Be Calm, speak less, avoid drama, be less reactive, make eye contact, use correct body language, listen more than you speak, think outside the box, think before you speak, don’t always be available, speak less about yourself :)
Lol. All this rules just to get a woman you like. If this is not you naturally and u're trying to adapt to all these rules, it's going to crash down at the end. Just focus on improving yourself instead, women are attracted to success and when they want you, you don't need to ignore them even if you are too nice, they will stick with you because of your success. All the energy directed to being this and that to attract women, channel it to an investment, a career, a business, a job and watch your life get better. If ure in the mood and u're successful, you can get any woman for the night. Because that's the end point for every man "beyond thier underwear".
@@iloading_ If you are average guy and just ignore women,it will not change anything.It only works if you are rich chad.But if you chase women,she will more likely to reject you.I have chased lot of girls and not only i was rejected,i was like a parasite for those girls.This is harsh reality.You have to be different and unique than at least hundred million guys to turn on womens
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
@@Kicklighter.A….. lol ok that answers my audio book question 😆. But damn…, bots…. We can also consider that we’ll be in a world that’s equipped and full of knowledge and answers at all of our fingertips. Yes tech is replacing ppls jobs and occupations but isn’t the American dream to not have to work and have things handled for us lol.
Have you life Have your goals Have your vision clear Have your friends Priorities your family fitness Be honest to your study/school/college/work no matter how many womens are waiting If you follow above things and literally work on them then you won't have to do anything extra to get attention of any women .... Focus on youself and whole world will focus on u ... 👍
If a women texts me less and ghosts I want her LESS. That behavior turns me off. I have no problems deleting a woman's number no matter how attractive she is. I only deal with cooperative women who respect my time. I'm not available for the ones that flake or play games. Guys let's be honest with each other. Think of every gorgeous women you see... how often are they texting away or talking on thier cell phones? Exactly! She is ignoring you. So return the favor. Especially if she has the nerve to text or call asking for help or favors. Don't be afraid to tell a beautiful women NO!
Not always the case. Sometimes we know your probably busy and don’t want to come off as needy. Or expect the man to tex first. Personally I’m never by my phone all day. Laundry, shopping, cooking ex.. but if I know someone is gonna tex I will be cautious of it all day. Then the guy never calls/tex🤔like respect each other’s time….
yes.. that's how we should be. 100percent agree. i doing the same routines like you do... and guess what never worry about no woman around me. i prefer put more time and investment on myself than only take my on sweet time find a nice soul mate.
Facts bro, they ghost I ghost them! When women want something they let it be known!! If they ghost a whole ass day then u know its time to move on. People take piss and shit every fucking day!! There's their free time to send out a quick text at least! Ghost all day they are fired
Let me say this. Most men go very fast with women. Lots of attention, lots of texting, asking for dates. This is all wrong. After 1 date you're telling her how you feel and after another you're ready to be her boyfriend. All wrong. No games here. You've developed very bad habits in the dating world because of neediness and texting. Now it's time to learn healthy habits. Patience and being non reactive to her responses will get you VERY FAR. Women DO NOT develop attraction this way. It's not about "playing games". It's about learning patience and knowing how to spread out your attention to her over time. Tons of attention and princess treatment the first week will only push her away. TEXTING KILLS ATTRACTION. It's only about 20 years old and that plus social media has killed dating in general. Technology will always make dating worse. Women do not respond to instant "checking in" with her everyday. Women are emotional beings and need time away from you so they can think about you and let her feelings develop naturally of her OWN choice. Women make the majority of their decisions about you (and life) based on how she feels in the moment. If you made her feel good on a date, just disappear for a few days so she can anticipate seeing you again. Over time her feelings will get stronger. Anticipation is the key attraction trait for women. If they like you, stop contacting her except to ask for a date once or twice a week. Continue this process until she asks to be your GF. They NEED some time and space to miss you. And yes all of this is only true if she likes you. If she likes you, you will begin to notice her feelings will increase while away from you. She can't control this and will start chasing you and reaching out to get more of you. Yes. Tell her you want to take her out once or twice a week, then let her chill for a bit. You'll find women don't want to be chased, MEN want to be chased. Women want to do the chasing. But by being all up in her business texting nonstop you killed anticipation which is what she needs. You can bitch all day about games and what not, or you can learn to adapt and give her what she needs. We've all been lied to growing up. Men are told to chase and buy flowers and do anything for her. No. When a woman sees your rarity she will chase you. I know from experience because I've lost the last 3 women that started chasing me. I wasn't patient and started getting anxious and insecure, not being confident that I'm good enough and wait for her to reach out. If she keeps making excuses about your date offers without a reschedule, it means SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU. Accept that and move to someone else. Women that like you, will make it very easy for you. Women that don't like you, will make it very tough. Approach women you like until you notice one is accepting every date offer and starts chasing you. Pull back and pace out your attention and time to her, and be patient.
Every woman is different. Go medium. Don’t love bomb, don’t smother, don’t manipulate, don’t ignore. Be a healthy, kind, genuine, communicative you. Relationships are about 2 people not just one, both people exist and share space. I am the type if somebody plays these ignore and no text games, i’m out. That’s not the type of games-playing person I want.
Years later, and ever once in awhile, it's good to revisit these videos, to remind ourselves of what we're forgetting. It's easy to get overly comfortable and slip into bad habits.
it's so frustrating that humans work like this. I feel like I'm never actually allowed to love someone, I just have to eternally pretend I won't feel a thing if she leaves. It's so outside my personality and I hate having to be like that
Yes sir! I’m middle age and don’t want to play 🐮 💩 games with women of any age. It is quite disturbing that women of all ages still want to play games and want a challenge. Being honest and genuine towards them gets you no where. Chase Excellence !!
This is not "playing games"... this is a NATURE of sex relations - women can't find out your needeness and emotions because their primal brain says you are weak...
My grandfather once told me when I was 16yrs..."if I ever find out you stay at a woman's place or u cried because a woman left you, you are not my blood" ....that hit hard...trust me I don't simp...if a woman is good, am gonna treat her right, if she doesn't deserve it, I leave quick fast!...the last thing I swore to myself is to never ever screw my quality of life...
If she doesn’t respond to you forget her ,doesn’t make me want her more if she ignores me , it just confirms she’s immature and isn’t capable of communicating or a relationship.
It only works if she has high physical and emotional attraction and investment in you. The fear of being forgotten by a woman is the obstacle men have to face in order to not push away(repell ) the woman they desire because of a man's need for reassurance. What you gain by letting go is peace of mind, more confidence in yourself and a abundance mind set.
To every guy reading this. Please let me tell you something. You need an abundance mindset. Don't be afraid to lose her even if you like her. I used to be needy when I started texting, which would eventually get me ghosted. It would break me, but now that I have experienced it so much, I realized that you shouldn't take it personal. If they ghost you, simply move on. No calls, no texts. In fact, don't give her any attention at all. Just go on about your life as if nothing happened. It will make her chase you and come back. Happened to me.
I've known all these techniques... for many years. Played the field, it was easy.. now I'm in my 30s and to see this man speaking pure facts, listen up.
100% correct! Never try to “talk her out of it”, it never works , only causes her to dig in her heals, and reinforces to her that she made the right decision.
If she DONT like you, it dont matter what you do, manipulation or silence, she will NEVER chase you! She will only chase you if she testing you and you ignore her
This doesn't work if she wasn't attracted or had interest with you to begin with. And no, don't bother changing her mind by texting her or asking for a chance, that just makes you look weak. Focus on yourself, celebrate your wins and keep growing is all you can do.
I remember getting dumped by a girl because she was "too busy" with school. I respected that and told her ok and that I would never contact her again. And I didn't. But guess who contacted me months later when she wasn't busy anymore.
A guy followed an advice like this. Then a woman also followed an advice like this. Both ended up not communicating because this advice results in a dead end situation
I’m 18 years old and have been avoiding relationships like the plague. I’m not bad looking, I’m tall, in shape, and I’m not an idiot. A few girls have asked me out and I know there’s been some that would have said yes if I would have asked them out. Honestly, I don’t have the time or energy to play these kinds of games. It just seems like a waste of time. All my friends and classmates are getting in these crazy relationships and it’s ruining their lives, and I just don’t want any part of it. Patience and/or staying single is a perfectly good option lol. Don’t be rushing into relationships especially if you have to play games like this.
You, young man, are a MILLION times wiser than most men (and most much older than you). Your comment is not just one of the wisest, most intelligent here but anywhere, anytime. You'll benefit greatly in life.
The advice this guy is giving isn't really the best advice I don't think. It's almost like he's wanting people to play games with other people, but everyone has their own way of handling other people and they will always know what they think is best. But well done for saying this though, hopefully a lot of other people are thinking the same thing.
You seem like you're a duplicate of me :D .. Just that i am not tall, not good looking and also not in shape :'D But besides that i feel 100 % as you do. Why can't i go out there and tell someone that i like spending time with them? Why can't i answer someone right away that seems genuinely interested in how my day or night was? All these games we have today, all the made up drama to "test" someones compatibility for a relationship, all the ignoring messages to make someone look busy or not interested in order to get more attention - it's so stupid and i'd rather live a single life in peace than to commit into the wrong person that doesnt value my empathie, truthfulness or even the fact that i am there on time.
@FumaazHD I’m keeping the door open for the right girl, but I’m not stressing about it. If we can come to terms with the possibility of a single life on our own terms we will e way happier than people who suffer in ridiculous relationships.
I know for a fact that the person reading this is really strong. You are really strong honey and your are doing so good! Anxiety is really hard to overcome so be proud of yourself for not giving up. (virtual hug) Remember that everything will be okay, it doesn't matter when, just hang on okay? Hang on. It will come - and after it arrived you will be so happy, happy about the fact that you never gave up. That you are strong. I love you, and many other people do too. Always hang on and wait for your happiness to arrive.❤
The Elements of ignoring a woman. 1. 4.57 Avoid Checking in for reassurance. 2. 7.40 Women equates longing with love. 3. 9.55 Give her a mental challenge. 4. 11.45 Hot and Cold behavior. 5. 14.50 Autonomy.
I'd have to say it irritates me as a woman because men don't understand how to balance it out most of the time. Eventually, I don't want to deal anymore. I believe it also depends on how busy or distracted the woman is.
Dear Douglas W. N: I don't recommend playing with a woman's heart. Do check your status in society. Disappointment looms when you become a good sport. Experiment: Be bereft, suffer losses, resources rummaged, and -- then -- check her compassionate side. Will this be the same ole familiar response -- Brother to .....r -- in no time flat?
Exactly. I’m listening to this thinking omg what a mind game. I don’t want contact with ANY man to play mental games like this. All it’s going to do is make me feel he is uninterested. What a mental game. Just make it simple, if you like a woman, tell her, show her. Don’t make it complicated with this mind game. It’s a mental rollercoaster and to your point, don’t play games with a woman’s heart. I currently know a man who does this and he has broken my heart repeatedly. It’s a painful stab to the heart and makes me think he’s into mental games. I don’t like this approach at all. I don’t think it’s a practical way to show her your true genuine side …….. all she’s going to see is “games”.
