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Sorry Bro, You're wrong about your example number 1. I'm a successful guy and have made a successful life and for me, I've ALWAYS have been the MOST attracted to women who were successful. That's because I'm a Sapiosexual. I find intelligence and success the most attractive. More so than pussy, tits and ass! (When it comes to wanting to be in a relationship, that is) BUT, keep in mind. the reason behind WHY I'm attracted to these types of women, THE MOST, is because I don't believe in the concept of "the man being a provider". I don't believe that the man's role in life is to financially support a woman. I believe that men and women are equal, all across the board. PLUS, come time in divorces, the one thing I've ALWAYS BEEN AGAINST was the fact that when the little woman is a "homemaker", she ends up getting half the shit and wealth from the man ONLY because of "marriage" even though the woman really didn't contribute financially to the household. For me, when it comes to women, the ONLY time I don't care about a woman's success status is ONLY when I'm just trying to have sex with her and have no intentions to really get into a relationship with that woman. But when I had the mindset of wanting an actual serious relationship, I ONLY considered a woman who had her shit together (i.e. a degree, perfect credit, her own house, her own car, etc...)
I met a girl when I was 28 and she was 21, I asked her out two times and she said no, now I am 54 and she Is 47, I saw her a few weeks ago and she has hit the wall bad, and she wanted to go out with me and I said I have a girlfriend (which Is not true) but I would not go out with her for one minute, she had her chance.
As an older woman I appreciate this reality check, it’s exactly what young women need to be aware of before it’s too late. The feminists can claim it’s sexist, but it’s human biology so deal with it accordingly.
Yes, absolutely. Unfortunately feminists have been lying to young women for decades now, and I think the over 40 single childless women phenomenon really ramped up in the 2000s, when girls born in the late 60s and 70s were at the end of their fertility years, and had bought the feminist line that you could have it all sold to them during the 70s and 80s and 90s. They ran out the clock and didn't realize it. Women's SMV goes into terminal decline after 35. I know a lot of single women who got burnt by the feminists. Rich it doing all women a favor by telling it like it is. I hope younger women are paying attention.
@@amazingamazigh6847 Depends on many factors. In rural areas, yes for sure, 35 is way old. In cities, especially for men over 40, 35 is probably a practical cut off, if the men want a family. Fertility drops off rapidly after 35.
So I have a unique opportunity to engage with 65 yr old voman and 20 year old man. It was a mind blowing conversation. The 65 year old voman had no idea what a shizshow it was for the dude, given the fact that 80% of younger guys are invisible to voman the same age.
@@spade2you , it doesn't matter. I'm 6'3". It's money not height. When I made money, that's when the women took interest. Remember the movie Secretariat, and the winning jockey had the tall beautiful blonde at the party, and he explained, "She found out that I'm a lot taller when I stand on my wallet."
There were a few girls in my life who werent attractive but their kindness almost made me fall in love with them. Being bossy and aggressive are one of the most disgusting traits women can have.
In my single days I was a very eligible executive but I had one golden rule and that was to never date female lawyers or executives. Found them too argumentative and opinionated. My business life was full of challenges and I didn't need the same in my personal life. Married my secretary instead and twenty years later, we still have a very happy marriage.
I too have come to the same conclusion. They fight about every... single... fucking... thing. Sometimes you just want to kick back and relax and not have to work too hard. Sometimes you just don't want an insufferable cunt picking at you about everything. 🤣
at 38 I married a twenty year old After 25 years we divorced when she found a younger man. Devastating. but it motivated me to study and learn about relationships etc. main advice: take care of your health and work on yourself. too many men live just for their families without having a life. bad mistake.
So true! Nobody is driving me into a "man-cave"! My house I run my way. To put it another way, Pro 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
This video is so true. I’ve had good success dating and am happy to date a woman who is my age (50s) and looks it, IF she brings the right personality … can she be kind, easy to get along with, compromise, show affection … can she be feminine in the traditional sense… that’s what matters. and be healthy and not a whale. “no drama” is a cliche but it’s true.
@@taylorc2542 " *You just have to win the argument by being smarter* " I'll repeat something that a woman that I highly respect once said to me when presenting my own equivalent of your argument : " Your mistake is thinking women cant see themselves as having 'won' without a reasoned/logical argument ".
I heard on a podcast yesterday that research undertaken by four UK universities revealed that men's chance of marriage increased by 35% for every 16 points higher their IQ was, whereas women's decreased by 40%. Also, people who are successful at work are generally more disagreeable than those who aren't successful. Whereas women to some extent are drawn to disagreeable men, men don't find disagreeable women remotely attractive.
"...men don't find disagreeable women remotely attractive." You don't say. I'm shocked! Well, not that shocked. As for IQ, having an LTR with a woman having the IQ of a vegetable I think would get old real fast. Too many people argue to win, not to learn.
@@Yeahitsme101 It is on Chris Williamson's channel and was uploaded on 13 Dec 2021. It is called "Why is the Modern Dating Market a Mess? - Vincent Harinam | Modern Wisdom Podcast 410".
Totally agree with Rich. In my 40s I would see these corporate masculine ball busting boss women types, and dated a few. They were into roof top dining, drinking wine, and bossing around. I also dated women in their early 20s, they'd be happy just to go to Applebee's. Even went on a zip lining date with one. They were more pleasant to be around, no attitude, no masculine energy, great sex. There is no reason for a guy 35+ to date a woman in the same age category
100% all the same. Double degree/CEO/lawyer/ ball buster. Drinking wine all day 30+ red flags 35+ and still single/no ring run away. 40+ what are you thinking?
I've been married for 15 years, and we have children (we are the same age). People go through various stages in life, and having kids is one of the most profound changes your life journey will take you on. It's well worth it. Having said that, I know a couple where the husband was older that are now divorced. I know a few couples that met in high school and are still married. I know a couple who met in high school and are divorced. I know of every single scenario under the sun where the couple is either divoced or still married. There's no silver bullet. A lot of the things that are discussed by these youtubers about human nature is true. The best thing you can do is be aware of this and not act on gour impulses when it can get you into trouble. I can't really offer any advice other than if you ladies find a good man stop thinking you can always level up. And to the men, marrying a younger woman doesn't necessarily go well all the time.
I'll pass on any woman who describes herself as "sassy". While it can have a positive connotation for some, it can also be negative. Who wants to be "sassed"? No thank you.
@@grit1679 This is actually very true. I actually like “sassy” women but not the ones who describe themselves as such, they tend to be stupid and ugly.
Describing herself as "Sassy" is just to impress other feminist females. Half of dating profiles are written to impress other women not men. Like " Hobbies: Retail Therapy"
Here is some perspective from a 60 year old man who was the child of an older career woman. My mom was pushing 45 years old when I was born. My dad was younger. She was a pioneer in a particular field that I will not get into for brevity reasons. By the time I was an adolescent, my parents were retired and had moved on to their interests. I basically had to learn to cook for myself, and do laundry. I remember having a neighbour lady show me how to use the washing machine. They didn't even teach me about personal hygiene, and for long time, I couldn't figure out why people around me were always talking about taking showers. They were giving me hints. My parents didn't even show up for my high school graduation, as they had other plans that night that they didn't want to break. When my mom died when I was 41, my dad soon married a much younger woman who got the whole estate. When he died, my inheritance was $2,800. That's not a typo. The late great comedian George Carlin has a line: "You can't have everything. Where would you put it?" Everything in life involves choices. What do you want? You can't have everything. Trying to have everything, when there are other human lives involved, usually doesn't work out well for the other people involved. If you're a self absorbed woman, don't have kids. Please.
This definitely sounds like your parents just didn’t want to have kids but probably had an accidental pregnancy or were maybe even pressured to have kids. So sorry to hear about your experience.
Well it's a good thing for us that your mother still had you. Otherwise we would have one less gold nugget of information to pass around. Sorry about your history, but it's great your helping others.
I'm 44 and I learned my lesson dating and eventually marrying a much younger woman. Right now I'm 45 and she's 32. I met her when she was 20. She never went to college and neither of us ever did well financially for a long time we were in survival mode so she never got to find herself. About 2.5 years ago she started to and it seemed everything she found out about herself pretty much was showing that we were not a very compatible couple. We eventually ended things cause it got that bad. Basically if you're going to mess with these young girls long term make sure she knows who she is. I have no interest in dating a woman that young again. Now I'm in a much better relationship with a woman that is only a year younger than me. She's also not one of these girlboss types that you described though she's a school teacher. It's one of the better relationships I've been in. She said I am the best boyfriend she's had. She said at her age the dating options are not good so she considers herself lucky to have gotten me. She's pretty good looking too.
What a mature and factual assessment. All of us are visual beings but if you don't have a clue who you are, you can never be a good companion to anyone. I think men forget not just women age, so do they. After awhile an arm piece becomes very boring.
Relationships never start off bad, they transform into that over time and offenses and become a trap that you never intended to get yourself into. That's why it always blindsides everyone.
From my experience, while in my young 20's, I've dated older women in their 30s and 40s that were "successful". In part meaning, they were much more financially stable. It was like a roll reversal. I would be showered with gifts, driving their expensive cars, fancy dinner dates, taken on vacations they paid for... etc. As a young athletic, attractive male, I in turn was considered the arm candy. And the unwarranted gifts and such was an attempt to keep me around. I know, there's a name for that... gigolo.
Wow! I'm glad I was not like that. I was married for 21yrs to a very good man he died suddenly Oct 2nd 2021. Now I am a widow at the age of 59, and we were a good match even though I had a Bachelor's of Science my husband had a High School diploma that equaled a college degree. I had no children but two adult step sons from my husband. I agree with you 100% The man's home has to be a haven or else he does not want to come home. These women are very unhappy and unfulfilled because they chose to be a feminist and refused to be female who they naturally are. My sister did this and now she is alone and unhappy at the age of 68. It is a sad situation, but they created it not the men. And, for the record I have no intention of marrying ever again, especially at my age. I had one good first marriage that's enough.
sorry for your loss and very tough to be widowed (from a good marriage so young). It's all too new and raw right now for you to think about the future and future relationships, but from your post you sound like a good woman who would make the right guy very happy and who could find relationship happiness again with another man. Best of luck to you whatever you decide.
Really sorry for your loss, but I'm glad to know you get it. You don't need to get married, but if the day comes that you want and do find a good man, your knowledge and attitude will bear you in the best stead to make it work. All the best to you.
Well I was married twice and nothing against it! I know loads of attractive mature single women 55 - 65. Never say never! So sorry for your loss so young but give it time. Look forwards but keep great memories - they will last forever but you still have another 20 or 30 years to make more - so keep smiling through the tears - life is for LIVING XX
I have worked in male dominant professions most of my career. I would fully concur with all of this. But here is the good thing ladies, the truth shall set you free! I still believe that relationships don’t have to be only status attraction connections. Maybe being a good friend, authentic and caring is the comfort zone for a real connection. Lead with the heart not the ego.
From a woman that recently turned 46 I agree with this! So many of my friends who are successful like I am (but don’t know what it means to eat their humble pie) complain non stop about men. They do little to take care of themselves, possess a sense of entitlement and complain like it’s their second job! I completely appreciate a successful man! But I get it, if I were a guy I would go for someone younger too! Much less drama and attitude!
2 points. 1: I have an ex who was always beautiful to look at. Not successful financially - just attractive. And insane. A nightmare. I was with her when she was much younger - she's now in her mid 40s and has been married several times now. She just keeps getting married - she meets a guy, is married within months and divorced again within 2 years. 2: Yes. There is a woman a decade older than me. Very successful - I'm wealthy enough but she has quite a bit more money and more affluent lifestyle than me. With what she's offering, she can't understand why I'm not interested in her. And that is that I'm not attracted to her success and I can still get a woman ten years younger than me, which is twenty years younger than her. And she gets nasty about it too - which further puts me off because I don't need the ear-ache.
I am married with 43 years old and have a baby with 44, my husband make me feel like a queen , we have a very nice life together, I am so much more happy than when I was 25 years old ❤
I totally agree with what he is saying! Since my divorce, I've been with 4 women. Two of the women were teachers with a Master's degree. One was four years younger, and one was exactly my age. They were both high-maintenance, expected too much, not easy to get along with, and, well, didn't take care of themselves. One was 5 years younger. She was great at first, but was very set on her ways, doted over her adult children, and had the attitude that I should prioritize her kids over my own. Plus, she had a temper at times and was very controlling. I had to get away from that! The one I'm with now...well, she is 10 years younger. She's easy to get along with, agreeable, loves to do things, is the sweetest, and beautiful in my eyes. The older I get, the less I want to put up with BS! This guy is spot-on!
“The older I get the less I want to put up with BS” That is certainly the case with me - I am a senior white male for point of reference. I have been married for 35 years and while our marriage has had its normal ups and downs like basically every other married couple we know and understand each other and get along well for the most part. That is very important to me at this point in my life - I have a very low tolerance for drama and will walk away from situations where there is too much of it. I don’t have that many years left and I want to live them as peacefully as possible.
I'm 61 years old and I've found that even being in proximity to 40+ women is like visiting an "Alligator Petting-Zoo." All you can think about is keeping your hands to yourself!
If you have a little bit of money, watch out. Even high income women are lousy savers and they panic the closer they get to retirement and they want your wallet.
I feel the same when I meet men over 40 I divorced my husband of 15 years because I couldn’t take him being grumpy all the time life’s too short go out and live it and be happy.
I'm a 40-year-old male, stuck in a dead-end-street job in the corporate world, making approximately a third of what she makes. While I wouldn't mind dating a woman in her early 40ies, I do need to ask myself: what would I be bringing into this relationship? She probably has a nicer apartment, drives a nicer car and spends more on vacations, restaurants and lifestyle. Essentially, I would need to spend the money I don't make to keep her satisfied. But that wouldn't work out in the long-run. So, she would need to find herself a man who was making more money than her. Problem is: when men make $ 220 k a year, they won't be settling down for a 40-year-old woman!
