Alienation is far too common in today's society and I too have been in this position. That being said, if you are not actively putting yourself into third spaces where you can meet new people, it's not likely that someone will just appear. Remember that there is no shame in making an exaggerated effort to meet new people! You only live once, and trying and failing is better than never even trying. But modern society is pretty fucking isolating man.
Hey girl! Im 20 and have been through this problem on and off before :( You will get through this patch in life, and i send u all the good energy! Its actually unfortunately very common in this day and age to not have friends
I'm sorry this is something tou can relate to. It's just so isolating. I'll be going on yeah 8 this year and it's just getting g harder to make friends as you get older as people have told me :(
I’m experiencing the same thing. It’s difficult but what a healthy outcome realizing you aren’t alone. I’m from VA. Have you tried interest groups? I have. They don’t make a significant difference tbh. But don’t give up bc I’d enjoy making a new friend
I’m unlucky too in finding genuine friendships. Had some friendships that ended up bad only because they were mostly fake. In my case, I enjoy my solitude because I get the chance to do many things I like. I read a lot of interesting books and also practice art which is something that brings me a lot of joy. I suggest you to try new hobbies like I did. Don’t waste time on your phone scrolling on social media. It will amplify your sadness and need of friends.
Definitely trying to go on social media less and not mindlessly scroll so much. I've also been getting back into my old hobbies and interests lately, it just sucks that I have no one to share my opinions or thoughts about it with hah
I feel like most of the comments are either saying "it'll get better" (sorry but no one KNOWS that), or saying they have it bad/worse also, or assuming you're not putting enough effort (which has been the worst part for me personally as someone who put in HELLA effort and still gets told "bEt yOuRe nOt tRyInG eNoUgH" even though most of them all got friends just naturally). I think you're right, people need to stop assuming things about people who don't have friends, like we must be assholes or weird af or sm. I hope things change for you, but also the fact that you've already had to go this long alone is not what you deserved, and even finding friends later doesn't make up for that. So I'm sorry you've gone through this too.
Thank you for this. It's sad so many people relate and I understand why people say "it gets better" maybe for you it did, but it's been 7 going on 8 years for me and I see no getting better tbh. I really want to try but it's so hard. I'm sorry this is sometjjng you relate to 😔
A huge majority of the people on here saying "oh it will get better. . . " ALL have friends, family, etc. Wait till they have to be completely alone. . . I mean absolutely no one to call just doing it alone. Yes, praying helps. 😶🌫
I spent my almost my entire teenage years without a single genuine friend and it destroyed me. It wasn’t until the pandemic that I realized that that needed to change. I felt so isolated. So I had to put so much effort that I wasn’t comfortable with into going out to different places and making friends. I will say this, it’s sooo much harder making friends as adults. But it’s not impossible. As I put my self out there more I developed social skills I never thought I’d be able to. I’m not where I want to be yet but I’ve made way more friends who actually like me than I thought I’d ever have. I still never found that one friend that I connect with 100% but maybe I never will. People won’t always be what you want them to be especially as adults. So I realized that I can be happy making friends no matter who they are. This was just my experience. I’m 22 now and things are much better. I genuinely hope things can turn out good for you. I won’t ever say that you’re not putting in enough effort as I don’t know you. But I can say from experience that giving it everything you got is genuinely worth it. It’s always has its struggles because some times it feel like there’s not point but you have to keep going.
Oh my gosh I'm 19 and I relate to u so much. I wish I knew u irl because I feel like we're actually super similar and could be good friends. It definitely sucks being alone, but I'm glad ur still somewhat hopeful for the future. U seem like a lovely person, and I hope we both can make some friends soon!
21 year old guy here. the way to fix this is to actually reach out to them at first too. you say you dont want to intrude but that is the problem, you are not intruding. you have far to low of a self esteem. i am the same way i have been shy my whole life. in a respectful way you are infact an attractive young woman, you just have to have the confidence to reach out to them. the situation you described is mine exactly but i have 3 work friends and i live with my autistic brother. keep going it will be alright 👍
I'm 25, and I'm so sorry you have to share relatively the same circumstances as me (and many others). Depression and low self esteen in conjunction with working in a hostile work environment and having a hard time finding a better job has left me, more times than not, mentally and emotionally exhausted that staying home after work and not going out sounds like the best option. And when the opportunity to go out and socialize arises my lack-luster self image sabotages any efforts to mingle and have a good time with people (strangers or no), because I just don't think I can handle the possibility of being pushed away or rejected because I already have enough problems on my plate. I can't forsee the future, but I figure I have to just try to keep moving forward because something has to change. Maybe it just isn't my time. Who knows 🤷♂️
girl lol. i wish we were coworkers... i literally have been in the same situation as you. The quote from joe dirt "keep on keeping on" has been my motto. Some days have been harder than others, but as ive gotten older, i've learned to enjoy my own company and that of whoever comes into my life and makes it better, not worse. Stay strong; we all have something to offer and you seem like a cool ass person. Don't let friends define you. Be confident in who you are and don't let shame dictate you. lots of love ❤
I'm 23 and I don't have friends either. I'm disabled and it's pretty isolating. I like to read, write, paint, and play video games. You are not alone. I hope you share your feelings with your sister that you miss her even if she turned you down twice. I think taking a leap of faith in the dark and putting it all out there might work. Sometimes people get caught up with their lives but getting vulnerable might be what twines your relationship back together again. I know you don't really want to but I think it could be worth a try.
Not sure how this video came across my recommended, but I completely and totally understand. I probably haven’t had a real true friend group since elementary school into middle school, and looking back it turns out they didn’t like me lmao. I'm working on one right now, but I feel like I don't really fit in a lot of the time. My name is Summer and I’m 20! If you’re ever open to befriending people over RUclips comments, I would totally be about that :) This is the last video I’m watching before I sleep, I’ve gotta study for midterms tomorrow. But if you ever want to connect over something like Discord and maybe even something like Stardew Valley, I love making new friends (though I’m terrible at it, I’m on the spectrum lol). Anywho, that’s enough time rambling in your comments. This too shall pass. You’ll find your people 🫂
Really sorry you're experiencing this. I'm 26, and I'm similiar in the fact that I've not had any true friends since I was about 18 and left sixth form. I have people on my university course that I sit in lectures with but they aren't really friends. I've being trying a lot to make friends and there are 2 people I'm hoping to befriend! After so long going through the same things (asking people to do things and no recieving a positive responses) these 2 people have actually been the ones to initiate contact with me! Even if these potential friendships go nowhere, it gives me hope and it's a step in the right direction! Something I've been doing is looking for clubs/events locally that suit my interests as I've joined a goat walking group and a german class, which has allowed me to become closer to similar people! I really wish you the best - I would be very happy to be your friend if you'd like! I'm quite depressed with a lot of anxiety so sometimes I do find it a bit hard to reply to people but if that's okay then feel free to talk to me at any point!!
