Left a comment here about the mother. RUclips took it down for bullying. So glad that youtube is willing to protect the reputation of a mother who tortured her son to death and has been convicted for it.
He knew something was wrong and did nothing??? His statement wasn't even relevant. Turning a blind eye is the same as giving a green light. Useless brothers, the both of them!
@ripbeni6198 Jesus had plenty who chose to follow, and love Him. It was His own disciple who betrayed Him, and many of Israel rejected Him, but He had more than just Mary and John who loved Him.
@@ripbeni6198he's hanging out with Jesus and Elvis now... Probably laughing watching charlie Chaplin do funny jokes for him.. or walking golden fields with his ancestors..
@Repent-and-believe-in-Jesus1 John 7 Judge not according to the appearance, *but judge righteous judgment* 1st Corinthians 6 Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? *and if the world shall be judged by you are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters* *Know ye not that we shall judge angels how much more things that pertain to this life* If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set them to judge who are least esteemed in the church. I speak to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, *not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren* (((((Don't get confused between judging and discerning matters, for all matters must be discerned so we can judge righteously, what we don't try doing is being judge, jury and executioner))))
This young man is tortured by what his mother did. It is NOT on him. She is the monster. She should not be put into a protective cell, but should live with the general population.
But did he try? Because his statement to the world sounded like all about him. Just like his sisters statement. Neither of them was there for Tim. As a caring family member..... That's what you do. Check up, find, make sure. Both of them are about themselves. Glad they spoke for Tim, but it was too much me me me, I, I I. THEY are ALIVE. baby brother isn't. Emphasis on "BABY BROTHER'!!!! NOT ONE OF THEM LOOKED OUT FOR THE BABY!
"I hoped she had changed" I think this is a reminder that abusers never change. Don't believe any promises they make. Nolan was very brave for giving this victim statement, my heart goes out to him and his siblings.
Yeah he’s dad took them so that mean she was abusive to them to it why she lost but then she had time with Eric and he gave he’s son to he’s a b Abusier
@@chiefswife1212 Come on, man. That's unfair. He said himself he didn't know what was going on and was working 60 hour work weeks. Even if he figured it out, he may not have had the resources to realistically get him out of there in time. The only person whose fault this is is the Mom.
@@gingerwoo5589are you really going to try and blame his siblings?! They were victims of her abuse too and that’s why she lost custody of all of them. If you want to blame someone blame shanda, the dad and Paul but not these two!
I am struck by the judge verbalizing Timothy is better off dead now so she can no longer torture his soul. Really speaks to the level of horror here and that it took his death to end it- profoundly tragic. May Timothy’s spirit finally be free 🙏🏻
@@cynthiacordell4639 agree, when I expressed I was struck by what he shared it just drove home the absolute horror and impact of her cruelty -I mean how many times does one hear the individual is better off dead - this case profoundly touched humanity and I am in agreement with you
When I was listening to the video in court where the detectives were reading the text messages between the two killers (or is it one killer and one enabler given the fact that we're talking about this woman's other son???), I nearly lost it... But then listening to the judge say that along with the impact statements, I just feel devastated.
Sibling loss is wild enough, lord knows I still wish I could have saved my sister but dear god, she didn’t die at our parents’ own hands. This is beyond cruelty.
My mother was the same way, luckily Child protective services saved me before any permanent damage was done but what I can't figure out is what drives mothers to this level of craziness.
Maybe, maybe not. Who would want the public, let alone friends and neighbors, to know you did nothing to bring it to authorities' attention that the mother didn't have legal custody of her youngest child and that all of her children were removed from her custody years earlier?
As an abused child, I also would hold onto those who loved me, and beg them not to go, to not leave me, and hearing it from another child is heartbreaking, because I know exactly why he said it
Can't even fathom the pain this brother is feeling. Losing a little brother this way and knowing that his mother did it is horrible. Prayers for emotional recovery.
When I was younger, my little cousin also hated goodbyes. When we visited him and his scrumbag father, he would express anger towards his father and grandmother. He wouldn’t stop crying when we were getting ready to leave, he hanged on so tight to my mom. We later found out he was being abused and tortured by his father and grandmother. While his parents were going through a divorce, he was a reminder to my uncle this child belong to his wife and just couldn’t stand it. My cousin had extreme anger towards his father even many years later but I’m happy to say he has become a doctor and is far away from his father. I wish I was older so I could of gotten him away from his father, I wish I knew the sign of abuse so I could of called someone for help. There is a lot of thing I wished I could of done.
