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Great vid, here are the notes (in same order as in video): 5 guidelines: 1. Drive emotions and use word feel. “What's the one thing that makes you feel fuzzy about home town?” 2. Don’t try to solve her problems, just listen empathetically. 3. Share something vulnerable. Have a good answer to questions you ask yourself. 4. Find out what is really important to her. “Tell me more about that. How does that make you feel? What inspired you to do that?” 5. First, be comfortable in her presence. No nervousness, fear... Put questions into conversation naturally, not altogether like an interview. Top 10 Power Questions that Get Her to Open Up to You: 1. Imagine you could have an ideal day. What would it look like? Where would it be, who would it be with, what would happen on this dream day of yours? Great to elicit values and use them further in conversation... 2. What one thing are you really proud of that you don’t openly share with people? 3. Tell me something personal about you that -no more than ten people know. /-most people don’t know about you. Be prepared for an intense answer, like rape/abuse/death… 4. What is your vision /goal in life ? 5. The more present & grounded you are, the more attracted she will be. 6. How are you ? No really... How are you ? (not generic answer, not really how was your weekend/week) 7. Tell me something interesting about yourself. (you have standards…, makes her chase you as the prize) 8. Who has been an influential role model to you ? 9. What's the most memorable book you have ever read (/movie/concert…) ? (bring to those positive emotions, associates them to you) 10. What was the happiest day of your life ? B: What do you think I am like ? (good for feedback)
Good job on the summary! We go a bit in depth so make sure you listen to the first part of the video for advice and principles. And in between tips for links and demonstrations.
The Attractive Man bro, u just wanted the video to be as long as possible fuck that. Thanks for the information. And selanak thanks, like really appreciated your summary.
*It’s not just about the questions you ask, but how you respond. When she opens up, practice active listening by nodding, maintaining eye contact, and following up on her thoughts. This shows you care about what she’s saying, making her feel more comfortable to share even more!*
You're doing an amzing service for people. This is not sleazy or manipulative, but instead it is a classy kind of guidence for males and females on how to connect with people. Very nicely put together video.
Once a guy at the grocery store checkout noticed my accent. He shared with me his passion to learn a ton of languages and be a polyglot. I tought him some phrases and names of fruits in different languages just for fun. This conversation was shorter than 2 mins. However, we felt very connected and we are glad to see each other every time I go to that grocery store. This stuff really works!
Oftentimes I find myself having very surfaced conversations with strangers that flow well but lead nowhere. These topics really help to connect with people, especially if you write the questions down and answer them yourself first. Thank you Matt!
I recently reconnected with a women I lost contact with nearly 15 years in highschool. I am telling anyone who reads this comment, she is incredibly closed. Inherently shy and does not like to share personal information. In text, I was asking open ended questions but she was still a little short. I pulled up this video and began with question 10. I asked question 9 and she was an open book. This is unbelievable. This needs to be taught in middle school not sexually, but how to connect emotionally. Pure fucking gold!
@@Theattractiveman I watch all of your videos every night. Learned behavior through repetition. I can’t say enough about the psychology. It’s not manipulative. When guys ask “what do you like to do?” he genuinely wants to know, but it’s boring and generic. Asking, “imagine you can have your ideal day, what would it look like?” Is asking the same question but it’s fun. What the shit. Are dads supposed to teach this shit to their sons? If so, no wonder I missed out.
This is a video that I didn't know I needed. Thank you Matt and I appreciate you for making this video that's full of great content from beginning to end with no fluff. I now have some great questions to ask to truly get to know a girl that I'm interested in.
Ngl these are great questions to ask anybody. In the right situation of course. Even the ones that are directed towards dating and women, you can alter them a little for when you're speaking to someone different. This vid really kills two birds with one stone for me bc I have my struggles in conversation and I also don't know what I'm supposed to say to woman to get her feeling good about herself and I. Great work!
Once you work on your self esteem, confidence, assertiveness, and overall practise your social skills.. Everything seems to naturally come into place (not just dating and women!). That's exactly what we coach our clients. Thanks for watching!
Two that I use that aren't mentioned in the video- "What's your go-to guilty pleasure artist/band/song?"- allows them to open up a bit about their music tastes, maybe something they like but are a bit embarrassed about, and when you share yours then you create this great bond between you as you share in some vulnerability. "Everyone has that one drink that reminds them of one bad/embarrassing moment, what's yours?"- Obviously this only works if they drink alcohol but it does tend to work well if you're out in a bar setting as it's topical. Again, it gives you a chance to share your vulnerable moments together, times when you've embarrassed yourself and to prove your confidence by laughing and joking about something that wasn't fun at the time but you now own that moment and have learnt from it.
