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Alexander Grace So let me get this straight if she cheats on you and you find out And you’re saying don’t say nothing to her Like even if she says hi and you just ignore her completely even though she’s probably going to Nag saying why you’re not speaking to me And exactly how long
" Treat them hoes like 7UP,
Never have...Never will "
-Snoop D-
Silence is a good response ONLY if the woman in question has any scruples, otherwise is pointless.
Brooo awesome information... Thanks a lot
@@scorpionenergy6256 bro if she cheated on you just tell her that she don't deserve u and than don't talk to her lifelong... Unless she begs u
Fellas, if you get cheated on, stay silent with her, but don't bottle up your emotions, speak to your friends, the ones you trust.
Yes, great advice
Just not female friends. They all blag and are incapable of keeping secrets.
Yeah the boys!
and then what?
@@ericdravennevermore2566
Sit back and let the magic happen.
Not caring is a gift that keeps on giving.
Without closure, every time something goes wrong in her life she will remember you and hate herself. Sometimes they even beg to be taken back, allowing you to shut her down again....it will heal your psyche while destroying hers.
Women dont cry when they cheat, they cry when they get caught
"Can't believe you were spying on me"
She cried mid-Stroke on she was a bad girlfriend and made me stop ...... she got back with her boyfriend practically the next day and didnt tell me and she was sleeping over and she didnt say anything till she told me to stop and started crying..... smh
@@anaklusmosgreek3198 ooofff...
@@FalconTheFries yes a girl ,my ex, saif something similiar to me, when I caught her, trying to make a date with another guy, I forgot what it was, but really close to what u said
Armorist brother you said it right there, plan and simple.
“A wise man once said nothing”
A wise man doesn’t get emotionally involved with a woman in the first place.
He must have been married.
😲Wow
"I know nothing." -Socrates
@@carlov.4408 Also Sargeant Schultz
When my ex cheated, she wanted me to yell at her, she wanted me to cheat on her, she even told me to hit her! I just sat silently until she had finished talking and was sitting there crying. I got up and left without saying a word.
Lol stupid women...
Your strong as a temple of steel!👍
Cold blooooddded😂
Stoic
@eljay5009Sorry that happened to you bro but congrats on having the strength to do what needed done.
"The best revenge is a life well lived"
This is one of the cruelest things one could do. And it is magnificent.
You may have just made my life
The one
Thank you guys
Nice
Silence is the noblest way of expressing contempt.
SPOT ON
Not just with women but also men!! Silence works on everyone!!
Yes, and contempt is a powerful weapon.
@@yashdhikle4825 con·tempt
/kənˈtem(p)t/
Learn to pronounce
noun
the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.
Spot on
Arguing with women in most cases is just a big waste of time
They dont argue to understand you, they argue to be right by any means
@@muskokamike127 if she gets to you, you already lost
Keeping it cool is gonna drive her mad instead
@BenX115 there's some that are worth talking to, they're just rare
@@melvinjansen2338 bitter? No
Just tired of wasting time
You’re completely right. Say what you need to say and let that be your final word.
Even a fool is counted as wise when he holds his tongue.
sadly
@Tron DeLorean proverbs
Very good.
Thank you for this, very profound
it is an amazing bible verse God bless you
The greatest insult you can pay the man who steals your wife , is to allow him to keep her !
lol
No man can steal a woman, only your problems.
I don't know why guys want to fight other guys who are sleeping with their girl. Your girl made a choice to sleep with the guy. The guy saw an opportunity and took it. Let them be together and move on.
@@prazertv same with girls want to fight the girls instead of the guy but they love it the drama which is why they stick around the cheating dude.
Instead of her labeling you as a cheater lets flip it and phrase it as an open relationship
Is that what you say to your wife's boyfriend while you play nintendo wii?
Stay silent
Introverts: it's like I was born for this
Literally me lol
That's great!
It's a confrontation so not really for introverts.
😂😂
😂
Remain silent, and text her (in front of her) "tomorrow, you and your stuff are gone" (if you own the place), and if she owns the place, just move out without saying a thing.
Don't stay with someone who cheats on you.
@Antonio Giuseppe Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Also, you should never buy the cow. Also, renting the cow short term is a good option.
@Antonio Giuseppe one of my friends just made the mistake of letting his gf move in, I told him it won't end well but he won't believe me
And never ever take her back
@@starwalk3r Why pay rent if the milk is free?
@@tommmmo1981 especially if she can run home to Mommy and Daddy at the first signs of strain in the relationship.
Just caught my gf chatting and flirting with other guy, sent her the screenshot then never answered her calls after 1 day i blocked her on social media accounts. And moved on.
This video is on point and never been on time. You’re a man, don’t let her control you and disrespect you. It is what it is.
Nice vid liked and subs!
It would have been funnier if instead of confronting her and blocking her you just completely ignored her
@@Ryan-lc9lb That's even better
Remember. The opposite of love isn't hatred. Its indifference. Not acknowledging someone's existence is one of the most powerful things you can do.
Women crave for attention. Withdrawing it from them in the form of silence is the only winning move. Any form communication is a lost cause, they are the masters of drama.
just like naofumi the shield hero said
the opposite of love is not hatred
the opposite of love is ignorance
No it IS hatred but you express it correctly by showing indifference.
@@gdubsterz1238 false. Indifference means you feel nothing for that person. Hatred means you still feel something for them just like love. Indifference is thus the opposite of feeling something for someone.
compassion is the opposite of indifference, love is the opposite of hate
"To allow her to just stew in the juice of her own moral decay".
Best line of the video. Bravo sir!
Shaksphere here !!!!
What moral decay? Low-quality women don't feel guilt or shame.
Epic comment
Inebriatd i know whom u talking about brother... carry on
I learned this at an early age growing up with 6 sisters. When my sound logical arguments went nowhere against their irrationality I found my silence and distancing was far more effective. It drove them crazy.
Damn. Can't imagine living with 6 sisters
Dam 6 sisters. I had enough with just 1
Older or younger sisters?
Sisters are the best, given that your parents are good people and rearing their daughters as good and high-quality women.
I have 5 sisters. You can't win arguments with crazy. Good to know someone else's struggling and overcoming
A female friend at uni once told me something that upset me a lot, and I immediately stepped away from her and ignored her all day. By the time we got to the last lecture of the day she was wracked with guilt, fighting to get my attention back.
Another time, my ex refused sex when we were in bed and started complaining about something; I just turned away from her and she immediately panicked and got on top of me.
Another time, a female friend in class who'd just gotten a new boyfriend was making me uncomfortable by continuing to act very touchy with me as she used to do when single, so I sat further away and put my bag between us. When she realized I was pulling away on purpose she looked so insecure I even felt a little bit guilty.
Ignoring a woman who expects your attention is 100% the best way to handle behavior you don't like. And if your woman is being good, make sure you give her enough attention, because it's kind of shitty to let her feel insecure for no reason - many relationships were ruined when the man took his woman for granted.
As a woman I second this.. especially that last bit of advice. Good on you
Also, if you have negative to positive interactions in a ratio of 5:1, the relationship will fail, because it's too negative. If it's 11:1 it's no challenge and/or ingenuine, which also goes up in flames.
Ignore problems and they go from bad to worse.
Good advice
Depravation is a common punishment for crime. It works a lot.
@@ThorOdinson1269 I think its positive to negative which 5:1 and not the other way around. Im sorry if im mistaken.
when I was together with my last girlfriend she still had a friendship with her ex and I had nothing against that, after all we are adults and she can meet whoever she likes. I trusted her that nothing will happen since she asured me that and becasue she ended the relationship with him on her part and moved on. one day however she confessed to me, that she did sleep with him once the day before and that she was sorry and it never happens again, etc.
we met up in a pub. when she saw me she came running over trying to hug me, I didn't return the hug and made it visable, I am no longer on a "lover's level" with her and spoke just formaly, like with a colleague from work. we ate something and I told her, that it was over. simple as that, no hard feelings on my part. she cried and asked how to make things up again, but I just explained to her, that I already had put trust in her before but obviously made a wrong decision with that, as she betrayed that trust and that it's not something someone can just "make up for". After the meal I payed for us both, sayed my goodbye and left.