First. Do not be ashamed that you have no friends, there are more people living in the same shoes as you than you think. My last friend disappeared in 2012 and most of my life (57 years old) has just been a line of acquaintances. Friends are rare, people use the word loosely but in reality 98% are friends of convenience but disappear when you need help. In a lifetime, a person only gets about 5 or 6 good friends that they can trust. Second; Relationships/Friendships are like a Baskin Robbins Ice Cream shop. Each person is a customer and a flavor of ice cream. Your flavor is made up of your personality, hobbies, etiquette, etc.; As a customer you have your list of traits you desire in a friend and that is your favorite flavor of ice cream. Vice versa, there are other customers that are looking for someone with their set of traits which is their favorite ice cream. No matter what there is always somebody that loves the flavor you are and someone that is the flavor you love. The trick is making sure the flavor is available when the two cross paths. Three; Relationships and Friends are overrated. Create a list of 20 traits (hobbies, personality, fashion, attitude, etc) that you want in a 'Partner/Friend' then make a list of 20 traits (habits, grammar, fashion, values, hygiene, etc) that you will compromise on and a list that you will not compromise on. After listing the people you know that match the first 20, go through the second and third lists to cut the numbers. Finally whoever is left, review the top 10 most important factors in that first list. If you have more than 5, you are not being honest with yourself.
I agree with all that is said above. To the people whom are lonely and are in need of a friend good luck. There's a reason why there words like "cruel world".
last year i was doing a foundation course on my uni and had couple of friend. and one of them were my very close friend from highschool. so i had some people around me to hang out, but i think bc it was a different country (international student here) i felt bit alone overall, and maybe bc of my friendship i didnt feel close to my uni friends, they were just people to kill time. a year past on now and i had a argue with my highschool friend and not speaking anymore. but living with my brother in a 2 bed studio. dont have a boyfriend or any close friends (or close enough to hang out outside uni). but i have to say i feel more happy than last year. i have two brothers and i speak with them everyday as they are my friends and that is actually enough for me.
Hey there! This story sounds similar to a season I went in through high school, so I understand how hard it is! I suffered with a lot of social anxiety and had a hard time putting myself out there too, so that was the biggest block for me. What I’d recommend is find communities that have shared interests as you! You mentioned you love reading, drawing, and video games. Perhaps you could search for a public library that hosts book clubs or take an art class? My point is, you will find like-minded people in a place where you share an interest. It took me a while to find that group, but once I found it (my theater company), I have a great community of like-minded people around! I know it’s hard to balance having a tough job and getting over the fear of trying new things, so I’ll be praying for you! Thank you for sharing your story! I know it has made many people feel less alone. 💛
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this and I understand where you are coming from due to not having friends throughout high school and even through college but since university I’ve only had a few friends. You will meet someone who will want to be friends with you and if that takes a while it takes a while but just don’t give up
I know how it is, my experience on that is I have some "friends" in my message app and sometimes I hear them when they're having some troubles in their lives and I'm always there to hear them, but when it's my turn they just don't care, when I'm sad they don't wanna hear me, they don't wanna be careful with me, they just view my messages and do nothing about it. I know how it can hurt us and I think this is a result of a sick society, people have been egocentric, people have been focused only on their lives and they don't wanna discover new people to met, to live with and things like that. Anyway, if you couldn't understand something in this comment I'm sorry, because I'm not a native English speaker, but I could undertsand you, I hope you're well and never give up, there's people that love you and this comment is a proof of it.
I'm in the same situation here. I had a few friends in middle school, they all either ghosted me or moved on. I had to switch schools for high school and that was one dark and lonely time in my life. After that I went to work for over a decade but never really made any friends there. It was always me who had to put the effort in talking to others as no one came to me first. And I think you should do the same, just have some patience while you're out there and you might find a friend. Stay strong!
This happened to me a bit later in life. I had 4 best friends from highschool. They all knew each other but they weren't really friends so that put me in 4 friend groups. I always had something to do. Then I went to college out of state, and two of my friends also moved out of state. The two that stayed behind eventually got into harder drugs. It's a long story but by the time i was 28 i was super over their partying BS. So i lost those 2. The ones out of state remained friendly but it's not the same because i couldn't see them. One of them OD'd a few years ago and it's still gut wrenching to think about. The other had a kid and has matured a bit so I'm talking to her again, but I'm moving out of state again so it won't make much difference long term. I'm 37 now and I'm married so my husband is my best friend but other than him i have no one I could just call to chat or anything like that. I'm really hoping I'll find friends after moving. 🤞
You're really strong! I know how difficult it can be for someone to be in this situation. I hope it gets better for you and you find at least one person who's there for you.
you may not have friends right now dear heart, but as you can see you most certainly not alone. learn to meditate kind girl. light up some incense ,put on some relaxing music, feel your way deep into your heart , past all your worries and pain. go beyhond it all , and you will find the greatest friend you could ever hope for. your true divine self
The man of too many friends [chosen indiscriminately] will be broken in pieces and come to ruin, But there is a [true, loving] friend who [is reliable and] sticks closer than a brother.
I am very sorry for what you are going through. I know how it feels to be lonely. I wish you all of the best in life and finding happiness and good friends..
You seem really sweet, I'm sorry you're having this difficulty. I'm quite a bit older but totally relate. You might look into the possibility that your an empath if you haven't already. Empaths have qualities that make people tend to dislike them. If you are one under standing that will probably make things easier for you. Also, this may sound crazy, but I'd consider dropping your childhood friend. If she is always putting you down, she is not actually a friend and could cause you harm. The way you speak and how you described her demeanor towards you suggests to me you may be a deep empath. I wish you the best.
i cant even make friends online i dont know what happened to me its impossible for me to connect to people after so many experiences with bad people who disappoint me whether they are fake or their views dont align with mine leading to fighting. ive just been focusing on hobbies like crochet and baking and cooking everyday but it does get really lonely when i watch a movie or show and i cant tell anyone how good it was :( my mom says ill be fine once i get a job but i am so awkward i want to learn its ok to be on my own. i have one friend but its complicated and besides them i have no one in the past 4 years . people used to call me weird/creepy at school behind my back for not talking/ having friends in class and i dont think its weird its just so lonely
I'm sorry you got called those names :,( it's so soul crushing when you find out that people you don't even know are shit talking you. I've made a few friends thru my job but a lot of the time the jump from "work friend" to "real friend" is almost impossible
Having no friends is one thing, but having no job is another. I hope you find work soon, and that you find more of your meaning of life on the way, whatever it may mean.
It's extremely tough in our society right now to make friends. We don't really have third spaces or areas to...well... meet people. I'm a bit older than you, but if I could recommend one thing it would be to not give up. When you have anxiety it can be super hard to put yourself out there (speaking from experience). Do you at least chat with anyone online? I've met some really good people online that I can at least call my friends(although I have not been able to chat with them for quite some time). It's not quite the same as being able to hang out in person, but it's nice to still be able to chat with people. One thing you mentioned is that you enjoy art, manga, anime, and videogames. If you ever have any local conventions, you might be able to meet some people that share interests with you. Toss in work and conflicting schedules and it makes it super tough to stay social! I can relate to so many things you've said. I hope that things get better for everyone who's in this situation. Stay strong!
