I changed my number and we live apart in different cities about 1 hour away , I went dark on Social Media and closed my accounts . I just want to stay under the Radar right now while working on healing and finding myself again.
Everyone has a breaking point, and it's not like it's out of the blue either. They saw it coming, and didn't care. Quite the opposite, they turn up the heat. Wish them well and move on.
that was my experience. i literally told her that i would have to take the kids away from her for over a year before a major violence incident occured in front of the kids, and that was my queue to GTFO!
Truer words. I tried for 59 years to be a good daughter. When I decided enough I went no contact with my mother and lost my sister by default. Only continued forgiveness of the matriarch would keep this mess together and I was done.
Yes that puzzles me. They are given warning like me moving into the spare room three times over the years and telling them how their behaviour affects the relationship. Then when I finally left they act shocked. What is that about? .
Not easy to talk about because you don't see it coming, never hurt them, and then they don't like the exact same person for years. I'm out. Quietly going no contact. Sad. But life is a mixed bag. I know who I am and like myself for having strong morals, and am happy. Run Forest Run
@@mr.anderson3369My mother, my sister, my son’s mother, and my cousin are all malignant narcissists. I understand the game far too well - and I disengage because it’s just not worth it
What she says is true. However long you know your narcissist or personal bully, they do not possess the capacity for change. They never understand the depth of the damage they do to you. Once you've had enough and you move on, it takes them some time to miss you. THEY MISS putting you down so they can stand taller [on your head], they run out people to victimize, they don't get as many calls or answers anymore; therefore, they seek you out. Old faithful who falls into the rabbit hole they dig. Once you _truly_ move on, you start hearing questions. "Why don't you?" "How come you don't answer my calls?" "Don't you remember all that I did for you?" The list goes on. Don't feel guilty if you owe them nothing and they need to take personal stock and owe you apologies. LIVE YOUR LIFE.
When you disappear and go no contact like forever...drives them batty. They obsess and ruminate about you. They become emotionally stunted and feel not sufficent enough, they become paranoid and experience delusions. You have hurt them and their ego, and sense of grandiosity. Big narcissistic collapse.
@@Prometheuspredator After which they will do anything to seak revenge for such hence the stalking and fake accounts,friends requests.They require your adulation to survive.
@@nessauk2786 True. I went no contact and have had nothing to do with them for years. I cut off the relationships secretly and said nothing. They can stalk me, smear my name, obsess about me and the whole gamet, but l don't care. I don't owe them anything. I live my life with peace and happiness and that is what I care about.
@fredaankobia4447 Most definately very dangerous as that is why I mentioned going contact...forever. To never return their attempts to contact you...total blackout.
He will never get a chance to soeak to me, he's blocked on all fronts. Even if he walked past me and spoke, I will act like he doesn't exist . I will not entertain a demon, game over!
They do that, acting all sweet. Ex called me 8 times in a row, after I left, saying he feels guilty etc. this is after like a month previously when he called me up and screamed at me accusing me of cheating on him and stealing his money. He subsequently found it hidden in a cupboard in a room that I didn't have the key to. The accusation, not knowing my character, after financially contributing to the home, whilst he was not even working, was more off putting than the verbal rage. I had plenty off opportunity to cheat because he would turn his back in the bedroom yet I never did. Put off forever.
Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.
I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
Hey Anoushka! Another great video as per usual. I’ve got an older sibling where what you’ve explained fits like a glove. As far as I’m concerned, she can smear me all she wants. She even comes into public spaces where she knows I will be. All this makes no difference to me because as far as I’m concerned, she’s dead. I don’t want nothing to do with her. The peace that I have without her is wonderful and I’m loving it. Keep doing your thing Anoushka! Much love to ya!🥰
What clear to the point, incredibly accurate video regarding narcissist and what they do to people. Wow! I’ve watched many videos…but I have never felts such relief… relief in understanding. Thank you so much.
My girlfriend was in a relationship with a narcissist for three year. He were physically and emotionally abusive. After she finally called it quits, initially he was sending her messages saying "I am so glad it's over" along with other nasty messages that involved a bit of swearing. When he realised that she wasn't coming back to him and things were over for good, the situation got very sticky, especially for the both of us. It wasn't nice at all, I copped a lot of threatening/abusive messages, he then tried attacking us on Facebook, then going around town saying things about us to people we knew. I'm pretty sure other people reading this comment might have been through the same thing.
Excellent message. The narc formerly in my life followed the pattern you described, including hoovering, surreptitious smear campaign, and recruiting a flying monkey to smear me in public three times.
They are highly competitive.I tried to explain to him how uncomfortable I felt being stared at by a gay man whilst sunbathing he said " dont you think I have gay men coming on to me"? You cannot get understanding from them its ridiculous.Holidays are a nightmare with them in or out of a relationship.
@@Prometheuspredator Yes, adding to that he had spent some time in prison and I think this is when he had encountered those advances.On the whole it was the envy and competitiveness that made him leak that truth.He sadistically enjoyed leaking truths on me if he thought it would hurt my feelings also.
