If she pulls away just set her free. If she's playing games she needs to learn they won't work. If she's just genuinely busy or unsure how he feels, space is the best thing you can give her. If she's not interested you'll never hear from her again. It's the best move you can make on virtually every level.
@@SheyESO Good question. In my experience, the period of no contact can vary for different individuals. Typically, it can range from two weeks to three months. However, it's important to consider that some girls may have introverted personalities, such as INTPs, who may take much longer to process their emotions. They tend to rely on logical thinking rather than letting their emotions take control. Additionally, sometimes individuals lack the confidence to reach out again, which is why they may choose not to initiate contact.
It’s a sad world we live in when we cannot simply be ourselves, and are forced to play “games”, because once a woman realizes they have you, the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side.
Do you buy things on every impulse you have? Do you lash out every time someone makes you angry? I think you’ll find most of life is tampering how we feel to be a better member of society, or to do what is best for ourselves and those around us. All of life is a game. It is not sad.
@@SixHexSix you're confusing two different areas: yours is about being a civilized member in society. His is about tampering true honest feelings about a woman, even when doing so has nothing to do with being uncivilized, but truly playing stupid games to stay within female attention.
@@you_dont_wanna_know1969 what about when he gets very angry at her? Should he not tamper his emotion then? They aren’t stupid games, it’s a dance. A demonstration of the ability to self regulate and that makes women become more and more interested. Women know they have power over men, especially beautiful women. Who do they not get bored with? the guy that isnt expressing his feelings for her immediately. It’s a sad world if you unable to get yourself under control. You show your power by having the ability to operate to your will, despite strong emotions pulling you in whatever direction. If she can get you to be vulnerable so easily, what good are you to protect her?
@@SixHexSix you still confusing both areas. Though they mix, theyre not exactly thesame . Getting angry at anyone who is important, you still need to talk things out civilizely, and not jumping out straight to prison. Being needy and disclosing this to her ain't smart, but stupid. But being honest to the poker hand you've got with a lady gets you out of the game (not being needy but humanely sincere), which sucks, and yes, they are stupid games cuz you can't fully disclose whats underneath your skin without losing their interest
I had for a year. It was fun for a while but finally it became emotionally draining and boring. I got depression. You just do not know what are you talking about.
@@marguskiis7711 I appreciate your taste. However, I must emphasize the importance of focusing on something else that brings you pleasure. While we may shed tears, at the end of the day, I rise with confidence and refuse to let her have the satisfaction of boosting her ego. I carefully choose my words, timing them perfectly to shatter her ego and make her think twice before doing this to another man. I smile at her in a loving way, knowing it's not true, but leaving a haunting memory in her mind. I simply say, "Hello, friend."
You honestly changed the way in which I live as a man. I've learned to focus more on me, my time and my work and let women come after all that. Once I started controlling my neediness for attention i held all the power in my relationships making it way easier to get what I want from a relationship. I was tired of always being the best friend but never going further than that. Thank you bro.
She pulled away, I said goodbye, I wasn't in it for bullshit games, she wasn't happy, I'm not going to stand in her way if she wants to go, but once she's gone there's no coming back. I'm done.
This is true. When you give it all to her, she suddenly becomes this individual that takes you for granted. It is just sad that we need this kind of techniques to win her back, or move on.
I recently dated a girl for two months before deciding to tell her I liked her, which coincidentally happened to be on our last date. I still don’t regret doing it because when I look at the big picture, I ask myself “Do I want to be with someone who’s not that into me?” There really comes a point where you decide it’s not worth any extraneous effort to get someone to like you, and any developed attraction should just be natural. If they don’t like you back, then it’s probably for the best.
Works well. Dated her for a month. Everything was hot at first. She would call me twice a day and text me non stop. All of a sudden. Just turned cold. I found another woman to focus on. Now she’s texting me more. But my heart feels like it’s moved on to be honest. I don’t have time to play her mind games.
I try fixing the whole issues for three years and nothing come right, I later decide to move out of this relationship and fulfill my duty to take care of my children without her present, then i meet this supportive young lady who was lady to support me in every way that I needed help, she was full-time their to help the children and me, after the bad relationship come to the end with the first lady .
Great video and the best advice I heard so far. I also want to add that guys shouldn't quickly decide that she is pulling away. A girl I was dating did not call or text for a day and did not return my calls the next day. Two days with no contact made me panic and I was about to do something stupid. Luckily I was super busy that I forgot to call or text her and on the third night she actually called and apologized. So just keep in mind that maybe she got a ton of things going on too.
Man that makes so much sense.. I literally just made the mistakes before I watched this video haha.. I could sense such a big difference in communication and I kept asking wtf is going on and she explained that shes very stressed, busy at work, she doesnt feel right rushing things and other bullshit. So I kind of now treating her the same way she does, writing 1 word messages or not writing her at all
@@RandomCrap I believe its hard to establish a time frame / range that is enough when mimicking... Because one can seem "disinterested" for some time but also its not healthy being alone when one has relationship goals/needs/desires.
@@bushcry1 Well thats what it was with that girl I really liked. It seemed she had way too many issues, she havent sorted her breakup even after 1 year has passed. She has depression, working long hours. But then why bother wasting anyones time. Some people just need a company, compliments, they charge themselves and moves on. Dont waste a single second with people like that as soon as you realise they have issues which they need to sort themselves first
Bobby , you really are always out there helping us men out with your wisdom. I have years of dating experience, but mistakes do happen. It’s nice to get some insights from someone who understands dating and relationships so well.
Yea had this a lot, with women I have met, fucked, dated and also ones I never met. Now my effort only goes so far. The key is don't degrade yourself by sending 3 texts with no reply (for example). That gut feeling still hits (like you just know something is wrong) but keep it cool, if it ends its no big deal. If you have abundance mindset and value yourself then it comes easier.
No contact works if it done genuinely with no intentions of wanting her back. It doesnt work if its faked to get her back. Subconscious minds of people do talk with each other behind the scenes. That's how you get that gut instincts
I say it doesn’t work at all, however there’s are exceptions, but the percentage is so small might as well not trip abt it and move on. Even if she does come back I’d cut her off, gotta have some self respect my dawgs!
@@malakhimalik7218 hey can I ask you something I have not seen my girlfriend in four months but me and my girlfriend are still texting and my girlfriend always says she will always be my girlfriend forever and forever and do you think I should go visit my girlfriend
I had two women, (co-workers) nearly half my age fall in love with me. I made no effort to impress them or even suggest I'm interested. Both of them eventually spoke up and admitted in their own way they were interested in dating me. I wasnt interested so I just stopped text messaging them and both times, their attraction to me increased for the next few weeks then they reached a breaking point and had to villify me. It's easier to make me out to be the villan than to admit they were rejected because of some trait or behavior they exhibited. In truth, I didnt want to date someone in their early 20s & I wasn't attracted to them. They went after my reputation but only adter I transferred to another site so it's no big deal.
