Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix | Tasha Eurich | TEDxMileHigh
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- Опубликовано: 9 май 2024
- Self-awareness has countless proven benefits -- stronger relationships, higher performance, more effective leadership. Sounds pretty great, right? Here’s the bad news: 95% of people think that they’re self-aware, but only 10-15% actually are! Luckily, Tasha Eurich has a simple solution that will instantly improve your self-awareness. As a third-generation entrepreneur, Dr. Tasha Eurich was born with a passion for business, pairing her scientific savvy in human behavior with a practical approach to solving business challenges. As an organizational psychologist, she’s helped thousands of leaders improve their effectiveness, from Fortune 500 executives to early-stage entrepreneurs. Her new book, Insight, reveals the findings of her three-year research program on self-awareness, which she calls the meta-skill of the 21st century. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
"when you focus on problems, you'll have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, you'll have more opportunities."
Well said 👌🏻👍👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
YES!!!
Yes of course !!! It's true👌
Whoa..❤️🔥
True, focusing on constructive actions help us move past the crippling paralysis that results from ruminating on problems
"Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself." 👌🏼
That's one of the best quotes, I have ever heard
Omg saving this. It brings me so much comfort. Thank you!
Love the ever-inspired RUMIinations.
Quote:
The world hasn't changed, I have changed, everything has changed.
Awesome!
Video: "90% of people are not self aware."
90% of people: "That's not me."
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I'm not after seeing the video
Facts
Probably more like 99.999999999% but we can try ! :)
Never listen to statistics...follow your own path 💝💝💝🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️
“Yesterday is history,
tomorrow is a mystery,
and today is a gift...
that's why they call it present”
― Master Oogway
I will make him an offer he can't refuse...
The godfather
Bababoee
-twomad
I'm still stuck on the past
Classic 😂
Super deep quote. Thanks for posting it.
Great video.
Basically it says to focus on solution instead of problems
Thanks. That saved my time.
But there are some problems which is impossible to fix. For example: our past.
@@imageshahi8715 Why would you want to change it? It allready happened. Concentrate on "what" can you learn from it and change for the future.
That's what the talk is essentially about.
Thanks my adhd couldn't take the slow pace
Thanks lol
Self reflection can quickly become overthinking and stop us from moving forward.
lol that's me!
depending on the person.. i'd disagree when looking at how i self reflect and the value of self reflection in general. self reflection is needed in in any selfdevelopment, self actualization, or self awareness pursuits.. Just gaining knowlegde by reading books, or watching TedTalks and then trying to put this knowlegde into practice isn't enough. In fact, it is the slowest way of self developing, because the reflection part is missing. like albert einstein once said: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results... how will you know if the method that you're applying isn't working for you if you don't take the time to reflect. self reflection is much more than just discovering defects, its a great tool to find other flaws that were hidden in your subconsciousness, without your awareness. We are so distracted by our every day life, and trying to meet our daily needs. there is so much noise going on. self reflection is muting all of that noise, and focusing on dismantling everything that is going ''wrong'' and ''right.'' don't overthink it, just analyse.
Well it depends what you become self-aware about. The deeper you get the more you realize the truth of reality itself.
Riley Graham well that's not true self reflection, it's almost a negative mirror image of it
Lily ferreira yes
The essence is "Instead of stuck on problems,focus on finding solutions."
Great and very useful speech. Thank you for sharing your ideas and work.
What she failed at trying to convey, is that essence...
Solutions to what?
"Why" makes us aware and "what" leads us to the solution :)
I think why makes more easier to learn approved things like science but not good human conversations and experiencing reality.
Yes, I believe the speaker is preoccupied with solutions, and confused awareness with action.
Now that's a good comment and some very good thoughtful replies!
Her anecdote about her book in the end shows how humble and resilient of a person she is. Hats off to her. She seems like a genuinely fun and caring person.
I don't agree with that . Not part of my belief system therefore I dissolve any almic contracts attempts created by that being . Pay attention to the realities she tried to Programm into us . We are love. However you are free to believe in whatever you feel is the truth . I'm just expressing my opinion based on your public comment . Vibrating in the FRECUENCY of love. Chris
That anecdote was totally uncorrelated to the message of this video! had nothing to do with self awareness!!