I feel ya. There is people that want to be around you. You seem like a solid person. We are all weird so don’t try to fit into boxes anyone expects of you. They are not worth your time. The authentic you is the best version. I can tell you have interesting thoughts and personality. Just be you. 🙂
hey, I don't usually comment on videos (it's kinda a weird thing for me...anyways) this showed up in my recommendations and i'm glad it did. I strongly relate to how you feel. Knowing that at some point life is gonna throw you a bone and you'll be happy with the right people surrounded by all the good things and that it will all work out eventually if you just keep pushing and keep your endurance up, but just waiting for it to come hurts and for me, it hurts being around people knowing that they don't feel as passionately towards establishing a friendship with me as I do with them. it feels like there's a hierarchy that everyone has and that I'm valued the least. hearing the way you put it made me feel a lot less alone. I hope everything works out in the end and I hope rediscovering your passions lead to finding joy in those simple pleasures. And I really like your hoodie too, the Care Bears were a great show!
Thank you for the kind comment, I'm sorry you relate to such a sad topic. You put it so perfectly, how there's an unspoken hierarchy. I feel like I have less value just because I have less experience as a person, never having a best friend or a solid relationship or a real friend group. Thank u for the comment, I love the Care Bears so much :)
you seem like an AWESOME person, and i have no ideal why you dont have friends, but i know for a fact that it gets better. i know thats a very cliche thing to say, but its genuinely true. im sure you'll find friends really soon, just keep swimming! sending love
Thank you for the sweet comment :) I hope it will get better! Maybe after 8 years the universe will decide I've been punished enough and send me a friend haha
Hi ... I know what you are saying. I too suffer from depression, and have all my life. One thing that has helped me greatly was getting involved with certain community groups. It's not guaranteed you will have "instant friends" but it is a way of being among people. A year ago I joined the brass band School of Honk, which is in Somerville, MA. Don't know where you live, but if it's near a city there's likely a chapter of Honk. Doesn't matter if you know an instrument ... you can learn as you go. And it's free! Good luck to you.
I'm kinda in the same boat. I don't really have "friends" irl. I have my cousin who is the only person i call a real friend irl but he's got his own life with his girlfriend so it's not like we can do a lot together often either. I have co-workers who i'd say may be friends? i have people i know who i'd call friends. But I'm the socially anxious introverted person who has a very hard time staying in contact with people on my own terms. Starting to talk with people and organizing things with people i'm not 1000% confortable with is hard for me. I'll only do things with people if they ask me but i always lose people because they either don't ask me often or at all and i have a very hard time doing it myself. (I always think that if they don't ask me then it means they don't want to and i probably shouldn't ask them either.) But I'm lucky to have a good bunch of online friends i met in online games who have similar interests. They've helped me stay happy through my life so far and I don't often feel lonely or anything (i'm also very comfortable spending time on my own so that helps i guess.) I'm ok having no (real life) friends for the most part as well. You seem like a very nice & kind person & I'd love to talk about games or anime or just random stuff you wanna get off your heart.
I get quite a lot of comments of people sharing their own experience on having no friends but ur comment is smthn I really relate to more than others tbh, I feel the exact same, I rlly only have my sister but she has her own life and I have coworkers I'm friendly with but i feel too scarred to ask them to hangout,, they never ask me so I feel the same like ig they don't wanna or else they'd ask hahah .. But I'd love to be friends you seem very sweet :) I have a discord it's @strawbebbiee if u wanna become friends :) I'd love to talk abt anime and games as well :)
I’m 23 and have the same problem. Where I’ve moved around a lot and just can’t keep friends or they just end up stabbing you in the back. It’s ridiculous but I hope one day you find s a friend
my advice, you should talk to your sister about this because she is your sister and siblings are supposed to be helping each other but if she doesn’t want to hang out with you at all I guess online friendships is the way to go? I met some if my online friends irl and they turned out to be great people I’m gonna tell you the harsh truth you might not ever get any real friends its probably not your neither people’s fault some personalities are just different some people just have different opinions and humor you can meet people by.. just going on walks who knows maybe one day someone will randomly compliment you and then you’ll start talking I was waiting for friends to come to a spot many times and random girls started asking me if I’m alone or want to sit with them so there is hope but you also need to focus on the reality and not your imagination of having friends appearance also plays a big role in the halo effect is real I know from experience at least that ever since I started looking “better” people wanted to befriend me more snd more I know this might seem harsh but its what helped me get friends but you do you
I've had quite a few online friends since my teens but that can only satisfy so much. Bc the truth is they have their life and you have yours and you can never be truly good good friends since you can't spend any quality time irl together. At least in my experience
@@Filby444 hmm I mean depends sometimes online friends can be very good its like a long distance friendship but you guys actually never met you tell each other the things that happen in your lives or talk about random stuff calls are pretty much like irl conversations so for me its like a good friendship but no interactions besides talking
I feel the exact same way. I’m 24 too and I feel like it’s so hard to find people to hang out with :( especially the guy thing, it’s hard trusting people to know if they genuinely want to be friends with you. I wish we both bumped into each other in life so neither of us would be alone lol
I have one good friend that I hang out with and actually talk to. I would definitely love to make more friends in the future I just gotta put myself out there more but it definitely takes time and effort. I tend to find myself in this situation feeling like no one wants to be my friend.. there was this one girl I really got along with and tried to reach out numerous times but she’s not a great communicator and constantly would leave me on read. 😭
If I had you as a friend It would be difficult to not gain feelings ..feelings like more than FRIEND .. it would be difficult to keep concentrating and communicating ..shyness would take over ..but I have issues with pushing away from people I like .. psychology says I push away because 14 years of narcissistic abuse .. like emotional psychological invalidation ,verbal, emotional, psychological, physical, sexual and spiritual abuse... also from being gas-lit .. I get thoughts and feeling that convince me I'm not good enough ...and its hard not to believe that especially when i have never experienced being good enough. Only the opposite.. I really like your personality authentic and altruistic you have a high EQ... you seem to be beautiful inside and out.. 😊
i've probably never had real friends. a number acquaintances. but not friends as i would consider it. i do think the higher your awareness, the tougher it is to make friends, even though you'd think awareness would help. but the way you talk sounds like you have a higher awareness. i talk about it with my therapist. i've always have had to coerce my way into connection with people, i'm just through with doing that anymore i think
I have no friends either. Slowly lost them one by one after highschool ended. Also have anxiety and social issues, so hey, I know what you're going through. You're not alone. Be careful with benzodiazepines (xanax)...they're highly addictive and very, very hard to get off of once you are. I use an anti-depressant to help me sleep, mirtazapine, too. Knocks me on my ass, but isn't addictive. It's nice being able to shut my brain off when it's time to sleep. Best of luck.
