The only advice you'll ever need: Don't overthink it and don't give too many fucks. Try to live a good life for yourself, and if you're confident about it, one day, someone might want you to share it (even if not, then you still had a good life for yourself). It's not the man's responsibility to manipulate every aspect of a situation only to "get" a girl. If she wants you and you want her, you'll find a way as long as you're both honest about it. Edit: I know myself that confidence doesn't grow on trees, and so doesn't the ability to express your emotions about someone (especially if it's attraction). I know from my own experience that if you don't feel comfortable about being attracted to someone, it might be uncomfortable for both of you, turning the other person off. So my point is, try to make the situation comfortable _for_ _yourself_ . If anxieties get in your way, seek for a therapy. I wasted too many years trying to optimise the way women would feel about me, but only when I stopped caring about that and started feeling comfortable with myself (after some years of therapy), I found my girlfriend and we hooked up.
@@thethe2279as a 5’7, i completely disagree. I can attract a lot, just gotta be confident and good looking. Being tall is just a +, not a must, and anyways girls that take it as a must genuinely turn me OFF
@@thethe2279man... I don't know about you but I've seen some people that are physically 5/10 that have managed to pull 7+/10. Mind you, most of the ones I've seen are middle class. Let's say the relationship won't last long, but in the end, who tasted her? Definitely not you. But all that doesn't matter. If you have time to focus on these trivial things, then you're likely living an easy life.
Limiting your attention to a women is amazing advice and also reward a woman’s compliance (when she actually has to move to do something to or for you)
Cope for fear of rejection+fear of shame Women only lash out at weaker targets- men with disproportionate emotional investment(being too obvious). Men with narcissistic/ego/sociopathic god complex+confidence+idgaf traits can get away with a lot. Women will not ever say it's harassment("I wasn't flirting with you anyways"), they very sensitive to rejection themselves and avoid being assertive Think about it- the kid who got Cs in school and was still positive, confident, carefree was always more interesting than the one with Cs who talked about studying and stress and expectations If you're ugly, the % of women uninterested in you goes from 80% (average looking guys) to 95%. But there's still crack hos, hippies, strippers, unhappily married, traumatised, autistic, etc. women left...obviously don't bother with women way out of your league Try drugs...see how these fabricated thoughts/actions/beliefs/behavior from inebriation actually magically change things around you. The drugs are all in your head, you're not becoming any more taller or attractive or rich
it's what PUA used to preach for 2 decades before incels ruined them. Now that incel lingo (lookmaxing, mewing) has become mainstream this basic PUA content that was considered manipulative and unethical is surfacing back. Btw it's all BS
Nah he knows. And broke it down to you. To some it comes naturally so they don't have to break things down empirically and understand why. But for many it's needed to understand. I've gotten more girls in my life especially my 30s than I can count or ever remember without being that attractive or very tall nor was I super popular. But I always kept my level and standards to a tee, never let myself down and was insanely strong mentally. Always stuck to my ways. I agree with almost every single point in this video coz I thought about it and my life. It really does come down to those few things. Of course money helps increase the sample size but even then there are plenty of losers with money who can't get any and have to rely on paid services. So to be with someone happily there are two ways. Either get lucky and live happily ever after while staying blissfully ignorant OR understand this world and yourself first. What you want, who you are and what's needed for your long term happiness. Each person differs during this assessment but once they understand themselves they'll know what they want. After that they need to understand what girls wants and is drawn to. Each girl is also different with their wants so find someone who wants those similar things and of course understand their partners inner workings as well. There's many layers to life. It's not something I can summarize like that. I don't know about your life so I can't comment on that but I'm glad this video may help a lot of dudes out there suffering who probably needed a hint or a direction to walk towards instead of giving up on themselves and life. I've seen too many cases
@@Greatgoku4 Thats kinda rare but reading your thoughts/opinion made me think about stuff and helped me motivating myself to try out different things for example getting out of comfort zone. I must say thanks to you!
I genuinely think the important part of this process is just being happy and content with yourself. nothing is more pleasant to anyone than a person who is happy, easygoing, and fun to be around. doing this weird bullshit of trying to manipulate the situation to make someone more attracted to you just makes you a pickup artist. you're not going to 'get a girl', you're gonna make yourself nervous and anxious with trying to follow all the steps. just be happy and things will work out.
Noo but i can confirm this actually works. I've followed these steps and it worked. While i agree with u on the points u made but no if u r very clear in mind what u have to follow u can actually breakthrough the nervousness which is what we call confidence
This stuff works I’ve done all the stuff in this video (not on purpose), and I ended up getting the girl even though all the other guys in the group were the ones chasing. Girls want a guy that’s somewhat “unattainable”, you need to put yourself in her reach but not so easily so it’ll pique her curiosity and attraction. For my situation I was just so focused on my business and career that even though I thought she was cute I just didn’t prioritize her.
This is true being comfortable in your own skin will make you express yourself more easily and will make not only getting a girlfriend but approaching anyone very straightforward and easy.
I once disassembled and reassembled the entire engine bay of an abandoned car and had it run smoothly afterwards only with common sense, Reddit discussions, and RUclips videos and I guarantee that was far easier than this.
My dad was an ugly, annoying, shy dork. He got a higher education with a well paid respected job. Girls were throwing themselves at him. My dad is still this guy today, he never had to try, they came to him.
Yep, very good amature chess pplayer here, can confirm for me that beating some profesional masters at chess is much MUCH easier than getting a date, and i have evry advantage in the book, im very good looking and still cant get even a date !
so 1. be friendly say hi when you pass by (try to increase proximity; better if u dont be creepy + next step) 2. present yourself as someone who takes care of themselves (posture, hair, clothing, skincare, looksmaxxing in general) 3. do favors for her and ask them for favors (also gives you chances to interact) - post dating 4. good first kiss (practice kissing on your closest bros, its not gay i swear)
The way your incorporating actual psychological evidence from experiments done in each of your points is so original and makes the video so much better. Please upload more psychology videos like this where you go in depth into the why and how. I love these types of videos. and your editing is onpoint!!
They aren't tho, lol. They are citing single studies without any context or lit review, which is useless and unscientific. Additionally, the studies they are citing are out of date and all of their claim aren't supported by a big part of the literature. For example, we don't know if there are any sexual pheromones in humans.
Don't worry guys. I've just looked into MHC molecules and apparently, a man with dissimilar MHC molecules just smells nicer to women, that's it. And that nicer smell might help with attraction. However, a less nice smell is not going to stop a woman from being attracted to you. Worrying about such things and being in your head instead of being present will make you less attractive.
I think especially the kissing thing at the end of the vid will make you less attractive. How are you going to have a "good first kiss" when you have to worry that the kiss might ruin everything? Also, that's bullshit. Most first kisses are bad as how are they going to be good if you don't even know each other.
The MHC thing is negligible, if not completely BS. Wedekind, zhou, and other pheromone studies have failed to be consistently replicated, and are extremely artificial in nature. The density of pheromones in the cloves mixture (zhou) or in the tshirts (wedekind) is absurdly high compared to someone’s ambient scent when standing right next to them. And that’s assuming no extraneous factors like BO. Hint: the slightest presence of antiperspirant, deo, or bacteria eating sweat will immediately mask whatever pheromones are being excreted.
How to get girls 101: Step 1: Be attractive Step 2: Be attractive Step 3: Be attractive Step 4: Be attractive Step 5: Be attractive Step 6: Be attractive Step 7: Be attractive Step 8: Be attractive Step 9: Be attractive Step 10: Be yourself
Confidence is a huge factor too. If you're afraid of talking to women or afraid of rejection, a good way to solve this problem is by practicing exposure to your fears. Go talk to random women in public (not in a creepy way, of course). Choose appropriate places to talk, and appropriate situations, for example, when you go to a party with a lot people you don't know, or a big event.
A good way to practice is to sometimes chat up retail associates or someone waiting on a line to get into a venue. This happens all the time in big cities. And who knows? That same person you chatted up may then decide to want to add you on Instagram or get your contact Edit: notice how I didn't mention anything romantic? The more natural you are, the more people will relax around you
Steps -don't give them attention -see them often -make them think you don't like them -make them think you started liking them -make them do favors for you -have luck -have kissing skill
the first two sound paradoxical but just for clarification, don’t give them excessive attention outside of physically seeing them: don’t text them all day, don’t watch every single one of their stories, limit your non-sexual attention as much as possible.