She tried that twice and I didn’t respond to her either times she just wants to win…What she doesn’t understand is IDC at all. I’m in control of my own self, my purpose and my destiny❤
6:00 "If they do anything more than three times, it is officially on purpose." If "they" give me the silent treatment, I will learn to stop missing them.
You might not stop missing them but you would be better off moving on past the narcissist, I would say about 80% will just never change. As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist it took me many years just to come to terms with the fact of what I am and begin to work on myself... And it was only through God's Miracles that I did.
Hi Anoushka. Thanks for all the work you do. My relationship with a friend I thought he was a friend 😢 entre in the role of a fly monkeys. . In discrediting me when I cut the communication, he came back for my birthday with a message 😂 I block him for life. Accepting there's corrosive people and nasty people around us. Honestly, I hope people understand what you mean. They are dangerous . ❤❤
@@Rowganlife They thrive on any community-based power system, it doesn't have to be religious. Reddit mods, discord moderators, store managers, doctors, police officers, nurses, priests. Any position of power.
@@blinkyy1088 agreed, but with religion, people believe their "souls" are in the balance or usually something to that effect. which heightens the stakes, so to speak.
I recently terminated what I thought was a 40-yr friendship because it wasn't a friendship. I was just being used for the narcissist to get their supply.
When you leave them they have to deal with the reality of who they are they think you are playing games but you are finished you can't get through or reason with them so that's the only alternative
I don’t want to be cynical or sound too critical, but narcissists, for the most part, are incapable of thinking logically so, therefore, it doesn’t matter what they are thinking. My experience shows me that they become, without any properties of logical mentation, more abusive because that’s all they seem to be capable of.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist {I should probably cover this on my channel} but you are 110% correct! You are not cynical -you are factual because to be honest with you so many times logic would have made my life better... But anger overruled logic, anger and rage seem to be the only thing that was logical at the time when I was deeply entrenched in my disorder two and a half years ago.
They are like leaches you can’t get rid of! U tell them the score and they continue to ignore your boundaries and keep breaking them down till u give into their narrative!
25 years of his nonsense. I divorced him.. blocked and deleted his number! So much time has been wasted. I learned about narcissism in the last so many months of my divorce. He is a covert narcissist. Also learned along the way He is a porn addict of 42 years. Just troubled. Plus I was his first girlfriend go figure!!
I have not seen my mom the narcissist in over four years and I got a knock on the door from the police department is issuing a domestic violence case, a week later, I was served with an elderly abuse case. The level of deception and lies she’s willing to tell is mind-boggling. She claimed that she feared for her life and the judge gave her a guardian. This honestly could be a made for TV movie. I’m 100% sure this is narcissism. Just not sure if I’m dealing with a covert or malignant one.
'Covert' or 'malignant' are just phases of the narcissistic personality disorder decourse. Every NPD person can go 'covert' or 'malignant' for years or months. My 74 yo mother had been in to the 'cvert' mask for the most of her life, but she had been 'overt' inside the home for two decades, from the 50s to now. NPD is a 'dense' psychotic disease. Take care of your self.
@@fabiopapalia wow, I had no idea that you could move around, and I always thought of the phase as a identity. I’m at a point now, where I need to decide if I show the police that the police report was under false pretenses thus giving my mom a felony. I just need her to stop. It’s costing me tons of thousands of dollars and my sanity for both my wife and I.
Woah thats crazy. Sorry to hear that. How brutal of her. She could had sent a flying monkey but Filed such on u? WTH. I am sorry ..that sucks. I hope it all got worked out.
@@deb2319 thank you for saying that all of her lies will be revealed. She’s never publicly had her mask come off and it’s going to be scary to watch. This was a new playbook for her and she should’ve thought twice before she went into a public setting under oath. I will protect my family.
You are right about everything said and behavior never changes. Does over and over what hurts me. Toxic & doesn’t care how I feel because he does the same things. How does a narcissist get along with another narcissist because that’s what the karmic is. Thank you for the video. Interesting and resonates.🤗🙏
Thnx 3 years of bs mind games power and control was a waste of life with a narc! He told me to leave and don’t come back so I did that- no contact block and living my life how I did before I met him! Yesss such a healing process but beautiful with out unnecessary abusive drama!❤
He was reverse discarding me. I left when he wasn't expecting it. Now I'm ERASED. He is moving away, as planned. 14 wasted years on a child in a man's body.
Thank you for this. Your videos are always great. My ex (2 months ago) pulled a reverse discard and has been hanging out with her ex she left for me, 4 years ago. Over the weekend she entered my phone number to get a text receipt for a $28 piece of jewelry. I've been going crazy trying to understand why...this helps to make "sense" of it
I find a lot of women use online dating just for attention and validation. They're not serious, and don't care about wasting another person's time and energy. And if you call them out for that, they love it, because in their twisted calculus, even negative attention is good. This is essentially narcissistic behaviour. One has to wonder, how much attention and validation does someone need before they can feel worthy and good about themselves? And if what they get isn't enough, then they need therapy, not online dating.
