Can we talk about how this was filmed at a Catholic school because it implies that maybe this school isn't so against the idea of other genders and sexualities, makes me happy.
We don't agree with the lifestyle, but we don't treat people like jerks for having that lifestyle. Edit: yeah you don't have to mention it, i realized, error in my words.
@@Noahed_ Sadly as a Catholic myself there aren't many who are chill with these people, most are jerks when it comes to the topic of lgbtq+ but I'm glad you aren't one of them.
@@BonnieSilva-je2yb no no no no no give me her Instagram, Twitter, WhatsApp, snapchat, pinterest, Facebook, number, tumblr, RUclips, tinder, discord, tiktok, twitch whatever you can find imma cuss her out respectfully I have people who can cuss her out respectfully please respond I want to have a talk with this bully
The poem: I'm a girl, or maybe I'm not. The first time I breathed in that thought I was far too old to be redefining myself, so I coughed it out like a stale cigarette after a long night of bad decisions, looked at my reflection and told myself, "You're wrong." That night I put on the shortest skirt I had and went out dancing. 'til I realised I was only skirting around my deepest fears. You see, every time someone calls me "she", my stomach turns and my skin feels thick, like someone raised a panic alarm in my brain. And with every "her" that gets hurled my way, I get turned around. I'm not lost, just never seemed to have the right map. But see, I'm not trapped in a body I hate. Just wrapped in words that don't relate to the way my skin feels on my bones. Or the way that I only feel like home, when no one knows what exactly it is I am, so... Maybe I'm a man. Except I don't think that's right. There's never been a fight like bar brawls through my veins telling myself that I need to change. "Him"...feels like synonymous with someone else. "He", a chorus unto itself. And "his" just fits too loosely. So, maybe I'm not. Either, I mean. I go online to see, "do you realise no one's buying this?" Do you realise, I'm not selling myself short anymore? 'cause for the first time I opened up the door to possibility of being myself, I found a treasure map I left for myself back when I was a kid. When the only thing I was scared of losing was my sense of self. You see, I never thought we were speaking the same language until someone said "they" instead. So tell me I'm wrong, tell me I'm broken, tell me I must hate myself to be the way I am. And I will tell you I never knew what it was like to fly until I let myself breathe in. I finally found my map, you know, X marks the spot.
Indeed, i learnt this in neurolingüística programming that life is the road and how we approach it is the map, sometimes all it takes is to navigate with a different map one that is updated in our needs, sometimes we are given this map by our parents it worked for them but we have other needs.
When my mom saw that I thought I was ace and gender fluid she said I’m too young for labels :D What she said was a big f u to the face in my opinion so this comment is something that actually makes me wanna give you a hug
@@fruitsmoothie4565like not being rude but kinda get how she's th8nking but really based on your age so cus if you're in like ages 8 to 10 I would think the same but no hate or anything😊
@@Awesomefy11 incorrect, you new kids don't understand that GENDER is tied into SEX. Just because you feel like they/them doesn't actually mean its true, just like how if someone believes in God it doesn't actually make him true. What im trying to say is, just because you believe something, doesn't actually make it factually correct/right. All you havto do is look at every single mega great empire and you will see that the blending of genders has ALWAYS been the first of a downward spiral that ALWAYS leads to a nations failure. Literally every single one of em' that has ever done it, fell, VERY shortly after it was made the "standard" when you blurr the line between man and women, things get nasty real quick, don't worry you Americans will see in about 35 years i reckon.
Ashes poem: "I'm a girl, or maybe I'm not. The first time i breathed in that thought I was far too old to be redefining myself, so I coughed it out like a stale cigarette after a long night of bad decisions. I looked at my reflection and told myself, 'You're wrong.' That night I put on the shortest skirt I had and went out dancing, until I realized I was only skirting around my deepest fears. You see, every time someone calls me 'she,' my stomach turs and my skin feels thick like someone raised a panic alarm in my brain, and with every 'her' that gets hurled my way, i get turned around. I'm not lost, just never seemed to have the right map. But see, I'm not trapped in a body i hate, just wrapped in words that don't relate to the way my skin feels on my bones, or the way that i only feel like home, when no one knows what exactly i am so... Maybe i am a man. except I don't think that's right. There has never been a fight like bar brawls through my veins telling me I need to change. 'him' feels like synonymous with someone else, 'he' a chorus unto itself, and 'he' just fits too loosely. so maybe I'm not... either, I mean I go online to see "do you realize no one is buying this?" Do you realize I'm not selling myself short anymore? Because for the first time I have opened up the door to the possibility of being myself. I found a treasure map that I made for myself when i was a kid, when the only thing I was scared of losing was my sense of self. You see, i never thought we were speaking the same language until someone said 'they' instead. So tell me I'm wrong, tell me I'm broken, tell me i must hate myself so much to be the way i am. And i will tell you I never knew what it was to fly until i let myself breathe in. I finally found a map, you know? Like X-marks the spot." Every line in the poem has a meaning, and it wouldn't be complete without the line. edit: holy shit thx for the likes lol
“you’re like my hero…” “you’re still a nerd tho” this describes the relationship between siblings exactly. like, i’ll give you my kidney, but why tf would i ever let you borrow my charger?
"I'm not trapped in a body I hate Just wrapped in words that don't relate to the way my skin feels on my bones" Just beautiful and hella relatable. Thanks for doing this 😊
I’m crying my mom yelled at me for coming out to people and I couldn’t explain why I wanted to be Neo not my birth name and use they them instead of she her this film says it perfectly but I’m too scared to send it to her
@@theflyingaxolotls I want to say something inspiring but I don’t know what to say but maybe this will help. Just know one day you will be free and happy with soemone you love and loves you no matter what (if you want )and maybe you will have children maybe not but that’s your choice if you take it and if u want that choice to have children you have to stay strong and go through this with a smile like all might (my hero academia reference)
The part where Charlotte to Charlie but then she wouldn't accept Julianna to Ash was such a common thing to happen. the only reason the second wasn't acceptable was because of the reasoning behind it.
@@fadliahahmad4553 Eh, I've had cis/cis-appearing classmates ask to be called by a vastly different nickname by the teacher/class, just because they thought it sounded cooler or it's what all their friends called them and it was a change in a heartbeat. Most of the time it really is just the reasoning of "oh but that doesn't fit what I perceive you as.... so no"
In my school days teachers call us by our prefered names. Many students had nicknames, my best friend is trans and teachers just went along with his new name. I hope in the future this applies to everyones school and life in general. :)
@@samuelbealer608 PERIIOODDDTTT. people wanna struggle with my preferred name regardless of how long they've known me bUT FOR A CISHET GIRL I DIDNT EVEN KNOW HER BIRTHNAME FOR 2 1/2 YEARS!!! staff and student all just called jordan --> raine w/o question
The ending hit so hard whenever the teacher crossed out Jillian and out ash. It brought me to tears!! Then I absolutely felt the "what's the point in being myself if it makes me want to f^cking die." It has proven so true whenever I didn't have a strong community to back me up and I felt like I was alone.
The worst part is that it's completely wrong, singular they/them is an actual thing 😭 Istg these transphobes are so dumb, i am not a native english speaker and even i know that singular they/them is a thing
I ended up crying cuz the way hey described how "she/her" pronouns felt like a punch, while "he/him" felt like another person entirely is exactly how it feels for me.
me too. i don’t know why i feel this way and the worst part is everyone just believes it’s some made up thing but there’s science behind it. my mom called me, “girly” today and it literally made me feel so sick. i don’t know why i feel this way and i really wish i didn’t
@@rutherfardcareelium Yeah but at the end of the day you just want to be accepted by your parents. It’s seen as more of an excuse to not accept your kids than a way of showing you “care” in the end, your kids will still want to be referred to as whatever and no matter what kids get teased (no matter gender, sexuality, appearance, name) so why not just accept your kids and help them through their troubles?
"Do you use the woman's or man's restroom?" Ah, in fact, I use the Restroom 9 and 3/4, ignoring the restroom signs, and simply walk into the wall in the middle of it where I will do my business.
@@Neels01 But the word f*ck doesn’t necessarily refer to someone’s race now does it? Whereas the “N” word does because you can’t be simply throwing that word around like it’s nothing. Unless you are actually a person of colour only then are you entitled to use that word. Otherwise you are just plain racist.
