What makes it hard for me is that I was 63 when we met!!!! And so was he. I can laugh like a mad woman now, because this has had to be God's foul sense of humor. It does not help when the people we associate with tells me how in love with me he is. But deep down I dont think he is going to leave his situation because we are from very different worlds.
If it makes you feel any better, we were in our late 70s! Unbelievably passionate energy between us. I’m 80 now. I have to end it. But we just don’t walk back out into the world at this age and expect to find another, or better, one.
He’s not going to leave his wife. Statistics show that when the infidel leaves the spouse to be with an adulterous fling partner it rarely works out. And by the way, you are the partner in the crime/sin of adultery. Should be against the law in all states. Why bond your soul to a devious lying snake who is an infidel? No respect for self or others. Without respect or trust there is no foundation. Fantasyland sex destroys people. Most of loyal loving betrayed spouses get PTSD and the betrayal trauma is something I’d never cause another. I have too much respect for myself and others.
not always the case, but yes it's true for many. what's also bad is you can't build a relationship on a firm foundation from a place of lies and deceit.
In my case, I knew of his situation because of a mutual friend. His wife is very ugly and despot with him and their child (13 y/o) And yes he was seeing another lady but ended it when he met me.. As you can see by the child's age that his wife must be younger than us, (we are bith 63) Probably a marriage of convenience. I like to think that he is not a habitual cheater. I could be wrong, but I like to think that my age renders experience in judgement. Anyways, I ended it. The doors are open only when he is out with a clean slate
@@reginapolo3357 He’s an adulterous infidel! He’s a liar and a cheater. Don’t think you’re so special that he won’t cheat on you. Why would you want a devious disrespect snake?
@@reginapolo3357 that’s what I used to think as well. But I finally realized that I would never really trust him. And that, even though he cared, I was being used.
What happens when a child was born from the affair, a child who remains a secret as well because the married man can’t face his own shame and behavior and disappoint his grown daughters who think he’s the best man in the world. How do you cut ties when there’s a child and if he wants to see the child sometimes, do I deprive her of that? even though there’s no co-parenting he still wants to check on his child and help financially but how in the world do you separate those feelings after years of intimacy friendship and a child. There’s never been major issues aside from the affair out behavior towards each other is kind and considerate it’s not “toxic” in that sense. So everything for the most part is nice however what is now different is his wife now has cancer, they’re mid 60’s and I can understand not wanting to take financial hit, familial upset and major life change while heading into the golden years. Plus what kind of person leaves a spouse with cancer. She’s never worked so is completely reliant upon him so any exit that may have even possibly happened was destroyed with her cancer diagnosis 6 months ago. So clearly I need to go this can’t continue that going on but how do you give up your best friend and father of your child? Especially when child is autistic and caused me to resign from my job and am isolated at home now all the time caring for her, I have no family or friends anymore so losing him truly feels like losing everything and yet I’m always disappointed and not getting the emotional fulfillment I need. It’s always me with the gestures and loving things just pouring my cup out and not getting it refilled. He’s old fashioned about the vow and wants to be a martyr and sacrifice love for responsibility but the in doing this that vow was already shot to hell I mean it’s cowardice at it’s best and it’s not my place to spill the beans but it will obviously never be what I truly need not fully so how to go no contact when there’s a child and a comforting routine of being the last call of the night every night when you’re isolated as I am the walls will seem to close in even more. Because of having a teen and an autistic 2 year old it’s not like I can go out or engage in any hobbies or even dating not for a very long time
Hi Shannon, I have a group call with women who have has a child with their affair partner. If you would like to meet other women in the same situation and get support please click this link to connect with me further. Please also share your interest in the mothers group call. calendly.com/katelondon/call
@@ammamaw thank you after 7 years it finally hit the fan. My daughter likely won’t be seeing him now. He’s not allowed to talk to us or see us. Must have been her stipulation to stay with him who knows but I have no respect for anyone who chooses any person or thing over a child. They’re the epitome of toxic codependency and misery I actually feel very sorry for them. Possession and control is not love. Love is freedom.
