I became a millionaire at 26. Here's 13 lessons for anyone in their 20s.
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- Опубликовано: 4 июн 2024
- Here are 13 lessons I would share with anyone in their 20s. I just turned 30 last week and wanted to pay it forward by sharing the best advice I could offer those still in their 20s. Making money is the LEAST interesting thing about life, but I also understand how many young people value this (just like I did!). This is why these lessons will cover how I made money and, more importantly, the crucial life lessons I learned as a result. The learnings may surprise you, so keep watching!
♡ What's in this video:
0:00 What to Expect
0:20 Lesson 1: Build Up Your Assets
5:33 Lesson 2: Get What You Want Sooner
8:08 Lesson 3: Everything Is a Projection
9:37 Lesson 4: Stop Idolizing
10:41 Lesson 5: Doubt Your Work, Not Yourself
12:03: Lesson 6: Do Things Excited
13:37 Lesson 7: Take Risks
15:07 Lesson 8: Go Deep vs. Wide
17:19 Lesson 9: Embrace Lost
18:19 Lesson 10: Understand Politics
19:45 Lesson 11: Values Change
21:41 Lesson 12: Don't Ditch Friends
24:02 Lesson 13:Ask Questions
25:49 Thank You!
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Comment below one life advice you have! There's so many people that end up reading the comment section, so let's fill it with wisdom and all pay it forward no matter what age you are! Please also share this video with anyone who may benefit from these lessons! It would mean the world to me :)
Advice - if it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t give it more than 5 minutes attention
Learn to meditate. Contact with the Self/Absolute/Source fortifies and supports any endeavor in the "Relative." I learned TM (Transcendental Meditation) at 20, and it saved my life!
@@ulrikeselleckart OOOF powerful!
To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing, so it means life is a risk if you dont go for your dreams and mind what people thinks of you you will the meaning of life to experience infinite possibilities and i realize we are infinite beings
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At the very least, I now grasp the concept of leverage. Creating wealth and financial freedom isn't as tough as many people believe. Building wealth and remaining financially stable indefinitely is a lot easier with the appropriate information. Participating in financial programs and products is the only true approach to make a high income and remain affluent indefinitely.
Starting early is simply the best way of getting ahead to build wealth , investing remains a priority . I learnt from my last year's experience , I am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time .
It's often true that people underestimate the importance of financial advisors until they feel the negative effects of emotional decision-making. I remember a few summers ago, after a tough divorce, when I needed a boost for my struggling business. I researched and found a licensed advisor who diligently helped grow my reserves despite inflation. Consequently, my reserves increased from $275k to around $750k.
That does make a lot of sense, unlike us, you seem to have the Market figured out. Who is this consultant?
Vivian Carol Gioia is the licensed advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.
I find this informative, curiously explored Vivian on the web, spotted her consulting page, and was able to schedule a call session with her, she shows quite a great deal of expertise from her resume.. very much appreciated
As a fellow RUclipsr, entrepreneur, (and mama of twins!), one piece of life advice that I have learned is that you're never really "ready" for the big thing you want to do or start. So instead of waiting to be perfectly ready, just go for it! Amazing things can happen!
love that! and agree with the feeling of never feeling ready. Even each video post, I never feel like it's "perfect" or "ready". You can't time life. Love this and thank you for sharing!
I'm also an entrepreneur and mom of twins❤
@@nana6828 aw love that! Go boss mamas! 💃
Wise words! 🧡
@@VanessaLau100%! Absolutely!
“Do things when you’re still excited about them. You don’t have to overthink and ruminate about everything that could go wrong or right. The longer we wait on our ideas, the less enthusiasm we have for the vision”
No lie, I wanted to start a 3d printing business in 2018, but I heard it's easy so I lost enthusiasm because I didn't do anything to start
Absolutely!!!
Sounds like something even a dating coach would say to a client. We gotta feel it, not think it, very important.
such a great quote.
I learned a lot for this video.Thank you so much for sharing this.
Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. I believe every Investor should start with ETFs for a solid foundation, then diversify across asset classes and maintain disciplined, regular investing to minimize risks and maximize growth.
An obvious way to invest is to buy shares in businesses that are likely to experience steady demand even in a downturn. Typically, those are consumer staples, utilities, and healthcare companies, but off course such decisions cannot be made by an average Joe, a financial advisr is important in making this decisions
I agree Such considerations can certainly have a role when I think about whether I ought to buy into a share. But I never purchase purely on that basis, i always have to seek the advice of my financial planner who has helped me gain $985k in a well-diversified portfolio that has experienced exponential growth
Great gains! Can you share your CFP details? I'm gaining more cash flow from my job and want to invest in stocks and alternative assets to build wealth.
'Amber Dawn Brummit' is the licensed advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with to set up an appointment.
She appears to be a true authority in her profession with over two decades of experience. I looked her up on the internet and skimmed through her site, very professional. already sent her an inquiry hoping for a response soon.
Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.Making money is not the same as keeping it there is a reason why investments aren't well taught in schools, the examples you gave are well stationed, the market crisis gave me my first millions, people shy away from hard times, I embrace them.. well at least my advisor does lol.