The only thing that is inaccurate is that at a party there are groups of guys surrounding a girl, if that is so these are likely her friends and to say hi and walk a way is a bit wierd. Say hi to her when shes relatively alone and u can have a conversation with her and let a friend yell out ur name so u have to go. NOOO pick up lines !!!!! But if u stared a conversation already and she dosent seem uncomfortable and happy to talk to u just talk to her like a normal human being would and ask her some questions about her that she feels comfortable answering. Ask for insta not her number girls are more comfortable giving guys her insta. Im from germany please excuse the mistakes. Dont follow her around all evening like i said find an excuse and go
"Like a normal human being" means nothing. Your boss, your mom and your friends are all human beings and you treat each in different ways. If you just focus on making her comfortable the fz is your fate and you deserve it. Insta can be gotten earlier than number but is way weaker as a lead. If you get her number it's to arrange a date and continue, if you get her insta you're just another follower to make number bigger and feed her ego. Look at naturals. See what they do and learn from them. Most people have some friends who are naturals. Go with them and don't cringe or get jealous, just learn. See how they tease the girl, joke around with her, act like the prize, ignore her tests, escalate...they do everything instinctively. Are you here to have polite conversations or to give women an attractive man that they'll actually want to have sex with? Women hate nice guys who think just doing the bare minimum will get them into their pants because they were so friendly and polite. You want something, actually build attraction.
dude this channel is probably one of my favorites ever I remember when you have a couple thousand or whatever glad to see you got the recognition the channel deserved
What about "the science of keeping a healthy relationship?" All these videos on breaking down the dating process are great for some, yet they mostly focus on the getting in process as though that's the bulk of the work and the rest of a relationship will just work itself out. It effectively turns the process into a game where the reward is that you "get" a girl and that somehow means you've won something. Yet hardly anyone thinks of what follows, and all the self work that needs to be done (on healing old wounds/bad communication patterns or taking on feedback without defensiveness or understanding personal responsibilities and negotiating to have everyone's needs met) to create a good relationship environment. I believe more men need lessons in how to be good partners than in how to succeed at initiating relationships while doing little work on themselves and their potential issues. But maybe that's material for another video.
I think that’s also very important, arguably more important, I just decided to make this video because I’ve noticed a lot of my classmates who are generally good and handsome dudes be completely petrified to initiate and sort of interaction with girls they like, i figured a lot of guys probably feel the same way and that there’d probably be an audience for a video concept that could help build a little confidence. I definitely get your point, and i plan on doing many more videos on human interaction and will definitely try to integrate stuff like that :)
This very much so. I agree with what you're saying. As a 32yr guy, I've seen it and lived it. It's horrible to see what happens to people when there isn't a mature understanding of how to be considerate, reciprocative, self-respecting and adaptable. You don't always get closure with relationships that wouldn't last either, but it would give so much awareness to both people in a relationship too if afterwards they could have a mature communication of what went wrong, what they liked and what they disliked about the relationship to better prepare both to not make the same mistakes in the next and see what they can improve themselves, not only for the next person but also for themselves. Not to mention it can build comradery rather than resentment between those who have been intimate with eachother.
Yes, it's important to pretend convincingly that those other things matter, too. Acting is an oft-forgotten part of the needed skills. Sometimes, if you are good enough, you may even fool yourself.
I dont just wanna get girls. Exspecially not through psychological manipulation and playing games. All I want is to find a good partner with just being myself. Is that possible?
if you need "game" and tricking women into liking you it's already over. None of the people in relationships did this cringe, it all happens naturally. If it doesn't happen to you then be luckier in the looks department next time.
Find your purpose in life. However, your purpose shouldn’t be simping for women. Thus, when you find your purpose you are dialed in. So, whether women like you or not you are happy since your purpose gives you meaning in life.
I'd also recommend simply doing what you love in a crowded place. I became a karaoke regular at my local pub and after a couple months I started pulling girls (usually the semi-regulars) because I was a familiar face who was friendly and start conversation with everyone. I wasn't asking for their numbers, I was just happy to talk to someone between songs and make them feel welcome. What I realise I was doing is that I WAS making myself scarce. I didn't persue girls overtly because I wasn't there for girls. I was there for the karaoke and a good time.
that sort f worked for me in the gym, the only problem is when i did ask someone out who clearly liked me i was rejected, so you still have to have the pick up skills to time it right avd to know how to ask properly ! or she will still say no every time
Ok let me tell you something... it's the first time ever that, discovering a new channel from 0, I've gotten so involved. It's amazing how you put together such a well done channel in less than a month. Best of luck, you deserve all the success that will come.
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
Great video Sir! I would like to mention a book that you haven't mentioned and its for Insecure Americans. Ebook is called CrushAnyGirl, so on its for finding a girlfriend as Insecure American. After reading, you will have a better perspective on girls and find your gf in thirty days guaranteed Highly recommended to read
@@godishere4 yeah it looks like an ad and this comment was only 2 days ago. so unless 6k people liked it in 2 days despite the video being somewhat old then something is wrong. Also this comment has so few replies under it as you mentioned
I like how the video is presented in an informative but casual manner. Like a friend giving you advice. Videos with titles similar to this are usually presented in a manner like a sergeant briefing his soldiers before going to war lmao.
I love that luck was added here cause you could be doing everything right but still have bad outcomes and vice versa. But its still good to work on yourself regardless cause luck is also when preparation meets opportunity
This. is amazing! You just earned subscriber. I started with one of the video, now I am in depression that you have only 8 videos in total! This. is not acceptable...
This is probably one of the best videos I've ever seen on this topic, and brought up a lot of things I have never seen anywhere else that make a lot of sense and seem pretty valid. Hugely underrated
i was surfing on the internet for my research work on streaming platforms the RUclips suggested me this channel and i found it is really an engaging channel with good quality of content in it, I appreciate the knowledge you are transferring to the public in such a humorous way. i am enjoying all your videos more than a comedy show or a serious science show, but its a combination of both. Thankyou for making such an amazing, entertaining and educational content sir.
Thank you for this, I'm so tired of all the incel ideology bs that's been thrown around in the self-help community about how men struggle with attracting women because of looks. It is definitely partially true that looks do matter, but I think a lot of men don't know that they're approaching dating wrong, and blame it on the beauty standards women have for men, instead of learning from their mistakes. This is one of the first videos I've seen that also really understands the problem with the approach of the "nice guy" archetype
1: scarcity principle 2: Gain loss theory 3: Proximity 4: Ben Franklin effect (favors) 5: Discord Mod effect (look good man!) 6: Luck(pheromones (MHC) + Kiss good)
Playing these dumb games is unfortunately how you have to go. What's your alternative? Because eventually if you do meet a woman you consider your perfect match, intelligent and all, chances are she's still likely playing the game and you'll be disqualified real quick. There isn't really a winning move where you 'break' the game, like make her aware of it and she realises "wow that game is silly, and you're so smart, I'll date you!" that aint gonna happen. Only guys get real nerdy over this shit and recognise it as a game anyway, and you keep that to yourself
Amazing video!! But also just wanted to point out that this video mostly tackles the topic of attraction, and from a very scientific materialist perspective. Which is great! But also remember that attraction and love are two differing things! You can get the girl to be attracted to you (which is the first step), but being in love and someone being in love with you is entirely another thing. Imo creating a life you enjoy living and working to connect authentically with those around you will just naturally lead to you attracting and finding someone you’ll fall in love with (and hopefully they’ll fall in love with you too). This way you will end up have a fulfilling life and also can introduce this special person into this life. I think a lot of value is placed on romantic relationships, but personally I think it’s important to remember that there are other things that are important too! Like being your authentic self, friends, family and cultivating a fulfilling life! And if getting into a romantic relationship means sacrificing any of those, I don’t think I’d be very happy in that relationship long term.
Although I agree to all you've said it's really not that simple (at least for some of us 😂) Based on experience I can say that just living your life is always a good thing to do but it won't help you find girls, it just makes it so that you're happy nonetheless 🤷♂️
@Fourtune1 And why do you think that is? Precisely because people have more access to videos claiming to explain the "nature" of women or men, when socially we are so varied and complex. Instead of accepting that, we focus on supposed rigid rules that apply to all women, many of which are not inherently biological but are partly socially shaped. We end up distorting our own reality, and not for the better, which is why we're doing worse and worse in relationships and dating. We have a very misguided view of men and women because we’re constantly trying to rely on biology alone and believe we have to act in a certain way to get what we want. If you went out and discovered how different reality is from what’s often portrayed on the Internet, you’d realize that there are women who value things beyond superficial characteristics.
I think the best take away here is to just try and make friends with women. First of all, the friend zone doesnt exist. Or atleast, not in the way people think it does. It is possible to become friends with a girl who isnt attracted to you. But that doesnt mean becoming friends with someone causes them to be unattracted to you. On the other hand, becoming friends has the benifits of both proximity and favours. (You will naturally ask favours from your friends). combine that with luck, pheremone compatibility, and generally taking care of yourself and you'll have a great relationship. And if it doesnt work, you have a good friend who can help you find someone else.