Wow! This is a VERY underrated video! There's some really great info on what to talk about with a woman you just met, plus quite a few suggestions on how to present yourself, etc.!... Only 750 likes out of over 10,000 views? Really??... Come on guys, pay attention to this one because it's not all about only getting a woman to have sex with you and nothing else! Lol!... That might be an added bonus of your getting to know her, but there is SO much more than just simply the physical stuff, and this video gives some great examples of how to begin to find out if the girl you're interested in and talking to is worth more of your time into the future or not!... I realize he kinda drags this video out a little bit instead of just giving you the 10 things in a quick list rt. away, but if you don't have the patience to take things slow and slowly "digest what you hear" and actually learn something new, then you're probably not gonna get very far with any woman either because most of them want to take things a little slower too so that they can figure out if you are a good match for them or not, (for a potential future relationship, etc.), so you should be doing the same with her for your sake! What you're ultimately trying to figure out when you talk with her is whether or not she's really worth more of your time and energy... What kind of person is she on the inside? Is she a good soul, one who is deserving of your continued attention? (she wants to know that stuff about you too)
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"If you give yourself full permission, how would you describe an exhilarating life?" "What do you love to do...and I mean LOVE to do that the only reason you'd stop is because you're exhausted...otherwise you'd keep going?"
Hey I got this line from the great Jerry Lewis when he was on the episode "comedians getting coffee" with Seinfeld So he was in a diner (lewis) and ask the waiter her name and she replied "Dorothy" and jerry lewis says "Dorothy how nice, that was my father's name" Freaking brilliant! Girls love it! Great follow up after introduction try it.
A list of all the vids questions .. tips, some explanations and the forewarnings for all the bro’s learning! The forewarning he gave to all the Brothers and lady lovers: The Quick Tips: Get to really know her! Her motivations. Everyone wants to feel appreciated, understood, and special... instead of just into her pants. Keeping ourselves very clean : Keep clean Head to Toes bros. Do not solve her problems. Listen emphatically. Feel and show her you feel for her. .. Find out who she really is, probe more to her answers, replies, and statements - Tell me more about that _____ ? - How does that make you feel when _____ ? - Wait, hold up.. it was ______? - They did what? - What inspires you to _____?/ And What inspired you to ____? We want to draw out her emotions and use the word ‘feel’ as much as possible or implying feel. By drawing out emotions that light her up, including her problems we see her and spark her alive. Preparing good questions, means to be prepared to answer them, so do not just ask questions but get ready to be vulnerable as well. Share when she asks even if it may be uncomfortable. Reveal each other. One story.. one article.. at a time 😏 Lastly.. Being comfortable in her presence, confident, and relaxed. Aka we must learn to Chill my bro’s. The more present and grounded we are the more attraction and rapport we can create plus this helps her relax. Pro tip: This legend of a man probably has other vids on how to be relaxed around beautiful women Lastly... ⁉️Do not use these questions in a row, but weave into conversation after delving deeper.. and really seeing her answer and truly her, within each and every answer❕❔ Questions: •1. What’s one thing that you’re really proud about, that you don’t share with many people? •2.Tell me something personal about you that not many people know about you? (Be prepared for possible intense answers and it’s good to already having some rapport for this one) •3. What is the vision of your life? •4. How are you, no really, how are you? •5. Tell me one interesting thing about you. Idk anything about you •6. Who has been an influential role model to you? •7. What’s the most memorable book( or movie, concert, song, etc..) you’ve ever read? (Seen, been too, heard, etc..) •8. What are you passionate about in life right now? Or... What are you most passionate about? •9. What’s the happiest day of your life? Remember.. draw out her most powerful emotions! !!Bonus question!! 10. What do you think I’m like? May your lady(ies) be riveted to her core(s) by you 🤴’s
The Attractive Man Well, yeah. It is not nearly as shitty-ABC-documentary as the other one was! This one sounds like “alright! Let’s cut the shit and get to learning stuff!”
I love that this is exactly how I talk to women. The more psychology you study, the more that will benefit when meeting people, in general. Not that it's any different when with regards to compulsion, lack of life manageablilty, and a chronic condition, but I really wish that I could trade my addictions for a porn addiction. Addiction is addiction, and an addict is an addict, but at this point I would give anything to just forget about sticking a needle in my arm. 4 months clean! I've had 6 years before I 'fell off the wagon', and this time is much different than the last time, but the cravings still exist. To anyone out there hurting, just hang in there. Everything does get better.
Good video. However I think these questions work at the stage when a girl is already comfortable with you and talking to you. Not when you're first approaching her or meeting her, some girls even walk away on guys after he says the first sentence. Do you have a video that covers how to make small talk that is attractive to a woman, on that early phase when you're first meeting her/getting to know her and trying to get her to take down her walls? Thanks.
