Everyone in my life was a narcissist except for my wife. Now I see them aging and reaping off what they have sown. And I am finally on top, happy and fulfilled.
It is a jaw dropping experience when you learn that someone in your life is this way. You literally start to see everything in your own perspective and they can't stand it. So much drama arises, and just pure annoyance from them. But truth is truth, and it is a hard pill to swallow for them when you're now not always their "yes men".
I was litterally thinking this...just this morning. We tend to get annoyed with ourselves too thinking how did we not see it. The unusual thing is.....I also then realised that none of her friends or family see it so reassures me that they do play the false role well
I just want to say thank you sweetheart I couldn't have done it without all you self-aware people and with all you counselors but I have a RUclips channel coming out and it's called keeping it real with Phil okay I'm not trying to take any businesses I'm not trying to do anything I'm just trying to get this word out there but it is narcissistic awareness with a Twist people on social media or not real everybody on their is taking your information and they're using it in the wrong way okay because real people aren't on social media and you know who I'm talking about I'm not judging I'm not doing anything Pete you got to get the word out there and it's kind of like it's kind of like a serial killer promoting don't murder okay you see what I'm saying saying people with a high self-esteem and all that are not on social media so there's one way to destroy these people and if you have proof just tell them you're going to put them on social media then see if they call the cops these people are ruining the world they are ruining the world and we have to stop it and thank you very much for your channel because the more and more this happens the more and more it's going to get taken care of thank you if I was good people all work together we can all put our heads together and just keep coming up with new information right thank you
@@IndigoBlue-td9ho "none of her friends and family see it"..they dont, they are brainwashed and so were you. So was i. Its insane. It makes me worry for the next family, or idea or ideal that will fool me. It puts me on my guard, but maybe thats just the PTSD talking.
And then they finally have the balls they need to leave and finally you can rationalize the entire situationship and see how they have manipulated you from day one!!
Most times God doesn’t let us see their suffering because they know our kindness might not bear to see them suffer. Trust me they are. If we actually think back. We will see that they already started suffering small small before we left. I certainly did, and I used to wonder why does this woman have so much bad luck on her lol. Not knowing na their punishment Now just imagine how it is as youre not there to catch their fall. We laugh last
I have 3 kids, the two eldest, 17 and 15, have recently seen the side of their mother that I have known for a couple of years. It is a terrible time for them. She refuses to accept what they want, she moved in with a man after knowing him for three weeks. Now my 9yo is getting lovebombed by mum and the new partner. I try to protect him but sadly the law protects her and I have to stand by an be ready to put his broken heart back together when he realises the truth. Life is hard for the children of these creatures.😢
@@vunafunaki6946 too true. Luckily I have the girls 100% and sent my son one night per week. It takes time to “detox” him after that visit. But good will win my friend!
That is sad I have an ex narcissistic friend and just before we had our final argument she told me her adult daughter had not seen her in a year. The children do find out in the end it may just take a long time.
Really wonderful video. Empathy, reciprocity, intimacy, "we not me", togetherness, partnership - these are all alien concepts. I myself do not believe that any of this catches up to them, as such. I believe it's perhaps more accurate to say that, despite the carefully crafted image they sell to the world for years if not decades, at core they are actually the unhappiest people you will ever know. They just hide it extremely well. And if that works for them, good luck.
Thank you 🙌🏼 I work with older people at times and I definitely see this. They still continue to blame other people for their situations and circumstances, no ability to self reflect, introspect or change their behaviour
After starting to watch videos regarding narcissism after my last break up late last year, I have realized that I have spent the past 25 years with narcissistic women!! My ex wife of 20 years and my last girlfriend of 5! Your videos are bang on everytime. It is difficult for empaths/normal people after you have put so much into a relationship to have to leave. We try and try and think that the other person is going to see the light. Problem is, they only see the dark. They will never change. After spending the past year reflecting on my situation I now fully understand the forces at work when someone is in a relationship with a narcissist. It's almost like I have grown up finally at 58!! Trying to figure out the new me for sure!!
I’m a 60 year old woman that has been married for 35 years and I have been on my knees that entire time asking God to help change the situation with my husband and there has been zero change in fact it’s gotten worse. I’m not blaming God at all for any of it because God has helped me through all of it. The person has to want to change before God will help them change.
My brother sent this text message to me, out of the blue: "I'm f-ng sorry you hate me. I love you with all my heart. You're the only true sister ever." Who the heck thinks they are the other person and that they "know" what the other person thinks and feels? And, what? A veiled slam against the other sister too. This isn't some young man- He's a 61 year old!
P.s.- I didn't respond to his text ^^^. Yet, it does personally bother me the way he "f.o.g."s at others, historically. Uses 'fear', 'obligation', and 'guilt'. Is a classic triangulator, manipulative, and a blamer/shamer Way Too Often.
Emotional toddler + intellectual manipulative Adult + double face DRAMA + Wicked HEART + making CONFUSION and making stress and wait for REACTION ----IF not leave You
Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
I’m in the exact same situation as you. My wife of 16 years just left me unexpectedly two months ago, and is spreading complete lies about me to all her friends and family. I love her so much and have put in every effort to bring her back but she remains very cold. I’m realizing that there’s no getting through to a person like this, once they decide that they are done with you, and they need a new supply, nothing you can say will ever change her mind. Beware that she will try to come back, but you have to say no, or the whole nightmare will start all over again.