@tommygertcher2747 If I may, I think it depends on what kind of level of friendliness we're talking about. Just being nice is different from paying special attention to her. If you're only nice to her at first, it may make her jealous if she sees you suddenly being nice to other girls (if she has that kind of 'romantical' awareness around you). On the other hand, many girls love nothing more than receiving a special kind of attention from a male. To be precise, ask her about her feelings, opinions, and take her interests seriously. Note: There are some kinds of girls that are just not into nice guys, but those are mostly complicated ones. Please don't try to change your personality for these ones, I guarantee you, there are girls out there who will treasure you with all their heart for your kindness! Good luck ^^
@@tommygertcher2747 I've never seen that be the case. What people don't realize, is girls who aren't attracted to them after they were nice to them, wouldn't be attracted to matter how they were treated.
@@tommygertcher2747If you’re too friendly and appear fake about it, she’ll assume you just want to get inside of her. The million dollar question is how friendly is appropriate to the situation and any intel on a particular girl you may know anything about? 🤔😏🫠🤥😈
@@AkiRa22084 yeah, in highschool a schooldoctor told me to eat more because I was "underweight". I was actually totally fine and didn't not end up listening to the stupid doctor.
@@maximilianvangrevenbroek They told me to not do a tonsillectomy, since it would "not be helpful and it causes wight gain", but I did it anyway. Smartest thing I ever did - improved my life tremendously. That and keto. So it's not normal to be healthy, it's hard today.
How to do This (Without Thinking About it) 1. Just groom yourself: learn how to dress, and skin care, workout 2. Be a Rarity: Have hobbies and focus on yourself, hangout with friends (women included) when you need a break 3. Talk to Women?: go to a club and frequent places that have a good ratio 4. Don't be a creep?: stop talking to women because you want to date them. Just be interested in who they are as a person and learn their story. People love you when you get them to talk about themself, so be interested. This means ASKING WHY AND NOT WHAT. This means, say you're at a party, "so you like x?" The answer will be a yes or no and the conversation ends. Make it open ended, instead say, "why do you like x?", "oh really?" "I think this about x and y, how do you feel about that?" Be curious. Get them to start monologuing, you may need to jump around a couple subjects, until you find one they just won't 5hut up about. In all, to not be creepy is to see women as another bro. Next time you see a girl just think, "that's my bro right there," and don't sexualize them. If they are beautiful, love that for them, and be a bro. You can enjoy their presence, learn to separate sex. (DOGS ARE CUTE, BUT YOU DON'T xxx DOGS). Bring that mentality. The more female friends you have the better, don't push the relationships, just be friends with everyone and enjoy their company and their story. 9/10 one of those friendships turn into something more. You have 1 female friend low chances, lets say you have 20+ good female friends, the odds are higher. It's not about your eyes on this one guys, that can be the ultimate decider, let the lovers of your life fall into your lap and choose you. The feeling of knowing that another person likes you and you both know it, but won't say it, is the best feeling ever. ------- Most importantly don't overthink it and be yourself, and if being yourself isn't working, it might be time to re-evaluate your life, like, is Fortnite and TikTok making me a better more interesting person, or a loser. Protip: when they vent, validate their emotions even if it's crazy, and say stuff that feeds their delusions. They just want to feel heard and appreciated, and don't want solutions. You are giving them support, so they can then turn around and solve their own problems.
i once was talking to this girl and it was like as soon as i told her what i really think about exitance and my metaphysical philosophy and shit she became colder to me almost as if i wasn't there friend anymore 😢 guys dont yap to much people in general don't want to hear the ins and outs of the typology of ontological groupings and elements within said ontological gropings aka the p(n) system (my metaphysical philosophy). they also don't want a full lecture on geometric algebra outa nowhere. i really think it was my views on how depression isn't real and she called me closed minded and wanted me to see it from her perspective. i am going to argue the infallible truth and there is no other that is justified. if an individual disagrees they are misguided and you can only pray for there enlightenment. another thing is is that i use super complex topics as general conversation and i have nothing to say to anyone otherwise. id rather talk about the human will and my own reason for existing than whatever frivioulus topic other than. there is no value doing anything other than cultivating the prowess of the mental field and if your conversation is some garbage that doesn't empower ones sellf you must stray away from that and nuture a true bond based upon intelligent discussion within another with your relationship.
An easy tip to get passed the MHC and pheromone smelling problem is by wearing excessive amounts of axe body spray, ever since I've started every girl I've seen has been too embarrassed to even talk (or look) at me!
I have always tried to develop a friendship naturally, and therefore increase proximity. The smell thing is really a letdown, we can do better than animals who rely on pheromones. I've never understood the culture of pretending to hate them at first, why is that effective?
There’s this girl I really like at the university. She just broke up with her boyfriend because he was annoying. I like her since I was a freshman and now I’m a senior. I will try to create proximity now! Thank you for the tips, I really needed this.🙏❤️😊
6:15 As a university student and researcher in biological sciences, I find it crucial to highlight that, despite the long-standing theoretical existence of human pheromones, no concrete identification of them has been made in research to date. This is a significant area of study that often gets misrepresented, and it's important to keep this in mind when discussing the topic. I liked seeing mention of the importance of the olfactory recognition of markers for genetically dissimilar haplotypes at the Major Histocompatibility Complex (MHC), which has been proven to play a significant role in relative measures of attractiveness, though. You really did your homework!
meanwhile Tutorials for girls: make an eye contact with him, but try to not make it obvious. make him question if you even did that on purpose. if he does approach you, try to seem uninterested. don't EVER let him know your intentions
Back in my parents day it was literally just saying hi and you wanna get something to eat. Now there’s a whole science and playing 4D chess and pursue then pull away just to maybe get her number 💀
Because there is an illusion of choice. People believe because they can send a message to Chad and Stacey on dating apps then they are worthy of more than their own status. People would rather be lonely and hoping for the impossible than settle for a mediocre reality.
"the most attractive feature is NOT genetic" - yeah please tell that to a 5'3'' balding guy with bad physiology thanks to genetics. Just because on average, not many of us will experience such a fate, it does NOT mean that genetics does not play a role
well clearly you don't have the right attitude either, which isn't doing you any favors. not saying you're wrong, just that you're only making it worse by giving your insecurities power.
The gain-loss theory was super interesting to me. I revealed to my ex that I’d already had a crush of him for a while before we started dating, and I always made it very clear that I loved him a lot, even from the beginning of our relationship. Maybe I won’t be so obvious with the next guy, and they’ll actually alive me back in the end 🤔
no man this doesnt apply to guys, women just get all this handed to them with zero effort and its all done for them, women dont need pick up lol ! you just go out and all the guys will come and you just chose, !
you can do all that or simply do nothing. Girls do not need game. Men do. You to look decent and exist. Kinda respect you tho for putting in effort when everything will still be easy to you either ways.
about the first kiss, all you really need to do is keep your entire mouth clean, brush your tongue (especially the inner section), make sure your tonsils do not get in your way at all, if there's a tonsil stone, remove it at all cost before the date, wash your mouth with salt water and have some breath mints, smell is important (others can smell you 10 times more than you can smell yourself). Good luck gentlemen.
1. Attention scarcity -> 2. Gain-loss theory (you've been not that good in eyes of girl, but eventually became appealing. It's like winning someone over) (Я бы, если представился случай сказать о первом впечатлении, сказала бы сначала что ты была не такая классная, но вот потом ты стала лучше, надо убедить что она тебе реально стала нравится) 3. Proximity, you have to be physically close to the person more often 4. Ben Franklin effect, aka give a girl opportunity to be kind, and encourage them afterwards, make a person think that she's valuable for you 5. Discord-mod effect (aka don't be like him, or nothing else will work). It doesn't matter that much with which appearance features you've been born with, but rather mattered those that could be inhabited (good posture, clean haircut, nice clothing, positive attitude, smth that work on could done) 6. Luck with genetic compatibility of pheromones and MHC
From a woman’s perspective I guarantee we are far more attracted to men who look happy or smile or who carry themselves in a positive and open demeanor than those who are closed off, cold, looking down all the time or don’t possess warmth. It makes you 50x more attractive no matter your physical features
Stop the cap. Women are drawn to 3 things no matter what they "think" they are attracted too: 1) Height 2) Looks 3) Status. That is literally all there is to it.