Investors should be cautious about their exposure and be wary of new buys, especially during inflation. Such high yields in this recession is only possible under the supervision of a professional or trusted advisor.
Wow, this is excellent! As a beginner, keeping up with all this information can be challenging. How do you stay informed? Are you an experienced investor?
I stopped trying to predict market outcomes based on chart studying after 5 years of uncertainty. Not having a mentor caused me 5 years of pain. I learned to follow the market's direction and keep it simple with discipline.
@@hasede-lg9hj I’m in dire need of guidance so i can salvage my portfolio due to the massive dips and come up with better strategies. How can I reach this advisor?
I’m in dire need of guidance so i can salvage my portfolio due to the massive dips and come up with better strategies. How can I reach this advisor?
over observing people before you let them in your inner circle,will save you many moments of confusion conflict and disrespect
oooo yes, as you get older you also get clearer on your criteria on who you let in. thank you for sharing your wisdom girl!
Yes, I agree. Paying attention to people's behaviors and actions is critical for your survival and livelihood. I learned very expensive lessons from people in general who betray you for money, relationships, and ill intentions. Try and test people before you really trust them. Ultimately, you have to believe in yourself in order to accomplish goals meaningful to yourself. From my experience, making good money is not a problem, 90% of my problems are caused by people. So, be very selective who you socialize with - I guarantee you will have less headaches.
@projectsspecial9224 how can you test people to know if you can let them be your inner circle of friends
look for signs where words and actions are same or different, do they reach out first, are they jealous, do they have the same level of accomplishment such that it’s not an imbalanced relationship
@@projectsspecial9224damn 💯
0:21 While you're still young, build your assets! You will have a more satisfying life in the future if you start saving, budgeting, investing, and achieving financial freedom early. If you're older it's not too late to get started. TY Vanessa for such inspiring content
Yes you're right, my friends upscale yourself, save, invest and learn skills that build up your value. You're your greatest asset!
I love your comments, everyone keeps talking about educate yourself about investing. Please point Me in a direction of articles and books that are helpful. I've found it difficult to learn online
Read books like rich Dad poor Dad, investopedia has good beginners articles. There's a lot of options like Stocks, ETFs, REITS, IPOs and more. I usually advise you have a professional guide you for a start.
Read books from Robert Kiyosaki.There are many options to explore, try to get a professional guide for a start.
There are many options to explore, get a pro to guide you in.
Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!
Starting early is simply the best way of getting ahead to build wealth , investing remains a priority . I learnt from my last year's experience , I am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time .
Exactly ! That's my major concern and what lucrative investment can one venture into with the current rise in economic downturn
In fact, I had no prior experience or understanding when I began investing in 2020, but by the end of 2023, I had made a profit of almost $850k. All I had been doing was going by what my financial advisor had told me. This demonstrates that all you truly need is a professional to assist you; you don't even need to be a great investor or put in a lot of work.
@@ThomasChai05My partner’s been considering going the same route, could you share more info please on the advisor that guides you?
"Gertrude Margaret Quinto" is the licensed advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment
I agree that when you become rich you'll realize most things don't matter. But the thing is a lot of people want to be rich not because they want a new car or they want to just buy $300 or $400,000 house. It's because they want to be able to just afford food and if their car breaks down they can repair it and if they need to spend $2,000 because something happens to their house or any inconvenience they can take care of without feeling like they're not going to make it to the next paycheck. Most people don't really want to be rich so they can buy whatever they want. They want to be rich so they don't have to worry when they have essentials. They need to take care of that. They don't have money saved up for
That’s a great perspective! Some people are making money just to survive. With rising costs of inflation, it seems like this is becoming true for more and more people. And I think that perspective is so needed for the more privileged people to realize they have ENOUGH!
I’m 23 but I relate to wanting enough money to not have to worry about essentials, not to go all out buying expensive items.
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Its exactly what I needed. Really a peaceful life.
@@VanessaLauthis is totally why i wish i was rich. Hyperinflation has devoured my earning power. I make $173K a year in southern cali and it is NOTHING. I don’t care about a fancy house, fancy car, fancy restaurant, or fancy vacation. Just want a middle class home totally paid off.
To my understanding this just proves how much we need an edge as investors because playing the market like everyone else just isn’t good enough. I've been quite unsure about investing in this current market and at the same time I feel it's the best time to get started on the market, what are your thoughts?
Since the crash, I've been in the red. I’m playing the long term game, so I'm not too worried but Jim Cramer mentioned there are still a lot of great opportunities, though stocks has been down a lot. I also heard news of a guy that made $250k from about $110k since the crash and I would really look to know how to go about this.
There are actually a lot of ways to make high yields in a crisis, but such trades are best done under the supervision of Financial advisor.
Thats true, I've been getting assisted by a FA for almost a year now, I started out with less than $200K and I'm just $19,000 short of half a million in profit.
Impressive can you share more info?
