Just curious if 2 people A and B respectively who know each other meet and greet and A begins to want to engage in gossip but then B interjects by explaining that he/she is not interested and then goes on to say that he/she would rather help and not hurt as well as explains how he/she helps the homeless and or people in need rather than put people down and harbor ill will towards someone ( unless they feel really hurt ) Does that make B a communal narcissist?
I was with a narcissist for 12 years. 19 to 33. I'm 54 now and it's been 21 years. One thing I can say for sure. If their absence brings you peace you did not lose them you have won yourself again
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I could listen to this woman talk all day. Her signal-to-noise ratio is delightfully high. No weasel words, no null syllables, just confident information.
My Dad was malignant narcissist. I was scapegoated as a child and still am by 4 siblings, but am becoming able to transition to truth teller at age 64! Thanks be to God.
He probably grew up during a time when human connection was 24/7 and had to be mean and when the new generation came he found out how to lash out without being mean
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A majority of narcissists need to live on their own. And not have a great social circle,fed up of some people I know of demanding attention, grandiose persona and lacking of empathy. Very weak and needy self absorbed people and dead behind the eyes 🙄
My parents are both narcissists. My father is a malignant narcissist and my mom is a covert narcissist. What a couple. It’s a nightmare to live with them. I had to be my own parent because they would only care about themselves. I had to be a dad and a mom to my siblings. When we all finished college by working part time, we moved out and got jobs. Lo and behold, they both demanded half of our salaries because they endured raising us. Wow. We cut ties with them and helped our grandparents instead. We’re all worried that we might become narcissist like them but we’re thankful we’re not. It’s so hard but we’re so glad we survived.
I lived with a Narcissist for 19yrs😢, I looked pale & older than my age but now I realized that nothing can be compared to ones peace of mind. I am glowing and Jesus is taking care of me. Looking back, am like how the hell did I survive those years? God, my kids & my keyboard...music were my Solace, the reason I was sane throughout the Abuse. I will "never" go back to what broke me👌. Proudly a survivor 🙌
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but she does not know what she is talking about, she clearly is faking knowledge; just word salade, Her smug irresponsible behavior misinforming people like that is rather apalling to be frank. IN all likelyhood, she herself suffers from NPD, a real one, not this fairytale version she dreamt up.
Really? Her utter hyocrisy does not bother you? Let's play a game: you pick a time gap of two minute and I'll comment on that. This video is full of contradictions, literarly full.
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Right there with you. My husband is one as well. I have two kids with him. And am starting the process of divorce. It’s awful and unreal! I didn’t realize until my mom helped me realize what it was. Then I started researching. I didn’t want to believe such people existed and my marriage was a sham...
Desiree 'Fields same...me too,I left about a month ago! Never will I go back...I’m tired,so tired now to run through those circle...I don’t have the energy anymore tho I miss him a lot sometimes.His final shrikes was unforgivable...mine was sex addict too.
Honey Heroine I had 20 years married to one .hes very cunning .i always new something wasn’t right .he was cheating I left finall y .hes pure evil .i now live on my own .
@@michelleg5371 it sounds like yours was the term I have heard which is demons in human flesh. And that is not an exaggeration on a human being. And it is not a figure of speech. From dealing with two at my work and from Googling that term I have come to realize that there are people, human beings, on this Earth that do not have a human soul from God but instead have an unclean spirit or a demon inside. They do not just say "Wooooooo, look at me, I am a demon now watch me kill everyone." Instead they live their life as a regular person but wreak havoc throughout and ruin people's lives. Once again it is not a figure of speech, demons in human bodies. It is real, there are two races of beings on this planet that both appear the same on the outside.
I'm a coach and had an athlete who was a narcissist. He got in my head, drove me absolutely nuts, but also intrigued me. He would say the most odd things, and i couldn't figure out where he was coming from until I came across Dr. Ramani.
Surprised that she is a woman or surprised that she is so eloquent? I just see a brilliant human being, since we are talking about their mind I don't see why their sex has anything to do with it. The older you get, if your lucky, you just see people for who they are, what they thing and feel, which involves so many personal variables which are WAY more influential than sex. (Hence the rise in female narcissism caused by socio-cultural-commercial influences)
@@AmanitaVersicula555if you don't give reflections or reasons for why you feel so about this person.. then it comes across as irresponsible criticism, lacking solidarity if its not constructive.
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Narcissism is one of the major causes of misery, the best way to find your self-respect is by sincerely helping others and spreading kindness and love to this world.
Psychopathy is way worse. They are robots in a human body...Alltogether however, it's the Dark triad (or tetrade): narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy (and sadism).
Married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house. Keep Faith in God then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Discrimination brings lots fear in life.
I initially thought I was a narcissist, maybe a mix of covert and communal, my ex used to keep telling me I was a narcissist so I blamed myself but this video changed my views, no I am not a narcissist, I am a human, an empathetic giving human who takes accountability for their actions, who knows when I did something wrong and I need to make it right, I feel immensely guilty for hurting others and I give and give and give and only expect a little respect and love from the other person and isn't expecting love in return is what a normal human expects... No way I am a narcissist.... First my father then my bf of two years kept making me feel how I was not good enough.... I am tired of narcissists making me feel I am insufficient... Thank you dr. Ramani.... Knowledge does make one powerful!
Sadly this is something I've experienced a lot as well. We all make poor choices in life and I found recently no matter how much I try to address them and move on with the lessons learned its never quite enough. There is always a mistake or poor choice to talk about and never anything beyond that to focus on.
Believe me you do not need to go through stress trying to hack into our narcissist partner's phone ourselves. It is advisable to hire a professional trackers When I needed to hack my partner's phone, I contacted Genuistracker team, all i did was to share my husband's phone number and they did a good fast job for me, without touching his phone, in less than 2hrs. They made it possible for me to see my partner's chat Histories, Present/Deleted chats, Text messages, Incoming and Outgoing calls, Location FB and Whatsapp conversations etc.. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach them on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Covert narcissist are sneaky and mean!!! But act very innocent when you snap at them for what they may have done...making you look like the evil one when others are around...🧐
Seems everyone as in people may have a bit of a narcissist disposition some just handle themselves differently or may have had a better life than most maybe they were raised different meaning maybe had no trauma or abuse in their life or had better values is there any positive you can elaborate about the narcissist
"Do good quietly". Ancient wisdom. " But when you do merciful deeds, don't let your left hand know what your right hand does," Matthew 6.3 (The Sermon on the Mount).
there are other places in the New Testament that teaches to fast, pray and do good deeds in secret, because our father in heaven still knows about it :)
But then you get the same level of gratification because you feel good about yourself for being a silent “do-gooder”. You’re just less annoying about it, I suppose.
@@realmofthemisunderstood166 self satisfaction drives a lot of human behavior lol. I mean how else are you supposed to feel about doing a good deed in silence? Anger? Hatred?
Not sure if I'm a narcissist or sociopath but sincerely wish I could know what it was like to be happy for other people unrelated to if it will benefit me as well. That feeling is completely absent 😕
I would say the first sign will come from your own gut feeling which will send signal to your body telling you that this person doesn't make you feel comfortable being around him/her. The fact that you are already asking this question should alert you to be careful. Something will feel off and you won't know what it is exactly. Covert narcissists can act very charming in the beginning but there will be often also present underlying sense of superiority about them. That sense is actually deriving from them feeling insecure about themselves, so they tend to quietly degrade others in order to feel better about themselves. On the other hand if covert narcissist feels that you are above his league, he will act like your servant, trying to please you - almost annoying in a way. But make no mistake. If you decide to stay in a relationship with him, he will downgrade you and abuse you like all the others. Because in his mind, if you love him, he thinks you are unworthy of him. Covert narcissists hate themselves so if someone loves them, than they think this person is worth less than them and that they can do better. Other sign to look for is any kind of judgment towards others. If he criticises other frequently, he will more likely criticise you as well once he gets more comfortable around you. Pay attention to how he treats people that are dependent on him as well. Narcissists hate those especially if they can't get anything of of that for themselves. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your wife of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on her of her without her knowledge of her. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,
narcs target empaths- people who do not perceive those red flags. Most empaths are codependents and many of them were abused by narcs as children- so the chaos seems normal to them. Everyone else is safe as they will see the red flags and run.
Hey, do you have any more materials I can further read about this? What you said is spot on, coming from a narcissistic guy. I want to learn to manage and better myself
I actually never rlly believed that celebrities are narcissistic, but since she said that narcissism is rather a trait than a disorder, I’m actually starting to believe that LA is a hotspot for narcissists
It is apparently a disorder, that information seems to be wrong. And you can detect it as well. No clue why she put all that stuff this way. Wiki: "Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or megalomania is a personality disorder characterized by a long-term pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive craving for admiration, and struggles with empathy.", "The narcissistic personality was first described by the psychoanalyst Robert Waelder, in 1925. The term narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) was coined by Heinz Kohut in 1968." and "A diagnosis of NPD is made by a healthcare professional interviewing the person in question.". Being a narcissist myself and having a Machiavellian and a narcissist as best friends, believe me, it's mostly malignant and definitely a disorder. Dr. Durvasula put it quite well in another video what such people are capable of. And it can be worse, esp. when they are psychopaths - just what you see in movies and series (like Tommy Volker in The Mentalist e.g.)...As being one of those, u can only hope to be lucky to have a humane part left in you that actually let's you know urself and do positive things, living a modest and quiet life - and like in my case never have children :) Unfortunately, in my point of view due to the lack of first hand- insight, the image of us is that they pretty much always harm and rarely do nice things. While it's certainly true for a lot, it's definitely not all.
@@TaymaShine Well, I don't know anybody like me, because I'm no full-blown narcissist, but essential character traits found in the DSM-5 and ICD-10 "are me". So I suppose that's the reason why I got a good relationship with my family and relatives as well as true friends. I was always perceived well behaved by my surroundings, polite and friendly and well mannered. And it's not even fake for the biggest part. Just with a love relationship I got my difficulties, that's an entirely different thing where it gets complicated (of course). Therapy I never did, for I am almost 100% probable intellectually superior to the therapist. Unfortunately, it's also part of my disorder, but that doesn't make it less true - or let's say that doesn't logically exclude the truth of my statement (I actually skipped a school year in elementary school and am tested gifted - plus my understanding and insight of human behavior leave little to desire; I figured out a few yrs ago that I got "Sensory processing sensitivity", which likely makes me "fake gifted" and emotionally very sensitive) - as soon as the therapist would touch this "grandeur" with any sign of denial, I'd be out...If therapy was free of charge, I'd have tried a few at least, but even here they are expensive and the chances of success are low. So no therapy till now. What's your background?
@@deedee7780 No. But sometimes "lost" maybe. Though I'd say it's not due to being narcissistic but rather of the circumstances finding sb on the same intellectual level... As it says in literature, usually Narcissists have had a trauma in their early youth. In my opinion and experience it's people in the close surrounding who crushed the self esteem over a prolongued period, probably with no parental support to back that up. Partly because of incapability and/or neglection, but I don't think it's the sole main reason. However, therefore you (always?) have an insecure child at the basis of the personality that's afraid nobody loves/respects it. So you "overcompensate". Depending on the damage done, the amount of the so-called narcissistic supply needs to be delivered. What I don't know but wouldn't be surprised of: For myself I tell others that something died inside me at that time when I was a child, irreparably. Like when you lose a leg - it's gone for good. A prosthesis makes you walk again but doesn't bring the leg back. That's the main purpose of a psychotherapy. So the "empty at the core" - thing is for most affected a "missing"-feeling I suppose, if it's strong it's rather like you lost a parent at young age: sth that can always make you sad but still leaves the opportunity for a regular, fulfilled life. Because it's always a part left so that u CAN even have a "missing"-feeling and idea of a "whole". Yet a lot Narcissists won't have the mental capabilities for this amount of self reflection. But when you can tease and anger them, or even worse, embarass them and they react, then you feel there's still a real personality inside...If the damage was too great however, and/or genetic precursors support it too much, u'd become a psychopath in my opinion. Then just everything is dead inside and there is no humane part left, and those people can't understand this issue anymore nor tell you from their own experience what's wrong with em in that regard....And yes, I have. They can help :) This song fits pretty perfectly how it feels inside: "Hans Zimmer - Time (Pen Perry Remix)"
Yes! We applaud SELFishness. (All the way to POTUS). Many giving, "olive- branch" types are overlooked , while leaned on when others needed support, then forgotten again. Yes, they may be seen as "depressed" because they're not self aggrandizing.
