Can I just say I think this is about the DOES and the DON'TS so eye contact will just come naturally I would suggest not trying this unnaturally as it would look fake so this is a thing OF YOU LIKE HER IT WILL JUST HAPPEN
To me it's more of her caring and kindness towards anyone regardless of what they look like, their gender, their age. If she is only nice to girls for example that reeks of predatorial and self-gain and makes me feel disgusted as much as I feel about simps being only nice to girls.
1. Dry callous hands, hands in general 2. Calling a girl a "good girl" (will vary from woman to woman) 3. Touching a girl's lower back. Opening a door and ushering her in. 4. Ordering their food for them (Polarizing effect, some hate it others love it) 5. Rolling up your sleeves on a button down shirt. 6. Special attention in group settings. 7. Taking your shirt off with one hand from the back 🤷♂ 8. Motioning for them to give you their hand while you're walking ahead of them. 9. When you drive. (One arm on wheel and an other behind headrest or on lap) 10. Vocalizing that you'll handle a problem or situation.
@@FORS4KEN Well, if women can't tell youwhat they like, you're already lost. just stay in your head or listen to another man, sounds like a winning strategy. Good Luck with that.
Something I find attractive in women is when they are straight forward, transparent communicators. It tells me they're not interested in playing mind games and otherwise wasting time.
Nah, you just described a man. No woman has ever been straight forward or transparent with their communication, it's just in their nature to be illogical.
You need to date a man for that bro🤣🤣. I mean that's textbook men's communcation. Men communicate overtly and directly, women are the polar opposite, communicating covertly and indirectly. Ofc there are exceptions but generally this is how it is.
I hate all of those voice effects. Whether it's the female one or that disturbing fake SpongeBob one but I'm not on tiktok yet other platforms still feature these videos
I find it attractive when a woman huddles closer to me. It feels more personal, intimate, and trust in personal space. Or when talking and she casually says my name in a conversation.
I'm 71, been happily married for 38 years, and some of these were a revelation. I have a few new things to try. 😂❤ Here's one thing I know my wife loves. When I'm getting dressed for say, church, I'll put on a long-sleeve dress shirt, button the cuffs, and then -- before I put my suit slacks on -- I'll walk over to the chair to sit down to put on my socks. She comments regularly how much she loves watching me walk across the room like that. 😂❤
With so much negative stuff being said by women about men & men about women on line these days its so very refeshing to see young women make a video like this. It gives me much hope for the future & I really hope that we're past the worst of this stupid gender war. Then to hear Courtney beautify say "I love men" was just so wonderful to hear. This video has made me so happy. Oh, & I love women.
Sorry, but we are absolutely not past the worst of it. The worst of it is yet to come; just wait until 2030.... then you will see the real fireworks begin.
About the shirt thing... Guys do that because our shirts are cut different than women's. We don't want to stretch out the neck. We usually have wider shoulders than women. I personally don't like turning my shirts inside-out. It's just another step to folding it, or hanging it up, after we wash our clothes. It's mostly about not stretching out our clothes.
I was gonna say if I am working on a car and my shirt is dirty I will try not to pull that dirt to my face. For me the easiest way to keep the dirt out is to drag from the back.
I read through the comments to see if anyone had said the obvious (to men). I do it this way to keep from turning the shirt inside out, especially long sleeve shirts.
I used to never understand that method of taking off a shirt and never did it. Recently, though, I went on a bike ride and got so sweaty, and the particular shirt I had on stuck to me so bad, there was just no taking it off in the way I usually do.
it's from having wider lats too, like if my shirt's wet it suction cups to my lats and the only way I can ever get my shirt off until I've 'dried off' after the gym is by pulling it off from the backside like that
Your sincerity makes these videos be so empathetic. 1. As a man, pulling off your shirt from the back is easy once you master the technique 😊 2. One simple thing I find attractive is when you have been working around the house and your wife surprises you a freshly squeezed lemonade or home brewed ice coffee in the middle of a task, not at the end. Keep it up, your videos bring awareness in such a kind and loving manner.
Why do you do though? All the guys I went to high school with would take off their sweatshirts like that too and I've never once (as a guy) had the inclination to try it Granted I don't specifically know that I DON'T like to do it that way, I just don't get why everyone else does
@@samstromberg5593 It is a swift, smooth motion that leaves the shirt right-side-out (as noted by @forasago), quick, easy, even if the shirt if very sweaty or wet, and doesn't look or feel stupid like pulling each arm through. Sheesh. It's just the smoothest, smartest way to remove a shirt.
@@dbf1dware Mm for me it’s harder cause I don’t have short hair so it’s really easy to mess up if I take it off like that All the swim kids at my high school would do it cause it also pulls their shirt up but makes it look not intentional and they were just tryna show off so actually that’s another reason I don’t do it cause I don’t HAVE any muscles to show off😂
@@samstromberg5593 Fair enough. I have almost zero hair, so that is not an issue. I also have a so-called "dad bod" meaning I have a fat belly and no muscle. So I am definitely NOT trying to show off anything. Quite the contrary. I want to get this sweaty, dirty shirt off of me and put on a clean one as quickly as possible to AVOID anyone being subjected to my un-attractiveness.
You asked things we find attractive. Core values - compassion, able to joke around with me, humility, feminine, humility, appreciating me, able to grow and able to listen. Tries to improve. little things - Long hair and really love the spiral curls. Wearing a circular dress and seeing it twirl, a genuine smile, cute happy dances, happy laughs, playful teasing that doesn't get mean spirited. Cute facial expressions.
Also one arm on the window or leaning on the steering wheel; depends on what you're driving. Being married I give zero F's that I drive on old, reliable work truck that'll get dirty anyway on the gravel road I live on. It drives women nuts when you don't play their game but rather totally ignore them.
Yeah. Step 1: Be the kind of man she wants to marry. Step 2: Drive a car or whatever every day thing you have to take care of that day and suddenly it's attractive.
@@BWater-yq3jx They tend to romanticize a lot. The rough hands thing they’re probably thinking of a guy like young Brat Pitt at the gym, not your overweight construction worker’s hands.
@CourtneyRyan - We take our shirts off from the back, because when the shirt is wet with sweat from working all day -- it tends to stick to the back side and not pull over. We typically do this with any shirt that is *not* button-down. We don't care what they do in the movies. It's just really as simple as a practical solution from trial and error in becoming a hard-working man.
This seems exactly the wrong way around. When I pull from the back (my normal technique) a truly wet shirt will stick to the skin too much. In these situations I'll make an exception and use the front technique because the shirt rolls off the skin rather than being dragged along the skin. No friction. How could it get/stay stuck when you pull from the front? Makes no sense.
As a man I do a lot of these things , didn’t realize women notice it, it’s mostly things I watched my father do 1. Hand on lower back, ushering my mom when I was a kid 2. Driving her whenever she needed to go somewhere 3. Opening and closing her door no matter how long you’re together 4. When she walks behind reaching out to take her hand 5. Wiping her hair off her face if it falls on her face when she’s talking Things done by the “right” woman not just any woman 1. Taking my hand when I least expect it , sitting somewhere relaxing 2. Hugging from The back when we are doing something 3. Eye contact in a crowd 4. Being good with kids 5. Dressing feminine in dresses , especially long maxi cut dresses with flats 6. Being patient n kind 7. Thoughtfulness 8. When she’s late and shows up flustered and lets me calm her down and assuring her its ok Men love handling problems and also calming down a flustered or stressed out woman they love!
The reason for why I sometimes pull off my shirts from behind is because it is easier if the shirt fits tight over chest and shoulders. It is also quicker than to unbotton the whole shirt 😊
I just wanted to say again, Courtney, that it's nice to know that you sincerely care about men. We don't often get the appreciation we deserve. A girlfriend of mine 30 years ago was very good to me that way and I still love her for it.
The reaction/responses from both Courtney and the two women in the video make me realize how much I miss having a woman in my life. All these things that got them excited had little to nothing to do with money or any of the other things you hear women want from men. They are getting worked up over men simply being themselves. I love it.