Credits to 'Carol Vivian Constable' she has a web presence, so you can simply
“stop idolizing. you can have respect for someone without lowering your status and without giving them your power. stop putting people, opportunities, and material items on a pedestal. you can doubt your work, but shouldn’t doubt yourself (the value of who you are as a human being outside of your work).“
this video is so well-spoken and full of wisdom.👏🏽👏🏽
Great video i must say, talking about building your asset early, it takes consistency and a guide, just built my first house through trade and i can never be less proud of myself.
Congratulation 🎊
Which strategy did you use?
Congratulation to you
I'm 21 I have found trade difficult, love to see people share ideas on it
I'm well encouraged. Most times I live with doubts and fear of losing before executing trades
Especially when using demo account, it seems so easy but i when using real account with real money it becomes difficult,I understand that frustration.
"Being lost is an uncomfortable stage in your life when your old self is gone and you haven't met your new self yet" 💯💯💯 so beautifully said💛 we should not feel ashamed of this "lost" state indeed!
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I needed to hear this today thank you God bless
Hey ppl, I'm a retired computer/IT person, Yet I still find Dale Valskov so informative and straight forward. Thanks for your advise and helping the people...........Great work and love watching.
“Embrace being lost. It is a time where your old self is gone, and you have yet to meet your new self.” So much sound wisdom. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
Congratulations, Dale Valskov I am relieved that you are out there fighting these thugs, We musttake every precaution to protect the elderly and the general public from these despicable con artists. Congratulations to You!! You deserve the Nobel Peace Prize for ensuring our security.
I'm in my 20s and I'm glad there's someone here sharing such insights. One life advice? While you are still young, develop life skills like public speaking, a new language, writing etc etc
yes to public speaking, new language, writing - all so valuable!! especially writing! I feel like writing is the centrestone to a lot of the other skills: story telling, scripting, public speaking, etc. love this!
Awesome video as always. I am small RUclipsr, and I think that for small channels the most important thing is to get good presence from the beginning. If you are not popular, people won't care even if you have the best videos and the best content on platform. I am not beginner anymore, but I know how hard it can be (and honestly if I haven't used a lot of Famester, I would have quit a long time ago. It was a proper game-changer for me).
to be honest. If you produce at cost and remove the logo, the luxury market really isn't that expensive. The listed price is approximately 80% of the actual price. But the fact that you are *condup* buying images and showing off your taste to make them think you are richer than you are is a very good thing
I don’t think it’s necessarily true for you to get a good presence from the beginning to be successful online. To get a good presence takes patience and determination. Nothing happens overnight, but it’s these limiting beliefs in yourself that make you not get that good presence. You need to get rid of these limiting beliefs and continue to strive for success without making excuses for why you’re ’not there yet’. Instead focus on ‘what is this teaching me?’ And ‘how can I use this as a lesson to grow from?’
“The best type of people are the ones who accept people for who they are. They hold them to certain potential that they know they can be, but they don’t rush them, they let them find their own way.”
Having someone like you who’s not only a great innovator but also pulls his best to get the work done so beautifully needs nothing but appreciation. Dale Valskov Thanks for the well off work you consistently bring your all and I truly appreciate that. Thank you for making corporate life so smooth. Proud to have you on our team. Great work as always.
I'm just a simple person from Switzerland, but I want to know how awesome it is what you did and what you do Dale Valskov . I found it difficult to do the steps by myself, thanks to you for being a life saver. I'm really happy seeing his name everywhere in the comments. It says a lot about his good work
someone finally said it. "don't ditch your friends just because you're on your development journey. your friends are people who love you and support you and why would you take that support system away from you? a lot of social media content is spews nonsense about ghost everyone and come back stronger. please dont do this :( you can grow and thrive together :)
Yes :)
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I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this. Because you're right. The worst thing that you can feel is hopelessness. And I hope that someone who is on the verge of losing hope finds Dale Valskov and realizes that as long as you're still alive and breathing, there's a chance, there's HOPE that the future is brighter then the present day.
This is not only for people in their 20s. I am in my mid 30s, and learning so much here. ✌🏼
what do u learn? all i see is everything based on luck
@@tr0llpatr0l86 It is 70% luck, although you can skew the 30% in your favour by prioritizing extroversion (in the OCEAN model), and putting yourself in situations that give you opportunities which is what the filmmaker/youtuber is suggesting.
@@lastazakana putting myself in opportunities means options -> i dont get any options! i rather stick to my current job wich contain a unfireable job contract with a salary of 2500 EUR every month where i can obtain certificates
@@tr0llpatr0l86 thats only 16 an hr in the us which is just minimum wage in my state, unless you're a 18 yo living with parents with no responsibility, that's not sustainable AT all and some of us want more than minimum wage
@@tr0llpatr0l86 Opportunities does not mean quitting your job. Sometimes, it might. Another way to see opportunities is to be at the right place at the right time. Meet new people, make new friends, talk to people, you will never know where they can lead you!
I had initially planned to retire at 62, work part-time, and save money, but the impact of high prices on various goods and services has significantly disrupted my retirement plan. I'm worried about whether those who experienced the 2008 financial crisis had it easier than I currently am. The volatility of the stock market is a concern as my income has decreased, and I fear that I won't be able to contribute as much as before, potentially jeopardizing my retirement savings.