I cut my mom off today. She's verbally/mentally abused me since as long as I can remember. Ive been waiting and hoping that I would feel loved by her. But that day never came, I finally told her I don't love you mom and you don't love me, you're dead to me. I switched banks, blocked her and my father's numbers. I thought it would be painful, but it was the weirdest thing I just felt relief, there's sadness there because I really just always wanted a mom that was my mom without conditions surrounding our relationship. But regardless it had to be done, and I'm relieved I don't have to be yelled at anymore. I realized all of my problems stem from her, from my room with trash all over the floor, to my sleep schedule, she was stressing me so much I was on the path to no lifing myself. I'm still pretty depressed about the whole thing but I have my brother and my uncle still. It's true, she put on an act in front of everyone like she was an angel, then behind closed doors she turned into a witch. She liked to tell me that I was dramatic, and I had anger issues. But as I grew older I watched as I matured and tried any and everything to keep her from screaming at me, making fun of me, mocking me, and just overall trying to gaslight me into getting angry and she did nothing to try to change. She was screaming at me and I put my hands on my head and gritted my teeth as I lowered my head into my lap and begged her to stop. Not to mention, it wasn't even for a legitimate reason. I wanted to use her phone while she was using Google maps bc I needed to tell the rental place I was gonna be late and she said I cant until she knows where we are. Which it should've ended there, but it didn't. She was screaming for 10 minutes before I finally exploded on her. I promised myself this would be the last time for at least a few years I talk to her. Almost every day of my childhood she did this, took her anger of the world out on me and any time I tried to get her to stop she swore she did it bc she loved me. I didn't sugarcoat nothing either I made sure my words hurt as much as my heart hurt from the years of abuse. And it still hurts, I would've forgave my mom in a heartbeat if she turned a new leaf but this is impossible for her it seems. Oh well, she's out of my life now, and here I am with my trauma.
@javierroa2171 WOW. I've spent the last 30 years thinking feminism was all about fairness and equality. I had no idea it was about the complete opposite, superiority. Thank you for enlightening me with your outstanding knowledge and wisdom
@@jenniferirving9338 It is obvious that you are a feminist because you have limited capabilities. At what point did I say that it was feminism's fault? I just said it was weird for a woman to do this, because they are supposed to be beings of light, perfect, that's what they sell. try to learn to read and then try to learn to understand what you read.
I grew up with an evil mother too. My parents recognized their sadistic, selfish personalities and realized they should only have one child. I am so sorry for the pain your evil mother caused. Over time you'll accept what happened but forgiveness isn't something you're obligated to do.
@@butchbrewer4923i love you bro, my wife came from a family of abuse and neglect. I want to feel like I’m making up for lost time. She’s such a high character woman. I thank God.
If I guessed correctly for most families, it's the oldest sibling that's a mom or dad's favorite child, my brother was the oldest and I was the youngest and with autism, and as a child with autism, I got rejected more than my older brother did, more on car rides than at home, and it wasn't fair.
@@ericwood2062 you are wrong. You were leas favorite not because of age but your autism. Most of the times the youngest gets protected the most And to be fair, ppl with autism can be very difficult to get along with and also the other way around but ofcourse they shouldnt make a difference with you and him. Children should be equal. Im not trying to be mean but the youngest most of the time get away with things more than the older ones. But it still is too shallow to use as a fact. There are so many factos playing role when a specific child is the favourite. But saying most families the oldest is the favourite is wrong. There are even families where the oldest has the hardest time because they think he she is the oldest so they should give the right example with the most responsebility.
It makes me wonder if that little boy feared goodbye so much, as he knew he could not survive much longer. Heartfelt prayers to his older brother for what he has to endure the remainder of his life❤❤❤
Same, that’s going to haunt his big brother for life. He knew… I wonder if he had the means if he would’ve taken him. If he was autistic he would’ve had all the services he needed surely they could’ve been transferred to him for his care
This victim impact statement made me cry. I was so relieved that someone loved Timothy. The sister was really moving too, but the brother made my tears flow. I think we all wished we could rescue Timothy in some level. I have my own autistic blonde haired/blue eyed boy, who I would walk through the fires of hell for. I just don’t understand how a mother can do that to her child, with those added vulnerabilities she should have been (if anything) over protective.
Thank you for loving your child despite the obstacles, God bless you and keep you forever more and I am comforted knowing Timothy is now at peace and surrounded by love.❤🙏
@@patriciadellenbach9591 thank you for your lovely reply. I just wish Timothy had been blessed to me, he would have all the love he ever needed. I hope he can see from heaven how the world loves him and that he didn’t deserve a moment of the hell he endured. It hurts my heart when children are betrayed by their parents.
When I heard the brother say that Timothy hated to say goodbye and would cry every time he knew that somebody had to leave him, I admit that I teared up- but then I heard the brother say that he was the one who was now crying but he never had a chance to say goodbye... that broke me. I can't imagine having to lose a sibling, especially in circumstances like this.
I am a mother of a blue eyed blonde haired autistic boy. The way he described him is exactly like my son. He hates goodbyes, he loves people, he loves loves loves. It makes me deeply ache to think of anyone hurting him. I would put my life before his in a heartbeat. I live and breathe my kid. I fight for my kid in every respect. I just can’t understand abusing a child. I just cannot. The only thing a child needs is hugs, understanding and gentle guiding. All they need is a healthy role model who shows them reliable kindness to make up for unforgiving world. Autistic people feel more than the rest of us and to torture someone like that sickens me. Sickens me. This sentence is way too lenient.
It breaks my heart when he says that Timothy loved her to the end because who he was. It just shows his vulnerability and innocence. I hope Timothy didnt feel he deserved it.
