You are so right my ex-wife wasn't my peace and the new girl I am with gives me peace listens to me and is kind, caring, supportive, and respects my boundaries. It's crazy how you feel when the right person comes into your life.
Ugh I’m done with men thinking it’s women responsibility to make them happy 🙄 women wish men weren’t a nightmare too! Being violent, aggressive, rude, unfaithful…
Something she said that is so true is "stop letting your friends convince you of that". Women who can't get men, they are told it must be the men. Men who can't get women, they are told to correct their flaws.
I actually think men aren't told to correct their flaws. They are shamed for them and then told to be themselves which is counter productive to fixing their issues. Women on the other hand have a protective bubble called feminism and cancel culture to dismiss any and all criticism. I legit got into an argument with a feminist who in one sentence said 'men only want sex' and then shamed me for saying woman were shallow in regards to physical attractiveness when matching with partners on dating apps. Despite having data showing how men are more fair in regards to initial attraction she shamed me for generalizing women yet literally a second before she generalised men. The saddest thing is their preference for attractive males is the exact reason they think all men want sex. They literally seek out their own predators. Men who got fit, attractive, muscular to have sex with women. You bring up a mens issue and women always respond with manipulation by flipping the script and changing the topic to be about women's issues - ignoring the mens issue and shaming the male for the woman's issue. Thus creating this dichotomy where vocal women shout out loud, despite being a minority. Which because they're the only one speaking thats the only ideas they hear. So they think they have public support. When in fact just self respecting man wants to engage in such a one sided conversation and is perfectly content letting the wacko scream, shout, and pout, and just date other women with better values. The lack of critical thinking in modern women is just unbelievable.
“Women don’t really hold each other accountable” was the understatement of the century. I work with and encourage a lot of women around me to fight this problem because it’s a huge problem in/for our modern society
The default response when a girl is upset is for her friends to tell her how amazing she is, her feelings are valid, she deserves to be treated like a princess, she’s a boss bitch, it’s the other person who’s the problem. Then they’ll gang up on anyone who even slightly tries to be objective. The focus is completely on how she feels in the moment, with no regard for truth or what will actually help her in the long run.
In Korea, it is called the "rotten tangerine box theory." It is a theory that satirizes the female-dominated society phenomenon in which women rationalize each other's mistakes, so they all end up getting rotten together.
Others see the successful narcissistic and psychopathic types getting what they want and begin to copycat. Folks become unhappy because they do not lack empathy like the narcissist and psychopath.
It's true. We're not intimidated. I can't tell you how many women I ghosted for their narcissism, delusional conceit, false accusations, combativeness, shallow materialism, entitlement, lack of character, heart, & congeniality. In other words ... A-wholes. Not even other narcissists want to be around narcissists. They're destined to be alone. It's actually the best for the rest of the world. It must be nature's way of quarantining the disease.
Indeed. Most women are low quality garbage. They are the problem and the solution at the same time. Only the feminine, submissive, sweet women will end up having families, and thus pass on their healthy mindset to their daughters. Nature is wise.
My stepdad and stepsister are narcissists so I can safely say, you are 100% correct. They really are destined to be on their own, it’s better for everyone
women contribute very little to civilization. they have a very high opinion of themselves but in reality they only have their looks and thats their niche, nothing else.
Trust me, men aren't intimidated, we just won't put up with the nonsense most women bring, especially baggage! Here's what you can do... 1. Stop being combative 2. Stop being selfish 3. Stop ghosting when it gets real. And if it's too real for ya, you can't handle a relationship, Stop dating, get help! 4. Stop with the narcissistic personality...seek help! 5. Own your shhhhhhht 6. Stop watching these dating reality shows and crime shows, we're not all predators! 7. Drop the attitude! You're not 5 years old! Happy 2023 yall!
Many toxic, feminist women of today find positive terms for negative reality: "Intimidated by me" = Annoyed of toxicity, "Independent" = Lonely, "Freedom" = sleeping around with many guys. If a woman wonders why she only finds guys for sleeping and not long term, she should ask herself also, if it is her attitude.
@@juanis8219 So if a full grown men ends up in an accident or severe illness, only his mother is allowed to take care of him and not his partner, got it.
My ex needs to hear this from a woman. She loved to argue. She could literally say something I agreed with and somehow make that into an argument. Once she asked me a question about something she knew I would know about, then proceeded to complain that I was mansplaining. Just looking for conflict for absolutely no reason
My ex wife once asked me to groom our husky. So when I call him over to do so, she flips out on me because his attention is no longer on her. She yells at me cusses me out, calls me names. I just looked her in the eyes asked what on earth is wrong with her. They will manifest any problem out of any situation. Not worth wasting your well being on.
And apparently you were too - or she never would've even attained the status of 'ex' in your life. I'll never understand it. What guy would walk into a bar and start bending the ear of the nearest patron about all of the unemployed, couch surfing, restraining ordered, ex con, functioning alcoholic MALE friends in his life... Without it ONCE ever occurring to him that this stranger next to him has almost certainly IMMEDIATELY drawn some pretty unflattering conclusions about the life of this guy on the stool next to him, too. And yet month after month these comment threads are FILLED with the 15 and 20 year sagas of men who apparently keep company with NOTHING BUT an endless succession of parasitic harridans in the way of female companionship. But somehow this fact is NEVER supposed to reflect poorly on the guys that keep choosing this??? I'm 60 something now - married 25 years, two kids, mortgage, college fund, etc. etc. I had my share of unpleasant break ups during my first 3 plus decades of single life - but NONE of them were due to finding the MERE PRESENCE of my S/O unbearable on an ordinary daily basis - even when we weren't arguing. Nobody would be surprised to hear me say that I don't have that kind of track record with other guys, either Hell, MOST OF US DON'T, right? Who in their right mind would sit still for it??? So why in God's name would I subject myself to living under the same roof with the FEMALE version? And even if I DID make that mistake ONCE - why would I seek out the counsel of an entire YT cohort of people who are apparently in the grip of the same dysfunction more or less continuously?
This past weekend I decided to be bold and honest with my friend about her coming across as a flirty person and that some men could take that the wrong way. She cussed me out in public, stormed off, and abandoned our friendship. It hurt that I couldn't be authentic with her, but she was a bullet I dodged in friendship!
Unfortunately, feminism, social media and poor parenting have seduced and subtly encouraged many young women into thinking that arrogance is somehow a flex and that humility and self reflection are for "other people" and not themselves. Better to not have these kind of "friends" in your life because, instead of being honest with you when you need to hear hard truths, they will either blow sunshine up your backside with "you go girl" and "manifest that" talk or will drag you down into their emotional holes with them (misery loves company), and in either scenario, they will ultimately not help you positively grow and improve as an individual, friend or GF/wife. So better to not have "friends" whose default settings are arrogant lack to personal responsibility and deluded beliefs of perpetual victimhood - because such people are typically insufferable, entitled and lack empathy and will likely end up alone, bitter and clueless as to why everyone is "intimidated by their greatness." 🤷
As a single 29M, the first thing that turns me off about a woman is when she turns everything into an argument. I can’t speak for all men but if she is 10/10 but argumentative she instantly drops to 1/10 and it is not about not valuing her opinion but I just like someone who is kind and peaceful who calms me down when I am tired and I can depend for advice on important issue without shouting at me.
I was just thinking the same thing. This video reminded me of me, my brothers and my dad having an intense discussion when we were younger at home and my mom would ask us to "stop arguing", and the 2 of us would tell her "we're not arguing, we're having a discussion" lol. The point being, as passionate as we could get, we were still able and willing to be reasonable and listen to the other person. We had an understanding that the issue at hand wasn't the other person, it was the subject we were talking about. We didn't take things personally, we were objective, and hence could afford to be open and honest. So a woman who doesn't know how to be objective and always takes things personally is just a headache. That's not a person you can be open, honest or vulnerable with.
Some women like to argue because it brings drama. It's like an adrenaline rush to argue and make up. Some people are addicted to that high. Sounds weird 😔
save yourself a whole lot of trouble and seek serious advice on complicated issues from 1 or 2 men in your life you trust deeply. Do not take serious issues you really don't have an answer for at all to your woman. dogshit idea. Seek some counsel and advice on some topics, sure. Seek consensus and make sure she's happy and involved in day to day decisions absolutely. But if you really need advice on something that has you seriously stumped and confused, you bring that kind of thing to your girl you're gonna be eating shit and she will lose respect for you big time.
This lady hit the nail on the head. I don't want a competitive partner, but a we mentality is team. I could care less how successful a women is, I am independent on my own. I want a team effort , not a combative, competitive relationship
One thing you can quit doing is using the word partner, because if women want a leader a protector and a provider, it is not an equal partnership and of course it never will be. You want a spouse, a wife, not a partner.
There's a great Thomas Sowell quote: 'When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.'
After being married 47 years we discovered the complement factor. She fills in what I lack, and visa versa. We cheer each other on and are a team. So recognizing each others gifts is not being intimidated, but it’s knowing what each other brings to the marriage and loving each other for it.
@@vimanaarchitects2151 that would mean you don’t want help or give help to your mate. That is not a relationship but anarchy. You will never find joy in isolation. It’s a miserable existence. True love is giving what you need to get.
It's why women like Courtney and the other girl in the video are important. We can scream about it until we are blue in the face. Women need to shame other women into acting right or it will never be accepted
"Women don't really hold themselves or each other accountable." - most underrated statement Courtney makes. Men are supposed to handle their own trauma and their own emotions. Women are not: they are encouraged to seek someone to soothe them and affirm them. Men are supposed to be completely secure with a woman being exactly who they are, and seek not to alter them. Women, via hypergamy, are encouraged to ensure that the value of her man is rooted in what he can do for her. He must be strong. He must be enviable. He must provide resources in excess of what she makes. He needs to be her therapist, her bankroll, her bodyguard, her waitstaff, her manual labor. She needs only to be herself. When he does wrong, other men around him are supposed to correct him, and he is required to correct men who do wrong. He is a good man if he submits to the self-policing men do for their own gender (knowing we are judged solely by the worst of our number) and polices other men who do wrong. She is always a good woman even if she engages in bad behaviors. Another woman will validate and affirm that she is right in what she is doing. Holding another woman accountable is social suicide for any woman.
It's a world that is halfway in-between traditional, they kept all the good parts and ditched all the tough hard parts. then we wonder why they are spoiled lol It works out great with the whole traditional though
@@kookie_2178 A marriage takes two working together, it's not a guarantee if only one does things right. This is especially true when the one tasked with being a leader fails horribly at that job.
As a man I've dealt with this with my female co workers via the lunch table Just by listening, The amount of defense a women will have from other women is amazing to be honest. But most of it is validation and rationalization of bad behavior. Some of these women don't care and most have an attitude of "as long as I'm pretty and have a p*ssy then I can get away with whatever I want. "I'm not the problem, I'm the prize 🏆" and with that thinking. Men start to just walk away entirely from that.
The problem Is there's always plenty of men that won't walk away , most women who aren't fat or old don't have to even begin to try , the simps are always around and giving them attention , and as long as these women have access to a comfortable life and attention there's no motivational reason In the world for them to change , and these are always the ones to selfishly have kids who will be taught the same ways and the cycle continues.
I ended things with my ex because she always reminded me of how independent she was, how she didn't need me or anyone, and would even say she got to where she was without anyone else helping her, but always leaving out that I paid for her bachelor's and masters, helped her with homework, took her on vacation when she'd be stressed, etc. Most people don't want a difficult person in their life. Doesn't matter what gender they are.
Facts I put my kids mom through school, and even took full custody of the kids so she could do an accelerated program for her masters. (When I say custody I mean if the kids that were not mine) To this day she says she got everything she has by herself. I left and took my child w/ me
@@cookieterminator4389 you are wrong. It is gender exclusive thing. Because is trendy to say men are wrong or bash them anytime but if someone criticizes any woman then that person is accused of misogyny. So, it is a gender thing, women can never be wrong.
@@cookieterminator4389 But the difference is that men live in reality and take accountability for their actions, women like to live in fairy tail land where they're always perfect and nobody is allowed to criticize them on their bad behaviour.
Absolutely, I’m aware that I’m broken from childhood issues and aspects of my marriage that were bad. This is why I tapped out from dating for a while. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. And something not mentioned here is sometimes it really is a numbers game. Sometimes people really aren’t compatible and it’s nobody’s fault. It’s just how it is. Don’t give up, keep improving yourself, and keep meeting new people. ❤
It's funny that I had the conversation in a group of women (I'm male) where one was trying to figure out "Why this guy ghosted me." The women all told her how wonderful she was and how she intimidated him. I asked why she liked the guy, and she rattled off a long string of very positive attributes. I then asked how many other men she was dating at the time, and she said, "Four, but this is the guy I really want." And I had to say, "He didn't get that message if you were dating four other men. And men can tell when some woman is running them in rotation." Low value men will allow themselves to be run that way. High value men will not. They won't waste their time with low value women, and when they find a high value woman, she'll get their undivided attention. If they don't get that in return, ladies, expect to be ghosted. And don't kid yourself that you intimidated any of them.
Well said. I went through something similar not long ago. After the first date, she said she wanted to go out again, but still wanted to keep her options open (because she was new to America and her whore coworkers convinced her the America way to date is to see 4 or 5 guys at once and whittle them down). I wished her good luck, but that shit won't fly with me. You want to date me and only me, giving it an honest shot, or you don't. Joke was on me. She decided to ignore her friends and went all in on me and within 2 weeks she was talking about marriage and when I broke it off shortly after that, she was border line stalker LOL. That's also a first hand warning to the men on here who constantly say to go get an Asian woman. I've dated a number of Asian immigrants and they are f'n crazy/obsessive.
@@DJCloroxx that’s not the case in every industry. I changed 3 jobs in 4 years and nobody complained. Remember: you work to make your boss money. You will NEVER out earn him. You trade your time for money and it’s a fair trade. Corporations understand that. Low level companies don’t understand it because they’re usually losing money until they get their stuff together and they don’t want to afford to lose employees. When they do, they do because of low benefits. Big corporations keep their employees with nice benefits, not by forcing them to stay.
If you're dating 4 individuls, it's highly unlikely you are showing anyone the time and mind they deserve. AND, you most likely don't care about family. Procreating takes focus and diligence, and no spouse wants to hear that BS about being married to a job, or being a work-a-holic. There are PLENTY of good jobs available. Find one that allows you to date and respect yourself at the same time.
I fell in love with my wife after our first argument when I was prepared for a drawn out battle with her and she apologized right away. I’d never experienced someone who was willing to take accountability for their stuff. We’ve been together for twenty years and she’s a partner who has helped me be a better person, we have been stronger together. Those people are out there and are worth waiting for.
Would love to find someone that likes the way I am in whole. I don't know what I did wrong. I have so much to offer, but only found men that were not fitting or not good.
@@Butterfly828-x8e all I can say is be patient, and picky. Find a way to be content as a single person while becoming a real catch for the right person when they come along. It CAN happen. Good luck!
My sister was on her 3rd failed marriage at the time. My advice to her was "There is one constant to all your failed marriages. You." Needless to say, she didn't like my insight. I think she is on ex #7. I call her a succubus because she becomes what they are looking for. She likes what they like and works to make them happy. After a while, she gets tired of being this image she puts on. No matter how many times I tell her she has to be herself, she doesn't listen. I only ever had 1 girlfriend and I married her. We knew each other in high school and dated after I graduated. We married when I was 19. This was in 1995. We are still married. Most do not know what they are looking for. I was looking for what I needed and not wanted. I think that was the key to why I didn't date in high school and have been married this long. You don't need a 6 figure income, a luxury car, and a big house. You need to feel love and be needed. Living under your means is also key to happiness.
Pretty sure you need a 6-figure income. I have no idea how anyone could live in less if they have kids. I just got dropped down to 150k in the Midwest and I have a hard time making ends meet. And we have no car payments, health insurance payments, cell phone payments…
1,000 times yes! As a woman in her 30s, I have friends younger than me and some into their 50s that have been single for many years. I am not brave enough to tell them this fact, but they do have the "I don't need a man" mentality and they do want to be put on a pedestal and men just don't stick around for it. Yes, as women we need standards and we have to know our worth... but if you've went on numerous dates for many years and it never worked out, ask yourself why and be honest. Men crave affection and peace, so why would they stick around for anything less?
@@Katrica670 nope .. they mabe love the makeup sex .. but not the drama and definitively not hatefulness .. don't confuse banta with drama or hate. SOME have a be dominated kink .. but your sentence especially with the "lots" (of men) is wrong
Courtney is out here making the world better by speaking these truths to women and men!! I almost fell out around 8:00 mark when she described why the “boss babe” with a bad attitude is single. Thank you Miss Courtney!
Does it mean the woman has to take care of everything in the « house », be the man and woman, be your mother in the same time ? I don’t mean do the laundry and dishes, I mean handle the administrative things, solve problems with any kind of staff in a store, a restaurant, etc…, organize the vacations… No because… I mean, I had a boyfriend, not 15 but 29 years old, not able to manage the waitress in a restaurant trying to increase the bill by pouring every drop of the white wine bottle and leaving with the bottle at the end of the dinner without checking with us the quantity left in the bottle. I had to tell my partner 2 or 3 times to catch her because she could empty some wine in the sink to cheat us. Or, I give him my credit card to go alone close the rental contract of a motorcycle and he’s not able to bring back the receipt. He said they didn’t give him anything. So we went back to the office together and the first reaction of the personal is to say «Oh yes, you left, you forgot your receipt ! » He sure had peace ! Life was easy for him. Not for me !
@@rosehiver6262 Exactly. Often when men say they want peace they mean, let me chill and enjoy my hobbies, don't bother me to help with the kids or chores.
"Women don't respond well when you tell them maybe you're the problem" It's difficult when you have 100K people telling you that you are awesome just to make you feel better and only one person is willing to tell you what your flaws are so you can actually be better. While well meaning that kind coddling keeps them completely blind and unable to reflect on themselves.
