The only advice you'll ever need: Don't overthink it and don't give too many fucks. Try to live a good life for yourself, and if you're confident about it, one day, someone might want you to share it (even if not, then you still had a good life for yourself). It's not the man's responsibility to manipulate every aspect of a situation only to "get" a girl. If she wants you and you want her, you'll find a way as long as you're both honest about it. Edit: I know myself that confidence doesn't grow on trees, and so doesn't the ability to express your emotions about someone (especially if it's attraction). I know from my own experience that if you don't feel comfortable about being attracted to someone, it might be uncomfortable for both of you, turning the other person off. So my point is, try to make the situation comfortable _for_ _yourself_ . If anxieties get in your way, seek for a therapy. I wasted too many years trying to optimise the way women would feel about me, but only when I stopped caring about that and started feeling comfortable with myself (after some years of therapy), I found my girlfriend and we hooked up.
@@thethe2279as a 5’7, i completely disagree. I can attract a lot, just gotta be confident and good looking. Being tall is just a +, not a must, and anyways girls that take it as a must genuinely turn me OFF
@@thethe2279man... I don't know about you but I've seen some people that are physically 5/10 that have managed to pull 7+/10. Mind you, most of the ones I've seen are middle class. Let's say the relationship won't last long, but in the end, who tasted her? Definitely not you. But all that doesn't matter. If you have time to focus on these trivial things, then you're likely living an easy life.
This website was a great find! I purchased a book that’s already making a positive impact on my mindset. Fingers crossed it helps me overcome my fear of approaching women.
It’s interesting you mentioned that; sometimes the most thought-provoking ideas remain in the shadows, either because they’re too controversial or overlooked. What about Flirtosphere Seduction stood out to you the most? Do you think its principles align with or challenge what this video is discussing?
it's what PUA used to preach for 2 decades before incels ruined them. Now that incel lingo (lookmaxing, mewing) has become mainstream this basic PUA content that was considered manipulative and unethical is surfacing back. Btw it's all BS
Nah he knows. And broke it down to you. To some it comes naturally so they don't have to break things down empirically and understand why. But for many it's needed to understand. I've gotten more girls in my life especially my 30s than I can count or ever remember without being that attractive or very tall nor was I super popular. But I always kept my level and standards to a tee, never let myself down and was insanely strong mentally. Always stuck to my ways. I agree with almost every single point in this video coz I thought about it and my life. It really does come down to those few things. Of course money helps increase the sample size but even then there are plenty of losers with money who can't get any and have to rely on paid services. So to be with someone happily there are two ways. Either get lucky and live happily ever after while staying blissfully ignorant OR understand this world and yourself first. What you want, who you are and what's needed for your long term happiness. Each person differs during this assessment but once they understand themselves they'll know what they want. After that they need to understand what girls wants and is drawn to. Each girl is also different with their wants so find someone who wants those similar things and of course understand their partners inner workings as well. There's many layers to life. It's not something I can summarize like that. I don't know about your life so I can't comment on that but I'm glad this video may help a lot of dudes out there suffering who probably needed a hint or a direction to walk towards instead of giving up on themselves and life. I've seen too many cases
@@Greatgoku4 Thats kinda rare but reading your thoughts/opinion made me think about stuff and helped me motivating myself to try out different things for example getting out of comfort zone. I must say thanks to you!
I once disassembled and reassembled the entire engine bay of an abandoned car and had it run smoothly afterwards only with common sense, Reddit discussions, and RUclips videos and I guarantee that was far easier than this.
My dad was an ugly, annoying, shy dork. He got a higher education with a well paid respected job. Girls were throwing themselves at him. My dad is still this guy today, he never had to try, they came to him.
Yep, very good amature chess pplayer here, can confirm for me that beating some profesional masters at chess is much MUCH easier than getting a date, and i have evry advantage in the book, im very good looking and still cant get even a date !
Limiting your attention to a women is amazing advice and also reward a woman’s compliance (when she actually has to move to do something to or for you)
I agree that focusing your attention is key, but I think it’s also important to approach relationships with mutual respect and understanding. Rewarding someone’s effort is great, but what do you think about the balance between giving and receiving in relationships? How do you ensure both sides feel valued and respected?
I genuinely think the important part of this process is just being happy and content with yourself. nothing is more pleasant to anyone than a person who is happy, easygoing, and fun to be around. doing this weird bullshit of trying to manipulate the situation to make someone more attracted to you just makes you a pickup artist. you're not going to 'get a girl', you're gonna make yourself nervous and anxious with trying to follow all the steps. just be happy and things will work out.
Noo but i can confirm this actually works. I've followed these steps and it worked. While i agree with u on the points u made but no if u r very clear in mind what u have to follow u can actually breakthrough the nervousness which is what we call confidence
This stuff works I’ve done all the stuff in this video (not on purpose), and I ended up getting the girl even though all the other guys in the group were the ones chasing. Girls want a guy that’s somewhat “unattainable”, you need to put yourself in her reach but not so easily so it’ll pique her curiosity and attraction. For my situation I was just so focused on my business and career that even though I thought she was cute I just didn’t prioritize her.
This is true being comfortable in your own skin will make you express yourself more easily and will make not only getting a girlfriend but approaching anyone very straightforward and easy.
so 1. be friendly say hi when you pass by (try to increase proximity; better if u dont be creepy + next step) 2. present yourself as someone who takes care of themselves (posture, hair, clothing, skincare, looksmaxxing in general) 3. do favors for her and ask them for favors (also gives you chances to interact) - post dating 4. good first kiss (practice kissing on your closest bros, its not gay i swear)
The way your incorporating actual psychological evidence from experiments done in each of your points is so original and makes the video so much better. Please upload more psychology videos like this where you go in depth into the why and how. I love these types of videos. and your editing is onpoint!!
They aren't tho, lol. They are citing single studies without any context or lit review, which is useless and unscientific. Additionally, the studies they are citing are out of date and all of their claim aren't supported by a big part of the literature. For example, we don't know if there are any sexual pheromones in humans.
I dont just wanna get girls. Exspecially not through psychological manipulation and playing games. All I want is to find a good partner with just being myself. Is that possible?
if you need "game" and tricking women into liking you it's already over. None of the people in relationships did this cringe, it all happens naturally. If it doesn't happen to you then be luckier in the looks department next time.
Find your purpose in life. However, your purpose shouldn’t be simping for women. Thus, when you find your purpose you are dialed in. So, whether women like you or not you are happy since your purpose gives you meaning in life.
Don't worry guys. I've just looked into MHC molecules and apparently, a man with dissimilar MHC molecules just smells nicer to women, that's it. And that nicer smell might help with attraction. However, a less nice smell is not going to stop a woman from being attracted to you. Worrying about such things and being in your head instead of being present will make you less attractive.
I think especially the kissing thing at the end of the vid will make you less attractive. How are you going to have a "good first kiss" when you have to worry that the kiss might ruin everything? Also, that's bullshit. Most first kisses are bad as how are they going to be good if you don't even know each other.
The MHC thing is negligible, if not completely BS. Wedekind, zhou, and other pheromone studies have failed to be consistently replicated, and are extremely artificial in nature. The density of pheromones in the cloves mixture (zhou) or in the tshirts (wedekind) is absurdly high compared to someone’s ambient scent when standing right next to them. And that’s assuming no extraneous factors like BO. Hint: the slightest presence of antiperspirant, deo, or bacteria eating sweat will immediately mask whatever pheromones are being excreted.
dude this channel is probably one of my favorites ever I remember when you have a couple thousand or whatever glad to see you got the recognition the channel deserved
How to get girls 101: Step 1: Be attractive Step 2: Be attractive Step 3: Be attractive Step 4: Be attractive Step 5: Be attractive Step 6: Be attractive Step 7: Be attractive Step 8: Be attractive Step 9: Be attractive Step 10: Be yourself
Steps -don't give them attention -see them often -make them think you don't like them -make them think you started liking them -make them do favors for you -have luck -have kissing skill
the first two sound paradoxical but just for clarification, don’t give them excessive attention outside of physically seeing them: don’t text them all day, don’t watch every single one of their stories, limit your non-sexual attention as much as possible.
i was surfing on the internet for my research work on streaming platforms the RUclips suggested me this channel and i found it is really an engaging channel with good quality of content in it, I appreciate the knowledge you are transferring to the public in such a humorous way. i am enjoying all your videos more than a comedy show or a serious science show, but its a combination of both. Thankyou for making such an amazing, entertaining and educational content sir.
I like how the video is presented in an informative but casual manner. Like a friend giving you advice. Videos with titles similar to this are usually presented in a manner like a sergeant briefing his soldiers before going to war lmao.
