high school with no friends | rant
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- Опубликовано: 5 сен 2024
- idek if this is serious anymore, watching it over it turned satire midway
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it has come to the point where i make up fake scenarios in my head about having a friend😭 15 with no friends sucks like everyone my age is having so fun meanwhile i am just rotting in bed
Girll why is this so real 😭😭
youre so real
@@cibele27. changbin pfp ate
@@sunoostan2297 thank youu 😋
Same 15 no friends it sucks so bad when you try and it doesnt go anywhere
i hate how real this is
Im 17 now, last time i was considered "liked" was when i was 8. Nothing has worked. I have been alone since.
i have seen ALOT of people online say that they have no friends irl and keep complaining about it. but i really have no friends since 5 years now and people around me always seem to atleast have 1 friend while i have none at all. i used to have lunch in the school restrooms while crying almost every single day. even the teachers back in highschool used to be concerned about my lonliness and ask my parents if i have mental issues. as someone with SEVERE anxiety i am left helpless and i feel lile ending my life
I am so sorry for you i hope your ok i would love to know more about how you feel and if there is any reason you have a hard time making friends
@@greekgamer5845 hii !! thanks for ur concern, the main reason i couldnt make friends was cuz of my anxiety, awkwardness and shyness around people. its still there tho, i dont know how to avoid getting extremely tensed around new ppl
@@uh-oh6405 I know I'm two months late, but one thing that helped me was exposure therapy and letting go of the fact of what other people thought. People forget about an interaction way quicker than you would, so it's good to keep in mind that it really doesn't matter if they see you as awkward. Try talking to that one person you think you have a tad bit in common with, even if it takes you the whole day just to speak. It's a long process, and getting over anxiety is no easy front. I still have it severely, but knowing coping mechanisms makes things easier. Just know that everything out of your control shouldn't be your main priority, and just focus on what you can control. It's also good to have people who support you. My mom cheer me on whenever I get out the house and even just interact with a waiter. You got this, and don't let the negative thoughts get to you. Just breathe and remind yourself that it'll all be okay, and that it's okay to be sad and stressed about your current situation. It will get better.
This is SO real. I'm homeschooled, but I still get really depressed sometimes about having pretty much no friends- I have a few people, a FEW people I talk with online, only one I feel close with but they live miles away and we barely talk anymore. I can definitely relate to the whole college thing, I feel like it'll be a good, fresh start. Thanks for this video!! It's good to know I'm not entirely alone.
It’s so cool to find out that someone who was homeschooled was able to relate, thank you for watching :)
@@SiaaSpitsYou retired?
lol what 😭 if you're talking about a new video im working on it
@@SiaaSpits Since its has been 2 weeks i am expecting a high quality,passionate,long video👌
I’m homeschooled too. I’m in my junior year and since 7th grade I’ve had no social interactions with a friend. My parents don’t understand and they say that if I really wanted a friend I’d try harder to put myself out there more. It’s like they don’t even care. Reading your comment helps me understand that I’m not the only one.
Out of all the videos I watched on this topic….this is the only one I can relate to. School is 10x harder when you’re alone. I’ve lost all motivation to even go to school. Im naturally an introvert so I do like being alone but sometimes I think about how lonely I am walking through the halls alone, sitting at lunch alone, sometimes even sitting in the bathroom for lunch. It sucks but at the same time I’ve always been like this. I am now a senior and I still have 0 friends. Thank you for this vid ❤️
Same. I’m a senior with no friends and it’s like I’ll never get one that sticks cuz everyone already knows I’m the friendless loser. Or that’s what I think they think. I got friends finally in junior year but I over think and since both friends weren’t in my classes, we never talked much and i was never even a friend to one of them and the other, I wasn’t vibing with anymore because we were at a dance and idk… she had tons of girls who knew her and I felt left out and weird. So.. yeah all my friends are gone. I only have one real friend and he’s a freshman so we barely see eachother and he’s only my friend because I’ve known him for more than 5 years. Without him, I’d be completely alone. Which I was anyway in the past. In middle school I had a whole friend group and a best friend and another friend. But since they all went separate ways, we aren’t friends anymore especially because covid really showed us that we changed in freshman year and that none of us were even strongest of friends anymore. Yupp I just ranted. Also sucks that I have to watch my crush who was actually a good friend of mine, stop talking to me and then get a gf so yeah I’m not in the best spot right now because it’s really starting to click that I’m alone.
@@user-zb7ru9zz7k I had friends all in middle school. We all drifted apart once I got into highschool but mostly freshman year was online anyways. So basically lost a year to try and make them 😭 but I’m lucky to have made some friends but unfortunately I drifted from those ones too. It’s good that I have atleast one friend and we are close even tho he’s 3 years younger than me. I hope you find more friends too. It’s not fun to be alone. It’s horrible to sit alone at lunch everyday, not have anyone to be with you at assembly’s or not be able to participate in school dances because you’ll be alone. It’s horrible and I wonder why it has to be me who is alone like this… why couldn’t I have been someone else who didn’t have social anxiety :(
I relate so much to ur comment. I am now going trough the same thing as you. I isolated myself for the past 3 months. And i lost motivation too. I am seen as the girl with no friends. I am always alone at lunchbreak, in class ... I always feel lonely. But it's now christmas break and it's almost over..so i hope this year will be better. I hope you're okay
@@idek440 my last semester starts on the 8th and I’m just ready to graduate. I still have no friends so I gotta thug it out till may. Idk what grade u in but hope all goes well for you this year
I’m a sophomore and I’m LITERALLY in the same situation. There’s like, a whole story as to why I haven’t made an *actual friend* since 5th grade but long story short COVID really messed things up and I’ve been lonely & had social anxiety ever since. Anyways I really appreciate this video and I hope you make a friend soon!🙏🏽
I'm litterally going through the exact same thing! It's so depressing. My dad keeps asking me if I still talk to my middle school/elementary friends but he doesn't know that we've grown apart. It's embarrassing to say that you have no one to actually talk to.