Paying for her? Wtf dude
@@dantejoker2663 I earn enough money to be able to afford a little wastfull behavior.
@@abdamit i was thinking that paying her meal was a way of taunting her a bit. Now i see what you did there salute sir
@@abdamit You've earned my respect. That's some real professional behavior👏
Elegant af.
Little advice from Russia.
Let me tell you something universal.
Emotions.
Whole woman's life (thoughts, actions) ruled by emotions and instincts.
And she seeks for emotions. Always.
Bad or good. Absolutely doesn't matter.
If you start agruing with woman you start feeding her with emotions.
Start delivering what she needs and becoming a small praying insect in her eyes.
Is that what you want?
Remember that.
Respect yourself.
Be a Man.
And your life will become simple and wonderful.
Have a nice day and stay reasonable.
Strong words ,you are absolutely right , indifference is strong
Nice
True words ... Thank you Comrade 👍
I read this in Ivan Drago's voice.
@@rishabhsharma6112 The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.
best response was a man learned his girlfriend was cheating him so he sent her on a surprise vacation for a few weeks and while she was away he sold everything including the house... closed all her accounts and cards ...showed the evidence to all family and friends ....and blocked her from all forms of communication with him .....she came back homeless, broke, shunned by family and friends.... . my man's literally took away her entire world ...dude is a legend
I would say F for the girl, but I can't give respects to a cheater
@@llamagangsta5849 no cheater deserves pity guy or girl
@@Lycan3303 yeah... A person. Man or woman who goes deep in adultery deserves nothing but indifference.. No matter their reason at all.
Too far for me, "homeless", "girlfriend" not wife? Cmon isnt that taking it too far
@@eclipsewinks7019 fuuk NO
Silence is a form of wisdom, yet few people practice it
YES YES YES ! THANK YOU! Altough practicing silence for long time is really painfull and hard so it is understandable why people don't practice it
I ghosted my cheating Ex...4 months later she realized I stopped trying and called crying "how come you don't call me anymore?". 2 Years after that she saw me holding hands with another girl (my current wife - we were just dating at the time) The look on her face....priceless.
W
King 👑
W mans
You escaped from her stable of men. You became free. Women HATE a man they cannot control.
King wins forever!!!!!!😎❤
She wants you to react because she likes the chaos. Which is also why she cheated. Toss her aside, don’t offer her closure or to “talk about it.” She will try, but do not take the bait! It’s not even about punishing her, it’s about you cutting the crap out of your life. After that, it’s time to self-reflect.
I am going through almost a similair situation. There was a girl who i was very interested in and vica versa. We spendend many times together and we had feelings for each other, but then one day i went very spontanously to our local mall (i normally never visit our local mall) and to my suprise i saw her hand in had with another guy!!
Besaucly when i entered the mall i saw a guy and a beautiful girl (my crush/girl who i was hanging out with) walking hand in hand together about to leave mall. At a distance i couldnt reconise who this beautiful girl is until we walked passed each other. I was absulotely broken when i saw her with this other guy and she was so shocked when she saw me that she became red in the face and looked down while leaving the mall. That day i was so broken i completely removed her from all my social media and ignore forever. Geuss what? Not much later she approached me in the gym asking why i blocked and ignore her! She wanted to hangout again but i completely refused, but secretly inside i really do want to be with. She is one of the most beautiful girl i have ever seen, no lie 10/10 beautiful, trust me.
But please give me some advice, what should i do?
(Sorry for my english, it isnt my mother language + i have dyslexia)
Ps. Even though she is very beautiful she has many mental problems but i put up with it because of how beautiful she.
ibn z It sounds like you know what you have to do. First of all, she’s playing the field. Is that something you want while she decides if she’s going to be with you or not? Regarding the mental illness, is that something you want to deal with for the rest of your life? Now some people are worth dealing with their mental illnesses, but they have to own it, take responsibility for it, and be a genuinely good person to be worth it.
Let go of her beauty. It would be better for you to have an amazing personality 7 or 8, or even lower. And let me tell you, someone with an amazing personality winds up looking more beautiful the more you get to know them.
@@kimmywimmy7305
thankyou for your comment.
The thing is she is blaming me because i am the one that publicly ignore her and removed her from social media. She then validated her action by saying that she is not a great communicator. She is blaming me that i am the one that started the ignoring etc but rather she was the one that started to lose interest in me by igroning me through text and in public, real life. This happend very gradualy though.
She also used to compliment me a lot, like telling me i am handsome, good looking, good body etc so it felt like she was really into me but then seeing her with another guy was very diffecult. She also once said that i need to be thankful and greatful that i have her on social media and hangout with her because only special people deserve her attention?? (Idk if she was trying to make me feel special)
I was asking because i feel like i want to give her a second, especially now it is quarentine and i need some companionship. But then i also feel like a 2nd chance. Idk my feelings are confusing me.
@Itnetlolor i really want to believe that, but let me tell you she is absolutly beautiful like 20/10 i am not kidding.
But her being manipulative and mean from time to time, is what makes her not beautiful.
In the beginning when whe hanged out, she was extremely nice, affectiones etc giving me lots of attention and chill together if you know what i mean. But then out of nowhere her demeanor changed towards me and she started to be very mean, like saying extremely mean things as if she was projecting her insecurities on me. She also told me that she doesnt have lots of friends, which i was shocked about because she is very popular on social media.
Girls were jealous because of how pretty she is, which i believed. She always used to be bored and always wanted to hangout. She used to promote herself in the beginning that she is a great girl, doesnt do crazy things etc.
So through the course of time i started to get attachted to her, while she started to go from nice girl to mean girl, she also started to ignore me in public. I didnt know what the hell was wrong but i was cool until i saw her with this other guy. After a while she started to contact me again but i refused. This is were i think the guy played/dumped her and now she is trying to use me as a rebound or something. What do you think?
ibn z yeah drop her. She sounds narcissistic. Those little things she’s said are tells, like in poker. She’s let her mask slip just a little, you really need to look at that. Truly, do some research on narcissism. The best guy I’ve come across for dealing with narcissistic people is Richard Grannon here on RUclips. Trust me, it’s better to get out before she does real damage. I’m lonely too through this quarantine. I’ve been single since 2015 and I’ve had to do a lot of healing since my marriage with a narcissist. Please trust me. The less time you spend with a narcissist, the less healing you have to do when it’s all over. She’s not pretty on the inside, and that’s where it counts. That’s why she doesn’t have friends. Richard Grannon, look him up!!
Would James Bond yell at or shame a woman? He'd just quietly go about his business.. be like Bond.
Well he might slap some sense into her once in a while...
Actually that was Sean Connery, not James Bond.
james bond is fictional.such men do NOT exist,he maybe ideal but he is not real
@@cryptomanual2920 not everyone was blessed to grow up with a masculine father in the house ok
@@cryptomanual2920 it does cause said fictional character is based on real people
@@cryptomanual2920 so James bond is egoistic huh?
Wow
If your partner cheated they're probably high in narcissistic traits (most women are), they always feel entitled to cheat and justified so unfortunately they won't confront their own moral bankruptcy or inner demons when you stay silent, but it's a nice thought. They certainly won't validate you if you do voice yourself either... so yeah, still better to cut them off and stay quiet. My ex was diagnosed with narcissism, I knew what would hurt her most, when I discovered her cheating I calmly said "I don't mind sharing you with other men, we can have an open relationship, I'm going over to see (my ex she was highly jealous of) tonight, I'll see you in the morning, baby" ... it destroyed her grandiose false sense of self, how dare I be willing to share someone so great! It made her feel worthless... she was DEVASTATED!