It is not well meaning. Women give eachother a false sense of attractiveness or importance to set them up for failure so that they can get in that spot. Women absolutely use this psychological warfare to put eachother down and climb the ladder. I’ve seen girls fuck their best friends man just for revenge, or to steal him, or even because her friend said he was the best at sex and she wanted some of the action. Sometimes it’s to make them feel better, sure. But they know exactly what they’re doing, they know they’re lying through their teeth to make them feel better. They are not all innocent.
@@AsurmenHandOfAsur I have many ex female friends due to me pointing out obvious toxic behavior patterns I've seen in them because of the echo chamber defending social media friends that coddle them
I'm a woman in a long term relationship and I agree with what this woman is saying. Very few people want to be with an argumentative person or someone who acts like they don't want to be in a relationship. A relationship should be peaceful.
Very much such so. I've dated some attractive and successful women (relative to my area) the last couple years, but when they create unnecessary drama or conflict, I'm out. Then they pull the, "A relationship is work" card. Yeah, a relationship is work, but not 1 month in it's not. There are times of work, but peace should be the base of your relationship. I'm in a new relationship now with a beautiful woman with very old fashioned, gender role based beliefs. The type where, I was cooking for her last night and it was driving her nuts that I was the one cooking and she was standing there talking and not working. She's no coward or doormat, just very level headed, down to earth, a nurturer and knows that very thing - That peace isn't just critical for your relationship, but your own mental health that can really drive your entire attitude. I've never met someone I meshed with so quickly with because her presence and demeanor is so calming. Probably why she's a therapist who works with specific mental health patients LOL. This is obviously far easier to come by for me in my 40s than a guy in his 20s. I really feel bad for the younger guys at this point (not to excuse them of their own short comings of being socially awkward, generally having no balls or know how to properly court women, and then slander the entire gender because of the bad apples). Courtney has her target audience, but the dysfunction of relationships is a 2 way street. I think it's a chicken and egg debate: Which came first, did men stop being real men first or did entitled, unrealistic women create these men? The feminist extremism of the last several years most certainly did a lot of damage.
@@Swearengen1980 I agree...I think there's a restless feeling when you're in your late teens, 20s and sometimes into your 30s that might make men and women more intense about finding relationships. That restlessness can lead to frustration in men and women. Maybe it's the rush of youthful hormones at play. But when you're a bit older, both men and women are more calm, rational and accepting of a lot of things. Relationships flow better.
The work people are mostly referring to i suspect is 1st The agreement: Item, i) Separate bank accounts? Item ii Sex (how often what kind, who is allowed to "have a headache" etc, item iii) things I agree not to call your mother . . . Nothing on paper obviously. Thayt kind pf agreement needs constant validating, verifying, - work 2nd intimacy knowing the other person loving them (hardv to love someone you don't know) Femnists can have no problem with traditional relatinnshps or roles; just one choice.
Speak for yourself...there's a fine line between being argumentative and having intense conversation, there's nothing saying that two people that don't think alike can't get along and have a good long term relationship...as long as everything is put on the table before hand, nothing is off the table. It's all about setting boundaries and expectations for what people are willing to discuss and what's off the table, that's the key. I have to do that with everyone because personally there's absolutely nothing I won't talk about, but I know that isn't the case for most others, therefore I have to find out what they're willing to talk about and what's not open for discussion, then I have to file that information away so I don't broach those subjects.
@@brucebartup6161 Personally I think these things are wildly overblown or at least misrepresented. Most seem to not think twice about joint bank accounts, but the problem is: Are they on the same page about life style. One may be a spender who'd rather travel than save for retirement and the other prioritizes security over adventure. Anecdotal, but I've never seen the "have a headache" BS as a real problem. Lack of desire for sex is rarely the issue, it's the underlying reason for why, which is unresolved problems. The guy can't disrespect her, stop being a gentleman, or stop being romantic and expect the woman to want to bang him all the time. The love and thoughtful gestures can't stop just because you get married. It's also not just a man thing to not be able to talk rationally and compromise when you're butting heads, women are every bit as stubborn at times. Those type of things are why people stop having sex, not because no one is horny, but because you have bigger issues in the relationship.
I'm single because i want peace and i haven't gotten that. I hate fighting, i like to communicate in a calm manner. Relationships have been nothing but headaches for me.
Truth. How do you cope with the strong feelings of loneliness and intimacy well up. Family and friends do fill a small portion of the cup but the remainder, in my opinion, is longing for an intimate partner that GETS you. I have been single for close to two years after a long term relationship. I am currently in a relationship but have found myself getting less and less fulfilled by this woman. I am at a crossroads between knowing if she isn't for me or me not being ready to give myself fully to another.
@soapbox187 the problem some of the women more interested in getting the dates and food and free gifts... is that they cant really jump up and down when you leave.. while they yell " but i did stuff for you ! " . yea a year ago.. and bj's you have to take care of yourself near the end... dont count..
Women don’t understand that men are ACTUALLY independent and we don’t need them. We can do everything ourselves. Women just add on more stress. That’s why I have sex a couple times and then bail. Also a lot of us would enjoy fucking a 6 for the first time, more than an 8 for the 10th time.
As a guy if I ever heard a female saying they are single because they’re “intimidating” I would take that as womanese for “This is how I cope when I get dumped because I’m too masculine”
Women that say I am to intimidating for most men are just using that for not finding anyone wanting to put up with her attitude. Lets be real a very average woman if she is willing to be cooperative can find a man that will marry her. Men on the other hand have to be tall, good looking and have bank or you are just another guy in the world.
A woman who says that she’s single because men are “intimidated” by her indicates me they she has a combative personality, and also carrying tons of baggage while likely she having nothing constructive nor positive to offer to a man’s life. No high value man wants to deal with an argumentative woman who loves nagging and creating conflict out of nothing becas us men wants PEACE and tranquility, and this seems to be something that women on their majority fail to understand. These are the kind of women who ends up hitting the wall, buying cats and then complaining why there no good men. I’m the end…That’s the kind of low quality woman who ends up dying alone.
I just got out of a near 5 year relationship about 2 months ago. My mistake is I did things on her timeline. She decided when she moved in, when we got engaged, when we bought a house, etc just cause the sex was good. My biggest lesson, having just turned 33, is to create your life while you’re single, and when you meet the right person, don’t lose your identity as an individual. It will ruin your relationship.
My honest opinion is that you were pussy-whipped. And I'm not saying that as a put down, it's just how I see it. You put such a high value on sex with her that you simply let go of everything else and let her be the 'man in charge' because you didn't want to risk her saying "ok, no more sex for you". Therefore, since women can rarely make up their mind and stick to something no matter what, you found yourself in a situation where she kept changing things around constantly and always being unsatisfied by the outcome of her decisions and choices, and blaming you for it. And that ultimately led to the break up because you could never "man up" (she probably even said that at some point). Now, take a look back and tell me I'm wrong.
@@mickeypopa spot on bro. Trust me, I’ve gone through all that in my head many times over. I was a go with the flow person instead of having my own purpose and allowing her to enter it. I was a total beta. I definitely know now what mistakes to not make in the future.
@@GordoDustinove how us men can be direct and even brutal in our assessments but we take it like MEN and therefore we learn and improve! I went through this w my college gf, I was indeed pussy whipped for a whilem learned my lesson. The best lesson I could havw ever learned. It happens to all of us at least once. Even to my Chad friends. Good luck and protect yourself at all time 🍀✌️
Being opinionated and being confrontational are 2 separate things. Men want and NEED peace, but we also like a woman with opinions, mindset and intelligence. My partner shares her opinions with me in a respectful manner and never has an attitude about it, she's successful, has a great career and is extremely intelligent; else she wouldn't be my partner but we can talk and have different opinions about stuff and be respectful about each other with love and care.
Truth. The individuals in our society have become very confrontational and reactive. Not self-aware, respectful beings. These are just two required qualities for any long term companion. Fidelity is another.
@@rickc.3552 Really? I'd find someone who doesn't have their own view of the world to be very boring and not really worth having a conversation with. It all comes down to how those opinions are expressed. If it's in an aggressive matter then it's definitely a turnoff.
I prefer not to have a woman who is very opinionated but we all have different tastes. However @madestro you seem to have a great woman, your a lucky man. Cheers.
As a woman, I AGREE! This is how it is supposed to be! I have had women act up in public around me! I don’t like drama or being around ppl like this! I have to be careful when choosing friendships!! Reputation is important! Also long term relationships
Self awareness is a rare commodity nowadays for both men and women. Our society encourages delusion..."i intimidate men", "beauty comes in all sizes" etc
Men take it like MEN, at least most of us. We are truly open about what we look for. Women, not so much. All those standards go out the window the second Chad walks in the room 💥👈😉
I'm a 300 pound morbidly obese man. The difference between me and women in the same situation is that I'm not delusional about it. No, it doesn't look good. And you won't see me running around in a Speedo. Nobody want's to see that. I dress appropriately for someone my size. I've seen women who do this, and they look pretty good. If you can't pull off sexy, go for sophisticated instead. But morbidly obese women who think they are models is really messed up. I don't why people have to be delusional rather than being mentally healthy. People should love themselves unconditionally, but part of that is being completely honest with oneself.
I got tired of coming home to complaints. I also got tired of being blamed for everything that went wrong when she clearly made a poor decision that resulted in a poor outcome. A sign of maturity is being able to admit you screwed up and own it. Men are taught this growing up. Women not so much!
Women mature faster until 18-22 but after 22-25 men mature faster because real life hits them harder as they have no money, no options, and not future in sight. And as women's options remain high, their maturity is stunted. Once a women is 30-40 and their options reduce, they start to feel the biological clock ticking and seeing younger women as competiton. Then they start to mature as the real world hits them
@@ExilixE Women (most) don’t mature at all. They peak at 18 (which doesn’t mean they’re mature, it’s just the peak of their maturation) There’s the illusion of maturity (that most will want to argue with) but all you have to do to see that they don’t mature is to watch them in a romantic relationship.
@Steven Giles from what I'm seeing these days no one is actually taught admitting their fault as they grow up. If in your environment that happens, then I'm genuinely happy that at least 50% of people around are taught this but in my experience it's more up to the individual and overall very rare.
“Rather being a team, than independent” is the key line right there! That’s exactly what I’m looking for. You can be strong and independent all you want but if you’re not willing to be a team together, it’s selfish and not worth anyone’s time and energy. And that’s unfortunate. One simple paradigm change could really change everything.
Yup. Nailed it... if she doesn't need me or even want me... then the next thought I'd have... so why am I here with her at all? Doesn't matter how good looking she is... if she makes me feel used and worthless, I'm gone period. Walked out on one relationship and at least one date for that reason.
Collectivism rather than individualism is necessary for a relationship. This is why Asian countries are more harmonious than Western countries in relationships and family matters. Because the West has embraced toxic individualism.
My sister wants a boyfriend to help equally in house chores, but she also want a boyfriend who makes more money than her.. It's clearly ironic. If she wishes equality, she should accept someone who makes as little as herself.. Else she should accept the inequality.
I am a 56 yr old man. Everything you said is true ! I want happiness, not drama not games. I don't care about your money but I do care about your personality ! Actually I find myself caring more and more about personality and less about looks as I get older.
That's because even the girls that were pretty are lookin old and not-so-pretty at our age. Nonetheless, you could live with the most beautiful woman on earth and, if she's a b*tch, you stop seeing a beautiful woman and can only see the b*tch after the infatuation wears off.
“In love affairs a woman is more barbarian than a man.” “The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything.” ―Friedrich Nietzsche, esteemed "laughing lion" German philosopher Courtney, an invisible hand of applause for your radiant beauty as well as of stylistic art appreciation from a new US subscriber--though 'm sure you receive many compliments on your sleek lush hair and hypnotic jaguar eyes
On the key issues you address about modern dating, we need only look to the past to find the ideal way a woman should interact with a man for long term endearing relationship. Only 3 rules and a woman will attract a man of gravitas and substance. 1. SILENCE IS GOLDEN. if modern women could just in general stop the constant barista like voice chatter and the soap opera drama and chatter. Silence, and listen to your man. Don't bother him at work, take interest in his field and then let the man in peace with only brief interludes of pleasant conversation revolving around music, art, puzzles, humour, and perhaps show an interest in say the UFC and ask him what he thinks of Tom Aspinal the new UFC HW champion, and watch his interest go sky high for you. He will recognize the beauty of your heart even if lady does not possess the radiant beauty of Courtney. Then. leave the man alone and set a date for a movie or romantic dinner. BUT Silence and no empty barista banter or annoying talk. 2. Learn to listen and play the music of Jimmy Buffett, Blake Shelton, Journey, and Dierks Bentley and maybe Hank Williams Junior with a dash of Beethoven and Chopin for classical music. Listen to music and also learn to play poker with your man or at least understand poker or chess and include if possible a family game night. Make the relationship as easy and relaxed yet inspired as listening to the Jimmy Buffett song Margaritaville while walking down a romantic beach with your man where only the sounds of the ocean are in play. And the woman is silenttttttttttt!!! 3. Don't forget rule number 1 or 2!!!!!!!!!!!! Only 3 rules, and the natural chemistry of a man and woman can then flourish in a bungalow like room where only the sounds of the wind caressing the palm trees are heard as well as two hearts beating as one as a couple find true, endearing love through SILENCE and soft lush pillows!!!!!!!!!!!
A girl said something to me once along the lines of “your intimidated by me” or something of that effect. I remember saying “no, your just insufferable” She didn’t like that haha It was true though
Courtney your channel is a breath of a fresh air. It's crazy how saying things that are a common sense has become an exception instead of being a standard. Keep up the good work!
Finally someone as girl said it. I dated a girl who demand that always open the door of my car for her and it was so exhausting. Sometimes i did it one time because i wanna it to but there was this line where it was a script in her head in following things to be perfect.
Simple heart-felt message, based on clear analysis, masterfully delivered. Such an expressive face. Courtney's social commentary has grown to professional calibre.
"You have a bad attitude, and you're not very likeable..." Thank you!!! Yes ladies, if you have a bad personality and garbage character, we don't like you! We're not intimidated by women.
Whenever I've been open, warm, kind, bubbly, and showed interest they lost interest. When I became closed off, uninterested, and aloof that's when they were interested. Go figure.
It's the classic "80/20 rule" -- 80 percent of women competing for the affection of the top 20% of men. That's one of the reasons why millions of men in the middle have gone MGTOW, and why increasing numbers of spoiled, entitled females are now having to buy their own drinks.
@Greg Hammon See? That's what it makes even more messed up. In love, sometimes you have to be "needy" and "clingy" it is just you showing your affection. Is that even a bad thing? I have a girlfriend and we are a very happy couple and we do not have much to argue about we build our lives together. Sometimes those constructs that was made by people in past doesn't make sense. If I have to blame somebody about why men/women is distant to each other it is because of society's view of what is right and wrong about relationship not women, not men per se.
So is never ending Manosphere victimhood. And I say that as a 'regular' guy - 35 years in the building trades, 25 years married, two kids, mortgage, college fund, etc. Wish ya'll would just grow a pair, FFS. And give the YT culture warrior carnival barkers a rest.
@@chriscoughlin9289 Sorry but no, its not victimhood of men. Girls who think they're intimidating are actually annoying and it has nothing to do with men, it's their (girls) problem.
I’ve always heard the “they’re intimidated by you” because I’m shy. I hardly say anything. I think in reality, there might be some of that because people don’t often know what I’m thinking, so maybe they’re thinking that I’m thinking the worst things when I’m not? But I also think I’m just not seen because I’m often in the background and am too shy to put myself in the spotlight or even put myself out there. But the people who know me see my wild and more carefree side and come to me for advice because while I don’t speak a lot, I observe a lot and can apply that to try to help people. My shyness is something I’m trying to work on, but the past rejections from when I was more social and open always have their way of coming back to haunt me. It’s slow going, but I’m trying. I hope one day I can get into a position where I can find my own person
I am the same way. You’re not alone! I’m also very shy and it seems like men don’t know what to do with me. It’s hard 😢 but we just have to keep working on it! Hopefully you find someone who assumes the best in you!
A female friend once told me I would never date someone like a waitress. Implying her income wouldn’t be high enough. This got me thinking - do I come off like this? She didn’t know I grew up waiting tables and pumping gas to get through my first 3 years of college. What I care about isn’t not how much money a woman brings to the table, but how much positive attitude she brings to the relationship. Is she curious, wanting to learn, looking to support the people around her. An indicator of the type of person she is - her laugh. If a woman has a heart felt laugh, and laughs easily , this is almost like her soul is speaking out. Nice video. Thank you!
What I care about isn’t not how much money a woman brings to the table. Imagine you're 71 yrs old and bring in $40K/yr in retirement, Choice, a great woman who brings $0 to the table or an OK woman that brings $35K to the table in retirement.
@@aolvaar8792 The great woman! I turn 71 this month coincidently. And instead of feeling constrained financially, learn how to invest so that you're not constrained. Limitations are mostly due to a lack of imagination.
@@aolvaar8792 No, not necessarily. Women who bring in money are more occupied, more stressed, less focused on immaterial things, tend to be more entitled, etc.
My wife is an amazing woman. She is a caregiver, she is very selfless to the point where people think they can take advantage of her... but they can't. She is also very strong willed and we both can be very stubborn. We are a great team and I'm thankful every day for her. There are so many self-centered, horrible people out there that I feel very blessed to have found her. I've supported my wife through her nursing career and once she gets her DNP she will have the capacity to out earn me a little bit. Like you stated. I don't care about that. I'm happy for her and extremely proud of her. We are a team. Her success is our families success. She sets such a great example for our daughter.
@getinthespace, You very much lucked out when you met your wife since the kind of women out there nowadays are such low life entitled losers altogether.
