This video is ABSOLUTELY truth from my perspective.. Narcissism is a hideous poison that we need to be very aware of and know the signs and red flags... absolutely emotionally exhausting.. If I had known she was married when I met her I would've stayed very far away BUT of course she didn't say a word about being married and by time I found out, emotions were already hooked in... hideous false people..
For many women, this isn’t just supporting him in his issues with his wife, this is having low self-esteem and validating your own self-worth by proving that you can get someone to leave another woman for you. That’s why some women fall into the trap of these so-called subtle cues-because they’re thinking if I just do these things, he’ll want me more than his wife. Smh. I am glad for the women that you’ve helped to leave their situations, though.
Yes! My husband of 15 years started grooming a much younger woman online in 2020. She agreed to have an affair with him. She became so confident that he hated his marriage she posted photos of them together on Facebook. She told him she would support him including his “flaws” his wife was not accepting. When my husband finally confessed, I decided to end our marriage. But He did not want a divorce!!! He said he would end his affair. He didn’t love her. I went ahead with the divorce after years of broken promises, cruelty and lies like bee stings. I moved across the country quickly. He immediately hooked the “other woman” into living with him while he had to sell everything he loved for the divorce settlement. He forced her to stay until he sold our house and he drove with her to Montreal! She was groomed to hate me so she was happy to hurt me by plastering social media with photos of her 75 year old lover. She is 48! He proposed to her within a few months after announcing that I had decided to end our marriage and he was suddenly falling in love with an “extraordinary” woman. His Facebook posts were (still are) excessive and obviously to put her on a pedestal. Our friends were stunned and confused. It’s been 6 months and though I blocked him he sent a letter telling me she has insecurities and trust issues. He misses me and she senses it. Yet, this dumb woman is hooked because she WON the married man away. He is going to wreck her, just like he has done to every woman he ever had a relationship with. Ladies….don’t mess with married men!!! You’re better than that.
@@angelicamaster1324 I’m so sorry that you had to experience that. Similarly, although my guy and I weren’t married, it was a 22 year old that he found on the internet through a BDSM site and she became infatuated with him but more so with the idea of getting him to leave me, which he finally did after 2 years, with me finding out about her only 4-6 months into their betrayal hen she decided to tag him in pictures of them out on dates together. She knew about me. She tried to hurt me and did stuff repeatedly to try to get us to fight, all the while building up a social media following about her BDSm/kink journey while lying to her followers about her Dom whom she said was her bf, but she never told them that he had a GF that he lived with. Then she proceeded to contact me this past December because she thought he was going to leave me but found out that we were still together and she pretended that she didn’t know about me and that she was contacting me to warn me that he was beating with her and possibly having unprotected sex with a bunch of other women. After I cursed her the he’ll out, she proceeded to post screenshots of our conversation to her social media and played the victim like she was just trying to warn me but made me out to be the jealous older woman who attacked her, and then she posted my and his information and told her followers to come attack us on our social media pages. She puts all his business on TikTok when he pisses her off. Told her followers that he broke his penis having sex with her. Told them that he was a predator and tried to get his account shut down (although she always takes him back and would stop at NOTHING to get him). She even made a TikTok about the fact that she would always get BV from him after he came inside her after sex and wondering why her vagina smelled like trash afterwards. She has no shame, no class, and that’s what he chose in the end. I could say more, but I’m sure that’s enough to give you an impression of what I was dealing with. She’s a head-case and mentally unstable, but to many ppl, toxicity feels like excitement, so I have removed myself from that sordid picture. Can’t make this shit up.
What if the person never says never nothing negative about his wife. What if he just in love with two people. But it was a 10 year friendship and just reconnect after some time.
My narcissistic fiancé and babies mother was having an affair and gaslighting me all year and left me for him. I keep seeing these great videos and reading great articles that I feel like I should send to him, but I also feel like he deserves what he's gotten himself into and he probably wouldn't listen anyways. I know no one deserves to be abused though, I think if I tried to give him a heads up it could just come back to hurt me.
You have covered almost everything, really amazing. I was in a relationship with a narcissist woman who was married and had kids. She did everything that you mentioned. You have totally nailed.