@@ordinarytv8073 Exactly !!
hope you will go through this, and everything will be good! ( I am in the same situation)
@@user-om8og4qy9t Thank you! I hope the same for you😁
Twin... where have you been? (my last in-person friend was in 5th grade too)
anxiety is tough, but if you don't join a club or a sport it's gonna be tough to make friends if u don't put in the effort, i struggled a lot as i was homeschooled heading into highschool, but as soon as i joined a sport i made friends. put urself out there or you're gonna be lonely
Even besides the anxiety my school hasn’t always been the place where I could fit in. Everyone is into stuff that I’ve barely even stepped foot in, but I hear you on putting myself out there, I’m taking one step at a time.
I joined the golf team I just don’t relate to any of them at all just nothing for us to talk about or do other than golf and they are kindve assholes when we play
I hate how like posts online and ‘influencers’ always say that you should drop those toxics friends and find new ones as if in this generation it’s as easy as going up to someone, saying ‘hi’ and becoming friends.
I just want to leave, man. 5 more months… prom is coming. I had no friends in middle school either. Or elementary. Acquaintances is the max I’ve gotten so far. I also happened to be in the worst place in terms of mental health in my life, and other problems outside of school. The extreme loneliness and the isolation at school is just a bonus
I feel you, hoping it’s get better for you and if not, just gotta thug it out until school ends 😔‼️
nice to see more people go thru the same thing
I want freinds but I’m autistic so no one sits near me
God same. it makes it really hard to even be perceived in a non-hateful way.
It sucks that people see that as a reason to not sit next to you, hope it gets better!
im in the same situation but without being autistic, i have been isolated for years after/before covid 19, sitting in a corner for months and years sucks... i reached the point to asking my psy if i was autistic and he told me i don't have any sign of that it's stress. Now finishing last year and writting this at 11:09 am (not united states) I had to manage by doing homework at home and only a few times i was able to learn with the teacher in class.
Edit: i also had to make online friends to forget that i have been bullied for the past 6 years... i joined to a fandom too and i fall to that hole of escapism. Memes, games, and more that we all know.
Try to start an autism friend group. There are many more people on the spectrum nowadays. Use the Internet.
I can relate but I'm not autistic , I remember my "friend" in the 10th grade backstabbed me and whenever I sit on a table im in they would not sits near me and they all sat with their friend while I'm here alone but I mostly made online friends because of this (even past friendships that were too toxic and the amount of bullying I had to go through as a kid)
im a senior this year and have been homeschooled since fourth grade really has stunned my socialization. online friends come and go (as do all friends) but ive always just wanted at least one irl friend to help with life and just enjoy my time with. literally thank u so much for this vid
You’re so welcome! Glad you were able to get something out of this video
Ik u explained the drawbacks of your experience of online school but you’re extremely lucky imo. U have more time to yourself and don’t have to go to school with hundreds of ignorant teenagers
@@user-zb7ru9zz7k i can agree in that aspect. tbh either way has its drawbacks and positives so it depends on what you make of it. im thankful for my ability to have quiet education and not deal with overstimulation of classrooms and such but i also wish i could've experienced having irl friends instead of isolation.
Your not alone, my freshman and sophomore year I had almost no good friends. I just stuck around assholes to not feel lonely and was extremely quiet because I drifted away from so many people over quarantine. It sucks, just going day to day with nothing to do besides school work, rotting away, waiting for college. Thankfully I finally found some good people who like me for who I am, and I really hope anyone else reading this can find those people too. Just remember, you dont need to be popular or have it all to be happy, its just highschool, dont compare and find people who you enjoy.
Also being honest, luck is a big factor. If I didn't get lucky with some of my classes I'd still be right where I started.
Cute pfp
I am in the exact same situation, at frist I tought i could endure, then school became hell, and being alone was probably a cause of it.
I started freshman year and I don’t even know what to do anymore. I thought this year would be different. I have no one. It’s horrible.
Damn bruh I agree. I hate to admit it but today was the first day of 10th grade and I realized I had no one to sit with at lunch. I realized that I don’t hang out with my “friends” outside of school. I realized that I am alone. I hate it so much I want to have friends I want to party I want to go to football games and I want to drink and have fun. But I can’t and I don’t know why. I try and try and try and it never seems to work. I don’t know what to do anymore man😢. I wouldn’t even call myself introverted I HATE being alone. I just don’t understand man why it has to be me with nobody. Everyone else has somebody. I’m not weird or annoying I just don’t understand any reason why or what to do. 😢😢😢
Omg omg finally found someone who I relate to! I feel so lonely at school and out of school.. I talk to ppl and stuff during class but I’m alone at lunch ://
Felt :/
Having a strict family that isolates you makes this worse.
