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  • Опубликовано: 19 окт 2024
  • #weaponizedlove #narccon #narcissists fear
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    Weaponised Love -a.co/d/g4bB4MI
    #narccon #narcissism
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    Understanding the relationship dynamics with a covert narcissist or NPD individual is the first step in a healing journey of the narcissist’s former partner or target of narcissistic supply. Identifying the motivations behind a narcissist’s behaviour may provide many answers to previously inexplicable actions taken by them during the course of your relationship. Understanding what a narcissist fears most can give a huge insight into for example why they leave the relationship so quickly and without notice. A Narcissist’s fears and paranoia motivates their self defence mechanism or personality disorder to go on the offensive. Understanding the predictability of such apparently unpredictable behaviour based on what a narcissist fears the most provides clarity, and is helpful in depersonalising your experience with one.
    Disclaimer: This RUclips channel provides information for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice. We strongly recommend consulting with healthcare professionals for personalized medical guidance. We do not endorse specific products or treatments. Any actions taken based on our content are at your own discretion and risk.

Комментарии • 150

  • @NarcCon
    @NarcCon  2 дня назад +20

    Book Link Below:
    Weaponised Love -a.co/d/g4bB4MI

    • @victoriouscruz1264
      @victoriouscruz1264 2 дня назад +7

      I received my book a few days ago! Can't wait to read it☺ This channel has help me immensely. God bless luv❤

    • @albertagirl67
      @albertagirl67 День назад +1

      @@NarcCon I ordered it from the hard copy from Amazon UK! 💜 🇨🇦

    • @No-BS1369
      @No-BS1369 20 часов назад +1

      Paula, you should absolutely always mention your book. You deserve to be recognized as someone who cares enough to take the time and energy to put something out into the world to help others like everyone in this community. Celebrate your accomplishments. 💖

    • @paysha7
      @paysha7 Час назад

      I just received your book! Love it!

  • @stephbyerly9491
    @stephbyerly9491 2 дня назад +37

    1. Losing their #1 supply source.
    2. Being exposed as the fraud they are.
    3. Aging, losing their looks and therefore ability to attract and control supply.
    4. Being ignored as no longer "current."
    5. Your success after they lose you.
    6. Their own death. The ultimate loss of control.
    Thank you Paula! 💜

  • @carolentringer8836
    @carolentringer8836 2 дня назад +31

    losing control of their supply; having their fake persona exposed; the downsides of aging; being ignored; seeing you successful; their own death.

  • @albertagirl67
    @albertagirl67 2 дня назад +31

    What I discovered the narcissist in my life feared most was… Me
    Everything that I am and he is not,
    Everything I feel, that he cannot
    Everything that I achieved that he did not
    Everything that I know that he is clueless about….
    Keep shining and be who you are because the narcissist is miles behind your evolution
    🙏🏻💜💫
    PS
    Paula, you have the most amazing Guardian Angels with you ~ I’m so happy to be witness to it 💜

  • @EasyRussianLessons
    @EasyRussianLessons 2 дня назад +31

    Going no contact is SOOOOO freeing. 🔥

    • @shireenramnarain4005
      @shireenramnarain4005 2 дня назад

      I m now craving that freedom sooo much...but how...isolation, chronic conditions, no self confidence etc
      Help

    • @alguedemer
      @alguedemer 2 дня назад

      Yes❤

  • @billybotts9521
    @billybotts9521 2 дня назад +30

    You're awesome Paula, and Remy too❤😃

  • @SheilaMcQuinn
    @SheilaMcQuinn 2 дня назад +32

    PAULA, You are an absolute gift and a warrior , thank you for giving me the courage and confidence to , through tiny tip toe steps to finally take the leap Into a scary but safer place x x x x x x

  • @peterwatson8838
    @peterwatson8838 День назад +6

    Thank you so much for helping people to navigate this evil, sick, deceptive, fragmented, manipulative and so on and so on personality!

  • @life-rethought
    @life-rethought 2 дня назад +8

    when I saw the PANIC that preceded the rage.... that was an education. I realized how vulnerable he truly was. he was angry all the time. angry I had my own judgement and I refused to concede it to him. angry he was getting old and things were failing him... angry that I loved many things I do.. like art, and animals.. growing things.. angry at the world "because everyone betrayed him.. the eternal victim..."
    if the marriage wasnt such a con and betrayal... it was amazing to watch the insanity and extreme effort to control EVERYTHING 24/7... what a waste of energy...! all the egotistical games of smoke and mirrors. im tired just thinking of it more than a year free of him...