More men score higher on narcissistic traits than women. Women in general score a little higher on empathy. Men are also more likely to cheat. These are the facts.
More men score higher on narcissistic traits than women. Women in general score a little higher on empathy. Men are also more likely to cheat. These are the facts.
My girl: Lets get kinky i want you to punish me
Me: .....
Lol good one
You don't have a girl. LIAR!!
What's a woman?
That profile picture suits the comment so good that it is hilarious XD
@Pan Bijo dead body reported !!!
The biggest regret a woman has when she is caught cheating is exactly that. She regrets that she got caught cheating and nothing else.
I would say that applies to me too
@Iris Louise just everyone in general needs to build themselves up for the better
Spartan thinking
That’s not true. They know it’s wrong.
Silence makes them go insane. Just look at the quarantine situation with covid 19. Women are in tears when faced with actual solitude.
The Dude I’ve actually haven’t been this relaxed in a while. I’m pretty happy to have such a flexible schedule. Also men are frustrated too over this isolation period. It ain’t just women. Besides, if I ever do get lonely I still got facetime. I’m not going to go crazy over a couple of weeks of quarantine. Don’t treat women like we’re just an emotional mess at the slightest inconvenience.
@@icantthinkofagoodusername.9105 But you are, as a whole. You might, MIGHT, not be, but more than enough women are. That says a lot about your psychology. I remember reading in a book about psychology that women have great difficulties being with themselves. Self reflection is like physical pain to them.
SefAsimar you all are an emotional mess
SefAsimar majority are an emotional wreck though
@Nick Couture More men are certainly enjoying it. Im more relaxed that I've been in years because I get to work from home at my own pace and have more time to play guitar and go mtn biking. My female friends keep texting me saying they are about to go insane. I just laugh and tell them self reflection is good and they should use the free time to do that and try new hobbies.
I absolutely love the phrasing of this:
“It is the cleanest punishment... To stew in the juices of her own moral decay.”
Beautiful!
Who wrote/said that? Really strong saying. I like it.
Wise words, simply love it
Yes
Poetic
Sounds evil AF but I love it
Also consider that anger is a sign of weakness. "The nearer a man is to calm the closer he is to strength." - Marcus Aurelius
Your silence is also an indicator that you're strong and don't require her company anymore.
I have been able to get out of many situations due to my own anger, it's the strongest emotion you have but only if you are able to release and reel it in at will
👏👏👏
No dude, anger is an important emotion and effective if used right.
In my humble opinion, apathy not hate or anger is the worst thing you can have for another. With apathy, you just don't care. You have to care about something if you can get angry about it or hate it. Anger and hate take energy. Apathy says to the other person they aren't worthy of your emotion, none of your emotion.
Anger is strength, as long as it's not destructive. Anger and resentment can push a person, so long as it's not to the edge of reality.
Alexander, I quote 1000%. Men cannot get more satisfaction to see the same woman who abused of him after some years later… and see how THE TIME transformed her body... TIME is the most powerful judge. So gents, no one bad word, just stay silent.
My brain died trying to read this
Some women yes but there those ones who don't lose it and marry a rich beta living the life.
Then you got young blokes today obsessed with older women more than women their own age .They give these older chicks more power.
Life isn't fair and people who hurt you sometime end up on their feet.
My ex cheated on me 5 years ago. I saw her recently and she became fat and unattractive
Marco Marco exactly
Its true! They get ugly and psicologicaly totaly unstable. Its nature. They pay for what they do
Arguing with a woman is like arguing with a drunk.
Arguing in general is a fools errand. Usually smart people do it but there is always a fool in an argument and they almost always keep the heat so long as there is fuel.
And arguing with a drunk woman is like arguing with the TV
You need a state of mental emptieness and Irony and you can enjoy it 😂
The two often are the same
Yeah, i don't understand why you guys find it difficult. You use logic, and she uses emotions, but what is stopping you from using emotions as well? Especially since you know her well, you can be much more vicious if you put your mind into it.
But silence is a very strong tool indeed. And it's funny, because women ignore guys all the time, yet when you ignore her, she loses it.
Can't wait for my gf to cheat on me to use your method, thx Alexander.
Hahaha
Sounds like you should break it off now.
I think Majster just told a joke
and it was lit
LMAOO
despo rutti?
This advice comes from the Masculine Trait called Stoicism.
Stoicism and RedPill is what made my life the best it could be.
Also male innate trait of rugged individualism. It is a survival trait. Most men forget this once they see a pretty face.
@@TrenElZombie A philosophy and a trait can share the same word.
Black lizard ~ Stoicism is born from the masculine trait of rugged individualism and propensity to succeed against all odds.
“I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.”
-D. H. Lawrence
Stoicism is the most unmanly idea
Pimp Bible by Future
Chapter 1
From the streets did she emerge; and to the street she will return. And I say unto you, " *She is for the streets* " So be not weary when she must return from whence she came.
Amen
Philli Mwenel This is heresy albeit funny
Translation: she belongs to the streets!
Ok imma rewrite the whole Bible stealing your idea 😂
Amen brother
Amen brother
The innocence you lose, as a man, when you are cheated on, is only lost once. It is an epiphany, the beginning of a new epoch. Your life, your thought process, and your actual consciousness is altered, the old you is gone, the new you is awakened. Your life is marked by the before, and the after, that one event becoming a marker of time. And you will never be the same as you were. And no woman will ever have that power over you again. It is fundamental to the story of the hero. You must experience the tragedy, to become the man you were destined to be. So embrace it, you are being forged.
I understand your pain my brother but 4 billion other women does not deserve to be hurt due to what the other women did. If women did that NO men would have a partner. It is hard to heal after betrayal trust me I know but with God & healing you not only bounce back better than before but you get rewarded with better than you have before just for keeping your light and overcoming what blchanged you for the worst at one point.
He is right though, God instructs men to keep women in their place. The rebellious women is loud, stubborn, and her feet abideth not in her house.
@@Time4change111 Stop virtue signaling.
And the word of the prophets were written on the youtube walls
Being silent actually isn't taught because it's too OP of a move.
They nerfed that move
Where did he... get this much POWER?
OP?
@Henker • vor 50 Jahren
That goes for everyone.
we're on our way as a society where silence is so overused, that actually speaking in a coherent manner becomes meta-defining
Agree that silence is effective, but the only appropriate response to cheating is immediate termination of any romantic relationship.
A woman only cheats if she neither loves nor respects you - and the cheating is just irrefutable proof there's no coming back from that.
BINGO
Unlike Most Men Women don't need a reason to Cheat. They just do it. Most Men Need a Reason to cheat but Women Don't.
@Nick Couture "the biological depth of a promiscuous woman" what does that mean?
@@TheMV1992 i would guess the fact that a woman could get pregnant by someone else... So If you dont know if she cheated, you cant Tell If its your offspring
Michaela Peterson?
Women have evolved to attract attention from men, silence is dreadful to a woman because she failed to even get a single word out of you.
Evolved?
thats a cruel way of putting it and it's true.but they evolved like that because of how women were treated before gaining their human rights..blame goes both ways
@@b0onsen182 They had to always be attracted to reproduce. Are you saying they had zero attraction then evolved attraction? Was males and females accidentally having sex before evolving attraction?
They would have to be attracted to have babies to evolve,So how could a person evolution attraction when attraction is the reason animals reproduce?