Social media is not to blame !! Selfish self-centered people who only care about their own feelings are the ones to blame !! 🥴 This convoluted, disturbed therapist needs a therapist of her own !! 🤪
@@SweetChicagoGator you must not be under the age of 35. Suicide rates in teens have skyrocketed in the span of a few years due to the effects of social media and you still don't see that it correlates to mental health? PEOPLE ARE ONLY CARING ABOUT THEIR OWN FEELINGS BECAUSE THEY ARE SOCIALLY AND EMOTIONALLY INCOMPETENT. They aren't connecting in REAL LIFE.
I was married to a malignant narcissist and he was everything she said, he was a liar, cheater and abusive in every way possible but he also have a little bit of the other 3 traits as well. Now he’s remarried and playing the role of an angel doing everything I begged him to do/be while we were married to try to make me jealous 😂😂 I hope he knows that I’m so much happier in my life without him so there’s nothing in this world he could do to make me ever care for him ever again 🙌🏼🎉👏🏼
My husband was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder after he went into a VA Home. They haven't told him because they're afraid of how he'll act. He was very verbally abusive to me but outside the home everyone thought he was wonderful.
@BenjaminMerkley that's an unfair statement. Most narcissists will not subject themselves to being diagnosed, so being able to cite an official diagnosis is highly improbable for survivors. Many people truly touched by narcissism spend years independently researching the cause of their loved one's toxic behavior, and often go to therapy as well.
lol. while learning about covert narcissist, i thought every person would think about their spouse/partner 😄 i definitely thought about my spouse. he barely spends time at home but he thinks he's a victim 😕 and that he's sacrificing his life for this family and has been less acknowledged for it ☹🙁 edit: he's very mean to me too 😢. I'm pregnant and need bedrest. his reaction, "you are a faulty woman! it's your defect that you need bedrest. why should i suffer?" me: 😲😲😲
GRIZZ GOD the hell do you mean stop complaining “it’s pathetic”? You just watched a video about narcissism and the way it affects other people, of course she’s going to complain, it’s horrible! I’ve seen family members suffer through this, that think they aren’t good enough and get called so much shit but don’t do anything about it cause they care more for their families than themselves. This personality trait affects so many people negatively and you have the audacity to tell her to stop fucking complaining? Go comment somewhere else that it’s needed, not under a persons comment who is sharing their experience.
Hi I'm Trish. Thankyou for being so informative on narcissism. Unfortunately I was married to a narcissist 11 years. I went in as a confident person, probably became a bit narcissist myself trying to defend myself. When I was no longer myself I had to leave with my 2 children. He then charmed his way into my brother and sisters lives and used them as flying monkies. My only fallback has been of what my dear old Grandfather told me, always be truthful, it's too hard in life to remember all the different lies you tell. Your mind becomes your own maze to navigate. I have now learnt to be disassociated from all the stories my narcissist husband told my family. I never married again, and ran from marriage proposals and live very happily on my own.
@@lemonywater2979 thankyou for inquiry. Yes life is more peaceful, I still have my problems, life is always up and down, I have been praying for an end to the war in Ukraine as we all are. But I'm fortunate to have a lovely daughter and garden to look after.
@@yourneighbour5738 On Ted - Yes, sharing useful things you learned or experienced is a bad thing! I love Ted and not all of the talks have to be great. It is the effort and thought-provoking conversation that it stirs up that is important.
@@Conn30Mtenor i think ive identified some which didnt help in my 7 year relationship with my ex girlfriend. Most if not ALL my good traits seem to be a vulnerbility , im not blowing my own horn here but im , kind and generous and will help anyone in need without expecting anything in return. My ex had a previous illness which over time healed but made working hard , tbh she never really worked at all in our relationship but given her past health plus sterotypes of the MAN being the provider , i gladly was the bread winner , which NOW i see is also a trait she took advantage of. There is so many , but to sum them up , think of any good trait , my ex used to her adavantage.
I remember I discovered my mom is a malignant narcissist about two months ago here. I'm so grateful I did, I'm fourteen years old and no one knows what she does to me and I was so scared I was going crazy. I mean, something had to be wrong with me if I felt so much pain in the company of my own mother. I understand things better now. Thank you so much.
Same here. My mom was HORRIBLE to me but no one ever believed me because she was nice to them. I thought I was crazy for a long time up until January of this year when I found out what a narcissist is
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Remember that you're not the only. I'm going through the same thing with my dad.. No matter how bad you might feel right now, all this living hell will end someday so try your best to stay well! Wish you the best 🙏❤
I’m in the medical field. I agree, the issue lies when we label people in these “disorders”. When it could be a personality trait. You don’t have to light me up if you disagree. Just make your point.
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The worst way to deal with pain is to pretend that it does not hurt. If you deny the pain, you delay the process of healing. Healing begins whenever you confess to God that it hurts. Forgive. Be vulnerable in his presence. God will pour oil into your wounds, then He will make you new and even better than you were before. Be healed in Jesus name. ~Rev. Victor M. JACKSON
Me: "Doc, ya gotta tell me. Am I a psychopath, sociopath, or narcissist?" Doc: "You're none of those. You're just standard, pedestrian asshole." Me: "Oh thank God!... I thought there was something wrong with me."
I feel horrible, reading all of these comments about people escaping narcissists because I’m here to find out if I’m one myself. I’m here to better myself and stop hurting the people around me, I’m self-aware of my problem and I’m trying my hardest to fix it and with help. I know nobody asked but I just wanted to say it.
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I commend you for being brave and honest in sharing this. I have narcissistic tendencies too as you said you believe you do. The first step in overcoming this behavior and beginning recovery is to stop labeling yourself; i.e., stop calling yourself a “narcissist”. You’re a a person, a human being who has tendencies or characteristics associated with narcissism. You’re not a blanket narcissist with no possibility of changing. You begin your process of healing when you acknowledge that you have these issues, much like an alcoholic who admits that they practice alcoholism. Getting some support such as a therapist or mentor can help tremendously. Developing a spiritual life (I can recommend Stoicism/Taoism to begin) is essential. Just recognizing it with some humility and awareness is key. There are even some psychedelics that can help foster change such as microdosing LSD/psilocybin and even smoking DMT or taking ayahuasca. I’ve read that a pharmaceutical drug resperidol could help but it didn’t do much for me. Don’t despair but appreciate yourself for your awareness and desire to overcome your narcissism. You can and with some focus and self discipline you will.
Being or living with a narcissist is like having to fight your way to more freedom minute by minute. You often feel like you are fighting for the last little piece of turf, or for more air. You feel like you are suffocating in their presence. You feel like you are in a prison.
Yes, i'm in it. Like every minutes like a stepping on an egg shell. Observing his mood is much more important than anything to keep living peace and quiet. And I still couldnt escape from it, he always has something to threaten me so i couldnt easily go
@arizqiardhina6182 Please be careful and try not to react. The way I got out was to shut off communication. I filed a police report just in case something happened to me. I begged him to get counseling but he never would. If you are planning on leaving, make sure you have everything ready for you to leave. Make sure that you are safe above all.
Yes, and I found out in time but it hurt to realized she was nothing playing the victim as usual when she had family who lived with her but wanted only to suck money out of me again? I said, "adios!" Then she started to bother me by phone and I told her plainly she is not a friend and I would appreciate if she stops calling me. She did finally.
M Wittman Yes I have mother as well who’s also shown signs in the past of being a covert narcissist. She was often passive aggressive, victimized, cold, mean, and manipulative.
What finally clued me in on my ex being a covert narcissist was his super hyper sensitivity to any type of criticism. Also, he was always the victim. Yet he was always seeking some type of recognition for any and every thing he ever did in this life.
I know 2 people that I would describe as narcissists because they fit many of these descriptions. What shocked me is how much they like to talk about themselves and how they are always the victim. Imagine getting fired everywhere and never realizing that perhaps YOU are the problem ! It's really odd !
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Lo go thanks for explaining and I hope that yu life and emotional well being gets better I asked that because I left what I think is a narcissist but I want to go back and I'm depressed
Omg u ain't fkn lien. I'm going thru this crap right now. 10 yrs just recently accepted the fact he's a narsasist. I let him blame it on everything being a marine mommy issues bad exs nope narsasist
These types souls is blessing in life religious said they are for reason in your life so always kind to them they give you good shape in life. Which people tolerate their behaviour God said they are real warriors in this world they get famous one day . Keep Faith in God then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Cut down desire only grateful. Do little things for others builds up happiness in heart. They belong to our past life karma.
@@Morpheus-pt3wq they are blessing soul religious said always kind to them they give you good shape if you tolerate them and forgive them they make you a great person in life.
Thank you for making this video! My ex is a covert narcissist. This video helps me so much in understanding why he behaved the way he did and never cared about my feelings. Everything centers about him and all he ever wanted to speak about was him and his life and his struggles in PhD and his this and that and it's always him him him him him. I was caring and kind and did everything I could to be there fo him. He gave me nothing back, literally nothing. Beware of these people cause all they do in a relationship is to take. They take and take and take and take until they drain you and use you up and they discard you and go off to find new supply.
This is all TRUTH!!! VERY DRAINNING INDEED. LEFT ME VERY BROKEN, HEART AND SOUL. IT'S TAKEN ME 7 MONTHS TO TRY AND PUT MYSELF BACK TOGETHER. AND LIKE YOU, I POURED EVERYTHING THING I HAD INTO HIM, AND IN RETURN I RECEIVED NOTHING BUT HEARTACHE AND WAS DISCARDED LIKE A PIECE OF TRASH. EVEN COMING TO MY JOB TO EAT EVERY WEEKEND AND MEETING SOMEONE ELSE THERE TO HAVE IT RIGHT IN MY FACE. VERY SELF-CENTERED AND MEAN ABOUT IT.
It's why narcissists are often so successful. The world was built by them, for them. Narcissists often have qualities that make them superb go-getters on top of being generally shitty to others.
I've seen more than that, and she still blows my mind. I only just heard about her last week btw. I've been hooked since. Watch her with will Smith on red table talk. Amazing conversation!
I am really impressed with Dr. Ramani - she really understands her field and explains everything in such a clear and well-reasoned way. Amazing to see someone so passionate about their job. True inspiration!!!
I was with a Covert narcissist for 4yrs. The worst relationship experience of my life! So draining and emotional torture! I am finally completely moving on with my life, healing with the help of God, my therapist, family and friend support. Please be aware of the signs early and do not stay thinking these ppl will change. They DO NOT. Run and keep running. Do not do like I did and stay being blind by love. They do not know what love is. They are selfish, cold blooded people that only aim to tear you down, to make themselves feel good or superior to you.
My daughter's father is a malignant narcissis who also beat me for 4 year. Covid actually made actually get away and stay gone. Music has always been a refuge and this is no exception!!
My biggest experience was with Covert. Huge victim complex, woe is me, I'm so talented but the world doesn't give me enough opportunities, no one's feelings matter except mine, people should love and support me no matter what I do.
That last part especially! My ex narc boyfriend learned the definition of what he thought was "unconditional love" And expected people who were in relationships with him to love and appraise him 'unconditionally' no matter how inconsiderate, wrong or cold he was. The victim complex and sense of entitlement was a nightmare. He manipulated me for so long into thinking I was the bad guy for not constantly showing him endless love and admiration all the while he's being careless and rude to me.
Stop making everything in your important relationships about you. It's not all about you. If your significant other is unhappy about the day's outing you've both just been on, find out why and LISTEN. Stop arguing in your head with everything she says. Stop lining up your rebuttals. Just listen. Actually pay attention. Even if she starts off poorly with blaming because "you chose the restaurant/holiday destination/outing venue". Just listen. Instead of making proclamations and pronouncements and passing edicts about future outings, ask her/him what would suit them better? How could things improve? Actually listen. A weird thing might happen. You'll realize you actually won't perish on the spot if you were wrong about something. You won't die if you apologize. You won't cease to exist if you "let them win". Narcissism is ego that is out of control. It's not all about you. You are the centre of your own experience, but so is everyone else the centre of their experience. You won't die if you change, even just a little. Cultivate genuine interest in what's going on for others. So many ways you can let that harmful ego down gently, and expand your inner horizons.
