When women complain about men not approaching them, what they mean is tall, rich, attractive men aren't approaching them. Anyone else is considered a "creep" or "harassment."
Sad but true. No matter much decency or empathy or respect or patience a guy like myself has I don’t have a 6 pack nor am I 6-7 feet fall 😂. So i sadly fall under that category of being a creep😢
Exactly. That guy was tall, beautiful and had "business vibes." That is the guy women want to approach them. If I had gone over to talk to her, she would be making a video about "how dare a man approach me when I had my ear buds in and hadn't even looked at him."
This is exactly why men don't approach anymore. I could tell from the onset before she started gushing that if a normal guy like me said hello to her, she'd be screaming rape.
Even if I saw a woman without earbuds on, I have heard women too much say just because they don’t have earbuds on, doesn’t mean they want a guy to talk to them. I’ll always think that now. Women have made it clear, no going back now
All a woman has to do is say hello. She couldn't even do that. She has no game. She's also forgetting that if she finds him instantly attractive. That means other women do too. So he's got options. Which means he's not applying for a position, she is.
Women generally don't have "game because they don't require it and never have. However, you're right that all she had to to is say hello. It's really not complicated.
C'mon man, you know that's not true! Women: ''Average'' man leave us alone!! Women: Chad, PLEASE don't leave me alone, approach me, come and flirt with me!
Absolutely. No one cares how attractive you are when you have a tik toc personality like that. I'm sure the women a man like that is into would make all of us want her. Not this one by a long shot.
@BellaVita100 YUP. He's probably "been there, done that" when he was younger and he's refined his tastes now. It's funny how women think that not being physically ugly makes them super attractive to all men 🙂
She projects a lot. Maybe the guy was just having coffee, and then went home to his wife. I never understood why women think that men would inherently be interested.
Cause they always chose the men that have options and expect him to like them cause she’s “interested” they don’t think about the man’s feelings or wether or not he likes her
No it’s not. You can be just a normal looking guy and have a conversation with most women. This women is very shallow so she’s a bad example but most normal women who are well adjusted usually won’t have a problem talking to a regular Joe. The only men who get treated like this are sloppy unkept men who give off weird energy
@@beambooi6431 Thanks for just showing how blatantly clueless you are or got biased experience. During any day of the week I would get 25 to 40 % of women I would walk across and simply said "good morning" to, and sometimes with a little waving gesture, to respond by making a "disgusted" face. I get that I am not not attractive, yet considering I say the same to anyone that crossed my path, it seems to be a slightly offensive way to respond, so you can imagine sitting down and having a conversation would only increase that percentage substantially. Also, your ability to simply have a conversation with most women does not mean they did not think you were a creep. You were most likely just not crossing their threshold for what would be considered "excessively creepy".
As a 45 year old guy just getting out into this new world after a 20 year marriage, she definitely does not look very approachable. Assuming she's wearing the same things, she's got so much bling, the way her hair is done, and the crop top...All gives the vibes "I'm into very superficial things like height, financial status, etc."...Then she opened her mouth and confirmed IT ALL.
Yeah she gushed about the guy’s looks and his “business vibe.” That and her style screams high maintenance princess. These women go for men not for who they are but what they are and can do for them. And I agree that if she looks like this in public, she doesn’t look approachable. Actually I’ve noticed that a lot of women in general don’t give off a very approachable vibe, even when they want a certain man to talk to them. I don’t know what’s happened in the past 10 years or so, but most women just look very unfriendly in public. Finally, this video of hers shows yet again that women have no game.
Yep everything she said was superficial. Guy is gorgeous, best looking guy ever etc. This is the equivalent of a man lusting after a Victorias Secret bikini model he sees and wondering why she didn’t notice him. Very shallow women. He avoided a train wreck.
Yup..what’s the % of guys 5’10 and above? I’m 5’7 😂 it’s just a different era now sadly..before pandemic it was totally ok to approach women. Somehow after pandemic women are just not interested to be approached. It’s all dating apps now sadly.
@@alextanguay5886 Covid just happened (by design or otherwise) to coincide with the extreme leftist taking over the country. I don't think the two are a coincidence though. Look how many far left causes became main stream during or since that time period.
Guy was probably having a coffee, pondering, before starting a stressful day at work. I've done this many times myself. The coffee break was his only peace for the next 12-14 hours.
I could've sworn that communication was a two-way street. She had the open opportunity to say something to him, but instead waited for him to spark up the conversation. If you ask me, it's her loss.
A lot of women are terrifies of rejection because they think Men will bang anything (which can be true sometimes tbf. We all know that guy). So if they get rejected what does that say about them?
15 years ago I was 23 years old. I used to ride city transit to a welding shop when I was an apprentice. A really attractive girl used to take the same bus, and she got dropped off at the graphic design shop next to my welding shop. One night my work friends wanted to go to a club near the area the shop was. When I arrived, I went to the bar to grab a drink, and I noticed a girl next to me looking up at me. I looked over at her and she gave me a big smile. It was the girl on the bus. I said "Hey, you're the girl on the bus" we talked for a bit then she said she had a huge crush on me, but was too shy to tell me. The guys in the welding shop came up and introduced themselves, little did she know we all talked about her at work, and they even tried to convince get me to Introduce myself to her while we took the transit. We started dating, she was 19. She was from a small town in Northern Canada, and had just moved to the city for work. We have been married for 11 years. Girls like her are very rare, she is traditional, and feminine. If women want to find/keep a good guy, they have to put in effort as well.
This should make me feel good, but your story further makes me realize there is no hope. Good for you, but I felt bad in the end. Congrats on your marriage.
@TheGlo0m I've had my share of heartbreak as well. Had my high school sweetheart move to that same city as me. She ended up working at a restaurant and cheated on me with a bar tender dude. That moment changed me, I was pretty crushed. From that moment on, I didn't put up with mediocre low quality women. Ended up dating a few more people and ultimately ending things because they were not good people. It may take a while, but my best advice is to work on yourself, build yourself up to be the best version of you, and hold women to a higher standard and don't allow bad people into your life. IMO try to find a girl with a strong family, good values, and from a humble background. farm girls, and small town people seem way more down to earth
@@azthar congratulations on finding your wife man, you have children with her? But how do you avoid all the women like in this video that only look for superficial things like height and money once you do get a good job? I'm not going to get ahead of myself or anything by already imagining myself with a 6 figure job, but are you supposed to just lie low and try to stay frugal with money?
@andyjin1453 I went to trades school and became a welder. If you get into the oil and gas sector, you can make big money. Trades school was free for me in Canada, so I did 3 years in total. 3 months of school, 9 months of working as an apprentice for your 1st year, then 3 months of school, 9 months working as a 2nd year apprentice. Then 3 months school, 9 months working as a 3rd year apprentice, then I did my red seal welding exam and became certified for Canada wide. I was making 100k per year when I became a journeyman. Now I'm a welding supervisor for a big oil company making 250k per year. If you buy a welding truck and work as a sub contractor you get between 100-130 dollars per hour in the oilfield, 12 hour days, and up to 24 days in a row. They put you in work camps, so food is free, and accommodations are free. Don't bother paying hundreds of thousands for university, then being broke trying to pay back they money with a job that doesn't pay. That's my advice for you, trades workers are needed everywhere, people have no idea how much we actually make lol
They WILL talk to him ....if he's a Chad. Do you think that if DiCaprio walked into a room full of women that they would A) Just stand or sit where they are and wait for him to approach them? B) Throw themselves at him the moment he walked into the room?
It’s also just juvenile. If the man is tall, handsome, and adorned in business attire, he probably doesn’t find a pouting simpleton with a Cali valley accent all that interesting.
Women always give the most uninterested behaviors and expect us to still approach them... how in the world does not having earpods on makes you ''approchable''?????
Why would we pursue women, when pursuing is no longer fun or exciting. But rather full of fear. I’d rather not hear women call me a creep a thousand times.
Most men don't approach because they rather meet the woman through mutual friends which is socially safer than approaching a random woman and be called creepy
It's pretty much always been this way with strange women. Men who used to "pursue" women were doing it in environments where it was to be accepted, ie a party.
couple days ago I read a story about a guy who was accused of SA on a woman. The women just said bs accusations over and over and over. Then the man released an audio recording of the situation, which proved he was innocent. The law says, in my country, that you are allowed to do audio recording like this (without asking for permission).
"What would signal to you that a woman is interested." It's 2024. The *BARE MINIMUM* is her _saying she's interested_ , and, even then, I would ask where the hidden camera was.
yep, sometimes i just wanna drink my coffee in peace, lol....because even if you're confident and mature, rejection is going to sting, i mean unless you're a complete psychopath
@coater31 the funny part is that even if these broads were giving guys hints, 95% of these guys would still be too pussy to approach a woman that hot. 🤣 But I did like your comment though. 👍👍
The woman I am dating now is not the prettiest on the outside. But she is the most down to earth. My son used to bring home some stone cold beauties when he was younger. He usually moved on within a month. He wound up marrying an older gal who was intelligent and down to earth. She has substance. Sex only takes up a small amount of the relationship. (Well, once you get past the honeymoon period) The rest of the time you actually have to engage each other in conversation. The young men in my family have figured this out. For men, the "alpha" on the female side are women like Courtney. Humility goes a long ways. Wisdom goes all the way. On both sides. I suggest subscribing to her channel and learning from her. Pearl is pretty good too. The young woman in this video is stunning visually, and I wouldn't hesitate to ask her out if I were single, but I doubt there would be anything lasting in the relationship. She should have asked the man where he got his shirt, or shoes, or haircut. Then complement him if he asks why. Let things go from there.
It's not that they don't give hints in their mind... she removed her ear buds... they don't give hints in reality. They think a common extremely small action is a hint. Something like "I walked by the guy 3 feet, or 1 meter away" as a hint. Your just supposed to read her mind from the other room, behind a wall, wile she is talking on the phone to a completely different person. Get a hint...
I'm just so done with women at this point that even when one is just straight up staring at me my first thought is "What the fuck does she want" and I just end up leaving
She wants you to validate her, so that she can then justify thinking that you're a ''creep''. The bottom line is this . If a female is not throwing herself at a man in the same way that she would throw herself at the male actor, pro athlete, musician that she secretly fantasises about , then it's highly likely that she's not into him.
@@yeldarleumas1847 I can only think of 5 instances in my life where a woman was throwing herself at me, all the other times it’s just like getting called cute and then being rejected and then I’m like “why the fuck would you even call me cute if you didn’t want me to ask you out???”
@@diegobrando6115 ''“why the fuck would you even call me cute if you didn’t want me to ask you out???” Yup! Happened to me too! That's why I no longer bother!
Why are lonely women more likely to make tiktok videos asking “where all the good men are” than they are to actually approach a man and ask him out? Who are they to complain about men being lazy?
As a tall man who is an engineer and fairly good looking I get a number of looks and smiles from women but I generally won't engage with a stranger. I'll be civil and polite but that's normally as far as it goes. The best way to meet people is through your own circle of friends where you know the individual can be trusted as what we can see in this day and age one can easily be lured into a trap.
I am in a very similar boat man, but I've found I never need to engage with strangers. Women get my number from friends and reach out to me. I haven't had to approach a woman since like 2012-2013. I find it funny that women think men are going to approach them when half their friendsi are chasing us. I feel bad for the guys not getting attention, but women are so easy now that its almost comical.
@@Hannib4lBarcaby signs you mean signals/hints right? Looking at someone isn’t a hint that you want to be approached, it’s something everyone does daily. We don’t know because these women give the most subtle hints that they expect us to understand and mind read 😂
I'm so confused. For years I was taught that aproaching random women because I find them atractive is harassment and objectification. Now people are calling men spineless for not doing that 😂
There’s players, spectators (thirsty dudes) and the ones that aren’t even sitting in the arena. Be the ones not in the arena at all and living your life on your terms, not being controlled or manipulated and ENJOYING your life 👍
Here's the thing. Even if a woman does drop lots of signals -- smiling, even talking, flirting, she'll often still reject the guy. She just wants an ego boost knowing the guy likes her. As a guy though, eh, whatever, that's just how it is. The woman I married is the first woman I didn't have to initiate EVERY step with. She initiated one of the first 10 steps. That's the winner.
Yes absolutely, people can be shitty both men and women and lord knows it's all happened to us, I had this exact thing happen to me with girls I was interested in and one I wasn't, for ones I did like it made me bitter for those I wasn't interested in, it was just whatever lol
I've taken the initiative in situations like this and have caught women off guard. I think they didn't believe I'd actually ask them out. It'd be the ol' "Tee hee hee, I sure do wish someone would take me to this event this weekend" to which I'd reply "How about I pick you up at 7:00?" Then it'd be "Oh, I'm busy then, washing my hair all weekend. Maybe some other time tee hee hee."
@@dycedargselderbrother5353 It's good that you did that. And yeah, you'd just have to tell them directly "I'm serious, and I'm dropping hints that I'm interested." Because that's how men's brains work. We're quite direct creatures.
Oh hell yes! They do it so they can know that they've "still got it", that they can still pull a dude. For women I think it's like catch-and-release fishing. Once they know that you've taken the bait, they cut the fishing line. You go away with nothing to show for your efforts and they go away smiling to themselves, thinking, "Yup! I'm still marketable!" Women pull this garbage all the time. And there are tons of videos where they admit to doing it. It's a recreational activity for them. So why should we take them seriously when it's so pervasive?
I've rejected about a dozen over the years even after giving me signals. I'm glad I put them in their place and made them question their own self-worth even if it was for a brief period of time. Better than showing interest and finding out it's all a joke and feed her ego, or worse, get meetoo'd down the road. Mid-30's and can proudly say I've never once given validation to a woman.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
being a well rounded good person is a better bet for finding a partner worth sticking with. Theres no point trying to be someone your not and trying to trick someone into liking you.
There was a girl that I thought gave me signs, caught her looking at me and quickly looking away and was sitting relatively close to me within a few seats. Approached her, and she seemed like she was put off and quickly darted away. Thought to myself I must have misread things and she probably thought I was a creep. Several months later I was talking to one of her friends who was telling me she was disappointed I did not ask her out, I asked why didn't she respond positively and acted like I was a creep and ran away the first time? The answer was she wanted me to chase and wanted me to see her as someone worth pursuing...Yes, this is actually what went through her mind. I told her to tell her friend that she is mental, as the way she wanted a guy she was interested in to act/pursue is the same way that guy may catch a charge or be labeled as an actual creep/pervert and have his reputation ruined.
