@@romaiseb In essence, somebody who is codependant also has his/her own interest at heart but here its out of fear of abandonment. So on the outside, somebody who is codependant might look like a people pleaser, but they only please to keep other people content or else they might leave.
i relate to him almost allexcept for the criticism part lol. i need to talk to my therapist. i love when friends tell me off in a kin kind manner and i love to self 😂.
@@ricklubbers7761 - I have not see a people pleaser gaslight and manipulate people though. That would be the difference. Narcissism is a cruel disorder, which produces people who harm others. People pleasers give up parts of themselves.. Narcs take parts of people away 😢
People want to believe him having a channel gives him the ‘attention’ a narcissist craves.. Well it could be ! But if you understand that narcissism is a shame based disorder.. you would know that it is incredibly hard for someone with the disorder to admit they have done wrong.. Follow him if you are in a toxic relationship.. look for the Q&A’s his wife has done. It is a hard relationship and Lee works very hard to deal with his disorder. There are so many amazing videos and he delivers them with humor (most of the time) which as a victim of narc abuse, makes it easier to absorb.
This is highly unusual and very rare to have a man diagnosed with Clinical NPD, to share the truth of who he is and what he has done to his wife and others!! I was involved with 2 Narcissists, and they did to me what this gentleman is sharing he did to his wife! It’s surreal to listen to this, but IF this is true and not a show to get attention, then I really applaud this man for wanting to help others understand the “trauma bonding” involved with Narcissism, the characteristics and maybe how to get away from individuals who are Narcissistic early in the game. Most Narcissists won’t go into therapy or stay in it very long. There is a difference between having Narcissistic traits and having NPD. Thank you for sharing with us so we can learn from you🙏👏🙏👏✝️
This is what I've been looking for allover the internet. Like "If you say you're a narcissistic, than you probably are not." STOP! Everything you described has been me! Now that I have a kid, my traits have really caused me to self reflect and to begin taking the steps to heal. I do believe many people are the spectrum bc quite frankly we all have npd tendencies, but some of us really are narcissistic. I appreciate your authenticity and helping people like myself in my healing journey. It is long and hard, but worth it. First step, admit it... for real. Bless you brother.
I recently found out that I apparently am super empath. And in my head, The narcissist i was with and me made the perfect couple as we were on opposite extremes of the spectrum. But I refuse the debate we have where we describe the narcissist as the devil. They have obviously experienced something truly dramatic and because of this, they are unable or mostly unable to feel empathy.. This is the problem we need to discuss on a level of helping them not on a level of running from them. I Fell for her because for me at the time she was different, and could not read and feel her emotions.. (btw i thought everybody could do this... apparently not.) I read this as her being hard to get... Which was an error, I know this now. But this made us also the perfect couple as my existence and my purpose was to make her whole... Which I managed to do for 7 years UNTIL I had a crisis.. where I brought out the narcissist in her again. However, she is the mother of my children, so the question needs to stop being how we can run away.. And start being how we can help them that have been !"damaged" this way. I will never get back together with her because of what she did. BUT I will never stop trying to help her. She is the mother of my daughters and I can ensure my daughters future being better by helping her I WILL. My advice for anyone in my situation. Look at them, feel sorry for them and realise that you whole in ways they cannot comprehend.. This way you will not feel as hurt when they try to hurt you.
Yes brother, I am a narcissist as well who is self aware. I've started my healing process over a year ago & it has been great. I feel like more of us should share what its like to be a self aware narcissist.
I had a friend who I lost because I called him out on his narcissistic personality. Literally every single trait that describes the disorder describes him. I'm an empath and he drained me out of my energy. I feel bad for him because he endured a lot of childhood trauma but that doesn't excuse the fact that he goes through life mistreating people, using them and then discarding.
Exact same thing happened to me (empath), I called her out once; and that was it. The way she lashed out and they way she tried to gaslight, it sent me in a rage fog for a week.
This is so curious. Self aware narcissists that catch themselves from harming others are unsung heroes. It's so much work to keep that empathy turned on and with everyone around them seeing it as normal/the bare minimum/something that everyone just does and if you don't, you're less than and a terrible person just encourages them to not turn the empathy on at all. Not saying they're /entitled/ to praise for doing the bare minimum,but it's something for a healing narcissist to be proud of and to know that they're heard on it and supported in their struggle when they're trying to meet you halfway to a mutual well being. That fragile ego will become so much more secure and so much stronger with the pride of empathy to fall back on in a time of crises (like a narcissistic threat (when people are better than them, prettier, stronger,etc),an urge to lash out on an impulse,etc.