The increasing prices have impacted my plan to retire at 62, work part-time, and save for the future. I'm concerned about whether those who navigated the 2008 financial crisis had an easier time than I am currently experiencing. The combination of stock market volatility and a decrease in income is causing anxiety about whether I'll have sufficient funds for retirement.
This is precisely why I like having a portfolio coach guide my day-to-day market decisions: with their extensive knowledge of going long and short at the same time, using risk for its asymmetrical upside and laying it off as a hedge against the inevitable downward turns, their skillset makes it nearly impossible for them to underperform. I've been utilizing a portfolio coach for more than two years, and I've made over $800,000.
Mind if I ask you to recommend this particular coach to you using their service?
Leticia Zavala Perkins, a highly respected figure in her field. I suggest delving deeper into her credentials, as she possesses extensive experience and serves as a valuable resource for individuals seeking guidance in navigating the financial market.
Thank you for the lead. I searched her up, and I have sent her an email. I hope she gets back to me soon.
"Being lost is a beautiful thing. Because it is an uncomfortable stage in your life where your old self is gone, and you have not met your new self yet." This really takes so much fear and anxiety away from me. Thank you so much for sharing this.
I realized that the secret to making a million is saving for a better investment. I always tell myself you don't need that new Maserati or that vacation just yet. That mindset helped me make more money investing. For example last year I invested 80k in stocks and made about $246k,but guess what? I put it all back and traded again and now I am rounding up close to a million
You work for 40yrs to have $1m in your retirement, Meanwhile some people are putting just $10k in a meme coin for just few months and now they are multi millionaires. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life
Thanks for continuing updates I'd rather trade the stock market as it's more profitable. I make an average of $34,500 per week even though I barely trade myself.
I'm favoured financially, Thank you Jesus $32,000 weekly profit regardless of how bad it gets on the economy.
Lol I can’t believe you guys😭
What stocks?
I turned 24 recently and I feel the weight of being financially free on my shoulders. I only just started to embody everything in that you mentioned in the video. I feel very lonely in my journey and your video made me feel less alone and made me feel like I can still accomlish what I want. Thank you.
Turning 24 this weekend!!!!❤
Although you might feel lonely, there are many people on the same journey. So, no worries. Everyone's journey is different. Live yours fully!
i m jobless turning 26 .. somebody help me
You’re not alone I’m 26 and on a similar journey
I turn 24 in nov and feel the same way. I think everyone goes through this when reaching their late 20s it gets stressful and depressing seeing yourself not be where you thought you'd at this age. everyone moves at a different pace in life as long as you're currently looking or trying to build something for yourself and not just letting the years pas you by without trying you'll be good.
I have been a dividend focused investor for a long time. This does not mean I don't own growth stocks, I do. A well rounded portfolio should be a mixture of both categories. One way to minimize the anxiety out of stock market investing, is to make sure you keep a large cash cushion. I invest in the market, but never put all my money in market.
Dividends are dope. Personally, I sometimes use my dividends to buy other dividend and growth stocks for diversification instead of reinvesting in the same stock. To each their own methods though. The good thing is that you’re investing in the first place and that’s what’s important. Salute for the content!
Yes, I've been in constant touch with a Financial Analyst for approximately 8 months. You know, these days it's really easy to buy into trending stocks, but the task is determining when to sell or keep. That's where my manager comes in, to help me with entry and exit points in the industries I'm engaged in. Can’t say I regret it, I’m 40% up in profits just in 5months with my initial capital of $160k
How can one find a verifiable financial planner? I would not mind looking up the professional that helped you. I will be retiring in two years and I might need some management on my much larger portfolio. Don't want to take any chances.
There are a handful of experts in the field. I've experimented with a few over the past years, but I've stuck with ‘’Colleen Rose Mccaffery” for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look-her up.
Thanks a lot for this suggestion. I needed this myself, I looked her up, and I have sent her an email. I hope she gets back to me soon.
I wasn't financial free until my 40’s and I’m still in my 40’s, bought my third house already, earn on a monthly through passive income, and got 4 out of 5 goals, just hope it encourages someone's that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing in the financial market is a grand choice I made.
yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too
Hello, I’m 37 and I am not worth much yet , please help me out. Bought my first house last month and I can't seem to make any other smart investment.
wanted to trade, but I got discouraged with the market price fluctuations
Can you recommend a guide for me?
Invest in WHAT? How much money do I need to invest? Am I at risk to lose my money, even if you ignore the other questions, invest. In. What?
Enrolled with Dale Valskov 4 months ago, and I have finally gotten my first car. This is the best decision I ever made.
The 9-5 is actually modern slavery… it’s actually 9-6 (1h lunch break) add to that getting ready and commute, it’s 8-7 best case scenario … we need less working hours per day…money is not enough, we need time to live…
save & invest, then you have FU money and no one can make you a slave.
@@alanwong8307 that’s a possibility only if you don’t live in an Eastern European country where you make just enough money not to die…
Is digital product a thing in your country? Bec I've been seeing some people earning good with selling digital products. If you can, you might want to check it out and try it for yourself?