In that case the woman that earns a hell of a lot more has to accept that she pays more. Women that have no problem paying more are actually very caring. But on the other hand they choose men who have great physique instead if income is low. There must be something that compensates for the income.
It sounds like all you're focusing on is the material things you could bring to a relationship. Other things matter more than that. Find somebody that values Things besides just the material.
@@houndmother2398 You obviously misunderstood. I have seen how women are the ones who focus on material things, such as perfume, jewellery, clothing and champagne and they expect the men to pay for it. I have plenty of money and have gained the realization that buying material items is simply a quick fix, but that their satisfactory effect doesn't last. I much rather enjoy good company and lasting experiences. I also feel that the most satisfying accomplishments are those that you can't buy with money, such as getting into shape or learning a laguage.
I am marrying at the ripe age of 46. Finding a good husband was truly the most gruelling, painful, and difficult thing I've ever done in my whole life. I have finally gotten my life partner but I will never ever be on the market again and endure that process. No way.
After listening to all of this, I can really appreciate the fact that I love being single. I may be the odd one out, but I really don't want anyone, so you can all run around like the headless chickens that you are while I enjoy the single life.
@@TaxusBaccata-c4nNo, no, you're not odd, it's just the way how modern coaches teach us that relationships are supposed to work. There is no more love between men and women, a huge gap has been created deliberately and systematically, and everything is a calculation. Love is simple and it should be our essence. It is completely ok to wish to be with someone, but modern society doesn't support that since strong couples and families are hard to be manipulated. I hope you will not stay single and lonely, and wisĥing you to find your best friend and love of your life.
Im 40 old woman but I look very young and my son is grown 18 so i never had any problom getting chatted up i.think cos I am a home maker love to cook clean love spoil the man and treat like a king and I have no probloms also im active and bit mad and young at heart ❤❤❤ so I think look after your self spoil the man be kind and just enjoy time
Also have babies young like I was 21 married till 36 now my son is grown been.on my own to recover and heal and yet always getting asked out and I never looked for it. Again keep active be friendly smile and act like a lady my advise❤❤
1. Men and women do not look for the same thing. It doesn’t make men “misogynistic” for looking for young tighter and more submissive. Women look for usually older and confident and dominating and strong. Opposite attractive traits. That’s human nature. 2. If an older woman is looking for a man she might have to date younger men who just want sex. Because even if a 25 yr old man dates a hot 40 year old. He’s not really gonna marry her. Most younger guys just want to date older women for the fun aspect of it. 3. Older successful women think they can have it all. Strong successful career and a good husband with family. They unknowingly have to sacrifice one or the other. You CANNOT have it all
I'm 39 and good looking. I've had my pick of the litter throughout my life. It just keeps getting easier the older i get and more money I make. The wall is my bitch.
Just listened to your entire book on Audible, re-listening later today. Thank you for your insight and red pill mindset, I appreciate what you've done and continue to do.
@@grit1679 Ummm 24? You serious? by 24 they've ridden more poles than than the American flag. Honestly, LTR speaking... you need to catch them outta HS, 19, MAAAYBEEEE 20. Believe it or not, there are a lot of good parents teaching their daughters right, but a girl's FRIENDS get in her ears, plus social media, tv, etc etc. They've started the ride sophomore year of college. After first 2 or 3 they say "this is nothing, don't know why mom and dad warned me about promiscuity?"
so glad i'm out of this nonsense. i never enjoyed dating. too much ego involved activities, games played, and manipulation. i think going out in life and having fun, enjoying yourself and treating everyone with respect is where it's at. just be and let others be. everywhere i go i have strangers just start talking to me. people make life complicated. it's not.
So true!! In the word of Thoreau: "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." Be free, have fun, and live to the fullest--(and screw what "society" says!!)
At the age of 37 I met a women of 42 years of age with 2 teenage children. We never got married but lived together for 32 years. She recently passed away from cancer. She was the best thing that ever happened to me! Its all about connection and compromize !
Pretty well spot on. I went single at 44 and have dated 50 - 75 women. The ones who thought they were more successful than myself were very shallow, definitely not keepers. I hope RUclips does not censor you, they tend to censor the truth.
COLD...HARD...TRUTH! Works both ways too. When I was 22, was an athletic, good looking kid just out of the Marines. Couldn't understand why high value women (young, attractive, agreeable) wouldn't want an LTR from me. Had to level up my status, game and financial situation. It was around 28-30 when those women started knocking on my door.
Money (and the security money can bring). It supersedes every other quality women look for in a man. There just aren't that many financially well off and independent twenty year olds. But, there are a whole lot of them in their forties, fifties and sixties, who still look okay and have plenty of life left in them. Forty year old women have to realize, they are not just competing with the other forty year old women for those guys. They are competing with the women in their twenties and thirties, too.
Being in the marines was a major inhibitor. To get to know women you need to mix with them. The more you meet the easier and less daunting they become. I went to an all boys school. Set me back YEARS in my sexual development! Made up for it since 😂😂😂
It's sad that women don't appreciate men for personality alone. I can say as a guy, I wouldn't date a toxic woman just because they have a pretty face. How many women date asshole men just because they drive a nice car own a big house, and end up in an abusive relationship? Sad to see. That's why nice guys always finish last.
@@ralphholiman7401 I think deep down inside they know this, and it pisses them off. They try to hide it, but they run and huddle in the masses of corporate Corporate life and the Feminist movement.
Rich, You're spot on with your statements/comments. I'm a divorced mother of 2 (unemployed but job hunting & hope to have a business of my own before the year's over). I personally know a few women like the ones you're talking about. I went through a bad divorce almost a year ago. I wasn't making good choices in the men department. I did find a good guy (I met my boyfriend in early August, 2022 at the hotel I worked at & we started dating in mid-November, 2022). I was dating a guy (unfortunately a guy I worked with) in his early 40s when I met my current boyfriend. He turned out to be a jerk & was very immature. I also met a guy in his late 30s (unfortunately, another guy I used to work with) before I met my ex boyfriend. My current boyfriend is great & much closer in age to me than my ex-husband and ex-boyfriend (I'm 51, my ex-husband is 68 & my current boyfriend is 58). There's hope for older women like me but it might take a while. Don't give up! Be objective when finding a guy. Hang in there!
I'm a 62 year old man who has been married for 41 years to the one and only wife, I have 4 children and 16 grandchildren. I was very young in the dating scene when I discovered that most young ladies were playing games and really didn't know what they wanted in a mate. Don't be the guy who played the dating game and slept around with women you wouldn't introduce to your friends, let alone you parents. Marry a person you can see yourself growing old with, because if you live long enough, you will grow old. Marry someone close to your age, that you share the same values and principles with, never stop dating your wife, she is like an onion, new things you find with each peel you remove like opening up a present on christmas.
Well said, and congrats, Don. You have to be lucky though. I would also add that in this day and age it's harder, as men and women find relationships like everything else.....disposable. If she leaves you, meh, you'll just find another. And likewise for her. But we all know that quantity isn't quality.
this advice doesnt work for most guys esp if you're saying settle down young. i would never trade the single life ive had dating for 30+ yrs for the risk of maybe winding up in a boring, terrible, sexless marriage with kids that drain your time and soul. its not every marriage and family, but 80% according to what i've seen.
You sound like a great husband like my great husband. He's 62 and I am 60. He's always going to be my one and only. I knew when I was 23, he was the one I wanted to grow old with.
Whether men know it consciously or not, biology drives us to think of women in four major areas: 1) sex - we’re universally attracted to in-shape, healthy looking women who are probably younger; 2) procreation - which what causes our high sex drive and what makes us attracted to healthy, younger women; 3) child rearing - whether you want kids or not, the type of women that would be willing to happily raise children is probably an easy person to be with; 4) companionship - IF the first three issues are NOT met, a woman’s companionship has less value than that of your male friends or a dog. We men care about our own education or success, we don’t care about a woman’s education or wealth.
Some guys do care about intelligence. Every smart guy I know does like smart girls. I think there’s something in our wiring that gets us to see some intellectual traits as positives from a reproductive standpoint, and intelligence can be one of these. But mostly these intellectual traits are things like “sense of humor” and “agreeableness” that our species values for building stronger communities. But even if a guy likes smart girls, he typically does not want a disagreeable “boss babe” type unless he’s a weak/feminine guy himself, looking for a leader.
Let’s add #4, which is where most career people, like myself are. There’s no 9-5, dinner at 5:30-6:00 every night with an overachieving couple. There’s after work a few cocktails/dinner, etc. There’s working late on projects/cases/accounts, etc. Climbing the ladder increases income AND amount of time required. The list of difficulties is long!
My days usually end between 10:30-11:00pm, and much later if necessary. My boss keeps even later hours and is a major reason why he is wildly successful.
@@bradleyk4144 That sounds like pure torcher, I will stick to being a loser work about 30-36 hours a week 45,000 a year self employed(construction) 3-4 weeks of vacation a year. I guess everyone has a a different definition of being successful wishing you all the best.
Lmao I drive doordash, and I can do 10-12 hours a day. Except my days start at 3-4 pm instead of 8-9 am - much more fun than regular corporate bullshit, and good prep for going hard on serious projects for my companies
Overachieving? Your (american) language is so fucked up and you are brainwashed through your language and you don't even know it. It's over-WORKED!!!!. Not overachieving. That's someting else
I disagree with the statement that men don't want educated woman. On dating app i specifically stated i want educated women university degree or PhD . Some women were offended by that requirement. I got comments like: I am good lady I only have primary school but I will be a good wifie, why don't you want me. Anyway interesting presentation I respect your point of view.
This guy nailed it! You don't know how many women I've met who fall into this category. They spent their 20's and 30's chasing degrees and climbing the corporate ladder while they "didn't have time to date". Now, they've found themselves in their 40's and 50's and trying to date the top-shelf guys. What they don't realize is that those guys don't want them! They are dating women in their 20's.
You are going to see this trend explode more and more as well. I think it has to do with timing of the generation and average age of earning college degrees and work burnout, but it's said that since 2019 we entered the age of a whole new generation of numerous Women who all the sudden have gained their degrees and success and thought they will go out on the hunt for Men. Now they are finding to their surprise that Men don't want them and they can't understand it! This, coupled with ever increasing inflation will make them become more desperate than ever, and I have personally been witnessing this where I live. All of them own dogs, often MULTIPLE dogs! They are insane!
What’s wrong with chasing a career isn’t that what you did ? Your repeating what you here on videos you have a mind of your own come up with your own way of looking at things
Iam a very successful businessman and I agree with this anlysis. I dont want power games when I come home. I dont care about how many degrees a woman has ( I have 3 Masters degrees, it means nothing, and proves nothing) or what level job she has. I want a loving, tactile home maker who I can have a good laugh with and to care for each other and make plenty of babies. Many career woman are far too obsessed with their 'alleged' importance & high intelligence, are are stroppy and argumentative. I avoid all these women like the plague.
Watch Helen Fischer videos about type of personalities and love. You seem to he the dominant looking for a more feminine type. There are all types of people out there, just look for the right ones and don’t waste your time on the ones that are not compatible.
Put my Ex through school and she did me a huge favor by deciding I wasn't good enough so she ditched me and our kids . I feel bad for my kids but I've never been better with my younger happier wife .
I had this exact conversation w my 50yo gf just last week. She is successful and type A personality and has more rules than I can count. She argues and nit picks and complains about every damn thing regardless of its significance in terms of the "bigger picture". I told her I don't drink, gamble, smoke, do drugs. I love her 2 kids (from different fathers) and I don't look at or think of her daughter like a creep. I share financial responsibilities w her and her daughter bc we live together while she shares none of the financial responsibilities of my 2 children who live w my ex-wife. I'm generally optimistic about things while she is pessimistic about everything. Long story short, she took it all in and put it into perspective and has calmed down quite a bit. Hopefully things continue to improve but I was at a breaking point bc we fought almost daily over stupid shit. It gers exhausting and sometimes I do contemplate being single again.
I 100% agree with what he’s saying . I’m a nurse, single, no kids 33 yo and I feel like dating even in my 30s is like shopping on a clearance rack. Everything that’s left is single dads, broke bums, or men who just want a fwb. Im exhausted with dating and now focused on getting in shape, traveling , and becoming debt-free.
You could snag a good man but you want it too quick. For an average woman like yourself, you could snag an awesome guy but you need to have patience. A guy may like you but not be in touch with those feelings. Focus on one guy you like and pursue him endlessly. He’ll turn around. If you’re just submitting yourself to the public dating pool, you have zero chance.
Really lol. I'm 38, an RN. All these situationships and guys who didn't want to commit have wasted my time. But, I date younger men the older I get now. Usually 2-5 years younger. The closer I get to 40, the more I dip closer to 30 year old males. Because I don't have kids and I never married, I haven't aged like a lot of the other girls our age and I get mistaken for being upper 20s, younger 30s. These younger women these older men think they have actually never end up with them but end up spending their money on them. Girls in their 20s will never give up their younger years to get married to an older male without money alone being a main factor. I know a thing of two bc I've seen a thing or two lolol. We all will grow old and die alone. Take Santa in this video here for example - you're better off dating a Nurse. I've seen often times than not that older males who enter the hospital where their lives are on the line and have way younger wives end up with their wives withdrawing life support way before all hope is lost bc of money. But you do you, boo boo.
An old ex of mine wanted to get married. I told her, why would I marry a 40 year old woman with kids. If I made that kind of money I'd date a 20 year old and have kids of my own.