I agree. However, I work in a trade with all men, go to the gym and generally stay busy. I haven’t really found a scene where I can connect with women in the wild. Tried apps for like a month. Sometimes I’ll go to bars with my friends but I’m honestly not looking for someone who goes out every weekend. It seems like that’s where everyone meets if it’s not on an app. I feel like it would be easier if I had some avenue of access. Only dated one girl for 4 years and I still miss her after a more than a year of being apart. It’s so lomely out here
It's true that "don't need no man" has reached a wider audience of women. Nevertheless, in most of the "red pill" videos I watch, they poll scantily clad GIRLS (with their juvenile and entitled attitudes, I wouldn't call them women) on the street (beaucoup red flags flying just visually) and then use the voiceover at the end "she's for the streets!" You found her on the street, not engaged in anything worthwhile already. What did you expect? I live in the Kansas City area, and the women, though touched by feminist ideas, are generally much more conservative than the half-naked bimbos they talk to on the podcasts. I am shocked at how far-reaching the temporary fad of permanent tattoos has become. But what do I know, I'm an old guy who's not on the market. I'm schooling myself to the new realities so I can counsel my grandchildren with realistic and timely advice.
@@komoru That could work for a guy who's 6+ feet tall, but what about the guy who's 5'8" and isn't Tom Cruise? Women want the triple-6 guy; the double-6 dude will still be invisible.
@@John_Caravella to be fair its not every woman. If that were the case you wouldn't be seeing average men and women walking together with their child on the streets. Its just that social media has spread this idea so its become crazy.
Guys, don't let your hands get dried out. You'll have pains in you hands later in life. My dad said he regrets not taking better care of his hands. I try to lotion my hands at least once a week.
Things that I find attractive that women do. - laughing - logical thinking - when she lifts her arms up, like doing things with her hair or stretching - when she says “give me a kiss” - holding my upper arm with both her hands - well painted nails - smiles
women and logical thinking is an oxymoron, their decision process is entirely based upon how they feel and negative experience...that's called living in fear....any girl spoiled enough to never have experienced negative experiences you are just going to disappoint the hell out of her and set a new threshold bar for all men in her future to have to hurdle over like a boss. see Hoe_Math 1-10 scale men vs womens dating perception scale
I love it when women are sweet to not just me but to others as well. When she is considerate, warm, positive, easy going, energetic and fun and when you can be yourself around them without them judging you. A positive and good hearted women
I think an important takeaway from this is that while there are some things that a majority of women like, most turn ons and turn offs are very subjective and vary wildly from person to person. I think it’s good practice to take any advice that starts off with “All men …” or “All women …” with a massive grain of salt
I think it also depends a lot on whether she likes or dislikes you already anyway. Your hands will do nothing for her if she's already decided you're a low value a'hole, and if she's attracted to you then lots of random, small things will reinforce that positive perception.
Spot on.. And most of these turn offs comes from what the guy they are already attracted to has.. If any of these things was on any other guy - it might be a huge turn off.. ;)
@@jonprince3237 This. Most women will like almost everything in this video IF they are already attracted to you. If a woman is very attracted to you she will match your energy and start liking everything you like and appreciating everything you do (within reason). Step one is being as attractive as you can, maximize your looks, your confidence, your masculinity. Then more women will find you attractive and suddenly the things you do will seem a lot more charming.
So glad that Courtney clarified the whole, Solve the problem, but sometimes they just want you to listen and not try to solve it. Can we get different colored chips/flags to help a brother out? Also love the subtle undertone of all three of them admitting that women are quite indecisive and often don't know what they want! It's nothing bad, just own it. Refreshing to hear some honesty and the girls just having fun!
Different colored chips, no, but you can ask the question, is this an "I need a solution" problem or is this an "I just want to vent about it" problem? Might sound stupid or counterintuitive, but it works for me and my lady. Contrary to what you might believe, she actually does answer that question with one or the other if it's asked directly.
@supramaniac502 I was kinda joking, but yes, I do agree with you. I do this with my wife and it does work. She will start talking about something and I ask her that same question. "Do you want me to just listen to you, or help you solve this?" And she does answer and then keeps going. It does help us as well!
Women are silly. Have you seen what Batman would look like if he was designed to appeal to women? Big eyes, thick lips, bare arms. Yikes! Not cool like a shadow of the night.
All those things, only if the guy already meets all the prerequisites. They are not describing an average guy doing those things. Instead, they are imagining a 10% guy.
The biggest turn-on from women for me is when they respond calmly to unexpected events. Most women fly off the handle and start imagining worst case scenarios for everything making it difficult to communicate with them and work together to find a solution. Seeing a woman calmly think about the situation makes me feel like I can trust her. The next best turn-on is finding a woman that is capable of self change. Someone who acknowledges they will inevitably change over time and are actively seeking to become a better version of themselves. Not everyone has the ability to see themselves from a 3rd party point of view and imagine different versions of their lives, choosing to become who they want to become. Most people are simply being tossed around like a leaf in the wind adapting to whatever situation they're in....Instead of having control over their future and CHOOSING to have you as a part of it.
Constantly jumping to the worst case scenario instead of taking the time to see where the situation leads is very tiring. It's one way to make me cranky in a hurry. I hate having to talk a woman off a ledge over something that is most likely nothing and very slim chances of being as bad as she is imagining.
@JACQUEZJOHNSON23 imagine if a woman googles symptoms she is having and there is a 99.9% chance it's just a minor condition (dry skin, for example) and a 0.1% chance it's cancer. So naturally she assumes she has cancer and it becomes a catastrophe. Now imagine this logic is applied to every scenario in this woman's life and you are the one constantly trying to reel her back in and get to think rationally. That's exhausting and hard on the head to have to do all the time, don't you think?
Cool under pressure x1000!. I work with all guys and any time there is a major issue in the field we calmly bounce ideas and solutions. At home a little tiny thing can make my wife go completely off the rails. I find her stress gives me stress. It's also very hard to work through solutions when she is so upset.
"I Love Men!" 😂 Hahah that was indeed a cute video:) I miss having a giggly girl by me I gotta say, it's a great feeling to have someone who admires you for even those little things!
To answer Courtney’s question, I usually pull my shirt off from the back when I’m sweaty and my shirt is sticking to my back (How else would you take it off? My back is what the shirt is sticking to. It doesn’t cling to the front for some reason, probably because my back is relatively smooth with more surface area to cling to, while my front is more “bumpy”). Also, I tend to pull my jacket or sweater off from the back and pulling it over my head toward the front, especially when I’m sitting in the car and there is limited space on either side of my seat, but there is ample headroom to pull something over my head. Taking off a shirt or sweater or hoodie by reaching back and grabbing the back and pulling it toward your front is usually the quickest way to disrobe, as the top comes right off. Grabbing a shirt from the front causes it to bunch up in the back for some reason, and you wind up tossing the shirt off backwards behind you, while grabbing the shirt from the back allows you to pull it over your head toward your front and toss it in front of you, which is less awkward (even if it bunches up in the front). Try it yourself.
My girl said what made her gooey about me straight away were my hands and right forearm as I'm a guitar player. What made me gooey about her was her posture, potential and posterior. What still makes me gooey about her is unfailing support, humor, forthrightness, grace and kindness.
These are all just completely basic normal things we already do. Easy. But this leads me to believe that you must already be attractive in order for these things to attract ladies. In that case, everything still boils down to just having to already be attractive.
If you're not a 6-6-6 guy to begin with, all the things discussed in this video are irrelevant. When women say "Men" or "All Men," they are in fact referring only to the top 5 or 10 percent of men. That's important to keep in mind.
@@John_Caravellaisn't it obvious though? If you made a video about what you find "secretly attractive" about women you're going to be referring to women that make it past your physical attraction filter and of course that varies from men to men. Let's be fair here.
@@ShaferHart I, like most men, don't have a "secret attraction" list for women. Men are basic, easy-to-understand creatures. We want a woman that looks decent (we don't demand or expect supermodels), is kind, and bathes regularly. That's it. Men are not hard to please. In comparison, women are PhD-level calculus, wrapped in feelings, and taught in Sanskrit.
I think this is a positive video overall, so true in terms of eye contact and leading especially. I will say though that f you're a guy that's looking to become more attractive, you don't need to start rolling your sleeves up or manufacturing situations where women will see you drive. I see those as things where if a woman already likes you to some extent, she'll enjoy seeing those things.
Usually, as a guy, we take off our shirts from the back if we are sweaty or sticky. And the shirt sticks to our back, so the only way to take it off is to literally grip it from the back and pull it forward over our head. Otherwise, I'm not sure if it's a common thing for other guys.
