BRO! This is exactly the kinds of videos you need to make more of. I have watched so much lectures on how attraction works but ACTUAL practical examples are extremely rare so thank you for this. Seriously, please make more examples instead of lectures. Been a long-time subscriber. Keep being awesome.
Wow Matt , this video was awesome. I've searched for this kinda thing before and never really found it, and friends advice not as thorough as this with what to says and demonstrations. More like this please. Appreciate that..
Good. I have so much overthinking going on when interacting with women. Their response is usually interpreted as cold/uninterested/indifference or whatever. After doing this a bunch of times I am now struggling to be genuinely interested in them overall. I want to break this cycle but I find it hard sometimes because after having these indifferent/cold responses from women a lot of times I find many (ok not all) women cold so because of that, I am just not interested in their personalities if they are oftentimes showing this cold side... I am working on it, but it's pretty tough
This is all solid advice, and I've done literally EVERY point he's talking about countless times. Remember, when you're at a bar, you should have the attitude that EVERYONE is there to have fun and just approach away! As long as you approach girls with a fun, light hearted attitude, the worst that will happen is you'll have a good or hilarious conversation. However, on a slightly darker note, don't think that just because you learn, practice or eventually master these methods, it means you'll be successful with girls at the bar. I've been out hundreds of times, done these methods and successfully had girls smiling, giggling, touching me and showing interest, yet not once have I ever brought a girl home. Something goes wrong every single time. And keep in mind that I'm a fairly attractive guy with a great physique and a confident, charismatic personality.
Bars and clubs, eh? Perfect. I was wondering if this could be a sign that a woman is interested in me. She used to work at the bakery I go to a lot, and we chatted and connected so many times. Heck, about a year ago, while I was working on my laptop, I saw her lift her head up in thought, before turning to me and saying, "How was your summer?" It was kind of random, but I appreciated her interest. On her last day (Jan 2023), she said my coffee was on her. One day, I ran into her at the bar. We chatted, and I said something about her bravely coming out of her shell better than me because of her singing karaoke during her first time here. Not long after, when she and her friends were singing again, she gestured me toward them and pointed to the lyrics on the screen. What's funny is I had told her I didn't like being in the spotlight during the said "out of shell" conversation. Not to criticize her encouragement. Just saying it's interesting and I'm wondering about her motive, perspective, and if it could've meant something. But perhaps not. I'm starting to wonder if she has a boyfriend. I saw her last night at a different bar. I pretended I didn't see her in the dancing crowd, she noticed me (I think after I accidentally bumped into her), put her hand on my arm to get my attention, and said hi. It was a very brief talk, given the dancing and loudness. So of course, I did not ask for her number or to be my date at this swing dance next month (I was considering doing so if I ran into her again). But it's not just that. She was with a group of friends, and one of them was a guy she talked with. He _could_ have been her boyfriend. What would be the signs (aside from kissing, obviously). I'm curious about the connection (or contradiction) between the potential "she-likes-me" signs and the idea of her having a boyfriend. Does that make sense, what I'm asking?
Do you mean you and she do not know each other at all and then connect on the dance floor, regardless if you or she came there on their own? Girls almost never go to clubs on their own. Guys often do. @@mr.rationale8808
The one situation not covered was what to do when the person is polite, but the conversation is bland, and she is clearly not in to you or you realize you’re not into her. I struggle with ending those encounters in a polite and timely manner.
At any point just say: "Oh, that reminds, I have to run. It was lovely speaking with you, enjoy the rest of your evening" You don't have to say the words "Goodbye". Say all this with a smile, eye contact, and a slow speech cadence. That's it. You're free to leave and it's 100% polite and appropriate.
How do you navigate the "not my type" conversation? By the way, I like to ask people how old they think I am. I'm not offended either way, because it's interesting that few people believe my real age.
The problem though is women are rarely alone in a bar or club. As a minimum you might see a 2 set but most of the time theyre in groups then you have other issues like they might be super high energy, laughing, dancing and singing along to songs. If youre not a naturally fun and confident person its going to be very hard to approach them.