@@iwkaoy8758 Do you think humans suddenly got summoned or something? Hes saying from whatever bacteria or animal we came from, our female counterparts turned out to be dumb thicc
Edy Krb he’s being sarcastic implying that unlike men, women are unevolved and behave like children
My wife divorced me 8yrs ago,Never spoke to her since that day,I Walked away,it’s was hard but went through the emotions without her seeing me hurting,now it’s the best decisions I ever made,You want it over,I will decide how over it is.
did she get mad about to that you walked away in silence?
do you have kids???
Its childish behaviour.
Reminds me of a post I read a few months ago on Reddit's r/adultery. The thing that the woman was most shocked about was that when the husband found out about the infidelity he calmly showed her a picture of her with other man and said absolutely nothing and moved on with his life. She was absolutely devastated
Do you have a link to that thread
Just browsed that sub.... wtf man lol, i weep at the sadness i witnessed
Pepe Álvarez link?
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@@H41030v3rki110ny0u Fr what a disgusting cesspool
I absolutely am amazed how none of the comments was about that girls face. well done boys!
Woah didn't notice it until you mentioned it. Strange how that works.
Now imagine if it was the other way around... Most comments would be about the guy's appearance
The topic in discussion wasn't about the problems of a relationship for both genders. The topic was very clear. *What to do if a girl cheats on you* . It's quite simple and i don't see any other way around it. That's why most of the comments here are about that or address the current problem. What you're looking for is another video.
I dont get it what about her face?
@@correctionguy7632
We're so beyond the thirst, only caring about the content of the words that we didn't even notice she was actually pretty attractive.
Classic line: oh, he's just a friend.
@Sigma Nayo what is the response to this?
It's your fault if you don't trust me
Oh baby you, you got what i need, but you say he's just a friend.
When a girl says"he's just a friend", Counter back saying, Well i guess all of my Facebook, Instagram female friends are"just friends to", Watch how quickly she flips out lol
@Sigma Nayo Lol i would say do you trust me being in a room with a woman shaped like meg thee stallion? I think not lol
This is true my ex broke up with me I ignored her after that. And never said a word to her again. And she hated my guts for doing this. Even her friends give me the worst look ever as if I broke up with her.
Rare is the woman who will admit wrong doing, take responsibility, accept the consequences, and feel remorse for the person they hurt.
Did she ever contacted back?
@@GKpubgm Yes but by the time that she did I was done with her.
She didn't tell the truth to her friends. Standard
@@strategic1710Theres nothing wrong with breaking up with somebody. Its more respectful than to string somebody along when you are not in love anymore or when it doesnt feel good to be in a relationship anymore. This way the partner can get a change to find somebody new that truly loves them. Letting somebody go can be an act of love and kindness. Some people even stay good friends.
Funny because in Buddhism we say silence is to the soul as sleep is to the body. Silence speaks volumes. And if it hurts you there is something dark in your soul.
Wisdom.
Who cares
@@yordanogarc5312 people with compassion
@@Nebulisreconx compassion? That's not all in the world. Sometimes you got to be hard on people
@@yordanogarc5312 sometimes sure but don’t make a habit out of it.
Women need closure in every relationship. Staying silent does a few things; it denies them closure and it tells them you don't care about the relationship. It's a power move. Great advice.
This isnt a good ploy to use in general. You'll just get a solicitors letter on the mantlepiece if you really over do the silent treatment. If someone's a cheater dont date them..
@@redstar7292 How can you get in trouble for ignoring someone? That doesn't make sense to me.
@@illustriousbreadcrumb7816Yeah doesn't make sense.
@@redstar7292 and if you didn't know they were a cheater? Sound logic
@@illustriousbreadcrumb7816I guess he was thinking about marriage
If she's right: She stays on the point.
If she's wrong: She does everything to destroy you.
@alyrius exactly. The comedian Bill Burr had a bit about this and it was spot on.
"on the point" Meaning?
@@reptilesgamers00 means she's focused on whatever point she's making, ie, the cause of the argument.
So true
These, are facts.
This only works if she still has feelings for you. And a lot of the time when a women cheats, she has already checked out of the relationship.
Nah. Even the cheater needs validation. It might take longer, but she'll circle back.
Agreed. But, if she doesn't have feelings for you anymore then it's pointless trying to talk to her anyway. If she do have feelings left tho, silence will crush her under the weight of her own guilt. And will do far much more than arguing with her will ever do.
That’s when you cut her loose and move on completely
Good thinking.
True. But a woman is a woman. And she always wants the last word. That's why it is good that you just ignore her and move on. Don't even reply to her messages or ask her why she cheated. Just pretend you are ok and move on. It will drive her crazy because women like to have power over men. Sometimes they even cheat on you out of anger and wanting to get revenge.
I'm 50 and in my experience (both personal and observed), if someone is unfaithful sexually they will be unfaithful in all facets in a relationship (Lie, cheat,steal). Remaining in those relationships is a mistake .
Whatever reasoning they used to convinced themselves that their actions were justified, they will use them again. Don't put yourself in a position to be used again. As painful as a break up is on top of the cheating , you'll be better off in the long run.
This video came 2 months too late. I'll do that next time.
Good man. Learn from the past
Haha
Hopefully there is no next time. Nobody deserves to be cheated on.
@@alexandergrace5350 .
Bakkuhatsu me too man 😞😭
The classic answer: "It depends"...
haaha
It does! It depends if she gets caught haw
It depends yes. Each age range has different stats for cheaters
It's women, definitely. Women can get a partner far easier than a man.
VoteScientist remember she loses a part of herself everytime she has a new partner
The best punishment you can give a woman is to permanently ghost her. Leaving a woman in a suspended state of confusion with no closure is excruciatingly more painful to her because she cannot see your reaction and she's only left with her own thoughts and a mirror to look at herself and ask "what happened?" with no answer.
I've done this to girls who still try and reach out for answers 30 years later to no avail. It haunts them for life.
30 years later? Thats incredible, are you actually telling the truth?
@@floki5605 the harsh truth, as his name indicates
@@floki5605 Its true. My ex opined after a past bf 15 years earlier who gave her no closure when he ended the relationship with no explanation.
And I thought 1.5 years were too much...
Wow, 30 years…..my man
Gentlemen trust what he says, especially when you’ve been wronged by someone ( woman, or not ), is correct. Stay silent or stoic in your being during adversity. This can be applied to everything in life not just when you’ve been wronged by a woman.
Very true, its pretty hilarious actually when i see the desperation of the other person trying to poke a reaction out of me and looking very thrown off by my apathy.
@Nick Couture Work out your body will also give you a strong mind, weak men reach for the bottle or drugs to dampen pain and forget. When you experience extremes in pain and struggle it will give you the resistance and tolerance needed to deal with whatever bull other people throw your way. Remember you can't control the chaos of other people but you can control yourself in it's entirety, don't be a victim of your emotions.
@@cattysplat I used the gym to escape my pain , the only way to effectively deal with pain is to feel the pain itself, completely, easier said than done for sure
This is why I rarely talk to anyone. My thoughts are valuable. I'm indifferent to the fate of the human population of the world. This is the value of having sexual and affection needs being taken care of by a woman. Happy woman's day. Failures it's their job to do this for the 1 Ha'aDaM.
silence is the language of gods.
Literally
That’s why your prayers until now no answer.
Gods are assholes sometimes, so this is very accurate.
@@newaccount3743 "sometimes"
Because they are not there…..
Hmm that's actually what I did was stay silent. She ended up with the guy. She would call when they would fight and wanted me to express myself and I wouldn't. They are unhappily married now. I have moved on and am happy now. She has called me when he was out of town. I thought about it for a brief period but decided I'm not going to help her have an excuse for her already ruined relationship. Plus she's just looking for a dopamine release. Even though I've forgiven her and let go. admittedly there is a small sadistic part of me enjoying taking the high road knowing her current situation. I told her to get couples therapy lol. I feel bad for their kid though
Wait, wut kid?