So many young women are simply...just stupid. A lack of sense, like they want to feel drama and feel like in a tv show every time a man approaches them. Like they have no anchor whatsoever in reality. Ladies beware, that's a MAJOR turn off for men. I had one girl who done me quite the same thing you've experienced. She was always in my "orbit", always came to bathroom whenever I was there (so we were alone, but never approached her there, LOL, just superficial talk if you could call it that way) but whenever I have approached(to be clear, it was only 2 times with weeks in between) she gave me negative answers or negative behaviours. Then again, she started looking more and more at me, she even was staring like she was jealous whenever I was talking with other girls. For me now it's clear how should I "operate".
Men are used to fear of rejection. It's our entire life. It's fear of criminal charges or Tik Tok shaming we're not interested in dealing with. Bed made, lay in it.
So many examples of strange women, or even women you thought you knew, being complete trainwrecks and messing up a guys life. That's even before the issue of divorce court and how most women stop having sex after marriage. Are you going to go out on a limb for some girl who probably has been on OF, Tinder Mega-chad'd (pg language here) and is an IG or Tik-tok "influencer". Easy pass.
literally almost all people give "don't worry about rejection" advice to us men so like, yeah you will have to learn to not fear rejection. Honestly being single or one night stand is better than chasing after relationships. There are exceptions but exceptions don't make the rule
LEARN to spot high interest then you wont get rejected, LEARN to NOT listen to Rich POOPER, fresh & FRAUD, Rollo and the likes. A lot of blaming on YOUR part. Have you even done anything on your part to EARN a girl? WOMEN on a whole are a result of YOUR SUCCESS, NOT the other way around!
One thing that always kept me away was the threat of my being perceived as harassing her. A "hint" could just be an accidental choice of words, a momentary facial expression, whatever. Doesn't mean they're flirting; doesn't mean they're interested. It might just be a fluke. I just wasn't willing to risk being accused of harassment, so I didn't respond. Much to the disappointment of some women... but it just wasn't worth the risk. So in most cases we never connected, which was often painful... for both of us.
In a day and age when most men are accused for being creeps and perverts for just looking or walking by, don't expect anyone with a brain to act on anything.
So, if you are polite and respectful of just other people in general, especially women they think you are either gay or uninterested and nothing happens lol damned if you do, damned if you don't
FALSE this only applies to C and B males, aka the 1-3/10 and the 4-6/10 dudes. Men who are at minimum 7/10 in looks, and/or have money and a great physique that are tall and charming or daring badboy rogueish good looks whatever. Yeah those guys? That is group A. That is the group yall keep looking at me like some fucking piece of meat and an ATM, it's disgusting. C makes have literally no capacity to conceptualize how I feel as a man that is routinely stared at by women. The stares of white Americans are different. I don't even know how to explain it, there's something warm and genuine and welcoming in all the other groups of women that is completely absent from white American women, it is an almost predatory gaze that white American females have toward me. Which is even more hilarious when so many depending on the outfit, how I carry myself, where I am etc may have their nose in the air, look at me with hostility and suspicion (I also now wonder if some of them see me as a pump then dump guy, nope,which makes the second reaction funnier) then as I proceed to blithely ignore them start doing weirdo stupid shit like staring at me nonstop until it freaks me out or I think they're a tool. Like, ugh you wish. Wait why isn't he looking. I mean, don't look at me. But take a peak. Hey how come he still isn't looking. LOOK AT MEEEEE and I never will approach you, and I will set up barbed wire around myself in my man bunker I converted my mancave into to guarantee you will not approach me. Part of the horrible problem is, depending on social environment, you can NOT allow any woman to prove you are safe to the rest. After that you're boned, there's no coming back from this once one proves you as desirable and safe to the rest. Notice how I literally reverse engineered fuckboy manpill bullshit as one of my final measures to get women to leave ME alone. We are not you dude. You've got literally no idea how I fucking feel, as a man who's been desired enough women will leave their bf for me, lie to him, try to feed me substances to impair my judgment. All I wanted was to find my soulmate. Raise a family. Be a good husband and father. I just wasn't given the best protips on how to do so, wasn't around the right people, wound up smoking weed wearing a leather jacket, like I believe in God I didn't want to be this way it just sorta happened because I was weak and I wanted to make friends. Now I am jaded and alienated. And I also got YOU fuckers staring at me too, with paranoia, fear, hostility, suspicion, like if you truly believe your girl would fuck me, you basically called your lover a h03. In which case, maybe she should. If you're that insecure, maybe you should be. Maybe you should be more confident in HER moral calibre, and stop basically judging her and impugning her own character. But among the various things I got sick of in seeing males comment their dipshittery on dating videos (I was considering reentering dating after being absent from it for years, clearly seeing how women behave keeps putting me off and I really hope all the immigrant women get a clue and realize to NOT act like the white Americans, they are the ones being blown off) is the stupid assumptions yall make about "the chad" "the badboy, that asshole" yeah I'm the asshole. Three hour phone conversations I am the asshole. She's still texting me and being my friend years later, I am the asshole. Women don't stay friends with assholes. YOU'RE the asshole. Because all you wanted to do was fuck her and make yourself look good, all I wanted to do was be close friends with her and that's probably part of why she tried to fuck me. "Emotionally unavailable men" motherfucker to YOU I am not emotional FOR YOU since YOU don't do it for me, it is only your narcissistic fragile ego that is so fucking stuck around the concept this man legitimately does not have sexual or romantic feelings toward you, since you are so arrogant and/or insecure you act like every male must be willing to put it in and I'm simply not, it's funnier since yall also whinge constantly about men and the nature of men and loyalty and romance novels and finding that guy who'll never look at another woman, the problem is, YOU are not that special person in this man's life, YOU as a woman are like all the other women he doesn't look at, because you aren't his soulmate, you aren't destined together. That's how it is. Another thing these butthurt males shitpost nonstop is the harassment/fear of rejection stuff, making themselves reflect on me mother Fer you are not me, you do not represent me, I do not represent you. I'm tired of the nonsense and the bullshit of secular modern white American females, sick of it. The games, the woowoo, the entitlement, the arrogance, the conceit, the contempt, the manipulation, the lack of concept for privacy or boundaries or my own emotional needs and wants. At the worst, I am just openly disgusted by many of you all, and while part of it is surely you being fuckbirds on tinder and OF or whatever and another part is radical feminism and white American entitlement, another component is I do see and observe the way you interact with other males and females and it turns me off. When I see a woman being kind to that shy wallflower or the girl who feels ugly, it is a turn on. When I see a woman treat guys like human beings, that's also good though in fairness if a woman is super loud and extroverted I'm paying attention since you're in friends-only territory (I exclusively date quiet introverts, literally if you broadcast your voice across the office on your first week, all I'm asking is she safe to be platonic friends with, my sexual interest in extroverts, "confident" women and loud women is literally zero). In terms of the males butthurt about this, see it from her perspective please. I do. Because I get bothered by men and women constantly when I am too "safe" to approach in public. They have every right not being bothered by you all. The harassment thing? Yeah. Don't touch them. it's not friendly, it's not hot, I as a guy despise it when men touch me I can't imagine how it feels being a woman having you all pull that shit with them. Don't make comments, don't touch them, if she's clearly not interested, drop it.
@@MrIkOgNiTo she’s just sharing and experience that she was attractive a guy and he didn’t find her at tractor but maybe he wasn’t in the mood to talk at the time. Who cares will they move on? It’s not that big of a deal and it’s nothing wrong with her for sharing.
@@IVvOOvVI Just because a girl is attracted to me doesn't mean she even qualify for me... Imagine on top she also expects me to approach her and she complain if i don't. It's everything wrong with her sharing. Imagine being so attention seeking that you believe you have to share nonsense like that with the world.
It's not rejection that makes men cautious approaching women, it's rejection with hostility. It's the making the man appear as some monster for simply showing interest in her. If a woman wants the man she is interested in to approach her, she need to be okay with the men she is not interesting shooting their shot as well.
I don't think this would help. It might have a decade or two ago, but we've all seen so many women be so heartless on social media that the average woman appears to disdain our existence by default. I know a handful of genuinely nice girls that are never mean in how they reject guys, but even they aren't getting approached. Men have been told by the girls with the megaphones to just stop, and we did.
Exactly. I asked to finish our conversation over coffee sometime because I was busy and I knew she was busy. Long story short she panicked and the sent an email to my supervisor complaining. I left that job. The boss wanted me to report on my coworkers who might try to get to know customers and meet up outside of work. I'm no snitch and what we do is our own business.
@@KBowWow75and it's obvious the guy in the coffee shop was avoiding exactly that type of complaint. If you want to talk to me, you will need to talk to me.
There in lies the issue. As men, we have no way of knowing which women are decent and will politely regect or which women are insane and will scream at the tops of their lungs for validation and simpathy until it is too late.
To me it’s not her rejection. What if the two of you are alone in the same place? The relationship ends on your terms? She doesn’t like what you said? The court will uphold whatever she says and you can end up getting thrown in jail for literally nothing other than spoken words. There is no accountability for falsifying anything. Have proof she lied?My lawyer told me “I’ve gone up there (judge) with 9 pages of text messages, and they don’t care”. Freedom isn’t what it used to be, as I now have child support and alimony, but it’s better than jail. The next best thing is getting out of this country and going somewhere that the court has an objective viewpoint on relationships and families. Not incentivized division of families for the sake of boosting the economy. Evil society we live in.
Story Time: I used to see this beautiful girl at the gym for years. She never smiled or showed any sign of interest-she actually looked focused and even a bit annoyed at times. After the gym closed down, I randomly ran into her at a bar. To my surprise, she came over and said, "I remember you from the gym. You were my gym crush. I told everyone there that I had a crush on you, but you never approached me." I couldn’t believe it. I was so frustrated-if she had only shown the slightest bit of interest, things could’ve turned out so differently!
I'm a bus driver. There's a woman that rides my bus often, and her and i talk about alot of things. I would love to go out with her, but I don't wanna make the first move because if i have misread her intentions, it's quite possibly my job, my livelihood on the line. It's not worth the risk! Too much to lose!
you're definitely right on that one, and even if you start dating, what if it turns out that she's a sociopath and decides to make your life hell, in today's environment, she's ALWAYS right, no matter what, she can smear your name and you would have no recourse.....so better not mix work with personal
Bro you're absolutely doing the right thing by not making any kind of move. That situation has the potential to go south very easily. And the juice would definitely not be worth the squeeze.
Bro I’m having this same problem. I’m concierge at an apartment building and there is a girl that lives there, we talk occasionally and have even smoked a J together. I offered her my number the other day and told her to txt me so I would have hers, she handed me her phone right away but I haven’t heard from her. Not sure if I should mention it again or not next time I see her (if she doesn’t start avoiding the front desk cause I misread things).
Modern women want men to be mind-readers as they drop the most subtle and hard to pick up choosing signals. Insane. Only the hard times to come will humble them.
I thought about looking at you, how come you didnt get this clear signal?!??! I sent my saggitarius mind waves into the universe on a full moon and didnt get back the vibes. Its giving dropped call.
@@hyronharrison8127 Exacctttlyyyy. Don't forget that we're supposed to be "equals" til it's time for men to do the approaching and courting. Crazy world.
It's incredibly sad how women would rather turn to social media to talk about something like this, or their relationship issues than to do something about it or talk with their man. This and talking to other "guy friends" about problems in a relationship are huge red flags
Yep she looks like the type of girl who's more interested in her social media than having a real dating experience....says the guy who's commenting on comments on RUclips.🤔
The thing is, all women are very inconsistent with their signals. I've had women that wouldn't look my way, wouldn't smile at me, or acknowledge me. (they were trying to be aloof) and later confessed that they really like me. They wondered why I didn't shoot my shot. I've also had other women grind on me, touch me a lot, grope me, and when I asked for their number they got mad at me. And everything outside and in-between those two extremes. So, it's not that we can't pick up on signals. It's that if is isn't a "HELL YEAH" It's a hell no. The women that have be able to get with me always slid in my DMs, asked for my number, or straight up told me they liked me. You risk your reputation, being called a creep, or getting rejected. The juice just isn't worth the squeeze.
Exactly. - they want plausible deniability. The ability to say they didnt ask for this....they hate being stuck with the fact that they chose. Its an implicit lack of accountability to keep their beloved almighty *options* open
I still call bullshit on the whole creep thing. Never seen it person, never been called a creep. Been rejected before. Men just need to grow some balls, stop believing the social media nonsense and making it out to be worse than it is, and just take rejection as it happens or accept being single. Just a bunch of pansies.
The last relationship I had was a few months ago with a Ukrainian girl that came here as a refugee as a result of the Russian invasion. Ended up being a total gold digger, never again will I date one of those materialistic Ukrainians!
If you want us to know you're interested, fucking talk to us. So many guys have been rejected countless times they've been conditioned to think nobody wants them romantically. So they've just given up
you can tell based on “her type” that she is not ever going to approach an average man like us. Her approaching that man wont change a damn thing for you or for me.
Yep. I've been rejected countless times too so I have just given up on dreams of having a girlfriend or even family one day. It's much easier to just give up and endlessly getting rejected and getting the feeling that you are not wanted by anyone. Also when you give up, it's much easier to live when you don't need to constantly waste energy into thinking what you should be next and how you should improve yourself next. It's actually a peaceful life when you give up and be a quitter.
oYes but also could be poor communication by him. Men need to learn that women send subtle signals of interest. Men seem to not be good at picking up on them.
She sure didn't have any problem blabbing on Tik Tok! If she would have put just 10% of that effort into starting a conversation, she would have gotten somewhere.
Imagine being in your 30s, then in your 40s, then nearly 50 and STILL waiting for a man to approach you... Ladies, shoot your shot before you're COMPLETELY INVISIBLE to men.
As a man, i have lost all confidence in reading female body language. So many times i have misinterpreted and probably came off "creepy", when at other times female friends literally shook me by my shoulders, not being able to believe how i could not see that this other woman allegedly had the hots for me (after all, she lifted her left eyebrow for a millisecond while her right foot shifted 5 degrees - how could you miss that?!). I am quite social and like to approach people, but i never approach women unless i have a reason to (like at work or sth.) or know them beforehand. I have heard so many women say how it´s scary and disgusting to be approached by men. Luckily, i got to know my now-wife at work, so i knew she was not disgusted by me and comfortable to talk to me. If i wasn´t married, i wouldm´t approach any woman i don´t already know, but have them approach me or at least send a very clear sign (try smiling at men!). Last thing: When women say they want the man to make the first move - is it because they think it is "sexy" or is it ACTUALLY because they don´t want to expose themselves, don´t want to be rejected and don´t want to do the work? Be honest!
