Hey, I hope you enjoy the video, and more importantly APPLY it. Also want to let you know that if you're watching this video early the special offer on my mentoring program is ending TODAY toddvmentoring.com/ ... check it out before you miss out!
Thanks Todd, i use to get in my head as the approach is the most intimidating part of game if you havent done it in a while. Thanks for providing clarity and a process to make approaching easier and effortless.
Perfect timing. Been working on pickup game but my over a year cheating ex and I just broke up yesterday. Selling and moving all my stuff I feel like shit. Thanks for content.
@@milkyporridge5929 Confident people understand that everyone, including themselves, have insecurities but they don't let them control their life but instead try to overcome them.
im an introvert . i once approached a girl and told her i like her shirt. that girl is now my wife and we are expecting a baby soon . its that simple ...
Something he said that is important is to not care what she gives you back, just focus on what you’re doing and getting comfortable. Have zero expectations and redefine failure as not stepping up to the plate. When you don’t care whether she responds or not you will start noticing which girls actually show an interest, and which ones have tons of red flags.
Exactly - it was when I stopped worrying about any girls response that I became a lot more successful with them. As long as a guy is polite and respectful it doesn't matter what the girl thinks. Some will like you, some won't. So what? Now it's on her. If you stop looking for validation from the girl you can relax a lot more and actually be in tune to the interaction, all of which is more attractive to her anyway.
i never knew that i can leave and how to do it. today I approached girl sitting on the bench, and got statue reaction. Means that she even didnt notice me, after I repeated question. My minds went crazy, I felt like its an End of life
@@ainaras108Don't worry bud. It happens "Win some and lose some" Dude I'm kinda getting use to the statue response. As cheesy as it sounds repetition produce confidence.
Question, compliment, introduction, conversation. Hold the conversation on your shoulders. Combine extreme calmness with good eye contact. And enjoy the conversation.
This one video changed my life man. So many years of inner game but I didn't know how to start. Almost 2 weeks in to talking to people and instead of beeing mortally terrified I'm actually excited to go out and chat people up. Thank you Todd. I owe you big time if you ever need anything in Manchester UK or Poland.
Revisiting this video almost 12 months after watching and commenting on it for the first time. @Todd V Dating please, please never delete this. All the programs and coaches miss this very important step of getting from lvl -5 to lv1. For people like me with crippling social and aproach enxiety, with no clue or experience in social situations, with depression and crippling self doubt, this is the way to start. Right now I go to city centre almost every other day, to chill, talk to people and pickup girls. I'm still a beginner but every pretty face I see fills me with excitement and I smile just thinking about how I'm going to open her. Thank you Todd for showing me the door, it was not easy to walk through it but thanks to you I have a bunch of good friends, healthy personal life and I look forward to every new day and weekend :) Don't give up people, whatever it will cost you, it's worth it.
@@elpais_Sano Agreed. It was an L comment. Must've been down when I made it. I now approach women and get dates the same way as the original poster. It's great advice.
Watched this while feeling kinda hopeless, then went out, asked four girls for directions and complimented one. Doing it brings such a boost in positive mental energy. Now I just need to be slow and steady in building on those other layers.
Leave every woman better than you have found them. Always good to add a little compliment, smile, and genuinely wish her a great day. There can be a million reasons why she isn't interested.
Talked to three girls today! One was a freebie, she called out to me at a red light, executed step 2, then told me I'm pretty 🤣. Massive motivation right there. Second one was a gorgeous Middle Eastern girl doing an intersection fundraiser four blocks from my house. My curiosity was thick, so I ended up asking a bunch of questions, and I'm not sure if her fundraiser for a kid's surgery in Turkey was actually legit. Might have had a handler in a van with tinted windows nearby. Third one was a textbook step 2. Pretty girl in the meat section at Walmart, managed to get a reluctant response from her, then I moved on. Feeling motivated. Sharing this journey with a friend, super grateful for this video!
@@stevenking4617 nice try, "Social Animal" Marketing team.... Jk fr that's good for you. So are you still cold approaching? Are you over the sting if rejection? Do you have a social circle?
@@mws2546 in some ways yeah, getting used to rejections. I think "progress" shows up best in places like work, where I've pitched to girls I've been interested in for a while but have had every reason not to cause waves. Cold approaches are easy enough to let roll off you, but at work you've got to really commit to your intentions and live with the consequences. I find that REALLY strengthening. And it's reciprocal: the cold pitches boost my confidence at work, and the work pitches boost my confidence out in public.
One thing I didn't understand: Finding that you like each other or not is the step 5 or a bonus step? Being a bonus, how are the best topics to introduce?
@Mary Antonio bruh lmao He isn’t talking about dating apps, get out the house in general go do something outside, I’ve played games my whole life and I’ve just started leaving the house and I’ve met a few girls already it’s not too hard.
This has to be the best first-step PUA video ever made: Basic, straight to the Step 1 starting point. Lots of well-socialized guys learn this instinctually and with no problems as they're growing up -- and particularly those of the more sociopathic variety, since they learn it as a necessary survival mechanism. Those of us who endured a lot of social isolation, persecution, abuse, and instability never did. After 30 years of hardcore alcoholism, few very dates or sexual experiences, and no real relationship history, I'm finally ready to try this, now or never, at 55. People tell me I look like I'm 30, so maybe I've got at least that ace in the hole. Wish me luck, brothers. The future lies ahead.