They will break you down until you are nothing in their eyes, and you are left broken. They disrespect you,walk all over your boundaries. they will never apologise or take any accountability or responsibility for their actions. They will never,ever change. If you are a victim of a narcissist,run for your life,your future self will thank you. These people are pure EVIL!!!
Do not wish bad karma on anyone. The worst kind of karma is to wish or enjoy seeing or hoping harm on to others. Regardless of what they have done. It will come back on you. Only God can judge. Oddly your anger or want or wish for justice can be felt by a narc. Even from miles away. They will feed on this. Feed on you. Trust me they know. Get off on it. I have seen this too many times, and doing this will only weaken you. Forgive them. Heal. Stay calm. Go silent. Block, go no contact. Get stronger. Learn the Life Lesson for your next relationship. Know what to look for. Move on.
OK, I can't believe what you said in your post because you are 100% correct. I am proof of that. I wished a DUI on my ex female covert narc via karma and weeks later I recieved a DUI myself after the break up. My ex wife wished karma on me and my life fell apart. My dad fell broke his shoulder and hip & is bed ridden, I lost my girlfriend, DUI, and got fired. Now I exist just to pay my debt to sin. I didnt understand the backlash of summoning such powers to engulf me. I've never been this low in my life and I see no way it's getting better.
If you learned from this that is awesome. Forgive. Move on. But maybe the lesson is even bigger than that. Never drink and drive. Please. You could seriously hurt someone and even yourself. You just walked away with a ticket. Be thankful for that. It could have been a lot worse. Take the DUI as a lesson. If there is any real issue that you should take away from this is that. PLEASE DON’T DRINK AND DRIVE
I don't agree on your analogy .say if you do Good things to people they'll wish you well and even pray for you but that has nothing to do with the good rewards you will reap. However, the people you're being good to , ...their wishes and prayer may amplify the results of the reward in accordance to the good you deed to them. In the contrary, if you do bad to people their wishes for justice and karma may amplify to render the result to hit harder , that's why we are ask to ask forgiveness of people we wrong. For example, in the scriptures, most prophets of God pray against the evil doer, say Moses against the Pharoah of Egypt, Noah pray for his people betray which make God to wipe out the entire creation unless the few people who join in the ark. But forgiveness is an immense virtue which comes with big reward..thus if you forgive someone instead of wishing them bad it benefits you from freeing yourself from low vibrational emotions like anger. Forgiveness equals to emotional freedom which is healthy.
Thank you Anouskha. I feel bad again because of a toxic relationship years ago which cant let go emotionally eventho I know on a logical basis that it makes no sense. This video helped. Thank yo again.
I was the first one to realize that one of our friends is a covert narcissist, I was his target. The envy gave him away. The other guys noticed something started calling him Hollywood boy. They seen the acting, I have seen behind the mask. When confronted, he denied everything and disappeared.
I had 2 people envying me. So sick. I always try to treat people as friends but I find it more and more difficult to do as envy doesn't allow some people to be friends with anybody (only with their flying monkeys).
It is an empty justice. If the narcissist actually faces anything resembling comeuppance, the damage to friendships and destruction to people's lives cannot be undone.
I am about to derail the train. I currently have a order of protection against me, and when I walk into court I am going to hand them literally everything they want. I'm asking that this order of protection to be extended
It caught up with them early in life. Tragic for both victims and the narcissist. They really are both victims of fear and greed. We all fail to be what our potential has to offer. But in all social, family ,religious and political societies the most aggressive and manipulative take power. So civilizations etc have a life cycle. It's a lot more than the individual narcissist that collapse in the end.
I’ve just tippled that there might be one in my family not really got a clue how to begin trying to get them out. Not 100% sure they are but listened to these videos it’s really really looking that way
got to take into account that Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection, and it appears that demons enter into people through mirrors, so demons are usually dominating the minds of narcs, it's quite spooky really, I suspected my ex was a narc, it was her love bombing that won me over, and later on, the belittling attitude that put me off her, but, when we lived together, I noticed that she had to spend an hour in front of a mirror before we went out, even just to go shopping, She dumped me a few times during the years we knew each other, maaaan. I was a bell end, lol
I was doing everything for my narc ex, still she had the audacity to say that I didnt do anything for her. My love, my time, my commitment, my mother also showered love to her. But she disregarded everything. One night I cried, then in the morning I broke up with her. As she belonged to an orthodox Indian family, where its very difficult to have a pre marital sex and relationships mostly, she was also lying to her parents about me. I went to her home and told them everything, she was begging me not to do it as her innocence infront of her parents will be over. But I did. And then cut all ties from her...
Wow.... Everything you talked about is spot on with a former female friend (so I thought), of mine. I walked away from her a year ago. and she called me everything you can think of when I pulled the plug. It's a sad thing to watch, but I can't go down that road again. Abuse is abuse.
Thankyou. I like the way you don’t refer to the Narc as male. I’m a male and I have ruined 3 years of my life being with female narcissist. I’m a shell of the man I used to be
many narcist want to use u to tell their problems to but yet provide nothing in return.u many times will find out when u all of a sudden have a problem and need to talk about.they will quickly revert back to talking about themselves.
Disconnected from reality. Mine even said," I will hurt you ", when I first met him. He's hurting himself by taking anabolic steroids. He's on steroids for body building. So fake!