I’ve got an x from way back in high school (I’m 41) trying to hook back up with me now. It’s like , I drive the car off the lot back then and now you’re trying to resell it to me with 200k miles on it lol no thanks
Like Rich said, there are a lot of these 40-45 yo women out there running around saying they want a family. They gave their youth and fertility to a corporation and if something happens to them they will be replaced in a month and three months after that everyone will forget her name. "Remember that one cat lady who worked here?......Katherine..maybe.....no I think it was Karen"
It is true that young men fall for the motherly type. I did. When we met she was 41 and I 23. We lived very happily together for 53 years. Last January my beautiful soulmate died and I wept.
Thank you for teaching Correct Principles. What you said is the truth "Women should preserve their value" their virtue, their chastity. I hope many men and women are able to listen to your channel. I will tell my boys when they grow up to listen to you. Thank you.
Attracted to younger females and dealing with younger girls are two different things. Most younger girls are very difficult in that they are in party phase and monogamy is not in their vocabulary. Ghosting good dudes is their playground
Most self respecting successful guys 40+ aren't gonna want to date a 40+ year old woman anyway so that is probably the main reason. My boss is 46 years old, he's dating a pretty good looking 31 year old right now, few he was dating before than were even younger than that.
I am a single guy, make respectable money, am debt-free and have *never* cheated on a romantic interest. Here's an insight: Earrings are the only metal body piercings that I consider tasteful, and tattoos are a turn-off. Quit listening to your friends that think there is redeeming value in tattoos and piercings; you are unknowingly limiting your dating prospects and branding yourself as "disposable".
@@badguy1481 I agree. Tattoos and piercings on women are big turn-offs for me. I always wonder what they are trying to prove to men and to the world at large?
Love this video about dealing with realities not idealistic fantasies but realities about men and women,why and how we attract and relate. Thank you for these helpful insights.
A 40 year old career woman has no use for men. And Man shouldn't step up to father a child that's not theirs. Even if she has options mostly it would s3xual purpose and not relationship. Plus she won't settle down with an average guy to make a family.. she would go for the top tier men.
If you only settle down becuse someone is young and beautiful that is mot love. I have friends in thier mid and late 30s with men in thier 20s in long term relationships ans have kids together and happy. They had things in comon & click. So it doesnt matter older or younger If you really like someone.
The problem is People realise later in life thier patterns & attachment styles. even People that got married getting a divorce becuse of truma Bonds. Not everyone find a healthy relationship at a very young age. So If People want to live happy men or women its important to do The work. Have The right mindset, work with the insecurites, child Hood trauma, fears, guilt, blame. Living more in The now than past or The future. And dont seek others approval. When we are secure we attract/ choose The right People for us. People could not do better in thier 20s becuse they only had that knowlegde they had back than. Thier is no limit when you can find love only your belives. Law of attraction really works. If you belive in it and not chasing or going around feeling lonley & thinking i have to have this.
It's taken me to my mid-fifties to realise that all this dating BS and mind-games is just not worth the hassle. I don't find older bodies attractive and far too many have baggage or mental health issues. I mean what's in it for me??
I just turned 60 and am finding dating very challenging but am finding some success with younger women (30s 40s). I spent 11 years paying child-support and legal fees from my prior marriage and worked my arse off to get to where I am now. I have a nice home, a stable financial situation and good health but spend much of my time alone. Being alone and at peace is better than being with a hot psychopath.
I wish to God I had been told this years ago. All I heard was I needed to go to college and get a degree before I got married. Problem is, after I got out working, I wasn't exposed to many single guys. I've also heard men complain that women are gold-diggers, so I set out to prove that I wasn't a gold-digger. I worked hard to prove that I didn't need them for their money because I could take care of myself. I've done well, professionally and am a strong, competent woman. Intelligent and still pretty even though, I've just turned 50. However, what I'm hearing is that everything I've been told and fought to overcome was a complete lie and I've missed out on the family and relationship that I dreamed of because of it.
So sorry, so sad. My son and daughter were born when I was 50 and 56 respectively - but that's something guys can do women can't. It's not fair, not at all. It just is.
Hi Christy, I'm a 54 year old single man who never got married or had kids as well. In my 25-40 dating years, independent, professional women like you always thumbed their noses at me like I was dirt! If I had to go childless because of short-sighted, conceited, career oriented woman like you, I just thank g-d there are many like you who suffered the same fate. I knew what was important in life.. Why didn't you?
I am a bit a counter example of this. 12 years ago I met such woman when she was 42. I was 47. She has an high income and collect houses like others pairs of shoes. On my side I am a part time accountant and earn a third of what she does. We nevertheless get along very well and have lots of fun.
I would add a #4, which is by the time men are in their 40s, they are currently married, were married and now divorced (and possibly skittish about getting married again) or have given up on marriage completely (this includes the men dating the 20-year-old females with no plans to marry). If you like the best, freshest fruit and your grocer gets his stock on Mondays, that is the best time to shop because there is a lot of selection. The girl who waits till Wednesday to shop will find a much smaller selection, and the 40-year-old woman who waits till Friday will find there is no fruit left or only the rejects are still there. Women also tend to have "check lists", so assume for a minute that she only has two boxes checked: College degree (20% for men) and six foot or taller (20% of men). Just those two boxes reduce a pool of 100 men down to 4 (100 x 20% = 20 x 20% = 4). Throw in the income over $xxxxx and the list becomes even shorter.
Rich, I have been watching your videos for a few years, but this is the first time I drop a comment. I want to thank you for all the information you’re providing us. I am 25 years old and last year, I broke up with an older professional woman (37 years old) after a process of learning and self reflection through watching your videos. She was a college professor, a single mother, and I almost made the mistake of marrying her. Breaking it off with her and letting go of that relationship was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done as I was struck with a bad case of oneitis. I can now look back on that decision with an immense level of relief that I can’t even properly articulate. I’m progressing in my career, building my body, and realizing that I have more dating options than ever before. So much of what you said in this video rings very true to me now that I can see things more clearly. Thank you.
Had a similar situation to yours. Crazy how different my brain worked when I was with her, can't believe the struggle I had leaving her.. Feel huge relief I got outa there now. Have a great new year
Similar situation for me. I was 25 and she was 42. But she’s the one that had oneitis for me. Pretty soon after we met she started talking about long term and settling down. It was difficult to break up but easily one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
And to a younger man an easy older woman is called practice. When we are young we have to work hard to look ugly (and some young women are achieving this) as we get older it comes naturally, so don't force it ladies, the ugliness will come. All good and accurate points Rich.
Agreeable is the key word. Submissive women are feminine. Feminine energy is attractive to men. Masculine women are a turn off. Clashing confrontation and bossiness are very unattractive to us. Age is nothing but a number. Attitude is everything
LOL, 2 years separated you've just described my ex to a "T". At the time I was shattered but now 2 years down the line I have come to understand that she actually did me a huge favour.
I dated a woman once who had an MBA and a six-figure, executive level career at a Fortune 100 company. But it wasn't enough.. She taught business classes part time at the local community college, sat on the board of 2-3 non-profits, AND she toyed with the idea of another degree "Because it would be good for my career!" ..So needless to say her calendar was full, and she would literally pencil me in for an occasional date lol. We hung out occasionally for a couple of months and didn't even progress to sex, and I eventually got tired of being worked into her schedule, so I broke it off. Which SO pissed her off too, and she actually told me "You're just intimidated by me like all the others!" Right... not sure how wanting to be with her = intimidation, but whatever.. Goodbye.
I dated one who competed with me at every turn, but the straw that broke the camel with this one was where she slipped and referred to our relationship as a "project". Then I realized why she was 50 and unmarried.
I dated a medical doctor for a bit. Very nice woman, and in no way am I generalizing here. She kept wanting to apply her research, data, and statistics to love and dating, which became a little annoying after a while, and I had to keep reminding her that nature works differently. I ended up breaking it off with her because she decided to play the numbers game to oncrease her odds of finding the best guy by dating others after we had already become intimate. It's a game I don't play once intimate, so you might say her analysis backfired. My point is that the so called corporate women may end up applying their career lessons rather than life lessons to dating, comma and it might work against them, However it may not actually define them as a person though so give them a chance!
Not every single woman in their 40’s falls into this description. Some were in a LT relationship with someone or an organization or had health issues or any number of reasons why they are now single. Many women in their 40’s take extremely good care of their health and well-being. Many are kind and loving and giving. Not all are “ball-busting” or “disagreeable”. These generalities are really not fair and are rather disgusting - more of a comment on the men who are making them and not a reflection of the ACTUAL kind, loving women who can offer INFINITE goodness to single men their own age. Peace
I’m 42, Dating a 27 year old right now, I’m having a great time, no old cougars for this guy, I simply refuse, I read your book Rich, and I bought two other copies for my bros who read it too, it’s all true, thanks for writing it.
It's so sad that this needs to be explained to women. They've been pandered to so much, that they didn't even want to learn what is attractive to men. It's shocking for women at 40+ to find out that men don't want another men in skirt competing with them next in bed. You look at the profiles and it seems like a competition amongst women at who will be less attractive to men. All of this sass, disagreeableness, etc makes them simply unfit to any relationship, left alone long-term relationship with a man.
@@John_Smith100 Whether it is femenism, their own solipsism or just laziness is really irrelevant. The result is the same. One way or the other women choose to be unfit for relationships with a man until it's too late and there's no going back.
@Not Convinced Oh Well, More Dog or Cat Moms. Buy Dog, Die Alone Type. Nobody said to avoid them completely, just be aware that they probably are not good for an LTR. That's All.
As a FEMALE friend of mine once said: "Men and Women should NEVER live together! Next door...MAYBE. But.....NEVER together!" Words of Wisdom for ALL of us!
I feel really bad for the hotties in their 20’s. Once they hit the wall it’s gotta be a 100% different lifestyle for them. To go from so much attn to zero would be really hard!
dont feel bad for them. they deserve what they get. too busy chasing the meat heads and players to notice "the nice guys" who are the better catch. I should know, Im one of the nice guys!!! lol
@@GP-fw8hn i really dont understand peoples thinking this days. Its like they cant read People and show empathy. Doesnt matter man or woman. People with no cleairity they make more misstakes. If you live based on truma, attachment or fears and insecurites. If you hurt yourself becuse you dont feel enough. Becuse you wanna feel important or feel vallidation or what ever reason it is or to feel at ease with pain. People need healing but takes time to wake up. Attachment styles & attraction can just stoop without doing The work like healing. And I seen both men & women having attachment styles chasing People that isnt good for them. Its all comes down to child Hood. So before we judge & have to blame & revange People know this. People are all humans. What is important to wake up and change our lives.
@@GP-fw8hnattachment doesnt go away only becuse you want that girl. People get rejected it sucks & it happens to many People both men & women. Doesnt mean we should look down on people becuse of it. Part of being human. You cant force someone to like us. We dont choose Who we like. Some things csn change like attachment styles. But some things csnt. If you dont feel chemistry and attraction and similar values and safe and home with a person. No one should settle for someone they are not sure about becuse they cant get better becuse think If they do. People should genuine like someone. We should not hate on people or wish them bad becuse of it. Man or woman. Your life should feel happy not forced.
Such videos seem to support some of my evaluations. I enjoyed watching it. New generations of adults around the world are mostly empty, some of them are very good. Women between the ages of 30-50 are really self-centered. They don't know how to take responsibility, they just act like they are wasting time and their husbands are responsible. If they were truly exposed to as much stress as men, they would not live longer than men.
I'm 50, my ideal age range is 35-45. I seriously don't care about her income, her degrees, her education...I care if she can match my energy. Not be a piece of shit...I know, I'm asking for a lot.
@@darrenmacwhirter1706 :He never mentioned age. He said a high value man. But, the video mentions a 40 year old woman. Many men in their 40s are married or divorced. I’ve been married 20 years. It’s pointless to marry a woman you can’t have kids with. But, at my age(46), 18-25 is way to young.
Femininity is so scarce, and only getting scarcer as the younger generations come by, that I immediately fell for my ex whenever she displayed a few drops of her feminine nature. I was so starved of this energy that it completely overwrote her unattractive appearance (To my standards, she just wasn’t my type and chubby) and I saw her as the most attractive woman. Ladies, if you’re not pretty, there’s one secret weapon for men. Which is genuine femininity. Men can tell if it’s fake. I guarantee you, you’ll pop on his radar since women are more masculine than ever.
@@abelflores5976 A masculine man is someone who demonstrates leadership qualities, prioritizes the well-being of all individuals, not just his family, and is financially independent and supportive. He is a critical thinker, physically fit, and capable of protecting. Additionally, he is articulate, intelligent, and adept at communication as well as very confident and prepared for all situations.
Wow this video was on point. This guy nailed it. Younger women are harder to talk too than older ladies, because they are still younger and have value left and they still have some growing up to do as well. They think they are the most beautiful women in the world and when they are like that, that makes it very challenging for some guys to try to talk to them because they have put themselves high up on a pedestal. Now once they've turn 40 or 50 some of their value have dropped and they have been through more now they are more easier to talk too, but like the gentlemen said in this video some men around their age don't want a woman in their 40's or 50's they want someone in their early 20's. Now some men like older ladies because they are more mature and have been through enough to have learned how to act and take care of a man. So I would strongly recommend dating older if you want something more serious and effective and someone who will return your texts before the next day. Also if you're in 40's or 50's don't be afraid to venture out and date a younger guy. So long as he is legal. Who knows you both could hit it off better than you could ever imagine.
As long as you aren't looking to start a family, I totally agree. I am a senior and have always been approached by younger men, (like middle age and up). I look young, am traditional and feminine, never aspired to be a boss lady but am financially okay. Currently in a serious committed relationship with a man 9 years my junior I met 2 years ago. He tells everyone how much he loves me and how happy he is with me. I would like to hear this blogger's perspective after he has aged another 25 years.