@@bluewolfeyes2904I’m sorry you had to go through that. Society is fucked up lately and everyone’s just looking out for themselves. People would rather hurt you before you even get the chance to hurt them.
Ignoring only works if the woman only is focused on you only. If she has other option’s and talking to them then ignoring will not work. It goes against you because you are actually competing with these other options.
True, that is why we don't focus on one woman when we're single, to create more options for us. Thing is they can only choose from a certain amount of men who are available to them because majority of women don't initiate. Unlike us, we initiate, so we create our own opportunities thus women are only limited by our capability to find one.
You're absolutely right about all of this. It took me years to learn this. When it worked well, I always had something going on so they didn't think I was pinning away for them all the time. I'm having that issue right now about being too nice so having to literaly keep busy. It's hard. What I do, do is start making female friends just to take my mind off of her. It does work. I'm not being a traitor. When they sense you're busy, they pick up on it in your voice, how you talk to them and don't seem overly eager. Thanks. I needed the reminder.
@@JadziaDax27 in looking back Its a blessing for some the I've talked to. But other s I've mirrored what she was doing. Without showing her needy emotional from me. They still walked away. To someone else. So I don't really totally believe in everything these coaches say. Because if you do what they say. Women will catch on & leave U forever etc
@@gregshanor669 same, I did all this and my crush got in with another guy, if not this then what works? I fear to show too much interest to not come as needy
Plus most people ( women and men ) have multiple interests @ once. Depending on their own needs. So that also plays into it..... I'm a older guy who likes younger women. Over the past year or So I have to realize this. Understand correctly " I show up I win" either way..... Either she's into me or I'm just a flavor til she sees something new etc. I try not to see a GF material. She has to put the effort & work towards that position anymore. Much different than when I was told what dating is supposed to be ( back then ) to what we get today
Sorry, but I don’t believe that. Do you know how many girls found me attractive but claim they aren’t interested in me???? I’m convinced that all women’s minds are connected because they all think the same about me
If she doesn't find him attractive then him showering her with attention won't work either. 😂 Women are more attracted and respect guys who are busy and don't make the girl their top priority. It's just the facts. I speak from first hand experience having been on both ends of the spectrum.
I think this tactic is OK when you're initially dating but in a serious relationship where there was true love, the hot and cold thing and being unavailable will kill off the attraction.
Absolutely right. Infact I am already opening up myself to meet other men because this hot and cold tells me he is fickle and undecided, possibly unrelable for a solid securely attached adult (emotionally mature ) relationship. It's all about open communication and being considerate with your partner. Only childish women fall for this manipulation. So good if you want to bang a few chicks but not if you want to find the one to settle down with.
@@healingypsy I'm genuinely intrigued to know more about what women really think of this.. Because I feel I agree.. He talks about these things not being games, but really, they are.. And I feel it breeds only short-term relationships.. What he says plays a small part, initially, as one does not want too come across too full-on.. But long-term, and in established relationships, I don't think this is good advice.. But, I could be wrong..
@@hanmmaandreww7951 You just know, there's no rule book.. It's all about how you feel, and how you perceive their feelings.. Just like life, there's always an element of risk..
@@robertneale7326 It works in the short term, specifically for emotionally immature, personality disorders, emotionally unhealthy, poor self esteem individuals - you get the picture. For the emotionally healthy, this behaviour is a turn off and rings alarm bells that the person demonstrating this type of behaviour is manipulative, controlling and emotionally unsafe to be in a healthy committed longterm relationship with. These characters teaching these videos should really be ashamed of themselves for the misinformation they provide to a lot of genuine and decent men out there who desperately want a good woman. However what he is teaching is just going to attract more dysfunction. The only way to impress a quality woman is through kindness, being considerate and a gentleman. It never fails if there is a spark there. Nothing works ofcourse if there is no spark.
_hot and cold behavior is like the tension of a spring. When cold, or negative, energy is stored. When it turns towards the hot, or positive end, the potential is released. This very dynamic is at the heart of any good drama._
If she has a bad relationship with her parents then this will work. If she has a great family support and circle of friends, you’re out of luck my dude.
I’ve actually accidentally done this with at least two or three women, I wasn’t overly honestly interested in them after the first date, so I pulled back and making forward pretty hard! This stuff works guys, I know it sounds like games, but all you’re doing is playing into the female psyche, if you don’t do that? You’re just gonna end up losing anyway.
I’ve noticed that during dating as well, lol I’ve been out with women and knew on the first date that I didn’t wanna go out with them anymore, so I basically ghost them, and they just keep texting me over and over, that part is very real.
@@CaptainAngelo My partner of 6 years ghosted me. We didn't live together. Guess what? I let him go. I didn't ring or email to find out why he did what he did. Women who stay in contact with someone who ghosted them, are mentally weak in my honest opinion. It should be a red flag if a guy ghosts you. Why would you put yourself through that? Must be low self-esteem on their parts.
Don' t bet on it man or woman, you can only push someone so far and ignore them that one day they don' t come back, if you care for that person be honest and communicate don' t play games and that' s what that is and when you end up alone which you will you have no one to blame but yourself and they are happy at Peace without you and with someone that is actually deserving.
I already made all the mistakes you talked about. I pretty much did the exact opposite of what you teach. Wish I had seen this stuff 3 months ago. The scrambler would have saved me. I wouldn’t have believed anything you’re saying if I hadn’t lived it. With every mistake I made, the girl did the exact thing you said she would do. And with everything she did and the tests she gave me, I did exactly what a predictable nice guy would do.
You said it, you wouldn't have believed him if you didn't live it. Embrace failure and rejection, they only make you stronger, i actually came here because of blunders i made with a girl as well.
1.) You as the man is the goal for a V 2.) if she plays games, she is not worth your time, effort or energy. 3.) Look at her circumstances that is family, social circle, religious affiliation & career objective. Assess those aspects, put them together & how they will work for you or fit in your life. Are you prepared to make concessions & will they work out with your overall goals & strategies. 4.) Say No and have boundaries. When she starts to be disobedient, rebellious & not accepting accountability. Then she is Ctrl + Alt + Delete. 5.) Focus on your goals, have direction & be purposeful. A V is an addition if she doesn’t want to be a part of your life, then she isn’t for you or want to be with you. Let her have her space and respond, not react. 6.) In addition give your attention is spurious moments. Don’t always buy her coffee every time you see her. So when you realises your getting too much, read the situation and respond by cutting back. Don’t chase incorrectly, but chase in correct methods. That is primarily character & personality.
The autonomy part hit home. Well said. You want to attract someone who reflects the principles and values you hold dear; that self-actualization is a sign of personal (and in turn projected) respect.
Spot on Bobby. I've experienced the downsides of being a nice guy several times and learnt the hard way that a man has to keep it cool and slow. But it's super valuable that you have explained the psychology behind it. :) After my marriage is over now I'm back at the game and this video comes in super handy. Cheers.
Stop picking whores who crave attention and validation and your situation will change. You’re doing this. It’s all your doing bro. Best of luck brother
If you need to do all this just to keep your relationship stable then you need a better partner. A relationship is supposed to be a mutual enjoyable thing where you can be relaxed and be yourself. They either like me for me or they can jog on.
This is what society has come too. Relationships now feel like a second 9 to 5 with all these deliverables and stupid mind games. I'd rather stay single to be honest
@@brock9372 Yeah but sometimes you feel like having someone for the emotional/physical support. No matter how alpha male we're this is our universal truth, but also we should not crave for love, because when you crave for something it only gets far away from you. I'd say let the love come by itself don't ask for it, also i realised this universe is not going to send something when you're curious and wanting it. My 18 years of experience, observation, & end conclusion says, be genuine, love yourself and work on it, surround yourself with positivity and growtful things, don't act fake (improvements are better) because even if you get someone by behaving fake he/she will leave you the day you act real
In a way you are right, especially if you think this behaviour is manipulative or playing some type of game, but I think the biggest lesson you should learn from this is that this helps you to become more independent, and less needy and less reliant on validation from someone else. That is what create healthy relationships.
I lend credence to this. Fact is, women have always placed expectations on guys and culpable of playing head games themselves. Although I have been successful with women, if they were a little more forthcoming, initiated more often, and made their desires a little more transparent it would make a world of difference in things not being so difficult.
As a women I will say you dont have to go through all of this back and forth if she is genuinely interested in you. You will have to do this and play games if shes not interested and ultimately you do not want to be in a relationship with her if thats the case. Just be AUTHENTIC to who you are.
To Shevern W. and Hippo: This is a time to test and experiment. Do some weird or extravagant stuff and see. Venture into communities, suffer loss and be bereft of your resources -- Then see her compassionate side. Huh -- You'll go from brother -- to .....r!
Well when I ignore her I just never hear from her again so this doesn’t work either. Tactics are bs. If she is interested you can tell, if not then it is even easier to tell. Plain and simple.
Despite the general opinion, I still think that often messages or "slight anoyance" cannot really push a female from me. I am more leaning towards having an open and adult communication rather than playing games. I know the flirt game has to be up there, but at the end of the day, people rely on solid material and not a story or a pose you made to impress her more. It is also good to know that this rule is generalized and that not every woman is the same. I had women that would shoot me 5 messages in a row and talk with them for hours, and some can be ok ssending you 2-3 short sentences per day. Take everything with a grain of salt :)
I had women that i texted 4-5 or more times without them replying that i ended up f ing in the end...ignoring them just makes then forget about you. They have too many options
Any time where I have ignored a woman, they just ignore me back and will never talk to me again unless I say something first... it is so soul destroying!!!
Balance is the word in every matter. No healthy woman will develop interest in a mand that ingnores her constantly. Just as any woman will keep her interest in a mand that seems to be desperat to get her. Dont adopt extreme attitudes. Be your self, dont put your interests or your life aside because you are in love. It is now when you should focus even more on your own things, so that your world does not revolve around a girl. Feel fri of express your feeling and show your apriciation for her, but do it to the extent that she also shows it towards you. Invest in the relationship in the same extent that she does. Balance my friends allways seek balance
You’re half right. I don’t chase. If ignored after 2 or 3 reaches from my side, I turn around and go the other way. If you do like her, ignoring is a head game which hurts and is a waste of time. If you don’t like her, be a man and tell her gently.
@@dragorn3212 Then you need to man up and find someone who will pay the attention you crave. Which is what women, not girls, do when men ignore them. You want to ignore me, that's your loss.
Great information brother, wish I had known this before I turned 45. My wife of 19 years just passed away and I’m seeing so many mistakes I made with her that almost cost me my marriage. She was a real woman that stood by me regardless of my insecurities and I’m blessed to have known her. This video reinforced other information I’ve seen on the same topic thanks
This is proven to be true in dating! But my question is: Does this continues forever, even in a relationship or just during the dating phase? Because I see it as tidious and tiresome to always play those games even after a long period of being together. Isn't human nature to long for one day to have stability in one's own life instead of this constant "uncertainty"?
it gets easier :). You still have to set boundaries and be autonomous. But this video is largely meant for the intiital phase of a relationship, before you've been dating or sleeping with her for long.
@@BobbyRio Yeah and there it is vital. Some friends still won't see it so they always make those same mistakes of being too available. Thanks for the quick reply!