What is it with body builders?! I get that people who seek that kind of physical appearance will have certain personality traits but do they all have to be narcissists? I’m stereotyping but I do think people who gravitate to that sport should be approached cautiously, especially if you think steroids are involved.
They expect themselves smarter. They choose people they can tear down. I am watching one at 53 starting to be confronted. Second Saturn return is gonna hit him hard
To those who believe they can change a narcissist through their own behavior, self-sacrifice, and lessons in emotional logic (you might as well try to look through a wall with your knee...): There's no gold in that mine!
I played the Atty for a whole year defending myself 😢🙄🥴Its over thank God for that and got my peace back finally. Definitely 💯 learned alot about myself and GREATFUL for that! Edit: I'm doing ok mentally and have my peace 🕊️ But he lives 8 doors down and it's the energy I still feel 🤷♀️not bad but it's there. Well he's acting like the "victim" go figure and I'm sending Love and Light with a bit of ⚡in between 😆💖🙏✨
When you say that, a narcissist can’t change, it implies that either they can’t be saved by Jesus because they won’t admit that they’ve sinned or if they’ve come to him they’re definitely saved by him because it’s not their fault that they’re the way that they are, which do you think it is that that’s a very confusing thing for me
It would help if you knew the biblical pharasees were narcissists. They knew that Jesus was God but they hid the truth so they could keep control. Pride is the opposite of humility. The love of the truth is hard for them but nothing is impossible with God. There were few pharasees saved - Paul was one!
My mother used to say that she wanted to be like my wife. My wife is 100% authentic and kind she is not acting this isn't a movie. I used to get hell from my two guy friends because my mother played a flirty Mary Poppins when they came to the door and I wasn't thrilled. They told me I had the best mother in the world and I was ungrateful.
I’ve been having a relationship with a narcissist, promises and stuff, and never follows through and always wanting control on how I keep my nails and always tell me to keep fresh
They might know what they are doing is wrong, they may even be remorseful in their own way, but it seems they aren't able to take accountability and reflect on their behaviors. When they use pity and blame the outside world for their internal battle it is quite hard to not feel bad for the them, but it still won't change them from excusing how they hurt people. They think they are bad people but try so hard to act as if they are good. But they don't understand the underlying foundation of how people relate to each other and so when they "act" with kindness or empathy it doesn't address the trail of rubble they have caused. They don't understand that an apology is not simply saying you are sorry, but the act of listening to the other person and seeing how they may have hurt someone and then caring for the other person's feelings. But they see it a way for them to stop feeling shame and to make you act "nice" to them again. It is challenging for anyone to change ingrained behaviors but you can tell when someone grasps the concept that what they do affects another and even if they make a mistake and hurt someone their awareness will allow them to amend the problem without them trying to save their ego from damage.
It's all coming to an end now for my mother and my sister will soon follow. They have never had close friends or been able to keep a relationship. They will be relying on their kids to have sympathy for them now they are older but their masks have finally fallen
@@mandywalker8641 my mom 's mask is coming down. she is old an let her self go. I don't feel sorry for her 😐. cheated 30 years with a married man. he never left his wife. I told her , " you showed me what not to do. "
Guy I know certainly showed these traits from an early age, really loved to bully, but he's married now, and has relationship issues with his wife. I got a feeling she's seeing what kind of person he really is, and is a little disappointed, perahps divorce eventually.......
hi, just going to throw this out there, how does someone become a narc? like are these behaviours learnt from environment? adopted from family dynamics? or are they born with this 'defect?' also if a narc is acting like someone they are not, is the work of acting in itself a narcisstic profession to some sort? i mean most celebs are narc lets be real...sorry loads of questions...but i'm intrigued to the moon and back
My narcissistic mother's siblings say she has been this way since she was a child. Mean, manipulative and no filter. Everything is always about her. She tries to pit everyone against one another. Constant craziness
When i confronted my partner about what she did to me. How she has nobody in her corner. No friends no family who care. She sends me an email stating she is sick of everyone. She doesnt care anymore. And included a pic of her holding a knife to her own throat. It was all for attention and sympathy. She never hurt herself.
@Ask Anoushka - How much of your work is theory in terms of how they fare when it all catches up with them and how much have you witnessed it first-hand? I've often wondered about that.
What’s the ratio with narcissism in regards to female and male , is it 50 / 50 split or are more females than males ? Or has nobody done a study on the ratio, have a good Christmas nice soul .
I do believe that a narcissist can change. The funny thing about listening to all counselors and therapists is that God seems to not be an integral part of the conversation. God can change anyone who desires to.
Is God still here or leave for an alternate universe or reality in disgust of just how bad most of the human race is. I say this because I have prayed and prayed for years and decades, but have yet to get an answer or any guidance.
They don’t want to change how can they. When no acknowledgment of any wrongdoing this older narcissistic person. Would intentionally say all the time I don’t see anything wrong with what there doing. He was a greedy thief and liar stilling from the government daily. Was proud of what and he doing down right proud of it.
The most important part of your comment is if they desire to change. You are right God can change anyone, the average narcissist doesn't believe in God.They are unwilling to acknowledge something is wrong and get help, so that's why they continue their toxic behaviours.God will never force himself on anyone.Whosever will may come!!
I'm watching this to try and help figure myself out.. I have almost all of these traits, and I've been working on them for a long time.. is there such thing as a self-aware narcissist?