She killed the one she cant control, because autistic kids do not understand and listen, do a lot of mess etc, but they are dissable, she did not got it. The ignorant
We weren't there when this child was tortured and can only address what was presented in court, but 2 statements concerned me. First, his brother stated he thought Shanda had changed and secondly, he stated Timothy (RIP) didn't like goodbyes. This child was afraid and knew what was forthcoming when everyone departed. His only relief or limited amount of peace was when someone was around and Shanda pretended to be a mother🙏!
@@Horseluvver I am sorry you had to live with horror! ..... out of curiosity, I checked out your channel, and although you haven't made any videos, you have great playlists! I really like the alien Bashar, and right away clicked on one to watch. It has been a while, and I believe you led me to that video. Thank you very much! I subscribed to your channel! Love to you!
@@susanlee8609I am so sorry Susan ! I don’t understand how mothers can do this to their own children either!! I hope you are doing ok now. And have found peace in your life .😢🙏💕
YES! People who blame the older siblings haven't lived in a dysfunctional family. In our family the older kids moved out as soon as possible. The monster was on her best behavior when they visited. Little kids don't know how to ask for help. They cry when people leave because they know everything will go back to business as usual.
Quit blaming these siblings! Shanda and Paul are responsible for what happened, not these kids! Shame on you for shaming them! My goodness … such hatred!
Wow! Much respect and admiration for this eldest son. It's understandable how hopeless he feels and hurt as well as sad. I hope he continues to build his wonderful strength and that the rest of his life is far more positive and happy. Amazing young man for saying what he did and that he was able to remain so calm.
That speech was beyond hauntingly powerful, only wished you knew what your loving younger brother was going through sooner. JUDGE please take his words seriously and MAKE SURE THAT THE EVIL INHUMAN PERSON IN YOUR COURTROOM NEVER BREATHS THE AIR OF FREEDOM AGAIN.
Idky I watch these but in support and loving memory of these strangers, I do. Sobbing at the thought of all the pain this family has to endure. Life can be so unfair. 💔
Watching this again after hearing multiple calls with Paul; calling him "buddy" and loading up his commissary account, with not even a thank you from Paul. He talks about his "abuser and killer". Does he just not blame Paul at all?
I can't imagine how much guilt his other siblings have. I don't put any blame on them at all, but it is natural to ask the questions "how did I not know" "could I have stopped this". I hope in time they find peace.
Nolan good for you to face your mother! What she did was evil but you faced that evil. I’m praying for you and your siblings and family durning this you were brave Timothy didn’t deserve her as a mother and sounds like none of you did. Hold on to his memory
Sitting at work listening to this and it ripped my heart out. I have a little brother, and thinking about him suffering alone 900 miles away and terrified is awful.
This tore me up.. i cant imagine how painful this is for him and his sister. I left home when I was 18 (i was having constant disagreements with my parents over my boyfriend) I left behind my 3 younger brothers. Completely absorbed in the conflict with my parents, i wasnt involved in my brothers lives as I had before leaving. It took 4 years and seeing how much my brothers had grown on fb . to realize how wrong I was. I dumped the guy (he was not a good person) and ran home. I thank God, i got to come back and make amends. Now i put all i have into my family relationships. I was lucky my parents werent monsters. And that my baby brothers love were unconditional To this gentleman and his sister Millie.. I am so so sorry for your loss. Do not blame yourselves for what happened to Timothy Your mother and brother Paul are 100% responsible. And will have to carry it with them until they die. I wish you peace and hope you both heal
As soon as I get to heaven, I'm gonna find Timothy, give him all the love he didn't get here on earth, and never let him out of my sight. As a mother of an autistic child, this one really bothered me.
Absolutely heartbreaking.What a great big brother,I know he would have saved his little brother if only he knew. I hope this evil mother rots in jail and will NEVER be released,EVER!
Know that this little man is in the arms of our father..his creation..to never be hurt again but loved unconditionally forever an ever...an thats a Beautiful thing right there....
I find it rather disturbing that anyone could believe that a god can be loving while watching a child get tortured day in and day out for years until his heart stopped beating.
Wow, that young man spoke so lovingly and eloquently about his baby brother, I pray his little brother held the knowledge of how much he was loved by his big bro till the very end. Your safe in the arms of Jesus Tim Tim, justice will be served, you were loved 🕊🙏🏼✝️🥰
This sons statement just makes me think more about Paul, it was obvious to me that he was controlled by his mother, just looking at his skelatal body you can see he was also "punished" and most likely mentally abused, I hope Paul can get proper help! and finally realize his mother was a monster!!!
This case shocks me to my core 💔 We have to recognise to signs when a parent isn’t right mentally to take care of a child. She is almost a zombie like state with her tail between her legs. I hope the same torture and torment she inflected is inflected upon her in jail and eternity. Poor excuse of a human being. R.I.P Tim Tim beautiful boy. You didn’t deserve any of this. So sorry buddy. I hope you have an eternity of peace and love in heaven. ❤️
But it is a problem our community needs to deal with.Child counselors have been defended.Parents who seek help for themselves may not be able to afford it.We as a societyust beguiling tomfund programs to helpbat-risk mothers and fathers before the severe abuse happens.Take action before it is too late.
Nolan seems like the most kind and gentle hearted person.... ive heard some of the jail calls hes had with Paul and im not sure if he and his wife have kids of their own yet but he is gonna be one hell of a great dad... that family never deserved Nolan...
