as Christ loves the church and gave Himself for her. Not just women submitting to men. It takes a lot of humility to be in a healthy relationship!
There’s definitely been a lot of negative connotation and emphasis on women submitting to men. But the sacrificial love God calls men to love their wives, that’s a form of submission. I think there’s a lot of misconceptions and unfortunately even abuse of these verses and terms. But it takes a lot of humility from both sides to have a healthy and mutually fulfilling relationship.
@@REBEKAHJOHNSON-lh6xh I'm not a native speaker so I'm not completely sure about all connotations of the word submission. But I wouldn't call it submission at all. I'd rather call it surrender. And if in a couple both surrender to each other that's besutiful.
@@REBEKAHJOHNSON-lh6xhLOVELY ❤
Unmet expectations are a huge source of conflict. And quite often they're unmet because we never said anything to let them know! I've passed along that advice to others, including my daughters.
I still have unmet expectations, but in my case I have up years ago trying to sort through conflict because it was always my fault. I've been doing a lot of thinking, writing down thoughts and feelings, taking notes while watching your videos, and I have a friend who understands who is praying for me. I plan to write down what I want to say so she and her husband can proofread it and make sure I'm respectful but clear and not tackling too much at one go. If he's willing to listen to me, then we can have future discussing about specifics.
I've never bookmarked a video so fast. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
This means so much! :)
If you want healthy needs than there is no room for toxic behavior.
I am happy that this channel exists. Thank you.
This is very kind of you!
I never had a relationship but the knowledge you provide is so important and valuable to me. Thanks for the work you do.
I feel this heavy feeling in my heart because this video made me look back at my recent relationship that I was in where my emotional needs were not being met. I did not feel safe in that relationship because he hid me from his family. He was emotionally stunted, and could not become vulnerable with me or open up. I wish I had left sooner when I saw the signs that he was never going to tell his family about me, but I loved him and saw potential which is why I stayed. I let that go on for a year. I am the happiest I have been now because I am the partner that fulfills my needs. But I hope someone with a good heart and full with unconditional love crosses my path someday.
I hope you are the best partner to yourself, like you said and that you meet the best partner for you in future. Don’t let this experience taint your desire to find the right person in future. You’re very strong, emotionally intelligent and insightful just by reading your comment I can see this. God bless ❤
@@astrid8433Thank you that means a lot.
This is truly helpful thank you! I’ve been the one in my relationship being defensive, and invalidating my boyfriend who’s done so much for me. It’s time I change for the better and show him I want this relationship to be a healthy one. Thanks again so much this makes me feel better knowing more on what I can do. ❤
I'm so glad to have come across your channel. You've helped me in my understanding of both myself and my partner in immeasurable ways. With the clarity you've helped me obtain through your gently understanding and quite often, humourous depictions of how each side is and can be, I'm hopeful my partner an I will be able to start our healing journey. Keep it up.
Thank you so very much.
Congrats!!!!🎉 ONE MILLION! Tons of diligent work pays off!! Great job!!!👏
Thank you so, so much for sharing this. I’ve watched many videos about relationship issues and intimacy and this is by far the best one I’ve seen in terms of summing up the issues I faced in my relationship. We just broke up yesterday because of several of the issues you so clearly and concisely talked about here. It honestly felt like you were speaking to my specific situation. A few of my (healthy) needs weren’t being met, and after many, many difficult conversations, and attempts to change things I finally reached a breaking point. I had to accept that my partner simply wasn’t willing to or interested in doing the work needed for continued intimacy and connection. He showed me that through his choices. It took a long time, but I finally had to let go of my (unhealthy) need to make the relationship work even though I was the only one actually trying. It’s disappointing and painful, but I know the choice I made yesterday to finally let go of that need to make it work was the right one. And this video just deeply reaffirmed my certainty about it. Thank you so much. 🙏🏼
I love how you say the sentences I need to hear
Been watching you since the beginning and I am sooo happy you kept making videos! So helpful! Ty for your help in my relationship ❤❤❤❤ you’re def one reason we are still together
This video was so bang on for what we're going through right now and I sent it to them. Truly hoping they take the time to listen, hear what you're saying, and take it seriously.