Keep working on them, it's not an overnight change, but gradually self reflecting and educating yourself about narcissistic traits and behaviors and make list of traits of empathy as a substitute for the former. If you're a believe of God, ask God guidance, deliverance because honestly everything a narcissist does is of devil. Because righteous people who God fearing have unconditional love for every being. That why islam teaches that " you cannot be true Muslim until you wish for others what you wish for yourself " hence if a Muslim live by that code he / she must embody understanding, empathy, respect, love, charity and forgiveness and more other soul- nourishing virtues that only those who have faith in Allah will ever taste. True Satan( the devil himself is a narcissist ) when ever someone practices narcissism without remorse or regret their end will be absolute peril,...what will come beyond this present life could be even worse. May God continue to support you on your journey of transformation
My narcissistic Dad, due to the prescription of an antibiotic, quit 40-50 years of drinking and smoking cold turkey. He, as a result, became psychotic and had to be institutionalized for a month; receiving the maximum number of shock treatments they could administer to bring him back to reality again. They sent him home with antidepressants that helped...for about a week. But, he was still a narcissist, and, of course, soon decided he didn't need the anti-depressants, quit them, returned to drinking and smoking, and blaming Mom and I for all his misfortunes, especially being institutionalized. Our lives then became EXPONENTIALLY WORSE that last 10 years of his life (and life was a living hell the preceding 40 years!) I'm sorry, but psychiatric care is not always a godsend. There are some who are beyond help. Psychopaths and narcissists seem to number among the hopeless cases....i do not think they can be helped...only avoided. But people don't even know they are out there, how to recognize them, and how deceptive they can be.
What are your thoughts on putting a hex on a narcissist? We can’t do anything in the physical world cause they’re so good at manipulating other people and playing the victim but what if we put a hex on them?
In their old age!!! That's it... 💫💫💫 Nothing non-narcissists say. Just pure life that is lived. All the anxious, depressed, avoidant, ADHD, OCD, PTSD, CPTSD, borderline people... even maybe the psychotic diagnoses... they all might be the narcissists' victims (from childhood and on). Maybe the psychology and psychiatry are "invented" to blur the lines between the victim and the (sophisticated) offender.
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Everyone in my life was a narcissist except for my wife. Now I see them aging and reaping off what they have sown. And I am finally on top, happy and fulfilled.
It is a jaw dropping experience when you learn that someone in your life is this way. You literally start to see everything in your own perspective and they can't stand it. So much drama arises, and just pure annoyance from them. But truth is truth, and it is a hard pill to swallow for them when you're now not always their "yes men".
I was litterally thinking this...just this morning. We tend to get annoyed with ourselves too thinking how did we not see it.
The unusual thing is.....I also then realised that none of her friends or family see it so reassures me that they do play the false role well
I just want to say thank you sweetheart I couldn't have done it without all you self-aware people and with all you counselors but I have a RUclips channel coming out and it's called keeping it real with Phil okay I'm not trying to take any businesses I'm not trying to do anything I'm just trying to get this word out there but it is narcissistic awareness with a Twist people on social media or not real everybody on their is taking your information and they're using it in the wrong way okay because real people aren't on social media and you know who I'm talking about I'm not judging I'm not doing anything Pete you got to get the word out there and it's kind of like it's kind of like a serial killer promoting don't murder okay you see what I'm saying saying people with a high self-esteem and all that are not on social media so there's one way to destroy these people and if you have proof just tell them you're going to put them on social media then see if they call the cops these people are ruining the world they are ruining the world and we have to stop it and thank you very much for your channel because the more and more this happens the more and more it's going to get taken care of thank you if I was good people all work together we can all put our heads together and just keep coming up with new information right thank you
@@IndigoBlue-td9ho "none of her friends and family see it"..they dont, they are brainwashed and so were you. So was i. Its insane. It makes me worry for the next family, or idea or ideal that will fool me. It puts me on my guard, but maybe thats just the PTSD talking.
And then they finally have the balls they need to leave and finally you can rationalize the entire situationship and see how they have manipulated you from day one!!
100%
Eventually i woke up...after trying trying and trying.🙏
My favorite pastime word 😢😢. I have learned too late. Yet, GOD is Good 😊🎉
And once the mask drops, you can't unsee the truth anymore than you can unring a bell!!
i dont want revenge i just want JUSTICE why should they get away with it 😢😢😢
God does not sleep.😊
Our NO CONTACT is their karma.
they will pay for eternity.
Most times God doesn’t let us see their suffering because they know our kindness might not bear to see them suffer. Trust me they are.
If we actually think back. We will see that they already started suffering small small before we left. I certainly did, and I used to wonder why does this woman have so much bad luck on her lol.
Not knowing na their punishment
Now just imagine how it is as youre not there to catch their fall.
We laugh last
Justice??? Living inside their on skin is karma enough...
Alot of arguments for nothing really drained me , not missing it 🎉
It all caught up to my next narc. Almost 67yrs, had a massive stroke. Laid in his kitchen, for 4 hrs. Hes now in a nursing home. Lost it all!!!
Stay strong and send him grapes in the post😂
@@leonasweny1525 I would be inclined to send a congratulations card too 🤣
I have 3 kids, the two eldest, 17 and 15, have recently seen the side of their mother that I have known for a couple of years. It is a terrible time for them. She refuses to accept what they want, she moved in with a man after knowing him for three weeks. Now my 9yo is getting lovebombed by mum and the new partner. I try to protect him but sadly the law protects her and I have to stand by an be ready to put his broken heart back together when he realises the truth. Life is hard for the children of these creatures.😢
So sad to have God's children in the care of that evil monster the devil himself or in modern term the narcissist
@@vunafunaki6946 too true. Luckily I have the girls 100% and sent my son one night per week. It takes time to “detox” him after that visit. But good will win my friend!
