They are Jealous - that is why they behave that way!
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- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
- Ever notice that there is one person that just keeps triggering you. Now there very well could be some wounds going on into you or insecurities that cause this person to trigger you. It could also be that this person wants to cut you down because they are in fact jealous or envious of you.
I’ve dealt with this before, and I know you have as well. I want to show you how to handle this and why this person is doing this to you which is probably unconsciously so don’t try and point it out because that method won’t work either.
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People are not jealous any more of what you have. They are jealous of your aura and the energy you bring to the table.
Wow, so true. some people will even hate you because of your personality. They simply don't want you to be you.
That is even more exhausting, they hate your essence...omg, mind-blown!
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Yes❤
@@justme-cj7rs💯
Sometimes, it is just your pure inner light that irritates their demons.. :)
😂 100% ❤
Exactly
So true 👍 👌
It’s a spiritual war. Fully agree with your statement.
That part 🎯
A tormented soul will envy your peace.
So well put.....
What they don’t understand is that we too, were once tormented & have done work & ❤️🩹 healing. It doesn’t mean that we still don’t have days that the torment comes back to visit!
Very true.
That's why those who have toxic envy have a need to trigger you. Envy is an unbalanced dynamic that compels them to seek balance regardless of rightful justification.
Oh my god🙏
They are jealous of everything, your existance as a whole, even if they have more than you they are always jealous. Thank you
Exactly…..it’s exhausting
Yes. I’m like you have a husband, you have kids, and you have a nice house. I only have me and a good job. People are weird
😂 LOL!!! They compare themselves to others. Hardly ever in a realistic way even.
Right now I can take my own advice- you want it, take initiatives towards getting it.
I lost just about everyone I hung around with because there jealous.
I’m taking it this is the healing stage so take my time.
A couple of people were jealous of my struggles.
That one made me really think if I take up all the reality there.
Anyhow sounds dependent to me. Like that person can go test drive life for a change and see how well they fair.
Observe them not absorb. Help navigate in fine Tunements this next part of my life.
They can have a whole loaf and be jealous over your one slice.
@@happyhealthyblessed That’s good. I’m going to use it
Your light not only draws people to you, but it also exposes the darkness in those around you.
Well said 🙏
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It’s very true
I don't know, the guys at my college always call me stupid...
Wow, so true. some people will even hate you because of your personality. They simply don't want you to be you.
I agree❤
I laughed at this comment because it’s so ridiculously true
Isn't this really selfish behavior overall. I'm amazed all the time about the selfishness that people manifest because someone is a better inner person. It's actually really sad
I had this as a child with my family. When I went to uni, I made life-long friends who really appreciate me. That's when I realized the problem wasn't always me but them.
The worst is when they start spreading gossip about you and you can see people start treating you very coldly. You don’t know what the gossip is so you can’t really counteract it. It’s a horrible feeling when you’re being smeared and can’t stop it from spreading. 😢 Very depressing.
Right now I’m facing this at work and it’s making it so stressful
@@Kimmy11279 This happened to me. Physical distance, silence, grey rocking, and prayer were my solutions. Also, make sure all communication is via email to avoid in-person communication. One more thing, you're not the problem and please don't allow these people to dim your light. Actually, shine even brighter and give them a sunburn 😂☀
It sounds too easy, but let God defend you. Stay godly. I had gossip, literally ruined my life. That’s not an exaggeration. I lost everything because of gossip. I was kind to the people that hurt me and destroyed my life and it took years, but eventually everyone figured out. I wasn’t the problem in the scenario. I had to rebuild my life, but it was a blessing, I have a far better life now and “if” these people entire back into my life now (and now there is a power shift where I extend Grace to them already, but from afar.) I would even be extra friendly to them, but that doesn’t mean dependent like I used to be. Don’t let the lies get a reaction out of you. Don’t avoid or attack, do your best to address the problems head on and if that doesn’t work, trust that you did your best and now God needs to sustain you and help you heal from the pain that is very, very real. Even Jesus wept and experienced righteous anger, but in that there is no need to sin.
I have this from my own daughter and I had to stay away from her ! She has done everything to destroy me and said to me it’s bad that I look better than her and a lot more reasons so for my mental health I had to walk away and work on myself ❤
@@Kimmy11279 find someone at work who seems like a nice person and is just going along as a scared bystander and tell them how you honestly feel, as honestly as you're capable of, and ask what is being said about you.
People can be jealous for reasons that blow your mind if you are not a jealous type of person.
I learned the hard way, silly me😢
A neighbor was envious of my swollen knees when I could barely walk. He thought I had "super soldier implants". The delusion is strong. 😂
In some cases you can sense and discern the jealous/envious energy of the person, and you haven’t even said one word to them.
You are beautiful 😍
oh yes!
This is so true, I can sense it by the way they look at me, I’ve had so called “friends” and close people being narcissist flying monkeys ganging up on me throwing a smear campaign against me trying to retaliate against me, there are some dark dark energy out there a devil in human disguise.