I still think asking “why” do I feel like this, why was I triggered, why do I behave this way, has led to some of the most groundbreaking self discovery for me. And I believe she’s right, that all we can ever really do is come up with a story to explain why, but those stories have helped me. We are the stories we tell ourselves! But then to not get stuck on why, and move on to “what can I do now that I know this” is what I’m taking from her speech. Loved this, thank you!
We were the stories we tell ourselves. We don’t have to limit ourselves to the same reactions to the same things. We can reinvent ourselves entirely and focus on what to do to never repeat past mistakes
I watched this video yesterday and I was coming back here to make a similar comment. In my opinion, you're absolutely right. Why questions are still very important.
When asked in an introspective way and not as a doomy way, we can still ask why. Then we can ask ourselves, "What can I do to change, now that I hold this very valuable information?" I think that is the essence to this speech.
I can both appreciate this important message AND respectfully, wholeheartedly disagree with its dualistic premise. While I imagine it would be difficult to easily assess through traditional research methods, it has absolutely been my experience that BOTH asking why and how are important to the developmental process necessary to transcend old, unsupportive narratives for ourselves and others. Just because the why tends to precede the how, does not make it any less valuable. The understanding of self-awareness is incomplete at best-and shameful at worst-without making space to honor both parts of the whole.
I believed we can ask why but not to ruminate in the why.
something happened to me today. i was angry and i asked myself WHY i was angry. after i found out i asked myself what can i do to improve the situation and make things better. and this helped me so much......and i came across this video afterwards.
That’s why I love the phrase,
IT IS WHAT IT IS‼️
it’s about accepting things the way they are and not lingering on the way things should be.
Yeah I just wanted to say “why”proves or imply that I don’t accept true but “what” is to find what it is
Perhaps it's because "Why" is about the past, and "What" is about the present. And what better way to be self-aware other than being in the present moment.
omg you smart can i quote you in my instagram
That is just semantics, and can equally be applied to both "what" and "why". Also they are both thoughts or words-both remove the present...if u are thinking or talking you are not in the present. Thought and the present(awareness) cannot co-exist.
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If you are thinking in the present moment the present moment is you're thinking.
When you're walking down a street can you be in the present moment?
Your brain is processing information and analysing it as important or not at all times you're awake, less than one second later the information your brain sensed is no longer present, then the information you just sensed is not the present, then that information in your brain is not the present.
Can you safely cross a road and remain in the present moment? Don't you have to think whether it's safe or not?
@@danielmoore4024 You misunderstand. If one is thinking then one is not in the moment. Thinking is thinking-self awareness is the opposite, they cannot co-exist at the same time.
You seem to be confusing beliefs on how the brain works with actual self awareness. One cannot witness the workings of the brain-only the results...yet one can experience the here and now at will.
Try it. It is that simple.
@@surfinmuso37
I do it all the time pal, I do Tai Chi, an art of meditation and meditation is where we are in the moment seeing what's in our mind and around us.
Tai Chi is development of self awareness in the present moment.
Science has stolen from the Chinese, the Chinese knew the truth about the human body before atheists ever even believed the truth about it, including the brain, never mind saw it. The Chinese knew the truth over a thousand years before any visual evidence became available.
Plus, where in the author's comment does it mention thinking? Or are you the one who added that in twisting things?
I think the message here is not to over think the Why. The Why is one of the pillars of science, we just can't abandon it. The trick is to balance the Why with a hefty amount of the What. But an excellent observation nonetheless, worthy of TED.
maidenfan1484 please explain how so.
guanacahermosa That's what I meant, thanks. I think, in science, it is important to ask "WHY does the apple fall to the ground". But it is equally important to follow up that Why with "WHAT can I do to test/prove it, or disprove it".
Science does not ask why it asks how. It explains not gives meaning.
Raul Joey Lopez Good point, but I still believe the Why will come before How. I mean, I will always wonder "Why does light bend around massive objects" before wondering "How does it bend".