The reason my wife and I have been in a happy marriage for approaching 20 years is that we approaches it with a team mentality. It is all about what makes BOTH of us happy, not just one individual. If she wants to do something but detects it might not be my thing, she will not unilaterally decide she’ll do it, no matter how much I may not like it. Not taking your partner for granted goes miles in a relationship. It shows kindness, love, and most importantly, RESPECT for your other! If you’re acting like a Boss Babe (or Boss Man), it’s not a relationship, it’s simply all about YOU! No partnership survives without the active participation of BOTH involved parties. Great stuff, Courtney! Glad I found your channel.
Yes! I’ve been married for 16 years now & it’s definitely a partnership. all this red-pill rhetoric with alpha males is such a self-serving selfish mentality that it destroys relationships! Same thing with boss babes. Everything is Me, Me Me! When, in reality, everything is about working together & compromising… fulfilling each other’s needs. Relationships are reciprocal ❤
Not married but my bf is a more independent person and I respect his space. If i give him space to do family things, video games, naps, etc then he will be happy when he comes back to me.
This is so helpful! As you said, 'if you are wrong I'm going to tell you you're wrong', this is incredible, you have the power of knowing when somebody is right or wrong, and you tell them! This is amazing! You're so generous to share your perfect understanding of the world with your friends and not hide your perfect pontificating insights.
‘Men don’t care about how much money you are making, they care more about your attitude, how you make them feel and to be honest most importantly how you look and complement the relationship’ this is just a great great video.
Men don't care how much a woman makes because she considers the money she makes her money. She considers the money he makes - if she is generous - their money. The man has no access to her money and will have to sit and watch her spend her money on nails and hair and makeup and jewelry. Her goal in finding a man, it seems. is to be able to use more of her money on discretionary spending rather than basic overhead like rent and debt maintenance which "their money." will cover.
@@johnweir3168 yup... Exactly. My wife literally went to the extent of creating a secret debt account for "her money"... Meanwhile had no problem paying for all of the bills from "OUR" shared bank account!
That’s exactly what I want in a woman: a companion, not a boss. I wanna be encouraged, not belittled. This is my third video I’m watching if you and I cant get enough of your content. Thank you for advocating for men ma’am. Happy Sunday!
Not only do you want to date a female who is a companion, not a boss... but I don't think any of us even want to work for a 'boss babe' Not only are 'boss babes' terrible to date, they're terrible leaders. Think about if you had a male boss who strutted around, talking about what a boss he is, taking credit for your work, pushing people around... you might've had a boss like that... did ANYONE ENJOY WORKING FOR HIM? Did he get the best out of anyone? "Boss babes" are just terrible leaders who overcompensate for their lack of self confidence.
I started dating someone recently, and whilst we were walking around after dinner she asked me what I think are green flags in a woman. The only thing I could think of in the moment was pretty much word for word what you said: someone who gives me peace. It really is that simple, I'm a basic guy
men want a companion, not a boss. to be encouraged, not belittled or nagged. we want someone who brings peace into our lives. not chaos or drama. someone that they can team up with hand in hand and face together all of the difficulties that life is going to throw at them and fight their way through life as a team. someone who will never disrespect them. for men sometimes respect from a woman is more important than love and disrespect is a line you do not cross, and lots of hot sex of course
Ultimately, people just want to feel connected with loving partners who are easy to be with. Being bossy, difficult, always right, or disconnected is not easy to live with.
These are the ones that say "you just can't handle a boss bitch". Why would anyone want to handle that? I'd much prefer a mature, authentic, honest and assertive lady, or if not, be single.
My 27F manager had this issue too. Never had a relationship, never been asked for a date. One time she brought us for drinks, and asked us if she should change or lower her standards. And the other girls were like 'no, don't change, you're a catch'... But in my head I was thinking that she should at least iron her clothes when she goes to office... Can't say it because it's just my first week there. She's not a narc, she just appears very strongly opinionated and proud, in addition to her lack of style. I was also removed by her in the team sooner because I do not succumb to her leadership style.
You hit the nail there. My thai wife in an Irish job, always looks respectable dressed and clean. Other foreign girls do the ssme. The irish women mostly put no effort in. Fall straight out of bed into work. Men also do it, but on a lesser scale. I am current Thailand, and it amazes me how well everyone looks in the cities going to work. Also it is easier to look and smile at a woman without the....stalker stare you get in Ireland. Very different
That's a bit exist. As a woman who dated guy who came tod dates without any grooming effort, and expecting a lot or even making later on comments on my look, please consider being more kind to other women.
@@ana-maria448 I meant what I said here. She's asking for an advice. Again, she was asking for advice. Good for you that someone got attracted to you despite not doing anything. It's not working for her and for her past 27 years... The true unkindness is when people do not tell the truth and keep people from staying the same when they could improve a lot of things just to feed ones ego. I just want you to know that for the past months this person, even if she kicked me from the team, still continued harrassment on me. I just reported her to HR. She's an insecure and jealous person who cannot stand another lady (specially good-looking and smart) excel at work. I'm not the first nor the last one. I have no compassion towards her. She got no style, no looks and a terrible attitude, no wonder she's NBSB for 27 years.
“We set such high standards for others, while holding ourselves to such low standards…” Damn, Courtney. That was beautiful. I’m using that and quoting you in the future. It sums it up so well and so succinctly. Just want to add, I’ve been watching your channel for a couple months now. I’m married and not looking for anything from women these days, but I do work with mostly women, and I decided I just wanted to get to know a more feminine perspective. I think you communicate in such an approachable, respectful, and insightful fashion, that I find myself thinking, “you know what? I’ve seen that behavior! I understand what you mean! Oh, that makes so much more sense now!” So keep up the work, offering your helpful commentary and observations! And while this is neither here nor there, I really think you have a fashion style that is understated and elegant. Really goes well with your content! Also, you don’t sound like a five year old. I remember you saying that others have said that, but your voice is soothing and even. So. There’s that, lol.
@@user-45674xcfr I totally agree, plus she’s clearly so sharp and eloquent. She treats us guys and her fellow girls with respect, but can give us both the hard truth, even if it’s uncomfortable to hear. Her insights on us men are super accurate, so I absolutely trust her for a feminine perspective. Toss in an elegant style, a pretty face, and sweet demeanor, you have someone who is great to learn from!
Wow. More women need to carry themselves like Courtney! Gentle and detailed about getting a point across. Where some would easily get offended and or defensive.
Hey Courtney! I love the direction of your channel. I am a 58 year old man who is married to the same woman for 38 years, and I have had multiple careers, and currently my wife works from home as a Senior Analyst for a major company while I take care of our farm. (Over the years we've flipflopped roles of who has been the primary breadwinner at one time or another depending on who is going back to school, etc). We have raised many children, adopted one, and helped raise children from other families too that are all successful and now we have a number of grandchildren around the world. My wife is amazing and I thank God for her every day. We are a team, and support each other -- we depend on one another and have our whole life. I would be less than honest if I said we have not had a number of ups and downs, good years and bad, rough patches and such. I've had to work hard to speak "woman" and understand her better all these years -- and the difference is that I married a real WOMAN. I told my wife she can never die, because from my perspective, most of the folks out there in the world are narcissistic little girls and boys that may be chronologically 30 or40 but they think they are so special because they have advanced degrees, can win at video games, and can chat on twitter, facebook, and all of that simultaneously but they have no ability to make real friends or understand real hard work or teamwork (The LEGO song "Everything is Awesome" is not just a song!) because they are a bunch of functionally helpless prima donnas. Finding mature, compassionate, selfless, deep thinking, team players that want to build a family and grow together and support one another is becoming more and more rare these day because the boys and girls of today (regardless of age) are only concerned with what "I" want. "I" never makes relationships. If girls and boys don't want to wake up in their 50s and still be alone, they need to snap out of their fantasies of how great they are (the Tic Toc people are cringeworthy because none of them are hot or sexy but just sad and disgustingly desperate and delusional) and start thinking about "we" -- or just decide to marry their cat and dog and settle down. Oh and as far as high maintenance -- I've taken my wife out to the most amazing places around the world -- but her preferred place to be would be at home knitting while I read books to her like the Shadow and Bone series or Discovery of Witches series (the books are infinitely better) or some Jack Reacher action books out loud (over coffee or tea); and given her gifts like jade from Thailand and gold from Turkey, but what really says love to her is when I surprise her with (get ready for it ) -- bags of dirt -- topsoil for her greenhouse. Yep.... after all these years, to find that one of the ways to her heart was to get her more high quality dirt.....I should have started sooner!
@@BFVsnypEz You can't grow a home vegatable garden with gold you need good dirt/soil and lots of compost and mulch! Home grown food always tastes better because you grew it!
“Men want someone who will bring peace to their life”. Nailed it. High value men protect their peace and pursue their goals. When the right woman comes along they ask that woman to join them.
Someone asked me once why I was still single and I told him that the time I spend my peace of mind is valuable and I'm not willing to corrupt it for anything.
Any self respecting guy wouldn't want to put up with that, no matter how hot the chick was. That's why the chubby cute gal who is easy to deal with and fun to be around gets the long term guy.
@@bartsullivan4866 I wish that was the case, but I feel like I see so many more pretty women with average or ugly guys than the reverse. In reality, I think many men will overlook toxic traits to be with a hot woman.
Courtney, I'm a 64 year old man and the one thing I can say I have noticed getting more and more out of hand with both men and women in my lifetime is that there is a super-abundance of super-egomaniacs on both the male and female side. The arrogance and highly materialistic expectations of both sexes in North America, and doubtless Australia, New Zealand, the UK and western Europe, is the ruination of more relationships than I can shake a stick at. Marriage is a lifelong partnership, _whatever_ may happen to you as a married couple! You should never view your husband or your wife as someone you will heave overboard just because times get rough or someone "better" comes along. If that is how any person is, do not marry them! Just Pass Go and Collect your $200, and keep looking! Of course, if you can find that out about someone before getting married your life will be far better, ha, ha! 👌💘😉
Young man ;-) I am six years your senior and having been married twice, one was hell but stay until my sons grew up, one now I am very fortunate to have, in between an eight live in partnership and along the way quite a range of different ladies. Also, a lot of close mates like me became wise along the way with their failures and successes. On that basis, wish to say, your comments could not be more correct and speaking as an ex teacher (from industry) your words should be read out and LEARNT off by heart by kids in those counties you listed.
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Exactly Todd. I think a certain strata of society is going through a period of profuse fascination with materialism. . Also, the internet "democratized" reality in some ways...giving people acess to realities they wouldn't ever rendezvous with before. Also, serial monogamy is seen as the norm and healthy........but for me I don't udnerstand how people just move on from one person to the other with such ease. It shows how invested people really are when they say they love someone.
*It's true that today's dating scene has changed a lot, and sometimes high expectations and independence can make relationships harder to build. Finding a balance between standards and openness could be the key to more meaningful connections.*
So many people think of a relationship as a competition instead of a partnership and then wonder why the relationship failed… look for a partner instead of a competitor and you’ll both support each other regardless of who succeeds!
Don’t use partner this is a feminist term in the sense of equality and sameness, mate is better for expressing a relationship between a man and a woman in the sense of complementarity and friendship.
@@tyarnold4088 Words have meaning and in this case feminists see a partnership as a business relationship, this is how you slowly assimilate their warped world view. They already changed the definition of what a woman is in the dictionary to include trans people. Men are the gatekeepers of rationality and order while women give emotional meaning to words and are chaotic.
Hearing that girl's story reminded me once of a girl I had to cut off. I mean, we couldn't even have a decent enjoyable conversation... her attitude and stuff she said was demeaning and inappropriate. I remember her later emailing me saying she thought the reason men didn't stay interested or approach is because they were intimidated by her. I never replied, but thought, No... they get a whiff of your personality and run the other way as fast as possible.
When I heard you say “they don’t like you”. I put down my coffee down and said wow! First woman I’ve heard said that and you know exactly how men feel. Yes we don’t care how much money a woman makes but rather it’s about what kind of peace you bring into one’s life. That’s worth all the money in the world. Thanks for your great videos and the hard work you put into them. I’m a new subscriber of a result of it ❤️
Thanks Courtney, this is such good advice for both women and men. We all need to check ourselves to see how each of us comes across in relationships. I am 75 and have been married to my 2nd wife for nearly 30 years. She and I work for the common good of our relationship and for respective kids and their children…..you never stop be a parent. Common goals and communication are the essential ingredients. I’m just as down on men who want to return all women to the kitchen as I am on women who are looking for a sugar daddy. This video is an excellent tool for self-evaluation!
I disagree with the comment on woman with financial success. I’ve never desired a woman that didn’t want to be a stay at home Mom. The best gift I’ve ever given my wife is the ability for her to stay home. She has flourished there and we have an amazing home because of it.
"Taking accountability for our actions is how we evolve as humans. " Thank you Miss Ryan. This video has been an eye opener for me. We all have character flaws and can improve ourselves... regardless of gender. 🙏🏼❤
Disney's She-Hulk series really shows how some women think about men. There's a scene where Jennifer tries out online dating, but no man is interested in dating a successful woman. I watched this with my friends and we got mental over how wrong it was. Financial success doesn't make you intimidating, it often makes you more attractive. What's really intimidating is when a woman looks down on a less-successful man who dared to ask her out.
That's not intimidating. Them looking down on someone who doesn't earn as much as them doesn't make the other person feel threatened or intimidated. What it does is make them feel devalued as a human being. They're not intimidating, they're condescending. Big difference.
Yes, a lifetime of daily arguments is very intimidating to a mature man. Even the Bible says that the discomfort of living in the attic of a house is better than spending it with a quarrelsome wife.
This reminds me of a couple conversations with my best female friend. She ran into a big problem with her boyfriend because of many underlying issues that stem from miscommunication from the get-go. A lot of her girls just kept talking about how awesome she was and that her boyfriend made all the mistakes. She then decided to speak to me since I was a guy so she could understand guy’s perspective. I broke things down for her and pointed out that multiple issues that they were facing were by no means the fault of the boyfriend but rather the fault from both or sometimes even from her. She did say that she did not receive a big blow like that before from the girls and it was refreshing for her to hear the guts of the problems than to keep hyping herself up and took no accountability. The couple is on much better terms now and they seem to be much happier afterwards. Many people seem to have problems with hearing the truth and feel that their feelings trump the honesty. Those people need to get a reality check so they can grow.
Women place an EXTREMELY high value on loyalty. To women, a "harsh truth" is TREASON. A woman who tells the harsh truth to a female friend will soon be disowned... and quite likely still be considered an "active enemy/threat" decades later. They want sympathy and support... not the truth. Thus, the prevalence of their over-inflated egos... and... "He's intimidated by you!" is just another way to pump more hot air into that already over-inflated ego.
I've noticed this trend with myself. When I date a boss babe it feels like a competition. When I date more down to earth girls it's usually harmonious and peaceful
Courtney - this video was absolutely what I needed right now. TC point 9:00 about women not holding each other accountable.... we've become so accustomed to not wanting to hear the truth about ourselves. Social media has done this to us... its not a lie, please continue to preach accountability amongst us as it is shrinking.
@@antonboludo8886 In order for things to happen, one has to do the work, and that involves a combination of self-discovery, shadow-work, reflection, etc. Overall, being in touch with reality.
@@stevenbrashear3408 You have nailed it. "When the time is right, it will happen.". I prefer to think "When the time is right, seize the opportunity, take action and MAKE it happen.".
Here's a simple litmus test: ask yourself if you would be prepared to date yourself? Would you put up with your own attitude? Would you find yourself insufferable? If a person (female or male) falls short of the standards of behaviour that they would expect of others why the hell do you expect others to tolerate them in you? Building a successful relationship poses many challenges (having been married for more than 20 years I speak from a position of some experience), so to start from a weak and volatile foundation is to have zero chance of success.
I'm with you about the test. I also have similar experience. mine is approaching 20 years of marriage ..and also approaching divorce, her choice. so absolutely that's what my younger self did by asking first- would I date myself? with the exception that my date must be female that's exactly how I guided my life and my relationships. you know, despite the impending breakup I don't expect to change this strategy and behavior despite that it didn't guarantee forever. I have no regrets. I think it's too much to demand of your partner to be rich, famous, both, or satisfy the ultimate never-ending demand- expect them to change to your liking. it's a couple of "nots" that are reasonable to expect- not a burden, not have poor hygiene, not be abusive, not be a drama queen. and some affirmatives- honesty, and affection. that's what I ask of my partner because that's what I deliver 24/7 ..more too as a can or wish but that's at my choice. after that, should you want fame or fortune, go get it yourself 😎
I don’t think women think this way. They are always focused on defining the guy they want but almost never present what they have to bring to the table. You can see this in countless dating profiles and in videos where women are stumped when asked this question.
@@ericlind6581 unfortunately, I think that too many young women...I mean into their 30s too, think their looks can carry them to nirvana with a 'supporter'. It's like it was prior to the industrial revolution, but then women had no other options but to get the best deal of a 'man'. Without watching the video, there is a huge societal change in the West, and I'm including Japan and S Korea...most women don't want children, and that used to be a primary reason to be married, to produce 'male' offspring and have men support them. ...hopefully.
I’m a guy saying this - this is awesome! We all like it when people are successful, but vulnerability is what makes successful people attractive - being able to get real about your true self, true feelings and emotions, and true desires. Those things are what help us all stay anchored in our reality and ourselves, and what brings our expectations of others to something far more realistic when it comes our relationships. This helps me understand men like me and women so much better. Thank you Courtney Ryan😄
Thank You Courtney! This was so refreshing to hear coming from a female. I am a 30 year old male who struggles with dating. There are plenty of women I stopped talking to because of their attitudes. The whole Independent boss babe with a bad attitude is not a good look for women.
Not only are "independent boss babes" not dating material, they're horrible bosses. Think about it, when was last time you had a GOOD male boss go around talking about what a great boss he is and how he's the boss? Guys who do that are immature frat ---holes, and you'd never want to work for them either. Talking about what a 'boss babe' you are just means YOU DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT LEADERSHIP!