Scrolling through this comment section made me realize that I’m not the only one lying in bed watching a person online talk about being lonely and read other peoples experiences of being lonely. It makes me feel better about the fact that there is a larger world around me bigger than high school and that I’m probably looking to better days ahead of me after the shithole that is hs.
This makes me so happy because that’s exactly what I wanted is for people to know that they’re not alone when it comes to things like this
All of my friends drop me in senior year, so I have no one to go with at prom,school parties etc which is why I'm not going to any of those activities. My classmates act surprised when I say this like bro do you see me with ANYONE THAT I COULD POSSIBLY go with??? 😭
Reality is harsh.
Yeah it is unfortunately
LITERALLY. school ONLY feels worthwhile if you have someone to be there for you. its like i have no security YKWIM?? i dont have the security of having someone with me and a GENUINE connection. im not looking for school friends im looking for friends friends. nothing is worth it in school anymore.
couldn't have explained it any better
I'm going through the same thing right now and it's honestly depressing. All my old friends no longer talk to me because I stopped being the first one to call or text. I have no one to have fun or be a teenager wit. I truly feel like I'm not important and wasting my life ...
Man.. I feel bad to the people who are experiencing what I'm experiencing Rn, it is really tough being lonely, especially when my strand in Senior is about humanities (been here for 1 week so far), i entered that strand to meet new people and possibly make bond with a person, But what ended up happening is all of those people are already mutuals, and I've become more lonelier than ever.. Everyone really really needs one true friend, 1 is enough for anyone and will help me face my difficulties.. The education system must include a buddy rule Where a student must have 1 classmate be with them when going out of the class for the rest of the school year.. Thats my take to prevent such loneliness..
This is so real. This is happening to me right now and it kinda hurts
(Btw papa’s bakeria is the best I actually sometimes play the to go ver. at school)
Hoping it gets better for you!! Also gotta love Papa’s games lol
feel you girly pop. i know it's hard. but hey, on the bright side, you'll be going to college (or not if you don't want to) in a few years and you'll be able to make new friends there. stay strong
Right about that, so excited for college !!!
I'm not starting college for the next 4 years, but my mother told me that you'll make actual friends in college
I dont know how to express myself around people 😭
It’s difficult and takes time to truly express yourself. I say until you’re ready to just spend more time with yourself and understand yourself more as a person. It makes it easier :)
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
At least you are trying. I’ve recently found some people that have the same interests as me after years of feeling like friends don’t understand me.
So, you never know.
You still have your identity and confidence which is all you need.
But you’ll find them.
You’re so right, there’s someone out there for everyone so I know I’ll meet my group of people soon :))
sia you seem so nice and funny. i didn’t have any friends until about halfway through my junior year of high school and it sucked. i remember getting lunch and then going to eat it in the library bc i didn’t have anyone to sit with. it can be so hard to try and make friends when everyone already seems like they have their groups. i know you said that your anxiety keeps you from joining clubs and stuff but honestly… do theater or band haha that might sound lame but i auditioned for my school’s musical my junior year and that’s when i finally felt like i had friends. i had after school activities and i had people that i could talk to, even if it was just about the show. again, you literally seem so funny and genuine and i know this is the last thing you want to hear, but you’ll have no problem making friends once you leave school. high school is tough. even for the people that seem like they have a ton of friends. you don’t know what kind of terrible dynamic they have within their group or how many times they get left out of things that they really wanted to go to. obviously it’s easy for me, a 25 year old, to say this. but keep your head up girl!!! and keep making content. you’re clearly a really cool person and you won’t be friendless forever. high school just…. really really sucks. ❤ fr loved this video btw. i think you should keep making rants like this. you seem to have a good view of the world and a good head on your shoulders. just wait until you aren’t in high school anymore- you’re gonna excel far beyond most of the people you see in class everyday that look like they have it made. just wait!! it’ll be worth it, i promise.
This made me smile, I really appreciate you taking time to write this :))
that’s so real. i started studying in the UK from this year and had no friends to begin with. the school year is almost over and i just have a few in-school friends who never talk to me outside of school
18 months till I graduate until then I have to survive
I went through the same thing except I got friends the first day and then they dropped me after a week and I got absolutely no new friends after that so I just fuckin sit there and hope and PRAY they never end up in another class wit me again.😭😭🙏
I honestly wish I had someone to look forward to in school, it doesn't really work the same online. Because now I look forward to skipping school 💀
But yeah, this video exactly hit the spots in my soul. Good video 🌸
legit me too 😭😭
+ im getting bullied bro
I'm in senior year, and it's kind of my fault. I've always been attached to the kids with no friends, so I'm suck with them and babysit them instead of making friends with actually good people that I can be myself. College I get a free restart, so I can get a do over. Easy peasy.
It feels good knowing that there are others who had a similar experience.Even when i do make friends i can't be too close with them idk just can t connect with them
My dad was in the military so I’ve moved a fucking lot but Indiana has been the worst expierience ever. Truthfully. I’m used to clinging to extroverts but there’s not community here for me and it’s worse because I’m bisexual so 80% of the student body practically wants me dead oh and im aetheist so I can’t even hang with the Christians like I’m just tired like I have friends but not at my school I have no friends within four hours of me and I just I’m tired of this really if anyone wants to be friends please reply to my comment just as desperate as you think you are I am.