I've had this in my "watch later" but never got around to actually watching it until now. I'm in tears. My parents are not supportive in the slightest, and ever since I tried coming out to them (which was immediately shut down by a "no you're not') they have been more homophobic than ever. I'm just waiting for the day I can finally move out of this hellhole and be myself.
It's alright, just keep on pushing, friend. I know how you feel because I've had my fair share of homophobic parents as well. Many times, I've thought about just ending it all, but I'm glad I've had friends to pull me back to my senses. I hope you have someone or will have someone like that to support you. One day, you will be free. One day you'll be capable enough to be able to fly amongst the clouds and just be yourself.
That is horrible, I can’t understand how some parents dislike and shut down things that are both healthy for the child to express and makes them comfortable. It is meant to be their job to make the child feel safe and happy. I wish you the best of luck in your situation.
@@TabFPcrea That's very sweet of your best friend and their parents! I'm so happy for you friend ^^ I hope things get better after your birthday and happy birthday in advance :)
School office doesn't care about the students' feelings, but if you defend them or yourself, they intervene. Just like when Charlie refuted Dominique at the poem scene.
School guidance sucks. They don’t care until you’re grades start slipping then they’re like “we noticed you haven’t been doing the best” like were all of the other signs not enough?
“What about intersex people?” “Didn’t you hear her? They don’t exist.” *what am I? A roach?* I mean, she’s one to talk. Her name is Dominique. I’m pretty sure that’s a gender neutral name
Sorry , but I think you mean gender neutral. There's no such thing as a non-binary name unless you are referring to a non-binary person's name maybe. Anyways , I'm a girl on a family member's account and bye Felicia (lol).
That describes the feeling so accurately I can't. I'm non binary and even though I've came to this realization long ago only now this word sits in my brain as something describing me and not just a word. It has a meaning. Thank you so much for creating this.
"you wanna use they them? What are you, multiple people?" Yes Infact, I have stolen the souls of the children I keep in my attic and feed off of them, making me, plural.
@@b001-y9f No, they/them is still made for plural use. No matter how you look at it. I do agree though, English speakers have used they/them outside of plural use. It's the hypocrisy in some people that is bafflingly funny.
I'm not even trans or non-binary, or genderfluid. I know that I'm a girl and I'm ok with that. But I just really hate my name, especially when ppl say: Adoni is such a beautiful name! But like no, I hate it. Its just too unique for me. That's why when I'm older I'm probably just gonna be preferred as my nickname, cocoa, or my other nickname cece. I don't even understand why I hate it so much but I just do.
i remember going to an airport and they had a stall and the sign on the stall said “a stall for all genders and identities”. it was nice to see a stall like that
@@queerdeer4134 exactly even if people use “science says” blah blah blah as an excuse. It’s stupid because they’re saying that “intersex people” aren’t science when it actually is anyways :/
Teacher: Ash is a boys name Ash: it's gender neutral. * later on * Dominic: * ridiculing ash and making fun of them for their 'boy' name * DOMINIC IS LITERALLY THE EXACT SAME, GENDER NEUTRAL- Edit: holy woah thanks for the likes!? Edit 2: woah thanks for 1k😳
Im not trying to be that weird person but ela is one of my main subjects that I'm good at and they and them is more than one person like a group of people... How can 1 being be more than 1. Like if I'm going to a store do I pay for two since I'm not one? Im not confused with my pronouns I'm a she her since that's how I was born but I am confused on how a person can be more than one aka a they/them... How does that work?
@@Precaus So imagine someone was visiting you and left something behind, let's say a bag. It's not uncommon to say something like "oh no, they left their bag here".
Honestly, the part where the teacher let Charlotte change her name to Charlie but didn’t let Juliana change their name to Ash wasn’t fair. Ash literally had to go to write an entire script just to be accepted. edit: GUYS I AM SO SORRY I WROTE THIS ONE YEAR AGO AND I JUST NOW REALISED MY SHE/HER USAGE ON ASH. I'LL EDIT THAT RIGHT NOW
@@geometrydashpro4209 THEY didn't change to a man. They were always nonbinary. They once believed they were female. They were never a guy. But now they know that they're nonbinary.
I treat everyone with respect that they deserve, whether they’re different or not, and if I met someone that goes by the pronouns they/them, I’ll respect that! It’s not fair that society criticizes someone for being different.
I think that poem describes me so well I'm constantly being told "your a boy" "your a girl" I just want it to all shut up I am ME and that's all that's important✊
I am a trans woman and my heart goes out to all the non-binary people in our gorgeous community! I stand with all parts of the trans and gender diverse communities, and I strongly support you. You are valid! You matter! Free hugs for all the people in our beautiful community!🤗🥰🥰
When she said "It hurts me to see you hurt" my instant thought of a reaction was "Then stop hurting me." Edit- I know she didn't know about it, relax with the replies I'm not stupid. That's just what I thought of when I heard it.
@American Empire ... Oh great another uneducated bitch. Is it that hard for you to learn that gender is a social construct, and that there's more than just two? Shut up and go learn some stuff, then come back and apologize
@American Empire uhm no. These labels help people who fit outside of societal norms and expectations, they were made and changed to help people find themselves and their community.
I cried my eyes out as a non-binary person, so I can put myself in their shoes. I still remember my exit. It's been almost 3 years since I realized I'm non-binary, but the world is still cruel. Every day on the internet or in real life people bully me because of my non-binary nature but I'm not going to change and it's not just a phase, I can be whoever I want and no amount of death threats will change that. love yourself always and no matter how hard it is to be yourself. I love you always :3
I’m a trans man but Ash’s story is very relatable. Genuinely, trying to convince myself I was a girl was the worst point I was at. But tbh me coming out was kinda shitty because the bullying I face in person. And online I see people debating my rights and thinking I was “groomed” into feeling this way. Despite me having to go through multiple phases of discovery and rejection. My family when I first came out as non-binary didn’t believe me until I got more comfortable and came out as a trans man. My family all know me as a boy and Parker. I recently had my birthday and I was actually me. Parker. The birthday boy. If you’re struggling, please know there are people who love you.
I told my mum I was non binary and that I was getting harassed by more then half the guys and girls in my year. She immediately disregarded that I was being harassed and said "I'm a pretty girl and that guys are going to flirt with me" Yeah _parent of the year over here_
@@ChaosCrystalArtist I’m so sorry, I hope your mom accepts that you are who you want to be and I hope she helps you feel more comfortable for being yourself, I’m proud of you
@rudolfshitler no there really isn't and before you say "it's basic biology" yeah maybe you should learn some more advanced biology because the biology your probably basing this off you learned when you were 14/15 and your high school teacher only had 8 months to teach it too you so obviously they had to simplify it and they over simplified it to the point where it is incorrect
God, I started tearing up when they screamed “Mom! Can I borrow your makeup?” after they had the most realistic and relatable mental breakdown I’ve ever seen.
"it's just a phase" "get over yourself" "it's because of that damn phone" I get told that quite often, I put it aside I am a bisexual non-binary person. This film has helped myself find my true self thank you.
This was so relatable I cried my eyes out watching it. I’m not non-binary, but I’m gender fluid, and it’s really hard to fit in with that identity. In my old school I was constantly bullied because of it. I had supportive friends thankfully, but very few. I moved this year and I’ve been hiding it for a while. Only two people I really trust know about it. I honestly don’t want it to get out as it could cause more problems, but at the same time it’s torture trying to keep it in. I love how Ash was so confident and was able to speak their mind in front of their class. I for one could never. I just wish transphobic and homophobic people didn’t exist, or at least just kept to themselves instead of feeling the need to tell us how they feel about us. This was really beautiful, and I loved every second of it. Thank you so much for this, it really made my day.
"I'm not traped in a body I hate. Just wrapped in words that don't relate to the way my skin feels on my bones" This is so accurate. I can't believe they found a way to express this feeling into words. Everytime I hear them say those words I get goosebumps.
This is me. All the time. I'm genderfluid. My brother tells me to change my body so he feels more natural (btw, he keeps saying it's for me, I know otherwise), and I keep explaining that it isn't necessary, and if anything I'd be the same as I am now.
@@rubybeard6406 You and your feeling are 100% valid. Don't let your brother pressure you into taking actions you are not comfortable with. Listen to your heart not to toxic people, even if it is hard. I'm with you. Stay strong and stay proud.
As a non binary person myself, I’m really proud of Ash reading the poem aloud, and not caring what other people thought, because, I would never have that courage !
I’m not trans, demi, or anything like that. But I don’t understand why people make fun of you guys! If you want to be a guy, be a guy. My dad called people who identify as they/them “it” and I really don’t understand why. You do you!