As someone who makes 50k a year and 5’6 living on my own I don’t even stand a chance with what women’s standards are now. I’m basically invisible. And when I do actually find someone that’s interested she’s got one foot in the door and one out looking for better options. This sucks dude
No. Get out of that mentality. I've seen plenty of shorter guys with taller, good looking women. It's definitely real out here, but if you're genuinely looking, don't sell yourself down like that.
Because of their overinflated egos, it doesn't even occur to women that they may not be a man's type and that he has absolutely no interest in them, rather than lacking confidence.
It's another case of double standards, women are allowed to have preferences when it comes to dating but men are suppose to drool over every woman they see.
I'm only 21, I've already given up on women 😂 they're hopeless and have unrealistic standards & expectations. They're all after the same guy who doesn't want them back.
The ONLY indicator that a woman is interested in me is if she actually speaks to me. If she doesn’t speak to me, I’m going to assume she wants nothing to do with me (and this is coming from someone who is 6’5)
We default to the belief that we've had instilled in us since we were kids: We are barely tolerated at most by the fairer sex. If she isn't talking to me, she doesn't want to talk to me.
I grew up ugly looking, and so women would do anything to avoid accidentally sending signals of interest to me (e.g. looking anywhere to avoid making direct eye contact). I've improved my appearance a bit (still more to work on) and get treated differently now. But to be honest, I think if a woman was to make direct eye contact with me and smile my first reaction would be to presume I have something in my hair/clothes she is staring at. The idea that she would want me to approach wouldn't even cross my mind because of the mental conditioning from growing up unattractive and being treated like I was invisible.
This 100% lol. When a girl shows signs of interest, my knee jerk reaction is to assume she's just being friendly or saying things just to make me feel good or its some elaborate prank. I've had girls give compliments on my attire. I just say thank you and go my way, lol.
I'm like this too. I do occasionally pick up on signals but don't know what to say to develop it further so I either look uninterested or indecisive/inexperienced
The handkerchief thing really is the key. The best relationships I had were always initiated by either her talking to me directly or her giving me a clear sign that she would be okay for me to make the first step like waving or initiating conversation. Now I am married with kids to the woman who said "I like you, would you like to get to know me? No drama btw."
As an average guy, I have absolutely given up on approaching women. Rude, arrogant, etc on a repeated basis. Or they just look at you like you are a plate glass window. Good Luck.
3:54 You and that arrogant woman in the video seem to be pretty confident in assuming this guy she was talking about missed his chance and opportunity and must have really wanted her but got discouraged due to some miscommunication or insecurity. Is it possible for you to fathom a guy could just have no interest in her? Maybe he's married. Maybe he's gay. Too much main character syndrome going on these days. I see women make these assumptions about guys in the "gym creep" videos, too. Most of the time the dude isn't even doing anything, just working out and acting normal while these crazy harpies are filming him and assuming he must be secretly lusting after them.
I was wondering the same thing man. Who knows right? Too many assumptions. I like the main character syndrome. So on point. It's all in people's imagination and in this case hers. If nothing happened than nothing happened. You can write a 1000 page romance novel about this encounter completely from imagination. All these attractive girls feel like they are entitled. She probably has nothing to offer. For all we know she might have just been looking for an ego boost. So cry me a river but nobody cares is what I would have told her lol 😅
If I were her, I would use the opener, "Hi, I would like to meet you!" Flirting is always ambitious. If someone flirts, doesn't mean she wants to talk, more so meet. If men is focused on work or study (like most of lone people in cafes), he may not even notice flirting from someone. Well, at least now I start conversation...
Not worth the squeeze guys. Most of us are being ignored and rejected no matter how put together we are. Most of us belong to the "bottom" 80 /90 percentile.
You're completely correct but my caveat is that Western women can safely be ignored. The risk is not worth the reward and they have absurd standards mixed with toxic feminism. There are tons of great women outside the West and there's one for literally all of us.
Tbh, being in high end of the distribution comes with a lot of baggage as well. I would advise against online dating. Period. Especially a platform like Tinder is hell. Meeting people in real life will give people generally much better results. In that sense, it is not necessary or necessarily desirable to be in the top 10/20%.
@@LpSC2online What a preposterous thing to say. That's like saying it's not desirable to be in the 10th to 20th percentile in terms of wealth. The miniscule number of downsides there are to being attractive are dwarfed by the upsides. Also the fact that you have a sci-fi profile pic leads me to believe that this is a cope more than anything. The only correct thing you said is that it's not necessary to be in the top 10 to 20%. It just makes it much harder.
@TLPWRlifter wealth is not the only socioeconomic variable. And yes, I do think it might not be desirable to be in the top 10% to 20% of people women deem in that position.
I pursued a girl back in July. She said yes when I asked her out, sent me ideas for the date, sent me her address, she texted me quite a bit & even sent a few good morning texts. Only for her to cancel the day before and then I found out she was involved in something serious with another guy and she was actually planning the date with me when she was with him at a music festival. It was a harsh reminder to not pursue until you know it’s clear. But to answer your question as to what makes a girl seem approachable is if they simply strike up a basic conversation. That would signal to me she is interested in something about me, especially if she is a stranger.
That's a good example of why many men don't bother. This chick is already in a relationship but was ready to date you. Monkey Branching. She is another 304.
@@alextanguay5886indeed. If you never shoot your shot then you always miss. I've always regretted not asking but never regretted asking and getting rejected.
Women are players too unfortunately... They'll lead guys on and drop the rest once they've chosen who to be with... Hard to trust anybody with that behavior...
It stands out to me most that all she really saw in this man was his physical looks and business energy (income) and immediately decided the he was ‘her type’.
Women are even more shallow and deceptive than men. At least men will admit that they prefer a good-looking woman. But women will pretend and/or deny that looks matter. The woman in this video really exposed herself in that regard. She about as superficial as 99% of the women out there.
@@brandonlamb9067 Everything you said here was an assumption, based on your personal bias. There’s a difference between an assumption and an observation. I suggest you look into this differences between those two concepts more thoroughly instead of making condescending comments that aren’t accurate. Cheers.
Yes how else is she going to judge a man before she even speaks to him? Obviously on looks, don't pretend you see a girl and are attracted to her personality. Physical attraction is a starting point for further connection.
I really appreciate your constructive, patient and empathetic approach to these issues, Courtney. Great video. I met my fiancée in a real life situation, never went on dating apps. She actually approached me, and I did have some trouble understanding her hints at first - we still laugh about how timid I was at the time. So in my case it really did solve the problem that she as the woman approached me.
I used to make moves all the time. Got rejected a lot, had some success. Fast forward to now: I have not tried to talk to a girl romantically in a long time. I’m just tired of the same story: I find a girl attractive, I talk to her, if she’s interested we start hanging out, things are going well…. Until some slightly hotter, slightly more charismatic dude comes along and *POOF* she’s gone. I get over it rather quickly, but it gives me depression for a few weeks. I’m too focused on other things for this crap. If a girl wants me, she’s gonna have to make it VERY obvious, otherwise I’m not going to waste my time or try to gamble.
then she gets dumped/freaks out on him since he's hooking up with at least 2 other ladies, then she wonders why men are all assholes and is just as single as you. Bai lan.
Life hack, don't marry an American woman, this culture has absolutely ruined them. I met my wife who got here as a teenager, she's the sweetest person I've ever met. But don't do mailorder lol, not the same.
@@davesimon8524 3S gravitate to 7s. This is absurd on their part. Absolutely disgusting. But stop using the feminine way of arguments and start being stoic. It's okay to admit logical things. You ever see the hilarious h* math channel? He goes over it statistically and reveals as much--that they are crazy but date 7s. Like we need to be better than the other side. I didn't even white knight for them and still get the emotional response. Sigh.
@@Kamui.. All women want Chads! You can find a hot woman but at an older age when she has been plowed by 100 men. Are you okay with that? LOL. 2024, USA
I can only speak for myself: Women should just be clearer if / when they're interested. I have neither the time, nor the inclination to try to interpret / elucidate subte signs or body language.
Women dont want to be clear. They get their power of subterfuge my keeping you guessing or trying read their smoke signals. If you guess wrong you can get fired or jail time.
I live in Canada and almost lived this... tiktrap is cancer xD. "Birdbrains" is a thing. I didnt ask for a phone number (I never learned to turn a genuine conversation into something I personally want it's very odd... I truly wished my "ex" was considerate and understood a fraction of what I represent so I wouldn't have to learn this, but... I think it's also the only thing I actually need to do... talk talk like I do and just remember to ask for a number.. shouldn't be hard, but I'm an idiot). So I saw her again and assumed she had found a dude because it takes 1 week if they're not repulsive (sadly...). I had in mind to just go apologize about That. I did and she started a small talk. I did that too and she eventually turned to: "why did you ask for my phone number to her friend?" I frowned and couldn't even remember that I talked to the cashier and made Her smile without even trying.. I was just being nice... like I am to Everyone. I kinda Had to talk to the cashier, though? I looked at the girl and couldn't really grasp how that was possible since I had not done that... hence me talking to her just to apologize that I hadn't... maybe it's because of the apology and I didn't need to, but... I genuinely thought she wasn't single anymore etc you know how we get in our heads and they dont use theirs? Well I probably responded "What?" And that was it. Idk if she walked away or I did after I didn't get a response, but it was a bit annoying. Among the maybe.. 7 girls I've spoken to... I've failed to ask their number as I don't really... see them? The other day I spoke to an old woman and remembered the conversation I had with her 8 months prior... and kept myself from making a parallel for obvious reasons, but... I'm so used to not wanting anything for myself. Fake confidence? Perhaps.. I do think confidence comes with competence, though... and, while I wouldn't be found lacking in most circumstances, I just can't seem to be bothered to ask for phone numbers...........
@@Dawnarow You need to learn how to express yourself more clearly, because I have no idea what this word-salad is saying. Write full thoughts. Complete your sentences. Use paragraphs. You bounce from thought to thought so fast that this is essentially meaningless.
I remember asking my counselor/therapist if its weird to compliment a girl and ask for their contact. He told me that it is okay as long as we respect their boundaries if they say no. It is "creepy" if we INSIST after they say "no" / "its ok". I was pretty nervous because as an Asian, approaching girls isn't a common thing. Most people are conservative with the exception of some, or it depends on their personality (extroverted etc). Was getting food at the canteen and I saw this girl and decided to just ask. I smiled, told her she was pretty and asked if its ok to get her contact. It was surprising that it worked so we ended up going out a few times! Though we didnt get into a relationship, I think fondly of the experiences, learnt a lot and as ultimately as Courtney mentioned, its about trying! I'm still single now, developing and growing as a person. Hope everyone here finds someone who you love and loves you back! I also remember for few of my male friends, their girlfriend(s) confessed to them! So it is really quite up to individual!
"I know that rejection is scary" => no, dear. Getting smashed on all social media as a creep, losing job and possibly going to prison IS what's scary about "rejection".
@@Rockownz5150 Except in America we MUST drive in order to survive. To earn a living, to get groceries, to go or do anywhere or accomplish anything it necessitates driving as a necessary evil. Dating isn't exactly necessary.
@V.D.22 I don't know the actual statistics but the fact that there is still a stigma against a rape accusation where it should be placed at the conviction stage, does not help. From personal experience though, I can say it is really bad. Not only do I personally know someone who has been falsely accused and got robbed of his college education even though he was immediately proven not guilty, I once dated a girl who later (after breaking up) went on to falsely accuse a guy who was incredibly lucky that his girlfriend immediately came out with the proof that she is a liar.
Maybe the dude was already in a relationship, was just taking the seat he thought was the best available in the shop, and/or just wasn't interested. He was there for 30 minutes. After him not engaging for 10-15 minutes, it's clear he wasn't going to strike up a conversation. If you're that interested, sometimes YOU have to be the one to make a move.
@@NothingToSeeHere-mb3fw Another distinct possibility. In that case, she can still speak up if she's so interested she posted about the encounter to countless TikTok followers
From a mans perspective (im 32) Taking your earbudds out was never going to work. Even a woman smiling at me is just not enough to say she might be interested. Heck I shoot a quick smile at most people coming by me. Men don't take "hints" they take what they can objectively see. So if a woman strikes a conversation with you *when she didnt have to* that is more or less where I would think *MAYBE* she could be interested, and if she flirts well then now I know, and I can join in. I definitely think most men do not want to be the 'creep' that women talk about often, and that dramatically impacts how often they approach. Men are more anxious about being the creep, then being rejected.
IMHO, it is about how you do it, regardless of sex and gender. A lot of people do not have proper soft and social skills anymore, this is hurting them greatly. A lot of it is due us outsourcing problems conveniently to the internet, much unlike older generations. Generally, when approaching somebody in public, it should always be done in a respectful way that and in a manner that leaves a healthy amount of distance. It is like people skip a few steps, getting straight to what they want out of them, instead of just enjoying the moment and seeing if there is something there in that moment.
@@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp From experience, that ain't true. Honestly, lots of people don't have the social skills anymore to pull it off because they let it atrophy in the digital age. Why would you ask somebody for e.g. a number if you cannot even understand if somebody sees you as attractive or not. It takes a bit of practice to get that right. But you might see, how that comes across if somebody is clearly not into you, but you keep pushing for a date/phone number anyway?
I've noticed a trend. When women say "where are the good men?" and "why aren't men dating anymore?". They never ask a regular GUY these questions. It is always some "expert" of something, or women. Regular guys have been telling people WHY for almost a decade now, but no one cares or the information is disregarded. So guys have just given up. When a person is mocked, derided, belittled, or outright ignored after trying to explain for so long. Is it any real question on why men have chosen simply to leave??
and it's always the good one that fall through the cracks and the criminals and bad guys that get all the attention, they really do want the bad boy, most the girls I have talked to always tried to turn me into one
What makes a girl approachable to me as a man: When you say hello to them & they don't get that look in their eyes that says "I'm being fake nice & polite right now, but what I'd really like is if you could get as far away from me as humanly possible". Ya know, just for starters
Advice to women.....if you want a man, YOU make the first move!!!! A woman who refuses to make the first move is letting her PRIDE get in the way of her own happiness, which is a HUGE turn off to men. My wife was the one who asked me out. We've been married for 16 years now. Ladies.....get your shit together!
