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I was about 8 years old when my mother woke me up one evening because she couldn't find the key to the large iron gate in the garden. She was anxiously awaiting the late return of my father, who was an alcoholic. She accused me of having left the key somewhere. I remember being terribly afraid of what my father would do to my mother, because domestic violence was commonplace. My mother was beside herself with fear and was running around like a crazy chicken. I remember how all her fear was transferred to me and took hold of me. Suddenly I lost the ability to speak. She found the key in time and all I remember is that they took me to the hospital and I couldn't answer any questions. I have never heard of the connection between trauma and loss of speech before and now, at 63, I am very grateful for your talk. From🇨🇭
I am so sorry you experienced this, my mother had an abusive drug addicted husband and projected the same energy onto me for literally decades, and not on my two younger sisters so that made me feel especially anxious and depressed. I hope you have received help and are growing in your healing. Its such a hard process ❤
I was told by a family member my mom was dead for 8 months ans it wasn't true. When i saw her again I couldn't speak for several weeks. Trauma can absolutely cause you not to be able to speak. I did not know that of course then and had continued abuse but know now as an adult. So sorry for your experiences. I hope you find peace.
That's why I have dropped out of school so many times. Some teachers told me they don't understand why I can be so smart one time and so offline other times.
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Take✨D3, citrate magnesium supplement. Helps with the vertigo and stress. Anxiety too. B12 supplement. D3 helps with vertigo. Take Omega3 Antarctic krill oil supplement, specifically if you don’t have salmon, fish.. seafood. Water that contains minerals, salt that contains iodine. Emocional state of mind is important. Trust in God. And say All is Well. I Am safe. All positive affirmations. ✨👼✨avoid too much sugar. Sweet bread. Or caffeine drinks. At least for now.
I am starting to think I am autistic, cause I have noticed that people seem to hold me in polar opposites on one hand "I might be a secret genius who is manipulating everyone." but also "Incredibly incompetent and potentially mentally handicapped in someway." Like it can't be both.... I can also tell you it is neither. I am incredibly anxious because I am extremely aware of you opinion of me, and I cannot function if I think your opinion of me is anything less than stellar. If I let you down, I will try hard to make it right. If I perceive that I have failed enough times, it is too exhausting to try and keep the motor running high trying to grasp at the implied loss for a figurative gain.
I am so cooked. Getting stuck in a cycle of pressure, leading to mistakes, to poor sleep, more mistakes, more pressure to overcome, poorer sleep. It’s both work and personal life stress, it’s hard to escape
...thank you for putting the exact words together that i wish could come out when im trying to explain to my friends why I can't respond or even read texts for days. The overwhelm of intense stress for so many years is just too much. I hope you are hanging in there and I'm sending love
@@LANA-ca lol yeah, it sometimes takes me hours, and when i'm ready i wonder why i couldnt do it earlier. But in the stress, it's never as urgent to respond
I've seen someone lose the ability to have any type of personal conversation other than work related. or focus long enough to listen at all in day to day conversation. Everyone around them Thought they were just being rude. If someone close to you displays major changes in personality and shuts down don't internalize it. Give them love, don't assume it's YOU. They need someone more then they even know.
That's a very kind and thoughtful message! You are absolutely right... It's not intentional. In actuality, it's unbelievably frustrating to not be able to engage in normal, casual conversations with others. It would be seriously relieving to be "present, in ones own body" (not dissociating) and able to engage in friendly conversation, maybe even make a friend at some point. I wish my family members could understand this. I've tried explaining it to them. I'm not communicating it the right way, or they aren't able to comprehend it. Not sure. Either way, it's makes you feel even more alone. If someone was willing and dedicated enough to try to be patient, and consistently make some time to work with me... I think that's the investment it would require to improve my brain... My functionality. I'm desperately trying to help myself heal, to "re-parent" myself. But my memory, as Tim mentions, is being severely affected by nearly constantly elevated cortisol levels. So even if I learn new things to try, healthier coping strategies, I often can't remember them when I need them. In a world so full of people... It should be absurd to think that if I was to die today... There's not one person that could come to my funeral truly knowing Who I was, my sense of humor, my quirks, my pet peeves, my spontaneity, what brought me joy. My sweet pup, Stella, she's the only one that truly knows Me. The language barrier... In this case, is what makes this possible. I'm extremely grateful for Her. (Shoot. See? Now I'm getting off topic. That's the thing that I do that others interpret as being rude. Because it takes up too much time, I'm guessing. I don't do this intentionally, it just happens.) Thank you @heatherpeci2909. I'm grateful you have had this revelation. Keep being an awesome, understanding, human being ♥️♥️♥️
personally i feel like my cognitive functioning is reduced since over a year back or more... And sometimes it feels like I can't socialize, I can't formulate sentences, I keep forgetting words.. Sometimes when I need to think about what to do next I stop and my brain is like a heartbeat monitor flatlining. What I am relieved of and very thankful for, is that my social capabilities is enough for work. I work in a team and we socialize, eat lunch together. Collaborate with work. Or I sit by myself infront of my computer. It works for me... And I am so glad I don't experience these issues while at work.. If I did, I'm not sure if i could keep my work and then all my pillars and security would crumble. So I try to find my way back, back to stability and social forwardness. I try to remove these mental glitching and bugs but I'm not sure if I can or if this is just who I am... And with focus, I sometimes loose focus when someone talks with me. I try to concentrate, I want to listen but my mind wanders off or gets distracted. Also when I drive a car I can't talk with someone and drive at the same time really... It takes too much CPU power for me.
Some people are sick of listening to other people's pointless drivel, meaningless BS, and judgemental behavior. These type of people are a waste of my time and energy.
At the height of my stressful marriage I was looking at a picture of me holding a baby that I didn't recognize. My mother told me it was my second oldest child, he was about 4 months old in the photo. It shocked me to see just how much stress I had been under from all the gas lighting from my ex husband.
After i lost my little boy unexpectedly a year and 10 months ago this is exactly what happened to me. Affected my speech, ability to read and comprehend. Could not solve simple math or even simple instructions. Got into trouble at work because i was getting things wrong, Could not remember the smallest things As soon as i get over stimulated i go back to that severe brain fog. It's actually embarrassing at time, but i have sort of learnt now that my brain can only handle so much at a time so i try to take little breaks. Its a little better which i am grateful for and i am now able to read and understand what i am reading retaining information is still a struggle but small blessings it is improving
This is so true. I experienced losing my son last May..just in the last few weeks I'm starting to feel better. Completing sentences and feeling the fog lift a bit. I am still slow..as I have to process everything..being in loud crowds is tough. God bless you.
So sorry for your loss. ❤ Sounds much like when I first got Fibromyalgia. I had intensive neurological testing and it took a lot for the doctor to believe that I wasn't lying or making it up. It took about 4 years and giving in to take Adderall but a decade in, I'm still doing well. Vitamin D3 helped get my brain going again, as well. I'll never be the same as before and traumatic event triggered the Fibro in the first place. Hopefully you will be.
@@sakkarabeirre, I was treated similarly both before and after I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis, back in 2010. The pharmacists jumped on the dog pile when I mistakenly attempted to refill a prescription a day earlier than I was scheduled to run out. Nevermind the long trail of humiliations suffered upon me by my adult siblings, the code enforcement police, the school staff at my cbildrens' private scbool, and healthcare "professionals". I eventually became a recluse with zero faith in our western medicine model for dealing with chronic pain patients. A couple of years after I quit taking the meds and going to doctors at all, I accidentally cured myself by giving up gluten. Any time I mistakenly ingest something containing wheat, my symptoms flood back. Other than that, I am well and whole. The only reason I joined the conversation is with the hope what I went through will help someone else. Cheers!
My husband's trauma has just broken through for the very first time in 46 years and and he has no choice but to process it. He is autistic with alexithymia, and has zero idea about psychology, but i was raised on it. We are poor, can't afford doctors, and he can't conceive of talking to a stranger about the horrors he suffered. So i am listening, quietly, anytime something bubbles up. This will help immensely because his brain fog is so bad that he needs simple explanations with words to read along with your voice, so he can stop and read when he gets confused. Thank you.
Look for essential oils like helichrysum italicum, just smell on it and within a fraction it goes to the limbic brain and does it works. Look for Aromatherapie. Greetings from Germany
Thanks for sharing. I have been telling people this for years. "I know what the problem is. It is too much stress. I am working to reduce the stress. More resources (i.e. money) would help me manage that stress." And look at the jobs available today. Even in the least stressful jobs I have had someone above me has found a way to make it more stressful than it needs to be. And I am an outstanding worker, so stressful.... lol. Thanks again, felt like this one was made just for me.
Many situations don't depend on us but our environment and even in the most sh!tty jobs I have found co-workers competition and narcissistic managers...narcissists are almost always chosen to manage and many times they get rid of their best employees and cause their companies even go into bankrupcy. I have worked for some managers that pushed away their best workers and later I found out they lost the position and were working waiting tables...corporative mindless inhuman resources.
You sound like you didn’t watch the video. Read the opening two lines again of your comment and then imagine someone else reading them and how you might sound. We are talking about trauma and how it changes the brain and what those changes result in. Stress is unavoidable in a successful life. Trauma is completely avoidable.
I was assaulted at work. I've been in and out of therapy for 8 years. 😢 I've been reclusive since. What you are explaining I've suffered since then. I've also realised I can't remember what I've just heard, read, watched or learnt.😢 For me, the assault triggered all the abuse I suffered. Physical, emotional, mental, sexual and spiritual. I avoid interaction with humans. 😢
I am so sorry that happened to you. I am no expert by any means. But aside from therapy have you considered taking some type of self defense or martial arts. Trauma gets stored in the body and this will get your body moving in a more empowering way than exercise. Biologically you will release those feel good hormones but also it may help you feel less scared knowing your stronger or could defend yourself in a situation.
Psychiatrist and psychologist all helpful, meds helpful. But also having a big dog to be beside you can actually relieve some of that subconscious distrust of people. A dog is someone who is 100% loyal and safe. Also dogs evaluate other people who are near you and can help you trust your instincts again. Honestly a job where you can take your dog. So probably not a job where you are having to be around people the whole day as it is exhausting I was late diagnosed ADHD but also having some retriggering of my CPTSD and try and figure out which causes what. I take supplements like magnesium and tart cherry and some calming herbs to help me sleep because I need sleep to function, taurine might help me too. Sleep is necessary to rest and renew my brain.