Nope he didn't let it slip (As you can see by the video cutting that occurs right after). He approached her, pulled, slept with her, got to know her family, then came back and continued to film.
This video is under rated, definitely deserves more attention. Everything is broken down and made to be easy. Baby steps aswell make it a whole lot smoother of a process.
I feel that all it really takes to approach is just balls As easy as that, what you do after the approach it's what matters, in fact having all these internal battles and anxiety is only going to lead you to rejection, low self esteem and frustration after so many failures With women any sign of weakness or insecurity gets you blown out, and if you're overthinking the very fact of walking towards her and saying hi (Which Is something that doesn't really get you any result by itself) Then with the important stuff you're just going to crap in your pants Just approach, get used to the rejections and once your approach anxiety isn't as high as it used to be, then focus on what to do, to continue the interaction But until then it's going to only be rejection and dismisses after rejection and dismisses The first step is to lose your fear or at least part of it.
You do know men have always needed these teachings 😂 but never got them this is why psychology is a thing too people needed psych to know how humans minds work so that we can sell better make better business relations and in crime catch criminals cause if you use psych im communication it makes things easier think how tough it would be to catch some serial killers if the investigators did not learn basic criminal psychology think how hard it wouldve been for up n coming businessmen if they did not understand sales psychology etc. The generations need this.
This is actually brilliant. Like. That’s all you have to do. You’ve laid out the steps. And it’s true. That’s what it is. Providing you have good social skills and your life is handled instead of having to trick them that it is (but I know that’s what game is) but yeah
I mean, even if you have horrible social skills and a shitshow of a life, you will feel worlds better about yourself just knowing that you're at least going up and introducing yourself and giving yourself a chance. Not to mention, your social skills would improve the more you do it.
As far as I've seen. "Game" is generally some sort of smoke screen that these losers try to use, to mask the fact that they're gigantic losers and continue to distract a girl with that.
6:14 if you're gonna introduce yourself straight up, do that in the elevator on your way down. I spent 3 years doing elevator approaches, and whilst I'm nowhere near as good in the real world as I am in the elevator, the simplicity gave me a good chance to take a step forward in my game (which is ok-ish, for a 24 year old), and I got a tremendous amount of phone numbers from these short 30 second approaches. Problem is, unless you're going down, and she's on your path, for at least 5-10 minutes, there's not enough time for her to get a taste of you, which means getting dates out of that is insanely hard! If you're not gonna be in an elevator: 1. Get out of the house 2. Approach someone 3. Ask for directions to any nearby store or restaurant (E.g: Starbucks) 4. Give them a compliment 5. Introduce yourself 6. Have a short conversation (I'd personally say 5-10 minutes) 7. Get her number, then find out a way to ask her out again
This video is the best advice for talking to women I've ever seen. I've struggled with my self worth for a long time and things are finally on a solid upswing. My confidence has increased significantly and I feel like I'm really ready to give dating a go again. I feel good about myself. I think I can do this and I'd be a great partner to a woman.
Somehow I never learned this basic skill and need someone to break it down step-by-step for me like I'm five. Something's wrong in society when men aren't learning this naturally.
A tip: try asking your waitress/store clerk a non transactional question. its free and you don't feel like you are hitting on her. passing by the sales lady? "hey, how is your day going?" "I love your outfit!" they won't bite! I got a waitresses phone number just by striking a convo and asking her "how she liked working here". Bottom line: get used to talking to unknown females. that will take the edge off when you really approach. This idea to talk to ANY woman also gets your brain rewire to extract context from bits she says and flow
I stopped counting girls I approached (hate me now), but I made some mistakes obviously. I had scripted things to say and that kept me "safe", cause I knew how the conversation will follow. So, the best way to take 100% out of this is to give complement and from that point let go of any expectations cause that's the muscle you will need - to find yourself in difficult scenario and find way out of that, which you can't do if you just plan conversation. It's ok however at the beginning, but none conversation should be about outcome dependence in long term, cause it's just weird and needy. Up to 15th approach i counted it as win, but after some point you need to put the bar higher
In German we would say you are a „Macher“ (someone who takes action and gets results). . You have motivated me to go into the city tomorrow instead of shopping online. Might be more opportunities there… :)
thank you so much for this video, i am 23, turn 24 next month, never had a real relationship before and i decided so many things about me need to change in regards to getting what i want out of life
No Fluff, all quality concise content. POV of the person being approached, (This confident charismatic man has approached me kindly, how do i continue the conversation). Cheers for the perspective shift.