I found this a bit hilarious. This is not about science, is it? I don't understand what's the relation between science and the thought process on self-aware people over their personal issues. Nobody here is stating that you should throw the scientific method through the window. It doesn't even remotely talks about science as you are.
This is literally the best ted video I've ever seen in my whole life. The way she suggests makes us focus on the present moment. Why-question makes us see the past. The abyss. Where we can't take clear reasons out from the insanely complicated reality. And drag down us to a number of wrong answers.
Let's just stop it and start to live the present.
Ironically enough, this is what the scriptures say!! Sheesh!
The abyss?
@@craftsentic1899 where?
When half of my family-of-origin excluded me from events surrounding a larger event, I felt rejected and I wondered where I had gone wrong. I was asking "Why"? Trying to figure out what I needed to change about myself to not be excluded again. Getting no where, eventually I realized I can't please everyone, and I realized how many people in my life want me around. That was like my "What". I now feel blessed because I'm focusing on how I can nurture the relationships in my life that are healthy and natural, rather than trying to put all my effort into relationships where it's just not happening no matter how hard I try to connect.
This made me realize I spend way too much time wondering why when there is actually no solution in that. Huh. I definitely going to move forward asking what questions instead. This was incredibly eye opening. Thank you so much!
Amazing talk. I have to stop victimizing myself and look for solutions instead to fix it.
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Many of us are guilty of that my friend. It's easy to get caught up in the flow of negativity that surrounds us. But we must change our thoughts to change our life. And we must intentionally make positive thoughts a habit. I've been trying a method where every negative thought I have, I combat with a positive one right after. And now I've been able to stop the negativity mid-thought, and replace it with the good, positive one instead. It's incredible how much it has helped. I wish you an abundance of love and blessings!
This comment is gold.
True by mona noorchaalida
why
So powerful, the key is to come to the realization that we are really disappointed about the way our lives have turned out , don't dwell on that, re-think about focusing on the real way you want to live and focus on the outcome you really desired !!!
"Why" and understanding is valid. It allows you to change what was once unconscious. "What" seems to be a excellent next level!
The thought of a tree, is not a tree. So too the thoughts of ourselves, are not us.
I needed to read that, thank-you :)
A man will become what he thinks about though.....
unless you are self aware and that data is looped in your brain then you ARE what you think you are
People place too much emphasis on the mind.
СECI
Another thing that validate what she is saying is that when you ask "why" then you are loosing control of the outcome but when you ask "what can you do" you are changing the outcome to what you want which will give you confidence hence resulting in happiness and fullfillment.
I recently watch your webinar and it changed my life! Exactly what I needed to hear! What a blessing😇
Damn, she buried me underground with this talk, I don't even need to take the test to know which one I fall under... I am blown away.
Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to changed the world.
Today I am wise so i want to change myself
One of the best books I’ve read so far. Thanks Tasha for your authenticity and great work!🙏🏼
I am Iranian and it was a great honor for me that your speech ended with a sentence from Rumi. Thank you very much.
I'm 43 years old and I have learned some things. Advice I try to give to couples who tend to fight a lot. Instead of getting angry all the time and worried about what your partner might or might not be doing channel that into keeping your partner won over. Keep reminding her or him that you are the person he or she wants. It can be that simple. don't get angry show more affection instead. Stop worrying or getting angry at whether your partner is cheating on you or not and be a person that she would not want to cheat on
I woke up one day and decided to stop lying to myself. I became self aware, and then turned my life around. I have felt more fulfilled ever since.
@Rob Wow. Just like that, huh? Glad it worked out
This thing was personally so important to me. I've had this habit of questioning why since my childhood and I've kept a journal too. Much thanks for the insight.
What an unbelievably enriching presentation she gave! I think the stage and the audience were both grateful to have her ideas and views presented on a platform like this..!!
In 1973 in College I took a humanities course: Self-awareness and hypnosis. That was my best choice in my life and lead me on a great journey my whole life in enjoying life more and self-improvement in many areas of my life.
Asking "What" versus "Why" is a solid approach. Thank you for the class.