This is the exact opposite situation of what you've explained and I'm dumbfounded. This was not gradual, it was out of nowhere and not only were things slipping away, they were heating up. She is usually the first to text me good morning, she texts me before she goes to bed, she started talking a lot about sex over the last couple weeks, almost planning what we're going to do. We had a thing planned where we were supposed to go to this parade, and I was going to be in the parade with her for her work, and then at the last minute the parade got cancelled because of weather. I told her "well let's still do something, we'll go get dinner and go see Christmas lights" and she said she'd love to etc. The next day I didn't hear from her at all, the next day nothing. I text her before I went to work that night (about 1030, her bedtime) and checked in and pretty much just asked her if she was okay, I was worried about her, she said yeah, had a crazy couple days, apologized for not reaching out sooner, said we'd talk the next day. The next day came, we didn't talk, I sent her a link that morning to a RUclips video, never heard anything at all. Here we are, a little over 24 hours after her saying she's okay. So we were pretty much at the point where I was almost expecting this girl to drop the L word. Then, ghosts.
That sucks. Not very fair the way she's treating you. As the video suggests, it seems like she knows she is 'boss' and senses your keenness to see her and spend time with her. So, as per the video, perhaps you can step back a bit too? Maybe take some time before you reply to her texts? Therefore she will know you're not 'desperate' and it makes you seem more attractive to her.
@@glasgowlady for sure. That's what I've done. After the first two days I simply just texted her to make sure she was literally just okay, and since then I haven't reached out. She hasn't dated in years, and has an insane work load, so she stays very busy and probably is a little scared about how deep things were getting with us. Which is fine, I understand how emotions and psychology work, but I'm not going to let it control my life. I've got other pursuits and responsibilities I need to focus on, so, it's her loss if she walks away. I mean, this is the kind of connection that doesn't happen very often, so it is sad, but I'm past the point of letting women be my validation.
I think she maybe thought she was coming on too strong or was being needy so dialed it back. If a girl throws out the sex card and you do not immediately go over there or it does not happen really soon after that, she can start feeling cheap (rhymes with mut) and can think, oh look at me throwing myself at him being all sexual when I haven't even slept with him yet. Then usually that leads to "how much do I really like him" as a defense against feeling that way.
I liked this girl a lot, because we've had some fun in the past. But I thought of it more than fun, I then told her how I felt and she pulled away, said she doesn't want to ruin our friendship. I felt hollow for a while inside, but when I feel upset I start doing stuff, working out harder, working more, taking better care of myself. I never text her anymore, not first anyway, and if I reply it's short and sweet. I see her 3 times a week because of work, she tried to greet me with a hug 4 weeks ago, I turned her down by stepping back. Letting her know that I value my space and that I've matured past the hug stage. Here's what I noticed from her side. She started texting me more than ever before, longer texts than normal. I reply with freakin' emojis, usually rejecting dates she wishes to go on. She started dressing better, doing her hair differently and even started working out. Like she's mirroring me. She hangs around my office more, sometimes for no reason. And lads, here's the cherry on top, just yesterday she asked me if she could borrow some of my time. I told her I was busy, then her eyes teared up, so I gave her a minute of my time. In that minute she poured her heart and soul out to me, all about how she made a mistake and that she definately felt we should move things along into a relationship and at the end she said the 'L' word. I didn't really listen much because I had stiff legs from squatting the day before, and was kinda zoning out over a bugatti poster behind her, But as soon as she said that she loved me, all my feelings for her flew right out the window. I'm happier than ever now. And realized that simping f#cking sucks, Work on your lives gents, your health, your wealth and you. You'll find the right one, worst case scenario, if you follow what I did, you'll end up with a depressed 'friend' who hates herself for not noticing the value she had right in front of her when he shared his feelings with her. Lesson: f#ck feelings, feel for yourself, love yourself and everything else will draw towards you like a magnet.
@@Drunken_Giga_Chadlittle bro, that is the dumbest story that didn't happen that I've ever heard. If you got her crying while confessing she loves you, she definitely would have done all of the sexual work in a sexual rendezvous. You had me believing your fantasy, until it turned revengeful & bi-questioning when you turned down the love of a crying girl and said "feel for yourself, love yourself". You need to get past whoever and whatever hurt you. Quit taking poison and hoping the other person dies.
@@FancyNoises take it as you please, lil' bro. Don't really care. Wasn't vengeful from my side. If you think women can't be vindictive on their own that's your problem to deal with. God forbid should that ever happen in your life and may that day never come. I'm just saying, there's too many people simping and too few focusing on themselves. Lil' bro.
@@Drunken_Giga_Chad I can appreciate the flattery of you mimicking my originality and dominance. OTOH, I never said women can't be vindictive, and you need to really put some hard fucking work into snapping out of that gamma male habit, of putting words into the mouths of your betters. It only fools unintelligent fools: the kinds of people you should never habitually associate with.
@Bobby Rio - I’m an active member of the Scrambler club and I just want to say thank you for this supplemental video. The Scrambler baseline has a lot to do with initial confidence and how to make the move if you’re a super nice guy. My problem has always been not knowing how to react once things have been going well (great sex great chemistry etc.) so this really was a excellent supplement. Thank you again.
Let’s be honest no contact works when she’s attracted to u. If ur not attractive to her to begin with I doubt she’ll care if you never contact her. She might appreciate u being less of a creep but I’m sure it doesn’t even slip her mind. I’ve done no contact many times and sometimes it worked sometimes it didn’t and when it didn’t it’s cause the girl was talking to someone else so they could have care less I wasn’t texting them. So my take is it really only works when there is already some spark. If not ur just another stranger.
yea, well, the video is about a girl who is pulling away after a few dates. Kind of assumes you're not a stranger right? and yea, if a girl is already very into someone else, no contact won't work for sure. However, it is still better off to go 'no contact' in that situation than to confess your feelings or act desperate. Because a lot of times, its about TIMING... and I've seen MANY situations where once a girl's mind was free, a guy was able to re-ignite things with her.
@@BobbyRio when I said a stranger I don’t mean a literal one obviously she’d know u for u to have her number to even do no contact in the first place. I meant stranger in the sense that if she wasn’t into u and just went on the dates just to be nice or out of boredom and there was never a spark and then u do no contact even without expressing ur feelings ur another stranger to her because she never really cared for you to begin with and your just another random person in her contact list she never could care to see a text or a call from. Other than that good advice.
@@kermitsippintea7433 You made a good point. it's like the principle of making the girl jealous with preselection. It will only work if you are her type and she is attracted to you
When a woman pulls away she is testing you to see if you emotional strong or weak and as a man you are emotional strong , her pulling away does not affect you life is happy and nice you are the prize 🏆 women are shit she is going to sense it and say to her self wow this dude is really high value he doesn't need me to survive he he happy bye him self and that is very actractive to women and that is going to cause her to reach out to u and contact u
Awesome I was talking to a friend at the front desk and I really liked her even though I knew it’s far from ever being a thing but I like talking to her and smiling together. Get this. On Valentine’s Day being front desk they received all kinds of flowers and I couldn’t help my feelings of fighting off another’s from taking her from me, I gave these looks with my eyes that were primal, I couldn’t control it. I still don’t know why I couldn’t maybe I have a past trauma or something. She picked up on it and we had a fall out. She tried to reach out to me kind of reassuring me something but I pulled away because of the blind rage of the flowers, and then she took it as I was trying to hurt her and she reciprocated anger and we were bad ever since. I wouldn’t even be able to look her in the eye and our emotions flooded our interactions from then on out.
for girls, its their nature. Women are drawn to drama, men like things content. that fact will never change. If you have children, you will see the way the girls act vs the boys. If you are in a married social scene, you will see the way the husbands act vs the wives. Its just the way it is, so no use fighting it.
hi learn Piano fast online... I need advice if can help me out. After 67 days NO Contact , she reached out with one sentence message But without pet name…”Honey” “Are you going to church regularly? " I didnt reply for the whole day I guess she got upset and deleted her message Seeing that I panic and gave her an answer "Yes I got something to tell you." After 5 days she finally reach out again this time Colder than any Iceberg… She text : what you want to tell me ? I replied “Ok , I want to see you laugh at my joke hahaha Dinner Monday or Thursday “ I think I totally Beta …putting her on Pedestal again I am just her Backup Plan ?