Always stay safe and becareful of your surroundings!
It's very subtle but very real.
Even if they speak another language!;
It makes total sense because jealousy is destructive, so people that are jealous of you will try do "destroy" you by making passive agressive comments that bellitle you, diminish you. Once we become aware of this, it´s easier to just get out of this game.
@fabianafran927, your comment is so true. This has been happening to me at my job since I started there two years ago. I try to ignore it and stay away from those types at work, but every once in a while, we "run" into each other.
True, and it is totally exhausting.
Some people’s jealousy is just rage looking for a target.
People are dumb asf if they’re jealous
This part was a real eye opener
There are (mainly) women out there who will hate you at first sight for no apparent reason.. Watch for their eye movements as you are being introduced. A good future friend will look you in the eyes, a hater will scan you up and down, looking at clothes, shoes, jewellery, hair.. They are very very insecure. Avoid at all costs.
I really hate it when people are jealous of you for just existing! Like what are you supposed to do? Unexist?!?
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They need to look in the mirror & work on that. It's madness.
Would love that.
@@tedfebo1741 Sorry for whatever broke you growing up. Hope your mother gave you enough love.
They can have all and you little but they act jealous anyway, and yes they would gladly wipe you off the earth so listen to your gut. Nothing will change them and they are truly dangerous to your well being. I think victims sometimes think their gut must be off and feel bad for thinking what they have perceived, but staying only gives them more opportunity.
I call this a normal day at work 😂😂😂
That is very sad that this has become normal behavior in the workplace. Jealousy and envy is one of the seven deadly sins
Spot on…..every workplace I have been involved with has been a toxic mess full of these bozo employees.
I agree, I have worked many years in a female-dominated field and have experienced this many times. It’s disappointing.
Get out asap. It will never stop.
Workplace haters are always fun😂
People are jealous for these reasons :
They can't have what you have.
They don't what you to have what you have.
They can't be like you.
Amen
Straight Up Real True Facts
Haters gonna hate no matter. I just ignore them. Period.
That NEVER works. Don’t be naive. Get out. Ignoring bullies only provokes them. Useless
Ignoring them takes their power away they know that their tactics are ineffective without a reaction from you
Exactly this.
How do you they are Haters and not just Curious?!!
I woke up to all my plants thrown of my porch I ignore them so I guess this what they do to try and fire me up 😂😂
My own mother was jealous of my creativity and down played everything. She made me feel guilty and had me thinking I wasn’t good enough. But as soon as someone else noticed my talents - she was the first one to brag…lol. She has a very low self esteem
She seems narcissistic
Shes a narc
Who cares about her self esteem. Take care of yourself ❤
Same here. I just noticed that about my mother. Down plays everything I do, but brags to others about it
I hate to say it but there are surprisingly a lot of mother's like this.
I get triggered because they were supposed to be my rock and my support and instead, they want me to make myself smaller so they can't be jealous. So I basically have to stop needing them to be my rock or support of any kind. Be careful who you rely on emotionally.
Yep parents siblings and husband. Silly me, huh? Trusting the wrong people my whole life
@@jenster29 same
Ironically they destroyed their real, healthy chance to be the 'bigger' person by refusing to be the supportive rock who is usually exactly the stronger and bigger (not necessarily physically) individual.
People are waking up how cruel and disgusting some people can be! Anyone who intentionally hurts others and creates this large amount of negative energy is crazy because this happens to so many innocent people even younger kids deal with this in friendships.
yeah so true more advocacy online is helping to build awareness towards these toxic characters.
Unfortunately so true!
It's fascinating when you do your job and your customers love you, then you meet someone who just hates your guts right out of the box.
Yes. I've experienced that too.
@@pinkrose4322 one things for sure, you have to be selective about mentioning how much fun you're having in life. A lot of people don't want to hear it.
I saw a quote the other day that I appreciated…you can be the kindest person, but in someone’s world, you are the a$$hole. So true 😆
I can relate. I work in customer service. When you work hard and do your best, the customers validate your good work. Even if fellow coworkers or managers do not acknowledge it. Your good work gets noticed by the right people.
@@rachelm2041 I get to drive all over a major city and see tradesmen and various others at my industrial stops. I'm proud to say this results in all kinds of contacts and privileges I would not otherwise enjoy. These contacts have enriched my recreational life enormously. Welders, Electricians, Machinists, Woodworking Specialists... these people can really help you with your boats and outdoor gear, not to mention maintaining your house. When you look after your people it pays off! It also makes the really disagreeable people stand out for all the wrong reasons.
Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
When they leave let them be gone. Fuck o mighty boys there are lots of women that will treat you bad
Insecure women get mad at me because i'm not jealous of them? Does anybody else experience this. Its really wierd & such a waste of time.
Μe too
Yeah, I have a sister in law who basically plays show and tell whenever I go over. I’m a minimalist I could care less.
I have learned woman who are unhappy with themselves and life hate other woman. The most mean and jealous individuals in my life have been woman.