Questions that might lead to interesting responses Q1 When were you at your bravest or most courageous? Q2 if you had 10 million pounds/dollars but only 10 years to live what would you do with your time and money? Q3 if you were a cartoon character which one would you be and why? Q4 On a scale of 1 to 10 how happy are you in your life and what one small thing can you do to get yourself one more step up the scale Q5 What's the kindest thing someone has done for you? Q6 If your house was on fire and you only had 60 seconds to save one item what would you save? Q7 What's your proudest moment as a parent? ( A question to ask if they have kids) Q8 If you had the time to create anything you wanted such as a piece of art, a business or a new invention what would it be? Q9 What's the biggest life lesson you've learned? Q10 How do you express affection to those in your life and how do you like to receive affection? Q11 if you could retire early and do anything you like with the rest of your life what would you do? Q12 What's the riskiest thing you've done?
Well, more like in front of a screen, but she opened up a little, not a lot but a little bit. I can’t preform certain verbal tones, or body languages while quarantined at home. I’m in Highschool, I can’t really drive or go out yet.
Can you help me out because too shy with the girl, well it comes from my culture which is not accepting the very ego and not hesitated with growing the big reason behind my loneliness?
Yes I did just met her & she wants me to listen? Absolutely after being on the phone with me for 15+ minutes & examples are she tells me her hours of her work schedule & when she takes lunch. She apologized in not returning my phone call & told me she had covid & was out a few times & this was after just meeting her for the first time. She told me how she handle her contacts & starts out by sending me by mail only her work telephone number & then gives me her email address & fax number as well after our initial meet & how which ways might be quicker for her. She writes me Mr. E- my name in an email & by phone call too as yes, I do have a title. She works in an law firm.
I liked to ask 'what was the last thing you laughed at so hard that even when you just think about it, it makes you smile' this was also a good filter for me to test who was on my wavelength. some women I met had a real teacher like mentality in that they just felt older and regimented in their character, the way a teacher usually is with their students, big red flag!
Hey man! Make sure to watch the explanation behind the questions. We don't recommend using the questions without knowing how it works, otherwise, it won't be as effective.
Scenario which I could do with some guidance to. Met a girl in lockdown, date was a bit odd due to circumstances, we connected well thou. She’s unsure of her feelings, lots in common and really likes my company. I get the impression her interest has dropped a bit thou as we were all hot and heavy & chatted loads. Texts aren’t quite as fluid. So wandering how to regain a woman’s interest during lockdown?
Why do you think you'd be called a simp for doing that? Are you afraid of what others would think about you rather than just not giving a f*ck what they think?
What's the weirdest thing that you've ever done? This question worked for me and it sets the mood of the conversation. All in all, the video was great. I learned a lot. Thanks Matt.
A good number of our clients are well built and are even good looking to the women they approach. You might find this surprising, but most of their struggles were internal. The top 2 things going wrong were (1) Self doubt, lack of confidence, low self esteem and (2) Attracting the wrong kind of women, like golddiggers and cheaters.
Sup dude you have a great channel giving some good bomb tips with em chicks. Im an Aplha and im gonna give you a key component that is missing to improve your clients. Some of the best ways a guy can improve their confidence and feel comfortable to approach these hot chicks, is to get on their purpose, hitting the gym, getting their finance right, with that a guy will feel very much high valued and have no doubt approaching. No matter how much these fancy theory sounds nice, it will work great for you because youve got your finance right, have a fancy apartment, have high valued friends. But for the guys that have a shitty job and struggling financially, dont have a car, shitty apartment struggling to pay rent.... you get the pic, these guys will have little to zero confidence to approach these hot high valued female. So dude start encourage guys to listen some rich dad poor dad, think and grow rich, richest man in babylon audiobooks, start investing and get their finance right before they can get that confidence in em self to approach. Dudes get on your purpose while your still young!! "There is no ugly Millionaire" #Alpha
Good points, man. Thanks for the comment! We teach a lot more in-depth stuff on our boot camps and mentorship program. Check out our website www.theattractiveman.com
Hey Matt, if you are listening to her talk about some of her problems and she is asking /hinting at advice that she should do, should I give her advice or try to solve her problem?
I wouldn’t respond with advice or a way to solve the problem unless you know her really well. In my experience it’s more important to girls that they know you are listening and that you understand what they’re dealing with... I restate the problem and ask questions about what she wants to accomplish. Women mostly want to vent and know they’ve been heard, but if ik she wants solutions I try to help, but normally I find they’re happy you listened and showed you care
No! You don’t want to make yourself a shoulder to cry on. You’re going to become a ‘friend’ real quick. Worse, she’ll treat you like a gay friend. You’ll become the ONE guy she can tell her problems to besides her girlfriends because you’re a ‘nice’ guy. Any other MAN she knows doesn’t give a damn about her problems.