Yeah, what happened to "liberated" women who are "strong and powerful"? They are so powerful and liberated they can't even smile and say hello to a guy they find attractive?
In a women’s world attention is the coin of the realm. Even if it comes from a guy they’re not attracted to they can brag to their friends about the “creep” they had to fend off as if to say “what’s a gorgeous woman like me to do”? They’ll never admit it but it feeds their ego. When you deny them that attention they freak out.
I wonder if we can draw a corollary to this: as attention is the coin in the realm of women, I wonder if that is why they are so hesitant to spend any of it.
I have had this happen to me in the Netherlands. I was standing on a packed bus when a lady told her friend that I was groping her from behind. Her friend told her: "just say something, say mister what are you doing?" I got so afraid that I didn't know where to put my hands. I had literally put my hands in my armpits. I'm a 6'3 heavyweight kickboxer but I felt helpless and afraid in that moment.
😂😂exactly, like when you’re at home and are hungry but you don’t say anything to your mom, what is she supposed to do if she does not know you’re hungry ?😂😂😂or you want the mom to come out of nowhere with food
in that 2nd video where the guy sat next to her, what she didnt know is that she was the victim of corporate espionage and the guy worked for a competitor and wanted to know what her company was doing. but because she was so focused on the thoughts of attention or getting asked out, it never occurred to her that she would be the, apparently willing victim of, corporate espionage. its called "shoulder surfing".
What’s with all the ego though? The dude sat down had his coffee and dipped. Why should he have “shot his shot” quote? Can’t a brother have a cup of coffee without the expectations?
I'm 57. I don't give a shit anymore whether women like me or not. I am focussing on making me happy. All women want men for sex and financial support and I am damned if I'm going to be a walking breathing wallet for some freelancer who has nothing to offer me. I have found my past relationships to be toxic and/or unfulfilling and I'm never going there again. I used to be needy of a girlfriend to make me happy and I was wrong about that. They mostly brought misery and aggravation. I'm better off alone. I have my own home, I'm totally independent and I will be very comfortable come January when I take semi-retirement. Any woman that takes an interest in me will be held with great suspicion as to her intentions. I've seen men destroyed in divorces and it's not going to happen to me!
from what I have seen after 55 yrs of life is that most of em just ain't worth it. There are some exceptions of course but from what I have seen a lot of men would just be better off being single . When they say for better or worse during the marriage ceremony, the majority of women only mean the "better" part from what I have seen.
In my experience, its not only the rejection, it is that men often will not know whether they are attractive. This knowledge is embedded in little girls from an early age (princess on board etc), but boys just will not be told whether they are attractive. And women , until they are into you, will certainly not let you know they find you attractive. Many of us men therefore go through life thinking that, as we cannot assume atractivenes, we cannot assume a positive response from a cold approach; we all know if they think we are ugly we are automatically a creep.
This is a very valid point. Even if you are an attractive man. I think Women really cant comprehend how little men get compliments from anyone other than their mothers. Especially in comparison to the average woman. There is a reason so many women classify themselves as "10's." Because even a mildly attractive woman gets told shes pretty or hot or beautiful semi regularly. Even in relationships Men get way fewer compliments on our appearance than women do. So no matter what, as a man you really don't ever fully know who would or wouldn't find you attractive.
Women let the attractive dudes know they are in obvious actions or just by saying it. If you're unsure as a dude then you're not. Or not very. Had it when I was younger and they let me know it. Lost it when my hairline went and I got a bit pudgy. There was a massive difference from their actions and looks. Kind of got it back when I started taking fitness serious and shaved the head but it's nowhere near what it was.
If you tell a guy he’s really hot, he’ll be looking for a one night stand, because you have set the ground rules for the relationship. If you want to have a relationship, you can start an actual conversation.
The other thing we’ve learned is that life is so expensive, that virtually NO women are single. They all have boyfriends footing the bills, and are usually looking to monkeybranch to someone taller, better looking, and with more money.
Women are concerned with being hit on by men they dont like. Men are concerned with hitting on a women that dont like them. Men not approaching without invitation is respectful. Women dont need to approach they just need to provide an invitation, a smile and a wave hello is sufficient.
@@redwall1521 yes it does. A smile does not, a smile AND a wave does. Its an active invitation saying you're open for conversation. This is because its something women almost never do with men.
Bullshit, women will drop those 'invitations' and have zero intent for it to actually be interpreted as an invitation to anything. Women are the last thing but clear with their intentions.
3:35 as a man who is shy (and knowing that that is an attraction killer for women) she would literally have to hold up a sign that says „Come talk to me!“ 😂
Finally! I've been waiting for you to come to this realization and say it out loud for a long time! The dynamic of dating has flipped and many men don't feel safe initiating contact. It's still on guys to move things forward, but only if you ladies give men a very clear green light, like purposely dropping something or saying one complete sentence to start things off. Once he knows you're interested, he won't be afraid to make a move. Men aren't afraid of asking you out, they may be nervous about rejection, but what terrifies men is the thought of what could happen if she has a very bad reaction to a simple hello. For him, he's risking a possible police incident, pepper spray and a ruined reputation for simply trying to speak with the wrong woman. Not all women are evil and hyper aggressive, but because they exist, and courts give them the time of day, men won't risk it. So now it's on you ladies to get creative and find a new, novel method of signaling your openness to men in general. And while you're at it, find a way to shame these sour women who are ruining the game for everybody else!
Why should us guys chase masculine girls? Not worth the effort. Just a waste of time. I'd rather ride my motorcycle. The motorcycle ride is alot more fun.
Correct yo you spoke exactly what I was thinking yes these females are masculine and guys don't want to chase or purse that for example if I do something respectful for a female I notice they always respond your so nice but when they say that it makes me feel as if they don't respect gentleman like behavior
Yep, exactly what I was thinking. Guys of that caliber are rare and they undoubtably get all the attention they need from women. She should take a number and take a seat.
2:00 notice how she was salivating over the guy but didn't have the forward thinking to say hi to him? If women want men then they need to do more than play games, most men aren't even looking anymore.
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When women complain about men not approaching them, what they mean is tall, rich, attractive men aren't approaching them. Anyone else is considered a "creep" or "harassment."
Sad but true. No matter much decency or empathy or respect or patience a guy like myself has
I don’t have a 6 pack nor am I 6-7 feet fall 😂. So i sadly fall under that category of being a creep😢
@@rumrunner8019 preach brother preach!!!!🙏
Exactly. That guy was tall, beautiful and had "business vibes." That is the guy women want to approach them. If I had gone over to talk to her, she would be making a video about "how dare a man approach me when I had my ear buds in and hadn't even looked at him."
This is exactly why men don't approach anymore. I could tell from the onset before she started gushing that if a normal guy like me said hello to her, she'd be screaming rape.
Absolutely correct.
Dang, if women get an A for effort for just not wearing earbuds....the bar is buried 6ft deep 😂😂
Only for women.
Even if I saw a woman without earbuds on, I have heard women too much say just because they don’t have earbuds on, doesn’t mean they want a guy to talk to them. I’ll always think that now. Women have made it clear, no going back now
But she made such a huge sacrifice and took such a massive risk by taking out her earbuds.
We all must bow to her enormous effort. 👏 👏 👏
Nailed it 🤣
Once you notice that a woman’s idea of effort always involves ZERO effort, it’s hard to respect them or take anything they say seriously
Mad how she said “tall and businesslike”. Every woman is chasing the same man
Correct those men have more options than women.
And on top of that - there’s different kinds of business. They mean an aesthetic they’ve been fed more than a systematic male reality.
And so? It makes sense to be attracted to that kind of man
Don’t forget “gorgeous”. Most superficial and unrealistic criteria ever.
We see them, if they wanted too they would.
It’s gotten so bad that a woman could tell me I’m hot as hell and id think it was a joke.
That is as bad as women calling a man a nice guy and to a man would think those women just called him a loser whom they would not date.
All a woman has to do is say hello. She couldn't even do that. She has no game.
She's also forgetting that if she finds him instantly attractive. That means other women do too. So he's got options. Which means he's not applying for a position, she is.
Not every guy girls find attractive has options.
@@slartibartfast2452 but yes, all a girl has to do is say hello, or maybe just look at a guy slightly longer or wave/smile.
@@ImBrockatronyou’re delusional if you think a man like she was describing doesn’t have options
Women generally don't have "game because they don't require it and never have. However, you're right that all she had to to is say hello. It's really not complicated.
Agreed, why can't she just smile and say "Good morning"?
Women: "leave us alone!!!"
Men: *leaves women alone*
Women: *Surprised Pikachu face*
C'mon man, you know that's not true!
Women: ''Average'' man leave us alone!!
Women: Chad, PLEASE don't leave me alone, approach me, come and flirt with me!
women: RBF
Don't be too accurate now 😂😂
@@yeldarleumas1847 fair point
@@prussianjaeger13 🙂🙏
She struck me instantly as a high-maintenance barbie who thought she was a big deal...He has choices,and she wasn't it.
exactly!... man up and ask him
Absolutely. No one cares how attractive you are when you have a tik toc personality like that. I'm sure the women a man like that is into would make all of us want her. Not this one by a long shot.
Boom. This 💯
@BellaVita100 YUP. He's probably "been there, done that" when he was younger and he's refined his tastes now. It's funny how women think that not being physically ugly makes them super attractive to all men 🙂
She talks way too fast. I'd be warn out after that message.
She projects a lot. Maybe the guy was just having coffee, and then went home to his wife. I never understood why women think that men would inherently be interested.
Cause they always chose the men that have options and expect him to like them cause she’s “interested” they don’t think about the man’s feelings or wether or not he likes her
I can safely say that guy in the coffee shop dodged a bullet.
Very "business minded "
Some women pursing Men. Brave Women would definitely Start a Conversation with A Guy.
Too much trouble
$$$$
Literally
If she didn't think he was tall and handsome he would be called creepy for approaching. That's why
If she didn't think he was tall and handsome he would be called creepy for just sitting there minding his own business.
True
No it’s not. You can be just a normal looking guy and have a conversation with most women. This women is very shallow so she’s a bad example but most normal women who are well adjusted usually won’t have a problem talking to a regular Joe. The only men who get treated like this are sloppy unkept men who give off weird energy
@@beambooi6431 Thanks for just showing how blatantly clueless you are or got biased experience. During any day of the week I would get 25 to 40 % of women I would walk across and simply said "good morning" to, and sometimes with a little waving gesture, to respond by making a "disgusted" face.
I get that I am not not attractive, yet considering I say the same to anyone that crossed my path, it seems to be a slightly offensive way to respond, so you can imagine sitting down and having a conversation would only increase that percentage substantially.
Also, your ability to simply have a conversation with most women does not mean they did not think you were a creep. You were most likely just not crossing their threshold for what would be considered "excessively creepy".
On jaws
As a 45 year old guy just getting out into this new world after a 20 year marriage, she definitely does not look very approachable. Assuming she's wearing the same things, she's got so much bling, the way her hair is done, and the crop top...All gives the vibes "I'm into very superficial things like height, financial status, etc."...Then she opened her mouth and confirmed IT ALL.
Yeah she gushed about the guy’s looks and his “business vibe.” That and her style screams high maintenance princess. These women go for men not for who they are but what they are and can do for them.
And I agree that if she looks like this in public, she doesn’t look approachable. Actually I’ve noticed that a lot of women in general don’t give off a very approachable vibe, even when they want a certain man to talk to them. I don’t know what’s happened in the past 10 years or so, but most women just look very unfriendly in public.
Finally, this video of hers shows yet again that women have no game.
Yup! If she was single, she's not going to give an ''average'' man a chance.
Don't listen to what they say, watch what they do.
Agreed, not my type AT ALL. Dress like that in public = nope.
Same.
How old do you guys reckon that woman is?
Late 20s or early 30s? At any rate-too old to be wearing those and behaving like that 😢
kindness of a woman, a smile, a word is what I would like what a woman could do to start a connection. Openness.
A well-known philosopher once said, "Men will never understand women. Women understand women, and they hate each other."
- Al Bundy
Amen 😂
Legendary.
That great thinker of our time also said :” that’s not the dress that makes you fat , it’s the fat !” al Bundy 4 tds in one game
Lol the man, the myth, the legend warned us for years.
“We all go a little mad sometimes.” - Ted Bundy
Women chasing top 1% men 😂
Hats off to that suave man for throwing her off handle 💪
Yep everything she said was superficial. Guy is gorgeous, best looking guy ever etc.
This is the equivalent of a man lusting after a Victorias Secret bikini model he sees and wondering why she didn’t notice him. Very shallow women. He avoided a train wreck.
Yup..what’s the % of guys 5’10 and above? I’m 5’7 😂 it’s just a different era now sadly..before pandemic it was totally ok to approach women. Somehow after pandemic women are just not interested to be approached. It’s all dating apps now sadly.
@@alextanguay5886entire lockdown these chics were on social media.. at least 12hrs daily.
They got brain washed 😂
@@alextanguay5886 Covid just happened (by design or otherwise) to coincide with the extreme leftist taking over the country. I don't think the two are a coincidence though. Look how many far left causes became main stream during or since that time period.
Guy was probably having a coffee, pondering, before starting a stressful day at work.
I've done this many times myself. The coffee break was his only peace for the next 12-14 hours.
I could've sworn that communication was a two-way street. She had the open opportunity to say something to him, but instead waited for him to spark up the conversation. If you ask me, it's her loss.
A lot of women are terrifies of rejection because they think Men will bang anything (which can be true sometimes tbf. We all know that guy). So if they get rejected what does that say about them?
100% her loss
Exactly, you miss 💯 of the shots you don’t take.
Exactly. Why do we always have to take all the action? Then they crap on us for chillin playing video games
@@Bryan-gy3gu Cause they dont have to? Its a demand/supply thing
15 years ago I was 23 years old. I used to ride city transit to a welding shop when I was an apprentice. A really attractive girl used to take the same bus, and she got dropped off at the graphic design shop next to my welding shop. One night my work friends wanted to go to a club near the area the shop was. When I arrived, I went to the bar to grab a drink, and I noticed a girl next to me looking up at me. I looked over at her and she gave me a big smile. It was the girl on the bus. I said "Hey, you're the girl on the bus" we talked for a bit then she said she had a huge crush on me, but was too shy to tell me. The guys in the welding shop came up and introduced themselves, little did she know we all talked about her at work, and they even tried to convince get me to Introduce myself to her while we took the transit. We started dating, she was 19. She was from a small town in Northern Canada, and had just moved to the city for work. We have been married for 11 years. Girls like her are very rare, she is traditional, and feminine. If women want to find/keep a good guy, they have to put in effort as well.