The only thing you got right was the "luck" part (I say "luck"very loosely) but everything else is 10000000% wrong. Here's a more simpler and more effective way to get women: Step one 1: Approach the girl When you approach the girl you like, you are not approaching her with an apologetic vibe you are approaching her with confidence, self-assurance and with the mindset of giving HER the opportunity to be with you. This all starts with you saying "Hi how my name is *blank* what's your's?" Step 2: Conversation skills with compliments and revealing intent Once she says her name, you could start off with a compliment like "I just had to say you look very nice today" or "I had to walk over to you and say your beautiful, how are you?" This let's her know that this is a sexual interaction not a platonic interaction. Then continue with the interation with "What do you have going on today?" (This is one way to start the conversation) This is when you LISTEN TO WHAT SHE HAS TO SAY THEN ASK QUESTIONS AND/OR SHARE YOU INSIGHT ON WHAT SHE HAS SAID IF YOU KNOW WHAT SHE IS TALKING ABOUT. This is a conversation not an interrogation. Step 3: Get her contact info/close Once you guys have gotten to know each other better through the conversation. Ask for her contact info so you can continue the conversation or go on a date. You can say, "Well it was nice to get to know you, let me get your *insert way to contact her (preferably her number)* I'd love to take you out sometime and continue our conversation. From there she could say yes or no. You can also say "I gotta run let me get your *insert contact info* and we can meet up another time." From there she could say yes or no. All in all throught this whole interaction YOU DONT CARE IF SHE SAYS YES OR NO!!!! The only thing you care about is that you and her are having a great interaction and that you have created a memorable impact with the conversation you had with her. That is how you get girls!!!!!!!!
true, I realised it lot late, simply make the interaction enjoyable, no matter what, it works best. better to create own dream life with right person than playing games for whole life !! and until u get someone interested, enjoy the process.
Important point to add is that modern life is not set up for meeting lots of women unless you deliberately re-arrange it to be so. It's really important to have activities where you see a group of gender-mixed people regularly who are mostly the same but can rotate a bit. This is what school is, and it's really not that difficult to create it as an adult (dancing, workshops, hobby groups, board games), you just have to have a little faith, be consistent, and take chances instead of endlessly complaining about how hard it is to make friends as an adult. 🙃
Mf first explained bluetooth and now he is fixing my life goddamn
Me too 😂
Gad damn right.
Same jajaj
i'm here for it
fr
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Flirtosphere Seduction on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
1. You are something to be pursued or lost forever(mindset)
2.Proximity
3.Ask for favors
4.Looksmax
5.Luck
6.Scent
observe pupils, that's the most important part xD
you forgot gain loss theory. Let her win u over
Over for sub8 jfl. Just be chad honestly is the point of this video.
looksmax 😭😭
@@alanxo1759why laugh?
i misclicked i swear
CAPPPPP
😂 Me too bro , i also misswatched the whole video
@@MiloDuchmy phone fell down and tied me to my bed to watch this stupid video, i swear
I didnt misclick, but i wont be using anything he said, i just like knowing some of the facts he uses in his videos
Let's just ignore that
The only advice you'll ever need: Don't overthink it and don't give too many fucks. Try to live a good life for yourself, and if you're confident about it, one day, someone might want you to share it (even if not, then you still had a good life for yourself).
It's not the man's responsibility to manipulate every aspect of a situation only to "get" a girl. If she wants you and you want her, you'll find a way as long as you're both honest about it.
Edit: I know myself that confidence doesn't grow on trees, and so doesn't the ability to express your emotions about someone (especially if it's attraction). I know from my own experience that if you don't feel comfortable about being attracted to someone, it might be uncomfortable for both of you, turning the other person off. So my point is, try to make the situation comfortable _for_ _yourself_ . If anxieties get in your way, seek for a therapy. I wasted too many years trying to optimise the way women would feel about me, but only when I stopped caring about that and started feeling comfortable with myself (after some years of therapy), I found my girlfriend and we hooked up.
completely agree with. Just working on ourselves will suffice.
Someone isn’t the brightest bulb. It’s called just be tall and good looking. Not your bluepill cope
THISS!!!
@@thethe2279as a 5’7, i completely disagree. I can attract a lot, just gotta be confident and good looking. Being tall is just a +, not a must, and anyways girls that take it as a must genuinely turn me OFF
@@thethe2279man... I don't know about you but I've seen some people that are physically 5/10 that have managed to pull 7+/10. Mind you, most of the ones I've seen are middle class. Let's say the relationship won't last long, but in the end, who tasted her? Definitely not you.
But all that doesn't matter. If you have time to focus on these trivial things, then you're likely living an easy life.
At this point learning quantum physics is easier than doing all this for a girl
knowing quantum is actually very affective too
Doing everything but simping for women's attention is better.
What is photon
😂😂😂
Big facts😂 be yourself
Limiting your attention to a women is amazing advice and also reward a woman’s compliance (when she actually has to move to do something to or for you)
Damn I hope this could work with guys too
If you're attractive, it's flirting. If you're ugly, it's harrassment.
Fr
Ong
Cope for fear of rejection+fear of shame
Women only lash out at weaker targets- men with disproportionate emotional investment(being too obvious). Men with narcissistic/ego/sociopathic god complex+confidence+idgaf traits can get away with a lot. Women will not ever say it's harassment("I wasn't flirting with you anyways"), they very sensitive to rejection themselves and avoid being assertive
Think about it- the kid who got Cs in school and was still positive, confident, carefree was always more interesting than the one with Cs who talked about studying and stress and expectations
If you're ugly, the % of women uninterested in you goes from 80% (average looking guys) to 95%. But there's still crack hos, hippies, strippers, unhappily married, traumatised, autistic, etc. women left...obviously don't bother with women way out of your league
Try drugs...see how these fabricated thoughts/actions/beliefs/behavior from inebriation actually magically change things around you. The drugs are all in your head, you're not becoming any more taller or attractive or rich
Me: "hi✋😃" then walks away
Girl: "ok wtf"
assuming you know them already.
Nah,he say hi to strangers girls then walk away@@adampauling82
Have you tried being taller?
@@yeetboi268😂
Yeah I’ve never understood this tip lol
THIS content is really innovative, no flashy editting just pure knowledge and entertainment
We need more of this, learning not just entertainment
it's what PUA used to preach for 2 decades before incels ruined them. Now that incel lingo (lookmaxing, mewing) has become mainstream this basic PUA content that was considered manipulative and unethical is surfacing back. Btw it's all BS
its what YT used to be 10-12 years ago
@@josephmueller3752 they didn’t ruin them, puas got banned and shadow banned and blackpill and redpill filled the vacuum
Innovative? Bro, this is pick up artist 101. It's very good, but so obvious for a PUA. Social media censured this information in the last years
Got it, stalk her, but take a shower first and look confident while doing it
Exactly
be nonchalant and mysterious too thats mandatory!
every indian man's misconception ever
officer this one right here
officer: dont forget to put 200 dollar clognes
Correct
you know its bad when you end up here
Fr
Im just tryna watch bro😭
bro took overthinking it to a whole other level
its so over
Nah he knows. And broke it down to you. To some it comes naturally so they don't have to break things down empirically and understand why. But for many it's needed to understand. I've gotten more girls in my life especially my 30s than I can count or ever remember without being that attractive or very tall nor was I super popular. But I always kept my level and standards to a tee, never let myself down and was insanely strong mentally. Always stuck to my ways. I agree with almost every single point in this video coz I thought about it and my life. It really does come down to those few things. Of course money helps increase the sample size but even then there are plenty of losers with money who can't get any and have to rely on paid services. So to be with someone happily there are two ways. Either get lucky and live happily ever after while staying blissfully ignorant OR understand this world and yourself first. What you want, who you are and what's needed for your long term happiness. Each person differs during this assessment but once they understand themselves they'll know what they want. After that they need to understand what girls wants and is drawn to. Each girl is also different with their wants so find someone who wants those similar things and of course understand their partners inner workings as well. There's many layers to life. It's not something I can summarize like that. I don't know about your life so I can't comment on that but I'm glad this video may help a lot of dudes out there suffering who probably needed a hint or a direction to walk towards instead of giving up on themselves and life. I've seen too many cases
@@Greatgoku4 Thats kinda rare but reading your thoughts/opinion made me think about stuff and helped me motivating myself to try out different things for example getting out of comfort zone. I must say thanks to you!
@@tucky3580 cheers brother
@@tucky3580 cheers brother
"it has nothing to do with genetics"
"now onto part 6. believe it or not it almost always comes down to genetics"
lmao
Normie gaslighting moment
But le vvomen aren't superficial broooo just get 500 showers and a hair cut brooo
He means it doesn't have to do with genetic trait which is visible
It does though. It's not everything but it's not nothing.@@ericxue3244
step 1 : say hi
I genuinely think the important part of this process is just being happy and content with yourself. nothing is more pleasant to anyone than a person who is happy, easygoing, and fun to be around. doing this weird bullshit of trying to manipulate the situation to make someone more attracted to you just makes you a pickup artist. you're not going to 'get a girl', you're gonna make yourself nervous and anxious with trying to follow all the steps. just be happy and things will work out.