Only two rules to dating: 1) Be attractive 2) Don't be unattractive Simple as. Attraction is non-negotiable, so honestly every other strat is just minmaxing. When I like a girl & she likes me back there is minimal guesswork & everything just flows. That's why when a girl starts acting wishywashy, cattish, or hard-to-get I almost immediately start to lose interest. There's just no point pursuing a girl who won't make up her mind or wants to spin plates.
Confidence is a huge factor too. If you're afraid of talking to women or afraid of rejection, a good way to solve this problem is by practicing exposure to your fears. Go talk to random women in public (not in a creepy way, of course). Choose appropriate places to talk, and appropriate situations, for example, when you go to a party with a lot people you don't know, or a big event.
A good way to practice is to sometimes chat up retail associates or someone waiting on a line to get into a venue. This happens all the time in big cities. And who knows? That same person you chatted up may then decide to want to add you on Instagram or get your contact Edit: notice how I didn't mention anything romantic? The more natural you are, the more people will relax around you
Ok let me tell you something... it's the first time ever that, discovering a new channel from 0, I've gotten so involved. It's amazing how you put together such a well done channel in less than a month. Best of luck, you deserve all the success that will come.
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
I know for a fact that this video won't change a thing about my life but I gotta appreciate RUclips's sense of humor for recommending this to me, just after waking up from a dream about the girl I used to love
The only thing that is inaccurate is that at a party there are groups of guys surrounding a girl, if that is so these are likely her friends and to say hi and walk a way is a bit wierd. Say hi to her when shes relatively alone and u can have a conversation with her and let a friend yell out ur name so u have to go. NOOO pick up lines !!!!! But if u stared a conversation already and she dosent seem uncomfortable and happy to talk to u just talk to her like a normal human being would and ask her some questions about her that she feels comfortable answering. Ask for insta not her number girls are more comfortable giving guys her insta. Im from germany please excuse the mistakes. Dont follow her around all evening like i said find an excuse and go
"Like a normal human being" means nothing. Your boss, your mom and your friends are all human beings and you treat each in different ways. If you just focus on making her comfortable the fz is your fate and you deserve it. Insta can be gotten earlier than number but is way weaker as a lead. If you get her number it's to arrange a date and continue, if you get her insta you're just another follower to make number bigger and feed her ego. Look at naturals. See what they do and learn from them. Most people have some friends who are naturals. Go with them and don't cringe or get jealous, just learn. See how they tease the girl, joke around with her, act like the prize, ignore her tests, escalate...they do everything instinctively. Are you here to have polite conversations or to give women an attractive man that they'll actually want to have sex with? Women hate nice guys who think just doing the bare minimum will get them into their pants because they were so friendly and polite. You want something, actually build attraction.
This. is amazing! You just earned subscriber. I started with one of the video, now I am in depression that you have only 8 videos in total! This. is not acceptable...
Playing these dumb games is unfortunately how you have to go. What's your alternative? Because eventually if you do meet a woman you consider your perfect match, intelligent and all, chances are she's still likely playing the game and you'll be disqualified real quick. There isn't really a winning move where you 'break' the game, like make her aware of it and she realises "wow that game is silly, and you're so smart, I'll date you!" that aint gonna happen. Only guys get real nerdy over this shit and recognise it as a game anyway, and you keep that to yourself
1: scarcity principle 2: Gain loss theory 3: Proximity 4: Ben Franklin effect (favors) 5: Discord Mod effect (look good man!) 6: Luck(pheromones (MHC) + Kiss good)
about the first kiss, all you really need to do is keep your entire mouth clean, brush your tongue (especially the inner section), make sure your tonsils do not get in your way at all, if there's a tonsil stone, remove it at all cost before the date, wash your mouth with salt water and have some breath mints, smell is important (others can smell you 10 times more than you can smell yourself). Good luck gentlemen.
What about "the science of keeping a healthy relationship?" All these videos on breaking down the dating process are great for some, yet they mostly focus on the getting in process as though that's the bulk of the work and the rest of a relationship will just work itself out. It effectively turns the process into a game where the reward is that you "get" a girl and that somehow means you've won something. Yet hardly anyone thinks of what follows, and all the self work that needs to be done (on healing old wounds/bad communication patterns or taking on feedback without defensiveness or understanding personal responsibilities and negotiating to have everyone's needs met) to create a good relationship environment. I believe more men need lessons in how to be good partners than in how to succeed at initiating relationships while doing little work on themselves and their potential issues. But maybe that's material for another video.
I think that’s also very important, arguably more important, I just decided to make this video because I’ve noticed a lot of my classmates who are generally good and handsome dudes be completely petrified to initiate and sort of interaction with girls they like, i figured a lot of guys probably feel the same way and that there’d probably be an audience for a video concept that could help build a little confidence. I definitely get your point, and i plan on doing many more videos on human interaction and will definitely try to integrate stuff like that :)
This very much so. I agree with what you're saying. As a 32yr guy, I've seen it and lived it. It's horrible to see what happens to people when there isn't a mature understanding of how to be considerate, reciprocative, self-respecting and adaptable. You don't always get closure with relationships that wouldn't last either, but it would give so much awareness to both people in a relationship too if afterwards they could have a mature communication of what went wrong, what they liked and what they disliked about the relationship to better prepare both to not make the same mistakes in the next and see what they can improve themselves, not only for the next person but also for themselves. Not to mention it can build comradery rather than resentment between those who have been intimate with eachother.
Yes, it's important to pretend convincingly that those other things matter, too. Acting is an oft-forgotten part of the needed skills. Sometimes, if you are good enough, you may even fool yourself.
I'd also recommend simply doing what you love in a crowded place. I became a karaoke regular at my local pub and after a couple months I started pulling girls (usually the semi-regulars) because I was a familiar face who was friendly and start conversation with everyone. I wasn't asking for their numbers, I was just happy to talk to someone between songs and make them feel welcome. What I realise I was doing is that I WAS making myself scarce. I didn't persue girls overtly because I wasn't there for girls. I was there for the karaoke and a good time.
that sort f worked for me in the gym, the only problem is when i did ask someone out who clearly liked me i was rejected, so you still have to have the pick up skills to time it right avd to know how to ask properly ! or she will still say no every time
This is probably one of the best videos I've ever seen on this topic, and brought up a lot of things I have never seen anywhere else that make a lot of sense and seem pretty valid. Hugely underrated
I completely agree! It’s refreshing to see such unique insights that go beyond the typical advice. What do you think is the most valuable takeaway from this video that could really change someone’s approach?
I think the best take away here is to just try and make friends with women. First of all, the friend zone doesnt exist. Or atleast, not in the way people think it does. It is possible to become friends with a girl who isnt attracted to you. But that doesnt mean becoming friends with someone causes them to be unattracted to you. On the other hand, becoming friends has the benifits of both proximity and favours. (You will naturally ask favours from your friends). combine that with luck, pheremone compatibility, and generally taking care of yourself and you'll have a great relationship. And if it doesnt work, you have a good friend who can help you find someone else.
@tommygertcher2747 If I may, I think it depends on what kind of level of friendliness we're talking about. Just being nice is different from paying special attention to her. If you're only nice to her at first, it may make her jealous if she sees you suddenly being nice to other girls (if she has that kind of 'romantical' awareness around you). On the other hand, many girls love nothing more than receiving a special kind of attention from a male. To be precise, ask her about her feelings, opinions, and take her interests seriously. Note: There are some kinds of girls that are just not into nice guys, but those are mostly complicated ones. Please don't try to change your personality for these ones, I guarantee you, there are girls out there who will treasure you with all their heart for your kindness! Good luck ^^
@@tommygertcher2747 I've never seen that be the case. What people don't realize, is girls who aren't attracted to them after they were nice to them, wouldn't be attracted to matter how they were treated.
@@tommygertcher2747If you’re too friendly and appear fake about it, she’ll assume you just want to get inside of her. The million dollar question is how friendly is appropriate to the situation and any intel on a particular girl you may know anything about? 🤔😏🫠🤥😈
@Fourtune1 And why do you think that is? Precisely because people have more access to videos claiming to explain the "nature" of women or men, when socially we are so varied and complex. Instead of accepting that, we focus on supposed rigid rules that apply to all women, many of which are not inherently biological but are partly socially shaped. We end up distorting our own reality, and not for the better, which is why we're doing worse and worse in relationships and dating. We have a very misguided view of men and women because we’re constantly trying to rely on biology alone and believe we have to act in a certain way to get what we want. If you went out and discovered how different reality is from what’s often portrayed on the Internet, you’d realize that there are women who value things beyond superficial characteristics.