@fj4731 She thinks you're evil. Using laughter and jokes will only prove her point. You should of told her. Look, all jokes aside, im just trying to shed some light on our understanding. And yes, I attend church ?
I'm dealing with this issue right now. Well I noticed a difference the last few days so I'm not doing no contact but I've gotten to a point in life to where either friends or a potential girlfriend I'm only going to give out the same energy that I'm receiving. I've always had a talent to be able to read people and there emotions or if they are a screwed up person or lying. I know this women likes me. So yeah I'm giving her the same energy and effort she is giving me
Thanks Bobby for the great video with awesome and most prominent dating tips... you are doing a great job, I'm in that very situation where girl is pulling away and I'm going to use all those advices and I'm so sure they really work.... Thanks a lot bro
Listening to this I think I’m handling my situation pretty well lol. Limited contact when I realized she was pulling away (she didn’t need the speech she knew how I felt).
Yeah I think you're totally right, she even said she want some space so I think if she want space I'll just give her space and focus more on me instead of someone else
I got head over heels over this woman, one day she refused my gift (btw I confessed to her before that, in the past she accepts my gifts), its was so embarassing and I felt heavy in my heart, I was about to talk and apologized to her about it...but decided not to because you do not apologize over a kind gesture, even if you done it sloppily, you did not do anything wrong.
my girlfriend is a single mother, we have been friends for almost a year, we go out for lunch, cofee, make love, but sometimes she keeps quiet busy with her work and children... sometimes she tells me she can't date together anymore with me, sometimes she pulls away and comes back again,,, sometimes I am also confused with her but we are still in touch every day....once in a while I will be told takes her child to school or even picks her up from school...she the one helps me a lot,I'm really love her
Thanks for your suggestions. Wish I have found your channel before I lost her. I did EXACTLY the same things you described. When she pulled back, I confessed my feelings in a wall of text. Now I've gone no contact, mostly for myself. Eventually I might hit a text msg, to catch up, she was my best model for photography. But not sure how she will respond.
Modern women, specially from medium-big cities, don't want men confess their feelings, specially before they got into a relationship. They associate that as a "weakness", because they feel they have you eating in their hands, you are not a challenge anymore, you told the end of the story, revealed your inner feelings, and that's boring for them. Unfortunately. In other hand, if the woman starts pulling away, I like the invitation with a time contraint method, if she refuses it, just keep the contact and start subtly showing her some pictures of you (using Whatsapp or Instagram statuses) hanging out with other women during a couple of months. The women like the man that have several dating options. If neither method work, just discard the contact and move on looking for other women.
@@bushcry1 It’s when you invite her out but tell her you have to leave earlier than normal. Say you meet at 6pm and normally chill all night. Now you tell her you have to leave at 8pm. Adds social proof, mystery and so on.
This whole "trick" will still smell fake to a woman because it isn't a natural aspect of who you are. Remember - females pick up on stuff 5x faster and deeper than men can sometimes so they will detect the fake mask because they have seen this game played many times before. By now its in a female's genetic survival mechanism & memory. Best to just leave the chic alone and invest in those who invest in you. If she thinks you're sweating her or you're "butt hurt" - big damn deal, let her think whatever she wants to think and keep it pushin'. The main ingredient and nucleus to all this is the "no fucks given" mindset.
In a situation like this, you really need a good mate to give you an almighty wallop on the jaw, because the situation is absolute mess at this point. Then, with the hand he walloped you with, get him to hand you a beer, and take a moment to reflect on how much of a doughnut you've been lately. Even if it's salvageable, why bother? Like, seriously, why? It's a waste of everyone's time. The experiences you hold dear with one woman will be the exact same experiences you have with the next. It only seems impossible NOW because you don't know any different. You've just been mindlessly buying your bread from the same shop everyday, expecting it to always be in the same place. It's a big world out there, and the humans that inhabit it are amazing (on the whole - that is. I mean, I can't lie, there are some prats among us.).
I’ve been dating a girl for a couple months, and we were both sexually attracted to each other but we had pretty different views on things. I noticed that the “good morning” and “good night” texts with heart emojis stoped a week ago and TODAY she broke up with me through text.
Her: "I think we need a break...Take some time to...(insert the "whatever" here). You: " Wow! I am so glad you brought this up!" (show a little relieved smile) " I been noticing a bit of stress in you...and the fun level we used to have seems...well...you know.." (As this is going on txt/whatever one of your female friends and say your hungry an going out get something to eat. Wanted some fun conversation. What time should I pick you up?) or somesuch. Remember, there are 3.5 billion women on the planet. Find one that's interested in where you are headed.
Sad that this is true, I'm 39 and talking to a 36 year old and she's doing the games crap. High energy conversation for two months then blunt replies and leaving me on unread. I took down my what's app pic and left her on unread for four days, then she came back and followed up asking for a date.....I replied and then short replies ensued with claims of being busy. Not even sure I have the mental energy or enthusiasm for meeting her, she's killed the energy with these childish antics.
Going no contact as a man means selfrespect, high value of him self and being centered ( never show a women how you feel) just walk away and mean it aka be indifferent.
I bought the scrambler and was a bit disappointed honestly. It just covers some of the basics, well known stuff, combined lots of direct and indirect advertising for their one on one coaching. If you are a beginner you might benefit from it, otherwise look elsewhere.
So me and the girlfriend of 7years going through a rough time.. been living apart the last month, still talking and briefly meeting up, I asked what was happening going forward, now wants time to process, currently in no contact un til she gets in touch, it’s rough but I don’t want to beg, and also continue to come across needy and weak.. which I admit is what I have probably being portraying
@@shawnmclean7707 was abit of a tough time but ended up moving back to a part of town I used to live with a mate.. couldn’t handle sofa surfing any longer. Also got a new job and joined a gym, ended up meeting someone through mutual friends.. not a single complaint with life at the moment.. funny how things always seem to work out in the end.. for the better at that. The biggest life lessons definitely come through hardship. As unfortunate as that is
She blocked me because I did something she didn't like, but before she did, she repeatedly messaged me to let me know why she was blocking me. As a result, I didn't respond, and now I'm blocked.