I so agree! I've been experiencing all that, too, diagnosed with C-PTSD. I had to change my diet totally to anti-inflammatory foods and teas, Mg+ potassium-rich foods, such as potatoes, bananas, salmon, berries, etc. Wheat products & processed foods make brain fog and headaches very bad. I don't have it as bad anymore, but bad enough that I'm still not able to work in any capacity, on disability, unable to function properly. It's super frustrating! A little stress is enough to shut down my prefrontal cortex or get me into freeze mode with temporary paralysis. Educated in 3 professions, it's extremely frustrating to not be able to work and function. Thank you for these teachings, they are the best! It helps me so very much! Many Blessings! - Ines
@elainesmith5903 I'm sorry to hear about your struggles! I experienced the same for several years, although a 2-months lasting hostage situation had clearly been enough grounds for a PTSD- diagnosis from a Psychiatrist at the hospital, who still didn't "get it". 3 years later I did Trauma courses online, some with Arizona Trauma Institute thru Udemy, and one on C-PTSD totally described what I was dealing with, had not had a clue about C-PTSD prior. I told my GP who agreed, and referred me to a Psychiatrist for proper diagnosis, who agreed, too. Thru online education I had gained enough good knowledge that I could "build a case", and tho even as an RN not qualified nor allowed to diagnose, we all can make suggestions. I gave the Drs my list with medical history and symptoms, presenting my case, and provided the source of my information, the C-PTSD certificate course(s). The Drs couldn't deny it, it was too obvious and in line with the DSM-5 and ICD-11 that Health Professionals work with, and I had already done all the investigative work for them. Maybe it helped that I'm a "stubborn German", an RN, and known to do my own thorough research, especially regarding my own and my family's health. We all should make more use of our God-given autonomy, taking matters more into our own hands to not hand our health and life over to another, blindly trusting them... We got a part to play, too, if we wanna be well. It's good to get educated & present notes with medical history, symptoms, questions... a "case" to discuss and get results. Respect is one thing, but Physicians are not gods, so, approach them boldly, don't be shy, and ask Almighty God/Jesus for help & guidance! It works! - All the best! Many Blessings! - Ines
@elainesmith5903 Especially GPs gotta have such a broad knowledge, it's so very much they gotta know that in cases of, e.g., Trauma/(C-)PTSD they often lack in-depth knowledge, as it is a field in which ground-breaking studies were done in recent years that would require to stay up-to-date which is not so realistic for GPs, sadly often not even really pursued by professionals in that field. To see past Depression/Anxiety, an MD would need to put in some time and effort to investigate, time they often don't have, why they may tend to reach for the obvious diagnosis without getting any deeper. That's where we come in, having done our homework... Many of us are sadly not too interested in putting in the time and effort to get educated from tonnes of even free online sources, but when not even we care about our own health, by taking some matters into our own hands, why would Physicians invest more time and effort than we are willing to put in for our own good health and wellbeing? They can only work with the information we give them... When we get involved and ensure our medical team has all the information from us with 1st hand lived experience, then all our co-operation can and will bring much better results. - I hope, you'll find some encouragement in the above! My above advice is based on my over 30 years as an RN, +additional MH Nursing College education, and lived 1st hand C-PTSD experience. Not enough qualified support is out there, we gotta get involved to be able to heal. Education is big! Tim Fletcher's teachings are the best, I'd say by far the simplest to understand by people from all walks of life. What we who suffered psychological Trauma experience every day is so not taught in Universities/Colleges. What I learned there barely scratched the surface, why likely most professionals out there are not as well equipped as we would wish and need them to be. Recovery/healing starts with our[!] education on the subject+symptoms, to be able to co-operate, participate with our health care team, to not get stuck+broke, relying on Experts alone, who without their own 1st hand lived experience, even with best professional education, may never really know what it's like to walk in our shoes, and how to best help us heal... We have a voice, and we also gotta become a voice, to inform and educate, tearing down stigma and bias in our sadly still very much Trauma-un-informed Society. Some 10% of the adult population alone, + kids, +youth, +those not yet officially diagnosed, do live and struggle with (C-)PTSD. We are many! Therapy far too often hides behind a pay wall, overall inaccessible/unaffordable for definitely those on Disability, at least here in ON, Canada. But we could change a lot by speaking up for all our wellbeing, our recovery +healing! Many Blessings! - Ines
@elainesmith5903 I'm sorry to hear about your struggles! I experienced the same for several years, although a 2-months lasting hostage situation had clearly been enough grounds for a PTSD- diagnosis from a Psychiatrist at the hospital, who still didn't "get it". 3 years later I did Trauma courses online, some with Arizona Trauma Institute thru Udemy, and one on C-PTSD totally described what I was dealing with, had not had a clue about C-PTSD prior. I told my GP who agreed, and referred me to a Psychiatrist for proper diagnosis, who agreed, too. Thru online education I had gained enough good knowledge that I could "build a case", and tho even as an RN not qualified nor allowed to diagnose, we all can make suggestions. I gave the Drs my list with medical history and symptoms, presenting my case, and provided the source of my information, the C-PTSD certificate course(s). The Drs couldn't deny it, it was too obvious and in line with the DSM-5 and ICD-11 that Health Professionals work with, and I had already done all the investigative work for them. Maybe it helped that I'm a "stubborn German", an RN, and known to do my own thorough research, especially regarding my own and my family's health. We all should make more use of our God-given autonomy, taking matters more into our own hands to not hand our health and life over to another, blindly trusting them... We got a part to play, too, if we wanna be well. It's good to get educated & present notes with medical history, symptoms, questions... a "case" to discuss and get results. Respect is one thing, but Physicians are not gods, so, approach them boldly, don't be shy, and ask Almighty God/Jesus for help & guidance! It works! - All the best! Many Blessings! - Ines
@@elainesmith5903 Especially GPs gotta have such a broad knowledge, it's so very much they gotta know that in cases of, e.g., Trauma/(C-)PTSD they often lack in-depth knowledge, as it is a field in which ground-breaking studies were done in recent years that would require to stay up-to-date which is not so realistic for GPs, sadly often not even really pursued by professionals in that field. To see past Depression/Anxiety, an MD would need to put in some time and effort to investigate, time they often don't have, why they may tend to reach for the obvious diagnosis without getting any deeper. That's where we come in, having done our homework... Many of us are sadly not too interested in putting in the time and effort to get educated from tonnes of even free online sources, but when not even we care about our own health, by taking some matters into our own hands, why would Physicians invest more time and effort than we are willing to put in for our own good health and wellbeing? They can only work with the information we give them... When we get involved and ensure our medical team has all the information from us with 1st hand lived experience, then all our co-operation can and will bring much better results. - I hope you'll find some encouragement in the above! My above advice is based on my over 30 years as an RN, +additional MH Nursing College education, and lived 1st hand C-PTSD experience. Not enough qualified support is out there, we gotta get involved to be able to heal. Education is big! Tim Fletcher's teachings are the best, I'd say by far the simplest to understand by people from all walks of life. What we who suffered psychological Trauma experience every day is so not taught in Universities/Colleges. What I learned there barely scratched the surface, why likely most professionals out there are not as well equipped as we would wish and need them to be. Recovery/healing starts with our[!] education on the subject+symptoms, to be able to co-operate, participate with our health care team, to not get stuck+broke, relying on Experts alone, who without their own 1st hand lived experience, even with best professional education, may never really know what it's like to walk in our shoes, and how to best help us heal... We have a voice, and we also gotta become a voice, to inform and educate, tearing down stigma and bias in our sadly still very much Trauma-un-informed Society. Some 10% of the adult population alone, + kids, +youth, +those not yet officially diagnosed, do live and struggle with (C-)PTSD. We are many! Therapy far too often hides behind a pay wall, overall inaccessible/unaffordable for definitely those on Disability, at least here in ON, Canada. But we could change a lot by speaking up for all our wellbeing, our recovery +healing! Many Blessings! - Ines
I’ve had a mild version of this for years…but more recently, after going through a traumatic or high stress situation, I literally feel brain damaged. I even have to tell people, “Sorry, please bear with me, I’m having one of those episodes…” This video has helped me make some sense of the stuff I go through…now, if only I could find the fix!
@ albeit a bit harsh and perhaps slightly presumptive, those are all valid considerations/questions. Unfortunately, I can’t say it’s for lack of practice or effort. I don’t use a lot of drugs. I’ve had some birthdays, but still young enough that if this is age-related, I’ll have Alzheimer’s by the time I’m 45. It all started once I got into abusive relationships and situations, and I’ve seen glimmers of clarity when I’ve managed to stay away from them for long enough. So I’m inclined to believe it’s not ‘just me’. I just want my cognition back as before. I hate feeling foggy or stupid.
Well I don't even need to think process everything naturally could design a building without even thinking about it... I believe it's not good for you ?
Is your office very stress inducing. If I am comfortable at home feeling safe and not harassed I am fine and able to do work and focus but if there's a situation where I have to deal with people in a stress environment I am like a complete idiot..I spill things I just look like a complete clown.
@@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine Has nothing to do with ability or education. Extreme Prolonged Stress cuts off all of your natural abilities and learned assets.
My husband is an architectural designer too! He graduated in December and has applied to so many jobs but still looking. We’ve prayed for a miracle. I’m a disabled nurse and we have 2 kids. Is your company hiring?
cpts caused by my parents and brainfog made me choose to be a shopkeeper at 43 years. Cleaning, selling someone else's artwork. No thinking, no planning. That's all that I can do for now. Simple tasks. Cannot bear stress of complexe task. All the years when I was a book translator, a teacher, a web articles writer, I did not realized how much brainfog and chronique fatigue was not my fault. I hated me because all my brilliant talents could not last long and today I feel shitty to sweep and mop the floor at the shop. My parents deserve to be punished for their cruelty and neglect. The rage is real. Thank you for this video 🌻
I was a cosmetologist for 15 yrs but when you care too much, as I, then you burn out. I have had evil things happen to me, loaded with health problems and no longer work. Many people should not have kids. I was the youngest out of four. I have always had anxiety, depression, panic attacks, etc. My health, physically and emotionally was almost completely ignored as a child. I had to work up the courage at age of 9 to tell my mother about symptoms I had which should have typed her off to sexual abuse. After I told her, she didn't even look at me or acknowledge it. Ever!!!!! I get your rage issues, alright!!!!!!! We are in a very dysfunctional and broken world. Look to God. He will soon heal all of His sheep, permanently!!! Wishing you healing and the very best!!!
@@bethelle9099what a horrible life experience. Thanks for sharing, none of us deserved that. True, these kind of humans should not reproduce or take care of any child. Blessings and healings to you too.
@@bethelle9099 Hey I Know its hard but ... I have had similar problems since childhood and parents never acknowledged but this led me to self (age 14) discovery and a deep dive into philosophy and spirituality and other shit. I went through a rollercoaster ride of nihilism, meaning of life, universe, what is self, thoughtlessness, periods of extreme happiness and clarity then sadness and boredom and so on. So i want to share with you some techniques i have learnt over the years and let me know if it works for you 😊. First - Thought Patterns - Discard all unnecessary thoughts and feelings: childhood trauma, abuse, rage, they are just garbage that takes up your mind energy . Fill your mind with seeds of Gratitude and Wonder for the world, It creates Energy. Second - Practice Thoughtlessness - Try to stop thinking and just feel the present moment. Even just a few secs will feel so good. It will bring clarity in your mind Third - Breathing - Try Breathing slowly and let it fill your chest , try to smell the air, breath calmly and naturally.
Yeah, it's a heartbreaking thing when we realize it didn't have to be this way. We were wrongly acted upon by our parents when we were too young to know what was going on, let alone how to handle it. We spend our lives trying to pick up the pieces, but we can't see them in the fog. We try to make choices but are ill-equipped from a shattered self. Heck, we don't even know who we are. Years later, we come across a Tim, and he tells us about us. We swear he wrote the book about "me" specifically as the details fit. I don't know about you, but this is why I know I need a Savior, and His name is Jesus.
@@winniecash1654for guys it is a little different: you don't get to say "woe is me" and blame your actions and attitude on anything and everything but yourself. Men are burdened with relentless, uncompromising self-dependence, and are granted little or zero latitude for challenges they've experienced. This womanly blame shifting is a luxury not afforded to men.
Experienced significant and repeated trauma within a short period of time due to a natural disaster. Life and death decisions. One after another after another. No time to think. No time to explain. My “support system” was a lie and I experienced what felt like the ultimate betrayal. No time to think. No time to explain. No time to be angry. Get my family to a safe place. Get to a safe place. Get to a safe place. Hyper-vigilance and no sleep for two years afterwards. It’s been ~10 years and I’ve never been the same. I felt concussed and, frankly, I believe I experienced a TBI. I’m confident this complex and cumulative trauma caused physical damage to my brain. I’ve asked several doctors if such trauma can cause brain injury but they are unable to answer. This is interesting information. Thank you for sharing.
I can relate to this. It has been helpful to eliminate electronics. They really mess with your brain. I was escaping into my phone awhile there. Bad idea; makes it worse.
I was in Panama City during Hurricane Michael 2018 and it had a similar effect on me, and I didn't even know anybody from there so the stress of a natural disaster combined with being in a place I wasn't familiar with and people I didn't know just clicked my brain off. It was a very tough time in my life but I'm really glad I got through it and I'm taking care of myself mentally right now
Ive never heard this put into word's so well, but I did learn the hard way its caused by stress. I had a violent childhood to say the least, so as a young adult i started taking drug's. I moved to a new state in 2018 and was forced to get off drug's due to hurricane Michael. The combination of surviving a hurricane and having withdrawal just absolutely destroyed my nerves. I couldn't quit shaking and I couldn't focus on anything or barely carry on a conversation and I was surrounded by nothing but people and places i knew nothing about. I feel like it changed me and i haven't been the same since but I no longer take hard drug's and I see a therapist so im doing the best i have mentally in quite some time. I still have my struggles and stressful moments in life but im doing better for sure
I was in the store checkout last week and tried to pay for my food without scanning, tried to pay after I already paid and left without bagging my items. Two strangers had to help me figure things out. That has never happened to me before. I felt like a confused elderly person - I'm 43! It was very embarrassing and scary.
Been there done that. You CAN recover dear, I did too. Enormous amounts of sleep, rest, healthy diet, improving immunity, keeping away from EVERYTHING toxic and LETTING GO. ( of tightly held desires, opinions and beliefs.)** Our minds and bodies have self healing mechanisms called rejuvenating if only we can unlock it. ** don't worry you WILL come to the sweet balance.❤ The whole cleansing process took me 3+ years. Now the complex trauma of 20+ years is merely a distant past experience . Amazing!!!😊 Bless your sweet self. ❤ all the way from Sri Lanka.
I highly recommend taking ashwaganda if you have high cortisol. Its really helps counteract the cortisol and reduce the fight or flight response. I've been taking it daily for almost 2 years and it has been a game changer.
Woke up 6 years later in Florida feeling better luckily I got by for two years until social security kicked in. Before that tried working but kept quitting small jobs. I would up driving Uber burned through half of my savings but am now recovered. The fog lifted. Living a quiet modest life.
I'm constantly forgetting, and then I have people friends and family that get mad and say that I don't listen or they think I'm lying cuz I can't remember what they say, it's either I'm not paying attention but when I get stressed out it's like blacking out I can't remember. I remember things in bits and pieces and when I tell people that they can't understand why.
that's my husband for many years - accusing me of not paying attention to him. he was a total gaslighting ahole over it. now the tables are turned and due to substance abuse, his short term memory is shot. difference is that I cut him some slack and know he can't help it.
This is so true. I've never heard this talked about before, but I've been thinking for a while now about all the times I felt that I couldn't process information in stressful situations and how it's the cortex that's shutting down due to fight or flight.
this video gave me clarity, my mental tape is "i don't know what's going on, i don't know what to do" if i'm doing something new. and then i hyper focus on something irrelevant. emotionally, i think i'm afraid to get raged at and then physically attacked (and killed) if i took any kind of action.
That's me. I'll read a million and one journal articles, but I try writing my thesis, and I'm completely stuck. It's become so deliberating that I'm considering moving to my remote farm and forgetting about everything and everyone else.