I went up to a girl and said "SALLY??? IS THAT YOU? OMG" she thought I was talking to her and I pointed to another girl and she got confused and felt embarrassed. Then I told her "Just kidding, I'm Daniel"...She busted out laughing saying "you asshole", and we broke the ice and started talking. She told me that was an original funny move. Your move has to be creative.
Some of these dont apply as much to latino, black american culture. Call it hardstyle approach but i seen aggressive touching, looking women and up and down openly and some of those donts work 😂 i even seen this one time where some tall black dude literally bumps into a small asian chick and mean directly bump into her and she looks up at him and then goes off with him 😂 it worked for him
I wish I watched this the other day.. Went to an event on Saturday and got rejected by all the women I walked up to. I'm also not the best looking guy on account of my height mainly so that didn't help, but knowing these ways to approach would certainly help a bit.
Bro this doesnt work. What you should do is the cold call equivalent of this live at a bar. I am a handsome dude, very intelligent, I approach women trying to get them talking about themselves (I generally approach groups of women) trying to invite myself and my friends to coalesce social points. Rejected almost every time.. only to be usurped by guys who I can physically and intellectually run circles around. What are your thoughts on that. (I know delivery is everything which I'm ok at) But I find western women are very much closed off and prefer dating apps as a medium of communication.
Approaching a girl at bar or club is NOT the best idea you need to bare in mind that no matter how cute and innocent they may look about 98% of girls who go to bars and clubs are taken and that is a FACT
This video in a nutshell : ● How to NOT approach a girl Guy : *does a thing* Girl : Acts creeped out and rejects the guy. ● How to approach a girl Guy : *basically does the exact same thing* Girl : Is amazed and seduced.
1:10 if you’re ugly, she’s going to laugh, at you 🫵🏼 not with you. 1:23 that’ll give her an excuse to get mad and get away from you or to laugh with you because you’re hot. The rest of the invites was 👌🏼 👍🏼
This is terrible. Why would you go in with prethought up lines instead of just being genuine. What happened to "It's not about what you say, it's about how you say it" Also who the fuck approaches like that at a club?
I already had traumatic life with parents and getting to know girl is already so complicated but it doesn't matter i couldn't talk its just waste of time if she doesn't have the real interest make me ona 🔪 myself made bruise to myself make all bloody red to myself corrupted my self not harming anyone rather than me haha
I'm a bartender, and I don't drink when I go out, typically. so Club Soda. Because it very easily passes for vodka-soda or tequila soda. If you want to flavor it up a little, ask for a squirt of lime, or some bitters. And ask for a lime garnish. At my bar I work out, we also have non-alcoholic beers we throw in glasses. Not that any girls should judge you for not drinking alcohol, but it does happen on occasion.
OMG... THIS GUY NEEDS POLISHING AND BETTER APPROACH TO WOMEN. AND HE IS SUPPOSE TO TEACH US???? YEAHHH RIGHT!!! VERY CHEESY APPROACHES TO WOMEN. VERY LITTLE THAT CAN BE LEARNED HERE...
@Theattractiveman I love women, and I like children, but that doesn't mean that I have to put up with their nonsense, and I'm not going to put on a Clown show to show my affection towards them, your song and dance has you jumping through hoops making you look like a complete Clown on parade while misleading (Men) and steeling their money! If a woman is interested? You'll know that trying to be something you're not makes you look like a sock puppet ... SO? Keep your hands out of (Men's) wallets and out of their as'z goofball!
@Theattractiveman Furthermore, fake hair with fake-up and fake eye color with shoe lifting only makes you a try hard as I'm sure you'll delete this comment, but those are the facts! And paying women for their time so you can prove your higher value than what you are? Is misleading and low hanging bottom feeding.