I rather working remotely at home more than selling my times to become someone else's slave.
Welcome to the real world. It sucks.
“You can be excited for something without lowering your status, without devaluing yourself, and without giving away your power. The moment you stop Idolizing, you create a lot more peace for yourself”
Account of mine also got hacked and I followed the method as explained in this video but I'm unable to proceed after recording the selfie video. Thank you Dale Valskov . It brings me immense joy to witness his name appearing frequently in comments, a clear indication of the commendable work he’s been doing.
I'm 65 and restarting. And I got a lot out of your message to people in their 20's. I have an 18 year old daughter. I want her to hear this too! You are wise beyond your years. THANK YOU VANESSA!
Im 57 , and I a blown away how beautifully intelligent you have become; the one take-a-away is that I often have tried to motivate and inspire others to better their lifestyle but it has always frustrated me that so many folks DON’T believe in themselves. Thanks for lil you do Vanessa ♥️
Thank you so much, and WTF! Just checked out your music, You are SO SO talented!
Girl, it's MC Magic!!!! 😊 He's old school - millenial era. @VanessaLau Cheers from Dubai
Just moved here from the western world
@@VanessaLau aww 😊🙏🏽 I’m your fan always recommend your videos to these young kids
My question to you is: what all this money that you have brings you now, and why making more of it? I didn’t need to make multi-millions to get to this realization that I want to spend time living and sharing also, besides making money (in a way that align with my values) which is a means and not the end, so it can be also along the way.
@@staraffirmations so crazy cuz i just moved from dubai to the west after being born and raised there for 22 years, miss home
Thankyou :)
- 20s is a time for you to take a chance
- focusing more on what you're good at and enjoy: competitor advantage
- feeling lost: old self is gone that hasn't met your new self yet: awakening
- lift your friends up with you
- get to know your family more: how did she grow up, what lessons did she learn in her life, how did she meet grandpa, how did she grow up, what are her values
The efficiency of this Dale Valskov is next level. To juggle walk throughs of various angles on the topic delivered to-camera, differnet content per topic from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined. To make a dense taccess like this so digestible is really something. Awesome work jack!!
jesus christ i gotta sit down and take notes on this 😭 the one watch through already has given me so many different insights on my life, it’s like you’ve been watching my daily routine and speaking directly to me. great video.
I was very touched when you mentioned about Embrace being lost. I'm at this stage right now at 23 and every now and then it would knock me down to my lowest of not knowing what to do in life yet. Everyone moves at a different pace, seeing friends outgrow me feels like I'm alienated and can't do the same. But after listening to your advice, I will be looking at being lost in a more positive light as I know my potential is limitless once I become who I want to be. It's also a coincidence that you felt lost at 23 so I don't feel like I'm too late to change my life around 🥲 Thank you for sharing a vital piece of advice that will stick with me long term! ❤
John 1:9 That was the true Light, which lighteth every man that cometh into the world.
There’s enough light for you to know that nothing in this world can satisfy you. What you need is Jesus Christ where it will fill your void and give you real purpose. It’s free to be saved and go to heaven
RUclips/realbiblebelievers
me too, I felt lost at 23, right after completing my Bachelor's - there's something about this age when you feel the shift starts...
Man, im 23 about to turn 24 in 2 months and Ive been feeling lost too, I guess is a phase but you’re not alone brother stay strong, we still have the time to do a life change to become a better version of ourselves is not a easy path but big things are never gonna be easy to achieve.
Just turned 24 and her saying that also just relieved so much of my anxiety. Something I definitely needed to hear
@@P4NICXI am turning 24 as well in 3 months and I’m super successful and have all of the skills she mentioned and STILL feel lost. This age hits me with super highs and super lows on a monthly basis.
I hate “coping” but it shows that people are going through something very similar.
Ya’ll got this let’s get some money!!
The whole "Get what you want sooner" is so so true. You have to be at that point of privilege to seek the deeper meaning of life. Thank you so much Vanessa for saying that. I am only 19 right now, (will turn 20 later this year) So many people think of that point as controversial.
One needs to be secure, especially financially secure, to truly enjoy peace in life.
it all means u need to get rich
"Fan girl energy". Wow. This is A LOT of self awareness, and spiritual awareness. Thank you for sharing!
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The part about the old self vs new self. Amen! I call this the "messy middle". You can't see the shore of where you came from and you can't see the shore of where you're going.
totally!! and that messy middle is necessary for growth. We have to try really hard to reframe that in our minds, because if we believe it as a negative thing, it just causes unnecessary suffering!
"let your friends fall into it on their own timeline" beautifully said I'm in the works of starting a clothing brand but I was really questioning my friends and their roles. But, you hit the target for all of my questions.
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finally someone talk about keeping friends while success and not ditch them just because they are in different level in life
edit : I explained in a reply my point of view for clarifying things and I'm not gonna change it don't waste your time replying I'm not convinced or interested I explained and it's done
This is hard. They won't understand you. They will just drag you down to their level.