Everything described is me. I’ve asked so many questions as to why/what’s wrong w me? This video has really helped answer my questions.This has stemmed from childhood and life experiences/trauma for me as well, and the damage is already done. But I am willing to do the work to transform my mindset and properly manage my emotions ( which I thank God I’m self aware and emotionally intelligent- at the same time emotionally immature as I was not taught how to manage my emotions). With all that being said, I now rely on my intuition/my inner knower to guide me thru this…..because I will get better!
I remember telling my brother, don’t ask me anything about if I remember this or that because I don’t remember. My memory does not serve me well anymore. And my 23 yr old son said, “ Because you’ve changed”. I looked a little perplexed when he said that. Then he continues to say, “ You’ve become a new person and those things you can’t remember because they no longer serve you, and you’re making room for the new. That changed my whole perspective to not be so hard on myself thru this. “NOT by might, nor by power, but by my Spirit.”
So interesting and helpful thank you, and I was certainly experiencing this until I began to take measures to heal (using channels and info like this!). Also heavy metals can cause brain fog, as well as exposure to EMF, and I think it's quite common to be dealing with and untangling all three at the same time as we get to a sort of 'total crisis point' where our system is flashing red lights 24/7-365 by the end, and one toxic situation feeds the other in a feedback loop of extreme fog which is can be very difficult to stop due to the exhaustion & fog! Horrible! I have certainly been experiencing this. But . . . I set up an EMF barrier around where I sleep (just cheap roof insulation thick aluminum barrier) and turn off the wifi at night and stopped light pollution into my room. My sleep improved so much. Plus then progress I have made with all this CPTSD is extraordinary, as well as progress with diet and food sourcing and supplements as well as a detoxing from built up toxins (metals) using vitamin C, MCP and EDTA in a sort of rolling detox.The difference between me one year ago and now is STARK! I have increasing energy positivity, clarity, and I sleep deeply. Even long term skin problems cleared up - my hands stopped cracking. Amazing, seriously!
I’m so glad you are addressing all of my annoying characteristics. It definitely helps knowing the source and that it can perhaps be healed someday. When it is a bit separated from ‘me’ it takes a bit of the stress away, which then helps with the characteristic or symptoms. In addition, it allows me to take a look at things and see what my triggers are. My brain fog gets quite severe, to the point where I just don’t talk because it’s too frustrating. I’ve known that my brain fog is stress and hormone associated but I think the CPTSD increases the severity and frequency of the brain fog. Thank you!
I hope that some of your videos inspire Hope. I wouldn’t be surprised if a man, no offense lacked the wisdom to implement. As this is a feminine trait, however, the prospect for growth is immense. Just as the brain can deteriorate it can repair. You can become better than you were before, empowerment. Truly, it’s the pain of now or later, but you can self-actualize if you desire. Individuate, becoming en enlightened whatever you want to call it. You are what you think, if you think you’re at the mercy of this, then you will be. If you believe you can conquer then you will. The evidence for that is there also. Post traumatic growth, check that out. And Debrowski’s theory of positive disintegration. Most likely most of you are highly sensitive person.
@@sabrinaszabo9355it's not enough to love yourself . We don't live in a bubble. We live in society, must earn a living, and people need to learn what this is and stop rejecting the victim.
When my ex was abusing me I believe “brain fog” must have been what I was experiencing. Every time was more traumatic than the last….. honestly I couldn’t tell you exactly what I consciously experienced, or if the reason why the fog was always more intense each time because the abuse was worse or if it was simply because of an autonomic response. I was inside of myself, almost like looking inside of my body somehow. I did consciously realize whatever it was going on in my brain was a trauma response. It was like my brain was buzzing…..like a fluorescent or neon light or something….it didn’t necessarily hurt, but it in itself was kind of traumatic, because I don’t remember the trauma, but I was very present in the sense of being trapped inside my head fully aware I was experiencing a traumatic event. BUT, God HEALS!!! And so can we 💕 *Healed*people*heal*people!!!*
@@laurenbeals705 Fascinating description. I've lived like that all my life...hiding inside my body because there was nowhere it felt safe to come out to interface with the world.
Thank you so much for this...I came out of extreme trauma a few years back and has taken some TIME to heal...along with my childhood neglect and abuse...myself and my husband met struggling and we have both worked hard to build up a life for ourselves and our children...stress still comes in hard times...I just turned 40 this year and I'm so scared when I realized I'm constantly forgetting...but like never before (my mom is also battling with dementia) but my forgetfulness was freaking me out - I always had a super sharp memory...but this helped me realize what could be actually happening to me and it makes a lot of sense - thank you!
I was in an extremely stressful job (prison system) for 5 years finally I quit then got involved in a relationship with a narcissist 26 years my junior. My life became a total shambles mentally and physically, I lost the ability to walk, got food debris trapped in my trachea that required a trachea resection. I can go on and on, but thanks to God I’m on my way to healing after watching Several youtube videos on brain fog, depression and extreme anxiety.
OMG. This is me. I’ve been dealing with this. I’ve thought I had a brain tumor, going to the doctor saying something is wrong with me. This explains a lot. It got so bad I thought I was getting dementia at 42
Tim You shared everything that describes & happens in & to the body with brain fog... what is the best antidote to lower the cortisol & clear up the brain fog? No sugar, exercise, vacation? Im looking for solutions. Thanks for sharing your knowledge..you are Awesome!😊
You are such a huge blessing, Tim. Describing my life...and also a very special "sanation event" by the Holy Spirit, about 10 years ago. It all makes total sense. THANK YOU.
This is me. Got diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, one of the main symptoms is brain fog. That was many years ago but my stress has multiplied, fatigue and brain fog is the result. I'm trying so hard to recover but it's very slow and difficult and I just wish there was some magic fix.
Omg, didn't know that CFS is a symptom of brain fog. I have both. Was in a 25 yr marriage with a neglectful narc. These days though Ive noticed that stress sets off the fatigue like a chain reaction, and it takes awhile to reboot after the stressful event has passed
Consider these two therapies •Brainspotting •Somatic Experiencing Both help facilitate the relase of early developmental trauma and forgotten trauma that is likely contributing to CPTSD and brain fog. Removing current stressors from your life in hopes of fixing a lifeling problem is like trying to repair an amputation with a bandaid.
@soulseeker2025 Losing a good paying job was, for me, a huge blow to my ego, my confidence, my security. I realize many things were probably easier for you when there was more money. Consider for a moment, that many things fluctuate in life... Money, romance, friendships, homes. Your inherent worth never changes though. You are worthy, you are loved, you are needed, and you are valuable. Answering phones may not seem ideal. I've also worked on the phones. I did Technical support for apple devices like 15 years ago. It was rough. The majority of customers are in a hurry, or moody, or just straight up disrespectful. I empathize with what you have to deal with. Doing that job for a year and a half has helped me to seriously appreciate others who work at call centers, or wherever, answering phones. Because often enough, I run into some issue that I have to call someone for help with. (Prescription crap with the pharmacy, or issues with my bank, etc). I really appreciate when I get to speak with an actual human, instead of an AI chat bot. I appreciate it even more, when the human is somehow able to be kind and they try to help me with whatever's going on, despite the fact that they probably had 10 calls before me, (in a row!!), with disrespectful customers. Customer service (of pretty much any kind) is a rough job. I appreciate what you do. ❤️ My mental health issues have gotten to the point where I'm not employable anymore. I absolutely am willing, and have the time to spare, to try to make your day a little better. 😊 If you want, send me the number that I could call and reach you at. I would call in just to wish you a good day and tell you to keep up the good work! A 'pick me up' 😁😁. email it to jeankeller 13 at jeemail dot caum. If not, that's cool too. Just keep swimming! You've got this.
I got through college with terrible brain fog. On top of the stress of death of my adoptive mother, an interstate move, change of schools, horrible conflict with a former close friend, I had recurring yeast infections alternating with urinary tract infections I couldn't shake and couldn't stand taking the meds anymore. I made it through school & made good grades, but I would have had a fuller, happier life without the brain fog. It's good to know there's a lot I can do about it. I won't recognize myself without the brain fog, but I'm sure I'll get used to it.
For the first in my whole life I feel normal and understood. 😔 I sincerely appreciate you for making this video in such a way for those of who can relate. Thank you sir.
If elevated cortisol is so important to so many functions, why is it not routinely tested for like LDL or HDL or liver or kidney function? My brain goes off line when i am stressed, even if I (think) I'm prepared. Very frustrating. Thank you for at least giving perspective and nd validation
For me this “out of body” “twilight zone” response to complex trauma always felt like amnesia or dissociative identity disorder. I’m autistic and so nonverbal apraxia of speech as well as dyspraxia when moving my muscles to speak can also be factors. I can throw in other cofactors (misophonia, haphephobia, alexithymia-neurological fear of sound, fear of touch, emotional blindness).
Thank you, Tim, for enlightening the world in these difficult and mostly under-acknowledged topics. After all these years I never thought I would get such an all-out sense of validation and recognition. But, it's certainly not a comfortable feeling, more like an opposite, as in shocking anyway round. I think it's the confrontation of be finally being validated and recognized, even though I knew for a long long time and tried to get my problems acknowledged by the professionals. I guess that brain fog I have to endure a lot, is collateral damage with all this.
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A counselor who is really good at gestalt is what you need. I did that I and I changed my whole subconscious. My dad used to strap us and sometimes beat us and he almost killed me several times. One time he pushed my head to the bottom of the pool and put his foot on my head. I ran out of air and inspired pool water. It was terrible. After I was married I would wake up with night terrors that someone was trying to kill me or I drove my call on a train track and the train would kill me after gestalt. It’s chair work. It went away and it’s never come back. I started having dreams that I would succeed. Very powerful work. Sone counselors not good at it.
What a horrific thing to go through from somebody who is supposed to protect you. I'm so glad gestalt has helped you. May God bless you in Jesus' name.
Just another great video from Tim! And another reason to get out of a toxic or abusive relationship. Tim, thank you for all you do. I think you're a game changer.
i too experienced brain fog and symptoms mentioned in the vid but it was due to vitamin B12 deficiency which led to demyelination in the brain, thus the brain fog, the feeling of mind block, tiredness, forgetfulness, depression etc etc. So if anyone experiences this, you might wanna take it into consideration, check your B12 levels (and other relevant blood tests) it's much easier as a first step, to get it out of the way. Imbalance in the body can lead to strong symptoms mental-health-like, but may be pretty much biologically sourced.
2.5 months ago I filed for divorce and left an abusive relationship. I lived with a brain fog for a month and am now getting my bearings back. I'm grateful I made the leap because I'm certain my ex-husband would have ended my life because he has anger and control issues but walks around like he's the victim.
I guarantee you that he feels the same about you. His anger is related to how you dismiss his emotions and you want everything to go your way. And you have probably made literally zero effort to understand him and his emotions and he can't handle the pressure of being with you because of how dismissive you are. So he uses anger because that's how he can be heard. My wife psychologically abused me for years. And when I got angry she used my anger to victimize herself. She never heard or understood me at all. She never cared to. It was all about her goals and her ideas and her parents. And I told her so many times in nice ways that I was dying inside. She never cared. Finally I got angry and stood up for myself and she used my anger to gaslight everyone into believing I'm the abuser and not her. Every single time I had a concern she dismissed it and used her dismissal to subjugate me. And when I held my ground all the pastors she had convinced about me were there to tear me down too. I bet you there's more to this story than what you're telling.
@@catherinewilson1079 yep. She made herself the victim to justify getting a divorce. Most likely emotionally abused the guy for months or years, and then uses his reaction as her ammunition to place all the blame on him and label him the abuser, so she can betray him and leave the marriage with zero accountability. I have seen this happen over and over and over.
That’s what made me decide to start journaling on Google Docs each time there was a huge fight with my abusive ex husband. He would deride me for that and say that I was writing everything down because I “liked holding grudges” even though I was literally just writing stuff down because I knew I kept forgetting but I knew there was something wrong and I had to make sense of it and keep it written down so it wouldn’t be stored in my head subconsciously. Referring back to the descriptions of our arguments is what helped me wisen up and realize I should leave him for my own sanity.
I’ve also done this wrote down events then when I saw a whole bunch I was like that’s it and I cut that person out of my life happened to be my own cousin but she was very toxic and controlling
One of the best more enlightening videos I’ve seen in a very long time. I knew I had brain fog, but didn’t realize the various triggers and signs of it. I just knew I was generally not as well as I used to be with work and memory. Now hearing this I am instantly like “OH! That’s what happened last Thursday!”
wounded we all of something to deal with memtally I like simple tasks and will procastinate with harder projects I get tired. Exercise drink a lot of water eat healthy
I’m so thankful for this brain fog segment. . It helps me not to assume and blame myself for freezing and “fogging”. How do we get into the -- I can’t remember what part of the brain we need to get to or how to get there when we feel like we’re in a “bug under glass” situation. Can someone please tell me? I am not able to rewatch this video at this time. Thanks in advance💗
@@victoryamartin9773 Thanks, Victorya! So the “objective” part of the brain? I hope I still have that part of my brain. I may have to get a flashlight, map and bloodhound to find mine…
@@victoryamartin9773 Thank you, my long lost sister who made me burst out chuckling, trying not to let it turn into an outright belly laugh because I have a belly that, if in motion, could flatten innocent bystanders for miles (and though I failed Charm School, I’m not that desperate to get into The Guinness Book of World Records).🤪
What's interesting is I've worked on my dissociation. My mom hasn't worked on it and she may have dementia at 64. My dissociation was so awful that everyone thought I was on drugs or an idiot. I was on the drugs that my brain was creating to help me numb. Also when I'm working on my numbness stress still makes me do odd things. Luckily I haven't don anything too awful but its something I need to stay aware of at all times.