Some of the lines I heard: “My wife hit me in my sleep and she never fed the kids” and “ she was so controlling, every time I went out, she called the bar and I was so embarrassed.” Guess what that did for him: … I was extra gentle w/ him, extra caring, raised his children for 15 years, gave him all the freedom he ever wanted … you guessed the outcome: after 15 years of marriage he cheated again and discarded me within one week … he was engaged to his affair partner within 3 months
I found out I was a side and called the wife but the wife of course already knew about his habitual cheating but wanted to turn her anger on me. I felt bad for her bcuz even with the proof she wanted to turn her eye blind not only that found out he has already had a outside baby! So the wife condones his behavior and just as dangerous as him bcuz he having unprotected with god knows who and she was NOT concerned about her health or her life being in danger and I felt sooo bad for her ommggeee that man has done circles on her n she is dizzy! I hope women learn not to be against each other bcuz I don’t want him he stalks me and he pursued me not the other way around😩
Bullshit... coming from the wife who’s husband’s affair partner was also married herself, she knew fully well what she was doing...after confronting her once, she continued to sink her teeth into my marriage and nearly destroyed my family.. she suffered from a severe mental disorder called Factitious dissorder, using her imaginary depression to gain sympathetic feelings from my husband and friends involved... Women need to respect themselves and others and stay away from married couples... my children did not deserve to bear the brunt of a troubled husband and mistress. I’m simply sick and tired of how society continuously makes excuses for terrible actions and behaviours.
This is wonderful. Thank you for imparting wisdom to and empathy for an under-represented and often vilified group. Everyone deserves to be seen and helped through their anguish.
If you are an affair partner/ mistress/ paramour, then please remember that there are 2 sides to every story and you are only hearing your lover's side of that story that contains their bias, if you heard the other side of the story from their spouse, you may well come to very different conclusions about your lover. Many people that have affairs are simply unrealistic about long term relationships. Yeah, they may feel neglected, but the reality is that they may have a spouse with a very demanding job that is simply exhausted when they get home or in my case I had a very demanding baby and a husband that was jealous of the fact that a baby's needs trump his in the short term. My ex started his affair when our son was 5 months old. The reality is that marital relationships are the responsibility of BOTH spouses and by having an affair with a married person then you are taking away from that person their motivation to work hard resolving the issues that led to that person having an affair. If the person you are having an affair with does not resolve those issues, then yes they may not rear their head during your affair, but the chances are they will if your affair becomes their primary relationship.
I love this video… I should have suggested watching this to mistress of my soon to be ex husband. I’ve talked to her (shortly) she basically said by herself all these lies what he said to her about us not having sex and another much more.. exactly as you were saying in this video.. exactly exactly exactly 😅😅 I got pregnant 4 months later (while they’re having affair) she still believes he was actually not in active relationship with me as his wife 🤯🤯🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️I don’t know how that another woman thinks to be honest. Not sure if she isn’t narcissist by herself. 🤷♀️🤷♀️ but yes at the end she win and has him.. I am alone with my baby and he is gone with her. Clamming she is the one and I never was but ok.. I should wish them good luck or her because the things he put me through was disgusting and high abuse. I’m glad he is gone even I’m still hurting. I would never imagine that someone can be so cruel and change so quickly.
@Starka that must have been an incredibly challenging experience to go through. I hope these changes, in the long run, are ones that bring you a healthier foundation for you and your little one to live from. Sending my blessings for a more emotionally enriching 2022.
Im glad im not on this crazy wheel. If youre on it, get out, no matter if they are narc or not. Have some self worth people. If youre a side chick, you dont value yourself or have any standards and morals. Karma comes back times 10 if you get involved in these hurtful situations. How would you like to be in the wife or partners shoes. Get out
The only thing i don't agree with this video is in the end it when you say the narcissist can be a lovely person and feels love about you. This is completely incorrect. Narcissist don't love anybody and they play nice only when other people watching. Nobody who wants to manipulate and control you can truly love you.