I have TBH. Toad and RSD coaching made my life so much better. It can seem like a spam email approach. But it works. My experience? If you want to make a lot of money in sales or have success with girls, get used to ‘NO,’ Fuck off’ ‘Loser’ .. 90 percent of my sales went that way. But guess what the 10 percent of yes’s gave me three vacations a year and put 2 kids though college. Same applies with women. Take the no or the L with a smile and move on. The more no’s you can take with a smile and not take personal, man your in. And those numbers start to increase from 1 out of ten, to 4 out of ten. Embrace the rejections. Be cool about it. And you will f’ing flourish. Also you can apply this to ANYTHING! Literally anything. Work, friends, school. Like lifting a dumb bell. Embrace the pain, and grow. BUIT you have to go through that initial pain. Or your just sat there with bitch tits, no money and no girls. PAIN equals growth. And pain is temporary. DO IT! No excuses. DO IT TONIGHT!
This is exactly what I'm doing right now. I'm of the type who doesn't learn well "jumping into the deep end" because it makes my anxiety go way up, get stressed out, and many times discouraged. That goes with anything very new and somewhat intimidating to me. Cashiers are the ones who have helped me the most, I just make random comments and they mostly enjoy a customer being human towards them.
Regarding introducing yourself, what do you think of Corey Wayne's idea of instead asking for her name and seeing if she asks for your name in return? That supposedly indicates her level of interest in you.
I agree with this all it takes is an approach I was on a run and waiting for the cars too pass by really cute girl passed by me and her dog started to play with me. She and I just got into a natural convo I got her number and we went out
Yo Todd can you do a Russell Brand break down eeit: the same way you did the hitched video. Thanks again for all the videos. Oh and it's good to see You out the house.... Edit: lol 1:50
I started doing this last year, but at some point I got into clubs and alcohol and that ruined it for me and I gave up. I will begin this again from tomorrow but this time no clubs and I will watch this video every day and write here my progress. For my first day I just want to be able to ask one person for directions. Wish me luck!
12.08.2024(first day): I went out and wondered the streets for about an hour but I was too scared to talk to anyone. I thought this would be easier, but it seems that I have a bigger problem than I thought. On the positive side at least I started and I went out to try. Let’s hope for better for tomorrow!
13.08.2024: I went out and I was so close a couple of times, but I bailed out last moment. Uh, it was so frustrating, but I least it was closer this time. Come on man, let’s do this tomorrow!
14.08.2024: I did it! I asked 3 girls about directions on the street. Even though objectively seems like a pice of cake, for me it was a big deal. I am really proud of myself. What I learned is that after the first “approach”, it became much easier. Also, it is better to do it asap and not think too much. Let’s continue tomorrow as well!
15.08.2024: I had some hiccups and only managed to ask one girl for directions today. I got caught in thoughts and shot myself in the foot. As I said, it is better not to think at all and do it early, cause otherwise it builds frustration. But what I liked was the fact that I didn’t stop until I did it and I am proud of myself. Onto the next day!
16.08.2024: Asked 2 girls today for directions. What I started to notice is that I began to develop more confidence in myself. I know now that I can do it, which it feels amazing!
It sounds stupid but thanks for putting leave the house in there... today I went out with the intention of doing an approach of somekind, it didn't happen and obviously I felt like I failed. But what I did do was think carefully about what I would say to each person I would have liked to approach, what made them stand out, and write it all down. Now I have a lot of ideas and more confidence that when I do approach I will be prepared.
Small steps. You can add in question/compliment with a girl serving you coffee for example. Without any intention to flirt, you're just getting comfortable with the conversation element. And before approaching in the street, just make eye contact with women and smile as you walk past, nothing more. When those 2 get easy you can move on to more. Same theory just different starting point!
@@seanm996 OK. Approached 15 girls/sets with the same bs question but: I didn't realise I need to start so basic. If you have no agenda then there is much less pressure and you can focus on little things like low tone of voice and not clowning about (and not doing the pistol fingers...). But the main thing. Nobody stabbed me or called police or effed me off. I'm not enjoying it yet but not just not sweating like ace ventura inside hippo is nice. Going back tonight for more after I cool down...
Just got another session (30) asking people random shit this time late saturday evening. People are kind of decent... Especially enjoyed packs of girls, somerhing I was scared ahitless before. Just having an excuse took so much anxiety off me. I have made more progress today after watching this video yesterday than in the last 5 years doing "inner game".
How do I approach a girl when she's with her friend? I've gone out to approach twice, I went to the mall and the beach but I didn't see any girls by themselves so I didn't do any approaches.
That's a good ass question. I wish I had a concise answer for this but unfortunately you and me are both beginners. I will say however, you might still need to get used to putting yourself out there and get used to approaching a group of women at least 3 of them or under (over 3 of them will get overwhelming unless you have a wingman). Because the reality is, most girls will be in a group either with friends or family. Good luck out there.
From my little experience on approaching women, I also suggest that you keep the ball rolling regardless of the experience. You will eventually feel much more confident after the first and second approach, but if you randomly stop then your anxiety can build back up. Also, focus on getting the number if you can't come up with a great topic to go over for ex. ("Hey listen I'm a little busy right now but can I get your number?). After you get comfortable with that I'm going to assume that's when you'll get to the logistical stage for ex. ("So what are you up to after this")
If approaching is the goal, why not just ask them by saying "hi my name's ______, I'm visiting from out of town..." and then ask directions to somewhere, or if there's a good Chinese restaurant around? Then you can go from there if she'd digging you. If you're beginning I wouldn't even worry about trying to get numbers unless it's really obvious she's digging you. I certainly would not try to ask out a girl when she's with her friend. That's more advanced and there's a good chance the friend who you're not choosing will c-block you. Just my opinion. And of course women are going to be in groups at the mall and the beach. I used to go to a Target on my lunch break to approach and there were plenty of women by themselves.