As a man I didn't know this was a thing, thinking about it I guess I've seen it on TV. I can take off shirts just fine without doing that, then again, shirts are not what I wear when I'm going to do an activity that's going to cause me to sweat a lot.
The shirt thing is speed for sure. It’s faster and it’s 1 fluid motion. Once you’ve done it a couple times the shirt kind of just slides right off with incredibly little effort.
I do the door thing all the time. Make sure you are walking on the correct side of her depending on which way the door opens. It's also super efficient because she doesn't need to stop walking.
I get why on a sort of biological level why women find driving attractive because you're being a leader and a navigator or something, but as a man I find driving pretty trivial and uninteresting, at least most of the time, it can be fun sometimes. I just find it funny that women get attracted by something I'd consider to be so mundane.
It's different when you are doing it alone or when you are doing it with a woman. When you are driving it puts your more in the masculine role and helps the polarity between you guys. Try doing it reverse, where you sit in the passenger seat and you drive. It works in reverse for the polarity between you
@@Atlas65 Ya, there's definitely a big difference between driving to work alone and driving with a girl on a night out. I do feel that driving with a girl sort of does increase my sense of masculinity, but it's not like a huge thing for me that I need to sustain my ego. My bigger issue with being a passenger to a woman is that women are generally just bad at driving, not because I feel like my sense of masculinity is at stake, I literally just don't really trust women to be in that role.
1. Hand stuff 2. Zaddy stuff 3. Back and door stuff 4. Ordering stuff 5. Crispy sleeve stuff 6. Notice me senpai stuff 7. Shirts off stuff 8. Come hither hand stuff 9. Car stuff (Stop short, boys) 10. Handling it stiff Also, Courtney being a scary driver is very funny. But women are out here looking at hands so how can they focus.
My girl just did this to me yesterday. Had some minor drama pop off at the house while I was at work and she called me and proceeded to tell me about it five times over the next hour. After a while, when she was better in the mood for that change of tone in the conversation, we exchanged a few thoughts back and forth about how to handle things going forward and then before we hung up she told me how much she appreciated it that I just listened first. On another note, she knows just how safe she is in the vehicle with me at all times because I drive a semi truck for work. When she is riding with me is one of the few times that I can think of that she will literally just check out of everything that's going on around her and totally focus on reading a book or replying to emails or some other such thing. Then as if by some Harry Potter magic, she has been transported to a place where I'm asking her if she's coming in with me or remaining in the car while I go in!😂
@@Garbox80 Ya, it took me a long time to figure out that was mutual trauma happening. It isn't like it was a thing I wished to do, but it comes out of the blue every once and a while.
@@JeanPaulFernandes Staring might be baned in the UK. What I'm talking about happens in a microsecond. I haven't found anyone else who expereinces it. No one really talks about it.
You need to watch Melanie King, Pearl Davis, Fresh & Fit, Michael Sartain, Psychacks. Also need to learn to spell. Try reading. Edit: Read edited works, not social media content. You’re welcome, btw.
As Courtney alluded to, I'm not sure about the "Leave it to me. I'll fix it" I think this really is just for physical tasks, chores or checking on something, but that's probably it. Otherwise men will just try and jump to some unusable simple solution to a complex problem. This sounds almost sounds a tad simp. If women have problems why do they need the man to solve them. Why can't they talk to their girlfriends about it instead? Unless it's a physical task their friends or female relatives will probably come up with a betters solution anyway.
"Women don't always want solutions, they sometimes just need someone to listen" this is something that my ex had to teach me. Didn't make sense to me, but I realized it didn't have to.
The voice effect reminds of those teachers that would bang on my desk if I’m falling asleep during class work . That bloody voice effect gives me flashbacks😂
Things I find super attractive that women (may) have no idea about: 1) walk barefoot 2) doesn't paint her nails 3) speak in another language (or accent) 4) read a book 5) dresses modestly 6) is not addicted to the internet 7) plays an instrument 8) calmly and respectfully stands for herself when someone does her wrong (yes, including myself) 9) when she's genuinely knowledgeable and passionate for a subject (history, biology, math, etc..) 10) when she's good at a sport 11) is generally innocent and inexperienced 12) spends A LOT of time with her family 13) is interested in listening and learning from good people with integrity. 14) is turned off by men with tattoos
Things women do that are attractive: - Genuinely laugh when she likes my jokes. - No valley girl/end sentence with an inflection question style of speaking. - Ask for something they want straight out instead of using manipulation to get it. - Use perfume and makeup minimally. This enhances instead of hides. - Gently caress the back of your neck/base of your skull. - Lingering eye contact with a smile. - Dressing with self-respect. - Maintaining their body's natural beauty and "softness"...no facial piercings and a few small to no tattoos. - Hugs. - Not saying I love you every 5 minutes because they want to hear it back...needy. Saying it and meaning it when she really feels it or when I am having a really bad day. - Speaking calmly and kindly.
B Some good points I agree with. Natural beauty-softness-feminine, long hair in their natural color. I realize almost all women seem to have tattoos somewhere these days. It they are large and visible when dressed-gross. Piercings anywhere but the ears-gross. Minimal makeup. Too much and I call that war paint. Perfume should only be able to be smelled if you get really close to them, not arrive five minutes before they do. If they have something they want to discuss, get to the point. If they take 10 minutes of build up and include a whole roster of unrelated people I'm already starting to tune out by then. And smoking or vaping is an absolute deal breaker.
Most women don't even know what they actually like. And if they like something one time they may not like it the next. Again I think it all goes back to most women not knowing what they like or they're doing it out of emotions.
When I'm taking off my jumper I first pull the neck hole up over my head so it doesn't get caught on my head on the way off. Then I reach back and grab at the back of the neck/top of the back and pull the thing off. The advantage if this method is my jumper isn't inside-out when it comes off. And it's pretty quick to do.
A few things I like or find attractive: - long straight hair, and when she brushes it away from her face - a cute nose - When a women holds my upper arm - when she's with a group of friends and falls behind, then runs to catch up and it's kind of a hop - when she walks ahead of me and looks back at me with a smile - when she gets excited and bounces up and down
Yeah the only problem with this list is that these are NOT women; they are post teenage girls. I don't think a woman of 35 gives a crap about most of these things.
I dunno about that. I see your point but... 1. the lady in this vid is young yet she's also married, she's a little more mature that post-teen girlie 2. I've seen the "kiddo" thing work with women in their 40s.
*I’ve found that being genuinely interested in what a woman has to say can create a strong connection. What are some specific examples of traits that have worked for you in the past? Would love to hear different perspectives!*
For the shirt thing, I do it because I don't want to stretch it out and it also avoids turning it inside out, so if I have to put it back on I don't have to do anything extra.
Since you asked - the reason I take off shirts from the back is because taking it off any other way stretches the F outta the shirt. Maybe this only applies to guys who are in good shape since the shoulders are by far the widest part of my body.
Just to be clear, they find that BS attractive if you look like Chris Hemsworth. If you look like Danny Devtito then it doesn’t matter if you take your shirt off from the back, front or upside down in a handstand 😂
As a guy who takes his shirt off from the back (and who is black), it doesn’t mess with my afro too much and it is just far easier for me to pull off in one swoop 👕
Randomly coming across this video so in the spirit of finding thing’s attractive, that outfit Courtney is great on you. A woman with style is attractive quality that often gets overlooked. Doesn’t have to be skimpy at all.
Just something us guys ABSOLUTELY LOVE: a woman that’s naturally beautiful and doesn’t feel a need for makeup. You guys have absolutely no damn clue how attractive it is.
Honestly, taking a shirt off from the back is the only way I've ever done it. Don't think I would know how to do it any other way. I had no idea anyone notices or would ever think about it. Love the point you made that there is no actual "right or wrong" for almost all of these situations, everything works for someone. BTW, love your voice Courtney - it's really smooth and nice to listen to.
First, thank you for a frank and enjoyable video. I love when a woman speaks to me as an equal...not up or down to me. We can have a pleasant conversation about anything. I love when, like in a yoga class, they pull the hair scrunchy off, shake their hair out run their fingers through and lift their arms and put everything back in order. Wow! A great smile is huge. In exercise class, wearing loose fit tops, bare midriff exposed...sweat! ...a total turn on. No make up is fine with me. I love a naturally 'happy with myself as I am' woman.