My dad is a malignant narcissist, my MIL is a covert/communal narcissist. Sometimes I feel like I can't escape narcissistic abuse. I am low contact with both.
Susan I used to put my narcissistic father on time out LOL I would go long periods of time without communicating with him because it was just so destructive to me, but finally I decided to love him for who he is & stop trying to change him. This is not advice to you, just sharing my experience, I'd love to hear more about your experiences.
My ex husband is a narcissist. Although i want to talk to him about our child, i try to limit my contact with him...he always piss me off and he is always so calm. Like he didn't do anything.
Felt. My grandmother is a sociopath(but she also reminds me of a narcassist too), and my dad is an egoist just like my sister, they r really cold. And then theres me and my mom being emotional empaths😂 no balance if u ask me
@@bebebe1354 that don't necessarily mean he a narcissist u can just be a stressful as baby momma lhh your probably the narcissist if hes calm and your upset lbs
My dad is a narcissist but he is a good provider, quiet, never seen him drunk or had any vices. He was strict, unappreciative, overtly irritated and always blames my mom and his family for hving a bad upbringing. It took me 40 yrs to undersrand him and have a relationship. We showed him more love and tell him how great he is as a dad. No-one is perfect, But we can show more empathy and more understanding. I wish I learned about this early on.
I love this video so much. I was married to a Covert Narcissist and it blew my mind about how being treated for depression doesn't help. I just thought medical science had been failing her for years. I was the failure yet she achieved nothing in life but to make people miserable.
I am currently in a legal battle with my narcissitic ex of 3 years. He's grandiose, malignant, and covert; grandiose because he celebrates the same handful of victories from high school and his one year in college; malignant because he hit me; covert because woe is him and it was always way worse for him than it was for me. He isolated me, never once liked any of my friends, he screamed at me constantly, made me feel like I was crazy, and I cried almost everyday for three years. I thought if I loved him more than his parents ever did or could he would consider my feelings and speak to me with respect. I know he loved me at one point, but I remember the turning point in our relationship and that's when I became increasingly irrelevant to him. I left the night he hit me - walked out of MY house and never went back to him. Now I'm in the process of filing a PFA and he's making it as hard as possible. Over the three years he ghosted me for weeks, even months at a time at one point, but now that I'm leaving him he's not going to make it easy. Thank you for these videos, it brings me a lot of peace to know there's literally nothing I could have done to fix him.
It took a lot of strength to walk out but you finally did it! Congratulations!!! You are worth more than this and I wish you healing and a future of love with someone who deserves you! Stay strong and wishing you the best in your PFA battle.
Bless you!3 years goes fast and I'm proud of you for not staying longer than the 3 years. Thank Goodness that you are still in your right mind. God speed with PFA battle and everything else in your future!
I love the point made at 11:35 onwards. Some people may exhibit narcissistic behavior but not necessarily be a narcissist. It's so important to be honest with people you care about and to not be a "Yes" man to avoid conflict. Their response to your honesty will reveal who they really are.
But still blind to the fact that there are just as much female narcissist as there are male narcissist. Females are just more passive and covert and males are more straight foreword.
1st was grandiose. 2nd was covert. With the covert one, I got so frustrated with his feigned powerlessness. He always had an excuse and someone else to blame. I told him a number of times that he was not as powerless as he acted. Thst he could make different choices. He of course never believed me. 45 years old, not working, chronically late but always so so busy....or sleeping bc the busyness was a lie and the exhaustion was a cover. The world is out to get me. All my exes are crazy. My family was jealous of me and not grateful. My ex partner was dumb. My brother sabatoged me because he was jealous. Nothing was his fault. Ever.
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I just left a relationship with a narcissist and am beginning to heal and learn from this, these videos have opened my eyes and are making me understand why this happened with me.
Hey, I just broke up with my girlfriend yesterday and I really think she was a covert narcissist. Can you help me, like does it get better with time? I really can't stop crying because I wanted us to be together forever and tried teaching her how to communicate and everything and we broke up at the end after being together for almost a year and I know I should not be feeling guilty but she's blaming me for everything and it's always been this way. Would you please give me an advice?
That sounds really difficult to deal with, i have some issues with dissociastion aswell becaus i have an anxiety disoder. Its like the world becomes distant right?
@@Victoria-gn7qn Ah i see, also i think i accidentally comment my answer to the wrong comment originally. But anyways, what else do you experience. I also have a feeling of everything both being familiar and unfamiliar at the same time, almost like a constant dejavu that doesn't go away and it feels super wierd, it makes me question my world. Also my memories don't give me any feelings at all they feel distant and empty, i know im depressed and anxious, but its like i can't feel it, i can feel my body responding to it, but its as if everything is numbed. People i know also seem oddly strange to me, as if they were strangers somtimes. When i look myself in the mirror its as if im seeing somone else for a bit everytime. And i also don't like seeing film or hearing sound of myself. It has this erie feel to it, it runs cold down my spine when i do, so i mostly avoid it.
My sister is one of the most toxic people I know. I tried for over 40 years to keep her in my life but I finally had to cut her out like a tumor. Now I don't have to feel my blood pressure go sky high every time I see her face on my caller ID. Life is good now.
My mother is a malignant narcissist, straight up. I think the determining characteristic might be profound vindictiveness. When my 60 year-old mother is 'offended' she becomes extremely vicious and vindictive. At that time, I had been a nurse for 17 years and in one evening she destroyed my career by calling the police and making up a story that I hit her. I was subsequently arrested for domestic violence and lost my nursing administrative position. Went NO contact 10 years ago and haven't looked back. RUN, do not walk from these people.
Funny what you said rings so true for me too. Unfortunately, my mother continues to be in our lives and we have to constantly deal with her offence taking.
Sounds like the Obamas as well AND the Clintons. Hell Hillary is STILL out there blaming everyone else for her not being president. Sounds like the liberals as well. They show zero remorse for constantly name calling and blaming conservatives/Trump for all the faults of the prior president. Most people see Trumps faults, don't agree with everything, however we stand by him as he has done more in one yr vs the last 8. He cares about american people as where the last one didn't.
Holy crap. I stumbled on this channel and am forever grateful. I NOW realize I have been married to a narcissist for almost 27 years (call me self-unaware! It's ok.). Now that I am in ownership of this information, I am both scared and empowered. I knew I would never change him ("that is just how he is") and I didn't want to. Now it is up to me to change ME before I feel like my personality is GONE, like I won't recognize myself. Oh dear. Feeling desperate and sad. When the Dr said "you feel like you want to record the conversation", in a previous video, I felt gutpunched. And now knowing it is NOT me, but him not wanting to change. Wow. I don't know what to think or do.
I hope you both have found your way out and a brighter future now. Good luck with everything! You both deserve the best. It's not easy to leave or to find yourself again but I pray you both do!!!
Religious said married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house. Cut down desire only grateful. Keep Faith in heart then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Discrimination brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Forgive yourself and forgive others builds up happiness in heart. Do little things for others builds up happiness in heart. Be kind be honest be grateful obey souls respect rules
@@nicolesmith923 married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house. Keep Faith in Heart then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Cut down desire only grateful. God is in every heart. God is our inner beauty.
Growing up with an older sister that is a narcissist was extremely difficult until I had a friend give me a book that explained what narcissistic people are like. I finally understood how her brain worked, and was able to stop trying to have a relationship with her.
I have a sister who I believe,although she refuses to get help, is a narcissist. She LIVED with me, and would go days without speaking to me, all because I disagreed with her, all because I thought my opinion matters. She would bully me all the time. Because of my politics and my opinion on life no one wants to be around me saying “you have no friends” as she laughs and walks away. She now no longer lines with me.
this is a dress to HC - c o t t o n I think you're talking about one of your own sisters or brothers not sisters but one of your brothers well I kind of think you and I are in the same boat I love one of my brothers well I have to so you have a lot of them I have too and I'm sorry my baby brother and he know who he is I love him but he's one of those persons you have to just bang upside the head literally with a book or brick that doesn't make sense what you are saying shut that noise down because he wants to stand up on top of the Empire State Building and make his point make it makes sense and then I'll listen if it ain't making sense don't talk to me and we even get your head together and get out of your own head and out of your own way then I'll talk to you and he know exactly what I'm talking about as much as we love one another when I call his phone you don't have the phone go I have a voicemail that's not set up yet cuz he know that his sister is going to chew him out and I'm older than he is and I always remind him little boy be quiet you might be a grown man but you still a little boy under me cuz I'm older than you and so you have to just give him some time to cool off and mellow out and then I hear from him one day or he'll either have one of my twin nieces that are so beautiful and so smart and I'm so proud of them these two of his daughters he'll have one of them to call me so then I know at that point he's getting out of his head and out of his own way and doing something constructive you agree I do too I think you were talking about your brother Henry Henry well him and my friend Margaret they certainly have some of the same characteristics mentally
I had no idea that there were different levels of narcissism, and I appreciate that this video clarified that for me. It's important to remember that having a healthy level of self-esteem is different from being narcissistic.
Her story about her first job in the financial world really stood out to me. My husband is in financial planning. He loves meeting with people, helping them plan their retirement, learning their tolerance for risk, and just getting to know them as people. Interestingly, he’s not doing as well in his numbers as others in the company, because he keeps making the “mistake” of selling his clients the products that are best for them, rather than the ones that make the most commissions. And he keeps taking on clients with very small amounts of wealth, which also doesn’t get him very much commission (or respect), but he really wants to help these people who don’t have much, because he knows that social security isn’t going to help them, and they need to plan so that they are able to live comfortably when they retire.
come back on the line with me lieutenant extra cotton I actually have a lot of respect for that person because basically what that person is doing they're not selfish they're just not looking after their own pocketbook they are basically letting his he's letting his clients pick what products they like best not just selling them a product that's going to make him the most money that's a person I would think that's looking after the welfare of the people and he wants them to be happy with the product that they use not the one that he wants to choose for them that's a person that really it's not selfish and that's the person that God wants us to be there again he doesn't care about your money he allowed you to have it for some reason but if you're not good stewardships over your money then he very well may take it from you and he can do that because he's Alpha Omega the beginning and the ending he wrote the beginning and he's going to write the ending so don't be in denial about your soul it's going to spend eternity in heaven or hell even a young child can comprehend that
If I'm honest to myself, then I'm a bit of a covert narcissist and usually show it during times of anger. Strangely, I find it rather easy to admit, but now I want to know how to get rid of that quickly because that isn't making me proud of myself in the least!
Even healthy people have sometimes narcissistic traits. As long as it not permanent I wouldn’t consider you an narcissist Sometimes people just can’t see eye to eye or don’t understand things.
I believe most, if-not-all people have narcissistic and psychopathic tendencies. I think it's only a problem if it's an overly prominent trait. To put it simply, are you capable of understanding why it's not nice to do things to other people that you - yourself find offensive and see why they'd react negatively? If you can do that much, you're probably not THAT bad. Like when you meet that dickhead that only ever brags about themselves and they can't understand why it's obnoxious but then they don't like it when someone else brags constantly... fucking hell it's a walking facepalm personified.
Yea we all are. But if you can acknowledge and catch yourself in the act, apologize when necessary and stop the act. It’s not a enjoyable tactic. Narcissistic people love the energy of gaslighting and putting people down. It’s how they inflate their egos. So I think you are fine. ♥️🙏🏽♥️
The people in here saying WE are ALL like this on some way are Narcissist. Saying.." EVERYONE is like ME". No. Everyone is not grandiose No. Everyone does NOT lack the ability to empathize!
I have children with a covert narcissist who used to be my high school best friend. Didn’t start seeing the cracks in his facade until I was pregnant with our toddler. I’m autistic & have a hard time reading people- I believe he played on this fact. I didn’t really know much about narcissism. Now that we have an infant, I was told to run for the hills & protect the children because it won’t get any better.
Excellent! I was married to a communal narcissist for 41 years, sadly she passed away recently. This has left me a bit spaced out, until I was talking to someone she worked with, that person informed me that my wife was a narcissist. That came as a bit of a shock, and a lot of the stuff I read didn’t really describe my wife. But the communal narcissist mentioned here, was like listening to my wife’s life story. This has helped me understand some of the not so good times in my marriage. Amazing.