Western woman are too brainwashed by social media, they are living a false illusion that's why some men find women in other countries where they're more humble ,classy ,non trashy ,don't dress too sexy in public ,they respect thier families and never act tough like a man.lots of woman in western world always think they're the 💩.Some men don't care about financial issues like woman only the materialistic superficial ones.The real woman would have your back if she truly loves you and not care if you are an average joe and not some hotshot dooosh.😅.I respect the young lady speaking truth ,most women get older with the same additude by then it's too late.
Honestly, watching red pill content and watching men talking about women, it made me more open to some toxic behaviors that I had. You are so right when you say that men want different things than women. Also us, women, don't always bring up problems in a healthy ways. I realized that nagging and bitching is not how you get through to a man. My man doesn't always care about the same things that I care about and that's okay! I can't tell you how much just small changes that I made in my own behavior to prioritize our relationship and our peace made a significant changes that helped my relationship thrive. Also taking more accountability and learning not to take all criticize from my man as a direct insult was so helpful;. I also stopped being so argumentative and aggressive when things didn't go my way and made a conscious effort to compromise and even other solutions. My man is so happy now and so am I.
@@eveliinahannele He is more affection and appreciative in general. He wants to spend more time with me and less time watching TV or playing on his phone. Now, when I bring up things that might be bothering me, I wait several days until I am calm and collected about whatever I wanna talk about. He is more responsive to me that way. Instead of things spiraling into an argument, now he tries to figure out a solution with me and no one is getting offended. I realized that I already have a sorta loud voice and when I get emotional or passionate about something, my voice starts to raise without me even realizing it. Then, he felt as though I was trying to yell at him instead of speak to him. Once he felt like I was yelling, he would get argumentative back and that's when the arguing would happen. That's not happening anymore. My man has a pretty stressful job since he is responsible for more than 50 people as a boss in his company (Plus he makes the majority of the money and pays the majority of the bills without ever complaining). When he gets home, he just wants to relax. My job is not a very stressful job and pretty easy the majority of the time. I started taking the time to do more cleaning, tidying, and making more homemade meals (instead of using excuses), I noticed that he comes home excited about what's for dinner, he is more affectionate like immediately coming home and asking me about my day and giving me a big hug and a kiss. He is just excited to come home and spend time together. Because we are getting along better, we have more sex which makes us both pretty happy. I have also made sure that even if I don't really wanna have sex, that I pleasure him because he does work hard and I want to make him happy. All of those things combined have really changed the whole feeling and tone of the house. Everything is more relaxed. Its hard to explain and as I am typing this, I was thinking well this doesn't seem like that big of a difference, but just the two of us being more happy, less likely to argue, content in our home with little no tension in the house is so amazing. I feel happier by making him happy and then, he does the same things for me. He has been more likely to get into some of my hobbies so that we can do them together (I like musicals), he finally has started taking me to musicals and makes plans ahead of time to go. He wants to read together because he knows I love to read, so he wants to read so that we can discuss books together. Just a bunch of little things.
So will you be or have been telling your single female friends to stop demanding 5’10 or taller and when a guy asks a girl’s weight they get pissed? Or when girl’s say they dont want a judgmental guy because they dont want to be held accountable for their actions?
@Kevin Cosgrove Well, I have, for the most part, always called them out on bad behavior. Especially when I know that they are acting ridiculous. Unfortunately, the other half of my friends have low expectations and will do anything.
@@brookieb4796 as an intelligent, single, non smoking, healthy, not fat, talented guy. I have given up on American / western women and started traveling internationally to find a girl. Its just over. They have been corrupted by liberal colleges, feminism, and just dumb ideas that teach hypocrisy.
a thriving relationship requires love, patience, and HUMILITY! been married since 2011 and if we didn't stay humble we would have never made it thru the tough times ❤️
"You can be a very successful woman and men will like you if you have the right mindset and you're not a brat." I LOVED this moment of brutal honesty so much that I laughed at how right this is. Truly, I won't need much time at all to recognize behavior like this, call them out on it directly, then leave if they don't change.
I've dated women that were high maintenance and a little too ambitious for a comfortable reality as well as down to earth women that struggled with debt and familial issues, but it was never about how much money they made or how together they had their lives. All I really wanted in a relationship was a friendship, a team to make the best of what we had, and someone that would challenge me to be a better person while also having an open enough heart/mind to share in similarities. Sure, I'm intimidated at times, but it's not about feeling like I could be lesser than someone because they "look like a ten" while I'm some average joe or because they would easily be the breadwinner able to pay more bills in a timely manner. The intimidation factor only applies when the vibe they give seems to point toward a more entitled position that should likely be a red flag, but being an easy going guy that is eclectic enough to be friendly to all types of humans I tend to ignore the flags in hopes maybe I can (at the very least) make a new friend with a foot in a different world than what is normal in my life. I'm always seeking new adventures, skillsets, knowledge, and expanding my tastes in all that is possible with what little time I have on this mortal coil. So am I intimidated by someone being so different or "out of my league"? Not directly, it's all about the personality that determines the level of confidence or intimidation in my approach. Confidence is sexy, but entitlement is the opposite. My personal two cents anyway.
I thank you Courtney for what you are putting out to women because you are spot on regarding how we feel about relationship's. The one thing I love most about my wife of 32 years and 5 kids is her kindness towards everyone but especially me. I have never come home to find myself getting yelled at about anything. She enjoys the peace and quiet as much as I do. I do believe her positive attitude and loving personality makes me love her more and want to do more for her. She has worked a large portion of the time during our marriage so I wouldn't consider her a submissive stay at home wife but she knows she can get a lot more from me in every way possible through her love and kindness.
Courtney,...thank you for this video. What you are speaking about is difficult in today's age for women to hear but you are kind and sincere about it. My wish is that you and your husband have a strong and blissful marriage with open and honest communication between you such as you are presenting. This is not a meant to be a criticism of women today,...more an observation of what I have experienced in my own life. I think you are spot-on when it comes to women catering to each others negativities rather than telling them what they need to hear to improve as a person. I know that there are some wonderful women out there,...but they seem to be harder and harder to find. I'm talking about women who actually do take accountability and who do admit to mistakes without deflecting it or making it about someone else. This is a rare and beautiful quality in anyone, man or woman. Thank you for your efforts in trying to help both men and women. I see it and value it even though I am sure that you have your detractors who will impute bad motives or intentions to you. Continue doing your best to assist both sexes and may your future be bright. I am happy to subscribe and support this channel for all your work in mending and helping relationships in a world that seems to take a perverse pleasure in divisive and selfish takes on them.
Wow 🥺 I used to tell my mom this alllll the damn time AND I’ve never been in a real relationship! But her mentality is “I don’t need a man, I can do it all alone.” I used to let it affect me and see relationships in a bad way but then the more I watch relationship videos and coaches it really put it into perspective for me! Such good advice.
Here is a reality check to female, they need to put that into their head. A man is as intimidated by a female as much as he is intimidated by cat. There is nothing in females that initimidating, it is all in the female horseshit they tell themselves. It is an insult to man to be initimidating by something we know innately less than us. Yes you fcking heard right, a man is sharper, faster, stronger, and vastly more potent than any your fcking existing female version that could ever exist. Any female that's out there who thinks she's shit, she's wrong...very wrong, it is convenient to claim and never have to be put to the utmost scrutiny
@@jameseverett4976 Good to see a guy who understands. I don't like this concept that "women who don't need a guy are not attractive"; needing a partner to the point you malfunction in life without one isn't healthy. A good attitude is to have it good enough in life as a single person, but look for a partner whose presence in your life makes everything so much better.
You've made me think hard on what it must be like for a child brought up by a 'strong, independent' woman. Especially a woman who is angry against men. What chance have her children having a balanced view of a good, lasting, mutually beneficial relationship with a partner. Their views will have been moulded by the views of their mother. A bit like being brought up in a religious cult. Not at all good.
The BEST book we have ever read for our marriage is His Needs, Her Needs. I learned my husband needed to come home to a peaceful home. As a stay-at-home-mom with three children under 5, we had to work this out! As soon as he walked in the door, he played with the children for 30 minutes, allowing me to read the newspaper in the bathtub to unwind. I came back renewed, calm, and happy to finish the evening’s chores. ❤
So mom gets 30 minutes of rest in a whole day? Why are you putting his needs over yours? It should be team work. He can take the kids for longer than 30 mins, it's his kids too..
Women too ? Why’s only women’s job to be a “source of peace”? Men don’t bring peace to women’s life either, married women literally have a shorter life expectance than single women
This is very refreshing. I love women, I've always loved women. I'm also married (separated ATM). One of the main problems I see with so many women today is the complete lack of accountability and serious self reflection. As a man, especially as a 33 year old man, I know that the majority of the problems I have in my life are becuase of me. I also know (mostly becuase I'm reminded everyday) of my own short comings and know that I have work to do. Too many women today have this mentality that they are perfect and that it's always the man thats the problem yet the grand majority don't see that they are also the problem. This might not be the healthiest thing but in all the relationships I've had, I try to drill it into the girl I'm dating that she also has a hand in the relationship failing and let her know what she's doing wrong. I cannot trust that most girls' friends will tell them the truth because the majority of them will just hype each other up.
A friend of mine told us that he felt his relationship was going down hill. We all bluntly just said "bro it's no her fault. You have to get your shit together, clean your house, put on some nice clothes and overall just fuc**** treat her better". Now there married and have a son. Honestly you hit the nail in the head with the fact that women friends never talk honestly to each other. I can't even picture a woman replying like I did to my friend.
Because men generally think next level and don't gas each other up. Not to say no women think like that because Courtney is definitely one of the exceptions and not the rule but women by and large like instant comfort even if those comforting words aren't the truth. Or women are catty and calculating and know its bad advice and do it to take some kind of sick pleasure in watching a "friends" downfall. Sort of the misery loves company, "if I can't be happy, you shouldn't be either" mentality.
Not really dude. It's just adulting on a standard level without all the entitlement. This girls thinking should be a standard realisation at 18 years old. Just goes to show how deluded most young women are
The story checks out. 20 years ago a girl on tv walks into a bar with a friend. Since she's a tv girl she tells the story on TV. A guy she met at this bar showed more interest in her friend whom had a menial job. She then went on to explain that guys, as a rule of thumb ,are intimidated by girls who have prestigious jobs . ( funny fact , my mum watched this with me and she was even more turned off by her than I was )
Worst of all, that girl thought that working on TV was a "prestige job" hahaha prestigious jobs are doctors, engineers, scientists, politicians, professional athletes, not TV workers.
Men that see women with a better job and more money are not intimidated about a woman of that position. Men are calculating the odds that the outcome of a relationship with someone like that will turn out fine and the answer is usually no. A woman with higher standards wants a man that is higher than her in wealth, height, strength, status, and willing to spend for her pleasure. Men realize that most upper class aspirants want that lifestyle and they know they cannot afford to be with someone like that.
I was very unhappy without being able to put my finger on it until I started taking accountability for myself. I realized that admitting that I'm wrong is a direct path to happiness, and with it came a lightness that I had never experienced before. And when I learned that I realized that I like admitting that I'm wrong (as long as, if there is another person involved, won't lord it over me) because it means more leveling up and an improved life.
"Men want women who will bring peace into their life" That's golden, Courtney. I wish more women understood that.
Amen! Absolutely!
Yea and growth with kindness
Sometimes, the simplest explanation is the right one.
@@prof.sherlock 100%
You are so right my ex-wife wasn't my peace and the new girl I am with gives me peace listens to me and is kind, caring, supportive, and respects my boundaries. It's crazy how you feel when the right person comes into your life.
"I stopped looking for a Dream Girl, I just wanted one that wasn't a nightmare" -
- Charles Bukowski.
Mexican women!! Don't date a black or a white one.
Modern women play games, im sticking to buck fuddies
good ol "CHUCK"
Ugh I’m done with men thinking it’s women responsibility to make them happy 🙄 women wish men weren’t a nightmare too! Being violent, aggressive, rude, unfaithful…
At some point, men realize that nightmares _are_ a type of dream.
Something she said that is so true is "stop letting your friends convince you of that". Women who can't get men, they are told it must be the men. Men who can't get women, they are told to correct their flaws.
It ain't the men half the time
I actually think men aren't told to correct their flaws. They are shamed for them and then told to be themselves which is counter productive to fixing their issues. Women on the other hand have a protective bubble called feminism and cancel culture to dismiss any and all criticism.
I legit got into an argument with a feminist who in one sentence said 'men only want sex' and then shamed me for saying woman were shallow in regards to physical attractiveness when matching with partners on dating apps. Despite having data showing how men are more fair in regards to initial attraction she shamed me for generalizing women yet literally a second before she generalised men.
The saddest thing is their preference for attractive males is the exact reason they think all men want sex. They literally seek out their own predators. Men who got fit, attractive, muscular to have sex with women.
You bring up a mens issue and women always respond with manipulation by flipping the script and changing the topic to be about women's issues - ignoring the mens issue and shaming the male for the woman's issue. Thus creating this dichotomy where vocal women shout out loud, despite being a minority. Which because they're the only one speaking thats the only ideas they hear. So they think they have public support. When in fact just self respecting man wants to engage in such a one sided conversation and is perfectly content letting the wacko scream, shout, and pout, and just date other women with better values.
The lack of critical thinking in modern women is just unbelievable.
There are no "women who can't get men". There are women who are 2/10 who can't get men who are 10/10.
@@Phayze101 I agree 👍 💯 feminism is killing men sadly don't engage with female freak fantasies
There's nothing we can do about it?!.
:^
@@bigneiltoo wo0wah
“Women don’t really hold each other accountable” was the understatement of the century. I work with and encourage a lot of women around me to fight this problem because it’s a huge problem in/for our modern society
The default response when a girl is upset is for her friends to tell her how amazing she is, her feelings are valid, she deserves to be treated like a princess, she’s a boss bitch, it’s the other person who’s the problem. Then they’ll gang up on anyone who even slightly tries to be objective.
The focus is completely on how she feels in the moment, with no regard for truth or what will actually help her in the long run.
In Korea, it is called the "rotten tangerine box theory." It is a theory that satirizes the female-dominated society phenomenon in which women rationalize each other's mistakes, so they all end up getting rotten together.
Others see the successful narcissistic and psychopathic types getting what they want and begin to copycat. Folks become unhappy because they do not lack empathy like the narcissist and psychopath.
You’re right! Back in the day women slut shamed each other. It doesn’t happen anymore at all.
It's true. We're not intimidated. I can't tell you how many women I ghosted for their narcissism, delusional conceit, false accusations, combativeness, shallow materialism, entitlement, lack of character, heart, & congeniality. In other words ... A-wholes. Not even other narcissists want to be around narcissists. They're destined to be alone. It's actually the best for the rest of the world. It must be nature's way of quarantining the disease.
Indeed.
Most women are low quality garbage.
They are the problem and the solution at the same time.
Only the feminine, submissive, sweet women will end up having families, and thus pass on their healthy mindset to their daughters.
Nature is wise.
My stepdad and stepsister are narcissists so I can safely say, you are 100% correct. They really are destined to be on their own, it’s better for everyone
It's true narcissists do hate each other
You just want a slave to worship you
women contribute very little to civilization. they have a very high opinion of themselves but in reality they only have their looks and thats their niche, nothing else.
Trust me, men aren't intimidated, we just won't put up with the nonsense most women bring, especially baggage! Here's what you can do...
1. Stop being combative
2. Stop being selfish
3. Stop ghosting when it gets real. And if it's too real for ya, you can't handle a relationship, Stop dating, get help!
4. Stop with the narcissistic personality...seek help!
5. Own your shhhhhhht
6. Stop watching these dating reality shows and crime shows, we're not all predators!
7. Drop the attitude! You're not 5 years old!
Happy 2023 yall!
yup
MaNsPlAinEr
@@Gh0stGaminginc I think you mean MySoNgYnIsT
Amen 😇
Ignore ignorance 🤷♂️
No man wants a women who acts like a guy very unprofessional and not cute
This is really well put. Men don’t leave women because they are “doing so well”, we leave women who aren’t nurturing, affectionate, etc.
My gf runs a very successful business but she still takes care of me better than any woman, my mother included 🤣
Many toxic, feminist women of today find positive terms for negative reality: "Intimidated by me" = Annoyed of toxicity, "Independent" = Lonely, "Freedom" = sleeping around with many guys. If a woman wonders why she only finds guys for sleeping and not long term, she should ask herself also, if it is her attitude.
@metalhead6526because she’s his partner not her mother. Women are born to nurture children, the elderly, and animals. Not full grown men..
@@johnnyrocker7495 Are you telling me you take care of yourself? If yes, you don't need a woman. Left hand Laura is enough 🤣
@@juanis8219 So if a full grown men ends up in an accident or severe illness, only his mother is allowed to take care of him and not his partner, got it.
My ex needs to hear this from a woman. She loved to argue. She could literally say something I agreed with and somehow make that into an argument. Once she asked me a question about something she knew I would know about, then proceeded to complain that I was mansplaining.
Just looking for conflict for absolutely no reason
What a nightmare!
My ex wife once asked me to groom our husky. So when I call him over to do so, she flips out on me because his attention is no longer on her. She yells at me cusses me out, calls me names. I just looked her in the eyes asked what on earth is wrong with her. They will manifest any problem out of any situation. Not worth wasting your well being on.
the word mansplain being used seriously is an instant breakup for me lol don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya on the way out.
@@warbeast787 "i want you to the the things that i want you to do when I want you to do them"
And apparently you were too - or she never would've even attained the status of 'ex' in your life.
I'll never understand it.
What guy would walk into a bar and start bending the ear of the nearest patron about all of the unemployed, couch surfing, restraining ordered, ex con, functioning alcoholic MALE friends in his life...
Without it ONCE ever occurring to him that this stranger next to him has almost certainly IMMEDIATELY drawn some pretty unflattering conclusions about the life of this guy on the stool next to him, too.