@@kathykobos8980 Congratulations on your relationship. It sounds as if you both are happy with one another. One thing I can say about you is that you was willing to give a younger man a chance to see how he was and by you doing that you found someone that cares about you and that don't mind that you're nine years his senior. I believe age is a number and I know that's a bit cliche but I feel as if it's the truth. It's about the connection not the few years of age difference so long as the person is legal. I hope you great success in your current relationship.
When you said, "men aren't attracted to degrees", this really hit home. I have a good friend and I have tried to tell her this so many times. She wants a family, a husband and she is constantly depressed over it all. I've flat out told her that every year she exists, to those peer men, she has less value. I've told her she is not the table, and at this point if she continues she'll just a broken table leg ready to be thrown into the landfill. My wife of 20+ years has told her the same thing. All her married friends have told her this too. Nothing we say gets through to her. She gets pumped and dumped all the time. She is approaching 40, a lawyer, and what is she doing to get what she wants? Nothing. I say nothing because instead of getting serious about a man, she is perusing another post grad program in and unrelated field. She likes to blame her past trauma, her history, the patriarchy, and everything but herself and her own actions when she is literally the problem. She doesn't prioritize relationships with men that have any meaning and self sabotages every time. She acts like she is in her 20s still. That is why she is a single, left over woman.
Don't talk about her like that. Most older men are utterly disgusting to look at. You are all shaming women as if older men are all that. You are all bunch of wrinkly old farts with beer bellies hanging over you. Get a life. 🤮🤮🤮🤮
As a man, I could tell you I don't make compromises. I do what I want when I want. I'm fine with being alone and if a woman wants to tag along that is fine too.
Yes, I re connected with my ex. I'm 51 she is 59. We ate lunch but the day went ⬇️. You can not live in the past. Sometimes women change. After 50, women REALLY change.
I am 36 and honestly, the reason why women may be single at this age is simply because we have learned how to feel good with ourselves without needing validation from a man, which is a recipe for disaster in a relationship. I am genuinely better alone than with someone that doesn't resonate with me. I don't need a man for anything, if I choose to be with one he must add value to my life.
Exactly the point of this video. Women feel so insecure that they are constantly trying to prove to everyone they don’t need a man. They never stop trying to prove it until they find themselves 50 and alone still working to support their kids. Imagine men trying to prove to the women next to them on any given day that they don’t need her… I’m pretty sure that’s seeking validation..
Don’t give up on love, it’s worth the heartache. I am 60, stayed married since my youth, now glad to have the support of my husband because of my ongoing health issues. Don’t just think “I am fine now”, where will you be when you are 60? Same rules apply for men. Healthy relationships are more than a feeling or a “value-adding option”.
100% correct. My experience with older women is that they have an attitude that they are "untouchable" and make themselves very difficult to approach. When they can't find a man, they immerse themselves totally in their careers and become bitter and twisted. Even my mother warned me about spinsters! On one occasion I was friends with a woman of 48 when I was 44 and the one time I tried to make a move and said "are you attracted to me as much as I am attracted to you?', she reported me to the boss for no reason. Go figure! Needless to say that was the end of the friendship and she remains alone. What gives?
Word to the wise: To put my .02 on a thought from the video... If you ever see a woman describe herself as "Independent," (dating app or whatever) don't walk, RUN the other way. For many women, chances are they won't EVER fully partner up with you, because they want it their way, and only their way. Especially if they have been on their own for a while. It only gets worse as they get older. Men's definition of independence seems to be altogether different than a woman.
should've got her in a compromising position--baM! drop the curtain so friend can see what his new bride is, get marraige annulled. guys need to protect guys
The guy is in "lived happily ever after" mode.. no one listens. Wait for the first year to be over and then the doubts start creeping in. I went thru the same thing many years back. I too would not have listened to anyone who was trying to help me .
I’m a 45 yr old woman who was married and had 3 children with a man 16 yrs older …. Now lm engaged to a gorgeous man 10 yrs younger… it’s not really about age for me it’s about connection & emotional maturity. Are really is just a number
@@jagz6794 Most of women's dating profiles are "loaded" and you have to read between the lines. The sad thing is she does stand out compared to most women. Most are living with their parents, with roommates, or on welfare. However the question arises as to how much does she actually own ? or will she need help with the mortgage and car note.
All this works if you consider your partner only as an object, a thing. Something you can only use for a short time and then exchange for something even more attractive and hotter. But man is something more, he is the universe. And everyone is looking for someone who can ignite a spark inside them, looking for it based on their inner feeling, their experience, and inner intelligence.
they all just throw out "im making 220" a year. as a former executive search guy i can tell you 1) that is the level that C officers in either very large companies or public companies make and there are just not that many of them..2) those people tend to have exceptional people skills as they have had to lead large groups and individuals over many years to achieve difficult goals- so they wouldnt be totally mystified by relationships and 3) people at that level "know the game"- they know that they have fewer choices and arent going to marry the pool boy usually-... so sometimes i wonder what these women are really up to?
IMO; age is like a sliding scale, so it depends. At the same time, the things most valued are faithfulness, comittment, respect, integrity, maturity, common interests, and love no matter which gender. It depends upon what you value most: sex, money, power, etc... What you value, is what one wants. If you want the right one, you have to be the right one. Otherwise, it's just all a waste of time, money, and emotions.
Brutal to hear but true. Once women hit menopause and realize that they have lost their power over men, they can go on one of two directions. Either they embrace it and focus on what they still have to offer or become bitter. This also affects men when we realize we are invisible to younger women as we age.
If a lady in her 40's, or older has climbed the corporate ladder, and become successful financially, many of these ladies have acquired male traits to get to where they are. So an older successful guy, doesn't want a woman who is dominant and bossy. That would be like 2 bosses living together. Doesn't work.
This maybe only a small sample. I have 3 sisters and my Wife. My youngest sister just got married at 25 to a guy she was dating since she was 21. She is figuring it out still and my Older sisters got married at 21 (Now 38) and 25 (Now 36) and I married my wife at 25 (Now 41) All of them had a family THEN climbed the corporate ladder. Me and my wife had our last child last year (Yep 18yr gap between No.2 and No.3) Seems to be the way to go. No divorces and seemingly decent life. Brother in Laws aren’t wildly successful but all are just over the $100k mark. I retired after 20yrs in Navy and now Medic/Firefighter. No step kids at all. I would say that 40+ corporate woman wouldn’t even give any of us a 2nd thought. That is not the way to go if you want to have a family. Side note Myself and My Wife are in great shape for our early 40s and we have best healthcare coverage there is and it was still high risk pregnancy. Everything came out okay but having kids that late is risky. I am blessed but I would not recommend that.
No man in his 40's, making over $100K, wake up one morning and says, "Today, I'm gonna go find a 40+ year old woman with kids or no kid to settle down."
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Rich you are so HOT me
Be bless
40 plus has grandkids in tow.
Too many waste their youths... including myself. But it is even more important for women. Great video, as usual.
Sorry Bro, You're wrong about your example number 1. I'm a successful guy and have made a successful life and for me, I've ALWAYS have been the MOST attracted to women who were successful. That's because I'm a Sapiosexual. I find intelligence and success the most attractive. More so than pussy, tits and ass! (When it comes to wanting to be in a relationship, that is) BUT, keep in mind. the reason behind WHY I'm attracted to these types of women, THE MOST, is because I don't believe in the concept of "the man being a provider". I don't believe that the man's role in life is to financially support a woman. I believe that men and women are equal, all across the board. PLUS, come time in divorces, the one thing I've ALWAYS BEEN AGAINST was the fact that when the little woman is a "homemaker", she ends up getting half the shit and wealth from the man ONLY because of "marriage" even though the woman really didn't contribute financially to the household.
For me, when it comes to women, the ONLY time I don't care about a woman's success status is ONLY when I'm just trying to have sex with her and have no intentions to really get into a relationship with that woman. But when I had the mindset of wanting an actual serious relationship, I ONLY considered a woman who had her shit together (i.e. a degree, perfect credit, her own house, her own car, etc...)
@Not Convinced we lost
I met a girl when I was 28 and she was 21, I asked her out two times and she said no, now I am 54 and she Is 47, I saw her a few weeks ago and she has hit the wall bad, and she wanted to go out with me and I said I have a girlfriend (which Is not true) but I would not go out with her for one minute, she had her chance.
this right here
This is a level of self satisfaction I aspire to.
And what was her response to that
"I wasn't good enough for you then, and you're definitely not good enough for me now."
Classic "if you don't want me in your prime, I won't catch you in your decline"!
As an older woman I appreciate this reality check, it’s exactly what young women need to be aware of before it’s too late. The feminists can claim it’s sexist, but it’s human biology so deal with it accordingly.
Yes, absolutely. Unfortunately feminists have been lying to young women for decades now, and I think the over 40 single childless women phenomenon really ramped up in the 2000s, when girls born in the late 60s and 70s were at the end of their fertility years, and had bought the feminist line that you could have it all sold to them during the 70s and 80s and 90s. They ran out the clock and didn't realize it. Women's SMV goes into terminal decline after 35. I know a lot of single women who got burnt by the feminists. Rich it doing all women a favor by telling it like it is. I hope younger women are paying attention.
@@stevenlightfoot6479 after 35? More like after 27!
@@amazingamazigh6847 Depends on many factors. In rural areas, yes for sure, 35 is way old. In cities, especially for men over 40, 35 is probably a practical cut off, if the men want a family. Fertility drops off rapidly after 35.
It’s stings as much as men hearing their, wallet, height etc etc ain’t it. That’s life.
@S ess in your dreams lmao, young girls don't find older men attractive? Where do you think the term 'daddy' came from. You living in the 🧢 emporium.
If you are an older woman and you think dating is unfair, you should interview some younger guys about their dating experiences
So I have a unique opportunity to engage with 65 yr old voman and 20 year old man. It was a mind blowing conversation. The 65 year old voman had no idea what a shizshow it was for the dude, given the fact that 80% of younger guys are invisible to voman the same age.
Try being a short dude. I'm athletic and successful. Even chubby girls have zero interest in me.
@@stuartjohnston4353 In the 80’s wmn weren’t as fat either. The average size of the American female is now 5’4” and 170 lbs.
Hahaahahaha, totally. Or a man of any age that lacks passion.
@@spade2you , it doesn't matter. I'm 6'3". It's money not height. When I made money, that's when the women took interest. Remember the movie Secretariat, and the winning jockey had the tall beautiful blonde at the party, and he explained, "She found out that I'm a lot taller when I stand on my wallet."
Most women think they are doing you a favour by just talking to you let alone have an actual relationship.
Please turn up the volume 💯 😊
@@muziki79 Ha ha.
You mean just among the women you have come across in your life? I really don't think "most" women don't want an actual relationship.
Doesn’t that say more about you ?
Just saying 😆
@@Caroline-up8nl Yes, it's rather revealing.
There were a few girls in my life who werent attractive but their kindness almost made me fall in love with them. Being bossy and aggressive are one of the most disgusting traits women can have.
And, those are the women the smart men marry. Looks are temporary anyway, but a good personality can last a lifetime.
Oh man. I agree. I hate a pushy, bossy, manly, non-feminine females. It is evil.
You're just intimidated 😆
@@ralphholiman7401 ...aaaand IRONY OFF :-D :-D
Totally agree
In my single days I was a very eligible executive but I had one golden rule and that was to never date female lawyers or executives. Found them too argumentative and opinionated. My business life was full of challenges and I didn't need the same in my personal life. Married my secretary instead and twenty years later, we still have a very happy marriage.
Here here brother, nobody wants to kiss a older executive who runs every aspect of his life and none of a together couple in love with each other
I too have come to the same conclusion. They fight about every... single... fucking... thing. Sometimes you just want to kick back and relax and not have to work too hard. Sometimes you just don't want an insufferable cunt picking at you about everything. 🤣
...let me introduce the GUY WHO ACTUALLY GOT IT! Smart men make smart decisions. I wish you all the best and at least another 20 happy years!
True,never date a lawyer,an executive or a RE broker.They just do not deserve a good dick.Let them have cats or dogs.
That's awesome!! very happy for you--you truly played it smart!!
at 38 I married a twenty year old After 25 years we divorced when she found a younger man. Devastating. but it motivated me to study and learn about relationships etc. main advice: take care of your health and work on yourself. too many men live just for their families without having a life. bad mistake.
Dude y’all spent 25 years together
@@os8051 yeah he ran mileage on that thing get another one
Agreed, my friend. It's important to have your own life too. Very important!
I want to marry with 40 year women please suggest me
So true! Nobody is driving me into a "man-cave"! My house I run my way. To put it another way, Pro 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
This video is so true. I’ve had good success dating and am happy to date a woman who is my age (50s) and looks it, IF she brings the right personality … can she be kind, easy to get along with, compromise, show affection … can she be feminine in the traditional sense… that’s what matters. and be healthy and not a whale. “no drama” is a cliche but it’s true.
Yep the woman must not be Fat. The man must not be poor. Don't get angry folks. It is what it is.
A woman who is a boss at work, doesn't just turn that personality off when they get home at the end of the day.
They boss everything. I've seen it. Nasty.
After 26 years of marriage to "the manager"... I can safely say that statement is 1000% true.
Unless you can shut it down. You just have to win the argument by being smarter.
@@taylorc2542 I'd rather just not come home to a woman with that attitude, than have to constantly shut the attitude down.
@@taylorc2542 " *You just have to win the argument by being smarter* " I'll repeat something that a woman that I highly respect once said to me when presenting my own equivalent of your argument : " Your mistake is thinking women cant see themselves as having 'won' without a reasoned/logical argument ".