I was in a full relationship with the mother of my three children and things just change she become a problem and start destroying the relationship with alcohol and bad influence and necklace the family,
If they say they need space, I've always said I was just going to say the same thing .. every time they're shocked .. then sometimes they call later sometimes not but either way I'm not taking them back .. after all who really wants a woman like this .. and if you do take her back your life will be miserable .. so the best answer is go no contact for ever
I came to the conclusion that, in order to be good with women, you have to SUPRESS your gut feelings, HIDE your true nature, have some good ACTING talents, or/and be a NARCISSIST/CARELESS/TOXIC, person, all of which result in a lot of stress, lowering of your immune system, changing your beliefs(who you really are), depression, even causing cancer on the long run( ignoring your gut feelings)..Unless you are a narcissist already or a sociopah... and this might not guarantee u a healthy life by all means... Best girls are escorts, period.
In this case you should go out and find more options. By the way, in other cases you also should go out and find more options. Simply speaking, you always should have many options regardless of anything.
The girl i like always said to me in messages that she's busy at work. But i still sent her a gifts 2x already since i really like this girl. She appreciated it but everytime i chat her she dont wanna engage me. How to get her? Im an introvert type of a person. Or maybe she's really not interested in me.
I had it reversed... a girl i know for a long time, we give it a try... I was still trying to figure out where this was going.... suddenly she speaks from love and put stress on me🤔 That pushed me away... she do more stress and suddenly everything for me has died and it's over for me. She was totally surprised and i didn't figured out if she played a game or what.... but for me it was over
yea that's why i find it funny that a lot of guys don't believe this.. becasue we feel the same ickiness and pressure when a girl comes on way too strong.
@@gsf5882 I'm with you. If a girl I liked came on "too strong" I wouldn't back off. I would appreciate that. But I guess guys who are "players" wouldn't be interested in a girl like that because they don't want to be locked down like that.
@@andrewstratton806 it’s not players. Guys want to feel like they got a choice or room to have a choice. I had a girl that wanted to have children and get married a month in. Our chemistry was that strong. But I was young and inexperienced and had no money. I wasn’t even a man yet. Yet I knew enough to know that I wasn’t matured enough to make that make those decisions. Some women are just way too strong with their attention that you as a logical Man should tell her to step back. Otherwise she owns you
how about teasing/flirting with her? is it still count hot act for her when she pulls away? what should i do then? just act like a normal. no matching her coldness / ignore her?
all this does not take into account that the interaction even if short is very hard to handle and the dynamics of it, being sad or weak, is impossibly hard to hide. Being next to her and subject to her attraction will make the short contact a disaster, she will feel her power and establish her terms.
Guys i need a little help here, i was dating this girl and suddenly she come up to me with the "im not ready for a relationship right now, i need to think", i gave her some space and two days after i texted her and she called me back, she confess feelings for me but she said that shes not ready again, and i fall for that, i ended up confessing feelings too, but i only said that i like her a lot as well. Then i hang up and we dont talk to each other for a couple days, what can i do? (she still check me up on social media, and sorry for my poor english, im brazilian)
Oh man. You described exaclty, becuse she was thrilling to know me, loved the date, but then a few days later she went cold, started lying, etc... I tried to remain neutral, but I had to slow things down, and start to talk less to her and put her in mute. I love that she still sends videos to me of her day, but I feel that she is feeling obligated to it in a way to maintain me. I triwd go ask her out a few times but now she is more busy... I'm giving up and thinking about date other girls that are more interested, but I'm kind of afraid to hurt her because we were marriage material to each other.
I am a master at the no-contact rule. (Not in a good way - sometimes I wonder if I should have tried harder ? Ive learned to be really good at dating and move on . The thing is , I really have the feeling I could call some of these women back and reconnect successfully but I have too much ego/ and nervous after a long time? . Watching this video makes me want to try calling ? Opposite effect of this video -lol.
If she pulls away just set her free.
If she's playing games she needs to learn they won't work. If she's just genuinely busy or unsure how he feels, space is the best thing you can give her. If she's not interested you'll never hear from her again.
It's the best move you can make on virtually every level.
Thank man
this!
Yep she ain't worth it
How long to wait until certainty is definitive?
@@SheyESO Good question. In my experience, the period of no contact can vary for different individuals. Typically, it can range from two weeks to three months. However, it's important to consider that some girls may have introverted personalities, such as INTPs, who may take much longer to process their emotions. They tend to rely on logical thinking rather than letting their emotions take control. Additionally, sometimes individuals lack the confidence to reach out again, which is why they may choose not to initiate contact.
It’s a sad world we live in when we cannot simply be ourselves, and are forced to play “games”, because once a woman realizes they have you, the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side.
Do you buy things on every impulse you have? Do you lash out every time someone makes you angry? I think you’ll find most of life is tampering how we feel to be a better member of society, or to do what is best for ourselves and those around us. All of life is a game. It is not sad.
Underrated comment. I love it. I agree with you 100%.
@@SixHexSix you're confusing two different areas: yours is about being a civilized member in society. His is about tampering true honest feelings about a woman, even when doing so has nothing to do with being uncivilized, but truly playing stupid games to stay within female attention.
@@you_dont_wanna_know1969 what about when he gets very angry at her? Should he not tamper his emotion then? They aren’t stupid games, it’s a dance. A demonstration of the ability to self regulate and that makes women become more and more interested. Women know they have power over men, especially beautiful women. Who do they not get bored with? the guy that isnt expressing his feelings for her immediately. It’s a sad world if you unable to get yourself under control. You show your power by having the ability to operate to your will, despite strong emotions pulling you in whatever direction. If she can get you to be vulnerable so easily, what good are you to protect her?
@@SixHexSix you still confusing both areas. Though they mix, theyre not exactly thesame . Getting angry at anyone who is important, you still need to talk things out civilizely, and not jumping out straight to prison. Being needy and disclosing this to her ain't smart, but stupid. But being honest to the poker hand you've got with a lady gets you out of the game (not being needy but humanely sincere), which sucks, and yes, they are stupid games cuz you can't fully disclose whats underneath your skin without losing their interest
no contact may not get her back but it will put you towards the right path of moving on
True, it only works 50% of the time.
#1 rule when dating a woman. Always check your emotions. Once you master that. Everything will be smooth.
Yeah, this is so true if you remain calm surely it ends better for the both..
😅😅😮😂😅u😮
I don't want one then if that is what it takes
it's nuts how we instinctively do things that produce the opposite of our intentions
very true.
This is why Men MUST have multiple females at all times. Great vid. Never put yourself in the position of caring about one woman.
Exactly
I had for a year. It was fun for a while but finally it became emotionally draining and boring. I got depression. You just do not know what are you talking about.
@@jonw.415 the guy just do not know what he is talking about.
@@marguskiis7711 no you are just weak
@@jonw.415 and you are just a wannabe who does NOT know what he is talking about.
Women enter and exit your life.
You only have you for yourself forever.
🔥🔥
We live a harsh reality, but as long as you can adapt as fast as possible then you're fine.
When she walks away do this;
1) Change the lock
2) Buy a German Shepherd
3) throw a bachelor Party!
1.) Grab a beer
2. Sit back and relax eat Tanna sandwich..
3.) Go play Golf
4.) Be a man.
Snort coke
Drink yourself out
Drive crazy
Finally you just cry all the time
@@MediaEntertainment-qp2wf it does NOT work. Btw.
