15:27 one of my closest friends is nonbinary, and they are 6’2, with an athletes build, and chin length curly hair. Out of everyone I know they are misgendered most often, even by other queer people. People treat them like a “gay man” instead of as a nonbinary person. I have so much respect for trans and nonbinary people who don’t match the stereotypical looks.
6:15 - Thanks, this sentiment is really needed especially in the western queer community. I dgaf about fashion and don't like makeup, jewelry, or the upkeep of hair dye, so I just wear a t-shirt and sweatpants. And I'm still queer! The buzzcut and trans flag fanny pack/shirts tend to be a giveaway lol but besides that
My experience with playing dress up is that, as a transmasculine afab person, I was technically allowed and encouraged to play dress up since it's a gendered thing meant for feminine children or those that are perceived that way and/or expected to grow up to be feminine, but because it had that connotation, I felt uncomfortable trying it out since it felt 'too girly' for me to do. So dress up is kind of difficult for both sides of trans people, and maybe our enby fae pals, too. /:
I liked it because I could be anyone but me. I could be a cool character. Even if the character is a girl, it's the character and not me. Idk it was just another way for me to dissociate. (I'm transmasc too)
Afab transmasc enby here, I dressed up so much as a kid but literally almost exclusively as masculine or gender neutral things like knight, ninja, magician, spy, vampire... so personally it didn't make me feel dysphoric at all. I just had very little desire to/was uncomfortable with dressing up as anything girly like a princess or smith.
Yeah exactly! Even if I did dress up as smth girly just in private, the fun part was that it was literally so unlike myself and I wasn't expected to be like that any other time ^^
I really needed this I got my haircut, and I was dysphoric about it cuz the hairdresser cut it way too short. I saw the title and went, "what the heck? I look a little gay right?" So yeah, looking a little lesbian and watching others be queer is good for my mental health it seems.
I mean he experimented, found out he wasn’t gay, and isn’t ashamed to talk about it. On the surface it’s funny, but I think it’s actually great to have such an open mindset
19:06 Additional sapphic book rec! Valiant Ladies by Melissa Gray, it’s set in 17th century Peru and follows Ana and Kiki as they deal with their growing feelings for each other, solving a series of mysterious and grizzly murders, and Kiki’s arranged marriage that threatens to end her crossdressing, swashbuckling lifestyle with Ana. Based on a true story!
4:36 I didn’t know this lmao I’m going through puberty and have either just snacks all day or 1-2 meal(s) a day. I guess that’s why my mom says I eat like a bird. I mean if I was an animal I would definitely be a crow, or a deer!
15:24 THIS! I don't like saying I'm nonbinary because it just feels like option number three instead of who I actually am. It doesn't feel free anymore but simply another box. Just that "other" option where you have to have short colored hair and piercings in order to be considered a real non-binary. Like can I please just exist without this silly box?
Literally just got an ad on this video from the Daily Wire about the documentary called "What is a Woman?" Where Matt Walsh interviewed the "on all levels except physical, I'm a wolf" person... RUclips, you're betraying me 😭
I can review and block ads now, so I’ll look through tomorrow and try to find and block this ad and any like it from appearing on my videos. I’ve blocked “political” ads which should keep a large part of conservative, anti-queer advertisements off my page, but I suppose some get past those checks by calling themselves “documentaries” and other similar titles, so I’ll do some manual reviewing of the ads that get put on my videos tomorrow to keep ads like that out of the queer friendly space i’m trying to create 🫡
19:26 You can totally do that with makeup too if you want Like that general concept is absolutely applicable to makeup as well And with doing it with makeup you can figure out different techniques and products you like as well
4:35 - this helped me a lot, thank you. I am currently recovering from an ED (and I am on hormones MTF) and at first I wanted to grab some food but then it all became very difficult in my head again and this video gave me the courage to eat something thank you 🩷
I don’t know if this will help or not (I also have an Ed). Try to imagine the food is feeding your desired body. Like the female body needs food to have curves and shape, so your hips, thighs, boobs and bum. So if you don’t eat enough you won’t be helping these areas.