Noo but i can confirm this actually works. I've followed these steps and it worked. While i agree with u on the points u made but no if u r very clear in mind what u have to follow u can actually breakthrough the nervousness which is what we call confidence
Cope
This stuff works I’ve done all the stuff in this video (not on purpose), and I ended up getting the girl even though all the other guys in the group were the ones chasing. Girls want a guy that’s somewhat “unattainable”, you need to put yourself in her reach but not so easily so it’ll pique her curiosity and attraction. For my situation I was just so focused on my business and career that even though I thought she was cute I just didn’t prioritize her.
No its not you can only hold a facàde for so long before they catch your bullshit @Nihilist_Waltz
This is true being comfortable in your own skin will make you express yourself more easily and will make not only getting a girlfriend but approaching anyone very straightforward and easy.
If we're watching this, it js means that we're cooked
someday man someday
@@jvogessomeday 😢
cooked as in cooked on a stove?
you have already lost if you are watching it, just give up
@@player_566-1 NEVER BACK DOWN NEVER WHAT
This shit is better than anything any so called "dating coach/expert" has ever put out.
Just look good bro
BODY GAME
And natural masculinity.
@@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226 nö
@@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226heightfidence and faceonality
@@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226 what's natural masculinity? Besides “just be a leader bro” “just take decisions bro”
I once disassembled and reassembled the entire engine bay of an abandoned car and had it run smoothly afterwards only with common sense, Reddit discussions, and RUclips videos and I guarantee that was far easier than this.
My dad was an ugly, annoying, shy dork. He got a higher education with a well paid respected job. Girls were throwing themselves at him. My dad is still this guy today, he never had to try, they came to him.
@@cattysplat Must be nice
@@cattysplathow can someone be annoying and shy
@@azaanhussain1724by being awkwars my guy
Yep, very good amature chess pplayer here, can confirm for me that beating some profesional masters at chess is much MUCH easier than getting a date, and i have evry advantage in the book, im very good looking and still cant get even a date !
Lesson 5: looksmaxx now.
@theorb519 Priority number 2: Realize you dont have perfect genes and surgerymaxx
Tip 4: Edge in class EVERY day.
Brooo whatt?
@@NutsDerk1
You should do it for yourself, but it won't make nearly as much difference with girls as you think it will.
5 years too late nephew
If you're watching this, it's too late
It never began...
@@prakhargupta3949it never began with that name
You are assuming that we ever had the chance
no way it's drake
Dont have to do me like that
so
1. be friendly say hi when you pass by (try to increase proximity; better if u dont be creepy + next step)
2. present yourself as someone who takes care of themselves (posture, hair, clothing, skincare, looksmaxxing in general)
3. do favors for her and ask them for favors (also gives you chances to interact)
- post dating
4. good first kiss (practice kissing on your closest bros, its not gay i swear)
instructions unclear, in a love triangle with the bro now
@@JDub3799At least you found your passion!
brainrot
Now being serious. You can practice kissing with your hand. Put It like a fist, and then do that.
5. Stop playing Roblox and finish public school
The way your incorporating actual psychological evidence from experiments done in each of your points is so original and makes the video so much better. Please upload more psychology videos like this where you go in depth into the why and how. I love these types of videos. and your editing is onpoint!!
they date up by default. read the unplugged alpha by richard cooper
They aren't tho, lol. They are citing single studies without any context or lit review, which is useless and unscientific. Additionally, the studies they are citing are out of date and all of their claim aren't supported by a big part of the literature. For example, we don't know if there are any sexual pheromones in humans.
yeah most psychology is BS. but brain scans show each gender is different + hardwired behaviour @@spacecooqie6873
We’re so cooked
Brother put the phone down and talk to girls (I don’t)
bro as a lesbian i'm not sure half of these will work but I'm gonna try anyways
Don't worry guys. I've just looked into MHC molecules and apparently, a man with dissimilar MHC molecules just smells nicer to women, that's it. And that nicer smell might help with attraction. However, a less nice smell is not going to stop a woman from being attracted to you. Worrying about such things and being in your head instead of being present will make you less attractive.
I think especially the kissing thing at the end of the vid will make you less attractive. How are you going to have a "good first kiss" when you have to worry that the kiss might ruin everything?
Also, that's bullshit. Most first kisses are bad as how are they going to be good if you don't even know each other.
The MHC thing is negligible, if not completely BS. Wedekind, zhou, and other pheromone studies have failed to be consistently replicated, and are extremely artificial in nature. The density of pheromones in the cloves mixture (zhou) or in the tshirts (wedekind) is absurdly high compared to someone’s ambient scent when standing right next to them. And that’s assuming no extraneous factors like BO.
Hint: the slightest presence of antiperspirant, deo, or bacteria eating sweat will immediately mask whatever pheromones are being excreted.
MHC ? Use a good perfume, works great. !
@@aheendwhz1holy cope chad instatly melts any girl away when he kisses them
they date up by default. read the unplugged alpha by richard cooper
How to get girls 101:
Step 1: Be attractive
Step 2: Be attractive
Step 3: Be attractive
Step 4: Be attractive
Step 5: Be attractive
Step 6: Be attractive
Step 7: Be attractive
Step 8: Be attractive
Step 9: Be attractive
Step 10: Be yourself
you missed about half of the video mate
I want a man who looks like 90s Tom Cruise. 😂
Step 1: buy white van
Step 2:
@@richardparsley2538 naaaaaahhhhh we getting crazy with this one
Blackpilled.
Don't chase the butterflies instead build a beautiful garden. They will come to you themself.
Underrated comment! So truthful.
how the fuck do I build a garden.
@@Never_GamePlayZ garden = wealth
@macdonald2kI know you are joking(at least hope so), but I want you to know I had a great laugh. Thank you!
Exactly, forget the video. Be a high value person, wiser, intelligent
You know your cooked if you didn’t even search this up.
Confidence is a huge factor too. If you're afraid of talking to women or afraid of rejection, a good way to solve this problem is by practicing exposure to your fears. Go talk to random women in public (not in a creepy way, of course). Choose appropriate places to talk, and appropriate situations, for example, when you go to a party with a lot people you don't know, or a big event.
lmao "Just be confident, bro!!!!'
no confidence for a recessed face
“Choose appropriate places and situations”.
Knowing which are appropriate is the issue.
A good way to practice is to sometimes chat up retail associates or someone waiting on a line to get into a venue. This happens all the time in big cities.
And who knows? That same person you chatted up may then decide to want to add you on Instagram or get your contact
Edit: notice how I didn't mention anything romantic? The more natural you are, the more people will relax around you
@@dylanm3181 you watch too many movies, son.
Steps
-don't give them attention
-see them often
-make them think you don't like them
-make them think you started liking them
-make them do favors for you
-have luck
-have kissing skill
the first two sound paradoxical but just for clarification, don’t give them excessive attention outside of physically seeing them: don’t text them all day, don’t watch every single one of their stories, limit your non-sexual attention as much as possible.
These only work if you’re physically attractive
Steps
-Be tall and handsome
-Be not severly mentally ill
-be tall
-have attractive facial features
@@FloppaTheBased I’m tall but I ain’t got the attractive facial features
The only thing that is inaccurate is that at a party there are groups of guys surrounding a girl, if that is so these are likely her friends and to say hi and walk a way is a bit wierd. Say hi to her when shes relatively alone and u can have a conversation with her and let a friend yell out ur name so u have to go. NOOO pick up lines !!!!! But if u stared a conversation already and she dosent seem uncomfortable and happy to talk to u just talk to her like a normal human being would and ask her some questions about her that she feels comfortable answering. Ask for insta not her number girls are more comfortable giving guys her insta. Im from germany please excuse the mistakes. Dont follow her around all evening like i said find an excuse and go
This is amazing advice
Really solid respectable advice. Thank you, friend.
"Like a normal human being" means nothing. Your boss, your mom and your friends are all human beings and you treat each in different ways. If you just focus on making her comfortable the fz is your fate and you deserve it. Insta can be gotten earlier than number but is way weaker as a lead. If you get her number it's to arrange a date and continue, if you get her insta you're just another follower to make number bigger and feed her ego.
Look at naturals. See what they do and learn from them. Most people have some friends who are naturals. Go with them and don't cringe or get jealous, just learn. See how they tease the girl, joke around with her, act like the prize, ignore her tests, escalate...they do everything instinctively.
Are you here to have polite conversations or to give women an attractive man that they'll actually want to have sex with? Women hate nice guys who think just doing the bare minimum will get them into their pants because they were so friendly and polite. You want something, actually build attraction.
ruclips.net/video/Vh0hj9ZD9FY/видео.htmlsi=cwwc6iXY1eTClvl3
I disagree on insta, most people arnt active or care.
dude this channel is probably one of my favorites ever I remember when you have a couple thousand or whatever glad to see you got the recognition the channel deserved
What about "the science of keeping a healthy relationship?" All these videos on breaking down the dating process are great for some, yet they mostly focus on the getting in process as though that's the bulk of the work and the rest of a relationship will just work itself out. It effectively turns the process into a game where the reward is that you "get" a girl and that somehow means you've won something. Yet hardly anyone thinks of what follows, and all the self work that needs to be done (on healing old wounds/bad communication patterns or taking on feedback without defensiveness or understanding personal responsibilities and negotiating to have everyone's needs met) to create a good relationship environment.