@@intricatelast-name5291 dont feel bad for that kid her and him made their choices.
once a cheater , always a cheater
I did this too. My ex bf cheated on me 3 times and stupidly I took him back because he promised he would change. After the third 3 I finally put an end to it and dropped him. Silence. Guess what he cussed me out and left. He blocks me and then the next week unblocks just to try to be nice to me again and get back together. I don’t give him anything 🤣 he stays pressed. Till this day he keeps contacting me lmaooo.
@@sweetandyyy 3x is too much. You probably know it by now, but if someone cheats 1x it's over.
Silence is full of answer. Some people don't deserve your words. They deserve your silence.
I completely agree with your analysis. The way that I think about it is this: who is the judge? Is it a third party? No. Do I need to convince her that she is wrong? No. I am the judge. And if I am the judge, then I don't need to include her in the argument. I simply make up my mind whether or not she if worth keeping around. And if I decide that she is not worth keeping her around, then I simply drop her without an explanation.
Woman who cheats never ever take her back, it's done, move on
Absolutely 100% correct. Do NOT communicate.
My story: My wife of 15 years started an affair even though we had never fought. I won't bore you with the minutia of this marriage, but suffice it to say that I never cheated, yelled at her, threatened her, etc. We had some financial troubles and I admit to getting depressed during this time. I never took it out on her.
My first indication of her cheating was when she got a colossal raise from her boss. You can connect the dots from here.
She soon announced that she was leaving, when we finished watching a movie at home. No argument, just an announcement. It hit me like a ton of bricks.
She just moved out and a few months later wanted "marriage counseling". I correctly surmised that this was only for her to try an alleviate her conscious by trying to justify her leaving without telling me the truth. However, she did not know that two acquaintances, not close friends but people who obviously respected me, came forward to tell me of this affair once they found out about how I was headed to divorce court. They held their tongue before, but didn't want me to get destroyed in court.
During the "marriage counseling" I confronted her on the affair. I didn't yell, I just stated how I found out and had never in my life been betrayed like that. Upon leaving, the councilor (a woman actually) made sure to come up and tell me in private that it was ok for me to feel anger towards her. The fact remains that I never spoke to her again. All communication was through my lawyer.
In the last two years since, she has tried to communicate with me over stupid crap. During the divorce she offered to pay me $200/mo for dog support. Me: silence.
She emailed me to tell me that I could get better car insurance. Me: silence.
She sent me an email with a link to cheaper internet providers. Me: silence.
She continues to text me, email, forward mail to me with notes, etc. Me: silence.
I found out that she is now seeking therapy.
To be honest, I don't hate her. I just do not care about her anymore. I can't afford to care. I am moving on. She can pickup the pieces to her own wrecked life. I owe her nothing.
A man being calm under those conditions is TERRIFYING to a woman. Well done.
@@adamd9166 excellent
Pitiful creature. She had to cheat to find out that she would be dealing with a real man. Now she gets to deal with the demons she created.
This is incredible, women really are something so strange to understand 😂
God damn right
I've cut all communication with a girl (she didn't cheat, just caught on a lie).
A week passes and all she managed to sqeeze out of herself is: "Have I done something wrong?".
To which my reply was: "Are you wondering whether you've done something wrong or do you know that you have and just don't know which one I have discoved"
She said the latter.
First of all, silence definetely was crucifying for her. Secondly, I got my answers and am now completely assured this person has done bad for me, many times, I just don't know ;)
@August McLaren Nah, she will just have something to argue with making herself feel better by saving face. Nobody wants to know. They mistake knowing with closure, which never happeneds by "knowing".
I've learned it's NOT my job to sort out lies as it's NOT her job to lie. I will focus on trust and she focuses on truth. vice versa. This is required in healthy relationships.
As far as cheating goes, repeat after me, "You Will Never Know". The idea that she successfully cheats often getting away with it doesn't happen. The truth always comes out. Than you leave her without saying a word. Showing people what happens when your boundaries are broken is wonderful cleansing feeling.
Start off the relationship right letting her know, "If you cheat on me, we're not talking anymore." After that relax.
didn't cheat just caught in lie ... glad there aint no speck in your eye ... lot of bitter sanctimonious guys on here ... but the vid's point is spot on. Guys who get girls do all this stuff naturally .. they take women's duplicity in their stride and judge it for what it is - a reaction to their own level of engagement + their own levels of duplicity ... they expect slightly more than they put in themselves because, of course, they are in control (not because they make lots of money/are better looking/have the right family background, but because they occupy the lady's mind with their Wit - this, our most powerful organ, does not just flow from us, but also serves as our feelers for how she is doing)
@August McLaren that revenge thing, get over it as soon as possible. There is nothing to gain or lose with getting revenge on your ex especially after a year and you'll certainly regret it one way or another. Don't risk ruining your reputation, be classy. My wisdom in here is such: when one gets truly heartbroken, then there is always a recovery that reshapes you; Usually there's two options: A) People become hateful and relentless, not caring for anybody's feelings anymore B) People learn what heartbreak feels like and will never ever do that to somebody. Other's just kinda stay broken and hope "some other love" will "fix" them. It won't. I've learnt the B way and wish so upon you.
@Nightwish I was expecting that too dude, but when I saw "the latter" on my screen...you know...something just died inside of me and I knew it's over.
@@dannyslammy4379 I generally agree, howerver I'd make a correction. It's not Wit, it's Level of Engagement/Attention. Wit at lvl100 certainly get's any girl's panties down, but for the most part it's actually how much attention/affection you give the girl and the actuall skill is feeling that just right amount for the particular girl. A bit over and you're *FrIeNdS*.
I can vouch for that. In my experience there are two things that drive them nuts. One is rejecting her and choosing not to have a relationship when there is no other woman when one is not gay. The second is, just like you say, remaining silent. It often triggers a terrible insecurity in them. It's one of my guilty pleasures.
It always trigger their insecurities because deep down women know they need or at least life better with men for security and stability. Many would just never admit this to themselves.
@@Tim666-o5nand they also know they’re wrong but they never want to admit it, they know they’re being irrational but they’re emotional so they can’t analyze it consciously
My gf and I were together for 16 years, had a kid and moved in together early on. On a Friday night she left while I was sleeping, took my 5 yr old daughter with her, and began dating a guy from her workplace Monday after the weekend.
I consulted a lawyer immediately to obtain the best possible actions I could take to ensure that custody would not be stacked against me. As soon as possible I was told to establish a dual household custody agreement while Seperation was happening. Courts look at the months following a breakup to determine what the child is now used to as they want to keep things as stable for them... so if you wait for a court fight they may side with the woman because the child has been with her for the last few months primarily.
When we went to sell the house, she was set on going in and labeling colored dots on all the furniture and stuff that we had to determine who wanted what. That weekend I went into the house, loaded up the furniture and tv I brought with me to the house then informed her that everything else in the house, 95% of its contents were hers to do with what she wanted. I kept nothing attached to her, not one photo. All I wanted was an even split on the house sale. With that, I was done.
For the sake of my daughter I maintain standard relations with my ex when our kid is there. After that, though, I'm fine not even knowing if shes alive or dead. She is no longer occupied space in my life.
Damn man. 16 years and this happened
I hope you’re doing fine
Yeah, don't bother to talk with her anymore... Just talk less went needed..
Wow. 16 years. And I thought losing my 6 years were bad. Time really means nothing to them.
In your darkest hour it is your own standards you set for yourself, your dignity and your personal integrity that will give you strength and comfort. Your development as a human being happens independently of and is not dependent on any other human being. Look within and know that you are worthy of love and engage in actions that foster and promote self-love. You can do this. We can do this.
me watching this even though i never had a girlfriend lol
Arghya Poddar my guy focus on your grind and put energy into some of the things you love doing, I think you already know females aren’t a top priority
This is a privilege you had. Experience of first breakup is a nasty thing pals
Same here. I am here for knowledge to be ready for the future.