@@potatospeedwagon3994 Very cool :D And while I won't say any spoilers, I will say things only get more epic as the story continues on :P How are you doing today? (^^)
Chat, I need help. What’s it called when I want a romantic relationship but not a sexual one? Like I’d be fine holding hands n kissing n shit, but like I wouldn’t sleep with them or make out with them? But only with people who I’m super close to? Like i wouldn’t want that kind of relationship with someone who I didn’t know n trust, like best friends? Cause I’m lost rn lmao. I dunno what I am, does anyone else know? Y’all help me
Demisexual means to only feel sexual attraction once you’ve built a connection with someone. Asexuality means to not feel sexual attraction towards someone. You can still want to have sex or not but not necessarily need or want it in the same way other people with partners will. It’s a whole spectrum. (I am demisexual but not ace {my friend is ace} so please also research for yourself). Hope this helps :)
Better to be alone than with people who won't lift you up. There are so many people in the world, there's always someone (many people) who will love you for you. It can be hard finding them but it's so worth it. I hope you find really good friends. 🩷
I loved fairies and mermaids. I always got the aww so cute a fairy Princess / Ariel. But to me they never had a gender I just was a fairy or mermaid (in the sense of them being little girl costumes).
I know a lot of people skipped the lengthy video at 15:25 but as someone in the exact same boat as the user in that video, I do feel like this is a hugely overlooked conversation for us to have. We've had this thing for a while where if you're bi, people will assume you are just gay and in denial or trying to be "fashionably queer" to fit in socially. Now we're doing the same thing to NB people where you're either just a masc lesbian or trans man in denial or you're a flamboyant gay man or trans woman in denial rather than allowing us to be what we actually are which is specifically NONE OF THOSE OPTIONS. I started identifying with this label to begin with because I was tired of gendered expectations being put on me, then we hit the snag of "NB people don't owe you androgyny" which is a thing in and of itself and now we have even more problems. Personally I wish we could just respect peoples wishes to leave them alone about their gender if they don't wish to talk about it. Just use someone's preferred set of pronouns (we're often fairly flexible and tend to give you multiple options to choose from for the sake of you actually doing so and not conveniently picking the one option we don't want) and that should be the end of it.
I agree. All my life I have felt like an outcast (could be autism) but ever since I have found out that I'm lgbt and found community with others who are LGBT, I have felt like I can be myself without the shame and confusion that I used to have. My favorite people in the world are LGBT because I know that they see me for who I am rather than who I am 'supposed' to be.
@@arodoeseverythingThis is literally me, other than being ace I’m all straight and cis and yet most RUclips I watch is lgbt, most of my friends are, my crush is nb (which raises questions about my straightness which I’m trying to ignore cause it’s too complex) cause I just love the vibe of the community and the acceptance they radiate more than most others, plus I think I might be autistic too which has raised the same problems you talk about
15:49 i was trying to explain to my very right wing dad that labels and expectations are a big part of the whole thing, i asked him what the first thing he thought of was when he thought of the word "man" and he said 🍆 like who looks at their friend and goes "yup, theres dave and his 🍆 lookin mighty fine today" in the way hes trying to make it seem
I'll never understand the idea that long eyelashes are "wasted" on a boy? Why can't boys have nice eyelashes? "Where is it written in this one sided society that a man can't be beautiful?"
Guys I had to go on a walking field trip and they organized us by last names. The teacher doing attendance decided to do full name so "First name, Last name" and keep in my mind I had my name changed in the school system since school started up again in August and figured my actual name would be on the list, but no, no it wasn't so I got dead named infront of my whole ass grade-
“Greg what do you know about transexuals? Let them know.” Greg: “Yes my human companion. They do not know anything about the sexuals. Now I shall be in my own realm of destruction and adorableness.” “Right”
I feel called out lol I am an afab person with a short haircut who is also short .. not non binary but bigender. I as a gay™️ also do not have a good sleep schedule 😅. I can also vividly remember gay and gender queer moments of mine growing up but yet I seem to have only started being gay and bigender in my late teens to my family :/.
i love the fact that you include the creator's pronouns
Yesss always loved this
Same :3
Yess it’s soo cool !!!
was gonna say the same thing lol
I always hate that
"Dude you are built different"
"you don't know the half of it actually"
That's the best clip of this entire compilation
Fr
15:27 one of my closest friends is nonbinary, and they are 6’2, with an athletes build, and chin length curly hair. Out of everyone I know they are misgendered most often, even by other queer people. People treat them like a “gay man” instead of as a nonbinary person. I have so much respect for trans and nonbinary people who don’t match the stereotypical looks.
6:15 - Thanks, this sentiment is really needed especially in the western queer community. I dgaf about fashion and don't like makeup, jewelry, or the upkeep of hair dye, so I just wear a t-shirt and sweatpants. And I'm still queer! The buzzcut and trans flag fanny pack/shirts tend to be a giveaway lol but besides that
My experience with playing dress up is that, as a transmasculine afab person, I was technically allowed and encouraged to play dress up since it's a gendered thing meant for feminine children or those that are perceived that way and/or expected to grow up to be feminine, but because it had that connotation, I felt uncomfortable trying it out since it felt 'too girly' for me to do. So dress up is kind of difficult for both sides of trans people, and maybe our enby fae pals, too. /:
I liked it because I could be anyone but me. I could be a cool character. Even if the character is a girl, it's the character and not me.