I have not heard anything for 9 months been lovely. They just leap to the next guy. But lets be real not repairing yourself after a long relationship will not work with the new supply. But i wish them well im on my own purpose. Im healing well and getting to my best version
My own Mother has destroyed my Childhood, most of my Adult Life including time spent in The British Army…….single, living alone, never Married, no Children, I try not to blame or hate myself or wake up feeling suicidal……
Hi hun, just going through my many thanks list tonight.Thank you and all the amazing people alike, that have kept me alive.Emotional slave, amen, and also im afraid, a white supremist, hiding in the pretence of having a black partner.The racial abuse behind closed doors, unfounded, but all recorded and documented.Big up Rebecca Zung ❤
Why do narc's tell you everything they dislike about you???..then still want you to stay..??absndonment rejection I hear this alot...and wow "you can't find anyone like me" 😮I hear that too..
My man wouldn’t send me my last remaining things since he wouldn’t allow me back in the house when I left him. I had to ask my father to step in. I knew my dad asking him about my tabs and my brain tumor meds would crack him. My dad texted him this and my husband unblocked me and paid my tabs and next day aired them after this what my dad texted him; “Please send me Victoria’s tabs so I can pay them and send them to her. Thanks.” (Done!!!!)
I have checked out emotionally.. totally checked out.. married 38 years to him.. my part is that i believed in him.. my mom set the bar very low for me.. so i tolerated.. finally woke up.. he cant stand that I do not care.. too bad so sad... its a business relationship for me thats it..I feel nothing for him and he sees it and knows it..get myself a part time job a new puppy moving on with my life..
I feel bad for going no contact but I had enough I walked away and said nothing he’s still trying 8 weeks in the emotional abuse got to much I have broke contact so much in the past this is the longest I’ve gone there was no choice in this
Just out of dating a narc woman. When I told her I don't want to continue this because it is harmful for me she went full rage mode, yelled at me for being an a**hole and beat me. I told her there will be no talking before she apologizes for that. Seems to be impossible to her. Now she went cold on me. A week later (today) she wrote how I could have thrown all that away and that she is in love with me... Still no word of sorry. I'm done.
It’s not a fact “ they’ll try to reel you in for sure.” Especially for a narcissist who will be too proud & defiant to do that. And if they do have other supply, they probably won’t at all
1991- I was 27. Lived with my mother. Came home from work to find ALL my clothes & posessions in garbage bags on the curb for the garbage truck. Inside my mother & her best friend having cigarettes and laughing at me. I left her for over a year. After that, communication with her was on MY terms!
I did it tonight! And he just goes in like nothing and says “it’s okay. It’s cool. I just want us to be good people…we don’t have to not speak to each other anymore…” ummm yes we do! NO CONTACT! 8 years too long!
After 28 years, I have now been away from the narcissist and their extended group for 3 years. I don't want to know what they feel. I have not contacted them and have not heard anything from their flying monkeys about them. Now, what happens to me?
I had the narc rage from a friend after she gaslighted me, she told me that was it and unfriended me on social media. I then took the opportunity and I blocked her on everything and deleted her number, no hoovers for me, when I’m done with one of these fiends and there are many, I’m done.
I left her due to infidelity! Here response was I am just as happy with or without you! She said I cheated because you did not seem interested anymore! Her mother has days to live against her fight with cancer!! She laid a guilt trip for that very reason!! What scares me she told me her mother gave her some great ideas on how to poison someone!! She has to care for her father now who abused her when she was a young girl!! Scary situation!!
I literally had a psychotic break I disassociated behind being with a narcissist got locked up n everything hurt loved ones she made me paranoid to a horrible degree I got out did no contact n of course she shows up and been here a lot it's just to lower my guard I don't know how to get away she is very very serious about keeping me
My father will have been smearing me for two years now. Fine. Anyone who believes him isn’t worth my time either. The people who ARE worth my time will suspect, and eventually, perhaps, see.
I have experienced everything u say in the video with my narc ex bf. Whom im still with on/off bc i tried to leave him over 13 times in the relationship. But still i feel trauma bonded to him, he is like a freakin drug. How does one get over the trauma bond??? I do know all his red flags regarding his narc nature.
I struggled too for 6yrs..You have to decide and stick with it. Study Self Love & Consciousness.. Change ur diet to more salads and fruit shakes. U will feel stronger and more condifent to leave. Logic Vs Drugs aka.bad habits. STAY STRONG🎉
My psycho stalked and pinged me 1100 miles away from where I last saw her 10 years later.. but I'm fine in my city she gave up I believe but don't care anymore
Ha me being "bothered" by the narcissist not speaking to me?! Please i would love for them to stop speaking to me..... I have lived my life in this kind of environment but....i am getting help and I will get away And they can "smear" my name/me all they want... The ones who know me, know that im not whatever the narcissist says about me .....thats all that matters 😉
From what I've read and watched on videos, no, there is a small percentage of them that will actually leave you completely alone for good. For most, you can go days, weeks or even years, but eventually, they do come slithering back to try to hoover and then potentially smear all over again if the hoover does not work. It seems to depend on how long and how many supplies they can get. But eventually, for a large share of them, after losing an important supply, the thought of you comes back up and they have to test the waters to see if you will let them back in. Nostalgia I would guess. Sorry, that is just what I have read and seen from multiple sources. Your best bet is to relocate far away from them, change your phone number, email, completely different social media accounts or just close those accounts and never sign up for new ones. Pretty much end relationships with anyone that both of you were mutually good friends with and thoroughly vet people that knew both of you. With the exception of friends in which you were much better friends with and she was merely more of just an acquaintance with them thru you. If those friends didn't really care for her, then those friends are probably safe with the instructions of they are to say if asked that they have not talked to you in months or years and really don't know where you went or what you are currently doing. I know it's terrible to ask them to lie, but it is the safest thing for your's and their sanity and safety.