@EmmyLu it isn’t up to you to decide what’s right or wrong with somebody, they can figure that out themselves. They shouldn’t be defined by some chemicals in their body.
@@emmylu4016 i see someone forgot that it’s 2020 and it doesn’t matter what someone identifies as. if someone, for example probably a lot of people in these comments, wants to use they/them pronouns in any way, shape, or form, they are allowed to. it doesn’t matter what you think. this isn’t something that you can have opinions on this is someone’s entire identity, someone’s entire life. why should they feel bad for themselves because you don’t “agree” with how they feel comfortable? just say you’re transphobic and move along.
i can relate to their poem so much. it hurts when people call me by she/her pronouns. but my friends accepted me and call me by they/them. when my friends accidently call me by she/her, they immediately correct themselves and apologize.
I’d assume she was talking about changing her name in the school book, and I I am correct then yes you would have to legally change your name, school books don’t accept nicknames
The girl saying that intersex people don't exist when they're about 1.7%* of the population. She's a redhead which is 1 to 2 percent lmao *Not every font agrees but you can find it on the internet
the way that charlie kept calling them ash and using they/them pronouns on them made me wish i had a friend like charlie. & the fact the teacher crossed out julianas name to change it to ash made me cry.
''intersex’s don’t exist'' me: god------ In case you didn't understand: I didn't say 'God ---' to say that God was non-binary, I said to mention my reaction the moment I saw the scene and I was discredited.
I almost cried watching this. I related more then I could ever imagine to the words they spoke. Whenever I think of myself I push it away, I’m afraid to accept myself though I know it’s true. Some days I find it hard to explain this feeling that runs through me, in the end I know I’m me deep inside. I just find it difficult to believe
@@ahappyplace6619 at least I don’t spend my time hating on people who are simply trying to exist a normal life span without being killed for who they are‼️🥰 I think a real loser is someone who hates on people for stuff they can’t control, I’m proud to be who I am so get a life and education 🥳🤩
Every time I heard someone or herself calling "she" "Im a girl" I felt a pinch in my heart... I go by she/they for now...Im not 100% sure what am I so I kinda know how it feels to be lost whenever I question myself/ my gender... Thank you for making this video.
I go by She/They too. I'm currently fixated on it and identifying as a bisexual demigirl but you know, we'll find our identities. We'll find it at different times, but we'll be there. Just be yourself.
I'm not 100% sure what I am, too. I don't like 'her' or 'him' or 'them', it doesn't feel right. The voices in my head tell me it's just a phase, and I'm being weird, or it's just because I've seen and read stuff, not because I'm confused and this is generally what I feel. I'm not even 14 yet and I'm confused, is it ok?
I go also as she/ they with my friends but my family calls me by she/her all the time. My older sister supports lgbtq+ and she’s trying really hard to talk to me with she/they pronounce and I’m really happy about it. That felt good tiler out.
Your name is Ash and whatever else you want to identify with!! Anyone who tells you different is wrong and doesn't deserve your time. You are so loved and valid!!!!!
i don't know why that hurt me knowing i hate my red hair although this is irrelevant and just plain stupid, thank you for making me feel common because i hate being considered "rare" i'm also just here to send this video to my enby friend, i hope you guys have a nice day
As a Non Binary, I live with parents who dont really believe or support about this type of stuff. I'm so glad to know I'm not crazy into believing that this is what I idenify with. I almost cried happy tears. Thank you so much for creating this, I feel so alive. This comment might get buried, but if someone reads this, I hope you have a great life.
i understand your feeling. i hope that you and every genderqueer and non binary person are able to live freely and happily without judgement of people scared of (not-so) new ideas and changes in the way life goes on. i hope you have a great life too :)
As a Demi-girl, this spoke to me so hard. Nonbinary isn’t just “being neither male or female” or “having no gender”. It’s an umbrella term. Enbies don’t owe you androgyny.
@@ranboosupermacy7055 Demigirl/demiboy or just demigender means when you feel partially one gender, and partially something else, though most demigender people say that other half is agender. I’m demigirl and most days I feel about 50% girl and 50% agender/something else. Hope this helps!
@@actuallynoone7176 I’m sorry about that :( some people just get really narrow minded and get upset when they don’t understand something. I think it’s best to leave her be until she understands and learns to accept you or move on
My heart melted and I cried in the car when she crossed out “Julian” and wrote “Ash” 🥺😭 meanwhile my mom asked why I was crying and I said “oh no reason!”
@@bcjfjcjdjidicicuf6326 that was pretty un-called for. And they just wanted to share their story for the enjoyment of others. Just because they like gacha doesn't mean they should be teased for that. I know this is your opinion, but don't hate when it's not fitting. -_-
Ikr man it’s just so fucking sad 😢 man I hate everything about this world 🌎 fuck all homophobia’s lol they should be they one ☝️ getting beat up 🤕 🤬 in the streets man 😤
Hey friend, I am a Trans-man, and I know that I am 11 months late for your comment but I just want to let you know that you are loved, and those who do not love and appreciate you are not worth it.
I was a cis guy on the train wearing a pink watch. Child their mom "Why does the man have a girl's watch?" Mom was like "It's his watch, he bought it." Child replies "So can I have a pink watch too?"
“You hear her, they don’t exist” When I tell you I died at this sentence XD It’s a very clear thing and there’s literally scientific evidence of intersex people’s existences but people I know irl still deny it The representation and real world problems in this are so accurate, keep it up
Love the poem? Give some love to the original, full length version by Kaitlyn Alexander ruclips.net/video/79R4YsVeacQ/видео.html
I loved ittttt! My sister its like ash :)
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Great job❤❤❤!!!!!
hi my pronouns are they them
Only thing you could have added was "I'm a girl, but I am not. Am I a man or am I not. Either way, dominique's a thot" /j
Charlie: *brings up non-binary*
Me: *starts tearing up* "you go Charlie, educating the masses even if the masses are one person"
Me a they/them watching this:🥺🥺🥺
@@innocentweeb9863 Same 🥺
,,Educating” no talking about non binary ,,people” is not educating but implying agenda
@@mateusz4660 fix the quotations
@@MYSTERIOUSORBS I don’t think I will
Can we talk about how this was filmed at a Catholic school because it implies that maybe this school isn't so against the idea of other genders and sexualities, makes me happy.
We don't agree with the lifestyle, but we don't treat people like jerks for having that lifestyle. Edit: yeah you don't have to mention it, i realized, error in my words.
@@Noahed_ ?? being lgbtq+ isn’t a lifestyle lmao. we didn’t choose to be this way.
@Rowen Reid you get the point. We don't agree with it, but we aren't going to be jerks to someone because of it.
@@Noahed_ Sadly as a Catholic myself there aren't many who are chill with these people, most are jerks when it comes to the topic of lgbtq+ but I'm glad you aren't one of them.
@@Noahed_ it's not a lifestyle
i do appreciate what you do tho
I love how the bully was like "that's a boy's name" Bitch, your name's DOMINIQUE
And what kind of name is dominique too 💀
@@mudkip984 my cousin's stepbrother
REALLLLLL
@@mudkip984 It's a french name actually
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The thing that hurts the most is knowing that people actually do this and act this way.
Yeah- I’m currently getting bullied at my school for being non-binary by one of thos “popular gurls” that says she’s apparently bi
@@BonnieSilva-je2yb no no no no no give me her Instagram, Twitter, WhatsApp, snapchat, pinterest, Facebook, number, tumblr, RUclips, tinder, discord, tiktok, twitch whatever you can find imma cuss her out respectfully
I have people who can cuss her out respectfully please respond
I want to have a talk with this bully
@@BonnieSilva-je2yb remember be yourself
@@BonnieSilva-je2yb I feel that so much, but don't ever change who you are.
@@ScorpihoeOfficial OKI her social on
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Snap: Johanna.8212
And she blocked me on tiktok
Funny thing: Dominique, the bullie' s name, is actually gender neutral in french, and mostly assigned to men
How the turntables bish
@shrimp lmao
congratulations, you played yourself
Right that's what I thought. To me Dominique sounds more like a male name that Ash
Yeah, but it's written Dominic for a boy
The poem:
I'm a girl, or maybe I'm not.
The first time I breathed in that thought I was far too old to be redefining myself, so I coughed it out like a stale cigarette after a long night of bad decisions, looked at my reflection and told myself, "You're wrong."