I just left a job of 10 years due to a pack of narcissistic managers and flying monkeys. I was very good at what I did and they were so jealous that they would lie, manipulate and sabotage everything I did. They could only talk the talk but never walk the walk.
I'm glad you left! Wishing you all the best for the future!
That happened to me too. 14 years in a job I loved because they hate themselves
But then evil wins. What about fight the evil? Outsmarting them. Isn’t it cowardly to retreat?
@@sanelatutaris15 it isn’t cowardly at all, although your comment about facing evil has merit. Just getting out of a toxic environment helps you breathe.
Any toxic or subtle stuff and I just say “I know deep down you are suffering” looking them in the eyes whilst saying it, and “if you really need to talk about it, I’m here”. That either makes them back off, or run for the hills. If they deflect I just say “I understand why you are deflecting because of your deep-rooted stuff”. Easier to do if you imagine a 3-4ft adult with a toddlers head on.
@@sanelatutaris15 I’m no longer required to help them win. They depended on me to fix everything they destroyed.
I deeply believe that people who are envious of you ALSO feel INFERIOR TO YOU, and when you are around them, your presence makes them feel small, no matter how nice and down to earth you might be! When your presence intimidates someone and they are envious of you and they don't feel good enough in your presence, these are the people who will do and say little nasty things to you, trying to make themselves feel better! It IS VERY ANNOYING but I agree with you, it's really not about you, it's about how someone is feeling ABOUT THEMSELVES when they are in your presence or when they are comparing themselves to you! Haters are nothing more than very annoying fans!
Oh wow! I believe this!
I had to let this friend go. She is a narcissist and is very jealous of me. She refuses to see issues or try to improve her life. She wants what I have. Glad I finally saw the monster in her. I am thriving without her in my life.
I recently had to do this too to a long-term friendship. I know exactly how you feel. I ignored red flags for two decades. No longer. Their negative energy brings you down with them like crabs trying to crawl out of a barrel. They don't work together to get out, they crawl on each other and hope they can get over the edge before another crab pulls them back down.
Internet hugs to you.
I agree they people like that
Sick world.
I did the same thing! People who are not trying to improve themselves but bring that negative foolishness around is a headache! Good job!
Lucky for you if she cut the ties!!! Mine has stalked me for years. So disgusting.
Same here
Jealousy isn't only from people who lack some assets or qualities.... sometimes people who attained or has got something already are jealous that you managed it as well and they aren't exclusively the only best one of the pack anymore....
Yeah they call it 'Tall Poppy Syndrome' in Australia. 😮💨
New Zealand too@@amphorntiengtare4072
This came timely for me. I am grieving a friendship with a twisted jealous and envious narcissistic woman! The relationship was amazing at the beginning before I began to see in her jealousy and envy. She would copy me, make comments on my appearance, try to flirt with my boyfriend. It is just disgusting 🤮
SAME!!
Same finally went no contact put up with it on and off or 30 years. She would even outright tell me that I was the girl she loved to hate but I thought she was joking because why would she want to hang out with me
It is always good in the beginning because you don't really know a person like that.. time reveals All.
I believe a person who wears a mask, pretending to be something they are not only to make you believe they are are better than...is a jealous and angry person because... your not wearing a mask...it's just who you are.and what you have done with your life! They have regrets! Shoulda-Woulda-Coulda...isn't working anymore for them!
@Jack it’s work wearing a mask
Your spirit afflicts their demons!!
Your light makes them uncomfortable because it exposes their darkness!
It really does
I had to learn through experiencing betrayal trauma by a fake friend that people can actually be jealous of your character, which I truly never knew was possible before being traumatized by her…
Same here! I just had to get rid of a male friend who I used to confide in for a while until I realized he had exactly the problem that Stephanie is talking about here.
How did they completely expose that ugly part of their personality over a 15-yr friendship? Over time about more than halfway through it, it was the weird sense of SCHADENFREUDE I sensed from them talking about strangers or even close friends problems.
Eventually that attitude came for me in the form of constructive criticism really being destructive criticism of anything I had that they didn't.
Just like Stephanie Lynn says here, "it was a competition," because they would always bring up how they supposedly handled something supposedly better than myself in some way even though I had a lot more than them in or this or that.
I'm a scapegoat from my family of origin so it's kind of heartbreaking to have someone I almost looked up to like an older brother I never had who was. (I'm a straight guy saying this so I'm not talking about THAT type of heartbreak, ha ha).
Yet it's NO JOKE to have someone you thought you can lean on in rough times eventually turn out to be the where you got to from your FORMER friend or the way I got from my FORMER friend.
I'm sorry you went through this because we expect this and some good relationships or great relationships after years or decades.
Yet NO CONTACT is a cure-all to that problem for me. Once you see them without the mask one too many times, you can't unsee it again. (Believe me, I really wanted or needed that friend as a friend and, I even lied to myself to keep the friendship going, but eventually I just had to LET IT GO.