Man the timing of that is funny. I was thinking about the condition my hands just yesterday... which have become quite calloused on the inside from pullups, on the outside from bareknuckle bagwork, and on the tips from playing guitar. And wondering how that might feel to girls that I do salsa classes with, one in particular. 😏 Sounds like it's not a problem. 🙂
I can say something about the shirt thing. I hadn’t thought of it until I saw this video, but I’ve down the “over the back” shirt removal sometimes without even putting much thought into it. But now that I’ve thought about it, it’s because if you do it right (or with the right shirt) it’s actually the quickest way to remove it. I can pull it over with one hand and have my head and one arm through, and the shirt on one arm, all in one motion, and then simply toss the shirt aside. I’ve only really done this with undershirts though.
The reason men take our 👕 off from the back, particularly if it is form fitting, is so it does not rip - as it would if taken off from the front. This started occurring in my late 20s after filling out more and so I had to retrain my 🧠 and be mindful of it. 😌
I’m glad you interpreted what they were saying because I couldn’t understand a single thing because of that voice….. and I agree with your recommendations, and often say “I got this”…. I do open doors, even for strangers, but never touch… and I always offer my arm to my wife , and I love for her to take it and move in tight to me…
This was a fun video because it''s stuff we men like to do for our woman(women). It's a primal, instinctual thing we do because it activates our protecter mode. The food thing comes from when men were hunters and we brought the food home. Rolling up our sleeves means we getting to do the work and get the job done. I've never thought about the shirt thing, but I tried the different ways a few times and I've come to the conclusion that it's a protection thing too. It's very quick. Our eyes are only covered for a second or two. Also, it keeps our arms from getting tangled together, so if there is trouble, we would still be able to handle without being too handicapped. The car is protection too. We want the woman to be comfortable, relaxed. If there's children, they want her, she's better at handling them. And yes, we think we're better drivers. Leave it with me, you explained it quite well. This was my second video. This and the first one got me to subscribe. The first was The High Value Man from April 10, 2024. I really like how you address current trends, but the advice will last beyond the trend. The high value man video is about being on the same level of the person you want to attract. It's a self-reflection to know what you bring to the relationship.
Thanks for all the information of what women like. There were things that I didn't think women would notice. Again thanks. Also, I hope these two find the love they are looking for. And deserve.
Thank you Courtney for being such an example of a feminine woman and a voice of reason in this day and age and thank you for giving us men valuable advice in clothing styles and also women's opinions on all the different topics.
Normally it’s the fastest way to take a shirt off and the most convenient way. However it’s really dependent on the shirt size and your confidence in your physique.
I don’t know if other guys do this, but I personally like to get something from my car or throw something away before talking to women or anyone. It’s kind of a routine of mine. Feels good, too. Like You’re taking care of business, then getting down to business. Super Satisfying!
To taking your shirt off from the back: reach back stretched and emphasizes your triceps and lats. Your extension of the arms forward activates your back muscles as well. In short, your flexing and activating muscles while doing this process to look ripped in the motion.
One that absolutely floored me is the "taking off the shirt from the back" one. That's bizarre to me. My brother and I have ALWAYS taken our shirts off that way, and it's NOT because that's what we see hot guys do in movies. In fact, I think most movies with RIPPED men show them take their shirts off much like women do, just to showcase the abs. I don't have abs, I just pull my shirt off from the back because that's the way I've done it my entire life, literally as long as I can remember. I don't know if I was trained to do it that way as a little kid, if it's genetic or just natural. I don't know, but that's just how I do it.
Best piece of advice I can give to women: let your man know when you just want to vent. We're natural problem solvers so if you come us upset and with a problem, our brains go straight to 'how can I fix this to make her happy again'. If you just want to vent *say so*. That way we can control the 'have to fix this' impulse and not piss you off (and there by making us wonder what we did wrong as we don't understand).
For as long as I can remember, I have always removed a pull over shirt from the back. I guess there was something about the way it felt on a hot summer day as kid that has stuck with me throughout life. That refreshing feeling of the air hitting your bare skin after playing hard with your buddies as kid or after a long afternoon of football practice in late August.
As a man who has hands and drives, I see this as an absolute win
Get really dry and flaky and you're an absolute winner
'Ryan Gosling memes intensify'
it's only a win if she finds you attractive, which includes a lot of other qualities.
@justingary5322
TL;DR
Hahaha
Not exaggerating, that is the only positive piece of media I’ve seen about men in years.
Ofcourse the eye to eye contact is obviously a killer in a goodway KILLER😊
Can I just say I think this is about the DOES and the DON'TS so eye contact will just come naturally I would suggest not trying this unnaturally as it would look fake so this is a thing OF YOU LIKE HER IT WILL JUST HAPPEN
The t shirt thing of take it off from back don't make an a hole of yourself something's just don't bother😂
Courtney your man is a lucky man I'm sure he's a sexy good guy gotta be.😂😊😂
You need to visit this channel more often
Nice to hear Courtney say, 'I love men'- a sentiment from women that is becoming increasingly rare.
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Bro, that was WILD! I reposted it! 🤞😂❤️
I had to watch a few times. 🥲
As long as she's benefits from them.
Oh yes today's women are not good for men of today😢😢
Things that I find attractive in women:
1.) Kindness towards animals and people (caring but not naive).
2.) Long term prospects
3.) Intelligence
Not animals😅😅
Gay
To me it's more of her caring and kindness towards anyone regardless of what they look like, their gender, their age. If she is only nice to girls for example that reeks of predatorial and self-gain and makes me feel disgusted as much as I feel about simps being only nice to girls.
@@sdott9751who u? Oh man i didnt know to bad i dont care.
1. Being genuinely interested in you as a person
1. Dry callous hands, hands in general
2. Calling a girl a "good girl" (will vary from woman to woman)
3. Touching a girl's lower back. Opening a door and ushering her in.
4. Ordering their food for them (Polarizing effect, some hate it others love it)
5. Rolling up your sleeves on a button down shirt.
6. Special attention in group settings.
7. Taking your shirt off with one hand from the back 🤷♂
8. Motioning for them to give you their hand while you're walking ahead of them.
9. When you drive. (One arm on wheel and an other behind headrest or on lap)
10. Vocalizing that you'll handle a problem or situation.
4.) You ask them what they generally want, fowl, chicken, beef, fish, etc, salty, spicy, sweet, etc, THEN suggest (order) for them.
@@FORS4KENThat's why you put them through the washing machine first.
@@FORS4KEN Well, if women can't tell youwhat they like, you're already lost. just stay in your head or listen to another man, sounds like a winning strategy. Good Luck with that.
@@khem127 if you ask fish about how to catch fish, it's not over for you, it never began in the first place.
basically serve them nonstop and give them constant attention. Spoiler alert they still won't be happy in the end because they don't have to be.
Something I find attractive in women is when they are straight forward, transparent communicators. It tells me they're not interested in playing mind games and otherwise wasting time.
Where are these women you speak of??
@@boris1387 Either already in relationships or hiding somewhere. At least that's what it often feels like😂
@@_israelferraro I hear ya dude 😆👌👍🏻
Nah, you just described a man. No woman has ever been straight forward or transparent with their communication, it's just in their nature to be illogical.
You need to date a man for that bro🤣🤣. I mean that's textbook men's communcation. Men communicate overtly and directly, women are the polar opposite, communicating covertly and indirectly. Ofc there are exceptions but generally this is how it is.
I hate all of those voice effects. Whether it's the female one or that disturbing fake SpongeBob one but I'm not on tiktok yet other platforms still feature these videos
Same 😭
💯
ditto
I thought I was the only one who thinks it sounds like sponge bob 😂
TikTok makes me support nuking China
I find it attractive when a woman huddles closer to me. It feels more personal, intimate, and trust in personal space. Or when talking and she casually says my name in a conversation.
government name to be specific
I'm 71, been happily married for 38 years, and some of these were a revelation. I have a few new things to try. 😂❤
Here's one thing I know my wife loves. When I'm getting dressed for say, church, I'll put on a long-sleeve dress shirt, button the cuffs, and then -- before I put my suit slacks on -- I'll walk over to the chair to sit down to put on my socks. She comments regularly how much she loves watching me walk across the room like that. 😂❤
Nah. Those are their real voices.
Lmaoo
With so much negative stuff being said by women about men & men about women on line these days its so very refeshing to see young women make a video like this. It gives me much hope for the future & I really hope that we're past the worst of this stupid gender war. Then to hear Courtney beautify say "I love men" was just so wonderful to hear. This video has made me so happy. Oh, & I love women.