I love that luck was added here cause you could be doing everything right but still have bad outcomes and vice versa. But its still good to work on yourself regardless cause luck is also when preparation meets opportunity
@@AkiRa22084 yeah, in highschool a schooldoctor told me to eat more because I was "underweight". I was actually totally fine and didn't not end up listening to the stupid doctor.
@@maximilianvangrevenbroek They told me to not do a tonsillectomy, since it would "not be helpful and it causes wight gain", but I did it anyway. Smartest thing I ever did - improved my life tremendously. That and keto. So it's not normal to be healthy, it's hard today.
Great video Sir! I would like to mention a book that you haven't mentioned and its for Insecure Americans. Ebook is called CrushAnyGirl, so on its for finding a girlfriend as Insecure American. After reading, you will have a better perspective on girls and find your gf in thirty days guaranteed Highly recommended to read
@@godishere4 yeah it looks like an ad and this comment was only 2 days ago. so unless 6k people liked it in 2 days despite the video being somewhat old then something is wrong. Also this comment has so few replies under it as you mentioned
How to do This (Without Thinking About it) 1. Just groom yourself: learn how to dress, and skin care, workout 2. Be a Rarity: Have hobbies and focus on yourself, hangout with friends (women included) when you need a break 3. Talk to Women?: go to a club and frequent places that have a good ratio 4. Don't be a creep?: stop talking to women because you want to date them. Just be interested in who they are as a person and learn their story. People love you when you get them to talk about themself, so be interested. This means ASKING WHY AND NOT WHAT. This means, say you're at a party, "so you like x?" The answer will be a yes or no and the conversation ends. Make it open ended, instead say, "why do you like x?", "oh really?" "I think this about x and y, how do you feel about that?" Be curious. Get them to start monologuing, you may need to jump around a couple subjects, until you find one they just won't 5hut up about. In all, to not be creepy is to see women as another bro. Next time you see a girl just think, "that's my bro right there," and don't sexualize them. If they are beautiful, love that for them, and be a bro. You can enjoy their presence, learn to separate sex. (DOGS ARE CUTE, BUT YOU DON'T xxx DOGS). Bring that mentality. The more female friends you have the better, don't push the relationships, just be friends with everyone and enjoy their company and their story. 9/10 one of those friendships turn into something more. You have 1 female friend low chances, lets say you have 20+ good female friends, the odds are higher. It's not about your eyes on this one guys, that can be the ultimate decider, let the lovers of your life fall into your lap and choose you. The feeling of knowing that another person likes you and you both know it, but won't say it, is the best feeling ever. ------- Most importantly don't overthink it and be yourself, and if being yourself isn't working, it might be time to re-evaluate your life, like, is Fortnite and TikTok making me a better more interesting person, or a loser. Protip: when they vent, validate their emotions even if it's crazy, and say stuff that feeds their delusions. They just want to feel heard and appreciated, and don't want solutions. You are giving them support, so they can then turn around and solve their own problems.
i once was talking to this girl and it was like as soon as i told her what i really think about exitance and my metaphysical philosophy and shit she became colder to me almost as if i wasn't there friend anymore 😢 guys dont yap to much people in general don't want to hear the ins and outs of the typology of ontological groupings and elements within said ontological gropings aka the p(n) system (my metaphysical philosophy). they also don't want a full lecture on geometric algebra outa nowhere. i really think it was my views on how depression isn't real and she called me closed minded and wanted me to see it from her perspective. i am going to argue the infallible truth and there is no other that is justified. if an individual disagrees they are misguided and you can only pray for there enlightenment. another thing is is that i use super complex topics as general conversation and i have nothing to say to anyone otherwise. id rather talk about the human will and my own reason for existing than whatever frivioulus topic other than. there is no value doing anything other than cultivating the prowess of the mental field and if your conversation is some garbage that doesn't empower ones sellf you must stray away from that and nuture a true bond based upon intelligent discussion within another with your relationship.
I have always tried to develop a friendship naturally, and therefore increase proximity. The smell thing is really a letdown, we can do better than animals who rely on pheromones. I've never understood the culture of pretending to hate them at first, why is that effective?
"the most attractive feature is NOT genetic" - yeah please tell that to a 5'3'' balding guy with bad physiology thanks to genetics. Just because on average, not many of us will experience such a fate, it does NOT mean that genetics does not play a role
well clearly you don't have the right attitude either, which isn't doing you any favors. not saying you're wrong, just that you're only making it worse by giving your insecurities power.
Thank you for this, I'm so tired of all the incel ideology bs that's been thrown around in the self-help community about how men struggle with attracting women because of looks. It is definitely partially true that looks do matter, but I think a lot of men don't know that they're approaching dating wrong, and blame it on the beauty standards women have for men, instead of learning from their mistakes. This is one of the first videos I've seen that also really understands the problem with the approach of the "nice guy" archetype
Amazing video!! But also just wanted to point out that this video mostly tackles the topic of attraction, and from a very scientific materialist perspective. Which is great! But also remember that attraction and love are two differing things! You can get the girl to be attracted to you (which is the first step), but being in love and someone being in love with you is entirely another thing. Imo creating a life you enjoy living and working to connect authentically with those around you will just naturally lead to you attracting and finding someone you’ll fall in love with (and hopefully they’ll fall in love with you too). This way you will end up have a fulfilling life and also can introduce this special person into this life. I think a lot of value is placed on romantic relationships, but personally I think it’s important to remember that there are other things that are important too! Like being your authentic self, friends, family and cultivating a fulfilling life! And if getting into a romantic relationship means sacrificing any of those, I don’t think I’d be very happy in that relationship long term.
Although I agree to all you've said it's really not that simple (at least for some of us 😂) Based on experience I can say that just living your life is always a good thing to do but it won't help you find girls, it just makes it so that you're happy nonetheless 🤷♂️
An easy tip to get passed the MHC and pheromone smelling problem is by wearing excessive amounts of axe body spray, ever since I've started every girl I've seen has been too embarrassed to even talk (or look) at me!
no, looks do matter, but it isn't all, with this incel ideology, people think being 6'2 and looksmaxxing will get you women, it does help but you just need a good haircut, good hygene, and be confident (i never had a girl)
There’s this girl I really like at the university. She just broke up with her boyfriend because he was annoying. I like her since I was a freshman and now I’m a senior. I will try to create proximity now! Thank you for the tips, I really needed this.🙏❤️😊
Very well informed video I'll say. I will say one thing; I don't care if a woman is attracted to me or not at this point in my life. I'm a 30 year old autistic introvert who has never had a girlfriend ever in my life. Throughout my 20s I've tried so many wrong ways to get women but now in the last two years of my 20s and from now on I intend to live life how I see fit. Yes, I shower, exercise, and have my own hobbies, but none of that matters in attracting a woman in my life(mostly). I've remained single for so long that if I were seeing the same woman over again through my routine of work/life/hobby etc., if she one day were to come up to me and asked "I keep seeing you here I never know your name" or tries to get me to open up and obviously she's very nice and wants to know me(I mean she's interested) I'd just tell her off; "No." My heart longs for a long term relationship that will lead to marriage and offspring, since I was 13 in fact. I'm no longer playing any games woman play, nor do I want to show off any sort of "rizz" for me to stand out. I have none of that. I'm just myself and I always will be myself. If no woman wants me because I'm being myself I don't care. I believe that things happen when they least expect, however, I do have a suspicion that if the right woman were to stand before me I'd still turn her down. I now have plans in place to be single into my 80s if it comes to that. It may not be as fun or fulfilling without someone to share life with, but sill a life for me. Let me know your thoughts if you managed to read this far.
Im approaching your age and am in the same boat... no experience whatsoever. Do you at least have a good career that you enjoy? I think thats what I need most
It sucks. But it isn't like the old times. Now women are attracted to chads, no matter what they say. If you aren't one, you have the same lifestory as this guy. I've been with a woman as a friend since childhood. Going to the same college and seeing how much life was different for her and me in dating was the day I learnt some hard truths. Both of us were average and not much talkative, yet somehow she changed 2 boyfriends over the course of our degree and I don't even have a girlfriend. It was just by default difficult for someone like me and now videos are filled with explaining me that not getting a girl is not anything but on me. Somehow I am to blamed for my failures when I tried during my college years. Maybe if I was born with a better(extroverted) personality and was taller and better looking. I now know I am not what women are looking for in a boyfriend. And knowing their preferences may change when they start looking for a husband and I may stand a chance then fills me with nothing but feeling as a failure in terms of evolution.
Back in my parents day it was literally just saying hi and you wanna get something to eat. Now there’s a whole science and playing 4D chess and pursue then pull away just to maybe get her number 💀
Because there is an illusion of choice. People believe because they can send a message to Chad and Stacey on dating apps then they are worthy of more than their own status. People would rather be lonely and hoping for the impossible than settle for a mediocre reality.