I'm currently in therapy, but I could always use more help to reach a better understanding of all this behavior and the life I have led so far. Lee reach out to me if you get a chance. Thanks
My partner acts like this of look at me I need attention, I lied about something to him to avoid and argument with him and then he ended up ending it with me and is now gaslighting me and I am lapping it up because I love him I know he is not good for me but I am trying to break the cycle he won’t recognise anything that he does to me and always blames me for the way our relationship is, that I don’t fight for him, that I don’t make him feel secure, and that he can not trust me around anyone, I am drained and exhausted from trying to keep what are relationship used to be
That's literally narcissist 101 🤦🏻. Portraying the mask off charisma is how advanced narcissists like him work. His channel is Jim Jones cult leader nonsense and folks are falling for it. It's incredibly transparent. Don't fall for his mumbo jumbo. Or do--your life, of course.
They are charming and people like them. Only living with them shows what it's really like to be with a narcissist. I know what it's like so I can not trust the persona he puts forth..
I'm glad you made the effort to go to therapy and hopefully you can mitigate your behavior enough to show your kids the love they need. I am glad you are also aware it is a permanent condition.
Only watched 2-3 of your videos tonight and I now know who I am and what I have. I have NPD, and my wife has been right all along. You’ve done a perfect job of describing this from our point of view as someone with NPD. I’m meeting a psychiatrist tomorrow to get diagnosed, and I have zero expectations that I’ll have anything but NPD. Thanks for what you’re doing
@@healedbyjesus_ complete turn around, thank God. She’s still suffering from how I treated her for years, but we’re on a better path now. Lots of therapy and some psychiatric meds were the starting point. Loving Jesus and trying to live as He did has made the biggest difference in how I think and behave.
This is not narcissism. Because a lot of these interpretations are based on misunderstandings. It has to do with pride and morals. Narcissism is somthing different to all of this. Ofcourse i would love to see someone I view as immoral cry. Doesn’t make me a narcissist
Does it feel like you’re edged out unhappy for any number of reasons and you default to legacy and or whatever panic/fight/flight response your system gives you by default to kinda deal with something you kinda don’t know what to do with? Pain, tension, trauma, etc
“Cant feel because it didnt happen in childhood, so you have to do it as an adult” feel for another even if its just underanfiing that you dont want them to interpret it in a damaging way in some cases with some people
giving evil people a platform doesnt feel right. giving their victims a platform is way more important. he should do it for himself and not try to sympathize viewers here that a narcissist is a good person, because thats what narcissists always do, they try to make you believe they are good but they are pure evil, satans child themselves. THIS IS SO WRONG. Ps: only ppl who have been thru this traumatic experiences with a person like that knows what i am talking about. others who have not experienced this, watch out who you watching here on youtube..dont sympathize with a narcissist, psychopath or sociopath- they all have one thing in common, they all feel no remorse in hurting people and sucking the life and soul out of people..so understand now how wrong it is to sympathize with a narcissist? JUST DONT, U DONT KNOW THEIR OTHER SIDE. All these personality disorders are very dangerous people. no matter how nice they come across, as this is their game to blend their victims. if you sympathize with him, you already fell for the narcissist's trap. as a longterm victim, i will never ever give any narcissist any sympathy or mercy. NARCISSISTS NEVER HEAL, ok, they will never. they can learn to live with it, but not all of a sudden become a better person. lol omg u people are so blind. He is just playing a game here so he can get all the attention, something all narcissists very much enjoy..i dont believe anything what he says. It's just attention seeking.
My mom was a Narcissist. She abused me physically, verbally, emotionally and mentally. But I still don't think this is wrong. If you watch his videos you'll see he EDUCATES people on what Narcissism is rather than "I'm a Narcissist but I'm a good person" he also tells people they should get out of a Narcissistic relationship if they are in one and never try to change the narcissist. I have watched most of his videos, none of his videos are about justifying narcissistic abuse but about what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is. He gives advice to people who have been in narcissistic relationships on HOW to GET OUT of it. There are some studies that show they can feel remorse there are some that say they don't. This man is doing a brave job by spreading AWARENESS. I am a victim of narcissistic abuse and he is doing nothing wrong.