This should make me feel good, but your story further makes me realize there is no hope. Good for you, but I felt bad in the end.
Congrats on your marriage.
@TheGlo0m I've had my share of heartbreak as well. Had my high school sweetheart move to that same city as me. She ended up working at a restaurant and cheated on me with a bar tender dude. That moment changed me, I was pretty crushed. From that moment on, I didn't put up with mediocre low quality women. Ended up dating a few more people and ultimately ending things because they were not good people. It may take a while, but my best advice is to work on yourself, build yourself up to be the best version of you, and hold women to a higher standard and don't allow bad people into your life. IMO try to find a girl with a strong family, good values, and from a humble background. farm girls, and small town people seem way more down to earth
@@azthar congratulations on finding your wife man, you have children with her? But how do you avoid all the women like in this video that only look for superficial things like height and money once you do get a good job? I'm not going to get ahead of myself or anything by already imagining myself with a 6 figure job, but are you supposed to just lie low and try to stay frugal with money?
@andyjin1453 I went to trades school and became a welder. If you get into the oil and gas sector, you can make big money. Trades school was free for me in Canada, so I did 3 years in total. 3 months of school, 9 months of working as an apprentice for your 1st year, then 3 months of school, 9 months working as a 2nd year apprentice. Then 3 months school, 9 months working as a 3rd year apprentice, then I did my red seal welding exam and became certified for Canada wide. I was making 100k per year when I became a journeyman. Now I'm a welding supervisor for a big oil company making 250k per year. If you buy a welding truck and work as a sub contractor you get between 100-130 dollars per hour in the oilfield, 12 hour days, and up to 24 days in a row. They put you in work camps, so food is free, and accommodations are free. Don't bother paying hundreds of thousands for university, then being broke trying to pay back they money with a job that doesn't pay. That's my advice for you, trades workers are needed everywhere, people have no idea how much we actually make lol
@andyjin1453 we had our first kid, a little boy 3 years ago, and trying for our second now.
If you want to talk to him, talk to him. Sitting there 30 minutes waiting for something to happen is beyond pathetic.
Red flag and a creep.
Obviously a "gold digger" for sure!
They WILL talk to him ....if he's a Chad. Do you think that if DiCaprio walked into a room full of women that they would
A) Just stand or sit where they are and wait for him to approach them?
B) Throw themselves at him the moment he walked into the room?
It’s also just juvenile. If the man is tall, handsome, and adorned in business attire, he probably doesn’t find a pouting simpleton with a Cali valley accent all that interesting.
Takes 2 to open a simple conversation……
@@realistic_delinquent Bam!
Women always give the most uninterested behaviors and expect us to still approach them... how in the world does not having earpods on makes you ''approchable''?????
That merely signaled to me that she was done listening to music.
Right? Means nothing. Just looks like a random citizen minding their business. An “interested” person would be stealing glances at least.
But then it's harassment or you're a creep if you say hi
They want you to lose your mind and go after them because it makes them feel pretty.
I'd rather think she's not interested and be wrong than think she was interested and be wrong.
Why would we pursue women, when pursuing is no longer fun or exciting. But rather full of fear. I’d rather not hear women call me a creep a thousand times.
70+% of the time.
Most men don't approach because they rather meet the woman through mutual friends which is socially safer than approaching a random woman and be called creepy
60% of the time, it works every time.
It's pretty much always been this way with strange women. Men who used to "pursue" women were doing it in environments where it was to be accepted, ie a party.
couple days ago I read a story about a guy who was accused of SA on a woman. The women just said bs accusations over and over and over. Then the man released an audio recording of the situation, which proved he was innocent. The law says, in my country, that you are allowed to do audio recording like this (without asking for permission).
"What would signal to you that a woman is interested."
It's 2024. The *BARE MINIMUM* is her _saying she's interested_ , and, even then, I would ask where the hidden camera was.
Women have no idea how tiring it is to get rejected 95% of the time. It’s exhausting.
Give us a hint so we know we won’t get rejected.
yep, sometimes i just wanna drink my coffee in peace, lol....because even if you're confident and mature, rejection is going to sting, i mean unless you're a complete psychopath
@coater31 the funny part is that even if these broads were giving guys hints, 95% of these guys would still be too pussy to approach a woman that hot. 🤣
But I did like your comment though. 👍👍
Exactly and that's why about 98 to 99% of the men have given up on pursuing women at all !!!
The woman I am dating now is not the prettiest on the outside. But she is the most down to earth. My son used to bring home some stone cold beauties when he was younger. He usually moved on within a month. He wound up marrying an older gal who was intelligent and down to earth. She has substance. Sex only takes up a small amount of the relationship. (Well, once you get past the honeymoon period) The rest of the time you actually have to engage each other in conversation. The young men in my family have figured this out. For men, the "alpha" on the female side are women like Courtney. Humility goes a long ways. Wisdom goes all the way. On both sides. I suggest subscribing to her channel and learning from her. Pearl is pretty good too. The young woman in this video is stunning visually, and I wouldn't hesitate to ask her out if I were single, but I doubt there would be anything lasting in the relationship. She should have asked the man where he got his shirt, or shoes, or haircut. Then complement him if he asks why. Let things go from there.
It's not that they don't give hints in their mind... she removed her ear buds... they don't give hints in reality. They think a common extremely small action is a hint.
Something like "I walked by the guy 3 feet, or 1 meter away" as a hint.
Your just supposed to read her mind from the other room, behind a wall, wile she is talking on the phone to a completely different person. Get a hint...
I'm just so done with women at this point that even when one is just straight up staring at me my first thought is "What the fuck does she want" and I just end up leaving
She wants your money that’s about it
@@roymoxley2587 All the gucci shit I wear is secondhand anyways lmfao
She wants you to validate her, so that she can then justify thinking that you're a ''creep''. The bottom line is this .
If a female is not throwing herself at a man in the same way that she would throw herself at the male actor,
pro athlete, musician that she secretly fantasises about , then it's highly likely that she's not into him.
@@yeldarleumas1847 I can only think of 5 instances in my life where a woman was throwing herself at me, all the other times it’s just like getting called cute and then being rejected and then I’m like “why the fuck would you even call me cute if you didn’t want me to ask you out???”
@@diegobrando6115 ''“why the fuck would you even call me cute if you didn’t want me to ask you out???”
Yup! Happened to me too! That's why I no longer bother!
Why are lonely women more likely to make tiktok videos asking “where all the good men are” than they are to actually approach a man and ask him out? Who are they to complain about men being lazy?
Bars
bro you are my hero
exactly, if they don't want to put in the work they have NO room to complain, we don't want to hear it ‼
Or just compliment a guy and make small talk . I feel like women should be more upfront and direct. Guys don't like guessing games nowadays
Exactly what I'm thinking.
As a tall man who is an engineer and fairly good looking I get a number of looks and smiles from women but I generally won't engage with a stranger. I'll be civil and polite but that's normally as far as it goes. The best way to meet people is through your own circle of friends where you know the individual can be trusted as what we can see in this day and age one can easily be lured into a trap.
I am in a very similar boat man, but I've found I never need to engage with strangers. Women get my number from friends and reach out to me. I haven't had to approach a woman since like 2012-2013. I find it funny that women think men are going to approach them when half their friendsi are chasing us.
I feel bad for the guys not getting attention, but women are so easy now that its almost comical.
Women have made it clear, in no uncertain terms, that men who express interest and approach them are threatening and creepy.
Depends on how good-looking he is, though.
@@bele2.041 depends on what you look like and how much status you have. The further away you are from the top, the more “creepy” you are.
Not if you have the social acuity to read when someone actually wants to be approached.
@Hannib4lBarca
A 'Mind Reader' in other words.
@@Hannib4lBarcaby signs you mean signals/hints right? Looking at someone isn’t a hint that you want to be approached, it’s something everyone does daily. We don’t know because these women give the most subtle hints that they expect us to understand and mind read 😂
I'm so confused. For years I was taught that aproaching random women because I find them atractive is harassment and objectification. Now people are calling men spineless for not doing that 😂
It goes like this - if men aren't approaching, women have a harder time claiming harassment and objectification.
its a humiliation ritual that young women are missing out on as a rite of passage, I guess
It’s a trap
This isbwhy cases of whiplash are on the rise among men.
There’s players, spectators (thirsty dudes) and the ones that aren’t even sitting in the arena. Be the ones not in the arena at all and living your life on your terms, not being controlled or manipulated and ENJOYING your life 👍
Here's the thing. Even if a woman does drop lots of signals -- smiling, even talking, flirting, she'll often still reject the guy. She just wants an ego boost knowing the guy likes her. As a guy though, eh, whatever, that's just how it is. The woman I married is the first woman I didn't have to initiate EVERY step with. She initiated one of the first 10 steps. That's the winner.
Yes absolutely, people can be shitty both men and women and lord knows it's all happened to us, I had this exact thing happen to me with girls I was interested in and one I wasn't, for ones I did like it made me bitter for those I wasn't interested in, it was just whatever lol
I've taken the initiative in situations like this and have caught women off guard. I think they didn't believe I'd actually ask them out. It'd be the ol' "Tee hee hee, I sure do wish someone would take me to this event this weekend" to which I'd reply "How about I pick you up at 7:00?" Then it'd be "Oh, I'm busy then, washing my hair all weekend. Maybe some other time tee hee hee."
@@dycedargselderbrother5353 It's good that you did that. And yeah, you'd just have to tell them directly "I'm serious, and I'm dropping hints that I'm interested." Because that's how men's brains work. We're quite direct creatures.
Oh hell yes! They do it so they can know that they've "still got it", that they can still pull a dude. For women I think it's like catch-and-release fishing. Once they know that you've taken the bait, they cut the fishing line. You go away with nothing to show for your efforts and they go away smiling to themselves, thinking, "Yup! I'm still marketable!" Women pull this garbage all the time. And there are tons of videos where they admit to doing it. It's a recreational activity for them. So why should we take them seriously when it's so pervasive?
I've rejected about a dozen over the years even after giving me signals. I'm glad I put them in their place and made them question their own self-worth even if it was for a brief period of time. Better than showing interest and finding out it's all a joke and feed her ego, or worse, get meetoo'd down the road. Mid-30's and can proudly say I've never once given validation to a woman.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
2k likes, no replies. I call BS.
@@Ejexion :O
being a well rounded good person is a better bet for finding a partner worth sticking with. Theres no point trying to be someone your not and trying to trick someone into liking you.
@@jaydenhardingArtist that rang true... so why am I still tempted to learn the dark mind tricks? XD
@@TomOwen-w1j you should learn them so they dont work on you haha
There was a girl that I thought gave me signs, caught her looking at me and quickly looking away and was sitting relatively close to me within a few seats. Approached her, and she seemed like she was put off and quickly darted away. Thought to myself I must have misread things and she probably thought I was a creep. Several months later I was talking to one of her friends who was telling me she was disappointed I did not ask her out, I asked why didn't she respond positively and acted like I was a creep and ran away the first time? The answer was she wanted me to chase and wanted me to see her as someone worth pursuing...Yes, this is actually what went through her mind. I told her to tell her friend that she is mental, as the way she wanted a guy she was interested in to act/pursue is the same way that guy may catch a charge or be labeled as an actual creep/pervert and have his reputation ruined.
So many young women are simply...just stupid. A lack of sense, like they want to feel drama and feel like in a tv show every time a man approaches them. Like they have no anchor whatsoever in reality. Ladies beware, that's a MAJOR turn off for men.
I had one girl who done me quite the same thing you've experienced. She was always in my "orbit", always came to bathroom whenever I was there (so we were alone, but never approached her there, LOL, just superficial talk if you could call it that way) but whenever I have approached(to be clear, it was only 2 times with weeks in between) she gave me negative answers or negative behaviours. Then again, she started looking more and more at me, she even was staring like she was jealous whenever I was talking with other girls.
For me now it's clear how should I "operate".
Mind games some women play.
...or be arrested, charged, jailed, now a felon living in a tent because no one will hire him.
@@nepk0414 Well, if you get a felony the women will line up to date you.
Be the guy in this video. Just avoid.
Men are used to fear of rejection. It's our entire life. It's fear of criminal charges or Tik Tok shaming we're not interested in dealing with. Bed made, lay in it.
So many examples of strange women, or even women you thought you knew, being complete trainwrecks and messing up a guys life. That's even before the issue of divorce court and how most women stop having sex after marriage. Are you going to go out on a limb for some girl who probably has been on OF, Tinder Mega-chad'd (pg language here) and is an IG or Tik-tok "influencer". Easy pass.
literally almost all people give "don't worry about rejection" advice to us men so like, yeah you will have to learn to not fear rejection. Honestly being single or one night stand is better than chasing after relationships. There are exceptions but exceptions don't make the rule
LEARN to spot high interest then you wont get rejected, LEARN to NOT listen to Rich POOPER, fresh & FRAUD, Rollo and the likes. A lot of blaming on YOUR part. Have you even done anything on your part to EARN a girl? WOMEN on a whole are a result of YOUR SUCCESS, NOT the other way around!
@@jadentran9895 if your chasing you already lost and ARE doing IT WRONG!
@@jadentran9895 original
“Beautiful man….incredibly tall”
I’m done
@AlexH8280 lol, these ladies are a liability to men, somehow they are not interested in hearing it :)
Total red flag! I so agree! I wouldn't approach her at all, she just oozes that vibe!
😂😂😂
Red flag for having a type ?
@@Bennie_xthis is would be the same as me saying my type is 9s and 10s😅 its not really a type
One thing that always kept me away was the threat of my being perceived as harassing her. A "hint" could just be an accidental choice of words, a momentary facial expression, whatever. Doesn't mean they're flirting; doesn't mean they're interested. It might just be a fluke. I just wasn't willing to risk being accused of harassment, so I didn't respond. Much to the disappointment of some women... but it just wasn't worth the risk. So in most cases we never connected, which was often painful... for both of us.