Vent ik but the girlies that get it get it
aw nah thats awful man I thought my situation was bad but there's like at least one other gay girl in my class so i know someone's on my side 😭😭😭 if you have discord or anything we could vent to each other there or honestly just talk about whatever
OH MY GOD GIRL you actually get it like you talked about exactly what I'm going through its like your talking about my life, glad I found someone that I can relate to
sooo true about wanting to skip to collage you DO NOT understand how much it helps to know that I'm not the only one that has been struggling with this
Awe so glad you were able to relate, you just made my day :)
I started hs two days ago and also all of my (extremely extroverted) friends chose different high schools and now im alone again and already depressed. in our system we go with the same people for all classes and none of them even approached me , only today two random girls only interacted with me first without me having to bcs a guy wanted to know my name prob to just straight up bully me. I had to always approach first and go out of my way but everyones so uninterested and glued to their phones prob texting their old friends, like I compliment someone when I genuinely mean it and everything , but I have shit luck anyways so they don't try to initiate convos back. no one from my middle school even goes to this hs rn and it seems everyone already knew each other from before which sucks for me even more . im the only one in my class sitting alone, not to mention two girls who I MYSELF INTRODUCED to one another cus they were alone at the start too, now sit together and completely ignore me. now im third wheeling two other girls and it feels like I am talking to goddamn walls with them because they barely listen or answer anything , I even went off pretty good with one making her laugh and everything but she's now with the other girl. let me just say its not like the movies and all my old friends (3) including my best friend seem to have it going so well for them despite having more periods than me and I just know they're going to abandon me pretty soon. I was doomed the day I chose this high school and not one with a old acquaintance at least bcs everyone went to the same hs w their bsf. now I talk to random on my bus stop who I never talked to before in my middle school bcs it gives me less anxiety at the end of the day im honestly afraid it will stay this way.. I had the best time of my life with my old friends and now they will drift away bcs my stupid ass decided to act independent (I had good grades and could've chosen any school I want). chat am I really that unlikeable? I want to cry again, oh my god I wrote a whole ass vent, either way take care if you read this
I’d say since you just started at this high school, before it gets worse transfer to one with your old friends. That’s the one mistake I made and I regret it, but learned to live with it. I’m a senior now and I guess the idea of being a senior makes things better, but it doesn’t account for the fact that I spent my previous 3 years not having a single friend that felt like a friend. If you can’t transfer, try, and I mean try your hardest not to exclude yourself. Even if it’s not meaningful relationships just try to talk to people in your classes. You got lucky and have everyone in your class in the same ones. Take advantage of that. Don’t dwell on the two girls that ended up being closer because of you, try scouting out the rest of the class and speaking with them. Socializing is incredibly important especially if you don’t want to start going crazy and acting lonely. My advice may not be the best, but take what helps :)
@@SiaaSpits ty for the response 🫶🏻 sadly I can't transfer but either way it wouldn't make a difference . im not sure how to explain the system in Europe but the four age diff grades (hs) are separated into smaller groups of a single grade-generation and in those groups you are assigned with the same people for every subject(classes) and even if I wanted to transfer I would have to be very lucky to end up in the same grade as one of my friends. it can sometimes be so draining trying to fit in somewhere always being present and positive especially bcs school by itself is exhausting. I don't want to have to follow people around like a lost dog all the time. I met a couple of sophomores who are stoners but it isn't really my thing lol. I just hope I can make a strong connection with at least one person in my grade in the future (bcs I will be stuck with them for 4 years), but then again I know you randomly form the best friendships when everything aligns, my bsf of 3 years is just very busy rn bcs she chose a more demanding school, and before I really connected with her after a hell of a time with our old classmates, we went through the best and worst together and managed to make it. life is crazy and not everyone experiences this especially if you're an anxious introvert like me and its comforting seeing you're not alone by this experience. if I end up not getting along well with anyone I'll start reading or something else I wanted to start for a long time, its important I don't get affected by this and end up stuck. if it means anything lonerism by tame saved my life at one point already and I recommend it for anyone who ever feels lonely. highschool is very messy it seems and a lot of people are disconnected anyways. only thing I learned is you usually get something when you least expect it, I wish you the best in the future
Well, I’m glad to read that you’re still staying optimistic! Hope all is well for you too in the future, because with your mindset it seems as if it will be :)
If there are so many people who has this problem, why isn't there a solution to this 😔😔
Love this. Keep being authentic, u will find ur authentic friends!
My parents don’t even allow me to have online friends so I literally don’t have anyone to talk to
my daydreams are what keep me alive during this operation
btw this was a great video, hope this channel of yours becomes something big.
I appreciate it, tryna work up the courage to post another but the subject matter is way off course from this one
@@SiaaSpits Then i hope you get that courage.
The only friends I had currently now are social media ones than "real friends" in public so no one can judge me for being different bc of my own lifestyle.