This is the perfect example of how to manipulate the audience into thinking that something as normal and useful as asking ourselves "why" is not a good thing, just to sell a new idea.
Although there will be situations where asking ourselves certain questions will not lead us to a useful answer, the problem does not lie in whatever interrogative adverb we use; the key thing here is to know what we want to achieve with a certain question.
Let's put on those color glasses and be happy while ignoring reality because it is unpleasant and hard to dig out.
@Mystic Sama And that was mine. Problem?
@Max Sharpe I've listened perfectly well. The fact that you question my listening/comprehension skills without any proper argument makes this discussion meaningless because you don't really want to know what I have to say; you just want confrontation and "win" the argument, which is a waste of our time.
Asking “Why?” creates “alternative facts”...👌🏻💫
Absolutely love her angle of approach, in general. By far one of the best/affluent speakers I have come across. Much to learn from also.
I’ve reflected on myself since I was about 9 years, literally meditating on why I feel or do what I do and it has allowed me happiness even with my flaws, and I have many. asking outside sources for their opinion on someone, remember 80% don’t even know themselves. Your best chance for opinion would be a husband of many years, he intimately knows your awareness, or a best friend who is also aware. ❤️ nice lecture
Love this. We often waste time overthinking and it really doesn't help
Her advice, to me, is more about changing focus and perspective. In "Deep work", Cal Newport states an excellent idea that our minds actually turn more toward negative things, which leads us to depression. Therefore, instead of spending hours on what we call "introspection", it's more about what we can learn from this experience, or remind ourselves of what are the important values in our lives.
Anw, one of the best Ted talks I've seen. Excellent delivery, and well-put honest emotion makes her message somehow more touching and memorable.
Kykuukkl.ilj.
I think being compassionate to yourself is vital
We r always looking for a ''quick fix'' well here it is. Very brilliantly presented, always ask ''what '' and not ''why''.
This is an amazing speech. I've already interested in self-awareness and hereafter you are one of my guide in the path. Thanks a lot. And good luck
That was mind-opening, and I'm one of those people who appreciate what you and your colleagues do. 😊
Thank you so much for helping me open my eyes and being patient with me. I feel like you really go out your way to help me better understand myself and the situations I'm dealing with. 👍
Thank you! The trap of overreflection was very well known to me. Your talk was convincing, focused and clearly backed up by research. Just ordered the book.
*I NEEDED THIS. I NEEDED THIS.*
Thank you so much. I just realized I was doing it wrong the entire time. I would get stuck on hundreds of whys and forget/wouldn't focus on the whats (which is/are the most important ones); these eventually put me in the same situations, made me feel even worse, and stopped me from moving forward.
Thank you!
Very impressive Ted Talk! One of the few that *really sticks to the topic, and provides useful information!*
What an amazing talk! A real gem! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.
There are so many insightful moments in my life where I have felt I am no more the same (including this) and then things go back to where they were. "Why ?" ....No wait what can we do to not forget these amazing insights when we need them ?
Change "Why" questions to "What" questions. Love This!
honestly I try my best to leave it up to other's to judge my character, there's certain ideals and characteristics I strive towards but I don't want to define myself in any way, makes for an easy trap of "I don't have to do this because I'm person A B or C".
We're all trying our best and we have to keep trying.
Awesome speech with very practical, simple and relatable advice. Thanks again TEDx Talks
She makes a wonderful point. Asking the right questions is the beginning of self awareness.
I like this quote “Keep going and most importantly, keep believing. Realize that you are the only thing stopping you.” - Richard Branson. Love you Tasha Eurich ;)
Love it! Thank you Tasha Eurich! Much appreciated :)
I finally know why I do self-analysis a lot from my childhood. I am not a confident person and not hold my life well. After I have kid, I started to realized how important of the family education and what is the reason I have less confidence. I will ask more "what" instead of "why", change myself and I hope it can benefit my kid. Thank you so much.