Oh by the way your videos got me my first date with this Russian girl tonight your videos got her trying to be friends with my friends to get my attention she even asked to meat ninja(my oldest closest freind) and no one meats ninja it's the rules but he said she could so I'm dumbfounded
@@Theattractiveman Yeah I agree with you, Matt. I did try to send it via text and it did send one of the chicks into a mild tailspin. As a message, girls have the option to avoid the question. However, face to face she does not have a choice but to answer it. That's what I learned from trying it out. What is your thoughts Matt?
I don’t mean this to sound critical but we all have to stop hiding behind texts & rely on good old verbal communication; preferably face to face but FaceTime or telephone is waaaaaay better than texting.
@@Theattractiveman back in 2004, I met a woman through a phone dating service here in town, and after just over a month of dating, she cheated on me, and ended up moving out of state as opposed to choosing between the two of us. Just as well, really.
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@NINJA It usually lands in spam/promotions folder if you're using a service like Gmail.
I tried it up to 3 times, I didn't get anything. I think the stuff is broken
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Great vid, here are the notes (in same order as in video):
5 guidelines:
1. Drive emotions and use word feel.
“What's the one thing that makes you feel fuzzy about home town?”
2. Don’t try to solve her problems, just listen empathetically.
3. Share something vulnerable. Have a good answer to questions you ask yourself.
4. Find out what is really important to her.
“Tell me more about that. How does that make you feel? What inspired you to do that?”
5. First, be comfortable in her presence.
No nervousness, fear...
Put questions into conversation naturally, not altogether like an interview.
Top 10 Power Questions that Get Her to Open Up to You:
1. Imagine you could have an ideal day. What would it look like?
Where would it be, who would it be with, what would happen on this dream day of yours?
Great to elicit values and use them further in conversation...
2. What one thing are you really proud of that you don’t openly share with people?
3. Tell me something personal about you that -no more than ten people know. /-most people don’t know about you.
Be prepared for an intense answer, like rape/abuse/death…
4. What is your vision /goal in life ?
5. The more present & grounded you are, the more attracted she will be.
6. How are you ? No really... How are you ?
(not generic answer, not really how was your weekend/week)
7. Tell me something interesting about yourself. (you have standards…, makes her chase you as the prize)
8. Who has been an influential role model to you ?
9. What's the most memorable book you have ever read (/movie/concert…) ?
(bring to those positive emotions, associates them to you)
10. What was the happiest day of your life ?
B: What do you think I am like ? (good for feedback)
Good job on the summary! We go a bit in depth so make sure you listen to the first part of the video for advice and principles. And in between tips for links and demonstrations.
Thanks
The Attractive Man bro, u just wanted the video to be as long as possible fuck that.
Thanks for the information. And selanak thanks, like really appreciated your summary.
Thanks ma
pls like this comment when you see it, and I can see these questions over and over again and make them get in my mind :) Thanks.
A question that has worked for me instead of How are you
Is “What was the best part of your day?” Gets her to open up and feel that positive moment.
I like that!
Nice!
*It’s not just about the questions you ask, but how you respond. When she opens up, practice active listening by nodding, maintaining eye contact, and following up on her thoughts. This shows you care about what she’s saying, making her feel more comfortable to share even more!*
You're doing an amzing service for people. This is not sleazy or manipulative, but instead it is a classy kind of guidence for males and females on how to connect with people. Very nicely put together video.
Thanks, man! Its our team's goal to help guys be honest, confident and genuine in their approach so they can meet their ideal, quality woman.
Once a guy at the grocery store checkout noticed my accent. He shared with me his passion to learn a ton of languages and be a polyglot. I tought him some phrases and names of fruits in different languages just for fun. This conversation was shorter than 2 mins. However, we felt very connected and we are glad to see each other every time I go to that grocery store. This stuff really works!
Oftentimes I find myself having very surfaced conversations with strangers that flow well but lead nowhere. These topics really help to connect with people, especially if you write the questions down and answer them yourself first. Thank you Matt!
You're welcome, Roman!
I recently reconnected with a women I lost contact with nearly 15 years in highschool.
I am telling anyone who reads this comment, she is incredibly closed. Inherently shy and does not like to share personal information. In text, I was asking open ended questions but she was still a little short. I pulled up this video and began with question 10. I asked question 9 and she was an open book.
This is unbelievable. This needs to be taught in middle school not sexually, but how to connect emotionally. Pure fucking gold!
Glad to hear our advice helped you out, man. Were you able to watch any other videos of ours prior to this one?
@@Theattractiveman I watch all of your videos every night. Learned behavior through repetition. I can’t say enough about the psychology. It’s not manipulative. When guys ask “what do you like to do?” he genuinely wants to know, but it’s boring and generic. Asking, “imagine you can have your ideal day, what would it look like?” Is asking the same question but it’s fun.
What the shit. Are dads supposed to teach this shit to their sons? If so, no wonder I missed out.
"Describe me the way you will do with your femal Friends" is one of the best bantering questions and skyrocket with flirting ;)
That is a really good one.
What does it mean?