Sorry, but we are absolutely not past the worst of it. The worst of it is yet to come; just wait until 2030.... then you will see the real fireworks begin.
one hundred percent!
About the shirt thing...
Guys do that because our shirts are cut different than women's. We don't want to stretch out the neck. We usually have wider shoulders than women. I personally don't like turning my shirts inside-out. It's just another step to folding it, or hanging it up, after we wash our clothes. It's mostly about not stretching out our clothes.
I was gonna say if I am working on a car and my shirt is dirty I will try not to pull that dirt to my face. For me the easiest way to keep the dirt out is to drag from the back.
I read through the comments to see if anyone had said the obvious (to men). I do it this way to keep from turning the shirt inside out, especially long sleeve shirts.
I used to never understand that method of taking off a shirt and never did it. Recently, though, I went on a bike ride and got so sweaty, and the particular shirt I had on stuck to me so bad, there was just no taking it off in the way I usually do.
it's from having wider lats too, like if my shirt's wet it suction cups to my lats and the only way I can ever get my shirt off until I've 'dried off' after the gym is by pulling it off from the backside like that
Yeah, it's being too sweaty for it to come off any other way
Your sincerity makes these videos be so empathetic.
1. As a man, pulling off your shirt from the back is easy once you master the technique 😊
2. One simple thing I find attractive is when you have been working around the house and your wife surprises you a freshly squeezed lemonade or home brewed ice coffee in the middle of a task, not at the end.
Keep it up, your videos bring awareness in such a kind and loving manner.
Why do you do though? All the guys I went to high school with would take off their sweatshirts like that too and I've never once (as a guy) had the inclination to try it
Granted I don't specifically know that I DON'T like to do it that way, I just don't get why everyone else does
@@samstromberg5593 It leaves the shirt the right way around. Pulling the shirt from the bottom inverts it.
@@samstromberg5593 It is a swift, smooth motion that leaves the shirt right-side-out (as noted by @forasago), quick, easy, even if the shirt if very sweaty or wet, and doesn't look or feel stupid like pulling each arm through. Sheesh. It's just the smoothest, smartest way to remove a shirt.
@@dbf1dware Mm for me it’s harder cause I don’t have short hair so it’s really easy to mess up if I take it off like that
All the swim kids at my high school would do it cause it also pulls their shirt up but makes it look not intentional and they were just tryna show off so actually that’s another reason I don’t do it cause I don’t HAVE any muscles to show off😂
@@samstromberg5593 Fair enough. I have almost zero hair, so that is not an issue. I also have a so-called "dad bod" meaning I have a fat belly and no muscle. So I am definitely NOT trying to show off anything. Quite the contrary. I want to get this sweaty, dirty shirt off of me and put on a clean one as quickly as possible to AVOID anyone being subjected to my un-attractiveness.
You asked things we find attractive.
Core values - compassion, able to joke around with me, humility, feminine, humility, appreciating me, able to grow and able to listen. Tries to improve.
little things - Long hair and really love the spiral curls. Wearing a circular dress and seeing it twirl, a genuine smile, cute happy dances, happy laughs, playful teasing that doesn't get mean spirited. Cute facial expressions.
1. Income
2. Income
3. Income
4. Income
5. Income
6. Income
7. Income
8. Income
9. Income
10. Hands
Also one arm on the window or leaning on the steering wheel; depends on what you're driving. Being married I give zero F's that I drive on old, reliable work truck that'll get dirty anyway on the gravel road I live on. It drives women nuts when you don't play their game but rather totally ignore them.
*big nob
@@astroboirap big hands
10 B: hands with which to make income…* 🤭
LOL
I've tried the "fix a problem" thing and it usually ended up with me in the friendzone.
100% correct
It only works if she already finds you attractive
Probably overweight
Try not to fix the problem , instead try to missed the part where that your problem 😂😂
@@QuintinHowelllike every other strategy then.
I think this only applies if she finds you attractive in the 1st place.
Cash
Oh yeah 100%.
That applies to all these kind of women's 'tips'.
Yeah. Step 1: Be the kind of man she wants to marry. Step 2: Drive a car or whatever every day thing you have to take care of that day and suddenly it's attractive.
@@BWater-yq3jx
They tend to romanticize a lot.
The rough hands thing they’re probably thinking of a guy like young Brat Pitt at the gym, not your overweight construction worker’s hands.
In other words how tall you are.
@CourtneyRyan - We take our shirts off from the back, because when the shirt is wet with sweat from working all day -- it tends to stick to the back side and not pull over. We typically do this with any shirt that is *not* button-down. We don't care what they do in the movies. It's just really as simple as a practical solution from trial and error in becoming a hard-working man.
Nailed it. It’s the shirt sticking to the back because of sweat.
As a man I've never done this. Guess there's no hope for me then welp. Please go on without me guys--I'll be fine!
This seems exactly the wrong way around. When I pull from the back (my normal technique) a truly wet shirt will stick to the skin too much. In these situations I'll make an exception and use the front technique because the shirt rolls off the skin rather than being dragged along the skin. No friction. How could it get/stay stuck when you pull from the front? Makes no sense.
Disclaimer: You need to be attractive first of all.
Sounds like you are coping.
As a man I do a lot of these things , didn’t realize women notice it, it’s mostly things I watched my father do
1. Hand on lower back, ushering my mom when I was a kid
2. Driving her whenever she needed to go somewhere
3. Opening and closing her door no matter how long you’re together
4. When she walks behind reaching out to take her hand
5. Wiping her hair off her face if it falls on her face when she’s talking
Things done by the “right” woman not just any woman
1. Taking my hand when I least expect it , sitting somewhere relaxing
2. Hugging from
The back when we are doing something
3. Eye contact in a crowd
4. Being good with kids
5. Dressing feminine in dresses , especially long maxi cut dresses with flats
6. Being patient n kind
7. Thoughtfulness
8. When she’s late and shows up flustered and lets me calm her down and assuring her its ok
Men love handling problems and also calming down a flustered or stressed out woman they love!
@equalizedby12:
Sounds like you really miss your mom.
@@jeffro. Sounds like you just want to argue and need to deal with an inner anger you haven't dealt with yet
@@jeffro. I think you misread his comment. He was describing his dad doing those things.
we should get married baby girl
I completely agree with number 5 on your "right" woman list.
The reason for why I sometimes pull off my shirts from behind is because it is easier if the shirt fits tight over chest and shoulders.
It is also quicker than to unbotton the whole shirt 😊
Exactly
I do this with my buttoned shirt, which I wear over several days. I suspect that men's shoulders are more flexible than women's.
Yeah and also it's not inside out when you do it like that.
hey now, save some ladies for the rest of us
We also don't have boobs to snag the shirt on accidentally
I just wanted to say again, Courtney, that it's nice to know that you sincerely care about men. We don't often get the appreciation we deserve. A girlfriend of mine 30 years ago was very good to me that way and I still love her for it.
The reaction/responses from both Courtney and the two women in the video make me realize how much I miss having a woman in my life. All these things that got them excited had little to nothing to do with money or any of the other things you hear women want from men. They are getting worked up over men simply being themselves. I love it.
I agree. However, I work in a trade with all men, go to the gym and generally stay busy. I haven’t really found a scene where I can connect with women in the wild. Tried apps for like a month. Sometimes I’ll go to bars with my friends but I’m honestly not looking for someone who goes out every weekend. It seems like that’s where everyone meets if it’s not on an app. I feel like it would be easier if I had some avenue of access. Only dated one girl for 4 years and I still miss her after a more than a year of being apart. It’s so lomely out here
It's true that "don't need no man" has reached a wider audience of women. Nevertheless, in most of the "red pill" videos I watch, they poll scantily clad GIRLS (with their juvenile and entitled attitudes, I wouldn't call them women) on the street (beaucoup red flags flying just visually) and then use the voiceover at the end "she's for the streets!" You found her on the street, not engaged in anything worthwhile already. What did you expect? I live in the Kansas City area, and the women, though touched by feminist ideas, are generally much more conservative than the half-naked bimbos they talk to on the podcasts. I am shocked at how far-reaching the temporary fad of permanent tattoos has become. But what do I know, I'm an old guy who's not on the market. I'm schooling myself to the new realities so I can counsel my grandchildren with realistic and timely advice.
