Signs of a mature woman for me: - takes responsibility for her behavior instead of justifying it with her emotions - doesn't gossip about others simply for leisure - can speak clearly about her needs - is not obsessed with social media - doesn't overdrink - is conscious about her flaws and works on improving them - takes her health seriously - can be empathetic towards men's issues Most of these are pretty much valid for men too
I do not think that man should try to get into the womans cycle. Supportive? Yes, but mature woman must be able to communicate how she needs to be supported. Expecting from a man that he will try to understand your vagina world is just crazy. Unless you marry a gynecologist 😂
Point #2. The burden of LISTENING to a man when he expresses his feelings is also extremely important. If he expresses his feelings and the woman DISMISSES him, he will never share his feelings again.
A woman listening to her man should not be a “burden”. If she views it as a “burden” you should seriously evaluate if you want to be in a relationship with her!
@cygrnus618 Do never ever ever share your feelings with your GF. The woman lizard brain wants a strong man that will protect her. If you show here how you are weak and sad and overburden - there's no coming back from this. When a woman says "you can open to me" This is a TEST! She wants to see if you are weak.
Once upon a time it was my wife's time of the month and I went grocery shopping. There was some chocolate, red wine, midol, and feminine products among the groceries. The young woman bagging the groceries laughed and asked me "do you want me to put this all in one bag so you can just throw it in the house?".
A reminder her husband pulled her via red pill ideology. And had a RUclips channel about watches- both social media obsessive. Plus she studied in Italy about nothing related to dating- she’s never dated an overweight man, short man, man of color, man with no money, etc- so what sensible background does she provide? Remember, watch what women do, not what they say. Also have receipts if needed
Can we all agree that a mature woman also isn't obsessed with social media and doesn't post bikini pictures? In fact, all you say is equally important for men and women.
Yeah! What is it about women always posting pics in their bikinis and sending them to men even if they are just freinds? Ar ethey looknig for validation?
@smoqueed44 Some of us are not interested to bag the most atractive girl, but to build a healthy relationship and from my point of view, the girl who's more interested in your body than your personality, it's not worth my attention. And by the way, i have that well build body but i don't show it on the internet. 😎
@smoqueed44 The fact that your only purpose is to "bag" hot chicks demonstrates my point. Grow up and start building a relationship, it will be more fulfilling than you ever tought.
For me a few signs of a mature woman is one who doesn't condemn the entire male population for they way just one man wronged her. Another is not acting like the rules and laws don't apply to her simply because she's a woman. Support womens' rights, but not their wrongs.
Also, the woman needs to take accountability for picking the *bad boy* and then is SUDDENLY surprised that he abuses her and could care less about her feelings. You reap what you sow.
people often say men are like children when in love, i am in love with a 40 year old man and we are very happy, he is really funny always makes me laugh, he is also very childish but i like that
@@MindDisorI was going to say, I think you might be lying to yourself. You explicitly chose that sentence to share, means you’re a little concerned without admitting you’re concerned. He might be a fantastic guy, but us men truly need to mature and be MEN!! @babonestoic
I don't think that they exist anymore. They are mostly vapid attention fiends that worry about Keeping up with the Kardashians more than having a stable relationship. I'm done with self fulfilling prophesies. If a woman has an issue with a certain behavior, pay attention. She's likely using that very method to do you dirty.
26 year old dude checking in here, just wanted to pop in and say thank you for making these videos. I have been watching for awhile now and always like to reflect on how I can be a better man for myself now and how to be a better partner when that time comes in the future. You are one of a few channels I watch on here so its nice to sit and reflect and make sure I’m staying on track. Thanks again! I also read the comments from the ladies on here too, again really good insight. I feel like this is a good channel to get a unbiased view on eachother and just learn how to better communicate with eachother. Best of luck to you all out there!!
I think it says more about trust that someone thinks they need to go through other’s phones than not allowing it. I’ve never felt the need to go through someone else’s phone. I’ve never allowed it.
Her: no hiding your phone unless you have nefarious things going on. Also her: no going through my phone unless you're an insecure control-freak. Whatever.
Before my uncles wife of 12 years cheated on him and ran off with her dickhead boss her noticed one unusual thing: her phone. Her damn phone was always with her and she’d NEVER let him use it no matter what. Yes, that’s def a red flag.
An ex wanted to go through my phone and she brought up an exchange that I had with a friend (I was not cheating or being unfaithful). She had the conversation with me about how she felt and everything. Once we finished, I then had to tell her that we had to go our separate ways. She was confused but I could not keep looking over my shoulder every time she got a hunch. 🤷🏾♂️ (also we had not established ourselves to be ideal matches for one another). Wanting to go through a phone is your reason to break up with someone, not whatever you find in the phone.
Point 2: I have worked on this over the years: Communicating my feelings to a romantic interest without a negative attitude even if my vulnerability has been taken advantage of in the past. No simping. Yes to Authentic kindness and determination. Thank you Courtney!!
As a french speaking, I love your accent and your English. Listen to your channel is a double gain for me: improve my English and learn interesting reflexions on man and woman relationship. Thanks a lot!
1. stop being on your phone 2. emotionally mature and sound. 3. know female cycle, period. 4. stop drinking , makes you seem dependent on self-harm vices 5. dont hide your phone if youre in a serious relationship, seems hella SUS
Lol they're on their phones more than we are, they'll lose their minds and key your car if you make them mad enough, a study that came out recently showed that they're drinking more than we are now and ask her for the password to her phone some time and see how that works out. Just more hypocrisy
She never said stop being on your phone or stop drinking. Just don't be addicted to social media and don't be alcohol dependant. Hiding your phone from your partner does look very suspicious, but I can tell from the context of your response that you lack the emotional maturity to understand where she is coming from...so really I don't know why I'm bothering to engage with the comment but hey ho, I'm this far so I may aswell just send anyway. 🤦♂️
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
Thank you so much, Courtney, for these videos. They have been so helpful for me; a middle-aged man dating women who are younger than me. I have been a fan of yours for quite a while now. Please keep doing them!
On women's cycle; presenting a double edged sword, women should get empathy during the cycle period, but NOT a blank check. Bizarre behavior, infidelity, "fits" are an abuse of men regardless of where she is in her cycle. If they can control themselves in public, then they can keep it reeled in at home. A woman on her cycle NEVER has excuse to see herself as a hammer and her mate as a nail sticking up during this period. NEVER. This video is about men's maturity. Mature men DO recognize the hormone driven tendencies of feeling ill, cramps, bleeding, etc. Agree that it is good for a man to 'love up" on her in non-sexual ways for a few days. It is not a blank check for women to act in manipulative and outrages ways and then blame it on her cycle. Women are still 100% responsible for what they say and do during this time.
@@LinkinVerbz44 They will. Most women are not a big problem on their cycle. At times it bothers them cramp wise more than others. They are actually mildly ill but may have associated significant pain. I'm not showing the hand to them for that. It's when old settled issues get thrown back into play, or throwing shit, name calling, lost their frigg'n mind indignation that I won't tolerate. Or at least WILL NOT give waiver too because of menstrual period. It's a huge red flag. Fortunately for me the women I date are passed menopause. Good luck with all that.
Yeah that sounds like a character flaw and emotional immaturity in her, and not her period or cycles fault so yes red flag if she is blaming it on her period to avoid accountability because that’s not how periods work.
This goes both ways. Only mature women do these things: -Not obsessed with social media. Doesn’t need attention like she’s 14. -Communication without entitled attitude. -Doesn’t expect men to read minds about her issues due to her period. -She is not over drinking or even drinking. -Does not hide the phone.