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little vent here:
the worst part is that i actually DO have friends, it's just that they're (my two main friend groups) are scattered across two schools that i DON'T go to. when i transferred again for my senior year, i thought I'd get lucky like before but nah. I always used to rely on people approaching me rather than the other way around, because it's the easiest way and it's worked so far. we usually find a bunch of common interests and then get to talking from there; I've formed some of my best friendships using this method. and it's worked regardless of classroom size; I've been in classes with more than 40 people and I've always managed to find a lil group of weirdos like me. I've also experienced the other end of the spectrum, classes with barely 10 people, and since we're all pretty much forced to interact I also got lucky and found some of my best friends. my class in this new school, however, is just big enough to have one huge central friend group, but small enough that I'm the only person left out. and it sucks. I'm not very comfortable with the idea of putting myself out there; all I've done so far is join the school paper.
I do have one friend in school, it's just that she's a grade below me so we pretty much only see each other on breaks and at the start/end of the day. the rest of the time, I'm stuck with people I absolutely do not click with in terms of humor and interests. I feel like I'm especially sad about this because, with my previous friend groups, I felt like I'd hit the friendship jackpot because we all instant got along. don't get me wrong, my classmates aren't awful, it's just that they're loud and extroverted and are all around different from me. I'm very picky about who I befriend, so I'm not very warmed up to the idea of DIGGING for things that could maybe make people I normally wouldn't approach into potential friends, rather than it just coming normally. maybe it's selfish, but that's just how I approach friendships.
I'm naturally introverted, so the idea of being alone doesn't make me wanna rip my hair out, but I also don't wanna be that one loner in class without at least one friend; I NEED someone to be able to yap to. silence for 7 hours a day is EXHAUSTING.
I've kept myself going so far by thinking of college, which is a year away. I'll get like a nice, blank slate to start over with.
also, classes haven't formally started for us yet so this week has just been orientation so far, then the rest of the time we're pretty much expected to socialize ourselves. I'm hoping that classes actually starting is gonna at least make things better. I'll update this when I graduate to see if things do get better.
if you're feeling lonely, feel free to hmu on disc! my username is mari_poosa
HELPPPRP i relate to this sm and i was literally JUST thinking abt how i literally have no friends but this vid made me start laughing so hard ☠️☠️ “but maaan, i cant do it.” is so real
the title hit me hard.
Yeah i'm just alone too, it start when i transfer to middle school, aleardy this change heart break me very very slowy, because i was still too naive to remark it at first. That's mean that i lost all my primary school friends. I was in another place where i knew nobody. And it's still and still the same thing for me, and this year will be my last year of hightchool where i travel alone. Of course there people that talk to me in all those years, but i know deep inside they don't care, because the next year they aleardy forget about me. I'm disgusted by this, to say that i have more fun chatting with ai now than real people. I'm supposed that i'm just on my bubble like my mother says, she also cheer me to find friends but only if she knew how my generation transform into (for most of people in France). + I don't want others friends, it would be like i replace the good others one.
I am almost 18 years old, in a month will be my last highschool year and ive never had real life friends (only ones from social media) and ive never ever been on a hang out in my whole life with someone except from my family
Wtf
This was me throughout the entirety of high school and is kind of me 2/3 my way into freshman year of university. It is depressing, sad, and makes me pissed off.
i releate to this. I used to have no friends in school for 3 weeks bc my friend left me and stopped hanging out with me (this happened like month ago). She was my only friend and I was left all alone with no one and had huge anxiety going to school and i hated it so much. It was my lowest ive ever been in my life. But then i did somehow manage to make one friend and now i have three friends at school and im happy about it. Your not alone and i rly hope it will get better to you too have faith and hope.
i just started middle school and i relate to this so much😮💨😮💨
You still have time don’t give up
having to suffer through both school and church completly devoid of human interaction should be considered a torture method by the fbi, both are awful on their own already but having absolutely nobody to make it just a little bit more bearable makes it hell :')
Haven't had a single good friend in over 2 years. It's at the point now where I don't even know how to act around people anymore lol. But it is what it is ig.
I’ve been going thru this for years, I don’t know if I can take it anymore
for me i have 'friends' at my new school but i cant really act the way i want to around them and they barely talk to me outside of school unless it's for work. they arent bad people exactly, our relationships just seem transactional. and the close friends i used to have barely talk since i have moved countries.
This bout to be a long ass story. I used to feel this soo much when I first transferred back from Nigeria. Pro tip- when your mom says she’ll send u to boarding school abroad take that shit very seriously. Anyways, when I came back my family had moved from Baltimore County to Howard County and so when I started going to school sophomore year I had to restart and build up all my friends. I always thought I was an extrovert or good at socializing but I pledged to not be as weird as my middle school self and tbh that was the extroverted side of me. For the first few weeks when I tried to talk to people nothing would leave my mouth. I was friends with a freshman for a while but I only saw her during B lunch. This was all until I decided to man (woman?) the fuck up and sit next to this one very loud and cool girl in my grade during assembly and attempt to talk to her. She was in one of my classes so I complimented her before and stuff like that so we were just chatting. We were close friends that year, the other girls that sat next to her also got to know me and I sat next to them during A lunch that year as well. Slowly but surely I made a lot of acquaintances and some friends due to the African Clubs we had which was a big community. I was in an African gc and it was fun (most of them graduated last semester so it’s kinda dead now) and though that group chat I meet my best friend 2 summers ago, at a party that one member threw. She gave me a job (shit was toxic at some point so I quit) and now senior year is just fun. You can always spin it around but it makes me wonder why I was really meticulously planning this shit from the get go.