@@mikemoreno4469 it means how do you tell your girl friends about me .
What?
I love this
That was actually really helpful! Thx
Thanks man,
U really got me when u said the goal is to get to know her.
Just knowing that makes it all easier...
Simple reminder to keep you on the right track, man! Keep it up!
Every video I learn something new. Thank you Matt!
Glad to hear that and you are very welcome! -Matt
This is a video that I didn't know I needed. Thank you Matt and I appreciate you for making this video that's full of great content from beginning to end with no fluff. I now have some great questions to ask to truly get to know a girl that I'm interested in.
Glad to help, John.
Bro u a damn king of dating coach...I love you. .
And we love you, random citizen!
Bro I am more than random...I'm super cool ..thanks ...your one of a kind.
Great questions, not the conventional questions we normally asks. Points taken.very good !!!
Be the better man, be the one who stands out from the rest. Thanks for watching!
Ngl these are great questions to ask anybody. In the right situation of course. Even the ones that are directed towards dating and women, you can alter them a little for when you're speaking to someone different. This vid really kills two birds with one stone for me bc I have my struggles in conversation and I also don't know what I'm supposed to say to woman to get her feeling good about herself and I. Great work!
Once you work on your self esteem, confidence, assertiveness, and overall practise your social skills.. Everything seems to naturally come into place (not just dating and women!). That's exactly what we coach our clients. Thanks for watching!
Two that I use that aren't mentioned in the video-
"What's your go-to guilty pleasure artist/band/song?"- allows them to open up a bit about their music tastes, maybe something they like but are a bit embarrassed about, and when you share yours then you create this great bond between you as you share in some vulnerability.
"Everyone has that one drink that reminds them of one bad/embarrassing moment, what's yours?"- Obviously this only works if they drink alcohol but it does tend to work well if you're out in a bar setting as it's topical. Again, it gives you a chance to share your vulnerable moments together, times when you've embarrassed yourself and to prove your confidence by laughing and joking about something that wasn't fun at the time but you now own that moment and have learnt from it.
Wow! This is a VERY underrated video! There's some really great info on what to talk about with a woman you just met, plus quite a few suggestions on how to present yourself, etc.!... Only 750 likes out of over 10,000 views? Really??... Come on guys, pay attention to this one because it's not all about only getting a woman to have sex with you and nothing else! Lol!... That might be an added bonus of your getting to know her, but there is SO much more than just simply the physical stuff, and this video gives some great examples of how to begin to find out if the girl you're interested in and talking to is worth more of your time into the future or not!... I realize he kinda drags this video out a little bit instead of just giving you the 10 things in a quick list rt. away, but if you don't have the patience to take things slow and slowly "digest what you hear" and actually learn something new, then you're probably not gonna get very far with any woman either because most of them want to take things a little slower too so that they can figure out if you are a good match for them or not, (for a potential future relationship, etc.), so you should be doing the same with her for your sake! What you're ultimately trying to figure out when you talk with her is whether or not she's really worth more of your time and energy... What kind of person is she on the inside? Is she a good soul, one who is deserving of your continued attention? (she wants to know that stuff about you too)
Thanks and we appreciate that you like our content! Feel free to share this video to reach out to more guys that need it, man. We're also working on weekly videos like these!
Just wanted to say THANK YOU because this is such an important issue in life. THANK YOU for your work! It's great. Have a nice day.
Happy to help!
"If you give yourself full permission, how would you describe an exhilarating life?"
"What do you love to do...and I mean LOVE to do that the only reason you'd stop is because you're exhausted...otherwise you'd keep going?"
Your tips are solid GOLD!
Hey I got this line from the great Jerry Lewis when he was on the episode "comedians getting coffee" with Seinfeld
So he was in a diner (lewis) and ask the waiter her name and she replied "Dorothy" and jerry lewis says "Dorothy how nice, that was my father's name"
Freaking brilliant! Girls love it! Great follow up after introduction try it.
That is brilliant!
Awesome help. I was always Stuck with boring Questions. Cant wait to try some of them.
You got this!
A list of all the vids questions .. tips, some explanations and the forewarnings for all the bro’s learning!
The forewarning he gave to all the Brothers and lady lovers:
The Quick Tips:
Get to really know her! Her motivations.
Everyone wants to feel appreciated, understood, and special... instead of just into her pants.
Keeping ourselves very clean : Keep clean Head to Toes bros.
Do not solve her problems.
Listen emphatically. Feel and show her you feel for her.
.. Find out who she really is, probe more to her answers, replies, and statements
- Tell me more about that _____ ?
- How does that make you feel when _____ ?
- Wait, hold up.. it was ______?
- They did what?
- What inspires you to _____?/
And
What inspired you to ____?
We want to draw out her emotions and use the word ‘feel’ as much as possible or implying feel. By drawing out emotions that light her up, including her problems we see her and spark her alive.