I need a Courtney Ryan 2.0 in my life. Seriously. Any takers 😊 thank you Courtney for all your content. I discovered your channel about 6 weeks ago, im always learning new things on how to reinvent myself as 31 year old man and also understanding women’s needs wants desires turn on turn offs - the list goes on. Thank you for your hard work dedication and passion. Big love from the UK 🇬🇧❤️🇺🇸
Hrm. Conversely, a woman does not get access to my phone on the false premise of "if you're innocent, you have nothing to hide." Nope. It's "innocent until proven guilty" not "presumed guilty unless you get to rifle through my stuff." A mature woman knows this. Everyone else can take a hike.
Yeah. I could agree with everything else but that point. Sounds to me like some major trust issues on the woman's side. Anytime I've voiced that and gotten push back from a woman, it's crickets or beatboxing when I ask if the man is allowed access to her phone as well.
yes having acces to once phone is having acces to goverment stuff and more. this can be very fragile. you hope your on the same page forever but once it doesnt this can be very destructive and things can get very ugly
I deleted social media recently. I realized a couple of things. One, is it didn't bring me any happiness, like EVER. Two, I couldn't really learn anything from it. Things like twitter, insta, and worst of all Tiktok destroy nuanced thinking - something our society is lacking more and more. Unless you're running a business or building a brand, I highly recommend asking yourself what you gain from social media. For me, it wasn't much - and all of the people I want to talk do I can just text or call. I'm way happier now and I waste less time.
I have not gotten rid of it, but with people posting right-wing propaganda, whining about their personal lives, etc., I tend to ignore those things. Aside from that, it's not bad to use them for contact with others. The most I do is post quotes or memes.
I think it's mostly a distraction, but depends who you follow that you would find content that is helpful or not. I have learned things thanks to it, it can be educational, depends who you follow...
I found one who liked mature men. I married her. We're still married after 30+ years. If you want that for yourself, keep looking, and you will find. They're still out there, and they want to find you, too.
some of them get burned enough to outgrow that phase. They can find a mature man who embodies the best aspects of a 'bad boy' like confidence, reasonable amounts of dominance and aggression and a devil may care freewheeling attitude etc but not the bad aspects like being inconsiderate & selfish and rude.
I consider green flags in girls to be someone that; - Are kind and warm. Not just to me but to others as well - warm and kindhearted -Empathatic and considerate - Positive and happy - Can communicate and dont play mind games - Non dramatic and don't play full of games - Red flag is someone who has to many guy friends and someone that loves attention and speaks to several dudes all the time
You can easily have fun in life while at the same time being accountable, responsible, in control of your emotions, and taking the lead. All of those are maturity, it is not immature to enjoy hobbies or having fun. That is something the sour women are envious of because they are far too controlled by the emotions to let go and have a little fun. Women that are run by their emotions and have no control over their emotions because they don't understand them are simply overgrown teenagers which explains the envy of men who can enjoy things in life
Honestly it's so interesting to me how much I agree with you on everything. I dont mind a difference of opinion, but I will say it's extremely rare for me to share every opinion with someone on youtube!
She's gonna get bloated, she's gonna get bitchy, she's gonna get emotional, and blood will come from her uterus. That's really all you need to know about it.
They are never bitchy around you, (seen them pull this off for years) when they are trying to bait you in. But once they have you, that time of month makes them bitchy. It’s an excuse, yeah they might be uncomfortable but I’m 100% sure they don’t use it as an excuse in front of their boss for 40 straight years. My wife spent 2 years chasing me just to get me to ask her out, her time of the month didn’t exist on the outside that whole time. Fast forward to marriage and now she has to act like a bitch the whole week ahead and the whole week of…amazing how that works. Excuse for bad behavior
Absolutely! I’ve seen videos of OBGYN’s claiming that oral contraception is safe. But that doesn’t mean they don’t have side-effects. I’ve heard more than one woman complain about those.
Did the podcaster say phone password? No one gets my phone password. Theses days phones contain information that back in the day would be in a locked draw. Bank details, insurance details, tax returns, work documents etc. and most people use a similar password/code for all their apps. I'd unlock my phone and let my partner go through my social media etc but free reign to access everything on my phone, no way.
A woman wanting to go through my phone to see if I’m texting other women, would be a sign of immaturity. It makes me believe she is projecting. Ill start asking questions like, she is cheating on me or has been cheated on in the past and is projecting her Ex’s misdeeds onto me. Also, them asking “what privacy” shows how out of touch they are. As if people aren’t trying to steal information off your phone. You wouldn’t question someone locking their car door. Why question someone putting passwords on their phones?
Ha! Interesting that you mentioned being empathetic about that time of the month. I had a couple of monthly repeating events in my phone calendar. One was my wife’s name and another was my wife’s name with a period after her name. I knew what to expect and how to plan things throughout the month. Of course I would continually need to adjust the date going forward.
No to the first one, touche on the second. She had me wondering about that one. Kind of like when she criticizes men who take selfies, something women do all the time, especially in bathrooms (a practice that I find baffling).
My girlfriend isn't on social media and only uses messenger and WhatsApp to message her friends. She is absolutely drop dead gorgeous but never wears makeup bar special occasions and absolutely HATES selfies and taking photos of herself. She is very modest and can't see what I or every other guy I know sees. She's very sought after and is also the most mature woman I have ever met. She's 21! She's also the most attractive girl I have ever laid eyes on and has an extremely modest 28F bust, slim waist with juicy bum and takes great care of herself 😮 Safe to say I am punching lads but trust me, these girls are out there! Very rare though and took me some 15 years of dating to find a woman like her. I'm 33 and landed a 21yo blonde haired blue/green eyed natural bombshell scientist (yep, she's a bit of a nerd too and really intelligent). I got lucky. But chin up, you can too! Patience, friends, patience.
Courtney, I'm a subscriber and wanted to let you know how entertaining and informative your videos are. I am 70 and single, not "navigating the dating pool" at all. Happily single and not looking. But it is fascinating to watch your videos and learn what other people are up against. I was never good at dating to begin with, in the olden days. I can't imagine having to do it in the 21st century. Thanks for the enlightening content.
Coincidentally... the girl I've been dating for two months, and I, were driving and needed directions. She didn't have her phone on her (that impressed me), so I handed her mine. I told her my password so she could navigate freely. She told me that she wouldn't remember it. *In light of this video, I feel even better about her and about our relationship.*
8:37 THANK YOU for being a fair voice of reason on here. I appreciate how you put the integrity of your nuanced advice above any attention-provoking simplistic hot takes.
I had an epiphany one night while watching cops; nothing good comes from drinking. Dudes be so drunk and cops let em go then they try to fight the cop after then end up in jail with felonies lol
I've never met a woman who could communicate her feelings in a proper mature way. It is ALWAYS accompanied with yelling, attitude, meltdowns etc. Also, whenever I tried to communicate my feelings to my wife, she stopped me in my tracks and told me that my feelings were nothing to do with her, she didn't want to hear it and I should deal with my feeling myself if I was a man. Women really need to grow up and it would be nice if they treated men in the way that they would like to be treated themselves.
On the subject of phone and privacy. I've been single for a while and have certain habits when it comes to my phone. The access code to unlock it is a minimum of 9 digits. If the pass code is incorrect 3 times in a row, it wipes the phone and resets it to factory default. I travel periodically, so, this was mainly prompted by TSA rules. It is on silent most of the time and I ignore it, turn it off or leave it in the car depending on where I am (church, theatre, work, or out having dinner). Yes, I ignore my phone during meals. Those are intentionally developed habits that have reasons behind them. For that to be regarded as immature says something about the observer.
Ms. Courtney grabbing the chair arm at the time of the month comment was hilarious xD Very interested in a list of what Mature Men do from you. Keep up the good work!
These Tiktok podcaster girls live in a bubble where they think there's a perfect man out there with no single flaw and they put that "perfect" man on a pedestal and preach to their audience which are also like-minded girls and create this toxic environment where they just echo off each other. No wonder dating has become pretty much impossible these days because everyone has crazy unreasonable expectations for each other.
Thank you for addressing the phone boundaries thing cutting both ways. Also, it REALLY depends how far the relationship is. Is it 2 months in or are you talking about potential engagement/marriage? Those are pretty different places for most couples.