Such a wonderful insight into self awareness.True focussing on solutions rather than problems builds on character and leads to continuous improvements
What an amazing talk! Thank you, Tasha Eurich, for giving me much more insight into self-awareness. I am one of the 95% and 80% most of the time. Sometimes it takes a very hard reality check to “come back to/in yourself” so to speak - realising that I wasn’t as self-aware as I thought. Anyway, your “one simple fix” really helps. I am experiencing it personally on different levels at the moment. So, well done! And ask me to write an “Amazon review” on this talk...you will smile and smile and smile.
I like that the final quote from Rumi is delivered so powerful, especially because it contradicts the start of the talk.
“I became wise and changed myself”
Which quote?
As a persian person , I should say ,
Rumi after being translated to english totally became an other poet , to that extent that it is very hard to claim he is not any thing except an islamic fundamentalist person that had the fortunity to become a poet.
Bless you. This presentation is the most important one I have watched in my life. I am not exaggerating.
Just wanted to say that this was really helpful and I love Natasha's positive voice and attitude, this was an absolutely amazing video and topic!!
Training my brain to go from why to what has been one of the biggest challenges in my life but has been very rewarding.
Never read the 1 star reviews!! Loved this talk, thank you. I’ll be asking what a whole lot more 😍
I think the reason we chooce to go with 'why questions' instead of 'what questions' is because it is very easy to come up with a why than a what question.
Inorder for you to come up with a what question that means you will first have to take a pause and analyse the situation then come up with the correct what for the situation. Great talk, Leaned a lot from it...
This is so true! I was miserable for 20+ years until I stopped asking 'why' and started asking 'what' do I really want, and what can I do to get it?
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
Exsaming. One self is very important. After listening so many of mindfulness I fell into place and found Me. Stress and depressed.. For this is true for me. I a person who lost there partner made so much sense to me. Thank you 😊 so much. Much blessed light toward you.
I definitely struggle with this. Its hard to find problems within yourself when you don't know what you're looking. I'm starting on my self journey now. The first step for me is learning to be more self aware
LOVE this talk!!!! Boy do I ever see my endlessly introspective self here....it makes sense, and it really sounds like the research backs this Why-to-What trick. I'm going to keep an open mind and try this some...... Thanks Tasha!!!!
Thank you for validating my purpose in life - Which is to understand our creator is the only way we are able to truly understand who we are!
The main idea is not about asking why and what questions, it is about the ability to see the positive side of yourself
A Very Imperative Topic and Evaluation on Self Awareness, Thank You.
Omg I listened to this and now only ask what awhile back but forgot until my friend was crying over her rescue kitten getting sick saying why? And I remembered and pulled this back up!!!! I needed to hear it again also! Such great and valuable information from such a beautiful woman! I need to buy the book!!!
Love this it elevates my thoughts. Interesting to know this I often Love to ask questions or focus on the why knowing this gives me hope for the what question instead
First of all, Thank you Tasha Eurich if you read this or not. You helped me state some things about me.
Secondly, I realized I was lately thinking about why-side more often as I learn psychology. But when it comes to learning my religion's beliefs it goes to what-side more often. I wondered what is the reason behind? Because I see this more often in some people around me too. The more and true implementation of religion, the more self-awareness, relaxed, happy, high-quality, and stress-free life.
The answer I have found, is pretty simple, if you are smart enough to understand Tasha's why-what advice. Think about why only humans has this capability to search and learn this much unlike any other living kind. We have extraordinary capabilities given by a creator for nothing? What is the purpose with all these perfect designs in human body and the universe as a home to human kind. The position of human in the universe. And if we are gifted from a creator, it means creator knows us better than us, and loves us. If so, listening the Creator's advices will definitely lead us to self-awareness. Now, I call this real Self-Awareness. And in this context, I consider the advices Tasha gave, as helpful practical exercises to make a better version of ourselves.
Beautiful message. Love this ♥️
AN outstanding presentation... she can keep us fully into it. And, the content, it’s life changing. You are a great speaker.
I’ve found the answer to a question I’m asked every now and then, how come you’ve changed so much? I now realised I changed the question to what. It’s an ongoing struggle. Thank you for this talk.
Great talk. Thanks for those insightful words.