Sir if you ever read this, when you are being treated cruelly PLEASE BELIEVE ME, you remember EVERY single kind word and action of those who gave you them. He DID know you cared, he DEFINITELY knew who the monsters were, and he knew he had a really cool big brother who loved him tremendously 💙
Why she should never have freedom ever. “The life of a sweet little blue eyed boy, is not equal to that of a murderer”. Beautiful words from his big bro.
Every family member in this case should be charged. How can you not know this child is being tortured and abused. And err, Nolan,.. stop putting money on your monster “brother” books. YOU are the enabler.
Most powerful impact statement I've heard. First time I shed a tear to anything on RUclips, speechless... Counting my blessings, I wish I could share them with you, you are a good man.
Hang on, you never saw your brother underfed and bruised? You never confronted Paul, who as the middle brother was helping Shanda Vander torture this boy? I don’t buy you as victim at all. You were absent and should have been a bit more aware. Not buying it. How did you not know it?
Left a comment here about the mother.
RUclips took it down for bullying.
So glad that youtube is willing to protect the reputation of a mother who tortured her son to death and has been convicted for it.
They are on a roll!
They disgust me mate.zuckerberg is the same .
do you think youtube gives af about you or your comment to look at context? you broke the rules and it got auto deleted lol cmon grandpa
It’s not a person. It’s a program. They ding me every time I use the word, idiot. 🤯
@@juliethompson5301Same here. THEY DEFEND ALL BAD!! It's sickening really?? 💯😡
To Tim’s brother: that was an amazing victim-impact statement and a wonderful tribute to your baby brother.
He knew something was wrong and did nothing??? His statement wasn't even relevant. Turning a blind eye is the same as giving a green light. Useless brothers, the both of them!
Yeah she kept grandma from them and siblings from them it not thier fault
@@xziztortheeternal6471 when was it said that he knew something was going on? He lived 900 miles away and said he did not.
I cry listening to that i hope he gets help
Both brother and sister made me cry. I feel so bad for them.
“Timothy wasnt surrounded by people who loved him when he died” 😭 thats so deep & so sad.
Other than Mary and John, neither was Jesus. I hope that sweet baby brother is with the Lord who knows what it’s like. God love you all ❤
@ripbeni6198 Jesus had plenty who chose to follow, and love Him.
It was His own disciple who betrayed Him, and many of Israel rejected Him, but He had more than just Mary and John who loved Him.
@@ripbeni6198he's hanging out with Jesus and Elvis now... Probably laughing watching charlie Chaplin do funny jokes for him.. or walking golden fields with his ancestors..
Heartbreaking.
@Repent-and-believe-in-Jesus1
John 7
Judge not according to the appearance, *but judge righteous judgment*
1st Corinthians 6
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? *and if the world shall be judged by you are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters*
*Know ye not that we shall judge angels how much more things that pertain to this life*
If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set them to judge who are least esteemed in the church.
I speak to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, *not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren*
(((((Don't get confused between judging and discerning matters, for all matters must be discerned so we can judge righteously, what we don't try doing is being judge, jury and executioner))))
This young man is tortured by what his mother did. It is NOT on him. She is the monster. She should not be put into a protective cell, but should live with the general population.
Six feet under right away
Agreed! She destroyed all her kids! The ones surviving are in mental suffering. I’ll pray for them.
And yet he knew his mother was abusive and moved 900 miles away from his brother. Get real
But did he try? Because his statement to the world sounded like all about him. Just like his sisters statement. Neither of them was there for Tim. As a caring family member..... That's what you do. Check up, find, make sure. Both of them are about themselves. Glad they spoke for Tim, but it was too much me me me, I, I I. THEY are ALIVE. baby brother isn't. Emphasis on "BABY BROTHER'!!!! NOT ONE OF THEM LOOKED OUT FOR THE BABY!
The same with Gypsy Rose Blanchard
"I hoped she had changed" I think this is a reminder that abusers never change. Don't believe any promises they make. Nolan was very brave for giving this victim statement, my heart goes out to him and his siblings.
Yeah he’s dad took them so that mean she was abusive to them to it why she lost but then she had time with Eric and he gave he’s son to he’s a b
Abusier
I made that mistake. Its very common. You want it so bad, that its too easy to believe them.
BRAVE??? THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN SAVING HIM FROM ABUSER, NOT LEAVING HIM THERE!!!!
@@chiefswife1212 Come on, man. That's unfair. He said himself he didn't know what was going on and was working 60 hour work weeks. Even if he figured it out, he may not have had the resources to realistically get him out of there in time. The only person whose fault this is is the Mom.
"I thought my mother had changed for the better" not "I hoped"
Damn. At least someone in that family cared for Timothy.
Hard to believe no one noticed something wasn't right ?
@@lion5452 She wouldn't let anyone see him. Siblings all live far away and she refused the grandparents any visits.
REALLY! WHERE WERE THEY??????
@@gingerwoo5589are you really going to try and blame his siblings?! They were victims of her abuse too and that’s why she lost custody of all of them. If you want to blame someone blame shanda, the dad and Paul but not these two!