Idk it was just another way for me to dissociate.
(I'm transmasc too)
Afab transmasc enby here, I dressed up so much as a kid but literally almost exclusively as masculine or gender neutral things like knight, ninja, magician, spy, vampire... so personally it didn't make me feel dysphoric at all. I just had very little desire to/was uncomfortable with dressing up as anything girly like a princess or smith.
Yeah exactly! Even if I did dress up as smth girly just in private, the fun part was that it was literally so unlike myself and I wasn't expected to be like that any other time ^^
My nonbinary ass getting called out cause I've been planning to dye my hair this weekend, and have been considering getting my septum pierced.
“I wish you could see yourself the way I see you” along with the music from Up got me teary-eyed ngl.
Same 🥲 they seem like the sweetest, sweetest couple
I wish I could say that to my crush
I really needed this I got my haircut, and I was dysphoric about it cuz the hairdresser cut it way too short. I saw the title and went, "what the heck? I look a little gay right?" So yeah, looking a little lesbian and watching others be queer is good for my mental health it seems.
Good go get your haircut somewhere else. Maybe you can look like a boy
“We just had normal sex”
I mean he experimented, found out he wasn’t gay, and isn’t ashamed to talk about it. On the surface it’s funny, but I think it’s actually great to have such an open mindset
@@ZephyrKelsey True!
I was jokingly expecting it but that line took me by surprise
2:48 greg was staring right into our souls.
2:37 it is 1:14 am and i have no plans to go to bed anytime soon
The Jodie Foster clip gave me a fucking heart attack
the guy who went to a hotel with his gay friend to experience what gay sex is like is so funny, good for him
2:35 did you really just call me out on my sleep schedule, well I’m impressed
1:43 HELP AS A TRANS DUDE WITH A MASSIVE OBSESSION WITH DC/MARVEL, EARRINGS, LONG-ISH HAIR AND HEAPS OF SILLY JEWELLERY I FEEL CALLED OUT😭😭
2:30
But... I just woke up...
THEN GO TO BED ALREADY
4:12 the fact that I immediately recognized this audio
19:06 Additional sapphic book rec! Valiant Ladies by Melissa Gray, it’s set in 17th century Peru and follows Ana and Kiki as they deal with their growing feelings for each other, solving a series of mysterious and grizzly murders, and Kiki’s arranged marriage that threatens to end her crossdressing, swashbuckling lifestyle with Ana. Based on a true story!
4:36 I didn’t know this lmao I’m going through puberty and have either just snacks all day or 1-2 meal(s) a day. I guess that’s why my mom says I eat like a bird. I mean if I was an animal I would definitely be a crow, or a deer!
15:24 THIS! I don't like saying I'm nonbinary because it just feels like option number three instead of who I actually am. It doesn't feel free anymore but simply another box. Just that "other" option where you have to have short colored hair and piercings in order to be considered a real non-binary. Like can I please just exist without this silly box?
Literally just got an ad on this video from the Daily Wire about the documentary called "What is a Woman?" Where Matt Walsh interviewed the "on all levels except physical, I'm a wolf" person...
RUclips, you're betraying me 😭
I can review and block ads now, so I’ll look through tomorrow and try to find and block this ad and any like it from appearing on my videos. I’ve blocked “political” ads which should keep a large part of conservative, anti-queer advertisements off my page, but I suppose some get past those checks by calling themselves “documentaries” and other similar titles, so I’ll do some manual reviewing of the ads that get put on my videos tomorrow to keep ads like that out of the queer friendly space i’m trying to create 🫡
@@gremlinsunited2433 👏 Yessss
"You just need to like frogs in human clothing"
My dumb ass thinking Tsu from mha... XD
ANDROMEDA W ANOTHER BANGER COMP 💥 ‼️
fun fact i learned abt gay people bc my sisters sims were lesbians /srs
(btw my sister goes by she/her if yall were wondering)
2:32 you didnt have to fucking call me out like that
Good Luck Babe by Chapell Roan is the best gay song
my friend called gideon the ninth "necrolesbians" so much that I thought that's what the series was actually called lmfao
Omg that homecooked T skit had me rolling 😂
4:13 IF THIS ISNT THE EPITOME OF ME MAKING A GAY JOKE TO MY STRAIGHT BSF W/O TRYING TO OFFEND HER AND THEN HER ESCALATING IT SEVERAL FLOORS 😭😭🙏
That second one (my Roman Empire is...) is very me-coded. Yeah it was very like that
2:31 it's 2.15 in the morning😭
I’m so happy every time you upload! It makes my day infinitely better
Thank you for making the content you do!