That night I put on the shortest skirt I had and went out dancing.
'til I realised I was only skirting around my deepest fears.
You see, every time someone calls me "she", my stomach turns and my skin feels thick, like someone raised a panic alarm in my brain.
And with every "her" that gets hurled my way, I get turned around.
I'm not lost, just never seemed to have the right map.
But see, I'm not trapped in a body I hate.
Just wrapped in words that don't relate to the way my skin feels on my bones.
Or the way that I only feel like home, when no one knows what exactly it is I am, so...
Maybe I'm a man.
Except I don't think that's right.
There's never been a fight like bar brawls through my veins telling myself that I need to change.
"Him"...feels like synonymous with someone else.
"He", a chorus unto itself.
And "his" just fits too loosely.
So, maybe I'm not.
Either, I mean.
I go online to see, "do you realise no one's buying this?"
Do you realise, I'm not selling myself short anymore?
'cause for the first time I opened up the door to possibility of being myself,
I found a treasure map I left for myself back when I was a kid.
When the only thing I was scared of losing was my sense of self.
You see, I never thought we were speaking the same language until someone said "they" instead.
So tell me I'm wrong, tell me I'm broken, tell me I must hate myself to be the way I am.
And I will tell you I never knew what it was like to fly until I let myself breathe in.
I finally found my map, you know, X marks the spot.
Thanks :)
This is underrated
how long did that take you to type
Oh my god thank you so much ❤️
this is such a beautiful poem
"i'm not lost, just never seemed to have the right map." woah- total goosebumps.
you know what also crazy? that this comment has no replies
@@gloomycrewmate2622 holy shit i didn't even realize how many likes i got 😭🖤
Why?
*”anybody have a map” intensifies *
Indeed, i learnt this in neurolingüística programming that life is the road and how we approach it is the map, sometimes all it takes is to navigate with a different map one that is updated in our needs, sometimes we are given this map by our parents it worked for them but we have other needs.
"Are you a boy or a girl?"
✨I am an experience✨
that reminds me of garnet's quote to stevonnie (who's intersex and non-binary)... she says, 'You are an EXPERIENCE!!'
" what's in your pants? "
{( ✨ °•* “'” *-a party your not invited to-* ”'” *•° ✨ )}
For the few months I referred to myself as NB I always answered “I’m American wbu” and it was always funny
Steven universe reference !?!?
@@NotNochos ah yes, my favourite gender… 😋 A M E R I C A N 😋
When the teacher crossed off “Juliana” and wrote “Ash” my heart melted 🥺❣️
Same,
Me too!!
same
IM CRYINGGG
I literally cried and I’m cisfemale LMAO
"It hurts me to see you hurt!"
"Then accept me for who I am and not who you want me to be."
I’m pretty sure the mom didn’t knew, or i miss understood.
@@vuhigins7890 That’s was what the OP was gonna reply to that statement.
Lavarose, that's me and my mom's view on me being a lesbian in a nutshell
It actually hurts
When my mom saw that I thought I was ace and gender fluid she said I’m too young for labels :D
What she said was a big f u to the face in my opinion so this comment is something that actually makes me wanna give you a hug
@@fruitsmoothie4565like not being rude but kinda get how she's th8nking but really based on your age so cus if you're in like ages 8 to 10 I would think the same but no hate or anything😊
when the teacher marked off “julianna” and replaced it with ash i cried like a baby
Metoo 👉🏼👈🏼
same
All my fellow babies, hello
Same here! As an enby this video means so much to me!
s a m e
The fact that my catholic church has female, male and an all gender restroom-
I'm jealous rn-
People don't know the difference between sex and gender 😂😂😂😂
@@Awesomefy11 incorrect, you new kids don't understand that GENDER is tied into SEX.
Just because you feel like they/them doesn't actually mean its true, just like how if someone believes in God it doesn't actually make him true.
What im trying to say is, just because you believe something, doesn't actually make it factually correct/right.
All you havto do is look at every single mega great empire and you will see that the blending of genders has ALWAYS been the first of a downward spiral that ALWAYS leads to a nations failure.
Literally every single one of em' that has ever done it, fell, VERY shortly after it was made the "standard" when you blurr the line between man and women, things get nasty real quick, don't worry you Americans will see in about 35 years i reckon.
LUCKY
#polandcouldnever
Charlie: "Hey Ash"
Ash: " *unintelligible salty sounds* "
Charlie: **confused screaming**
that is so true-
this is soo trueeee
I love ur name- probably because imma oikawa stan tho-
Lol 😂
ash sounds like sheys turning into ash
“Do you use the boys or the girls restroom?”
Neither, I in fact stand at the water fountain awkwardly waiting for my friends to be done
imagine having friends
@@miyahsthoughtz fair 😩😩
@@e-brown ya same i'll usually just wait till i get home if there isnt a gender neutral one
Have you never ran at the wall between both bathrooms to get to stall 9 3/4?
@@miyahsthoughtz ouch
Me: *scrolling through all the comments seeing all the non-binary pfps*
Also me: *That's my s**t right there*
same
Dominic:roses are red, violets are blue
Me:if you don't shut up im gonna hit you with my shoe
1k like UwU
THATS ME SHIT RIGHT THERE
Same
I am 60 and just realising I am nonbinary -this moved me to tears
THERE ARE ONLY 2 GENDERS
I'm so happy for you!
Good for you!
@@AdrianoLopez-Brown2 sexes only sorry. Gender isn’t sex
Welcome to the secret special club of nonbinariness, we are so glad to have you!!!
Why isn't this film more popular? It's amazing!! Representation is sooo important
I couldn’t agree more
Hey non binary teen. M w a me now ( im pansexual heheh )
@@movedchannel5975 that’s great, I’m gay but not out
@@ahappyplace6619 youre shit 😂😂
There’s so many profile pics that are Non-Binary colors
Ashes poem:
"I'm a girl, or maybe I'm not.
The first time i breathed in that thought I was far too old to be redefining myself,
so I coughed it out like a stale cigarette after a long night of bad decisions.
I looked at my reflection and told myself,
'You're wrong.'
That night I put on the shortest skirt I had and went out dancing, until I realized I was only skirting around my deepest fears.
You see, every time someone calls me 'she,' my stomach turs and my skin feels thick
like someone raised a panic alarm in my brain,
and with every 'her' that gets hurled my way, i get turned around.
I'm not lost, just never seemed to have the right map.
But see, I'm not trapped in a body i hate,
just wrapped in words that don't relate to the way my skin feels on my bones,
or the way that i only feel like home,
when no one knows what exactly i am so...
Maybe i am a man.
except I don't think that's right.
There has never been a fight like bar brawls through my veins telling me I need to change.
'him' feels like synonymous with someone else,
'he' a chorus unto itself,
and 'he' just fits too loosely.
so maybe I'm not... either, I mean
I go online to see "do you realize no one is buying this?"
Do you realize I'm not selling myself short anymore?
Because for the first time I have opened up the door to the possibility of being myself.
I found a treasure map that I made for myself when i was a kid, when the only thing I was scared of losing was my sense of self.
You see, i never thought we were speaking the same language until someone said
'they' instead.
So tell me I'm wrong, tell me I'm broken, tell me i must hate myself so much to be the way i am.
And i will tell you I never knew what it was to fly until i let myself breathe in.
I finally found a map, you know?
Like X-marks the spot."
Every line in the poem has a meaning, and it wouldn't be complete without the line.
edit: holy shit thx for the likes lol
💖
(X-marks the spot where you fell apart) but yeah it's enchanting
♥️♥️♥️
@Logan Roof how is it funny-
@@hattiehayward566 I think it was a reaction out of joy or something if the sorts
"what's your gender?"
I actually lost it a few months back, I'm still searching for it
How's the search?
[Gender not found. Error. Gender not found.]
@@awa4906 dude, wtf?
@@mlisp what was it 🧍♀️
@@b1nn13blxsh8 it’s about Jesus I guess?
“you’re like my hero…”
“you’re still a nerd tho”
this describes the relationship between siblings exactly. like, i’ll give you my kidney, but why tf would i ever let you borrow my charger?
Precisely
REAL
THIS IS SO UNDERRATED XDD
Nah actually I would keep my kidney I mean it's mine not yours🙄
"I'm not trapped in a body I hate
Just wrapped in words that don't relate to the way my skin feels on my bones"
Just beautiful and hella relatable.
Thanks for doing this 😊
FR I WAS LIKE 😳 wow just @ me next time why don't you...