Heartbreaking for children especially. ❤
That is sad I have an ex narcissistic friend and just before we had our final argument she told me her adult daughter had not seen her in a year. The children do find out in the end it may just take a long time.
@@jamescomber5531 parental alienation. So sorry 😔
Really wonderful video. Empathy, reciprocity, intimacy, "we not me", togetherness, partnership - these are all alien concepts. I myself do not believe that any of this catches up to them, as such. I believe it's perhaps more accurate to say that, despite the carefully crafted image they sell to the world for years if not decades, at core they are actually the unhappiest people you will ever know. They just hide it extremely well. And if that works for them, good luck.
Anouska, you rock!! Keep speaking the truth!!❤❤
My narcissist (now ex) engineered what became a reverse discard, and her new supply (married) dropped her like a hot potato after I divorced her!..
ok & . .. ha. 🤫
Thank you 🙌🏼
I work with older people at times and I definitely see this. They still continue to blame other people for their situations and circumstances, no ability to self reflect, introspect or change their behaviour
More words of wisdom to help me heal. ❤
I love her
We fell into the snare my dear.
You are so right.
I see him as pathetic and sad.
Now he wants me now🤷
@@fallon7616 stay away ,remember they never change
@@fallon7616 don’t fall for his hoovering,run away as far as you can
I believe everyone reaps what they sow, good or bad.
Thank you for being there , there"s still beauty in this world !
And ye shall know the truth , and the truth shall set you free . Big love from Manchester UK ❤️🙏🃏 xx
You are absolutely brilliant my lady!
I lived it a few times for I worn my heart on my vest = I was low hanging fruit.
Yes, I was groomed to be low hanging fruit. I don't want to harden my heart - just learn to be discerning and trust Jesus!
@@gailrobinson3853 --the god of this world has so many minions that the attack is relentless -- it's a battle!
I’m a narcissist and I am changing and I discovered it on my own.
I respect and admire you for recognising and posting about this. Genuinely.
Seek God man is not that easy to beat I'm thru it and I'm trying to save more monsters like there is still hope
💡💡💡
Ur not a real narcissist then because they're demon 👿 possessed.. you have personality disorder 😮
Maybe you aren’t ? By all accounts , narcs don’t change . Maybe you just have some narc traits ??
After starting to watch videos regarding narcissism after my last break up late last year, I have realized that I have spent the past 25 years with narcissistic women!! My ex wife of 20 years and my last girlfriend of 5! Your videos are bang on everytime. It is difficult for empaths/normal people after you have put so much into a relationship to have to leave. We try and try and think that the other person is going to see the light. Problem is, they only see the dark. They will never change. After spending the past year reflecting on my situation I now fully understand the forces at work when someone is in a relationship with a narcissist. It's almost like I have grown up finally at 58!! Trying to figure out the new me for sure!!
Truth! Absolute Truth!
Only God can change them ❤
Pharaoh? King of Tyre? Herod? Judas? Only with repentance or maybe resurrection.
So True
That was the main last thing I said to him in my parting.
It's been three weeks and one day, today
But I left (inside) 8 years ago
I’m a 60 year old woman that has been married for 35 years and I have been on my knees that entire time asking God to help change the situation with my husband and there has been zero change in fact it’s gotten worse. I’m not blaming God at all for any of it because God has helped me through all of it. The person has to want to change before God will help them change.
lol, no “god” can change a Narc. If you’ve had one in your life you will know.
They are not blind, but yet, they do not see!
During his cycle of self pity he runs to his sister
Emergency supply ie : pity.
@@nessauk2786 that's what I was thinking 😕🙄😥😳
My brother sent this text message to me, out of the blue: "I'm f-ng sorry you hate me. I love you with all my heart. You're the only true sister ever."
Who the heck thinks they are the other person and that they "know" what the other person thinks and feels? And, what? A veiled slam against the other sister too.
This isn't some young man- He's a 61 year old!
P.s.- I didn't respond to his text ^^^. Yet, it does personally bother me the way he "f.o.g."s at others, historically. Uses 'fear', 'obligation', and 'guilt'. Is a classic triangulator, manipulative, and a blamer/shamer Way Too Often.
@@sv-yh3mqhahaha okay does anyone know what the _____k! you’re talk’n bout now
Emotional toddler + intellectual manipulative Adult + double face DRAMA + Wicked HEART + making CONFUSION and making stress and wait for REACTION ----IF not leave You
Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I’m in the exact same situation as you. My wife of 16 years just left me unexpectedly two months ago, and is spreading complete lies about me to all her friends and family. I love her so much and have put in every effort to bring her back but she remains very cold. I’m realizing that there’s no getting through to a person like this, once they decide that they are done with you, and they need a new supply, nothing you can say will ever change her mind. Beware that she will try to come back, but you have to say no, or the whole nightmare will start all over again.
The more you listen to this channel, you know she is an expert on this topic.
They will break you down until you are nothing in their eyes, and you are left broken. They disrespect you,walk all over your boundaries. they will never apologise or take any accountability or responsibility for their actions. They will never,ever change.
If you are a victim of a narcissist,run for your life,your future self will thank you.