Being off of social media (outside of YT) has been great. I am a lot more productive and goal oriented since being off of sites like Facebook, Twitter, and IG.
Yup. Am also a lot more *Productive* and *Disciplined* without it. Will even (not necessary) but sometimes take 1-2 Months off the Network for Detox. And already don't drink. Don't Own a TV either. Would even encourage (if you struggle at start) to start learning an Instrument, Language or.. Start a new sport (Mountain climbing, Football, Archery etc.. ) it'll help to stay *Motivated*
@@Real-Name..Maqavoy Very nice, I have one year of sobriety under my belt. I hardly watch TV these days and have started to read more books. I have a guitar now and started playing ice hockey again too along with meditation and yoga. Social media really keeps people away from their true purpose.
Communicating your feelings too early, right on time and too late all land you getting dumped so don’t ever do it. Women are intrinsically self centered to the point of severe narcissism. They have no room to empathize with you. None.
I will literally use this tactic if I'm talking to a girl that I no longer think is right for me. Rather than hurting her feelings and telling her that she's not my type, I'll just pour out my feelings to her. Almost 100% guaranteed to get ghosted
*Being able to stay calm under pressure, take responsibility, and communicate openly shows true strength and confidence. Women definitely notice men who have their priorities in check and don’t get caught up in drama!*
Most women are completely immature. They never truly grow up emotionally or psychologically past the age when they started getting attention. So a mature guy makes them feel inadequate and self conscious. They choose immature bad boys because they are at their level and they can have fun. Notice that when a mature man puts boundaries on the relationship, the girls starts acting like tantrumy teenagers.
Definitely would like to see a video in what a woman goes thru during that time of the month, since in your words it would explain so much of how she feels and her actions, all the iOS and downs etc. we want to understand, that’s why we’re here watching your videos.
I can’t help but think there’s a mold or blueprint on how women want their men but that also comes at the expense of personal freedoms or uniqueness that makes that person who they are. Maybe it’s just me but it seems really boring to live life in a vacuum and not have some sort of individual expression.
Men have molds and blueprints as well. This is why people say that compromise is important in a relationship. We all have our needs and desires which aren't going to align. What makes male/female relationships so much more beautiful and distinct from others is the fact that two polar opposites can come together and grow love, even when all the "science" and "studies" try to prove that men and women can't get along and would be happier being alone/gay or whatever.
Agreed, my phone is face down to give attention to the person across from including family, friends, colleagues, clients, and dates. If it’s face up then I’m likely in a time crunch, waiting on a call, or wanting to wrap things up.
Is it possible that we can get a podcast over relationship manners between loved ones? I would be glad to listen and learn over how to communicate and commit to the very special person I am with. Also, how to sustain the relationship in the long run. Thanks Mrs. Ryan for the excellent content! 😃
Totally amazing. No tattoos, clean looks, no odd piercings, minimal makeup, no tattoos, clean clear language which includes minimal slang - articulate. You are a unicorn.
If a man can't handle 'dealing' with a woman's cycle, he should stop pursuing women. It's not that big of a deal (for us men). Be supportive. The part about going through someone else's phone, though. What I learned from a bad marriage was that if you suspect your partner, you are probably right, but there's a chance you're not. The problem is, right or wrong, trust is gone. Trying to detective your way to a definite conclusion rarely ends well. Even if you find nothing, you'll always suspect, and wind up sabotaging your relationship. If you don't trust them, get out. It really is that simple (and you're probably right)... :)
"Fling around like pizza" 😂 I love you, Courtney. I agree 100%. Buzzword. And this is a great video! Gentlemen, learn about women! My wife said one of the reasons she married me is because I brought her into my bathroom one day a couple months into dating and showed her the wicker "moon time" box I got her and filled it with the pads and tampons I noticed that she used. She cried and said I was the first male in her entire life to not make her feel shame for having a period. Now my son keeps pads/tampons in his car, too. Normalize normal!
Good video. Going over someone's phone: It comes down to trust. And if you don't trust the person you are with then you shouldn't be with him or her. As you say it's all about communication. You need communication, respect and trust for things to work. I agree with you.
A mature man is not on social media, liking girls pics... But I'm sure she thinks it's fine that women post bikini pics or yoga-pants-in-the-gym pics. And the phone "privacy" thing too. Does that woman tell other women that they need to give their man all of their passwords too? I have no idea, but I suspect she's not preaching this equally from both sides.
You are incredibly wise for a person who is 28 years old. I look younger but am 49 with kids “almost” your age. I only share this information to highlight what a huge compliment it is.
9:18 exactly that. I have the habit of flipping my phone screen down when I'm working to not get distracted by notifications, and I do that every time I want to give something/someone attention, even when I'm writing notes or something, so...this means nothing. On top of that, particularly, I agree if he guy has nothing to do hide, they can show their phone. But most women don't have enough maturity to understand what's going on, especially, at what level of commitment they are in. If you are not in an explicitly spoken exclusive relationship, don't get mad if the man is talking and dating with other women.
Mentioning a man’s compassion for a woman’s menstrual cycle is a huge indication of maturity. Personally, I’ve had a couple incidents where “her monthly friend” peeked its head out while we were making love. Of course, naturally, she apologized to me for being human. I did not guilt trip, shame her, or even suggest that she should feel insecure about what happened. She when to the bathroom to clean up and the night went on. A woman’s body should be cherished as well as the biological processes that occur within that body. Besides, if she’s having her period, that’s a good sign. I wouldn’t be upset about that. Be nice. If it happened to us men, we would want the same treatment of kindness. Enough said.
@@BryceShamwow A man being feminized and highly sensitive and emotional like a female is not an indication of his being in possession of a good woman. And a man being masculine, stoic, confident, and cavalier is no indication that he is not in possession of a good woman. Rather, the latter guy is the one that more attractive women are drawn to. Not the former. Nice guys finish last for a reason. And there truly is a simp epidemic. 😷 Gotta mask up so I don’t catch what you have.
A word about phones. I started leaving my phone on the nightstand between 5:00 (end of workday) and 10:00 (bedtime) and it’s done wonders to my focus on my family, my hobbies, and overall life satisfaction. It was definitely a little hard at first and I had my lapses but I finally got to a place where I just review texts the next day, address them in one batch, and move on.
That woman from the Tik Tok was ridiculous. Hearing women complain about men on their phones and social media is like a man complaining about women playing video games or watching adult film content. Total projection!
When a woman is in her cycle i also show empathy to her and show affection and am mor tollerent of her moods and words basically show her I understand to an extent. And I support her
A mature woman doesn't overreact. A mature woman isn't highly emotional. A mature woman communicates effectively. There are more but that's a good start...
I cringe at the word cringe, toxic, gaslight, normalize, bigot, fascist. I also cringe when people justify acting terribly by saying it's for their mental health. But everything is cringe these days lol
Just be a better version of yourself and find a woman that has common interests as you. For example, she doesn’t like video games? Move on because there’s women out there that do.
Aside from the "time of the month" this list is fully applicable to women as well. Men don't want a woman who hides their phone, get plastered at bars and parties, communicate via hints and mind reading, and never stop scrolling on social media. This is hardly unique only to men and is about being a good partner or companion.
Well, first off, a mature woman won't ask for her partner's password on his phone, social media, email, etc. I have always found this behavior as a red flag. I hand my phone over to my partner anytime she asks. She has not once in 7 years ever asked to go through my messages or social media. And that is a hige green flag. A mature woman doesn't allow her emotions to drive her behavior. A mature woman is equally as invested in growing and sharing responsibilities. Together we make good money and share expenses. I make more so I pay more of the bills but this allows us to have plenty of money to spend on whatever we want for ourselves without compromising our monthly budget. Immature women don't operate on this level.
You do know people also have digital life right? If she’s your life partner she deserves to know others parts of you. What if your digital life is creepy and sooner or later it will hunt down the whole family?! If you have to hide something from your partner you shouldn’t have it at all.