In my experience they DONT have friends or real friends just acquaintances and whoevever is able to stick around for long is probably because they are getting some sort of reward back. Say night outs in the best clubs with payed table services, maybe even drugs, connections to meet other people etc. Its impossible to be around these people for long if you dont have to.
My ex just wanted to adventure across the world and in doing so had no strong relationships. We were overseas and i said "if you died I'd go home to Australia to be with my friends and family but i cant think of where you would go if something happened to me" he said "i don't need anybody so I'd just keep travelling". After he discarded me i was talking to a mutual friend and said it so hard as everyone sees him as this funny great guy but what he did was so cruel and our mutual friend said. "He is one of those pied piper types, he attracts people because of xyz but fails to actually form real human connections" He was a narcissist and it still hurts to know that he suffered none of the pain i did after the relationship ended. I'm glad i blocked him but it still hurts.
Saphirita BHndz wow soooooo true ! They must be super Super lonely people..constant validation exhausts humans.. paid friends or freebie hang on friends are the only ones they have !
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Uzoma Obasi It means that she is a good person, who does not want to take advantage of other living beings misery, but rather wants to offer an helping hand, when someone is in trouble.
"How do they even have friends?" Based on some unquestionably narcissistic people I've known, some of them do it with a revolving door. They have magnetic personalities and seem really charming when one first encounters them in social settings, so they make friends easily*. As friends who've known them for a while get to see their true character and start backing away (or running for the hills screaming), they just replace them with new friends. So they always have at least several friends and maybe even a lot at any given time, but given any interval of 10 years in their life, there's little if any overlap between their group of friends at the beginning and end of that time span. *That isn't a generalization about narcissists, just the type I'm describing, who cycle through friends
Covert narcissism. The description fits my mother so well. All about her, everything she does must be praised to the stars and she re writes history and reality to fit the role of the hero... All the while I was the adult in the household since age 7, covering both the roles of mommy and husband. They really are super destruictive as parents
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Dr. Ramani I was to express my deepest appreciation for your work on this topic. I’m 45 years old and until a year ago I certainly have heard of the word narcissist but didn’t really have a working understanding about it. I may have known people with narcissistic personalities but was never in an intimate relationship with one. Unfortunately I now can say I’ve been in a relationship with one for about 18 months and it was simply awful. Your videos are eerily accurate. It’s almost like you were on my shoulder throughout this relationship. Maybe someday I will share more but for now I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work you do and I hope your work grows and grows to reach as many people in the world as possible. Nobody deserves this sort of abuse but at least if everyone is equipped with a better understanding of narcissism they can at least protect themselves if they decide to stay or until they are able to leave. Keep up the great work! -Tres
I had no experience with true narcissism until I lived with a narcissistic psychoanalyst who tried to control me and destroy my confidence. Happy to say when I finally understood that he was not the face that he showed me - and not others - I cut and run. I grieved for that non-existent person but was repulsed by the man who chased me for months after I left.
Escapee from the Northern Freeze they dont think .Mines a ex he calls and yells as loud as he can tell me really bad stuff i should feel sorry for him and give him money .I just dont care any more its dumb .pour him over and over and over 16 yrs over
Social networks such as Instagram or TikTok are very attractive to narcissists who find a perfect place to thrive there. And the problem is that being popular on those social network is considered as success. Therefore a lot of people who are not narcissists tend to imitate narcissists behavior when looking for success on social medias. And it makes narcissism even more dominant in our society. We should educate about narcissim and take actions to prevent excess.
I compleetly agree with you! Social Media promotes this facade of a perfect people with a perfect life and non confrontational personalities. That is why I typically lothe most social media as I look at peoples stories and pictures it all seems so fake and superficial. I think a lot of people's posts are a way of fishing for compliments or bashing other people so they can feel better about themselve's. Super toxic in my openion.
One of the greatest and wise comment here. You can articulate things that some of us have in mind but can't put together in words. It's idd becoming WEIRD if someone has no social media. But it means that this person just LIVE HIS LIFE :)
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handicap friendly ... she has no legs.
Just curious if 2 people A and B respectively who know each other meet and greet and A begins to want to engage in gossip but then B interjects by explaining that he/she is not interested and then goes on to say that he/she would rather help and not hurt as well as explains how he/she helps the homeless and or people in need rather than put people down and harbor ill will towards someone ( unless they feel really hurt ) Does that make B a communal narcissist?
Many of these psychopaths, other mental disorders r devil possesions
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MedCircle damn shes good. can you diagnose someone I know.
I was with a narcissist for 12 years.
19 to 33. I'm 54 now and it's been 21 years. One thing I can say for sure.
If their absence brings you peace you did not lose them you have won yourself again
This is narcissistic lmao!
You've evidently not experienced life with a narc.
I understand where you are coming from 🥺💔
Thank YOU so much. I'm gonna get out!!!
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She really needs her own channel. Dr Ramani is so articulate.
Lynd XOXO right! I learn so much so effortlessly.
I feel like she would much rather spend time with her family and writing enoying life than to plan, film, edit, upload, respond....etc.
🤔 probably right.
I'm articulate....do I need my own gottdamn channel??!?
Just kidding bro
rumpleforeskin73 Oh my, here we have another wannabe smartass with a big mouth but a small brain... is it that season of the year already?
I could listen to this woman talk all day. Her signal-to-noise ratio is delightfully high. No weasel words, no null syllables, just confident information.
Gamina Wulfsdottir lol
Well said. Totally agree!
Gamina Wulfsdottir you should listen to Jordan Peterson. Lol. He's like 90% falsetto and 10% helium
Very well said!
But he's also 100% full of BS.
My Dad was malignant narcissist. I was scapegoated as a child and still am by 4 siblings, but am becoming able to transition to truth teller at age 64! Thanks be to God.
He probably grew up during a time when human connection was 24/7 and had to be mean and when the new generation came he found out how to lash out without being mean
Thanks be to God😁
You are not alone!!
Amen, to God be the glory
@@kathleensmith7465 me too! My revelation and transition to truth teller came at 57.
Getting my Psychology degree via RUclips today. Can't stop watching these videos.
With this bad information you won't make a great psychologist.
Check her facts. It is bollocks.
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Me too💪
@@Mzansi74 R u a serious Narcissist??? You seem so. I smell it.
What's crazy is that the doctor in the redshirt is a narcissist. And what's even crazier is no one else here seems to notice that
I have an aggressive bipolar narcissistic mother with no empathy and my father is a covert narcissist. Me being alive and okay is indeed a miracle.
i will pray for you 😅
God bless
It's not even funny. 💗💗💗
Great !! you are aware of it. For now on, It cannot be an excuse.
it's always about YOU isn't it !!!
1. Classical narcissism 2:02
2. Covert narcissism 3:50
3. Communal narcissism 7:00
4. Acquired narcissism 11:34
You skipped over the Malignant type
A majority of narcissists need to live on their own.
And not have a great social circle,fed up of some people I know of demanding attention, grandiose persona and lacking of empathy.
Very weak and needy self absorbed people and dead behind the eyes 🙄
How does one differentiate elements of narcissism from eg borderline pd?
@@paulallen954 are you talking about sociopaths and psychopaths? Which is extremely different from narcissists
@@jennyaldridge3499 She mentioned it in 1.
What a beautiful and intelligent woman she is. You can tell how excited she is to talk about something she's super knowledgeable about.
I hope she won't be an acquired narcissist 😅
I hope she won't be an acquired narcissist 😅
My parents are both narcissists. My father is a malignant narcissist and my mom is a covert narcissist. What a couple. It’s a nightmare to live with them. I had to be my own parent because they would only care about themselves. I had to be a dad and a mom to my siblings. When we all finished college by working part time, we moved out and got jobs. Lo and behold, they both demanded half of our salaries because they endured raising us. Wow. We cut ties with them and helped our grandparents instead. We’re all worried that we might become narcissist like them but we’re thankful we’re not. It’s so hard but we’re so glad we survived.
This is my number one worry as well. That I might have become narcissistic.
If you're worried about becoming a narcissist, you certainly won't. That thought and self awareness would NEVER cross your mind
I’m so glad you all got out!!! Wishing you the best
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Omgggggggg this is literally me mate. I’m glad I’m the only one who’s exactly going through what you were mate
2:00 Grandiose
2:28 Malignant
3:43 Covert
6:50 Communal
janeukraine thank you so much for this !
How annoying :/
janeukraine Thanks!
Communal sounds like politicians lol
I know two coverts and two over ya
I’m a licensed psychologist. This woman is Spot On. I’d love to see more of her.
she has a youtube channel, check doctor Ramani on youtube and she has plenty of other contexts on other youtube platforms
@hulksmash05 🤔
yep
She has RUclips channel
@hulksmash05 HAHAHAHAHAHA I spit water
I lived with a Narcissist for 19yrs😢, I looked pale & older than my age but now I realized that nothing can be compared to ones peace of mind. I am glowing and Jesus is taking care of me.
Looking back, am like how the hell did I survive those years? God, my kids & my keyboard...music were my Solace, the reason I was sane throughout the Abuse.
I will "never" go back to what broke me👌. Proudly a survivor 🙌
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she is reaaally good, i can't stop watching her!
but she does not know what she is talking about, she clearly is faking knowledge; just word salade, Her smug irresponsible behavior misinforming people like that is rather apalling to be frank. IN all likelyhood, she herself suffers from NPD, a real one, not this fairytale version she dreamt up.
so you are saying that what she is talking about is not true, her theories and those types?
yes. What she says is not true. Full of contradictions and psychobabble.
Really? Her utter hyocrisy does not bother you? Let's play a game: you pick a time gap of two minute and I'll comment on that. This video is full of contradictions, literarly full.
but where is she showing her utter hyocrisy in this video?
"Do good quietly," Well said.
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Yeah not his bitch ass
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My wife is part of that 20%. I'm going through this now, no contact! I'm done feeling at fault for everything. Verbal abuse is REAL!
Good for you to get out of that situation!
Right there with you. My husband is one as well. I have two kids with him. And am starting the process of divorce. It’s awful and unreal! I didn’t realize until my mom helped me realize what it was. Then I started researching. I didn’t want to believe such people existed and my marriage was a sham...
@@jessbmee9892 the only thing I want to say is, I'm sorry this is happening to you and you're kids!. Stay positive, and Thank you!
Stay strong brother....focus on only bettering yourself now and everything will fall into place, mgtow
RUN
I am a self aware narcissist, and everything she says about narcissism; is true!!
As someone diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, yep I actually see myself in her examples!
Think I'm the covert narcissist minus the low key negging. I love praising people for their accomplishments where I faltered. You can do it!
i really hope you guys can heal and live a happy life. much love
Thank you for acknowledging it… god bless you.. I hope that you find healing and happiness in your new self awareness
How do you know if you are a narcissist?
1) 1:58 classical Narc
2) 2:28 Malignant Narcissist
3) 3:45 Covert Narcissist
4) 6:50 Communal Narcissist
Thank you!!
Proverbs Belle Much appreciated! 🙏
Thanks a lot !!!
My last ex is number is secretly number 2 but he is publicly number 4 to make up for his evil deeds.
Watch the body language when she says ''it's true'' on 10:57
i was w a covert narcissist for only two years and let me tell you, DONT SECOND GUESS THE RED FLAGS. its not worth it man
Desiree 'Fields same...me too,I left about a month ago! Never will I go back...I’m tired,so tired now to run through those circle...I don’t have the energy anymore tho I miss him a lot sometimes.His final shrikes was unforgivable...mine was sex addict too.
Maximus Malcolm if I would have known him in the early stage than I won’t ever like him...Seek help!
@@christinabeita5671 me right now! Loves sex but seems to be driven by how I react and he lied to me. I cant stop crying
Honey Heroine I had 20 years married to one .hes very cunning .i always new something wasn’t right .he was cheating I left finall y .hes pure evil .i now live on my own .
@@michelleg5371 it sounds like yours was the term I have heard which is demons in human flesh. And that is not an exaggeration on a human being. And it is not a figure of speech. From dealing with two at my work and from Googling that term I have come to realize that there are people, human beings, on this Earth that do not have a human soul from God but instead have an unclean spirit or a demon inside. They do not just say "Wooooooo, look at me, I am a demon now watch me kill everyone." Instead they live their life as a regular person but wreak havoc throughout and ruin people's lives. Once again it is not a figure of speech, demons in human bodies. It is real, there are two races of beings on this planet that both appear the same on the outside.