@@marguskiis7711 I appreciate your taste. However, I must emphasize the importance of focusing on something else that brings you pleasure. While we may shed tears, at the end of the day, I rise with confidence and refuse to let her have the satisfaction of boosting her ego. I carefully choose my words, timing them perfectly to shatter her ego and make her think twice before doing this to another man. I smile at her in a loving way, knowing it's not true, but leaving a haunting memory in her mind. I simply say, "Hello, friend."
You honestly changed the way in which I live as a man. I've learned to focus more on me, my time and my work and let women come after all that. Once I started controlling my neediness for attention i held all the power in my relationships making it way easier to get what I want from a relationship. I was tired of always being the best friend but never going further than that. Thank you bro.
same here focused on my goals but i still dont see girls interested in me
@@AshTheDuke don't worry my g. remember, she ain't the prize, you're the prize.
Pretty woman is going get laid either has a boyfriend or married , it a matter you a piece/ taste her pretty bodies,,,
@@lloydkline1518 😏
Women cause drama. You either aren’t spending enough time or too much time with her. Make her wait. You got a life to live
She pulled away, I said goodbye, I wasn't in it for bullshit games, she wasn't happy, I'm not going to stand in her way if she wants to go, but once she's gone there's no coming back. I'm done.
This is the kind of knowledge we need as men.
Thank you Bobby.
glad you find it helpful!
Bobby I want to ask you something
This is true. When you give it all to her, she suddenly becomes this individual that takes you for granted. It is just sad that we need this kind of techniques to win her back, or move on.
I recently dated a girl for two months before deciding to tell her I liked her, which coincidentally happened to be on our last date. I still don’t regret doing it because when I look at the big picture, I ask myself “Do I want to be with someone who’s not that into me?” There really comes a point where you decide it’s not worth any extraneous effort to get someone to like you, and any developed attraction should just be natural. If they don’t like you back, then it’s probably for the best.
Facts
Sad but true
Nah this is facts ain’t nothing wrong with letting a girl know that two months later but if she don’t like you then it ain’t worth it
Works well. Dated her for a month. Everything was hot at first. She would call me twice a day and text me non stop. All of a sudden. Just turned cold. I found another woman to focus on. Now she’s texting me more. But my heart feels like it’s moved on to be honest. I don’t have time to play her mind games.
It’s perfect. Answers a whole lot of questions beyond the video in itself. Thank you Bobby
glad you found it helpful.
@@BobbyRio Hey man, don’t suppose you have a Facebook group we could join?
I try fixing the whole issues for three years and nothing come right, I later decide to move out of this relationship and fulfill my duty to take care of my children without her present, then i meet this supportive young lady who was lady to support me in every way that I needed help, she was full-time their to help the children and me, after the bad relationship come to the end with the first lady .
There’s almost always some other guy that’s caused her to pull away. - truth
Pretty sad
This videos are a real blessing to the manosphere... this guys knows his shit!
Great video and the best advice I heard so far. I also want to add that guys shouldn't quickly decide that she is pulling away. A girl I was dating did not call or text for a day and did not return my calls the next day. Two days with no contact made me panic and I was about to do something stupid. Luckily I was super busy that I forgot to call or text her and on the third night she actually called and apologized. So just keep in mind that maybe she got a ton of things going on too.
all true points, thanks for watching.
Man that makes so much sense.. I literally just made the mistakes before I watched this video haha.. I could sense such a big difference in communication and I kept asking wtf is going on and she explained that shes very stressed, busy at work, she doesnt feel right rushing things and other bullshit. So I kind of now treating her the same way she does, writing 1 word messages or not writing her at all
yea best to mirror her for a bit.
any updates?
@@Fox2senndoh Yes, found another girl who is interested in me. Pretty much it haha
@@RandomCrap I believe its hard to establish a time frame / range that is enough when mimicking... Because one can seem "disinterested" for some time but also its not healthy being alone when one has relationship goals/needs/desires.
@@bushcry1 Well thats what it was with that girl I really liked. It seemed she had way too many issues, she havent sorted her breakup even after 1 year has passed. She has depression, working long hours. But then why bother wasting anyones time. Some people just need a company, compliments, they charge themselves and moves on. Dont waste a single second with people like that as soon as you realise they have issues which they need to sort themselves first
Bobby , you really are always out there helping us men out with your wisdom. I have years of dating experience, but mistakes do happen. It’s nice to get some insights from someone who understands dating and relationships so well.
Yea had this a lot, with women I have met, fucked, dated and also ones I never met. Now my effort only goes so far. The key is don't degrade yourself by sending 3 texts with no reply (for example). That gut feeling still hits (like you just know something is wrong) but keep it cool, if it ends its no big deal. If you have abundance mindset and value yourself then it comes easier.
Finally you find yourself alone and lonely and die years before your bones will be find in your apartement.
No contact works if it done genuinely with no intentions of wanting her back. It doesnt work if its faked to get her back. Subconscious minds of people do talk with each other behind the scenes. That's how you get that gut instincts
Kind of. It's a Grey area from my experience. No contact seems to work.
I say it doesn’t work at all, however there’s are exceptions, but the percentage is so small might as well not trip abt it and move on. Even if she does come back I’d cut her off, gotta have some self respect my dawgs!
100% this
@@malakhimalik7218 hey can I ask you something I have not seen my girlfriend in four months but me and my girlfriend are still texting and my girlfriend always says she will always be my girlfriend forever and forever and do you think I should go visit my girlfriend
@@joshsaundh4851 Move on and charge it to the game.
I had two women, (co-workers) nearly half my age fall in love with me. I made no effort to impress them or even suggest I'm interested. Both of them eventually spoke up and admitted in their own way they were interested in dating me. I wasnt interested so I just stopped text messaging them and both times, their attraction to me increased for the next few weeks then they reached a breaking point and had to villify me. It's easier to make me out to be the villan than to admit they were rejected because of some trait or behavior they exhibited. In truth, I didnt want to date someone in their early 20s & I wasn't attracted to them. They went after my reputation but only adter I transferred to another site so it's no big deal.
Don’t shit where you eat.
you......are......AWESOME. you validate things that i randomly did naturally decades ago that had me buried in women
This is the exact opposite situation of what you've explained and I'm dumbfounded. This was not gradual, it was out of nowhere and not only were things slipping away, they were heating up. She is usually the first to text me good morning, she texts me before she goes to bed, she started talking a lot about sex over the last couple weeks, almost planning what we're going to do. We had a thing planned where we were supposed to go to this parade, and I was going to be in the parade with her for her work, and then at the last minute the parade got cancelled because of weather. I told her "well let's still do something, we'll go get dinner and go see Christmas lights" and she said she'd love to etc. The next day I didn't hear from her at all, the next day nothing. I text her before I went to work that night (about 1030, her bedtime) and checked in and pretty much just asked her if she was okay, I was worried about her, she said yeah, had a crazy couple days, apologized for not reaching out sooner, said we'd talk the next day. The next day came, we didn't talk, I sent her a link that morning to a RUclips video, never heard anything at all. Here we are, a little over 24 hours after her saying she's okay. So we were pretty much at the point where I was almost expecting this girl to drop the L word. Then, ghosts.
That sucks. Not very fair the way she's treating you.