This infantilizes women by making them the passive recipient waiting for men to do everything. Mature women are comfortable with approaching and flirting with men and making their interest clear as well
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“Here’s what not to do” (proceeds to do an imitation of what I’ve done) I feel attacked
😂😂
Instead of being butthurt change your ways and get laid
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yup same lol
You live and you learn haha
This is very reasonable and more helpful than I could ever imagined if I attempt to socialize at any local bar I go to. Thanks so much Matt!!
Thanks!
BRO! This is exactly the kinds of videos you need to make more of. I have watched so much lectures on how attraction works but ACTUAL practical examples are extremely rare so thank you for this. Seriously, please make more examples instead of lectures. Been a long-time subscriber. Keep being awesome.
Wow Matt , this video was awesome. I've searched for this kinda thing before and never really found it, and friends advice not as thorough as this with what to says and demonstrations. More like this please. Appreciate that..
Good. I have so much overthinking going on when interacting with women. Their response is usually interpreted as cold/uninterested/indifference or whatever. After doing this a bunch of times I am now struggling to be genuinely interested in them overall. I want to break this cycle but I find it hard sometimes because after having these indifferent/cold responses from women a lot of times I find many (ok not all) women cold so because of that, I am just not interested in their personalities if they are oftentimes showing this cold side... I am working on it, but it's pretty tough
" I want to break this cycle " Then give us a call! We can help you break the cycle
This is all solid advice, and I've done literally EVERY point he's talking about countless times. Remember, when you're at a bar, you should have the attitude that EVERYONE is there to have fun and just approach away! As long as you approach girls with a fun, light hearted attitude, the worst that will happen is you'll have a good or hilarious conversation.
However, on a slightly darker note, don't think that just because you learn, practice or eventually master these methods, it means you'll be successful with girls at the bar. I've been out hundreds of times, done these methods and successfully had girls smiling, giggling, touching me and showing interest, yet not once have I ever brought a girl home. Something goes wrong every single time.
And keep in mind that I'm a fairly attractive guy with a great physique and a confident, charismatic personality.
Smiling, giggling, touching? Bruh, you gotta escalate further if you wanna bring a girl home.
@@Jostra_FAMEyup I’m going thru the same thing rn and that’s exactly what it be. Gotta invite them to a new spot or something prob
Good content, as always.. Keep up the good work, Matt 😁👍🏻
It's painful realization that I'm that creepy guy, but will do everything to be the other more social guy. Thanks for the tips!💪
girl: "I am a manager at a bridal store"
guy: "so where do you do that?"
girl: "at a bridal store"
Super great advice man! Love how you gave birth good and bad examples. Also love how simple your advice is.
Bars and clubs, eh? Perfect. I was wondering if this could be a sign that a woman is interested in me. She used to work at the bakery I go to a lot, and we chatted and connected so many times. Heck, about a year ago, while I was working on my laptop, I saw her lift her head up in thought, before turning to me and saying, "How was your summer?" It was kind of random, but I appreciated her interest. On her last day (Jan 2023), she said my coffee was on her. One day, I ran into her at the bar. We chatted, and I said something about her bravely coming out of her shell better than me because of her singing karaoke during her first time here. Not long after, when she and her friends were singing again, she gestured me toward them and pointed to the lyrics on the screen. What's funny is I had told her I didn't like being in the spotlight during the said "out of shell" conversation. Not to criticize her encouragement. Just saying it's interesting and I'm wondering about her motive, perspective, and if it could've meant something.
But perhaps not. I'm starting to wonder if she has a boyfriend. I saw her last night at a different bar. I pretended I didn't see her in the dancing crowd, she noticed me (I think after I accidentally bumped into her), put her hand on my arm to get my attention, and said hi. It was a very brief talk, given the dancing and loudness. So of course, I did not ask for her number or to be my date at this swing dance next month (I was considering doing so if I ran into her again). But it's not just that. She was with a group of friends, and one of them was a guy she talked with. He _could_ have been her boyfriend. What would be the signs (aside from kissing, obviously). I'm curious about the connection (or contradiction) between the potential "she-likes-me" signs and the idea of her having a boyfriend. Does that make sense, what I'm asking?
Nice video, we want more demo videos like this.