I love how passionate she is when she’s talking
I'm a coach and had an athlete who was a narcissist. He got in my head, drove me absolutely nuts, but also intrigued me. He would say the most odd things, and i couldn't figure out where he was coming from until I came across Dr. Ramani.
You can not resonate with them. They always have to be in control.
this woman is so incredibly eloquent. SO informative!
she *IS a prime example of NARCISSISM*_.
She is blatantly $o...
Surprised that she is a woman or surprised that she is so eloquent? I just see a brilliant human being, since we are talking about their mind I don't see why their sex has anything to do with it. The older you get, if your lucky, you just see people for who they are, what they thing and feel, which involves so many personal variables which are WAY more influential than sex. (Hence the rise in female narcissism caused by socio-cultural-commercial influences)
@@AmanitaVersicula555if you don't give reflections or reasons for why you feel so about this person.. then it comes across as irresponsible criticism, lacking solidarity if its not constructive.
Believe me you do not need to go through stress trying to hack into our narcissist partner's phone ourselves. It is advisable to hire a professional trackers When I needed to hack my partner's phone, I contacted Genuistracker team, all i did was to share my husband's phone number and they did a good fast job for me, without touching his phone, in less than 2hrs. They made it possible for me to see my partner's chat Histories, Present/Deleted chats, Text messages, Incoming and Outgoing calls, Location FB and Whatsapp conversations etc.. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach them on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Narcissism is one of the major causes of misery, the best way to find your self-respect is by sincerely helping others and spreading kindness and love to this world.
No. It's chocolate.
Then other narcissists exploit your kindness, and the cycle continues...
And getting away from Narcissists!!!!
Psychopathy is way worse. They are robots in a human body...Alltogether however, it's the Dark triad (or tetrade): narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy (and sadism).
@@Avus86 Robots aren't narcissists nor psychopaths. You point is wrong.
"Do good, quietly." - Dr. Ramani
Love this.
I believe this is what you would call...Integrity, which should be your Authenticity
My mom always said this to me growing up. Great to hear it!!
Married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house. Keep Faith in God then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Discrimination brings lots fear in life.
@@gurgurgur how’s #cultlife?
One thing Jesus also taught
I initially thought I was a narcissist, maybe a mix of covert and communal, my ex used to keep telling me I was a narcissist so I blamed myself but this video changed my views, no I am not a narcissist, I am a human, an empathetic giving human who takes accountability for their actions, who knows when I did something wrong and I need to make it right, I feel immensely guilty for hurting others and I give and give and give and only expect a little respect and love from the other person and isn't expecting love in return is what a normal human expects... No way I am a narcissist.... First my father then my bf of two years kept making me feel how I was not good enough.... I am tired of narcissists making me feel I am insufficient... Thank you dr. Ramani.... Knowledge does make one powerful!
Sadly this is something I've experienced a lot as well. We all make poor choices in life and I found recently no matter how much I try to address them and move on with the lessons learned its never quite enough. There is always a mistake or poor choice to talk about and never anything beyond that to focus on.
nah you're probably an empath, aka a codependent. We feel very deeply and are the suckers that fall for the narc game
Ur a Narc not ur Husband
I love Dr Ramani, she's so intelligent, insightful and confident
You glowing
Why is nikki the covert narcissist? Kim should be?
I fear she may be a narcissist.
My sentiments exactly, Nicolas Martin. Something is wrong with her.
Believe me you do not need to go through stress trying to hack into our narcissist partner's phone ourselves. It is advisable to hire a professional trackers When I needed to hack my partner's phone, I contacted Genuistracker team, all i did was to share my husband's phone number and they did a good fast job for me, without touching his phone, in less than 2hrs. They made it possible for me to see my partner's chat Histories, Present/Deleted chats, Text messages, Incoming and Outgoing calls, Location FB and Whatsapp conversations etc.. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach them on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Covert narcissist are sneaky and mean!!! But act very innocent when you snap at them for what they may have done...making you look like the evil one when others are around...🧐
Graycee Calloway they will bait you...
The term often used is ‘reactive abuse’. They focus on the reaction but pay no attention to what caused it
Sooooo true!
When she said the world is set up so that narcissists win. So true.
Seems everyone as in people may have a bit of a narcissist
disposition some just handle themselves
differently or may have had a better life than most maybe they were raised different meaning maybe had no trauma or abuse in their life or had better values is there any positive you can elaborate about the narcissist
"Do good quietly". Ancient wisdom. " But when you do merciful deeds, don't let your left hand know what your right hand does," Matthew 6.3 (The Sermon on the Mount).
there are other places in the New Testament that teaches to fast, pray and do good deeds in secret, because our father in heaven still knows about it :)
But then you get the same level of gratification because you feel good about yourself for being a silent “do-gooder”. You’re just less annoying about it, I suppose.
@@realmofthemisunderstood166 self satisfaction drives a lot of human behavior lol. I mean how else are you supposed to feel about doing a good deed in silence? Anger? Hatred?
Unfortunately most so called socially helping people do it for public stunts. It's communal narssisim
Not sure if I'm a narcissist or sociopath but sincerely wish I could know what it was like to be happy for other people unrelated to if it will benefit me as well. That feeling is completely absent 😕
I would say the first sign will come from your own gut feeling which will send signal to your body telling you that this person doesn't make you feel comfortable being around him/her. The fact that you are already asking this question should alert you to be careful. Something will feel off and you won't know what it is exactly. Covert narcissists can act very charming in the beginning but there will be often also present underlying sense of superiority about them. That sense is actually deriving from them feeling insecure about themselves, so they tend to quietly degrade others in order to feel better about themselves. On the other hand if covert narcissist feels that you are above his league, he will act like your servant, trying to please you - almost annoying in a way. But make no mistake. If you decide to stay in a relationship with him, he will downgrade you and abuse you like all the others. Because in his mind, if you love him, he thinks you are unworthy of him. Covert narcissists hate themselves so if someone loves them, than they think this person is worth less than them and that they can do better. Other sign to look for is any kind of judgment towards others. If he criticises other frequently, he will more likely criticise you as well once he gets more comfortable around you. Pay attention to how he treats people that are dependent on him as well. Narcissists hate those especially if they can't get anything of of that for themselves. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your wife of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on her of her without her knowledge of her. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,
narcs target empaths- people who do not perceive those red flags. Most empaths are codependents and many of them were abused by narcs as children- so the chaos seems normal to them. Everyone else is safe as they will see the red flags and run.
Hey, do you have any more materials I can further read about this? What you said is spot on, coming from a narcissistic guy. I want to learn to manage and better myself
No men cheat more she told you more men are narcs !
I actually never rlly believed that celebrities are narcissistic, but since she said that narcissism is rather a trait than a disorder, I’m actually starting to believe that LA is a hotspot for narcissists
It is apparently a disorder, that information seems to be wrong. And you can detect it as well. No clue why she put all that stuff this way. Wiki: "Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or megalomania is a personality disorder characterized by a long-term pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive craving for admiration, and struggles with empathy.", "The narcissistic personality was first described by the psychoanalyst Robert Waelder, in 1925. The term narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) was coined by Heinz Kohut in 1968." and "A diagnosis of NPD is made by a healthcare professional interviewing the person in question.".
Being a narcissist myself and having a Machiavellian and a narcissist as best friends, believe me, it's mostly malignant and definitely a disorder. Dr. Durvasula put it quite well in another video what such people are capable of. And it can be worse, esp. when they are psychopaths - just what you see in movies and series (like Tommy Volker in The Mentalist e.g.)...As being one of those, u can only hope to be lucky to have a humane part left in you that actually let's you know urself and do positive things, living a modest and quiet life - and like in my case never have children :) Unfortunately, in my point of view due to the lack of first hand- insight, the image of us is that they pretty much always harm and rarely do nice things. While it's certainly true for a lot, it's definitely not all.
@@Avus86 I was wondering how relationships go for you? Are you in therapy? It seems like you have an empathetic side.
@@TaymaShine Well, I don't know anybody like me, because I'm no full-blown narcissist, but essential character traits found in the DSM-5 and ICD-10 "are me".
So I suppose that's the reason why I got a good relationship with my family and relatives as well as true friends. I was always perceived well behaved by my surroundings, polite and friendly and well mannered. And it's not even fake for the biggest part. Just with a love relationship I got my difficulties, that's an entirely different thing where it gets complicated (of course).
Therapy I never did, for I am almost 100% probable intellectually superior to the therapist. Unfortunately, it's also part of my disorder, but that doesn't make it less true - or let's say that doesn't logically exclude the truth of my statement (I actually skipped a school year in elementary school and am tested gifted - plus my understanding and insight of human behavior leave little to desire; I figured out a few yrs ago that I got "Sensory processing sensitivity", which likely makes me "fake gifted" and emotionally very sensitive) - as soon as the therapist would touch this "grandeur" with any sign of denial, I'd be out...If therapy was free of charge, I'd have tried a few at least, but even here they are expensive and the chances of success are low. So no therapy till now.
What's your background?
@@Avus86 Do you feel empty at your core? I would like to know what that feels like for narcissists? Have you looked into psychedelics?
@@deedee7780 No. But sometimes "lost" maybe. Though I'd say it's not due to being narcissistic but rather of the circumstances finding sb on the same intellectual level...
As it says in literature, usually Narcissists have had a trauma in their early youth. In my opinion and experience it's people in the close surrounding who crushed the self esteem over a prolongued period, probably with no parental support to back that up. Partly because of incapability and/or neglection, but I don't think it's the sole main reason.
However, therefore you (always?) have an insecure child at the basis of the personality that's afraid nobody loves/respects it. So you "overcompensate". Depending on the damage done, the amount of the so-called narcissistic supply needs to be delivered.
What I don't know but wouldn't be surprised of: For myself I tell others that something died inside me at that time when I was a child, irreparably. Like when you lose a leg - it's gone for good. A prosthesis makes you walk again but doesn't bring the leg back. That's the main purpose of a psychotherapy.
So the "empty at the core" - thing is for most affected a "missing"-feeling I suppose, if it's strong it's rather like you lost a parent at young age: sth that can always make you sad but still leaves the opportunity for a regular, fulfilled life. Because it's always a part left so that u CAN even have a "missing"-feeling and idea of a "whole". Yet a lot Narcissists won't have the mental capabilities for this amount of self reflection. But when you can tease and anger them, or even worse, embarass them and they react, then you feel there's still a real personality inside...If the damage was too great however, and/or genetic precursors support it too much, u'd become a psychopath in my opinion. Then just everything is dead inside and there is no humane part left, and those people can't understand this issue anymore nor tell you from their own experience what's wrong with em in that regard....And yes, I have. They can help :)
This song fits pretty perfectly how it feels inside: "Hans Zimmer - Time (Pen Perry Remix)"
She really nailed it with the idea of our society and “success” being tied into narcissism
And since narcissists are made, we can predict a healthier future would mean the end of narcissism.
Yes! We applaud SELFishness. (All the way to POTUS). Many giving, "olive- branch" types are overlooked , while leaned on when others needed support, then forgotten again. Yes, they may be seen as "depressed" because they're not self aggrandizing.
Yes, Obama certainly had more than his share of narcissism.
Saying that high positions are for narcisisc is what the 3rd tipe of narcisist would say
Just spend some time working in big corporate America -- it's Narcissist City. Especially among the women.
Social media culture I think did a lot of contribution to communal narcissism.
To me that’s a machista as well in a man
It's definitely a celebration of narcissism. It also gets people to long for and become addicted to positive affirmation.
Social media is not to blame !! Selfish self-centered people who only care about their own feelings are the ones to blame !! 🥴
This convoluted, disturbed therapist needs a therapist of her own !! 🤪
@@SweetChicagoGator you must not be under the age of 35. Suicide rates in teens have skyrocketed in the span of a few years due to the effects of social media and you still don't see that it correlates to mental health? PEOPLE ARE ONLY CARING ABOUT THEIR OWN FEELINGS BECAUSE THEY ARE SOCIALLY AND EMOTIONALLY INCOMPETENT. They aren't connecting in REAL LIFE.