@Arghya Poddar That’s not actually a bad thing, I think if anything it gives you time to work on yourself and find your purpose and direction, and that’s something that in a relationship can not ctenophore difficult as you have to think about your partner and it’s about where the relationship is going, and giving up on dreams because it might get in the way of your future together, so use this time to your advantage 👍🏻
It's like watching a guide for a video game that we don't have but instead we keep the knowledge it comes 😂
So a couple of years ago, my ex went on a trip to Miami with another guy behind my back. At first, she claimed that she was going with her female bff but later confessed that she went with a "platonic" male friend when she came back in town from the trip. I guess she confessed out of guilt.
So whether the guy was a platonic friend or not, I lost trust in her and the relationship was never the same. We eventually broken up about a couple months after the incident. And yes I stayed for a couple months because I thought she made a small mistake but I just couldn't get over that Miami trip incident.
After we had broken up, I blocked her and started dating other women. I didn't see the point in calling my ex back and ask her why she did what she had done. For closure? The past is the past and it wouldn't make a difference what she would have said. I just moved on and didn't look back. What matters is my current girlfriend, not her or her excuses.
Now I can't tell if the person I blocked tried to contact me. But I have recieved a few phone calls from an unrecognized number where I answered my phone saying "hello", but after a few seconds of silence, the person hangs up.
Don't take her back.
All to common in my city man.. you're instincts don't deceive you
I recently, after 30 years of marriage, discovered this is 100% true. Problem with women is, I am sure men are the same, If you treat them like gold, they are indifferent to you, but if you are quiet, all of a sudden it is as if they try more. It's like why can't you put this effort in when I am treating you right so I don't have to resort to games.
No self knowledge and acknowledgment of how the other person thinks and feels
You dont realize what you have until you lose it. Going quiet is the equivalent of someone "losing" you. It's a crappy part of human nature, but we take for granted the things we have until it is taken away. When it is missing, suddenly it is more valuable. People want what they can't have.
Men are more likely to reciprocate being treated like gold than women are in our current environment
@@floki5605women only do that. Masculine men would leave her if she ghosts them.
Don't forget that ignoring someone can be as painful as physical violence.
more. since physical violence makes them a victim.
Why are you all such sadists? You act like little babies.
Unfortunately no
Pffff not if they dont feel anything for you
I had a female roommate who I became close with a number of years ago. We were indeed very good friends, and I would play therapist with her a lot. She started taking advantage of our relationship and treating me pretty poorly after awhile, and eventually something happened that caused me to just slam the door on her (metaphorically speaking) and not talk to her at all anymore. She went effing ballistic on me and demanded that I talk to her and listen to her. I didn't, and it was definitely a power move that showed to both of us who was dominant. Women CRAVE attention, and the most primary way they show attention and affection is through talking and sharing. If you quit talking and sharing with a woman, there's just about nothing worse you can do to her. It will drive her nuts.
She was treating you as her emotional tampon...
They want to know what you’re thinking, they want to know how their behavior truly affected you. Chaotic creatures they are wanting validation of any sort, even the bad validation. Give them silence is truly the answer
Pitiful creatures. Disgustingly self centred.
@@h2oboi531 They are all essentially narcissists... I was married to a diagnosed narcissist, she was like every other woman but just 10× worse, and completely void of empathy, whereas "normal" women have selective empathy.
Precisely!!!
It's true. Don't know if with every women of course, but it was true for me.
I was cheated on. Actually when I discovered I called her to confirm but in that call I was really crying and desperate. But also committed in my inquire. As soon I got my confirmation I hang up the phone and shutted her off. Forever.
Then in the 4 or 5 years after she send me a few messages (not a lot +/- 5) like "I hope you are well I dreamed with you and that you're having some problems, are you OK?" and other things.
I never answered. And in the few times I saw her (with mutual friends 3 or 4 times) I always said hello and nothing more.
It was very hard but I know it was the best for me. It empowered me after this awful situation and allowed me to gain control and self respect.
Be strong and believe you can get better. Invest in yourself.
Showing people what happens when your boundaries are broken is wonderful cleansing feeling. Good job sir. Proud of you.
Wow, wish I had seen this last year! My ex wife cheated on me within the first year of marriage. I eventually gave her the silent treatment once she told me for sure she was done. The day we signed and notarized the papers, I did not say a word to her. That was the first day I think I saw regret in her eyes after finding out a month earlier. Before that, she had tried to blame everything on me which pissed me off. So glad that relationship ended. It was embarrassing, but I moved passed it.
She cheated after a year?
That's a her problem, you don't have to be embarrassed about that.
Your ex was a fundamentally damaged person to cheat so soon after getting married.
Don't be embarrassed you got cheated on; that's on her. You should only be embarrassed if you took her back after the fact, and it sounds like you didn't.
Seriously, this video describes exactly what happened to me just weeks ago. I should have kept my mouth shut.
Sorry to hear that. You'll know for next time
@@alexandergrace5350 implying that there will be a next time? 😂
haha whoops!
@@ottttoooo Hahaha, it will likely happen again. One thing I realized ( first breakup here ) is that anything can happen at any moment, it sounds cliche but once you've experience it you finally understand. I think this is a perfectly viable position even for simple bullshit behaviors anyway, not only cheating.
Remember, the most hidden message that @Alexander Grace is telling us, is understand women psicology in order to play with advantadge. If we, men, understand women psycology, we can have a huge advantadge.
When I was 15, I believed that men should live for women, be the providers etc, growing in a house with conservative parents, it was the only thing I knew. God bless the internet that helped me grow the right way and forget about my parents. I am now 17, never had a gf because of my shyness, but now I see that it's for the best. Videos like this taught me that I need to focus on myself and on my career, relationships come after successfullness. If I ever find a good woman I may marry her and have kids. But if I don't, I won't try to force it on me. Whatever happens, happens.
I just wanted to say: Way you are living is astromically better than bad relationship. I am 31 recently divorced, I had wife who turned out have tons(7major sicknesses, such as heavy depressions for 2 years) of psychologil issues, first 1.5 years she looked like really sweet(all sings for psycologigaul issues were there but I was blind) After that her unresulved childhoid traumas broke out and her true nature was visible. 4 years being her care taker burned me out. I had too strong instic to care even when all danger sings were there.
So Find a woman good quality woman without unresolved traumas/issues and who has good quality lady friends(friends reflects her nature) and psychologically healthy parents.
All the best for you
@@extended_e Your story sounds heartbreaking(for her). Maybe all she needed was some therapy to help her cope with an abusive childhood? I'm married and have ptsd along with depression due to the same thing but we've(husband and I) always have had great communication and understanding with one another. To be honest it sounds like the situation was deeper than what is seen on the surface. But good luck finding anyone with psychologically healthy parents these days, keep in mind they raised this generation.
Dude, you're still 17! Your parents, if they have been good to another and good role model to you, becoming like them should be your aim. Let internet inform you of the potential danger, but don't let it destroy your future.
They are just content creators. They make everything sensational so that you may like, comment, share, subscribe.
Please, look after good and successful models. If you're happen to fail, you will be informed, don't be mad. You can win,but not with that mindset.
@@karubuarmelgael9632 well I wrote that a year ago and many stuff has changed. I'm 18 rn and my parents aren't the best role models. I want to become someone different from them. I know how to manage internet and which people I let influence me. Tldr I find worthy people in my life and let them be my role models when I use internet to avoid any red flags or anything else.