@matusala8322 Yes, of course, most of us all have a digital life. The point I'm making is, for us, we don't feel the need to ask for each other's passwords. I have friends who operate differently and share everything. And to be honest I've never been in a relationship where my gf asked me for any of that information. And that's because I don't give any reason by acting shady.
I'll add one of the basic things a mature men (besides being chivalrous), we don't play stupid games with feelings and have no space to be played with those games, as we spot one of them, they will be rooted out and no way back. Yes, that "respect" that is cited on almost any post about relations, we men value a lot and few women get noticed about. There's no way back from be treated with disrespect by the woman by our side, our woman, love, wife, maybe mother of our child, etc... you got the point.
Literally. If my wife/gf is so insecure she needs to know where I am 24/7 or requires looking at my “underwear” then the relationship is full of resentments. She’s wrong. What’s time of the month? Menses? 😂
I don’t even have notifications from text, email or the such, pop up on my locked screen. I’ll look when I’m ready. I do have a ding for texting only, so I might hear that people are trying to get a hold of me, but if it’s an emergency or urgent they will call. Don’t have any social media on my phone. I can log in from another device when I want to take the time to spend looking at it.
@@chrismoore9997 Nope. Imagine having a partner that's always looking into your private conversations with other people on your phone because he or she is afraid of cheating. Imagine living like that. Having a partner that distrusts you and it's always thinking you're up to no good. That paranoid psychoptic behavior. Do you wanna a partner like that? Do you wanna a paranoid partner who will read your converstions with your mom, your friends, your coworker, your e-mails?
Women are nosey. Every girl I have been with went through my phone without my consent. It's definitely not okay with me, but handling it non-reactive is the best you can do. They were honest with it too that they saw something in my messages. They'll probably not do it again when you have the civilized, logical talk but... whatever. I said my piece, she gets it, if she believes or not that's not up to me. Being a man is that you can just trust yourself all the time and not care for those who don't
im married i dont go through my wifes phone, she doesn't go through mine either the mindset is i dont need to look through your phone to tell if your cheating on me or not your energy changes you cant fake energy
my reverse list for women: 1 respects boundaries 2 doesn't yell and can also take constructive feedback 3 is productive with their time and doesn't just read books and do nothing else 4 isn't crass 5 can take a joke 6 realizes that when having a hard time, it's not his fault and understands everyone has difficulty I grew up in a toxic family and everyone else around me expects me to marry girls who don't do the above. So this video was irritating to me to watch even though I would happuly do my best and then some to do these things for the right girl.
As a man who has had many problems with dating over the years and seen all kinds of good and bad advice, this video is a piece of very balanced and solid advice! She is not promoting any extreme views or cashing in on the insecurities of a niche that just want to hear what they like hearing. Very mature!
There are a million videos out to talk about what women think, what women want, what makes a woman happy and most criticize men or offer advice about what men should do. My experience with women is that they themselves are terrible communicators, most cop an attitude, most are severely demanding and in relationships they are extremely disrespectful to men while demanding respect for themselves - its like being around your mother when she's angry. Women take but they so rarely give back.
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Signs of a mature woman for me:
- takes responsibility for her behavior instead of justifying it with her emotions
- doesn't gossip about others simply for leisure
- can speak clearly about her needs
- is not obsessed with social media
- doesn't overdrink
- is conscious about her flaws and works on improving them
- takes her health seriously
- can be empathetic towards men's issues
Most of these are pretty much valid for men too
I would add takes accountability for her actions and understands and respects the need for a man in her life.
We need this type of content/message again Courtney 🥴
Add in doesn't seek attention or talk to other men lol
I would also add she is fiscally responsible.
😂😂😂 Takes responsibility 😂😂😂
I am super in tune with my wife's cycle. When I see dark clouds on the horizon, I grab my golf clubs and don't come back until I see a rainbow.
Uuu, what a supportive attitude 😂😂😂
this made me laugh out loud for real...ahaha
Lmaoooo😂
I do not think that man should try to get into the womans cycle. Supportive? Yes, but mature woman must be able to communicate how she needs to be supported. Expecting from a man that he will try to understand your vagina world is just crazy. Unless you marry a gynecologist 😂
Sounds legit
Point #2. The burden of LISTENING to a man when he expresses his feelings is also extremely important. If he expresses his feelings and the woman DISMISSES him, he will never share his feelings again.
I have been through it recently. And I am done now. At least I tried to communicate.. We were good friends.
A woman listening to her man should not be a “burden”. If she views it as a “burden” you should seriously evaluate if you want to be in a relationship with her!
@cygrnus618 Do never ever ever share your feelings with your GF. The woman lizard brain wants a strong man that will protect her. If you show here how you are weak and sad and overburden - there's no coming back from this. When a woman says "you can open to me" This is a TEST! She wants to see if you are weak.
Even with a female friend, feelings are not easy to share.
@@alexo5861 Unless it's someone who just complains without finding a solution. (Both genders, but mostly women who do this).
Once upon a time it was my wife's time of the month and I went grocery shopping. There was some chocolate, red wine, midol, and feminine products among the groceries. The young woman bagging the groceries laughed and asked me "do you want me to put this all in one bag so you can just throw it in the house?".
I appreciate women who help me understand women issues, as long as they're not condescending about it.
That's why I love her channel so much, I feel like something similar should be a class in High School haha
@@backroadbeetle4781agreed! Courtney teaches stuff that schools don6 teach but people are just expected to know but get condemned for getting wrong.
A reminder her husband pulled her via red pill ideology. And had a RUclips channel about watches- both social media obsessive. Plus she studied in Italy about nothing related to dating- she’s never dated an overweight man, short man, man of color, man with no money, etc- so what sensible background does she provide?
Remember, watch what women do, not what they say.
Also have receipts if needed
@@backroadbeetle4781 Courtney of course, and a basic business class --beginning with credit cards, debt and managing expenses
@@SnookisInfant-gt8xu you believe dating should be taught by universities? Why obsess with background, advice should be considered on its own merit.
Can we all agree that a mature woman also isn't obsessed with social media and doesn't post bikini pictures? In fact, all you say is equally important for men and women.
Yeah! What is it about women always posting pics in their bikinis and sending them to men even if they are just freinds? Ar ethey looknig for validation?
So if you're a dude with a great body, you're immature if you show it off? 😂 Okay, you go be mature and see who bags the more attractive girl.
@smoqueed44 Some of us are not interested to bag the most atractive girl, but to build a healthy relationship and from my point of view, the girl who's more interested in your body than your personality, it's not worth my attention. And by the way, i have that well build body but i don't show it on the internet. 😎
@smoqueed44 The fact that your only purpose is to "bag" hot chicks demonstrates my point. Grow up and start building a relationship, it will be more fulfilling than you ever tought.
For me a few signs of a mature woman is one who doesn't condemn the entire male population for they way just one man wronged her. Another is not acting like the rules and laws don't apply to her simply because she's a woman. Support womens' rights, but not their wrongs.
Bravo 👏
Also, the woman needs to take accountability for picking the *bad boy* and then is SUDDENLY surprised that he abuses her and could care less about her feelings.
You reap what you sow.
What rights do women have that men don't?
what you're describing does not exist.
Gently ... but yes.
people often say men are like children when in love, i am in love with a 40 year old man and we are very happy, he is really funny always makes me laugh, he is also very childish but i like that
Hey girl, loving a guy like that means you don't have a solid support, you'll be like his mother lol
@@MindDisorI was going to say, I think you might be lying to yourself. You explicitly chose that sentence to share, means you’re a little concerned without admitting you’re concerned. He might be a fantastic guy, but us men truly need to mature and be MEN!! @babonestoic
You know you are dealing with a mature woman when she can do the same things... Good luck.
Yeah, right.
Indeed; a women without a social media obsession is practically a unicorn these days.