@@rogerwhoareyou wow wow wow wow wow, as a self-aware diagnosed narcissist I have to say as sickening as it sounds you are 110% correct.. They just don't know when to quit and they won't quit because it's an absolute need for supply! They will always keep checking and always try to come back (@rogerwho areyou) this has been the most factual comment I've ever read online LOL.. I hope your comment gets pinned because I think a lot of people don't realize what you just said, super creepy but straight facts! Thank you.
Please God never ever take them back my ex girlfriend done it with me I'd tryed begging chasing she got worse, so I went no context and thank God I've found a wonderful woman that loves me and I love her we're having a great time together, I don't even love my ex girlfriend anymore I wish her well, she had her chance I didn't lose her she lost me 😊😊😊 amen amen amen amen thank God 🙏
I went thru sheer torture with this person. He made his ex out to be wicked when in hind sight i saw he did her wrong just like he did me. These Narsasist are hurt people who continue to hurt others. Let them throw dirt on my name....FLOWERS WILL GROW🎉 fuk em!
He tells me we are soulmates, a couple, that he loves me, that he adores me...but he will not commit after 13 years.....he lives in England and I live in the USA....this has been going on for 13 years.......even his friends would not speak to him......
Too bad I don’t care! He’s glad I left him he couldn’t control me and I exposed him as soon as I realized what he is., Just left rejected abandoned and Discarded and didn’t and still don’t care!!That Narcissist was gonna try and destroy me! Failed attempt 😂😂😂
In the past i would have packed a bag and left and left now i am in planning mode. My wife backed my son in law up when the v law came. She has a short term memory. He tried to put her in a home. He sold all her things once. Hev tried to steal her property. One morning in the next week when she wakes up expecting coffee will be ready there will be silence. I am so pissed at what he did. Taunting me, not leaving. I feel minf raped. Thank you so so much for these clea explainable videos
Once you're out of narcissism, stay out!
He can smear me all he wants. God knows the truth, and that's all that matters to me.
Amen. Thst is excately the way I feel. Smear away....
@@Prometheuspredator ❤️
I changed my number and we live apart in different cities about 1 hour away , I went dark on Social Media and closed my accounts . I just want to stay under the Radar right now while working on healing and finding myself again.
God job and thinking: Protect Your self at all costs 💥👊🙏🌹💞
best wishes, these people are horrible.
I did the EXACT same thing, since a month already. A lot of strength to you!
I did that 9 year ago. Best decision.
Me too. It was the only way to stay alive. Be well. Flourish.
Everyone has a breaking point, and it's not like it's out of the blue either. They saw it coming, and didn't care. Quite the opposite, they turn up the heat. Wish them well and move on.
Right.
They thought you would never leave but are scared you will.
that was my experience. i literally told her that i would have to take the kids away from her for over a year before a major violence incident occured in front of the kids, and that was my queue to GTFO!
Truer words. I tried for 59 years to be a good daughter. When I decided enough I went no contact with my mother and lost my sister by default. Only continued forgiveness of the matriarch would keep this mess together and I was done.
Yes that puzzles me. They are given warning like me moving into the spare room three times over the years and telling them how their behaviour affects the relationship. Then when I finally left they act shocked. What is that about? .
I see patterns and follow accordingly
My peace is so important
Same here
The narc I was involved with never apologized, he was never wrong.
It is cause he is mentally disabled
They never do
She never was wrong in 20 years
I had never realized before that this vile, toxic behaviour was so common. Thanks for your insight Anoushka.
Not easy to talk about because you don't see it coming, never hurt them, and then they don't like the exact same person for years. I'm out. Quietly going no contact. Sad. But life is a mixed bag. I know who I am and like myself for having strong morals, and am happy. Run Forest Run
I think easy access to education on narcissistic behavior is quickly becoming more common
I feel so isolated pls help
It’s everywhere. And worse now because of social media and the shallow nature of meeting people for sex or whatever.
Here’s a thought - it doesn’t matter. All that matters is you don’t have to listen to them anymore
It helps to understand the game.
“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”
- George Santayana, The Life of Reason, 1905
@@mr.anderson3369My mother, my sister, my son’s mother, and my cousin are all malignant narcissists. I understand the game far too well - and I disengage because it’s just not worth it
What she says is true. However long you know your narcissist or personal bully, they do not possess the capacity for change. They never understand the depth of the damage they do to you. Once you've had enough and you move on, it takes them some time to miss you.
THEY MISS putting you down so they can stand taller [on your head], they run out people to victimize, they don't get as many calls or answers anymore; therefore, they seek you out. Old faithful who falls into the rabbit hole they dig.