    • @tathe3786
      @tathe3786 День назад +1

      Love you comment… showed me the same inside I saw!!

  • @freespirit9806
    @freespirit9806 2 дня назад +25

    It’s such a revelation to realize the FALSE self. The ego , like a ship without an anchor. Every minute a new idea , a new facade , a new concept. Indeed they “ scurry” around.

    • @Coolingfin
      @Coolingfin День назад

      "Scurry" like a rodent. Or a raccoon, taking one bite of a fruit thus destroying it for any other being while getting their 'supply'. Thanks! The raccoon image works, they wear permanent masks. Pay attention to what they say, when it told me it would never abandon me, I knew what I had to do.

  • @carolentringer8836
    @carolentringer8836 2 дня назад +12

    Off topic, but your complexion is so beautiful.

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад +1

      Oh thank you!

  • @tanyakashyap6944
    @tanyakashyap6944 День назад +4

    I have been gangstalked by parasites for 4 years now most of them my family..
    but I'm glad to have seen what I can't UNSEE.. Grace.❤

  • @sandymanning-b5o
    @sandymanning-b5o 9 часов назад +1

    Thank you dear Paula for sharing the things that make a narcissist lose the plot! It was so lovely to hear your voice again I love your Irish accent and so pleased that the audio version will be with you speaking. It has to be to be authentic!! A HUGE congratulations on releasing your first of a series of book - go for it!! Remy your co producer was thinking a nice long walk would be better than a narc video. I hope he gets a raise in salary as without him you wouldn’t have this book. He was the co-author wasn’t he? 😂 I have been doing some art of late so that’s why there’s a big gap since my last comment. Listening to your podcast from March 2024 has brought SO much healing understanding and can love myself back when I look in the mirror. It only took 22 years for this to take place so guys hang in there. I wished I had your messages back in 1984 it would have saved me loads but better late than never! Every single word you shared I lived with and was hell on earth. You say it very clearly and don’t muck about which is what I liked so carried on watching and listening. I was totally shocked to begin with as I felt like you had been walking with me in this dreadful marriage. As he walked out in a very pathetic suicide attempt which he threatened non stop I told him to STAY out as he was no longer needed or wanted. By golly he went more nuts than he was before. I was cool calm and ignored him totally which made him so angry. So so glad those days are gone and never to happen again. I owe you everything Paula for all the understanding and healing I received from your channel. Guys never give up you can leave too. I had 2 kids and my life got better and better. Wasn’t easy but so thankful it is over with. I really pray that your book will do well and folk will get much healing from it too! You know why the soft cover hasn’t come out because and jokes aside satan doesn’t want it out. I truly believe that a narcissist is a true demon in a human body for sure! I went through events that were not human trust me and I know now what it was all about. My spiritual eyes were opened by all of Paula’s podcasts. I had asked the Lord for healing at the beginning of 2024 as 6/7 nights I had the same repeated nightmares about him. The Lord helped me to break that curse and am free the last 5 months of those nightmares. Paula covers that area of repeat thinking about them so you can break free too. Lord in Jesus Name I stand against whatever is stopping the soft cover copy of Paula’s new book to be blocked. The Lord is far greater than satan so get behind me and may it be released this week in Jesus Name Amen 🙏🛐
    Bless you Paula and dear Remy you are my biggest blessing in life and may your podcasts go from strength to strength and you can help many more folk in counselling too 😄💖🙌 Sandy from Africa 🌹

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  4 часа назад

      😊🙋‍♀️🐕🥰

  • @Truth-B-Told19
    @Truth-B-Told19 2 дня назад +15

    I couldn't care less if he leaves me.. Just Leave!

  • @NarcissismDenied
    @NarcissismDenied 2 дня назад +12

    Hurray, my absolute best RUclipsr🎉 way to end the day

  • @jjones4314
    @jjones4314 2 дня назад +3

    After 13 hellish yrs, I was done! Caught him in so many lies & even though I couldn't prove it, I knew he was cheating! All the signs were there! Told him I was done but he said he was leaving FIRST to beat me to the finish line! Made no difference to me as long as he was exiting my life - forever! In Dec it will be 5 yrs since he left - the peace & freedom is amazing! Life is good!

    • @life-rethought
      @life-rethought 2 дня назад

      same for me.. I ran.. but he had to file for divorce first...WHAT EVER!!!!!
      I felt the sameas you ...and told him... "you will SPIN this how ever you chose... whatever.
      but then when it came for him to resolve the divorce. he stalled and stalled to "punish me".
      over stayed my home a month past his deadline... he drove out at 6pm the night before law enforcement was to come and remove him... he couldnt have that blemish on his local reputation..
      again what ever. just be gone. and I am grateful I havent seen him in a year....