In a day and age when most men are accused for being creeps and perverts for just looking or walking by, don't expect anyone with a brain to act on anything.
Please say this again
So, if you are polite and respectful of just other people in general, especially women they think you are either gay or uninterested and nothing happens lol damned if you do, damned if you don't
@@wesley6442better be a gay in their eyes than a pervert of society's
FALSE this only applies to C and B males, aka the 1-3/10 and the 4-6/10 dudes. Men who are at minimum 7/10 in looks, and/or have money and a great physique that are tall and charming or daring badboy rogueish good looks whatever. Yeah those guys? That is group A. That is the group yall keep looking at me like some fucking piece of meat and an ATM, it's disgusting. C makes have literally no capacity to conceptualize how I feel as a man that is routinely stared at by women. The stares of white Americans are different. I don't even know how to explain it, there's something warm and genuine and welcoming in all the other groups of women that is completely absent from white American women, it is an almost predatory gaze that white American females have toward me. Which is even more hilarious when so many depending on the outfit, how I carry myself, where I am etc may have their nose in the air, look at me with hostility and suspicion (I also now wonder if some of them see me as a pump then dump guy, nope,which makes the second reaction funnier) then as I proceed to blithely ignore them start doing weirdo stupid shit like staring at me nonstop until it freaks me out or I think they're a tool. Like, ugh you wish. Wait why isn't he looking. I mean, don't look at me. But take a peak. Hey how come he still isn't looking. LOOK AT MEEEEE and I never will approach you, and I will set up barbed wire around myself in my man bunker I converted my mancave into to guarantee you will not approach me. Part of the horrible problem is, depending on social environment, you can NOT allow any woman to prove you are safe to the rest. After that you're boned, there's no coming back from this once one proves you as desirable and safe to the rest.
Notice how I literally reverse engineered fuckboy manpill bullshit as one of my final measures to get women to leave ME alone.
We are not you dude. You've got literally no idea how I fucking feel, as a man who's been desired enough women will leave their bf for me, lie to him, try to feed me substances to impair my judgment. All I wanted was to find my soulmate. Raise a family. Be a good husband and father. I just wasn't given the best protips on how to do so, wasn't around the right people, wound up smoking weed wearing a leather jacket, like I believe in God I didn't want to be this way it just sorta happened because I was weak and I wanted to make friends. Now I am jaded and alienated. And I also got YOU fuckers staring at me too, with paranoia, fear, hostility, suspicion, like if you truly believe your girl would fuck me, you basically called your lover a h03. In which case, maybe she should. If you're that insecure, maybe you should be. Maybe you should be more confident in HER moral calibre, and stop basically judging her and impugning her own character.
But among the various things I got sick of in seeing males comment their dipshittery on dating videos (I was considering reentering dating after being absent from it for years, clearly seeing how women behave keeps putting me off and I really hope all the immigrant women get a clue and realize to NOT act like the white Americans, they are the ones being blown off) is the stupid assumptions yall make about "the chad" "the badboy, that asshole" yeah I'm the asshole. Three hour phone conversations I am the asshole. She's still texting me and being my friend years later, I am the asshole. Women don't stay friends with assholes. YOU'RE the asshole. Because all you wanted to do was fuck her and make yourself look good, all I wanted to do was be close friends with her and that's probably part of why she tried to fuck me. "Emotionally unavailable men" motherfucker to YOU I am not emotional FOR YOU since YOU don't do it for me, it is only your narcissistic fragile ego that is so fucking stuck around the concept this man legitimately does not have sexual or romantic feelings toward you, since you are so arrogant and/or insecure you act like every male must be willing to put it in and I'm simply not, it's funnier since yall also whinge constantly about men and the nature of men and loyalty and romance novels and finding that guy who'll never look at another woman, the problem is, YOU are not that special person in this man's life, YOU as a woman are like all the other women he doesn't look at, because you aren't his soulmate, you aren't destined together. That's how it is.
Another thing these butthurt males shitpost nonstop is the harassment/fear of rejection stuff, making themselves reflect on me mother Fer you are not me, you do not represent me, I do not represent you. I'm tired of the nonsense and the bullshit of secular modern white American females, sick of it. The games, the woowoo, the entitlement, the arrogance, the conceit, the contempt, the manipulation, the lack of concept for privacy or boundaries or my own emotional needs and wants. At the worst, I am just openly disgusted by many of you all, and while part of it is surely you being fuckbirds on tinder and OF or whatever and another part is radical feminism and white American entitlement, another component is I do see and observe the way you interact with other males and females and it turns me off. When I see a woman being kind to that shy wallflower or the girl who feels ugly, it is a turn on. When I see a woman treat guys like human beings, that's also good though in fairness if a woman is super loud and extroverted I'm paying attention since you're in friends-only territory (I exclusively date quiet introverts, literally if you broadcast your voice across the office on your first week, all I'm asking is she safe to be platonic friends with, my sexual interest in extroverts, "confident" women and loud women is literally zero). In terms of the males butthurt about this, see it from her perspective please. I do. Because I get bothered by men and women constantly when I am too "safe" to approach in public. They have every right not being bothered by you all. The harassment thing? Yeah. Don't touch them. it's not friendly, it's not hot, I as a guy despise it when men touch me I can't imagine how it feels being a woman having you all pull that shit with them. Don't make comments, don't touch them, if she's clearly not interested, drop it.
I do respect a lady that can actually see reality. Thank you..!!
I love how there’s just this baseline assumption that he even was attracted to her in the first place😂 or that he doesn’t have a girlfriend
Well she was attracted to him so he has to approach her. 🤷🏻♂️😂
VVomen=🤦🏻♂️
@@MrIkOgNiTo she’s just sharing and experience that she was attractive a guy and he didn’t find her at tractor but maybe he wasn’t in the mood to talk at the time. Who cares will they move on? It’s not that big of a deal and it’s nothing wrong with her for sharing.
@@IVvOOvVI
Just because a girl is attracted to me doesn't mean she even qualify for me... Imagine on top she also expects me to approach her and she complain if i don't.
It's everything wrong with her sharing. Imagine being so attention seeking that you believe you have to share nonsense like that with the world.
Most likely he already had a girlfriend ... or a string of girlfriends. If a guy like that is truly single, then he's single by choice.
Bingo
He dodged a bullet..
She didn't talk to him, or even look at him..
But she jumped online to do a video about it..
RUN!
Even worse, she comes off as slow. So, what if she finds another just as attractive or even more. Well, that guy is tomorrow's news.
Rejection isn't scary. It's pointless to approach, but it's not rejection that's scary.
Handcuffs and a prison sentence for saying "Hi." is scary.
It's not rejection that makes men cautious approaching women, it's rejection with hostility. It's the making the man appear as some monster for simply showing interest in her. If a woman wants the man she is interested in to approach her, she need to be okay with the men she is not interesting shooting their shot as well.
I don't think this would help. It might have a decade or two ago, but we've all seen so many women be so heartless on social media that the average woman appears to disdain our existence by default. I know a handful of genuinely nice girls that are never mean in how they reject guys, but even they aren't getting approached. Men have been told by the girls with the megaphones to just stop, and we did.
Exactly. I asked to finish our conversation over coffee sometime because I was busy and I knew she was busy. Long story short she panicked and the sent an email to my supervisor complaining. I left that job. The boss wanted me to report on my coworkers who might try to get to know customers and meet up outside of work. I'm no snitch and what we do is our own business.
@@KBowWow75and it's obvious the guy in the coffee shop was avoiding exactly that type of complaint. If you want to talk to me, you will need to talk to me.
There in lies the issue. As men, we have no way of knowing which women are decent and will politely regect or which women are insane and will scream at the tops of their lungs for validation and simpathy until it is too late.
To me it’s not her rejection. What if the two of you are alone in the same place? The relationship ends on your terms? She doesn’t like what you said? The court will uphold whatever she says and you can end up getting thrown in jail for literally nothing other than spoken words. There is no accountability for falsifying anything. Have proof she lied?My lawyer told me “I’ve gone up there (judge) with 9 pages of text messages, and they don’t care”. Freedom isn’t what it used to be, as I now have child support and alimony, but it’s better than jail. The next best thing is getting out of this country and going somewhere that the court has an objective viewpoint on relationships and families. Not incentivized division of families for the sake of boosting the economy. Evil society we live in.
Story Time:
I used to see this beautiful girl at the gym for years. She never smiled or showed any sign of interest-she actually looked focused and even a bit annoyed at times. After the gym closed down, I randomly ran into her at a bar. To my surprise, she came over and said, "I remember you from the gym. You were my gym crush. I told everyone there that I had a crush on you, but you never approached me."
I couldn’t believe it. I was so frustrated-if she had only shown the slightest bit of interest, things could’ve turned out so differently!
Hot women are the last ones who will approach a guy.
@@joeyparra3937 😂😂😂
This. This soooooo much.
So are you dating now or what’s up with that?
@@vatrapperman7482exactly. Why end the story like that 😂
I'm a bus driver. There's a woman that rides my bus often, and her and i talk about alot of things. I would love to go out with her, but I don't wanna make the first move because if i have misread her intentions, it's quite possibly my job, my livelihood on the line.
It's not worth the risk! Too much to lose!
you're definitely right on that one, and even if you start dating, what if it turns out that she's a sociopath and decides to make your life hell, in today's environment, she's ALWAYS right, no matter what, she can smear your name and you would have no recourse.....so better not mix work with personal
That's the right way. You gotta stay professional, just keep talking to her if she wants to.
@@DoDeSch MeToo also extends everywhere. She would be dating that bus driver if he were Brian Bloom. 2024, USA
Bro you're absolutely doing the right thing by not making any kind of move. That situation has the potential to go south very easily. And the juice would definitely not be worth the squeeze.
Bro I’m having this same problem. I’m concierge at an apartment building and there is a girl that lives there, we talk occasionally and have even smoked a J together. I offered her my number the other day and told her to txt me so I would have hers, she handed me her phone right away but I haven’t heard from her. Not sure if I should mention it again or not next time I see her (if she doesn’t start avoiding the front desk cause I misread things).
Why would we pursue women nowadays? The expectations vs what they bring to the table is ridiculously unbalanced. It's pure logic and common sense.
Modern women want men to be mind-readers as they drop the most subtle and hard to pick up choosing signals. Insane. Only the hard times to come will humble them.
I thought about looking at you, how come you didnt get this clear signal?!??! I sent my saggitarius mind waves into the universe on a full moon and didnt get back the vibes. Its giving dropped call.
@@hyronharrison8127 Exacctttlyyyy. Don't forget that we're supposed to be "equals" til it's time for men to do the approaching and courting. Crazy world.
@@JusTheKing. exactly. Almost as if they dont really know what being a man is all about...
@MonessaLeigh Because it has gotten SUBSTANTIALLY worse in modern times with modern women.
😂😂😂😂 mad comment bro , bursting of laughter @hyronharrison8127
Talking to a man sitting next to her ❌
Yapping about him on TikTok ✅
I *hate* people sometimes man, I’m tired
Bingo! don't hate people but I get what you are saying, and man this shit is one big problem with women and social media.
It's incredibly sad how women would rather turn to social media to talk about something like this, or their relationship issues than to do something about it or talk with their man. This and talking to other "guy friends" about problems in a relationship are huge red flags
Especially when potentially millions could see your video.
Bingo, which is why men do not approach TikTok Subjects
Yep she looks like the type of girl who's more interested in her social media than having a real dating experience....says the guy who's commenting on comments on RUclips.🤔
For 10+ years women have told men that hitting on women in everyday life is inappropriate. Women are simply getting what they asked for.
The thing is, all women are very inconsistent with their signals. I've had women that wouldn't look my way, wouldn't smile at me, or acknowledge me. (they were trying to be aloof) and later confessed that they really like me. They wondered why I didn't shoot my shot. I've also had other women grind on me, touch me a lot, grope me, and when I asked for their number they got mad at me. And everything outside and in-between those two extremes. So, it's not that we can't pick up on signals. It's that if is isn't a "HELL YEAH" It's a hell no. The women that have be able to get with me always slid in my DMs, asked for my number, or straight up told me they liked me. You risk your reputation, being called a creep, or getting rejected. The juice just isn't worth the squeeze.
It’s like the damn DaVinci code 😩
Exactly. - they want plausible deniability. The ability to say they didnt ask for this....they hate being stuck with the fact that they chose. Its an implicit lack of accountability to keep their beloved almighty *options* open
I still call bullshit on the whole creep thing. Never seen it person, never been called a creep. Been rejected before. Men just need to grow some balls, stop believing the social media nonsense and making it out to be worse than it is, and just take rejection as it happens or accept being single. Just a bunch of pansies.
Exactly. Women need to make it make sense.
Human 🐈s
Pursuing women in this day and age is a complete waste of time, money and energy.
its only worth it if your rich or have nothing better to do
The last relationship I had was a few months ago with a Ukrainian girl that came here as a refugee as a result of the Russian invasion. Ended up being a total gold digger, never again will I date one of those materialistic Ukrainians!
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Couldn't agree more
Maybe not "complete" but takes an inordinate amount of time and mental energy for little, if any, return/success.
If you want us to know you're interested, fucking talk to us. So many guys have been rejected countless times they've been conditioned to think nobody wants them romantically. So they've just given up
you can tell based on “her type” that she is not ever going to approach an average man like us. Her approaching that man wont change a damn thing for you or for me.
That's the thing they don't know what the average guys experience is! how isolating it is and lonely
Yep. I've been rejected countless times too so I have just given up on dreams of having a girlfriend or even family one day. It's much easier to just give up and endlessly getting rejected and getting the feeling that you are not wanted by anyone. Also when you give up, it's much easier to live when you don't need to constantly waste energy into thinking what you should be next and how you should improve yourself next. It's actually a peaceful life when you give up and be a quitter.
Not something that even comes across their feeble minds 😂
Important point to make. Only attractive individuals. The others are invisible
Another example of poor communication by a woman. They expect a man to read their mind, or just by chance do what she wanted.
Not necessarily, its worse, they want you to *WANT* what they Want. Its stupid and a childish reflection of their self importance
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oYes but also could be poor communication by him. Men need to learn that women send subtle signals of interest. Men seem to not be good at picking up on them.
She sure didn't have any problem blabbing on Tik Tok! If she would have put just 10% of that effort into starting a conversation, she would have gotten somewhere.