Thanks so much for your wonderful insight, and dealing with the details of being the other woman❣️ I’ve told him (married man), that this isn’t a relationship, and I’m not in love with him. I’d never date him if he was available. But I enjoy the friendship so much, and of course, the attention. I’ve asked for No-Contact but he’s extremely manipulative and I’m kinda getting nervous, when I see him everyday, where I work! Does my heart skip a beat when I see him? Yep. But I’m feeling so much freer when he doesn’t contact me…and I guess that’s my answer!👍🏼😁 He keeps saying that he knows I want to be with him too…and I’ve started to say that I’m actually okay when we’re apart. He either isn’t wanting to take the hint’s, or else I need to be more firm and flat out tell him to leave me alone. As long as I’m wishy-washy, I may be sending him the msg that there’s still a chance at this relationship. I’m such a people pleaser and never want to hurt anybody’s feelings!🙄🌷🙋🏼♀️
Wow Lori, Such awareness you have here, which is wonderful! It doesn't have to change all at once but having that awareness is going to help you take steps in the right direction. How did you go with the no contact period?
Build your own future. Try doing that with a man who’s not in a committed relationship with his wife. He’s a back stabber or he wouldn’t be cheating on his wife. He’d be doing you every now and then and he’s doing his wife all the time (probably tells you he’s not). So you’re being used and you two adulterers are ripping his soul bond with his wife all to hell. Statistics show that men usually don’t leave their wives and if they do and join the adulteress fling partner it doesn’t work out the vast majority of the time. Your wasting time getting used and all the while ruining other people’s relationships. The man wins. He gets to eat his wife and his whoredog too. Protect yourself. Respect yourself and respect other women. Don’t entertain an affair. You will get hurt deeply. Everyone will. If he’s cheating on his wife then he’ll cheat on you too because he’d already be cheating on you with his wife! You just believe the dickhead and think he’s not. 😂
Has anyone of you considered the WIFE? As a Betrayed spouse I have been devastated by his and his affair partner relationship. How selfish to another human. ch
It is very devasting being the wife. I’m medicated and dealing with trauma affects. Please think of the other family your destroying due to there selfishness. We were so innocent to this damage.I was a good wife didn’t deserve this
@@mightyfineanderson Of course I blame my husband. And I blame the other woman ,as she also is married. Disrespectful on both fronts. How would you like it to happen to you?
Hi @shenequakimbro5146, You can book a free 15-minute call with me using the link below to discuss this further. calendly.com/katelondon/call I look forward to connecting. Kate
This is so true, it hurts so bad
It's not an easy experience to go through at all. Sending you love and healing during this chapter of your life 💕
What makes it hard for me is that I was 63 when we met!!!! And so was he.
I can laugh like a mad woman now, because this has had to be God's foul sense of humor. It does not help when the people we associate with tells me how in love with me he is. But deep down I dont think he is going to leave his situation because we are from very different worlds.
If it makes you feel any better, we were in our late 70s! Unbelievably passionate energy between us. I’m 80 now. I have to end it. But we just don’t walk back out into the world at this age and expect to find another, or better, one.
He’s not going to leave his wife. Statistics show that when the infidel leaves the spouse to be with an adulterous fling partner it rarely works out. And by the way, you are the partner in the crime/sin of adultery. Should be against the law in all states. Why bond your soul to a devious lying snake who is an infidel? No respect for self or others. Without respect or trust there is no foundation. Fantasyland sex destroys people. Most of loyal loving betrayed spouses get PTSD and the betrayal trauma is something I’d never cause another. I have too much respect for myself and others.
79 here. 😊 Who knew?!
If he cheated on the wife then he WILL cheat on you because he’s already cheating on you with his wife and probably with others people as well.
not always the case, but yes it's true for many. what's also bad is you can't build a relationship on a firm foundation from a place of lies and deceit.
Yes. I have always felt it is really wrong. Even though I was the affair partner. And I’ve always felt that I could never trust a man who cheated.