  • @infantrycaptain9224
    @infantrycaptain9224 2 дня назад +7

    Hi,Paula.You are a beautiful empath. It upsets me that you fell into the clutches of a Narcissist.I hope you are happy and safe.❤✝️

  • @jamesmccarthy8574
    @jamesmccarthy8574 2 дня назад +7

    Living with someone with a personality disorder is living with delusion and that can only end in gaslighting coercion harassment and destruction of those who are in the path of the disorder.
    You must not blame yourself but look at the facts of living with them and their destructive personality.
    Paula don't let the negative remarks get you down and plug your book every time also don't forget the like and subscribe.
    For your information, I have listened to a few Audiobooks, and the voice is always really detached, so I think your personal touch will be far better.
    Good luck and stay strong.

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      Thank you James for your encouragement 🌹🐕

  • @LoveSource1111
    @LoveSource1111 2 дня назад +7

    I enjo your voice, Paula. Thank you for another great video and book. Im happy your channel is growing so more and more people read your books and watch your channel. Great education.

  • @kirkhogan2688
    @kirkhogan2688 2 дня назад +6

    Great video as usual paula .
    All six points you made happened in my relationship with my female narcassist,
    Especially her fear of getting old,she was a looker in her day,but was 6 years older than me,she had, breast implants,dental stuff etc etc ,trying to beat getting old,
    I think I was only with her as I was abit younger,
    I'm no Brad Pitt but perhaps it was an ego boost having me on her arm.
    The next thing that resignated with me was she was always ill, and if I didn't sympathies with her , she would go ballistic.
    Her silent treatments were so frequent that eventually I would just do exactly the same,
    I then would say to her " why are you.not talking to me"
    She would say that I made her do it🤣🤣🤣🤣
    My female narcassist ended the relationship which I accepted without argument( I knew something was very odd with her by this stage)she two days later changed the whole thing a 180 degrees on its head ,saying I'd ended it,
    I think she was playing the victim card,with new/old supply,
    Two years no contact, two years narc free
    You are so right paula, I am nw loving my life again, my old cockney bubbley self is back,
    It took along time and I'll never nw the whole situation and would rather not now know, which I think means I'm nearly fully healed,
    Something I can honestly say I didn't think would ever happen.
    Read Paula's book it's a good read and I thoroughly enjoyed it,
    It answers the questions you ask even after the relationship has ended
    I'd like a podcast on why my female narc told me she had cancer ,I took her away to keep her mind off it,I was told I was the love of her life,then dumped after she had ,had tests done three days later after we was back,
    She said she was in hospital( I think not)
    Keep the videos coming paula,👍👍👍👍

  • @freespirit9806
    @freespirit9806 2 дня назад +9

    A Narcissist is 100% ego / mind based. Only the things we can see, smell , taste ,hear or touch is what these people will acknowledge . The mind denies there is any other dimension . But there is another dimension and that is Awareness , which is the substratum of every “ thing”. It is Source. The True Self. We intuitively KNOW. This but the mind cannot grasp this

    • @quietspace5408
      @quietspace5408 2 дня назад +2

      Agree! All ego! Dealing with a grandiose narc brother & his covert narc girlfriend. It’s surreal having to visit with them. From the time you get to their house it’s an endless parade of look at us, how great we are! Look at all our new stuff, look at what we’re going to do next, look at my new clothes, look I just got another raise, look, look, look! Endless😢 no interest in anyone! Extremely jealous of anyone who might have something different. So sickening. Trying to stay away as much as possible. Gray Rock!

  • @colmanlong1032
    @colmanlong1032 2 дня назад +5

    You have it spot on Paula.Once you figured them out,youll spot them a mile off,the old saying too sweet to be Wholesome is so true.its like when theirs a power cut they turn to the generator.

  • @wendylou8963
    @wendylou8963 2 дня назад +9

    I had figured out he was having an affair and then flip! He left and moved in immediately with his new woman. 10 months out and I'm so happy for it!!!

  • @highplainsdrifter699
    @highplainsdrifter699 2 дня назад +10

    Great channel, thanks for all the knowledge which has helped me a lot to begin the healing that i needed...

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      🙋‍♀️🌹

  • @fortune.
    @fortune. 2 дня назад +5

    Thank you. Your words and this video helped me at a very crucial time when I needed to hear this. You are incredibly spot on with it all. The madness. All the best.