And yet month after month these comment threads are FILLED with the 15 and 20 year sagas of men who apparently keep company with NOTHING BUT an endless succession of parasitic harridans in the way of female companionship.
But somehow this fact is NEVER supposed to reflect poorly on the guys that keep choosing this???
I'm 60 something now - married 25 years, two kids, mortgage, college fund, etc. etc.
I had my share of unpleasant break ups during my first 3 plus decades of single life - but NONE of them were due to finding the MERE PRESENCE of my S/O unbearable on an ordinary daily basis - even when we weren't arguing.
Nobody would be surprised to hear me say that I don't have that kind of track record with other guys, either
Hell, MOST OF US DON'T, right? Who in their right mind would sit still for it???
So why in God's name would I subject myself to living under the same roof with the FEMALE version?
And even if I DID make that mistake ONCE - why would I seek out the counsel of an entire YT cohort of people who are apparently in the grip of the same dysfunction more or less continuously?
This past weekend I decided to be bold and honest with my friend about her coming across as a flirty person and that some men could take that the wrong way. She cussed me out in public, stormed off, and abandoned our friendship. It hurt that I couldn't be authentic with her, but she was a bullet I dodged in friendship!
Unfortunately, feminism, social media and poor parenting have seduced and subtly encouraged many young women into thinking that arrogance is somehow a flex and that humility and self reflection are for "other people" and not themselves. Better to not have these kind of "friends" in your life because, instead of being honest with you when you need to hear hard truths, they will either blow sunshine up your backside with "you go girl" and "manifest that" talk or will drag you down into their emotional holes with them (misery loves company), and in either scenario, they will ultimately not help you positively grow and improve as an individual, friend or GF/wife.
So better to not have "friends" whose default settings are arrogant lack to personal responsibility and deluded beliefs of perpetual victimhood - because such people are typically insufferable, entitled and lack empathy and will likely end up alone, bitter and clueless as to why everyone is "intimidated by their greatness." 🤷
It hurts losing friends sometimes, but you did the right thing.
Some friends are not worth having.
Lol imagine if you dated women you would see more and more how common this behavior is in most modern women.
Avg female friendship
As a single 29M, the first thing that turns me off about a woman is when she turns everything into an argument. I can’t speak for all men but if she is 10/10 but argumentative she instantly drops to 1/10 and it is not about not valuing her opinion but I just like someone who is kind and peaceful who calms me down when I am tired and I can depend for advice on important issue without shouting at me.
I was just thinking the same thing. This video reminded me of me, my brothers and my dad having an intense discussion when we were younger at home and my mom would ask us to "stop arguing", and the 2 of us would tell her "we're not arguing, we're having a discussion" lol.
The point being, as passionate as we could get, we were still able and willing to be reasonable and listen to the other person. We had an understanding that the issue at hand wasn't the other person, it was the subject we were talking about. We didn't take things personally, we were objective, and hence could afford to be open and honest.
So a woman who doesn't know how to be objective and always takes things personally is just a headache. That's not a person you can be open, honest or vulnerable with.
She is the letter N in S.I.G.N,
She needs to be right.
Yes! Inner beauty completes the person!
Some women like to argue because it brings drama. It's like an adrenaline rush to argue and make up. Some people are addicted to that high. Sounds weird 😔
save yourself a whole lot of trouble and seek serious advice on complicated issues from 1 or 2 men in your life you trust deeply. Do not take serious issues you really don't have an answer for at all to your woman. dogshit idea.
Seek some counsel and advice on some topics, sure. Seek consensus and make sure she's happy and involved in day to day decisions absolutely.
But if you really need advice on something that has you seriously stumped and confused, you bring that kind of thing to your girl you're gonna be eating shit and she will lose respect for you big time.
This lady hit the nail on the head. I don't want a competitive partner, but a we mentality is team. I could care less how successful a women is, I am independent on my own. I want a team effort , not a combative, competitive relationship
This ain't the 1930s bruh
YOU gotta have $ look attractive act and talk a certain way
Bitches/ rude 🚺 are real out here
I agree, I want a team, not a subservient woman. Too many cultures, religions, etc. have the mentality that women take a backseat to a man.
I remember hearing someone say, "Men aren't demanding obedience. They are asking for cooperation."
@@brainrich1358
There's plenty of men out there that want obedience
One thing you can quit doing is using the word partner, because if women want a leader a protector and a provider, it is not an equal partnership and of course it never will be. You want a spouse, a wife, not a partner.
"Men want women who will bring peace into their life" is the most truthful statement ive ever heard
There's a great Thomas Sowell quote: 'When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.'
That darn Sowell, he's so quotable! He's way out there in a time when no one recognizes it.
great one!
A woman is trying to help other women if they are throwing shade by putting them down.
The economist, Thomas Sowell?
There's another quote. "People will dislike you for lying to them. But they'll hate you, for telling the truth."
After being married 47 years we discovered the complement factor. She fills in what I lack, and visa versa. We cheer each other on and are a team. So recognizing each others gifts is not being intimidated, but it’s knowing what each other brings to the marriage and loving each other for it.
@telegranmelrn2diy134 responding
What if I don't want to be a team?
@@vimanaarchitects2151 that would mean you don’t want help or give help to your mate. That is not a relationship but anarchy. You will never find joy in isolation. It’s a miserable existence. True love is giving what you need to get.
@@MrVasmikey But I don't want to give tho.
@@vimanaarchitects2151 then welcome to isolation.
"Real progress begins when you get tired of your own sh!t." Timeless wisdom.
It's why women like Courtney and the other girl in the video are important. We can scream about it until we are blue in the face. Women need to shame other women into acting right or it will never be accepted
Same as the way men need other men to hold them accountable when they won't
"Women don't really hold themselves or each other accountable." - most underrated statement Courtney makes.
Men are supposed to handle their own trauma and their own emotions. Women are not: they are encouraged to seek someone to soothe them and affirm them.
Men are supposed to be completely secure with a woman being exactly who they are, and seek not to alter them. Women, via hypergamy, are encouraged to ensure that the value of her man is rooted in what he can do for her. He must be strong. He must be enviable. He must provide resources in excess of what she makes. He needs to be her therapist, her bankroll, her bodyguard, her waitstaff, her manual labor.
She needs only to be herself.
When he does wrong, other men around him are supposed to correct him, and he is required to correct men who do wrong. He is a good man if he submits to the self-policing men do for their own gender (knowing we are judged solely by the worst of our number) and polices other men who do wrong.
She is always a good woman even if she engages in bad behaviors. Another woman will validate and affirm that she is right in what she is doing. Holding another woman accountable is social suicide for any woman.
It's a world that is halfway in-between traditional, they kept all the good parts and ditched all the tough hard parts. then we wonder why they are spoiled lol
It works out great with the whole traditional though
@@litpath3633there are so many traditional women I meet I meet in human shelter 😂😂. It's not good for them either 😂
@@kookie_2178 A marriage takes two working together, it's not a guarantee if only one does things right. This is especially true when the one tasked with being a leader fails horribly at that job.
@@kookie_2178 People end up in shelters after everything has gone wrong, so that place will be massively skewed toward the worst.
@@litpath3633 but nowdays these tradwives are so popular lol. It won't be ending well 😂
As a man I've dealt with this with my female co workers via the lunch table Just by listening, The amount of defense a women will have from other women is amazing to be honest. But most of it is validation and rationalization of bad behavior. Some of these women don't care and most have an attitude of "as long as I'm pretty and have a p*ssy then I can get away with whatever I want. "I'm not the problem, I'm the prize 🏆" and with that thinking. Men start to just walk away entirely from that.
The problem Is there's always plenty of men that won't walk away , most women who aren't fat or old don't have to even begin to try , the simps are always around and giving them attention , and as long as these women have access to a comfortable life and attention there's no motivational reason In the world for them to change , and these are always the ones to selfishly have kids who will be taught the same ways and the cycle continues.
@@fawkkyutuu8851what’s the solution than?
@@OrganizationXIII It's very simple. I am a woman and I have no problems admitting when I'm wrong and work toward making efforts to do better.
@@OrganizationXIII Men need to tell women why they are walking away. It is very unpleasant to deal with a stubborn woman.
Women compliment each other and don't mean it, men insult each other and don't mean it....
I ended things with my ex because she always reminded me of how independent she was, how she didn't need me or anyone, and would even say she got to where she was without anyone else helping her, but always leaving out that I paid for her bachelor's and masters, helped her with homework, took her on vacation when she'd be stressed, etc. Most people don't want a difficult person in their life. Doesn't matter what gender they are.
Wow you got fleeced
Thats very hurtful, to receive no gratitude even after helping her to that level.
Unreal ungratefulness. Despicable
Sounds like she dumped you. She rob you silly.
Facts I put my kids mom through school, and even took full custody of the kids so she could do an accelerated program for her masters. (When I say custody I mean if the kids that were not mine)
To this day she says she got everything she has by herself. I left and took my child w/ me
11:30 - "Sometimes women are wrong"
Well Courtney finally said it. Protect this woman at all costs!
Yeah sometimes men can be wrong, it’s not a gender exclusive thing.
That is because Courtney has internalized misogny
After a 14-minute presentation, exactly those words remain in your mind?
@@cookieterminator4389 you are wrong. It is gender exclusive thing. Because is trendy to say men are wrong or bash them anytime but if someone criticizes any woman then that person is accused of misogyny. So, it is a gender thing, women can never be wrong.
@@cookieterminator4389 But the difference is that men live in reality and take accountability for their actions, women like to live in fairy tail land where they're always perfect and nobody is allowed to criticize them on their bad behaviour.
Absolutely, I’m aware that I’m broken from childhood issues and aspects of my marriage that were bad. This is why I tapped out from dating for a while. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. And something not mentioned here is sometimes it really is a numbers game. Sometimes people really aren’t compatible and it’s nobody’s fault. It’s just how it is. Don’t give up, keep improving yourself, and keep meeting new people. ❤
It's funny that I had the conversation in a group of women (I'm male) where one was trying to figure out "Why this guy ghosted me." The women all told her how wonderful she was and how she intimidated him.
I asked why she liked the guy, and she rattled off a long string of very positive attributes. I then asked how many other men she was dating at the time, and she said, "Four, but this is the guy I really want."
And I had to say, "He didn't get that message if you were dating four other men. And men can tell when some woman is running them in rotation."
Low value men will allow themselves to be run that way. High value men will not. They won't waste their time with low value women, and when they find a high value woman, she'll get their undivided attention. If they don't get that in return, ladies, expect to be ghosted. And don't kid yourself that you intimidated any of them.
Well said. I went through something similar not long ago. After the first date, she said she wanted to go out again, but still wanted to keep her options open (because she was new to America and her whore coworkers convinced her the America way to date is to see 4 or 5 guys at once and whittle them down). I wished her good luck, but that shit won't fly with me. You want to date me and only me, giving it an honest shot, or you don't. Joke was on me. She decided to ignore her friends and went all in on me and within 2 weeks she was talking about marriage and when I broke it off shortly after that, she was border line stalker LOL. That's also a first hand warning to the men on here who constantly say to go get an Asian woman. I've dated a number of Asian immigrants and they are f'n crazy/obsessive.
Same reason employers don't hire people with 7 jobs in the last 5 years. No one wants to be a stepping stone.
@@DJCloroxx that’s not the case in every industry. I changed 3 jobs in 4 years and nobody complained. Remember: you work to make your boss money. You will NEVER out earn him. You trade your time for money and it’s a fair trade. Corporations understand that. Low level companies don’t understand it because they’re usually losing money until they get their stuff together and they don’t want to afford to lose employees. When they do, they do because of low benefits. Big corporations keep their employees with nice benefits, not by forcing them to stay.
If you're dating 4 individuls, it's highly unlikely you are showing anyone the time and mind they deserve. AND, you most likely don't care about family. Procreating takes focus and diligence, and no spouse wants to hear that BS about being married to a job, or being a work-a-holic. There are PLENTY of good jobs available. Find one that allows you to date and respect yourself at the same time.
Well, if she dated 4 people, maybe he dated 4 people too. And choose the one he liked most lol.
I fell in love with my wife after our first argument when I was prepared for a drawn out battle with her and she apologized right away. I’d never experienced someone who was willing to take accountability for their stuff. We’ve been together for twenty years and she’s a partner who has helped me be a better person, we have been stronger together. Those people are out there and are worth waiting for.
Would love to find someone that likes the way I am in whole.
I don't know what I did wrong.
I have so much to offer, but only found men that were not fitting or not good.
@@Butterfly828-x8e all I can say is be patient, and picky. Find a way to be content as a single person while becoming a real catch for the right person when they come along. It CAN happen. Good luck!
❤
A woman who apologized?! On what continent did you find that gem.
@@Ariovistus50 I know a good amount of women who are humble and know when to apologize and take accountability. (They're taken for obvi reasons 😆)
Takes courage to say this as a woman. Society needs more people like you. Thanks!
More like intelligence and accountability.
Wow your soooooo brave to post a youtube commment claps!!
@@Turnpost2552 they were referencing the video not the comment 😂
Society needs more christians 😅
Not courage just plain old school truth
Another thing is to ask a woman "Name one flaw you have". The answers will always be the same....."None" and they wonder why theyre alone.
Do not ever underestimate a woman's ability to rationalize bad behavior and avoid all accountability and consequences for her actions
@@amp85d Most are not all
Trust me it's a human thing, not an only female trait.
@@johnq4520 Very true, but if "most" was a percentage, what number would that be...ahh a gambling man I see...I kid I kid ^_^
If a chick says she doesn’t need a man or she can do anything a man can do wait till her car’s transmission goes out in the middle of nowhere rofl 🤣
@@aditigupta7222 because there are consequences when a man does it
My sister was on her 3rd failed marriage at the time. My advice to her was "There is one constant to all your failed marriages. You." Needless to say, she didn't like my insight. I think she is on ex #7. I call her a succubus because she becomes what they are looking for. She likes what they like and works to make them happy. After a while, she gets tired of being this image she puts on. No matter how many times I tell her she has to be herself, she doesn't listen. I only ever had 1 girlfriend and I married her. We knew each other in high school and dated after I graduated. We married when I was 19. This was in 1995. We are still married. Most do not know what they are looking for. I was looking for what I needed and not wanted. I think that was the key to why I didn't date in high school and have been married this long. You don't need a 6 figure income, a luxury car, and a big house. You need to feel love and be needed. Living under your means is also key to happiness.
Pretty sure you need a 6-figure income. I have no idea how anyone could live in less if they have kids. I just got dropped down to 150k in the Midwest and I have a hard time making ends meet. And we have no car payments, health insurance payments, cell phone payments…
@@beck204You make 150k and own NOTHING ???? Sounds like a Bunch of 🐎 💩
happy for you, you've done well --wish u the best
It’s hard to talk sense into people that think they always right.
@@beck204 check out Dave Ramsey to see how to live on less, in your income taxes hit hard, and it's one area where you need to reduce that if you can
1,000 times yes! As a woman in her 30s, I have friends younger than me and some into their 50s that have been single for many years. I am not brave enough to tell them this fact, but they do have the "I don't need a man" mentality and they do want to be put on a pedestal and men just don't stick around for it. Yes, as women we need standards and we have to know our worth... but if you've went on numerous dates for many years and it never worked out, ask yourself why and be honest. Men crave affection and peace, so why would they stick around for anything less?
@wesa what?
@wesa I've been married almost 15 years.
@wesa on it!
@Courtney not every male likes loving, gentle, empathetic females, lots love drama, harsh, hateful females, I seen it many times! 👀🧐🤔😱😭
@@Katrica670 nope .. they mabe love the makeup sex .. but not the drama and definitively not hatefulness .. don't confuse banta with drama or hate. SOME have a be dominated kink .. but your sentence especially with the "lots" (of men) is wrong
Courtney is out here making the world better by speaking these truths to women and men!!
I almost fell out around 8:00 mark when she described why the “boss babe” with a bad attitude is single. Thank you Miss Courtney!
“Men want someone who will bring peace to their life” Exactly! Nailed it! Perfect! Preach!
Isn't it more peaceful to stay single and do your own thing though? Why date anyone if you want peace?
Does it mean the woman has to take care of everything in the « house », be the man and woman, be your mother in the same time ? I don’t mean do the laundry and dishes, I mean handle the administrative things, solve problems with any kind of staff in a store, a restaurant, etc…, organize the vacations…
No because… I mean, I had a boyfriend, not 15 but 29 years old, not able to manage the waitress in a restaurant trying to increase the bill by pouring every drop of the white wine bottle and leaving with the bottle at the end of the dinner without checking with us the quantity left in the bottle. I had to tell my partner 2 or 3 times to catch her because she could empty some wine in the sink to cheat us. Or, I give him my credit card to go alone close the rental contract of a motorcycle and he’s not able to bring back the receipt. He said they didn’t give him anything. So we went back to the office together and the first reaction of the personal is to say «Oh yes, you left, you forgot your receipt ! »
He sure had peace ! Life was easy for him. Not for me !
@@rosehiver6262 Exactly. Often when men say they want peace they mean, let me chill and enjoy my hobbies, don't bother me to help with the kids or chores.
@@rosehiver6262it means don't be a pain in the ass.
You're welcome 😆
Remember to do your part as well.
"Women don't respond well when you tell them maybe you're the problem" It's difficult when you have 100K people telling you that you are awesome just to make you feel better and only one person is willing to tell you what your flaws are so you can actually be better. While well meaning that kind coddling keeps them completely blind and unable to reflect on themselves.
You wouldn't have 100K people telling you anything if you just stayed away from the cancer called social media...
Well said.
It is not well meaning. Women give eachother a false sense of attractiveness or importance to set them up for failure so that they can get in that spot. Women absolutely use this psychological warfare to put eachother down and climb the ladder. I’ve seen girls fuck their best friends man just for revenge, or to steal him, or even because her friend said he was the best at sex and she wanted some of the action. Sometimes it’s to make them feel better, sure. But they know exactly what they’re doing, they know they’re lying through their teeth to make them feel better. They are not all innocent.