@@Karmasstudio I rather recommend watching Dr. Ramani in terms of narcissism. but not a narcissist himself. I just dont need anymore manipulation in my life. and i have no merci for this evil people, im sorry. i was heavily abused too just like you. dont fall for these traps. It is my own decision who i watch and who i dont watch.
@@liayesung5721 absolutely. You can make your own decisions, but you can't go on the internet and tell people that everything he is doing is not good but whether you accept it or not this guy HAS helped a lot of people. You can make your own choices, let others make their own. All the best to you, i hope you truly recover from what you went through, i feel for your ❤️
I swear everything you say about a narcissist is my soon to be ex husband...I wish I would have known about this years ago, but at least now I can understand and try to forgive him for all the years I have endured in hell with him.
When you realise narcicism shares the same spectrum as codependancy, things really start to fall into place.
how do they relate?
@@romaiseb In essence, somebody who is codependant also has his/her own interest at heart but here its out of fear of abandonment. So on the outside, somebody who is codependant might look like a people pleaser, but they only please to keep other people content or else they might leave.
i relate to him almost allexcept for the criticism part lol. i need to talk to my therapist. i love when friends tell me off in a kin kind manner and i love to self 😂.
It is not, narcisists are counterdependent
@@ricklubbers7761 - I have not see a people pleaser gaslight and manipulate people though. That would be the difference. Narcissism is a cruel disorder, which produces people who harm others.
People pleasers give up parts of themselves..
Narcs take parts of people away 😢
People want to believe him having a channel gives him the ‘attention’ a narcissist craves..
Well it could be ! But if you understand that narcissism is a shame based disorder.. you would know that it is incredibly hard for someone with the disorder to admit they have done wrong..
Follow him if you are in a toxic relationship.. look for the Q&A’s his wife has done. It is a hard relationship and Lee works very hard to deal with his disorder.
There are so many amazing videos and he delivers them with humor (most of the time) which as a victim of narc abuse, makes it easier to absorb.
He is healing and being honest. So that's how he can heal and heal himself. Great going for him.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Personality disorders can be treated but not cure , thats what i hear .
Believing that is how people get into and stuck in very toxic relationships with narcissists.
Narcissism can’t be healed
I like this guy - accountability is the first step to getting ourselves better. Good luck to him and his family ☺️💕
This is highly unusual and very rare to have a man diagnosed with Clinical NPD, to share the truth of who he is and what he has done to his wife and others!! I was involved with 2 Narcissists, and they did to me what this gentleman is sharing he did to his wife! It’s surreal to listen to this, but IF this is true and not a show to get attention, then I really applaud this man for wanting to help others understand the “trauma bonding” involved with Narcissism, the characteristics and maybe how to get away from individuals who are Narcissistic early in the game. Most Narcissists won’t go into therapy or stay in it very long. There is a difference between having Narcissistic traits and having NPD. Thank you for sharing with us so we can learn from you🙏👏🙏👏✝️
This is what I've been looking for allover the internet. Like "If you say you're a narcissistic, than you probably are not." STOP! Everything you described has been me! Now that I have a kid, my traits have really caused me to self reflect and to begin taking the steps to heal. I do believe many people are the spectrum bc quite frankly we all have npd tendencies, but some of us really are narcissistic. I appreciate your authenticity and helping people like myself in my healing journey. It is long and hard, but worth it. First step, admit it... for real. Bless you brother.
I recently found out that I apparently am super empath. And in my head, The narcissist i was with and me made the perfect couple as we were on opposite extremes of the spectrum. But I refuse the debate we have where we describe the narcissist as the devil. They have obviously experienced something truly dramatic and because of this, they are unable or mostly unable to feel empathy.. This is the problem we need to discuss on a level of helping them not on a level of running from them. I Fell for her because for me at the time she was different, and could not read and feel her emotions.. (btw i thought everybody could do this... apparently not.) I read this as her being hard to get... Which was an error, I know this now. But this made us also the perfect couple as my existence and my purpose was to make her whole... Which I managed to do for 7 years UNTIL I had a crisis.. where I brought out the narcissist in her again. However, she is the mother of my children, so the question needs to stop being how we can run away.. And start being how we can help them that have been !"damaged" this way. I will never get back together with her because of what she did. BUT I will never stop trying to help her. She is the mother of my daughters and I can ensure my daughters future being better by helping her I WILL.