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад +1

      You are so welcome

  • @suzettewalsh2854
    @suzettewalsh2854 2 дня назад +5

    Your fabulous Paula ty

  • @FourWinds-Nathan
    @FourWinds-Nathan 2 дня назад +4

    Settling down to watch this 😊

  • @cherylgregory6027
    @cherylgregory6027 2 дня назад +3

    Thanks Paula, such valuable detail as always, regarding the disordered behaviour of the Narcissist. So difficult to accept their way of thinking. The experience does indeed make you stronger. Bless lovely Remy. x

  • @AlexLindley-u5f
    @AlexLindley-u5f 2 дня назад +4

    The Personal element is so much appreciated - your inflections say so much !

  • @mimigrabner4486
    @mimigrabner4486 День назад +1

    When I left my brother and my brother who were both Narcissistic abusers. I just ran away. My Mom is also a Narcissist and she was abusive. I had to back away slowly and then I just literally got on a bus and I never looked back. I did cover all my bases with my Mom. I had time. My brother and ex-Best Friend of 31yrs... When I started to see there masks crack and fall off. It was like a trigger of fear of being abused again. So I just ran away.

  • @ezdeezytube
    @ezdeezytube 2 дня назад +4

    I get the narc channel dogs Remy and Gus confused because they are both so chill! I've never heard either one bark during a podcast =)

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      Cool dudes the pair of them 🐕🥰

  • @Jodo901
    @Jodo901 День назад +2

    I commented a while back on one of your videos and I just wanted to thank you again and comment on this one now as well. So indeed, thank you so much for posting all that you do and offering your perspective. There is a deep importance to this understanding that you are sharing and the conversations that victims of narcissistic abuse have with one another. Like any abusive situation it's difficult to understand the nuances and depth of it if you haven't experienced it personally.
    Some of the things you said in the beginning of this video gave me a bit of insight about the end of my relationship with my narcissist ex that I hadn't made connections about before. It's about 17 months now since I ended the relationship. There has been no contact. Due to where we live and no common friends or relatives he would have to drive 40 minutes to see me. Which is something his ego couldn't accept, of course. At the time I hadn't even been conscious of the things I was doing preparing myself to end thigs. In fact from my perspective I was still very hopeful for the relationship. This was someone I was expecting to spend the rest of my life with. I feel like my instinct and my spirit was positioning me for the inevitable and my mind was the last part of me to catch up. From what you said in the video I understand now that he sensed I was pulling away. He was preparing to attempt that reengagement. Then when I tried to start engaging in conversations about our relationship issues it all started to unravel. When someone loves you, they listen. They at least try to understand. That's what loving beings do. We convey our understanding of what someone has tried to explain to us back to them. If we got it wrong we ask them to be patient and explain it again until we get it right. Rather than trying to understand and work through things he just became defensive and accusatory. It was so clear how his only concern was for what he was feeling. What "I" was putting him through. How much he was "giving" when he wasn't giving anything at all. Meanwhile, complete disregard for the things I was saying to him and what I was trying to help him understand in the hope of working things through. It's a very bizarre experience to tell someone the things you are hoping will heal you both and have that spit back at you. To understand that you've done every possible thing you could to reach this person who you love and there's nothing there. You've given them every possible benefit of the doubt and the person you thought was there is just not coming around.

  • @AlexLindley-u5f
    @AlexLindley-u5f 2 дня назад +3

    All makes sense ! 100% Spot On as always
    Thanks for taking the time to share and post !!.
    Brilliant !!!.
    Its the Strangest Concept- but here we are !
    Wishing you Great Success and all you want.

  • @tracyspence680
    @tracyspence680 2 дня назад +3

    Never considered some of the points made here - 💯 accurate!!!!!

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      🙋‍♀️🌹

  • @DeaconBeanCooter
    @DeaconBeanCooter 2 дня назад +3

    We love your shares! Thank you! Love to see you discuss silent treatment turning? Into estrangement.