@@TraceyBillsHomes Generally those with high anxiety have poor sleep and an unhealthy diet that will make mental health and anxiety much much worse. Medications for health issues and unhealthy living conditions are a major factor too. It’s tough but it can be done
Thank you for explaining this so well. It really helps me understand what happens when I get into seemingly non-stressful situations. Anxiety can be low key or out of conscious realm and this response rears up with out a reason..
Great discussion. It's something I've been aware of for years now. Especially coping strategies. The biggest issue seems to be, how to reduce stress? Life is stress. Only stress....
This describes the majority of the last 45 years of my life. I came out of it for several years in the middle of that time window before the world went into a very unnatural tailspin. My heart goes out to those who have suffered under this pressure which is mainly caused by external stimuli that is not conducive to peaceful, productive and healthy community and genuine and truthful communications.
Tim you sound so much like my own theripist you are brilliant humans shes helped me with act therepy and cbt i have asd adhd and complex truma ❤ive worked extremly hard and my theripist says im doing fantastic at useing my tools every day although i still have what i call woblers but ive learned to be kinder to myself when the truma resurfuices for me and i stoped useing substances 5 years ago ❤
Lol great explanation, but sadly where one stresser is removed for most people in todays world another stresser takes its place so i dont think it is possible to get rid of stress. We have to learn to perceive and respond to the stress differently ❤😂
I'm a veteran with CPTSD and I've been dealing with so much stress that I feel like my brain is shutting down. I've quit drinking and smoking; but stress is something I can't get away from.. it's even more disappointing that it will never go away, and only get worse.
This is so serious it can ruin your life. I am bipolar 1 but thats not the worst of it. I have the brain fog & is it can last anywhere from an hour to months. I went years with no reading comprehension beyond a paragraph, simply could not do it. I explained the symptoms to psychologists & psychiatrists & none of them gave me a clue as to what it is, what I can do about it. I lost 12 of 13 jobs to it by being asked to leave, forced to leave or fired. Now I recognize it when it starts & do my best to get to a safe place to endure it. I have seen it in other people as well & it's terrifying. I lost my navigational skills in Canada driving a truck, somehow made it out, got lost again in Ohio. That's another side of it the loss of spatial orientation. Time also moves painfully slow during it. This is not a minor symptom it ends your ability to stay employed but people act as if it is a minor inconvenience.
I went through a horrible decade that I’m just really recovering from. My mom was murdered in my early 20s and then things gradually went downhill culminating in homelessness for the final 6 years of the decade. I find I have heavy brain fog now but I essentially never feel anxiety anymore. People tell me they’ve never met someone so calm. It makes me think it’s some sort of dissociative thing going on with my anxiety. One other thing that surprises me is that I frequently have this inner picture that I’m in my mid 20s and then almost shocked back to reality when I realize “no, I turn 34 this year.” I’m working through it with meditation and journaling. Tough work but worth it!
@@josephfontenelle8080vagus nerve toning exercises, and things that allow you to get into flow- schedule those activities into your week multiple times a week as if it is medicine that is required. For a friend it is mountain biking, for myself it is rock painting or hiking, another I know does Pelaton classes. The more things you can experiment and find that allow you to experience flow, keep adding them in, even as little breaks throughout your day. Functions as a sort of spiritual refueling. And I KNOW, I know, I know. I know. I get it. I said the same thing. I know, truly. BUT, five minutes a day of meditation each morning is a game changer. It is the daily practice that makes a difference. Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach are both excellent teachers. If you can't close your eyes, try lighting a candle and focusing on the flame with the timer on. I have ADHD and had to start that way, eyes open.
@@josephfontenelle8080I'm dealing with a cortisol hit right now after I heard of some horribly upsetting news (about bad people doing bad things) , and I know I'm going to have an extremely hard time recovering from this, so I'm trying a two-pronged strategy: first, seeing how I can release the rage I'm feeling right now in a way that feels right. Secondly, eating foods that help boost serotonin (a good excuse to order sushi heh). I hope it works well!
I have experienced this after death of a child. But also after severe body physical damage from pulmonary emboli. BUT- I just want to encourage everyone to ALSO look for physical, dietary, and lifestyle changes that can be made to help. I have found supplements and dietary changes that help me and my brain is functioning better and I am sleeping better. Sometimes we need to think both/and when it comes to recovering our functionality. Small example: I was going through a high stress time and had begun to struggle with staying asleep throughout the night. I briefly saw a therapist who felt that was possibly indicative of depression/mental health issues. I happened to read about how very low level lights at night can cause this, so I bought a sleep mask. Immediately my sleep went from me waking multiple times at night and having a hard time sleeping to laying down and falling into the deepest sleep I had experienced in years and not waking once until morning. I simply developed light sensitivity and needed to block out all sources of light at night. Environmental toxins, physical and hormonal balances, diseases, and physical injury to the body are also sources of injury.
Thankyou Tim. I want to say so mmuch more, but....yeah . Been workin' on myself so much & so intensley for the past 10 years, man am I bloody tired. Maybe I should take the back seat for a couple weeks. 63yo recovering 30 odd year injectable drug addict. clean 10 years.Lifetime of depression & more. Like I said, Thanyou Tim, so much. You've given some clarity I didn't have.💜🙏
So my job is literally killing me because there's nothing I'm qualified for on paper that pays well and wouldn't stress me out thanks to my biology. On the plus side, kudos to my brain for being as good as it is despite the chemicals eating it alive.
I lost my wife to cancer 16 years ago… I have never been the same since. Loss of sharpness, procrastination, loss of analysis (a problem when I used to get paid for it as an international business consultant). I dropped out. Retired. Though an interesting thing… a decade laterI banged my head and when scanning me they found plaques of early onset dementia… these physical signs are apparently often seen in those who have gone through bereavement or other trauma. I don’t do anything really taxing. I have had to accept my slower thought… perhaps it’s a lesson and I am less certain, more humble
This makes me think about my caffeine addiction. I was forced to stop coffee for a week and I was so much more calm and contemplative as opposed to reactionary. The cortisol spike from caffeine alters our brains mechanisms. I have to quit for good somehow.
@KayosHybrid I'd say it impacts certain brains differently then others. Might benefit some people and negativity impact others. So I wasn't expecting anything, just an observation.
The opioid response is autism. Seriously. For 30 years they have been looking for the opioid source, assuming it was the food. There are opioid-like substances in both milk and wheat. We who have studied this these many years have known stress was a player for a long time, but this is just a game-changing observation. Thank you Tim!!
5:47 isn't this kind of like a "light version" of what's going on when the brain develops Dissociative identity disorder in a child? It seems similar but on a less severe scale....
I grew up in this, with divorced parents in two very unsafe places. Extreme abuse. As a result, I was unable to absorb any of the material at school as a child and was told that I was too stupid, which I believed for a long time, even though I didn't know it. As a teenager, I had long episodes of dissociation and was punished for it because they thought I was putting on an act and had an uninterested attitude, I was in complete freeze. In 2009 I had no contact with family, in 2016 I had no contact with my mother who fortunately passed away in 2020. I never have to see anyone again. It took years for the projections to fall away, but I still have fog and dissociative episodes every day.
I am so sad this happened to you. None of it was your fault. The path to healing and unfolding your potential and purpose is worth the time and effort. You deserve psychological and counselling help and kindness around you. Take meds if you need to. Look after your sleep. Really wishing you the best on your healing journey
This makes so much sense to me. I know that I suffer brain fog. Yes, when I voice it, I am told that I imagined it. After a lifetime of being scared, I just hope no dementia. Thank you for this video.
From what I’ve learned during my own treatment for complex trauma, it is possible to “rewire” your brain with distress tolerance practices. The more you practice distress tolerance, the more your brain can resort to handling stress. You might consider reading more about DBT and seeking a therapist who is trauma informed. I can say it has helped me tremendously.
When I was still living with my husband, I frequently would have to lie down in situ-right there on the floor-and sleep; couldn’t make it to the bed or couch. It was so commonplace I told my kids to stop worrying about me, and we would even joke that one day I’d die on the floor and people would step around me for days before realizing I was gone, and laugh about how would they explain that to the police? I assumed it was my congenital heart condition, and this was just how life would be from now on. The other day I suddenly remembered that was a thing (that went on for years!), and I’d forgotten about it: we left almost four years ago and I haven’t done it ONCE. My fog was so bad I forgot that period had even taken place.
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I was about 8 years old when my mother woke me up one evening because she couldn't find the key to the large iron gate in the garden. She was anxiously awaiting the late return of my father, who was an alcoholic. She accused me of having left the key somewhere. I remember being terribly afraid of what my father would do to my mother, because domestic violence was commonplace. My mother was beside herself with fear and was running around like a crazy chicken. I remember how all her fear was transferred to me and took hold of me. Suddenly I lost the ability to speak. She found the key in time and all I remember is that they took me to the hospital and I couldn't answer any questions.
I have never heard of the connection between trauma and loss of speech before and now, at 63, I am very grateful for your talk. From🇨🇭
I am so sorry you experienced this, my mother had an abusive drug addicted husband and projected the same energy onto me for literally decades, and not on my two younger sisters so that made me feel especially anxious and depressed. I hope you have received help and are growing in your healing. Its such a hard process ❤
yes, 'struck dumb' is what they say. Shock can cause that.
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I was told by a family member my mom was dead for 8 months ans it wasn't true. When i saw her again I couldn't speak for several weeks. Trauma can absolutely cause you not to be able to speak. I did not know that of course then and had continued abuse but know now as an adult. So sorry for your experiences. I hope you find peace.
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That's why I have dropped out of school so many times. Some teachers told me they don't understand why I can be so smart one time and so offline other times.
I had a similar experience.
14 years of shock 😲
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Take✨D3, citrate magnesium supplement. Helps with the vertigo and stress. Anxiety too. B12 supplement. D3 helps with vertigo. Take Omega3 Antarctic krill oil supplement, specifically if you don’t have salmon, fish.. seafood. Water that contains minerals, salt that contains iodine. Emocional state of mind is important. Trust in God. And say All is Well. I Am safe. All positive affirmations. ✨👼✨avoid too much sugar. Sweet bread. Or caffeine drinks. At least for now.
I'm sorry, I relate, this is why I left college in middle of third year . I was getting fog -out episodes when the work got challenging .
I am starting to think I am autistic, cause I have noticed that people seem to hold me in polar opposites on one hand "I might be a secret genius who is manipulating everyone." but also "Incredibly incompetent and potentially mentally handicapped in someway."
Like it can't be both.... I can also tell you it is neither.
I am incredibly anxious because I am extremely aware of you opinion of me, and I cannot function if I think your opinion of me is anything less than stellar. If I let you down, I will try hard to make it right. If I perceive that I have failed enough times, it is too exhausting to try and keep the motor running high trying to grasp at the implied loss for a figurative gain.
I am so cooked. Getting stuck in a cycle of pressure, leading to mistakes, to poor sleep, more mistakes, more pressure to overcome, poorer sleep. It’s both work and personal life stress, it’s hard to escape
...thank you for putting the exact words together that i wish could come out when im trying to explain to my friends why I can't respond or even read texts for days. The overwhelm of intense stress for so many years is just too much. I hope you are hanging in there and I'm sending love
Same I hope we're here for greater purposes than to suffer 😢❤❤
Same here-everyday is a struggle in life
thanks y'all! Sending love, hope all this eases for you. Will contemplate taking a break from work, and bring it up to my therapist.
@@LANA-ca lol yeah, it sometimes takes me hours, and when i'm ready i wonder why i couldnt do it earlier. But in the stress, it's never as urgent to respond
I've seen someone lose the ability to have any type of personal conversation other than work related. or focus long enough to listen at all in day to day conversation. Everyone around them
Thought they were just being rude. If someone close to you displays major changes in personality and shuts down don't internalize it. Give them love, don't assume it's YOU. They need someone more then they even know.
That's a very kind and thoughtful message! You are absolutely right... It's not intentional.
In actuality, it's unbelievably frustrating to not be able to engage in normal, casual conversations with others. It would be seriously relieving to be "present, in ones own body" (not dissociating) and able to engage in friendly conversation, maybe even make a friend at some point.
I wish my family members could understand this. I've tried explaining it to them. I'm not communicating it the right way, or they aren't able to comprehend it. Not sure. Either way, it's makes you feel even more alone.
If someone was willing and dedicated enough to try to be patient, and consistently make some time to work with me... I think that's the investment it would require to improve my brain... My functionality. I'm desperately trying to help myself heal, to "re-parent" myself. But my memory, as Tim mentions, is being severely affected by nearly constantly elevated cortisol levels. So even if I learn new things to try, healthier coping strategies, I often can't remember them when I need them.
In a world so full of people... It should be absurd to think that if I was to die today... There's not one person that could come to my funeral truly knowing Who I was, my sense of humor, my quirks, my pet peeves, my spontaneity, what brought me joy.