@@margretsusngi absolutely. This happens for majority of the times, unless you have friends with a good heart or with a lot of ambition as you.
@@margretsusngi you guys are mixing between morals and lifestyles someone's with a different lifestyle is just with a different lifestyle if that person drags you down that means they're missed up in the heart and the head lifestyle is not an indicator of that there's so many people different than you and will embrace you but no one talks about it and surprise there's people with your same goals and ambitions and live like you but they drag you down and maybe even become enemies and again no one talks about this too and you guys identify things with things that don't identify it, what's the relation between where's someone living and being someone live for destroying you? and the more weird is the first one is something that can't be controlled 100% like immediately and if really it's what identify someone's goodness so you're saying it's absolute luck if someone is nice or not, but this doesn't make sense because it doesn't exist morals and lifestyle of someone are seperate and cultivating goodness needs work on its own someone actually can be shining but rotten it doesn't make sense how you decide this thing guys
That's great, but what if they ditch you? 😂
@@Tangaliciouss I don't fear that + people change it can happen but I am focusing on what they're now don't need unecessary stress from a thing that doesn't exist and have the chance to not exist in future too, I am confident about my choices too and I think it's better to learn how to choose people with reasonable causes and not fear and start relating unrelated things with each other like what you're doing with lifestyle and morals it's so obvious that it's from fear only because it looks messed up
This is excellent advice Vanessa. I'm a lot older at 55 but I wanted to do a RUclips channel and I did it and found I love it. The thing I found the hardest wasn't the learning of new skills it was the negative comments because I speak very slowly and that seemed to offend people and they told me in no uncertain terms. Now, I just ignore them and concentrate on the positive ones. You have to do what is good for you 1st. Keep up the amazing work.
I feel you cannot win sometimes. I hear both that I speak too slowly and too fast. All I focus on now is to deliver my content clearly and then advice people to adjust the watch speed to suit their needs.
@@missmatti That's a great idea. Thank you.
WOW!! Congrats Lisa!! And yes, agree with @missmati - you can never please anyone. Some peopple thought I spoke too slow, so I sped up my videos, then people got angry that they were too fast (while others loved it)... now i just speak the pace i speak and just hope people are smart enough to increase or decrease the speed of the video to their taste. you lose so much peace trying to please every single commenter!
Lol, I am an "older" RUclipsr too, at 46, and also have been told I speak too slowly. 😂
@@Corrans It really seems to bother so many people lol.
Im 16k in debt at 26 and im already very tired and in pain from working so many hours at night... i wish i could be financially free and debt free..
I just clocked 20 some few weeks ago, and stumbling upon this video, I can say that your words have sincerely impacted my life. I really appreciate your making this video. Thanks, be blessed and be safe.
calm, wise and humble. vanessa has so much charm in the way she talks and presents herself all while seeming respectful and letting us know that everything she says or that's worked for her might not work for everyone, but still beautifully advises us about it. just goes to show how much intellect this woman possesses, never thought i'd encounter a life-changing video while i was just casually going about my day. you inspire me so much!
Vanessa your advice was spot on!! I am 44 and I hope everyone in their 20s can watch it!! As an entrepreneur my piece of advice I would share is to just do it like you said! Even if you have to do it scared just do it, I do not want to get to the end of my life and have regrets about wishing I would have done something! The other piece you also captured in share it with others, don't gatekeep success but work to put others on. If they don't accept it oh well you did your part! Great video again!
Thank you! Please share with anyone you think would benefit. And totally agree, time is fleeting - just do the damn thing! yep, gatekeeping prevents you from being known as someone who's resourceful and has lots of intellectual capital. People gravitate towards that. Thank you so much!!!
I’m almost 34 and my goodness this is exactly what I needed to hear even now in my 30s😭.
That “everything is a projection” hit home though. And I also do a lot of projecting on others as much as people are projecting on me. I’m gonna do better going forward.
Thank you so much ❤️
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This is gold. I’m 22 anThis is gold. I’m 22 and just graduated college and moving to a new stage of life. Love this. Thanks so much for sharing! Lessons 12 and 13 were particularly well stated.😊
You just put the feelings i had within me into words i couldnt say. Especially where you talk about your values changing vs your environment and not ditching your friends just because you feel like there not on the same trajectory as you. As a 23 year old I’m on this journey now, and I’m lucky to have come across your video, as you laid out some gems i needed!
Haven’t finished the video yet but I will say, you’ve articulated everything I’ve wanted to say so well. I’m early 30s but I love the fact that I know the things I’m experiencing are a gift, as well as I need to stop and smell the roses. I know when I get everything on my list I might be over it quickly. So I’m in my first life looking forward to my second. I’m reading daily and podcasting all the time in my car. Just about ready to share my value with the world and this video let me know I’m on the right track and to think deeper. Thank you girl!👏🏾👏🏾
I love how straight to the point this video is! No yapping, just getting straight into it!!!
I totally resonate with having a bit of an ego on the journey and not spending as much time with friends. I have learned the lesson of prioritizing true friends thankfully, but the hard way! Thanks for sharing your story - I really appreciated that.