Not the only thing that matters, being handsome but having no game and being akward and wierd wont do shit. If you are mid/bad looking and have good game you have more chances
5:30 How will this help me correct my facial asymmetry, short stature, baldness, crooked teeth, bug eyes, lazy eye, protruding ears, eyebrows that don't seem to exist, bulbous nose, recessive jaw, and finally negative canthal tilt?
@@gatoloco3949 Why cry about your appearence when you can just make the best out of it? And even if you have a hard time connecting with girls, just pursue your personal goals. Finding a relationship comes along the way.
6:15 As a university student and researcher in biological sciences, I find it crucial to highlight that, despite the long-standing theoretical existence of human pheromones, no concrete identification of them has been made in research to date. This is a significant area of study that often gets misrepresented, and it's important to keep this in mind when discussing the topic. I liked seeing mention of the importance of the olfactory recognition of markers for genetically dissimilar haplotypes at the Major Histocompatibility Complex (MHC), which has been proven to play a significant role in relative measures of attractiveness, though. You really did your homework!
Mf first explained bluetooth and now he is fixing my life goddamn
Me too 😂
Gad damn right.
Same jajaj
i'm here for it
fr
At this point learning quantum physics is easier than doing all this for a girl
knowing quantum is actually very affective too
Doing everything but simping for women's attention is better.
What is photon
😂😂😂
Big facts😂 be yourself
It’s surprising how people are only scratching the surface and don’t take the time to read Flirtosphere Seduction. Go out of the rabbit hole guys
i misclicked i swear
CAPPPPP
😂 Me too bro , i also misswatched the whole video
@@MiloDuchmy phone fell down and tied me to my bed to watch this stupid video, i swear
I didnt misclick, but i wont be using anything he said, i just like knowing some of the facts he uses in his videos
Let's just ignore that
The only advice you'll ever need: Don't overthink it and don't give too many fucks. Try to live a good life for yourself, and if you're confident about it, one day, someone might want you to share it (even if not, then you still had a good life for yourself).
It's not the man's responsibility to manipulate every aspect of a situation only to "get" a girl. If she wants you and you want her, you'll find a way as long as you're both honest about it.
Edit: I know myself that confidence doesn't grow on trees, and so doesn't the ability to express your emotions about someone (especially if it's attraction). I know from my own experience that if you don't feel comfortable about being attracted to someone, it might be uncomfortable for both of you, turning the other person off. So my point is, try to make the situation comfortable _for_ _yourself_ . If anxieties get in your way, seek for a therapy. I wasted too many years trying to optimise the way women would feel about me, but only when I stopped caring about that and started feeling comfortable with myself (after some years of therapy), I found my girlfriend and we hooked up.
completely agree with. Just working on ourselves will suffice.
Someone isn’t the brightest bulb. It’s called just be tall and good looking. Not your bluepill cope
THISS!!!
@@thethe2279as a 5’7, i completely disagree. I can attract a lot, just gotta be confident and good looking. Being tall is just a +, not a must, and anyways girls that take it as a must genuinely turn me OFF
@@thethe2279man... I don't know about you but I've seen some people that are physically 5/10 that have managed to pull 7+/10. Mind you, most of the ones I've seen are middle class. Let's say the relationship won't last long, but in the end, who tasted her? Definitely not you.
But all that doesn't matter. If you have time to focus on these trivial things, then you're likely living an easy life.
Me: "hi✋😃" then walks away
Girl: "ok wtf"
assuming you know them already.
Nah,he say hi to strangers girls then walk away@@adampauling82
Have you tried being taller?
@@yeetboi268😂
Yeah I’ve never understood this tip lol
The fact that nobody talks about forbidden books on Revandles is so crazy
Zero comment, lol
I checked this site because of this comment and bought a book, so far it's great thank you very much, I hope I will overcome my fear of women
This website was a great find! I purchased a book that’s already making a positive impact on my mindset. Fingers crossed it helps me overcome my fear of approaching women.
I think this is a bot
@@ianntmy I am not bot just want to help people what I find for my self
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Flirtosphere Seduction on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
It’s interesting you mentioned that; sometimes the most thought-provoking ideas remain in the shadows, either because they’re too controversial or overlooked. What about Flirtosphere Seduction stood out to you the most? Do you think its principles align with or challenge what this video is discussing?
@@TheStoicBeacon-TGG are you a bot?
1. You are something to be pursued or lost forever(mindset)
2.Proximity
3.Ask for favors
4.Looksmax
5.Luck
6.Scent
observe pupils, that's the most important part xD
you forgot gain loss theory. Let her win u over
Over for sub8 jfl. Just be chad honestly is the point of this video.
looksmax 😭😭
@@alanxo1759why laugh?
"it has nothing to do with genetics"
"now onto part 6. believe it or not it almost always comes down to genetics"
lmao
Normie gaslighting moment
But le vvomen aren't superficial broooo just get 500 showers and a hair cut brooo
He means it doesn't have to do with genetic trait which is visible
It does though. It's not everything but it's not nothing.@@ericxue3244
step 1 : say hi
THIS content is really innovative, no flashy editting just pure knowledge and entertainment
We need more of this, learning not just entertainment
it's what PUA used to preach for 2 decades before incels ruined them. Now that incel lingo (lookmaxing, mewing) has become mainstream this basic PUA content that was considered manipulative and unethical is surfacing back. Btw it's all BS
its what YT used to be 10-12 years ago
@@josephmueller3752 they didn’t ruin them, puas got banned and shadow banned and blackpill and redpill filled the vacuum
Innovative? Bro, this is pick up artist 101. It's very good, but so obvious for a PUA. Social media censured this information in the last years
If you're attractive, it's flirting. If you're ugly, it's harrassment.
Fr
Ong
Pretty sure it's all harassment unless she's given you indications she wants to be flirted with.
complain complain
As a girl, if you do it correctly and are ugly we don't care we go low
bro took overthinking it to a whole other level
its so over
Nah he knows. And broke it down to you. To some it comes naturally so they don't have to break things down empirically and understand why. But for many it's needed to understand. I've gotten more girls in my life especially my 30s than I can count or ever remember without being that attractive or very tall nor was I super popular. But I always kept my level and standards to a tee, never let myself down and was insanely strong mentally. Always stuck to my ways. I agree with almost every single point in this video coz I thought about it and my life. It really does come down to those few things. Of course money helps increase the sample size but even then there are plenty of losers with money who can't get any and have to rely on paid services. So to be with someone happily there are two ways. Either get lucky and live happily ever after while staying blissfully ignorant OR understand this world and yourself first. What you want, who you are and what's needed for your long term happiness. Each person differs during this assessment but once they understand themselves they'll know what they want. After that they need to understand what girls wants and is drawn to. Each girl is also different with their wants so find someone who wants those similar things and of course understand their partners inner workings as well. There's many layers to life. It's not something I can summarize like that. I don't know about your life so I can't comment on that but I'm glad this video may help a lot of dudes out there suffering who probably needed a hint or a direction to walk towards instead of giving up on themselves and life. I've seen too many cases
@@Greatgoku4 Thats kinda rare but reading your thoughts/opinion made me think about stuff and helped me motivating myself to try out different things for example getting out of comfort zone. I must say thanks to you!
@@tucky3580 cheers brother
@@tucky3580 cheers brother
I once disassembled and reassembled the entire engine bay of an abandoned car and had it run smoothly afterwards only with common sense, Reddit discussions, and RUclips videos and I guarantee that was far easier than this.
My dad was an ugly, annoying, shy dork. He got a higher education with a well paid respected job. Girls were throwing themselves at him. My dad is still this guy today, he never had to try, they came to him.
@@cattysplat Must be nice
@@cattysplathow can someone be annoying and shy
@@azaanhussain1724by being awkwars my guy
Yep, very good amature chess pplayer here, can confirm for me that beating some profesional masters at chess is much MUCH easier than getting a date, and i have evry advantage in the book, im very good looking and still cant get even a date !
Got it, stalk her, but take a shower first and look confident while doing it
Exactly
be nonchalant and mysterious too thats mandatory!
every indian man's misconception ever
officer this one right here
officer: dont forget to put 200 dollar clognes
Correct
If we're watching this, it js means that we're cooked
someday man someday
@@jvogessomeday 😢
cooked as in cooked on a stove?
you have already lost if you are watching it, just give up
@@player_566-1 NEVER BACK DOWN NEVER WHAT
Limiting your attention to a women is amazing advice and also reward a woman’s compliance (when she actually has to move to do something to or for you)
Damn I hope this could work with guys too
I agree that focusing your attention is key, but I think it’s also important to approach relationships with mutual respect and understanding. Rewarding someone’s effort is great, but what do you think about the balance between giving and receiving in relationships? How do you ensure both sides feel valued and respected?