I was watching that as I read this
I’m crying my mom yelled at me for coming out to people and I couldn’t explain why I wanted to be Neo not my birth name and use they them instead of she her this film says it perfectly but I’m too scared to send it to her
@@theflyingaxolotls I want to say something inspiring but I don’t know what to say but maybe this will help. Just know one day you will be free and happy with soemone you love and loves you no matter what (if you want )and maybe you will have children maybe not but that’s your choice if you take it and if u want that choice to have children you have to stay strong and go through this with a smile like all might (my hero academia reference)
@@Jfhsjdhbej 🥺
The part where Charlotte to Charlie but then she wouldn't accept Julianna to Ash was such a common thing to happen. the only reason the second wasn't acceptable was because of the reasoning behind it.
it’s probably because charlie and charlotte sound alike and ash and juliana is like very different
@@fadliahahmad4553 Eh, I've had cis/cis-appearing classmates ask to be called by a vastly different nickname by the teacher/class, just because they thought it sounded cooler or it's what all their friends called them and it was a change in a heartbeat. Most of the time it really is just the reasoning of "oh but that doesn't fit what I perceive you as.... so no"
In my school days teachers call us by our prefered names. Many students had nicknames, my best friend is trans and teachers just went along with his new name. I hope in the future this applies to everyones school and life in general. :)
@@samuelbealer608 PERIIOODDDTTT. people wanna struggle with my preferred name regardless of how long they've known me bUT FOR A CISHET GIRL I DIDNT EVEN KNOW HER BIRTHNAME FOR 2 1/2 YEARS!!! staff and student all just called jordan --> raine w/o question
@@samuelbealer608 There was a dude named Robert in my class and he made everybody call him Trey
The captions describing the actions. Mainly “Ash tips back a shot, not nearly drunk enough to deal with this” is perfection😂
[Slow music fades back in]
HAHAH IKR
I turned the captions on just to see that
@@jordingray6619 me too haha
The ending hit so hard whenever the teacher crossed out Jillian and out ash. It brought me to tears!! Then I absolutely felt the "what's the point in being myself if it makes me want to f^cking die." It has proven so true whenever I didn't have a strong community to back me up and I felt like I was alone.
the fact that she said intersex’s don’t exist 😭 straight up ignoring science, not even just being transphobic.
bigots and many conservatives (not all) have a problem with science, especially in the US
Science supports transgender people?? And all of the others, what are your sources
Transgender people, are male and female they just identify with a different one then their birth sex
@@atomeves shut up you ignorant a$$hole and accept that we exist
@@atomeves They're talking about INTERSEX people, not trans people, look it up, they're real.
“You want to use They/Them? What are you, plural?”
Yes Jessica, I am in fact 3 hamsters wrapped in a trench coat.
LMFAOOO
"They say that your gender is what's in your pants"
O h w e l l
The worst part is that it's completely wrong, singular they/them is an actual thing 😭
Istg these transphobes are so dumb, i am not a native english speaker and even i know that singular they/them is a thing
@@osmanthuswine4928 okay then I guess my gender is bombs
Isn't this from tiktok-
I ended up crying cuz the way hey described how "she/her" pronouns felt like a punch, while "he/him" felt like another person entirely is exactly how it feels for me.
me too. i don’t know why i feel this way and the worst part is everyone just believes it’s some made up thing but there’s science behind it. my mom called me, “girly” today and it literally made me feel so sick. i don’t know why i feel this way and i really wish i didn’t
pardon me but what flag is that 😅
the:
💛💛💛
🤍🤍🤍
💜💜💜
🖤🖤🖤
@@herelizabethan it's the non-binary flag
@@Brooke_Jewell yeah, I remember having a conversation with my father before I was out and any time he would say "she" it felt like am emotional stab.
@@purefandom3659 kay thought so
I dont understand how non binary feel, but i think everyone deserves to be themselves
Thank you!
C: Thank you
Thanks :p
Thankyou
"I'm not lost, just never had the right map."
This line alone is amazing.
k
@@lemau8458 k
ً kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
@@snowstar1239 NOOO TOO MANY K’s
yes it is amazing
i hate it so much when parents say “i don’t want you to get teased.” it’s just an excuse for not accepting their kids.
Who would want their children to be teased, wtf-
@@rutherfardcareelium
Yeah but at the end of the day you just want to be accepted by your parents. It’s seen as more of an excuse to not accept your kids than a way of showing you “care” in the end, your kids will still want to be referred to as whatever and no matter what kids get teased (no matter gender, sexuality, appearance, name) so why not just accept your kids and help them through their troubles?
@Otaku P basically her parents could allow her to do whatever she wanted, but guess what would probably happen next - bullying
@@HumeriaV I would help my kids to find themselves in a safe way. Jesus, why do you all have to be drama queens, It's not such a big deal
@@rutherfardcareelium well, you've never met my dad or my stepmom.
"Do you use the woman's or man's restroom?"
Ah, in fact, I use the Restroom 9 and 3/4, ignoring the restroom signs, and simply walk into the wall in the middle of it where I will do my business.
ah yes, the common thing to do.
Omg same
BRO I WAS THINKING OF THAT LOL
I use a restroom where I can close the door and then put an out of order sign so I can have it to myself and effectively make it single stall.
@@Neels01 But the word f*ck doesn’t necessarily refer to someone’s race now does it? Whereas the “N” word does because you can’t be simply throwing that word around like it’s nothing. Unless you are actually a person of colour only then are you entitled to use that word. Otherwise you are just plain racist.
I've had this in my "watch later" but never got around to actually watching it until now. I'm in tears. My parents are not supportive in the slightest, and ever since I tried coming out to them (which was immediately shut down by a "no you're not') they have been more homophobic than ever. I'm just waiting for the day I can finally move out of this hellhole and be myself.
It's alright, just keep on pushing, friend. I know how you feel because I've had my fair share of homophobic parents as well. Many times, I've thought about just ending it all, but I'm glad I've had friends to pull me back to my senses. I hope you have someone or will have someone like that to support you. One day, you will be free. One day you'll be capable enough to be able to fly amongst the clouds and just be yourself.
Bro same
@@royalteabagels thanks buddy
That is horrible, I can’t understand how some parents dislike and shut down things that are both healthy for the child to express and makes them comfortable. It is meant to be their job to make the child feel safe and happy. I wish you the best of luck in your situation.
@@TabFPcrea That's very sweet of your best friend and their parents! I'm so happy for you friend ^^ I hope things get better after your birthday and happy birthday in advance :)
“You want to use they/them? What are you, plural?”
Yes Jessica. I’m 56 rabbits in a shape of human body.
Lest we not hate on Jessica?
I'm 30 rats in a trenchcoat
I’m 69 Cans of Soup that is Morphed into a Human
@@phoenixdragon2422 this comment is now the readon i live lmaoo
@@he1uvvsmel lmfao
I hate so much how the teachers can CLEARLY hear what the mean girls say to them and even with that they don't do anything.
School office doesn't care about the students' feelings, but if you defend them or yourself, they intervene. Just like when Charlie refuted Dominique at the poem scene.
That pretty much happens in real life, it has happened to me and one of my friends, school is a bitch in general lmao
School guidance sucks. They don’t care until you’re grades start slipping then they’re like “we noticed you haven’t been doing the best” like were all of the other signs not enough?
I've had that happen to me, I'm glad i graduated that shit
you guys deserve to get bullied
“What about intersex people?”
“Didn’t you hear her? They don’t exist.”
*what am I? A roach?*
I mean, she’s one to talk. Her name is Dominique. I’m pretty sure that’s a gender neutral name
its a female version of dominick i think lol
@Logan Roof is this a reaction of joy or mockery? I'm confusion
no such thing as non binary name
Sorry , but I think you mean gender neutral. There's no such thing as a non-binary name unless you are referring to a non-binary person's name maybe. Anyways , I'm a girl on a family member's account and bye Felicia (lol).
@@luke3912 I never said that
That describes the feeling so accurately I can't. I'm non binary and even though I've came to this realization long ago only now this word sits in my brain as something describing me and not just a word. It has a meaning. Thank you so much for creating this.
@iamme25yagohave you heard of “Marjorie Taylor Green”?
Bruh what
"you wanna use they them? What are you, multiple people?"
Yes Infact, I have stolen the souls of the children I keep in my attic and feed off of them, making me, plural.
Lovely.
lmao people are so stupid saying shit like “they/them is plural” and then going on to say “the mailman came, they gave us some mail.”