As if guy's don't play games with us? We often feel we have to keep guy's chasing us because once they get us, then they don't want us. But ignoring a girl isn't a good idea. We'll just move on. Ignore someone isn't good for any relationship communication is. This is why straight people suck at relationships. Everyone playing games, people like these giving stupid advice. And people wonder why shit don't work out? 🙄 Dates is the time to get to know someone, not to get them into bed, there is a lot of hook up sites for that. Dates is a time to know what they're about and to tell them what you're about, it's a time to find out what they're into, dreams, goals and anything else you can find out. It is a time to see if your personalities match and you can form a connection together. If you want love them don't expect sex right away. If you want sex don't expect love right away.
@@amehayami934 And you think men can't just move on as well? Why does a guy have to be chasing you all the time? You talk about men playing games, but women are experts at this! How about misleading guys with how a woman actually looks like? Makeup? Push-up bra? Garters? High hills? Fake breast implants? Fake eye lashes and fingernails? The list goes on and on and on.. Women have played these games for so long that men are fed up and beginning to wake up and have decided to play the game as well, because being straight up with women doesn't get the results, for the most part..
I appreciate all the videos like these when something similar happens to me with a woman. Definitely helps me clear my mind and feel better while at the same time understanding where I went wrong.
you are right bobi .. Ignoring a girl can actually attract her, as it hurts her ego and makes her more sensitive to your attitude. Ignoring a woman might make men anxious, but it's actually a strategy to make her value their attention more.
Women are not all the same,in my part,Building a good relationship is to follow the golden rule, and applying the fruit of a holy spirit,which is composed of all kind words and actions.if men ignored me i remain calm and continue my kindness towards him until i feed up.VOILA!!!
Waiting for the reply definitely keeps her on my mind. Cancelling plans LAST MINUTE makes me want nothing to do with her. 24 hour notice is annoying, but given a reasonable excuse builds anticipation.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
its always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me, i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back..
@@haynesatteh4463 her name SHELLY RENEE WHITE, you can look her up online, she is the best spiritual adviser she helped out in such a difficult situation.
Dude once gone it’s never gonna be same. Just find a new woman and Pose a pic.Ignore your ex and keep a smile. She will burn from inside and want to come back to you.Keep your value and respect your dignity.
I agree with most of this but it depends on the woman and her psychology, as don't forget women are not all the same. Some women love the attention or being someone's immediate focus. It's about using segmentation to understand the specific woman and how you play the game depending on who your opponent is
If she likes you she will chase you. If she doesn't like you she won't chase you. There's nothing you can do to get a hot woman who doesn't like you to chase you. Meanwhile that ugly girl you wish would go away won't stop calling and texting you.
I've had to learn to take my time and chill when texting a woman. I recently charmed the heck out of a girl at a grocery store who was much younger and I got her SC. She messaged me FIRST. Like 20 min after leaving. I didnt have time to talk to her so I just teased her a bit and asked her to go out and eat the next day. She said she had plans, and I just said ok. Now I dont feel like talking to her at all. I dont feel like putting in any work unless she gives me a reason to. I commented on one of her stories and she replied immediately, but didnt give me much to work with in terms of conversation. So now Im just not gonna text her because I dont know what to say and I dont feel like it. We'll see how it goes
Forget about her, had similar situation, they just want your response if u into her or not, u let her know u r interested, they pull out-validation feed
If she declined the date. Walk away. She should of made a counter offer if she was attracted to you. You should of walked away and not contacted her. Women do the chasing.
You shouldn’t have asked her out so soon. I would asked her to check her schedule and get back to me when she knows she’s gonna be free. Asking her out the next day looks kinda desperate in most cases.
That’s exactly it!!! The ones who say they don’t wanna play games are 100% not autonomous. I try to tell my sisters all the time but they think I’m telling them to play mind games with men and not be themselves. They think I’m old fashioned and they are strong independent feminists! I let them learn but it’s clear who is never freaking out about constantly getting ghosted or feeling uneasy and like I’m chasing a guy and demanding respect. Nope, if it ever even happens I’m not noticing getting ghosted or I’m just letting myself be ghosted. I have options and too many other things to do. I’m commanding respect from where I am not chasing him down trying to demand it.
This might work for men who spark female interest in the first place -- really good looking dudes or well-off guys in superior positions. If Average Joe, who's invisible to women anyway, ignores them, they won't even notice (or if they do, they'll rather appreciate not gettng annoyed by yet another creep). However, not trying to interact with women beyond a short "good morning" will save him time, pain, and trouble, so the advice to ignore them is still of some value to him.
Fellas remember she has to find you attractive or be interested in you for all of this to work too. If she thinks you’re unattractive ignoring her is what she wants.
Exactly. By just ignoring women doesn't necessarily mean that women will just throw themselves at you. If a woman doesn't find you attractive, ignoring her won't change a damn thing.
I made the mistakes you teach about and I'm in my late 40s...I spent my whole adult life doing it all wrong. I wish RUclips existed when I was in my younger days...it would have saved me so much grief.
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Damn! this video is pure gold Bobby. I have been ¨kinda¨doing all you have mentioned for a while now (I have learned the hard and sad way), and it really does work. Women just get bored of the easy men and get intrigued by the not-so-easy men. Thank you so much because now I am even more sure that this is the only way to get in a womans mind. Keep up the good stuff man!!
As a woman, this recently happened, where he ignored me for 3 weeks a few months ago and it backfired on him! Now he’s texting me like crazy and I refuse to respond. This is playing games and I will not put up with it or tolerate it. I’m done! He messed up and I didn’t deserve any of that. Funny how it feels when it’s turned around on you do you realize how psychologically damaging the silent treatment is?
@@Chris-yx4go I understand Chris, and I really do get it and where you’re coming from. But honestly, everyone’s situation is completely different because we’re all unique in our own way. I had to do what was best for me ❤️
Of course most men realize how psychologically damaging the silent treatment is. After all, we had to endure experiences like that already for decades before any RUclips coach ever advised to try giving women a taste of their own medicine. Yet to this day there are still far less men than women playing such games. You girls invented it, you mastered it, you revelled in it. And now you react indignantly when some cocky Chad, or maybe just poor fool, tries his hand in your game, too?
I actually lose interest in a girl when they cancel on me. Especially when it’s last minute. At that point I just feel like it’s on her to reschedule or I’m moving on.
I've notice once you do this to her, She will do it to you too. So the bottom line she will loose interest in you because the way you treat her of ignoring her.
If you have a good vibe with someone why would you do any of this instead of doing what comes natural?? Why start playing games? Why not just be honest and go with the flow and where it takes you? These thing ruin relationships!!
I think your missing the point of this conversation. Of course if you have a good vibe with a person of interest going then this makes no sense to do that. However, if that said person you are pursuing shows little to no interest in conversation or even initiating at one point, what other option do you have besides ignore the person and continue on. Maybe they will reach out and maybe they won’t but you just have to be willing to move on. Like he said it’s a balancing act. You have to give some attention but you cannot give all your attention. This is the basically the topic he’s speaking on, not if you have already good chemistry and are on solid footing with the relationship.
@@g-moneybags6646 but how you can have a good vibe wen some pay no attention. People watch this kind of videos thinking they are safe and found sallution too for things that just happend and you cant control, like love. Find peace and exitment in that pure love cant be controled!! Thats the part where you get stronger in life where you just surrender to what happend.. ❤ wen you waste a lifetime builing walls arround you it will never happen.
These strategies work only for anxiously attached people, regardless of their sexuality... There are so many intelligent people out there who won't fall for this low-level BS.... If you're an emotionally mature man/woman who's authentic and confident in what they have to offer, you'll send out the right vibe to the emotionally compatible people. There is no need for game- playing. Mature people will see right through it and consider it as a sign of more desperation, immaturity, and confusion.
In almost all of these types of videos, the answer depends on context specific to that situation. They’re typically giving a solution that will fit a majority of the time. You can go into a situation with a goal, but not a specific action.
Different strokes for different folks... This is not a formular. I will advice you take your time to study who you are dealing with and apply the best approach. For some persons, if you are not there to keep in touch regularly, giving that attentions and trying to act the hard guy and hard girl, you loose that person. And for others, it's the other way. So you need to understand the Love language of the person you are going for.
Love watching these videos. I learn so much. I drop them dead in their tracks as soon as I see game playing. Lots of men left feeling stupid and ignored.
Everything you say is correct. I am 55, so didn't have access to advice online like this, and I had to learn the hard way, going through years of making all those mistakes before the penny dropped.
I am into a girl who said she wants to hang more and closer as friends before moving into something serious, any advice?? I feel like when I take a long time to respond I am driving her away haha. I went like a day and sent her a pic of a cookie and she almost sent a reply instantly but then goes back to hours of dead time which is cool. I just want to be myself without feeling like I am stepping on a mine every step of the way. Thank you nonetheless
Not to be cocky,,i perfected this by 18. It was my main move. The one who got my buddys who were way bedda looking than me and had more money than me. I jus learned how to keep myself slightly unavailable,,always🙏🤙
In the dating scene, nothing of this applies if you are physically unattractive. The best thing you can do is keep your dignity by making sure to treat the girl exactly like the dudes. If she liked how you look, she would approach you anyway, and it wouldnt take long, they dont waste time.
For sure, Bobby… because even with plutonic friends or band mates or teammates etc you’re like “when are we gonna practice again? It’s been a freakin week!” and you start valuing and anticipating your time together more. That effect only skyrockets when it’s romantic.
That's because you are doing something you like with someone you liked. This is not womans psychology this is mans psychology applied to women. The woman is not your band mate and she can find other people to play her instrument with. What's being done here is that band member who's called and cancels last moment, flakes and then gets surprised he was replaced.
She won’t just like you when you ignore her. It’s called a push/pull method. You show her interest/validation, then you show no interest. In a work/school environment it works well because there is constant exposure to it. Making her feelings stronger towards you. This adds mystery as well and makes her excited. Now this is harder to do when meeting them that’s not work or school (no long term exposure).
As a high value woman married to a high value man, this ignoring technique does not work guys!!! This will only work on young immature girls or low value women. I value myself, and if a guy ignores me, it makes me not trust him anymore and there’s no way I can be friends with someone that I do not trust, let alone be in a relationship. Once you break her trust it’s game over! Just be your authentic self, that’s what all good women want.
@@msd10001 we’re not ignoring you completely. It’s a balance between high/low energy/emotions. It’s based entirely on science and biology. We might tell you about a sexual dream we had and describe how it felt, but then we move away from that and ask where someone is at/or what you might have planned. So we together have created sexual feelings, positivity, and excitement all in a single motion. All while pulling away from that subject and you wanting more. A man that ignores completely would be a waste of time. Just know that this happens with every guy that you’ve dated. Some are extremely good at making you feel certain emotions and making you feel “connected” somehow. Like you are “destined” to be together.
Agree with the psychology in a sense game of dating from your video. “Ignoring” be respectful of your own time. I started going “old school” and calling her. One call can be equivalent to many many texts. plus you know if she’s actually wants to talk to you (interestes) besides just thumb typing a response. You’ll get a quick read of she’s into you.