  • @Betulaaah
    @Betulaaah 2 дня назад +3

    Thank you Paula, invaluable share, so helpful, & your section about the person recovering & flying high, how you shared that ‘oh my oh goodness’ was just awesome, because absoballylutely, precisely, our unbreakable spirit even if we ourselves didn’t know before, it was beautiful actually, declaration of life & how to be & live as ourselves, wiser but still ourselves. Yeah. And as for you reading your book in your voice, wonderful, not one for personal comments, but in this case, just know, you have a beautiful voice with a really lovely soft accent & the sound of your voice is actually very soothing too. So, addressing such a serious, traumatic & damaging relationship & the process out of it, i personally think you deciding to read it yourself will add a whole other level to the listener’s experience & especially as you yourself have come through this experience & are sharing your knowledge, understanding & insight for everyone else. Essentially using your voice to narrate is another gift given for all of us 🌸

  • @elderlypoodle9181
    @elderlypoodle9181 6 часов назад

    Oh! My mother. A fantastic talk today. 🙏🏻❤️

  • @MrNatural73
    @MrNatural73 2 дня назад +4

    ❤❤❤❤ You are A Blessing.

  • @milnerfielduncovered1072
    @milnerfielduncovered1072 День назад +1

    I’m wondering…. He was always accusing me of giving him anxiety….. because I stood up for myself… after the first couple of mini discards …. I started retreating… putting in boundaries.. I never really asked him for anything…. We didn’t live together so I had my own space and I stopped inviting him round….I think maybe even though I started out being a grade A supply once I started to figure him out I started to unknowingly protecting myself….. so I believe I could have given him more than one narcissistic injury….. of course that theory could be bull and he was just playing the victim anyway…. Either way I’m still no contact… coming up to 5 months 🙌 glad to hear your doing audio with the book …. I’ve read it already 😂 but I’ll definitely be listening to the book again…. once released.. it will be a good way to relax and re live the revelations 😊❤

  • @ΒάσιαΚουμουνδούρου

    Εχεις τοσο δικιο,ελεγε σε ολους οτι καταφερε τελικα να με παρατησει,περιμενε μπραβο.Σιγα να μη τον λυπηθω τον σιχαμενο,που πιστευε οτι θα αυτοκτονουσα κιολας.....ας φαει τη σκονη μου!!!!

  • @damedulys
    @damedulys День назад +1

    Thank you so much Paula 🤍🙏🏻✨ your experience and information are so valuable for me ☺️ Blessings for you and your family 🐶

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  19 часов назад +1

      Same to you! 🌹

  • @junaid_hussain
    @junaid_hussain 2 дня назад +1

    18:08 "Humans are perfectly inhuman"
    You have just re-defined Narcissism for books to come. You are a legend Paula !!! The world just don't know it yet.
    Your choice to correct it to 'Humans are perfectly imperfect' highlights the subtle influence of narcissism on us all.

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      You may have a point on the slip of the tounge 🌹

    • @junaid_hussain
      @junaid_hussain День назад

      @@NarcCon I don’t miss anymore :)

  • @haneefahmuhammad3447
    @haneefahmuhammad3447 2 дня назад +3

    As I am reading your book, I can hear you speaking as if I'm watching/listening your RUclips videos. Its a great idea to use your voice...

  • @hellenicstudentcommunity299
    @hellenicstudentcommunity299 День назад +2

    Paula can you do a podcast about the recovery process from a traumatic relationship with a narcissist. After the end of my relationship i observed a memory loss (hippocampus), splitting of the brain (inability to think clearly), losing your saul (that was something terrible), fear, isolation, silence, lack of concentration, indifference to what as a person i used to do, what happens to the body, to the brain from a medical point of view in such conditions , why can't the person from one point feel and listen to his inner self anymore. What someone can do to recover (practical) in everyday life, step by step and the most important how someone can reconnect with his inner self again (because that seems far away from the traumatized person) when you feel that you dont have the will, the energy of the will to do its like you are dead and alive at the same time, intuition and recreate the inner compass which seems broken by the shock of a narcissistic behavior such as anger, immorality, belittling, yelling, mental breakdown (you feel like your nervous system is breaking down and you feel like you're the crazy one in the relationship). Thank you Paula

  • @Stacy-j3c
    @Stacy-j3c 12 часов назад

    You're beautiful to see and soothing to hear in Columbia, TN
    Thank you!

  • @susanmcmahon4733
    @susanmcmahon4733 День назад

    THANK YOU Paula for another GREAT video.

  • @markrussell7069
    @markrussell7069 16 часов назад

    Thank you for your insights and support. I do look forward to seeing your videos to learn more about this personality disorder. I find you pleasant to listen to, and your information helps me so much. Thank you for giving us a window into your pleasant and cosy home.

  • @sherryday2062
    @sherryday2062 2 дня назад +2

    I enjoy listening my situation is not a relationship but it is a family member and unfortunately she keeps taking the children.