In clubs the music is too loud to talk.
The club isn’t the best place to find a lover so the bar is where I go
Do you mean you and she do not know each other at all and then connect on the dance floor, regardless if you or she came there on their own?
Girls almost never go to clubs on their own. Guys often do.
@@mr.rationale8808
Yea I’m soft spoken and don’t feel like yelling at someone in club either 😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂@@chrisanimation2001
This advice is amazing. Wow. And it’s not corny either
This was hilarious
I’ll try it out this weekend thanks for the info 🙏😅
The one situation not covered was what to do when the person is polite, but the conversation is bland, and she is clearly not in to you or you realize you’re not into her. I struggle with ending those encounters in a polite and timely manner.
At any point just say:
"Oh, that reminds, I have to run. It was lovely speaking with you, enjoy the rest of your evening" You don't have to say the words "Goodbye". Say all this with a smile, eye contact, and a slow speech cadence. That's it. You're free to leave and it's 100% polite and appropriate.
Omg 😂 I guess someone didn’t read the mystery method.
Compliment at the open lowers your value instantly.
This video was great and helful !
How do you navigate the "not my type" conversation? By the way, I like to ask people how old they think I am. I'm not offended either way, because it's interesting that few people believe my real age.
Easiest response "you don't like attractive men?"
You're using that acting class
Pretty well Matt, well done, good content.
Thanks Matt!!!
Dude just say this to her "Hey, buy me a drink". Easy.
This is great, thanks for making this with so many examples! What do you think is the best response if she saids "I have a boyfriend?"
Just say same and proceed to kiss ur homie
The problem though is women are rarely alone in a bar or club. As a minimum you might see a 2 set but most of the time theyre in groups then you have other issues like they might be super high energy, laughing, dancing and singing along to songs. If youre not a naturally fun and confident person its going to be very hard to approach them.
I went up to a girl and said "SALLY??? IS THAT YOU? OMG" she thought I was talking to her and I pointed to another girl and she got confused and felt embarrassed. Then I told her "Just kidding, I'm Daniel"...She busted out laughing saying "you asshole", and we broke the ice and started talking. She told me that was an original funny move. Your move has to be creative.
Thanks this was great!!!
This guys got the sauce
Really helpful!!!
Some of these dont apply as much to latino, black american culture. Call it hardstyle approach but i seen aggressive touching, looking women and up and down openly and some of those donts work 😂 i even seen this one time where some tall black dude literally bumps into a small asian chick and mean directly bump into her and she looks up at him and then goes off with him 😂 it worked for him
Brain to me: Introvert detected Information overloaded🤣 I will try to figure out something….anyone wanna help😌
I wish I watched this the other day.. Went to an event on Saturday and got rejected by all the women I walked up to. I'm also not the best looking guy on account of my height mainly so that didn't help, but knowing these ways to approach would certainly help a bit.
Best video ❤
Not bad bro.. this video seriously has some lines which might actually work! Thanks mate
Greet video
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I love the back ground effect of the video
Damn, not actually a terrible video, rare in this space
Everytime a woman approaches me at a bar I just say "sorry I don't do hookups but allot of guys here do, good luck. It works for me Everytime
Im too shy and overthink things
"I love your lipstick, it matches your dress"
Bro this doesnt work. What you should do is the cold call equivalent of this live at a bar. I am a handsome dude, very intelligent, I approach women trying to get them talking about themselves (I generally approach groups of women) trying to invite myself and my friends to coalesce social points. Rejected almost every time.. only to be usurped by guys who I can physically and intellectually run circles around. What are your thoughts on that. (I know delivery is everything which I'm ok at) But I find western women are very much closed off and prefer dating apps as a medium of communication.
What the fuck are you yapping about 😂 you making no damn sense
I'll be that first option: she gonna probably reject me, sit and drink pretending she's not over there lol
Approaching a girl at bar or club is NOT the best idea you need to bare in mind that no matter how cute and innocent they may look about 98% of girls who go to bars and clubs are taken and that is a FACT
Nah u dumb
This video in a nutshell :
● How to NOT approach a girl
Guy : *does a thing*
Girl : Acts creeped out and rejects the guy.