I heard on a podcast yesterday that research undertaken by four UK universities revealed that men's chance of marriage increased by 35% for every 16 points higher their IQ was, whereas women's decreased by 40%. Also, people who are successful at work are generally more disagreeable than those who aren't successful. Whereas women to some extent are drawn to disagreeable men, men don't find disagreeable women remotely attractive.
"...men don't find disagreeable women remotely attractive." You don't say. I'm shocked! Well, not that shocked.
As for IQ, having an LTR with a woman having the IQ of a vegetable I think would get old real fast.
Too many people argue to win, not to learn.
I would be less attracted to an airhead lady. I want a smart child and would be bored if she is a dummy
I really value intelligence in a partner.
Name of the podcast and the episode bro?
@@Yeahitsme101 It is on Chris Williamson's channel and was uploaded on 13 Dec 2021. It is called "Why is the Modern Dating Market a Mess? - Vincent Harinam | Modern Wisdom Podcast 410".
Totally agree with Rich.
In my 40s I would see these corporate masculine ball busting boss women types, and dated a few. They were into roof top dining, drinking wine, and bossing around.
I also dated women in their early 20s, they'd be happy just to go to Applebee's. Even went on a zip lining date with one. They were more pleasant to be around, no attitude, no masculine energy, great sex.
There is no reason for a guy 35+ to date a woman in the same age category
100% all the same. Double degree/CEO/lawyer/ ball buster. Drinking wine all day 30+ red flags 35+ and still single/no ring run away. 40+ what are you thinking?
Facts
I'm in my 60's and it's only 20's or nothing
YES! no reason for a man 35 and up to date the age you are so right now.. At this age the vibes just not there
@S ess define 'old'. A ~40 year old man can most certainly pick up early 20s women, no problem.
I've been married for 15 years, and we have children (we are the same age). People go through various stages in life, and having kids is one of the most profound changes your life journey will take you on. It's well worth it. Having said that, I know a couple where the husband was older that are now divorced. I know a few couples that met in high school and are still married. I know a couple who met in high school and are divorced. I know of every single scenario under the sun where the couple is either divoced or still married. There's no silver bullet. A lot of the things that are discussed by these youtubers about human nature is true. The best thing you can do is be aware of this and not act on gour impulses when it can get you into trouble. I can't really offer any advice other than if you ladies find a good man stop thinking you can always level up. And to the men, marrying a younger woman doesn't necessarily go well all the time.
The only sane comment here
@@svitlanababych4051 I absolutely agree with you!!!!
Agree❤
My hope is that everyone finds the love that they need
well, many people dont because everybody is so fucking superficial and obsessed with very specific types of looks and body-types. Good luck
That would be a dog.
Women are very different today from the old days unfortunately.
You too
@@jamesdavidson4769 As are men.
I'll pass on any woman who describes herself as "sassy". While it can have a positive connotation for some, it can also be negative. Who wants to be "sassed"? No thank you.
@@grit1679 This is actually very true. I actually like “sassy” women but not the ones who describe themselves as such, they tend to be stupid and ugly.
_Sassy_ = s feeding her "I get my way all of the time" narcissism that requires someone else always losing and accumulating dissatisfaction
Or looking for their "soul mate". Run like a scared rabbit when you hear that one.
Codespeak for can’t shut the F up.
Describing herself as "Sassy" is just to impress other feminist females. Half of dating profiles are written to impress other women not men. Like " Hobbies: Retail Therapy"
Here is some perspective from a 60 year old man who was the child of an older career woman. My mom was pushing 45 years old when I was born. My dad was younger. She was a pioneer in a particular field that I will not get into for brevity reasons. By the time I was an adolescent, my parents were retired and had moved on to their interests. I basically had to learn to cook for myself, and do laundry. I remember having a neighbour lady show me how to use the washing machine. They didn't even teach me about personal hygiene, and for long time, I couldn't figure out why people around me were always talking about taking showers. They were giving me hints. My parents didn't even show up for my high school graduation, as they had other plans that night that they didn't want to break. When my mom died when I was 41, my dad soon married a much younger woman who got the whole estate. When he died, my inheritance was $2,800. That's not a typo.
The late great comedian George Carlin has a line: "You can't have everything. Where would you put it?"
Everything in life involves choices. What do you want? You can't have everything. Trying to have everything, when there are other human lives involved, usually doesn't work out well for the other people involved.
If you're a self absorbed woman, don't have kids. Please.
Wow. I’m sorry you went through that. Respectfully, selfish people shouldn’t ever become parents. Respectfully.
That was a good read. My dad was wealthy second wife got every penny
This definitely sounds like your parents just didn’t want to have kids but probably had an accidental pregnancy or were maybe even pressured to have kids. So sorry to hear about your experience.
You got robbed
Well it's a good thing for us that your mother still had you. Otherwise we would have one less gold nugget of information to pass around.
Sorry about your history, but it's great your helping others.
I'm a 57 yr old british guy and i love your videos,always interesting and accurate,many thanks for sharing your thoughts
I'm 44 and I learned my lesson dating and eventually marrying a much younger woman. Right now I'm 45 and she's 32. I met her when she was 20. She never went to college and neither of us ever did well financially for a long time we were in survival mode so she never got to find herself. About 2.5 years ago she started to and it seemed everything she found out about herself pretty much was showing that we were not a very compatible couple. We eventually ended things cause it got that bad. Basically if you're going to mess with these young girls long term make sure she knows who she is. I have no interest in dating a woman that young again. Now I'm in a much better relationship with a woman that is only a year younger than me. She's also not one of these girlboss types that you described though she's a school teacher. It's one of the better relationships I've been in. She said I am the best boyfriend she's had. She said at her age the dating options are not good so she considers herself lucky to have gotten me. She's pretty good looking too.
What a mature and factual assessment. All of us are visual beings but if you don't have a clue who you are, you can never be a good companion to anyone. I think men forget not just women age, so do they. After awhile an arm piece becomes very boring.
Good for you bro. All the best 👍
I've seen some that are so desperate you just want to get away. Some are strictly looking for financial support.
Relationships never start off bad, they transform into that over time and offenses and become a trap that you never intended to get yourself into. That's why it always blindsides everyone.
Yes young women are bad news. I wouldn't date anyone UNDER 45 now. Mature is unflappable and capable. ( Not all though) 😊😊😊
From my experience, while in my young 20's, I've dated older women in their 30s and 40s that were "successful". In part meaning, they were much more financially stable. It was like a roll reversal. I would be showered with gifts, driving their expensive cars, fancy dinner dates, taken on vacations they paid for... etc. As a young athletic, attractive male, I in turn was considered the arm candy. And the unwarranted gifts and such was an attempt to keep me around. I know, there's a name for that... gigolo.
Gigolo is a growth industry, that needs prep schools
My man!!
Alternative reality
they call it a fantasy.
Sugar momma's, I seem to attract those too
Wow! I'm glad I was not like that. I was married for 21yrs to a very good man he died suddenly Oct 2nd 2021. Now I am a widow at the age of 59, and we were a good match even though I had a Bachelor's of Science my husband had a High School diploma that equaled a college degree. I had no children but two adult step sons from my husband. I agree with you 100% The man's home has to be a haven or else he does not want to come home. These women are very unhappy and unfulfilled because they chose to be a feminist and refused to be female who they naturally are. My sister did this and now she is alone and unhappy at the age of 68. It is a sad situation, but they created it not the men. And, for the record I have no intention of marrying ever again, especially at my age. I had one good first marriage that's enough.
Based
sorry for your loss and very tough to be widowed (from a good marriage so young). It's all too new and raw right now for you to think about the future and future relationships, but from your post you sound like a good woman who would make the right guy very happy and who could find relationship happiness again with another man. Best of luck to you whatever you decide.
Really sorry for your loss, but I'm glad to know you get it. You don't need to get married, but if the day comes that you want and do find a good man, your knowledge and attitude will bear you in the best stead to make it work. All the best to you.
Well I was married twice and nothing against it! I know loads of attractive mature single women 55 - 65. Never say never! So sorry for your loss so young but give it time. Look forwards but keep great memories - they will last forever but you still have another 20 or 30 years to make more - so keep smiling through the tears - life is for LIVING XX
God bless you, I can’t even imagine how difficult this is.
I have worked in male dominant professions most of my career. I would fully concur with all of this. But here is the good thing ladies, the truth shall set you free! I still believe that relationships don’t have to be only status attraction connections. Maybe being a good friend, authentic and caring is the comfort zone for a real connection. Lead with the heart not the ego.
Wise words
I do like an intelligent, well educated (about life) woman with a good sense of humour. Hate entitled, deceitful women.
Needle in haystack. Usually feminist lefties.
From a woman that recently turned 46 I agree with this! So many of my friends who are successful like I am (but don’t know what it means to eat their humble pie) complain non stop about men. They do little to take care of themselves, possess a sense of entitlement and complain like it’s their second job! I completely appreciate a successful man! But I get it, if I were a guy I would go for someone younger too! Much less drama and attitude!
Hi pretty💖💝
40 year old black men automatically try n date 18 to 20 year olds anyway. Doesn’t matter
If is she's full of cash and fat or ugly. It's a turn off.
Beauty whit no money. IT'S A TURN ON.
That it.
@@Trustnoho Hi pretty you good?
Men easily date down but women wont.
2 points.
1: I have an ex who was always beautiful to look at. Not successful financially - just attractive. And insane. A nightmare. I was with her when she was much younger - she's now in her mid 40s and has been married several times now. She just keeps getting married - she meets a guy, is married within months and divorced again within 2 years.
2: Yes. There is a woman a decade older than me. Very successful - I'm wealthy enough but she has quite a bit more money and more affluent lifestyle than me. With what she's offering, she can't understand why I'm not interested in her. And that is that I'm not attracted to her success and I can still get a woman ten years younger than me, which is twenty years younger than her. And she gets nasty about it too - which further puts me off because I don't need the ear-ache.
@u.v. ray - u.v. ray - I think the answers to both of your points are no-brainers: a straight NO to both of them.
Point #1 sounds a like my ex. I had to leave her. Damn glad I did. She is also a child abuser.
U stuck between a Chad chaser and a feminist
that's called a nightmare
The more prettier the women..the more pain in the ass..
I am married with 43 years old and have a baby with 44, my husband make me feel like a queen , we have a very nice life together, I am so much more happy than when I was 25 years old ❤
Congratulations
@@fadep2024 treat him as a king as well!
Congrats
I totally agree with what he is saying! Since my divorce, I've been with 4 women. Two of the women were teachers with a Master's degree. One was four years younger, and one was exactly my age. They were both high-maintenance, expected too much, not easy to get along with, and, well, didn't take care of themselves. One was 5 years younger. She was great at first, but was very set on her ways, doted over her adult children, and had the attitude that I should prioritize her kids over my own. Plus, she had a temper at times and was very controlling. I had to get away from that! The one I'm with now...well, she is 10 years younger. She's easy to get along with, agreeable, loves to do things, is the sweetest, and beautiful in my eyes. The older I get, the less I want to put up with BS! This guy is spot-on!
“The older I get the less I want to put up with BS”
That is certainly the case with me - I am a senior white male for point of reference.
I have been married for 35 years and while our marriage has had its normal ups and downs like basically every other married couple we know and understand each other and get along well for the most part.
That is very important to me at this point in my life - I have a very low tolerance for drama and will walk away from situations where there is too much of it. I don’t have that many years left and I want to live them as peacefully as possible.
You nailed it!
I'm 61 years old and I've found that even being in proximity to 40+ women is like visiting an "Alligator Petting-Zoo." All you can think about is keeping your hands to yourself!
If you have a little bit of money, watch out. Even high income women are lousy savers and they panic the closer they get to retirement and they want your wallet.
Great comment! lol!
🤣🤣🤣
I feel the same when I meet men over 40 I divorced my husband of 15 years because I couldn’t take him being grumpy all the time life’s too short go out and live it and be happy.
@@joycebarnett6035 Hey...As a...FEMALE...friend of mine once said: "Men and Women should NEVER live together! Next door? Maybe. But together...NEVER!"
I'm a 40-year-old male, stuck in a dead-end-street job in the corporate world, making approximately a third of what she makes. While I wouldn't mind dating a woman in her early 40ies, I do need to ask myself: what would I be bringing into this relationship? She probably has a nicer apartment, drives a nicer car and spends more on vacations, restaurants and lifestyle. Essentially, I would need to spend the money I don't make to keep her satisfied. But that wouldn't work out in the long-run. So, she would need to find herself a man who was making more money than her. Problem is: when men make $ 220 k a year, they won't be settling down for a 40-year-old woman!
BOOM, NAILED IT!
In that case the woman that earns a hell of a lot more has to accept that she pays more. Women that have no problem paying more are actually very caring. But on the other hand they choose men who have great physique instead if income is low. There must be something that compensates for the income.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 bingo
It sounds like all you're focusing on is the material things you could bring to a relationship. Other things matter more than that. Find somebody that values Things besides just the material.
@@houndmother2398 You obviously misunderstood. I have seen how women are the ones who focus on material things, such as perfume, jewellery, clothing and champagne and they expect the men to pay for it.
I have plenty of money and have gained the realization that buying material items is simply a quick fix, but that their satisfactory effect doesn't last. I much rather enjoy good company and lasting experiences. I also feel that the most satisfying accomplishments are those that you can't buy with money, such as getting into shape or learning a laguage.
I am marrying at the ripe age of 46. Finding a good husband was truly the most gruelling, painful, and difficult thing I've ever done in my whole life. I have finally gotten my life partner but I will never ever be on the market again and endure that process. No way.