Preparing good questions, means to be prepared to answer them, so do not just ask questions but get ready to be vulnerable as well. Share when she asks even if it may be uncomfortable. Reveal each other. One story.. one article.. at a time 😏
Lastly..
Being comfortable in her presence, confident, and relaxed. Aka we must learn to Chill my bro’s. The more present and grounded we are the more attraction and rapport we can create plus this helps her relax.
Pro tip: This legend of a man probably has other vids on how to be relaxed around beautiful women
Lastly...
⁉️Do not use these questions in a row, but weave into conversation after delving deeper.. and really seeing her answer and truly her, within each and every answer❕❔
Questions:
•1. What’s one thing that you’re really proud about, that you don’t share with many people?
•2.Tell me something personal about you that not many people know about you?
(Be prepared for possible intense answers
and it’s good to already having some rapport for this one)
•3. What is the vision of your life?
•4. How are you, no really, how are you?
•5. Tell me one interesting thing about you. Idk anything about you
•6. Who has been an influential role model to you?
•7. What’s the most memorable book( or movie, concert, song, etc..) you’ve ever read? (Seen, been too, heard, etc..)
•8. What are you passionate about in life right now?
Or... What are you most passionate about?
•9. What’s the happiest day of your life?
Remember.. draw out her most powerful emotions!
!!Bonus question!!
10. What do you think I’m like?
May your lady(ies) be riveted to her core(s) by you 🤴’s
I looked through the comments and didn’t see the one that had all the questions! Oh well. 😎I learned it real good
11:41 those bubble plopping rotating metal wind chimes looked awesome - specially the skull one was creepy cool!! :D
Oh yes
They look way better when you see them for real! haha
Thank you so much for uploading this video before the valentine. 😊 Love you matt.
For sure thanks for watching!
Instantly useful. Thanks buddy. Subscribed.
Thanks for the sub! We've got weekly content coming out, and if you're interested, check out our other videos!
Awesome video, bro
Thanks, man. Loved filming this one particularly.
Great video continue the good job
Thanks! We've got more videos coming!
6:36 give likes for his brother he is so handsome. ❤️
Haha he is quite good looking eh?
Gayest comment ever!! ha!!
Worth a comment ! Great 👍
Thanks a lot
Finally! A new intro! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Like our new intro?
The Attractive Man Well, yeah. It is not nearly as shitty-ABC-documentary as the other one was! This one sounds like “alright! Let’s cut the shit and get to learning stuff!”
Love the new intro and vid style 👍🏼
Thanks Vitte!
Matt your amazing,teaching us so many that we didn’t know or even don’t k so how to use it
Hop on a call and get in our programs!
Indeed the best punch lines
Good job gentleman god bless you go ahead thank you so much from morocco
Thanks for the support, brother!
@@Theattractiveman You are welcome, my brother, come to visit Morocco, welcome
I used to watch some Rsd videos as well... But your stuff so much better 👏🚀 i like the way how humble you are
Thanks man this is seriously the best comment and compliment ever!
By finding out who, make sure to find out who she is not just in terms of her interests. Those are still superficial
Deeper conversations = deeper understanding. That leads to deeper relationships!
"Open up" has two meanings hope this covers both
Nice Video
1000% best video!
I love that this is exactly how I talk to women.
The more psychology you study, the more that will benefit when meeting people, in general.
Not that it's any different when with regards to compulsion, lack of life manageablilty, and a chronic condition, but I really wish that I could trade my addictions for a porn addiction. Addiction is addiction, and an addict is an addict, but at this point I would give anything to just forget about sticking a needle in my arm. 4 months clean! I've had 6 years before I 'fell off the wagon', and this time is much different than the last time, but the cravings still exist.
To anyone out there hurting, just hang in there. Everything does get better.
Damn that's some gigantic achievement dude!
Great job! I'll add to that. Its great to study and learn about it, but experience and application are also great teachers!
For the "how are you?" question I think it was better when Maya Angelou rephrased it as "how's your heart"
Never tried that one
You are doing a wonderful job god bless you always.... ❤ ..in our language we say "WAHEGURU MEHAR KARE "
Thanks man!!!
Dude i would have never given away such knowledge for free .You r my Dating God
Wow thanks man!
Good video. However I think these questions work at the stage when a girl is already comfortable with you and talking to you. Not when you're first approaching her or meeting her, some girls even walk away on guys after he says the first sentence. Do you have a video that covers how to make small talk that is attractive to a woman, on that early phase when you're first meeting her/getting to know her and trying to get her to take down her walls? Thanks.
Thanks for the comment and the suggestion, man! The team is busy pumping out content and going on boot camps. We'll get those videos out soon!
Questions that might lead to interesting responses
Q1 When were you at your bravest or most courageous?
Q2 if you had 10 million pounds/dollars but only 10 years to live what would you do with your time and money?