@@AsurmenHandOfAsur I have many ex female friends due to me pointing out obvious toxic behavior patterns I've seen in them because of the echo chamber defending social media friends that coddle them
This is so accurate. Especially in mom groups on Facebook 🙄
I'm a woman in a long term relationship and I agree with what this woman is saying. Very few people want to be with an argumentative person or someone who acts like they don't want to be in a relationship. A relationship should be peaceful.
Very much such so. I've dated some attractive and successful women (relative to my area) the last couple years, but when they create unnecessary drama or conflict, I'm out. Then they pull the, "A relationship is work" card. Yeah, a relationship is work, but not 1 month in it's not. There are times of work, but peace should be the base of your relationship. I'm in a new relationship now with a beautiful woman with very old fashioned, gender role based beliefs. The type where, I was cooking for her last night and it was driving her nuts that I was the one cooking and she was standing there talking and not working. She's no coward or doormat, just very level headed, down to earth, a nurturer and knows that very thing - That peace isn't just critical for your relationship, but your own mental health that can really drive your entire attitude. I've never met someone I meshed with so quickly with because her presence and demeanor is so calming. Probably why she's a therapist who works with specific mental health patients LOL. This is obviously far easier to come by for me in my 40s than a guy in his 20s. I really feel bad for the younger guys at this point (not to excuse them of their own short comings of being socially awkward, generally having no balls or know how to properly court women, and then slander the entire gender because of the bad apples). Courtney has her target audience, but the dysfunction of relationships is a 2 way street. I think it's a chicken and egg debate: Which came first, did men stop being real men first or did entitled, unrealistic women create these men? The feminist extremism of the last several years most certainly did a lot of damage.
@@Swearengen1980 I agree...I think there's a restless feeling when you're in your late teens, 20s and sometimes into your 30s that might make men and women more intense about finding relationships. That restlessness can lead to frustration in men and women. Maybe it's the rush of youthful hormones at play. But when you're a bit older, both men and women are more calm, rational and accepting of a lot of things. Relationships flow better.
The work people are mostly referring to i suspect is
1st The agreement: Item, i) Separate bank accounts? Item ii Sex (how often what kind, who is allowed to "have a headache" etc, item iii) things I agree not to call your mother . . . Nothing on paper obviously. Thayt kind pf agreement needs constant validating, verifying, - work
2nd intimacy knowing the other person loving them (hardv to love someone you don't know)
Femnists can have no problem with traditional relatinnshps or roles; just one choice.
Speak for yourself...there's a fine line between being argumentative and having intense conversation, there's nothing saying that two people that don't think alike can't get along and have a good long term relationship...as long as everything is put on the table before hand, nothing is off the table. It's all about setting boundaries and expectations for what people are willing to discuss and what's off the table, that's the key. I have to do that with everyone because personally there's absolutely nothing I won't talk about, but I know that isn't the case for most others, therefore I have to find out what they're willing to talk about and what's not open for discussion, then I have to file that information away so I don't broach those subjects.
@@brucebartup6161 Personally I think these things are wildly overblown or at least misrepresented. Most seem to not think twice about joint bank accounts, but the problem is: Are they on the same page about life style. One may be a spender who'd rather travel than save for retirement and the other prioritizes security over adventure. Anecdotal, but I've never seen the "have a headache" BS as a real problem. Lack of desire for sex is rarely the issue, it's the underlying reason for why, which is unresolved problems. The guy can't disrespect her, stop being a gentleman, or stop being romantic and expect the woman to want to bang him all the time. The love and thoughtful gestures can't stop just because you get married. It's also not just a man thing to not be able to talk rationally and compromise when you're butting heads, women are every bit as stubborn at times. Those type of things are why people stop having sex, not because no one is horny, but because you have bigger issues in the relationship.
I'm single because i want peace and i haven't gotten that. I hate fighting, i like to communicate in a calm manner. Relationships have been nothing but headaches for me.
Truth.
How do you cope with the strong feelings of loneliness and intimacy well up. Family and friends do fill a small portion of the cup but the remainder, in my opinion, is longing for an intimate partner that GETS you.
I have been single for close to two years after a long term relationship. I am currently in a relationship but have found myself getting less and less fulfilled by this woman. I am at a crossroads between knowing if she isn't for me or me not being ready to give myself fully to another.
69, still single too many selfish , leftist clueless unhealthy, etc.
@soapbox187 the problem some of the women more interested in getting the dates and food and free gifts... is that they cant really jump up and down when you leave.. while they yell " but i did stuff for you ! " . yea a year ago.. and bj's you have to take care of yourself near the end... dont count..
Women don’t understand that men are ACTUALLY independent and we don’t need them. We can do everything ourselves. Women just add on more stress. That’s why I have sex a couple times and then bail.
Also a lot of us would enjoy fucking a 6 for the first time, more than an 8 for the 10th time.
As a guy if I ever heard a female saying they are single because they’re “intimidating” I would take that as womanese for “This is how I cope when I get dumped because I’m too masculine”
@Brandon Gathye. I'm intimidating is womanese for I'm a bitch. Cheers!
Women that say I am to intimidating for most men are just using that for not finding anyone wanting to put up with her attitude. Lets be real a very average woman if she is willing to be cooperative can find a man that will marry her. Men on the other hand have to be tall, good looking and have bank or you are just another guy in the world.
True and if you ever get the opportunity to know people who know her, she's not very well liked.
A woman who says that she’s single because men are “intimidated” by her indicates me they she has a combative personality, and also carrying tons of baggage while likely she having nothing constructive nor positive to offer to a man’s life.
No high value man wants to deal with an argumentative woman who loves nagging and creating conflict out of nothing becas us men wants PEACE and tranquility, and this seems to be something that women on their majority fail to understand.
These are the kind of women who ends up hitting the wall, buying cats and then complaining why there no good men.
I’m the end…That’s the kind of low quality woman who ends up dying alone.
It’s not masculine behaviour. It’s behaving like an egotistical maniac
I just got out of a near 5 year relationship about 2 months ago. My mistake is I did things on her timeline. She decided when she moved in, when we got engaged, when we bought a house, etc just cause the sex was good. My biggest lesson, having just turned 33, is to create your life while you’re single, and when you meet the right person, don’t lose your identity as an individual. It will ruin your relationship.
My honest opinion is that you were pussy-whipped. And I'm not saying that as a put down, it's just how I see it.
You put such a high value on sex with her that you simply let go of everything else and let her be the 'man in charge' because you didn't want to risk her saying "ok, no more sex for you".
Therefore, since women can rarely make up their mind and stick to something no matter what, you found yourself in a situation where she kept changing things around constantly and always being unsatisfied by the outcome of her decisions and choices, and blaming you for it.
And that ultimately led to the break up because you could never "man up" (she probably even said that at some point).
Now, take a look back and tell me I'm wrong.
@@mickeypopa spot on bro. Trust me, I’ve gone through all that in my head many times over. I was a go with the flow person instead of having my own purpose and allowing her to enter it. I was a total beta. I definitely know now what mistakes to not make in the future.
@Dustin Nelson Thanks man, sound advice my friend. I shall remember it forever. Peace ✌️
This goes for women too.
@@GordoDustinove how us men can be direct and even brutal in our assessments but we take it like MEN and therefore we learn and improve! I went through this w my college gf, I was indeed pussy whipped for a whilem learned my lesson. The best lesson I could havw ever learned. It happens to all of us at least once. Even to my Chad friends. Good luck and protect yourself at all time 🍀✌️
Being opinionated and being confrontational are 2 separate things. Men want and NEED peace, but we also like a woman with opinions, mindset and intelligence. My partner shares her opinions with me in a respectful manner and never has an attitude about it, she's successful, has a great career and is extremely intelligent; else she wouldn't be my partner but we can talk and have different opinions about stuff and be respectful about each other with love and care.
Truth. The individuals in our society have become very confrontational and reactive. Not self-aware, respectful beings. These are just two required qualities for any long term companion. Fidelity is another.
Speak for yourself. Most of us don’t want opinionated either.
@@rickc.3552 Really? I'd find someone who doesn't have their own view of the world to be very boring and not really worth having a conversation with. It all comes down to how those opinions are expressed. If it's in an aggressive matter then it's definitely a turnoff.
I prefer not to have a woman who is very opinionated but we all have different tastes. However @madestro you seem to have a great woman, your a lucky man. Cheers.
As a woman, I AGREE! This is how it is supposed to be! I have had women act up in public around me! I don’t like drama or being around ppl like this! I have to be careful when choosing friendships!! Reputation is important! Also long term relationships
We arent "intimidated" by combative, masculine women, we're ANNOYED by them.
Self awareness is a rare commodity nowadays for both men and women. Our society encourages delusion..."i intimidate men", "beauty comes in all sizes" etc
Right! I want men that are over 6 ft tall and successful. 2 seconds later, OMG are you fat shaming me!?
Masculine women are the most disgusting specimens on earth. Men will sleep with them but won't commit, ever.
Men take it like MEN, at least most of us. We are truly open about what we look for. Women, not so much. All those standards go out the window the second Chad walks in the room 💥👈😉
I'm a 300 pound morbidly obese man. The difference between me and women in the same situation is that I'm not delusional about it. No, it doesn't look good. And you won't see me running around in a Speedo. Nobody want's to see that. I dress appropriately for someone my size. I've seen women who do this, and they look pretty good. If you can't pull off sexy, go for sophisticated instead. But morbidly obese women who think they are models is really messed up. I don't why people have to be delusional rather than being mentally healthy. People should love themselves unconditionally, but part of that is being completely honest with oneself.
It's really starts from the inside out
I got tired of coming home to complaints. I also got tired of being blamed for everything that went wrong when she clearly made a poor decision that resulted in a poor outcome. A sign of maturity is being able to admit you screwed up and own it. Men are taught this growing up. Women not so much!
From what I’ve learned is (most not all) men mature as they get older and (most not all) women become more immature the older they get.
RECORD her & play it back for her lol
Women mature faster until 18-22
but after 22-25 men mature faster because real life hits them harder as they have no money, no options, and not future in sight.
And as women's options remain high, their maturity is stunted. Once a women is 30-40 and their options reduce, they start to feel the biological clock ticking and seeing younger women as competiton. Then they start to mature as the real world hits them
@@ExilixE Women (most) don’t mature at all. They peak at 18 (which doesn’t mean they’re mature, it’s just the peak of their maturation)
There’s the illusion of maturity (that most will want to argue with) but all you have to do to see that they don’t mature is to watch them in a romantic relationship.
@Steven Giles from what I'm seeing these days no one is actually taught admitting their fault as they grow up. If in your environment that happens, then I'm genuinely happy that at least 50% of people around are taught this but in my experience it's more up to the individual and overall very rare.
“Rather being a team, than independent” is the key line right there!
That’s exactly what I’m looking for. You can be strong and independent all you want but if you’re not willing to be a team together, it’s selfish and not worth anyone’s time and energy. And that’s unfortunate. One simple paradigm change could really change everything.
Yup. Nailed it... if she doesn't need me or even want me... then the next thought I'd have... so why am I here with her at all? Doesn't matter how good looking she is... if she makes me feel used and worthless, I'm gone period. Walked out on one relationship and at least one date for that reason.
Collectivism rather than individualism is necessary for a relationship. This is why Asian countries are more harmonious than Western countries in relationships and family matters. Because the West has embraced toxic individualism.
Independent means just that, on your own, so what is a person doing with someone, when they are on their own (Independent)
I never found a good and fitting teampartner. It's not easy
How do women not realize that "he's intimidated by me" is a giant cope?
My sister wants a boyfriend to help equally in house chores, but she also want a boyfriend who makes more money than her..
It's clearly ironic. If she wishes equality, she should accept someone who makes as little as herself.. Else she should accept the inequality.
Equality is such a cope.
I am a 56 yr old man. Everything you said is true ! I want happiness, not drama not games. I don't care about your money but I do care about your personality ! Actually I find myself caring more and more about personality and less about looks as I get older.
That's because even the girls that were pretty are lookin old and not-so-pretty at our age. Nonetheless, you could live with the most beautiful woman on earth and, if she's a b*tch, you stop seeing a beautiful woman and can only see the b*tch after the infatuation wears off.
That starts happening to guys around 26
I bet you have experienced a lot of wahmen who raise their voices by a lot when challenged. The notorious bansheeitis. :D
“In love affairs a woman is more barbarian than a man.”
“The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything.”
―Friedrich Nietzsche, esteemed "laughing lion" German philosopher
Courtney, an invisible hand of applause for your radiant beauty as well as of stylistic art appreciation from a new US subscriber--though 'm sure you receive many compliments on your sleek lush hair and hypnotic jaguar eyes
On the key issues you address about modern dating, we need only look to the past to find the ideal way a woman should interact with a man for long term endearing relationship.
Only 3 rules and a woman will attract a man of gravitas and substance.
1. SILENCE IS GOLDEN. if modern women could just in general stop the constant barista like voice chatter and the soap opera drama and chatter. Silence, and listen to your man. Don't bother him at work, take interest in his field and then let the man in peace with only brief interludes of pleasant conversation revolving around music, art, puzzles, humour, and perhaps show an interest in say the UFC and ask him what he thinks of Tom Aspinal the new UFC HW champion, and watch his interest go sky high for you. He will recognize the beauty of your heart even if lady does not possess the radiant beauty of Courtney. Then. leave the man alone and set a date for a movie or romantic dinner. BUT Silence and no empty barista banter or annoying talk.
2. Learn to listen and play the music of Jimmy Buffett, Blake Shelton, Journey, and Dierks Bentley and maybe Hank Williams Junior with a dash of Beethoven and Chopin for classical music. Listen to music and also learn to play poker with your man or at least understand poker or chess and include if possible a family game night. Make the relationship as easy and relaxed yet inspired as listening to the Jimmy Buffett song Margaritaville while walking down a romantic beach with your man where only the sounds of the ocean are in play. And the woman is silenttttttttttt!!!
3. Don't forget rule number 1 or 2!!!!!!!!!!!!
Only 3 rules, and the natural chemistry of a man and woman can then flourish in a bungalow like room where only the sounds of the wind caressing the palm trees are heard as well as two hearts beating as one as a couple find true, endearing love through SILENCE and soft lush pillows!!!!!!!!!!!
If to you looks are in opposition to personnality then you still fot A LOT to learn 😉
A girl said something to me once along the lines of “your intimidated by me” or something of that effect. I remember saying “no, your just insufferable”
She didn’t like that haha
It was true though
You're
Courtney your channel is a breath of a fresh air. It's crazy how saying things that are a common sense has become an exception instead of being a standard. Keep up the good work!
Finally someone as girl said it. I dated a girl who demand that always open the door of my car for her and it was so exhausting. Sometimes i did it one time because i wanna it to but there was this line where it was a script in her head in following things to be perfect.
That was someone who can actually reflect on their life and make improvements. Best type of people
Yeah both genders can take advantage of personal growth all day everyday
Simple heart-felt message, based on clear analysis, masterfully delivered. Such an expressive face. Courtney's social commentary has grown to professional calibre.
Mgtow
Men
F#ck these 30 plus year old bags
"You have a bad attitude, and you're not very likeable..." Thank you!!! Yes ladies, if you have a bad personality and garbage character, we don't like you! We're not intimidated by women.
Whenever I've been open, warm, kind, bubbly, and showed interest they lost interest. When I became closed off, uninterested, and aloof that's when they were interested. Go figure.
@@dg5175 same over here.
It's the classic "80/20 rule" -- 80 percent of women competing for the affection of the top 20% of men. That's one of the reasons why millions of men in the middle have gone MGTOW, and why increasing numbers of spoiled, entitled females are now having to buy their own drinks.
@@amassuocoon4968 Ain't arguing with that. ✌️
@Greg Hammon See? That's what it makes even more messed up. In love, sometimes you have to be "needy" and "clingy" it is just you showing your affection. Is that even a bad thing? I have a girlfriend and we are a very happy couple and we do not have much to argue about we build our lives together.
Sometimes those constructs that was made by people in past doesn't make sense. If I have to blame somebody about why men/women is distant to each other it is because of society's view of what is right and wrong about relationship not women, not men per se.
Women don't understand what intimidating is. Being constantly difficult and argumentative is not "intimidating" its "exasperating"
It's repulsing
And annoying
So is never ending Manosphere victimhood.
And I say that as a 'regular' guy - 35 years in the building trades, 25 years married, two kids, mortgage, college fund, etc.
Wish ya'll would just grow a pair, FFS.
And give the YT culture warrior carnival barkers a rest.
@@chriscoughlin9289 Sorry but no, its not victimhood of men. Girls who think they're intimidating are actually annoying and it has nothing to do with men, it's their (girls) problem.
@@chriscoughlin9289 WTH are you talking about? Have you ever seen the video?
I’ve always heard the “they’re intimidated by you” because I’m shy. I hardly say anything. I think in reality, there might be some of that because people don’t often know what I’m thinking, so maybe they’re thinking that I’m thinking the worst things when I’m not? But I also think I’m just not seen because I’m often in the background and am too shy to put myself in the spotlight or even put myself out there. But the people who know me see my wild and more carefree side and come to me for advice because while I don’t speak a lot, I observe a lot and can apply that to try to help people. My shyness is something I’m trying to work on, but the past rejections from when I was more social and open always have their way of coming back to haunt me. It’s slow going, but I’m trying. I hope one day I can get into a position where I can find my own person
I am the same way. You’re not alone! I’m also very shy and it seems like men don’t know what to do with me. It’s hard 😢 but we just have to keep working on it! Hopefully you find someone who assumes the best in you!
A female friend once told me I would never date someone like a waitress. Implying her income wouldn’t be high enough. This got me thinking - do I come off like this? She didn’t know I grew up waiting tables and pumping gas to get through my first 3 years of college.
What I care about isn’t not how much money a woman brings to the table, but how much positive attitude she brings to the relationship. Is she curious, wanting to learn, looking to support the people around her.