As the video suggests, it seems like she knows she is 'boss' and senses your keenness to see her and spend time with her. So, as per the video, perhaps you can step back a bit too? Maybe take some time before you reply to her texts? Therefore she will know you're not 'desperate' and it makes you seem more attractive to her.
@@glasgowlady for sure. That's what I've done. After the first two days I simply just texted her to make sure she was literally just okay, and since then I haven't reached out. She hasn't dated in years, and has an insane work load, so she stays very busy and probably is a little scared about how deep things were getting with us. Which is fine, I understand how emotions and psychology work, but I'm not going to let it control my life. I've got other pursuits and responsibilities I need to focus on, so, it's her loss if she walks away. I mean, this is the kind of connection that doesn't happen very often, so it is sad, but I'm past the point of letting women be my validation.
Take a vacation with your friends, don't say nothing to her and post on social media if she follows you
Sounds like she went and boned some guy or some girl. You should ghost her. Permanently. You can do better.
I think she maybe thought she was coming on too strong or was being needy so dialed it back. If a girl throws out the sex card and you do not immediately go over there or it does not happen really soon after that, she can start feeling cheap (rhymes with mut) and can think, oh look at me throwing myself at him being all sexual when I haven't even slept with him yet. Then usually that leads to "how much do I really like him" as a defense against feeling that way.
I liked this girl a lot, because we've had some fun in the past. But I thought of it more than fun, I then told her how I felt and she pulled away, said she doesn't want to ruin our friendship. I felt hollow for a while inside, but when I feel upset I start doing stuff, working out harder, working more, taking better care of myself. I never text her anymore, not first anyway, and if I reply it's short and sweet. I see her 3 times a week because of work, she tried to greet me with a hug 4 weeks ago, I turned her down by stepping back. Letting her know that I value my space and that I've matured past the hug stage. Here's what I noticed from her side. She started texting me more than ever before, longer texts than normal. I reply with freakin' emojis, usually rejecting dates she wishes to go on. She started dressing better, doing her hair differently and even started working out. Like she's mirroring me. She hangs around my office more, sometimes for no reason. And lads, here's the cherry on top, just yesterday she asked me if she could borrow some of my time. I told her I was busy, then her eyes teared up, so I gave her a minute of my time. In that minute she poured her heart and soul out to me, all about how she made a mistake and that she definately felt we should move things along into a relationship and at the end she said the 'L' word. I didn't really listen much because I had stiff legs from squatting the day before, and was kinda zoning out over a bugatti poster behind her, But as soon as she said that she loved me, all my feelings for her flew right out the window. I'm happier than ever now. And realized that simping f#cking sucks, Work on your lives gents, your health, your wealth and you. You'll find the right one, worst case scenario, if you follow what I did, you'll end up with a depressed 'friend' who hates herself for not noticing the value she had right in front of her when he shared his feelings with her. Lesson: f#ck feelings, feel for yourself, love yourself and everything else will draw towards you like a magnet.
Did you at least pump and dump her to teach her of her own toxicity?
@@dragorn3212 Yes🤣🤣🤣In the back of her Audi in the parking bay. Only that one time, p & d. Was blant though I had to do all the work.
@@Drunken_Giga_Chadlittle bro, that is the dumbest story that didn't happen that I've ever heard. If you got her crying while confessing she loves you, she definitely would have done all of the sexual work in a sexual rendezvous.
You had me believing your fantasy, until it turned revengeful & bi-questioning when you turned down the love of a crying girl and said "feel for yourself, love yourself".
You need to get past whoever and whatever hurt you. Quit taking poison and hoping the other person dies.
@@FancyNoises take it as you please, lil' bro. Don't really care. Wasn't vengeful from my side. If you think women can't be vindictive on their own that's your problem to deal with.
God forbid should that ever happen in your life and may that day never come. I'm just saying, there's too many people simping and too few focusing on themselves. Lil' bro.
@@Drunken_Giga_Chad I can appreciate the flattery of you mimicking my originality and dominance. OTOH, I never said women can't be vindictive, and you need to really put some hard fucking work into snapping out of that gamma male habit, of putting words into the mouths of your betters. It only fools unintelligent fools: the kinds of people you should never habitually associate with.
@Bobby Rio - I’m an active member of the Scrambler club and I just want to say thank you for this supplemental video. The Scrambler baseline has a lot to do with initial confidence and how to make the move if you’re a super nice guy. My problem has always been not knowing how to react once things have been going well (great sex great chemistry etc.) so this really was a excellent supplement. Thank you again.
Let’s be honest no contact works when she’s attracted to u. If ur not attractive to her to begin with I doubt she’ll care if you never contact her. She might appreciate u being less of a creep but I’m sure it doesn’t even slip her mind. I’ve done no contact many times and sometimes it worked sometimes it didn’t and when it didn’t it’s cause the girl was talking to someone else so they could have care less I wasn’t texting them. So my take is it really only works when there is already some spark. If not ur just another stranger.
yea, well, the video is about a girl who is pulling away after a few dates. Kind of assumes you're not a stranger right? and yea, if a girl is already very into someone else, no contact won't work for sure. However, it is still better off to go 'no contact' in that situation than to confess your feelings or act desperate. Because a lot of times, its about TIMING... and I've seen MANY situations where once a girl's mind was free, a guy was able to re-ignite things with her.
@@BobbyRio when I said a stranger I don’t mean a literal one obviously she’d know u for u to have her number to even do no contact in the first place. I meant stranger in the sense that if she wasn’t into u and just went on the dates just to be nice or out of boredom and there was never a spark and then u do no contact even without expressing ur feelings ur another stranger to her because she never really cared for you to begin with and your just another random person in her contact list she never could care to see a text or a call from. Other than that good advice.
You obviously mean that she 'couldn't have cared less.' If she could care less that means she actually cares somewhat.
@@kermitsippintea7433 You made a good point. it's like the principle of making the girl jealous with preselection. It will only work if you are her type and she is attracted to you
@@DiaeAr369 exactly
JUST BE YOURSELF,YOU ALONE IS LIFE,AND IF SOMEBODY DON'T WANT YOU IN THIERS AS LONG AS YOU ARE ALIVE BE HAPPY.
When a woman pulls away she is testing you to see if you emotional strong or weak and as a man you are emotional strong , her pulling away does not affect you life is happy and nice you are the prize 🏆 women are shit she is going to sense it and say to her self wow this dude is really high value he doesn't need me to survive he he happy bye him self and that is very actractive to women and that is going to cause her to reach out to u and contact u
Facts
I totally agree
Bobby your total genius 👌
Last part was the answer I'm searching for past 3.5 months.
To all guys if u are no contracts than we also will no contract back 😅 we don’t care if we don’t like u. Just go on if she ignores u. Is simple
Awesome I was talking to a friend at the front desk and I really liked her even though I knew it’s far from ever being a thing but I like talking to her and smiling together. Get this. On Valentine’s Day being front desk they received all kinds of flowers and I couldn’t help my feelings of fighting off another’s from taking her from me, I gave these looks with my eyes that were primal, I couldn’t control it. I still don’t know why I couldn’t maybe I have a past trauma or something. She picked up on it and we had a fall out. She tried to reach out to me kind of reassuring me something but I pulled away because of the blind rage of the flowers, and then she took it as I was trying to hurt her and she reciprocated anger and we were bad ever since. I wouldn’t even be able to look her in the eye and our emotions flooded our interactions from then on out.