Omg “put your foot down … on the bad books…” you can be better than her if you don’t - omg you were so groomed! And as you said “trained” how to succeed with him - by submitting to his will. Holy smoke, you poor girl. The way he shaped you to maintain his power in the relationship. I pray you feel supported and surrounded with healthier relationships for now and into your future.
“Essentially your man is going home to another woman at night” WTF kind of logic is that? 🤮 If she’s sleeping with a married man, or a man with a Fiancé or live in girlfriend he is in no way “her man”! 🤦🏻♀️ he’s already taken. Position is already filled.
You really can’t judge it unless you’ve been in those shoes. No one - and I mean no one - is impervious to falling into this trap. It can break the most confident, shrewd, and secure woman and drag her into pure hell. And most importantly, it’s a story that reflects the infidel far more than the one who “fell” for it. Walk a mile before you judge.
@@kab84504 people make choices to be in affairs. If you put yourself into situations that cause affairs, that’s on the both of you. It’s ridiculous that there is a support group for cheaters.
The reality for the other woman could be that she knows what exactly you pointed out. What takes hold and surpasses that knowledge is that somehow she discovered she’s willing to accept her position/role in her and the married man’s life. It’s both degrading, shameful, and in a sense a extreme giver role. In no way is the other women wants to be a victim. She’s wanting to share her life with yes a taken man and is willing to accept the situation as is. It’s a matter of when the other woman finally discovers she deserves better and she does.
I was wondering if the man I was seeing was a full fledged narcissist or just having some traits, but I also have learned a narcissist is just that and will not change, and definitely not without a ton of regular multiple times per week therapy
Please don't make this just about the man. I have gone through this with a women and it was very painful. Not him him him how about them please I am so tiered of it always being him him him.
Hey Brent, Thankyou for sharing and I 100% understand. My intention is not say these traits are in men only because that's far from it. I used the word "he" because the majority of my subscribers are women in affairs but you can swap the genders around.
What a wonderfully open minded person! Thankyou for this video and sharing your emotional intelligence with us all, this has helped opened my eyes and understand my ex affair partner a lot more. Currently trying to figure out if he has narcissistic qualities but finding it difficult to accept as I don’t want to taint my memory of him and what our relationship meant to me...
What if it doesn’t have to taint your experience of him? You still have the opportunity to treasure the beautiful memories. The video is to help you gain awareness to unhealthy patterns so you can learn to spot them and then shift the way you show up as a women when they arise in the future. But that does not mean the patterns define him as a man. These patterns are not to make a person bad or wrong (as they often are looked upon in society) it’s a pattern. A strategy a person unconsciously runs to feel either safe, loved, significant, appreciated, enough. I hope this helps ❤️ your experience with him doesn’t need to be tainted. You get to choose what parts you want to hold onto. ❤️
I’m an empath. I was married and found that my male lover was a narcissist. So when he discarded me, I had mixed emotions swaying from extreme guilt to extreme grief because me and my lover had become very close and it was much more than sex, it was extremely emotional. We were love bombing each other then all of a sudden he began to devalue me and eventually discarded me. I was devastated. My marriage was now even more broken than before and my lover had made me feel lower than low. I turned suicidal. My marriage remained dead bcuz I was stifled. Does anyone have a similar story and could shed some light on this. I felt that I wasn’t worthy of feeling that kind of grief bcuz I was the one who had cheated on my spouse. Im still in complete and utter turmoil. Any advice is needed.
I appreciate that perspective Michelle and completely understand you may feel that. I think it would be excuses if you don’t like the behaviour, and it doesn’t make you feel good yet you continue playing a part in the story. I think at the end of the day, it’s our actions based on their behaviour that sends a signal of whether or not we are choosing to be a part of it. And therefor excusing the behaviour or not excusing it.
So insightful and a clear reminder; even to be watching this we need to get out! So many things discussed have been my life the last 6 months (I am leaving the country to end it right now)
This is very good. However, this also goes for female narcissists. There are more and more women who are having affairs, and many of these women come off the same way. So beware! It's not just men.
My goodness I don’t really believe this lady has ever had a narcissistic relationship or experience with them. For so many reasons. This day and age everyone is A self proclaimed life or relationship Coach. People looking for videos on topics like this Please seek out advice from accredited professionals.