PS--I did not even do a tell off. I've got some strength and could do that but I have something better to do than just to give them more negative supply for pushing my button one too many times yet again
Diabolic.
Pa1😊😊😊 3:13 3:14
This is very timely! I deal with this every day at work with the jealous and insecure women at work.
Me too.
@butterliesintheskyFound the crazy feminist man-hater in the thread!
A lot of men are jealous and insecure at work too.
I worked hard to buy the car I've always wanted! I was/am so proud of myself. She asked when I'm going to "upgrade"... Some people ain't sh!t... Keeping my distance from her. I like my car and my peace.
Each of us have a right to our choice to breath and be happy.
You did the right thing be yourself, let go you can't fix their problem.
Let go
@@catherinepatton8699❤
I told my mom a few days ago that i didnt understand why some people would envy me or be jeolous of me if im a nobody, im not popular and probably the worst sinner than them. And she told me that it was my 'persona' that they envied. Just simply for been me. That they envied whats inside of me even if they are richer than you or more popular than you. I still dont get. It blows my mind.
It's your vibration...dr dispenza talks about frequency and vibration. Amazing stuff!
Your mom is correct. There's something special about your "persona" that they know they'll never have.
In my experience these people have a deep shame that gets triggered. That sense of shame often stems from some kind of childhood neglect, so as a coping mechanism they convince themselves that they’re somehow better than everyone. Anything that challenges that narrative sets them off and they will try to hurt you or humiliate you to put you back in your place. They’re just very immature.
Yup, describes my sister-in-law to a T!
To be honest ….
…. I am so tired of people making excuses for someone else’s insecurities/ jealousy.
It IS personal because I have to tip-toe around the person and watch every single thing I say and/or do!
This emotion called jealousy has got to be the craziest of crazy!!! And I’m tired of therapist, life coaches, whomever telling to innocent receiver how to maneuver around this mess!
Naw! I’m exhausted so therefore I’m bringing it front and center when I see it coming!
Interesting approach. Maybe more people should call them out on their BS and outright tell them they're jealous.
@@larryl2398They would simply get defensive and nothing would change in their demeanour, believe me I tried
@@larryl2398But probably they'll just deny it, or maybe aren't even consciously aware of it.
Why tip toe. It’s a lot more expensive to stay around their abuse. It’s not that difficult to leave, get away from them, block them from your life. No headaches, bs, drama, crazy attitude and games.
Get far away from them.
I thought my coworkers just hated me for no reason now I know they were just jealous smh
I'm 6'3, in shape, and educated. There are very few men I meet who aren't jealous/envious of me. Even my friends get jealous/envious sometimes.
Good observation. The important thing is what you choose to do with that power.
I'm very happy to hear a man say he deals with this. I relate. I'm a bodybuilder and stand out. Some men (and women) treat me like trash and say little insults without even knowing me. At 44 I'm still learning how to make boundaries and not be a doormat. It's like some people think a big ass guy has no feelings and are bulletproof. Jealous people are insufferable and dangerous to my peace of mind.
Not even surprised... Jealousy among men isn't something that is talked about enough. We're under the impression that it's more of a feminine trait but I think there's a huge subject to discuss here. Jealousy from men towards other men and obviously that good old jealousy towards women.
@@ruckerbrady8342I hear you. My problem is I was always a people pleaser and didn’t know how to address my own needs as I think my late father was a grandiose narcissist despite being a good father and provider. They were both emotionally distant and no family left. I’ve had people especially women manipulate and treat me terribly. It’s true about being a nice guy finishes last. People always test and try to take advantage instead of appreciating someone for being a friend by being there. I no longer extend myself and mistrusting of everyone now. I had a male friend now passed I believe was very envious of me. He rarely looked me in the eye and in retrospect believe he had a lot of self loathing and family trauma and cultural disapproval because of his preferences of being. My point is be yourself and walk tall and stay true to a good core being. You’ll go far! Best wishes to you.
I suffered greatly from my older sister’s toxic jealousy that her behavior has made us estranged for years.
Same here…she still blames me for her unhappy childhood because my mom forced to take care of me…well sorry but it wasn’t my fault
Same!
Same!!!
@@sy_dianne5224 it wasn’t your fault.. people who blame simply can’t take accountability.
@@rondanatan6198 Well I get that as a child she should not have been parentified by my mother, she took away her childhood in some ways…it was wrong but she took it out on me in many bad ways and that’s not acceptable any more
Some people are just jealous people.
I always wondered why the fake people/ex friends in my life would always take things out of context or make an issue out of seemingly nothing when i was involved … it’s kind of pathetic and now I steer clear. I’ve learned to read micro expressions & follow a lot of Jordan Peterson and Robert greens work
Yessss yesss yesss !! Robert is where it's at! Once we can identify the subtle ways people show us how they feel about us ,life gets so much easier !! Micro expressions are so hard to understand but once we do ,it's all over with,we can see thru the fake and protect our peace !