Ignoring a good woman that's a "keeper" especially when you've been with her enough to KNOW she has "keeper" traits is actually showing her you have a propensity to withhold affection and you have devalued her worth. The woman's: "longing" & "desire for a man that is a challenge". . . "desire to chase hot/cold behaviors" this speaker elaborates upon I feel should be categorized as a video for "beginners" or "people who have difficulty finding time in the middle of their "own life" . ."their" own dreams . . ."their" own goals "their" own schedule. Why? Because the "ignoring" philosophy is a quick fix to hook a woman quickly that does not know the depth of the power of her intelligence, her passions, or her gifts. . .yet she is attractive or gorgeous or "extremely sexy physically in some manner" therefore; she shows no confidence that she is a "keeper" and falls into the role of responding to negative vs a positive encounter. My suggestion: save all that for role playing after marriage/long-term commitment to keep it fun & hot thru your devoted life together. . . as a team . . . PS. I kept comments in the feminine gender due to the speaker being male, but this video's protocal may apply to all genders that desire to find that person that is their keeper for life. . . My philosophy is simply. Love Wins. Be the best self you can be. Someone will love that!
Exactly this, people make things a priority that are important to them. If I'm not important and you're playing games with me, I'm not going to waste my time. The only relationship I stayed in long term was one who always picked up when I called most of the time. The one who made contacting me and seeing me a priority. When that stops, the relationship begins to die.
No active communication,no coversation that leads an end on any relationship.This ignoring methood will make u gg if he/ she get it, u lose all repect. He/she will think u are just all like others, u are not that unique guy what your partner seeks.Make it balance. Always get on touch with your partner if he/she truly loves u. Dont be robot.feelings is matter in a relationship on both side.
In the past I have been guilty of putting women on a pedestal and always being available. It was a fear. A fear of her finding some other guy to stay the night😂
I simped hard on womens from 15-18.Then i started taking red pill class and now i have girls hanging on my DM lol.Red pill is the way of life.Also i was ugly.I did looksmaxing for an year to get slightly more attractive,lost weight and grew taller a bit.Unless a serious brain damage happens,i won't have crush on any other girls
1st that's a lot of words to say a whole lot of nothing? Wtf do you mean by stay true? Stay true to what? And wtf are you doing to keep them their? And if you're going out with girls that only care about how good you look and how much money you have? That sounds like it's a you problem, otherwise you get smart and stop looking for shallow people. Maybe you only get shallow people because you are yourself? Idk? But if you're going out so you can bang hot girls and do nothing to keep them then wtf do you expect? Maybe you should do some self reflection any ask yourself what it is you want? Do you just really want to Fuck? Alor are you looking for love? Or are you looking for love that has a lot of fucking? And if you want a relationship of any kind that takes time. There are a lot of shitty girls out there, just like there is a lot of shitty guys out there. And it can be hard to navigate threw that. Someone will take the first thing they like. Some looks for someone perfect for them. Some has standards so high I doubt they ever find anyone. Who do you want to be. The fact is people guys and girls a like. Needs to get true and correct with themselves, before they can expect anyone to be true and correct with them. You get what you put in, don't expect to put in shit and expect a diamond. If you're not doing serious self reflection, and answering honestly to theo's questions about yourself, and you're not listening to the girl or taking her feelings into consideration then that is why you get the relationship you get. But let's say you are doing everything right. You treat her good, show her love, listen to her and treat her with dignity and respect. Then maybe it's the type of girls you pick. Fact is the relationships you have is on you, you choose to be in that relationship or stay in that relationship, Stop putting women in boxes. Women can do the same to.
If you ignore the woman, they can soon forget you because theres plenty of other options out there for her. She can soon get another date.Every woman I've known has soon forgotten me I'm sure. And moved on. I've done the same but just stayed single and concentrating on much more important things.
But it is still hurts tho. Seeing someone you want is ignoring you :( in my past life experiences, I cannot easily forget the man who became part of my life. And it will starts to flashback how happy we were. But ya, we can't do anything about it but to accept and move on. ☺️ Cheer up
Yes, when I have been ignored, I have moved on and had enjoyment with others. When I notice the games, it tells me this guy is a child and do not invest precious time and energy.
You have to show some interest without acting desperate and needy. Let the gal see you as a challenge who doesnt roll over like a puppy as soon as she bats her eyelids at you.
@@carolynmerritt7100 true! If he is not interested then is wasting your time, if is so busy then is no place for a relation in his life and can stay out of this, as coach Tony Gaskins (a man who talks from his experience and i can recomend you to hear him) said "even Obama had time for Michelle", there are grown boys who are playing games, in any age, and men. Without honesty and respect can't go forward May all of you to find as your heart wants!
My ex ignored me when I sent her a handwritten love letter and I asked if she got it through text. I have a hard time viewing her the same way that I used to. I feel like her ignoring me just pushed me further away from her. I don't even care to look at her Snapchat story anymore. I have low expectations that she will reach out anytime soon. i am doing NC and made myself inactive off of social media, block her from being able to view my story and muted her story so I don't feel tempted to look. I'm just at a loss for words. I really thought she was mature enough to at least communicate with me.
It was not worth blocking her wolves to watch stories, it was only necessary to block them himself so as not to look. By this blocking, you showed that it is important to you, but you just need to not react to it, it’s more likely to the future.
I think ignoring is not good, for me this is an act of immaturity! But, doing proper communication is better with respect for you both, time, effort, honesty, and sincerity..
This guy speaks the truth. Currently talking to 2 girls, and the one I like the least is becoming really obsessed. I'm also not really paying attention to her because I like the other onr
Sound advice for a particular stage of a relationship with a woman, I really wish you could break down all the stages and give advice accordingly. Next step would be breaking down the types of women.
i agree.. most of these advices are just for newbies on dating scene, need to be clearly state on what situation this should be... because if you already pass the dating stage and now staying in love for long time and known each other, this will just starts to iritate both sides and thats where ego will sprung up and devour both of you.. the best advice is read ur bible and please ur Creator rather than the creatures.
This doesn't work. Ignoring or some might call it "Ghosting" only pushes her away, it will make them feel like you are not interested in them and they will move on. You got to remember for every female there is like already 10+ guys also trying to pursue her. For woman its so easy to get a man, for men its difficult...She will just move on, and then when you finally decide "ok" I won't ignore any more the girl you liked has already moved on. Bad idea in my opinion.
For sure because even with plutonic friends or band mates or teammates etc you’re like “when are we gonna practice again? It’s been a freakin week!” and you start valuing and anticipating your time together more. That effect only skyrockets when it’s romantic.
hot and cold is one of the first lessons i learned 20+ years ago, and its still very effective. Its one of the fundamentals. Not always fun to do or have done to you, but it works.
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Be Calm, speak less, avoid drama, be less reactive, make eye contact, use correct body language, listen more than you speak, think outside the box, think before you speak, don’t always be available, speak less about yourself :)
yep, all good to keep in mind.
lol i'm doing all of above unpurposely
That's myterious!!!
Exactly!!
Lol. All this rules just to get a woman you like. If this is not you naturally and u're trying to adapt to all these rules, it's going to crash down at the end.
Just focus on improving yourself instead, women are attracted to success and when they want you, you don't need to ignore them even if you are too nice, they will stick with you because of your success.
All the energy directed to being this and that to attract women, channel it to an investment, a career, a business, a job and watch your life get better. If ure in the mood and u're successful, you can get any woman for the night. Because that's the end point for every man "beyond thier underwear".
Don't be needy. Be happy with yourself first. Fix yourself first
Shut up, please for the love of God
That’s bs I’ve done that my whole life and nothing 😂😂😂
@@iloading_ If you are average guy and just ignore women,it will not change anything.It only works if you are rich chad.But if you chase women,she will more likely to reject you.I have chased lot of girls and not only i was rejected,i was like a parasite for those girls.This is harsh reality.You have to be different and unique than at least hundred million guys to turn on womens
@@Returntonature145 I agree with 💯 not all women will fall for this crap.
I can't agree more👌
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
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Have you life
Have your goals
Have your vision clear
Have your friends
Priorities your family fitness
Be honest to your study/school/college/work no matter how many womens are waiting
If you follow above things and literally work on them then you won't have to do anything extra to get attention of any women .... Focus on youself and whole world will focus on u ... 👍
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If a women texts me less and ghosts I want her LESS. That behavior turns me off. I have no problems deleting a woman's number no matter how attractive she is. I only deal with cooperative women who respect my time. I'm not available for the ones that flake or play games. Guys let's be honest with each other. Think of every gorgeous women you see... how often are they texting away or talking on thier cell phones? Exactly! She is ignoring you. So return the favor. Especially if she has the nerve to text or call asking for help or favors. Don't be afraid to tell a beautiful women NO!
Not always the case. Sometimes we know your probably busy and don’t want to come off as needy. Or expect the man to tex first. Personally I’m never by my phone all day. Laundry, shopping, cooking ex.. but if I know someone is gonna tex I will be cautious of it all day. Then the guy never calls/tex🤔like respect each other’s time….
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yes.. that's how we should be. 100percent agree. i doing the same routines like you do... and guess what never worry about no woman around me. i prefer put more time and investment on myself than only take my on sweet time find a nice soul mate.
Facts bro, they ghost I ghost them! When women want something they let it be known!! If they ghost a whole ass day then u know its time to move on. People take piss and shit every fucking day!! There's their free time to send out a quick text at least! Ghost all day they are fired
Let me say this. Most men go very fast with women. Lots of attention, lots of texting, asking for dates. This is all wrong. After 1 date you're telling her how you feel and after another you're ready to be her boyfriend. All wrong.
No games here. You've developed very bad habits in the dating world because of neediness and texting. Now it's time to learn healthy habits. Patience and being non reactive to her responses will get you VERY FAR.
Women DO NOT develop attraction this way. It's not about "playing games". It's about learning patience and knowing how to spread out your attention to her over time. Tons of attention and princess treatment the first week will only push her away.
TEXTING KILLS ATTRACTION. It's only about 20 years old and that plus social media has killed dating in general. Technology will always make dating worse. Women do not respond to instant "checking in" with her everyday.
Women are emotional beings and need time away from you so they can think about you and let her feelings develop naturally of her OWN choice. Women make the majority of their decisions about you (and life) based on how she feels in the moment. If you made her feel good on a date, just disappear for a few days so she can anticipate seeing you again. Over time her feelings will get stronger.
Anticipation is the key attraction trait for women. If they like you, stop contacting her except to ask for a date once or twice a week. Continue this process until she asks to be your GF. They NEED some time and space to miss you. And yes all of this is only true if she likes you.
If she likes you, you will begin to notice her feelings will increase while away from you. She can't control this and will start chasing you and reaching out to get more of you.
Yes. Tell her you want to take her out once or twice a week, then let her chill for a bit. You'll find women don't want to be chased, MEN want to be chased. Women want to do the chasing. But by being all up in her business texting nonstop you killed anticipation which is what she needs.
You can bitch all day about games and what not, or you can learn to adapt and give her what she needs. We've all been lied to growing up. Men are told to chase and buy flowers and do anything for her.
No. When a woman sees your rarity she will chase you.
I know from experience because I've lost the last 3 women that started chasing me. I wasn't patient and started getting anxious and insecure, not being confident that I'm good enough and wait for her to reach out.
If she keeps making excuses about your date offers without a reschedule, it means SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU. Accept that and move to someone else.