● How to approach a girl
Guy : *basically does the exact same thing*
Girl : Is amazed and seduced.
How tf am I supposed to remember all of this
fuck...I wish women they were approaching us.....I need to write all these down then :P
Me: Hey you wanna have only fan together ...we can be rich together lots a money ...and we can be famous
That's the best approaching 😂😂😂😂
1:10 if you’re ugly, she’s going to laugh, at you 🫵🏼 not with you. 1:23 that’ll give her an excuse to get mad and get away from you or to laugh with you because you’re hot. The rest of the invites was 👌🏼 👍🏼
Does it mean something if she says I want to go to bed, I'm tired. Probably it means literally what is saying.
This is terrible. Why would you go in with prethought up lines instead of just being genuine. What happened to "It's not about what you say, it's about how you say it" Also who the fuck approaches like that at a club?
It's called inspiration breh
If you break the pinky promise, do you fail her test?
Are you actually 41?
Yup
Gold
DO NOT EVER TOUCH SOMEONE IN A BAR!!! this is how you get called a creep
?????
@@alfayedvalme9585 dont touch people in bars, what are u confused about?
Paper rock scissors?! It's: rock paper scissors
Gotta neg the 8s - 10s ..
I already had traumatic life with parents and getting to know girl is already so complicated but it doesn't matter i couldn't talk its just waste of time if she doesn't have the real interest make me ona 🔪 myself made bruise to myself make all bloody red to myself corrupted my self not harming anyone rather than me haha
Para los Latinos q no hablamos bien el Ingles esta muucho mas cabron comprade hablarle a una chica aqui en USA
What if she's seeing a male co-worker?
What if you dont Drink?
Drink mocktails then.
I have videos about this topic before. Order some water in a glass on the rocks.. Ginger ale also works well
I'm a bartender, and I don't drink when I go out, typically. so Club Soda. Because it very easily passes for vodka-soda or tequila soda. If you want to flavor it up a little, ask for a squirt of lime, or some bitters. And ask for a lime garnish. At my bar I work out, we also have non-alcoholic beers we throw in glasses. Not that any girls should judge you for not drinking alcohol, but it does happen on occasion.
like ill remember all that :(
whats the name of the girl in red
Is that woman in the red dress really 21?
Behöver inte träffas hemma hos varandra men många vill det akött marknad vill pftast ha ett ligg bara
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OMG... THIS GUY NEEDS POLISHING AND BETTER APPROACH TO WOMEN. AND HE IS SUPPOSE TO TEACH US???? YEAHHH RIGHT!!! VERY CHEESY APPROACHES TO WOMEN. VERY LITTLE THAT CAN BE LEARNED HERE...
This is… so repulsive. Just be a genuinely cool person, get to know her, and if you’re both in the zone, ask her on a real date.
😮😮
Trickery has short legs
who is the one able to hear/talk at a bar. They are fucking loud
Easier way to approach a girl? Don't ! Who cares?
Based
umm.. who cares,? umm Men that like women...
@Theattractiveman I love women, and I like children, but that doesn't mean that I have to put up with their nonsense, and I'm not going to put on a Clown show to show my affection towards them, your song and dance has you jumping through hoops making you look like a complete Clown on parade while misleading (Men) and steeling their money! If a woman is interested? You'll know that trying to be something you're not makes you look like a sock puppet ... SO? Keep your hands out of (Men's) wallets and out of their as'z goofball!
@Theattractiveman Furthermore, fake hair with fake-up and fake eye color with shoe lifting only makes you a try hard as I'm sure you'll delete this comment, but those are the facts! And paying women for their time so you can prove your higher value than what you are? Is misleading and low hanging bottom feeding.
Omg nope
why only men have to suffer ?
those lines suck tf
This infantilizes women by making them the passive recipient waiting for men to do everything. Mature women are comfortable with approaching and flirting with men and making their interest clear as well
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