@@b001-y9f exactly
@@b001-y9f No, they/them is still made for plural use. No matter how you look at it. I do agree though, English speakers have used they/them outside of plural use. It's the hypocrisy in some people that is bafflingly funny.
@Brain Burg AAVE dialect has soared in popularity and use, as well as texting language. One of which either you, or someone close to you uses.
We don't have gender pronouns in Turkey, we just call everything and everyone "o" instead of "They, he, she, it"
why wasn't i born Turkish
[everyone liked that]
TIME TO MIGRATE
Brb moving to turkey
@@mallow2332 or "dia" 😃
"Your name is so beautiful! Why would you change it?"
I can relate hard to this. I've heard this so many times.
s a m e
I want my name to be something like Trinity but my name just had to be Anastazja
I hate it when they do that
Same-
I'm not even trans or non-binary, or genderfluid. I know that I'm a girl and I'm ok with that. But I just really hate my name, especially when ppl say: Adoni is such a beautiful name!
But like no, I hate it. Its just too unique for me. That's why when I'm older I'm probably just gonna be preferred as my nickname, cocoa, or my other nickname cece. I don't even understand why I hate it so much but I just do.
i remember going to an airport and they had a stall and the sign on the stall said “a stall for all genders and identities”. it was nice to see a stall like that
was it a sticker?
They could just say unisex though
@@Crafty_Breezethat’s true XD
“Intersex people don’t exsist”
My friend: “mr stark… I don’t feel so good….”
me: my time has come
HAHAHA I CANT LMAO
When they said that I thought “Bro learn basic biology, idiots.”
@@queerdeer4134 exactly even if people use “science says” blah blah blah as an excuse. It’s stupid because they’re saying that “intersex people” aren’t science when it actually is anyways :/
I’m not supposed to laugh my parents are asleep 💀✋🏻
Y’all the red head with an iPhone 5 thinks she’s better than everyone
I accidentally almost deleted my comment while trying to edit this oh my god
HAHAHAEJZ LWJZK
LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOO
HAAHA
LMAOAO PLEASE
she has a 5s or an SE LMAOO
Teacher: Ash is a boys name
Ash: it's gender neutral.
* later on *
Dominic: * ridiculing ash and making fun of them for their 'boy' name *
DOMINIC IS LITERALLY THE EXACT SAME, GENDER NEUTRAL-
Edit: holy woah thanks for the likes!?
Edit 2: woah thanks for 1k😳
IKR PLSS
i've never heard of a girl named dominic so when she said that i was like💀
@@whytho8856 same- I know 3 girls called ash though, LIKE
@@whytho8856 Ash is such a good name oml- I love gender neutral names
Dominique is literally common man's name... That's the irony here
Once someone said:
“His pronouns are They/Them”
I could see them trying to hold in their laughter, and so was I.
my pronouns are they/them yet that sounds like something i would do 😭
so ridiculous you can't even keep up with it in the same sentence 💀💀
@@no-one-1yup...
Im not trying to be that weird person but ela is one of my main subjects that I'm good at and they and them is more than one person like a group of people... How can 1 being be more than 1. Like if I'm going to a store do I pay for two since I'm not one? Im not confused with my pronouns I'm a she her since that's how I was born but I am confused on how a person can be more than one aka a they/them... How does that work?
@@Precaus So imagine someone was visiting you and left something behind, let's say a bag. It's not uncommon to say something like "oh no, they left their bag here".
Honestly, the part where the teacher let Charlotte change her name to Charlie but didn’t let Juliana change their name to Ash wasn’t fair. Ash literally had to go to write an entire script just to be accepted.
edit: GUYS I AM SO SORRY I WROTE THIS ONE YEAR AGO AND I JUST NOW REALISED MY SHE/HER USAGE ON ASH. I'LL EDIT THAT RIGHT NOW
change their name to Ash**
*Ash
*Their
True though and it’s they/them or their
Why she wasnt happy being a gurl whe needd to change to mann 🙄
@@geometrydashpro4209 THEY didn't change to a man. They were always nonbinary. They once believed they were female. They were never a guy. But now they know that they're nonbinary.
I changed my name to "Alex" and someone litterally said "that's a boy's name"......
F them!! Be who you are, you are beautiful
Isn’t Alex gender neutral anyways lol
@@Akyure that's what i thought 🥴
@@Kitty4u I think it is because the second protagonist of Minecraft is named alex
@@Akyure And one of the Totally Spies is named Alex too
"Are you a boy or a girl?"
Batman: "I'm Batman" *Vanishes into thin air*
I wheezed-
YES
"What's in your pants?"
"JUSTICE"
The word *"man"* in the name Batman tells a lot...😁😁😁😁
@@bradanims2616
"Man" could mean "human" as well.
I treat everyone with respect that they deserve, whether they’re different or not, and if I met someone that goes by the pronouns they/them, I’ll respect that! It’s not fair that society criticizes someone for being different.
PLS THE "ASH TAKES A SHOT NOT NEARLY DRUNK ENOUGH TO DEAL WITH THIS" CAPTOIN I CANT-
same when i saw that i was like LMFAOOOO
“Are you a boy or a girl?”
I’m a monarch and you will bow to me peasant
Lol that made my night
@@autumnbreeze4214 I’m glad :D
@@apollosmuse_ :)
wow ur so edgy 😐
@@karenduncan9070 I wasn’t tryna be edgy lol
I think that poem describes me so well I'm constantly being told "your a boy" "your a girl" I just want it to all shut up I am ME and that's all that's important✊
i like bread too
i also like bread :)
@@riptide_835 welcome to the club✌
There's only a boy and girl. Bro u niggas cant be serious
@@lil14roby40 Maybe there is only boy and girl. But what if you want to be none? Shut up and keep it 5o ur damn self.
I am a trans woman and my heart goes out to all the non-binary people in our gorgeous community!
I stand with all parts of the trans and gender diverse communities, and I strongly support you.
You are valid! You matter!
Free hugs for all the people in our beautiful community!🤗🥰🥰
When she said "It hurts me to see you hurt" my instant thought of a reaction was
"Then stop hurting me."
Edit- I know she didn't know about it, relax with the replies I'm not stupid. That's just what I thought of when I heard it.
SAME
sammeee (also u have 69 likes)
But she didn't know.... did she yet?
@American Empire ... Oh great another uneducated bitch. Is it that hard for you to learn that gender is a social construct, and that there's more than just two? Shut up and go learn some stuff, then come back and apologize
@American Empire uhm no. These labels help people who fit outside of societal norms and expectations, they were made and changed to help people find themselves and their community.
"they?? what? are you plural?"
yes. i am three children in a trench coat. and you will refer to me as such.
Luv ur profile pic and name❤️
@@tablesugar13 thank you 👹💕
Children??? I'm a few cats
I thought you were Numerous Bees??
I'm thousands of tortured souls form the nineth circle of hell
when they crossed out Juliana and wrote ash I literally broke down , that made me so happy and emotional. this was amazing. Be You
@@snickerswo1f519 yo same
Same
Same here- my heart can’t handle it
Why-
I can't T^T homophobic parents...-
I cried my eyes out as a non-binary person, so I can put myself in their shoes. I still remember my exit. It's been almost 3 years since I realized I'm non-binary, but the world is still cruel. Every day on the internet or in real life people bully me because of my non-binary nature but I'm not going to change and it's not just a phase, I can be whoever I want and no amount of death threats will change that. love yourself always and no matter how hard it is to be yourself. I love you always :3
Best of luck to you. I’d say it gets better, but I’m a year behind you, so fucked if I know.
Nobody:
The kid who has to read their
poem after them: 👁👄👁
Fr
oh shiet that must’ve been difficult
lollllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll haahhaha loolllll
Lmaoo theyy can’tt compete 😂
bro your pfp. ( o _ o ), that speaks volumes. I can totally relate, stay strong out there
Bathrooms: men and woman
Me: walks through the middle of the wall to 9 & 3/4
Yes
LMAO
I just use the family bathroom
@@nonstopzayzay2154 schools dont usually have those
@@baguette8882 oh yea I forgot. I don’t use the bathroom at school. It’s nasty
“are you a boy or a girl” bro i’m literally just swag
exactly smh, #swaglife
#swag
S w a g
*SWAG*
#swag 😰
I’m a trans man but Ash’s story is very relatable. Genuinely, trying to convince myself I was a girl was the worst point I was at. But tbh me coming out was kinda shitty because the bullying I face in person. And online I see people debating my rights and thinking I was “groomed” into feeling this way. Despite me having to go through multiple phases of discovery and rejection. My family when I first came out as non-binary didn’t believe me until I got more comfortable and came out as a trans man. My family all know me as a boy and Parker. I recently had my birthday and I was actually me. Parker. The birthday boy. If you’re struggling, please know there are people who love you.