@@RearviewWisdom Dont do social media and news, feks with head
I was married to a malignant narcissist and he was everything she said, he was a liar, cheater and abusive in every way possible but he also have a little bit of the other 3 traits as well.
Now he’s remarried and playing the role of an angel doing everything I begged him to do/be while we were married to try to make me jealous 😂😂 I hope he knows that I’m so much happier in my life without him so there’s nothing in this world he could do to make me ever care for him ever again 🙌🏼🎉👏🏼
She's someone you can listen to for hours. So interesting and articulated.
My husband was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder after he went into a VA Home. They haven't told him because they're afraid of how he'll act. He was very verbally abusive to me but outside the home everyone thought he was wonderful.
So is it bad to tell a verbally abusive spouse that they have NPD??
@@sunshine.9999 not all verbally abusive people are NPD but all NPDs are abusive
Let's just say, kill em with kindness he'll respect your game
@BenjaminMerkley that's an unfair statement. Most narcissists will not subject themselves to being diagnosed, so being able to cite an official diagnosis is highly improbable for survivors. Many people truly touched by narcissism spend years independently researching the cause of their loved one's toxic behavior, and often go to therapy as well.
Story of my life. Nobody believed me until roughly a year after i left him.
when you realize family members are matching perfectly to the descriptions
lol. while learning about covert narcissist, i thought every person would think about their spouse/partner 😄
i definitely thought about my spouse. he barely spends time at home but he thinks he's a victim 😕 and that he's sacrificing his life for this family and has been less acknowledged for it ☹🙁
edit: he's very mean to me too 😢. I'm pregnant and need bedrest. his reaction, "you are a faulty woman! it's your defect that you need bedrest. why should i suffer?"
me: 😲😲😲
Mrs Pal stop complaining.Its pathetic.
GRIZZ GOD the hell do you mean stop complaining “it’s pathetic”? You just watched a video about narcissism and the way it affects other people, of course she’s going to complain, it’s horrible! I’ve seen family members suffer through this, that think they aren’t good enough and get called so much shit but don’t do anything about it cause they care more for their families than themselves. This personality trait affects so many people negatively and you have the audacity to tell her to stop fucking complaining? Go comment somewhere else that it’s needed, not under a persons comment who is sharing their experience.
alfredo.sauce 0_0 if that ain’t true
beep boop no one cares about her experience.
Instead of complaining,she should do something about it
Hi I'm Trish. Thankyou for being so informative on narcissism. Unfortunately I was married to a narcissist 11 years. I went in as a confident person, probably became a bit narcissist myself trying to defend myself. When I was no longer myself I had to leave with my 2 children. He then charmed his way into my brother and sisters lives and used them as flying monkies. My only fallback has been of what my dear old Grandfather told me, always be truthful, it's too hard in life to remember all the different lies you tell. Your mind becomes your own maze to navigate. I have now learnt to be disassociated from all the stories my narcissist husband told my family. I never married again, and ran from marriage proposals and live very happily on my own.
Hi Trish! I hope you're still doing well, you're so strong for walking away from that. I always admire people who have that strength!
@@lemonywater2979 thankyou for inquiry. Yes life is more peaceful, I still have my problems, life is always up and down, I have been praying for an end to the war in Ukraine as we all are. But I'm fortunate to have a lovely daughter and garden to look after.
She is an excellent speaker. Does she have her own TED talk yet? If not, why not???
TED is ironically the narcissistic circle jerk.
Duane Karn Left wing doesn’t mean what they have to say is any less relevant.
They talk about important issues.
...left wing drones... seems more then just a bit dismissive.
TED have all the people she is describing
@@yourneighbour5738 On Ted - Yes, sharing useful things you learned or experienced is a bad thing! I love Ted and not all of the talks have to be great. It is the effort and thought-provoking conversation that it stirs up that is important.
Just escaped a 9 month relationship with a narcissist. These videos are really helping me process what just happened . Thank you so much!
Have you been able to identify your own traits that you found that perhaps made you more vulnerable to his (assuming that is was a 'he') con job?
Your lucky , i was with my ex for
7 years , SHE seems to fit the malignant narsacist catagory.
It wasnt plesant at all.
@@Conn30Mtenor i think ive identified some which didnt help in my 7 year relationship with my ex girlfriend.
Most if not ALL my good traits seem to be a vulnerbility , im not blowing my own horn here but im , kind and generous and will help anyone in need without expecting anything in return. My ex had a previous illness which over time healed but made working hard , tbh she never really worked at all in our relationship but given her past health plus sterotypes of the MAN being the provider , i gladly was the bread winner , which NOW i see is also a trait she took advantage of.
There is so many , but to sum them up , think of any good trait , my ex used to her adavantage.
I also escaped, finally, luckily, after nearly 6 years
7 yrs in.
I remember I discovered my mom is a malignant narcissist about two months ago here. I'm so grateful I did, I'm fourteen years old and no one knows what she does to me and I was so scared I was going crazy. I mean, something had to be wrong with me if I felt so much pain in the company of my own mother. I understand things better now. Thank you so much.
Sorry you had to experience that. I can relate.
Same here. My mom was HORRIBLE to me but no one ever believed me because she was nice to them. I thought I was crazy for a long time up until January of this year when I found out what a narcissist is
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Remember that you're not the only. I'm going through the same thing with my dad.. No matter how bad you might feel right now, all this living hell will end someday so try your best to stay well! Wish you the best 🙏❤
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Sending you blessings so you can finally live the beautiful life you dream of & deserve! 🌈🦄
ME TOO THANK YOU SO MUCH💗💪🙏🌷💯
I’m in the medical field. I agree, the issue lies when we label people in these “disorders”. When it could be a personality trait. You don’t have to light me up if you disagree. Just make your point.
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I love Dr. Ramani's explanations. The 1.9K people that downvoted this video are probably narcissists that got offended.
lol agreed
The truth hurts so maybe that's why they gave a thumbs down😂
HAHAHHA YAASSS
😂😂😂😂
You're Pinay for sure
If you are suffering because of a narcissist, remember you are loved, beautiful and worthy. Never give up on yourself! 💗
I had a parent im very ceartain ahs some NARC traits. It got really bad some years ago, until things returned to normal, but its a still a bit there.
The worst way to deal with pain is to pretend that it does not hurt. If you deny the pain, you delay the process of healing. Healing begins whenever you confess to God that it hurts. Forgive. Be vulnerable in his presence. God will pour oil into your wounds, then He will make you new and even better than you were before. Be healed in Jesus name.
~Rev. Victor M. JACKSON
Me: "Doc, ya gotta tell me. Am I a psychopath, sociopath, or narcissist?"
Doc: "You're none of those. You're just standard, pedestrian asshole."
Me: "Oh thank God!... I thought there was something wrong with me."
😂🤣
"Standard pedestrian asshole." 😂😂😂
😂 👍 Touché
I love this one !!
LMFAOOOOOOOOO
I feel horrible, reading all of these comments about people escaping narcissists because I’m here to find out if I’m one myself. I’m here to better myself and stop hurting the people around me, I’m self-aware of my problem and I’m trying my hardest to fix it and with help. I know nobody asked but I just wanted to say it.
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How's it going?
Good on you! Keep on trying because the only way you can truly fail is by quitting or giving up. ❤
I commend you for being brave and honest in sharing this. I have narcissistic tendencies too as you said you believe you do. The first step in overcoming this behavior and beginning recovery is to stop labeling yourself; i.e., stop calling yourself a “narcissist”. You’re a a person, a human being who has tendencies or characteristics associated with narcissism. You’re not a blanket narcissist with no possibility of changing. You begin your process of healing when you acknowledge that you have these issues, much like an alcoholic who admits that they practice alcoholism. Getting some support such as a therapist or mentor can help tremendously. Developing a spiritual life (I can recommend Stoicism/Taoism to begin) is essential. Just recognizing it with some humility and awareness is key. There are even some psychedelics that can help foster change such as microdosing LSD/psilocybin and even smoking DMT or taking ayahuasca. I’ve read that a pharmaceutical drug resperidol could help but it didn’t do much for me. Don’t despair but appreciate yourself for your awareness and desire to overcome your narcissism. You can and with some focus and self discipline you will.
Being or living with a narcissist is like having to fight your way to more freedom minute by minute. You often feel like you are fighting for the last little piece of turf, or for more air. You feel like you are suffocating in their presence. You feel like you are in a prison.
Yes, i'm in it. Like every minutes like a stepping on an egg shell. Observing his mood is much more important than anything to keep living peace and quiet. And I still couldnt escape from it, he always has something to threaten me so i couldnt easily go
@arizqiardhina6182 Please be careful and try not to react. The way I got out was to shut off communication. I filed a police report just in case something happened to me. I begged him to get counseling but he never would. If you are planning on leaving, make sure you have everything ready for you to leave. Make sure that you are safe above all.
YES
Yes. I left as soon as I had somewhere safe to go. He was my father. No-one is sorry he's dead.
EXACTLY AND THE MORE U GIVE THE MORE THEY WANT U TILL U HAVE NOTHING LEFT 😢 THEY TAKE TAKE TAKE AND NOT GIVE 😢
Insecurity is the root of all these
it is that and maturity levels
@@humanmale4610 Hard to be mature if you're insecure
I recommend "Industrial Society and It's Future" by Doctor Theodore John Kaczynski.
@@troythegreat777 ...improbable but not impossible....so yes it is a hard task i'm sure...
and the root of insecurity is?
Coverts are villians who plays the victim so well
They are Energy sucker vampire all the time
Yes, and I found out in time but it hurt to realized she was nothing playing the victim as usual when she had family who lived with her but wanted only to suck money out of me again? I said, "adios!" Then she started to bother me by phone and I told her plainly she is not a friend and I would appreciate if she stops calling me. She did finally.
My mother.... sigh.. so much energy wasted trying to help her.
M Wittman Yes I have mother as well who’s also shown signs in the past of being a covert narcissist.
She was often passive aggressive, victimized, cold, mean, and manipulative.
You're awful, Murrey.
What finally clued me in on my ex being a covert narcissist was his super hyper sensitivity to any type of criticism. Also, he was always the victim. Yet he was always seeking some type of recognition for any and every thing he ever did in this life.
Same.
I know 2 people that I would describe as narcissists because they fit many of these descriptions. What shocked me is how much they like to talk about themselves and how they are always the victim. Imagine getting fired everywhere and never realizing that perhaps YOU are the problem ! It's really odd !
Yes, always playing the victim and so much hypersensitivity. I experienced the same.
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I was married with a covert narcissist for 16 years....if you meet one, RUN!!!
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Lo go can yu explain how bad the covert was to yu I would appreciate it
Lo go thanks for explaining and I hope that yu life and emotional well being gets better I asked that because I left what I think is a narcissist but I want to go back and I'm depressed
Lo Go I’ve been stuck living with one for 13 and half years and it’s my own mother
I was for 7..🤦♀️ run don't walk away
The worst part is how narcissists can sometimes be so charming and lovable until you're onto them. Then you have to fall out of love.
They´re like kids, who got new toy. Which is gonna be their favorite for upcoming few weeks, until they get bored of it and throw it away.
Omg u ain't fkn lien. I'm going thru this crap right now. 10 yrs just recently accepted the fact he's a narsasist. I let him blame it on everything being a marine mommy issues bad exs nope narsasist
Jill Peters,Hope you are not with one ?
These types souls is blessing in life religious said they are for reason in your life so always kind to them they give you good shape in life. Which people tolerate their behaviour God said they are real warriors in this world they get famous one day . Keep Faith in God then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Cut down desire only grateful. Do little things for others builds up happiness in heart. They belong to our past life karma.
@@Morpheus-pt3wq they are blessing soul religious said always kind to them they give you good shape if you tolerate them and forgive them they make you a great person in life.
Thank you for making this video! My ex is a covert narcissist. This video helps me so much in understanding why he behaved the way he did and never cared about my feelings. Everything centers about him and all he ever wanted to speak about was him and his life and his struggles in PhD and his this and that and it's always him him him him him. I was caring and kind and did everything I could to be there fo him. He gave me nothing back, literally nothing. Beware of these people cause all they do in a relationship is to take. They take and take and take and take until they drain you and use you up and they discard you and go off to find new supply.