Also, happy birthday! 🎈
“Everything is a projection. What someone believes is true for them does not have to be true for you. Discerning other people’s feedback: if someone has criticism you can choose to take it on if it’ll help you, otherwise you can let it go lovingly. Stop taking everything you’re given from others as your truth. You’ll have a lot more peace of mind.”
This is the video I needed. Period. I needed to hear it especially the lesson 5 about overthinking, self doubt and self sabotage. Thank you
thank you so much for this video. i just turned 18 and have been overthinking a lot about my future and feeling shamed that so many of my peers know what they want to do and im still falling behind. your video was really helpful and really made me see things a whole lot differently. im still young and have my whole life ahead of me. tysm keep making videos! ☺️
So glad this hit my algorithm, I resonated with so much of this. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I've never felt better about pursuing music and deepening this passion while I have the gift of time. I hope your 30s are just as fulfilling as your 20s!
About the part where you are talking about friends I don't have any and it saves me a lot of time but at times it feels barren and hopeless and then I remember that this feeling of voidness is far better than being devalued by others.
I’m 45 and all of this wisdom you shared still applies. It’s extremely insightful and inspiring, no matter what age. I’m still trying to find myself, and this video is the type of thing that keeps me at it. Thank you for sharing.❤
I wish this video was made when I was 20 years old.
I am in that lost phase at the age of 39.
Just before the pandemic my whole life was turned upside down from suffering a stroke from trauma to my neck. Just before the pandemic and one month before my son was born!
What an odd time!
I love making content and shooting/editing videos. I find I have a gift with shooting on the spot without any shot list or plan. I don't know how I am able to do it, but I am embracing it.
I can't afford equipment yet, so I have been just using my S22U phone.
I took advantage of some free courses (Screen and media) after the pandemic.
I am glad to hear that you encourage reading and podcasts. I am constantly trying to learn new skills and improve what I currently know.
Thank you for this video.
I will continue to push through the circumstances.
I can't wait till I can get some proper equipment/cameras!
Thank you for the encouraging video!
this video is so useful theres no unnecessary blabber its straight to the point and your insights are genuinely so helpful.
being lost ist such a beautiful thing
embrace being lost 💗
thank you vanessaa
i really needed to hear that 💗
This is the type of content that gives me hope and love for youtube. I love that there is an endless space here for humans like you to lift others up, cheer them on and ultimately change peoples lives. Content like this is so important💗
I think investors should always put their cash to work, especially In 2024, we'll start to see more market diversification. I'm hoping to invest about $350k of my savings in stocks against next year. Hope to make millions in 2024
Since risk is at an all-time high right now, perhaps you should be a little more patient and return when it has decreased. Alternatively, you can consult a trained financial expert for strategy.
Yes true, I have been in touch with a brokerage Advisor. With an initial starting reserve of $80k, my advisor chooses the entry and exit commands for my portfolio, which has grown to approximately $550k.
I’ve been looking to switch to an advisor for a while now. Any help pointing me to who your advisor is?
Angela Lynn Shilling is the licensed advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.
I searched for her full name online, found her page, and sent an email to schedule a meeting. Hopefully, she responds soon. Thank you
this is so real. Social media really gives an unrealistic and toxic view of what a successful and meaningful life should be, people forget what they actually want in life to pursue what they think they should want. So glad I came across this video to remind myself of what really matters. Better learn these hard lessons now than later after I've sacrificed my time and health.
I have been binge watching you tube videos on how to start a you tube channel, how to grow and stuff like that.
I am noticing that I am watching A TON of videos and I am using this as an exuse to not start. I am 1 min into this video and Vanessa and very few other creaters, your vibe holds me accountable on my bs. I love this.
You're welcome! Yep, it's time to take that first step. It's totally normal too if you don't complete it right away. I actually recently learned that your nervous system will freak out when you try something new. It will try to protect you. Which is why it feels exhausting and daunting to complete a new project or endeavor. We might give up half way. The key is to rest, and try again tomorrow instead of picking up! It's not an overnight switch!
I watched “how to start a RUclips channel” videos until I was sick of watching them and was just feeling antsy to start already 🤣🤣!
I’m not in my twenties watching this, however this feels inspiring to me to start thinking about these things now rather than later :)
“When you do the things that you hated the most, that’s when the time you starts to grow.”
Im 34 and I thoroughly enjoy what you have to say! Please continue these reflections because they are breath of fresh air! ❤🎉 love you hunny!
that hits home, fangirling = doubting yourself = giving away your power. oh boy, this hit me hard. thanks for making this!
I have watched so many videos about other people’s experience of their 20’s (because i’m 25) but i think for me this one was the most valuable of all.
Thank you for sharing those lessons!
Dude your videos are so informative and not boring at all even if they are longer! Thanks for all your work!
I love all your recent videos!! I’ve learned so much from all the lessons and they’re lessons I haven’t heard or needed to rehear. Being the eldest child I’ve always wanted an older sister to teach me and give me wisdom, I felt like you were that to me now. Thank you Vanessa ❤
that values part also hit hard! that misalignment is so real!