  • @MargaretAnnBird
    @MargaretAnnBird 2 дня назад +3

    Always felt he had paranoia, also over sensitive on his body image. He discarded me as he said I was too independent and wanted me 24/7 only me, not my friends or family

    • @alguedemer
      @alguedemer 2 дня назад

      My narcissist mother definitely has paranoia.

  • @bethetruth1842
    @bethetruth1842 2 дня назад +1

    Cool
    Let's
    Bring It On!
    🎉

  • @hannakarpf4955
    @hannakarpf4955 21 час назад

    thank you, Paula! as always, love your most informative and interesting videos!

  • @nopereradicator
    @nopereradicator 2 дня назад +2

    Can confirm, word on the street is he had to leave me. My recording says different.

    • @alguedemer
      @alguedemer 2 дня назад

      Same here. He said he threw me out. I left him! And anyway, we weren't living together, I live in the UK. He lives in France...

    • @nopereradicator
      @nopereradicator 2 дня назад

      @@alguedemer Well they won’t let a little thing like geography stop them, will they?

    • @alguedemer
      @alguedemer День назад

      @@nopereradicator He's too lazy to come over here. He got lost coming here the only time he tried. I had to rescue him as he couldn't get his sat nav to resume. Typical.

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 2 дня назад +1

    Thank you 🙏 Paula.

  • @reverentalexanderchezeley-6367
    @reverentalexanderchezeley-6367 День назад

    Super Empaths and Heyoka Empaths are a terrible fear for NPD's, hardly likely they'll meet one of my Heyoka Empath brethren though.
    We're extremely rare.
    Thanks Paula.
    Great video.

  • @neal-stewart834
    @neal-stewart834 2 дня назад +1

    the benifactor will be behind me i won't give him/her a name ,my holywork is the connection. peace out

  • @lyndakavanagh9779
    @lyndakavanagh9779 День назад

    I have realised after listening to everything over the last few weeks that you have been teaching that i have been living with a narcissist. I believe that it's only my faith in the Lord Jesus Christ that has kept me this far. I have a panic disorder and suffer from physical health problems. I've now reached a point whereby i now have boundaries i feel no love for my husband only pity. When he's talking i now hear a completely different language it's like my senses have become more heightened. I can now see the emotional backwards and forwards i see the absolute truth behind his false narrative. I can't even be in the same room as him anymore because every sense in me is in absolute opposition to him i physically can't do it i can feel him sucking the life out of me even if he's being ok. I want him to leave the house is mine and I'm financially independent from him. He's never worked the whole of our married life he would be potentially homeless if i threw him out now. I've told him in no uncertain terms he has to get a job which he has agreed and I've told him that he's no longer going to use and abuse me on any level. He gave the same rehearsed verbal garbage which i completely switched off from internally and to be honest was yawning inside. I just don't know how to stop the physical anxiety whilst I'm waiting for him to get a job and get the heck out of my house. Sorry for the long message. I feel liberated and i really don't care what lies he tells when he's gone or to whom he tells it to.

  • @shirlspark_stardust
    @shirlspark_stardust День назад

    I always told the narcissist that he is a sinner and will never be perfect and will never ever find perfection no matter how much he tries to find it in anyone" God is the only one who is perfect".

  • @bhekibhengu337
    @bhekibhengu337 День назад +1

    I know what i will say here might not add up,what i noticed with being in an intimate relationship with a narcissist,you start having bad lucks,i noticed while i was in that everytime i slept with her i will start having bad lucks even at work,my life get bit messy like there is an over hanging dark cloud on me,if she is not around for some days my things gets better,now i no longer with her everything goes smooth everything i am trying to do and doing progresses well,but now i am afraid to engage in a relationship after such experience, knowing someones energy can block your things in life,i don't know how to deal with this feeling even knowing i am healed on other areas but here i am stacked

  • @womanclothedinthesunq7574
    @womanclothedinthesunq7574 День назад

    Thank you , and so much love from Socorro NM.

  • @MsLilymae1
    @MsLilymae1 2 дня назад

    Brilliant!!! As always! You have helped me so much!!

  • @advancedbasicsAB
    @advancedbasicsAB День назад

    Thank you Paula for all you do 💛

  • @ejm922
    @ejm922 День назад

    love the show! sound much better! thank you!

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  19 часов назад

      👍🙋‍♀️

  • @andron967
    @andron967 День назад +2

    It seems wrong that NPD can't be helped very much. And I don't think that as of today it can be. It's very dangerous. The human mind is so very complicated. And what we call NPD is unbelievable to see. I haven't a clue as to anything we can do but cut ties and heal ourselves. And to let others who have been harmed by it realize that they aren't alone. I know that helped me.