Q3 if you were a cartoon character which one would you be and why?
Q4 On a scale of 1 to 10 how happy are you in your life and what one small thing can you do to get yourself one more step up the scale
Q5 What's the kindest thing someone has done for you?
Q6 If your house was on fire and you only had 60 seconds to save one item what would you save?
Q7 What's your proudest moment as a parent? ( A question to ask if they have kids)
Q8 If you had the time to create anything you wanted such as a piece of art, a business or a new invention what would it be?
Q9 What's the biggest life lesson you've learned?
Q10 How do you express affection to those in your life and how do you like to receive affection?
Q11 if you could retire early and do anything you like with the rest of your life what would you do?
Q12 What's the riskiest thing you've done?
Awesome
Very helpful thank you Paul :)
I’ve already been using these questions 🤣
How did it go? And how was your demeanor when you were asking her in front of you?
Well, more like in front of a screen, but she opened up a little, not a lot but a little bit. I can’t preform certain verbal tones, or body languages while quarantined at home. I’m in Highschool, I can’t really drive or go out yet.
Its a good first start, man. Kudos on doing it onscreen (most guys rely on texting). Learn from it, you'll definitely become better at it.
This was better than i thought lol
Glad you enjoyed!
It's all down to rapport.
Would you suggest asking some of these questions through text before actually taking her out on a date? Or save it for the date?
Good job man. 😉
Thanks!
Can you help me out because too shy with the girl, well it comes from my culture which is not accepting the very ego and not hesitated with growing the big reason behind my loneliness?
This is paradisus resort..nice place
Matt can you please make a video on a long distance relationship
I say it’s a pen pal at best unless you see her. Or unless you are deployed.
i agree
Yes I did just met her & she wants me to listen? Absolutely after being on the phone with me for 15+ minutes & examples are she tells me her hours of her work schedule & when she takes lunch. She apologized in not returning my phone call & told me she had covid & was out a few times & this was after just meeting her for the first time. She told me how she handle her contacts & starts out by sending me by mail only her work telephone number & then gives me her email address & fax number as well after our initial meet & how which ways might be quicker for her. She writes me Mr. E- my name in an email & by phone call too as yes, I do have a title. She works in an law firm.
Nice 👍👍👍
I liked to ask 'what was the last thing you laughed at so hard that even when you just think about it, it makes you smile' this was also a good filter for me to test who was on my wavelength. some women I met had a real teacher like mentality in that they just felt older and regimented in their character, the way a teacher usually is with their students, big red flag!
Hits the right emotional notes. Good job!
Cheers buddy
Cheers!
@@Theattractiveman Senpai noticed me ^_^
I keep clicking on the download for the conversation cheat sheet and it is not working
Make sure you have a stable internet connection man. If you still have problems, send us an email! Our team will help you out.
I like the one tell me something interesting about yourself that no one knows I like that one I want to know what makes her feel special
Yeah try it and let me know how it goes :)
Gud day sir, I am a fan of games and I love your videos...I am a Student and I love to go into game development....I would appreciate any advice....
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how come i've tried to get this cheat sheet like 3 times now and never get it to my email?
emil them, they will get you the link, very good at replying
@Tony Kelsi Same here! I tried 10 times with no luck.
Hello Martt, I haven't gotten the free conversation cheat sheet
Check your spam or promotions folder man, it usually gets filed there. Send us an email if you can't find it.
Someone got the 10 Questions?
Hey man! Make sure to watch the explanation behind the questions. We don't recommend using the questions without knowing how it works, otherwise, it won't be as effective.
I’m guessing these can lead to a relationship, if properly used.
Yes. Remember to apply the principles and mentality behind these questions and not just ask them out of the blue with no clue.
Nice 😅😅😅
Who here got a girlfriend and ran across one of his videos again?
I received the cheat sheet but I also ponied up for the $7 deal and have not received that yet. What gives?
These question will never work , if the girl isn't attracted to you period . Conversation is between two people and not one person .
Well yes you should be doing more than just asking questions.
"Yeast ir jizz?" 😂😂😂 that was so random lol
What if she asked, 'why are you asking like this '?
Scenario which I could do with some guidance to. Met a girl in lockdown, date was a bit odd due to circumstances, we connected well thou. She’s unsure of her feelings, lots in common and really likes my company. I get the impression her interest has dropped a bit thou as we were all hot and heavy & chatted loads. Texts aren’t quite as fluid. So wandering how to regain a woman’s interest during lockdown?
Will these work with a long term gf
If you're looking for a long term relationship, this will!
True i have lerned new things
1:47 Hol up, If I did that now, I swear I'd just be called a simp
Why do you think you'd be called a simp for doing that? Are you afraid of what others would think about you rather than just not giving a f*ck what they think?
What's the weirdest thing that you've ever done?
This question worked for me and it sets the mood of the conversation.