The sister gave a very powerful statement as well
I am struck by the judge verbalizing Timothy is better off dead now so she can no longer torture his soul. Really speaks to the level of horror here and that it took his death to end it- profoundly tragic. May Timothy’s spirit finally be free 🙏🏻
The judge was really heartbroken. He said what the situation called for
@@cynthiacordell4639 agree, when I expressed I was struck by what he shared it just drove home the absolute horror and impact of her cruelty -I mean how many times does one hear the individual is better off dead - this case profoundly touched humanity and I am in agreement with you
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When I was listening to the video in court where the detectives were reading the text messages between the two killers (or is it one killer and one enabler given the fact that we're talking about this woman's other son???), I nearly lost it... But then listening to the judge say that along with the impact statements, I just feel devastated.
It’s also a bit fucked hi to say that in front of family who genuinely cared for Timothy
Sibling loss is wild enough, lord knows I still wish I could have saved my sister but dear god, she didn’t die at our parents’ own hands. This is beyond cruelty.
What happened if u don’t mind me asking
I'm so sorry for your loss. Nothing like a sibling bond
I’m sorry for your loss, dear heart!
@@johnjacobo .....dude...... no 🤦
Janayh I'm sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry for Timothy and to those who truly loved him.
Deep empathy for someone not sympathy
Absolutely heartbreaking 😢 this woman has inflicted so much pain and torture on her children. Evil personified!
My mother was the same way, luckily Child protective services saved me before any permanent damage was done but what I can't figure out is what drives mothers to this level of craziness.
And still blaming him.
@@dimaknopf most of the time having also been abused as a child.. it is a repeating situation, the abused becomes the abuser
What a thoughtful man, poor guy.
Please tell the world who she is by saying how badly you were treated.
Thanks for speaking for your brother.
Deepest condolences to you all
Don't be so mean Teri
❤❤❤❤❤❤😢
Heartbreaking. Heartfelt tribute to his baby brother. ❤️⭐️🕯
Maybe, maybe not. Who would want the public, let alone friends and neighbors, to know you did nothing to bring it to authorities' attention that the mother didn't have legal custody of her youngest child and that all of her children were removed from her custody years earlier?
@@betsyj59 How were they supposed to know? Quit blaming the wrong people here.
As an abused child, I also would hold onto those who loved me, and beg them not to go, to not leave me, and hearing it from another child is heartbreaking, because I know exactly why he said it
I'm so sorry for you🩷
Pics or it didn't happen, Dolores
@@jjr1728shut up!
I pray you have found the Lord of orphans, Jesus Christ.
No one can love you like Jesus does. Invite Him into your life. He loves you,its for eternity.
Can't even fathom the pain this brother is feeling. Losing a little brother this way and knowing that his mother did it is horrible. Prayers for emotional recovery.
The brother abused him also no sympathy here
@@gingerchambers9936it was not him bro, it was another one
He admitted even he suffered from her insanity 😢 rip Timmy
When I was younger, my little cousin also hated goodbyes. When we visited him and his scrumbag father, he would express anger towards his father and grandmother. He wouldn’t stop crying when we were getting ready to leave, he hanged on so tight to my mom. We later found out he was being abused and tortured by his father and grandmother.
While his parents were going through a divorce, he was a reminder to my uncle this child belong to his wife and just couldn’t stand it.
My cousin had extreme anger towards his father even many years later but I’m happy to say he has become a doctor and is far away from his father.
I wish I was older so I could of gotten him away from his father, I wish I knew the sign of abuse so I could of called someone for help. There is a lot of thing I wished I could of done.
There are many verbally and physically abusive mothers. They inflict heavy emotional damage, and sometimes more.
I cut my mom off today. She's verbally/mentally abused me since as long as I can remember. Ive been waiting and hoping that I would feel loved by her. But that day never came, I finally told her I don't love you mom and you don't love me, you're dead to me. I switched banks, blocked her and my father's numbers. I thought it would be painful, but it was the weirdest thing I just felt relief, there's sadness there because I really just always wanted a mom that was my mom without conditions surrounding our relationship. But regardless it had to be done, and I'm relieved I don't have to be yelled at anymore. I realized all of my problems stem from her, from my room with trash all over the floor, to my sleep schedule, she was stressing me so much I was on the path to no lifing myself. I'm still pretty depressed about the whole thing but I have my brother and my uncle still. It's true, she put on an act in front of everyone like she was an angel, then behind closed doors she turned into a witch. She liked to tell me that I was dramatic, and I had anger issues. But as I grew older I watched as I matured and tried any and everything to keep her from screaming at me, making fun of me, mocking me, and just overall trying to gaslight me into getting angry and she did nothing to try to change. She was screaming at me and I put my hands on my head and gritted my teeth as I lowered my head into my lap and begged her to stop. Not to mention, it wasn't even for a legitimate reason. I wanted to use her phone while she was using Google maps bc I needed to tell the rental place I was gonna be late and she said I cant until she knows where we are. Which it should've ended there, but it didn't. She was screaming for 10 minutes before I finally exploded on her. I promised myself this would be the last time for at least a few years I talk to her. Almost every day of my childhood she did this, took her anger of the world out on me and any time I tried to get her to stop she swore she did it bc she loved me. I didn't sugarcoat nothing either I made sure my words hurt as much as my heart hurt from the years of abuse. And it still hurts, I would've forgave my mom in a heartbeat if she turned a new leaf but this is impossible for her it seems. Oh well, she's out of my life now, and here I am with my trauma.
but feminism says that women are perfect and the best in this world
@@javierroa2171um, no, that is not at all what feminism is about. Don't blame feminism for abusive mothers.