The comment I was looking for
Some days you just find random videos with literally super stimulating, brain orgasmic content and this was one of them, loved it too much!
I turned 30 last week and this video definitely spoke to me. Thank you for this
Excellent advices!! Super clear! I feel this is doable! usually when I watch other videos related to this topic it feels so out of the scope and unclear, so I really appreciate this one as it feels right and with a clear road. I've been following you since 2019 and I always love the advice you give be cause you know how to communicate in a practical way! thank you so much!
This is a golden video!!! The timeline of each stage is great! I'm still in the beginning stage of my journey - becoming valuable - but I've already realized that I don't crave all the things I'm chasing... I need something else... a little soul searching and I've found a few parts of the puzzle... gonna find the rest on my way
That part about no longer doing things that you don't enjoy anymore... I've experienced that too... figuring out how to handle that right now... wish me luck!
All the best to all of u too!!!
This is such a great video and you didn’t miss! I wanna add the perspective (which I’m sure you already know) is I feel like many of us want to accumulate wealth not to buy new items, but because we value family and all the other things you said you realized later. My MAIN reason for wanting more money is so I can have more TIME. Time to join communities, explore hobbies, be with friends and family, etc. yes I’d like the material stuff, but I know that’ll fall off, and what I really want is time away from slaving away at a job 😭. This video was so good and could’ve saved me a lot of heartache had I watched it back at 23 when I quit my career. Early 20’s peeps, hear her out! Beautiful that you made this video :]
Thank you! I'm replaying this to absorb all of these!
as someone who's been feeling really lost lately, this helped reframe my thinking around it. thank you for your video
As a new RUclipsr who’s constantly doubting herself and her content, I found this video very insightful and inspiring. Like you mentioned in your video, I feel disconnected and I’m still always contemplating if I should pursue my passion (content creation) full time rather than continue to work up the corporate ladder. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and honesty, Vanessa!
9:15 “If someone has a limitation, it doesn’t have to be your limitation” you have no idea how much I NEEDED this quote! Ive spent too much time dimming my light for others, I’ve always sympathized for those whose circumstances were more difficult than mine. But, I need to realize that at some point i need to focus on who I am, what I want, and fully utilize the cards that I’ve been dealt, without feeling guilty for those who were dealt less.
Say you're climbing a mountain, and you notice a fellow climber isn't strong enough to reach the top, you have to be able to discern whether you are strong enough to carry that person up with you, recognize that you cant help everyone, and accept that sometimes you just have to let some people go, for your own sake, once you reach the top of the mountain, you can always reach down and pull them up. Even so, it's important to focus on yourself and try to make sure no one is pulling you down.
Crazy i came across your video today…
Just yesterday I wrote something and was reflecting on life. Although I kind of know now what I want, there are moments where I still feel lost and question myself… but thank you for this! 💖
The lesson 12 really speak to me. I am in the journey of self development and my ego is starting to be a problem regarding my friends. I'm doubting every time if I should still be friend with my friends. It's really difficult to navigate that feeling. Thank you for sharing!!
You're so welcome! Some friends I think it's fair to leave especially if it's a toxic relationship... but I learned that it's also important to lift others up rather than just abandoning them. And also recognize that some friends serve specific purposes. Your friends don't need to check all the boxes. I have some friends I lean on for more business specific things, and other friends I lean on when I have relationship problems outside of business, and other friends I hit up just to have some fun. I don't think your friends need to be everything for you. Hope that helps and so amazing you've become more aware of that ego developing!
@@VanessaLau Thank you for this Vanessa 🙏🏾
intellectual capital▶️social capital▶️human capital（recruit people）▶️invest. Don’t question yourself/be a fan girl to give away your energy.
Do things you are excited about▶️Go deeper rather than wider.
Understand politics.
Change your external environment to fit your new internal values maybe in your late 20s.
Lifts others around you. Don’t let ego bite your ass.
Asking questions about your family members, getting to know their stories.
I definitely understand the leaving your job to start a RUclips channel 💞 I did that this past year for my Deaf Ministry RUclips channel. I left my stable Deaf Education job to work part-time as a sub and retail worker so I could work on the RUclips channel and it has been so worth it! And that low risk is something I'm grateful for. I'm planning on returning as an interpreter, which would be a lot less work, so I could still work during the summers on the Deaf Ministry and afternoons and weekends. I'm super passionate about it and hope it can help many people, even one person would be amazing 💞
As a 48 year old female. Everything you’ve said is wisdom and so grateful that you share your experience. That is the purpose of life. God bless yiu
The projecting part is so goooood. I relate to exactly what you talked about. I always question myself even though it’s people projecting their life experiences and beliefs and everything that makes them human but I don’t need to take that personally or take it in really
I'm at my early 30s and struggling from my day to day job "good paying corperate" job. I tried HARD to put myself in my current position and now I'm trying even HARDER to leave and go on my own way. Among all those influencer, Vanessa you are so unique and inspiring and solid. I even listen to your video just to have energy to manage all my back to back meeting. Thank you!
I'm 14 years old and I have learnt a lot after watching you valuable videos and gain a deeper insights and lessons as well. Thank Vanessa.