Happy very very late bday Parker!
@@theharshtruthoutthereget outta here
Happy bday!
Happy late bday Parker!
So basically your a woman
Everytime they said “I’m a girl” it really did feel like a punch to the gut...
fax no printer
good
I told my mum I was non binary and that I was getting harassed by more then half the guys and girls in my year.
She immediately disregarded that I was being harassed and said "I'm a pretty girl and that guys are going to flirt with me"
Yeah _parent of the year over here_
Yeah
@@ChaosCrystalArtist I’m so sorry, I hope your mom accepts that you are who you want to be and I hope she helps you feel more comfortable for being yourself, I’m proud of you
"i'm not trapped in a body I hate, just wrapped in words that don't relate to how the skin feels on my bones."
nothing more to say.
"intersex people don't exist"
Me: Baby I'm not even here, Imma hallucination
Oh wow, I've never seen a person, who doesn't exist^^ cool
@rudolfshitler no there really isn't and before you say "it's basic biology" yeah maybe you should learn some more advanced biology because the biology your probably basing this off you learned when you were 14/15 and your high school teacher only had 8 months to teach it too you so obviously they had to simplify it and they over simplified it to the point where it is incorrect
@rudolfshitler no theres way more so shut
my humanoid is a marge
@@t0adfa1ry well tell us some
God, I started tearing up when they screamed “Mom! Can I borrow your makeup?” after they had the most realistic and relatable mental breakdown I’ve ever seen.
THE WAY THEY SMILED WHEN CHARLIE CALLED THEM THEY THEM PRONOUNS
That's a lot of 'they's
IT MELTED MY FUCKING HEARTTTT
That's unreadable
lemme fix that for you " THE WAY SHE SMILED WHEN CHARLIE CALLED HER SHE/HER PRONOUNS"
ps. it was a joke
"it's just a phase"
"get over yourself"
"it's because of that damn phone" I get told that quite often, I put it aside I am a bisexual non-binary person. This film has helped myself find my true self thank you.
Omg I’m acually bisexual and non-binary aswell! I support u all the way ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Im pan and non binary😶😌
I’m bi and non-binary too! 💖💜💙 💛🤍💜🖤
straight ally, be you and never change! those who discriminate you are wrong.
I'm bisexual and non-binary to
"No matter straight,gay or bi,lesbian, transgender life I'm on the right track baby I was born this way" -Lady Gaga
I listened to that song on repeat when I was working on this. Along with This Is Me.
Great song 💕
@@elstagersaurus Ikr? my respect for lady gaga went sky high📈📈
Lady Gaga is queen 😌💅✨
What's the name of the song ?
This was so relatable I cried my eyes out watching it. I’m not non-binary, but I’m gender fluid, and it’s really hard to fit in with that identity. In my old school I was constantly bullied because of it. I had supportive friends thankfully, but very few. I moved this year and I’ve been hiding it for a while. Only two people I really trust know about it. I honestly don’t want it to get out as it could cause more problems, but at the same time it’s torture trying to keep it in. I love how Ash was so confident and was able to speak their mind in front of their class. I for one could never. I just wish transphobic and homophobic people didn’t exist, or at least just kept to themselves instead of feeling the need to tell us how they feel about us. This was really beautiful, and I loved every second of it. Thank you so much for this, it really made my day.
“Are you a boy or a girl?”
“No, I’m an American.”
I’m Dominican 😂😂😂😂😂
@Sal m well thats a stupid question too
@@milliewilkinson6414 how is it not?
@@milliewilkinson6414 bruh it’s a question
And i'm brazilian
"Are you a boy or a girl?"
I am actually a box of tissues. Cry in my presence mortal.
Y e s
If anyone asks me that question, that’s what i’m gonna say
or i’ll say “no, i’m a fucking god.”
A BOX OF TISSUES FHALDBSKDBSND
@@finneganmeyers584 wait I'm sorry but I don't know how to ask if someone is gender neutral I mean..do I ask "what's your gender?"
-sobbing-
“Yesn’t”
"I'm not traped in a body I hate. Just wrapped in words that don't relate to the way my skin feels on my bones" This is so accurate. I can't believe they found a way to express this feeling into words. Everytime I hear them say those words I get goosebumps.
This is me. All the time. I'm genderfluid. My brother tells me to change my body so he feels more natural (btw, he keeps saying it's for me, I know otherwise), and I keep explaining that it isn't necessary, and if anything I'd be the same as I am now.
@@rubybeard6406 hey, take care. hope ur brother stops being an asshole real soon:)
@@rubybeard6406 You and your feeling are 100% valid. Don't let your brother pressure you into taking actions you are not comfortable with. Listen to your heart not to toxic people, even if it is hard. I'm with you. Stay strong and stay proud.
@@juliagilewska8354 he's not an asshole, he's just a little box-minded. Don't worry, he's improving, however slowly that may be.
As a non binary person myself, I’m really proud of Ash reading the poem aloud, and not caring what other people thought, because, I would never have that courage !
Same, because i know at my school i’d get beat up
@@ilikecats-sn3oh omg fr
The profile pictures in these comments really said “🟨⬜️🟪⬛️”
aye they did but what’s wrong with that
@@camromantic nothing lol
I was abt to say that! lol its so true tho
…
Ikr being non binary isn't a personality trait
charlie calling ash they/them before ash even realised it themself i cant even
@@michelleliu9858 no, its themself. just like saying themselves.
@@michelleliu9858 that’d be like saying “hisself” instead of “himself”
Did somebody say my name
I’m not trans, demi, or anything like that. But I don’t understand why people make fun of you guys! If you want to be a guy, be a guy. My dad called people who identify as they/them “it” and I really don’t understand why. You do you!
It’s really demeaning unless they ask people to refer to them as “it” yikes
@EmmyLu it isn’t up to you to decide what’s right or wrong with somebody, they can figure that out themselves. They shouldn’t be defined by some chemicals in their body.
@@emmylu4016 i see someone forgot that it’s 2020 and it doesn’t matter what someone identifies as. if someone, for example probably a lot of people in these comments, wants to use they/them pronouns in any way, shape, or form, they are allowed to. it doesn’t matter what you think. this isn’t something that you can have opinions on this is someone’s entire identity, someone’s entire life. why should they feel bad for themselves because you don’t “agree” with how they feel comfortable? just say you’re transphobic and move along.
@@lolasanchez5622 it isn't up to you to decide your gender as well.
@@siddharthabhimanyu9667 you suck
i can relate to their poem so much. it hurts when people call me by she/her pronouns. but my friends accepted me and call me by they/them. when my friends accidently call me by she/her, they immediately correct themselves and apologize.
"Oh I'm sOrRy, YoU'lL hAvE tO lEgAlLy ChAnGe YoU'rE nAmE, bEfOrE wE cAn UsE iT" ....
so nicknames are illegal?
Edit: I leave for a week I-
Abigail Luscher EXACTLY. And “Charlie” is more masculine than Ash- at least in my opinion 🗿
I’d assume she was talking about changing her name in the school book, and I I am correct then yes you would have to legally change your name, school books don’t accept nicknames
That scene mad me SOOO mad!
@@vin.2 yeah i agree
😭
wow haven't ugly cried like this is a long time i am not a girl nor a boy I am nonbinary this is me! It's Aki
Yeah me too. And I'm nonbinary too. My name is kai :)
@@muffinhead9244 im nonbinary too and my name is kai too !
@@sunnysparkles-x4h hey cool!!
Same but I have homophobic parents so I haven’t changed my name yet ✌️
@@dontbeshyputsomemore791 off that sucks :/ wish u good luck on you'r way. Stay strong!
The girl saying that intersex people don't exist when they're about 1.7%* of the population. She's a redhead which is 1 to 2 percent lmao
*Not every font agrees but you can find it on the internet
#gingersarefake
@@noomre9105 not all ginger’s are...