Thank you! The women herself was not mature she made it all about men when the points she made are about mature people
I don't think that they exist anymore. They are mostly vapid attention fiends that worry about Keeping up with the Kardashians more than having a stable relationship. I'm done with self fulfilling prophesies. If a woman has an issue with a certain behavior, pay attention. She's likely using that very method to do you dirty.
@@jhawkkw87 Most of you are on social media as well and constantly online shaming women and insulting them. Is that mature?
26 year old dude checking in here, just wanted to pop in and say thank you for making these videos. I have been watching for awhile now and always like to reflect on how I can be a better man for myself now and how to be a better partner when that time comes in the future. You are one of a few channels I watch on here so its nice to sit and reflect and make sure I’m staying on track. Thanks again!
I also read the comments from the ladies on here too, again really good insight. I feel like this is a good channel to get a unbiased view on eachother and just learn how to better communicate with eachother. Best of luck to you all out there!!
I’m liking the picnic blanket dress this Sunday
Thank you 😂🧺
It is attractive on her for sure.
Compliment or insult or both idk? Hard to tell. We'll just chalk it up to Poor choice of words.
Yes, makes me want to have a picnic in this scorching weather!
@@CourtneyRyan Hubba, hubba!
I think it says more about trust that someone thinks they need to go through other’s phones than not allowing it. I’ve never felt the need to go through someone else’s phone. I’ve never allowed it.
Her: no hiding your phone unless you have nefarious things going on.
Also her: no going through my phone unless you're an insecure control-freak.
Whatever.
That would be a sign that you're with an immature woman.
Before my uncles wife of 12 years cheated on him and ran off with her dickhead boss her noticed one unusual thing: her phone. Her damn phone was always with her and she’d NEVER let him use it no matter what. Yes, that’s def a red flag.
@@jonathanhagy9183 we put our phones face down so when clumsy women drop the glass ketchup bottle it doesn’t shatter our screens….
@@moderngoblin Putting a phone face down is very different than hiding a phone
Exactly!
An ex wanted to go through my phone and she brought up an exchange that I had with a friend (I was not cheating or being unfaithful). She had the conversation with me about how she felt and everything. Once we finished, I then had to tell her that we had to go our separate ways. She was confused but I could not keep looking over my shoulder every time she got a hunch. 🤷🏾♂️ (also we had not established ourselves to be ideal matches for one another).
Wanting to go through a phone is your reason to break up with someone, not whatever you find in the phone.
Point 2: I have worked on this over the years: Communicating my feelings to a romantic interest without a negative attitude even if my vulnerability has been taken advantage of in the past. No simping. Yes to Authentic kindness and determination. Thank you Courtney!!
As a french speaking, I love your accent and your English. Listen to your channel is a double gain for me: improve my English and learn interesting reflexions on man and woman relationship. Thanks a lot!
Aww this is lovely. Thanks for the comment ❤️
1. stop being on your phone
2. emotionally mature and sound.
3. know female cycle, period.
4. stop drinking , makes you seem dependent on self-harm vices
5. dont hide your phone if youre in a serious relationship, seems hella SUS
Thank you
Right😂😂
Lol they're on their phones more than we are, they'll lose their minds and key your car if you make them mad enough, a study that came out recently showed that they're drinking more than we are now and ask her for the password to her phone some time and see how that works out. Just more hypocrisy
She never said stop being on your phone or stop drinking. Just don't be addicted to social media and don't be alcohol dependant. Hiding your phone from your partner does look very suspicious, but I can tell from the context of your response that you lack the emotional maturity to understand where she is coming from...so really I don't know why I'm bothering to engage with the comment but hey ho, I'm this far so I may aswell just send anyway. 🤦♂️
God bless you sir!
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
After she banged Chad on girls trip 😂😂😂😂
I agree with all the things mature men should do in the video. Now finding a woman that can do the same, thats the hard part.
Thank you so much, Courtney, for these videos. They have been so helpful for me; a middle-aged man dating women who are younger than me. I have been a fan of yours for quite a while now. Please keep doing them!
On women's cycle; presenting a double edged sword, women should get empathy during the cycle period, but NOT a blank check. Bizarre behavior, infidelity, "fits" are an abuse of men regardless of where she is in her cycle. If they can control themselves in public, then they can keep it reeled in at home. A woman on her cycle NEVER has excuse to see herself as a hammer and her mate as a nail sticking up during this period. NEVER. This video is about men's maturity. Mature men DO recognize the hormone driven tendencies of feeling ill, cramps, bleeding, etc. Agree that it is good for a man to 'love up" on her in non-sexual ways for a few days. It is not a blank check for women to act in manipulative and outrages ways and then blame it on her cycle. Women are still 100% responsible for what they say and do during this time.
@@LinkinVerbz44 They will. Most women are not a big problem on their cycle. At times it bothers them cramp wise more than others. They are actually mildly ill but may have associated significant pain. I'm not showing the hand to them for that. It's when old settled issues get thrown back into play, or throwing shit, name calling, lost their frigg'n mind indignation that I won't tolerate. Or at least WILL NOT give waiver too because of menstrual period. It's a huge red flag.
Fortunately for me the women I date are passed menopause. Good luck with all that.
And speaking of bizarre behavior, 50% of female killers have commited their crimes during PMS.
@@danielcobbins8861 Interesting. What is the source of the information?
Yeah that sounds like a character flaw and emotional immaturity in her, and not her period or cycles fault so yes red flag if she is blaming it on her period to avoid accountability because that’s not how periods work.
@@nanx7062 Thanks for the back-up.
This goes both ways.
Only mature women do these things:
-Not obsessed with social media. Doesn’t need attention like she’s 14.
-Communication without entitled attitude.
-Doesn’t expect men to read minds about her issues due to her period.
-She is not over drinking or even drinking.
-Does not hide the phone.
I still watch Popeye cartoons, and I'm 50.
are you strong to the finish, because you eat your spinach?
Nothing wrong with being "immature" on our own terms! That's confidence.
@@mjkittredge I'm strong even when I don't eat my spinach! 💪
you watch popeye cartoons cause u 50. Its not an immature thing. Its a old people thing.
@MrJesper111 Older and wiser! Mastered the art of not giving a rat's ass about most things and most people.
I need a Courtney Ryan 2.0 in my life. Seriously. Any takers 😊 thank you Courtney for all your content. I discovered your channel about 6 weeks ago, im always learning new things on how to reinvent myself as 31 year old man and also understanding women’s needs wants desires turn on turn offs - the list goes on. Thank you for your hard work dedication and passion.
Big love from the UK 🇬🇧❤️🇺🇸
Hrm. Conversely, a woman does not get access to my phone on the false premise of "if you're innocent, you have nothing to hide." Nope. It's "innocent until proven guilty" not "presumed guilty unless you get to rifle through my stuff."
A mature woman knows this. Everyone else can take a hike.
Yeah. I could agree with everything else but that point. Sounds to me like some major trust issues on the woman's side. Anytime I've voiced that and gotten push back from a woman, it's crickets or beatboxing when I ask if the man is allowed access to her phone as well.
This video is strictly about trying to get men to come back to the Plantation. Nope! Keep teaching, it's not gonna happen.
yes having acces to once phone is having acces to goverment stuff and more. this can be very fragile. you hope your on the same page forever but once it doesnt this can be very destructive and things can get very ugly
I'm glad I'm not alone in this line of thinking. Seems incredibly entitled to get offended by someone denying access to THEIR property.
I deleted social media recently. I realized a couple of things. One, is it didn't bring me any happiness, like EVER. Two, I couldn't really learn anything from it. Things like twitter, insta, and worst of all Tiktok destroy nuanced thinking - something our society is lacking more and more.
Unless you're running a business or building a brand, I highly recommend asking yourself what you gain from social media. For me, it wasn't much - and all of the people I want to talk do I can just text or call.
I'm way happier now and I waste less time.