  • @lyndakavanagh9779
    @lyndakavanagh9779 День назад

    Thank you Paula I've bought your book. Bless you.

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      Thank you so much Lynda, hope you enjoy it 🌹

  • @PrettyLola-mm4ux
    @PrettyLola-mm4ux 13 часов назад

    Audiobook read by YOU is awesome 🤩 🥳 I LOVE ❤️ your accent I’m in 🇺🇸 US - this is a great podcast 👏🏽👏🏽 thank you!

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  4 часа назад

      Thank you so much

  • @nadaarif5399
    @nadaarif5399 2 дня назад

    Dear Paula, your videos having been my saving grace and helped me so much in my healing journey! God bless you for all you do!
    I was wondering if you could please do a video on malignant narcissism; specifically splitting… also pathological lying…

  • @andreacook6000
    @andreacook6000 2 дня назад

    Thank you so much for another soothing and educational video. Understanding so much more and your videos help me to feel relaxed and less afraid of what is happening. A deeper understanding really helps.
    I purchased your book and starting to read it. Will leave a review when I’m finished.
    Thanks again.

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      Thank you Andrea 🙋‍♀️

  • @paysha7
    @paysha7 Час назад

    It's true. First discard he ignored and triangulated speaking very ill of me. A decade later he came back to love bomb and do exactly the same thing for the second discard.

  • @MarkClay-f6x
    @MarkClay-f6x 2 дня назад +3

    I feel empty

  • @PeterShaw-ne1yq
    @PeterShaw-ne1yq 2 дня назад +3

    The aged NPD folk must have a graveyard of ex's
    before they fold🤔

  • @dianehillier2336
    @dianehillier2336 День назад +1

    I am 5 years out of a narcissistic relationship and am learning how to heal from it… to not be so fearful and suspicious of people. I have let go of a couple of friends as I can see abusive tendencies. But as a Christian I was raised to be non judgmental and loving. The Bible says judge not lest ye be likewise judged so I cannot stop feeling guilty about disconnecting. Help!

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  19 часов назад +1

      Would the bible term for judgement perhaps be more don’t be so superior but do use your discernment..I know it references narcissism and says run for your life 🌹

    • @No-BS1369
      @No-BS1369 19 часов назад

      I had to dig through to find this, but I hope it helps you. To me, it’s basically saying that if you have tried to be a reasonable person with someone who has wronged you, and you gave them several chances to mend their ways but they didn’t, then you’re not being judgmental, you’re simply recognizing that they are your adversary and that you would be better off without them.
      It’s from Matthew Chapter 18. If Your Brother Sins Against You:
      15 m“If your brother sins against you, ngo and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have ogained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established pby the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, qtell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, rlet him be to you as sa Gentile and sa tax collector. 18 Truly, I say to you, twhatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed6 in heaven.

    • @No-BS1369
      @No-BS1369 19 часов назад

      I had to dig through to find this, but I hope it helps you. To me, it’s basically saying that if you have tried to be a reasonable person with someone who has wronged you, and you gave them several chances to mend their ways but they didn’t, then you’re not being judgmental, you’re simply recognizing that they are your adversary and that you would be better off without them.
      It’s from Matthew Chapter 18. If Your Brother Sins Against You:
      15 m“If your brother sins against you, ngo and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have ogained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established pby the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, qtell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, rlet him be to you as sa Gentile and sa tax collector. 18 Truly, I say to you, twhatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed6 in heaven.

  • @Coolingfin
    @Coolingfin День назад

    'Destructive to interact with them' reminds me of dear old Mom after her first born spawned granddaughters. After about a decade of visits requiring hours of driving ending after an hour of insults, put downs, (basically she fell for the malignant narc first born's smear campaign) I decided to protect my sanity by staying away. Then came the "when is your cat going to die? He he." referred to that as giggling like retarded monkeys. No, FLYING monkeys as I have discovered 19 years later. Thank you to everyone like Paula who has helped me uderstand and be able to have a label for this lifetime of psycological abuse. It is generational. Mom was a victim of it too, but she never got the tools to deal with it. I hope she has gotten to reconnect with all of her cat friends.

  • @churrhera
    @churrhera 2 дня назад +2

    During the final discard my sister caught her narcissistic husband literally with his pants down hiding another woman in his bed. Myself as well as another eye witness saw the whole thing. She told his family, everyone, what was going on. He had been publicly exposed. Yet he made sure to be the first to file a protection order 😳 THE CHEEK!!