@@hxneyanika the hashtag was a joke because the girl said intersex people don't exist but they do. which is like saying redheads dont exist
hey i have a quick question, what is intersex? i haven’t heard of it before
@@sleepiegirl when someone is born with both types of genitalia
the way that charlie kept calling them ash and using they/them pronouns on them made me wish i had a friend like charlie. & the fact the teacher crossed out julianas name to change it to ash made me cry.
me too- nice pfp btw
Ayy
Ah I see the genderman also stole your gender?
@@heliocinth ah yes.
@@heliocinth genderman took my gender too 🧍🏻
''intersex’s don’t exist''
me: god------
In case you didn't understand: I didn't say 'God ---' to say that God was non-binary, I said to mention my reaction the moment I saw the scene and I was discredited.
Lol
Dude, you're so right.💕
Intersex people: *vanish*
transphobic people tell us to read a biology book yet they’re the ones ignoring facts
@@idontknowwhattocallthis5235 😯😳 your pfp is adorable! 🐅🐈🐾😻
I almost cried watching this. I related more then I could ever imagine to the words they spoke. Whenever I think of myself I push it away, I’m afraid to accept myself though I know it’s true. Some days I find it hard to explain this feeling that runs through me, in the end I know I’m me deep inside. I just find it difficult to believe
It was hard to accept myself too Hopeless Chai but you will figure your self like I did
I feel this. So much.
I cried....
You're such a fucking loser xD
@@ahappyplace6619 at least I don’t spend my time hating on people who are simply trying to exist a normal life span without being killed for who they are‼️🥰 I think a real loser is someone who hates on people for stuff they can’t control, I’m proud to be who I am so get a life and education 🥳🤩
"Are you a boy or a girl?"
I AM THE TERROR THAT FLAPS IN THE NIGHT-
Every time I heard someone or herself calling "she" "Im a girl"
I felt a pinch in my heart...
I go by she/they for now...Im not 100% sure what am I so I kinda know how it feels to be lost whenever I question myself/ my gender...
Thank you for making this video.
I go by She/They too. I'm currently fixated on it and identifying as a bisexual demigirl but you know, we'll find our identities. We'll find it at different times, but we'll be there. Just be yourself.
I'm not 100% sure what I am, too. I don't like 'her' or 'him' or 'them', it doesn't feel right. The voices in my head tell me it's just a phase, and I'm being weird, or it's just because I've seen and read stuff, not because I'm confused and this is generally what I feel.
I'm not even 14 yet and I'm confused, is it ok?
@@leaiga-riverhills7674 It's completely fine! Who told you that you can't figure yourself out at a young age? I hope you find your identity.
I go by he/him I'm a trans guy but the only people I told was addison and brooke
I go also as she/ they with my friends but my family calls me by she/her all the time. My older sister supports lgbtq+ and she’s trying really hard to talk to me with she/they pronounce and I’m really happy about it. That felt good tiler out.
When your deadname is in the film but also one of your preferred names
That's super cool
same here!! I was a little shook haha
@@sage2226 ME TOOOO but i still identify as my deadname... i don't know what to do 😨😳😳😳
@@jujusiwa14 maybe go by jul? idk if its still too feminine or masculine but i hope this helps 🥺
Your name is Ash and whatever else you want to identify with!! Anyone who tells you different is wrong and doesn't deserve your time. You are so loved and valid!!!!!
"intersex doesnt exist" says the person with ginger hair, a trait just as common as being intersex
That trait is even expected to be non existent by 2035
I didn't even know for a long time people think intersex doesn't exist we talked about it in school in grade 6 when you talk about the human body
@@thunderusnight I mean not really, some studies have said it but others say it won’t.
i don't know why that hurt me knowing i hate my red hair
although this is irrelevant and just plain stupid, thank you for making me feel common because i hate being considered "rare"
i'm also just here to send this video to my enby friend, i hope you guys have a nice day
I want to like your comment but its at 666 likes, ik some idiot will like it to destroy it but im not that idiot who will destroy it
As a Non Binary, I live with parents who dont really believe or support about this type of stuff. I'm so glad to know I'm not crazy into believing that this is what I idenify with. I almost cried happy tears. Thank you so much for creating this, I feel so alive. This comment might get buried, but if someone reads this, I hope you have a great life.
Nah u r crazy
@@_Spider4 just bc you haven’t experienced it doesn’t mean others haven’t either. please educate yourself
@@astralanarchist nah y'all just mentally ill :-
@@_Spider4 real
i understand your feeling. i hope that you and every genderqueer and non binary person are able to live freely and happily without judgement of people scared of (not-so) new ideas and changes in the way life goes on. i hope you have a great life too :)
As a Demi-girl, this spoke to me so hard. Nonbinary isn’t just “being neither male or female” or “having no gender”. It’s an umbrella term. Enbies don’t owe you androgyny.
Hey! Im still learning what everything is, what is demi??
@@ranboosupermacy7055 Demigirl/demiboy or just demigender means when you feel partially one gender, and partially something else, though most demigender people say that other half is agender. I’m demigirl and most days I feel about 50% girl and 50% agender/something else. Hope this helps!
@@magicalgirl4 It did!! Thanks for replying so fast!!
@Crab With A Top Hat And Monocle yeah, same.
Uhhh can you please explain what demi is and what your last sentence means?
this needs WAY more likes, i came out to my bff today and she was super accepting 🖤🖤🥺
Congrats
Congratulations!!!! Hope life goes very well for you
When I came out to my close friend she started yelling at me and saying I am wrong we argued almost an hour but I couldn't make her understand
@@actuallynoone7176 I’m sorry about that :(
some people just get really narrow minded and get upset when they don’t understand something. I think it’s best to leave her be until she understands and learns to accept you or move on
@@lulutea3925 yeah u r right Thank u
8:25 you can hear the pain in their voice 🥺🥺🖤
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Some good acting right there
As a Non-binary person this hit SO FUCKING HARD! I relate to this so much
My heart melted and I cried in the car when she crossed out “Julian” and wrote “Ash” 🥺😭 meanwhile my mom asked why I was crying and I said “oh no reason!”
SAME OMG
Rip
Why is it so important that you told your mom it was for no reason. Just go away gacha kid. -_-
@@bcjfjcjdjidicicuf6326 that was pretty un-called for. And they just wanted to share their story for the enjoyment of others. Just because they like gacha doesn't mean they should be teased for that. I know this is your opinion, but don't hate when it's not fitting. -_-
@@mavis6664 Same tho
'whats the point of being myself if it makes me want to fucking die' this line hit wayyy too close to home :(
Yes it did
So sad.
Hit home for me too 😔
same
same ,
“What’s the point of being myself if being myself makes me want to fucking die” I felt that.
Ikr man it’s just so fucking sad 😢 man I hate everything about this world 🌎 fuck all homophobia’s lol they should be they one ☝️ getting beat up 🤕 🤬 in the streets man 😤
@@timmywhy6563 wut
same:/
Why
@@timmywhy6563 fuck you and everyone
As a non-binary person who is surrounded by people who don’t approve and harass me for it, thank you for making this ❤️.
Hey friend, I am a Trans-man, and I know that I am 11 months late for your comment but I just want to let you know that you are loved, and those who do not love and appreciate you are not worth it.
@@Codiagamerthank you so much for that! I’ve been going through a riff time recently and your comment really and me feel better❤️
"leave THEM alone, THEY don't need your bullshit." REAL TEARS IN MY EYES FOLKS
If that brings tears to your eyes honey then you're not ready for the world out there. I'm still not
I was a cis guy on the train wearing a pink watch. Child their mom "Why does the man have a girl's watch?"
Mom was like "It's his watch, he bought it."
Child replies "So can I have a pink watch too?"
Rock the pink watches! 😄👌
AWWWW
Aww that's wholesome! 🥺
Guys can like the color pink, like girls can like the color blue! XD
In Victorian times baby boys were dressed in pink. Whatever your gender wear whatever you want. :D
“You hear her, they don’t exist”
When I tell you I died at this sentence XD
It’s a very clear thing and there’s literally scientific evidence of intersex people’s existences but people I know irl still deny it
The representation and real world problems in this are so accurate, keep it up
me, an intersex person: mr stark i don’t feel so good-
@@skyblanket4000 uh oh
Our 4th miscarriage would have been an intersex baby. Sadly stopped growing at 12 weeks but confirmed via blood tests and biopsy.
@@sharee7100 i’m very sorry for your loss
@@sharee7100 I am so sorry for your loss. I’m sure you would’ve been a great parent to them and if you have a kid now They love you very much :)
this actually really helped me understand why some people go by they/them I never really understood before so I'm glad I found this