I have not gotten rid of it, but with people posting right-wing propaganda, whining about their personal lives, etc., I tend to ignore those things. Aside from that, it's not bad to use them for contact with others. The most I do is post quotes or memes.
I think it's mostly a distraction, but depends who you follow that you would find content that is helpful or not. I have learned things thanks to it, it can be educational, depends who you follow...
@@grants5383 there are people that make posts or share stories that contains more words, knowledge.
Same here I deleted instagram and it was the best decision ever
I've never noticed that women liked mature men .. I thought they preferred immature bad boys
I found one who liked mature men. I married her. We're still married after 30+ years. If you want that for yourself, keep looking, and you will find. They're still out there, and they want to find you, too.
@@mar4kl They're still out there, and have put mature men in the "friend zone" until they turn 40.
some of them get burned enough to outgrow that phase. They can find a mature man who embodies the best aspects of a 'bad boy' like confidence, reasonable amounts of dominance and aggression and a devil may care freewheeling attitude etc but not the bad aspects like being inconsiderate & selfish and rude.
mature woman like mature men and immature woman like immature men
@@chinmayborkar6695 spot on 💯
I consider green flags in girls to be someone that;
- Are kind and warm. Not just to me but to others as well
- warm and kindhearted
-Empathatic and considerate
- Positive and happy
- Can communicate and dont play mind games
- Non dramatic and don't play full of games
- Red flag is someone who has to many guy friends and someone that loves attention and speaks to several dudes all the time
Being mature is overrated.
Be yourself men, enjoy your hobbies. Women don’t like it? They can kick rocks.
In any case, a Chad who has nothing else going for him gets far more action.
Hell yeah brother!!!! Leave responsibility to the breedstock!!! I be having fun non stop on the daily and I will never grow up!!!!
Yes king. If she can't handle you at your worst, she doesn't deserve you at your best.
I think it was 90% aimed at lustful use of social media. Heck, we wouldn't like if they did the same.
You can easily have fun in life while at the same time being accountable, responsible, in control of your emotions, and taking the lead. All of those are maturity, it is not immature to enjoy hobbies or having fun. That is something the sour women are envious of because they are far too controlled by the emotions to let go and have a little fun. Women that are run by their emotions and have no control over their emotions because they don't understand them are simply overgrown teenagers which explains the envy of men who can enjoy things in life
Honestly it's so interesting to me how much I agree with you on everything. I dont mind a difference of opinion, but I will say it's extremely rare for me to share every opinion with someone on youtube!
🥰 I’m so glad you’re here!
We need a "what men need to know about women cycle" video !
Absolutely!
She's gonna get bloated, she's gonna get bitchy, she's gonna get emotional, and blood will come from her uterus. That's really all you need to know about it.
They are never bitchy around you, (seen them pull this off for years) when they are trying to bait you in. But once they have you, that time of month makes them bitchy.
It’s an excuse, yeah they might be uncomfortable but I’m 100% sure they don’t use it as an excuse in front of their boss for 40 straight years. My wife spent 2 years chasing me just to get me to ask her out, her time of the month didn’t exist on the outside that whole time. Fast forward to marriage and now she has to act like a bitch the whole week ahead and the whole week of…amazing how that works. Excuse for bad behavior
The comments in this are harsh, but yes! Please do a vid on periods please 😁
Absolutely! I’ve seen videos of OBGYN’s claiming that oral contraception is safe. But that doesn’t mean they don’t have side-effects. I’ve heard more than one woman complain about those.
Did the podcaster say phone password? No one gets my phone password. Theses days phones contain information that back in the day would be in a locked draw. Bank details, insurance details, tax returns, work documents etc. and most people use a similar password/code for all their apps. I'd unlock my phone and let my partner go through my social media etc but free reign to access everything on my phone, no way.
A woman wanting to go through my phone to see if I’m texting other women, would be a sign of immaturity. It makes me believe she is projecting. Ill start asking questions like, she is cheating on me or has been cheated on in the past and is projecting her Ex’s misdeeds onto me.
Also, them asking “what privacy” shows how out of touch they are. As if people aren’t trying to steal information off your phone. You wouldn’t question someone locking their car door. Why question someone putting passwords on their phones?
I mean if she feels the need to go through your phone it's already over.
Ha! Interesting that you mentioned being empathetic about that time of the month. I had a couple of monthly repeating events in my phone calendar. One was my wife’s name and another was my wife’s name with a period after her name. I knew what to expect and how to plan things throughout the month. Of course I would continually need to adjust the date going forward.
Is scrolling through social media the same as liking other girls’ pictures?
If women mindlessly scroll through social media are they immature?
So what she is saying is that every women are immature
@@Gaborik560 Is that new info to anyone?^^
No to the first one, touche on the second. She had me wondering about that one. Kind of like when she criticizes men who take selfies, something women do all the time, especially in bathrooms (a practice that I find baffling).
My girlfriend isn't on social media and only uses messenger and WhatsApp to message her friends. She is absolutely drop dead gorgeous but never wears makeup bar special occasions and absolutely HATES selfies and taking photos of herself. She is very modest and can't see what I or every other guy I know sees. She's very sought after and is also the most mature woman I have ever met. She's 21! She's also the most attractive girl I have ever laid eyes on and has an extremely modest 28F bust, slim waist with juicy bum and takes great care of herself 😮 Safe to say I am punching lads but trust me, these girls are out there! Very rare though and took me some 15 years of dating to find a woman like her. I'm 33 and landed a 21yo blonde haired blue/green eyed natural bombshell scientist (yep, she's a bit of a nerd too and really intelligent). I got lucky. But chin up, you can too! Patience, friends, patience.
@@mar4kl I criticize anyone who takes a selfies, at any time, AND posts it.
Courtney, I'm a subscriber and wanted to let you know how entertaining and informative your videos are. I am 70 and single, not "navigating the dating pool" at all. Happily single and not looking. But it is fascinating to watch your videos and learn what other people are up against. I was never good at dating to begin with, in the olden days. I can't imagine having to do it in the 21st century. Thanks for the enlightening content.
Coincidentally... the girl I've been dating for two months, and I, were driving and needed directions. She didn't have her phone on her (that impressed me), so I handed her mine. I told her my password so she could navigate freely. She told me that she wouldn't remember it. *In light of this video, I feel even better about her and about our relationship.*
She didn't have it, because she didn't want to risk another dude calling while she was out 😂
8:37 THANK YOU for being a fair voice of reason on here.
I appreciate how you put the integrity of your nuanced advice above any attention-provoking simplistic hot takes.
Gave up all booze 7 years ago. You don't need it. My life is so much better now. Give it a try guys. Won't regret it.
I had an epiphany one night while watching cops; nothing good comes from drinking. Dudes be so drunk and cops let em go then they try to fight the cop after then end up in jail with felonies lol
@@opiealvin I’m trying to do the same, except with p0rnography.
Utter virus of a creation.
when I hit 30 it really affects my weight, by a looooot. And then there's how it ages you too
@@backroadbeetle4781 very true. My brother used to be very athletic. Decades of being a functional alcoholic left him bloated and red as a tomato.
Congrats! I have a year under my belt now and this definitely was the best decision I made too. Alcohol is overrated.
Yes, please educate us on the dynamics of a ladies monthly cycle. I have a feeling that a lot of relationships would benefit from those insights
I've never met a woman who could communicate her feelings in a proper mature way. It is ALWAYS accompanied with yelling, attitude, meltdowns etc.
Also, whenever I tried to communicate my feelings to my wife, she stopped me in my tracks and told me that my feelings were nothing to do with her, she didn't want to hear it and I should deal with my feeling myself if I was a man.
Women really need to grow up and it would be nice if they treated men in the way that they would like to be treated themselves.
Same here especially with the attitude
So with you on the gaslighting thing. Great video and I appreciate your thoughtfulness.