Just because you believe she doesn’t know what she’s talking about, doesn’t make it true. She knows it because she lived it, for seven long years, and she came out the other end-after a lot of counselling and help-stronger than ever and with first hand, up close and personal knowledge of it. That is why she is completely qualified to talk about it and to help other women who are struggling through it. I mean, sure, people can and should seek “professional” help for certain issues, but I would take someone like Kate-who had seven years to figure this shit out-than sit with some psychologist or psychiatrist who has only studied narcissistic traits and not actually EXPERIENCED them.
I don’t understand this reaction, there’s a lot of crap on the internet, and this is really good advice, I experienced something like this myself, and had to learn by experiencing what it is to get romantically involved with someone who’s got control issues. The first 4 she describes, I experienced identically ! Luckily I forced myself to quit this relationship quite soon, because of the damage it does, but I can tell you this cost me a lot of heartbreak, her video strengthened me in my decision. There is not something like a narcissistic relationship, you can have a relationship with a narcissist, or someone who has narcissistic trades, like she described very well 🙏🏼 English is not my first language so sorry for that, I had to write this, she can be proud of this video !
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This video is ABSOLUTELY truth from my perspective.. Narcissism is a hideous poison that we need to be very aware of and know the signs and red flags... absolutely emotionally exhausting.. If I had known she was married when I met her I would've stayed very far away BUT of course she didn't say a word about being married and by time I found out, emotions were already hooked in... hideous false people..
For many women, this isn’t just supporting him in his issues with his wife, this is having low self-esteem and validating your own self-worth by proving that you can get someone to leave another woman for you. That’s why some women fall into the trap of these so-called subtle cues-because they’re thinking if I just do these things, he’ll want me more than his wife. Smh.
I am glad for the women that you’ve helped to leave their situations, though.
Yes! My husband of 15 years started grooming a much younger woman online in 2020. She agreed to have an affair with him. She became so confident that he hated his marriage she posted photos of them together on Facebook. She told him she would support him including his “flaws” his wife was not accepting.
When my husband finally confessed, I decided to end our marriage. But He did not want a divorce!!! He said he would end his affair. He didn’t love her. I went ahead with the divorce after years of broken promises, cruelty and lies like bee stings. I moved across the country quickly.
He immediately hooked the “other woman” into living with him while he had to sell everything he loved for the divorce settlement. He forced her to stay until he sold our house and he drove with her to Montreal! She was groomed to hate me so she was happy to hurt me by plastering social media with photos of her 75 year old lover. She is 48!
He proposed to her within a few months after announcing that I had decided to end our marriage and he was suddenly falling in love with an “extraordinary” woman. His Facebook posts were (still are) excessive and obviously to put her on a pedestal. Our friends were stunned and confused. It’s been 6 months and though I blocked him he sent a letter telling me she has insecurities and trust issues. He misses me and she senses it. Yet, this dumb woman is hooked because she WON the married man away. He is going to wreck her, just like he has done to every woman he ever had a relationship with.
Ladies….don’t mess with married men!!! You’re better than that.
@@angelicamaster1324 I’m so sorry that you had to experience that. Similarly, although my guy and I weren’t married, it was a 22 year old that he found on the internet through a BDSM site and she became infatuated with him but more so with the idea of getting him to leave me, which he finally did after 2 years, with me finding out about her only 4-6 months into their betrayal hen she decided to tag him in pictures of them out on dates together. She knew about me. She tried to hurt me and did stuff repeatedly to try to get us to fight, all the while building up a social media following about her BDSm/kink journey while lying to her followers about her Dom whom she said was her bf, but she never told them that he had a GF that he lived with. Then she proceeded to contact me this past December because she thought he was going to leave me but found out that we were still together and she pretended that she didn’t know about me and that she was contacting me to warn me that he was beating with her and possibly having unprotected sex with a bunch of other women. After I cursed her the he’ll out, she proceeded to post screenshots of our conversation to her social media and played the victim like she was just trying to warn me but made me out to be the jealous older woman who attacked her, and then she posted my and his information and told her followers to come attack us on our social media pages. She puts all his business on TikTok when he pisses her off. Told her followers that he broke his penis having sex with her. Told them that he was a predator and tried to get his account shut down (although she always takes him back and would stop at NOTHING to get him). She even made a TikTok about the fact that she would always get BV from him after he came inside her after sex and wondering why her vagina smelled like trash afterwards. She has no shame, no class, and that’s what he chose in the end. I could say more, but I’m sure that’s enough to give you an impression of what I was dealing with. She’s a head-case and mentally unstable, but to many ppl, toxicity feels like excitement, so I have removed myself from that sordid picture.