I believe more men need lessons in how to be good partners than in how to succeed at initiating relationships while doing little work on themselves and their potential issues. But maybe that's material for another video.
I think that’s also very important, arguably more important, I just decided to make this video because I’ve noticed a lot of my classmates who are generally good and handsome dudes be completely petrified to initiate and sort of interaction with girls they like, i figured a lot of guys probably feel the same way and that there’d probably be an audience for a video concept that could help build a little confidence. I definitely get your point, and i plan on doing many more videos on human interaction and will definitely try to integrate stuff like that :)
exactly
This very much so. I agree with what you're saying.
As a 32yr guy, I've seen it and lived it. It's horrible to see what happens to people when there isn't a mature understanding of how to be considerate, reciprocative, self-respecting and adaptable. You don't always get closure with relationships that wouldn't last either, but it would give so much awareness to both people in a relationship too if afterwards they could have a mature communication of what went wrong, what they liked and what they disliked about the relationship to better prepare both to not make the same mistakes in the next and see what they can improve themselves, not only for the next person but also for themselves.
Not to mention it can build comradery rather than resentment between those who have been intimate with eachother.
Yes, it's important to pretend convincingly that those other things matter, too. Acting is an oft-forgotten part of the needed skills. Sometimes, if you are good enough, you may even fool yourself.
# 1 is simple its just focus on to talk less and in deep voice when u do but idk
I dont just wanna get girls. Exspecially not through psychological manipulation and playing games.
All I want is to find a good partner with just being myself.
Is that possible?
why yes, it is.
if you need "game" and tricking women into liking you it's already over. None of the people in relationships did this cringe, it all happens naturally. If it doesn't happen to you then be luckier in the looks department next time.
Beta
@@FloppaTheBasedin next life😂😂😂
Find your purpose in life. However, your purpose shouldn’t be simping for women. Thus, when you find your purpose you are dialed in. So, whether women like you or not you are happy since your purpose gives you meaning in life.
So genetics don't matter but also matter the most? Good video dude.
you didn't listen very well did you?
@@thepastarat He still described genetic traits but just worded them as if they aren't lol.
This deserves way more attention excellent job
I can confirm with personal experience that the majority of this video is 100% accurate!
just be tall and handsome bro
60% of the time, it works every time.
@@justingibson1150 DAMMIT! You beat me to it. First thing that popped in my head when I read this comment. 👊🏽
@@FloppaTheBased it began for confidenttheorymaxingcels
I'd also recommend simply doing what you love in a crowded place. I became a karaoke regular at my local pub and after a couple months I started pulling girls (usually the semi-regulars) because I was a familiar face who was friendly and start conversation with everyone. I wasn't asking for their numbers, I was just happy to talk to someone between songs and make them feel welcome.
What I realise I was doing is that I WAS making myself scarce. I didn't persue girls overtly because I wasn't there for girls. I was there for the karaoke and a good time.
My experience is similar. Do what you love in a social environment where you are at ease and confident. You become attractive instantly.
that sort f worked for me in the gym, the only problem is when i did ask someone out who clearly liked me i was rejected, so you still have to have the pick up skills to time it right avd to know how to ask properly ! or she will still say no every time
Advice unclear, I was arrested for indecent exposure.
@@mcpartridgeboy Don't let 1 rejection convince you it won't work.
Ok let me tell you something... it's the first time ever that, discovering a new channel from 0, I've gotten so involved. It's amazing how you put together such a well done channel in less than a month. Best of luck, you deserve all the success that will come.
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
I've watched almost all your videos, I love your humor and way of explaining things! But this is just... Chef's kiss.
Great video Sir! I would like to mention a book that you haven't mentioned and its for Insecure Americans. Ebook is called CrushAnyGirl, so on its for finding a girlfriend as Insecure American. After reading, you will have a better perspective on girls and find your gf in thirty days guaranteed
Highly recommended to read
😂😂 why does this have no comments
This has 6k likes so it must be credible. 30 days is pretty fast
@@LoganBai-gv5ys probably bot bro
@@godishere4 yeah it looks like an ad and this comment was only 2 days ago. so unless 6k people liked it in 2 days despite the video being somewhat old then something is wrong. Also this comment has so few replies under it as you mentioned
Bot nice try
I like how the video is presented in an informative but casual manner. Like a friend giving you advice. Videos with titles similar to this are usually presented in a manner like a sergeant briefing his soldiers before going to war lmao.
You are promoting some good healthy understanding, my friend. Keep up the good work.
this is delusion
I love that luck was added here cause you could be doing everything right but still have bad outcomes and vice versa. But its still good to work on yourself regardless cause luck is also when preparation meets opportunity
Is it patched yet?
next update
They’re bundling the patch with Half-Life 3.
Not yet, but it does have a high skill ceiling.
@@necronicles Not getting girls was a skill issue at the start....i hate these devs
They nerfed it many many times but if you are skilled you can still make it work
This. is amazing!
You just earned subscriber. I started with one of the video, now I am in depression that you have only 8 videos in total!
This. is not acceptable...
I like this channel, it always proves its claims with studies and evidence and the videos don't bore me, it's actually entertaining to watch.
This is probably one of the best videos I've ever seen on this topic, and brought up a lot of things I have never seen anywhere else that make a lot of sense and seem pretty valid. Hugely underrated
i was surfing on the internet for my research work on streaming platforms the RUclips suggested me this channel and i found it is really an engaging channel with good quality of content in it, I appreciate the knowledge you are transferring to the public in such a humorous way. i am enjoying all your videos more than a comedy show or a serious science show, but its a combination of both. Thankyou for making such an amazing, entertaining and educational content sir.
while youre here, dont take everything here with such fact. its mostly entertainment
pro tip: be attractive
Or get plastic surgery lol
@@AssassinIronMan that I will do i.e septoplasty
I have very deviated nasal passage(if you know you know )
@@_Devansh.Dixit_ I don’t know 💪🗿
@@AssassinIronMan then use chrome to get it known rather then using it for something else 🗿
@@_Devansh.Dixit_ I’m better off not caring 😎
Thank you for this, I'm so tired of all the incel ideology bs that's been thrown around in the self-help community about how men struggle with attracting women because of looks. It is definitely partially true that looks do matter, but I think a lot of men don't know that they're approaching dating wrong, and blame it on the beauty standards women have for men, instead of learning from their mistakes. This is one of the first videos I've seen that also really understands the problem with the approach of the "nice guy" archetype
u dont know the reality
It's basically the same thing red pill says, just politely.
jfl at you. if you’re getting no girls it’s because of your looks and not because of muh personality and muh confidence. cope harder
If you’re watching this video and thinking your dating life will change = it’s brutally over for you
On god, incel has turned into such a buzzword to use on men who have already been through enough.
1: scarcity principle
2: Gain loss theory
3: Proximity
4: Ben Franklin effect (favors)
5: Discord Mod effect (look good man!)
6: Luck(pheromones (MHC) + Kiss good)
Ty for summary.
7. Be tall
@@bro918 factss
people in our generation will do anything but actually go outside and just talk to women
@@kelechi_77cuz it’s deemed creepy
True attraction is about respect, confidence, and being authentic-not just playing games.
This is like school. Learning something youll never use
The presentation of the video was very good. I liked the words and images you used.
Dating is just a game, isn't it? I'm not playing.
Playing these dumb games is unfortunately how you have to go. What's your alternative? Because eventually if you do meet a woman you consider your perfect match, intelligent and all, chances are she's still likely playing the game and you'll be disqualified real quick.
There isn't really a winning move where you 'break' the game, like make her aware of it and she realises "wow that game is silly, and you're so smart, I'll date you!" that aint gonna happen.
Only guys get real nerdy over this shit and recognise it as a game anyway, and you keep that to yourself
@@Blurro If you think this is bad, women having even more insane rationalisations to what they do.
@@Blurro The only winning move here is to simply wait a decade or two for AI/Robotics to get good enough and then just buy a robot GF
@@bro918 Exactly + curing aging for playing longer and more choices in life.
@@BlurroIt aint worth it. Relationships, Sex are way too overrated. I am glad to be single than to play all these shitty games.
You’ve outdone yourself with this one impressive stuff
1. Have good genes. Height is most important.
2. Be Rich.
3. Be fake and mean.
Pretty much, although you can simplify it into one step
1. Choose good parents
God, not it doesn’t none of those are not what is needed to get a partner?