On the subject of phone and privacy. I've been single for a while and have certain habits when it comes to my phone. The access code to unlock it is a minimum of 9 digits. If the pass code is incorrect 3 times in a row, it wipes the phone and resets it to factory default. I travel periodically, so, this was mainly prompted by TSA rules. It is on silent most of the time and I ignore it, turn it off or leave it in the car depending on where I am (church, theatre, work, or out having dinner). Yes, I ignore my phone during meals. Those are intentionally developed habits that have reasons behind them. For that to be regarded as immature says something about the observer.
Ms. Courtney grabbing the chair arm at the time of the month comment was hilarious xD
Very interested in a list of what Mature Men do from you. Keep up the good work!
These Tiktok podcaster girls live in a bubble where they think there's a perfect man out there with no single flaw and they put that "perfect" man on a pedestal and preach to their audience which are also like-minded girls and create this toxic environment where they just echo off each other. No wonder dating has become pretty much impossible these days because everyone has crazy unreasonable expectations for each other.
You have no idea man
Thank you for addressing the phone boundaries thing cutting both ways. Also, it REALLY depends how far the relationship is. Is it 2 months in or are you talking about potential engagement/marriage? Those are pretty different places for most couples.
When my ladys on her cycle I am always mindful and remind myself: when the red river flows, take the dirt track.
I APPRECIATE HOW YOU HELP UNDERSTAND THE CASE, THAT IMPARTIALITY, AND MOST OF ALL THE CONSIDERATIONS YOU ASSUME ABOUT MEN... THANKS.
Being off of social media (outside of YT) has been great. I am a lot more productive and goal oriented since being off of sites like Facebook, Twitter, and IG.
Love to hear it ❤️
Yup. Am also a lot more *Productive* and *Disciplined* without it. Will even (not necessary) but sometimes take 1-2 Months off the Network for Detox. And already don't drink. Don't Own a TV either.
Would even encourage (if you struggle at start) to start learning an Instrument, Language or.. Start a new sport (Mountain climbing, Football, Archery etc.. ) it'll help to stay *Motivated*
@@Real-Name..Maqavoy Very nice, I have one year of sobriety under my belt. I hardly watch TV these days and have started to read more books. I have a guitar now and started playing ice hockey again too along with meditation and yoga. Social media really keeps people away from their true purpose.
I found a new Green Flag….when a woman cringes at the term ‘Gaslighting’….red flag is when she uses the term.
Communicating your feelings too early lands you in the friend zone.
Communicating your feelings too early, right on time and too late all land you getting dumped so don’t ever do it. Women are intrinsically self centered to the point of severe narcissism. They have no room to empathize with you. None.
if u cry in front of a woman its over for me, i would never do it. its weak
I don't cry, don't share feelings and i dont eat the hoo ha @@coolbian513
*ever
I will literally use this tactic if I'm talking to a girl that I no longer think is right for me. Rather than hurting her feelings and telling her that she's not my type, I'll just pour out my feelings to her. Almost 100% guaranteed to get ghosted
*Being able to stay calm under pressure, take responsibility, and communicate openly shows true strength and confidence. Women definitely notice men who have their priorities in check and don’t get caught up in drama!*
Women like mature man but they prefer immature ones to get in relationship with. So thats the reality.😂
It's true unfortunately however it's mostly immature women
@@NorbertDz nailed it
Most women are completely immature. They never truly grow up emotionally or psychologically past the age when they started getting attention. So a mature guy makes them feel inadequate and self conscious. They choose immature bad boys because they are at their level and they can have fun. Notice that when a mature man puts boundaries on the relationship, the girls starts acting like tantrumy teenagers.
I like eating pizza and drinking water
@@NorbertDz Yes, I agree. Major problem of my age group.
Definitely would like to see a video in what a woman goes thru during that time of the month, since in your words it would explain so much of how she feels and her actions, all the iOS and downs etc. we want to understand, that’s why we’re here watching your videos.
I can’t help but think there’s a mold or blueprint on how women want their men but that also comes at the expense of personal freedoms or uniqueness that makes that person who they are. Maybe it’s just me but it seems really boring to live life in a vacuum and not have some sort of individual expression.
Men have molds and blueprints as well. This is why people say that compromise is important in a relationship. We all have our needs and desires which aren't going to align. What makes male/female relationships so much more beautiful and distinct from others is the fact that two polar opposites can come together and grow love, even when all the "science" and "studies" try to prove that men and women can't get along and would be happier being alone/gay or whatever.
Agreed, my phone is face down to give attention to the person across from including family, friends, colleagues, clients, and dates. If it’s face up then I’m likely in a time crunch, waiting on a call, or wanting to wrap things up.
Women should follow all that too
Is it possible that we can get a podcast over relationship manners between loved ones? I would be glad to listen and learn over how to communicate and commit to the very special person I am with. Also, how to sustain the relationship in the long run. Thanks Mrs. Ryan for the excellent content! 😃
Totally amazing.
No tattoos, clean looks, no odd piercings, minimal makeup, no tattoos, clean clear language which includes minimal slang - articulate.
You are a unicorn.
If a man can't handle 'dealing' with a woman's cycle, he should stop pursuing women. It's not that big of a deal (for us men). Be supportive.
The part about going through someone else's phone, though. What I learned from a bad marriage was that if you suspect your partner, you are probably right, but there's a chance you're not. The problem is, right or wrong, trust is gone. Trying to detective your way to a definite conclusion rarely ends well. Even if you find nothing, you'll always suspect, and wind up sabotaging your relationship. If you don't trust them, get out. It really is that simple (and you're probably right)... :)
"Fling around like pizza" 😂 I love you, Courtney. I agree 100%. Buzzword. And this is a great video! Gentlemen, learn about women! My wife said one of the reasons she married me is because I brought her into my bathroom one day a couple months into dating and showed her the wicker "moon time" box I got her and filled it with the pads and tampons I noticed that she used. She cried and said I was the first male in her entire life to not make her feel shame for having a period. Now my son keeps pads/tampons in his car, too. Normalize normal!
If your wife cries over something so trivial, she isn't mature enough to raise a kid.
@@DDD11239 Major assumption on your part.
Good video. Going over someone's phone: It comes down to trust. And if you don't trust the person you are with then you shouldn't be with him or her. As you say it's all about communication. You need communication, respect and trust for things to work. I agree with you.
A mature man is not on social media, liking girls pics... But I'm sure she thinks it's fine that women post bikini pics or yoga-pants-in-the-gym pics. And the phone "privacy" thing too. Does that woman tell other women that they need to give their man all of their passwords too? I have no idea, but I suspect she's not preaching this equally from both sides.
You are incredibly wise for a person who is 28 years old. I look younger but am 49 with kids “almost” your age. I only share this information to highlight what a huge compliment it is.
If a woman is trying to get into your phone that's a huge red flag, at the least it's some unresolved trauma
9:18 exactly that.
I have the habit of flipping my phone screen down when I'm working to not get distracted by notifications, and I do that every time I want to give something/someone attention, even when I'm writing notes or something, so...this means nothing.
On top of that, particularly, I agree if he guy has nothing to do hide, they can show their phone. But most women don't have enough maturity to understand what's going on, especially, at what level of commitment they are in.
If you are not in an explicitly spoken exclusive relationship, don't get mad if the man is talking and dating with other women.
Mentioning a man’s compassion for a woman’s menstrual cycle is a huge indication of maturity. Personally, I’ve had a couple incidents where “her monthly friend” peeked its head out while we were making love. Of course, naturally, she apologized to me for being human. I did not guilt trip, shame her, or even suggest that she should feel insecure about what happened. She when to the bathroom to clean up and the night went on. A woman’s body should be cherished as well as the biological processes that occur within that body. Besides, if she’s having her period, that’s a good sign. I wouldn’t be upset about that.
Be nice. If it happened to us men, we would want the same treatment of kindness.
Enough said.
You want a cookie?
@@buffalo.blackklmao. Simps out in full force apparently.