Really wild for me to watch this randomly and have it be so spot on.
Ty Jimmy.
Emotional maturity is so important in a relationship. Most of the problems mentioned stem from a lack of it.
Anyone who says they wear their heart on their sleeve is letting you know that they lack emotional maturity. Same with anyone who describes themselves as a free spirit. Watch out for those types. Great people but terrible partners...
Omg haha. I love this comment. I agree with you but I am those people you mentioned. And I tell my friends the same thing: avoid people LIKE ME. I know that’s self limiting, but it’s more that I used to be this way and am sweeping up the remnants of that version of me, so that I can be a good partner. I have just always said to watch out for people whose defining qualities are adventurous, spontaneous, fun, adrenaline-junkie, “free spirit”. We are people who are addicted to excitement. I’m in an adult children of alcoholics program, and that’s one of the traits of a “para-alcoholic”, so it’s similar to people with addictive personalities. We look for dopamine hits and rushes. So we tend to get bored easily and move on to the next. Not good at sustaining things or even interested in it. I have these qualities but I want a life partner and a family so I’m working hard to change them. I am extremely emotionally immature, and that’s why I’m staying out of relationships for a while.
@@thecommonsensecapricorn thanks for this perspective. I have a hobby that allows me to meet a lot of people with these traits. They're super fun to be around, intelligent, passionate, self-aware, outgoing, great friends overall. But a lot of them aren't capable of being healthy romantic partners. They love drama, get bored really quick, tend to stick to unavailable people, avoid responsibility. I've been hurt a couple of times, one was worse than the other, and now I get where it comes from. There's definitely a pattern. I wish you the best in your journey, I hope you'll find your lifetime partner and will be happy with them!
I absolutely love that quote, i appreciate you sharing that. And the addition of unhealthy needs. Addressing questions I might have before they're asked, thank you so much for your content. This was very helpful for me. I learn so much from this channel and I don't think I'd be healing as well as i am from my relationship traumas without your content.
Id also like to add that this kind of advice is useful for all kinds of relationships, friendships and family members as well.
I can't thank you enough for what you do. 🙏🙂↕️
This honestly made me cry. Its helping me heal by hearing all of this
Ive tried family counseling and 1 on 1 therapy and none of them broke it down the way you just did. Thank you
I'm gobsmacked with the lack of words. I'm only 8 minutes into this, and I know that 💯 our divorce was inevitable. Two decades of knowing and over thirteen years of marriage. I went to therapy, and he refused to get couples counseling. Or seeking any help on their own.
Our children are older and out of the nest. The little eggs need me to be strong enough for us all.
This video is insane. Your words got me literally verbally saying "oh my god" . Will definitely re-watch this video for note taking.
This was really helpful, thank you.
I am a highschooler trying to navigate my relationship. Your videos really help me to do so and to understand what maturity means.
I really appreciate your videos so much. You have no idea how helpful you are.
If you have a podcast of some sort, please share it. I would be very interested in listening.
I’m a polyamory gal.
I love your videos. Much of what you discuss I picked up reading The Ethical Slut.
These kinds of conversations are so very important for all healthy relationships. Whether intimate partnerships, friendships, or family.
I have been working on self regulating when I’m upset, BEFORE approaching others. So I can do so from a balanced place, and be open to hearing them. Hard to listen when hurt or angry.
Is this a poly channel?
@@joshuaharrison8113 nope not specifically.
But good communication is universal to healthy relationships.
Learning techniques to be a better listener, partner, friend, person, is always a goal of mine.
This video was really great. You touched on a great many nuances of this topic and treated all of them with great care.
I especially appreciate that you hold both sides accountable. Questioning whether you have truly been respectful when bringing something up, "'I feel like you don't care about me' isn't a feeling", "It makes sense that the way I phrased this made you defensive" and generally pointing out that you need to be accountable for the things you do.
Because let's be real here, these are the problems men seem to face more often when dealing with women. Doesn't mean men aren't causing their own share of problems in relationships. But these are the problems *men* face. And it really makes me feel heard to hear them addressed respectfully, because next to nobody seems to do that these days. These issues either get swept under the rug because the content is actually intended as feel-good emotional reinforcement for women, or it's being brought up in the redpill community as a means to justify resentment against women. Both of which is bad.