@@Sapanator yeah situation is much deeper than I wrote, as it takes so much time to portray it. But from my side I ended up as her caretaker and practically surrogate parent. She has insanely high passivity, and fright to live/exit apartment/do anything new. And teaching her to live burned me out to degree that my personality started twisting and changing, that is what made me wake up, that situation can't continue. She was practically a child mentally(25 years old) when we got together. Oh and she is unable sympathize/ understand other ppl, which makes her naturally selfish and unable to respect others borders or needs. I did manage to get her to therapists after 2 years of effort and she is still going to there. Her live and her Is getting better and I am happy for that, but same time I don't want to be suffer anymore. It is a tragedy, honestly. I hope no one needs to experience either side of story. I welcome any feedback to this story.
If it is not “goodbye, I don’t want to see you again.” Listen to this video! Literally say nothing because they do this themselves perfectly whenever you do something, remember they say they need space, you need space too and going away saying nothing allows you to take back your power. I personally wouldn’t ever talk to a cheater again but if you are to do so leave it a few weeks or months then message her when all your feelings are clearer so that you can choose wisely what your next move is.
Very wise.
You said it man but I don’t agree with the message het after a few week. Just don’t even think about message her and try to forget. If she write you then you can respond if you want but never message her first giving away the power
Let her message you not the other way around but dont get back with cheaters you thirsty boys it's not worth it. Have an abundance mindset
Going 'No Contact' for a few months will just de facto end the relationship. 'No Contact' as a tactic almost exclusively works for women. If you are not 'talking to' her you also still need to string her along with platitudes.
Some of us have kids with low value women. I hate having to have to speak to her sometimes
I know a girl that's been stalking my mate for over a year at this point because he went silent. It literally drives them insane.
There is no point in speaking to her again. Do you really think that she is going to tell you the truth? Maybe she has no idea why she cheated on you; that’s just how she is.
@Itnetlolor Their pride is too big. Waste of time.
Absolutely brilliant advice... In retrospect, any other option than remaining silent seems ludicrous. In fact, totally disappearing from her life, or even better, relegating her back to 'vaguely distant acquaintance status' without explaining a single thing would the greatest balancing of the scales that I could think of. Cutting her out of your life in a polite, emotionally distant and relatively silent manner would be the most ethical and effective punishment that I could imagine. If more men adopted this kind of response, it could act as a great societal modifier to reduce unethical behaviour by women in relationships, given their epic proportions of promiscuity and unethical behaviour in Western societies. Apart from any future romantic and sexual relationship problems like this, I shall undertake to use this response in any of my life relationships where trust has been breached. Thank you for your work Alexander.
By the way, when is your book coming out? Your interesting, rational, fair and ethical approach to gender/relationship dynamics would be well received by the reading public, I'm certain.
I'm a RUclipsr, don't really have aspirations to be an author. I guess you never know what the future will bring
Perhaps the fact that you don't have aspirations to be an author is a bonus! However the message is delivered, we are appreciative of the eminently practical advice :)
Yea, men have a completely skewed idea of masculinity. Asserting yourself through stoicism is pretty brilliant. They wind up looking crazy trying to fight you, because you aren't even there to fight with. She can imagine what you think all she wants, but by accusing/shaming/yelling at you she exposes herself as unhinged to others. And women value their place in society far more than men, yet they gamble with it often in modern times for self serving hedonism.
Interesting... it does indeed fit the true model of stoic living. I hadn't quite thought of that, and love the way that you describe the issue in a rational, egalitarian way. From what you are saying, by asserting ourselves silently and in a non-reactionary manner, perhaps we as men hold up a mirror to the inner ugliness of a woman who covertly behaves in an contemptible way with men. Your last sentence was golden and puts so many things about modern gender dynamics in perspective. Thanks, Philosopher.
Do NOT follow up and ask her anything. MOVE ON! And never talk to her again.
Yes! That’s weak.
Yes! I couldn't believe when he said that, it's terrible advice.
Yes! He kind of went backwards on his own teachings when he said that.
"Stay silent!"
"Talk to her in a few months."
Yess absolutely! And most probably she won't tell him the real cause 🤷🏻♀️
That's exactly what happened with my ex fiancee when she tried to play hard to get and blocked me to seek revenge (I've had dumped her 2 weeks ago back then before getting back together). I was still attached to her but resisted the urge to reach out. She acted passive and I blocked her back after a week. Months later, her mom contacted my mom blaming her for not asking about her daughter, and told her that her daughter lost 20 pounds. I was laughing at this point because she was waiting for me to contact her or something to feed her ego but I gave her 0 attention.
How is it now, brother? You're marrying someone else?
@@blueflame3531 that's even hilarious that her mom had to demand to your mom that you two should talk just so she could get her ego back and go back to her ways with no lessons learned
@@stalinsoulz7872 Women have unfortunately lost it too much power that they cannot handle clearly
lmao 20 pounds
I feel sad that I wasn't strong enough to do this... And trusted her, and loved her... I left my pride behind and tried to talk... But no, that only ended up with my pride destroyed and nothing left. I wish I could have seen this video before.
Hope you're doing good now, dude.
Same here, thanks to these PC "communication is the key" lying motherfuckers, they lead guys into nothing, a void, nada.
Don't worry there will be more that will cheat on you in the future! you got this!
Grab a condom (or don’t) and enjoy life. Women will love you and you won’t commit easily.
Emotions are strong, and we are men. We are strong.
Same bro, made this same mistake too. It's alright, sometimes lessons are learned the hard way. Hope you're alright now
I use this punishment when she disappointed me or was disrespectful.
Jjbb Hvvv ummm, yeah, not really a healthy way to communicate to someone you’re hoping to continue a relationship with.
Its called a pullback, it comes with med/high risk, but also very powerful at getting a woman in her rightful natural subservient feminine frame where she belongs and can be at her maximum attraction to you.
@@honeyglazedgammon2318 pullback is SUPER healthy. You mirror a person to tailor suit their levels of commitment. Whether their disrespect is unintentional, or intentional doesn't matter. What matters is you stood up for yourself, and didn't invest more into a relationship than they did. It applies to friendships just as much. It's a very loud line in the sand, the pull back. You assert your own personal worth without actually dissing/insulting someone. The only thing that's better than the 'pull-back' approach is a very direct and confrontational approach, and that has ALL the makings of a powdered keg if it goes poorly. Pull back is passive, but loud enough to send a clear message. You raise or lower your expectations based on the data the other person provides you. It's pretty cut n' dry.
@@kimmywimmy7305 😂 - exactly what a female WOULD say
Kimmy wimmy says you a woman. If you don’t want to be ignored don’t act out. Period. Men are expected to know what they did wrong. Don’t know what you did? THINK about it real hard.
Yooooo I think this it's the most big realization that I've made in my entire life, when you're arguing with somebody and you're telling them, "Hey! Don't you realize that you did this wrong? You're actually seeking for them approval, super weak! Really great realization
+1
This is extremely good advice for an effective response to any misconduct in a personal relationship, not only in the context of infidelity. 10/10
Silence is your main weapon against her. BELIEVE ME ! No verbal communication, no eye contact, don't eat her food she prepares, don't sleep with her. People, THIS WORKS !
Bro is like you are seeing me
Did that, now I'm single for 17 years.
My wife actually used to do that with me. It’s really awful and a shitty thing to do to your SO. I eventually decided I didn’t care enough to get worked up over it so I returned the favor and she eventually caved. Looking back I’d never resort to that level of gamesmanship. If you gotta play these games it’s probably time to split up.
@@zugmeister314 thats the whole idea ! A good way to get rid of that headache. Women are sneaky, always asking questions, watching you. That eye contact thing and no no verbal communication. Women are information and details freak.
@@BrinK-s probably for the best as she was sounds like a psycho or narcissist with no empathy or redeeming qualities
When dealing with women, always DARE (Deflect, Agree/Amplify, Repeat and Exit) never DEER (Defend, Explain, Excuse, Rationalize)
It works like magic.