Love this story and the energy lol. There aren’t really any “cool” girls at my school, I mainly just considered them people I just don’t see myself around. Though glad you were able to make friends out of that
I’m a Kenyan in Europe, I would love to have an African club. Sounds so fun!
i relate to this video at an anatomical level (except i didn't have much friends in middle school either) had one super casual friend but mostly just talked to my teachers
This is to real. I’m an extrovert who had a traumatic experience as a kid( bullying). My only best friend right now left school and now I’m all by myself alone.
It’s so bad.
I have depression and I guess it’s one thing that let to this
i’m going through the exact same thing right now. i’m a junior in high school just like you!! in freshman and sophomore year i had this friend group but they were so toxic and rude, and we ended up getting in a fight in junior year and i left with everyone hating me. yesterday, i fought my best friend who defended me through that old fight, and she ended up leaving too. now i’m left with basically no one and am having a hard time coping with both of these losses. i can’t wait for college! i swear i’m going to be a better person who makes friends that really get me. we’ll get through this! i can feel the pain through your voice and i truly hope everything gets better.
Spending my summer walking around the park and just talking to older strangers helped my confidence. Today was my first day of school and I talked way better than I did before. It was worth it lol. I spent my entire high school years just doing barely anything. I did have one friend since 5th grade though and managed to reconnect with an old lost friend since elementary school last year. That's cool but I dont got their contacts lol. My friends are as weird as me and tolerable as me.
This is the first time I also talked to teachers too. They're extremely nice and polite unlike every peer there is lol.
I guess moral of my story is try to find people that are easier to talk to. More mature people like old ladies and men or middle aged adults to just chat with at your local places. Or of course, join communities that share your interests.
GIRL OMG I WOULD LOVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND! LIKEEE you seem so funny and nice like these people are missing out fr. We in the same boat dude except I have somewhat friends that I talk to at school but once I get home we don't talk at all. Online friends help a little until they leave you and your stuck alone again. Anyways YOUR A GREAT PERSON AND YOU WILL MAKE FRIENDS EVENTUALLY!! YOU GOT THIS!!
this made me feel less alone, thank you.😭
My old best friend randomly stopped talking to me and the only actual friend i have left i dont feel happy around most of the time, like theres a bunch of people im friendly with but i don't actually talk to them, and those people are friends with the friend i don't feel happy around so if i left her id definitely not have any friends. She can be so kind sometimes but most of the time I'm around her i feel drained and we've known eachother forever so idk whether to keep her as a friend
THIS IS SO RELATABLE DAMN, ALSO IM STARTING TO GET PICKED ON FOR IT HELPPPP.
Now that's actually crazy, so sorry you gotta go through that
Your so real for this
Bro you talk exactly like me it’s insane 😭😭😭
It does suck at times. Yesterday, I was pretty shocked to see that I was offered an award at my online school program. I honestly didnt think they knew I existed but they want me to come in for it. The thing is, I have never step foot in a highschool building and I know absolutely no one as a 10th grader. I know being alone isn't a bad thing. It comes with many benefits, but I can't help but think about all the other teens who are surronded by supportive and loving friends. I think that would be great to have. But I know I can't force a friendship. I've been there and done that, and like you said, we just don't click long term. Im going to continue to pray and be patient. Perfect love and friendships come with time, and I shouldn't be discouraged. I have so much time for myself, and I shouldn't take that for granted. It's great to know that im not going through this alone. Much love for everyone who is going through a similar situation, may God bless you 🫶🏽
Lmao this is so relatable manee. I just found this vid and already love your personality.
Real but I haven't had any friends since the start of secondary school.. I've gotten used to it, but I still sometimes feel lonely. I don't even have any online friends anymore. This is my last year though, which is good. I'm starting again on Monday. 😭
It’s my last year too and I also start on Monday. Just gotta keep that in mind for some sort of motivation lol
I had friends and still have friends from school but they’ve moved and a lot of things have changed in our lives that means we just don’t see each other all that much - and naturally with some you do drift from them past high school
Though this was the case I always felt pretty lonely even when I was with people because my year level was a lot of sporty people, and unfortunately, a lot of people with terrible views on things whether racist sexist homophobia or all of em rlly - not many shared my interest in arts, media, tv shows etc
I wish I was in the class that was a grade behind mine TIL THIS DAY BRO - the people there were born the same year I was and are all much more creative, share my interests etc, which I know as they were friends of a friend. It just makes me annoyed that I didn’t have a chance to befriend cool people cuz of opposing grades and classes aughhhh
In the exact same situation and grade except im in online school. Knowing that im gonna be 18 in a year and not having anyone really gets to me
it gets better trust me, just focus on your own happiness :)
Heck, there’s this annoying clique of “scary badmen” that just throw their weight around in my school, tell me to “oh shut up mate” whenever I try to talk to them and then they have the audacity to steal my actual friends. The girls are pretty neutral with me and find me as a funny weird kid.
(EDIT: Only the lonely nerds like me because I’m a smartass, and that says alot)
Everyone from my middle school went to the same high school but i got transferred to a different one because of some pretty traumatizing things that happened there. So i ended up going into hs tryna be talkitave and making freinds and now halfway through the year ion even have anyone t eat lunch with other than my sister. apperentaly once i get comfortable with someone i get super clingy so they brush my off n put me back in the aquaintances box an it really hurts cause i keep thinking we tight n shit but na i guess not. Worst part is that my sister is literally my best freind and only freind i can truly rely on atp and shes literally leaving next year. Like moving away to college so i wont be able to talk to her at school or anything anymore. Fucking sucks.