Can’t make this shit up.
What if the person never says never nothing negative about his wife. What if he just in love with two people. But it was a 10 year friendship and just reconnect after some time.
I absolutely love the details you put in the description /show notes. Also incredibly useful. Thank you.
Thankyou I’m glad you found it useful 🙏
My narcissistic fiancé and babies mother was having an affair and gaslighting me all year and left me for him. I keep seeing these great videos and reading great articles that I feel like I should send to him, but I also feel like he deserves what he's gotten himself into and he probably wouldn't listen anyways. I know no one deserves to be abused though, I think if I tried to give him a heads up it could just come back to hurt me.
You have covered almost everything, really amazing. I was in a relationship with a narcissist woman who was married and had kids. She did everything that you mentioned. You have totally nailed.
Thankyou for your feedback @Nagiboy
Some of the lines I heard: “My wife hit me in my sleep and she never fed the kids” and “ she was so controlling, every time I went out, she called the bar and I was so embarrassed.” Guess what that did for him: … I was extra gentle w/ him, extra caring, raised his children for 15 years, gave him all the freedom he ever wanted … you guessed the outcome: after 15 years of marriage he cheated again and discarded me within one week … he was engaged to his affair partner within 3 months
I love this! It's so insightful! I like how you say he has narcissistic traits rather than he's a narcissist. Keep up the great work!
Thankyou!! Yes absolutely! It’s simply a pattern and a pattern can be changed! It doesn’t have to define someone for life!
I found out I was a side and called the wife but the wife of course already knew about his habitual cheating but wanted to turn her anger on me. I felt bad for her bcuz even with the proof she wanted to turn her eye blind not only that found out he has already had a outside baby! So the wife condones his behavior and just as dangerous as him bcuz he having unprotected with god knows who and she was NOT concerned about her health or her life being in danger and I felt sooo bad for her ommggeee that man has done circles on her n she is dizzy! I hope women learn not to be against each other bcuz I don’t want him he stalks me and he pursued me not the other way around😩
What if the side chick is the narcissist? That's the video I want to see
Yes great request, I will absolutely do one on that.
+1
Id to see that video too
Bullshit... coming from the wife who’s husband’s affair partner was also married herself, she knew fully well what she was doing...after confronting her once, she continued to sink her teeth into my marriage and nearly destroyed my family..
she suffered from a severe mental disorder called Factitious dissorder, using her imaginary depression to gain sympathetic feelings from my husband and friends involved...
Women need to respect themselves and others and stay away from married couples... my children did not deserve to bear the brunt of a troubled husband and mistress. I’m simply sick and tired of how society continuously makes excuses for terrible actions and behaviours.
This is wonderful. Thank you for imparting wisdom to and empathy for an under-represented and often vilified group. Everyone deserves to be seen and helped through their anguish.
Beautifully said @finechina I appreciate your gratitude and support.
If you are an affair partner/ mistress/ paramour, then please remember that there are 2 sides to every story and you are only hearing your lover's side of that story that contains their bias, if you heard the other side of the story from their spouse, you may well come to very different conclusions about your lover.
Many people that have affairs are simply unrealistic about long term relationships. Yeah, they may feel neglected, but the reality is that they may have a spouse with a very demanding job that is simply exhausted when they get home or in my case I had a very demanding baby and a husband that was jealous of the fact that a baby's needs trump his in the short term. My ex started his affair when our son was 5 months old.