Once you _truly_ move on, you start hearing questions. "Why don't you?"
"How come you don't answer my calls?"
"Don't you remember all that I did for you?"
The list goes on. Don't feel guilty if you owe them nothing and they need to take personal stock and owe you apologies.
LIVE YOUR LIFE.
When you disappear and go no contact like forever...drives them batty. They obsess and ruminate about you. They become emotionally stunted and feel not sufficent enough, they become paranoid and experience delusions. You have hurt them and their ego, and sense of grandiosity. Big narcissistic collapse.
@@Prometheuspredator After which they will do anything to seak revenge for such hence the stalking and fake accounts,friends requests.They require your adulation to survive.
@@nessauk2786 True. I went no contact and have had nothing to do with them for years. I cut off the relationships secretly and said nothing. They can stalk me, smear my name, obsess about me and the whole gamet, but l don't care. I don't owe them anything. I live my life with peace and happiness and that is what I care about.
And potentially very dangerous.
@fredaankobia4447 Most definately very dangerous as that is why I mentioned going contact...forever. To never return their attempts to contact you...total blackout.
He will never get a chance to soeak to me, he's blocked on all fronts. Even if he walked past me and spoke, I will act like he doesn't exist . I will not entertain a demon, game over!
She controlled the outcome and the outcome is I ran away..and she really hoovers..unbelievable
They do that, acting all sweet. Ex called me 8 times in a row, after I left, saying he feels guilty etc. this is after like a month previously when he called me up and screamed at me accusing me of cheating on him and stealing his money. He subsequently found it hidden in a cupboard in a room that I didn't have the key to. The accusation, not knowing my character, after financially contributing to the home, whilst he was not even working, was more off putting than the verbal rage. I had plenty off opportunity to cheat because he would turn his back in the bedroom yet I never did. Put off forever.
@ashton1952 well,another interesting story i guess
I don't mind the peace and quiet. And they can stay where they are at. I don't need to be there.
I feel peace in my mind but still living in his home living in my bedroom 😢😊
@daxachampaneri9390 suck for you.
Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.
I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.
Interesting-sounding! How can I most efficiently get in contact with a spiritual counsellor that you recommended?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
Their needs & being their emotional slave are key points! 🔑
Thank you Anoushka, l find your videos really, really useful, thank you so much.
Hey Anoushka! Another great video as per usual. I’ve got an older sibling where what you’ve explained fits like a glove. As far as I’m concerned, she can smear me all she wants. She even comes into public spaces where she knows I will be. All this makes no difference to me because as far as I’m concerned, she’s dead. I don’t want nothing to do with her. The peace that I have without her is wonderful and I’m loving it. Keep doing your thing Anoushka! Much love to ya!🥰
What clear to the point, incredibly accurate video regarding narcissist and what they do to people. Wow! I’ve watched many videos…but I have never felts such relief… relief in understanding. Thank you so much.
My girlfriend was in a relationship with a narcissist for three year. He were physically and emotionally abusive. After she finally called it quits, initially he was sending her messages saying "I am so glad it's over" along with other nasty messages that involved a bit of swearing. When he realised that she wasn't coming back to him and things were over for good, the situation got very sticky, especially for the both of us. It wasn't nice at all, I copped a lot of threatening/abusive messages, he then tried attacking us on Facebook, then going around town saying things about us to people we knew. I'm pretty sure other people reading this comment might have been through the same thing.
Excellent message. The narc formerly in my life followed the pattern you described, including hoovering, surreptitious smear campaign, and recruiting a flying monkey to smear me in public three times.
Yes narcissists are very predictable and once you know -you know ..Once you see the patterns you might not ever unsee them.
Thank you! Walk away with your head held high and stay silent ❤️🤷🏻♀️💯😎💪🙏🌹
On point! Especially the part of "getting their needs met" tks Anoushka for doing this video!
They are highly competitive.I tried to explain to him how uncomfortable I felt being stared at by a gay man whilst sunbathing he said " dont you think I have gay men coming on to me"? You cannot get understanding from them its ridiculous.Holidays are a nightmare with them in or out of a relationship.
Do you think this was the perfect opportunity for him to tell you something about himself? To tattle on himself as this is common narcissists.
@@Prometheuspredator Yes, adding to that he had spent some time in prison and I think this is when he had encountered those advances.On the whole it was the envy and competitiveness that made him leak that truth.He sadistically enjoyed leaking truths on me if he thought it would hurt my feelings also.
Ummm is that why after nearly 3 months the txt "hope your ok."...then tried to take it back after i didnt reply quick enough?! Lol the cheek of it..🤪
Amazing how predictable they are.
Yup mine does this most attempts. It's really sick once you've figured it out, then it's not hard to exit grey rock and not participate.
Brilliant !!!
This video sticks with me because of all the truths be told.
Bless you and yours.
She tried that twice and I didn’t respond to her either times she just wants to win…What she doesn’t understand is IDC at all. I’m in control of my own self, my purpose and my destiny❤
When a narcissists goes into a narcissistic rage, sometimes their eyes literally turn black. It's called Devil's Eyes.
Thank you
Anouska for a great video ❤
6:00 "If they do anything more than three times, it is officially on purpose."