I genuinely think the important part of this process is just being happy and content with yourself. nothing is more pleasant to anyone than a person who is happy, easygoing, and fun to be around. doing this weird bullshit of trying to manipulate the situation to make someone more attracted to you just makes you a pickup artist. you're not going to 'get a girl', you're gonna make yourself nervous and anxious with trying to follow all the steps. just be happy and things will work out.
Noo but i can confirm this actually works. I've followed these steps and it worked. While i agree with u on the points u made but no if u r very clear in mind what u have to follow u can actually breakthrough the nervousness which is what we call confidence
Cope
This stuff works I’ve done all the stuff in this video (not on purpose), and I ended up getting the girl even though all the other guys in the group were the ones chasing. Girls want a guy that’s somewhat “unattainable”, you need to put yourself in her reach but not so easily so it’ll pique her curiosity and attraction. For my situation I was just so focused on my business and career that even though I thought she was cute I just didn’t prioritize her.
No its not you can only hold a facàde for so long before they catch your bullshit @Nihilist_Waltz
This is true being comfortable in your own skin will make you express yourself more easily and will make not only getting a girlfriend but approaching anyone very straightforward and easy.
Lesson 5: looksmaxx now.
@theorb519 Priority number 2: Realize you dont have perfect genes and surgerymaxx
Tip 4: Edge in class EVERY day.
Brooo whatt?
@@NutsDerk1
You should do it for yourself, but it won't make nearly as much difference with girls as you think it will.
5 years too late nephew
you know its bad when you end up here
Fr
Im just tryna watch bro😭
Real
It's def the other way around.
This shit is better than anything any so called "dating coach/expert" has ever put out.
Just look good bro
BODY GAME
And natural masculinity.
@@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226 nö
@@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226heightfidence and faceonality
@@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226 what's natural masculinity? Besides “just be a leader bro” “just take decisions bro”
so
1. be friendly say hi when you pass by (try to increase proximity; better if u dont be creepy + next step)
2. present yourself as someone who takes care of themselves (posture, hair, clothing, skincare, looksmaxxing in general)
3. do favors for her and ask them for favors (also gives you chances to interact)
- post dating
4. good first kiss (practice kissing on your closest bros, its not gay i swear)
instructions unclear, in a love triangle with the bro now
@@JDub3799At least you found your passion!
brainrot
Now being serious. You can practice kissing with your hand. Put It like a fist, and then do that.
5. Stop playing Roblox and finish public school
If you're watching this, it's too late
It never began...
@@prakhargupta3949it never began with that name
You are assuming that we ever had the chance
no way it's drake
Dont have to do me like that
We’re so cooked
Brother put the phone down and talk to girls (I don’t)
bro as a lesbian i'm not sure half of these will work but I'm gonna try anyways
Omg no way you too? I sure fricking hope I learn something here
The way your incorporating actual psychological evidence from experiments done in each of your points is so original and makes the video so much better. Please upload more psychology videos like this where you go in depth into the why and how. I love these types of videos. and your editing is onpoint!!
they date up by default. read the unplugged alpha by richard cooper
They aren't tho, lol. They are citing single studies without any context or lit review, which is useless and unscientific. Additionally, the studies they are citing are out of date and all of their claim aren't supported by a big part of the literature. For example, we don't know if there are any sexual pheromones in humans.
yeah most psychology is BS. but brain scans show each gender is different + hardwired behaviour @@spacecooqie6873
I dont just wanna get girls. Exspecially not through psychological manipulation and playing games.
All I want is to find a good partner with just being myself.
Is that possible?
why yes, it is.
if you need "game" and tricking women into liking you it's already over. None of the people in relationships did this cringe, it all happens naturally. If it doesn't happen to you then be luckier in the looks department next time.
Beta
@@FloppaTheBasedin next life😂😂😂
Find your purpose in life. However, your purpose shouldn’t be simping for women. Thus, when you find your purpose you are dialed in. So, whether women like you or not you are happy since your purpose gives you meaning in life.
Don't worry guys. I've just looked into MHC molecules and apparently, a man with dissimilar MHC molecules just smells nicer to women, that's it. And that nicer smell might help with attraction. However, a less nice smell is not going to stop a woman from being attracted to you. Worrying about such things and being in your head instead of being present will make you less attractive.
I think especially the kissing thing at the end of the vid will make you less attractive. How are you going to have a "good first kiss" when you have to worry that the kiss might ruin everything?
Also, that's bullshit. Most first kisses are bad as how are they going to be good if you don't even know each other.
The MHC thing is negligible, if not completely BS. Wedekind, zhou, and other pheromone studies have failed to be consistently replicated, and are extremely artificial in nature. The density of pheromones in the cloves mixture (zhou) or in the tshirts (wedekind) is absurdly high compared to someone’s ambient scent when standing right next to them. And that’s assuming no extraneous factors like BO.
Hint: the slightest presence of antiperspirant, deo, or bacteria eating sweat will immediately mask whatever pheromones are being excreted.
MHC ? Use a good perfume, works great. !
@@aheendwhz1holy cope chad instatly melts any girl away when he kisses them
they date up by default. read the unplugged alpha by richard cooper
dude this channel is probably one of my favorites ever I remember when you have a couple thousand or whatever glad to see you got the recognition the channel deserved
How to get girls 101:
Step 1: Be attractive
Step 2: Be attractive
Step 3: Be attractive
Step 4: Be attractive
Step 5: Be attractive
Step 6: Be attractive
Step 7: Be attractive
Step 8: Be attractive
Step 9: Be attractive
Step 10: Be yourself
you missed about half of the video mate
I want a man who looks like 90s Tom Cruise. 😂
Step 1: buy white van
Step 2:
@@richardparsley2538 naaaaaahhhhh we getting crazy with this one
Blackpilled.
The proximity is the hardest when you’re out of college ..
This is like school. Learning something youll never use
You know your cooked if you didn’t even search this up.
Never to late to love.
Steps
-don't give them attention
-see them often
-make them think you don't like them
-make them think you started liking them
-make them do favors for you
-have luck
-have kissing skill
the first two sound paradoxical but just for clarification, don’t give them excessive attention outside of physically seeing them: don’t text them all day, don’t watch every single one of their stories, limit your non-sexual attention as much as possible.
These only work if you’re physically attractive
Steps
-Be tall and handsome
-Be not severly mentally ill
-be tall
-have attractive facial features
@@FloppaTheBased I’m tall but I ain’t got the attractive facial features
pro tip: be attractive
Or get plastic surgery lol
@@AssassinIronMan that I will do i.e septoplasty
I have very deviated nasal passage(if you know you know )
@@_Devansh.Dixit_ I don’t know 💪🗿
@@AssassinIronMan then use chrome to get it known rather then using it for something else 🗿
@@_Devansh.Dixit_ I’m better off not caring 😎
this is the one video that is guaranteed to have 100% retention
i was surfing on the internet for my research work on streaming platforms the RUclips suggested me this channel and i found it is really an engaging channel with good quality of content in it, I appreciate the knowledge you are transferring to the public in such a humorous way. i am enjoying all your videos more than a comedy show or a serious science show, but its a combination of both. Thankyou for making such an amazing, entertaining and educational content sir.
while youre here, dont take everything here with such fact. its mostly entertainment
I like how the video is presented in an informative but casual manner. Like a friend giving you advice. Videos with titles similar to this are usually presented in a manner like a sergeant briefing his soldiers before going to war lmao.
Only two rules to dating:
1) Be attractive
2) Don't be unattractive
Simple as. Attraction is non-negotiable, so honestly every other strat is just minmaxing. When I like a girl & she likes me back there is minimal guesswork & everything just flows. That's why when a girl starts acting wishywashy, cattish, or hard-to-get I almost immediately start to lose interest. There's just no point pursuing a girl who won't make up her mind or wants to spin plates.
skipped this badly friend
5:26
@@exuvie1 That one is BS. And weight is partially genetic and just confirms bustavonnutz's point.
@@AkiRa22084 So of all the things he said in that section all you retained from it is the "weight" part?
@@ShiroganeABA No, you misunderstand. All of the section is BS, but the weight one is not true even by his own standards.
True. Bad personalities become amplified and good if your attractive, and good personalities become amplified and bad if your ugly.
Is it patched yet?
next update
They’re bundling the patch with Half-Life 3.
Not yet, but it does have a high skill ceiling.
@@necronicles Not getting girls was a skill issue at the start....i hate these devs
They nerfed it many many times but if you are skilled you can still make it work
So genetics don't matter but also matter the most? Good video dude.
you didn't listen very well did you?