Men dont ever need to approach women anymore because AI Girlfriends have replaced them and rightfully so
"I took out my earbuds to look more approachable. Why didn't he pick up on that?" BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
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Imagine being in your 30s, then in your 40s, then nearly 50 and STILL waiting for a man to approach you... Ladies, shoot your shot before you're COMPLETELY INVISIBLE to men.
there will always be some simp willing to settle for a used-up woman in her 40's
Facts I agree
cats need love
@@commonsenseisntcommon1776 and box wine manufacturers have alcohol to sell too.
That would be beneath them, as they have been gassing each other up as "The Prize".
As a man, i have lost all confidence in reading female body language. So many times i have misinterpreted and probably came off "creepy", when at other times female friends literally shook me by my shoulders, not being able to believe how i could not see that this other woman allegedly had the hots for me (after all, she lifted her left eyebrow for a millisecond while her right foot shifted 5 degrees - how could you miss that?!).
I am quite social and like to approach people, but i never approach women unless i have a reason to (like at work or sth.) or know them beforehand. I have heard so many women say how it´s scary and disgusting to be approached by men. Luckily, i got to know my now-wife at work, so i knew she was not disgusted by me and comfortable to talk to me.
If i wasn´t married, i wouldm´t approach any woman i don´t already know, but have them approach me or at least send a very clear sign (try smiling at men!).
Last thing: When women say they want the man to make the first move - is it because they think it is "sexy" or is it ACTUALLY because they don´t want to expose themselves, don´t want to be rejected and don´t want to do the work? Be honest!
She put 0 effort into making it happen.
Perhaps even worse. She put negative effort into making it happen. Who knew being aloof was giving the wrong signals.
@@wat5513 👍😂🤣
Men dont ever need to approach women anymore because AI Girlfriends have replaced them and rightfully so
But she removed her airpods!! Everyone knows not wearing airpods means you're down to fuck
@@wat5513 even worse, being neurotic online and social etc. It's not attractive
As someone who makes 50k a year and 5’6 living on my own I don’t even stand a chance with what women’s standards are now. I’m basically invisible. And when I do actually find someone that’s interested she’s got one foot in the door and one out looking for better options. This sucks dude
That's all men dude. Even good looking dudes are on test run until someone better comes along or she gets bored.
No. Get out of that mentality. I've seen plenty of shorter guys with taller, good looking women. It's definitely real out here, but if you're genuinely looking, don't sell yourself down like that.
I'm 6'3", built, make $70-$100K. I can tell you it's not an automatic cheat code. lol
We all get that. Some women will lead you on until they’re bored and they’re “so busy, that’s why they didn’t reply”.
Women are players.
Hello I'm also invisible 👋
Because of their overinflated egos, it doesn't even occur to women that they may not be a man's type and that he has absolutely no interest in them, rather than lacking confidence.
Exactly!
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It's another case of double standards, women are allowed to have preferences when it comes to dating but men are suppose to drool over every woman they see.
I'm only 21, I've already given up on women 😂 they're hopeless and have unrealistic standards & expectations. They're all after the same guy who doesn't want them back.
21? damn dude...
@@bobcobb158 That's the reality man. They just not worth even a second wasted on them.
I would say true better to just save up maoney and travel the world ❤
Are you from the US?
@MrCleannnnn
The ONLY indicator that a woman is interested in me is if she actually speaks to me. If she doesn’t speak to me, I’m going to assume she wants nothing to do with me (and this is coming from someone who is 6’5)
We default to the belief that we've had instilled in us since we were kids: We are barely tolerated at most by the fairer sex. If she isn't talking to me, she doesn't want to talk to me.
Same. I am 6'4".
6'5" kings roll out
Ya at your level, anything below low hanging fruit is un acceptable.
6'5 jacked with a perfect hairline and a masters degree I assume
I grew up ugly looking, and so women would do anything to avoid accidentally sending signals of interest to me (e.g. looking anywhere to avoid making direct eye contact).
I've improved my appearance a bit (still more to work on) and get treated differently now. But to be honest, I think if a woman was to make direct eye contact with me and smile my first reaction would be to presume I have something in my hair/clothes she is staring at. The idea that she would want me to approach wouldn't even cross my mind because of the mental conditioning from growing up unattractive and being treated like I was invisible.
@@Hannib4lBarca exactly
Get rich and successful or an ugly but nice girl
This 100% lol. When a girl shows signs of interest, my knee jerk reaction is to assume she's just being friendly or saying things just to make me feel good or its some elaborate prank. I've had girls give compliments on my attire. I just say thank you and go my way, lol.
I'm like this too. I do occasionally pick up on signals but don't know what to say to develop it further so I either look uninterested or indecisive/inexperienced
I grew up ugly and it has progressively gotten worse over the years. Never had a woman, don't want one now. Just trying to help, you're welcome!
The handkerchief thing really is the key. The best relationships I had were always initiated by either her talking to me directly or her giving me a clear sign that she would be okay for me to make the first step like waving or initiating conversation. Now I am married with kids to the woman who said "I like you, would you like to get to know me? No drama btw."
As an average guy, I have absolutely given up on approaching women. Rude, arrogant, etc on a repeated basis. Or they just look at you like you are a plate glass window. Good Luck.
Same here friend, let them be “strong and independent since they don’t need us”
Stop being average then
@@Mar6579 ofc
@@jay-t1030 they want the chads and Tyrone’s let them have them 😂 let’s see where women be in 20 yrs
@@Mar6579 go ahead then, jump through your hurdles for them like a good little show pony, looking like a real clown out there
3:54 You and that arrogant woman in the video seem to be pretty confident in assuming this guy she was talking about missed his chance and opportunity and must have really wanted her but got discouraged due to some miscommunication or insecurity. Is it possible for you to fathom a guy could just have no interest in her? Maybe he's married. Maybe he's gay. Too much main character syndrome going on these days. I see women make these assumptions about guys in the "gym creep" videos, too. Most of the time the dude isn't even doing anything, just working out and acting normal while these crazy harpies are filming him and assuming he must be secretly lusting after them.
I was wondering the same thing man. Who knows right? Too many assumptions. I like the main character syndrome. So on point. It's all in people's imagination and in this case hers. If nothing happened than nothing happened. You can write a 1000 page romance novel about this encounter completely from imagination. All these attractive girls feel like they are entitled. She probably has nothing to offer. For all we know she might have just been looking for an ego boost. So cry me a river but nobody cares is what I would have told her lol 😅
There is literally no woman on the planet more beautiful than my peace and quiet.
Facts why torture myself for temporary pleasure
great
It's not about beauty, Sir. Sorry you're missing it.
Word mah bruthuh 👊🤙
@@binak5144what’s it about?
If I were her, I would use the opener, "Hi, I would like to meet you!" Flirting is always ambitious. If someone flirts, doesn't mean she wants to talk, more so meet. If men is focused on work or study (like most of lone people in cafes), he may not even notice flirting from someone. Well, at least now I start conversation...
Not worth the squeeze guys. Most of us are being ignored and rejected no matter how put together we are. Most of us belong to the "bottom" 80 /90 percentile.
You're completely correct but my caveat is that Western women can safely be ignored. The risk is not worth the reward and they have absurd standards mixed with toxic feminism. There are tons of great women outside the West and there's one for literally all of us.
Facts especially if not you're 6ft
Tbh, being in high end of the distribution comes with a lot of baggage as well. I would advise against online dating. Period. Especially a platform like Tinder is hell. Meeting people in real life will give people generally much better results. In that sense, it is not necessary or necessarily desirable to be in the top 10/20%.
@@LpSC2online
What a preposterous thing to say. That's like saying it's not desirable to be in the 10th to 20th percentile in terms of wealth.
The miniscule number of downsides there are to being attractive are dwarfed by the upsides.
Also the fact that you have a sci-fi profile pic leads me to believe that this is a cope more than anything. The only correct thing you said is that it's not necessary to be in the top 10 to 20%. It just makes it much harder.
@TLPWRlifter wealth is not the only socioeconomic variable. And yes, I do think it might not be desirable to be in the top 10% to 20% of people women deem in that position.
I pursued a girl back in July. She said yes when I asked her out, sent me ideas for the date, sent me her address, she texted me quite a bit & even sent a few good morning texts.
Only for her to cancel the day before and then I found out she was involved in something serious with another guy and she was actually planning the date with me when she was with him at a music festival.
It was a harsh reminder to not pursue until you know it’s clear.
But to answer your question as to what makes a girl seem approachable is if they simply strike up a basic conversation. That would signal to me she is interested in something about me, especially if she is a stranger.
That's a good example of why many men don't bother. This chick is already in a relationship but was ready to date you. Monkey Branching. She is another 304.
Sounds like she was genuinely interested but just not available…still not bad!
@@alextanguay5886indeed. If you never shoot your shot then you always miss. I've always regretted not asking but never regretted asking and getting rejected.
Women are players too unfortunately... They'll lead guys on and drop the rest once they've chosen who to be with... Hard to trust anybody with that behavior...
@@alextanguay5886 thats exactly what it was, in hindsight. The problem is, a lot of girls are never truly single. If that makes sense.
It stands out to me most that all she really saw in this man was his physical looks and business energy (income) and immediately decided the he was ‘her type’.
Women are even more shallow and deceptive than men. At least men will admit that they prefer a good-looking woman. But women will pretend and/or deny that looks matter. The woman in this video really exposed herself in that regard. She about as superficial as 99% of the women out there.
Yes, you’ve found out today that most people think about themselves before others especially ones they don’t know
@@brandonlamb9067 Everything you said here was an assumption, based on your personal bias. There’s a difference between an assumption and an observation. I suggest you look into this differences between those two concepts more thoroughly instead of making condescending comments that aren’t accurate. Cheers.
Rich and full of resources. Her "type". Textbook hypergamy.
Yes how else is she going to judge a man before she even speaks to him? Obviously on looks, don't pretend you see a girl and are attracted to her personality. Physical attraction is a starting point for further connection.
I really appreciate your constructive, patient and empathetic approach to these issues, Courtney. Great video. I met my fiancée in a real life situation, never went on dating apps. She actually approached me, and I did have some trouble understanding her hints at first - we still laugh about how timid I was at the time. So in my case it really did solve the problem that she as the woman approached me.
I used to make moves all the time. Got rejected a lot, had some success. Fast forward to now: I have not tried to talk to a girl romantically in a long time. I’m just tired of the same story: I find a girl attractive, I talk to her, if she’s interested we start hanging out, things are going well…. Until some slightly hotter, slightly more charismatic dude comes along and *POOF* she’s gone. I get over it rather quickly, but it gives me depression for a few weeks. I’m too focused on other things for this crap. If a girl wants me, she’s gonna have to make it VERY obvious, otherwise I’m not going to waste my time or try to gamble.
then she gets dumped/freaks out on him since he's hooking up with at least 2 other ladies, then she wonders why men are all assholes and is just as single as you.
Bai lan.
Life hack, don't marry an American woman, this culture has absolutely ruined them. I met my wife who got here as a teenager, she's the sweetest person I've ever met. But don't do mailorder lol, not the same.
Western dating is set up to fail from the start.
@@Rob-uv6fb lol European women cheat more.... so do Asian
Exactly! Let them do the approaching. I do.
Maybe girls should just get business cards
Hahahah
Guys aren’t looking out for subtle signs. Even the three second gaze. Or the you have my attention. Say Hi!
Might be the only way we’ll ever know if they’re open or not lol
Vistaprint is not expensive
"Hi! I'm single" name tag might work
It would help if 5/10 women would be interested in 5/10 men.
Instead 1 through 10's only desire 9+ men.
exactly
A little hyperbole but close.
@@CatGamer-wc2ijNot in the slightest
@@davesimon8524 3S gravitate to 7s. This is absurd on their part. Absolutely disgusting.
But stop using the feminine way of arguments and start being stoic. It's okay to admit logical things. You ever see the hilarious h* math channel? He goes over it statistically and reveals as much--that they are crazy but date 7s.
Like we need to be better than the other side. I didn't even white knight for them and still get the emotional response. Sigh.
@@Kamui.. All women want Chads! You can find a hot woman but at an older age when she has been plowed by 100 men. Are you okay with that? LOL. 2024, USA
Nothing LESS than a direct "hello".
It's simple. Y'all are no longer worth it. It's a stock value thing
Low to no ROI
It's not a stock value thing. Nice try.
ROI is the exact what is lacking
Congratulations for nailing it perfectly.
Its a commodity market actually and extreme undervalued
I can only speak for myself: Women should just be clearer if / when they're interested. I have neither the time, nor the inclination to try to interpret / elucidate subte signs or body language.
Women dont want to be clear. They get their power of subterfuge my keeping you guessing or trying read their smoke signals. If you guess wrong you can get fired or jail time.
To answer your question, it doesn’t matter how approachable they look
It’s too risky and that’s why we don’t do it anymore
bingo
I live in Canada and almost lived this... tiktrap is cancer xD. "Birdbrains" is a thing. I didnt ask for a phone number (I never learned to turn a genuine conversation into something I personally want it's very odd... I truly wished my "ex" was considerate and understood a fraction of what I represent so I wouldn't have to learn this, but... I think it's also the only thing I actually need to do... talk talk like I do and just remember to ask for a number.. shouldn't be hard, but I'm an idiot). So I saw her again and assumed she had found a dude because it takes 1 week if they're not repulsive (sadly...). I had in mind to just go apologize about That. I did and she started a small talk. I did that too and she eventually turned to: "why did you ask for my phone number to her friend?" I frowned and couldn't even remember that I talked to the cashier and made Her smile without even trying.. I was just being nice... like I am to Everyone. I kinda Had to talk to the cashier, though? I looked at the girl and couldn't really grasp how that was possible since I had not done that... hence me talking to her just to apologize that I hadn't... maybe it's because of the apology and I didn't need to, but... I genuinely thought she wasn't single anymore etc you know how we get in our heads and they dont use theirs? Well I probably responded "What?" And that was it. Idk if she walked away or I did after I didn't get a response, but it was a bit annoying. Among the maybe.. 7 girls I've spoken to... I've failed to ask their number as I don't really... see them? The other day I spoke to an old woman and remembered the conversation I had with her 8 months prior... and kept myself from making a parallel for obvious reasons, but... I'm so used to not wanting anything for myself. Fake confidence? Perhaps.. I do think confidence comes with competence, though... and, while I wouldn't be found lacking in most circumstances, I just can't seem to be bothered to ask for phone numbers...........