@@johnclark8637 oh no, late 20s, early thirties, I guess I'm much older than you lol. Yes women 25 and younger are going to be with their friends more often than not. Why not just bring a friend, good ones will help your game, have fun with it, you can be anyone you want. Me and my best friend back in the day used to tell women we were minor league baseball players lol. Can't make the lie too obvious.
I would say for me the talking phase is easy and climbing up throught the interaction with a female but i always lacked the "Approaching" part of pickup, because i always doubted myself because i looked super young and was short, so the girls i've been with i had some kind of connection already
Hey, I hope you enjoy the video, and more importantly APPLY it. Also want to let you know that if you're watching this video early the special offer on my mentoring program is ending TODAY toddvmentoring.com/ ... check it out before you miss out!
Love this intro Todd. Nice to see you putting out content for the afc
Fucking GOLD.
Thanks Todd, i use to get in my head as the approach is the most intimidating part of game if you havent done it in a while. Thanks for providing clarity and a process to make approaching easier and effortless.
Perfect timing. Been working on pickup game but my over a year cheating ex and I just broke up yesterday. Selling and moving all my stuff I feel like shit. Thanks for content.
How do you mentally handle rejection?
Remember that confidence is not the _lack of_ insecurity; its the willingness to act _in spite of_ insecurity.
Ty
That doesn’t make sense lol
@@milkyporridge5929
Or perhaps others understand the sentiment while you do not💁🏻♂️
@@milkyporridge5929 It makes perfect sense.
@@milkyporridge5929 Confident people understand that everyone, including themselves, have insecurities but they don't let them control their life but instead try to overcome them.
im an introvert . i once approached a girl and told her i like her shirt. that girl is now my wife and we are expecting a baby soon . its that simple ...
motivating bro
Sure bro, how long did it take since that complement?
Approaching a girl in my class tomorrow
@@Jedilord882 howd it went?
@@incronite786bro didn’t make it
i pushed myself to cold approach because of this video, today i got rejected and its better than not approaching and regretting it later :D thanks
How you doing man?
he died man, he died 💀
@@iGhostr 😎
@@patulo1191 he alive man, he alive
Always better to know the answer than to always wonder what if. Easier said then done tho haha.
Something he said that is important is to not care what she gives you back, just focus on what you’re doing and getting comfortable. Have zero expectations and redefine failure as not stepping up to the plate. When you don’t care whether she responds or not you will start noticing which girls actually show an interest, and which ones have tons of red flags.
Exactly - it was when I stopped worrying about any girls response that I became a lot more successful with them. As long as a guy is polite and respectful it doesn't matter what the girl thinks. Some will like you, some won't. So what? Now it's on her. If you stop looking for validation from the girl you can relax a lot more and actually be in tune to the interaction, all of which is more attractive to her anyway.
i never knew that i can leave and how to do it.
today I approached girl sitting on the bench, and got statue reaction. Means that she even didnt notice me, after I repeated question. My minds went crazy, I felt like its an End of life
All true but much easier said then done especially if you have issues/trauma around your looks, ethnicity, personality even
@@ainaras108Don't worry bud. It happens "Win some and lose some" Dude I'm kinda getting use to the statue response. As cheesy as it sounds repetition produce confidence.
Todd: *stares pensively at the puppies*
😂😂
Nobody:
Absolutely f*cking nobody:
Todd: 4:22
He was qualifying them.
Bruh I thought the same thing lmao. He did it for the memes at that point
Props to the cameraman for directing that scene so well.
Question, compliment, introduction, conversation. Hold the conversation on your shoulders. Combine extreme calmness with good eye contact. And enjoy the conversation.
This one video changed my life man. So many years of inner game but I didn't know how to start. Almost 2 weeks in to talking to people and instead of beeing mortally terrified I'm actually excited to go out and chat people up.
Thank you Todd. I owe you big time if you ever need anything in Manchester UK or Poland.
How is it going
Ikr, It’s really that easy bro. Once I started doing it, it feels great
Thats good to hear. Didn't know it eventually gets exciting
You got a girlfriend after 2 years?
Revisiting this video almost 12 months after watching and commenting on it for the first time. @Todd V Dating please, please never delete this.
All the programs and coaches miss this very important step of getting from lvl -5 to lv1. For people like me with crippling social and aproach enxiety, with no clue or experience in social situations, with depression and crippling self doubt, this is the way to start.
Right now I go to city centre almost every other day, to chill, talk to people and pickup girls. I'm still a beginner but every pretty face I see fills me with excitement and I smile just thinking about how I'm going to open her.
Thank you Todd for showing me the door, it was not easy to walk through it but thanks to you I have a bunch of good friends, healthy personal life and I look forward to every new day and weekend :)
Don't give up people, whatever it will cost you, it's worth it.
Have you gotten a date off of it though?