@javierroa2171 WOW. I've spent the last 30 years thinking feminism was all about fairness and equality. I had no idea it was about the complete opposite, superiority. Thank you for enlightening me with your outstanding knowledge and wisdom
@@jenniferirving9338 It is obvious that you are a feminist because you have limited capabilities. At what point did I say that it was feminism's fault? I just said it was weird for a woman to do this, because they are supposed to be beings of light, perfect, that's what they sell. try to learn to read and then try to learn to understand what you read.
No brother who is so kind-hearted and generous should go through anything as painful as this.
Sorry for Eric’s loss.
That was absolutely heart wrenching. I hope he and his sisters can eventually heal and be happy.
I grew up with an evil mother too. My parents recognized their sadistic, selfish personalities and realized they should only have one child. I am so sorry for the pain your evil mother caused. Over time you'll accept what happened but forgiveness isn't something you're obligated to do.
I'm so sorry for you🩷
@@terrylcorbin5310 aww thank you that's very sweet 😊 I've been away from them for about 20 years now so that has helped quite a bit 🌄
@@butchbrewer4923i love you bro, my wife came from a family of abuse and neglect. I want to feel like I’m making up for lost time. She’s such a high character woman. I thank God.
If I guessed correctly for most families, it's the oldest sibling that's a mom or dad's favorite child, my brother was the oldest and I was the youngest and with autism, and as a child with autism, I got rejected more than my older brother did, more on car rides than at home, and it wasn't fair.
@@ericwood2062 you are wrong. You were leas favorite not because of age but your autism. Most of the times the youngest gets protected the most
And to be fair, ppl with autism can be very difficult to get along with and also the other way around but ofcourse they shouldnt make a difference with you and him. Children should be equal.
Im not trying to be mean but the youngest most of the time get away with things more than the older ones. But it still is too shallow to use as a fact. There are so many factos playing role when a specific child is the favourite. But saying most families the oldest is the favourite is wrong. There are even families where the oldest has the hardest time because they think he she is the oldest so they should give the right example with the most responsebility.
"I can't have my brother back, she shouldn't have her freedom back." Wow. Very powerful.
So moving. So eloquent. So horrifically heartbreaking.
That’s how you put grief into words.😢
Well said big brother. Rest in peace sweet Timothy🕊️
It makes me wonder if that little boy feared goodbye so much, as he knew he could not survive much longer. Heartfelt prayers to his older brother for what he has to endure the remainder of his life❤❤❤
Same, that’s going to haunt his big brother for life. He knew… I wonder if he had the means if he would’ve taken him. If he was autistic he would’ve had all the services he needed surely they could’ve been transferred to him for his care
I thought the same thing.
This victim impact statement made me cry. I was so relieved that someone loved Timothy. The sister was really moving too, but the brother made my tears flow. I think we all wished we could rescue Timothy in some level. I have my own autistic blonde haired/blue eyed boy, who I would walk through the fires of hell for. I just don’t understand how a mother can do that to her child, with those added vulnerabilities she should have been (if anything) over protective.
Thank you for loving your child despite the obstacles, God bless you and keep you forever more and I am comforted knowing Timothy is now at peace and surrounded by love.❤🙏
@@patriciadellenbach9591 thank you for your lovely reply. I just wish Timothy had been blessed to me, he would have all the love he ever needed. I hope he can see from heaven how the world loves him and that he didn’t deserve a moment of the hell he endured. It hurts my heart when children are betrayed by their parents.
Nolan made me.cry too!! GOD Bless Nolan and Timothy
Beautiful tribute to your baby brother Timothy. He knows you loved him ❤😊
When I heard the brother say that Timothy hated to say goodbye and would cry every time he knew that somebody had to leave him, I admit that I teared up- but then I heard the brother say that he was the one who was now crying but he never had a chance to say goodbye... that broke me. I can't imagine having to lose a sibling, especially in circumstances like this.
I am a mother of a blue eyed blonde haired autistic boy. The way he described him is exactly like my son. He hates goodbyes, he loves people, he loves loves loves. It makes me deeply ache to think of anyone hurting him. I would put my life before his in a heartbeat. I live and breathe my kid. I fight for my kid in every respect. I just can’t understand abusing a child. I just cannot. The only thing a child needs is hugs, understanding and gentle guiding. All they need is a healthy role model who shows them reliable kindness to make up for unforgiving world.
Autistic people feel more than the rest of us and to torture someone like that sickens me. Sickens me.
This sentence is way too lenient.
I'm autistic too and got very attached to kind people in the past. We have empathy, do we not?
It breaks my heart when he says that Timothy loved her to the end because who he was. It just shows his vulnerability and innocence. I hope Timothy didnt feel he deserved it.
How did this woman have so many children before she finally killed one?! My god. I hope this man gets a lot of therapy and continued support.