Women that like you, will make it very easy for you. Women that don't like you, will make it very tough.
Approach women you like until you notice one is accepting every date offer and starts chasing you. Pull back and pace out your attention and time to her, and be patient.
But I heard that if you don’t text her and not respond then they loose interest is that true ?? I am so confused 😢please help
Every woman is different. Go medium. Don’t love bomb, don’t smother, don’t manipulate, don’t ignore. Be a healthy, kind, genuine, communicative you. Relationships are about 2 people not just one, both people exist and share space. I am the type if somebody plays these ignore and no text games, i’m out. That’s not the type of games-playing person I want.
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Hey really informative. Do you have a blog or something which sheds more light on this. I really experienced the same with my last crush
@@pratik2998i think he watches a lot of corey wayne.
Years later, and ever once in awhile, it's good to revisit these videos, to remind ourselves of what we're forgetting.
It's easy to get overly comfortable and slip into bad habits.
Dealing with this right now!!
So true, feminine energy can do that to you as a man 🤦
So true brother
it's so frustrating that humans work like this. I feel like I'm never actually allowed to love someone, I just have to eternally pretend I won't feel a thing if she leaves. It's so outside my personality and I hate having to be like that
I feel u mate i just feel the same
Feel you mate
Yes sir! I’m middle age and don’t want to play 🐮 💩 games with women of any age. It is quite disturbing that women of all ages still want to play games and want a challenge. Being honest and genuine towards them gets you no where.
Chase Excellence !!
It's super stupid but it's true
This is not "playing games"... this is a NATURE of sex relations - women can't find out your needeness and emotions because their primal brain says you are weak...
My grandfather once told me when I was 16yrs..."if I ever find out you stay at a woman's place or u cried because a woman left you, you are not my blood" ....that hit hard...trust me I don't simp...if a woman is good, am gonna treat her right, if she doesn't deserve it, I leave quick fast!...the last thing I swore to myself is to never ever screw my quality of life...
If she doesn’t respond to you forget her ,doesn’t make me want her more if she ignores me , it just confirms she’s immature and isn’t capable of communicating or a relationship.
If she ignores you it doesn't mean she is immature, it means SHE ISN'T INTERESTED IN YOU.
It only works if she has high physical and emotional attraction and investment in you. The fear of being forgotten by a woman is the obstacle men have to face in order to not push away(repell ) the woman they desire because of a man's need for reassurance. What you gain by letting go is peace of mind, more confidence in yourself and a abundance mind set.
To every guy reading this. Please let me tell you something. You need an abundance mindset. Don't be afraid to lose her even if you like her. I used to be needy when I started texting, which would eventually get me ghosted. It would break me, but now that I have experienced it so much, I realized that you shouldn't take it personal.
If they ghost you, simply move on. No calls, no texts. In fact, don't give her any attention at all. Just go on about your life as if nothing happened. It will make her chase you and come back. Happened to me.
I've known all these techniques... for many years. Played the field, it was easy.. now I'm in my 30s and to see this man speaking pure facts, listen up.
100% correct! Never try to “talk her out of it”, it never works , only causes her to dig in her heals, and reinforces to her that she made the right decision.
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Facts bruvva! Move on. Next! There's another bus coming! lol
I have ignored her messages and after 4 months no contact, she sends me a goofy selfie? What shall I do?
@@Anteater_Slayer6656 reply to her and say "who cares about your retard pics im gonna delete it before it gave me nightmares".
If she DONT like you, it dont matter what you do, manipulation or silence, she will NEVER chase you! She will only chase you if she testing you and you ignore her
Right on...
This is my case with one of the lady am
Chasing now I totally stop doing it.
Yes I believe this is accurate
@@MoneyTary26 You ignore her, she ignores you, zero results.
Truth 100 % !!! 👍👍
This doesn't work if she wasn't attracted or had interest with you to begin with. And no, don't bother changing her mind by texting her or asking for a chance, that just makes you look weak. Focus on yourself, celebrate your wins and keep growing is all you can do.
I remember getting dumped by a girl because she was "too busy" with school. I respected that and told her ok and that I would never contact her again. And I didn't. But guess who contacted me months later when she wasn't busy anymore.
@marcus.. ding ding ding 🛎️!
And then what happened? Did any long-term stable relationship come out of it? Or it went no where yet again because everyone's playing mind games?
A guy followed an advice like this. Then a woman also followed an advice like this. Both ended up not communicating because this advice results in a dead end situation
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Nah this is for men… if you know you know …
It only works if you find each other attractive...
@@thatboringblenderguy they find each other attractive but both of them following this advice lead them to a dead end of not communicating
This videos should be made only for us men 😟
I’m 18 years old and have been avoiding relationships like the plague. I’m not bad looking, I’m tall, in shape, and I’m not an idiot. A few girls have asked me out and I know there’s been some that would have said yes if I would have asked them out. Honestly, I don’t have the time or energy to play these kinds of games. It just seems like a waste of time. All my friends and classmates are getting in these crazy relationships and it’s ruining their lives, and I just don’t want any part of it.
Patience and/or staying single is a perfectly good option lol. Don’t be rushing into relationships especially if you have to play games like this.
You, young man, are a MILLION times wiser than most men (and most much older than you). Your comment is not just one of the wisest, most intelligent here but anywhere, anytime. You'll benefit greatly in life.
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The advice this guy is giving isn't really the best advice I don't think. It's almost like he's wanting people to play games with other people, but everyone has their own way of handling other people and they will always know what they think is best. But well done for saying this though, hopefully a lot of other people are thinking the same thing.
You seem like you're a duplicate of me :D .. Just that i am not tall, not good looking and also not in shape :'D But besides that i feel 100 % as you do. Why can't i go out there and tell someone that i like spending time with them? Why can't i answer someone right away that seems genuinely interested in how my day or night was?
All these games we have today, all the made up drama to "test" someones compatibility for a relationship, all the ignoring messages to make someone look busy or not interested in order to get more attention - it's so stupid and i'd rather live a single life in peace than to commit into the wrong person that doesnt value my empathie, truthfulness or even the fact that i am there on time.
@FumaazHD I’m keeping the door open for the right girl, but I’m not stressing about it. If we can come to terms with the possibility of a single life on our own terms we will e way happier than people who suffer in ridiculous relationships.
I think it depends on the person. Ignoring has worked for me sometimes. Sometimes out of sight out of mind is true
I know for a fact that the person reading this is really strong.
You are really strong honey and your are doing so good! Anxiety is really hard to overcome so be proud of yourself for not giving up.
(virtual hug) Remember that everything will be okay, it doesn't matter when, just hang on okay? Hang on. It will come - and after it arrived you will be so happy,
happy about the fact that you never gave up. That you are strong. I love you, and many other people do too. Always hang on and wait for your happiness to arrive.❤
❤
Why'd you call us "honey"?
You better be a woman 😂
Don’t make me kiss you
1/check in, 2/attention - longing w/ love, 3/not figure out - mental challenge, 4/hot & cold behavior 5/autonomy
The Elements of ignoring a woman.
1. 4.57 Avoid Checking in for reassurance.
2. 7.40 Women equates longing with love.
3. 9.55 Give her a mental challenge.
4. 11.45 Hot and Cold behavior.
5. 14.50 Autonomy.
I'd have to say it irritates me as a woman because men don't understand how to balance it out most of the time. Eventually, I don't want to deal anymore. I believe it also depends on how busy or distracted the woman is.
Dear Douglas W. N: I don't recommend playing with a woman's heart.
Do check your status in society.
Disappointment looms when you become a good sport.
Experiment: Be bereft, suffer losses, resources rummaged, and -- then -- check her compassionate side.
Will this be the same ole familiar response -- Brother to .....r -- in no time flat?
Exactly. I’m listening to this thinking omg what a mind game. I don’t want contact with ANY man to play mental games like this. All it’s going to do is make me feel he is uninterested. What a mental game. Just make it simple, if you like a woman, tell her, show her. Don’t make it complicated with this mind game. It’s a mental rollercoaster and to your point, don’t play games with a woman’s heart. I currently know a man who does this and he has broken my heart repeatedly. It’s a painful stab to the heart and makes me think he’s into mental games.
I don’t like this approach at all. I don’t think it’s a practical way to show her your true genuine side …….. all she’s going to see is “games”.
@@bluewolfeyes2904I’m sorry you had to go through that. Society is fucked up lately and everyone’s just looking out for themselves. People would rather hurt you before you even get the chance to hurt them.
As a woman, if you as a man play a hot and cold game I’m DONE
Ignoring only works if the woman only is focused on you only. If she has other option’s and talking to them then ignoring will not work. It goes against you because you are actually competing with these other options.
Did you listen to the entire 20min? The title is miss leading, but the information is pretty good
It works very well. My girl is head over heals for me. Can't go a day without having to hear my voice. She gets pissed off if i don't call her a day.
Wrong
It’s still a win for u man,coz u Jux got ur self free from drama
True, that is why we don't focus on one woman when we're single, to create more options for us. Thing is they can only choose from a certain amount of men who are available to them because majority of women don't initiate. Unlike us, we initiate, so we create our own opportunities thus women are only limited by our capability to find one.
You're absolutely right about all of this. It took me years to learn this. When it worked well, I always had something going on so they didn't think I was pinning away for them all the time. I'm having that issue right now about being too nice so having to literaly keep busy. It's hard. What I do, do is start making female friends just to take my mind off of her. It does work. I'm not being a traitor. When they sense you're busy, they pick up on it in your voice, how you talk to them and don't seem overly eager. Thanks. I needed the reminder.
Have done this & she moved on. Walked away, she lost her interest in me and married someone else.
Yep. Women hate being ignored or feeling like a guy is hot & cold... It's definitely a turn off. We crave security... Sorry that this happened to you.
@@JadziaDax27 in looking back Its a blessing for some the I've talked to. But other s I've mirrored what she was doing. Without showing her needy emotional from me. They still walked away. To someone else. So I don't really totally believe in everything these coaches say. Because if you do what they say. Women will catch on & leave U forever etc
@@gregshanor669 same, I did all this and my crush got in with another guy, if not this then what works? I fear to show too much interest to not come as needy
Plus most people ( women and men ) have multiple interests @ once. Depending on their own needs. So that also plays into it..... I'm a older guy who likes younger women. Over the past year or So I have to realize this. Understand correctly " I show up I win" either way..... Either she's into me or I'm just a flavor til she sees something new etc. I try not to see a GF material. She has to put the effort & work towards that position anymore. Much different than when I was told what dating is supposed to be ( back then ) to what we get today
U gotta pull them in and then let go, pull them in and let go.. hot and cold. You cant just dump the bait and walk away it doesnt work
I'm a woman and this will only work if the woman actually finds the guy attractive.
Sorry, but I don’t believe that. Do you know how many girls found me attractive but claim they aren’t interested in me???? I’m convinced that all women’s minds are connected because they all think the same about me
Yes but attraction is a sliding scale. The same guy can go up and down that scale based on his behavior.
If she does not find him attractive then than will be the test to filter out the woman that don't find you attractive
If she doesn't find him attractive then him showering her with attention won't work either. 😂
Women are more attracted and respect guys who are busy and don't make the girl their top priority. It's just the facts. I speak from first hand experience having been on both ends of the spectrum.