2:20
It’s doing “fine” still dysphoric though😔
19:26
You can totally do that with makeup too if you want
Like that general concept is absolutely applicable to makeup as well
And with doing it with makeup you can figure out different techniques and products you like as well
2:27 STOOOOOP I FEEL SO CALLED OUT
4:35 - this helped me a lot, thank you. I am currently recovering from an ED (and I am on hormones MTF) and at first I wanted to grab some food but then it all became very difficult in my head again and this video gave me the courage to eat something thank you 🩷
I don’t know if this will help or not (I also have an Ed). Try to imagine the food is feeding your desired body. Like the female body needs food to have curves and shape, so your hips, thighs, boobs and bum. So if you don’t eat enough you won’t be helping these areas.
2:32 sent me straight to bed, thank you 😭💀 it’s two in the morning rn and usually i’m up way later, so this has saved me 🫶
the last tiktok made me so happy, fae talking about how every body can work in every aesthetic, you just have to figure out how to make it work
Maybe I am kinda gay...
Hi y'all! It's your local (digitally-so) bi demi dad/friend; how are you all doing this day/night? \(^w^)/
I've been continuing One Piece, I'm almost done with Skypeia.
@@potatospeedwagon3994 Very cool :D And while I won't say any spoilers, I will say things only get more epic as the story continues on :P
How are you doing today? (^^)
@@Putting_the_Bi_in_Big_Nerd
Good. Tired, but good
@@potatospeedwagon3994 Glad to hear you're doing good and hopefully you'll be able to feel better rested in the coming days :)
rewatched the entirety of attack on titan, and am about to finish chainsaw man (▀Ĺ̯▀ )
I immediately squealed in happiness at the first one bc when it finished I looked to the corner and saw "she/her"
Well that's three books I've added samples of to my library.
Already read Time War
And Locked Tomb, of course
2:33 they caught me 😭😭 i haven't slept yet and it's already 6:00 am rn, i do need sleep
Always making my day, thanks you!!
the giddy smile I have when someone else also likes my favourite book :3
1:06 it’s the fact that it’s so true for me 💀
the way i choose to see it is that we are people no matter sex , race or religion
Chat, I need help. What’s it called when I want a romantic relationship but not a sexual one? Like I’d be fine holding hands n kissing n shit, but like I wouldn’t sleep with them or make out with them? But only with people who I’m super close to? Like i wouldn’t want that kind of relationship with someone who I didn’t know n trust, like best friends? Cause I’m lost rn lmao. I dunno what I am, does anyone else know? Y’all help me
you could possibly be asexual, its when you feel little to no sexual attraction
Demisexual means to only feel sexual attraction once you’ve built a connection with someone.
Asexuality means to not feel sexual attraction towards someone. You can still want to have sex or not but not necessarily need or want it in the same way other people with partners will. It’s a whole spectrum. (I am demisexual but not ace {my friend is ace} so please also research for yourself).
Hope this helps :)
thank you for these videos andromeda!
0:14 cept in most cases you become a loner with no friends and no real family to speak of😢
IMO It's never too late in life to make (new) friends
Better to be alone than with people who won't lift you up. There are so many people in the world, there's always someone (many people) who will love you for you. It can be hard finding them but it's so worth it. I hope you find really good friends. 🩷
Love your channel!
19:45 see as an afab I did play dress up, I just always wanted to be a knight of some kind 😂
I loved fairies and mermaids. I always got the aww so cute a fairy Princess / Ariel. But to me they never had a gender I just was a fairy or mermaid (in the sense of them being little girl costumes).
I know a lot of people skipped the lengthy video at 15:25 but as someone in the exact same boat as the user in that video, I do feel like this is a hugely overlooked conversation for us to have.
We've had this thing for a while where if you're bi, people will assume you are just gay and in denial or trying to be "fashionably queer" to fit in socially. Now we're doing the same thing to NB people where you're either just a masc lesbian or trans man in denial or you're a flamboyant gay man or trans woman in denial rather than allowing us to be what we actually are which is specifically NONE OF THOSE OPTIONS.
I started identifying with this label to begin with because I was tired of gendered expectations being put on me, then we hit the snag of "NB people don't owe you androgyny" which is a thing in and of itself and now we have even more problems. Personally I wish we could just respect peoples wishes to leave them alone about their gender if they don't wish to talk about it. Just use someone's preferred set of pronouns (we're often fairly flexible and tend to give you multiple options to choose from for the sake of you actually doing so and not conveniently picking the one option we don't want) and that should be the end of it.