The problem with jealousy is, if you say a lot of people are jealous on you, if there are more then one and you should talk about it, you will also be arrogant, who the fuck do you think you are! This is what they say, when they are jealous! As long as it is negative!
Im so shocked that this level of jealousy exists to a murderous standpoint where they'll get into organized harassment and fraud to put me out whilst attacking my health etc... they're crazy
Be unpredictable, change routine and inform people that cares for you. There's a bad people out there.
They Murdered God's son Jesus. They were Jealous of him.
Yes these people are truly nuts
Me to it’s pretty evil.
@@justme-cj7rs Absolutely! The best example out there!!
This is so true, I used to be confused when people treat me a certain way. What did I have to be jealous about. I was not married, I have no kids…which is what most women see as “successful” my friend explained to me that I have a “light” that’s what they are really jealous of and now I get it.
They are jealous by the beautiful aura of a beautiful soul ,God has a plan for you ♥️🕊️
Are they darker skinned?
I had to leave a 15 year job back in February due to not only a covert Dictator who tried consistently to break me with heavy workload but flying monkeys also including HR.
He used to laugh at me saying " I know we abuse you " .
They could not stand my resilience ,knowledge and kept trying to make me do endless hours without pay. 50-60 hours a week for years was killing me ,breaking me down. Also ,trying me so that other women had less work Especially as I am Single ,no children .
I got the Union involved in my written Grievance and got my job changed. It's been hell at 50,changing a job when I knew so much,but better than being around evil and my mental health diagnosis has improved .
Bonjour Serena slattry
Don't let an employer do that to you you deserve better!!
Congratulations strength is power you are strong.
Why no kiddies?
The crazy thing is when you think the other person has everything and cannot imagine they could be envious of you.
They are threatened as they don't want you to have what they have.
They might have everything but they’re probably envious of who you are as a person.
They could be envious of your looks and self confidence too.
Honestly...you don't have to have anything...or even be living your best life for others to be jealous of you....an insecure person or someone with low self esteem perception of reality, theirs and how they view others is already completely distorted....nothing you do will ever fix their issues...you can only control your feelings and how you react to people with these issues...but know that people are going to find something about you that either they don't like or will be jealous for...still continue to live your life..don't let this behavior change who you are...why do we have to take responsibility for someone who is jealous?... I think we just need to remove ourselves from the situation and not engage with them...and live your life
Don't cast your pearls among swines.
I now know what this scripture means
Very true words from scriprure.
*scripture
Amen
I have one person at my work that acts like this.
If it's only one....consider yourself lucky!
I’m a photographer, started my own side business, Oh Man !!! The stories I can tell !!!! Just unbelievable, WOW
@@spirg I can imagine....stay away from them, stay blessed and keep doing what you love....Be Happy!!!
Only one? How many people do you work with?
I’d rather not have friends than deal with or try to get to know someone. I love my peace.
I'm not jealous of anyone on earth.People shouldn't envy or be jealous of anybody because you should only look at yourself and be thankful for everything you have.
The biggest part of my life that makes people jealous of me is that I have NO kids. I have freedom, and people are jealous, but never admit it.
The worst is not only slandering and defamation, but they also start trying to copy your style…I mean so shameless. And people want to believe something negative about one, because it makes them feel about themselves. Insecurity is loud. It can be very hard to ignore, just because they will do everything to provoke a reaction out of you and then they play victim. 😔
I thought I was gonna faint when I walked in someone's house and they literally had mirrored mine??!!! WTF Scary.
I understand that has happened to me l could not be me.around her.
After time l figured it out l let them go it can hurt because we recall good laughing times.
Find the balance, let them go you cannot fix them.
Let them go, if they persist in getting you back in their web of illness l become straight with them not mean or crule rather l plainly say l am taking.a brake from our friendship that may start a war remain calm simply say l sorry you feel that way but l am working on me
That should do it if they insist you feel they want to pick a fight l.said sorry be.wrll l walk away.
Do not take anyone's verbal abuse, no long explanations needed be prepared this so called friend may tell lies about you to others.
If you don't leave that person you yourself may become sick in ways that don't connect but it's there.
Leave let go with as much care as you can muster.let go,!!@
Exactly what’s happening with me and it sucks when it’s your own family .. Then they have nerve saying bc hubby leaves keys and wallet with money in bathroom that we think we are Rich!
Even your good intentions can be the reason for being jealous for some people ;)))
Them back handed compliments are something else.
Class, character, genuine, nice because I sincerely want to be, no agenda, respectful and I’m hated because I’m simply authentic morally. It sucks.
Jealousy is the way of the world. We have all been Victims of this Evil Way of people in Life.
I 100% agree with this. SO many people say you "everything is a mirror" so if you're triggered it's probably your problem, etc. I absolutely do not agree with them and sometimes you're just feeling the weird vibes of someone else and MANY times it's about something you have nothing to do with, like jealousy and waking up other people's insecurities. It happens. And we're not all the same.