@@justinlane4153try some clubs or something where you can meet like-minded women? Best way to meet one is to know them already.
Where do you usually meet woman?
well... I guess then these aren't what's really relevant, before all. as in: who did lady chatterley fall for, or scarlett o'hara (fiction, yes).
What men find attractive in women:
1. Not being the kind of person that uses TikTok
Never downloaded tiktok. ✋
That is a fact!
Most of us men have no idea about these because we feel invisible - plain and simple.
Get jacked and get a 6-pack then you won't be invisible anymore.
@@komoru That could work for a guy who's 6+ feet tall, but what about the guy who's 5'8" and isn't Tom Cruise? Women want the triple-6 guy; the double-6 dude will still be invisible.
@@John_Caravella to be fair its not every woman. If that were the case you wouldn't be seeing average men and women walking together with their child on the streets. Its just that social media has spread this idea so its become crazy.
vidfan men are probably NOT looking at the women who are looking at them
@@noaharthur9041 Its probably her X's child
Guys, don't let your hands get dried out. You'll have pains in you hands later in life. My dad said he regrets not taking better care of his hands. I try to lotion my hands at least once a week.
Just use soaps that have inbuilt moisturizer
@user-qk7vv3mx1s The dry calloused hand thing makes no sense to me, I work with my hands daily... but I wear PPE... so I don't fuck up my hands lol
How will this cause pains later in life which can't be fixed within a week or so of moisturizing?
@@Youttubeuser20932Good question. I think it came from a gay accountant.
Moistureizing ,is a great way to soften your skin ,all of your skin,caulluses don’t disappear,smell good too
Things that I find attractive that women do.
- laughing
- logical thinking
- when she lifts her arms up, like doing things with her hair or stretching
- when she says “give me a kiss”
- holding my upper arm with both her hands
- well painted nails
- smiles
I love accountality. Owning up to their mistakes. It's so rare nowdays
yes, well painted nails and basically over all taking care of her look.
Those first and third points were things I overlooked, but dang if they don't get me... whew
-when she wears this two-tone button down little number and describes how sexy her husband is
women and logical thinking is an oxymoron, their decision process is entirely based upon how they feel and negative experience...that's called living in fear....any girl spoiled enough to never have experienced negative experiences you are just going to disappoint the hell out of her and set a new threshold bar for all men in her future to have to hurdle over like a boss. see Hoe_Math 1-10 scale men vs womens dating perception scale
I love it when women are sweet to not just me but to others as well. When she is considerate, warm, positive, easy going, energetic and fun and when you can be yourself around them without them judging you. A positive and good hearted women
I agree with you 100%
@@davidx5242 👌👌
@Via-Tele-gram-CourtneyRyan08 me? 😊
I like when women stay away from me
@@screwedupmystic2597 Ha! gayyyyyyy :)
I agree. It was so nice to see women talk about enjoying men. It was refreshing.
Love when women can take some initiative and be an upfront and mature communicator. Problems are impossible to solve if you don't know they exist.
I think an important takeaway from this is that while there are some things that a majority of women like, most turn ons and turn offs are very subjective and vary wildly from person to person. I think it’s good practice to take any advice that starts off with “All men …” or “All women …” with a massive grain of salt
I think it also depends a lot on whether she likes or dislikes you already anyway. Your hands will do nothing for her if she's already decided you're a low value a'hole, and if she's attracted to you then lots of random, small things will reinforce that positive perception.
@@BillPeschel I'd be curious to hear some examples of those many "red flags"
Spot on.. And most of these turn offs comes from what the guy they are already attracted to has.. If any of these things was on any other guy - it might be a huge turn off.. ;)
@@jonprince3237 This. Most women will like almost everything in this video IF they are already attracted to you. If a woman is very attracted to you she will match your energy and start liking everything you like and appreciating everything you do (within reason). Step one is being as attractive as you can, maximize your looks, your confidence, your masculinity. Then more women will find you attractive and suddenly the things you do will seem a lot more charming.
Those voices really throw my concentration 😫 Like ladies, us men want to hear your voice! That’s what dig 😂 Great video, Courtney.
So glad that Courtney clarified the whole, Solve the problem, but sometimes they just want you to listen and not try to solve it. Can we get different colored chips/flags to help a brother out? Also love the subtle undertone of all three of them admitting that women are quite indecisive and often don't know what they want! It's nothing bad, just own it. Refreshing to hear some honesty and the girls just having fun!
Different colored chips, no, but you can ask the question, is this an "I need a solution" problem or is this an "I just want to vent about it" problem? Might sound stupid or counterintuitive, but it works for me and my lady. Contrary to what you might believe, she actually does answer that question with one or the other if it's asked directly.
@supramaniac502 I was kinda joking, but yes, I do agree with you. I do this with my wife and it does work. She will start talking about something and I ask her that same question. "Do you want me to just listen to you, or help you solve this?" And she does answer and then keeps going. It does help us as well!
Maybe it's just because I'm older and I stopped giving a f-- about what people think, but that list seemed awful silly.
Women are silly. Have you seen what Batman would look like if he was designed to appeal to women? Big eyes, thick lips, bare arms. Yikes! Not cool like a shadow of the night.
All those things, only if the guy already meets all the prerequisites. They are not describing an average guy doing those things. Instead, they are imagining a 10% guy.
The biggest turn-on from women for me is when they respond calmly to unexpected events. Most women fly off the handle and start imagining worst case scenarios for everything making it difficult to communicate with them and work together to find a solution. Seeing a woman calmly think about the situation makes me feel like I can trust her.
The next best turn-on is finding a woman that is capable of self change. Someone who acknowledges they will inevitably change over time and are actively seeking to become a better version of themselves. Not everyone has the ability to see themselves from a 3rd party point of view and imagine different versions of their lives, choosing to become who they want to become. Most people are simply being tossed around like a leaf in the wind adapting to whatever situation they're in....Instead of having control over their future and CHOOSING to have you as a part of it.
So true
Constantly jumping to the worst case scenario instead of taking the time to see where the situation leads is very tiring.
It's one way to make me cranky in a hurry. I hate having to talk a woman off a ledge over something that is most likely nothing and very slim chances of being as bad as she is imagining.
@@thisdyingsoul76bruh what
@JACQUEZJOHNSON23 imagine if a woman googles symptoms she is having and there is a 99.9% chance it's just a minor condition (dry skin, for example) and a 0.1% chance it's cancer. So naturally she assumes she has cancer and it becomes a catastrophe.
Now imagine this logic is applied to every scenario in this woman's life and you are the one constantly trying to reel her back in and get to think rationally.
That's exhausting and hard on the head to have to do all the time, don't you think?
Cool under pressure x1000!. I work with all guys and any time there is a major issue in the field we calmly bounce ideas and solutions. At home a little tiny thing can make my wife go completely off the rails. I find her stress gives me stress. It's also very hard to work through solutions when she is so upset.
those sponge bob voice effects is a red flag for me,
A *red flag* bro? People just love to throw that around these days 😂
Bruh, the girls in the Tiktok video were walking red flags. Frigging Soviet Union is nothing compared to this shit.
"I Love Men!" 😂 Hahah that was indeed a cute video:)
I miss having a giggly girl by me I gotta say, it's a great feeling to have someone who admires you for even those little things!
Congratulations on 700K subscribers. Another great video, thanks, Courtney.
Thank you so much 🥰
Nice to hear Courtney say I love men a sentiment from women that is becoming increasingly rare.
To answer Courtney’s question, I usually pull my shirt off from the back when I’m sweaty and my shirt is sticking to my back (How else would you take it off? My back is what the shirt is sticking to. It doesn’t cling to the front for some reason, probably because my back is relatively smooth with more surface area to cling to, while my front is more “bumpy”). Also, I tend to pull my jacket or sweater off from the back and pulling it over my head toward the front, especially when I’m sitting in the car and there is limited space on either side of my seat, but there is ample headroom to pull something over my head. Taking off a shirt or sweater or hoodie by reaching back and grabbing the back and pulling it toward your front is usually the quickest way to disrobe, as the top comes right off. Grabbing a shirt from the front causes it to bunch up in the back for some reason, and you wind up tossing the shirt off backwards behind you, while grabbing the shirt from the back allows you to pull it over your head toward your front and toss it in front of you, which is less awkward (even if it bunches up in the front). Try it yourself.