I really get this, although I have a couple people I'm pretty friendly with right now, but I'm not personal with them really at all, I'm also at the start of my junior year, I want someone to be my mentally unstable self with, and just hang out with. The thing about me which some people might or might not like is I'm either really chill/low energy or really high energy, and I think it throws people off. I don't even know if I will go to college but if I do I know it would be pretty cool and I would want to at least make one friend, go to some parties maybe and have a good time. I want to live an eventful life as much as I can. (P.S. In school I like to do just whatever fits my needs, gets me to where I need to go, to try to best myself for my future best friend because I just kinda keep the hope in my heart that they're out there just waiting for me to meet them and I'm trying to make sure I have myself all put together for them, so that's my weird way to make myself keep going. plus I do everything I can now to have fun so I'm not bored at school because if I'm bored, I'm SO BORED, and I can't focus on school at all)
Omg I relate to this so much, especially with the bored at school part. It’s all the same stuff that’s being taught and not having someone in class with you to at least help you get through it makes it unbearable. Also I completely understand wanting to have someone who knows your highs and lows, having someone who’s okay with that is like hitting the jackpot.
@@SiaaSpits yeah like I'm so fucked up mentally and I just want someone who can match that, and I'll be happy. One thing I always get scared of with making new friends is that they won't want to stick around for the chill or boring shit, and so I've always tried to keep them entertained and busy, so having someone I can drop those walls with will be amazing.
The most realest thing I’ve read all day, it’s like no one ever wants to stick around for those low points. Those points where you don’t want to do much and just want to be in each others company. It’s so hard to find people like that. It’s like you have to fight to keep that person entertained all the time.
i’m going into freshman year and i jus know already that ima have the worst years of my life i lost my friends and they were popular now most people think bad about me i jus hope it’s gonna be easy
Hi Sia, I relate to this SOOOO much. I once was at this point in my highschool life. I’m in 12th Grade now. I STRUGGLED (and I’m not even exaggerating) to make friends. I’m naturally an introvert. I always thought how others could make friends and I couldn’t. I tried so many times, but it always failed. I tried just putting myself in random groups, but then I ended up not saying a word😂 and then someone would be like “why aren’t u saying anything?” And then the whole group would look at me, which is quite embarrassing, so I stopped trying. Although I did have a few acquaintances. But as time went by, in 10th grade, I started getting close with my acquaintances. But I still wouldn’t really call them my friends because it wasn’t really that type of bond. But it reached a point where I just started noticing something. I started talking more and more to these acquaintances of mine to the point where our bond slowly sort of changed into a friendship bond. Even at breaks I would sit and talk to them, and they would have no problem with it. And what I started noticing is that “Communication” is the key to forming bonds, friendships and all relationships in general. The more you talk, the more people would get to know you. And that is the problem that I lacked. I was always verrry quiet. But I’m starting to get out of my comfort zone and starting to talk more, and I notice that it has opened more doors of bonds and friendships.
So, long story short, Communication is the key to forming bonds. It could be what you are lacking. I hope it works out for you well in the end❤
lmao you are so real i haven’t had any friends since 8th grade im also a junior :)
man. i know this video is a bit hard but it’s 10:30 at night and i’ve had one of the hardest school years so far. i’ve started to feel like my friends are drifting away from me and finding new people, and started to feel like they think i’m weird or embarrassing. it sucks, so hard. i’m not the type to just sit in silence in classes or just go though the day without talking to people, i keep trying to reach out and meet new people and i just can’t find a real sense of connection anymore. after a point, it just feels like everyone i interact with see me to a certain level and don’t look further. i keep loosing friends groups. i can’t keep anything for longer than a few years. the people who i actually know well all go to different schools and we don’t see each other irl at all. i feel so lonely and lost, and it’s starting to feel like there’s no point in meeting new people if this pattern is just going to repeat itself. if i’m just going to sit alone at lunch.
your point on college is so real. i can’t wait for college where i meet people who are like me, who have interests like me. people who i don’t already know, people who might stick around.
Stay strong
You'll meet new people and get some friends
Trust me
Aww, thank you! 💕
vyvanse ruined my life I was misdiagnosed adhd when I had autism and it kinda made me act like I was on meth for the entirety of middle school and now everyone hates me
I’m literally the weird loner kid everyone in school makes jokes about because of it and I hate my life idk if I can make it past 18
You can make it pass 18, trust. Even if it’s hard to stay positive you’ll always make it out on a positive note
Gang, this is the worst. I'm in a group but still feel alone😅😝
so real
crying couse its too relatable
almost forgot what I was watching, I was too locked in on the gameplay 😭
real af.. just gotta get through senior year and hopefully college will change things and me
Im 14 and this made me feel less lonely because it’s relatable 😭 (im homeschooling but as soon as i turn 15 thats when im being sent to high school its gonna be hell)
I’m on my last year of hs and in the uk so I have my exams coming up (GCSEs) but a few days ago I lost my whole friend group, and what makes things worse is that I have several people that hate me so I’m just gonna be a bigger target for them, I’ve been off school coz I’m trying to figure out what I’m going to do, I want to be homeschooled but I can’t coz next week my exams start so I’m going to have to be forced to go to school and I’m dreading lunch the most, I still have two friends left but they don’t rlly know each other and they are in separate friend groups which I don’t rlly vibe with, they Alr said that I can hang out with them at lunch but it’s gonna be so hard because it won’t be the same😭
as a soon to be sophmore, i am freindly with everyone, but freinds with nobody. What do i do?