☝️🤣🤣Step one: Don’t be unattractive
this is the one video that is guaranteed to have 100% retention
beauty video mate, was shocked at sub count when I saw ur dreaming video, keep it up and don’t listen to the people fretting over a spelling mistake
Thanks :)
Wow this content keeps raising the bar every time
Amazing video!! But also just wanted to point out that this video mostly tackles the topic of attraction, and from a very scientific materialist perspective. Which is great! But also remember that attraction and love are two differing things! You can get the girl to be attracted to you (which is the first step), but being in love and someone being in love with you is entirely another thing.
Imo creating a life you enjoy living and working to connect authentically with those around you will just naturally lead to you attracting and finding someone you’ll fall in love with (and hopefully they’ll fall in love with you too). This way you will end up have a fulfilling life and also can introduce this special person into this life.
I think a lot of value is placed on romantic relationships, but personally I think it’s important to remember that there are other things that are important too! Like being your authentic self, friends, family and cultivating a fulfilling life! And if getting into a romantic relationship means sacrificing any of those, I don’t think I’d be very happy in that relationship long term.
True!
This!
Although I agree to all you've said it's really not that simple (at least for some of us 😂)
Based on experience I can say that just living your life is always a good thing to do but it won't help you find girls, it just makes it so that you're happy nonetheless 🤷♂️
what is called romantic love is just lust + oxytocin
Plastic surgery is the only option for finding a soulmate if youre not good looking
very great video. taking away the over-seriousness and making the format funnier really helps you enjoy more the learning process
Bullshit the most attractive feature are genetics, height and face
This. It’s not complicated. This video would’ve been useful in the 90s and before but not after.
@Fourtune1 And why do you think that is? Precisely because people have more access to videos claiming to explain the "nature" of women or men, when socially we are so varied and complex. Instead of accepting that, we focus on supposed rigid rules that apply to all women, many of which are not inherently biological but are partly socially shaped. We end up distorting our own reality, and not for the better, which is why we're doing worse and worse in relationships and dating. We have a very misguided view of men and women because we’re constantly trying to rely on biology alone and believe we have to act in a certain way to get what we want. If you went out and discovered how different reality is from what’s often portrayed on the Internet, you’d realize that there are women who value things beyond superficial characteristics.
you forgot inteligence aka brains
guys, as a a married man with 3 kids the best advice i could possibly give is to honestly just be yourself
So be average looking and only 5'9? I already did that for 29 years. Isn't working.
Married guy why are you watching this 😂
@@thelawyer95 man 5.9 is like 177 centimeters right? u seem quite high to me..
Asking the right questions 😂😂@@LifeStyleMaxxing
I don’t like myself but hopefully someone will😅
1. Face
2. Height
3. Neurotypicality
Your welcome
also dick size
I think the best take away here is to just try and make friends with women.
First of all, the friend zone doesnt exist. Or atleast, not in the way people think it does. It is possible to become friends with a girl who isnt attracted to you. But that doesnt mean becoming friends with someone causes them to be unattracted to you.
On the other hand, becoming friends has the benifits of both proximity and favours. (You will naturally ask favours from your friends).
combine that with luck, pheremone compatibility, and generally taking care of yourself and you'll have a great relationship. And if it doesnt work, you have a good friend who can help you find someone else.
Female confirmation: received👍👍
So you're saying girls aren't less attracted guys because they're too friendly?
@tommygertcher2747 If I may, I think it depends on what kind of level of friendliness we're talking about. Just being nice is different from paying special attention to her. If you're only nice to her at first, it may make her jealous if she sees you suddenly being nice to other girls (if she has that kind of 'romantical' awareness around you). On the other hand, many girls love nothing more than receiving a special kind of attention from a male. To be precise, ask her about her feelings, opinions, and take her interests seriously.
Note: There are some kinds of girls that are just not into nice guys, but those are mostly complicated ones. Please don't try to change your personality for these ones, I guarantee you, there are girls out there who will treasure you with all their heart for your kindness!
Good luck ^^
@@tommygertcher2747 I've never seen that be the case.
What people don't realize, is girls who aren't attracted to them after they were nice to them, wouldn't be attracted to matter how they were treated.
@@tommygertcher2747If you’re too friendly and appear fake about it, she’ll assume you just want to get inside of her.
The million dollar question is how friendly is appropriate to the situation and any intel on a particular girl you may know anything about? 🤔😏🫠🤥😈
The proximity is the hardest when you’re out of college ..
Your research is next-level appreciate the effort
The discord mod effect. AHAHAHA I was laughting my ass off. Being clean, healthy and working out should be a normal thing for everyone.
great video!
Not when doctors are lying to you.
@@AkiRa22084 yeah, in highschool a schooldoctor told me to eat more because I was "underweight". I was actually totally fine and didn't not end up listening to the stupid doctor.
@@maximilianvangrevenbroek They told me to not do a tonsillectomy, since it would "not be helpful and it causes wight gain", but I did it anyway. Smartest thing I ever did - improved my life tremendously.
That and keto.
So it's not normal to be healthy, it's hard today.
How to do This (Without Thinking About it)
1. Just groom yourself: learn how to dress, and skin care, workout
2. Be a Rarity: Have hobbies and focus on yourself, hangout with friends (women included) when you need a break
3. Talk to Women?: go to a club and frequent places that have a good ratio
4. Don't be a creep?: stop talking to women because you want to date them. Just be interested in who they are as a person and learn their story. People love you when you get them to talk about themself, so be interested. This means ASKING WHY AND NOT WHAT.
This means, say you're at a party, "so you like x?" The answer will be a yes or no and the conversation ends. Make it open ended, instead say, "why do you like x?", "oh really?" "I think this about x and y, how do you feel about that?" Be curious. Get them to start monologuing, you may need to jump around a couple subjects, until you find one they just won't 5hut up about.
In all, to not be creepy is to see women as another bro. Next time you see a girl just think, "that's my bro right there," and don't sexualize them. If they are beautiful, love that for them, and be a bro. You can enjoy their presence, learn to separate sex. (DOGS ARE CUTE, BUT YOU DON'T xxx DOGS). Bring that mentality.
The more female friends you have the better, don't push the relationships, just be friends with everyone and enjoy their company and their story. 9/10 one of those friendships turn into something more. You have 1 female friend low chances, lets say you have 20+ good female friends, the odds are higher.
It's not about your eyes on this one guys, that can be the ultimate decider, let the lovers of your life fall into your lap and choose you. The feeling of knowing that another person likes you and you both know it, but won't say it, is the best feeling ever.
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Most importantly don't overthink it and be yourself, and if being yourself isn't working, it might be time to re-evaluate your life, like, is Fortnite and TikTok making me a better more interesting person, or a loser.
Protip: when they vent, validate their emotions even if it's crazy, and say stuff that feeds their delusions. They just want to feel heard and appreciated, and don't want solutions. You are giving them support, so they can then turn around and solve their own problems.
Well said man , this is how it's supposed to go normally
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Lol, my loser friend started playing PUBG in 2020 and in 2 years he had more than 20 numbers !
Perfect guide be in the friendzone forever. Being friends with girls has almost no benefits as a grown man.
i once was talking to this girl and it was like as soon as i told her what i really think about exitance and my metaphysical philosophy and shit she became colder to me almost as if i wasn't there friend anymore 😢
guys dont yap to much people in general don't want to hear the ins and outs of the typology of ontological groupings and elements within said ontological gropings aka the p(n) system (my metaphysical philosophy). they also don't want a full lecture on geometric algebra outa nowhere.
i really think it was my views on how depression isn't real and she called me closed minded and wanted me to see it from her perspective. i am going to argue the infallible truth and there is no other that is justified. if an individual disagrees they are misguided and you can only pray for there enlightenment.
another thing is is that i use super complex topics as general conversation and i have nothing to say to anyone otherwise. id rather talk about the human will and my own reason for existing than whatever frivioulus topic other than. there is no value doing anything other than cultivating the prowess of the mental field and if your conversation is some garbage that doesn't empower ones sellf you must stray away from that and nuture a true bond based upon intelligent discussion within another with your relationship.
An easy tip to get passed the MHC and pheromone smelling problem is by wearing excessive amounts of axe body spray, ever since I've started every girl I've seen has been too embarrassed to even talk (or look) at me!
Such a clear and thorough explanation great work
I have always tried to develop a friendship naturally, and therefore increase proximity. The smell thing is really a letdown, we can do better than animals who rely on pheromones. I've never understood the culture of pretending to hate them at first, why is that effective?
Bro if she doesn’t like you forget about her and move on. Simple as that. Eventually you’ll find a good one.
0:52 I wonder if the guy in the picture is watching this video thinking: "do I really look like an average jerk???"
Straight to the point no BS realistic advice given here bro. Thanks for making this content, Instant new sub !