All in all, the video was great.
I learned a lot.
Thanks Matt.
I like it
Step 1: Be skinny/built. Dreamy blue eyes is a huge bonus.
Not skinny or built? Go back to step 1.
I'm not skinny I'm kinda buffed and have light blue eyes
Still shy af
A good number of our clients are well built and are even good looking to the women they approach. You might find this surprising, but most of their struggles were internal. The top 2 things going wrong were (1) Self doubt, lack of confidence, low self esteem and (2) Attracting the wrong kind of women, like golddiggers and cheaters.
I feel like some of these questions are way too intrusive for the first time you meet someone...but fuck it, I'll ask anyway
Take that courages step forward. Let me know how it goes!
Damn...genius @$$ dude👏👏👏
Thanks bro that work for me, npw i have 6 girlfriend
Thanks for the help. But look what if the girl have’s depression
I have this crush on a girl that I have known for pretty much my whole life and I don’t know how to make a move. Any advice?
Are you in her “friend zone “?
Sup dude you have a great channel giving some good bomb tips with em chicks. Im an Aplha and im gonna give you a key component that is missing to improve your clients. Some of the best ways a guy can improve their confidence and feel comfortable to approach these hot chicks, is to get on their purpose, hitting the gym, getting their finance right, with that a guy will feel very much high valued and have no doubt approaching. No matter how much these fancy theory sounds nice, it will work great for you because youve got your finance right, have a fancy apartment, have high valued friends. But for the guys that have a shitty job and struggling financially, dont have a car, shitty apartment struggling to pay rent.... you get the pic, these guys will have little to zero confidence to approach these hot high valued female. So dude start encourage guys to listen some rich dad poor dad, think and grow rich, richest man in babylon audiobooks, start investing and get their finance right before they can get that confidence in em self to approach. Dudes get on your purpose while your still young!! "There is no ugly Millionaire" #Alpha
Good points, man. Thanks for the comment! We teach a lot more in-depth stuff on our boot camps and mentorship program. Check out our website www.theattractiveman.com
Does this work first time you meet her
The people in the background beginning of this video are so funny.
Hey Matt, if you are listening to her talk about some of her problems and she is asking /hinting at advice that she should do, should I give her advice or try to solve her problem?
I wouldn’t respond with advice or a way to solve the problem unless you know her really well. In my experience it’s more important to girls that they know you are listening and that you understand what they’re dealing with... I restate the problem and ask questions about what she wants to accomplish. Women mostly want to vent and know they’ve been heard, but if ik she wants solutions I try to help, but normally I find they’re happy you listened and showed you care
No!
You don’t want to make yourself a shoulder to cry on. You’re going to become a ‘friend’ real quick. Worse, she’ll treat you like a gay friend. You’ll become the ONE guy she can tell her problems to besides her girlfriends because you’re a ‘nice’ guy.
Any other MAN she knows doesn’t give a damn about her problems.
Oh by the way your videos got me my first date with this Russian girl tonight your videos got her trying to be friends with my friends to get my attention she even asked to meat ninja(my oldest closest freind) and no one meats ninja it's the rules but he said she could so I'm dumbfounded
OK, I know that I’m late to this party but tell me how it went please, I’m intrigued.
Are you able to text these questions to a girl? Or are these questions strictly face to face questions?
Hey man! While these can always be used via messages, it will never have the same effect a face-to-face interactions. Have you tried it?
@@Theattractiveman Yeah I agree with you, Matt. I did try to send it via text and it did send one of the chicks into a mild tailspin. As a message, girls have the option to avoid the question. However, face to face she does not have a choice but to answer it. That's what I learned from trying it out. What is your thoughts Matt?
I don’t mean this to sound critical but we all have to stop hiding behind texts & rely on good old verbal communication; preferably face to face but FaceTime or telephone is waaaaaay better than texting.
I'll try some of these questions tomorrow. Hahaha
Go get em' tiger! Might be tough during social distancing and mask wearing.
At 11:30.... are them skulls for reals!!?? If so, I want!!
14:24 What the heck is that? You know, those things that are spinning behind your left shoulder?
What if he's ur girlfriend can I still ask her all this?
Of course you can!
I don't remember nothing about my childhood
This has happened to me
How did it go for you, man?
@@Theattractiveman back in 2004, I met a woman through a phone dating service here in town, and after just over a month of dating, she cheated on me, and ended up moving out of state as opposed to choosing between the two of us. Just as well, really.
"Does this one have extra juice?" 😆
😅
There's no need to teach this to men. We have our own styles 😎
Saying I don’t know a lot displays unconfidence
What if the girl always say secret she wouldnt tell me any personal for her?
Then she's either playing hard to get or she's not comfortable opening up to you because she's not interested.
Move on.
This video was uploaded one month before coronavirus pandemic started
Could've move around freely then
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