@@thepastarat He still described genetic traits but just worded them as if they aren't lol.
Confidence is a huge factor too. If you're afraid of talking to women or afraid of rejection, a good way to solve this problem is by practicing exposure to your fears. Go talk to random women in public (not in a creepy way, of course). Choose appropriate places to talk, and appropriate situations, for example, when you go to a party with a lot people you don't know, or a big event.
lmao "Just be confident, bro!!!!'
no confidence for a recessed face
“Choose appropriate places and situations”.
Knowing which are appropriate is the issue.
A good way to practice is to sometimes chat up retail associates or someone waiting on a line to get into a venue. This happens all the time in big cities.
And who knows? That same person you chatted up may then decide to want to add you on Instagram or get your contact
Edit: notice how I didn't mention anything romantic? The more natural you are, the more people will relax around you
@@dylanm3181 you watch too many movies, son.
Ok let me tell you something... it's the first time ever that, discovering a new channel from 0, I've gotten so involved. It's amazing how you put together such a well done channel in less than a month. Best of luck, you deserve all the success that will come.
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
*I've red-flagged this video as BS designed to trick gullible people - as 30 seconds in, the video-poster lies about the reason nice guys finish last - the majority of women don't reject nice men and flock to abusive men that will knock their teeth out and/or kill them "because they make themselves more available" - that's BS and I am calling on all who read this to be cautioned that this video is a gaslighting attempt to trick you from knowing the real reason most women choose men the way they do.*
Now all I hear is "nice guys finish last" by green day in my head
Real
Don't chase the butterflies instead build a beautiful garden. They will come to you themself.
Underrated comment! So truthful.
how the fuck do I build a garden.
@@Never_GamePlayZ garden = wealth
@macdonald2kI know you are joking(at least hope so), but I want you to know I had a great laugh. Thank you!
Exactly, forget the video. Be a high value person, wiser, intelligent
I know for a fact that this video won't change a thing about my life but I gotta appreciate RUclips's sense of humor for recommending this to me, just after waking up from a dream about the girl I used to love
The only thing that is inaccurate is that at a party there are groups of guys surrounding a girl, if that is so these are likely her friends and to say hi and walk a way is a bit wierd. Say hi to her when shes relatively alone and u can have a conversation with her and let a friend yell out ur name so u have to go. NOOO pick up lines !!!!! But if u stared a conversation already and she dosent seem uncomfortable and happy to talk to u just talk to her like a normal human being would and ask her some questions about her that she feels comfortable answering. Ask for insta not her number girls are more comfortable giving guys her insta. Im from germany please excuse the mistakes. Dont follow her around all evening like i said find an excuse and go
This is amazing advice
Really solid respectable advice. Thank you, friend.
"Like a normal human being" means nothing. Your boss, your mom and your friends are all human beings and you treat each in different ways. If you just focus on making her comfortable the fz is your fate and you deserve it. Insta can be gotten earlier than number but is way weaker as a lead. If you get her number it's to arrange a date and continue, if you get her insta you're just another follower to make number bigger and feed her ego.
Look at naturals. See what they do and learn from them. Most people have some friends who are naturals. Go with them and don't cringe or get jealous, just learn. See how they tease the girl, joke around with her, act like the prize, ignore her tests, escalate...they do everything instinctively.
Are you here to have polite conversations or to give women an attractive man that they'll actually want to have sex with? Women hate nice guys who think just doing the bare minimum will get them into their pants because they were so friendly and polite. You want something, actually build attraction.
ruclips.net/video/Vh0hj9ZD9FY/видео.htmlsi=cwwc6iXY1eTClvl3
I disagree on insta, most people arnt active or care.
This deserves way more attention excellent job
This. is amazing!
You just earned subscriber. I started with one of the video, now I am in depression that you have only 8 videos in total!
This. is not acceptable...
Dating is just a game, isn't it? I'm not playing.
Playing these dumb games is unfortunately how you have to go. What's your alternative? Because eventually if you do meet a woman you consider your perfect match, intelligent and all, chances are she's still likely playing the game and you'll be disqualified real quick.
There isn't really a winning move where you 'break' the game, like make her aware of it and she realises "wow that game is silly, and you're so smart, I'll date you!" that aint gonna happen.
Only guys get real nerdy over this shit and recognise it as a game anyway, and you keep that to yourself
@@Blurro If you think this is bad, women having even more insane rationalisations to what they do.
@@Blurro The only winning move here is to simply wait a decade or two for AI/Robotics to get good enough and then just buy a robot GF
@@bro918 Exactly + curing aging for playing longer and more choices in life.
@@BlurroIt aint worth it. Relationships, Sex are way too overrated. I am glad to be single than to play all these shitty games.
1: scarcity principle
2: Gain loss theory
3: Proximity
4: Ben Franklin effect (favors)
5: Discord Mod effect (look good man!)
6: Luck(pheromones (MHC) + Kiss good)
Ty for summary.
7. Be tall
@@bro918 factss
people in our generation will do anything but actually go outside and just talk to women
@@kelechi_77cuz it’s deemed creepy
about the first kiss, all you really need to do is keep your entire mouth clean, brush your tongue (especially the inner section), make sure your tonsils do not get in your way at all, if there's a tonsil stone, remove it at all cost before the date, wash your mouth with salt water and have some breath mints, smell is important (others can smell you 10 times more than you can smell yourself). Good luck gentlemen.
I can confirm with personal experience that the majority of this video is 100% accurate!
just be tall and handsome bro
60% of the time, it works every time.
@@justingibson1150 DAMMIT! You beat me to it. First thing that popped in my head when I read this comment. 👊🏽
@@FloppaTheBased it began for confidenttheorymaxingcels
What about "the science of keeping a healthy relationship?" All these videos on breaking down the dating process are great for some, yet they mostly focus on the getting in process as though that's the bulk of the work and the rest of a relationship will just work itself out. It effectively turns the process into a game where the reward is that you "get" a girl and that somehow means you've won something. Yet hardly anyone thinks of what follows, and all the self work that needs to be done (on healing old wounds/bad communication patterns or taking on feedback without defensiveness or understanding personal responsibilities and negotiating to have everyone's needs met) to create a good relationship environment.
I believe more men need lessons in how to be good partners than in how to succeed at initiating relationships while doing little work on themselves and their potential issues. But maybe that's material for another video.
I think that’s also very important, arguably more important, I just decided to make this video because I’ve noticed a lot of my classmates who are generally good and handsome dudes be completely petrified to initiate and sort of interaction with girls they like, i figured a lot of guys probably feel the same way and that there’d probably be an audience for a video concept that could help build a little confidence. I definitely get your point, and i plan on doing many more videos on human interaction and will definitely try to integrate stuff like that :)
exactly
This very much so. I agree with what you're saying.
As a 32yr guy, I've seen it and lived it. It's horrible to see what happens to people when there isn't a mature understanding of how to be considerate, reciprocative, self-respecting and adaptable. You don't always get closure with relationships that wouldn't last either, but it would give so much awareness to both people in a relationship too if afterwards they could have a mature communication of what went wrong, what they liked and what they disliked about the relationship to better prepare both to not make the same mistakes in the next and see what they can improve themselves, not only for the next person but also for themselves.
Not to mention it can build comradery rather than resentment between those who have been intimate with eachother.
Yes, it's important to pretend convincingly that those other things matter, too. Acting is an oft-forgotten part of the needed skills. Sometimes, if you are good enough, you may even fool yourself.
# 1 is simple its just focus on to talk less and in deep voice when u do but idk
You are promoting some good healthy understanding, my friend. Keep up the good work.
this is delusion
I've watched almost all your videos, I love your humor and way of explaining things! But this is just... Chef's kiss.
I like this channel, it always proves its claims with studies and evidence and the videos don't bore me, it's actually entertaining to watch.
The presentation of the video was very good. I liked the words and images you used.
I'd also recommend simply doing what you love in a crowded place. I became a karaoke regular at my local pub and after a couple months I started pulling girls (usually the semi-regulars) because I was a familiar face who was friendly and start conversation with everyone. I wasn't asking for their numbers, I was just happy to talk to someone between songs and make them feel welcome.
What I realise I was doing is that I WAS making myself scarce. I didn't persue girls overtly because I wasn't there for girls. I was there for the karaoke and a good time.
My experience is similar. Do what you love in a social environment where you are at ease and confident. You become attractive instantly.
that sort f worked for me in the gym, the only problem is when i did ask someone out who clearly liked me i was rejected, so you still have to have the pick up skills to time it right avd to know how to ask properly ! or she will still say no every time
Advice unclear, I was arrested for indecent exposure.
@@mcpartridgeboy Don't let 1 rejection convince you it won't work.