    • @estherwilson-zg4et
      @estherwilson-zg4et День назад +1

      We experienced the exact same scenario! Deny, deny, deny even though the proof was literslly staring us in the face. And instead of being remorseful, he got violent with us and the next day ran off to Court to file a protection order against us?!?!?! His behavior was unfathomable - until we met you Paula, now it all makes sense. ❤

    • @churrhera
      @churrhera День назад

      @@estherwilson-zg4et wow almost like you & I have experienced the exact same thing 😂

  • @lolachlih3136
    @lolachlih3136 2 дня назад

    Your awesome Paula ❤ thank you bunches ❤

  • @darcybarwick3766
    @darcybarwick3766 2 дня назад +2

    The narc I was with was extremely good looking… no shortage of supply ..

    • @alguedemer
      @alguedemer 2 дня назад +1

      Not mine, not ageing gracefully. Does a job he hates, and only night shifts. Very ageing. His choice.😂

  • @michaelajoseph6856
    @michaelajoseph6856 День назад

    Thank you for yet another very helpful video. I’d like to know how to navigate the life after a divorce from a narcisist when you have children and grand children and still have to work together in helping the young family.

  • @renebernays5774
    @renebernays5774 2 дня назад

    so spot on .... thank you very much

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      You are so welcome

  • @reverentalexanderchezeley-6367
    @reverentalexanderchezeley-6367 День назад

    That's right if people want to be negative then go and join the bloody debating society.

  • @jemilsense3972
    @jemilsense3972 6 часов назад

    Go my book... Awesome Book..

  • @NickLewis-x3d
    @NickLewis-x3d День назад +1

    Curious, do you have any knowledge on the spiritually deviant version?
    I just recently went through one of those and found out afterwards that they used “magic” in the form of spellwork on me.
    Advise?

  • @nopereradicator
    @nopereradicator 2 дня назад +1

    Topic suggestion: If there is, what is the difference between humiliation and shame on the narcissist? Do they affect them in the same ways? I hope this makes sense.

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      Shame is the foundation that hides behind the mask..humiliation permeates the mask temporarily to reignite the shame..just my opinion 🌹

  • @BK-lb8uh
    @BK-lb8uh 2 дня назад

    Thanks!

    • @NarcCon
      @NarcCon  День назад

      🥰🙋‍♀️🙏

  • @99lisadonna
    @99lisadonna День назад

    Remy!

  • @djlistic
    @djlistic День назад

    100% that's what my ex narcissist wife did 2 me..

  • @Drvinnieboombatts
    @Drvinnieboombatts 2 дня назад +1

    I knew it was over with my ex-narc after I discovered the guy she had been sleeping with, gaslighting, and manipulating- became known on the eve of me proposing 😢; said after I had forgiven her: she knows a place in Jamaica we can go for swinging; as if I was not destroyed, and I could make it up by having sex with other women, not only a total lack of empathy for the pain I just endured but a lack of total moral decency to the loyalty of marriage in itself; yea let’s just go have sex and make soul connections with strangers! No virtual of character at all.
    How devastated I am as a person; who looks at the good of mankind

  • @FourWinds-Nathan
    @FourWinds-Nathan 2 дня назад +1

    I hope my ex narc doesn't try and hoover me

  • @gangGreenthumb
    @gangGreenthumb 2 дня назад

    She tells people she left.. her vagas nerve knows the truth.

  • @lyndapower9408
    @lyndapower9408 20 часов назад

  • @annettebierkos7928
    @annettebierkos7928 День назад

    Are you speaking from experience of being with a narcissistic person or have researched narcissistic people?

  • @charmaineandrews5435
    @charmaineandrews5435 2 дня назад +1

    ❤🎉

  • @RobertEsparza-zc2ou
    @RobertEsparza-zc2ou 2 дня назад

    I hope I wasn't being a dumbing, in this neat community

  • @orana23
    @orana23 2 дня назад

    Thankyou Paula. I see the timing of your "topics" so amazing, I see it as you being willing to follow God and those of us needing understanding, gifted by Him and you😌❤️‍🔥❤️‍🩹

  • @gwynethst.francis7041
    @gwynethst.francis7041 2 дня назад +1

    Thanks so much, Paula and Remy. 🐾🫶

  • @shirlspark_stardust
    @shirlspark_stardust День назад

    Good afternoon Paula and sweet Remy I see he found a new spot on the cushion next to mum infront of the fireplace look quite comfy I must say 🤓🤍🤍.

  • @lyndapower9408
    @lyndapower9408 20 часов назад