Hi, I'm 37, and heartbroken after watching this video. Thanks, RUclips (for recommending this)! >_< I'm sorry... There have been many years in my life where I was also without any close friends. Well, close friends, I can even say that at this very moment too, sadly. I don't currently consider any of my friends that close; since we very rarely hang out. Things will definitely get better. You seem like a really great person. Wish I had the answers as to why you don't have more, or closer friends, but I just don't. I've fallen out of contact with so many friends when I moved to a different city. That's always a hard one, but then life usually brings people together that would enjoy hanging out with one another; through work, like you said, school, and just life. If I just came up to you in person and we started chatting, there's no way in hell I would have assumed that you had no friends. And now I'm getting to the end of the video and I'm sad again. I'd be your friend.
I recently became a friendless person after having a lot of friends. I have found I am actually a good person, but i didn't know how to behave like or show that i was a good person. People ended up disliking me because i have a habit of being TOO honest with people. So after about 4 months of denial, anger, now i'm becoming depressed for the first time in my life but i told myself that there's billions of people in the world and that i could always make new friends if i put myself out there. Being friendless isn't always bad, but being UNABLE to make or keep friends IS. im just some random dude on the internet but my opinion of you is that your friendlessness doesn't appear to come from you, but rather from your terrible taste in people. As someone that was extremely popular for being funny, trust me, if you were in any way a POS i would have told you so, because i'm too stupid to lie. I think you're cool so i will subscribe. Just remember that while you may not have friends, those people will suffer too, because they don't have you
Thank you for the kind words :) I'm sorry about your situation, I hope that you can rebuild a friend group again soon! Tho trust me I know that's easier said than done. Ur comment at the end really touched me 🥺 I know I can be a good friend and am fun to be around it's just the getting people to be around and stuff is hard haha thank you again for the comment I appriciate it sm!! 💖
@@Filby444 i am not sure if i want friends at this point. I would rather pay people to just act friendly and then leave when i tell them to. Sure i can be someone's friend, but most people are too soft to be my friend. Money is going to end up being my friend because it will always give me what i want and never leave me. Then again i am a man and we don't really need companionship. Food, water, internet, a job, that is more important than being liked. I guess if i really wanted friends i'd go to the LGBTQ community and claim i'm one of them😅
I don't know how does this come in my feed..but I think some commmon things are there that leads to having friends...i have dealt with this situation and even worse when i was feeling lonely.. that time i had relatives or neighbors to lookfotward to hang out but not a real friends...now fortunately I have one...and even with her i have some differences but the main requirements for close friendships is trust, good behaviors and nsome common grounds. And one thing i learnt is no one will be like u ..so u will have to judge people for sometime and once u know the person their family background u can be close firend...but even then keep some secrets to yourself..remember that
I would be besties with you, I just dont understand why you say you dont have friends. You look like a nice and kind person, also i forgot to mention how pretty you are :).
You matter, please don’t forget that. I’ll be more than happy to be your friend. We can talk on here if you want until I get more social media accounts, or not. Have a wonderful day
you'r sweater is soooo cute ! sorry for not answering on other things :( but if i can suggest something you can try climbing ! eople in climbing gyms are really friendly and want to help each other, it's a good way to make friends !
If you find yourself isolated, you need to hack your environment to force situations with shared contexts. One hack is the having a social hobby e.g. Martial arts, band, choir, sacred harp, improv, dancing, board games, volunteering, even religious orgs, if you can stand it. That's the hack. A social hobby makes conversation easier because you have something to talk about. You can show up religiously, it won't be weird because people want to engage in the hobby with you. If you have loner type hobbies, then you need to a community around your interests. If you have no hobbies, find a social hobby.
No, I've seen videos of people discussing not having friends. I'm so much of a doomer seeing her say she will get a friend or a boyfriend in the future and all that is just a pipe dream you keep on putting off which you aren't doing anything to achieve. I've done that and I'm 42 now and can't say I see ever happening in the future now.
Sorry to hear you feel this way about life currently. Do you think it is possible you have undiagnosed autism? I have people in my life who have lead a normal life and have not had their diagnosis before later in their adult life, 30s and 40s (even older than that). If so, maybe there are some benefits you could apply for. Take care
Don’t lie! Be authentic here and there, I love your hair btw, I’d talk with you, would have to understand I’m not interested in you as a dating partner though I’m waiting for somebody to come back to me.
I'm authentic! I just lie when saying I have friends or hang out with people when I don't haha. I'd love to talk to you aswell, I'm also not free to date as I'm also waiting on someone to come back to me, conveniently. I like the hair in ur pfp :)
You are lucky you are still young. I have no friends, no family, my ex-wife disappeared with my children, I am lucky if I have $100 to live on for a month. So count your blessings.
... I felt about this (all you mentioned) all the same ... this world is fallen ... man ...take Jesus ... he is the only way, the only truth, the eternal life...Try it ! Call on his name, he will give you true peace in your heart, in a condemned and fallen world- I did and I am free in my mind now - no one can give this freedom and peace like he does... come to Jesus
I actually have twice in the past two days now hah. I asked her out for ice cream and then for dinner another day but she said no to both unfortunately :,(
@@Filby444Ask her what works for her schedule. You never know she might be going through some things in her personal like that maybe she wants to shield you from. With kids a lot of times things change very quickly. Make tentative plan but let her know you’d understand if something comes up and schedule another time. Don’t put much feelings or expectations into it. Treat it like you are making an ordinary appointment.
Alienation is far too common in today's society and I too have been in this position. That being said, if you are not actively putting yourself into third spaces where you can meet new people, it's not likely that someone will just appear. Remember that there is no shame in making an exaggerated effort to meet new people! You only live once, and trying and failing is better than never even trying. But modern society is pretty fucking isolating man.
That's the hard part 😭😭 esp for someone like me who struggles with anxiety, going up to people is almost impossible
Hey girl! Im 20 and have been through this problem on and off before :( You will get through this patch in life, and i send u all the good energy! Its actually unfortunately very common in this day and age to not have friends
I'm sorry this is something tou can relate to. It's just so isolating. I'll be going on yeah 8 this year and it's just getting g harder to make friends as you get older as people have told me :(
I’m experiencing the same thing. It’s difficult but what a healthy outcome realizing you aren’t alone. I’m from VA.
Have you tried interest groups? I have. They don’t make a significant difference tbh. But don’t give up bc I’d enjoy making a new friend
I’m unlucky too in finding genuine friendships. Had some friendships that ended up bad only because they were mostly fake.
In my case, I enjoy my solitude because I get the chance to do many things I like.
I read a lot of interesting books and also practice art which is something that brings me a lot of joy. I suggest you to try new hobbies like I did. Don’t waste time on your phone scrolling on social media. It will amplify your sadness and need of friends.
Definitely trying to go on social media less and not mindlessly scroll so much. I've also been getting back into my old hobbies and interests lately, it just sucks that I have no one to share my opinions or thoughts about it with hah
I feel like most of the comments are either saying "it'll get better" (sorry but no one KNOWS that), or saying they have it bad/worse also, or assuming you're not putting enough effort (which has been the worst part for me personally as someone who put in HELLA effort and still gets told "bEt yOuRe nOt tRyInG eNoUgH" even though most of them all got friends just naturally).