Also, if you all of a sudden become successful, notice that your friends hate you for it.
They see you as equal to them - how dare you do better than them now!
This is especially noticeable with people who won the lottery.
This is why many rich people drop all their friends when they become rich.
It's not that they are arrogant but it's the jealousy of their friends.
i think married women sometimes get jealous of women who are single. sometimes i think they want to be nice to their husbands and kids and everyone else so they take it out on whowever is easy to take out their inner aggression.
Yep, they are definitely jealous of the freedom that single women have. I’ve experienced that first hand. I was confused at first because I’m single with no kids and they are the one with the husband, kids and house with the white picket fence lol.
I'm very naive with this issue and I always wondered why folks around me try to poke me or make fun of me. I learned they're insecure and jealous of my energy and sincerity to make friendships easily.
Envy is one of the seven deadly sins ☠️
Envy is jealous of greed and lust. lol 😂
It’s the absolute worst when they hate their whole life because then you don’t just have the physical things they envy but they also hate you for making different choices than them.
The only way to win with these people is not to play.
I extracted myself from my whole family and couldn’t be happier about my decision. The one aunt was the absolute worst but my mother wasn’t much better. They’re bitter just of the fact that you’re younger than them! There is no logic behind it and there’s really nothing you can do about it either.
Exactly, sometimes they hate you because you made different choices which brought you to a different life from theirs…as if it’s your fault for how their lives turned out…crazy!
I have felt sooooo alone. When you mother, who is enviously jealous of me….which set the tone of how others have treated me. My whole life. I’m so over it. Opening my eyes to how others have been jealous and using my good heart hurts like none other.
Jealousy is one reason why people down others. What they are really saying is we don't feel good about ourselves but putting others down makes us feel better. Misery loves company
They are noticed as soon as you go anywhere , like a new job because narcissists have to investigate their threat level with the new guy
No one knows what itz like to be hated. For absolutely no logical reason whatsoever.
It's so sad how some people have envy. I can spot them quickly. God help these particular souls that need Jesus Christ 🌤
Why almost the vast majority of people are like that why ... these people are wicked and dangerous why!!!! THEY BULLY YOU , undermine you , demoralize you and question your own self worth and value etc....
Many times it’s not anything materialistic or appearances, IT HAS TO DO WITH HOW CONTENT YOU APPEAR TO BE. If they feel your vibes being happy, calm, at ease, content, They immediately sense this and they want it and try to figure you out, but in a secret way, they won’t tell u how you look, they just try to mimic you but it doesn’t work so they resent you. I know, it happens to me.
Exactly
Wow! I actually had another nurse at work ask me one night "why are you so content?" She was a nice enough co-worker but this makes me wonder if other women noticed my "contentment," and maybe that's why the jealousy and rude comments. I've actually had a very hard life, much was due to my many mistakes, but I've found peace. If people only knew what others have gone through, maybe they wouldn't envy so much.
Just hearing this makes my heart pound. My older sister has always been this way toward me to the point where she would deliberately humiliate me or tarnish my character by discrediting me or characterizing me as "fake"... especially in times where I've acted out of grace or integrity. I've been trying to navigate an actual conversation about her behavior but everytime I try it turns into a literal shit show.. I'm either "gas lighting" or she defaults into complete denial or justifies her actions with complete nonsense or avoidance. So frustrating and heart wrenching for me 😩😓
Sounds like she’s projecting that onto you (being fake). Sorry you’re going through this.
@@EvetteCollins thank you 💗💗
You need to walk away and go no contact, you will never get closure with a fool like her. I went through the exact same thing
Had this sort of dynamic blow up on me out of nowhere not long ago - a lot of pent up resentment towards me I wasn’t aware of boiled over in an ugly way and detonated several long-time friendships.
Best thing I ever did for myself - look at things for what they were and accept it when others show me, not just tell me, who they are. Don’t negotiate with toxic people - if you can get them out of your life, do so. If you can’t, keep your distance as best as possible and just be you, don’t let anyone grind you down.
Oh, so I can’t exist? Is that it?
Nowadays it feels that way, unfortunately
thats how i fell too
I have a sister-in-law, my brothers’s wife. She treats me horribly. It’s hard when it’s family member! I’m working hard to let it all go, she’s awful to me and my sister.
Yes I'm tired of jealous people..I work hard and I'm passionate about what I love..enjoy life its short
I’ve distanced myself from my niece. It’s hard when you see your downfalls are pleasing to others and makes them feel better about themselves.
I thought I was alone in this. I lost everyone. Its nice to see you all here. Sad you went or are going through the same thing but nice to know I'm not alone here in this world.
No you’re not alone.❤️
Why were they jelly of you?
@@frv6610 no idea
People are disgusting creatures
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
If that is how they treat you, you will find much better than that. Move on.
I started working at my parents' store because my dad got ill, but once some customers knew I was his son, they started making comments about me all the time. Things like, "29 and you're not married?" long list of jokes and rude indirects for no reason. I'm aware customers can be difficult, but everything turns personal now, and I don't even know them. I decided to remove myself from that.