How to get girls:
1. Be attractive
2. Be rich
3. Don't be unattractive or poor
Bud, with that mindset. You will not get girls, trust me.
This is probably one of the best videos I've ever seen on this topic, and brought up a lot of things I have never seen anywhere else that make a lot of sense and seem pretty valid. Hugely underrated
I completely agree! It’s refreshing to see such unique insights that go beyond the typical advice. What do you think is the most valuable takeaway from this video that could really change someone’s approach?
1. Have good genes. Height is most important.
2. Be Rich.
3. Be fake and mean.
Pretty much, although you can simplify it into one step
1. Choose good parents
God, not it doesn’t none of those are not what is needed to get a partner?
☝️🤣🤣Step one: Don’t be unattractive
beauty video mate, was shocked at sub count when I saw ur dreaming video, keep it up and don’t listen to the people fretting over a spelling mistake
Thanks :)
You’ve outdone yourself with this one impressive stuff
I think the best take away here is to just try and make friends with women.
First of all, the friend zone doesnt exist. Or atleast, not in the way people think it does. It is possible to become friends with a girl who isnt attracted to you. But that doesnt mean becoming friends with someone causes them to be unattracted to you.
On the other hand, becoming friends has the benifits of both proximity and favours. (You will naturally ask favours from your friends).
combine that with luck, pheremone compatibility, and generally taking care of yourself and you'll have a great relationship. And if it doesnt work, you have a good friend who can help you find someone else.
Female confirmation: received👍👍
So you're saying girls aren't less attracted guys because they're too friendly?
@tommygertcher2747 If I may, I think it depends on what kind of level of friendliness we're talking about. Just being nice is different from paying special attention to her. If you're only nice to her at first, it may make her jealous if she sees you suddenly being nice to other girls (if she has that kind of 'romantical' awareness around you). On the other hand, many girls love nothing more than receiving a special kind of attention from a male. To be precise, ask her about her feelings, opinions, and take her interests seriously.
Note: There are some kinds of girls that are just not into nice guys, but those are mostly complicated ones. Please don't try to change your personality for these ones, I guarantee you, there are girls out there who will treasure you with all their heart for your kindness!
Good luck ^^
@@tommygertcher2747 I've never seen that be the case.
What people don't realize, is girls who aren't attracted to them after they were nice to them, wouldn't be attracted to matter how they were treated.
@@tommygertcher2747If you’re too friendly and appear fake about it, she’ll assume you just want to get inside of her.
The million dollar question is how friendly is appropriate to the situation and any intel on a particular girl you may know anything about? 🤔😏🫠🤥😈
very great video. taking away the over-seriousness and making the format funnier really helps you enjoy more the learning process
Bullshit the most attractive feature are genetics, height and face
This. It’s not complicated. This video would’ve been useful in the 90s and before but not after.
@Fourtune1 And why do you think that is? Precisely because people have more access to videos claiming to explain the "nature" of women or men, when socially we are so varied and complex. Instead of accepting that, we focus on supposed rigid rules that apply to all women, many of which are not inherently biological but are partly socially shaped. We end up distorting our own reality, and not for the better, which is why we're doing worse and worse in relationships and dating. We have a very misguided view of men and women because we’re constantly trying to rely on biology alone and believe we have to act in a certain way to get what we want. If you went out and discovered how different reality is from what’s often portrayed on the Internet, you’d realize that there are women who value things beyond superficial characteristics.
you forgot inteligence aka brains
i don't know what i will do in my life without a girl 23 years of loneliness is so traumatic enough
same bro
The videos are great bro your gonna be big for sure, keep working hard (:
Thanks :)
“Just be a nice guy” this whole video
men need to take the blackpill already, the delusion is insane these days. Its all about looks.
I love that luck was added here cause you could be doing everything right but still have bad outcomes and vice versa. But its still good to work on yourself regardless cause luck is also when preparation meets opportunity
Your research is next-level appreciate the effort
bro your videos are so entertaining I won't be surprised if you hit it big soon
Thanks dog 🤞
@@this.science i fuckin knew it was gonna happen never doubted it
@@yesnt9523 😂bro is a true og
The discord mod effect. AHAHAHA I was laughting my ass off. Being clean, healthy and working out should be a normal thing for everyone.
great video!
Not when doctors are lying to you.
@@AkiRa22084 yeah, in highschool a schooldoctor told me to eat more because I was "underweight". I was actually totally fine and didn't not end up listening to the stupid doctor.
@@maximilianvangrevenbroek They told me to not do a tonsillectomy, since it would "not be helpful and it causes wight gain", but I did it anyway. Smartest thing I ever did - improved my life tremendously.
That and keto.
So it's not normal to be healthy, it's hard today.
I'm not scared of aproaching (maybe a little) but later down the line when they realize that I'm depressed and low on energy with no goals in life..
Then don’t focus on partners brother, focus on finding that spark there is to life again
Bro focus on yourself before you focus on others
Loved how detailed and informative this was thank you
0:52 I wonder if the guy in the picture is watching this video thinking: "do I really look like an average jerk???"
I paused at 0:01, takes a long breath and...you know.
Damn so real.
Great video Sir! I would like to mention a book that you haven't mentioned and its for Insecure Americans. Ebook is called CrushAnyGirl, so on its for finding a girlfriend as Insecure American. After reading, you will have a better perspective on girls and find your gf in thirty days guaranteed
Highly recommended to read
😂😂 why does this have no comments
This has 6k likes so it must be credible. 30 days is pretty fast
@@LoganBai-gv5ys probably bot bro
@@godishere4 yeah it looks like an ad and this comment was only 2 days ago. so unless 6k people liked it in 2 days despite the video being somewhat old then something is wrong. Also this comment has so few replies under it as you mentioned
Bot nice try
Straight to the point no BS realistic advice given here bro. Thanks for making this content, Instant new sub !
Wow this content keeps raising the bar every time
Man, i just discovered your channel, this video is a gem. I laughed so much, and the content is really high quality.
Subscribed, keep 'em coming!
How to do This (Without Thinking About it)
1. Just groom yourself: learn how to dress, and skin care, workout
2. Be a Rarity: Have hobbies and focus on yourself, hangout with friends (women included) when you need a break
3. Talk to Women?: go to a club and frequent places that have a good ratio
4. Don't be a creep?: stop talking to women because you want to date them. Just be interested in who they are as a person and learn their story. People love you when you get them to talk about themself, so be interested. This means ASKING WHY AND NOT WHAT.
This means, say you're at a party, "so you like x?" The answer will be a yes or no and the conversation ends. Make it open ended, instead say, "why do you like x?", "oh really?" "I think this about x and y, how do you feel about that?" Be curious. Get them to start monologuing, you may need to jump around a couple subjects, until you find one they just won't 5hut up about.
In all, to not be creepy is to see women as another bro. Next time you see a girl just think, "that's my bro right there," and don't sexualize them. If they are beautiful, love that for them, and be a bro. You can enjoy their presence, learn to separate sex. (DOGS ARE CUTE, BUT YOU DON'T xxx DOGS). Bring that mentality.
The more female friends you have the better, don't push the relationships, just be friends with everyone and enjoy their company and their story. 9/10 one of those friendships turn into something more. You have 1 female friend low chances, lets say you have 20+ good female friends, the odds are higher.
It's not about your eyes on this one guys, that can be the ultimate decider, let the lovers of your life fall into your lap and choose you. The feeling of knowing that another person likes you and you both know it, but won't say it, is the best feeling ever.
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Most importantly don't overthink it and be yourself, and if being yourself isn't working, it might be time to re-evaluate your life, like, is Fortnite and TikTok making me a better more interesting person, or a loser.
Protip: when they vent, validate their emotions even if it's crazy, and say stuff that feeds their delusions. They just want to feel heard and appreciated, and don't want solutions. You are giving them support, so they can then turn around and solve their own problems.
Well said man , this is how it's supposed to go normally
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Lol, my loser friend started playing PUBG in 2020 and in 2 years he had more than 20 numbers !
Perfect guide be in the friendzone forever. Being friends with girls has almost no benefits as a grown man.
i once was talking to this girl and it was like as soon as i told her what i really think about exitance and my metaphysical philosophy and shit she became colder to me almost as if i wasn't there friend anymore 😢
guys dont yap to much people in general don't want to hear the ins and outs of the typology of ontological groupings and elements within said ontological gropings aka the p(n) system (my metaphysical philosophy). they also don't want a full lecture on geometric algebra outa nowhere.
i really think it was my views on how depression isn't real and she called me closed minded and wanted me to see it from her perspective. i am going to argue the infallible truth and there is no other that is justified. if an individual disagrees they are misguided and you can only pray for there enlightenment.
another thing is is that i use super complex topics as general conversation and i have nothing to say to anyone otherwise. id rather talk about the human will and my own reason for existing than whatever frivioulus topic other than. there is no value doing anything other than cultivating the prowess of the mental field and if your conversation is some garbage that doesn't empower ones sellf you must stray away from that and nuture a true bond based upon intelligent discussion within another with your relationship.