Thank you for actually doing what you say you would.
I didn’t feel anything that you described.. I’m no longer with the individual.. I went to a counselor and was told if I had the resources to get the hell out.. and I am happy on my own.
Lesson learned.
The relationship was unrequited..
The sorry that repeats the what was heard. The same skill we use in business when listening. Complement with an actual, so it isn’t empty. Do it in the relationship- listen so you can repeat, what you actually heard not thought 😊
Always full of such good information.
Congrats on hitting 1 MILLION man
Thank you!! :)
People with need for control don’t perceive it that way. This is a particular unhealthy need that would benefit from an exclusive video in which you can give examples of what control might look like and where is the hidden need for control in it.
Thank you. 😉
By far one of the best videos on RUclips! Thank you so much! Also, where are these healthy men? 👀
The Gottmans’ studies found that how participants handled the first few minutes of a conflict had *predictive* value for whether they would be together six years later. It is not accurate to say that it “determined” whether they would. It’s not “A causes B;” it’s “When we observe A, we are more likely to observe B, and vice versa.” This may seem like a fine distinction, but it reminds us that it’s never as simple as doing one thing to have a healthy relationship. Those first few minutes are a good indicator of broader relationship dynamics, but it’s not as though they are the one moment that counts.
Edit: Still a great video filled with wisdom to live by. Thank you for laying these topics out so well.
Thank you for this. ❤ exceptional timing.
So much truth in here! ❤🎉
Wow, this whole video sadly summed up my past marriage and all the faults it had.
So sad, but “I can see clearly now the rain has gone” ⛅️
These communication tips work in friendships and families too. Any relationship…not just romantic
What about when your husband doesn't remember important conversations? He will forget what he says and then he says he was joking. Uh it wasn't funny. He finally admitted he doesn't remember having the conversation. He has also been called out about not remembering conversations at work. At least it isn't just me. It makes me not want to talk to him about my needs because he won't remember it. Then it just festers.
Would it help to write them down? I have trauma in my past and one of the impacts that I've learned is a poor memory, while that was supposed to be being formed in my brain, it was in survival mode. So I struggle to remember things too. But I write them down now, knowing that is a weakness that I have.
Not sure if it resonates or not, just wanted to offer it up.
@@shanereid9324 he has past trauma. He feels like it hasn't impacted his life. I do suggest that he write things down and he won't do it.
My husband has done this as well.
if it is a work thing/with others as well. that may be a good sign relationship wise,possible he still does care about what you tell him. if its a memory issue,maybe a doctor visit is neccessary?
My thoughts are that it is a trauma response that is happening. I feel this because it is something that I go through. And as I am doing the work, I noticed how I’m able to remember better because I’m taking care of myself and doing the interwork that needs to be done to deal with these issues.
Hey Jim,
As a former teacher, I want to applaud the great content you share!
Because you have so much excellent content- it would be helpful for me if you would take one item and select the additional information as support.
You are doing that, but because there’s so much content coming so quickly it’s difficult for me to digest.
I thought I’d share that because if I am feeling that others may be as well.
Thank you so much for your work and again, for sharing all of this important and helpful information!
I forgave him long ago, but he's never really explained what happened, why he did what he did, which leaves me feeling like it could happen again. So every so often I bring it up, trying to get an answer. I've even told him, multiple times, that I feel like I must have done something wrong or that maybe there's something wrong with me, but he just gets upset that I brought it up again.
Such great teaching. Thank you. Just one request: could you please slow down a bit? I can't keep up with all of those great insights.
Tap on ⚙️up in right corner to slow the video to your preferred listening speed. Good luck 🍀!
Hearing this, resonates so comprehensively.
Thank you very much for sharing and doing what you do! Your videos are going to help me to become the man I need to be, for the both of us.
Excellent and very helpful, clarifying video message. Thank you!