She killed the one she cant control, because autistic kids do not understand and listen, do a lot of mess etc, but they are dissable, she did not got it. The ignorant
Same question ?! I need answers, this guy looks the same age as hee
We weren't there when this child was tortured and can only address what was presented in court, but 2 statements concerned me. First, his brother stated he thought Shanda had changed and secondly, he stated Timothy (RIP) didn't like goodbyes. This child was afraid and knew what was forthcoming when everyone departed. His only relief or limited amount of peace was when someone was around and Shanda pretended to be a mother🙏!
That's how I was when I was a kid....I used to beg ppl to go home with me bc she wouldn't do it if others were around.
@@Horseluvver I am sorry you had to live with horror! ..... out of curiosity, I checked out your channel, and although you haven't made any videos, you have great playlists! I really like the alien Bashar, and right away clicked on one to watch. It has been a while, and I believe you led me to that video. Thank you very much! I subscribed to your channel! Love to you!
@mbmv22 I stayed at friends houses as much as I could and I cried when summer camps were over. Didn't want to go home.
@@susanlee8609I am so sorry Susan ! I don’t understand how mothers can do this to their own children either!! I hope you are doing ok now. And have found peace in your life .😢🙏💕
YES! People who blame the older siblings haven't lived in a dysfunctional family. In our family the older kids moved out as soon as possible. The monster was on her best behavior when they visited. Little kids don't know how to ask for help. They cry when people leave because they know everything will go back to business as usual.
Quit blaming these siblings! Shanda and Paul are responsible for what happened, not these kids! Shame on you for shaming them! My goodness … such hatred!
The dad is too, he handed Timothy over to her.
@@tamlynn786yes the dad broke the law by giving him to her! He deserves time
No one is blaming the siblings!
Whos blaming them?
Have not seen anyone blaming them.
Wow! Much respect and admiration for this eldest son. It's understandable how hopeless he feels and hurt as well as sad. I hope he continues to build his wonderful strength and that the rest of his life is far more positive and happy. Amazing young man for saying what he did and that he was able to remain so calm.
That speech was beyond hauntingly powerful, only wished you knew what your loving younger brother was going through sooner. JUDGE please take his words seriously and MAKE SURE THAT THE EVIL INHUMAN PERSON IN YOUR COURTROOM NEVER BREATHS THE AIR OF FREEDOM AGAIN.
Idky I watch these but in support and loving memory of these strangers, I do. Sobbing at the thought of all the pain this family has to endure. Life can be so unfair. 💔
I am so sorry to Noah and Millie. I can only imagine their pain and feeling of helplessness. They both had such beautiful impact statements.
So thankful he made this impact statement for his brother… justice for Timothy ❤
Awesome statement. Beautifully written but tragic.
So heartbreaking, to have such a cruel evil mother…RIP Timothy in Gods loving arms.. 🙏🙏🙏💔
Your "god" caused Timothy's death in the first place. You Christians and your hypocrisy.
Powerful words spoken so beautifully I’m sorry for your loss. That must have been so hard for you, you have done your brother proud
She should rot in jail... sorry for the Loss of your brother..🙏
Very well said, young man!
No. He's too soft not hunky and chiselled enough. Therefore it cannot be well said by virtue of his sheer repulsiveness
Oh I’m crying ! Omg 😭😭😭😭😭 his big brother ❤❤❤❤❤ R.I.P. TIM TIM
wow! Well written and well delivered!
So tragic and heartbreaking. I’ll never understand how any “mother” could torture her own child
Watching this again after hearing multiple calls with Paul; calling him "buddy" and loading up his commissary account, with not even a thank you from Paul. He talks about his "abuser and killer". Does he just not blame Paul at all?
👏 you did a good job on your victim impact statement 😢
WOW!!!!! Thank you Nolan! You did Timothy proud today for giving him a voice!!!
My heart goes out to him.
I can't imagine how much guilt his other siblings have. I don't put any blame on them at all, but it is natural to ask the questions "how did I not know" "could I have stopped this". I hope in time they find peace.
Nolan good for you to face your mother! What she did was evil but you faced that evil. I’m praying for you and your siblings and family durning this you were brave Timothy didn’t deserve her as a mother and sounds like none of you did. Hold on to his memory
Sitting at work listening to this and it ripped my heart out. I have a little brother, and thinking about him suffering alone 900 miles away and terrified is awful.
This tore me up.. i cant imagine how painful this is for him and his sister.
I left home when I was 18 (i was having constant disagreements with my parents over my boyfriend) I left behind my 3 younger brothers. Completely absorbed in the conflict with my parents, i wasnt involved in my brothers lives as I had before leaving. It took 4 years and seeing how much my brothers had grown on fb
. to realize how wrong I was. I dumped the guy (he was not a good person) and ran home.
I thank God, i got to come back and make amends. Now i put all i have into my family relationships. I was lucky my parents werent monsters. And that my baby brothers love were unconditional
To this gentleman and his sister Millie.. I am so so sorry for your loss. Do not blame yourselves for what happened to Timothy
Your mother and brother Paul are 100% responsible. And will have to carry it with them until they die. I wish you peace and hope you both heal
Once you get older the relationship with your parents might change for the better. My strict Asian parent has become softer with ageing. Take care 🤍
The words of this brother and sister are so beautiful. God bless.