David N. What is repeat and exit
@@ndnrb_ Repeat: Tell her again what did you just say, if needed. Don't let her influence you in any regard.
And exit: Leaving her when she isn't worth the squize any longer
What about deflect and agree/amplify?
fmazerolol what does deflect mean? Like can u give an example?
A little narcissism never killed anyone. It's best to have it work for you in moments like this
"She belongs to the streets" Corey Wayne
coach corey wayne
"Takes sip of 'NO DRAMA ALLOWED CUP' filled with pure healthy water"
Yep
@@mikelisteral7863 *captain jack sparrow agrees" xD. aye!!.
Base on my experience on a certain woman my silence really like the loudest shout, now one year and she is still, trying to have a conversation with me, but I'm not interested anymore, for me she's dead .
You are dead for her, you are ghost. Ghost doesnt talk
Indifference is powerful.
It means you’ve moved on.
After my (one and only) divorce, my ex could tell I was gathering information. She was very effective at keeping anything useful from being discussed. I'm finding that your videos are the most cogent, pragmatic, and useful. Some of your videos are allowing me to crack the code regarding how married men cope with and manage their relationship with their wives. My biggest mistake (this is really a ball of similar mistakes) with women has been to (a) take her at her word, (b) retain hope that women can be reasonable companions, and (c) have logic/accountability-based arguments with her.
She's not a man buddy.... Stop projecting your mind on her... She's emotional... That's all...
What's great is when they try to give you the silent treatment, and that's hardly a punishment
now it feel like heaven when woman ignore us, because no time for bs
Idk why I'm watching his videos when they're clearly not meant for me, but just want to say to the men in the comments: He's completely right. Silence is the best punishment.
Maybe when it happens you know what to do.
I am a woman and i agree and don't call it out now asking a fish about fishing
@@o_0264 tch tch tch, boys, never ask a fish about how to go about fishing, especially the one without a name.
@@AbhijeetSingh-lf3uu okay so some random man is telling me that they don't ask girl about fishing
Mr you never know what's happening in one's life so watch your comment dumpo
@@o_0264 eh it's a small joke but ok feel free to lecture about fishing
Alexander...If she cheats that means she's a low-quality woman. If she's a low quality woman, she definitely doesn't feel any guilt or regret lol
I think many women who cheat only realize the horrible mistake they've made after they are divorced. The companionship, the intimate touching throughout the day, the anticipation of the other's needs, things like that are lost when the husband is gone. Too bad that she couldn't fully experience that loss, before being divorced
Only psychopaths feel no guilt. Not all low quality women are psychopaths, they just create their own demons that haunt them.
I like your content, Alexander. I’m amazed by how well you understand women. It gives men tools on how to handle situations.
Thanks man, appreciate it
It's because he was a woman once and had the change. Just kidding
@@bdel80 lol
I would like to add - be very careful if you're dealing with a narcissist. Even if you are successful with the method mentioned in this video and you feel you have gone past the pain and its time to collect data, a narcissist will seize the opportunity of you reaching out and flip the whole situation into their favor. Before you know it, all your emotional buttons are being pushed. It's happened to me and a bunch of people i know. Be very very well prepared if you truly do intend on collecting data. Narcissists can create havoc with the slightest input from you and before you know it, they have re-gained their power over you and all those months worth of work is gone down the drain. I can not stress this enough - BE CAREFUL.
Yeah, I think it's better to just be done with it and not take the risk of being drawn back in emotionally.
I dont understand why alex contradicted himself by saying dont talk to her and then later try to collect 'info". It is a just big mistake to do this as it tells her you want or need her in some way.
It’s not the silence that hurts, but the indifference. The need to feel desired is so important to people that don’t understand boundaries. Use this power carefully.
Excellent.
Bro long time subscriber here.... extremely insightful and cutting-edge info on gender dynamics here.... this is literally the best video you've ever made
Thanks man, appreciate it. How long have you been around, since the days of me shooting the interviews?
@@alexandergrace5350 Yep when you did interviews on the beaches of Perth, way back... I re-watched this video a second time... This is really a whole new level of depth in terms of female psyche. Absolutely brilliant Alex.
I agree with all that you have said aside from returning to the woman who has wronged you looking for closure. Why would a person capable of deceit and betrayal give you an honest answer to your questions? Once the total breakdown of trust has occurred there is nothing of value left to be had from interactions with said person. They made their own choices despite you. Return the favour however hurt you are and walk away. Trust in yourself not in others as it is they who have shown themselves to be untrustworthy.
An excellent way of describing the situation and a rational response to same. Thank you.
Never waste your words on someone who deserves your silence. Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all.
Extremely salient advice Alex, by refusing to engage with her as a social equal you disarm her of the one tool she has to bury the truth: confusion. When dealing with immoral women it's important not to make claims except when they're absolutely undeniable. Naturally, this results in a man remaining silent most of the time when matters of morality are at hand, only speaking when his words crash like thunder. The facts supporting your claim must be right before her eyes such that she must appear as an insane person if she denied them. Face is more important than anything to the feminine, while truth is important to the masculine character. When you make a claim, you cannot rely on any allegiance to truth in her, you must stand on her loyalty to appearance.
When you make no claims nothing exists for her to use the feminine social positioning techniques of ridicule, shaming, and moral relativism. These are the social equivalent of octopus ink or a smoke grenade, purposed only to disorient while she escapes into the future and leaves the truth buried in the past. When a man speaks of morality it must be as masculine as he can muster, ringing with truth. He should aspire to emulate the voice of God. Whenever there is any uncertainty in his position he must not make claims... but instead remain silent or ask questions to reveal more information. The Socratic method is a priceless tool for men, it turns the liar and deceiver against himself/herself. Instead of you against them, it becomes them against them... all that's required of you is to ask questions to reveal the contradictions inherent in their minds.
Excellent.
Righteous comment
This is good advice for dealing with any slimy character regardless of gender.
3:37 wow that was savage poetry there, alex
Glad you liked :)
Mully do you bully??😢
Last woman I dated lasted only a month. Thought she was one of the good ones. I had a bad feeling that she was sneaking around possibly seeing other guys but I had no evidence so I didn't bring up the subject. Out of the blue she dumps me over a text. I call her to just to make sure and yup, I'm dumped.
"Are you sure this is what you want?" I asked.
"Yes."
That was August 2017 and never talked to her since and I"m glad I didn't.
A month is not a lot of time to settle with a woman. Not much of a loss.
@Inebriatd you go ahead and date a girl who's "checking you out" I just really hope you get her tested for STDs everytime you allow her to get plowed by one of her other test subjects.
If you're dating, an exclusive relationship is on the rise, which means she's yours until she informs you that she doesn't want to date any longer, that's why when you're dating someone, you let others know, you're seeing someone.
@@edwardsmith7788 dating is just playing around though....
Shouldn't have even called her.
@Inebriatd and people wonder why they have women problems. the whole hook-up culture is flooding the place with horny men and all these social problem arise.
Firstly I want to say that even though my ex cheated. It’s been years now so I wish her the best (I mean that). However 😂😂. Guys I am telling you that Alex is spot on. If someone cheats on you. Silence is GOLDEN!. After I found out what she did (whilst on holiday with my mum), I returned to our home whilst she was at work and packed up every single item of mine and left the home, as I knew she was hoping to see me in pain or to have an argument etc. I did not block her on social medias etc but I chose absolute silence on all platforms. Long story short, at one point she sent me 100 messages in the space of 10 mins. Yes this sounds mean, but she needed to reflect on what she had done and it was not my job (and it’s not yours) to do so. By the time a few months had gone by, she was telling people I barely knew, to call her and text her back. At one point this guy was like “it’s actually starting to get annoying, she clearly wants you back”. Anyway, good luck to you all !