My sweet pup, Stella, she's the only one that truly knows Me. The language barrier... In this case, is what makes this possible. I'm extremely grateful for Her.
(Shoot. See? Now I'm getting off topic. That's the thing that I do that others interpret as being rude. Because it takes up too much time, I'm guessing. I don't do this intentionally, it just happens.)
Thank you @heatherpeci2909. I'm grateful you have had this revelation. Keep being an awesome, understanding, human being ♥️♥️♥️
personally i feel like my cognitive functioning is reduced since over a year back or more... And sometimes it feels like I can't socialize, I can't formulate sentences, I keep forgetting words.. Sometimes when I need to think about what to do next I stop and my brain is like a heartbeat monitor flatlining. What I am relieved of and very thankful for, is that my social capabilities is enough for work. I work in a team and we socialize, eat lunch together. Collaborate with work. Or I sit by myself infront of my computer. It works for me... And I am so glad I don't experience these issues while at work.. If I did, I'm not sure if i could keep my work and then all my pillars and security would crumble. So I try to find my way back, back to stability and social forwardness. I try to remove these mental glitching and bugs but I'm not sure if I can or if this is just who I am...
And with focus, I sometimes loose focus when someone talks with me. I try to concentrate, I want to listen but my mind wanders off or gets distracted. Also when I drive a car I can't talk with someone and drive at the same time really... It takes too much CPU power for me.
Some people are sick of listening to other people's pointless drivel, meaningless BS, and judgemental behavior. These type of people are a waste of my time and energy.
Absolutely.
@@KS0102 Yea well said and so true!!!
All these comments convince me the modern world is unnatural and this is our reaction to it.
Yess.
Thank you for your comment, it really helps me in not thinking that I’m crazy when I think of this
Zoochosis, but in humans
@@KirosanaPerkelethat’s so sad😢 let’s also hope zoos are abolished here in the near future.
Capitalism is very unnatural.
At the height of my stressful marriage I was looking at a picture of me holding a baby that I didn't recognize. My mother told me it was my second oldest child, he was about 4 months old in the photo. It shocked me to see just how much stress I had been under from all the gas lighting from my ex husband.
It's no joke. I understand this greatly. God Bless you.....sending LOVE💖💖💖
Brain fog is real and hasn't lifted even after more than a year post discard by Nex
@@rachellafotanoa2783 I’m so sorry you had to experience such a sobering moment.
Genesis 22
New International Version
Abraham Tested
22 Some time later God tested Abraham. He said to him, “Abraham!”
“Here I am,” he replied.
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I am so sorry. I hope you find healing and joy.
After i lost my little boy unexpectedly a year and 10 months ago this is exactly what happened to me. Affected my speech, ability to read and comprehend. Could not solve simple math or even simple instructions. Got into trouble at work because i was getting things wrong, Could not remember the smallest things As soon as i get over stimulated i go back to that severe brain fog. It's actually embarrassing at time, but i have sort of learnt now that my brain can only handle so much at a time so i try to take little breaks. Its a little better which i am grateful for and i am now able to read and understand what i am reading retaining information is still a struggle but small blessings it is improving
😢 I'm so sorry.
This is so true. I experienced losing my son last May..just in the last few weeks I'm starting to feel better. Completing sentences and feeling the fog lift a bit. I am still slow..as I have to process everything..being in loud crowds is tough. God bless you.
So sorry for your loss. ❤ Sounds much like when I first got Fibromyalgia. I had intensive neurological testing and it took a lot for the doctor to believe that I wasn't lying or making it up.
It took about 4 years and giving in to take Adderall but a decade in, I'm still doing well. Vitamin D3 helped get my brain going again, as well. I'll never be the same as before and traumatic event triggered the Fibro in the first place. Hopefully you will be.
@@sakkarabeirre, I was treated similarly both before and after I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis, back in 2010. The pharmacists jumped on the dog pile when I mistakenly attempted to refill a prescription a day earlier than I was scheduled to run out. Nevermind the long trail of humiliations suffered upon me by my adult siblings, the code enforcement police, the school staff at my cbildrens' private scbool, and healthcare "professionals". I eventually became a recluse with zero faith in our western medicine model for dealing with chronic pain patients.
A couple of years after I quit taking the meds and going to doctors at all, I accidentally cured myself by giving up gluten. Any time I mistakenly ingest something containing wheat, my symptoms flood back. Other than that, I am well and whole. The only reason I joined the conversation is with the hope what I went through will help someone else. Cheers!
Aw, so sad for your tremendous loss. Bless your heart ❤
Your video helped me understand my behavior over the past 70 years.
My husband's trauma has just broken through for the very first time in 46 years and and he has no choice but to process it. He is autistic with alexithymia, and has zero idea about psychology, but i was raised on it. We are poor, can't afford doctors, and he can't conceive of talking to a stranger about the horrors he suffered. So i am listening, quietly, anytime something bubbles up. This will help immensely because his brain fog is so bad that he needs simple explanations with words to read along with your voice, so he can stop and read when he gets confused. Thank you.
Look for essential oils like helichrysum italicum, just smell on it and within a fraction it goes to the limbic brain and does it works. Look for Aromatherapie. Greetings from Germany
It's also about gut health and nutrition.
Dissociation
That's what I'm fighting with...and shut down mode. I don't know how to reboot my system 😢
For sure. It can be felt from a distance. Clairempathy. My BPD and Clairempathy went full blown and the same time. Self protection I think.
Are there any medications that are effective against dissociation??
@gregorymalchuk272 I don't know. I'm taking methylene blue, and it seems to be giving me mental clarity .
This is what I would like to understand as well @@gregorymalchuk272
Thanks for sharing. I have been telling people this for years. "I know what the problem is. It is too much stress. I am working to reduce the stress. More resources (i.e. money) would help me manage that stress."
And look at the jobs available today. Even in the least stressful jobs I have had someone above me has found a way to make it more stressful than it needs to be. And I am an outstanding worker, so stressful.... lol.
Thanks again, felt like this one was made just for me.
Many situations don't depend on us but our environment and even in the most sh!tty jobs I have found co-workers competition and narcissistic managers...narcissists are almost always chosen to manage and many times they get rid of their best employees and cause their companies even go into bankrupcy.
I have worked for some managers that pushed away their best workers and later I found out they lost the position and were working waiting tables...corporative mindless inhuman resources.
I’m so sick of the people who “get it” being destroyed by those who have no clue.
I think it is so cruel that trauma victims get double victimized by the physical symptoms caused by trauma that was not our fault....
And then get mistreated again by peers in society calling you weak, or saying "your life is your fault", etc. @@caitlinsoliman1658
You sound like you didn’t watch the video. Read the opening two lines again of your comment and then imagine someone else reading them and how you might sound. We are talking about trauma and how it changes the brain and what those changes result in. Stress is unavoidable in a successful life. Trauma is completely avoidable.
I was assaulted at work. I've been in and out of therapy for 8 years. 😢 I've been reclusive since. What you are explaining I've suffered since then. I've also realised I can't remember what I've just heard, read, watched or learnt.😢 For me, the assault triggered all the abuse I suffered. Physical, emotional, mental, sexual and spiritual. I avoid interaction with humans. 😢
I am so sorry that happened to you. I am no expert by any means. But aside from therapy have you considered taking some type of self defense or martial arts. Trauma gets stored in the body and this will get your body moving in a more empowering way than exercise. Biologically you will release those feel good hormones but also it may help you feel less scared knowing your stronger or could defend yourself in a situation.
Also, strength training has helped me.
Psychiatrist and psychologist all helpful, meds helpful. But also having a big dog to be beside you can actually relieve some of that subconscious distrust of people. A dog is someone who is 100% loyal and safe. Also dogs evaluate other people who are near you and can help you trust your instincts again. Honestly a job where you can take your dog. So probably not a job where you are having to be around people the whole day as it is exhausting
I was late diagnosed ADHD but also having some retriggering of my CPTSD and try and figure out which causes what. I take supplements like magnesium and tart cherry and some calming herbs to help me sleep because I need sleep to function, taurine might help me too. Sleep is necessary to rest and renew my brain.
@@suras8984that is an excellent suggestion
Ditto
I've had this for well over a decade. The past five years it's mimicked dementia. I get lost in the tiny town I I've spent 90% of my life in.
Jebis.. so it can get WORSE?
Really sorry...I've said a prayer for ❤
🙏🙏🙏
It’s mimicked dementia?! Well crap, I’m screwed… 😭
I so agree! I've been experiencing all that, too, diagnosed with C-PTSD. I had to change my diet totally to anti-inflammatory foods and teas, Mg+ potassium-rich foods, such as potatoes, bananas, salmon, berries, etc. Wheat products & processed foods make brain fog and headaches very bad. I don't have it as bad anymore, but bad enough that I'm still not able to work in any capacity, on disability, unable to function properly. It's super frustrating!
A little stress is enough to shut down my prefrontal cortex or get me into freeze mode with temporary paralysis. Educated in 3 professions, it's extremely frustrating to not be able to work and function.
Thank you for these teachings, they are the best! It helps me so very much! Many Blessings! - Ines
How did you get your diagnosis? I am needing a diagnosis myself, but doc just told me it was depression and wouldnt listen.
@elainesmith5903 I'm sorry to hear about your struggles! I experienced the same for several years, although a 2-months lasting hostage situation had clearly been enough grounds for a PTSD- diagnosis from a Psychiatrist at the hospital, who still didn't "get it". 3 years later I did Trauma courses online, some with Arizona Trauma Institute thru Udemy, and one on C-PTSD totally described what I was dealing with, had not had a clue about C-PTSD prior.
I told my GP who agreed, and referred me to a Psychiatrist for proper diagnosis, who agreed, too. Thru online education I had gained enough good knowledge that I could "build a case", and tho even as an RN not qualified nor allowed to diagnose, we all can make suggestions. I gave the Drs my list with medical history and symptoms, presenting my case, and provided the source of my information, the C-PTSD certificate course(s). The Drs couldn't deny it, it was too obvious and in line with the DSM-5 and ICD-11 that Health Professionals work with, and I had already done all the investigative work for them. Maybe it helped that I'm a "stubborn German", an RN, and known to do my own thorough research, especially regarding my own and my family's health. We all should make more use of our God-given autonomy, taking matters more into our own hands to not hand our health and life over to another, blindly trusting them... We got a part to play, too, if we wanna be well. It's good to get educated & present notes with medical history, symptoms, questions... a "case" to discuss and get results. Respect is one thing, but Physicians are not gods, so, approach them boldly, don't be shy, and ask Almighty God/Jesus for help & guidance! It works! - All the best! Many Blessings! - Ines
@elainesmith5903 Especially GPs gotta have such a broad knowledge, it's so very much they gotta know that in cases of, e.g., Trauma/(C-)PTSD they often lack in-depth knowledge, as it is a field in which ground-breaking studies were done in recent years that would require to stay up-to-date which is not so realistic for GPs, sadly often not even really pursued by professionals in that field. To see past Depression/Anxiety, an MD would need to put in some time and effort to investigate, time they often don't have, why they may tend to reach for the obvious diagnosis without getting any deeper. That's where we come in, having done our homework...
Many of us are sadly not too interested in putting in the time and effort to get educated from tonnes of even free online sources, but when not even we care about our own health, by taking some matters into our own hands, why would Physicians invest more time and effort than we are willing to put in for our own good health and wellbeing? They can only work with the information we give them... When we get involved and ensure our medical team has all the information from us with 1st hand lived experience, then all our co-operation can and will bring much better results. - I hope, you'll find some encouragement in the above! My above advice is based on my over 30 years as an RN, +additional MH Nursing College education, and lived 1st hand C-PTSD experience. Not enough qualified support is out there, we gotta get involved to be able to heal. Education is big! Tim Fletcher's teachings are the best, I'd say by far the simplest to understand by people from all walks of life. What we who suffered psychological Trauma experience every day is so not taught in Universities/Colleges. What I learned there barely scratched the surface, why likely most professionals out there are not as well equipped as we would wish and need them to be. Recovery/healing starts with our[!] education on the subject+symptoms, to be able to co-operate, participate with our health care team, to not get stuck+broke, relying on Experts alone, who without their own 1st hand lived experience, even with best professional education, may never really know what it's like to walk in our shoes, and how to best help us heal... We have a voice, and we also gotta become a voice, to inform and educate, tearing down stigma and bias in our sadly still very much Trauma-un-informed Society. Some 10% of the adult population alone, + kids, +youth, +those not yet officially diagnosed, do live and struggle with (C-)PTSD. We are many! Therapy far too often hides behind a pay wall, overall inaccessible/unaffordable for definitely those on Disability, at least here in ON, Canada. But we could change a lot by speaking up for all our wellbeing, our recovery +healing!
Many Blessings! - Ines
@elainesmith5903 I'm sorry to hear about your struggles! I experienced the same for several years, although a 2-months lasting hostage situation had clearly been enough grounds for a PTSD- diagnosis from a Psychiatrist at the hospital, who still didn't "get it". 3 years later I did Trauma courses online, some with Arizona Trauma Institute thru Udemy, and one on C-PTSD totally described what I was dealing with, had not had a clue about C-PTSD prior.