If only people clearly communicated and stopped playing games
Seriously
for girls, its their nature. Women are drawn to drama, men like things content. that fact will never change. If you have children, you will see the way the girls act vs the boys. If you are in a married social scene, you will see the way the husbands act vs the wives. Its just the way it is, so no use fighting it.
@@BobbyRio I agree, women are drawn to drama
Very good. I bought the scrambler several years ago and it's good training to review every so often. Keeps me on the beam!
hi learn Piano fast online... I need advice if can help me out.
After 67 days NO Contact ,
she reached out with one sentence message
But without pet name…”Honey”
“Are you going to church regularly? "
I didnt reply for the whole day I guess she got upset and deleted her message
Seeing that I panic and gave her an answer "Yes I got something to tell you."
After 5 days she finally reach out again this time Colder than any Iceberg…
She text : what you want to tell me ?
I replied
“Ok , I want to see you laugh at my joke hahaha
Dinner Monday or Thursday “
I think I totally Beta …putting her on Pedestal again I am just her Backup Plan ?
Does it work
@fj4731 She thinks you're evil. Using laughter and jokes will only prove her point. You should of told her. Look, all jokes aside, im just trying to shed some light on our understanding. And yes, I attend church ?
I'm dealing with this issue right now. Well I noticed a difference the last few days so I'm not doing no contact but I've gotten to a point in life to where either friends or a potential girlfriend I'm only going to give out the same energy that I'm receiving. I've always had a talent to be able to read people and there emotions or if they are a screwed up person or lying. I know this women likes me. So yeah I'm giving her the same energy and effort she is giving me
You can’t fake it. If she pulls away, go no contact with the goal of exploring your options. If she comes back she’s just another option now.
Just do not bother with these women. Get a healthy attachment, woman. Too much hassle. Mind games are for teenagers, not adults.
Your the best lecturer ever, you changed my mind.
men dont really play games when it comes to love
only women do
men only play games for sex, theres a difference
This is so true its so sad.
Actually
Thanks Bobby for the great video with awesome and most prominent dating tips... you are doing a great job, I'm in that very situation where girl is pulling away and I'm going to use all those advices and I'm so sure they really work.... Thanks a lot bro
Glad it was helpful!
How did it go? I’m in that exact situation right now
Listening to this I think I’m handling my situation pretty well lol. Limited contact when I realized she was pulling away (she didn’t need the speech she knew how I felt).
After so much talk, the take home message i learned from this is to give her time constraint.
Yeah I think you're totally right, she even said she want some space so I think if she want space I'll just give her space and focus more on me instead of someone else
I got head over heels over this woman, one day she refused my gift (btw I confessed to her before that, in the past she accepts my gifts), its was so embarassing and I felt heavy in my heart, I was about to talk and apologized to her about it...but decided not to because you do not apologize over a kind gesture, even if you done it sloppily, you did not do anything wrong.
All right. Take these techniques and apply them to someone who lives a couple thousand miles from you. It's quite a ride.
Bobby you are the best I’m now beginning to understand everything
my girlfriend is a single mother, we have been friends for almost a year, we go out for lunch, cofee, make love, but sometimes she keeps quiet busy with her work and children... sometimes she tells me she can't date together anymore with me, sometimes she pulls away and comes back again,,, sometimes I am also confused with her but we are still in touch every day....once in a while I will be told takes her child to school or even picks her up from school...she the one helps me a lot,I'm really love her
Get a girl without another man's mistake and get some self respect.
Why didn’t I watch this 2 weeks ago GODAMMIT
Thanks for your suggestions. Wish I have found your channel before I lost her. I did EXACTLY the same things you described. When she pulled back, I confessed my feelings in a wall of text. Now I've gone no contact, mostly for myself. Eventually I might hit a text msg, to catch up, she was my best model for photography. But not sure how she will respond.
Any update?
This is brilliant. I'm going to try the limited time thing.
If A Woman Knows She has you 100%, She Loses Interest
Totally agree.
Every time, never give her more than 50-60% interest level
Modern women, specially from medium-big cities, don't want men confess their feelings, specially before they got into a relationship. They associate that as a "weakness", because they feel they have you eating in their hands, you are not a challenge anymore, you told the end of the story, revealed your inner feelings, and that's boring for them. Unfortunately.
In other hand, if the woman starts pulling away, I like the invitation with a time contraint method, if she refuses it, just keep the contact and start subtly showing her some pictures of you (using Whatsapp or Instagram statuses) hanging out with other women during a couple of months. The women like the man that have several dating options. If neither method work, just discard the contact and move on looking for other women.
"I like the invitation with a time constraint".... What do you mean?
@@bushcry1 It’s when you invite her out but tell her you have to leave earlier than normal. Say you meet at 6pm and normally chill all night. Now you tell her you have to leave at 8pm. Adds social proof, mystery and so on.
Some women are so crazy,it doesn't matter
Hard to do no contact when you live together with 2 kids
Great videos trying to watch as many as possible. Just trying to implement all on her
This whole "trick" will still smell fake to a woman because it isn't a natural aspect of who you are. Remember - females pick up on stuff 5x faster and deeper than men can sometimes so they will detect the fake mask because they have seen this game played many times before. By now its in a female's genetic survival mechanism & memory. Best to just leave the chic alone and invest in those who invest in you. If she thinks you're sweating her or you're "butt hurt" - big damn deal, let her think whatever she wants to think and keep it pushin'. The main ingredient and nucleus to all this is the "no fucks given" mindset.
"best to just leave the chic alone"
dude isn't that literally what no contact is?
In a situation like this, you really need a good mate to give you an almighty wallop on the jaw, because the situation is absolute mess at this point. Then, with the hand he walloped you with, get him to hand you a beer, and take a moment to reflect on how much of a doughnut you've been lately.
Even if it's salvageable, why bother? Like, seriously, why? It's a waste of everyone's time. The experiences you hold dear with one woman will be the exact same experiences you have with the next. It only seems impossible NOW because you don't know any different. You've just been mindlessly buying your bread from the same shop everyday, expecting it to always be in the same place.
It's a big world out there, and the humans that inhabit it are amazing (on the whole - that is. I mean, I can't lie, there are some prats among us.).
I’ve been dating a girl for a couple months, and we were both sexually attracted to each other but we had pretty different views on things. I noticed that the “good morning” and “good night” texts with heart emojis stoped a week ago and TODAY she broke up with me through text.
@Kingdom House pussy gone with the wind 💀
All good brother , dodged a bullet . Got some part time hole without relations . Time to repeat the process
Her: "I think we need a break...Take some time to...(insert the "whatever" here).
You: " Wow! I am so glad you brought this up!" (show a little relieved smile) " I been noticing a bit of stress in you...and the fun level we used to have seems...well...you know.." (As this is going on txt/whatever one of your female friends and say your hungry an going out get something to eat. Wanted some fun conversation. What time should I pick you up?) or somesuch.
Remember, there are 3.5 billion women on the planet. Find one that's interested in where you are headed.