He knew that lady was a psycho. This is the worst scenario.
This is one of the most horrific deliberate acts of evil I've ever heard of, this is absolutely sad man.
As soon as I get to heaven, I'm gonna find Timothy, give him all the love he didn't get here on earth, and never let him out of my sight. As a mother of an autistic child, this one really bothered me.
That's arrogant of you to assume you go to heaven automatically. Only God is the judge of that.
Was Timothy autistic? I saw one article say some witnesses thought he might be special needs.
@amelia-620 Translation: "Commit any sin you want as long as you believe in such and such."
@@lelouchvibritannia4028Really??
@@pamelaolson5614 rEaLlY?
Best impact statement ever!! So heartbreaking, may you find a way to carry on.
How can people be so cruel??? Your parents are supposed to be there to love, protect and care for you😢😢😢
Absolutely heartbreaking.What a great big brother,I know he would have saved his little brother if only he knew.
I hope this evil mother rots in jail and will NEVER be released,EVER!
Know that this little man is in the arms of our father..his creation..to never be hurt again but loved unconditionally forever an ever...an thats a Beautiful thing right there....
I find it rather disturbing that anyone could believe that a god can be loving while watching a child get tortured day in and day out for years until his heart stopped beating.
Wow, that young man spoke so lovingly and eloquently about his baby brother, I pray his little brother held the knowledge of how much he was loved by his big bro till the very end. Your safe in the arms of Jesus Tim Tim, justice will be served, you were loved 🕊🙏🏼✝️🥰
Shanda means shame in at least one language.
What a loving big brother he had .GOD BLESS him🙏❤️
This sons statement just makes me think more about Paul, it was obvious to me that he was controlled by his mother, just looking at his skelatal body you can see he was also "punished" and most likely mentally abused, I hope Paul can get proper help! and finally realize his mother was a monster!!!
My heart is absolutely broken over this. GOD rest your sweet young soul. How can people be so evil and cruel?!!
What a lovely tribute to his brother
That was powerful and from the heart.
This case shocks me to my core 💔
We have to recognise to signs when a parent isn’t right mentally to take care of a child.
She is almost a zombie like state with her tail between her legs. I hope the same torture and torment she inflected is inflected upon her in jail and eternity. Poor excuse of a human being. R.I.P Tim Tim beautiful boy. You didn’t deserve any of this. So sorry buddy. I hope you have an eternity of peace and love in heaven. ❤️
But it is a problem our community needs to deal with.Child counselors have been defended.Parents who seek help for themselves may not be able to afford it.We as a societyust beguiling tomfund programs to helpbat-risk mothers and fathers before the severe abuse happens.Take action before it is too late.
I’m happy to know that he did have family who loved him
The other older brother has also been charged with torturing the child.
Great speech and very much from the heart.
I can feel this young man’s pain I’m so sorry they suffered from the hands of their mother the monster
Nolan seems like the most kind and gentle hearted person.... ive heard some of the jail calls hes had with Paul and im not sure if he and his wife have kids of their own yet but he is gonna be one hell of a great dad... that family never deserved Nolan...
Sir if you ever read this, when you are being treated cruelly PLEASE BELIEVE ME, you remember EVERY single kind word and action of those who gave you them.
He DID know you cared, he DEFINITELY knew who the monsters were, and he knew he had a really cool big brother who loved him tremendously 💙
Amazing heartfelt speech nolan! Rip timothy ❤
So powerful and heartbreaking 😢
I love my little brother like I love my sons…I can’t imagine losing him like this
Big brothers are supposed to take care of their little brothers…
❤❤ that you’re speaking out.
My God. My dear God....
Beyond any words...
This is heartbreaking im so angry that people do this to their own children
Now you know why he hated goodbyes, how sad!😢
Why she should never have freedom ever. “The life of a sweet little blue eyed boy, is not equal to that of a murderer”.
Beautiful words from his big bro.
I hope he is able to find some comfort.
Every family member in this case should be charged. How can you not know this child is being tortured and abused. And err, Nolan,.. stop putting money on your monster “brother” books. YOU are the enabler.
People love to have kids when the kids come out healthy. But once the kids born with issues they treat them like trash.
She abused all the kids.
This is hardly normal behavior for anyone.
Abusive parents should have a reserved block in prisons with no privacy whatsoever. You ruined another persons life and perception of reality forever.
what an eloquent and heart-wrenching statement!
He got as far from her to live hes life only to dragged back by her evil actions on his brother. Hope she rots in prison and sorted out by the inmates
Truth
May this incredibly strong man find peace.
Siblings should have reported this.
Most powerful impact statement I've heard. First time I shed a tear to anything on RUclips, speechless... Counting my blessings, I wish I could share them with you, you are a good man.
What stopped him from checking up on his brother? Surely he would have noticed his suffering had he checked.
I couldn’t even imagine…. God bless your little brother’s soul
Hang on, you never saw your brother underfed and bruised? You never confronted Paul, who as the middle brother was helping Shanda Vander torture this boy? I don’t buy you as victim at all. You were absent and should have been a bit more aware. Not buying it. How did you not know it?
Good to see someone in the family can express emotion and sadness
You knew it was happening and you never checked on that child. You’re guilty too.