This is all TRUTH!!! VERY DRAINNING INDEED. LEFT ME VERY BROKEN, HEART AND SOUL. IT'S TAKEN ME 7 MONTHS TO TRY AND PUT MYSELF BACK TOGETHER. AND LIKE YOU, I POURED EVERYTHING THING I HAD INTO HIM, AND IN RETURN I RECEIVED NOTHING BUT HEARTACHE AND WAS DISCARDED LIKE A PIECE OF TRASH. EVEN COMING TO MY JOB TO EAT EVERY WEEKEND AND MEETING SOMEONE ELSE THERE TO HAVE IT RIGHT IN MY FACE. VERY SELF-CENTERED AND MEAN ABOUT IT.
She's ahead of her time. Blessing to this pioneer doctor.
"We live in a materialistic and consumirist society and as long as that's the case narcissism is going to win". That is a bad news
It's why narcissists are often so successful. The world was built by them, for them. Narcissists often have qualities that make them superb go-getters on top of being generally shitty to others.
Yup
@@lexiproudfoot6263 Sounds like someone who is supposed to be our "leader."
Refreshing to hear the truth, shouldnt be surprised it’s why the world is being driven into the ground
I have only watched 2 videos of her speaking intelligently and she never failed to get my mind blown.
I've seen more than that, and she still blows my mind. I only just heard about her last week btw. I've been hooked since. Watch her with will Smith on red table talk. Amazing conversation!
I am really impressed with Dr. Ramani - she really understands her field and explains everything in such a clear and well-reasoned way. Amazing to see someone so passionate about their job. True inspiration!!!
I was with a Covert narcissist for 4yrs. The worst relationship experience of my life! So draining and emotional torture! I am finally completely moving on with my life, healing with the help of God, my therapist, family and friend support. Please be aware of the signs early and do not stay thinking these ppl will change. They DO NOT. Run and keep running. Do not do like I did and stay being blind by love. They do not know what love is. They are selfish, cold blooded people that only aim to tear you down, to make themselves feel good or superior to you.
plus they lie flawlessly because they believe their own lies and excuses
My daughter's father is a malignant narcissis who also beat me for 4 year. Covid actually made actually get away and stay gone. Music has always been a refuge and this is no exception!!
My biggest experience was with Covert. Huge victim complex, woe is me, I'm so talented but the world doesn't give me enough opportunities, no one's feelings matter except mine, people should love and support me no matter what I do.
That last part especially! My ex narc boyfriend learned the definition of what he thought was "unconditional love" And expected people who were in relationships with him to love and appraise him 'unconditionally' no matter how inconsiderate, wrong or cold he was. The victim complex and sense of entitlement was a nightmare. He manipulated me for so long into thinking I was the bad guy for not constantly showing him endless love and admiration all the while he's being careless and rude to me.
And often threatens suicide
My mom
I see you've met my mother!
My 20 y.o. stepdaughter 💯!
There's a lot of "how to spot a narcissist" but not enough, "how do I get help if I think I may be one?”
@Amy Shakalis I have a lot of these traits though. I am trying to be better, but you know what they say about old habits.
Stop making everything in your important relationships about you. It's not all about you. If your significant other is unhappy about the day's outing you've both just been on, find out why and LISTEN. Stop arguing in your head with everything she says. Stop lining up your rebuttals. Just listen. Actually pay attention. Even if she starts off poorly with blaming because "you chose the restaurant/holiday destination/outing venue". Just listen. Instead of making proclamations and pronouncements and passing edicts about future outings, ask her/him what would suit them better? How could things improve? Actually listen. A weird thing might happen. You'll realize you actually won't perish on the spot if you were wrong about something. You won't die if you apologize. You won't cease to exist if you "let them win". Narcissism is ego that is out of control. It's not all about you. You are the centre of your own experience, but so is everyone else the centre of their experience. You won't die if you change, even just a little. Cultivate genuine interest in what's going on for others. So many ways you can let that harmful ego down gently, and expand your inner horizons.
@@Kayenne54 wonderful thought
Fast and pray... The two remedies highest on the chart are fasting and praying
Narcissists do not seek out for help and would never wonder if they may be one.
thank you i was manipulated so bad. i lost myself with a narcissist. i've been healing thanks to Jesus. very informative video.
My dad is a malignant narcissist, my MIL is a covert/communal narcissist. Sometimes I feel like I can't escape narcissistic abuse. I am low contact with both.
My dad and brother are narcissists. They are family members and I love them, but I extremely limit my time around them.
Do what you have to do to keep your sanity. I have to do the same with my family members. Thank God you've been able to recognize it. 💗
Susan I used to put my narcissistic father on time out LOL I would go long periods of time without communicating with him because it was just so destructive to me, but finally I decided to love him for who he is & stop trying to change him. This is not advice to you, just sharing my experience, I'd love to hear more about your experiences.
My ex husband is a narcissist. Although i want to talk to him about our child, i try to limit my contact with him...he always piss me off and he is always so calm. Like he didn't do anything.
Felt. My grandmother is a sociopath(but she also reminds me of a narcassist too), and my dad is an egoist just like my sister, they r really cold. And then theres me and my mom being emotional empaths😂 no balance if u ask me
@@bebebe1354 that don't necessarily mean he a narcissist u can just be a stressful as baby momma lhh your probably the narcissist if hes calm and your upset lbs
13:26 "We do live in a very materialistic society and as long as that's the case. Narcissism is going to win" -- Dr. Ramani.
She was my favorite professor in undergrad at cal state la!! Love her !
You were really lucky to have her as a teacher. She explains things so effectively so that even someone who isn't a student understands clearly.
mitsos I was going to say the same thing
I can't stress enough how this woman saved my life. 💜
My dad is a narcissist but he is a good provider, quiet, never seen him drunk or had any vices. He was strict, unappreciative, overtly irritated and always blames my mom and his family for hving a bad upbringing. It took me 40 yrs to undersrand him and have a relationship. We showed him more love and tell him how great he is as a dad. No-one is perfect, But we can show more empathy and more understanding. I wish I learned about this early on.
I love this video so much. I was married to a Covert Narcissist and it blew my mind about how being treated for depression doesn't help. I just thought medical science had been failing her for years. I was the failure yet she achieved nothing in life but to make people miserable.
I am currently in a legal battle with my narcissitic ex of 3 years. He's grandiose, malignant, and covert; grandiose because he celebrates the same handful of victories from high school and his one year in college; malignant because he hit me; covert because woe is him and it was always way worse for him than it was for me. He isolated me, never once liked any of my friends, he screamed at me constantly, made me feel like I was crazy, and I cried almost everyday for three years. I thought if I loved him more than his parents ever did or could he would consider my feelings and speak to me with respect. I know he loved me at one point, but I remember the turning point in our relationship and that's when I became increasingly irrelevant to him. I left the night he hit me - walked out of MY house and never went back to him. Now I'm in the process of filing a PFA and he's making it as hard as possible. Over the three years he ghosted me for weeks, even months at a time at one point, but now that I'm leaving him he's not going to make it easy. Thank you for these videos, it brings me a lot of peace to know there's literally nothing I could have done to fix him.
It took a lot of strength to walk out but you finally did it! Congratulations!!! You are worth more than this and I wish you healing and a future of love with someone who deserves you! Stay strong and wishing you the best in your PFA battle.
I stay single and Iam free of narssisist and it's influence in my personal life lol
Sounds like my ex wife lol
narcissisticbehavior.net/
Extremely helpful relating to being a victim of narcissistic abuse. Good luck!!! Also look at gaslighting.
Bless you!3 years goes fast and I'm proud of you for not staying longer than the 3 years. Thank Goodness that you are still in your right mind. God speed with PFA battle and everything else in your future!
I love the point made at 11:35 onwards. Some people may exhibit narcissistic behavior but not necessarily be a narcissist. It's so important to be honest with people you care about and to not be a "Yes" man to avoid conflict. Their response to your honesty will reveal who they really are.
She's the greatest at explaining narcissism. Thank you.
But still blind to the fact that there are just as much female narcissist as there are male narcissist.
Females are just more passive and covert and males are more straight foreword.
I truly admire this woman. She's so charismatic and intelligent. I wish to have this level of knowledge one day.
Well, it comes with the price of seeing all the evil and ugliness that is in the world, or worse, feeling it. That's no small baggage. Be careful :)
The way she speaks is so clear and concise and she gives information in a way that really makes you grasp what she's talking about.
1st was grandiose. 2nd was covert. With the covert one, I got so frustrated with his feigned powerlessness. He always had an excuse and someone else to blame. I told him a number of times that he was not as powerless as he acted. Thst he could make different choices. He of course never believed me. 45 years old, not working, chronically late but always so so busy....or sleeping bc the busyness was a lie and the exhaustion was a cover. The world is out to get me. All my exes are crazy. My family was jealous of me and not grateful. My ex partner was dumb. My brother sabatoged me because he was jealous. Nothing was his fault. Ever.
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It took me 30+ years to figure out that I was married to a covert narcissist. It is so freeing. I am finally growing.
Amen.
It has taken me 27 years.
@@pambuck7624, I hope all is well Pam.
Me too, it took me 21 years
27 years
I just left a relationship with a narcissist and am beginning to heal and learn from this, these videos have opened my eyes and are making me understand why this happened with me.
Sorry you had to go through this. No one deserves it. Hope you're doing better now!
Hey, I just broke up with my girlfriend yesterday and I really think she was a covert narcissist. Can you help me, like does it get better with time? I really can't stop crying because I wanted us to be together forever and tried teaching her how to communicate and everything and we broke up at the end after being together for almost a year and I know I should not be feeling guilty but she's blaming me for everything and it's always been this way. Would you please give me an advice?
@@x_yoana_b9108 the only advice to heal from narcissist is dont ever reply to her back, to anything. not even if "she needs help."
I love how engaging their dynamic is. I'm not even dissociating. This is my third video binging
That sounds really difficult to deal with, i have some issues with dissociastion aswell becaus i have an anxiety disoder. Its like the world becomes distant right?
@@thesaddestdude3575 very much so
I agree ☝🏻
@@Victoria-gn7qn Ah i see, also i think i accidentally comment my answer to the wrong comment originally.
But anyways, what else do you experience. I also have a feeling of everything both being familiar and unfamiliar at the same time, almost like a constant dejavu that doesn't go away and it feels super wierd, it makes me question my world. Also my memories don't give me any feelings at all they feel distant and empty, i know im depressed and anxious, but its like i can't feel it, i can feel my body responding to it, but its as if everything is numbed. People i know also seem oddly strange to me, as if they were strangers somtimes. When i look myself in the mirror its as if im seeing somone else for a bit everytime. And i also don't like seeing film or hearing sound of myself. It has this erie feel to it, it runs cold down my spine when i do, so i mostly avoid it.
My sister is one of the most toxic people I know. I tried for over 40 years to keep her in my life but I finally had to cut her out like a tumor. Now I don't have to feel my blood pressure go sky high every time I see her face on my caller ID. Life is good now.
Congrats. I got an older sister who caused the same for me. No more anxiety from her presence
My mother is a malignant narcissist, straight up. I think the determining characteristic might be profound vindictiveness. When my 60 year-old mother is 'offended' she becomes extremely vicious and vindictive. At that time, I had been a nurse for 17 years and in one evening she destroyed my career by calling the police and making up a story that I hit her. I was subsequently arrested for domestic violence and lost my nursing administrative position. Went NO contact 10 years ago and haven't looked back. RUN, do not walk from these people.
Sounds like my mother. But my Mom is a slight bit less extreme than this.
MIFNP Good for you! As hard as it is to turn away from family, especially a mother, sometimes that’s the only choice you have to stay sane.
Funny what you said rings so true for me too. Unfortunately, my mother continues to be in our lives and we have to constantly deal with her offence taking.
Sounds like the Obamas as well AND the Clintons. Hell Hillary is STILL out there blaming everyone else for her not being president. Sounds like the liberals as well. They show zero remorse for constantly name calling and blaming conservatives/Trump for all the faults of the prior president. Most people see Trumps faults, don't agree with everything, however we stand by him as he has done more in one yr vs the last 8. He cares about american people as where the last one didn't.
Trump's a psychopath.