If "they" give me the silent treatment, I will learn to stop missing them.
You might not stop missing them but you would be better off moving on past the narcissist, I would say about 80% will just never change. As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist it took me many years just to come to terms with the fact of what I am and begin to work on myself... And it was only through God's Miracles that I did.
You do stop missing them after no contact@@NarcissistHex-nf9eq
Hi Anoushka.
Thanks for all the work you do.
My relationship with a friend I thought he was a friend 😢 entre in the role of a fly monkeys.
. In discrediting me when I cut the communication, he came back for my birthday with a message 😂
I block him for life.
Accepting there's corrosive people and nasty people around us.
Honestly, I hope people understand what you mean. They are dangerous .
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I did on a bunch of them. It was toxic. Yes, church can be toxic.
church settings are PRIMED for these types of people.
Narcs and hypocrites was my experience.
@@Rowganlife They thrive on any community-based power system, it doesn't have to be religious. Reddit mods, discord moderators, store managers, doctors, police officers, nurses, priests. Any position of power.
@@blinkyy1088 agreed, but with religion, people believe their "souls" are in the balance or usually something to that effect. which heightens the stakes, so to speak.
Lot of them in AA usually in positions of power.
I recently terminated what I thought was a 40-yr friendship because it wasn't a friendship. I was just being used for the narcissist to get their supply.
Anushka: The angel sent from up above
I was done with 🎉 the nonsense . Got the hell on.
I need to get out too 😢
Am given to understand by her own words . “I do not know who to love you “ , that I’m being played .
When you leave them they have to deal with the reality of who they are they think you are playing games but you are finished you can't get through or reason with them so that's the only alternative
Smearing you is the least of your worries.
These monsters will try to take your LIFE after ruining your LIFE! Run for the hills people!
I hear this😢
I don’t want to be cynical or sound too critical, but narcissists, for the most part, are incapable of thinking logically so, therefore, it doesn’t matter what they are thinking. My experience shows me that they become, without any properties of logical mentation, more abusive because that’s all they seem to be capable of.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist {I should probably cover this on my channel} but you are 110% correct! You are not cynical -you are factual because to be honest with you so many times logic would have made my life better... But anger overruled logic, anger and rage seem to be the only thing that was logical at the time when I was deeply entrenched in my disorder two and a half years ago.
Yup.
They are like leaches you can’t get rid of! U tell them the score and they continue to ignore your boundaries and keep breaking them down till u give into their narrative!
Disgusting and Demonic.
25 years of his nonsense. I divorced him.. blocked and deleted his number! So much time has been wasted. I learned about narcissism in the last so many months of my divorce. He is a covert narcissist. Also learned along the way He is a porn addict of 42 years.
Just troubled. Plus I was his first girlfriend go figure!!
I have not seen my mom the narcissist in over four years and I got a knock on the door from the police department is issuing a domestic violence case, a week later, I was served with an elderly abuse case. The level of deception and lies she’s willing to tell is mind-boggling. She claimed that she feared for her life and the judge gave her a guardian. This honestly could be a made for TV movie. I’m 100% sure this is narcissism. Just not sure if I’m dealing with a covert or malignant one.
'Covert' or 'malignant' are just phases of the narcissistic personality disorder decourse. Every NPD person can go 'covert' or 'malignant' for years or months. My 74 yo mother had been in to the 'cvert' mask for the most of her life, but she had been 'overt' inside the home for two decades, from the 50s to now.
NPD is a 'dense' psychotic disease. Take care of your self.
@@fabiopapalia wow, I had no idea that you could move around, and I always thought of the phase as a identity. I’m at a point now, where I need to decide if I show the police that the police report was under false pretenses thus giving my mom a felony. I just need her to stop. It’s costing me tons of thousands of dollars and my sanity for both my wife and I.
Woah thats crazy. Sorry to hear that. How brutal of her. She could had sent a flying monkey but Filed such on u? WTH. I am sorry ..that sucks. I hope it all got worked out.
@@deb2319 thank you for saying that all of her lies will be revealed. She’s never publicly had her mask come off and it’s going to be scary to watch. This was a new playbook for her and she should’ve thought twice before she went into a public setting under oath. I will protect my family.
😮 tell them to prove it 👿
Thank you very much for your wisdom and insight.. 🙂.. Your encouragement is well received.. God bless you..!!! From New Zealand.. 🐑.. 🕊️🕊️🕊️
You are right about everything said and behavior never changes. Does over and over what hurts me. Toxic & doesn’t care how I feel because he does the same things. How does a narcissist get along with another narcissist because that’s what the karmic is.
Thank you for the video. Interesting and resonates.🤗🙏
Thnx 3 years of bs mind games power and control was a waste of life with a narc! He told me to leave and don’t come back so I did that- no contact block and living my life how I did before I met him! Yesss such a healing process but beautiful with out unnecessary abusive drama!❤
Good video 👍🏻
thank you for making these videos, they are very helpful!
Leave. Live in PEACE not PIECES.
He was reverse discarding me. I left when he wasn't expecting it. Now I'm ERASED. He is moving away, as planned. 14 wasted years on a child in a man's body.