There has gotta be some level of attraction and interest for this to actually work. If your at the bottom of the scale then don’t use this tactic.
I think this tactic is OK when you're initially dating but in a serious relationship where there was true love, the hot and cold thing and being unavailable will kill off the attraction.
Absolutely right. Infact I am already opening up myself to meet other men because this hot and cold tells me he is fickle and undecided, possibly unrelable for a solid securely attached adult (emotionally mature ) relationship. It's all about open communication and being considerate with your partner. Only childish women fall for this manipulation. So good if you want to bang a few chicks but not if you want to find the one to settle down with.
How would u know if it's true? What's the basis?
@@healingypsy I'm genuinely intrigued to know more about what women really think of this.. Because I feel I agree.. He talks about these things not being games, but really, they are.. And I feel it breeds only short-term relationships.. What he says plays a small part, initially, as one does not want too come across too full-on.. But long-term, and in established relationships, I don't think this is good advice.. But, I could be wrong..
@@hanmmaandreww7951 You just know, there's no rule book.. It's all about how you feel, and how you perceive their feelings.. Just like life, there's always an element of risk..
@@robertneale7326 It works in the short term, specifically for emotionally immature, personality disorders, emotionally unhealthy, poor self esteem individuals - you get the picture. For the emotionally healthy, this behaviour is a turn off and rings alarm bells that the person demonstrating this type of behaviour is manipulative, controlling and emotionally unsafe to be in a healthy committed longterm relationship with. These characters teaching these videos should really be ashamed of themselves for the misinformation they provide to a lot of genuine and decent men out there who desperately want a good woman. However what he is teaching is just going to attract more dysfunction. The only way to impress a quality woman is through kindness, being considerate and a gentleman. It never fails if there is a spark there. Nothing works ofcourse if there is no spark.
_hot and cold behavior is like the tension of a spring. When cold, or negative, energy is stored. When it turns towards the hot, or positive end, the potential is released. This very dynamic is at the heart of any good drama._
interesting analogy
If she has a bad relationship with her parents then this will work. If she has a great family support and circle of friends, you’re out of luck my dude.
So trueeeeeeeeee
Family is so important ☝️
_it says more about you and your status_
What if she's has bad fam relationship but good circle of friends?
true friend
I’ve actually accidentally done this with at least two or three women, I wasn’t overly honestly interested in them after the first date, so I pulled back and making forward pretty hard! This stuff works guys, I know it sounds like games, but all you’re doing is playing into the female psyche, if you don’t do that? You’re just gonna end up losing anyway.
Exactly 💯 it gives her mix signals and then she over thinks that he isn't interested and moves she on . This guy is setting up men for failure 😅😅😂😂😂
I’ve noticed that during dating as well, lol I’ve been out with women and knew on the first date that I didn’t wanna go out with them anymore, so I basically ghost them, and they just keep texting me over and over, that part is very real.
Those women have low self esteem to chase you
@@CaptainAngeloIts a matter of can you do that with women you are interested in and find very attractive etc.
@@CaptainAngelo My partner of 6 years ghosted me. We didn't live together. Guess what? I let him go. I didn't ring or email to find out why he did what he did. Women who stay in contact with someone who ghosted them, are mentally weak in my honest opinion. It should be a red flag if a guy ghosts you. Why would you put yourself through that? Must be low self-esteem on their parts.
Don' t bet on it man or woman, you can only push someone so far and ignore them that one day they don' t come back, if you care for that person be honest and communicate don' t play games and that' s what that is and when you end up alone which you will you have no one to blame but yourself and they are happy at Peace without you and with someone that is actually deserving.
I already made all the mistakes you talked about. I pretty much did the exact opposite of what you teach. Wish I had seen this stuff 3 months ago. The scrambler would have saved me. I wouldn’t have believed anything you’re saying if I hadn’t lived it. With every mistake I made, the girl did the exact thing you said she would do. And with everything she did and the tests she gave me, I did exactly what a predictable nice guy would do.
Respect….admitting your mistakes levels you up big time & makes you so much more powerful in the future lesson learned fam! 💯
You said it, you wouldn't have believed him if you didn't live it. Embrace failure and rejection, they only make you stronger, i actually came here because of blunders i made with a girl as well.
Lol
Randy now you will begin to succeed! Here is where you demonstrate progress - my brother: do not despair!!
I feel you broo
1.) You as the man is the goal for a V
2.) if she plays games, she is not worth your time, effort or energy.
3.) Look at her circumstances that is family, social circle, religious affiliation & career objective. Assess those aspects, put them together & how they will work for you or fit in your life. Are you prepared to make concessions & will they work out with your overall goals & strategies.
4.) Say No and have boundaries. When she starts to be disobedient, rebellious & not accepting accountability. Then she is Ctrl + Alt + Delete.
5.) Focus on your goals, have direction & be purposeful. A V is an addition if she doesn’t want to be a part of your life, then she isn’t for you or want to be with you. Let her have her space and respond, not react.
6.) In addition give your attention is spurious moments. Don’t always buy her coffee every time you see her. So when you realises your getting too much, read the situation and respond by cutting back. Don’t chase incorrectly, but chase in correct methods. That is primarily character & personality.
The autonomy part hit home. Well said.
You want to attract someone who reflects the principles and values you hold dear; that self-actualization is a sign of personal (and in turn projected) respect.
Spot on Bobby. I've experienced the downsides of being a nice guy several times and learnt the hard way that a man has to keep it cool and slow. But it's super valuable that you have explained the psychology behind it. :) After my marriage is over now I'm back at the game and this video comes in super handy. Cheers.
Stop picking whores who crave attention and validation and your situation will change. You’re doing this. It’s all your doing bro. Best of luck brother
@@ocasio3024 Thanks bro, much appreciated! Practicing this stuff in the last couple of weeks is already paying off. :)
This is a good technic that keeps both couples interested and flirting with each other.
If you need to do all this just to keep your relationship stable then you need a better partner. A relationship is supposed to be a mutual enjoyable thing where you can be relaxed and be yourself. They either like me for me or they can jog on.
I wish these words were applicable in real life... Hard to find these sort of human beings
This is what society has come too. Relationships now feel like a second 9 to 5 with all these deliverables and stupid mind games. I'd rather stay single to be honest
@@brock9372 Yeah but sometimes you feel like having someone for the emotional/physical support.
No matter how alpha male we're this is our universal truth, but also we should not crave for love, because when you crave for something it only gets far away from you.
I'd say let the love come by itself don't ask for it, also i realised this universe is not going to send something when you're curious and wanting it.
My 18 years of experience, observation, & end conclusion says, be genuine, love yourself and work on it, surround yourself with positivity and growtful things, don't act fake (improvements are better) because even if you get someone by behaving fake he/she will leave you the day you act real
In a way you are right, especially if you think this behaviour is manipulative or playing some type of game, but I think the biggest lesson you should learn from this is that this helps you to become more independent, and less needy and less reliant on validation from someone else. That is what create healthy relationships.
I lend credence to this. Fact is, women have always placed expectations on guys and culpable of playing head games themselves. Although I have been successful with women, if they were a little more forthcoming, initiated more often, and made their desires a little more transparent it would make a world of difference in things not being so difficult.
As a women I will say you dont have to go through all of this back and forth if she is genuinely interested in you. You will have to do this and play games if shes not interested and ultimately you do not want to be in a relationship with her if thats the case. Just be AUTHENTIC to who you are.
To Shevern W. and Hippo: This is a time to test and experiment. Do some weird or extravagant stuff and see.
Venture into communities, suffer loss and be bereft of your resources -- Then see her compassionate side. Huh -- You'll go from brother -- to .....r!
@@HippoMathicc: Dear Hippo: You're on top of this comment board. Ok, top G(irl).
@@HippoMathicc is this all the women you've got in line - in your dreams mate...?
Well when I ignore her I just never hear from her again so this doesn’t work either. Tactics are bs. If she is interested you can tell, if not then it is even easier to tell. Plain and simple.
Be quiet you vile woman. 😂
Despite the general opinion, I still think that often messages or "slight anoyance" cannot really push a female from me. I am more leaning towards having an open and adult communication rather than playing games. I know the flirt game has to be up there, but at the end of the day, people rely on solid material and not a story or a pose you made to impress her more. It is also good to know that this rule is generalized and that not every woman is the same. I had women that would shoot me 5 messages in a row and talk with them for hours, and some can be ok ssending you 2-3 short sentences per day. Take everything with a grain of salt :)
Messages are for quick chats and mainly SETTING DATES. You lower your value with long chat conversations. Face to face is golden time.
Appreciated hearing your experience.
I had women that i texted 4-5 or more times without them replying that i ended up f ing in the end...ignoring them just makes then forget about you. They have too many options
Games? Your a non believer lol
Hours per day? At ceo pay thats millions of loss per year. You're talking about 7/10s
Any time where I have ignored a woman, they just ignore me back and will never talk to me again unless I say something first... it is so soul destroying!!!
Balance is the word in every matter. No healthy woman will develop interest in a mand that ingnores her constantly. Just as any woman will keep her interest in a mand that seems to be desperat to get her. Dont adopt extreme attitudes. Be your self, dont put your interests or your life aside because you are in love. It is now when you should focus even more on your own things, so that your world does not revolve around a girl. Feel fri of express your feeling and show your apriciation for her, but do it to the extent that she also shows it towards you. Invest in the relationship in the same extent that she does. Balance my friends allways seek balance
You’re half right. I don’t chase. If ignored after 2 or 3 reaches from my side, I turn around and go the other way. If you do like her, ignoring is a head game which hurts and is a waste of time. If you don’t like her, be a man and tell her gently.
Being ignored makes me less interested. I don't have time for feeling manipulation. Be straight up and be yourself.
whats ur IG?
Liar
I agree. This is a terrible approach. I currently know a man who does this and it’s an awful mind game.
Well your gender started it. Being ignored by women is the norm for most men.
@@dragorn3212 Then you need to man up and find someone who will pay the attention you crave. Which is what women, not girls, do when men ignore them. You want to ignore me, that's your loss.
Great information brother, wish I had known this before I turned 45. My wife of 19 years just passed away and I’m seeing so many mistakes I made with her that almost cost me my marriage. She was a real woman that stood by me regardless of my insecurities and I’m blessed to have known her. This video reinforced other information I’ve seen on the same topic thanks
This is proven to be true in dating!
But my question is:
Does this continues forever, even in a relationship or just during the dating phase? Because I see it as tidious and tiresome to always play those games even after a long period of being together. Isn't human nature to long for one day to have stability in one's own life instead of this constant "uncertainty"?
it gets easier :). You still have to set boundaries and be autonomous. But this video is largely meant for the intiital phase of a relationship, before you've been dating or sleeping with her for long.
@@BobbyRio Yeah and there it is vital. Some friends still won't see it so they always make those same mistakes of being too available.
Thanks for the quick reply!
As if guy's don't play games with us?
We often feel we have to keep guy's chasing us because once they get us, then they don't want us.
But ignoring a girl isn't a good idea. We'll just move on.
Ignore someone isn't good for any relationship communication is.