I told my GP who agreed, and referred me to a Psychiatrist for proper diagnosis, who agreed, too. Thru online education I had gained enough good knowledge that I could "build a case", and tho even as an RN not qualified nor allowed to diagnose, we all can make suggestions. I gave the Drs my list with medical history and symptoms, presenting my case, and provided the source of my information, the C-PTSD certificate course(s). The Drs couldn't deny it, it was too obvious and in line with the DSM-5 and ICD-11 that Health Professionals work with, and I had already done all the investigative work for them. Maybe it helped that I'm a "stubborn German", an RN, and known to do my own thorough research, especially regarding my own and my family's health. We all should make more use of our God-given autonomy, taking matters more into our own hands to not hand our health and life over to another, blindly trusting them... We got a part to play, too, if we wanna be well. It's good to get educated & present notes with medical history, symptoms, questions... a "case" to discuss and get results. Respect is one thing, but Physicians are not gods, so, approach them boldly, don't be shy, and ask Almighty God/Jesus for help & guidance! It works! - All the best! Many Blessings! - Ines
@@elainesmith5903
Especially GPs gotta have such a broad knowledge, it's so very much they gotta know that in cases of, e.g., Trauma/(C-)PTSD they often lack in-depth knowledge, as it is a field in which ground-breaking studies were done in recent years that would require to stay up-to-date which is not so realistic for GPs, sadly often not even really pursued by professionals in that field. To see past Depression/Anxiety, an MD would need to put in some time and effort to investigate, time they often don't have, why they may tend to reach for the obvious diagnosis without getting any deeper. That's where we come in, having done our homework...
Many of us are sadly not too interested in putting in the time and effort to get educated from tonnes of even free online sources, but when not even we care about our own health, by taking some matters into our own hands, why would Physicians invest more time and effort than we are willing to put in for our own good health and wellbeing? They can only work with the information we give them... When we get involved and ensure our medical team has all the information from us with 1st hand lived experience, then all our co-operation can and will bring much better results. - I hope you'll find some encouragement in the above! My above advice is based on my over 30 years as an RN, +additional MH Nursing College education, and lived 1st hand C-PTSD experience. Not enough qualified support is out there, we gotta get involved to be able to heal. Education is big! Tim Fletcher's teachings are the best, I'd say by far the simplest to understand by people from all walks of life. What we who suffered psychological Trauma experience every day is so not taught in Universities/Colleges. What I learned there barely scratched the surface, why likely most professionals out there are not as well equipped as we would wish and need them to be. Recovery/healing starts with our[!] education on the subject+symptoms, to be able to co-operate, participate with our health care team, to not get stuck+broke, relying on Experts alone, who without their own 1st hand lived experience, even with best professional education, may never really know what it's like to walk in our shoes, and how to best help us heal... We have a voice, and we also gotta become a voice, to inform and educate, tearing down stigma and bias in our sadly still very much Trauma-un-informed Society. Some 10% of the adult population alone, + kids, +youth, +those not yet officially diagnosed, do live and struggle with (C-)PTSD. We are many! Therapy far too often hides behind a pay wall, overall inaccessible/unaffordable for definitely those on Disability, at least here in ON, Canada. But we could change a lot by speaking up for all our wellbeing, our recovery +healing!
Many Blessings! - Ines
I’ve had a mild version of this for years…but more recently, after going through a traumatic or high stress situation, I literally feel brain damaged. I even have to tell people, “Sorry, please bear with me, I’m having one of those episodes…” This video has helped me make some sense of the stuff I go through…now, if only I could find the fix!
Have you tried studying and practicing a lot? Maybe your brain is changing with age, or you are out of practice? Do you use a lot of drugs?
@ albeit a bit harsh and perhaps slightly presumptive, those are all valid considerations/questions. Unfortunately, I can’t say it’s for lack of practice or effort. I don’t use a lot of drugs. I’ve had some birthdays, but still young enough that if this is age-related, I’ll have Alzheimer’s by the time I’m 45. It all started once I got into abusive relationships and situations, and I’ve seen glimmers of clarity when I’ve managed to stay away from them for long enough. So I’m inclined to believe it’s not ‘just me’.
I just want my cognition back as before. I hate feeling foggy or stupid.
This is me. It makes my work as an architectural designer much more difficult. Sometimes, I just can’t.
Yes same. I am also in architecture, my 9 year relationship just ended and I’m having difficulty to thinking.
Well I don't even need to think process everything naturally could design a building without even thinking about it... I believe it's not good for you ?
Is your office very stress inducing. If I am comfortable at home feeling safe and not harassed I am fine and able to do work and focus but if there's a situation where I have to deal with people in a stress environment I am like a complete idiot..I spill things I just look like a complete clown.
@@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine
Has nothing to do with ability or education. Extreme Prolonged Stress cuts off all of your natural abilities and learned assets.
My husband is an architectural designer too! He graduated in December and has applied to so many jobs but still looking. We’ve prayed for a miracle. I’m a disabled nurse and we have 2 kids. Is your company hiring?
cpts caused by my parents and brainfog made me choose to be a shopkeeper at 43 years. Cleaning, selling someone else's artwork. No thinking, no planning. That's all that I can do for now. Simple tasks. Cannot bear stress of complexe task. All the years when I was a book translator, a teacher, a web articles writer, I did not realized how much brainfog and chronique fatigue was not my fault. I hated me because all my brilliant talents could not last long and today I feel shitty to sweep and mop the floor at the shop. My parents deserve to be punished for their cruelty and neglect. The rage is real. Thank you for this video 🌻
I was a cosmetologist for 15 yrs but when you care too much, as I, then you burn out. I have had evil things happen to me, loaded with health problems and no longer work. Many people should not have kids. I was the youngest out of four. I have always had anxiety, depression, panic attacks, etc. My health, physically and emotionally was almost completely ignored as a child. I had to work up the courage at age of 9 to tell my mother about symptoms I had which should have typed her off to sexual abuse. After I told her, she didn't even look at me or acknowledge it. Ever!!!!! I get your rage issues, alright!!!!!!!
We are in a very dysfunctional and broken world. Look to God. He will soon heal all of His sheep, permanently!!!
Wishing you healing and the very best!!!
@@bethelle9099what a horrible life experience. Thanks for sharing, none of us deserved that. True, these kind of humans should not reproduce or take care of any child. Blessings and healings to you too.
@@bethelle9099 Hey I Know its hard but ... I have had similar problems since childhood and parents never acknowledged but this led me to self (age 14) discovery and a deep dive into philosophy and spirituality and other shit. I went through a rollercoaster ride of nihilism, meaning of life, universe, what is self, thoughtlessness, periods of extreme happiness and clarity then sadness and boredom and so on. So i want to share with you some techniques i have learnt over the years and let me know if it works for you 😊.
First - Thought Patterns - Discard all unnecessary thoughts and feelings: childhood trauma, abuse, rage, they are just garbage that takes up your mind energy . Fill your mind with seeds of Gratitude and Wonder for the world, It creates Energy.
Second - Practice Thoughtlessness - Try to stop thinking and just feel the present moment. Even just a few secs will feel so good. It will bring clarity in your mind
Third - Breathing - Try Breathing slowly and let it fill your chest , try to smell the air, breath calmly and naturally.
Yeah, it's a heartbreaking thing when we realize it didn't have to be this way. We were wrongly acted upon by our parents when we were too young to know what was going on, let alone how to handle it. We spend our lives trying to pick up the pieces, but we can't see them in the fog. We try to make choices but are ill-equipped from a shattered self. Heck, we don't even know who we are. Years later, we come across a Tim, and he tells us about us. We swear he wrote the book about "me" specifically as the details fit. I don't know about you, but this is why I know I need a Savior, and His name is Jesus.
@@winniecash1654for guys it is a little different: you don't get to say "woe is me" and blame your actions and attitude on anything and everything but yourself. Men are burdened with relentless, uncompromising self-dependence, and are granted little or zero latitude for challenges they've experienced. This womanly blame shifting is a luxury not afforded to men.
This explains my life and my children’s. Abuse ruins lives from one generation to the next.
Experienced significant and repeated trauma within a short period of time due to a natural disaster. Life and death decisions. One after another after another. No time to think. No time to explain. My “support system” was a lie and I experienced what felt like the ultimate betrayal.
No time to think. No time to explain. No time to be angry. Get my family to a safe place. Get to a safe place. Get to a safe place. Hyper-vigilance and no sleep for two years afterwards. It’s been ~10 years and I’ve never been the same.
I felt concussed and, frankly, I believe I experienced a TBI. I’m confident this complex and cumulative trauma caused physical damage to my brain. I’ve asked several doctors if such trauma can cause brain injury but they are unable to answer.
This is interesting information. Thank you for sharing.
I can relate to this. It has been helpful to eliminate electronics. They really mess with your brain. I was escaping into my phone awhile there. Bad idea; makes it worse.
I was in Panama City during Hurricane Michael 2018 and it had a similar effect on me, and I didn't even know anybody from there so the stress of a natural disaster combined with being in a place I wasn't familiar with and people I didn't know just clicked my brain off. It was a very tough time in my life but I'm really glad I got through it and I'm taking care of myself mentally right now
Ive never heard this put into word's so well, but I did learn the hard way its caused by stress. I had a violent childhood to say the least, so as a young adult i started taking drug's. I moved to a new state in 2018 and was forced to get off drug's due to hurricane Michael. The combination of surviving a hurricane and having withdrawal just absolutely destroyed my nerves. I couldn't quit shaking and I couldn't focus on anything or barely carry on a conversation and I was surrounded by nothing but people and places i knew nothing about. I feel like it changed me and i haven't been the same since but I no longer take hard drug's and I see a therapist so im doing the best i have mentally in quite some time. I still have my struggles and stressful moments in life but im doing better for sure
I was in the store checkout last week and tried to pay for my food without scanning, tried to pay after I already paid and left without bagging my items. Two strangers had to help me figure things out. That has never happened to me before. I felt like a confused elderly person - I'm 43! It was very embarrassing and scary.
Been there done that. You CAN recover dear, I did too. Enormous amounts of sleep, rest, healthy diet, improving immunity, keeping away from EVERYTHING toxic and LETTING GO. ( of tightly held desires, opinions and beliefs.)** Our minds and bodies have self healing
mechanisms called rejuvenating if only we can unlock it.
** don't worry you WILL come to the sweet balance.❤
The whole cleansing process took me 3+ years. Now the complex trauma of 20+ years is merely a distant past experience . Amazing!!!😊
Bless your sweet self. ❤ all the way from Sri Lanka.
These kind of things have been happening to me often. Also in my 40's 😢
@zsandika75 it felt like my body was there, but my mind was not, like it was hours ahead.
Do not shame yourself. Be very honest with people around you. Say,
" I need a little assistance today. " They will usually show understanding.
💙💙I’m praying for you today.
I highly recommend taking ashwaganda if you have high cortisol. Its really helps counteract the cortisol and reduce the fight or flight response. I've been taking it daily for almost 2 years and it has been a game changer.
Woke up 6 years later in Florida feeling better luckily I got by for two years until social security kicked in. Before that tried working but kept quitting small jobs. I would up driving Uber burned through half of my savings but am now recovered. The fog lifted. Living a quiet modest life.
I'm constantly forgetting, and then I have people friends and family that get mad and say that I don't listen or they think I'm lying cuz I can't remember what they say, it's either I'm not paying attention but when I get stressed out it's like blacking out I can't remember. I remember things in bits and pieces and when I tell people that they can't understand why.
if they get mad at you for that, you need to change those family and friends, they are gaslighting you, not helping you.
that's my husband for many years - accusing me of not paying attention to him. he was a total gaslighting ahole over it. now the tables are turned and due to substance abuse, his short term memory is shot. difference is that I cut him some slack and know he can't help it.
This is me too. I wish my brain could be normal again.
I am the same way! You explained it so well. There has been family and friends get so mad at me and tell me how selfish I am by not listening
Similar here
This is so true. I've never heard this talked about before, but I've been thinking for a while now about all the times I felt that I couldn't process information in stressful situations and how it's the cortex that's shutting down due to fight or flight.
this video gave me clarity, my mental tape is "i don't know what's going on, i don't know what to do" if i'm doing something new. and then i hyper focus on something irrelevant. emotionally, i think i'm afraid to get raged at and then physically attacked (and killed) if i took any kind of action.
@@aceshigh5157 That's a truly frightening place to be. I live with that fear too.
That's me. I'll read a million and one journal articles, but I try writing my thesis, and I'm completely stuck. It's become so deliberating that I'm considering moving to my remote farm and forgetting about everything and everyone else.
Everything described is me. I’ve asked so many questions as to why/what’s wrong w me? This video has really helped answer my questions.This has stemmed from childhood and life experiences/trauma for me as well, and the damage is already done. But I am willing to do the work to transform my mindset and properly manage my emotions ( which I thank God I’m self aware and emotionally intelligent- at the same time emotionally immature as I was not taught how to manage my emotions). With all that being said, I now rely on my intuition/my inner knower to guide me thru this…..because I will get better!
I remember telling my brother, don’t ask me anything about if I remember this or that because I don’t remember. My memory does not serve me well anymore. And my 23 yr old son said, “ Because you’ve changed”. I looked a little perplexed when he said that. Then he continues to say, “ You’ve become a new person and those things you can’t remember because they no longer serve you, and you’re making room for the new. That changed my whole perspective to not be so hard on myself thru this. “NOT by might, nor by power, but by my Spirit.”