The reality is that marital relationships are the responsibility of BOTH spouses and by having an affair with a married person then you are taking away from that person their motivation to work hard resolving the issues that led to that person having an affair. If the person you are having an affair with does not resolve those issues, then yes they may not rear their head during your affair, but the chances are they will if your affair becomes their primary relationship.
Well said @banana thank you for sharing this with us all 🙏
I love this video… I should have suggested watching this to mistress of my soon to be ex husband. I’ve talked to her (shortly) she basically said by herself all these lies what he said to her about us not having sex and another much more.. exactly as you were saying in this video.. exactly exactly exactly 😅😅 I got pregnant 4 months later (while they’re having affair) she still believes he was actually not in active relationship with me as his wife 🤯🤯🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️I don’t know how that another woman thinks to be honest. Not sure if she isn’t narcissist by herself. 🤷♀️🤷♀️ but yes at the end she win and has him.. I am alone with my baby and he is gone with her. Clamming she is the one and I never was but ok.. I should wish them good luck or her because the things he put me through was disgusting and high abuse. I’m glad he is gone even I’m still hurting. I would never imagine that someone can be so cruel and change so quickly.
@Starka that must have been an incredibly challenging experience to go through. I hope these changes, in the long run, are ones that bring you a healthier foundation for you and your little one to live from. Sending my blessings for a more emotionally enriching 2022.
Im glad im not on this crazy wheel. If youre on it, get out, no matter if they are narc or not. Have some self worth people. If youre a side chick, you dont value yourself or have any standards and morals. Karma comes back times 10 if you get involved in these hurtful situations. How would you like to be in the wife or partners shoes. Get out
The only thing i don't agree with this video is in the end it when you say the narcissist can be a lovely person and feels love about you. This is completely incorrect. Narcissist don't love anybody and they play nice only when other people watching. Nobody who wants to manipulate and control you can truly love you.
What you describe sounds like triangulation - creating a competition between you and his wife.
Omg “put your foot down … on the bad books…” you can be better than her if you don’t - omg you were so groomed! And as you said “trained” how to succeed with him - by submitting to his will. Holy smoke, you poor girl. The way he shaped you to maintain his power in the relationship. I pray you feel supported and surrounded with healthier relationships for now and into your future.
Thankyou Brightpage1020 I appreciate your support 🙏
Some people enjoy their solitude and deeply understand how this so called society's matrix works that doesn't mean they're narcissistic!
“Essentially your man is going home to another woman at night” WTF kind of logic is that? 🤮 If she’s sleeping with a married man, or a man with a Fiancé or live in girlfriend he is in no way “her man”! 🤦🏻♀️ he’s already taken. Position is already filled.
You really can’t judge it unless you’ve been in those shoes. No one - and I mean no one - is impervious to falling into this trap. It can break the most confident, shrewd, and secure woman and drag her into pure hell. And most importantly, it’s a story that reflects the infidel far more than the one who “fell” for it. Walk a mile before you judge.
@@kab84504 people make choices to be in affairs. If you put yourself into situations that cause affairs, that’s on the both of you. It’s ridiculous that there is a support group for cheaters.
The reality for the other woman could be that she knows what exactly you pointed out. What takes hold and surpasses that knowledge is that somehow she discovered she’s willing to accept her position/role in her and the married man’s life. It’s both degrading, shameful, and in a sense a extreme giver role. In no way is the other women wants to be a victim. She’s wanting to share her life with yes a taken man and is willing to accept the situation as is. It’s a matter of when the other woman finally discovers she deserves better and she does.
I was wondering if the man I was seeing was a full fledged narcissist or just having some traits, but I also have learned a narcissist is just that and will not change, and definitely not without a ton of regular multiple times per week therapy
Please don't make this just about the man. I have gone through this with a women and it was very painful. Not him him him how about them please I am so tiered of it always being him him him.
Hey Brent, Thankyou for sharing and I 100% understand. My intention is not say these traits are in men only because that's far from it. I used the word "he" because the majority of my subscribers are women in affairs but you can swap the genders around.
Absolutely The thing I needed to listen to and thank you so so much
Thanks Julie! I'm glad to hear it could be of value!