You have won 🏆
On point 🎉
Somehow I've been bragging on the English accent & with good reason I'm totally subscribed & thx luv😘
Thank you for this. Your videos are always great. My ex (2 months ago) pulled a reverse discard and has been hanging out with her ex she left for me, 4 years ago. Over the weekend she entered my phone number to get a text receipt for a $28 piece of jewelry. I've been going crazy trying to understand why...this helps to make "sense" of it
I find a lot of women use online dating just for attention and validation. They're not serious, and don't care about wasting another person's time and energy. And if you call them out for that, they love it, because in their twisted calculus, even negative attention is good.
This is essentially narcissistic behaviour. One has to wonder, how much attention and validation does someone need before they can feel worthy and good about themselves? And if what they get isn't enough, then they need therapy, not online dating.
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
I have not heard anything for 9 months been lovely.
They just leap to the next guy.
But lets be real not repairing yourself after a long relationship will not work with the new supply.
But i wish them well im on my own purpose.
Im healing well and getting to my best version
My own Mother has destroyed my Childhood, most of my Adult Life including time spent in The British Army…….single, living alone, never Married, no Children, I try not to blame or hate myself or wake up feeling suicidal……
Enig Anouska, og god dag 🙂👍
i need hear this going thought this. i see what you are saying get far away and keep going. thank you the help and info.
Hi hun, just going through my many thanks list tonight.Thank you and all the amazing people alike, that have kept me alive.Emotional slave, amen, and also im afraid, a white supremist, hiding in the pretence of having a black partner.The racial abuse behind closed doors, unfounded, but all recorded and documented.Big up Rebecca Zung ❤
Doing that you run the risk of being called a dismissive avoidant...
Thank you ❤ i need to hear this
Why do narc's tell you everything they dislike about you???..then still want you to stay..??absndonment rejection I hear this alot...and wow "you can't find anyone like me" 😮I hear that too..
I FEEL BETTER NOW THAT I LEFT NO MORE BULLSHIT TO DEAL WITH I'M SO HAPPY NEVER AGAIN. 😂
Great video ❤
My man wouldn’t send me my last remaining things since he wouldn’t allow me back in the house when I left him. I had to ask my father to step in. I knew my dad asking him about my tabs and my brain tumor meds would crack him. My dad texted him this and my husband unblocked me and paid my tabs and next day aired them after this what my dad texted him;
“Please send me Victoria’s tabs so I can pay them and send them to her. Thanks.”
(Done!!!!)
I have checked out emotionally.. totally checked out.. married 38 years to him.. my part is that i believed in him.. my mom set the bar very low for me.. so i tolerated.. finally woke up.. he cant stand that I do not care.. too bad so sad... its a business relationship for me thats it..I feel nothing for him and he sees it and knows it..get myself a part time job a new puppy moving on with my life..
I feel bad for going no contact but I had enough I walked away and said nothing he’s still trying 8 weeks in the emotional abuse got to much I have broke contact so much in the past this is the longest I’ve gone there was no choice in this
Just out of dating a narc woman. When I told her I don't want to continue this because it is harmful for me she went full rage mode, yelled at me for being an a**hole and beat me.
I told her there will be no talking before she apologizes for that. Seems to be impossible to her.
Now she went cold on me. A week later (today) she wrote how I could have thrown all that away and that she is in love with me...
Still no word of sorry. I'm done.
It’s not a fact “ they’ll try to reel you in for sure.” Especially for a narcissist who will be too proud & defiant to do that. And if they do have other supply, they probably won’t at all
Exactly how my narc ex is and when I went no contact, I haven’t heard from her since.
Smear me i like me i love myself for once in n my life.
Thank you for helping me reveal my love for myself.
Great feeling
1991- I was 27. Lived with my mother. Came home from work to find ALL my clothes & posessions in garbage bags on the curb for the garbage truck. Inside my mother & her best friend having cigarettes and laughing at me. I left her for over a year. After that, communication with her was on MY terms!
I did it tonight! And he just goes in like nothing and says “it’s okay. It’s cool. I just want us to be good people…we don’t have to not speak to each other anymore…” ummm yes we do! NO CONTACT! 8 years too long!
They will involve multiple parties to try and get you under control..After they have exhausted all their own stalking tactics...
Hard when you have kids, but I’m going to use a parenting app I just wanna slow and quietly
Move on
Thank you
I feel like a part of me is narcissist. I'm in my healing journey because I'm tired of being people pleaser, empath, damn I'm tired
After 28 years, I have now been away from the narcissist and their extended group for 3 years. I don't want to know what they feel. I have not contacted them and have not heard anything from their flying monkeys about them.
Now, what happens to me?
I give the virtual middle finger to attempts at hoovering and ignore the drive pasts.
Not in the least bit interested. 😊
I had the narc rage from a friend after she gaslighted me, she told me that was it and unfriended me on social media. I then took the opportunity and I blocked her on everything and deleted her number, no hoovers for me, when I’m done with one of these fiends and there are many, I’m done.