After listening to all of this, I can really appreciate the fact that I love being single. I may be the odd one out, but I really don't want anyone, so you can all run around like the headless chickens that you are while I enjoy the single life.
@@TaxusBaccata-c4nNo, no, you're not odd, it's just the way how modern coaches teach us that relationships are supposed to work. There is no more love between men and women, a huge gap has been created deliberately and systematically, and everything is a calculation. Love is simple and it should be our essence. It is completely ok to wish to be with someone, but modern society doesn't support that since strong couples and families are hard to be manipulated. I hope you will not stay single and lonely, and wisĥing you to find your best friend and love of your life.
Im 40 old woman but I look very young and my son is grown 18 so i never had any problom getting chatted up i.think cos I am a home maker love to cook clean love spoil the man and treat like a king and I have no probloms also im active and bit mad and young at heart ❤❤❤ so I think look after your self spoil the man be kind and just enjoy time
Also have babies young like I was 21 married till 36 now my son is grown been.on my own to recover and heal and yet always getting asked out and I never looked for it. Again keep active be friendly smile and act like a lady my advise❤❤
@@TaxusBaccata-c4n You're definitely not the odd one out. More and more of us are around.
1. Men and women do not look for the same thing. It doesn’t make men “misogynistic” for looking for young tighter and more submissive.
Women look for usually older and confident and dominating and strong.
Opposite attractive traits. That’s human nature.
2. If an older woman is looking for a man she might have to date younger men who just want sex. Because even if a 25 yr old man dates a hot 40 year old. He’s not really gonna marry her. Most younger guys just want to date older women for the fun aspect of it.
3. Older successful women think they can have it all. Strong successful career and a good husband with family. They unknowingly have to sacrifice one or the other. You CANNOT have it all
Too funny!
@@reginasemenenko148 This what a triggered response looks like 👍🏻
@@reginasemenenko148 🧂🧂🧂
that's called reality
I'm 39 and good looking. I've had my pick of the litter throughout my life. It just keeps getting easier the older i get and more money I make. The wall is my bitch.
In a nutshell - the type of man that a 40+ CEO career woman is looking for is NOT looking for them.
Just listened to your entire book on Audible, re-listening later today. Thank you for your insight and red pill mindset, I appreciate what you've done and continue to do.
"sometimes from different fathers"... priceless 🙂
"was she the village bicycle?"... He is hilarious :-)
I've been happily married for 36 years and find this fascinating.
So glad I'm not doing the dating mill with all the pain and uncertainty associated.
You’re doing it right
So true. As a man, I don’t give a chit about women’s degrees or how much money they make.
I’m looking for a feminine traditional under 30 woman.
Under 24
@бlaster Master 🤣
@@grit1679 Ummm 24? You serious? by 24 they've ridden more poles than than the American flag. Honestly, LTR speaking... you need to catch them outta HS, 19, MAAAYBEEEE 20. Believe it or not, there are a lot of good parents teaching their daughters right, but a girl's FRIENDS get in her ears, plus social media, tv, etc etc. They've started the ride sophomore year of college. After first 2 or 3 they say "this is nothing, don't know why mom and dad warned me about promiscuity?"
1%er seeks female companion- Slim, fit, big tits, blond a plus...apply within....
For me = under 22
so glad i'm out of this nonsense. i never enjoyed dating. too much ego involved activities, games played, and manipulation. i think going out in life and having fun, enjoying yourself and treating everyone with respect is where it's at. just be and let others be. everywhere i go i have strangers just start talking to me. people make life complicated. it's not.
So true!! In the word of Thoreau: "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." Be free, have fun, and live to the fullest--(and screw what "society" says!!)
At the age of 37 I met a women of 42 years of age with 2 teenage children. We never got married but lived together for 32 years. She recently passed away from cancer. She was the best thing that ever happened to me! Its all about connection and compromize !
Pretty well spot on. I went single at 44 and have dated 50 - 75 women. The ones who thought they were more successful than myself were very shallow, definitely not keepers. I hope RUclips does not censor you, they tend to censor the truth.
They despise the truth.
@@rogersmoot6194 As do most people!!
You dated that many women? Maybe the problem is you
Fart around career women.
What was the 75 Year Old like in Bed?
COLD...HARD...TRUTH! Works both ways too. When I was 22, was an athletic, good looking kid just out of the Marines. Couldn't understand why high value women (young, attractive, agreeable) wouldn't want an LTR from me. Had to level up my status, game and financial situation. It was around 28-30 when those women started knocking on my door.
Money (and the security money can bring). It supersedes every other quality women look for in a man. There just aren't that many financially well off and independent twenty year olds. But, there are a whole lot of them in their forties, fifties and sixties, who still look okay and have plenty of life left in them. Forty year old women have to realize, they are not just competing with the other forty year old women for those guys. They are competing with the women in their twenties and thirties, too.
Being in the marines was a major inhibitor. To get to know women you need to mix with them. The more you meet the easier and less daunting they become. I went to an all boys school. Set me back YEARS in my sexual development!
Made up for it since 😂😂😂
It's sad that women don't appreciate men for personality alone. I can say as a guy, I wouldn't date a toxic woman just because they have a pretty face. How many women date asshole men just because they drive a nice car own a big house, and end up in an abusive relationship? Sad to see. That's why nice guys always finish last.
Men look best in their late 20s to early 30s. Thats why they are flocking to you when you got a bit older. 22 yr old guys still look like boys
@@ralphholiman7401 I think deep down inside they know this, and it pisses them off. They try to hide it, but they run and huddle in the masses of corporate Corporate life and the Feminist movement.
Point 2 is excellent. An over achieving woman can not compete with a cute Asian girl living in a straw hut. End of story.
and that asian girl knows the loyalty and honor for the husband, the traditional way
An overachieving woman will always be living happier and have more worth than a shallow attractive girl who has nothing goi for her but looks
@@twntyonechemicalpilots9559 who cares?
@@chadhuxington690 you realize you’re wrong so you’re pretending you don’t care, nice one💀
No I dont care about YOUR opinion as it doesnt matter little femenist. I know I am right 100%. The hunter doesnt accelt the opinion of the deer.
Rich, You're spot on with your statements/comments. I'm a divorced mother of 2 (unemployed but job hunting & hope to have a business of my own before the year's over). I personally know a few women like the ones you're talking about.
I went through a bad divorce almost a year ago. I wasn't making good choices in the men department. I did find a good guy (I met my boyfriend in early August, 2022 at the hotel I worked at & we started dating in mid-November, 2022).
I was dating a guy (unfortunately a guy I worked with) in his early 40s when I met my current boyfriend. He turned out to be a jerk & was very immature. I also met a guy in his late 30s (unfortunately, another guy I used to work with) before I met my ex boyfriend.
My current boyfriend is great & much closer in age to me than my ex-husband and ex-boyfriend (I'm 51, my ex-husband is 68 & my current boyfriend is 58).
There's hope for older women like me but it might take a while. Don't give up! Be objective when finding a guy. Hang in there!
I'm a 62 year old man who has been married for 41 years to the one and only wife, I have 4 children and 16 grandchildren. I was very young in the dating scene when I discovered that most young ladies were playing games and really didn't know what they wanted in a mate. Don't be the guy who played the dating game and slept around with women you wouldn't introduce to your friends, let alone you parents. Marry a person you can see yourself growing old with, because if you live long enough, you will grow old. Marry someone close to your age, that you share the same values and principles with, never stop dating your wife, she is like an onion, new things you find with each peel you remove like opening up a present on christmas.
Well said, and congrats, Don. You have to be lucky though. I would also add that in this day and age it's harder, as men and women find relationships like everything else.....disposable. If she leaves you, meh, you'll just find another. And likewise for her. But we all know that quantity isn't quality.
Congrats bro. You found a good thing.
Well said young fella
this advice doesnt work for most guys esp if you're saying settle down young. i would never trade the single life ive had dating for 30+ yrs for the risk of maybe winding up in a boring, terrible, sexless marriage with kids that drain your time and soul. its not every marriage and family, but 80% according to what i've seen.
You sound like a great husband like my great husband. He's 62 and I am 60. He's always going to be my one and only. I knew when I was 23, he was the one I wanted to grow old with.
Whether men know it consciously or not, biology drives us to think of women in four major areas: 1) sex - we’re universally attracted to in-shape, healthy looking women who are probably younger; 2) procreation - which what causes our high sex drive and what makes us attracted to healthy, younger women; 3) child rearing - whether you want kids or not, the type of women that would be willing to happily raise children is probably an easy person to be with; 4) companionship - IF the first three issues are NOT met, a woman’s companionship has less value than that of your male friends or a dog. We men care about our own education or success, we don’t care about a woman’s education or wealth.
Some guys do care about intelligence. Every smart guy I know does like smart girls. I think there’s something in our wiring that gets us to see some intellectual traits as positives from a reproductive standpoint, and intelligence can be one of these. But mostly these intellectual traits are things like “sense of humor” and “agreeableness” that our species values for building stronger communities. But even if a guy likes smart girls, he typically does not want a disagreeable “boss babe” type unless he’s a weak/feminine guy himself, looking for a leader.
Reason I have my 2 Labs for companionship.
Wooow - reality right here~. bravo 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Let’s add #4, which is where most career people, like myself are. There’s no 9-5, dinner at 5:30-6:00 every night with an overachieving couple. There’s after work a few cocktails/dinner, etc. There’s working late on projects/cases/accounts, etc. Climbing the ladder increases income AND amount of time required. The list of difficulties is long!
My days usually end between 10:30-11:00pm, and much later if necessary. My boss keeps even later hours and is a major reason why he is wildly successful.
@@bradleyk4144 That sounds like pure torcher, I will stick to being a loser work about 30-36 hours a week 45,000 a year self employed(construction) 3-4 weeks of vacation a year. I guess everyone has a a different definition of being successful wishing you all the best.
Lmao I drive doordash, and I can do 10-12 hours a day. Except my days start at 3-4 pm instead of 8-9 am - much more fun than regular corporate bullshit, and good prep for going hard on serious projects for my companies
Overachieving? Your (american) language is so fucked up and you are brainwashed through your language and you don't even know it. It's over-WORKED!!!!. Not overachieving. That's someting else
I disagree with the statement that men don't want educated woman. On dating app i specifically stated i want educated women university degree or PhD . Some women were offended by that requirement. I got comments like: I am good lady I only have primary school but I will be a good wifie, why don't you want me. Anyway interesting presentation I respect your point of view.
This guy nailed it! You don't know how many women I've met who fall into this category. They spent their 20's and 30's chasing degrees and climbing the corporate ladder while they "didn't have time to date". Now, they've found themselves in their 40's and 50's and trying to date the top-shelf guys. What they don't realize is that those guys don't want them! They are dating women in their 20's.
You are going to see this trend explode more and more as well. I think it has to do with timing of the generation and average age of earning college degrees and work burnout, but it's said that since 2019 we entered the age of a whole new generation of numerous Women who all the sudden have gained their degrees and success and thought they will go out on the hunt for Men. Now they are finding to their surprise that Men don't want them and they can't understand it! This, coupled with ever increasing inflation will make them become more desperate than ever, and I have personally been witnessing this where I live. All of them own dogs, often MULTIPLE dogs! They are insane!
They should totally embrace equality and date guys making $40-$50,000 a year. But hypergamy…
Even low value guys don't want an aggressive bossy woman
What’s wrong with chasing a career isn’t that what you did ? Your repeating what you here on videos you have a mind of your own come up with your own way of looking at things
You snooze you loose. 🙀
Iam a very successful businessman and I agree with this anlysis. I dont want power games when I come home. I dont care about how many degrees a woman has ( I have 3 Masters degrees, it means nothing, and proves nothing) or what level job she has. I want a loving, tactile home maker who I can have a good laugh with and to care for each other and make plenty of babies.
Many career woman are far too obsessed with their 'alleged' importance & high intelligence, are are stroppy and argumentative. I avoid all these women like the plague.
Watch Helen Fischer videos about type of personalities and love. You seem to he the dominant looking for a more feminine type. There are all types of people out there, just look for the right ones and don’t waste your time on the ones that are not compatible.
Put my Ex through school and she did me a huge favor by deciding I wasn't good enough so she ditched me and our kids . I feel bad for my kids but I've never been better with my younger happier wife .
Does your ex want you back?
I had this exact conversation w my 50yo gf just last week. She is successful and type A personality and has more rules than I can count. She argues and nit picks and complains about every damn thing regardless of its significance in terms of the "bigger picture". I told her I don't drink, gamble, smoke, do drugs. I love her 2 kids (from different fathers) and I don't look at or think of her daughter like a creep. I share financial responsibilities w her and her daughter bc we live together while she shares none of the financial responsibilities of my 2 children who live w my ex-wife. I'm generally optimistic about things while she is pessimistic about everything. Long story short, she took it all in and put it into perspective and has calmed down quite a bit. Hopefully things continue to improve but I was at a breaking point bc we fought almost daily over stupid shit. It gers exhausting and sometimes I do contemplate being single again.
They always gotta b*tch about SOMEthing....ANYthing. They just can't be "happy"
Run
Sprint
Stop being a fool
I 100% agree with what he’s saying . I’m a nurse, single, no kids 33 yo and I feel like dating even in my 30s is like shopping on a clearance rack. Everything that’s left is single dads, broke bums, or men who just want a fwb. Im exhausted with dating and now focused on getting in shape, traveling , and becoming debt-free.
You could snag a good man but you want it too quick. For an average woman like yourself, you could snag an awesome guy but you need to have patience. A guy may like you but not be in touch with those feelings. Focus on one guy you like and pursue him endlessly. He’ll turn around. If you’re just submitting yourself to the public dating pool, you have zero chance.
@@andre1987eph Thank you.