Value comment. All the best bro!
I did!!@@joeydonuts574
@@joeydonuts574 who cares? He's doing what most men cannot do in daily life
@@elpais_Sano Agreed. It was an L comment. Must've been down when I made it. I now approach women and get dates the same way as the original poster. It's great advice.
Watched this while feeling kinda hopeless, then went out, asked four girls for directions and complimented one. Doing it brings such a boost in positive mental energy. Now I just need to be slow and steady in building on those other layers.
Hey man, have you made any progress since this comment?
Cheers
Got any 🤤 ?
This shit is gold. The key is do it. And practice it. Be comfortable in rejection. It’s going to happen ALOT. But your looking for the yes…
I feel this would work for getting comfortable for approaching anyone. Just respect strangers if they don't like being approached and move on
Leave every woman better than you have found them. Always good to add a little compliment, smile, and genuinely wish her a great day. There can be a million reasons why she isn't interested.
@@sorgutentarer exactly, love that mindset. It's very confident and reasonable.
I did door knocking cold approaches (business) and got confortable, it should be no different but having that agenda trips up your brain.
Talked to three girls today! One was a freebie, she called out to me at a red light, executed step 2, then told me I'm pretty 🤣. Massive motivation right there.
Second one was a gorgeous Middle Eastern girl doing an intersection fundraiser four blocks from my house. My curiosity was thick, so I ended up asking a bunch of questions, and I'm not sure if her fundraiser for a kid's surgery in Turkey was actually legit. Might have had a handler in a van with tinted windows nearby.
Third one was a textbook step 2. Pretty girl in the meat section at Walmart, managed to get a reluctant response from her, then I moved on. Feeling motivated. Sharing this journey with a friend, super grateful for this video!
How is it going now?
@@mws2546 found the channel called "Social Animal," it's been making all of this WAY easier, highly recommended 👍👍
@@stevenking4617 nice try, "Social Animal" Marketing team.... Jk fr that's good for you. So are you still cold approaching? Are you over the sting if rejection? Do you have a social circle?
@@mws2546 in some ways yeah, getting used to rejections. I think "progress" shows up best in places like work, where I've pitched to girls I've been interested in for a while but have had every reason not to cause waves. Cold approaches are easy enough to let roll off you, but at work you've got to really commit to your intentions and live with the consequences. I find that REALLY strengthening. And it's reciprocal: the cold pitches boost my confidence at work, and the work pitches boost my confidence out in public.
@@stevenking4617 how's it going for you now
in all the shots todd is surrounded by light like an angel from heaven
The one winged angel
"I love that shirt, where did u get it" yeah that isn't awkward at all
Depends where you say it.
I wouldn’t say where did you get it I would say I like the shirt I like your style .
Step 1 - Leave the house.
Step 2 - Approach and say anything
Step 3 - Add compliment
Step 4 - Introduce yourself
Step 5 - Introduce another topic
Leaving the house is honestly underrated advice from my experience lmaooo
@@F22Raptor723 what do you mean by that?
@@F22Raptor723 get out there and be somebody!
One thing I didn't understand: Finding that you like each other or not is the step 5 or a bonus step? Being a bonus, how are the best topics to introduce?
@Mary Antonio bruh lmao He isn’t talking about dating apps, get out the house in general go do something outside, I’ve played games my whole life and I’ve just started leaving the house and I’ve met a few girls already it’s not too hard.
Thank God I’m in person for this semester. Cold approaches/ game will 100% be worked on and improved
This has to be the best first-step PUA video ever made: Basic, straight to the Step 1 starting point. Lots of well-socialized guys learn this instinctually and with no problems as they're growing up -- and particularly those of the more sociopathic variety, since they learn it as a necessary survival mechanism. Those of us who endured a lot of social isolation, persecution, abuse, and instability never did. After 30 years of hardcore alcoholism, few very dates or sexual experiences, and no real relationship history, I'm finally ready to try this, now or never, at 55. People tell me I look like I'm 30, so maybe I've got at least that ace in the hole. Wish me luck, brothers. The future lies ahead.
Todd is the kind of friend we all need in college
Hey Todd just wanted to take the time to thank you and your team for give us so much value through the years.
We love you guys 💛
Todd is a LEGEND!
1:29 - Todd is so in the teaching zone, he lets one slip right by
Imagine he starts uploading vids where he breaks down game but leaves the vid the moment a cute girl walks by
@@aaiirssjoy he did that in his old videos lol
Nope he didn't let it slip (As you can see by the video cutting that occurs right after). He approached her, pulled, slept with her, got to know her family, then came back and continued to film.
@@pornstarnarek 💀
This video is under rated, definitely deserves more attention. Everything is broken down and made to be easy. Baby steps aswell make it a whole lot smoother of a process.
I feel that all it really takes to approach is just balls
As easy as that, what you do after the approach it's what matters, in fact having all these internal battles and anxiety is only going to lead you to rejection, low self esteem and frustration after so many failures
With women any sign of weakness or insecurity gets you blown out, and if you're overthinking the very fact of walking towards her and saying hi
(Which Is something that doesn't really get you any result by itself)
Then with the important stuff you're just going to crap in your pants
Just approach, get used to the rejections and once your approach anxiety isn't as high as it used to be, then focus on what to do, to continue the interaction
But until then it's going to only be rejection and dismisses after rejection and dismisses
The first step is to lose your fear or at least part of it.