My advice for anyone in my situation. Look at them, feel sorry for them and realise that you whole in ways they cannot comprehend.. This way you will not feel as hurt when they try to hurt you.
Yes brother, I am a narcissist as well who is self aware. I've started my healing process over a year ago & it has been great. I feel like more of us should share what its like to be a self aware narcissist.
good to watch, never new a narcissist could self manage and be self aware, there is hope, im mostly helping people recover from the narcissist
I had a friend who I lost because I called him out on his narcissistic personality. Literally every single trait that describes the disorder describes him. I'm an empath and he drained me out of my energy. I feel bad for him because he endured a lot of childhood trauma but that doesn't excuse the fact that he goes through life mistreating people, using them and then discarding.
Exact same thing happened to me (empath), I called her out once; and that was it. The way she lashed out and they way she tried to gaslight, it sent me in a rage fog for a week.
Turning Darkness into light.
Much respect bro
Really
Thumbs up
This is so curious. Self aware narcissists that catch themselves from harming others are unsung heroes. It's so much work to keep that empathy turned on and with everyone around them seeing it as normal/the bare minimum/something that everyone just does and if you don't, you're less than and a terrible person just encourages them to not turn the empathy on at all. Not saying they're /entitled/ to praise for doing the bare minimum,but it's something for a healing narcissist to be proud of and to know that they're heard on it and supported in their struggle when they're trying to meet you halfway to a mutual well being. That fragile ego will become so much more secure and so much stronger with the pride of empathy to fall back on in a time of crises (like a narcissistic threat (when people are better than them, prettier, stronger,etc),an urge to lash out on an impulse,etc.
Much Respect Bro!
So glad his content is gaining traction ❤️❤️
i got worried when i heard "i like helping people", but the rest of video made me slightly less worried.
I'm currently in therapy, but I could always use more help to reach a better understanding of all this behavior and the life I have led so far. Lee reach out to me if you get a chance. Thanks
I have never met a self aware narcissist
I hate how relatable some points in this video are towards being a narcissist, however I know by tomorrow or the next day I’ll be back doing me.
My partner acts like this of look at me I need attention, I lied about something to him to avoid and argument with him and then he ended up ending it with me and is now gaslighting me and I am lapping it up because I love him I know he is not good for me but I am trying to break the cycle he won’t recognise anything that he does to me and always blames me for the way our relationship is, that I don’t fight for him, that I don’t make him feel secure, and that he can not trust me around anyone, I am drained and exhausted from trying to keep what are relationship used to be
I stalk everyone online because stalking online is seeing what everyone around the world post w/out following anyone
hes actually a really really likeable narcissist
That's literally narcissist 101 🤦🏻. Portraying the mask off charisma is how advanced narcissists like him work. His channel is Jim Jones cult leader nonsense and folks are falling for it. It's incredibly transparent. Don't fall for his mumbo jumbo. Or do--your life, of course.
They are charming and people like them. Only living with them shows what it's really like to be with a narcissist. I know what it's like so I can not trust the persona he puts forth..
They ALL are likable!
@@paulabamford1875bro not everyone acts on it he’s trying to get help
I'm glad you made the effort to go to therapy and hopefully you can mitigate your behavior enough to show your kids the love they need. I am glad you are also aware it is a permanent condition.
Don’t confuse smart and confident people with narcissists tho , cause if you don’t bother to ask them then it could get mixed up 😊
We are all mostly just products of our eviournment. I aint no saint. Who am i to judge... im just here to give you some props bro. Good Job
You must be overt right your so different than the sneaky creepy covert I dealt with got discarded out of the blue in march
Hi. What made you get therapy? Did legal have to push you into it?
"..and just been hurting people since birth"
🤣🤣
Baby Narc: "WAAAAAAAH DIE MOTHER WAAAAAAHHH!!!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Only watched 2-3 of your videos tonight and I now know who I am and what I have. I have NPD, and my wife has been right all along. You’ve done a perfect job of describing this from our point of view as someone with NPD. I’m meeting a psychiatrist tomorrow to get diagnosed, and I have zero expectations that I’ll have anything but NPD. Thanks for what you’re doing
How is it going?
@@healedbyjesus_ complete turn around, thank God. She’s still suffering from how I treated her for years, but we’re on a better path now. Lots of therapy and some psychiatric meds were the starting point. Loving Jesus and trying to live as He did has made the biggest difference in how I think and behave.