I left her due to infidelity! Here response was I am just as happy with or without you! She said I cheated because you did not seem interested anymore! Her mother has days to live against her fight with cancer!! She laid a guilt trip for that very reason!! What scares me she told me her mother gave her some great ideas on how to poison someone!! She has to care for her father now who abused her when she was a young girl!! Scary situation!!
I literally had a psychotic break I disassociated behind being with a narcissist got locked up n everything hurt loved ones she made me paranoid to a horrible degree I got out did no contact n of course she shows up and been here a lot it's just to lower my guard I don't know how to get away she is very very serious about keeping me
My father will have been smearing me for two years now. Fine. Anyone who believes him isn’t worth my time either. The people who ARE worth my time will suspect, and eventually, perhaps, see.
I have experienced everything u say in the video with my narc ex bf. Whom im still with on/off bc i tried to leave him over 13 times in the relationship. But still i feel trauma bonded to him, he is like a freakin drug. How does one get over the trauma bond???
I do know all his red flags regarding his narc nature.
I struggled too for 6yrs..You have to decide and stick with it. Study Self Love & Consciousness..
Change ur diet to more salads and fruit shakes. U will feel stronger and more condifent to leave. Logic Vs Drugs aka.bad habits. STAY STRONG🎉
You can do a video ABOUT when I Block him? Suddenly? What he Thinks?
My psycho stalked and pinged me 1100 miles away from where I last saw her 10 years later.. but I'm fine in my city she gave up I believe but don't care anymore
Ha me being "bothered" by the narcissist not speaking to me?! Please i would love for them to stop speaking to me..... I have lived my life in this kind of environment but....i am getting help and I will get away
And they can "smear" my name/me all they want... The ones who know me, know that im not whatever the narcissist says about me .....thats all that matters 😉
What about if it’s been months or years since you’ve been bothered by them? Do they eventually leave you alone?
From what I've read and watched on videos, no, there is a small percentage of them that will actually leave you completely alone for good. For most, you can go days, weeks or even years, but eventually, they do come slithering back to try to hoover and then potentially smear all over again if the hoover does not work. It seems to depend on how long and how many supplies they can get. But eventually, for a large share of them, after losing an important supply, the thought of you comes back up and they have to test the waters to see if you will let them back in. Nostalgia I would guess.
Sorry, that is just what I have read and seen from multiple sources. Your best bet is to relocate far away from them, change your phone number, email, completely different social media accounts or just close those accounts and never sign up for new ones. Pretty much end relationships with anyone that both of you were mutually good friends with and thoroughly vet people that knew both of you. With the exception of friends in which you were much better friends with and she was merely more of just an acquaintance with them thru you. If those friends didn't really care for her, then those friends are probably safe with the instructions of they are to say if asked that they have not talked to you in months or years and really don't know where you went or what you are currently doing. I know it's terrible to ask them to lie, but it is the safest thing for your's and their sanity and safety.
@@rogerwhoareyou wow wow wow wow wow, as a self-aware diagnosed narcissist I have to say as sickening as it sounds you are 110% correct.. They just don't know when to quit and they won't quit because it's an absolute need for supply! They will always keep checking and always try to come back (@rogerwho areyou) this has been the most factual comment I've ever read online LOL.. I hope your comment gets pinned because I think a lot of people don't realize what you just said, super creepy but straight facts! Thank you.
Please God never ever take them back my ex girlfriend done it with me I'd tryed begging chasing she got worse, so I went no context and thank God I've found a wonderful woman that loves me and I love her we're having a great time together, I don't even love my ex girlfriend anymore I wish her well, she had her chance I didn't lose her she lost me 😊😊😊 amen amen amen amen thank God 🙏
He does all this and he has a new girlfriend.. he is so sneaky that the poor new supply has no idea I bet
They think they can dodge God wrath? 😂😂😂
No they think God will forgive them
I went thru sheer torture with this person. He made his ex out to be wicked when in hind sight i saw he did her wrong just like he did me. These Narsasist are hurt people who continue to hurt others.
Let them throw dirt on my name....FLOWERS WILL GROW🎉 fuk em!
He tells me we are soulmates, a couple, that he loves me, that he adores me...but he will not commit after 13 years.....he lives in England and I live in the USA....this has been going on for 13 years.......even his friends would not speak to him......
RUN! He will never commit! I have been there. Lies, excuses etc...
Too bad I don’t care! He’s glad I left him he couldn’t control me and I exposed him as soon as I realized what he is., Just left rejected abandoned and Discarded and didn’t and still don’t care!!That Narcissist was gonna try and destroy me! Failed attempt 😂😂😂
In the past i would have packed a bag and left and left now i am in planning mode. My wife backed my son in law up when the v law came. She has a short term memory. He tried to put her in a home. He sold all her things once. Hev tried to steal her property. One morning in the next week when she wakes up expecting coffee will be ready there will be silence. I am so pissed at what he did. Taunting me, not leaving. I feel minf raped. Thank you so so much for these clea explainable videos
i caught husband cheating and he stormed out,.stop talking to me and left. And now, his mad at me. 😮
Anoushka❤
the editing / jumping is too much, can't watch... is that the intent?
Is this natural? All of this narcissistic behavior sounds like a PhD work of knowledge. How does a person learn and master this behavior?
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