So interesting and helpful thank you, and I was certainly experiencing this until I began to take measures to heal (using channels and info like this!). Also heavy metals can cause brain fog, as well as exposure to EMF, and I think it's quite common to be dealing with and untangling all three at the same time as we get to a sort of 'total crisis point' where our system is flashing red lights 24/7-365 by the end, and one toxic situation feeds the other in a feedback loop of extreme fog which is can be very difficult to stop due to the exhaustion & fog! Horrible! I have certainly been experiencing this. But . . . I set up an EMF barrier around where I sleep (just cheap roof insulation thick aluminum barrier) and turn off the wifi at night and stopped light pollution into my room. My sleep improved so much. Plus then progress I have made with all this CPTSD is extraordinary, as well as progress with diet and food sourcing and supplements as well as a detoxing from built up toxins (metals) using vitamin C, MCP and EDTA in a sort of rolling detox.The difference between me one year ago and now is STARK! I have increasing energy positivity, clarity, and I sleep deeply. Even long term skin problems cleared up - my hands stopped cracking. Amazing, seriously!
I’m so glad you are addressing all of my annoying characteristics. It definitely helps knowing the source and that it can perhaps be healed someday. When it is a bit separated from ‘me’ it takes a bit of the stress away, which then helps with the characteristic or symptoms. In addition, it allows me to take a look at things and see what my triggers are. My brain fog gets quite severe, to the point where I just don’t talk because it’s too frustrating. I’ve known that my brain fog is stress and hormone associated but I think the CPTSD increases the severity and frequency of the brain fog. Thank you!
First step is to love yourself and get rid of the negative narrative.
I hope that some of your videos inspire Hope. I wouldn’t be surprised if a man, no offense lacked the wisdom to implement. As this is a feminine trait, however, the prospect for growth is immense. Just as the brain can deteriorate it can repair. You can become better than you were before, empowerment. Truly, it’s the pain of now or later, but you can self-actualize if you desire. Individuate, becoming en enlightened whatever you want to call it. You are what you think, if you think you’re at the mercy of this, then you will be. If you believe you can conquer then you will. The evidence for that is there also. Post traumatic growth, check that out. And Debrowski’s theory of positive disintegration. Most likely most of you are highly sensitive person.
@@sabrinaszabo9355it's not enough to love yourself . We don't live in a bubble. We live in society, must earn a living, and people need to learn what this is and stop rejecting the victim.
@@sabrinaszabo9355 you got it girl!
When my ex was abusing me I believe “brain fog” must have been what I was experiencing. Every time was more traumatic than the last….. honestly I couldn’t tell you exactly what I consciously experienced, or if the reason why the fog was always more intense each time because the abuse was worse or if it was simply because of an autonomic response. I was inside of myself, almost like looking inside of my body somehow. I did consciously realize whatever it was going on in my brain was a trauma response. It was like my brain was buzzing…..like a fluorescent or neon light or something….it didn’t necessarily hurt, but it in itself was kind of traumatic, because I don’t remember the trauma, but I was very present in the sense of being trapped inside my head fully aware I was experiencing a traumatic event.
BUT, God HEALS!!! And so can we 💕
*Healed*people*heal*people!!!*
@@laurenbeals705 Fascinating description. I've lived like that all my life...hiding inside my body because there was nowhere it felt safe to come out to interface with the world.
Pressure + high stakes = total brain block
Add coffee (a cortisol producer) and you're fried before 8am.
Yes, performance is such a trigger for me and in addition I am afraid to be put in that position.
i really need exercise and to be outside.. literally turns me into a new person as a cptsder? it is the first thing i give up to handle life demands.
perfectly relatable
Same.
Yes!
Can't always do that though. i.e middle of winter, -15°C and ice everywhere.. or maybe you don't live in Canada 😂
Exercise, especially somthing that pushes you turns on the brain and clears the fog a little. Get that blood moving around the body.❤
Thank you so much for this...I came out of extreme trauma a few years back and has taken some TIME to heal...along with my childhood neglect and abuse...myself and my husband met struggling and we have both worked hard to build up a life for ourselves and our children...stress still comes in hard times...I just turned 40 this year and I'm so scared when I realized I'm constantly forgetting...but like never before (my mom is also battling with dementia) but my forgetfulness was freaking me out - I always had a super sharp memory...but this helped me realize what could be actually happening to me and it makes a lot of sense - thank you!
I was in an extremely stressful job (prison system) for 5 years finally I quit then got involved in a relationship with a narcissist 26 years my junior. My life became a total shambles mentally and physically, I lost the ability to walk, got food debris trapped in my trachea that required a trachea resection. I can go on and on, but thanks to God I’m on my way to healing after watching Several youtube videos on brain fog, depression and extreme anxiety.
Good gets stuck in my throat
Went through simar situation. Recommended the book "Don't believe everything you think" helped me out sm!☺
@@NickiKash food? I have a bad phobia with swallowing pills..
Got almost all the answers just now...went to a few counselling sessions with no benefits or even explanations 😭so very grateful🙏
OMG. This is me. I’ve been dealing with this. I’ve thought I had a brain tumor, going to the doctor saying something is wrong with me. This explains a lot. It got so bad I thought I was getting dementia at 42
I think it’s the sign of the start of dementia. I experience the same thing.
43 here going through the same 😢
I've also been thinking having a brain tumor
Woman have hormonal changes especially after 40, it’s called peri menopause and brain fog along with anxiety and many other symptoms.
I can’t believe it was so simple….. I just have to live in a world without stress. Thanks Doc!
I think he said “dress”. I’m not sure if he means dress attire in general, or this specific garment 👉🏻👗. 🤣🤣
Severe stress, right.
A little bit of stress can be positive, if it is not a constant state
Tim
You shared everything that describes & happens in & to the body with brain fog... what is the best antidote to lower the cortisol & clear up the brain fog?
No sugar, exercise, vacation? Im looking for solutions.
Thanks for sharing your knowledge..you are
Awesome!😊
You are such a huge blessing, Tim. Describing my life...and also a very special "sanation event" by the Holy Spirit, about 10 years ago. It all makes total sense. THANK YOU.
This is me. Got diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, one of the main symptoms is brain fog. That was many years ago but my stress has multiplied, fatigue and brain fog is the result. I'm trying so hard to recover but it's very slow and difficult and I just wish there was some magic fix.
Wish you hope and healing❣
Reboot with Joe on face book - juicing for 10 days
Juicing helps with cptsd??@@SoulSeeker2025
Omg, didn't know that CFS is a symptom of brain fog. I have both. Was in a 25 yr marriage with a neglectful narc. These days though Ive noticed that stress sets off the fatigue like a chain reaction, and it takes awhile to reboot after the stressful event has passed
I sent a message about gestalt. It works fast
Consider these two therapies
•Brainspotting
•Somatic Experiencing
Both help facilitate the relase of early developmental trauma and forgotten trauma that is likely contributing to CPTSD and brain fog.
Removing current stressors from your life in hopes of fixing a lifeling problem is like trying to repair an amputation with a bandaid.
During my stressful relationship I often blanked out large sections of time.
I couldn’t respond or engage. My brain was like mud.
I became a loner over the course of my 25 yr marriage to a neglectful narc
I'm in a complete emotional brain fog. It's horrible. Maybe understanding will help me heal my brain.
This is why I had to quit my good paying job - my 10% brain couldn't do it. I took a 50% pay cut and now answer a phone.
If your happier you will be healthier and live a longer better life. Well done for making that change, own it, it was right for you !❤
The worst thing is I literally had a Mensa-worthy IQ at the age of 15, such a shame but now I just prefer heavenly peace over anything else
@@kokoskokso❤❤❤❤ take care of you - what matters
@@SoulSeeker2025 thank you, and you too! 🙏🍀
@soulseeker2025
Losing a good paying job was, for me, a huge blow to my ego, my confidence, my security. I realize many things were probably easier for you when there was more money.
Consider for a moment, that many things fluctuate in life... Money, romance, friendships, homes. Your inherent worth never changes though. You are worthy, you are loved, you are needed, and you are valuable.
Answering phones may not seem ideal. I've also worked on the phones. I did Technical support for apple devices like 15 years ago. It was rough. The majority of customers are in a hurry, or moody, or just straight up disrespectful. I empathize with what you have to deal with. Doing that job for a year and a half has helped me to seriously appreciate others who work at call centers, or wherever, answering phones. Because often enough, I run into some issue that I have to call someone for help with. (Prescription crap with the pharmacy, or issues with my bank, etc).
I really appreciate when I get to speak with an actual human, instead of an AI chat bot. I appreciate it even more, when the human is somehow able to be kind and they try to help me with whatever's going on, despite the fact that they probably had 10 calls before me, (in a row!!), with disrespectful customers.
Customer service (of pretty much any kind) is a rough job. I appreciate what you do. ❤️
My mental health issues have gotten to the point where I'm not employable anymore. I absolutely am willing, and have the time to spare, to try to make your day a little better. 😊
If you want, send me the number that I could call and reach you at. I would call in just to wish you a good day and tell you to keep up the good work! A 'pick me up' 😁😁. email it to jeankeller 13 at jeemail dot caum. If not, that's cool too.
Just keep swimming! You've got this.
I got through college with terrible brain fog. On top of the stress of death of my adoptive mother, an interstate move, change of schools, horrible conflict with a former close friend, I had recurring yeast infections alternating with urinary tract infections I couldn't shake and couldn't stand taking the meds anymore. I made it through school & made good grades, but I would have had a fuller, happier life without the brain fog. It's good to know there's a lot I can do about it. I won't recognize myself without the brain fog, but I'm sure I'll get used to it.
For the first in my whole life I feel normal and understood. 😔 I sincerely appreciate you for making this video in such a way for those of who can relate. Thank you sir.
If elevated cortisol is so important to so many functions, why is it not routinely tested for like LDL or HDL or liver or kidney function? My brain goes off line when i am stressed, even if I (think) I'm prepared. Very frustrating. Thank you for at least giving perspective and nd validation
For me this “out of body” “twilight zone” response to complex trauma always felt like amnesia or dissociative identity disorder. I’m autistic and so nonverbal apraxia of speech as well as dyspraxia when moving my muscles to speak can also be factors. I can throw in other cofactors (misophonia, haphephobia, alexithymia-neurological fear of sound, fear of touch, emotional blindness).
Blessings from Sweden 🇸🇪
Thank you, Tim, for enlightening the world in these difficult and mostly under-acknowledged topics.
After all these years I never thought I would get such an all-out sense of validation and recognition.
But, it's certainly not a comfortable feeling, more like an opposite, as in shocking anyway round.
I think it's the confrontation of be finally being validated and recognized, even though I knew for a long long time and tried to get my problems acknowledged by the professionals.
I guess that brain fog I have to endure a lot, is collateral damage with all this.
A counselor who is really good at gestalt is what you need. I did that I and I changed my whole subconscious. My dad used to strap us and sometimes beat us and he almost killed me several times. One time he pushed my head to the bottom of the pool and put his foot on my head. I ran out of air and inspired pool water. It was terrible. After I was married I would wake up with night terrors that someone was trying to kill me or I drove my call on a train track and the train would kill me after gestalt. It’s chair work. It went away and it’s never come back. I started having dreams that I would succeed. Very powerful work. Sone counselors not good at it.
What a horrific thing to go through from somebody who is supposed to protect you. I'm so glad gestalt has helped you. May God bless you in Jesus' name.
Just another great video from Tim! And another reason to get out of a toxic or abusive relationship. Tim, thank you for all you do. I think you're a game changer.
i too experienced brain fog and symptoms mentioned in the vid but it was due to vitamin B12 deficiency which led to demyelination in the brain, thus the brain fog, the feeling of mind block, tiredness, forgetfulness, depression etc etc. So if anyone experiences this, you might wanna take it into consideration, check your B12 levels (and other relevant blood tests) it's much easier as a first step, to get it out of the way. Imbalance in the body can lead to strong symptoms mental-health-like, but may be pretty much biologically sourced.
8:26 This explains so much. Thank you.
WOW quite a few AHA's with the information!! THANK YOU!!
Thanks for your solid explanations on these topics.
2.5 months ago I filed for divorce and left an abusive relationship. I lived with a brain fog for a month and am now getting my bearings back. I'm grateful I made the leap because I'm certain my ex-husband would have ended my life because he has anger and control issues but walks around like he's the victim.
Lived with a neglectful narc for 25 yrs. Brain fog is my companion these days. Hoping to recover my old self
Victims are usually narcissists. CORRECTION; narcissists like to PLAY the victim!
No, they are not. Rather sweeping statement that is helpful to no one here trying to heal.
I guarantee you that he feels the same about you. His anger is related to how you dismiss his emotions and you want everything to go your way. And you have probably made literally zero effort to understand him and his emotions and he can't handle the pressure of being with you because of how dismissive you are. So he uses anger because that's how he can be heard.
My wife psychologically abused me for years. And when I got angry she used my anger to victimize herself. She never heard or understood me at all. She never cared to. It was all about her goals and her ideas and her parents. And I told her so many times in nice ways that I was dying inside. She never cared. Finally I got angry and stood up for myself and she used my anger to gaslight everyone into believing I'm the abuser and not her. Every single time I had a concern she dismissed it and used her dismissal to subjugate me. And when I held my ground all the pastors she had convinced about me were there to tear me down too.
I bet you there's more to this story than what you're telling.