These people are pure EVIL!!!
Thanks Anouska for your information 👍
Do not wish bad karma on anyone. The worst kind of karma is to wish or enjoy seeing or hoping harm on to others. Regardless of what they have done. It will come back on you. Only God can judge.
Oddly your anger or want or wish for justice can be felt by a narc. Even from miles away. They will feed on this. Feed on you. Trust me they know. Get off on it. I have seen this too many times, and doing this will only weaken you.
Forgive them. Heal. Stay calm. Go silent. Block, go no contact. Get stronger. Learn the Life Lesson for your next relationship. Know what to look for. Move on.
OK, I can't believe what you said in your post because you are 100% correct. I am proof of that. I wished a DUI on my ex female covert narc via karma and weeks later I recieved a DUI myself after the break up. My ex wife wished karma on me and my life fell apart. My dad fell broke his shoulder and hip & is bed ridden, I lost my girlfriend, DUI, and got fired. Now I exist just to pay my debt to sin. I didnt understand the backlash of summoning such powers to engulf me. I've never been this low in my life and I see no way it's getting better.
If you learned from this that is awesome. Forgive. Move on.
But maybe the lesson is even bigger than that. Never drink and drive. Please. You could seriously hurt someone and even yourself. You just walked away with a ticket. Be thankful for that. It could have been a lot worse.
Take the DUI as a lesson. If there is any real issue that you should take away from this is that.
PLEASE DON’T DRINK AND DRIVE
Their karma is that you are no longer in their life and there's no way they will never get back in your life.
I don't agree on your analogy .say if you do Good things to people they'll wish you well and even pray for you but that has nothing to do with the good rewards you will reap. However, the people you're being good to , ...their wishes and prayer may amplify the results of the reward in accordance to the good you deed to them. In the contrary, if you do bad to people their wishes for justice and karma may amplify to render the result to hit harder , that's why we are ask to ask forgiveness of people we wrong. For example, in the scriptures, most prophets of God pray against the evil doer, say Moses against the Pharoah of Egypt, Noah pray for his people betray which make God to wipe out the entire creation unless the few people who join in the ark. But forgiveness is an immense virtue which comes with big reward..thus if you forgive someone instead of wishing them bad it benefits you from freeing yourself from low vibrational emotions like anger. Forgiveness equals to emotional freedom which is healthy.
Thank you Anouskha. I feel bad again because of a toxic relationship years ago which cant let go emotionally eventho I know on a logical basis that it makes no sense. This video helped. Thank yo again.
PLEASE CONTINUE TO SHARE YOUR TRUTH.
Hi Anoushka.
Thanks for sharing and informing people.
Please continue with the topic.
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I was the first one to realize that one of our friends is a covert narcissist, I was his target. The envy gave him away. The other guys noticed something started calling him Hollywood boy. They seen the acting, I have seen behind the mask. When confronted, he denied everything and disappeared.
I had 2 people envying me. So sick. I always try to treat people as friends but I find it more and more difficult to do as envy doesn't allow some people to be friends with anybody (only with their flying monkeys).
My husband used to call my sister Ms Perfect. I didn't catch on until 50 years later!! I get it now! 😂🤣
As soon as you call them out they scurry away like a cockroach when the lights are turned on
Well said and true.
I love you so much
Spot on again. I disagree with your last video I watched but you are awesome, keep it up
Thank you for the advice,much love to you and everyone ❤
It is an empty justice. If the narcissist actually faces anything resembling comeuppance, the damage to friendships and destruction to people's lives cannot be undone.
thank you
I am about to derail the train. I currently have a order of protection against me, and when I walk into court I am going to hand them literally everything they want. I'm asking that this order of protection to be extended
It caught up with them early in life. Tragic for both victims and the narcissist. They really are both victims of fear and greed. We all fail to be what our potential has to offer. But in all social, family ,religious and political societies the most aggressive and manipulative take power. So civilizations etc have a life cycle. It's a lot more than the individual narcissist that collapse in the end.
Guess this explains why the ex covert narcissist barely talked and gave short brief answers. Because he didn't want to tell on himself.
Spot on!
True.................. 110% TRUE.............
I’ve just tippled that there might be one in my family not really got a clue how to begin trying to get them out. Not 100% sure they are but listened to these videos it’s really really looking that way
got to take into account that Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection, and it appears that demons enter into people through mirrors, so demons are usually dominating the minds of narcs, it's quite spooky really, I suspected my ex was a narc, it was her love bombing that won me over, and later on, the belittling attitude that put me off her, but, when we lived together, I noticed that she had to spend an hour in front of a mirror before we went out, even just to go shopping, She dumped me a few times during the years we knew each other, maaaan. I was a bell end, lol
A narcissist will NEVER self reflect, you’re just wasting your time. Mark my words “NEVER”!!
I was doing everything for my narc ex, still she had the audacity to say that I didnt do anything for her. My love, my time, my commitment, my mother also showered love to her. But she disregarded everything. One night I cried, then in the morning I broke up with her. As she belonged to an orthodox Indian family, where its very difficult to have a pre marital sex and relationships mostly, she was also lying to her parents about me. I went to her home and told them everything, she was begging me not to do it as her innocence infront of her parents will be over. But I did. And then cut all ties from her...