XXxxxxx
Good advice, thank you bro
Even approaching and saying hi takes massive balls.
My thing js after introducing and get names how do i let convo go on about something?
Hey nice dress. where u get it? I want to buy it for myself too …
hahahahahaha
😂😂😂😂
😅
That might work if you say it as a joke and the girl gets it
In 2024 you may need to clarify this is actually a joke...
1985: we are going to have flying cars soon!
2021: adults need youtube videos to learn how to talk to each other.
The world is coming to an end.
Lol, I never thought of it that way but it's true.
true my friend, the technological advancement is helpful but it has its downsides
Soon we're gonna be breeding with robots instead of humans because of technology.
You do know men have always needed these teachings 😂 but never got them this is why psychology is a thing too people needed psych to know how humans minds work so that we can sell better make better business relations and in crime catch criminals cause if you use psych im communication it makes things easier think how tough it would be to catch some serial killers if the investigators did not learn basic criminal psychology think how hard it wouldve been for up n coming businessmen if they did not understand sales psychology etc. The generations need this.
No one knows this stuff by default
This is actually brilliant. Like. That’s all you have to do. You’ve laid out the steps. And it’s true. That’s what it is. Providing you have good social skills and your life is handled instead of having to trick them that it is (but I know that’s what game is) but yeah
I mean, even if you have horrible social skills and a shitshow of a life, you will feel worlds better about yourself just knowing that you're at least going up and introducing yourself and giving yourself a chance. Not to mention, your social skills would improve the more you do it.
As far as I've seen. "Game" is generally some sort of smoke screen that these losers try to use, to mask the fact that they're gigantic losers and continue to distract a girl with that.
6:14 if you're gonna introduce yourself straight up, do that in the elevator on your way down. I spent 3 years doing elevator approaches, and whilst I'm nowhere near as good in the real world as I am in the elevator, the simplicity gave me a good chance to take a step forward in my game (which is ok-ish, for a 24 year old), and I got a tremendous amount of phone numbers from these short 30 second approaches. Problem is, unless you're going down, and she's on your path, for at least 5-10 minutes, there's not enough time for her to get a taste of you, which means getting dates out of that is insanely hard!
If you're not gonna be in an elevator:
1. Get out of the house
2. Approach someone
3. Ask for directions to any nearby store or restaurant (E.g: Starbucks)
4. Give them a compliment
5. Introduce yourself
6. Have a short conversation (I'd personally say 5-10 minutes)
7. Get her number, then find out a way to ask her out again
Too complicated. Just walk up to a girl and be direct breh.
This video is the best advice for talking to women I've ever seen. I've struggled with my self worth for a long time and things are finally on a solid upswing. My confidence has increased significantly and I feel like I'm really ready to give dating a go again. I feel good about myself. I think I can do this and I'd be a great partner to a woman.
Somehow I never learned this basic skill and need someone to break it down step-by-step for me like I'm five. Something's wrong in society when men aren't learning this naturally.
This is actually pretty good. It builds confidence and further down the road you'll get a really nice girl. Great video
Let’s take a moment to appreciate the video quality
Freaking genius!!! Love the one step at a time approach!! Ease into it like learning a new trick!!
" be proud of yourself regardless of the results". Truth
A tip: try asking your waitress/store clerk a non transactional question. its free and you don't feel like you are hitting on her. passing by the sales lady? "hey, how is your day going?" "I love your outfit!" they won't bite! I got a waitresses phone number just by striking a convo and asking her "how she liked working here". Bottom line: get used to talking to unknown females. that will take the edge off when you really approach.
This idea to talk to ANY woman also gets your brain rewire to extract context from bits she says and flow
The best content about game right now, refreshing
Love this thanks. As an introvert the breakdown of smaller steps is great for me.
I stopped counting girls I approached (hate me now), but I made some mistakes obviously. I had scripted things to say and that kept me "safe", cause I knew how the conversation will follow. So, the best way to take 100% out of this is to give complement and from that point let go of any expectations cause that's the muscle you will need - to find yourself in difficult scenario and find way out of that, which you can't do if you just plan conversation. It's ok however at the beginning, but none conversation should be about outcome dependence in long term, cause it's just weird and needy. Up to 15th approach i counted it as win, but after some point you need to put the bar higher
In German we would say you are a „Macher“ (someone who takes action and gets results).
. You have motivated me to go into the city tomorrow instead of shopping online. Might be more opportunities there… :)
Its amazing to see you bounce back from the pandemic TODD. Been your student in past, truly appreciate your logic based coaching!
Todd is the tesla of dating. Helped me greately in the past this guy. Long live Todd.
thank you so much for this video, i am 23, turn 24 next month, never had a real relationship before and i decided so many things about me need to change in regards to getting what i want out of life
Love the clip where Todd is watching the dogs playing haha. Great vid Todd and thanks for the tips
No Fluff, all quality concise content. POV of the person being approached, (This confident charismatic man has approached me kindly, how do i continue the conversation). Cheers for the perspective shift.