This is awesome! We love your videos, so helpful and insightful and fun. I do think you could probably fit a few more plants behind you😁😁
Thank you for this video❤
The way he treats me, refusing to speak to me for days if I speak about something that does not relate to him or his sexual kink, demanding that I be on call 24/7 and beating himself up because I must be mad at him if I, say, happened to be sleeping or in a meeting at work, is hard on me. I feel like I have a giant container of stinking garbage in my belly whenever he speaks to me. But breaking things off with a kinkster who is in so deep is on a moral level with returning a puppy to the shelter. I hate this so much. Being alone is so much better.
Thank you Jimmy! Ur words and knowledge are so valuable and appreciated by me for what I’m dealing with right now…so thank u for helping navigate me through this difficult time 🙏✌️❤️
You give extremely helpful advice. Thank you!
Love these videos!
Food for thought…
If they keep bringing it up, it may be that they received an apology for something, but the person won’t stop doing it. My ex had BPD. Cluster B personality disorders are extremely difficult to live with. He would use apologies to pacify me, but would never actually change his behavior. I would bring up examples to show him that collectively over time, he had not even tried to change the behavior and thus it remained unresolved. Also, because of his BPD, he would often apply meaning and tone to things I said or did that simply wasn’t true.
If someone has inconsistent behavioral tendencies, has deep rooted issues with abandonment, and makes up stories in their head all the time… they might have borderline personality disorder. Confirm and run before it destroys you.
Thank you!! Thank you.
thanks for this channel 😀You made me realize that I was in a toxic relationship e move one. Better alone
This was awesome! Thank you! Will you do a video about control hidden under the label of boundaries or needs?
Love your content!
Can you talk about how our partners treat others, not just us?
A disrespectful, uncivil person is still going to eventually do it to us too.
Seek truly good people.
thank you! this spoke to me in so many ways and helps me look deeper within, as I have been doing.
What I would add is curiosity as a healthy need for myself.
What i had a hard time within my relationship was the physical reactions I would get from my partner and how her reaction brought up within me was the feeling of being unsafe speaking to her. So for me safety is very important. While I can see my part in her reactions i feel it doesn't mean her reactions were ok. Just as i see mine were not ok either - sorry i needed to say all this.
I loved this.
So close to 1m ❤
Yes!!! So excited! :)
Thanks, peace and blessings to everyone 🙏
I seem to do little more than grieve my needs that can’t be met. I’m doing better dealing with the hollow feeling and it’s starting to be less overwhelmingly painful. I’ve been able to start looking at things from a more clinical place. The hardest part is going to be fulfilling the sexual needs he has while feeling unsexy and physically disgusting. Its hard to get myself in the right mindset
I asked my partner to please not leave me alone in the path of an approaching hurricane. I'm a 63 y.o. female and can't move or see like I used to and was very afraid. He said, "you'll be fine," and went to stay with other family members. The storm passed. It was terrifying. Other than tripping over debris and bruising some ribs, I was physically spared. Mentally and emotionally, still suffering. Am I too needy? I don't want him in my presence any longer.
Your videos are great thank you
Thanks
your videos are always so helpful, thank you!
Thank you
I like the term honor. NOT respect.
Your videos have taught me so much thank you Jimmy 🙌🏽
Super helpful, thank you!❤
SO good. Thank you . Very helpful
I have heard, “why are you bringing up XYZ!? I’m not rehashing that with you!”. To which I respond, “Because ABC is the same as XYZ. My feeling is clearly the underlying problem was not understood because we are repeating it”. For example, you were late to meet me at the restaurant reservation without calling. Now you are late to the company holiday party without calling. Frustrating…
Almost a million subscribers 😳👏
What if he had multiple affairs and your need for reassurance and testing is because he's inconsistent with his actions. My lack of trust is from his actions. His betrayal his USING me.
I was going to ask this exact question! When is it acceptable to ask if actions aren’t consistent with words?
Then in my experience that is time for your partner to step up or step out. When trust is broken in my experience it is very hard to get back. They need to be showing you that they can be trusted.
@@Mikelk71 oh I agree with you. He definitely knows how to step out, just to not straight up leave. Which is why I'm going to because I'm pissed enough to be done.
The multiple affairs part says enough. He doesn't care, no matter what he says. His actions speak loud.