Wow.... Everything you talked about is spot on with a former female friend (so I thought), of mine. I walked away from her a year ago. and she called me everything you can think of when I pulled the plug. It's a sad thing to watch, but I can't go down that road again. Abuse is abuse.
unless ur a little b! yo - see for me “ it ok because i like the abuse awayyynow yeaahh” -offspng
Bring it on...hope they get whats coming good video..ive had plenty dealings with one
I often think of how Howard Hughes had such a tragic end of life despite all the money in the world.
what?
Thank you!
In the long run, we all get what we give. Narcissists give malintent. They'll get malintent.
wow could your “tone” be anymore unenthusiastic- prob working for one of’em
Thankyou. I like the way you don’t refer to the Narc as male. I’m a male and I have ruined 3 years of my life being with female narcissist. I’m a shell of the man I used to be
many narcist want to use u to tell their problems to but yet provide nothing in return.u many times will find out when u all of a sudden have a problem and need to talk about.they will quickly revert back to talking about themselves.
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Their alleged fabulosity fades.☠️ 😈👍
Disconnected from reality.
Mine even said," I will hurt you ", when I first met him.
He's hurting himself by taking anabolic steroids. He's on steroids for body building. So fake!
Big arms & angry combined with a small wasted away dick can make a girl sick.
What is it with body builders?! I get that people who seek that kind of physical appearance will have certain personality traits but do they all have to be narcissists? I’m stereotyping but I do think people who gravitate to that sport should be approached cautiously, especially if you think steroids are involved.
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Low self esteem.. Much ego.
he u should link him up with that paul guy on here . . yeah i hear hes super into that (the paul guy)
I can only hope you are right. 16yr married to one before she found fault to divorce. I was in my new house 6 weeks. I hope she never gets closure.
They spend a long long time in front of the mirror, practicing fake expressions
Or they record their voice over and over to master their manipulaton tone
Narc’s are like parasites or leaches - when they’re found out by someone they just move onto the next host.
They end up lonely and in pain
Insightful 😊
They expect themselves smarter. They choose people they can tear down. I am watching one at 53 starting to be confronted. Second Saturn return is gonna hit him hard
To those who believe they can change a narcissist through their own behavior, self-sacrifice, and lessons in emotional logic (you might as well try to look through a wall with your knee...): There's no gold in that mine!
I played the Atty for a whole year defending myself 😢🙄🥴Its over thank God for that and got my peace back finally. Definitely 💯 learned alot about myself and GREATFUL for that! Edit: I'm doing ok mentally and have my peace 🕊️ But he lives 8 doors down and it's the energy I still feel 🤷♀️not bad but it's there. Well he's acting like the "victim" go figure and I'm sending Love and Light with a bit of ⚡in between 😆💖🙏✨
I don’t think it ever catches up with them. They are empty to the end.
Yep all Of their lies!
YAHOO! good news
It doesn’t always catch up with them. Of course it always does in the after life
She started dating my best friend like 3 weeks after. Ive been only 5 month with that girl and i'm still lost. Lost 2 people.
I don’t want revenge, I want them to leave me alone but they won’t
Narcissism caught up with her the moment I decided to kicked her out of my life for good, she just didn’t realize it.
When you say that, a narcissist can’t change, it implies that either they can’t be saved by Jesus because they won’t admit that they’ve sinned or if they’ve come to him they’re definitely saved by him because it’s not their fault that they’re the way that they are, which do you think it is that that’s a very confusing thing for me
It would help if you knew the biblical pharasees were narcissists. They knew that Jesus was God but they hid the truth so they could keep control. Pride is the opposite of humility. The love of the truth is hard for them but nothing is impossible with God. There were few pharasees saved - Paul was one!
So true ☝
My mother used to say that she wanted to be like my wife. My wife is 100% authentic and kind she is not acting this isn't a movie. I used to get hell from my two guy friends because my mother played a flirty Mary Poppins when they came to the door and I wasn't thrilled. They told me I had the best mother in the world and I was ungrateful.
eww wth!? wait idwtk
Very relateble
I’ve been having a relationship with a narcissist, promises and stuff, and never follows through and always wanting control on how I keep my nails and always tell me to keep fresh
hahah uhhhh. . . nah know what just nvrmnd 😂😂😂 i can’t serious
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Thats very true
It's more than mental... it's spiritual.
Absolutely amazing video you have just described my ex-girlfriend perfectly
Karma never disappoints.. ❤
Takes so long though.
Not if you don't worry about it@@lisahead6868
They might know what they are doing is wrong, they may even be remorseful in their own way, but it seems they aren't able to take accountability and reflect on their behaviors. When they use pity and blame the outside world for their internal battle it is quite hard to not feel bad for the them, but it still won't change them from excusing how they hurt people. They think they are bad people but try so hard to act as if they are good. But they don't understand the underlying foundation of how people relate to each other and so when they "act" with kindness or empathy it doesn't address the trail of rubble they have caused.
They don't understand that an apology is not simply saying you are sorry, but the act of listening to the other person and seeing how they may have hurt someone and then caring for the other person's feelings. But they see it a way for them to stop feeling shame and to make you act "nice" to them again. It is challenging for anyone to change ingrained behaviors but you can tell when someone grasps the concept that what they do affects another and even if they make a mistake and hurt someone their awareness will allow them to amend the problem without them trying to save their ego from damage.