My girl said what made her gooey about me straight away were my hands and right forearm as I'm a guitar player. What made me gooey about her was her posture, potential and posterior. What still makes me gooey about her is unfailing support, humor, forthrightness, grace and kindness.
this made my heart melt.
These are all just completely basic normal things we already do. Easy. But this leads me to believe that you must already be attractive in order for these things to attract ladies. In that case, everything still boils down to just having to already be attractive.
If you're not a 6-6-6 guy to begin with, all the things discussed in this video are irrelevant.
When women say "Men" or "All Men," they are in fact referring only to the top 5 or 10 percent of men. That's important to keep in mind.
@@John_Caravella ah i have found it, the truth in one of this ladies viewers.
I don't even have a drivers license and my academic hands will never be dry and worn, but somehow I suspect it comes down to looking and acting decent
@@John_Caravellaisn't it obvious though? If you made a video about what you find "secretly attractive" about women you're going to be referring to women that make it past your physical attraction filter and of course that varies from men to men. Let's be fair here.
@@ShaferHart I, like most men, don't have a "secret attraction" list for women. Men are basic, easy-to-understand creatures. We want a woman that looks decent (we don't demand or expect supermodels), is kind, and bathes regularly. That's it. Men are not hard to please. In comparison, women are PhD-level calculus, wrapped in feelings, and taught in Sanskrit.
@Courtney, your reactions are priceless 😂 "immediately unwell. I won't say anymore" 😂😂
I think this is a positive video overall, so true in terms of eye contact and leading especially. I will say though that f you're a guy that's looking to become more attractive, you don't need to start rolling your sleeves up or manufacturing situations where women will see you drive. I see those as things where if a woman already likes you to some extent, she'll enjoy seeing those things.
I will hold the door, but I will not put my hands on anyone that is not pre-approved.
Rolling up the sleeves 👌100% agreed. They like it and I love the look myself, it really does give your outfit a whole different look 😅
Except, men don't wear "outfits."
Usually, as a guy, we take off our shirts from the back if we are sweaty or sticky. And the shirt sticks to our back, so the only way to take it off is to literally grip it from the back and pull it forward over our head. Otherwise, I'm not sure if it's a common thing for other guys.
As a man I didn't know this was a thing, thinking about it I guess I've seen it on TV. I can take off shirts just fine without doing that, then again, shirts are not what I wear when I'm going to do an activity that's going to cause me to sweat a lot.
The shirt thing is speed for sure. It’s faster and it’s 1 fluid motion. Once you’ve done it a couple times the shirt kind of just slides right off with incredibly little effort.
I can not remember the last time I saw a video of women talking positively about men.
I do the door thing all the time. Make sure you are walking on the correct side of her depending on which way the door opens. It's also super efficient because she doesn't need to stop walking.
Women hate chivalry. So I go ahead of her and hold the door closed and watch the puzzled look on their faces through the glass window.
I get why on a sort of biological level why women find driving attractive because you're being a leader and a navigator or something, but as a man I find driving pretty trivial and uninteresting, at least most of the time, it can be fun sometimes. I just find it funny that women get attracted by something I'd consider to be so mundane.
It's different when you are doing it alone or when you are doing it with a woman. When you are driving it puts your more in the masculine role and helps the polarity between you guys. Try doing it reverse, where you sit in the passenger seat and you drive. It works in reverse for the polarity between you
@@Atlas65 Ya, there's definitely a big difference between driving to work alone and driving with a girl on a night out. I do feel that driving with a girl sort of does increase my sense of masculinity, but it's not like a huge thing for me that I need to sustain my ego. My bigger issue with being a passenger to a woman is that women are generally just bad at driving, not because I feel like my sense of masculinity is at stake, I literally just don't really trust women to be in that role.
1. Hand stuff
2. Zaddy stuff
3. Back and door stuff
4. Ordering stuff
5. Crispy sleeve stuff
6. Notice me senpai stuff
7. Shirts off stuff
8. Come hither hand stuff
9. Car stuff (Stop short, boys)
10. Handling it stiff
Also, Courtney being a scary driver is very funny. But women are out here looking at hands so how can they focus.
Thanks man
thats lots of stuff
3. Back and door stuff
*record scratch*
Hang on a minute. I don't remember that in the video.... oh right no yeah, back AND door stuff.
"If he's just like driving a car.... Pull over" had me DEAD🤣🤣🤣
My girl just did this to me yesterday. Had some minor drama pop off at the house while I was at work and she called me and proceeded to tell me about it five times over the next hour. After a while, when she was better in the mood for that change of tone in the conversation, we exchanged a few thoughts back and forth about how to handle things going forward and then before we hung up she told me how much she appreciated it that I just listened first.
On another note, she knows just how safe she is in the vehicle with me at all times because I drive a semi truck for work. When she is riding with me is one of the few times that I can think of that she will literally just check out of everything that's going on around her and totally focus on reading a book or replying to emails or some other such thing. Then as if by some Harry Potter magic, she has been transported to a place where I'm asking her if she's coming in with me or remaining in the car while I go in!😂
Things that women do that I find attractive: sweat, good posture, dance, good pronunciation, locking eyes while noticing each other's symetry.
That last one is true, if they like you. If they don't like you, it can turn out as creepy.
Bruh
@@Garbox80 Ya, it took me a long time to figure out that was mutual trauma happening. It isn't like it was a thing I wished to do, but it comes out of the blue every once and a while.
I heard staring that can get you in trouble in the UK
@@JeanPaulFernandes Staring might be baned in the UK. What I'm talking about happens in a microsecond. I haven't found anyone else who expereinces it. No one really talks about it.
1) tall 2) rich 3) European decent
Kazakhstan is in the Eurovision, so borat voice is acceptable
Nope
4) spelling
@@DaddyWarchief descent
You need to watch Melanie King, Pearl Davis, Fresh & Fit, Michael Sartain, Psychacks. Also need to learn to spell. Try reading. Edit: Read edited works, not social media content. You’re welcome, btw.
As Courtney alluded to, I'm not sure about the "Leave it to me. I'll fix it" I think this really is just for physical tasks, chores or checking on something, but that's probably it. Otherwise men will just try and jump to some unusable simple solution to a complex problem. This sounds almost sounds a tad simp. If women have problems why do they need the man to solve them. Why can't they talk to their girlfriends about it instead? Unless it's a physical task their friends or female relatives will probably come up with a betters solution anyway.
"Women don't always want solutions, they sometimes just need someone to listen" this is something that my ex had to teach me. Didn't make sense to me, but I realized it didn't have to.
Honesty....trust....communication.......loyalty......dedication.... and. ...Pure Unconditional Love ❤️!!!!
Remember, they only find these thing attractive if they are already attracted to you.
Only comment that's sensible
As a 38yo male, I don't find Courtney's advice actionable. Idk why. But fwiw, I struggle
Struggle is for everyone. On the brighter side, you probably have only 32 years more to struggle. Enjoy it. I have way less. Good luck.
Courtney always gives solid advice. Love her channel
It’s refreshing to see a video of women describing their attraction toward men. It’s great! Romance is part of joy of life!
The voice effect reminds of those teachers that would bang on my desk if I’m falling asleep during class work . That bloody voice effect gives me flashbacks😂
Things I find super attractive that women (may) have no idea about:
1) walk barefoot
2) doesn't paint her nails
3) speak in another language (or accent)
4) read a book
5) dresses modestly
6) is not addicted to the internet
7) plays an instrument
8) calmly and respectfully stands for herself when someone does her wrong (yes, including myself)
9) when she's genuinely knowledgeable and passionate for a subject (history, biology, math, etc..)
10) when she's good at a sport
11) is generally innocent and inexperienced
12) spends A LOT of time with her family
13) is interested in listening and learning from good people with integrity.
14) is turned off by men with tattoos
You must be Jamaican or Hispanic
Things women do that are attractive:
- Genuinely laugh when she likes my jokes.
- No valley girl/end sentence with an inflection question style of speaking.
- Ask for something they want straight out instead of using manipulation to get it.
- Use perfume and makeup minimally. This enhances instead of hides.
- Gently caress the back of your neck/base of your skull.
- Lingering eye contact with a smile.
- Dressing with self-respect.
- Maintaining their body's natural beauty and "softness"...no facial piercings and a few small to no tattoos.
- Hugs.