I think you're right, people need to stop assuming things about people who don't have friends, like we must be assholes or weird af or sm. I hope things change for you, but also the fact that you've already had to go this long alone is not what you deserved, and even finding friends later doesn't make up for that. So I'm sorry you've gone through this too.
Thank you for this. It's sad so many people relate and I understand why people say "it gets better" maybe for you it did, but it's been 7 going on 8 years for me and I see no getting better tbh. I really want to try but it's so hard. I'm sorry this is sometjjng you relate to 😔
A huge majority of the people on here saying "oh it will get better. . . " ALL have friends, family, etc. Wait till they have to be completely alone. . . I mean absolutely no one to call just doing it alone. Yes, praying helps. 😶🌫
I spent my almost my entire teenage years without a single genuine friend and it destroyed me. It wasn’t until the pandemic that I realized that that needed to change. I felt so isolated. So I had to put so much effort that I wasn’t comfortable with into going out to different places and making friends. I will say this, it’s sooo much harder making friends as adults. But it’s not impossible. As I put my self out there more I developed social skills I never thought I’d be able to. I’m not where I want to be yet but I’ve made way more friends who actually like me than I thought I’d ever have. I still never found that one friend that I connect with 100% but maybe I never will. People won’t always be what you want them to be especially as adults. So I realized that I can be happy making friends no matter who they are. This was just my experience. I’m 22 now and things are much better. I genuinely hope things can turn out good for you. I won’t ever say that you’re not putting in enough effort as I don’t know you. But I can say from experience that giving it everything you got is genuinely worth it. It’s always has its struggles because some times it feel like there’s not point but you have to keep going.
I’m 25 and I’m going through this issue. No friends, it’s lonely
Oh my gosh I'm 19 and I relate to u so much. I wish I knew u irl because I feel like we're actually super similar and could be good friends. It definitely sucks being alone, but I'm glad ur still somewhat hopeful for the future. U seem like a lovely person, and I hope we both can make some friends soon!
I'm sorry you relate to such a sad experience, I wish we could have been friends too :) I hope it'll get better for both of us
21 year old guy here. the way to fix this is to actually reach out to them at first too. you say you dont want to intrude but that is the problem, you are not intruding. you have far to low of a self esteem. i am the same way i have been shy my whole life. in a respectful way you are infact an attractive young woman, you just have to have the confidence to reach out to them. the situation you described is mine exactly but i have 3 work friends and i live with my autistic brother. keep going it will be alright 👍
I'm 25, and I'm so sorry you have to share relatively the same circumstances as me (and many others). Depression and low self esteen in conjunction with working in a hostile work environment and having a hard time finding a better job has left me, more times than not, mentally and emotionally exhausted that staying home after work and not going out sounds like the best option. And when the opportunity to go out and socialize arises my lack-luster self image sabotages any efforts to mingle and have a good time with people (strangers or no), because I just don't think I can handle the possibility of being pushed away or rejected because I already have enough problems on my plate.
I can't forsee the future, but I figure I have to just try to keep moving forward because something has to change. Maybe it just isn't my time. Who knows 🤷♂️
girl lol. i wish we were coworkers... i literally have been in the same situation as you. The quote from joe dirt "keep on keeping on" has been my motto. Some days have been harder than others, but as ive gotten older, i've learned to enjoy my own company and that of whoever comes into my life and makes it better, not worse. Stay strong; we all have something to offer and you seem like a cool ass person. Don't let friends define you. Be confident in who you are and don't let shame dictate you. lots of love ❤
I'm 23 and I don't have friends either. I'm disabled and it's pretty isolating. I like to read, write, paint, and play video games. You are not alone. I hope you share your feelings with your sister that you miss her even if she turned you down twice. I think taking a leap of faith in the dark and putting it all out there might work. Sometimes people get caught up with their lives but getting vulnerable might be what twines your relationship back together again. I know you don't really want to but I think it could be worth a try.
Thank you for normalizing this ❤ I hope you find your way in this.
Not sure how this video came across my recommended, but I completely and totally understand. I probably haven’t had a real true friend group since elementary school into middle school, and looking back it turns out they didn’t like me lmao. I'm working on one right now, but I feel like I don't really fit in a lot of the time. My name is Summer and I’m 20! If you’re ever open to befriending people over RUclips comments, I would totally be about that :) This is the last video I’m watching before I sleep, I’ve gotta study for midterms tomorrow. But if you ever want to connect over something like Discord and maybe even something like Stardew Valley, I love making new friends (though I’m terrible at it, I’m on the spectrum lol). Anywho, that’s enough time rambling in your comments. This too shall pass. You’ll find your people 🫂
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I'd love to be friends!! My discord is @strawbebbiee if you'd like to add me, we can bond over the new stardew update together hehe
Really sorry you're experiencing this. I'm 26, and I'm similiar in the fact that I've not had any true friends since I was about 18 and left sixth form. I have people on my university course that I sit in lectures with but they aren't really friends. I've being trying a lot to make friends and there are 2 people I'm hoping to befriend! After so long going through the same things (asking people to do things and no recieving a positive responses) these 2 people have actually been the ones to initiate contact with me! Even if these potential friendships go nowhere, it gives me hope and it's a step in the right direction! Something I've been doing is looking for clubs/events locally that suit my interests as I've joined a goat walking group and a german class, which has allowed me to become closer to similar people! I really wish you the best - I would be very happy to be your friend if you'd like! I'm quite depressed with a lot of anxiety so sometimes I do find it a bit hard to reply to people but if that's okay then feel free to talk to me at any point!!
First. Do not be ashamed that you have no friends, there are more people living in the same shoes as you than you think. My last friend disappeared in 2012 and most of my life (57 years old) has just been a line of acquaintances. Friends are rare, people use the word loosely but in reality 98% are friends of convenience but disappear when you need help. In a lifetime, a person only gets about 5 or 6 good friends that they can trust.
Second; Relationships/Friendships are like a Baskin Robbins Ice Cream shop. Each person is a customer and a flavor of ice cream. Your flavor is made up of your personality, hobbies, etiquette, etc.; As a customer you have your list of traits you desire in a friend and that is your favorite flavor of ice cream. Vice versa, there are other customers that are looking for someone with their set of traits which is their favorite ice cream. No matter what there is always somebody that loves the flavor you are and someone that is the flavor you love. The trick is making sure the flavor is available when the two cross paths.
Three; Relationships and Friends are overrated. Create a list of 20 traits (hobbies, personality, fashion, attitude, etc) that you want in a 'Partner/Friend' then make a list of 20 traits (habits, grammar, fashion, values, hygiene, etc) that you will compromise on and a list that you will not compromise on. After listing the people you know that match the first 20, go through the second and third lists to cut the numbers. Finally whoever is left, review the top 10 most important factors in that first list. If you have more than 5, you are not being honest with yourself.
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I agree with all that is said above.
To the people whom are lonely and are in need of a friend good luck.