@@kathymacario9982 I can hear your hurt and makes sense because it hurts you deeply. He needs to focus on himself and take a look within - if that is what he chooses. You also have to look within and heal from what happened also. What I have found is that we have to look at the root cause and what part of myself allowed these behaviors. I had and have to then work on those parts and heal and make whole what has been broken
Beautiful video
Thanks for making this video for me.
You. Are. Awesome!!❤
Healthy and unhealthy are the new virtuous and sinful. I reject any value judgments put forth by people who don't consider the win condition to be dying with your spouse of more than forty years, surrounded by your children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.
If anyone is going through a break up with a narcissist ( we were together for 10 months and now i see he's treating me wrong and absolutely dismissing my feelings) - probably you wanna be not alone in this and we can chat and support each other in this, we can contact somewhere
(If this is important, im 26 y o)
If were surrounded by those Bea houseplants at home, there’ll be no fighting 😀
What about when then they say this is just going to lead to a fight. So they refuse to talk. They equate peace to walking away. It feels like the only solution is to stop talking to him. I feel disrespected and dismissed. He thinks he can just wait until a period of time will go by.
Everything is getting swept under the rug.
Too bad so many people would rather beer-bong bleach... than even attempt to communicate.
Ty so much for all your RUclips info. I love this one especially because it’s exactly what I feel and notice in my partner who I’m pretty sure is narcissistic. He will ask for qualifications? Can I tell hher m what your are??❤
I want to get a therapist or couples counseling, but she won't. She's always got a bunch of reasons revolving around fearing me not accepting the therapy unless it is supporting me or as she puts it takes my side. Which again doesn't make sense cause it's not about Me vs. Her it's yin and yang balance and double-edged love not 1 sided
Hi from FINLAND
Jimmy, how do you know so many things about relationships? From books, from educational background, from your own research...?
Well first thank you for the compliment (I don’t see myself as knowing very much) but yes, I am passionate about learning about relationships (mainly because of how important I realized my own is) :)
Hey, I have a question.. I heard someone say that the real purpose or goal of couples therapy is to help the couple go in separate direction and break up because if a couple go to a couples therapy it means their relationship is broken and I wonder, Is that true ? When people go to consult is it generally because their relationship is already broken beyond repair ?
While it’s true that SO often people wait until their issues having eroded all the trust and intimacy in the relationship to seek help and atleast 30% of couples in counseling break up, there are still a TON of couples that heal (if both partners actually want to do the work)
@@JimmyonRelationships okay good to know! thank you for the answer :)
Did Jimmy write a book cuz I need one ASAP
THANK you❣️
These videos are golden. 🌟
Are enough of your needs met that you can grieve the ones that aren't and move forward?" Incredibly insightful. ❗🤩
Maybe my 27yr relationship could have been saved if we both had these insights, skills, and desire to save it. Maybe not, because when resentment festers for too long, or there are core incompatibilities that are never even talked about, then it's like beating a dead horse to get back up.
Respect
Yeah…. He would immediately start yelling and claim he wasn’t yelling, even when it would literally hurt my ears, but hey, my pain is made up 🙃
I tried to communicate and now I don’t care. I just really hope he leaves in a few days. I’m so desperate, I’m even giving back his rent money for this month and it’ll be the 20th when he gets it. I just asked him if I could get some food which I was going to pay for after coming out of work and going to the hospital with my mom because her blood pressure was too high. He wouldn’t even take me to get food because I was so tired but he wanted me to make him food when it would’ve been easier for me to just buy us something to eat so I could rest too. I’m so tired of him.
I'm hopeful at some point that you might address scenarious that involve a partner that WANTS to put in the work (as opposed to being disinterested in it), but struggles to do so. My partner struggles with anger, and he wants to be able to bring all of these postive aspects to the relationship, he is looking to constantly improve and have conversations, yet he gets emotionally overstimulated then defaults to attacking my character, yelling, and threatening the relationship most times there is conflict. What if someone wants to do better, but struggles to overcome their own insecurities?
Hey brother, How it feels to be on 999k sub?
Are apologies required to be spoken in a deep soft voice?
39 seconds ago is diabolical
I am really sad it has reach to astage that I don't know how to approach my husband out to a quarrel I need help in my marriage