Holy crap. I stumbled on this channel and am forever grateful. I NOW realize I have been married to a narcissist for almost 27 years (call me self-unaware! It's ok.). Now that I am in ownership of this information, I am both scared and empowered. I knew I would never change him ("that is just how he is") and I didn't want to. Now it is up to me to change ME before I feel like my personality is GONE, like I won't recognize myself. Oh dear. Feeling desperate and sad. When the Dr said "you feel like you want to record the conversation", in a previous video, I felt gutpunched. And now knowing it is NOT me, but him not wanting to change. Wow. I don't know what to think or do.
I’m at this stage right now and it’s been 20 years. I’m in a state of shock and embarrassment, but also very thankful to have this revelation.
I hope you both have found your way out and a brighter future now. Good luck with everything! You both deserve the best. It's not easy to leave or to find yourself again but I pray you both do!!!
Religious said married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house. Cut down desire only grateful. Keep Faith in heart then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Discrimination brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Forgive yourself and forgive others builds up happiness in heart. Do little things for others builds up happiness in heart. Be kind be honest be grateful obey souls respect rules
@@nicolesmith923 married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house. Keep Faith in Heart then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Cut down desire only grateful. God is in every heart. God is our inner beauty.
I've been with my dude for 30 yrs. We hav a 30 year old daughter... Still 2getha. He's a narcissistic man. Makes my life 👎I wish I could get out
Growing up with an older sister that is a narcissist was extremely difficult until I had a friend give me a book that explained what narcissistic people are like. I finally understood how her brain worked, and was able to stop trying to have a relationship with her.
name of book?
@@MegRRR I can’t remember the name, it was over 2 decades ago.
I'm glad you got free 😁
I have a sister who I believe,although she refuses to get help, is a narcissist. She LIVED with me, and would go days without speaking to me, all because I disagreed with her, all because I thought my opinion matters. She would bully me all the time. Because of my politics and my opinion on life no one wants to be around me saying “you have no friends” as she laughs and walks away. She now no longer lines with me.
this is a dress to HC - c o t t o n I think you're talking about one of your own sisters or brothers not sisters but one of your brothers well I kind of think you and I are in the same boat I love one of my brothers well I have to so you have a lot of them I have too and I'm sorry my baby brother and he know who he is I love him but he's one of those persons you have to just bang upside the head literally with a book or brick that doesn't make sense what you are saying shut that noise down because he wants to stand up on top of the Empire State Building and make his point make it makes sense and then I'll listen if it ain't making sense don't talk to me and we even get your head together and get out of your own head and out of your own way then I'll talk to you and he know exactly what I'm talking about as much as we love one another when I call his phone you don't have the phone go I have a voicemail that's not set up yet cuz he know that his sister is going to chew him out and I'm older than he is and I always remind him little boy be quiet you might be a grown man but you still a little boy under me cuz I'm older than you and so you have to just give him some time to cool off and mellow out and then I hear from him one day or he'll either have one of my twin nieces that are so beautiful and so smart and I'm so proud of them these two of his daughters he'll have one of them to call me so then I know at that point he's getting out of his head and out of his own way and doing something constructive you agree I do too I think you were talking about your brother Henry Henry well him and my friend Margaret they certainly have some of the same characteristics mentally
I had no idea that there were different levels of narcissism, and I appreciate that this video clarified that for me. It's important to remember that having a healthy level of self-esteem is different from being narcissistic.
I don't have self esteem
Narcissists can put you down to the point of loosing your self esteem.
Her story about her first job in the financial world really stood out to me. My husband is in financial planning. He loves meeting with people, helping them plan their retirement, learning their tolerance for risk, and just getting to know them as people. Interestingly, he’s not doing as well in his numbers as others in the company, because he keeps making the “mistake” of selling his clients the products that are best for them, rather than the ones that make the most commissions. And he keeps taking on clients with very small amounts of wealth, which also doesn’t get him very much commission (or respect), but he really wants to help these people who don’t have much, because he knows that social security isn’t going to help them, and they need to plan so that they are able to live comfortably when they retire.
For me, that makes him a winner.
He sounds like a truly good human being.
He is a winner in my book. Totally.
Your husband is a good man.
come back on the line with me lieutenant extra cotton I actually have a lot of respect for that person because basically what that person is doing they're not selfish they're just not looking after their own pocketbook they are basically letting his he's letting his clients pick what products they like best not just selling them a product that's going to make him the most money that's a person I would think that's looking after the welfare of the people and he wants them to be happy with the product that they use not the one that he wants to choose for them that's a person that really it's not selfish and that's the person that God wants us to be there again he doesn't care about your money he allowed you to have it for some reason but if you're not good stewardships over your money then he very well may take it from you and he can do that because he's Alpha Omega the beginning and the ending he wrote the beginning and he's going to write the ending so don't be in denial about your soul it's going to spend eternity in heaven or hell even a young child can comprehend that
If I'm honest to myself, then I'm a bit of a covert narcissist and usually show it during times of anger. Strangely, I find it rather easy to admit, but now I want to know how to get rid of that quickly because that isn't making me proud of myself in the least!
Even healthy people have sometimes narcissistic traits. As long as it not permanent I wouldn’t consider you an narcissist
Sometimes people just can’t see eye to eye or don’t understand things.
A narcissist doesn't think anything is wrong with them. Since you "think" you are "a bit of a covert narcissist" I doubt you are. So don't worry.
I believe most, if-not-all people have narcissistic and psychopathic tendencies. I think it's only a problem if it's an overly prominent trait. To put it simply, are you capable of understanding why it's not nice to do things to other people that you - yourself find offensive and see why they'd react negatively? If you can do that much, you're probably not THAT bad. Like when you meet that dickhead that only ever brags about themselves and they can't understand why it's obnoxious but then they don't like it when someone else brags constantly... fucking hell it's a walking facepalm personified.
So your admission makes you not one
Yea we all are. But if you can acknowledge and catch yourself in the act, apologize when necessary and stop the act. It’s not a enjoyable tactic. Narcissistic people love the energy of gaslighting and putting people down. It’s how they inflate their egos. So I think you are fine. ♥️🙏🏽♥️
The people in here saying WE are ALL like this on some way are Narcissist.
Saying.." EVERYONE is like ME".
No. Everyone is not grandiose
No. Everyone does NOT lack the ability to empathize!
@@mariewilliams194 can you go into detail or what you mean by, and examples of it should be more easier to understand
NOT EVERYONE IS HUMAN HERE, SOME HAVE NO SOUL
I have children with a covert narcissist who used to be my high school best friend. Didn’t start seeing the cracks in his facade until I was pregnant with our toddler. I’m autistic & have a hard time reading people- I believe he played on this fact. I didn’t really know much about narcissism. Now that we have an infant, I was told to run for the hills & protect the children because it won’t get any better.
❤I hope you have.
Yeah same here he was genuinely good at acting really nice at first
Excellent! I was married to a communal narcissist for 41 years, sadly she passed away recently. This has left me a bit spaced out, until I was talking to someone she worked with, that person informed me that my wife was a narcissist.
That came as a bit of a shock, and a lot of the stuff I read didn’t really describe my wife. But the communal narcissist mentioned here, was like listening to my wife’s life story. This has helped me understand some of the not so good times in my marriage. Amazing.
In my experience they DONT have friends or real friends just acquaintances and whoevever is able to stick around for long is probably because they are getting some sort of reward back. Say night outs in the best clubs with payed table services, maybe even drugs, connections to meet other people etc. Its impossible to be around these people for long if you dont have to.
Yeah they cycle through friends pretty quickly lol
My ex just wanted to adventure across the world and in doing so had no strong relationships. We were overseas and i said "if you died I'd go home to Australia to be with my friends and family but i cant think of where you would go if something happened to me" he said "i don't need anybody so I'd just keep travelling".
After he discarded me i was talking to a mutual friend and said it so hard as everyone sees him as this funny great guy but what he did was so cruel and our mutual friend said.
"He is one of those pied piper types, he attracts people because of xyz but fails to actually form real human connections"
He was a narcissist and it still hurts to know that he suffered none of the pain i did after the relationship ended. I'm glad i blocked him but it still hurts.
Saphirita BHndz YES. my current situation!!!!!!
@Saphirita or...and they are just tolerated!
Saphirita BHndz wow soooooo true ! They must be super Super lonely people..constant validation exhausts humans.. paid friends or freebie hang on friends are the only ones they have !
I love the way she said " I couldn't sell water in the desert" i can relate to her
Shabu Raj yes.) love her energy and empathy
Shabu Raj what does she mean by that?
that comment made me realize I'm so her too!
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It means that she is a good person, who does not want to take advantage of other living beings misery, but rather wants to offer an helping hand, when someone is in trouble.
My 73 yr old mother is a covert communal narcissist. Thank you for the info. Knowledge is power ❤❤😊
I’m buying her book . She’s engaging and forward thinking.
"How do they even have friends?"
Based on some unquestionably narcissistic people I've known, some of them do it with a revolving door. They have magnetic personalities and seem really charming when one first encounters them in social settings, so they make friends easily*. As friends who've known them for a while get to see their true character and start backing away (or running for the hills screaming), they just replace them with new friends. So they always have at least several friends and maybe even a lot at any given time, but given any interval of 10 years in their life, there's little if any overlap between their group of friends at the beginning and end of that time span.
*That isn't a generalization about narcissists, just the type I'm describing, who cycle through friends
After three days fish and narcissist visitors start to stink!
100% fact
you are dead on
Covert narcissism. The description fits my mother so well.
All about her, everything she does must be praised to the stars and she re writes history and reality to fit the role of the hero... All the while I was the adult in the household since age 7, covering both the roles of mommy and husband.
They really are super destruictive as parents
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I was married for 29 years to one like this. She ruined our daughter's life.
Same here Erika same here
Dr. Ramani I was to express my deepest appreciation for your work on this topic.
I’m 45 years old and until a year ago I certainly have heard of the word narcissist but didn’t really have a working understanding about it. I may have known people with narcissistic personalities but was never in an intimate relationship with one. Unfortunately I now can say I’ve been in a relationship with one for about 18 months and it was simply awful.
Your videos are eerily accurate. It’s almost like you were on my shoulder throughout this relationship.
Maybe someday I will share more but for now I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work you do and I hope your work grows and grows to reach as many people in the world as possible. Nobody deserves this sort of abuse but at least if everyone is equipped with a better understanding of narcissism they can at least protect themselves if they decide to stay or until they are able to leave.
Keep up the great work!
-Tres
She is so charismatic, need more videos with her
I’m a survivor of narc. God saved me this year from narcissist.
Haitian To Nice SAME!!! Man was I blinded with love. Never again.
Same !!
Why did god put you in a relationship with a narcissist in the first place?
me too
She has one of the smartest mouths I’ve ever heard. I absolutely love EVERYTHING she has to say.
Happy to look at how to avoid a narcissist. As a collapsed narcissist hearing about how to avoid me definitely brings me to a lower low.
It is possible to cultivate the skill of empathy
I had no experience with true narcissism until I lived with a narcissistic psychoanalyst who tried to control me and destroy my confidence. Happy to say when I finally understood that he was not the face that he showed me - and not others - I cut and run. I grieved for that non-existent person but was repulsed by the man who chased me for months after I left.
Escapee from the Northern Freeze they dont think .Mines a ex he calls and yells as loud as he can tell me really bad stuff i should feel sorry for him and give him money .I just dont care any more its dumb .pour him over and over and over 16 yrs over
Shes extremely intelligent and articulate, i love reading everything she writes.
Social networks such as Instagram or TikTok are very attractive to narcissists who find a perfect place to thrive there. And the problem is that being popular on those social network is considered as success. Therefore a lot of people who are not narcissists tend to imitate narcissists behavior when looking for success on social medias. And it makes narcissism even more dominant in our society.
We should educate about narcissim and take actions to prevent excess.
I compleetly agree with you! Social Media promotes this facade of a perfect people with a perfect life and non confrontational personalities. That is why I typically lothe most social media as I look at peoples stories and pictures it all seems so fake and superficial. I think a lot of people's posts are a way of fishing for compliments or bashing other people so they can feel better about themselve's. Super toxic in my openion.
One of the greatest and wise comment here. You can articulate things that some of us have in mind but can't put together in words. It's idd becoming WEIRD if someone has no social media. But it means that this person just LIVE HIS LIFE :)