An indicator of the type of person she is - her laugh. If a woman has a heart felt laugh, and laughs easily , this is almost like her soul is speaking out.
Nice video. Thank you!
What I care about isn’t not how much money a woman brings to the table.
Imagine you're 71 yrs old and bring in $40K/yr in retirement,
Choice, a great woman who brings $0 to the table or
an OK woman that brings $35K to the table in retirement.
@@aolvaar8792 The great woman, any day. Your life will improve greatly when you stop being so materialistic.
@@Yabbaxoraz
No, I married a Great woman that brings in $50K a year.
Which is better than a great woman who brings in nothing.
@@aolvaar8792 The great woman! I turn 71 this month coincidently. And instead of feeling constrained financially, learn how to invest so that you're not constrained. Limitations are mostly due to a lack of imagination.
@@aolvaar8792 No, not necessarily. Women who bring in money are more occupied, more stressed, less focused on immaterial things, tend to be more entitled, etc.
My wife is an amazing woman. She is a caregiver, she is very selfless to the point where people think they can take advantage of her... but they can't. She is also very strong willed and we both can be very stubborn. We are a great team and I'm thankful every day for her. There are so many self-centered, horrible people out there that I feel very blessed to have found her.
I've supported my wife through her nursing career and once she gets her DNP she will have the capacity to out earn me a little bit.
Like you stated. I don't care about that. I'm happy for her and extremely proud of her. We are a team. Her success is our families success. She sets such a great example for our daughter.
All the best man, Happy for you
@getinthespace, You very much lucked out when you met your wife since the kind of women out there nowadays are such low life entitled losers altogether.
Bless you, brother. Testimonies such as these are needed.
The reason my wife and I have been in a happy marriage for approaching 20 years is that we approaches it with a team mentality. It is all about what makes BOTH of us happy, not just one individual. If she wants to do something but detects it might not be my thing, she will not unilaterally decide she’ll do it, no matter how much I may not like it. Not taking your partner for granted goes miles in a relationship. It shows kindness, love, and most importantly, RESPECT for your other! If you’re acting like a Boss Babe (or Boss Man), it’s not a relationship, it’s simply all about YOU! No partnership survives without the active participation of BOTH involved parties.
Great stuff, Courtney! Glad I found your channel.
My last girlfriend asked me if I had to have a he-shed, or if she could have a she-shed? I smiled and said how about a WE-SHED...
Yes! I’ve been married for 16 years now & it’s definitely a partnership. all this red-pill rhetoric with alpha males is such a self-serving selfish mentality that it destroys relationships! Same thing with boss babes. Everything is Me, Me Me! When, in reality, everything is about working together & compromising… fulfilling each other’s needs. Relationships are reciprocal ❤
How tall are you and what do you make a year?
Well said, Alexis... My wife and I are kind of like that. We hardly ever argue because we 'know' how each other think.
Not married but my bf is a more independent person and I respect his space. If i give him space to do family things, video games, naps, etc then he will be happy when he comes back to me.
This is so helpful! As you said, 'if you are wrong I'm going to tell you you're wrong', this is incredible, you have the power of knowing when somebody is right or wrong, and you tell them! This is amazing! You're so generous to share your perfect understanding of the world with your friends and not hide your perfect pontificating insights.
‘Men don’t care about how much money you are making, they care more about your attitude, how you make them feel and to be honest most importantly how you look and complement the relationship’ this is just a great great video.
Mgtow
Men
Unfortunately, that’s just not true. Money to them is first and foremost.
@thomaslacy2002
Yeap but if you have money you can fuck with them
And get your mind out of the gutter
Men don't care how much a woman makes because she considers the money she makes her money. She considers the money he makes - if she is generous - their money. The man has no access to her money and will have to sit and watch her spend her money on nails and hair and makeup and jewelry. Her goal in finding a man, it seems. is to be able to use more of her money on discretionary spending rather than basic overhead like rent and debt maintenance which "their money." will cover.
@@johnweir3168 yup... Exactly.
My wife literally went to the extent of creating a secret debt account for "her money"... Meanwhile had no problem paying for all of the bills from "OUR" shared bank account!
That’s exactly what I want in a woman: a companion, not a boss. I wanna be encouraged, not belittled. This is my third video I’m watching if you and I cant get enough of your content. Thank you for advocating for men ma’am. Happy Sunday!
We just don't like abusive bitches sadly. Yes women can abuse men too.
You need a woman to be your crutch, another mommy
Not only do you want to date a female who is a companion, not a boss... but I don't think any of us even want to work for a 'boss babe' Not only are 'boss babes' terrible to date, they're terrible leaders. Think about if you had a male boss who strutted around, talking about what a boss he is, taking credit for your work, pushing people around... you might've had a boss like that... did ANYONE ENJOY WORKING FOR HIM? Did he get the best out of anyone? "Boss babes" are just terrible leaders who overcompensate for their lack of self confidence.
@@RealYRM very well said.
I wish for a female companion. I see women like being single more. I won't commit to it unless I had a group of female friends to socialize with.
I started dating someone recently, and whilst we were walking around after dinner she asked me what I think are green flags in a woman. The only thing I could think of in the moment was pretty much word for word what you said: someone who gives me peace.
It really is that simple, I'm a basic guy
Same here that's what I'd say, someone I can get on with!
men want a companion, not a boss. to be encouraged, not belittled or nagged.
we want someone who brings peace into our lives. not chaos or drama.
someone that they can team up with hand in hand and face together all of the difficulties that life is going to throw at them and fight their way through life as a team.
someone who will never disrespect them. for men sometimes respect from a woman is more important than love and disrespect is a line you do not cross, and lots of hot sex of course
The TikTok girl is right, but she also kinda has a weirdly off-putting demeanor like she's got a ton of life experience when she probably doesn't lol.
That's called being young. She does have so more to experience. Life will change her.
Yeah, still seems insufferable LOL
Yeah she came off as the usual copy-paste tiktok white girl.
Could not take her seriously tbh.
Bro be easy on her at least shes not as delusional as other women
Ultimately, people just want to feel connected with loving partners who are easy to be with. Being bossy, difficult, always right, or disconnected is not easy to live with.
These are the ones that say "you just can't handle a boss bitch". Why would anyone want to handle that? I'd much prefer a mature, authentic, honest and assertive lady, or if not, be single.
My 27F manager had this issue too. Never had a relationship, never been asked for a date.
One time she brought us for drinks, and asked us if she should change or lower her standards. And the other girls were like 'no, don't change, you're a catch'...
But in my head I was thinking that she should at least iron her clothes when she goes to office...
Can't say it because it's just my first week there.
She's not a narc, she just appears very strongly opinionated and proud, in addition to her lack of style.
I was also removed by her in the team sooner because I do not succumb to her leadership style.
You hit the nail there.
My thai wife in an Irish job, always looks respectable dressed and clean. Other foreign girls do the ssme. The irish women mostly put no effort in. Fall straight out of bed into work. Men also do it, but on a lesser scale. I am current Thailand, and it amazes me how well everyone looks in the cities going to work. Also it is easier to look and smile at a woman without the....stalker stare you get in Ireland. Very different
That's a bit exist. As a woman who dated guy who came tod dates without any grooming effort, and expecting a lot or even making later on comments on my look, please consider being more kind to other women.
@@ana-maria448 I meant what I said here.
She's asking for an advice. Again, she was asking for advice.
Good for you that someone got attracted to you despite not doing anything. It's not working for her and for her past 27 years... The true unkindness is when people do not tell the truth and keep people from staying the same when they could improve a lot of things just to feed ones ego.
I just want you to know that for the past months this person, even if she kicked me from the team, still continued harrassment on me. I just reported her to HR. She's an insecure and jealous person who cannot stand another lady (specially good-looking and smart) excel at work. I'm not the first nor the last one.
I have no compassion towards her. She got no style, no looks and a terrible attitude, no wonder she's NBSB for 27 years.
Thank you for sharing. Having friends who agree with everything can feel good, but it doesn't help us grow... I'm glad you saw through this.
U sure she's not a narc?
“We set such high standards for others, while holding ourselves to such low standards…”
Damn, Courtney. That was beautiful. I’m using that and quoting you in the future. It sums it up so well and so succinctly.
Just want to add, I’ve been watching your channel for a couple months now. I’m married and not looking for anything from women these days, but I do work with mostly women, and I decided I just wanted to get to know a more feminine perspective. I think you communicate in such an approachable, respectful, and insightful fashion, that I find myself thinking, “you know what? I’ve seen that behavior! I understand what you mean! Oh, that makes so much more sense now!”
So keep up the work, offering your helpful commentary and observations! And while this is neither here nor there, I really think you have a fashion style that is understated and elegant. Really goes well with your content! Also, you don’t sound like a five year old. I remember you saying that others have said that, but your voice is soothing and even. So. There’s that, lol.
Unfortunately many men set low standards AND fail to meet them.. Average is not competitive in any world. Work at it guys!
@@forestMog a wolf in sheep’s disguise LOL. Seems like you’re a woman behind that account Paul 😂
@@user-45674xcfr I totally agree, plus she’s clearly so sharp and eloquent. She treats us guys and her fellow girls with respect, but can give us both the hard truth, even if it’s uncomfortable to hear. Her insights on us men are super accurate, so I absolutely trust her for a feminine perspective. Toss in an elegant style, a pretty face, and sweet demeanor, you have someone who is great to learn from!
Wow. More women need to carry themselves like Courtney! Gentle and detailed about getting a point across. Where some would easily get offended and or defensive.
It’s not intimidation, it’s annoyance lol. Great video!!
Yes theses narcissists are so in love with themselves that it prevents them to realize how insufferable they are in reality.
Hey Courtney! I love the direction of your channel. I am a 58 year old man who is married to the same woman for 38 years, and I have had multiple careers, and currently my wife works from home as a Senior Analyst for a major company while I take care of our farm. (Over the years we've flipflopped roles of who has been the primary breadwinner at one time or another depending on who is going back to school, etc). We have raised many children, adopted one, and helped raise children from other families too that are all successful and now we have a number of grandchildren around the world. My wife is amazing and I thank God for her every day. We are a team, and support each other -- we depend on one another and have our whole life. I would be less than honest if I said we have not had a number of ups and downs, good years and bad, rough patches and such. I've had to work hard to speak "woman" and understand her better all these years -- and the difference is that I married a real WOMAN. I told my wife she can never die, because from my perspective, most of the folks out there in the world are narcissistic little girls and boys that may be chronologically 30 or40 but they think they are so special because they have advanced degrees, can win at video games, and can chat on twitter, facebook, and all of that simultaneously but they have no ability to make real friends or understand real hard work or teamwork (The LEGO song "Everything is Awesome" is not just a song!) because they are a bunch of functionally helpless prima donnas. Finding mature, compassionate, selfless, deep thinking, team players that want to build a family and grow together and support one another is becoming more and more rare these day because the boys and girls of today (regardless of age) are only concerned with what "I" want. "I" never makes relationships. If girls and boys don't want to wake up in their 50s and still be alone, they need to snap out of their fantasies of how great they are (the Tic Toc people are cringeworthy because none of them are hot or sexy but just sad and disgustingly desperate and delusional) and start thinking about "we" -- or just decide to marry their cat and dog and settle down.
Oh and as far as high maintenance -- I've taken my wife out to the most amazing places around the world -- but her preferred place to be would be at home knitting while I read books to her like the Shadow and Bone series or Discovery of Witches series (the books are infinitely better) or some Jack Reacher action books out loud (over coffee or tea); and given her gifts like jade from Thailand and gold from Turkey, but what really says love to her is when I surprise her with (get ready for it ) -- bags of dirt -- topsoil for her greenhouse. Yep.... after all these years, to find that one of the ways to her heart was to get her more high quality dirt.....I should have started sooner!
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Books❤
Amazing
That's awesome man! Higher quality dirt over gold!😄
Hoping I can still find a good one in this day and age.
@@BFVsnypEz You can't grow a home vegatable garden with gold you need good dirt/soil and lots of compost and mulch! Home grown food always tastes better because you grew it!
“Men want someone who will bring peace to their life”. Nailed it. High value men protect their peace and pursue their goals. When the right woman comes along they ask that woman to join them.
Preach
Someone asked me once why I was still single and I told him that the time I spend my peace of mind is valuable and I'm not willing to corrupt it for anything.
HOLY F*CK, this woman is spot on!! Nobody likes argumentative people. It's not a male or female thing. It's a "Don't be an asshole" thing.
Any self respecting guy wouldn't want to put up with that, no matter how hot the chick was. That's why the chubby cute gal who is easy to deal with and fun to be around gets the long term guy.
@@bartsullivan4866 I wish that was the case, but I feel like I see so many more pretty women with average or ugly guys than the reverse.
In reality, I think many men will overlook toxic traits to be with a hot woman.
For only a certain amount of time beauty fades abs migraines last a long time. But I get your point.
Courtney, I'm a 64 year old man and the one thing I can say I have noticed getting more and more out of hand with both men and women in my lifetime is that there is a super-abundance of super-egomaniacs on both the male and female side. The arrogance and highly materialistic expectations of both sexes in North America, and doubtless Australia, New Zealand, the UK and western Europe, is the ruination of more relationships than I can shake a stick at. Marriage is a lifelong partnership, _whatever_ may happen to you as a married couple! You should never view your husband or your wife as someone you will heave overboard just because times get rough or someone "better" comes along. If that is how any person is, do not marry them! Just Pass Go and Collect your $200, and keep looking! Of course, if you can find that out about someone before getting married your life will be far better, ha, ha! 👌💘😉
Young man ;-) I am six years your senior and having been married twice, one was hell but stay until my sons grew up, one now I am very fortunate to have, in between an eight live in partnership and along the way quite a range of different ladies. Also, a lot of close mates like me became wise along the way with their failures and successes. On that basis, wish to say, your comments could not be more correct and speaking as an ex teacher (from industry) your words should be read out and LEARNT off by heart by kids in those counties you listed.
i love you and hope you have a happy new year friend :)
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Exactly Todd. I think a certain strata of society is going through a period of profuse fascination with materialism. . Also, the internet "democratized" reality in some ways...giving people acess to realities they wouldn't ever rendezvous with before.
Also, serial monogamy is seen as the norm and healthy........but for me I don't udnerstand how people just move on from one person to the other with such ease. It shows how invested people really are when they say they love someone.
@@jeanlundi2141 Yes, they are interested until next year's model rolls out. People like that should be avoided like the plague, if you can.
“Embrace femininity and bring peace.” I’m literally relaxing just thinking about it. 🙏🏼
*It's true that today's dating scene has changed a lot, and sometimes high expectations and independence can make relationships harder to build. Finding a balance between standards and openness could be the key to more meaningful connections.*
So many people think of a relationship as a competition instead of a partnership and then wonder why the relationship failed… look for a partner instead of a competitor and you’ll both support each other regardless of who succeeds!
Don’t use partner this is a feminist term in the sense of equality and sameness, mate is better for expressing a relationship between a man and a woman in the sense of complementarity and friendship.
@@tshaolin971 he can use whatever word he wants.
Especially young women look at the relationship as a competition.
He can use the wrong word he wants too. Lol
@@tyarnold4088 Words have meaning and in this case feminists see a partnership as a business relationship, this is how you slowly assimilate their warped world view. They already changed the definition of what a woman is in the dictionary to include trans people. Men are the gatekeepers of rationality and order while women give emotional meaning to words and are chaotic.
Hearing that girl's story reminded me once of a girl I had to cut off. I mean, we couldn't even have a decent enjoyable conversation... her attitude and stuff she said was demeaning and inappropriate.
I remember her later emailing me saying she thought the reason men didn't stay interested or approach is because they were intimidated by her. I never replied, but thought, No... they get a whiff of your personality and run the other way as fast as possible.
When I heard you say “they don’t like you”. I put down my coffee down and said wow! First woman I’ve heard said that and you know exactly how men feel. Yes we don’t care how much money a woman makes but rather it’s about what kind of peace you bring into one’s life. That’s worth all the money in the world. Thanks for your great videos and the hard work you put into them. I’m a new subscriber of a result of it ❤️
Thanks Courtney, this is such good advice for both women and men. We all need to check ourselves to see how each of us comes across in relationships. I am 75 and have been married to my 2nd wife for nearly 30 years. She and I work for the common good of our relationship and for respective kids and their children…..you never stop be a parent. Common goals and communication are the essential ingredients. I’m just as down on men who want to return all women to the kitchen as I am on women who are looking for a sugar daddy. This video is an excellent tool for self-evaluation!
Yes!! as a woman who is called a pick me girl because of my views I love this!! ❤❤❤
We men love pick me girls! 💯
The irony of people using this as in insult means they're just obnoxious.
Women who understand men will always have a natural advantage.
I disagree with the comment on woman with financial success. I’ve never desired a woman that didn’t want to be a stay at home Mom. The best gift I’ve ever given my wife is the ability for her to stay home. She has flourished there and we have an amazing home because of it.
Remember: "pick-me" girls get picked. Picky girls go pack.
"Taking accountability for our actions is how we evolve as humans. " Thank you Miss Ryan. This video has been an eye opener for me. We all have character flaws and can improve ourselves... regardless of gender. 🙏🏼❤
Amen!! ❤
Why is something so obvious so eye opening for you? Sorry for my bad english.
@@wertyuiopasdfertyuiopasdf8139 Exactly. The fact this needed spelling out at all says everything wrong with society nowadays.
Disney's She-Hulk series really shows how some women think about men. There's a scene where Jennifer tries out online dating, but no man is interested in dating a successful woman. I watched this with my friends and we got mental over how wrong it was. Financial success doesn't make you intimidating, it often makes you more attractive. What's really intimidating is when a woman looks down on a less-successful man who dared to ask her out.
was it the t.v. series or the new comic that was written by the very grump aging feminist woman ?
That's not intimidating. Them looking down on someone who doesn't earn as much as them doesn't make the other person feel threatened or intimidated. What it does is make them feel devalued as a human being. They're not intimidating, they're condescending. Big difference.