It's all coming to an end now for my mother and my sister will soon follow. They have never had close friends or been able to keep a relationship. They will be relying on their kids to have sympathy for them now they are older but their masks have finally fallen
@@mandywalker8641 my mom 's mask is coming down. she is old an let her self go. I don't feel sorry for her 😐. cheated 30 years with a married man. he never left his wife. I told her , " you showed me what not to do. "
Guy I know certainly showed these traits from an early age, really loved to bully, but he's married now, and has relationship issues with his wife. I got a feeling she's seeing what kind of person he really is, and is a little disappointed, perahps divorce eventually.......
i bet not bro
This was helpful to me. I do have a question. What comprises their fantasy world? I don’t really comprehend this idea.
hi, just going to throw this out there, how does someone become a narc? like are these behaviours learnt from environment? adopted from family dynamics? or are they born with this 'defect?' also if a narc is acting like someone they are not, is the work of acting in itself a narcisstic profession to some sort? i mean most celebs are narc lets be real...sorry loads of questions...but i'm intrigued to the moon and back
We ALL hide behind certain personas. Self reflection is a very handy talent
Lots of different reasons but it always go back to childhood trauma
My narcissistic mother's siblings say she has been this way since she was a child. Mean, manipulative and no filter. Everything is always about her. She tries to pit everyone against one another. Constant craziness
When i confronted my partner about what she did to me. How she has nobody in her corner. No friends no family who care. She sends me an email stating she is sick of everyone. She doesnt care anymore. And included a pic of her holding a knife to her own throat.
It was all for attention and sympathy. She never hurt herself.
@Ask Anoushka - How much of your work is theory in terms of how they fare when it all catches up with them and how much have you witnessed it first-hand? I've often wondered about that.
Woo hoo! 1st 😃
Lol 😂 someone had to be 1st 🏆
What’s the ratio with narcissism in regards to female and male , is it 50 / 50 split or are more females than males ? Or has nobody done a study on the ratio, have a good Christmas nice soul .
I do believe that a narcissist can change. The funny thing about listening to all counselors and therapists is that God seems to not be an integral part of the conversation. God can change anyone who desires to.
Is God still here or leave for an alternate universe or reality in disgust of just how bad most of the human race is.
I say this because I have prayed and prayed for years and decades, but have yet to get an answer or any guidance.
They don’t want to change how can they. When no acknowledgment of any wrongdoing this older narcissistic person. Would intentionally say all the time I don’t see anything wrong with what there doing. He was a greedy thief and liar stilling from the government daily. Was proud of what and he doing down right proud of it.
The most important part of your comment is if they desire to change.
You are right God can change anyone, the average narcissist doesn't believe in God.They are unwilling to acknowledge something is wrong and get help, so that's why they continue their toxic behaviours.God will never force himself on anyone.Whosever will may come!!
, God may or may not exist
People can change on their own without a spirit lingering around
I'm watching this to try and help figure myself out.. I have almost all of these traits, and I've been working on them for a long time.. is there such thing as a self-aware narcissist?
Keep working on them, it's not an overnight change, but gradually self reflecting and educating yourself about narcissistic traits and behaviors and make list of traits of empathy as a substitute for the former. If you're a believe of God, ask God guidance, deliverance because honestly everything a narcissist does is of devil. Because righteous people who God fearing have unconditional love for every being. That why islam teaches that " you cannot be true Muslim until you wish for others what you wish for yourself " hence if a Muslim live by that code he / she must embody understanding, empathy, respect, love, charity and forgiveness and more other soul- nourishing virtues that only those who have faith in Allah will ever taste. True Satan( the devil himself is a narcissist ) when ever someone practices narcissism without remorse or regret their end will be absolute peril,...what will come beyond this present life could be even worse. May God continue to support you on your journey of transformation
Wish I could talk with you
They know exactly what there doing & what there saying deceiving scamming, they PLOT & PLAN there crap they dish out.
My narcissistic Dad, due to the prescription of an antibiotic, quit 40-50 years of drinking and smoking cold turkey. He, as a result, became psychotic and had to be institutionalized for a month; receiving the maximum number of shock treatments they could administer to bring him back to reality again. They sent him home with antidepressants that helped...for about a week. But, he was still a narcissist, and, of course, soon decided he didn't need the anti-depressants, quit them, returned to drinking and smoking, and blaming Mom and I for all his misfortunes, especially being institutionalized. Our lives then became EXPONENTIALLY WORSE that last 10 years of his life (and life was a living hell the preceding 40 years!) I'm sorry, but psychiatric care is not always a godsend. There are some who are beyond help. Psychopaths and narcissists seem to number among the hopeless cases....i do not think they can be helped...only avoided. But people don't even know they are out there, how to recognize them, and how deceptive they can be.
Nice fiddle leaf fig ficus.
Nice video very true l think we all know a narcissist 😂
What are your thoughts on putting a hex on a narcissist? We can’t do anything in the physical world cause they’re so good at manipulating other people and playing the victim but what if we put a hex on them?
I was married to a Narc....he knows l am going to win. Paganism is so very powerful
We are best pals, l may even re marry him !
Put on the armor of God... Stand firm with the belt of truth
In their old age!!! That's it... 💫💫💫 Nothing non-narcissists say. Just pure life that is lived. All the anxious, depressed, avoidant, ADHD, OCD, PTSD, CPTSD, borderline people... even maybe the psychotic diagnoses... they all might be the narcissists' victims (from childhood and on). Maybe the psychology and psychiatry are "invented" to blur the lines between the victim and the (sophisticated) offender.
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