Yes they are intimidated. Every man that I meet online or off ( just friends, not even a relationship anymore) ends up power tripping me quickly, devaluing me, trying to hurt me. It's because I have way more knowledge than them, psychic abilities, beauty etc..... Men hate n can't handle a " higher" woman. And the thing is, I'm not
b i t c h y, mean or anything.
They're jealous of our light too.
I see narcissism n psychopathy the first day I hang out with a person if they are that.
You sound healthy, you know your worth be who you are.
Yeah I don’t usually suspect men to be jealous or competitive since it’s usually other women who are like that. My ex wasn’t competitive or jealous AT ALL & I was with him for so long, so it didn’t dawn on me that the next guy I met felt like that, but I think he did. He went after me like I had spent years hurting him.
@@karifotowhy did he feel jelly of you?
@@frv6610 I think mainly because I dance to the beat of my own drum, and people who are so worried about what other people are doing or thinking, do not like that in others. I have a strong sense of self
Yes. Most of the time people want to cut you down for no reason is because of "tall poppy syndrome" They think you need taken down a notch for one reason or another. As a childfree couple I have experienced this with family and "friends". They love to point out that you don't have certain things because you don't have kids. But it irritates them when they also know that we are on a different path and are happy. Being left out of certain events is great for us, and I think it is meant to hurt us---but we are glad we don't have so many obligations to them to go do what we want to with our free time with the community that we built outside of their "normal". Besides.....everyone feels not good enough or left out of something in some social circles. It is completely normal. I do try to just stay positive with people regardless of how they treat me; it all comes back to you full circle how you treat others. Sometimes it surprises me of who will come knocking on my door when they feel side lined for advice or comfort. Life is not a contest. We are here to help one another and cheer each other on. So if you are feeling blue over something someone did or said regarding you, remember that they are most likely coming from a place of pain in their own circumstances. It most likely doesn't have anything to do with you at all. You are just in their crosshairs at the moment because you have something or have something going on that they wish they had themselves. Be kind to them anyway.
If you don't have a partner or kids then their behavior is even noticeable.
One thing to remember when family folks perio who come.down on you for your choices be they similar, different what l did was agree with them, if they talked about no children for you simply say your truth, best yet excuse yourself you don't owe anyone an excuse, or a.reason of why, when, where, smile and move on.
I learned a long time ago, l use it today that is.
What people.spew out of their mouth it belongs to them let them have their stuff your explanation for anything is not required.
I have found often they are looking for a fight, so they have something to carry to others, a gossip fest don't give it to them
Carry on with merriment, explain nothing
People like that are a waste of life! I have found this in my family. I just discovered on RUclips that they were narcissists.
I recently experienced this once again. I’m 53 years old. It’s been happening to me all my life.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can't stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I've tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I'm frustrated, and i don't see my life with anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can't. I don't know why I'm saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is queen stella laveaux, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Ugh, this was on point. I had an inkling that my female in laws were jealous but that felt very uncomfortable and for a while I wondered if I was doing something wrong. They were competitive over EVERYTHING, no matter how trivial. It wasn’t until my inkling was confirmed that I had to do a deep dive into the part of myself/identity that was a mirror to people and triggering them to be hostile (and triggering me and giving me anxiety about showing up as my true, authentic self). Once I separated myself from the insults and tactics that jealous triggered people do, I’ve increased my radical self acceptance AND the acceptance that there will be times that my existence will be a mirror to people and they will react negatively to that.
I thought that if I made myself smaller that those reactions would go away because I wouldn’t be mirroring people anymore. That most certainly wasn’t the case because when I was depressed and at rock bottom mentally (I was able to function enough to survive), nothing changed. Not even depression made a difference. So, I decided to heal myself and learn to live fully again as my inner child and soul wants. I’m still learning, but it’s liberating when you have those moments of realization that people’s hostile projections or tactics are them telling on themselves and the chokehold their insecurities has on them.
In other words, it's their issue, not yours. I've also dialed it down and turned down promotions and shied away from bein "too successful" but have dealt with similar. Best to just avoid people like that if possible.
@@larryl2398 precisely! And it’s sucky to feel you have to self sabotage in certain areas of your life in order to get some peace. Not anymore. Life is short and I wish you all the promotions and success. Live big, live well and continue to stay away from these people.
Yea, good for double yea.
I've had other women be really nasty to me for no apparent reason.
my entire life and I get it when I was young and really attractive but I am older now and surprisingly still get ostracised, ignored, etc. etc. It hurts because you have to be alone while these women are in groups and having fun together while you are well... just the odd one out... I started to feel like I was somehow inadequate... but no I know better but the feelings hit sometimes. We have no other choice but to become strong... really strong and solitary. Men also treated me bad when they know I am not interested in them... It is really sad.
@@danip6648I feel ya! In the same boat have very few friends as I get older …😢
I realized if you are put together, in shape etc other woman get triggered.