Men don’t care how much money a woman makes
repellent not intimidating
@@ToddDCLT4 exactly, because she won't share it anyways
My girlfriend is not a feminist, she just does whatever the hell she wants. She doesn't talk about it Respect
Yes, a lifetime of daily arguments is very intimidating to a mature man. Even the Bible says that the discomfort of living in the attic of a house is better than spending it with a quarrelsome wife.
Based and redpilled
@@ForbiddenCatBelly the bible? Absolutely!
That reminds me... I need to get that Bible verse on a sign for the entrance to my man cave... 😒
This reminds me of a couple conversations with my best female friend. She ran into a big problem with her boyfriend because of many underlying issues that stem from miscommunication from the get-go. A lot of her girls just kept talking about how awesome she was and that her boyfriend made all the mistakes. She then decided to speak to me since I was a guy so she could understand guy’s perspective. I broke things down for her and pointed out that multiple issues that they were facing were by no means the fault of the boyfriend but rather the fault from both or sometimes even from her. She did say that she did not receive a big blow like that before from the girls and it was refreshing for her to hear the guts of the problems than to keep hyping herself up and took no accountability. The couple is on much better terms now and they seem to be much happier afterwards.
Many people seem to have problems with hearing the truth and feel that their feelings trump the honesty. Those people need to get a reality check so they can grow.
@@Realmotion2000 haha, that is quite an assumption on your end! Why not? I’m engaged and she’s simply my buddy.
@@Realmotion2000 stop assuming
Her girl (friends) were waiting for her boyfriend to be single, or just slip up.
Women place an EXTREMELY high value on loyalty.
To women, a "harsh truth" is TREASON.
A woman who tells the harsh truth to a female friend will soon be disowned... and quite likely still be considered an "active enemy/threat" decades later.
They want sympathy and support... not the truth.
Thus, the prevalence of their over-inflated egos... and...
"He's intimidated by you!" is just another way to pump more hot air into that already over-inflated ego.
I've noticed this trend with myself. When I date a boss babe it feels like a competition. When I date more down to earth girls it's usually harmonious and peaceful
Courtney - this video was absolutely what I needed right now. TC point 9:00 about women not holding each other accountable.... we've become so accustomed to not wanting to hear the truth about ourselves. Social media has done this to us... its not a lie, please continue to preach accountability amongst us as it is shrinking.
Personal accountability, on their behalf, is a rarity these days.
So true. This is why they tend to believe in "Destiny" and that things "just happen" by themselves.
Truly 😵💫
@@antonboludo8886 In order for things to happen, one has to do the work, and that involves a combination of self-discovery, shadow-work, reflection, etc. Overall, being in touch with reality.
@@stevenbrashear3408 You have nailed it.
"When the time is right, it will happen.". I prefer to think "When the time is right, seize the opportunity, take action and MAKE it happen.".
Haha women had so many problems and it's all men's fault.
Here's a simple litmus test: ask yourself if you would be prepared to date yourself? Would you put up with your own attitude? Would you find yourself insufferable? If a person (female or male) falls short of the standards of behaviour that they would expect of others why the hell do you expect others to tolerate them in you? Building a successful relationship poses many challenges (having been married for more than 20 years I speak from a position of some experience), so to start from a weak and volatile foundation is to have zero chance of success.
I'm with you about the test. I also have similar experience. mine is approaching 20 years of marriage ..and also approaching divorce, her choice. so absolutely that's what my younger self did by asking first- would I date myself? with the exception that my date must be female that's exactly how I guided my life and my relationships. you know, despite the impending breakup I don't expect to change this strategy and behavior despite that it didn't guarantee forever. I have no regrets. I think it's too much to demand of your partner to be rich, famous, both, or satisfy the ultimate never-ending demand- expect them to change to your liking. it's a couple of "nots" that are reasonable to expect- not a burden, not have poor hygiene, not be abusive, not be a drama queen. and some affirmatives- honesty, and affection. that's what I ask of my partner because that's what I deliver 24/7 ..more too as a can or wish but that's at my choice. after that, should you want fame or fortune, go get it yourself 😎
I like that answer, but you are of a different generation...men and women do not have the same framework.
truth
I don’t think women think this way. They are always focused on defining the guy they want but almost never present what they have to bring to the table. You can see this in countless dating profiles and in videos where women are stumped when asked this question.
@@ericlind6581 unfortunately, I think that too many young women...I mean into their 30s too, think their looks can carry them to nirvana with a 'supporter'. It's like it was prior to the industrial revolution, but then women had no other options but to get the best deal of a 'man'. Without watching the video, there is a huge societal change in the West, and I'm including Japan and S Korea...most women don't want children, and that used to be a primary reason to be married, to produce 'male' offspring and have men support them. ...hopefully.
I’m a guy saying this - this is awesome! We all like it when people are successful, but vulnerability is what makes successful people attractive - being able to get real about your true self, true feelings and emotions, and true desires. Those things are what help us all stay anchored in our reality and ourselves, and what brings our expectations of others to something far more realistic when it comes our relationships. This helps me understand men like me and women so much better. Thank you Courtney Ryan😄
There are SO many issues touched on in this video.
Great video.
Thank You Courtney! This was so refreshing to hear coming from a female. I am a 30 year old male who struggles with dating. There are plenty of women I stopped talking to because of their attitudes. The whole Independent boss babe with a bad attitude is not a good look for women.
Misery loves company.
@wesa go feminist! Making the country great!! Awe!
Not only are "independent boss babes" not dating material, they're horrible bosses. Think about it, when was last time you had a GOOD male boss go around talking about what a great boss he is and how he's the boss? Guys who do that are immature frat ---holes, and you'd never want to work for them either. Talking about what a 'boss babe' you are just means YOU DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT LEADERSHIP!
It's a great look for single women
Western woman are too brainwashed by social media, they are living a false illusion that's why some men find women in other countries where they're more humble ,classy ,non trashy ,don't dress too sexy in public ,they respect thier families and never act tough like a man.lots of woman in western world always think they're the 💩.Some men don't care about financial issues like woman only the materialistic superficial ones.The real woman would have your back if she truly loves you and not care if you are an average joe and not some hotshot dooosh.😅.I respect the young lady speaking truth ,most women get older with the same additude by then it's too late.
Honestly, watching red pill content and watching men talking about women, it made me more open to some toxic behaviors that I had. You are so right when you say that men want different things than women. Also us, women, don't always bring up problems in a healthy ways. I realized that nagging and bitching is not how you get through to a man. My man doesn't always care about the same things that I care about and that's okay!
I can't tell you how much just small changes that I made in my own behavior to prioritize our relationship and our peace made a significant changes that helped my relationship thrive.
Also taking more accountability and learning not to take all criticize from my man as a direct insult was so helpful;. I also stopped being so argumentative and aggressive when things didn't go my way and made a conscious effort to compromise and even other solutions. My man is so happy now and so am I.
So what changes did your husband do to make you feel like your feelings have been awknowledged?
@@eveliinahannele He is more affection and appreciative in general. He wants to spend more time with me and less time watching TV or playing on his phone.
Now, when I bring up things that might be bothering me, I wait several days until I am calm and collected about whatever I wanna talk about. He is more responsive to me that way. Instead of things spiraling into an argument, now he tries to figure out a solution with me and no one is getting offended. I realized that I already have a sorta loud voice and when I get emotional or passionate about something, my voice starts to raise without me even realizing it. Then, he felt as though I was trying to yell at him instead of speak to him. Once he felt like I was yelling, he would get argumentative back and that's when the arguing would happen. That's not happening anymore.
My man has a pretty stressful job since he is responsible for more than 50 people as a boss in his company (Plus he makes the majority of the money and pays the majority of the bills without ever complaining). When he gets home, he just wants to relax. My job is not a very stressful job and pretty easy the majority of the time. I started taking the time to do more cleaning, tidying, and making more homemade meals (instead of using excuses), I noticed that he comes home excited about what's for dinner, he is more affectionate like immediately coming home and asking me about my day and giving me a big hug and a kiss. He is just excited to come home and spend time together. Because we are getting along better, we have more sex which makes us both pretty happy. I have also made sure that even if I don't really wanna have sex, that I pleasure him because he does work hard and I want to make him happy. All of those things combined have really changed the whole feeling and tone of the house. Everything is more relaxed.
Its hard to explain and as I am typing this, I was thinking well this doesn't seem like that big of a difference, but just the two of us being more happy, less likely to argue, content in our home with little no tension in the house is so amazing. I feel happier by making him happy and then, he does the same things for me. He has been more likely to get into some of my hobbies so that we can do them together (I like musicals), he finally has started taking me to musicals and makes plans ahead of time to go. He wants to read together because he knows I love to read, so he wants to read so that we can discuss books together. Just a bunch of little things.
So will you be or have been telling your single female friends to stop demanding 5’10 or taller and when a guy asks a girl’s weight they get pissed? Or when girl’s say they dont want a judgmental guy because they dont want to be held accountable for their actions?
@Kevin Cosgrove Well, I have, for the most part, always called them out on bad behavior. Especially when I know that they are acting ridiculous.
Unfortunately, the other half of my friends have low expectations and will do anything.
@@brookieb4796 as an intelligent, single, non smoking, healthy, not fat, talented guy. I have given up on American / western women and started traveling internationally to find a girl. Its just over. They have been corrupted by liberal colleges, feminism, and just dumb ideas that teach hypocrisy.
a thriving relationship requires love, patience, and HUMILITY! been married since 2011 and if we didn't stay humble we would have never made it thru the tough times ❤️
Expectations without communication leads to disappointment.
"You can be a very successful woman and men will like you if you have the right mindset and you're not a brat." I LOVED this moment of brutal honesty so much that I laughed at how right this is. Truly, I won't need much time at all to recognize behavior like this, call them out on it directly, then leave if they don't change.
I've dated women that were high maintenance and a little too ambitious for a comfortable reality as well as down to earth women that struggled with debt and familial issues, but it was never about how much money they made or how together they had their lives. All I really wanted in a relationship was a friendship, a team to make the best of what we had, and someone that would challenge me to be a better person while also having an open enough heart/mind to share in similarities. Sure, I'm intimidated at times, but it's not about feeling like I could be lesser than someone because they "look like a ten" while I'm some average joe or because they would easily be the breadwinner able to pay more bills in a timely manner. The intimidation factor only applies when the vibe they give seems to point toward a more entitled position that should likely be a red flag, but being an easy going guy that is eclectic enough to be friendly to all types of humans I tend to ignore the flags in hopes maybe I can (at the very least) make a new friend with a foot in a different world than what is normal in my life. I'm always seeking new adventures, skillsets, knowledge, and expanding my tastes in all that is possible with what little time I have on this mortal coil. So am I intimidated by someone being so different or "out of my league"? Not directly, it's all about the personality that determines the level of confidence or intimidation in my approach. Confidence is sexy, but entitlement is the opposite. My personal two cents anyway.
I thank you Courtney for what you are putting out to women because you are spot on regarding how we feel about relationship's. The one thing I love most about my wife of 32 years and 5 kids is her kindness towards everyone but especially me. I have never come home to find myself getting yelled at about anything. She enjoys the peace and quiet as much as I do. I do believe her positive attitude and loving personality makes me love her more and want to do more for her. She has worked a large portion of the time during our marriage so I wouldn't consider her a submissive stay at home wife but she knows she can get a lot more from me in every way possible through her love and kindness.
Courtney,...thank you for this video. What you are speaking about is difficult in today's age for women to hear but you are kind and sincere about it. My wish is that you and your husband have a strong and blissful marriage with open and honest communication between you such as you are presenting.
This is not a meant to be a criticism of women today,...more an observation of what I have experienced in my own life. I think you are spot-on when it comes to women catering to each others negativities rather than telling them what they need to hear to improve as a person. I know that there are some wonderful women out there,...but they seem to be harder and harder to find. I'm talking about women who actually do take accountability and who do admit to mistakes without deflecting it or making it about someone else. This is a rare and beautiful quality in anyone, man or woman.
Thank you for your efforts in trying to help both men and women. I see it and value it even though I am sure that you have your detractors who will impute bad motives or intentions to you. Continue doing your best to assist both sexes and may your future be bright. I am happy to subscribe and support this channel for all your work in mending and helping relationships in a world that seems to take a perverse pleasure in divisive and selfish takes on them.
Wow 🥺 I used to tell my mom this alllll the damn time AND I’ve never been in a real relationship! But her mentality is “I don’t need a man, I can do it all alone.” I used to let it affect me and see relationships in a bad way but then the more I watch relationship videos and coaches it really put it into perspective for me! Such good advice.
Here is a reality check to female, they need to put that into their head. A man is as intimidated by a female as much as he is intimidated by cat. There is nothing in females that initimidating, it is all in the female horseshit they tell themselves. It is an insult to man to be initimidating by something we know innately less than us. Yes you fcking heard right, a man is sharper, faster, stronger, and vastly more potent than any your fcking existing female version that could ever exist. Any female that's out there who thinks she's shit, she's wrong...very wrong, it is convenient to claim and never have to be put to the utmost scrutiny
To the women: We DON'T CARE whether you "need" us or not. We don't "need" you either, but that's not what a relationship is about.
@@jameseverett4976 agree
@@jameseverett4976 Good to see a guy who understands. I don't like this concept that "women who don't need a guy are not attractive"; needing a partner to the point you malfunction in life without one isn't healthy. A good attitude is to have it good enough in life as a single person, but look for a partner whose presence in your life makes everything so much better.
You've made me think hard on what it must be like for a child brought up by a 'strong, independent' woman. Especially a woman who is angry against men. What chance have her children having a balanced view of a good, lasting, mutually beneficial relationship with a partner. Their views will have been moulded by the views of their mother. A bit like being brought up in a religious cult. Not at all good.
The BEST book we have ever read for our marriage is His Needs, Her Needs. I learned my husband needed to come home to a peaceful home. As a stay-at-home-mom with three children under 5, we had to work this out! As soon as he walked in the door, he played with the children for 30 minutes, allowing me to read the newspaper in the bathtub to unwind.
I came back renewed, calm, and happy to finish the evening’s chores. ❤
@@jjr1728 Where tf do you live man. Most people can't afford that on two salaries, let alone with a stay at home mother.
So mom gets 30 minutes of rest in a whole day? Why are you putting his needs over yours? It should be team work. He can take the kids for longer than 30 mins, it's his kids too..
@@jjr1728 With what money? 🙃 We were young and had no money at the time!
@@wolfsbane1991 He helped with evening chores! But I was not as good with little children as he was!! I needed to get away for a little bit.
@@jjr1728 What are you talking about? What monthly limit? Father??? As in my husband, the father of our children?
Men don't look for a rival, they want a partner. That's literally it.
Women too ? Why’s only women’s job to be a “source of peace”? Men don’t bring peace to women’s life either, married women literally have a shorter life expectance than single women
This is very refreshing. I love women, I've always loved women. I'm also married (separated ATM). One of the main problems I see with so many women today is the complete lack of accountability and serious self reflection. As a man, especially as a 33 year old man, I know that the majority of the problems I have in my life are becuase of me. I also know (mostly becuase I'm reminded everyday) of my own short comings and know that I have work to do. Too many women today have this mentality that they are perfect and that it's always the man thats the problem yet the grand majority don't see that they are also the problem. This might not be the healthiest thing but in all the relationships I've had, I try to drill it into the girl I'm dating that she also has a hand in the relationship failing and let her know what she's doing wrong. I cannot trust that most girls' friends will tell them the truth because the majority of them will just hype each other up.
A friend of mine told us that he felt his relationship was going down hill. We all bluntly just said "bro it's no her fault. You have to get your shit together, clean your house, put on some nice clothes and overall just fuc**** treat her better". Now there married and have a son. Honestly you hit the nail in the head with the fact that women friends never talk honestly to each other. I can't even picture a woman replying like I did to my friend.
Because men generally think next level and don't gas each other up. Not to say no women think like that because Courtney is definitely one of the exceptions and not the rule but women by and large like instant comfort even if those comforting words aren't the truth. Or women are catty and calculating and know its bad advice and do it to take some kind of sick pleasure in watching a "friends" downfall. Sort of the misery loves company, "if I can't be happy, you shouldn't be either" mentality.
Yeah why would it ever be the women's fault? You sound like a kuk
@@conservakid85 single women keep women single
Takes a lot of maturity to be that self-aware and secure enough to change what wasn't working for her. Good for her!
Not really dude. It's just adulting on a standard level without all the entitlement. This girls thinking should be a standard realisation at 18 years old. Just goes to show how deluded most young women are
The story checks out. 20 years ago a girl on tv walks into a bar with a friend. Since she's a tv girl she tells the story on TV. A guy she met at this bar showed more interest in her friend whom had a menial job. She then went on to explain that guys, as a rule of thumb ,are intimidated by girls who have prestigious jobs . ( funny fact , my mum watched this with me and she was even more turned off by her than I was )
Worst of all, that girl thought that working on TV was a "prestige job" hahaha prestigious jobs are doctors, engineers, scientists, politicians, professional athletes, not TV workers.
Men that see women with a better job and more money are not intimidated about a woman of that position. Men are calculating the odds that the outcome of a relationship with someone like that will turn out fine and the answer is usually no. A woman with higher standards wants a man that is higher than her in wealth, height, strength, status, and willing to spend for her pleasure. Men realize that most upper class aspirants want that lifestyle and they know they cannot afford to be with someone like that.
@@fturla___156 Or , in the story I told , the menial job girl was more attractive
men are not intimidated by girls who have prestigious jobs. did you miss the point of this video?
I was very unhappy without being able to put my finger on it until I started taking accountability for myself. I realized that admitting that I'm wrong is a direct path to happiness, and with it came a lightness that I had never experienced before. And when I learned that I realized that I like admitting that I'm wrong (as long as, if there is another person involved, won't lord it over me) because it means more leveling up and an improved life.