3:23 IM ON SPIRO :3 it's very true much water needed ahead
Thank you so much for your uploads Andromeda. I know it may not seem like much, but this helps me feel seen and have a community 💗🤍💙
I agree. All my life I have felt like an outcast (could be autism) but ever since I have found out that I'm lgbt and found community with others who are LGBT, I have felt like I can be myself without the shame and confusion that I used to have. My favorite people in the world are LGBT because I know that they see me for who I am rather than who I am 'supposed' to be.
@@arodoeseverythingThis is literally me, other than being ace I’m all straight and cis and yet most RUclips I watch is lgbt, most of my friends are, my crush is nb (which raises questions about my straightness which I’m trying to ignore cause it’s too complex) cause I just love the vibe of the community and the acceptance they radiate more than most others, plus I think I might be autistic too which has raised the same problems you talk about
2:32 well shit, you got me. Goodnight y’all
15:49 i was trying to explain to my very right wing dad that labels and expectations are a big part of the whole thing, i asked him what the first thing he thought of was when he thought of the word "man" and he said 🍆 like who looks at their friend and goes "yup, theres dave and his 🍆 lookin mighty fine today" in the way hes trying to make it seem
7:16 was gonna say period cramps but that’s sweeter
2:36
……….
It’s 2:25 am
This called me out *sooo* bad
2:20
I feel CALLED out 😭😂
To that first one, males typically have longer lashes
I'll never understand the idea that long eyelashes are "wasted" on a boy? Why can't boys have nice eyelashes?
"Where is it written in this one sided society that a man can't be beautiful?"
2:37 absolutely not about to obey this order @ 1:35 in the afternoon and take a nap I sorely need rn 😅
2:33
Me, who's watching this at 4:40 AM, having a test tomorrow: *gulp*
Thank you for the video! :)
6:00 is hilarious thank you
Reallll like im transmasc but i CANNOT stop accessorising my outfits lmao. At the very least its 1 necklace or ring lol
6:16 Hell yeah I have a massive crush on an nb person and their style is way more… “normal” than any of their friends
I was gonna watch the whole video but the "take your gay ass to bed right now" was very effective 😭 it's 4am
5:33 honestly if you hadn’t shown the dog right below the can, conservatives would have thought you meant friends that are furries
Hey my sleep schedule fucked
But it's 5 in the evening I'm not sleeping
17:00 as a non-binary person my self the first thing that comes to my mind is a apache attack helicopter
Guys I had to go on a walking field trip and they organized us by last names. The teacher doing attendance decided to do full name so "First name, Last name" and keep in my mind I had my name changed in the school system since school started up again in August and figured my actual name would be on the list, but no, no it wasn't so I got dead named infront of my whole ass grade-
Felicity Expressway
“Greg what do you know about transexuals? Let them know.”
Greg: “Yes my human companion. They do not know anything about the sexuals. Now I shall be in my own realm of destruction and adorableness.”
“Right”
2:36 HEY
why’d you have to call me out like that? 😢
2:37 me watching this at like 4 am welp
Does someone know the name of the trans guy comedian? I loved him!
The comedian's name is Nico Carney!
Greg for president
2:26 honestly good, I have friends who support me but my parents are transphobes
Yes
I need you to stop violently calling me out with these! I am not even 3 minutes in! please!
2:31 that one make me actually frown
Omg i look gay? Well thank you! I’m actually gynosexual, but thank you!
18:47 YES GIDEON OMG
The testosterone recipe sent me
LOVE YOU LOVE YOU LOVE YOU 🤭😚💕💖✨
:3
How did you know 😂
Monahan Ramp
I feel called out lol I am an afab person with a short haircut who is also short .. not non binary but bigender. I as a gay™️ also do not have a good sleep schedule 😅. I can also vividly remember gay and gender queer moments of mine growing up but yet I seem to have only started being gay and bigender in my late teens to my family :/.
2:33 LACK OF GOING TO BED ON TIMEEEE ",@(]+÷[$&?!]+>÷-,!
okay you got me, im putting my phone down 😭😭 GOOD NIGHT
2:36 shut up shut up shut up it's 1 AM shut shut shut shut shut sh
gays gaze at the sun 😂
5:27 this is the first time im hearing of anything like this and id love to know more please helppp
Chase Branch
229 Delta Parks
JOKES ON YOU! I DON'T JUST LOOK GAY, I AM GAY
the guy who went to a hotel with his gay friend to experience what gay sex is like is so funny, good for him
Oh, shut up get lost
16:46 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Apparently me and Finn use the same oestrogen gel 🥰🥰