- Not saying I love you every 5 minutes because they want to hear it back...needy. Saying it and meaning it when she really feels it or when I am having a really bad day.
- Speaking calmly and kindly.
-Intelligence.
-Intelligence.
-Intelligence.
-Intelligence.
-Intelligence.
-Intelligence.
B Some good points I agree with. Natural beauty-softness-feminine, long hair in their natural color. I realize almost all women seem to have tattoos somewhere these days. It they are large and visible when dressed-gross. Piercings anywhere but the ears-gross. Minimal makeup. Too much and I call that war paint. Perfume should only be able to be smelled if you get really close to them, not arrive five minutes before they do. If they have something they want to discuss, get to the point. If they take 10 minutes of build up and include a whole roster of unrelated people I'm already starting to tune out by then. And smoking or vaping is an absolute deal breaker.
Most women don't even know what they actually like. And if they like something one time they may not like it the next. Again I think it all goes back to most women not knowing what they like or they're doing it out of emotions.
Yup. They change depending what day it is or what guy it is
When I'm taking off my jumper I first pull the neck hole up over my head so it doesn't get caught on my head on the way off. Then I reach back and grab at the back of the neck/top of the back and pull the thing off. The advantage if this method is my jumper isn't inside-out when it comes off. And it's pretty quick to do.
A few things I like or find attractive:
- long straight hair, and when she brushes it away from her face
- a cute nose
- When a women holds my upper arm
- when she's with a group of friends and falls behind, then runs to catch up and it's kind of a hop
- when she walks ahead of me and looks back at me with a smile
- when she gets excited and bounces up and down
Yeah the only problem with this list is that these are NOT women; they are post teenage girls. I don't think a woman of 35 gives a crap about most of these things.
I dunno about that. I see your point but... 1. the lady in this vid is young yet she's also married, she's a little more mature that post-teen girlie 2. I've seen the "kiddo" thing work with women in their 40s.
*I’ve found that being genuinely interested in what a woman has to say can create a strong connection. What are some specific examples of traits that have worked for you in the past? Would love to hear different perspectives!*
For the shirt thing, I do it because I don't want to stretch it out and it also avoids turning it inside out, so if I have to put it back on I don't have to do anything extra.
Courtney Ryan honesty is a blessing
Since you asked - the reason I take off shirts from the back is because taking it off any other way stretches the F outta the shirt. Maybe this only applies to guys who are in good shape since the shoulders are by far the widest part of my body.
Just to be clear, they find that BS attractive if you look like Chris Hemsworth. If you look like Danny Devtito then it doesn’t matter if you take your shirt off from the back, front or upside down in a handstand 😂
As a guy who takes his shirt off from the back (and who is black), it doesn’t mess with my afro too much and it is just far easier for me to pull off in one swoop 👕
Randomly coming across this video so in the spirit of finding thing’s attractive, that outfit Courtney is great on you. A woman with style is attractive quality that often gets overlooked. Doesn’t have to be skimpy at all.
Just something us guys ABSOLUTELY LOVE: a woman that’s naturally beautiful and doesn’t feel a need for makeup.
You guys have absolutely no damn clue how attractive it is.
Honestly, taking a shirt off from the back is the only way I've ever done it. Don't think I would know how to do it any other way. I had no idea anyone notices or would ever think about it. Love the point you made that there is no actual "right or wrong" for almost all of these situations, everything works for someone. BTW, love your voice Courtney - it's really smooth and nice to listen to.
First, thank you for a frank and enjoyable video.
I love when a woman speaks to me as an equal...not up or down to me. We can have a pleasant conversation about anything. I love when, like in a yoga class, they pull the hair scrunchy off, shake their hair out run their fingers through and lift their arms and put everything back in order. Wow! A great smile is huge. In exercise class, wearing loose fit tops, bare midriff exposed...sweat! ...a total turn on. No make up is fine with me. I love a naturally 'happy with myself as I am' woman.
Man the timing of that is funny.
I was thinking about the condition my hands just yesterday... which have become quite calloused on the inside from pullups, on the outside from bareknuckle bagwork, and on the tips from playing guitar.
And wondering how that might feel to girls that I do salsa classes with, one in particular. 😏
Sounds like it's not a problem. 🙂
Glad to see something like a positive role model for men pushing them in a right direction. Something we sorely lack
This was a good feel good video for me. Thanks!
I can say something about the shirt thing. I hadn’t thought of it until I saw this video, but I’ve down the “over the back” shirt removal sometimes without even putting much thought into it. But now that I’ve thought about it, it’s because if you do it right (or with the right shirt) it’s actually the quickest way to remove it. I can pull it over with one hand and have my head and one arm through, and the shirt on one arm, all in one motion, and then simply toss the shirt aside. I’ve only really done this with undershirts though.
The reason men take our 👕 off from the back, particularly if it is form fitting, is so it does not rip - as it would if taken off from the front. This started occurring in my late 20s after filling out more and so I had to retrain my 🧠 and be mindful of it. 😌
I’m glad you interpreted what they were saying because I couldn’t understand a single thing because of that voice….. and I agree with your recommendations, and often say “I got this”…. I do open doors, even for strangers, but never touch… and I always offer my arm to my wife , and I love for her to take it and move in tight to me…
This was a fun video because it''s stuff we men like to do for our woman(women). It's a primal, instinctual thing we do because it activates our protecter mode.
The food thing comes from when men were hunters and we brought the food home.
Rolling up our sleeves means we getting to do the work and get the job done.
I've never thought about the shirt thing, but I tried the different ways a few times and I've come to the conclusion that it's a protection thing too. It's very quick. Our eyes are only covered for a second or two. Also, it keeps our arms from getting tangled together, so if there is trouble, we would still be able to handle without being too handicapped.
The car is protection too. We want the woman to be comfortable, relaxed. If there's children, they want her, she's better at handling them. And yes, we think we're better drivers.
Leave it with me, you explained it quite well.
This was my second video. This and the first one got me to subscribe. The first was The High Value Man from April 10, 2024. I really like how you address current trends, but the advice will last beyond the trend. The high value man video is about being on the same level of the person you want to attract. It's a self-reflection to know what you bring to the relationship.
Thanks for all the information of what women like. There were things that I didn't think women would notice. Again thanks.
Also, I hope these two find the love they are looking for. And deserve.
Thank you Courtney for being such an example of a feminine woman and a voice of reason in this day and age and thank you for giving us men valuable advice in clothing styles and also women's opinions on all the different topics.
Normally it’s the fastest way to take a shirt off and the most convenient way. However it’s really dependent on the shirt size and your confidence in your physique.
love it .. they are hilarious and really has some interesting attributes to consider. I'm better prepared for the women of this world
Drive, read the map & have it in your head before you start.
Plan alternate routes.
I don’t know if other guys do this, but I personally like to get something from my car or throw something away before talking to women or anyone. It’s kind of a routine of mine. Feels good, too. Like You’re taking care of business, then getting down to business. Super Satisfying!
You can tell that Courtney is trying her best not to burst out laughing with that voice affect😂
To taking your shirt off from the back: reach back stretched and emphasizes your triceps and lats. Your extension of the arms forward activates your back muscles as well. In short, your flexing and activating muscles while doing this process to look ripped in the motion.
One that absolutely floored me is the "taking off the shirt from the back" one. That's bizarre to me. My brother and I have ALWAYS taken our shirts off that way, and it's NOT because that's what we see hot guys do in movies. In fact, I think most movies with RIPPED men show them take their shirts off much like women do, just to showcase the abs. I don't have abs, I just pull my shirt off from the back because that's the way I've done it my entire life, literally as long as I can remember. I don't know if I was trained to do it that way as a little kid, if it's genetic or just natural. I don't know, but that's just how I do it.
Best piece of advice I can give to women: let your man know when you just want to vent. We're natural problem solvers so if you come us upset and with a problem, our brains go straight to 'how can I fix this to make her happy again'. If you just want to vent *say so*. That way we can control the 'have to fix this' impulse and not piss you off (and there by making us wonder what we did wrong as we don't understand).
For as long as I can remember, I have always removed a pull over shirt from the back. I guess there was something about the way it felt on a hot summer day as kid that has stuck with me throughout life. That refreshing feeling of the air hitting your bare skin after playing hard with your buddies as kid or after a long afternoon of football practice in late August.
WHY SHIRT OFF from BACK ? Three flexes: arms & lats & finally abs !