@@catherinewilson1079 yep. She made herself the victim to justify getting a divorce. Most likely emotionally abused the guy for months or years, and then uses his reaction as her ammunition to place all the blame on him and label him the abuser, so she can betray him and leave the marriage with zero accountability. I have seen this happen over and over and over.
Healing from brain fog requires addressing both the trauma and the cognitive impact it has through therapy
That’s what made me decide to start journaling on Google Docs each time there was a huge fight with my abusive ex husband. He would deride me for that and say that I was writing everything down because I “liked holding grudges” even though I was literally just writing stuff down because I knew I kept forgetting but I knew there was something wrong and I had to make sense of it and keep it written down so it wouldn’t be stored in my head subconsciously. Referring back to the descriptions of our arguments is what helped me wisen up and realize I should leave him for my own sanity.
I’ve also done this wrote down events then when I saw a whole bunch I was like that’s it and I cut that person out of my life happened to be my own cousin but she was very toxic and controlling
One of the best more enlightening videos I’ve seen in a very long time. I knew I had brain fog, but didn’t realize the various triggers and signs of it. I just knew I was generally not as well as I used to be with work and memory. Now hearing this I am instantly like “OH! That’s what happened last Thursday!”
That's me. I'm so damaged that I'm breaking down.
Me, too. 😔
Me too❤😂
@@ldrawdyme too. 😢
You're not alone 😢
wounded we all of something to deal with memtally I like simple tasks and will procastinate with harder projects I get tired. Exercise
drink a lot of water eat healthy
I’m so thankful for this brain fog segment. . It helps me not to assume and blame myself for freezing and “fogging”. How do we get into the -- I can’t remember what part of the brain we need to get to or how to get there when we feel like we’re in a “bug under glass” situation. Can someone please tell me? I am not able to rewatch this video at this time. Thanks in advance💗
@@SueLeigh-pr8vy Neo-cortex: the thinking, reasoning, solution-finding and strategizing part. The part that can lead us to safety.
@@victoryamartin9773 Thanks, Victorya! So the “objective” part of the brain? I hope I still have that part of my brain. I may have to get a flashlight, map and bloodhound to find mine…
@@SueLeigh-pr8vy Lol, that's a refreshing way to frame it. Been a long time since I've had a good chuckle being brain dead myself.
@@victoryamartin9773 Thank you, my long lost sister who made me burst out chuckling, trying not to let it turn into an outright belly laugh because I have a belly that, if in motion, could flatten innocent bystanders for miles (and though I failed Charm School, I’m not that desperate to get into The Guinness Book of World Records).🤪
@@SueLeigh-pr8vy Sounds like that might be the best part of you, lol.
When I was assaulted I dissociated and had a flashback 3 months later and it felt like I was in a coma looking outside my body
Depersonalization
What's interesting is I've worked on my dissociation. My mom hasn't worked on it and she may have dementia at 64. My dissociation was so awful that everyone thought I was on drugs or an idiot. I was on the drugs that my brain was creating to help me numb. Also when I'm working on my numbness stress still makes me do odd things. Luckily I haven't don anything too awful but its something I need to stay aware of at all times.
Nasal and ear issues and brain fog with high anxiety
Wow thanks...
Me too...how do you manage it?
@@TraceyBillsHomes Generally those with high anxiety have poor sleep and an unhealthy diet that will make mental health and anxiety much much worse. Medications for health issues and unhealthy living conditions are a major factor too. It’s tough but it can be done
Oh Gush, you just explained everything that has been happening to me for years and years, thank you Sir ❤
Thank you for explaining this so well. It really helps me understand what happens when I get into seemingly non-stressful situations. Anxiety can be low key or out of conscious realm and this response rears up with out a reason..
Great discussion. It's something I've been aware of for years now. Especially coping strategies. The biggest issue seems to be, how to reduce stress? Life is stress. Only stress....
“Trauma is what overwhelms our brain's capacity to cope”
This describes the majority of the last 45 years of my life. I came out of it for several years in the middle of that time window before the world went into a very unnatural tailspin. My heart goes out to those who have suffered under this pressure which is mainly caused by external stimuli that is not conducive to peaceful, productive and healthy community and genuine and truthful communications.
Tim you sound so much like my own theripist you are brilliant humans shes helped me with act therepy and cbt i have asd adhd and complex truma ❤ive worked extremly hard and my theripist says im doing fantastic at useing my tools every day although i still have what i call woblers but ive learned to be kinder to myself when the truma resurfuices for me and i stoped useing substances 5 years ago ❤
Thanks!
Now, so much makes sense ❤ thank you for your video!! It makes the world of difference to be educated in what's going on.
I had some medical trauma and separation as an infant and have had severe frain fog my whole life. It has impacted my ability to learn and my memory.
Lol great explanation, but sadly where one stresser is removed for most people in todays world another stresser takes its place so i dont think it is possible to get rid of stress. We have to learn to perceive and respond to the stress differently ❤😂
I'm a veteran with CPTSD and I've been dealing with so much stress that I feel like my brain is shutting down. I've quit drinking and smoking; but stress is something I can't get away from.. it's even more disappointing that it will never go away, and only get worse.
This is so serious it can ruin your life. I am bipolar 1 but thats not the worst of it. I have the brain fog & is it can last anywhere from an hour to months. I went years with no reading comprehension beyond a paragraph, simply could not do it. I explained the symptoms to psychologists & psychiatrists & none of them gave me a clue as to what it is, what I can do about it. I lost 12 of 13 jobs to it by being asked to leave, forced to leave or fired. Now I recognize it when it starts & do my best to get to a safe place to endure it. I have seen it in other people as well & it's terrifying. I lost my navigational skills in Canada driving a truck, somehow made it out, got lost again in Ohio. That's another side of it the loss of spatial orientation. Time also moves painfully slow during it. This is not a minor symptom it ends your ability to stay employed but people act as if it is a minor inconvenience.
I went through a horrible decade that I’m just really recovering from. My mom was murdered in my early 20s and then things gradually went downhill culminating in homelessness for the final 6 years of the decade. I find I have heavy brain fog now but I essentially never feel anxiety anymore. People tell me they’ve never met someone so calm. It makes me think it’s some sort of dissociative thing going on with my anxiety. One other thing that surprises me is that I frequently have this inner picture that I’m in my mid 20s and then almost shocked back to reality when I realize “no, I turn 34 this year.” I’m working through it with meditation and journaling. Tough work but worth it!
9:10 OMG this explains why when I joined Adult Children of Alcoholics why it spiraled into depression. How will I ever heal?
Thank you, very insightful, concise and caring. Every word you say is true.
Part two please! 25 year old male I still remember the day my brain shut down 14
Same. I'm 40 and felt "out of it" since 2001 June 15th
I would love to know how to stop the cortisol from hitting. Circumstances change but my brain never does I feel stuck!
Inner child work. Cognitive reprocessing etc.
Are you in therapy?
@@josephfontenelle8080vagus nerve toning exercises, and things that allow you to get into flow- schedule those activities into your week multiple times a week as if it is medicine that is required. For a friend it is mountain biking, for myself it is rock painting or hiking, another I know does Pelaton classes. The more things you can experiment and find that allow you to experience flow, keep adding them in, even as little breaks throughout your day. Functions as a sort of spiritual refueling.
And I KNOW, I know, I know. I know. I get it. I said the same thing. I know, truly. BUT, five minutes a day of meditation each morning is a game changer. It is the daily practice that makes a difference. Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach are both excellent teachers. If you can't close your eyes, try lighting a candle and focusing on the flame with the timer on. I have ADHD and had to start that way, eyes open.
@@josephfontenelle8080I'm dealing with a cortisol hit right now after I heard of some horribly upsetting news (about bad people doing bad things) , and I know I'm going to have an extremely hard time recovering from this, so I'm trying a two-pronged strategy: first, seeing how I can release the rage I'm feeling right now in a way that feels right. Secondly, eating foods that help boost serotonin (a good excuse to order sushi heh). I hope it works well!
I have experienced this after death of a child. But also after severe body physical damage from pulmonary emboli. BUT- I just want to encourage everyone to ALSO look for physical, dietary, and lifestyle changes that can be made to help. I have found supplements and dietary changes that help me and my brain is functioning better and I am sleeping better. Sometimes we need to think both/and when it comes to recovering our functionality. Small example: I was going through a high stress time and had begun to struggle with staying asleep throughout the night. I briefly saw a therapist who felt that was possibly indicative of depression/mental health issues. I happened to read about how very low level lights at night can cause this, so I bought a sleep mask. Immediately my sleep went from me waking multiple times at night and having a hard time sleeping to laying down and falling into the deepest sleep I had experienced in years and not waking once until morning. I simply developed light sensitivity and needed to block out all sources of light at night. Environmental toxins, physical and hormonal balances, diseases, and physical injury to the body are also sources of injury.
Thankyou Tim. I want to say so mmuch more, but....yeah . Been workin' on myself so much & so intensley for the past 10 years, man am I bloody tired. Maybe I should take the back seat for a couple weeks. 63yo recovering 30 odd year injectable drug addict. clean 10 years.Lifetime of depression & more. Like I said, Thanyou Tim, so much. You've given some clarity I didn't have.💜🙏
So my job is literally killing me because there's nothing I'm qualified for on paper that pays well and wouldn't stress me out thanks to my biology. On the plus side, kudos to my brain for being as good as it is despite the chemicals eating it alive.
I lost my wife to cancer 16 years ago… I have never been the same since. Loss of sharpness, procrastination, loss of analysis (a problem when I used to get paid for it as an international business consultant). I dropped out. Retired. Though an interesting thing… a decade laterI banged my head and when scanning me they found plaques of early onset dementia… these physical signs are apparently often seen in those who have gone through bereavement or other trauma.
I don’t do anything really taxing. I have had to accept my slower thought… perhaps it’s a lesson and I am less certain, more humble
This makes me think about my caffeine addiction. I was forced to stop coffee for a week and I was so much more calm and contemplative as opposed to reactionary. The cortisol spike from caffeine alters our brains mechanisms. I have to quit for good somehow.
Caffiene is a stimulant. So what did you expect
@KayosHybrid I'd say it impacts certain brains differently then others. Might benefit some people and negativity impact others. So I wasn't expecting anything, just an observation.
The opioid response is autism. Seriously. For 30 years they have been looking for the opioid source, assuming it was the food. There are opioid-like substances in both milk and wheat. We who have studied this these many years have known stress was a player for a long time, but this is just a game-changing observation. Thank you Tim!!
5:47 isn't this kind of like a "light version" of what's going on when the brain develops Dissociative identity disorder in a child? It seems similar but on a less severe scale....
You are so helpful and knowledgeable Tim, thankyou.😊🙏
Wow, it's me. The problem is that getting rid of stress in your life is easier said than done.
ADHD presents this way so throw some trauma on top of it….it breaks!
I grew up in this, with divorced parents in two very unsafe places. Extreme abuse. As a result, I was unable to absorb any of the material at school as a child and was told that I was too stupid, which I believed for a long time, even though I didn't know it. As a teenager, I had long episodes of dissociation and was punished for it because they thought I was putting on an act and had an uninterested attitude, I was in complete freeze. In 2009 I had no contact with family, in 2016 I had no contact with my mother who fortunately passed away in 2020. I never have to see anyone again. It took years for the projections to fall away, but I still have fog and dissociative episodes every day.
I am so sad this happened to you. None of it was your fault. The path to healing and unfolding your potential and purpose is worth the time and effort. You deserve psychological and counselling help and kindness around you. Take meds if you need to. Look after your sleep. Really wishing you the best on your healing journey
This makes so much sense to me. I know that I suffer brain fog. Yes, when I voice it, I am told that I imagined it. After a lifetime of being scared, I just hope no dementia. Thank you for this video.
I wish this wasn’t so interesting for me. Thank you for explaining what’s going on in my live. All the best to you doctor
Is there any way to become more stress resistant if you have experienced complex trauma?
From what I’ve learned during my own treatment for complex trauma, it is possible to “rewire” your brain with distress tolerance practices. The more you practice distress tolerance, the more your brain can resort to handling stress. You might consider reading more about DBT and seeking a therapist who is trauma informed. I can say it has helped me tremendously.
Breathing exercises help a lot as does hypnotherapy.
@@ald5698 I’ve actually reached out to a psychiatrist that recommended KBT. But I’m not sure if it will work as well as DBT
Thank you. You do such a good job of explaining these issues. I have learned a lot from all of your videos.
I'm really struggling with this right now.
Whoa thank you so so much this is a relief more than you know 🙏🏿❤️
When I was still living with my husband, I frequently would have to lie down in situ-right there on the floor-and sleep; couldn’t make it to the bed or couch. It was so commonplace I told my kids to stop worrying about me, and we would even joke that one day I’d die on the floor and people would step around me for days before realizing I was gone, and laugh about how would they explain that to the police? I assumed it was my congenital heart condition, and this was just how life would be from now on. The other day I suddenly remembered that was a thing (that went on for years!), and I’d forgotten about it: we left almost four years ago and I haven’t done it ONCE. My fog was so bad I forgot that period had even taken place.
I don't understand, your husband caused that?
Or living in that house, ie mould?
@@tanyawieczorek6603 my husband’s toxicity caused it
@@hejshari wow, I'm glad you're out of that!
@@tanyawieczorek6603 thank you, me too!