@@Dawnarow You need to learn how to express yourself more clearly, because I have no idea what this word-salad is saying. Write full thoughts. Complete your sentences. Use paragraphs. You bounce from thought to thought so fast that this is essentially meaningless.
I remember asking my counselor/therapist if its weird to compliment a girl and ask for their contact. He told me that it is okay as long as we respect their boundaries if they say no.
It is "creepy" if we INSIST after they say "no" / "its ok". I was pretty nervous because as an Asian, approaching girls isn't a common thing. Most people are conservative with the exception of some, or it depends on their personality (extroverted etc). Was getting food at the canteen and I saw this girl and decided to just ask. I smiled, told her she was pretty and asked if its ok to get her contact. It was surprising that it worked so we ended up going out a few times!
Though we didnt get into a relationship, I think fondly of the experiences, learnt a lot and as ultimately as Courtney mentioned, its about trying!
I'm still single now, developing and growing as a person. Hope everyone here finds someone who you love and loves you back!
I also remember for few of my male friends, their girlfriend(s) confessed to them! So it is really quite up to individual!
"I know that rejection is scary" => no, dear. Getting smashed on all social media as a creep, losing job and possibly going to prison IS what's scary about "rejection".
I can only imagine how crazy things have gone in the US. Is it that bad?
Not just risk, the effort just isn't worth the reward
You are infinitely more likely to get into a severe car accident. I'm sure you still get into a car, likely every day.
@@Rockownz5150 Except in America we MUST drive in order to survive. To earn a living, to get groceries, to go or do anywhere or accomplish anything it necessitates driving as a necessary evil. Dating isn't exactly necessary.
@V.D.22 I don't know the actual statistics but the fact that there is still a stigma against a rape accusation where it should be placed at the conviction stage, does not help.
From personal experience though, I can say it is really bad. Not only do I personally know someone who has been falsely accused and got robbed of his college education even though he was immediately proven not guilty, I once dated a girl who later (after breaking up) went on to falsely accuse a guy who was incredibly lucky that his girlfriend immediately came out with the proof that she is a liar.
Maybe the dude was already in a relationship, was just taking the seat he thought was the best available in the shop, and/or just wasn't interested.
He was there for 30 minutes. After him not engaging for 10-15 minutes, it's clear he wasn't going to strike up a conversation. If you're that interested, sometimes YOU have to be the one to make a move.
Yeah, it's low IQ to just assume a very attractive man is single in the first place, or wants multiple women
Maybe he is an Introvert???
It takes two...
@@NothingToSeeHere-mb3fw Another distinct possibility. In that case, she can still speak up if she's so interested she posted about the encounter to countless TikTok followers
Maybe he was married? Had a girlfriend? Not into women?
It's possible he was using her to deter people coming up to him
Women are like children today. No thanks, I love my peace.
"like" xD... they are.
From a mans perspective (im 32) Taking your earbudds out was never going to work. Even a woman smiling at me is just not enough to say she might be interested. Heck I shoot a quick smile at most people coming by me. Men don't take "hints" they take what they can objectively see. So if a woman strikes a conversation with you *when she didnt have to* that is more or less where I would think *MAYBE* she could be interested, and if she flirts well then now I know, and I can join in.
I definitely think most men do not want to be the 'creep' that women talk about often, and that dramatically impacts how often they approach.
Men are more anxious about being the creep, then being rejected.
Idk. I’ve heard so many women say “ I just wanna finish my workout, I’m tired of men always approaching me” so I’m just hesitant at this point
Did they say that to you in the gym?
@@visamanI’ve had two say to me “excuse me. I’m working out, not looking for a friend”
@@Pikawarps Should of looked at her smiled and said I'm not either.
@@SystematicMechanic
Should've.
Strike up a conversation after their workout, or after a class. Never approach people in the gym when they're in the middle of something.
If a man, is not a 10 and approaches, a woman nowadays you are called a creep
IMHO, it is about how you do it, regardless of sex and gender. A lot of people do not have proper soft and social skills anymore, this is hurting them greatly. A lot of it is due us outsourcing problems conveniently to the internet, much unlike older generations.
Generally, when approaching somebody in public, it should always be done in a respectful way that and in a manner that leaves a healthy amount of distance. It is like people skip a few steps, getting straight to what they want out of them, instead of just enjoying the moment and seeing if there is something there in that moment.
@@LpSC2online nope. If he is not a 10 to her, he is a creep.
@@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp From experience, that ain't true.
Honestly, lots of people don't have the social skills anymore to pull it off because they let it atrophy in the digital age.
Why would you ask somebody for e.g. a number if you cannot even understand if somebody sees you as attractive or not. It takes a bit of practice to get that right. But you might see, how that comes across if somebody is clearly not into you, but you keep pushing for a date/phone number anyway?
@@LpSC2online hahahahhaha
I've noticed a trend. When women say "where are the good men?" and "why aren't men dating anymore?".
They never ask a regular GUY these questions. It is always some "expert" of something, or women.
Regular guys have been telling people WHY for almost a decade now, but no one cares or the information is disregarded. So guys have just given up.
When a person is mocked, derided, belittled, or outright ignored after trying to explain for so long. Is it any real question on why men have chosen simply to leave??
and it's always the good one that fall through the cracks and the criminals and bad guys that get all the attention, they really do want the bad boy, most the girls I have talked to always tried to turn me into one
And the "expert" will be pushing a book with a title like, "Hinge and Patriarchy: How the Male Gaze Is More Digital and Deadly".
What makes a girl approachable to me as a man:
When you say hello to them & they don't get that look in their eyes that says "I'm being fake nice & polite right now, but what I'd really like is if you could get as far away from me as humanly possible".
Ya know, just for starters
Advice to women.....if you want a man, YOU make the first move!!!! A woman who refuses to make the first move is letting her PRIDE get in the way of her own happiness, which is a HUGE turn off to men. My wife was the one who asked me out. We've been married for 16 years now. Ladies.....get your shit together!
Yeah, what happened to "liberated" women who are "strong and powerful"? They are so powerful and liberated they can't even smile and say hello to a guy they find attractive?
@@40mmSummaritthey are lesbians.
Just my reading of the encounter, I don’t think he found her particularly attractive or he already has a side chick that is far better.
exactly! those kinds of women are a huge turn on, least for me, instant bonus points simply for approaching.
@@visaman
Lesbians have found out that women are difficult.
In a women’s world attention is the coin of the realm. Even if it comes from a guy they’re not attracted to they can brag to their friends about the “creep” they had to fend off as if to say “what’s a gorgeous woman like me to do”? They’ll never admit it but it feeds their ego. When you deny them that attention they freak out.
I wonder if we can draw a corollary to this: as attention is the coin in the realm of women, I wonder if that is why they are so hesitant to spend any of it.
I have had this happen to me in the Netherlands. I was standing on a packed bus when a lady told her friend that I was groping her from behind. Her friend told her: "just say something, say mister what are you doing?"
I got so afraid that I didn't know where to put my hands. I had literally put my hands in my armpits. I'm a 6'3 heavyweight kickboxer but I felt helpless and afraid in that moment.
@@RikuofManyPathsmaybe they dragons
Yep, give em nothing … 😎
@@johnanderson1245 the "creep" also gives them a pretext to express their stuck up obnoxiousness.
The woman showed no signs of interest and yet she’s surprised he didn’t approach lol
😂😂exactly, like when you’re at home and are hungry but you don’t say anything to your mom, what is she supposed to do if she does not know you’re hungry ?😂😂😂or you want the mom to come out of nowhere with food
in that 2nd video where the guy sat next to her, what she didnt know is that she was the victim of corporate espionage and the guy worked for a competitor and wanted to know what her company was doing. but because she was so focused on the thoughts of attention or getting asked out, it never occurred to her that she would be the, apparently willing victim of, corporate espionage. its called "shoulder surfing".
What’s with all the ego though? The dude sat down had his coffee and dipped. Why should he have “shot his shot” quote? Can’t a brother have a cup of coffee without the expectations?
Bro what do you mean she is the main character don't you get it 🤣
Obvious sarcasm is obvious
@@DamesTC lmfao My bad!!
Exactly and who's to say the guy doesn't have a girlfriend already? Or maybe he's into guys
Thats because she is self involved. Narcs are gonna narc.
I'm 57. I don't give a shit anymore whether women like me or not. I am focussing on making me happy. All women want men for sex and financial support and I am damned if I'm going to be a walking breathing wallet for some freelancer who has nothing to offer me. I have found my past relationships to be toxic and/or unfulfilling and I'm never going there again. I used to be needy of a girlfriend to make me happy and I was wrong about that. They mostly brought misery and aggravation. I'm better off alone. I have my own home, I'm totally independent and I will be very comfortable come January when I take semi-retirement. Any woman that takes an interest in me will be held with great suspicion as to her intentions. I've seen men destroyed in divorces and it's not going to happen to me!
Yup.
Wisdom comes from learning from other people's experiences.
from what I have seen after 55 yrs of life is that most of em just ain't worth it. There are some exceptions of course but from what I have seen a lot of men would just be better off being single . When they say for better or worse during the marriage ceremony, the majority of women only mean the "better" part from what I have seen.
@@cdog2331 Now it's "Till her happiness do you part"
Your damn right Keep your own things, women are a f liability Period
In my experience, its not only the rejection, it is that men often will not know whether they are attractive. This knowledge is embedded in little girls from an early age (princess on board etc), but boys just will not be told whether they are attractive. And women , until they are into you, will certainly not let you know they find you attractive. Many of us men therefore go through life thinking that, as we cannot assume atractivenes, we cannot assume a positive response from a cold approach; we all know if they think we are ugly we are automatically a creep.
''we all know if they think we are ugly we are automatically a creep.''💯
This is a very valid point. Even if you are an attractive man. I think Women really cant comprehend how little men get compliments from anyone other than their mothers. Especially in comparison to the average woman. There is a reason so many women classify themselves as "10's." Because even a mildly attractive woman gets told shes pretty or hot or beautiful semi regularly. Even in relationships Men get way fewer compliments on our appearance than women do. So no matter what, as a man you really don't ever fully know who would or wouldn't find you attractive.
@@Hartwell10 Astutely observed .
Astutely observed .
Women let the attractive dudes know they are in obvious actions or just by saying it. If you're unsure as a dude then you're not. Or not very.
Had it when I was younger and they let me know it. Lost it when my hairline went and I got a bit pudgy. There was a massive difference from their actions and looks. Kind of got it back when I started taking fitness serious and shaved the head but it's nowhere near what it was.
If you tell a guy he’s really hot, he’ll be looking for a one night stand, because you have set the ground rules for the relationship. If you want to have a relationship, you can start an actual conversation.
I haven't approached a woman in years. Never felt more liberated. 🙂
Gay
After being a successful player for over 2 decades, by 50 who could be bothered anymore .. 😎
Yes , plus investing in myself.
Based!
@@BaheieujlsksnenHow?!
The other thing we’ve learned is that life is so expensive, that virtually NO women are single. They all have boyfriends footing the bills, and are usually looking to monkeybranch to someone taller, better looking, and with more money.
Reminds me of a line from "The Mask"...."Women are always looking for the 'BBD', or the Bigger Better Deal!"
BINGO! That’s it!
💯! Yup!
@@paulfrederiksen5411 Or is it Tyrones Big Black D... 😂
Yep, women are constantly looking to 'trade-up' ... even the married ones.
Women are concerned with being hit on by men they dont like. Men are concerned with hitting on a women that dont like them. Men not approaching without invitation is respectful. Women dont need to approach they just need to provide an invitation, a smile and a wave hello is sufficient.
even then a smile and wave might not signal interest
@@redwall1521 yes it does. A smile does not, a smile AND a wave does. Its an active invitation saying you're open for conversation. This is because its something women almost never do with men.
Please say it louder
Bullshit, women will drop those 'invitations' and have zero intent for it to actually be interpreted as an invitation to anything. Women are the last thing but clear with their intentions.
Let's bring back the handkerchief!
3:35 as a man who is shy (and knowing that that is an attraction killer for women) she would literally have to hold up a sign that says „Come talk to me!“ 😂
I think you should talk to her if she says "Hi".
Except as you begin to half way approach, you realize that the sign was for someone else and not you.
@@thegrimharvest 👍😂🤣
@@bobfg3130 IF she says, "hi". Did she or was she aloof ?
Finally! I've been waiting for you to come to this realization and say it out loud for a long time!
The dynamic of dating has flipped and many men don't feel safe initiating contact. It's still on guys to move things forward, but only if you ladies give men a very clear green light, like purposely dropping something or saying one complete sentence to start things off. Once he knows you're interested, he won't be afraid to make a move. Men aren't afraid of asking you out, they may be nervous about rejection, but what terrifies men is the thought of what could happen if she has a very bad reaction to a simple hello. For him, he's risking a possible police incident, pepper spray and a ruined reputation for simply trying to speak with the wrong woman.
Not all women are evil and hyper aggressive, but because they exist, and courts give them the time of day, men won't risk it. So now it's on you ladies to get creative and find a new, novel method of signaling your openness to men in general. And while you're at it, find a way to shame these sour women who are ruining the game for everybody else!
Why should us guys chase masculine girls? Not worth the effort. Just a waste of time. I'd rather ride my motorcycle. The motorcycle ride is alot more fun.
Correct yo you spoke exactly what I was thinking yes these females are masculine and guys don't want to chase or purse that for example if I do something respectful for a female I notice they always respond your so nice but when they say that it makes me feel as if they don't respect gentleman like behavior
Especially American women 😂
He doesn't need her. Any man that evokes that kind of reaction in an attractive girl gets it from every girl and has plenty of options.
She's not that attractive.
Yep, exactly what I was thinking. Guys of that caliber are rare and they undoubtably get all the attention they need from women. She should take a number and take a seat.
2:00 notice how she was salivating over the guy but didn't have the forward thinking to say hi to him? If women want men then they need to do more than play games, most men aren't even looking anymore.
Men and women are not interacting with each other nowadays.
When I first saw my wife, she gave me a big smile and said hi. The rest is history.
The odds of that happening nowadays are very low. Women are so entitled these days because they already have validation from social media.
Yet another example that men will ALWAYS remember the first thing a woman says to them... Always!
Bro it's so simple.
Glad it happened like that! There's nothing more attractive than a person who's friendly
my mother did the same to my father. first boyfriend. married 53 years. both retired now. still married