This is why straight people suck at relationships. Everyone playing games, people like these giving stupid advice. And people wonder why shit don't work out? 🙄 Dates is the time to get to know someone, not to get them into bed, there is a lot of hook up sites for that.
Dates is a time to know what they're about and to tell them what you're about, it's a time to find out what they're into, dreams, goals and anything else you can find out.
It is a time to see if your personalities match and you can form a connection together.
If you want love them don't expect sex right away.
If you want sex don't expect love right away.
@@amehayami934
And you think men can't just move on as well? Why does a guy have to be chasing you all the time? You talk about men playing games, but women are experts at this! How about misleading guys with how a woman actually looks like? Makeup? Push-up bra? Garters? High hills? Fake breast implants? Fake eye lashes and fingernails? The list goes on and on and on..
Women have played these games for so long that men are fed up and beginning to wake up and have decided to play the game as well, because being straight up with women doesn't get the results, for the most part..
@@amehayami934 You date a guy to screen him for sex especially the first date.
I appreciate all the videos like these when something similar happens to me with a woman. Definitely helps me clear my mind and feel better while at the same time understanding where I went wrong.
you are right bobi .. Ignoring a girl can actually attract her, as it hurts her ego and makes her more sensitive to your attitude. Ignoring a woman might make men anxious, but it's actually a strategy to make her value their attention more.
Women are not all the same,in my part,Building a good relationship is to follow the golden rule, and applying the fruit of a holy spirit,which is composed of all kind words and actions.if men ignored me i remain calm and continue my kindness towards him until i feed up.VOILA!!!
…and then cheat on him and not consider it cheating, but self power & control. VOILA!!!
Waiting for the reply definitely keeps her on my mind. Cancelling plans LAST MINUTE makes me want nothing to do with her. 24 hour notice is annoying, but given a reasonable excuse builds anticipation.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
its always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me, i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back..
@@jackroyston3263 wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
@@haynesatteh4463 her name SHELLY RENEE WHITE, you can look her up online, she is the best spiritual adviser she helped out in such a difficult situation.
@@jackroyston3263 Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Dude once gone it’s never gonna be same. Just find a new woman and Pose a pic.Ignore your ex and keep a smile. She will burn from inside and want to come back to
you.Keep your value and respect your dignity.
I started ignoring her. Now she altogether cuts communication with me.
I have given up dating for so long that I had forgotten the basics. Awesome video man, thank you
I agree with most of this but it depends on the woman and her psychology, as don't forget women are not all the same. Some women love the attention or being someone's immediate focus. It's about using segmentation to understand the specific woman and how you play the game depending on who your opponent is
This video single handedly is the best video on women. Changed my life. Excellent reminder
If she likes you she will chase you. If she doesn't like you she won't chase you. There's nothing you can do to get a hot woman who doesn't like you to chase you. Meanwhile that ugly girl you wish would go away won't stop calling and texting you.
But if she is chasing you and you start giving her too much value she will loose interest
I don't just understand men at all, when a girl chase them they'll view her desperate.why is that?
I've had to learn to take my time and chill when texting a woman. I recently charmed the heck out of a girl at a grocery store who was much younger and I got her SC. She messaged me FIRST. Like 20 min after leaving. I didnt have time to talk to her so I just teased her a bit and asked her to go out and eat the next day. She said she had plans, and I just said ok. Now I dont feel like talking to her at all. I dont feel like putting in any work unless she gives me a reason to. I commented on one of her stories and she replied immediately, but didnt give me much to work with in terms of conversation. So now Im just not gonna text her because I dont know what to say and I dont feel like it. We'll see how it goes
Forget about her, had similar situation, they just want your response if u into her or not, u let her know u r interested, they pull out-validation feed
If she declined the date. Walk away. She should of made a counter offer if she was attracted to you. You should of walked away and not contacted her. Women do the chasing.
You did the work and it's good, she's not willing so fuck it..
She's running some bs game, or her interest is low. Don't contact. Let her miss you.
You shouldn’t have asked her out so soon. I would asked her to check her schedule and get back to me when she knows she’s gonna be free. Asking her out the next day looks kinda desperate in most cases.
That’s exactly it!!! The ones who say they don’t wanna play games are 100% not autonomous. I try to tell my sisters all the time but they think I’m telling them to play mind games with men and not be themselves. They think I’m old fashioned and they are strong independent feminists! I let them learn but it’s clear who is never freaking out about constantly getting ghosted or feeling uneasy and like I’m chasing a guy and demanding respect. Nope, if it ever even happens I’m not noticing getting ghosted or I’m just letting myself be ghosted. I have options and too many other things to do. I’m commanding respect from where I am not chasing him down trying to demand it.
This works both ways. If you ignore her, she will move on to someone who won't.
No wonder people are single, all this "games" is exausting ... but letts try it out ;)
This might work for men who spark female interest in the first place -- really good looking dudes or well-off guys in superior positions. If Average Joe, who's invisible to women anyway, ignores them, they won't even notice (or if they do, they'll rather appreciate not gettng annoyed by yet another creep). However, not trying to interact with women beyond a short "good morning" will save him time, pain, and trouble, so the advice to ignore them is still of some value to him.
Fellas remember she has to find you attractive or be interested in you for all of this to work too. If she thinks you’re unattractive ignoring her is what she wants.
Exactly. By just ignoring women doesn't necessarily mean that women will just throw themselves at you. If a woman doesn't find you attractive, ignoring her won't change a damn thing.
@@joedimaggio3687 well spoken bro
Then meaning she never loved you before.
@@TumusiimeAmon Obviously she did not, lol.
I made the mistakes you teach about and I'm in my late 40s...I spent my whole adult life doing it all wrong. I wish RUclips existed when I was in my younger days...it would have saved me so much grief.
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@@sandykay4214 No...Just No.
But how do control something like u have a girl with 2 kids an also her sister are in to but u can talk to her do u deal with that
1/checking, 2/longing, 3/ mental, 4/ hot & cold, 5/autonomy
Damn! this video is pure gold Bobby. I have been ¨kinda¨doing all you have mentioned for a while now (I have learned the hard and sad way), and it really does work. Women just get bored of the easy men and get intrigued by the not-so-easy men. Thank you so much because now I am even more sure that this is the only way to get in a womans mind. Keep up the good stuff man!!
Lady here: This is an excellent video. This is exactly what I want to tell guys but never have. Good job!
thanks for the honesty!
As a woman, this recently happened, where he ignored me for 3 weeks a few months ago and it backfired on him! Now he’s texting me like crazy and I refuse to respond. This is playing games and I will not put up with it or tolerate it. I’m done! He messed up and I didn’t deserve any of that. Funny how it feels when it’s turned around on you do you realize how psychologically damaging the silent treatment is?
its a blessing in disguise for him, to get rid of you..
@@thebacheafghan No, actually a blessing in disguise for me 😉 Also found out he was verbally abusive in his last relationship
@@Chris-yx4go I understand Chris, and I really do get it and where you’re coming from. But honestly, everyone’s situation is completely different because we’re all unique in our own way. I had to do what was best for me ❤️
@@Chris-yx4go You also Chris
Of course most men realize how psychologically damaging the silent treatment is. After all, we had to endure experiences like that already for decades before any RUclips coach ever advised to try giving women a taste of their own medicine. Yet to this day there are still far less men than women playing such games. You girls invented it, you mastered it, you revelled in it. And now you react indignantly when some cocky Chad, or maybe just poor fool, tries his hand in your game, too?
I actually lose interest in a girl when they cancel on me. Especially when it’s last minute. At that point I just feel like it’s on her to reschedule or I’m moving on.
If she feels like u are not interested she will move on. This doesn't work on me . I can spot BS from a mile away. Thanks for the tips though
Its like you enter male toilet 🚽 😂
@@myheaven2626 🤣🤣🤣
I've notice once you do this to her, She will do it to you too. So the bottom line she will loose interest in you because the way you treat her of ignoring her.
If you have a good vibe with someone why would you do any of this instead of doing what comes natural?? Why start playing games? Why not just be honest and go with the flow and where it takes you? These thing ruin relationships!!
Thats a good advice for strong people. The weak need this sick game, and waste a lifetime whit it, whitout any learning out offit at all.
Applying this formula,all of us will stay single.😂
I think your missing the point of this conversation. Of course if you have a good vibe with a person of interest going then this makes no sense to do that. However, if that said person you are pursuing shows little to no interest in conversation or even initiating at one point, what other option do you have besides ignore the person and continue on. Maybe they will reach out and maybe they won’t but you just have to be willing to move on. Like he said it’s a balancing act. You have to give some attention but you cannot give all your attention. This is the basically the topic he’s speaking on, not if you have already good chemistry and are on solid footing with the relationship.
@@g-moneybags6646 but how you can have a good vibe wen some pay no attention. People watch this kind of videos thinking they are safe and found sallution too for things that just happend and you cant control, like love. Find peace and exitment in that pure love cant be controled!! Thats the part where you get stronger in life where you just surrender to what happend.. ❤ wen you waste a lifetime builing walls arround you it will never happen.
Because women have "loser detectors", so average guys HAVE to cultivate some game. It's biology. You want men that have options.
These strategies work only for anxiously attached people, regardless of their sexuality...
There are so many intelligent people out there who won't fall for this low-level BS....
If you're an emotionally mature man/woman who's authentic and confident in what they have to offer, you'll send out the right vibe to the emotionally compatible people. There is no need for game- playing. Mature people will see right through it and consider it as a sign of more desperation, immaturity, and confusion.
🎯 Exactly!
In almost all of these types of videos, the answer depends on context specific to that situation.
They’re typically giving a solution that will fit a majority of the time. You can go into a situation with a goal, but not a specific action.
Different strokes for different folks... This is not a formular. I will advice you take your time to study who you are dealing with and apply the best approach. For some persons, if you are not there to keep in touch regularly, giving that attentions and trying to act the hard guy and hard girl, you loose that person. And for others, it's the other way. So you need to understand the Love language of the person you are going for.
Love watching these videos. I learn so much. I drop them dead in their tracks as soon as I see game playing. Lots of men left feeling stupid and ignored.
Everything you say is correct. I am 55, so didn't have access to advice online like this, and I had to learn the hard way, going through years of making all those mistakes before the penny dropped.
I am into a girl who said she wants to hang more and closer as friends before moving into something serious, any advice?? I feel like when I take a long time to respond I am driving her away haha. I went like a day and sent her a pic of a cookie and she almost sent a reply instantly but then goes back to hours of dead time which is cool. I just want to be myself without feeling like I am stepping on a mine every step of the way. Thank you nonetheless
Not to be cocky,,i perfected this by 18. It was my main move. The one who got my buddys who were way bedda looking than me and had more money than me. I jus learned how to keep myself slightly unavailable,,always🙏🤙
How do you perfect it?
And then your board 😂
Very well explained. Easily understood the content and I agree with you. Other men that know how to handle this situation give the same advice.
In the dating scene, nothing of this applies if you are physically unattractive. The best thing you can do is keep your dignity by making sure to treat the girl exactly like the dudes. If she liked how you look, she would approach you anyway, and it wouldnt take long, they dont waste time.