@@buffalo.blackk He doesn't need a cookie, he has a good woman. You clearly don't.
@@BryceShamwow A man being feminized and highly sensitive and emotional like a female is not an indication of his being in possession of a good woman. And a man being masculine, stoic, confident, and cavalier is no indication that he is not in possession of a good woman. Rather, the latter guy is the one that more attractive women are drawn to. Not the former.
Nice guys finish last for a reason. And there truly is a simp epidemic. 😷 Gotta mask up so I don’t catch what you have.
Brother, even Lord Byron wasn't as much an emotional tool as are you.
A word about phones. I started leaving my phone on the nightstand between 5:00 (end of workday) and 10:00 (bedtime) and it’s done wonders to my focus on my family, my hobbies, and overall life satisfaction. It was definitely a little hard at first and I had my lapses but I finally got to a place where I just review texts the next day, address them in one batch, and move on.
That woman from the Tik Tok was ridiculous. Hearing women complain about men on their phones and social media is like a man complaining about women playing video games or watching adult film content. Total projection!
When a woman is in her cycle i also show empathy to her and show affection and am mor tollerent of her moods and words basically show her I understand to an extent. And I support her
A mature woman doesn't overreact. A mature woman isn't highly emotional. A mature woman communicates effectively. There are more but that's a good start...
I cringe at the word cringe, toxic, gaslight, normalize, bigot, fascist. I also cringe when people justify acting terribly by saying it's for their mental health. But everything is cringe these days lol
Just be a better version of yourself and find a woman that has common interests as you. For example, she doesn’t like video games? Move on because there’s women out there that do.
Very very stupid advice
It’s not about interests, it’s about values. You both have to have the same values.
Yeh not a good plan. The only women you'll find that share a deep interest in video games are "women", if you can catch my drift.
Aside from the "time of the month" this list is fully applicable to women as well. Men don't want a woman who hides their phone, get plastered at bars and parties, communicate via hints and mind reading, and never stop scrolling on social media. This is hardly unique only to men and is about being a good partner or companion.
Well, first off, a mature woman won't ask for her partner's password on his phone, social media, email, etc. I have always found this behavior as a red flag. I hand my phone over to my partner anytime she asks. She has not once in 7 years ever asked to go through my messages or social media. And that is a hige green flag. A mature woman doesn't allow her emotions to drive her behavior. A mature woman is equally as invested in growing and sharing responsibilities. Together we make good money and share expenses. I make more so I pay more of the bills but this allows us to have plenty of money to spend on whatever we want for ourselves without compromising our monthly budget. Immature women don't operate on this level.
You do know people also have digital life right? If she’s your life partner she deserves to know others parts of you. What if your digital life is creepy and sooner or later it will hunt down the whole family?! If you have to hide something from your partner you shouldn’t have it at all.
@matusala8322 Yes, of course, most of us all have a digital life. The point I'm making is, for us, we don't feel the need to ask for each other's passwords. I have friends who operate differently and share everything. And to be honest I've never been in a relationship where my gf asked me for any of that information. And that's because I don't give any reason by acting shady.
I'll add one of the basic things a mature men (besides being chivalrous), we don't play stupid games with feelings and have no space to be played with those games, as we spot one of them, they will be rooted out and no way back.
Yes, that "respect" that is cited on almost any post about relations, we men value a lot and few women get noticed about.
There's no way back from be treated with disrespect by the woman by our side, our woman, love, wife, maybe mother of our child, etc... you got the point.
Biggest red flag of immaturity: having a troll RUclips name to post comments
Correct
A RUclips name like "Coahwojo69" 😂
Literally. If my wife/gf is so insecure she needs to know where I am 24/7 or requires looking at my “underwear” then the relationship is full of resentments. She’s wrong. What’s time of the month? Menses? 😂
Some of us have been doxxed for trolling antifa
How dare people value their anonymity.
Thank you Courtney about women hair stylists who understand about the device under my scalp. It is nice when women respect it.
Now that's where my tablecloth went I knew it
I would focus more on her advice, it sounds like you need it 😂
@@oliverthomas8314 she was a teenager less than a decade ago and doesn't go on dates simp
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Haha 😆
The girl in the video (not Courtney) has more red flags than a Chinese parade.
I don’t even have notifications from text, email or the such, pop up on my locked screen. I’ll look when I’m ready. I do have a ding for texting only, so I might hear that people are trying to get a hold of me, but if it’s an emergency or urgent they will call.
Don’t have any social media on my phone. I can log in from another device when I want to take the time to spend looking at it.
This thing about wanting to look into someone's phone is kinda of a psychopathic behavior.
You are only going to look at it that way if you have something to hide. When you have nothing to hide, you just won't care.
@@chrismoore9997 Nope. Imagine having a partner that's always looking into your private conversations with other people on your phone because he or she is afraid of cheating. Imagine living like that. Having a partner that distrusts you and it's always thinking you're up to no good. That paranoid psychoptic behavior. Do you wanna a partner like that? Do you wanna a paranoid partner who will read your converstions with your mom, your friends, your coworker, your e-mails?
Women are nosey. Every girl I have been with went through my phone without my consent. It's definitely not okay with me, but handling it non-reactive is the best you can do. They were honest with it too that they saw something in my messages. They'll probably not do it again when you have the civilized, logical talk but... whatever. I said my piece, she gets it, if she believes or not that's not up to me. Being a man is that you can just trust yourself all the time and not care for those who don't
Exactly@@chrismoore9997
@@chrismoore9997 Should I let a cop search my car, with consent?
im married i dont go through my wifes phone, she doesn't go through mine either the mindset is i dont need to look through your phone to tell if your cheating on me or not your energy changes you cant fake energy
Isn't having a simple life better? I think society is overcomplicating life
Amen !
The product of trying to discover a deeper truth to things. We are only getting smarter, which seems to complicate what is simple
my reverse list for women:
1 respects boundaries
2 doesn't yell and can also take constructive feedback
3 is productive with their time and doesn't just read books and do nothing else
4 isn't crass
5 can take a joke
6 realizes that when having a hard time, it's not his fault and understands everyone has difficulty
I grew up in a toxic family and everyone else around me expects me to marry girls who don't do the above. So this video was irritating to me to watch even though I would happuly do my best and then some to do these things for the right girl.
A mature woman is one that doesn't take advice from these girl talk videos.
A woman has a right for the man to not withhold secrets from her. She does not have a right to his phone passwords.
"sorry, honey. It's in my contract with Google/Apple not to share my password"
She looks like someone who would hide her phone from you, EXACTLY the same thing she will call you immature for
As a man who has had many problems with dating over the years and seen all kinds of good and bad advice, this video is a piece of very balanced and solid advice! She is not promoting any extreme views or cashing in on the insecurities of a niche that just want to hear what they like hearing. Very mature!
The phone face down is actually so I don’t get distracted by a message. I do this at work too.
My girl can take a look at my phone anytime
Or, keep your phone in your pocket.
I've never seen a video of Courtney's that i didn't watch the whole way through. Always great content.. Thank you!
Wheat Waffles: As a man, never take dating advice from a woman
you think that's a Wheat Waffles quote? LMFAO
Thank you for education...its good to understand and have perspective.
Nice DRESS🎉
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Time management and prioritization is so attractive and a key component for any sustainable relationship!
Agree on "Gas Lighting". I don't think a lot of people understand what they're saying.
And a lot more don't ...
This is great advice! And communication sounds so simple but is SO key! 🧡🙏
Keep them coming. I like these TikTok response videos.
There are a million videos out to talk about what women think, what women want, what makes a woman happy and most criticize men or offer advice about what men should do. My experience with women is that they themselves are terrible communicators, most cop an attitude, most are severely demanding and in relationships they are extremely disrespectful to men while demanding respect for themselves - its like being around your mother when she's angry. Women take but they so rarely give back.
Good list.
First one that comes to mind: When she speaks about relational issues with her partner and not her “homegirls”.
I totally agree with this man