No contact is perseverance
Sad that this is true, I'm 39 and talking to a 36 year old and she's doing the games crap. High energy conversation for two months then blunt replies and leaving me on unread.
I took down my what's app pic and left her on unread for four days, then she came back and followed up asking for a date.....I replied and then short replies ensued with claims of being busy. Not even sure I have the mental energy or enthusiasm for meeting her, she's killed the energy with these childish antics.
Excellent vid Bobby!!!
All the God damn mental gymnastics
Going no contact as a man means selfrespect, high value of him self and being centered ( never show a women how you feel) just walk away and mean it aka be indifferent.
Women are complicated but i njoy the game😎
This is exactly the video I was looking for thanks Bobby .hi from Australia 👋
I bought the scrambler and was a bit disappointed honestly. It just covers some of the basics, well known stuff, combined lots of direct and indirect advertising for their one on one coaching. If you are a beginner you might benefit from it, otherwise look elsewhere.
So me and the girlfriend of 7years going through a rough time.. been living apart the last month, still talking and briefly meeting up, I asked what was happening going forward, now wants time to process, currently in no contact un til she gets in touch, it’s rough but I don’t want to beg, and also continue to come across needy and weak.. which I admit is what I have probably being portraying
How’d it turn out for you bro?
@@shawnmclean7707 was abit of a tough time but ended up moving back to a part of town I used to live with a mate.. couldn’t handle sofa surfing any longer. Also got a new job and joined a gym, ended up meeting someone through mutual friends.. not a single complaint with life at the moment.. funny how things always seem to work out in the end.. for the better at that. The biggest life lessons definitely come through hardship. As unfortunate as that is
Complete no contact here . 6 months later she reaches out 😅
I did the no contact for a month and it worked very bad way, I was dumped very humiliating way after that.
She blocked me because I did something she didn't like, but before she did, she repeatedly messaged me to let me know why she was blocking me. As a result, I didn't respond, and now I'm blocked.
Make her jealous . it works most of the time
I was in a full relationship with the mother of my three children and things just change she become a problem and start destroying the relationship with alcohol and bad influence and necklace the family,
If they say they need space, I've always said I was just going to say the same thing .. every time they're shocked .. then sometimes they call later sometimes not but either way I'm not taking them back .. after all who really wants a woman like this .. and if you do take her back your life will be miserable .. so the best answer is go no contact for ever
Boi, these are witches and they are toxic.
Ure a genius bro. You really know about these stuff
I did it to her, and it made her chase me.
On point man. Thanks for the reminder
This one will work for me good teachings bobby
I came to the conclusion that, in order to be good with women, you have to SUPRESS your gut feelings, HIDE your true nature, have some good ACTING talents, or/and be a NARCISSIST/CARELESS/TOXIC, person, all of which result in a lot of stress, lowering of your immune system, changing your beliefs(who you really are), depression, even causing cancer on the long run( ignoring your gut feelings)..Unless you are a narcissist already or a sociopah... and this might not guarantee u a healthy life by all means...
Best girls are escorts, period.
Exactly. Glad that men are realized women are toxic
In this case you should go out and find more options.
By the way, in other cases you also should go out and find more options.
Simply speaking, you always should have many options regardless of anything.
The girl i like always said to me in messages that she's busy at work. But i still sent her a gifts 2x already since i really like this girl. She appreciated it but everytime i chat her she dont wanna engage me. How to get her? Im an introvert type of a person. Or maybe she's really not interested in me.
Bobby, you keep looking younger fam
ha thanks
Sometimes she distances herself because you fucked up as a man. What do you do then if you love her and want her?
Hey Bobby! We always talk about how to attract her but there is the hardest part. How to break up with her without hurtin her feelings?
I had it reversed... a girl i know for a long time, we give it a try...
I was still trying to figure out where this was going.... suddenly she speaks from love and put stress on me🤔
That pushed me away... she do more stress and suddenly everything for me has died and it's over for me. She was totally surprised and i didn't figured out if she played a game or what.... but for me it was over
Yeah… this also happened to me few months back. I think some time around August. It was crazy. Pushing would only push your potential partner away.
yea that's why i find it funny that a lot of guys don't believe this.. becasue we feel the same ickiness and pressure when a girl comes on way too strong.
@@BobbyRio Having never experience this I would love a woman to come on too strong or to just come on a little. Would make a nice change.
@@gsf5882 I'm with you. If a girl I liked came on "too strong" I wouldn't back off. I would appreciate that. But I guess guys who are "players" wouldn't be interested in a girl like that because they don't want to be locked down like that.
@@andrewstratton806 it’s not players. Guys want to feel like they got a choice or room to have a choice. I had a girl that wanted to have children and get married a month in. Our chemistry was that strong. But I was young and inexperienced and had no money. I wasn’t even a man yet. Yet I knew enough to know that I wasn’t matured enough to make that make those decisions. Some women are just way too strong with their attention that you as a logical Man should tell her to step back. Otherwise she owns you
This saves you from whole lot of confusion.
glad you found it helpful
how about teasing/flirting with her? is it still count hot act for her when she pulls away?
what should i do then? just act like a normal. no matching her coldness / ignore her?
Being in a long term relationship / getting married is doing this constantly. How exhausting!
all this does not take into account that the interaction even if short is very hard to handle and the dynamics of it, being sad or weak, is impossibly hard to hide. Being next to her and subject to her attraction will make the short contact a disaster, she will feel her power and establish her terms.
Oh, I contacted her after she left me alright...well, it was actually the process server who did it. I effing filed for divorce.
Stay strong and re-invent yourself! You'll look back on this time period and thank yourself 1000x over.
Guys i need a little help here, i was dating this girl and suddenly she come up to me with the "im not ready for a relationship right now, i need to think", i gave her some space and two days after i texted her and she called me back, she confess feelings for me but she said that shes not ready again, and i fall for that, i ended up confessing feelings too, but i only said that i like her a lot as well. Then i hang up and we dont talk to each other for a couple days, what can i do? (she still check me up on social media, and sorry for my poor english, im brazilian)
Thanks bob this is also helping us teens💗💝
No contact. And don't try to get her back.
Oh man. You described exaclty, becuse she was thrilling to know me, loved the date, but then a few days later she went cold, started lying, etc... I tried to remain neutral, but I had to slow things down, and start to talk less to her and put her in mute. I love that she still sends videos to me of her day, but I feel that she is feeling obligated to it in a way to maintain me. I triwd go ask her out a few times but now she is more busy... I'm giving up and thinking about date other girls that are more interested, but I'm kind of afraid to hurt her because we were marriage material to each other.
You said it all . She has to have that feeling that she is losing me but slowly.. Thanks :)
Bobby Rio you’re good 😊
I am a master at the no-contact rule. (Not in a good way - sometimes I wonder if I should have tried harder ? Ive learned to be really good at dating and move on . The thing is , I really have the feeling I could call some of these women back and reconnect successfully but I have too much ego/ and nervous after a long time? . Watching this video makes me want to try calling ? Opposite effect of this video -lol.
In another video you said escalation is attractive and now here it’s like confessing your feelings will almost never work! How is that?
Let them go!!! I tell them “ don’t let the door hit you in the butt on the way out”.