I have always tried to develop a friendship naturally, and therefore increase proximity. The smell thing is really a letdown, we can do better than animals who rely on pheromones. I've never understood the culture of pretending to hate them at first, why is that effective?
Bro if she doesn’t like you forget about her and move on. Simple as that. Eventually you’ll find a good one.
Keep bringing the truth to light we need more like this
"the most attractive feature is NOT genetic" - yeah please tell that to a 5'3'' balding guy with bad physiology thanks to genetics. Just because on average, not many of us will experience such a fate, it does NOT mean that genetics does not play a role
tell that to any average guy basically. Average dude today is not really different from 5'3 balding dude for women, they're all ugly.
well clearly you don't have the right attitude either, which isn't doing you any favors. not saying you're wrong, just that you're only making it worse by giving your insecurities power.
It’s really not bro I see short men all the time get hotties. I’m 5’9 so average height but it’s really about your personality and charisma
i know a balding guy punching way above his weight. he works out, smells nice and is super confident. people dont care about your bald look
@@LOLxUnique is he also 5'3?
1. Face
2. Height
3. Neurotypicality
Your welcome
also dick size
Thank you for this, I'm so tired of all the incel ideology bs that's been thrown around in the self-help community about how men struggle with attracting women because of looks. It is definitely partially true that looks do matter, but I think a lot of men don't know that they're approaching dating wrong, and blame it on the beauty standards women have for men, instead of learning from their mistakes. This is one of the first videos I've seen that also really understands the problem with the approach of the "nice guy" archetype
u dont know the reality
It's basically the same thing red pill says, just politely.
jfl at you. if you’re getting no girls it’s because of your looks and not because of muh personality and muh confidence. cope harder
If you’re watching this video and thinking your dating life will change = it’s brutally over for you
On god, incel has turned into such a buzzword to use on men who have already been through enough.
guys, as a a married man with 3 kids the best advice i could possibly give is to honestly just be yourself
So be average looking and only 5'9? I already did that for 29 years. Isn't working.
Married guy why are you watching this 😂
@@thelawyer95 man 5.9 is like 177 centimeters right? u seem quite high to me..
Asking the right questions 😂😂@@LifeStyleMaxxing
I don’t like myself but hopefully someone will😅
Amazing video!! But also just wanted to point out that this video mostly tackles the topic of attraction, and from a very scientific materialist perspective. Which is great! But also remember that attraction and love are two differing things! You can get the girl to be attracted to you (which is the first step), but being in love and someone being in love with you is entirely another thing.
Imo creating a life you enjoy living and working to connect authentically with those around you will just naturally lead to you attracting and finding someone you’ll fall in love with (and hopefully they’ll fall in love with you too). This way you will end up have a fulfilling life and also can introduce this special person into this life.
I think a lot of value is placed on romantic relationships, but personally I think it’s important to remember that there are other things that are important too! Like being your authentic self, friends, family and cultivating a fulfilling life! And if getting into a romantic relationship means sacrificing any of those, I don’t think I’d be very happy in that relationship long term.
True!
This!
Although I agree to all you've said it's really not that simple (at least for some of us 😂)
Based on experience I can say that just living your life is always a good thing to do but it won't help you find girls, it just makes it so that you're happy nonetheless 🤷♂️
what is called romantic love is just lust + oxytocin
Plastic surgery is the only option for finding a soulmate if youre not good looking
An easy tip to get passed the MHC and pheromone smelling problem is by wearing excessive amounts of axe body spray, ever since I've started every girl I've seen has been too embarrassed to even talk (or look) at me!
first step: be attractive
no, looks do matter, but it isn't all, with this incel ideology, people think being 6'2 and looksmaxxing will get you women, it does help but you just need a good haircut, good hygene, and be confident (i never had a girl)
Such a clear and thorough explanation great work
So basically I’m cooked
There’s this girl I really like at the university. She just broke up with her boyfriend because he was annoying. I like her since I was a freshman and now I’m a senior. I will try to create proximity now! Thank you for the tips, I really needed this.🙏❤️😊
All the best!
W rejection
How bad ?....
Was the rejection 😂
Very well informed video I'll say. I will say one thing; I don't care if a woman is attracted to me or not at this point in my life.
I'm a 30 year old autistic introvert who has never had a girlfriend ever in my life. Throughout my 20s I've tried so many wrong ways to get women but now in the last two years of my 20s and from now on I intend to live life how I see fit. Yes, I shower, exercise, and have my own hobbies, but none of that matters in attracting a woman in my life(mostly).
I've remained single for so long that if I were seeing the same woman over again through my routine of work/life/hobby etc., if she one day were to come up to me and asked "I keep seeing you here I never know your name" or tries to get me to open up and obviously she's very nice and wants to know me(I mean she's interested) I'd just tell her off; "No."
My heart longs for a long term relationship that will lead to marriage and offspring, since I was 13 in fact. I'm no longer playing any games woman play, nor do I want to show off any sort of "rizz" for me to stand out. I have none of that. I'm just myself and I always will be myself. If no woman wants me because I'm being myself I don't care. I believe that things happen when they least expect, however, I do have a suspicion that if the right woman were to stand before me I'd still turn her down.
I now have plans in place to be single into my 80s if it comes to that. It may not be as fun or fulfilling without someone to share life with, but sill a life for me. Let me know your thoughts if you managed to read this far.
Take the blackpill, brocel
Im approaching your age and am in the same boat... no experience whatsoever. Do you at least have a good career that you enjoy? I think thats what I need most
This is gonna be my future
It sucks. But it isn't like the old times. Now women are attracted to chads, no matter what they say. If you aren't one, you have the same lifestory as this guy. I've been with a woman as a friend since childhood. Going to the same college and seeing how much life was different for her and me in dating was the day I learnt some hard truths. Both of us were average and not much talkative, yet somehow she changed 2 boyfriends over the course of our degree and I don't even have a girlfriend. It was just by default difficult for someone like me and now videos are filled with explaining me that not getting a girl is not anything but on me. Somehow I am to blamed for my failures when I tried during my college years. Maybe if I was born with a better(extroverted) personality and was taller and better looking. I now know I am not what women are looking for in a boyfriend. And knowing their preferences may change when they start looking for a husband and I may stand a chance then fills me with nothing but feeling as a failure in terms of evolution.
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Dude! You did great by making this video!
Back in my parents day it was literally just saying hi and you wanna get something to eat. Now there’s a whole science and playing 4D chess and pursue then pull away just to maybe get her number 💀
Because there is an illusion of choice. People believe because they can send a message to Chad and Stacey on dating apps then they are worthy of more than their own status. People would rather be lonely and hoping for the impossible than settle for a mediocre reality.
@@cattysplat Most men arent even getting matches, let alone with a 'stacey' lmao
just be handsome
The shortest and correct answer to this video
not how it works chief
@@cbussey4676it just makes everything easier
If that worked I'd have a gf I assure you. But maybe I just need a haircut
Not the only thing that matters, being handsome but having no game and being akward and wierd wont do shit. If you are mid/bad looking and have good game you have more chances
5:30 How will this help me correct my facial asymmetry, short stature, baldness, crooked teeth, bug eyes, lazy eye, protruding ears, eyebrows that don't seem to exist, bulbous nose, recessive jaw, and finally negative canthal tilt?
Start thinking about the positives. What makes yóu beautiful? Confidence and selflove are much more attractive than all the things you mentioned.
@@frietvet 💪🏻😎🫵🏻: "just be confident, bro"
🧌:"thanks..."
These won't help. Stop pursuing them. It is the only way to be happy or else be miserable.
@@frietvetconfidence doesn't make up for bad looks. But go on, become a "exception" only to get cheated on.
@@gatoloco3949 Why cry about your appearence when you can just make the best out of it? And even if you have a hard time connecting with girls, just pursue your personal goals. Finding a relationship comes along the way.
6:15 As a university student and researcher in biological sciences, I find it crucial to highlight that, despite the long-standing theoretical existence of human pheromones, no concrete identification of them has been made in research to date. This is a significant area of study that often gets misrepresented, and it's important to keep this in mind when discussing the topic.
I liked seeing mention of the importance of the olfactory recognition of markers for genetically dissimilar haplotypes at the Major Histocompatibility Complex (MHC), which has been proven to play a significant role in relative measures of attractiveness, though. You really did your homework!