What a wonderfully open minded person! Thankyou for this video and sharing your emotional intelligence with us all, this has helped opened my eyes and understand my ex affair partner a lot more. Currently trying to figure out if he has narcissistic qualities but finding it difficult to accept as I don’t want to taint my memory of him and what our relationship meant to me...
What if it doesn’t have to taint your experience of him? You still have the opportunity to treasure the beautiful memories. The video is to help you gain awareness to unhealthy patterns so you can learn to spot them and then shift the way you show up as a women when they arise in the future. But that does not mean the patterns define him as a man. These patterns are not to make a person bad or wrong (as they often are looked upon in society) it’s a pattern. A strategy a person unconsciously runs to feel either safe, loved, significant, appreciated, enough. I hope this helps ❤️ your experience with him doesn’t need to be tainted. You get to choose what parts you want to hold onto. ❤️
I’m an empath. I was married and found that my male lover was a narcissist. So when he discarded me, I had mixed emotions swaying from extreme guilt to extreme grief because me and my lover had become very close and it was much more than sex, it was extremely emotional. We were love bombing each other then all of a sudden he began to devalue me and eventually discarded me. I was devastated. My marriage was now even more broken than before and my lover had made me feel lower than low. I turned suicidal. My marriage remained dead bcuz I was stifled. Does anyone have a similar story and could shed some light on this. I felt that I wasn’t worthy of feeling that kind of grief bcuz I was the one who had cheated on my spouse. Im still in complete and utter turmoil. Any advice is needed.
My girlfriend had similar situation with you . Very painful experience. Which country do you live ?
Sending you my love and support
Same case here
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I’m sorry, but ANY narcissistic trait is wrong. So please stop saying that it’s not wrong, because it is. You’re making excuses for the narcs.
I appreciate that perspective Michelle and completely understand you may feel that. I think it would be excuses if you don’t like the behaviour, and it doesn’t make you feel good yet you continue playing a part in the story. I think at the end of the day, it’s our actions based on their behaviour that sends a signal of whether or not we are choosing to be a part of it. And therefor excusing the behaviour or not excusing it.
So insightful and a clear reminder; even to be watching this we need to get out! So many things discussed have been my life the last 6 months (I am leaving the country to end it right now)
Thanks for sharing Lara! You look like you have many things happening in your life I see! Good luck with your book and journey to come!
This is very good. However, this also goes for female narcissists. There are more and more women who are having affairs, and many of these women come off the same way. So beware! It's not just men.
100% Colleen! Thank you for your feedback
If you have an "affair partner," start with the mirror.
Exactly
They lie
Only if a narcissist was so simple. Even us wives know that they lie and triangulate both women
I’m the Marc here 😬😳😳😳😳
My goodness I don’t really believe this lady has ever had a narcissistic relationship or experience with them. For so many reasons. This day and age everyone is A self proclaimed life or relationship Coach. People looking for videos on topics like this Please seek out advice from accredited professionals.
Just because you believe she doesn’t know what she’s talking about, doesn’t make it true. She knows it because she lived it, for seven long years, and she came out the other end-after a lot of counselling and help-stronger than ever and with first hand, up close and personal knowledge of it. That is why she is completely qualified to talk about it and to help other women who are struggling through it.
I mean, sure, people can and should seek “professional” help for certain issues, but I would take someone like Kate-who had seven years to figure this shit out-than sit with some psychologist or psychiatrist who has only studied narcissistic traits and not actually EXPERIENCED them.
I don’t understand this reaction, there’s a lot of crap on the internet, and this is really good advice, I experienced something like this myself, and had to learn by experiencing what it is to get romantically involved with someone who’s got control issues. The first 4 she describes, I experienced identically ! Luckily I forced myself to quit this relationship quite soon, because of the damage it does, but I can tell you this cost me a lot of heartbreak, her video strengthened me in my decision. There is not something like a narcissistic relationship, you can have a relationship with a narcissist, or someone who has narcissistic trades, like she described very well 🙏🏼 English is not my first language so sorry for that, I had to write this, she can be proud of this video !
Too kind to the narcissist
So affairs are being aggrandized and have support groups? Really? Wow.
Adultery is a sin .. Get it
No excuse
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