I think its powerful to not focus on her! Be unpredictable, push pull! Stay busy stay in the gym! And be indifferent
For sure, Bobby… because even with plutonic friends or band mates or teammates etc you’re like “when are we gonna practice again? It’s been a freakin week!” and you start valuing and anticipating your time together more. That effect only skyrockets when it’s romantic.
yes totally
That's because you are doing something you like with someone you liked.
This is not womans psychology this is mans psychology applied to women.
The woman is not your band mate and she can find other people to play her instrument with. What's being done here is that band member who's called and cancels last moment, flakes and then gets surprised he was replaced.
She won’t just like you when you ignore her. It’s called a push/pull method. You show her interest/validation, then you show no interest. In a work/school environment it works well because there is constant exposure to it. Making her feelings stronger towards you. This adds mystery as well and makes her excited. Now this is harder to do when meeting them that’s not work or school (no long term exposure).
Very informative. Is there a blog or something abour stuff like this. I read it somewhere long back. Its really helpful
@@pratik2998 you can find tons of articles about this topic. It’s been studied by lots of psychologists.
As a high value woman married to a high value man, this ignoring technique does not work guys!!! This will only work on young immature girls or low value women. I value myself, and if a guy ignores me, it makes me not trust him anymore and there’s no way I can be friends with someone that I do not trust, let alone be in a relationship. Once you break her trust it’s game over! Just be your authentic self, that’s what all good women want.
@@msd10001 we’re not ignoring you completely. It’s a balance between high/low energy/emotions. It’s based entirely on science and biology. We might tell you about a sexual dream we had and describe how it felt, but then we move away from that and ask where someone is at/or what you might have planned. So we together have created sexual feelings, positivity, and excitement all in a single motion. All while pulling away from that subject and you wanting more. A man that ignores completely would be a waste of time. Just know that this happens with every guy that you’ve dated. Some are extremely good at making you feel certain emotions and making you feel “connected” somehow. Like you are “destined” to be together.
Agree with the psychology in a sense game of dating from your video.
“Ignoring” be respectful of your own time. I started going “old school” and calling her. One call can be equivalent to many many texts. plus you know if she’s actually wants to talk to you (interestes) besides just thumb typing a response.
You’ll get a quick read of she’s into you.
Ignoring a good woman that's a "keeper" especially when you've been with her enough to KNOW she has "keeper" traits is actually showing her you have a propensity to withhold affection and you have devalued her worth.
The woman's:
"longing" & "desire for a man that is a challenge". . . "desire to chase hot/cold behaviors" this speaker elaborates upon I feel should be categorized as a video for "beginners" or "people who have difficulty finding time in the middle of their "own life"
. ."their" own dreams . .
."their" own goals
"their" own schedule.
Why? Because the "ignoring" philosophy is a quick fix to hook a woman quickly that does not know the depth of the power of her intelligence, her passions, or her gifts. . .yet she is attractive or gorgeous or "extremely sexy physically in some manner" therefore; she shows no confidence that she is a "keeper" and falls into the role of responding to negative vs a positive encounter.
My suggestion: save all that for role playing after marriage/long-term commitment to keep it fun & hot thru your devoted life together. . . as a team . . .
PS. I kept comments in the feminine gender due to the speaker being male, but this video's protocal may apply to all genders that desire to find that person that is their keeper for life. . .
My philosophy is simply. Love Wins.
Be the best self you can be. Someone will love that!
Exactly this, people make things a priority that are important to them. If I'm not important and you're playing games with me, I'm not going to waste my time. The only relationship I stayed in long term was one who always picked up when I called most of the time. The one who made contacting me and seeing me a priority. When that stops, the relationship begins to die.
Hot and cold makes me like them for a while… but if it goes on for too long it turns into a turnoff and I’m literally not attracted to them anymore.
No active communication,no coversation that leads an end on any relationship.This ignoring methood will make u gg if he/ she get it, u lose all repect. He/she will think u are just all like others, u are not that unique guy what your partner seeks.Make it balance. Always get on touch with your partner if he/she truly loves u. Dont be robot.feelings is matter in a relationship on both side.
In the past I have been guilty of putting women on a pedestal and always being available. It was a fear. A fear of her finding some other guy to stay the night😂
I simped hard on womens from 15-18.Then i started taking red pill class and now i have girls hanging on my DM lol.Red pill is the way of life.Also i was ugly.I did looksmaxing for an year to get slightly more attractive,lost weight and grew taller a bit.Unless a serious brain damage happens,i won't have crush on any other girls
If a women is talking to another dude instead of you,ignoring will work but you have to be better looking and more funny than he is.
Ignoring me only pisses me off. 3-4 days and I start seeing someone else. Nothing makes me more mad than being ignored.
3-4 days and you start seeing someone else! That just speaks for itself so loudly!
Yea cause your promiscuous
@@babbalorrow9518 they are superb liars and even believe their own lies. They always remember the ones that got away 😂
A little bit, one may accept and tolerate. Other wise no point and sense to chase.
Yeah. I left one girl. Best feeling i ever had. It was like i was free from chains.
it's so true! sad that women can't just love and stay simple ..
1st that's a lot of words to say a whole lot of nothing? Wtf do you mean by stay true? Stay true to what? And wtf are you doing to keep them their?
And if you're going out with girls that only care about how good you look and how much money you have? That sounds like it's a you problem, otherwise you get smart and stop looking for shallow people. Maybe you only get shallow people because you are yourself? Idk? But if you're going out so you can bang hot girls and do nothing to keep them then wtf do you expect? Maybe you should do some self reflection any ask yourself what it is you want? Do you just really want to Fuck? Alor are you looking for love? Or are you looking for love that has a lot of fucking? And if you want a relationship of any kind that takes time.
There are a lot of shitty girls out there, just like there is a lot of shitty guys out there. And it can be hard to navigate threw that.
Someone will take the first thing they like.
Some looks for someone perfect for them.
Some has standards so high I doubt they ever find anyone.
Who do you want to be.
The fact is people guys and girls a like.
Needs to get true and correct with themselves, before they can expect anyone to be true and correct with them. You get what you put in, don't expect to put in shit and expect a diamond. If you're not doing serious self reflection, and answering honestly to theo's questions about yourself, and you're not listening to the girl or taking her feelings into consideration then that is why you get the relationship you get.
But let's say you are doing everything right. You treat her good, show her love, listen to her and treat her with dignity and respect. Then maybe it's the type of girls you pick.
Fact is the relationships you have is on you, you choose to be in that relationship or stay in that relationship,
Stop putting women in boxes. Women can do the same to.
Says who?
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@@afrikanermartha8762 her
@@marielleluxama1875 says every relationship I was witness too lmfao
Him cancelling his run to be with her would demonstrate sacrificial qualities that would make him a very strong man in her eyes.
If you ignore the woman, they can soon forget you because theres plenty of other options out there for her. She can soon get another date.Every woman I've known has soon forgotten me I'm sure. And moved on. I've done the same but just stayed single and concentrating on much more important things.
But it is still hurts tho. Seeing someone you want is ignoring you :( in my past life experiences, I cannot easily forget the man who became part of my life. And it will starts to flashback how happy we were. But ya, we can't do anything about it but to accept and move on. ☺️ Cheer up
Yes, when I have been ignored, I have moved on and had enjoyment with others. When I notice the games, it tells me this guy is a child and do not invest precious time and energy.
You have to show some interest without acting desperate and needy. Let the gal see you as a challenge who doesnt roll over like a puppy as soon as she bats her eyelids at you.
@@carolynmerritt7100 if a guy ignores you it’s because he values his time and you have to earn it. Won’t be that easy.
@@carolynmerritt7100 true! If he is not interested then is wasting your time, if is so busy then is no place for a relation in his life and can stay out of this, as coach Tony Gaskins (a man who talks from his experience and i can recomend you to hear him) said "even Obama had time for Michelle", there are grown boys who are playing games, in any age, and men. Without honesty and respect can't go forward May all of you to find as your heart wants!
My ex ignored me when I sent her a handwritten love letter and I asked if she got it through text. I have a hard time viewing her the same way that I used to. I feel like her ignoring me just pushed me further away from her. I don't even care to look at her Snapchat story anymore. I have low expectations that she will reach out anytime soon. i am doing NC and made myself inactive off of social media, block her from being able to view my story and muted her story so I don't feel tempted to look. I'm just at a loss for words. I really thought she was mature enough to at least communicate with me.
It was not worth blocking her wolves to watch stories, it was only necessary to block them himself so as not to look. By this blocking, you showed that it is important to you, but you just need to not react to it, it’s more likely to the future.
Just be apathetic and ignore, it tells them they are not important enough to be chased or blocked on social media.
*It’s not about playing games, but understanding how to balance attention and independence in a smart way.*
9:34 "Not ignoring a woman is being selfish".
I needed to live this long enough to hear it put this way 😆😅🤣
lmaooo
Crazy right.... dying of laughter🤣
If you're already in a relationship and you start ignoring your wife or girlfriend completely, she will get tired of it and leave.
This video is not for married couple
@@emmanuel6519 It's advice for later.
@Steven Maddox I'm just telling you the real truth. Take it or leave it.
Guys don't take dating advice for women, just throw their advice to the trash. Only take advice from men actively applying what they teach.
@@andresfelipehoyosmoreno3061 This is not for dating, this is for later.
I think ignoring is not good, for me this is an act of immaturity! But, doing proper communication is better with respect for you both, time, effort, honesty, and sincerity..
This guy speaks the truth. Currently talking to 2 girls, and the one I like the least is becoming really obsessed. I'm also not really paying attention to her because I like the other onr
Same, I recommend getting a third one. That way you can give all of them less attention.
@@liamdimicali2253 😂
@@liamdimicali2253 thank you for your advice
Yes; find a good, sweet girl who genuinely likes you to just emotionally abuse her 😂
Women also try this on guys but it doesnt work
Sound advice for a particular stage of a relationship with a woman, I really wish you could break down all the stages and give advice accordingly. Next step would be breaking down the types of women.
i agree.. most of these advices are just for newbies on dating scene, need to be clearly state on what situation this should be... because if you already pass the dating stage and now staying in love for long time and known each other, this will just starts to iritate both sides and thats where ego will sprung up and devour both of you..
the best advice is read ur bible and please ur Creator rather than the creatures.
Don't be toxic! This girl who liked me, just told me she cried when she lost my time and attention
This doesn't work. Ignoring or some might call it "Ghosting" only pushes her away, it will make them feel like you are not interested in them and they will move on. You got to remember for every female there is like already 10+ guys also trying to pursue her. For woman its so easy to get a man, for men its difficult...She will just move on, and then when you finally decide "ok" I won't ignore any more the girl you liked has already moved on. Bad idea in my opinion.
The "Hot and Cold" psychology and element of unpredictability definitely works.
For sure because even with plutonic friends or band mates or teammates etc you’re like “when are we gonna practice again? It’s been a freakin week!” and you start valuing and anticipating your time together more. That effect only skyrockets when it’s romantic.
@@ElronHumpperdink plutonic friends
hot and cold is one of the first lessons i learned 20+ years ago, and its still very effective. Its one of the fundamentals. Not always fun to do or have done to you, but it works.
It’s a dark tactic but works usually cuz gets GIRLS to think about you and what they’ve done to make you stay silent and cold towards them
@@RedRumble14 it's the power of unpredictability