There's a reason why there words like "cruel world".
last year i was doing a foundation course on my uni and had couple of friend. and one of them were my very close friend from highschool. so i had some people around me to hang out, but i think bc it was a different country (international student here) i felt bit alone overall, and maybe bc of my friendship i didnt feel close to my uni friends, they were just people to kill time. a year past on now and i had a argue with my highschool friend and not speaking anymore. but living with my brother in a 2 bed studio. dont have a boyfriend or any close friends (or close enough to hang out outside uni). but i have to say i feel more happy than last year. i have two brothers and i speak with them everyday as they are my friends and that is actually enough for me.
Hey there! This story sounds similar to a season I went in through high school, so I understand how hard it is! I suffered with a lot of social anxiety and had a hard time putting myself out there too, so that was the biggest block for me. What I’d recommend is find communities that have shared interests as you! You mentioned you love reading, drawing, and video games. Perhaps you could search for a public library that hosts book clubs or take an art class? My point is, you will find like-minded people in a place where you share an interest. It took me a while to find that group, but once I found it (my theater company), I have a great community of like-minded people around! I know it’s hard to balance having a tough job and getting over the fear of trying new things, so I’ll be praying for you! Thank you for sharing your story! I know it has made many people feel less alone. 💛
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this and I understand where you are coming from due to not having friends throughout high school and even through college but since university I’ve only had a few friends. You will meet someone who will want to be friends with you and if that takes a while it takes a while but just don’t give up
I know how it is, my experience on that is I have some "friends" in my message app and sometimes I hear them when they're having some troubles in their lives and I'm always there to hear them, but when it's my turn they just don't care, when I'm sad they don't wanna hear me, they don't wanna be careful with me, they just view my messages and do nothing about it. I know how it can hurt us and I think this is a result of a sick society, people have been egocentric, people have been focused only on their lives and they don't wanna discover new people to met, to live with and things like that. Anyway, if you couldn't understand something in this comment I'm sorry, because I'm not a native English speaker, but I could undertsand you, I hope you're well and never give up, there's people that love you and this comment is a proof of it.
I'm in the same situation here. I had a few friends in middle school, they all either ghosted me or moved on. I had to switch schools for high school and that was one dark and lonely time in my life. After that I went to work for over a decade but never really made any friends there. It was always me who had to put the effort in talking to others as no one came to me first. And I think you should do the same, just have some patience while you're out there and you might find a friend. Stay strong!
This happened to me a bit later in life. I had 4 best friends from highschool. They all knew each other but they weren't really friends so that put me in 4 friend groups. I always had something to do. Then I went to college out of state, and two of my friends also moved out of state. The two that stayed behind eventually got into harder drugs. It's a long story but by the time i was 28 i was super over their partying BS. So i lost those 2. The ones out of state remained friendly but it's not the same because i couldn't see them. One of them OD'd a few years ago and it's still gut wrenching to think about. The other had a kid and has matured a bit so I'm talking to her again, but I'm moving out of state again so it won't make much difference long term. I'm 37 now and I'm married so my husband is my best friend but other than him i have no one I could just call to chat or anything like that. I'm really hoping I'll find friends after moving. 🤞
I'm sorry about your friend group :( moving is a great place to have a new start! I hope things go well for you :) thank you for the comment!
You're really strong! I know how difficult it can be for someone to be in this situation. I hope it gets better for you and you find at least one person who's there for you.
I don't know why I always come back here.
you may not have friends right now dear heart, but as you can see you most certainly not alone. learn to meditate kind girl. light up some incense ,put on some relaxing music, feel your way deep into your heart , past all your worries and pain. go beyhond it all , and you will find the greatest friend you could ever hope for. your true divine self
The man of too many friends [chosen indiscriminately] will be broken in pieces and come to ruin, But there is a [true, loving] friend who [is reliable and] sticks closer than a brother.
If only I could find them 😫
I am very sorry for what you are going through.
I know how it feels to be lonely.
I wish you all of the best in life and finding happiness and good friends..
You seem really sweet, I'm sorry you're having this difficulty. I'm quite a bit older but totally relate. You might look into the possibility that your an empath if you haven't already. Empaths have qualities that make people tend to dislike them. If you are one under standing that will probably make things easier for you.
Also, this may sound crazy, but I'd consider dropping your childhood friend. If she is always putting you down, she is not actually a friend and could cause you harm. The way you speak and how you described her demeanor towards you suggests to me you may be a deep empath.
I wish you the best.
thank you for this video this gives me so much comfort knowing I am not alone
i cant even make friends online i dont know what happened to me its impossible for me to connect to people after so many experiences with bad people who disappoint me whether they are fake or their views dont align with mine leading to fighting. ive just been focusing on hobbies like crochet and baking and cooking everyday but it does get really lonely when i watch a movie or show and i cant tell anyone how good it was :( my mom says ill be fine once i get a job but i am so awkward i want to learn its ok to be on my own. i have one friend but its complicated and besides them i have no one in the past 4 years . people used to call me weird/creepy at school behind my back for not talking/ having friends in class and i dont think its weird its just so lonely
I'm sorry you got called those names :,( it's so soul crushing when you find out that people you don't even know are shit talking you. I've made a few friends thru my job but a lot of the time the jump from "work friend" to "real friend" is almost impossible
Having no friends is one thing, but having no job is another.
I hope you find work soon, and that you find more of your meaning of life on the way, whatever it may mean.
It's extremely tough in our society right now to make friends. We don't really have third spaces or areas to...well... meet people. I'm a bit older than you, but if I could recommend one thing it would be to not give up. When you have anxiety it can be super hard to put yourself out there (speaking from experience). Do you at least chat with anyone online? I've met some really good people online that I can at least call my friends(although I have not been able to chat with them for quite some time). It's not quite the same as being able to hang out in person, but it's nice to still be able to chat with people.
One thing you mentioned is that you enjoy art, manga, anime, and videogames. If you ever have any local conventions, you might be able to meet some people that share interests with you.
Toss in work and conflicting schedules and it makes it super tough to stay social!
I can relate to so many things you've said. I hope that things get better for everyone who's in this situation. Stay strong!
I feel ya. There is people that want to be around you. You seem like a solid person. We are all weird so don’t try to fit into boxes anyone expects of you. They are not worth your time. The authentic you is the best version. I can tell you have interesting thoughts and personality. Just be you. 🙂
hey, I don't usually comment on videos (it's kinda a weird thing for me...anyways) this showed up in my recommendations and i'm glad it did. I strongly relate to how you feel. Knowing that at some point life is gonna throw you a bone and you'll be happy with the right people surrounded by all the good things and that it will all work out eventually if you just keep pushing and keep your endurance up, but just waiting for it to come hurts and for me, it hurts being around people knowing that they don't feel as passionately towards establishing a friendship with me as I do with them. it feels like there's a hierarchy that everyone has and that I'm valued the least. hearing the way you put it made me feel a lot less alone. I hope everything works out in the end and I hope rediscovering your passions lead to finding joy in those simple pleasures. And I really like your hoodie too, the Care Bears were a great show!