I am a 35 year guy, and i stick with 20 years girls.
Hi pretty you good? I'm Harry Seigel from NY, USA and i'm divorced and needed a lady in her 30's to date i'm 40 years old. Can we chat💖💝
Really lol. I'm 38, an RN. All these situationships and guys who didn't want to commit have wasted my time. But, I date younger men the older I get now. Usually 2-5 years younger. The closer I get to 40, the more I dip closer to 30 year old males. Because I don't have kids and I never married, I haven't aged like a lot of the other girls our age and I get mistaken for being upper 20s, younger 30s. These younger women these older men think they have actually never end up with them but end up spending their money on them. Girls in their 20s will never give up their younger years to get married to an older male without money alone being a main factor. I know a thing of two bc I've seen a thing or two lolol. We all will grow old and die alone. Take Santa in this video here for example - you're better off dating a Nurse. I've seen often times than not that older males who enter the hospital where their lives are on the line and have way younger wives end up with their wives withdrawing life support way before all hope is lost bc of money. But you do you, boo boo.
An old ex of mine wanted to get married. I told her, why would I marry a 40 year old woman with kids. If I made that kind of money I'd date a 20 year old and have kids of my own.
Amen
Bet that blew her mind.
I’ve got an x from way back in high school (I’m 41) trying to hook back up with me now. It’s like , I drive the car off the lot back then and now you’re trying to resell it to me with 200k miles on it lol no thanks
@@Dixter5150 Sure, the front end is sagging, the seat is worn out and it runs a little dry but I can get you a great deal.
@@Dixter5150 😆
And when you tell older women this, they resort to the shame, insults, guilt, and the need to be right. 🤦🏾♂️
I do also highly prioritize kindness and empathy, as well as general intelligence in women. Although now I'm married
Like Rich said, there are a lot of these 40-45 yo women out there running around saying they want a family. They gave their youth and fertility to a corporation and if something happens to them they will be replaced in a month and three months after that everyone will forget her name. "Remember that one cat lady who worked here?......Katherine..maybe.....no I think it was Karen"
BINGO !
Real talk
there’s a real story of a women named Karen regretting her decision of leaving a guy 20 years ago because she was embarrassed of his blue collar jobs.
It’s always Cat (Catherine)
LoL that ending
"A young man wants a mother, a middle aged man wants a mistress, an old
man wants a nurse."
Oscar Wilde
Does no one need an intelligent and educated 40 years old woman????🤣🤣🤣with 3 kids in college????
I am middle aged and want a MOTHER and a NURSE!!!
None of these say wife 😆
Oh he got a Mother alright. Enter the MILF.
It is true that young men fall for the motherly type. I did. When we met she was 41 and I 23. We lived very happily together for 53 years. Last January my beautiful soulmate died and I wept.
If she won't give you her prime years, then you don't have to give her yours.
Focus on yourselves gentlemen
Thank you for teaching Correct Principles. What you said is the truth "Women should preserve their value" their virtue, their chastity. I hope many men and women are able to listen to your channel. I will tell my boys when they grow up to listen to you. Thank you.
Attracted to younger females and dealing with younger girls are two different things. Most younger girls are very difficult in that they are in party phase and monogamy is not in their vocabulary. Ghosting good dudes is their playground
That's why you hit it and quit it.
@@johannesswillery7855 unfortunately i cant speak their language to get them to go out let alone bang
@@el_txserpico4501 Forget about them and build your empire. At that point you sleep with them and pay them to go away.
You nailed it . On point ☝️
Most self respecting successful guys 40+ aren't gonna want to date a 40+ year old woman anyway so that is probably the main reason. My boss is 46 years old, he's dating a pretty good looking 31 year old right now, few he was dating before than were even younger than that.
I am a single guy, make respectable money, am debt-free and have *never* cheated on a romantic interest.
Here's an insight: Earrings are the only metal body piercings that I consider tasteful, and tattoos are a turn-off.
Quit listening to your friends that think there is redeeming value in tattoos and piercings; you are unknowingly limiting your dating prospects and branding yourself as "disposable".
This!!!!!!
Absolutely. The first thing I think about when I see a women with piercings (or tattoos) is "LOSER"!
Tramp stamp.
Are you trying to speak to them or to their ego? Cz in order to speak to them you would have to go through their ego, i don't waste my time on that.
@@badguy1481 I agree. Tattoos and piercings on women are big turn-offs for me. I always wonder what they are trying to prove to men and to the world at large?
Love this video about dealing with realities not idealistic fantasies but realities about men and women,why and how we attract and relate.
Thank you for these helpful insights.
A 40 year old career woman has no use for men. And Man shouldn't step up to father a child that's not theirs. Even if she has options mostly it would s3xual purpose and not relationship. Plus she won't settle down with an average guy to make a family.. she would go for the top tier men.
A high value man takes care of his own seed…
Not another man’s left over.
For the most part a woman might say she wants a family guy, but not really. Most are still looking for the best they can get... never settling.
And that's why most of them are single.
If you only settle down becuse someone is young and beautiful that is mot love. I have friends in thier mid and late 30s with men in thier 20s in long term relationships ans have kids together and happy. They had things in comon & click. So it doesnt matter older or younger If you really like someone.
The problem is People realise later in life thier patterns & attachment styles. even People that got married getting a divorce becuse of truma Bonds. Not everyone find a healthy relationship at a very young age. So If People want to live happy men or women its important to do The work. Have The right mindset, work with the insecurites, child Hood trauma, fears, guilt, blame. Living more in The now than past or The future. And dont seek others approval. When we are secure we attract/ choose The right People for us. People could not do better in thier 20s becuse they only had that knowlegde they had back than. Thier is no limit when you can find love only your belives. Law of attraction really works. If you belive in it and not chasing or going around feeling lonley & thinking i have to have this.
It's taken me to my mid-fifties to realise that all this dating BS and mind-games is just not worth the hassle. I don't find older bodies attractive and far too many have baggage or mental health issues. I mean what's in it for me??
I am the same
A woman told me " it's not about what you get, it's about what you give. You sound selfish". Okay lady what are you giving then?? 😆
@@joemachine4714 I know what she's giving,a hard time.
I just turned 60 and am finding dating very challenging but am finding some success with younger women (30s 40s). I spent 11 years paying child-support and legal fees from my prior marriage and worked my arse off to get to where I am now. I have a nice home, a stable financial situation and good health but spend much of my time alone. Being alone and at peace is better than being with a hot psychopath.
@@newhampshirelifestyle4233
I wish to God I had been told this years ago. All I heard was I needed to go to college and get a degree before I got married. Problem is, after I got out working, I wasn't exposed to many single guys. I've also heard men complain that women are gold-diggers, so I set out to prove that I wasn't a gold-digger. I worked hard to prove that I didn't need them for their money because I could take care of myself. I've done well, professionally and am a strong, competent woman. Intelligent and still pretty even though, I've just turned 50. However, what I'm hearing is that everything I've been told and fought to overcome was a complete lie and I've missed out on the family and relationship that I dreamed of because of it.
Thank your local feminist, be they male or female.
So sorry, so sad. My son and daughter were born when I was 50 and 56 respectively - but that's something guys can do women can't. It's not fair, not at all. It just is.
Hi Christy, I'm a 54 year old single man who never got married or had kids as well. In my 25-40 dating years, independent, professional women like you always thumbed their noses at me like I was dirt! If I had to go childless because of short-sighted, conceited, career oriented woman like you, I just thank g-d there are many like you who suffered the same fate. I knew what was important in life.. Why didn't you?
Molded corroded butt exploded
start a youtube channel and educate other women not to make the same mistake.
I am a bit a counter example of this. 12 years ago I met such woman when she was 42. I was 47. She has an high income and collect houses like others pairs of shoes. On my side I am a part time accountant and earn a third of what she does. We nevertheless get along very well and have lots of fun.
I would add a #4, which is by the time men are in their 40s, they are currently married, were married and now divorced (and possibly skittish about getting married again) or have given up on marriage completely (this includes the men dating the 20-year-old females with no plans to marry).
If you like the best, freshest fruit and your grocer gets his stock on Mondays, that is the best time to shop because there is a lot of selection. The girl who waits till Wednesday to shop will find a much smaller selection, and the 40-year-old woman who waits till Friday will find there is no fruit left or only the rejects are still there.
Women also tend to have "check lists", so assume for a minute that she only has two boxes checked: College degree (20% for men) and six foot or taller (20% of men). Just those two boxes reduce a pool of 100 men down to 4 (100 x 20% = 20 x 20% = 4). Throw in the income over $xxxxx and the list becomes even shorter.
Rich, I have been watching your videos for a few years, but this is the first time I drop a comment. I want to thank you for all the information you’re providing us. I am 25 years old and last year, I broke up with an older professional woman (37 years old) after a process of learning and self reflection through watching your videos. She was a college professor, a single mother, and I almost made the mistake of marrying her. Breaking it off with her and letting go of that relationship was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done as I was struck with a bad case of oneitis. I can now look back on that decision with an immense level of relief that I can’t even properly articulate. I’m progressing in my career, building my body, and realizing that I have more dating options than ever before. So much of what you said in this video rings very true to me now that I can see things more clearly. Thank you.
Good move dude. When you are 58 she will be 70!!!!!!!!!!!!
You should thank God! You dodged a bullet. She's a piece of work and why would you want to put your resources into another man's offspring?
Had a similar situation to yours.
Crazy how different my brain worked when I was with her, can't believe the struggle I had leaving her.. Feel huge relief I got outa there now.
Have a great new year
Similar situation for me. I was 25 and she was 42. But she’s the one that had oneitis for me. Pretty soon after we met she started talking about long term and settling down.
It was difficult to break up but easily one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
And to a younger man an easy older woman is called practice. When we are young we have to work hard to look ugly (and some young women are achieving this) as we get older it comes naturally, so don't force it ladies, the ugliness will come. All good and accurate points Rich.
lol
Agreeable is the key word.
Submissive women are feminine.
Feminine energy is attractive to men.
Masculine women are a turn off.
Clashing confrontation and bossiness are very unattractive to us.
Age is nothing but a number. Attitude is everything
LOL, 2 years separated you've just described my ex to a "T". At the time I was shattered but now 2 years down the line I have come to understand that she actually did me a huge favour.
it's called dodging a bullet!
I dated a woman once who had an MBA and a six-figure, executive level career at a Fortune 100 company. But it wasn't enough.. She taught business classes part time at the local community college, sat on the board of 2-3 non-profits, AND she toyed with the idea of another degree "Because it would be good for my career!" ..So needless to say her calendar was full, and she would literally pencil me in for an occasional date lol. We hung out occasionally for a couple of months and didn't even progress to sex, and I eventually got tired of being worked into her schedule, so I broke it off. Which SO pissed her off too, and she actually told me "You're just intimidated by me like all the others!"
Right... not sure how wanting to be with her = intimidation, but whatever.. Goodbye.
I dated one who competed with me at every turn, but the straw that broke the camel with this one was where she slipped and referred to our relationship as a "project". Then I realized why she was 50 and unmarried.
she doesn't want to create a space for a man, you got out early, eventually she will wake up when it's too late
I dated a medical doctor for a bit. Very nice woman, and in no way am I generalizing here. She kept wanting to apply her research, data, and statistics to love and dating, which became a little annoying after a while, and I had to keep reminding her that nature works differently. I ended up breaking it off with her because she decided to play the numbers game to oncrease her odds of finding the best guy by dating others after we had already become intimate. It's a game I don't play once intimate, so you might say her analysis backfired. My point is that the so called corporate women may end up applying their career lessons rather than life lessons to dating, comma and it might work against them, However it may not actually define them as a person though so give them a chance!
Sounds like she was emotionally unavailable
Not every single woman in their 40’s falls into this description. Some were in a LT relationship with someone or an organization or had health issues or any number of reasons why they are now single. Many women in their 40’s take extremely good care of their health and well-being. Many are kind and loving and giving. Not all are “ball-busting” or “disagreeable”. These generalities are really not fair and are rather disgusting - more of a comment on the men who are making them and not a reflection of the ACTUAL kind, loving women who can offer INFINITE goodness to single men their own age. Peace
I’m 42, Dating a 27 year old right now, I’m having a great time, no old cougars for this guy, I simply refuse, I read your book Rich, and I bought two other copies for my bros who read it too, it’s all true, thanks for writing it.
Don’t forget your viagra!!! Lol 😂
Enjoy it men I’m 45 dating a 29 year old woman
I'm 30 years old now I want to marry with 40 year women please suggest me
It's so sad that this needs to be explained to women. They've been pandered to so much, that they didn't even want to learn what is attractive to men. It's shocking for women at 40+ to find out that men don't want another men in skirt competing with them next in bed. You look at the profiles and it seems like a competition amongst women at who will be less attractive to men. All of this sass, disagreeableness, etc makes them simply unfit to any relationship, left alone long-term relationship with a man.
Feminism teaches women not to do something for the express pleasure of a man, so why bother hanging with them then!
@@John_Smith100 Whether it is femenism, their own solipsism or just laziness is really irrelevant. The result is the same. One way or the other women choose to be unfit for relationships with a man until it's too late and there's no going back.
100%
@Not Convinced Oh Well, More Dog or Cat Moms. Buy Dog, Die Alone Type. Nobody said to avoid them completely, just be aware that they probably are not good for an LTR. That's All.
As a FEMALE friend of mine once said: "Men and Women should NEVER live together! Next door...MAYBE. But.....NEVER together!" Words of Wisdom for ALL of us!