Slow and steady wins the race. But in this case race is just with yourself. Just Keep going and you will win eventually.
Nuts and bolts dating coach, step-by-step. Todd V is in a league of his own.
I have TBH. Toad and RSD coaching made my life so much better. It can seem like a spam email approach. But it works. My experience? If you want to make a lot of money in sales or have success with girls, get used to ‘NO,’ Fuck off’ ‘Loser’ .. 90 percent of my sales went that way. But guess what the 10 percent of yes’s gave me three vacations a year and put 2 kids though college. Same applies with women. Take the no or the L with a smile and move on. The more no’s you can take with a smile and not take personal, man your in. And those numbers start to increase from 1 out of ten, to 4 out of ten. Embrace the rejections. Be cool about it. And you will f’ing flourish. Also you can apply this to ANYTHING! Literally anything. Work, friends, school. Like lifting a dumb bell. Embrace the pain, and grow. BUIT you have to go through that initial pain. Or your just sat there with bitch tits, no money and no girls. PAIN equals growth. And pain is temporary. DO IT! No excuses. DO IT TONIGHT!
Amen on that. Well put.
Todd you are amazing. You have the best advice when it comes to game and Ive leveled up SO much over the summer because of you.
Todd ain't missing with this one 💯
Very practical tips without messing about. Thanks
This is exactly what I'm doing right now. I'm of the type who doesn't learn well "jumping into the deep end" because it makes my anxiety go way up, get stressed out, and many times discouraged. That goes with anything very new and somewhat intimidating to me. Cashiers are the ones who have helped me the most, I just make random comments and they mostly enjoy a customer being human towards them.
One of these for indirect game would be pretty cool, but this itself is badass thanks Todd
It's pretty indirect as is. He says to give a compliment, but it doesn't have to be a super flirty compliment.
Todd looks like Ben Roethlisberger’s artsy little brother
😂💀💀
Lmfaoooo
Regarding introducing yourself, what do you think of Corey Wayne's idea of instead asking for her name and seeing if she asks for your name in return? That supposedly indicates her level of interest in you.
Step 2 is sooo goood
Making it sexual or showing attraction always paralyzed me so I only approached once and then never again
Great video. This is what I was looking for. One step at a time we got this. Good luck to you all!
I agree with this all it takes is an approach I was on a run and waiting for the cars too pass by really cute girl passed by me and her dog started to play with me. She and I just got into a natural convo I got her number and we went out
Uploaded 31 seconds ago, i think my timing is pretty good.. Thanks for the free knowledge Tod!
Oh damn. This is legitimately good advice.
I'm doing this now, just did step 2 an hour ago, going to do step 3 tomorrow.
Todd, you’re the best. Thank you.
Really looking forward to the day when I can afford personal coaching by you Todd!
Todd you are the man
Great video, very simple easy to practices. Love Todd.
I really love what you are doing for me. Thanks man.
awesome, i've been doing the same exact things step by step to really hammer home some basics ive been missing since i've starting going out.
Don't get over reactive based on the girl's reaction whether positive or negative. You want to be calm, composed, and grounded.
I am great at step 1! but then I am like oh my why can't I just go over and i am all in my head! but thank you for the step method!!
Yo Todd can you do a Russell Brand break down eeit: the same way you did the hitched video. Thanks again for all the videos. Oh and it's good to see You out the house.... Edit: lol 1:50
Really practical video, thank you Todd
Todd is my hero
Release verbal game academy soon please.
Thanks Todd, I’ve gotten better with women but out of practice with approaching because of dating apps.
I want too day game again
The most important thing is pace yourself
Finally the video for me, can you make friends this way too or is it going to give guys pause lol
Damn bro this video is actually good
I happened to do steps 1 and 2 already today before I even knew this video existed
I’m having anxieties just thinking about it DED 💀
I started doing this last year, but at some point I got into clubs and alcohol and that ruined it for me and I gave up.
I will begin this again from tomorrow but this time no clubs and I will watch this video every day and write here my progress. For my first day I just want to be able to ask one person for directions. Wish me luck!
12.08.2024(first day): I went out and wondered the streets for about an hour but I was too scared to talk to anyone. I thought this would be easier, but it seems that I have a bigger problem than I thought.
On the positive side at least I started and I went out to try. Let’s hope for better for tomorrow!
13.08.2024: I went out and I was so close a couple of times, but I bailed out last moment. Uh, it was so frustrating, but I least it was closer this time. Come on man, let’s do this tomorrow!
14.08.2024: I did it! I asked 3 girls about directions on the street. Even though objectively seems like a pice of cake, for me it was a big deal. I am really proud of myself. What I learned is that after the first “approach”, it became much easier. Also, it is better to do it asap and not think too much. Let’s continue tomorrow as well!
15.08.2024: I had some hiccups and only managed to ask one girl for directions today. I got caught in thoughts and shot myself in the foot. As I said, it is better not to think at all and do it early, cause otherwise it builds frustration. But what I liked was the fact that I didn’t stop until I did it and I am proud of myself. Onto the next day!