Thank you for the kind comment, I'm sorry you relate to such a sad topic. You put it so perfectly, how there's an unspoken hierarchy. I feel like I have less value just because I have less experience as a person, never having a best friend or a solid relationship or a real friend group. Thank u for the comment, I love the Care Bears so much :)
you seem like an AWESOME person, and i have no ideal why you dont have friends, but i know for a fact that it gets better. i know thats a very cliche thing to say, but its genuinely true. im sure you'll find friends really soon, just keep swimming! sending love
Thank you for the sweet comment :) I hope it will get better! Maybe after 8 years the universe will decide I've been punished enough and send me a friend haha
Hi ... I know what you are saying. I too suffer from depression, and have all my life. One thing that has helped me greatly was getting involved with certain community groups. It's not guaranteed you will have "instant friends" but it is a way of being among people. A year ago I joined the brass band School of Honk, which is in Somerville, MA. Don't know where you live, but if it's near a city there's likely a chapter of Honk. Doesn't matter if you know an instrument ... you can learn as you go. And it's free! Good luck to you.
I'm kinda in the same boat.
I don't really have "friends" irl. I have my cousin who is the only person i call a real friend irl but he's got his own life with his girlfriend so it's not like we can do a lot together often either.
I have co-workers who i'd say may be friends? i have people i know who i'd call friends. But I'm the socially anxious introverted person who has a very hard time staying in contact with people on my own terms. Starting to talk with people and organizing things with people i'm not 1000% confortable with is hard for me. I'll only do things with people if they ask me but i always lose people because they either don't ask me often or at all and i have a very hard time doing it myself. (I always think that if they don't ask me then it means they don't want to and i probably shouldn't ask them either.)
But I'm lucky to have a good bunch of online friends i met in online games who have similar interests. They've helped me stay happy through my life so far and I don't often feel lonely or anything (i'm also very comfortable spending time on my own so that helps i guess.) I'm ok having no (real life) friends for the most part as well.
You seem like a very nice & kind person & I'd love to talk about games or anime or just random stuff you wanna get off your heart.
I get quite a lot of comments of people sharing their own experience on having no friends but ur comment is smthn I really relate to more than others tbh, I feel the exact same, I rlly only have my sister but she has her own life and I have coworkers I'm friendly with but i feel too scarred to ask them to hangout,, they never ask me so I feel the same like ig they don't wanna or else they'd ask hahah .. But I'd love to be friends you seem very sweet :) I have a discord it's @strawbebbiee if u wanna become friends :) I'd love to talk abt anime and games as well :)
I’m 23 and have the same problem. Where I’ve moved around a lot and just can’t keep friends or they just end up stabbing you in the back. It’s ridiculous but I hope one day you find s a friend
my advice, you should talk to your sister about this
because she is your sister and siblings are supposed to be helping each other
but if she doesn’t want to hang out with you at all
I guess online friendships is the way to go? I met some if my online friends irl and they turned out to be great people
I’m gonna tell you the harsh truth
you might not ever get any real friends
its probably not your neither people’s fault
some personalities are just different
some people just have different opinions and humor
you can meet people by.. just going on walks
who knows maybe one day someone will randomly compliment you and then you’ll start talking
I was waiting for friends to come to a spot many times and random girls started asking me if I’m alone or want to sit with them
so there is hope
but you also need to focus on the reality and not your imagination of having friends
appearance also plays a big role in
the halo effect is real
I know from experience at least that ever since I started looking “better” people wanted to befriend me more snd more
I know this might seem harsh but its what helped me get friends
but you do you
I've had quite a few online friends since my teens but that can only satisfy so much. Bc the truth is they have their life and you have yours and you can never be truly good good friends since you can't spend any quality time irl together. At least in my experience
@@Filby444 hmm I mean depends
sometimes online friends can be very good
its like a long distance friendship but you guys actually never met
you tell each other the things that happen in your lives or talk about random stuff
calls are pretty much like irl conversations so for me its like a good friendship but no interactions besides talking
I feel the exact same way. I’m 24 too and I feel like it’s so hard to find people to hang out with :( especially the guy thing, it’s hard trusting people to know if they genuinely want to be friends with you. I wish we both bumped into each other in life so neither of us would be alone lol
I wish the same! You seem live a very genuine person I'd love to be friends with you 💖
I have one good friend that I hang out with and actually talk to. I would definitely love to make more friends in the future I just gotta put myself out there more but it definitely takes time and effort. I tend to find myself in this situation feeling like no one wants to be my friend.. there was this one girl I really got along with and tried to reach out numerous times but she’s not a great communicator and constantly would leave me on read. 😭
I'm sorry that you relate to this :( its so sad that we live in a time where it's a struggle to even have a conversion or hangout with someone
I'm 31. No friends for almost 8 years now. You are not alone. Jesus will always be there for you.
Jeez, way to advertise your religion :)
... where is your 'jEsUs' right NOW when I need him? ...Ha!FOH!
If I had you as a friend It would be difficult to not gain feelings ..feelings like more than FRIEND .. it would be difficult to keep concentrating and communicating ..shyness would take over ..but I have issues with pushing away from people I like .. psychology says I push away because 14 years of narcissistic abuse .. like emotional psychological invalidation ,verbal, emotional, psychological, physical, sexual and spiritual abuse... also from being gas-lit .. I get thoughts and feeling that convince me I'm not good enough ...and its hard not to believe that especially when i have never experienced being good enough. Only the opposite.. I really like your personality authentic and altruistic you have a high EQ... you seem to be beautiful inside and out.. 😊
i've probably never had real friends. a number acquaintances. but not friends as i would consider it. i do think the higher your awareness, the tougher it is to make friends, even though you'd think awareness would help. but the way you talk sounds like you have a higher awareness. i talk about it with my therapist. i've always have had to coerce my way into connection with people, i'm just through with doing that anymore i think
I have no friends either. Slowly lost them one by one after highschool ended. Also have anxiety and social issues, so hey, I know what you're going through. You're not alone.
Be careful with benzodiazepines (xanax)...they're highly addictive and very, very hard to get off of once you are. I use an anti-depressant to help me sleep, mirtazapine, too. Knocks me on my ass, but isn't addictive. It's nice being able to shut my brain off when it's time to sleep.
Best of luck.
Hi, I'm 37, and heartbroken after watching this video. Thanks, RUclips (for recommending this)! >_<
I'm sorry... There have been many years in my life where I was also without any close friends. Well, close friends, I can even say that at this very moment too, sadly. I don't currently consider any of my friends that close; since we very rarely hang out.
Things will definitely get better. You seem like a really great person. Wish I had the answers as to why you don't have more, or closer friends, but I just don't. I've fallen out of contact with so many friends when I moved to a different city. That's always a hard one, but then life usually brings people together that would enjoy hanging out with one another; through work, like you said, school, and just life. If I just came up to you in person and we started chatting, there's no way in hell I would have assumed that you had no friends. And now I'm getting to the end of the video and I'm sad again. I'd be your friend.