Just try to deepen the friendship with the people who you are friendly with. Usually there’s a least one person who you know you’ll be able to get closer with
@@SiaaSpits Thanks so much for the advice. I guess its a bit difficult to do for me. I'll try my best. ty :)
always being bullied since pre-school
It’s always the like “buddies” too that aren’t actually your friends bc they have other friends and you see them like once a day. Like bro I HAVE NO COMMUNITY. I feel like my years have been completely wasted. At least I graduate this yr 😭I srsly wanna skip to college too.
Agreed can’t wait to also graduate this year too because I swear when it’s your peers it’s like some switch turns on and everybody don’t wanna fw you all of a sudden 😔😭
Im a junior too and I have been going through the same thing. I transferred my sophomore year, I used to have a large group of friends but they turned out to be fake asf and they all drifted away no matter how hard I tried to save the friendships, Ive done spots and clubs but the relationships I make are always limited to that topic, I'm almost 18 and I spend my breaks in the bathroom and my lunches sitting in my car where I eat alone. Its really tough having no social life. Im honestly I bit lost but this video is comforting not going to the lunch line because I have to stand alone is so real. I really don't know how I'm supposed to make it through another year. I barely go to school anymore the anxiety is so bad Im js genuinely so lonely, even the friends i make a work only ever want to talk about work sh!t god idk i js need a friend
Definitely keep your head up, and try not to worry about the next school year or the future in general. It can be stressful and cause more pain. That's what I'm trying to do since it's only one more year left until I'm out of this terrible school. My goal is to just get through the school year without missing so many days due to anxiety, and pick up a hobby of some sorts. Obviously loneliness will be evident, but being able to distract yourself from it with something that makes you happy can help.
aint nun but straight facts
Yessirr
Omg, I am from Belarus, and having no friends in high-school here, is no better, maybe even worse. I feel pretty much the same, and my mental health is just tripping. Thank god here we only study 11 years and it is my last year.
U gotta try harder when findinh friends in university! When u meet one, they r the kindest, but u meet one enemy, they r the most evil.
You’re too real for this. Push awn gurl ‼️
Thank youuu!!
I'm going through this (uk) high school
I do leave officially on study leave next Friday but over the past 4 months
My freinds always left school to go over her boyfreinds place leaving me by myself ignoring me never talks to me and I can only sit in the toilet stall messaging my mum or watch tiktok no motivation to finish my final exams
We used to be together 24 7 but she is to busy with him to think how it affects me and her other freinds
i relate with her so much
I relate, nice vid, nice hoffy edits
i relate to this SO much
I relate to this so much
Whenever i do make friends and we click and laugh, it never goes outside of school. its actually so annoying... i like them but we're just different ppl different energies and at this point i dont know who I do wanna be friends with
Often times i ponder what life would be lime if i could go out to parties, go to the beach and do everything. i think about the fact that my teenage years are coming to an end, i will never be able to repeat them and i have wasted them.
It hurts seeing ppl make plans in front of me, in-school friends making plans with people i never even knew they liked.
anything but hang with me ig
and 1:27, f8ck it i hate that girl so much. any tips for getting that r@tard away from me?
I started doing homeschool for the 9th grade and I’m now in the 11th grade and I literally have 0 friends lol it reallyyyyy sucks bc I also love talking so it definitely doesn’t help but I do feel as though it has taught me so much about myself bc I used to have massive friend group but it was rlly toxic
This is the only reason I’m glad I’m a triplet. If I don’t have anyone o hang out with I just steal my sisters friends and now we are all a friend group and if none of us have friends we have each other.
So unbelievably lucky, my siblings are half a year younger than me so it’s super difficult.
@@SiaaSpits I’m sorry for you.
YOOOOOO searched for a vid like this cuz im 18 and at my first year (chose 2 yr highschool to get it faster over with PLUS ya lazy to explain why 18 and at hs) ANWYAS BUT UEA HAILLL FUCKING NAH i pull up everyday and irs so depressing cuz my ass has no one to talk to in school, if i talk w someone ik their ass think im so socially awkward and weird and it sucks man like getting bullied for being myself made it worse cuz rhat jjst ruins my confidence in being me and acting like myself and no one gets the humor either and all thay stuff and its so hard to get up when you dont have ANY person at all to lool forward to in school or after :/ im a loud ish persom who loves to joke around and be weird and "dumb" at heart, and watching classmates around me what i want to be is rllyheart breaking :( injsit wish i could spend these highschool years with good memories without getting jealous of my friends who have other friends and partners ANWYAYSNELP I TALKED ALOT U SEEM VERY VERY COOL woild be cool to maybe get ur discord and just idk chat for fun u seem EXTREMELY FUN LIKE HOW COME NOBODY WANT TO BE FRUWNDS WITH U😭😭😭GHEYRE ALL MISSING OUT🙄🙄🙄🔥🔥