@@shopgirl17 yep. We should be slobs like them to be accepted. They hate themselves and anyone who outshines them they hate even more.
I recently quit hanging around this couple, because they were starting to get rude, she said after all this time when people talked bad about you I stuck up for you. I feel why is my name brought up in the first place, I can't controll what people think about me. Bye bye.
There's a saying 'don't tell me what people have said about me, tell me why they were so comfortable saying it to you'.
Had a person who was offended they didn't get an invite to my vacation home. I kept the address private. Years later they stalked the address online or by other means, and then steered their daughter to buy a home right near mine and then sent a text out of the blue telling me about the daughter's home purchased, and asked if it was near mine. (They knew it was and did this on purpose). Didn't respond. More than just jealousy and a whole new level - it's about power and control. Is this jealous stalking? Can you do a video on that if you have any knowledge?
What a weirdo that person is!
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That’s it and that’s all. It’s the essence of who you are! They will literally have you up there thinking it’s physical and then in turn try to make you jealous of them. When in actuality “You” are what they are jealous of… remember you already won and stay away!!
I don't even know why the person is jealous in my case
I feel that way. I'm an ordiary middle-aged woman. Really ordinary.
Maybe u make friends easily and can talk to anyone? That’s what it was in my case.
@@sophiesnooksyes, to be honest, I think you might be right and the person in question just doesn't like it
Talk about jealousy, I've had my cars keyed, my retirement day ruined, nasty letter sent to me in the mail how everything about me was awful. Those kind of people are cowards.
People are so jealous towards me that I would poop in my pants and they'd say, " Me too I want to poop in my pants."
I am judged at work by receptionist because I am working hard and receiving good tips. It’s so annoying because I don’t want to be talked shit about because I’m succeeding. It’s so ridiculous because they create unnecessary drama. For example, the manager was doing an evaluation for a raise and I wanted a copy after she left. I asked the receptionist if I could go and check on her desk and get my copy. She said no because it was probably locked up. I told her well if it’s locked up then I will wait until she comes back in but if it’s not I can just get it now. No you’re not allowed in her office. Then I said but receptionist you guys have lunch in her office. She told me I’ll text her and see if you can. Unfortunately the manger has already told me that she won’t respond after hours because her husband won’t let her. It was so difficult to get something so simple
It happened to when I wanted my university diploma, they pretended i didnt write the form and hand it to them 1 week earlier. I got message from university to my university message inbox that i can go and get the diploma, it is ready. When i arrive at reception the receptionist says they dont know about it and there is not even a form paper there to fill out to ask for diploma. I noticed she had buried the papers under other papers, as soon as i looked there she got nervous and wanted me to leave because they gonna close, even though it is officially opening hours. So i quickly pulled out one of the papers and showed to her that there is indeed diploma request papers here. The other receptionist girl understood that her collegue is not correct in her attitude. I went back up to the computer hall and logged in to look at the message again but it was deleted.
I just resigned from my job due to this but I contacted my old place of employment and 24 hours later I’m working huge hours with them. Don’t stay in toxic environments 🙏
Amen and good for you! So happy for you! 🙏💖💖
Yea yes.
Sometimes they come in groups 😅
I think also if you are a person who doesn’t show jealousy or envious behavior that triggers people too. They want to see your insecurity but if that’s not your area of weakness it can upset others. So weird.
Bad friends ruin lives. I had a friend who would recommend everything that was bad for me and looked bad on me. She cut me off of my parents and friends. She was so miserable and projected her issues on me. She was overweight, eating disorder and had difficulty getting a boyfriend.
Great nuance explained. They’ve learned to hide their jealousy, either consciously or subconsciously. It isn’t socially acceptable so they have frames/identities.
Yep! Coupled with they have some degree of authority or “power” (e.g., more senior role or alliances at work) and it’s a noghtmare. Legitimately don’t know a way to handle other than leaving the job. 😅
You’re in a relationship to improve your life with support and encouragement, a shoulder to cry on, not to make your life worse
Any signs of disrespect, acting like a child, jealousy, rages just get out of that relationship faster than you can blink
Thank you very much for this as close minded people will never understand it or act as if they don't. Someone can have way more stuff then you yet will hate you for the little(wich is also a lot) that you have. I've always triggered people their insecurities because i'm very beautiful, i look better natural, have a strong sense of self, i'm very neat, walk to the beat of my own drum, very confident. I seek validation within, have a great relationship with God, i'm organized, have an incredible son with a man who actually wants to be a father and men generally treat me very well.
Omg Steph you made this video for me. That’s my mother in law. Never did I want to believe she was jealous of me because that’s just crazy. How I desperately wanted a loving healthy relationship with her but after 36 years of abuse from her I just stay away now. And even though I didn’t want that I had to choose my peace over feeling crappy. Thanks for the video. Xoxo
Just the fact that you are happy and content with yourself and life is reason for them to dislike you!!!