This is not narcissism. Because a lot of these interpretations are based on misunderstandings. It has to do with pride and morals. Narcissism is somthing different to all of this. Ofcourse i would love to see someone I view as immoral cry. Doesn’t make me a narcissist
Does it feel like you’re edged out unhappy for any number of reasons and you default to legacy and or whatever panic/fight/flight response your system gives you by default to kinda deal with something you kinda don’t know what to do with? Pain, tension, trauma, etc
“Cant feel because it didnt happen in childhood, so you have to do it as an adult” feel for another even if its just underanfiing that you dont want them to interpret it in a damaging way in some cases with some people
I’m still not sold on this even being a real thing. Maybe I’m a narcissist!
Proud and grateful for the work Lee does on himself and sharing with others to help victims of narcissists 👏
Interesting
That's not possible. Basically he is just describing himself n he loves that
Is there any free treatment out there?
giving evil people a platform doesnt feel right. giving their victims a platform is way more important. he should do it for himself and not try to sympathize viewers here that a narcissist is a good person, because thats what narcissists always do, they try to make you believe they are good but they are pure evil, satans child themselves. THIS IS SO WRONG. Ps: only ppl who have been thru this traumatic experiences with a person like that knows what i am talking about. others who have not experienced this, watch out who you watching here on youtube..dont sympathize with a narcissist, psychopath or sociopath- they all have one thing in common, they all feel no remorse in hurting people and sucking the life and soul out of people..so understand now how wrong it is to sympathize with a narcissist? JUST DONT, U DONT KNOW THEIR OTHER SIDE. All these personality disorders are very dangerous people. no matter how nice they come across, as this is their game to blend their victims. if you sympathize with him, you already fell for the narcissist's trap. as a longterm victim, i will never ever give any narcissist any sympathy or mercy. NARCISSISTS NEVER HEAL, ok, they will never. they can learn to live with it, but not all of a sudden become a better person. lol omg u people are so blind. He is just playing a game here so he can get all the attention, something all narcissists very much enjoy..i dont believe anything what he says. It's just attention seeking.
My mom was a Narcissist. She abused me physically, verbally, emotionally and mentally. But I still don't think this is wrong. If you watch his videos you'll see he EDUCATES people on what Narcissism is rather than "I'm a Narcissist but I'm a good person" he also tells people they should get out of a Narcissistic relationship if they are in one and never try to change the narcissist. I have watched most of his videos, none of his videos are about justifying narcissistic abuse but about what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is. He gives advice to people who have been in narcissistic relationships on HOW to GET OUT of it. There are some studies that show they can feel remorse there are some that say they don't. This man is doing a brave job by spreading AWARENESS. I am a victim of narcissistic abuse and he is doing nothing wrong.
@@Karmasstudio I rather recommend watching Dr. Ramani in terms of narcissism. but not a narcissist himself. I just dont need anymore manipulation in my life. and i have no merci for this evil people, im sorry. i was heavily abused too just like you. dont fall for these traps. It is my own decision who i watch and who i dont watch.
@@liayesung5721 absolutely. You can make your own decisions, but you can't go on the internet and tell people that everything he is doing is not good but whether you accept it or not this guy HAS helped a lot of people. You can make your own choices, let others make their own. All the best to you, i hope you truly recover from what you went through, i feel for your ❤️
@@liayesung5721dude just because you had a bad experience doesn’t give you the right to generalize every single person in this world.
@@mariadonkova2759 if you never experienced narcisstic abuse, or didnt grow up with narcissistic parents, then i would kindly stfu.
Its a natural response actually but yo
Anyway i whish you well
❤
Hmm
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If one is a self aware narcissist they’re not a very good narcissist. Low tier at best.
this feels like I’m being exposed can you pls delete this video
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Sorry, but he's not a narcissist
Why do you say that? Please explain I’m curious 🙏🏻
@@Nobody_77736 I don't remember, he just didn't strike me as one.. in time you might agree with me
If you are a woman. Grumpy with your man. Watching this video. Not everyone is a narcissist. Grow up. Learn about your man
I know more than enough ❤
Sure you do
@@idonotagreetoyoutubetermso4543 I do indeed ❤
@@jantesa okay do kay
I swear everything you say about a narcissist is my soon to be ex husband...I wish I would have known about this years ago, but at least now I can understand and try to forgive him for all the years I have endured in hell with him.