16.08.2024: Asked 2 girls today for directions. What I started to notice is that I began to develop more confidence in myself. I know now that I can do it, which it feels amazing!
Todd, love you man :)
Boston represent!
Step 1 is the most important. It's way better to go out and fail to approach than it is to stay in your house and not try.
Cool video, action plan, chapters and aesthetics.
This was a great one. Thank you.
Can't wait to try this.
It sounds stupid but thanks for putting leave the house in there... today I went out with the intention of doing an approach of somekind, it didn't happen and obviously I felt like I failed. But what I did do was think carefully about what I would say to each person I would have liked to approach, what made them stand out, and write it all down. Now I have a lot of ideas and more confidence that when I do approach I will be prepared.
solid advice
An ND filter on your lens would stop the image being over exposed 👀
It's rare to find an actually useful/valuable comment.
He's a bum and doesn't pay Pablo enough for him to know how to use a camera properly. Pablo probably doesn't even speak english
I did exactly that, now I'm in jail for harassment.
Don't drop the soap ! 🧼
You became a feminist's survival story
She's six steps aways by eric disco is also a good book about this topic and approach, helped me a lot.
Thank you!
Gotta love Todd even as an extroverted OG
Fuck. Just listening about it and half way through my heart is pounding....
Small steps. You can add in question/compliment with a girl serving you coffee for example. Without any intention to flirt, you're just getting comfortable with the conversation element.
And before approaching in the street, just make eye contact with women and smile as you walk past, nothing more. When those 2 get easy you can move on to more. Same theory just different starting point!
@@seanm996 yeah, going out in about an hour to start. Hopefully I'm more frustrated with my situation than I am scared of aproaching. Thank you.
@@seanm996 OK. Approached 15 girls/sets with the same bs question but: I didn't realise I need to start so basic. If you have no agenda then there is much less pressure and you can focus on little things like low tone of voice and not clowning about (and not doing the pistol fingers...).
But the main thing. Nobody stabbed me or called police or effed me off. I'm not enjoying it yet but not just not sweating like ace ventura inside hippo is nice.
Going back tonight for more after I cool down...
@@mattbigmonster
Awesome stuff!
You're right it's not a big deal after we get started, and you can keep making small adjustments as you go.
Just got another session (30) asking people random shit this time late saturday evening. People are kind of decent... Especially enjoyed packs of girls, somerhing I was scared ahitless before. Just having an excuse took so much anxiety off me. I have made more progress today after watching this video yesterday than in the last 5 years doing "inner game".
Step one: Get out of your house
Me who has corona: 👀
I have a auto immune disease so im watching this as a refresher but pissed that im so sick that i cant physically stand for more then 15min
lmao ill get out the house. thanks todd
I intentionally stay in the house to don't see girls so I don't feel crap about not appraoching them
My journey begins today!
How do I approach a girl when she's with her friend? I've gone out to approach twice, I went to the mall and the beach but I didn't see any girls by themselves so I didn't do any approaches.
That's a good ass question. I wish I had a concise answer for this but unfortunately you and me are both beginners. I will say however, you might still need to get used to putting yourself out there and get used to approaching a group of women at least 3 of them or under (over 3 of them will get overwhelming unless you have a wingman). Because the reality is, most girls will be in a group either with friends or family. Good luck out there.
From my little experience on approaching women, I also suggest that you keep the ball rolling regardless of the experience. You will eventually feel much more confident after the first and second approach, but if you randomly stop then your anxiety can build back up. Also, focus on getting the number if you can't come up with a great topic to go over for ex. ("Hey listen I'm a little busy right now but can I get your number?). After you get comfortable with that I'm going to assume that's when you'll get to the logistical stage for ex. ("So what are you up to after this")
If approaching is the goal, why not just ask them by saying "hi my name's ______, I'm visiting from out of town..." and then ask directions to somewhere, or if there's a good Chinese restaurant around? Then you can go from there if she'd digging you. If you're beginning I wouldn't even worry about trying to get numbers unless it's really obvious she's digging you. I certainly would not try to ask out a girl when she's with her friend. That's more advanced and there's a good chance the friend who you're not choosing will c-block you. Just my opinion. And of course women are going to be in groups at the mall and the beach. I used to go to a Target on my lunch break to approach and there were plenty of women by themselves.
@@Jukeboxster I'll try target or another store like that then. Were there girls between the ages of 18 and 25 by themselves there?
@@johnclark8637 oh no, late 20s, early thirties, I guess I'm much older than you lol. Yes women 25 and younger are going to be with their friends more often than not. Why not just bring a friend, good ones will help your game, have fun with it, you can be anyone you want. Me and my best friend back in the day used to tell women we were minor league baseball players lol. Can't make the lie too obvious.
1:50 2:05 half of the game is Leaving the house.
2:21 open
6:04 Ask the question, give the compliments and introduce yourself.
1:33 Missed that approach, she looked hot
I would say for me the talking phase is easy and climbing up throught the interaction with a female but i always lacked the "Approaching" part of pickup, because i always doubted myself because i looked super young and was short, so the girls i've been with i had some kind of connection already
gold nugget right here!
I like step 4 going after step 2