I feel really bad for the hotties in their 20’s. Once they hit the wall it’s gotta be a 100% different lifestyle for them. To go from so much attn to zero would be really hard!
it’s already bad when they’re taught to predicate their entire sense of self worth on how sexually attractive they are to men
dont feel bad for them. they deserve what they get. too busy chasing the meat heads and players to notice "the nice guys" who are the better catch. I should know, Im one of the nice guys!!! lol
@@GP-fw8hn lol I feel you brother. I am def a meat head and I agree with you. These women out here falling for me and it never works out for them! 😂
@@GP-fw8hn i really dont understand peoples thinking this days. Its like they cant read People and show empathy. Doesnt matter man or woman. People with no cleairity they make more misstakes. If you live based on truma, attachment or fears and insecurites. If you hurt yourself becuse you dont feel enough. Becuse you wanna feel important or feel vallidation or what ever reason it is or to feel at ease with pain. People need healing but takes time to wake up. Attachment styles & attraction can just stoop without doing The work like healing. And I seen both men & women having attachment styles chasing People that isnt good for them. Its all comes down to child Hood. So before we judge & have to blame & revange People know this. People are all humans. What is important to wake up and change our lives.
@@GP-fw8hnattachment doesnt go away only becuse you want that girl. People get rejected it sucks & it happens to many People both men & women. Doesnt mean we should look down on people becuse of it. Part of being human. You cant force someone to like us. We dont choose Who we like. Some things csn change like attachment styles. But some things csnt. If you dont feel chemistry and attraction and similar values and safe and home with a person. No one should settle for someone they are not sure about becuse they cant get better becuse think If they do. People should genuine like someone. We should not hate on people or wish them bad becuse of it. Man or woman. Your life should feel happy not forced.
Such videos seem to support some of my evaluations. I enjoyed watching it. New generations of adults around the world are mostly empty, some of them are very good. Women between the ages of 30-50 are really self-centered. They don't know how to take responsibility, they just act like they are wasting time and their husbands are responsible. If they were truly exposed to as much stress as men, they would not live longer than men.
I'm 50, my ideal age range is 35-45. I seriously don't care about her income, her degrees, her education...I care if she can match my energy. Not be a piece of shit...I know, I'm asking for a lot.
I'm 34 :)
@@20maxilo LOL, nice 👌
Good luck w that
@@donpeace894 i know...😆
Why would any high value man want a 40+ woman when women 18-25 all over the place throwing themselves at him ? 🤔
I'm not sure what world you are living in..must be living in a third world country..An 18 year old wanting a 40 year old man😁
@@darrenmacwhirter1706 :He never mentioned age. He said a high value man. But, the video mentions a 40 year old woman. Many men in their 40s are married or divorced. I’ve been married 20 years. It’s pointless to marry a woman you can’t have kids with. But, at my age(46), 18-25 is way to young.
What is a high value man anyway? Lol I see ppl are brainwashed with these narratives a lot
@@katarinaj.6830 How do you define a high value man?
Young women don't typically want an old man unless hes mega rich. I'm 26 and I have no intentions of dating anyone over the age of 40.
Femininity is so scarce, and only getting scarcer as the younger generations come by, that I immediately fell for my ex whenever she displayed a few drops of her feminine nature. I was so starved of this energy that it completely overwrote her unattractive appearance (To my standards, she just wasn’t my type and chubby) and I saw her as the most attractive woman. Ladies, if you’re not pretty, there’s one secret weapon for men. Which is genuine femininity. Men can tell if it’s fake. I guarantee you, you’ll pop on his radar since women are more masculine than ever.
Same thing applies to men--masculinity is very attractive.
I’m 35 and I can count the feminine women I’ve met on one hand lol.
@@jessier.4237what’s masculinity to you and what you like about it?
@@abelflores5976 A masculine man is someone who demonstrates leadership qualities, prioritizes the well-being of all individuals, not just his family, and is financially independent and supportive. He is a critical thinker, physically fit, and capable of protecting. Additionally, he is articulate, intelligent, and adept at communication as well as very confident and prepared for all situations.
NOW THIS is the real reason successful women find it difficult to meet men.
Wow this video was on point. This guy nailed it. Younger women are harder to talk too than older ladies, because they are still younger and have value left and they still have some growing up to do as well. They think they are the most beautiful women in the world and when they are like that, that makes it very challenging for some guys to try to talk to them because they have put themselves high up on a pedestal. Now once they've turn 40 or 50 some of their value have dropped and they have been through more now they are more easier to talk too, but like the gentlemen said in this video some men around their age don't want a woman in their 40's or 50's they want someone in their early 20's. Now some men like older ladies because they are more mature and have been through enough to have learned how to act and take care of a man. So I would strongly recommend dating older if you want something more serious and effective and someone who will return your texts before the next day. Also if you're in 40's or 50's don't be afraid to venture out and date a younger guy. So long as he is legal. Who knows you both could hit it off better than you could ever imagine.
As long as you aren't looking to start a family, I totally agree. I am a senior and have always been approached by younger men, (like middle age and up). I look young, am traditional and feminine, never aspired to be a boss lady but am financially okay. Currently in a serious committed relationship with a man 9 years my junior I met 2 years ago. He tells everyone how much he loves me and how happy he is with me. I would like to hear this blogger's perspective after he has aged another 25 years.
@@kathykobos8980 Congratulations on your relationship. It sounds as if you both are happy with one another. One thing I can say about you is that you was willing to give a younger man a chance to see how he was and by you doing that you found someone that cares about you and that don't mind that you're nine years his senior. I believe age is a number and I know that's a bit cliche but I feel as if it's the truth. It's about the connection not the few years of age difference so long as the person is legal. I hope you great success in your current relationship.
When you said, "men aren't attracted to degrees", this really hit home. I have a good friend and I have tried to tell her this so many times. She wants a family, a husband and she is constantly depressed over it all.
I've flat out told her that every year she exists, to those peer men, she has less value. I've told her she is not the table, and at this point if she continues she'll just a broken table leg ready to be thrown into the landfill. My wife of 20+ years has told her the same thing. All her married friends have told her this too. Nothing we say gets through to her.
She gets pumped and dumped all the time. She is approaching 40, a lawyer, and what is she doing to get what she wants? Nothing. I say nothing because instead of getting serious about a man, she is perusing another post grad program in and unrelated field.
She likes to blame her past trauma, her history, the patriarchy, and everything but herself and her own actions when she is literally the problem. She doesn't prioritize relationships with men that have any meaning and self sabotages every time. She acts like she is in her 20s still. That is why she is a single, left over woman.
Don't talk about her like that. Most older men are utterly disgusting to look at. You are all shaming women as if older men are all that. You are all bunch of wrinkly old farts with beer bellies hanging over you. Get a life. 🤮🤮🤮🤮
Yet here you are utterly failing to refute a thing I said and hurling insults.
Sometimes you can’t help everyone, at least you warned her
She belongs in therapy. No other way.
if she wants to blame the Patriarchy, which doesn't exist, then it proves she is not a very smart person
As a man, I could tell you I don't make compromises. I do what I want when I want. I'm fine with being alone and if a woman wants to tag along that is fine too.
There you go !!
Single older women have a tendency toward bitterness and negativity.
The wall defeated them and it's over. They know it.
same with married older women, that are angry that their husband still has a libido
Yes, I re connected with my ex. I'm 51 she is 59. We ate lunch but the day went ⬇️. You can not live in the past. Sometimes women change. After 50, women REALLY change.
@@DavidLLambertmobile they are fiery blossoms at 20. Then steaming dung piles at 50.
And single older men tend to be happier
I am 36 and honestly, the reason why women may be single at this age is simply because we have learned how to feel good with ourselves without needing validation from a man, which is a recipe for disaster in a relationship. I am genuinely better alone than with someone that doesn't resonate with me. I don't need a man for anything, if I choose to be with one he must add value to my life.
Yeah that's called feminism
Listen to yourself and there's your answer.
First thing 4 you to wrap your brain around is this.Woman was made for Man, not vice versa!
Exactly the point of this video. Women feel so insecure that they are constantly trying to prove to everyone they don’t need a man. They never stop trying to prove it until they find themselves 50 and alone still working to support their kids. Imagine men trying to prove to the women next to them on any given day that they don’t need her… I’m pretty sure that’s seeking validation..
Don’t give up on love, it’s worth the heartache. I am 60, stayed married since my youth, now glad to have the support of my husband because of my ongoing health issues. Don’t just think “I am fine now”, where will you be when you are 60? Same rules apply for men. Healthy relationships are more than a feeling or a “value-adding option”.
100% correct. My experience with older women is that they have an attitude that they are "untouchable" and make themselves very difficult to approach. When they can't find a man, they immerse themselves totally in their careers and become bitter and twisted. Even my mother warned me about spinsters! On one occasion I was friends with a woman of 48 when I was 44 and the one time I tried to make a move and said "are you attracted to me as much as I am attracted to you?', she reported me to the boss for no reason. Go figure! Needless to say that was the end of the friendship and she remains alone. What gives?
Word to the wise: To put my .02 on a thought from the video... If you ever see a woman describe herself as "Independent," (dating app or whatever) don't walk, RUN the other way. For many women, chances are they won't EVER fully partner up with you, because they want it their way, and only their way. Especially if they have been on their own for a while. It only gets worse as they get older. Men's definition of independence seems to be altogether different than a woman.
Just came home from a friend's wedding, the bride was hitting on me!
Guys, 2022, do not trust women.
you should of put her on check playboy
should've got her in a compromising position--baM! drop the curtain so friend can see what his new bride is, get marraige annulled. guys need to protect guys
@@jdsartre9520 Life doesn't work like that.
Jason= confirmed hottie.
The guy is in "lived happily ever after" mode.. no one listens. Wait for the first year to be over and then the doubts start creeping in. I went thru the same thing many years back. I too would not have listened to anyone who was trying to help me .
I’m a 45 yr old woman who was married and had 3 children with a man 16 yrs older …. Now lm engaged to a gorgeous man 10 yrs younger… it’s not really about age for me it’s about connection & emotional maturity.
Are really is just a number
Yep, so men never grow up.
@ziplokk1453 wow your dramatic !!! We drifted apart as a lot of couples do and he settled with a new partner well before me.
You have obviously never been married or had a relationship lasting over a decade otherwise you would know what drifting apart means 🙏
As a tall, muscular male doctor in his 40's, I 100% agree
Men are men
Women are women
We want what we want
No matter at what age we all are difficult..
And thats the bottom line
Women on Tinder
"Own house, own car, good job"
Wow that is such a turn on.....
Said no man ever in the history of mankind.....
More like inherited.... or daddy helped pay off or still paying the mortgage on or car note on or won in a divorce settlement.
@@jaxxbohol6475 exactly pal....
Own house-no sweetheart the bank owns your home😅🤣😅🤣
@@jagz6794 Most of women's dating profiles are "loaded" and you have to read between the lines.
The sad thing is she does stand out compared to most women. Most are living with their parents, with roommates, or on welfare.
However the question arises as to how much does she actually own ? or will she need help with the mortgage and car note.
So should women settle for a guy who is living paycheck to paycheck so he can bum $$ off of her? That's not manly, it's a turnoff.
@@jessier.4237 what do men have to do with it? The subject is about 40+ women being single...men in this space aren't interested in dating other men
All this works if you consider your partner only as an object, a thing. Something you can only use for a short time and then exchange for something even more attractive and hotter. But man is something more, he is the universe. And everyone is looking for someone who can ignite a spark inside them, looking for it based on their inner feeling, their experience, and inner intelligence.
Reason why I like your channel is because you don't beat around the bush, you're not trying to be politicly correct, you speak the truth
they all just throw out "im making 220" a year. as a former executive search guy i can tell you 1) that is the level that C officers in either very large companies or public companies make and there are just not that many of them..2) those people tend to have exceptional people skills as they have had to lead large groups and individuals over many years to achieve difficult goals- so they wouldnt be totally mystified by relationships and 3) people at that level "know the game"- they know that they have fewer choices and arent going to marry the pool boy usually-... so sometimes i wonder what these women are really up to?
IMO; age is like a sliding scale, so it depends. At the same time, the things most valued are faithfulness, comittment, respect, integrity, maturity, common interests, and love no matter which gender. It depends upon what you value most: sex, money, power, etc... What you value, is what one wants. If you want the right one, you have to be the right one. Otherwise, it's just all a waste of time, money, and emotions.
Brutal to hear but true. Once women hit menopause and realize that they have lost their power over men, they can go on one of two directions. Either they embrace it and focus on what they still have to offer or become bitter. This also affects men when we realize we are invisible to younger women as we age.
If a lady in her 40's, or older has climbed the corporate ladder, and become successful financially, many of these ladies have acquired male traits to get to where they are. So an older successful guy, doesn't want a woman who is dominant and bossy. That would be like 2 bosses living together. Doesn't work.
She needs agreeable man. But those men are very rare.
This maybe only a small sample. I have 3 sisters and my Wife. My youngest sister just got married at 25 to a guy she was dating since she was 21. She is figuring it out still and my Older sisters got married at 21 (Now 38) and 25 (Now 36) and I married my wife at 25 (Now 41) All of them had a family THEN climbed the corporate ladder. Me and my wife had our last child last year (Yep 18yr gap between No.2 and No.3) Seems to be the way to go. No divorces and seemingly decent life. Brother in Laws aren’t wildly successful but all are just over the $100k mark. I retired after 20yrs in Navy and now Medic/Firefighter. No step kids at all. I would say that 40+ corporate woman wouldn’t even give any of us a 2nd thought. That is not the way to go if you want to have a family.
Side note Myself and My Wife are in great shape for our early 40s and we have best healthcare coverage there is and it was still high risk pregnancy. Everything came out okay but having kids that late is risky. I am blessed but I would not recommend that.
No man in his 40's, making over $100K, wake up one morning and says, "Today, I'm gonna go find a 40+ year old woman with kids or no kid to settle down."