I recently became a friendless person after having a lot of friends. I have found I am actually a good person, but i didn't know how to behave like or show that i was a good person. People ended up disliking me because i have a habit of being TOO honest with people. So after about 4 months of denial, anger, now i'm becoming depressed for the first time in my life but i told myself that there's billions of people in the world and that i could always make new friends if i put myself out there. Being friendless isn't always bad, but being UNABLE to make or keep friends IS. im just some random dude on the internet but my opinion of you is that your friendlessness doesn't appear to come from you, but rather from your terrible taste in people. As someone that was extremely popular for being funny, trust me, if you were in any way a POS i would have told you so, because i'm too stupid to lie. I think you're cool so i will subscribe. Just remember that while you may not have friends, those people will suffer too, because they don't have you
Thank you for the kind words :) I'm sorry about your situation, I hope that you can rebuild a friend group again soon! Tho trust me I know that's easier said than done. Ur comment at the end really touched me 🥺 I know I can be a good friend and am fun to be around it's just the getting people to be around and stuff is hard haha thank you again for the comment I appriciate it sm!! 💖
@@Filby444 i am not sure if i want friends at this point. I would rather pay people to just act friendly and then leave when i tell them to. Sure i can be someone's friend, but most people are too soft to be my friend. Money is going to end up being my friend because it will always give me what i want and never leave me. Then again i am a man and we don't really need companionship. Food, water, internet, a job, that is more important than being liked. I guess if i really wanted friends i'd go to the LGBTQ community and claim i'm one of them😅
I don't know how does this come in my feed..but I think some commmon things are there that leads to having friends...i have dealt with this situation and even worse when i was feeling lonely.. that time i had relatives or neighbors to lookfotward to hang out but not a real friends...now fortunately I have one...and even with her i have some differences but the main requirements for close friendships is trust, good behaviors and nsome common grounds. And one thing i learnt is no one will be like u ..so u will have to judge people for sometime and once u know the person their family background u can be close firend...but even then keep some secrets to yourself..remember that
I would be besties with you, I just dont understand why you say you dont have friends. You look like a nice and kind person, also i forgot to mention how pretty you are :).
I'd love to be besties. Trust me I don't understand it either! Thank you for the compliment and comment! 💖
Be your own bestfriend 😊
'It takes courage to enter the desert of loneliness and change it by gentle and persistent means into a garden of solitude.' Author unknown.
me too i have 0 and idk how to find them im 19 and in college thought if make friends but nah☠️☠️
It's harder than it seems truly 😭
Frfr
Am 32 I never had a gf, for me that kind of love does not exits and never will.
You matter, please don’t forget that. I’ll be more than happy to be your friend. We can talk on here if you want until I get more social media accounts, or not. Have a wonderful day
I'm the same. Big hugs.
you'r sweater is soooo cute ! sorry for not answering on other things :( but if i can suggest something you can try climbing ! eople in climbing gyms are really friendly and want to help each other, it's a good way to make friends !
Came across this and I think about that too but I would love to be your friend!
I wish you well.
Just remember life doesn't stay the same!
I hope not! It's been pretty monotone for me for the past 10 years so hopefully sometjjng exciting will come eventually 😅😅
Man, this hit home
I wanna be friends though
I don’t Have Any Friends Friends that talk about you behind your Back lol I don’t like Negative Energy in My Life 🤗💙
What are your hobbies.? keep up the good fighting and work on you. ..Also look for a state or gov job. Pay is decent and have benefits .
I think you are pretty awesome and hope you make plenty more vids.
If you find yourself isolated, you need to hack your environment to force situations with shared contexts. One hack is the having a social hobby e.g. Martial arts, band, choir, sacred harp, improv, dancing, board games, volunteering, even religious orgs, if you can stand it. That's the hack. A social hobby makes conversation easier because you have something to talk about. You can show up religiously, it won't be weird because people want to engage in the hobby with you.
If you have loner type hobbies, then you need to a community around your interests. If you have no hobbies, find a social hobby.
No, I've seen videos of people discussing not having friends.
I'm so much of a doomer seeing her say she will get a friend or a boyfriend in the future and all that is just a pipe dream you keep on putting off which you aren't doing anything to achieve. I've done that and I'm 42 now and can't say I see ever happening in the future now.
no friends currently everyone dropped me very sad
I see you haven't posted in a couple weeks. I hope that you're safe❤
My Friends Left Me Since High School I have no Friends tho I Got Filbert in My Life Right Now lol 💙
I love Filbert She’s Beautiful in The Video My first time watching her Video in 2024 Lol 💙
Sorry to hear you feel this way about life currently. Do you think it is possible you have undiagnosed autism? I have people in my life who have lead a normal life and have not had their diagnosis before later in their adult life, 30s and 40s (even older than that). If so, maybe there are some benefits you could apply for.
Take care
ill be your friend. im 24 too
Same i have no friends too
filbert i love you
Don’t lie! Be authentic here and there, I love your hair btw, I’d talk with you, would have to understand I’m not interested in you as a dating partner though I’m waiting for somebody to come back to me.
I'm authentic! I just lie when saying I have friends or hang out with people when I don't haha. I'd love to talk to you aswell, I'm also not free to date as I'm also waiting on someone to come back to me, conveniently. I like the hair in ur pfp :)
Things will get better eventually
Thank you for the kind comment :) I'm actually fine w the having no friends part it's just the other stuff that gets to me!
1:51 too relatable!!!
Can i your friend forever bestfriend i am realy proud of you
Watch Taxi driver at 1AM please.
They be f'ing with us
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(and, loved the hair)
Thank you sm 💖
you are so cuteable omg
we can be friends im 24
Hello!! I'd love to :3 my discord is @strawbebbiee if you'd like to add me 💖
We can be friends ❤
Awwwww shit, il be your friend
The only friend you need is God
anyone here need a penfriend?
You are so cute!
I would like to be your friend.
do you play magic or osrs? ill hang out and chill just reply and we can connect
Sarah, do you want to be friends?
You are lucky you are still young. I have no friends, no family, my ex-wife disappeared with my children, I am lucky if I have $100 to live on for a month. So count your blessings.
I'm sorry about ur situation. Everyone has their obstacles
I wish you could be online friends she don’t have friends either she 16
don´t look for friends among people
... I felt about this (all you mentioned) all the same ... this world is fallen ... man ...take Jesus ... he is the only way, the only truth, the eternal life...Try it ! Call on his name, he will give you true peace in your heart, in a condemned and fallen world- I did and I am free in my mind now - no one can give this freedom and peace like he does... come to Jesus
Hey gal pal - try bumble bff!
I've been wanting to but have heard a lot of bad experiences people have had on it 😔
i cant hear
Reach out to your sister at least. Speaking for 10 minutes is not invading her privacy.
And you need to actually get out to find people
I actually have twice in the past two days now hah. I asked her out for ice cream and then for dinner another day but she said no to both unfortunately :,(
@@Filby444Ask her what works for her schedule. You never know she might be going through some things in her personal like that maybe she wants to shield you from. With kids a lot of times things change very quickly. Make tentative plan but let her know you’d understand if something comes up and schedule another time. Don’t put much feelings or expectations into it. Treat it like you are making an ordinary appointment.
maybe you push away people that want to be your friends