Loved how detailed and informative this was thank you
The videos are great bro your gonna be big for sure, keep working hard (:
Thanks :)
Your mind works differently 😂😂😂The video would have ended at 7:50 but because you included one of those meaningless but very funny endings, it didn’t
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@@user-Camjja ?
Wdym?
@@spencergibbs6646 I think it’s his mind that works differently
There’s this girl I really like at the university. She just broke up with her boyfriend because he was annoying. I like her since I was a freshman and now I’m a senior. I will try to create proximity now! Thank you for the tips, I really needed this.🙏❤️😊
All the best!
W rejection
How bad ?....
Was the rejection 😂
Keep bringing the truth to light we need more like this
Man, i just discovered your channel, this video is a gem. I laughed so much, and the content is really high quality.
Subscribed, keep 'em coming!
bro your videos are so entertaining I won't be surprised if you hit it big soon
Thanks dog 🤞
@@this.science i fuckin knew it was gonna happen never doubted it
@@yesnt9523 😂bro is a true og
I paused at 0:01, takes a long breath and...you know.
Damn so real.
6:15 As a university student and researcher in biological sciences, I find it crucial to highlight that, despite the long-standing theoretical existence of human pheromones, no concrete identification of them has been made in research to date. This is a significant area of study that often gets misrepresented, and it's important to keep this in mind when discussing the topic.
I liked seeing mention of the importance of the olfactory recognition of markers for genetically dissimilar haplotypes at the Major Histocompatibility Complex (MHC), which has been proven to play a significant role in relative measures of attractiveness, though. You really did your homework!
Dude I’m just binging your videos cause they’re so high quality. Dang man please keep going your stuff is so good!
meanwhile Tutorials for girls: make an eye contact with him, but try to not make it obvious. make him question if you even did that on purpose. if he does approach you, try to seem uninterested. don't EVER let him know your intentions
😂😂😂
i think most of the video is already a good step for getting a girl already, getting girls isnt that much different between males and females
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stop 💀
@@adatirei Eeeeh. Its night and day.
Rule 1 have status
Rule 2 have money
Rule 3 good physical traits
Rule 4 don't die for one.
This. 💀
This is certified how to get women.
“Just be a nice guy” this whole video
men need to take the blackpill already, the delusion is insane these days. Its all about looks.
Back in my parents day it was literally just saying hi and you wanna get something to eat. Now there’s a whole science and playing 4D chess and pursue then pull away just to maybe get her number 💀
Because there is an illusion of choice. People believe because they can send a message to Chad and Stacey on dating apps then they are worthy of more than their own status. People would rather be lonely and hoping for the impossible than settle for a mediocre reality.
@@cattysplat Most men arent even getting matches, let alone with a 'stacey' lmao
"the most attractive feature is NOT genetic" - yeah please tell that to a 5'3'' balding guy with bad physiology thanks to genetics. Just because on average, not many of us will experience such a fate, it does NOT mean that genetics does not play a role
tell that to any average guy basically. Average dude today is not really different from 5'3 balding dude for women, they're all ugly.
well clearly you don't have the right attitude either, which isn't doing you any favors. not saying you're wrong, just that you're only making it worse by giving your insecurities power.
It’s really not bro I see short men all the time get hotties. I’m 5’9 so average height but it’s really about your personality and charisma
i know a balding guy punching way above his weight. he works out, smells nice and is super confident. people dont care about your bald look
@@LOLxUnique is he also 5'3?
The gain-loss theory was super interesting to me. I revealed to my ex that I’d already had a crush of him for a while before we started dating, and I always made it very clear that I loved him a lot, even from the beginning of our relationship. Maybe I won’t be so obvious with the next guy, and they’ll actually alive me back in the end 🤔
This is the EXACT same thing I did with my ex girl and suprise it didn't work out. Really wish i would have known
no man this doesnt apply to guys, women just get all this handed to them with zero effort and its all done for them, women dont need pick up lol ! you just go out and all the guys will come and you just chose, !
you can do all that or simply do nothing. Girls do not need game. Men do. You to look decent and exist. Kinda respect you tho for putting in effort when everything will still be easy to you either ways.
about the first kiss, all you really need to do is keep your entire mouth clean, brush your tongue (especially the inner section), make sure your tonsils do not get in your way at all, if there's a tonsil stone, remove it at all cost before the date, wash your mouth with salt water and have some breath mints, smell is important (others can smell you 10 times more than you can smell yourself). Good luck gentlemen.
Channel of the year award goes to "This."
Great videos, amazing quality, I hope you get to 100k before 2024.
That would be insane, maybe by 2025 haha
@@this.scienceyou've had crazy growth, maybe in the next few weeks??
I'm not scared of aproaching (maybe a little) but later down the line when they realize that I'm depressed and low on energy with no goals in life..
Then don’t focus on partners brother, focus on finding that spark there is to life again
Bro focus on yourself before you focus on others
1. Attention scarcity -> 2. Gain-loss theory (you've been not that good in eyes of girl, but eventually became appealing. It's like winning someone over)
(Я бы, если представился случай сказать о первом впечатлении, сказала бы сначала что ты была не такая классная, но вот потом ты стала лучше, надо убедить что она тебе реально стала нравится)
3. Proximity, you have to be physically close to the person more often
4. Ben Franklin effect, aka give a girl opportunity to be kind, and encourage them afterwards, make a person think that she's valuable for you
5. Discord-mod effect (aka don't be like him, or nothing else will work). It doesn't matter that much with which appearance features you've been born with, but rather mattered those that could be inhabited (good posture, clean haircut, nice clothing, positive attitude, smth that work on could done)
6. Luck with genetic compatibility of pheromones and MHC
You got the second one inversed, they should have to win you over, not the other way around.
Now all I hear is "nice guys finish last" by green day in my head
Real
From a woman’s perspective I guarantee we are far more attracted to men who look happy or smile or who carry themselves in a positive and open demeanor than those who are closed off, cold, looking down all the time or don’t possess warmth. It makes you 50x more attractive no matter your physical features
Лол, нет. Вообще, счастье детерминировано и для того, чтобы открыто улыбаться нужно родиться красивым
@@Dimitris_Half Ты либо красив, либо туп
I certainly appreciate you sharing.
Stop the cap. Women are drawn to 3 things no matter what they "think" they are attracted too: 1) Height 2) Looks 3) Status. That is literally all there is to it.
@@crenshaw46 as a woman, i disagree… maybe that’s other women but not ALL of us🤷♀️ those aren’t my personal priorities
The only thing you got right was the "luck" part (I say "luck"very loosely) but everything else is 10000000% wrong. Here's a more simpler and more effective way to get women:
Step one 1: Approach the girl
When you approach the girl you like, you are not approaching her with an apologetic vibe you are approaching her with confidence, self-assurance and with the mindset of giving HER the opportunity to be with you. This all starts with you saying "Hi how my name is *blank* what's your's?"
Step 2: Conversation skills with compliments and revealing intent
Once she says her name, you could start off with a compliment like "I just had to say you look very nice today" or "I had to walk over to you and say your beautiful, how are you?" This let's her know that this is a sexual interaction not a platonic interaction. Then continue with the interation with "What do you have going on today?" (This is one way to start the conversation) This is when you LISTEN TO WHAT SHE HAS TO SAY THEN ASK QUESTIONS AND/OR SHARE YOU INSIGHT ON WHAT SHE HAS SAID IF YOU KNOW WHAT SHE IS TALKING ABOUT. This is a conversation not an interrogation.
Step 3: Get her contact info/close
Once you guys have gotten to know each other better through the conversation. Ask for her contact info so you can continue the conversation or go on a date. You can say, "Well it was nice to get to know you, let me get your *insert way to contact her (preferably her number)* I'd love to take you out sometime and continue our conversation. From there she could say yes or no. You can also say "I gotta run let me get your *insert contact info* and we can meet up another time." From there she could say yes or no.
All in all throught this whole interaction YOU DONT CARE IF SHE SAYS YES OR NO!!!! The only thing you care about is that you and her are having a great interaction and that you have created a memorable impact with the conversation you had with her.
That is how you get girls!!!!!!!!
true, I realised it lot late, simply make the interaction enjoyable, no matter what, it works best. better to create own dream life with right person than playing games for whole life !! and until u get someone interested, enjoy the process.
She wont remember any of the conversation, only your face and height
How my name is 💀
Important point to add is that modern life is not set up for meeting lots of women unless you deliberately re-arrange it to be so. It's really important to have activities where you see a group of gender-mixed people regularly who are mostly the same but can rotate a bit. This is what school is, and it's really not that difficult to create it as an adult (dancing, workshops, hobby groups, board games), you just have to have a little faith, be consistent, and take chances instead of endlessly complaining about how hard it is to make friends as an adult. 🙃
Ofc
People forget that it actually takes effort
1. Work on yourself and commit to your purpose.
2. Forget about charm, focus on becoming knowledgable.
3. Profit.
Works for me...