Your "Why" question examples were all about negative events/thoughts etc... which is why the "what" may have been a more useful question to ask in those cases to help them move forward :)
I think these questions are supporting each other - find the reason, then make conclusion. This can apply to positive situations as well :)
researching self-awareness for an apprenticeship I am doing at work and your "Not why but what" technique is great, thank you very much
It is quite easy to look down upon oneself, give into self-pity attitude whereas it requires enormous amount of effort and courage to not get defeated by our circumstances. Earlier this morning a difficult situation came up, but without having seen this video, I asked myself, 'WHAT' can I do to change the situation instead of worrying about 'WHY ME?'
And to my suprise it instantly lightened my mood and I started looking for ways to improve the situation. This concept has worked for me. I feel I am more self-aware now.
This will definitely change my life. Thank you so much for the great 17 minutes.
I can tell the audience has enjoyed this talk so much from the way they are laughing >.
Her clarification of the why vs what is excellent!
I really enjoyed reading your HBR Articles. Thank you for researching this topic and helping me better understand Self-Awareness.
This is the most important lesson of my life.
Come out of your comfort zone
I was an introvert before..I became an ambivert now only through practice..Because I want to become an extrovert after XII board..took numerous steps during graduation and even afterwards.There are many days where I heard comments like 'You are a silent girl etc..'..even then.But those people have zero idea how far I have come..During the process I learned a lot about myself.
Now I am an ambivert..
Wow...really good and just what I needed to hear! Thank you!
one of the best ted talks i've ever seen!!
As you age you get to know more about urself by the experiences u came across you've learned from it the lessons u'll never forget as you still living in this world
Well said
I understand that introspection and asking yourself "why?" can lead to overthinking and victimization but that is why it is important to not stay in this phase for a long period of time. When I became aware of my toxic behaviors, one of my first questions was why. Why do I act this way when this happens, why am I so judgmental or why do I get defensive etc. I believe that this was the foundation that I needed to figure out what events happened in my life that lead me to where I was. If when I discovered that I couldn't tell myself that I was beautiful and then I said "what can I do to make myself feel beautiful?", "oh I'll just do some self care and pluck my eyebrows or paint my toenails". It's more like a band-aid instead of getting to what's really under the surface. I believe the next phase is "what", what can I do to make this situation better? was what I did the right thing to do? what do I want out of life? what are my boundaries? BUT I can understand if an individual doesn't have any baggage like I do and if they don't need to "get to the surface", then they most likely can skip the "why" and go straight to the "what". Everyone's situation is different.
I just posted a comment on how she can't speak for everyone, like me on my WHYS my why's entail what's in them as well.. for example "why do i feel this way" entails what could be causing me to feel this way. I don't think she's the best teacher imo. Maybe not her fault but just doesn't convey well.
@@timesn7774 Yes, I think that she is trying to categorize everyone in the same bin and that's unrealistic. I do know that her talk will help people on their own journey though, just not ours ;)
best advice video on the internet - clear, concise, practical. Simply change 'why' to 'what'.
I once heard someone say "we are trapped in a prison of our own making, but there's nobody trying to keep us inside". I never really understood what that meant until now
I just love your dress! So vibrant and thoughtful you wore the same color as Ted 😘
What a wonderful talk
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I feel so connected to this! We guide where we want be. We guide our own lives! Today I am wiser listening to this!
Totally agree, knowing yourself is like having a compass pointing you in the right direction! We actually made a video about it on our youtube after having watched this video!! ☺️💛
Wow. Just WOW.
Thank you, Dr. Eurich!
This is a very good ted talk on examining oneself.. i had been reading socratic dialogues for a while and when i used it to others i always felt i am making myself worse and creating resentment. Now i know my way of questioning was wrong. This is the turning point. THANKS.
Great information and so well spoken!
One of my favorite Ted talks 🙂🖤🙏🏼
Amazing thankyou for sharing! Loads of blessings to all. All your wishes are coming true! ❤️
Loved this talk Tasha as it highlights the disconnect between our perspective of ourselves and others' perception of us. I also hadn't realized that we both believed in what instead of why. So cool.