In my case, I knew of his situation because of a mutual friend. His wife is very ugly and despot with him and their child (13 y/o) And yes he was seeing another lady but ended it when he met me..
As you can see by the child's age that his wife must be younger than us, (we are bith 63) Probably a marriage of convenience. I like to think that he is not a habitual cheater. I could be wrong, but I like to think that my age renders experience in judgement.
Anyways, I ended it. The doors are open only when he is out with a clean slate
@@reginapolo3357 He’s an adulterous infidel! He’s a liar and a cheater. Don’t think you’re so special that he won’t cheat on you. Why would you want a devious disrespect snake?
@@reginapolo3357 that’s what I used to think as well. But I finally realized that I would never really trust him. And that, even though he cared, I was being used.
Thank you for all you do. You are very wise!
Thankyou @palapalak.8907
What happens when a child was born from the affair, a child who remains a secret as well because the married man can’t face his own shame and behavior and disappoint his grown daughters who think he’s the best man in the world. How do you cut ties when there’s a child and if he wants to see the child sometimes, do I deprive her of that? even though there’s no co-parenting he still wants to check on his child and help financially but how in the world do you separate those feelings after years of intimacy friendship and a child. There’s never been major issues aside from the affair out behavior towards each other is kind and considerate it’s not “toxic” in that sense. So everything for the most part is nice however what is now different is his wife now has cancer, they’re mid 60’s and I can understand not wanting to take financial hit, familial upset and major life change while heading into the golden years. Plus what kind of person leaves a spouse with cancer. She’s never worked so is completely reliant upon him so any exit that may have even possibly happened was destroyed with her cancer diagnosis 6 months ago. So clearly I need to go this can’t continue that going on but how do you give up your best friend and father of your child? Especially when child is autistic and caused me to resign from my job and am isolated at home now all the time caring for her, I have no family or friends anymore so losing him truly feels like losing everything and yet I’m always disappointed and not getting the emotional fulfillment I need. It’s always me with the gestures and loving things just pouring my cup out and not getting it refilled. He’s old fashioned about the vow and wants to be a martyr and sacrifice love for responsibility but the in doing this that vow was already shot to hell I mean it’s cowardice at it’s best and it’s not my place to spill the beans but it will obviously never be what I truly need not fully so how to go no contact when there’s a child and a comforting routine of being the last call of the night every night when you’re isolated as I am the walls will seem to close in even more. Because of having a teen and an autistic 2 year old it’s not like I can go out or engage in any hobbies or even dating not for a very long time
Hi Shannon, I have a group call with women who have has a child with their affair partner. If you would like to meet other women in the same situation and get support please click this link to connect with me further. Please also share your interest in the mothers group call. calendly.com/katelondon/call
So sorry 😢😢😢
So sorry, Shannon. What a difficult difficult situation. My heart goes out to you.❤
@@ammamaw thank you after 7 years it finally hit the fan. My daughter likely won’t be seeing him now. He’s not allowed to talk to us or see us. Must have been her stipulation to stay with him who knows but I have no respect for anyone who chooses any person or thing over a child. They’re the epitome of toxic codependency and misery I actually feel very sorry for them. Possession and control is not love. Love is freedom.
This is genius. You have helped me so much. Thank you.
Thanks, Rebecca, I'm grateful to hear you have found value on this channel 💕
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Thank you so much for this channel🙏
Thanks for sharing
We fell in love 4 years ago and cannot stop
Thanks so much for your wonderful insight, and dealing with the details of being the other woman❣️ I’ve told him (married man), that this isn’t a relationship, and I’m not in love with him. I’d never date him if he was available. But I enjoy the friendship so much, and of course, the attention. I’ve asked for No-Contact but he’s extremely manipulative and I’m kinda getting nervous, when I see him everyday, where I work! Does my heart skip a beat when I see him? Yep. But I’m feeling so much freer when he doesn’t contact me…and I guess that’s my answer!👍🏼😁 He keeps saying that he knows I want to be with him too…and I’ve started to say that I’m actually okay when we’re apart. He either isn’t wanting to take the hint’s, or else I need to be more firm and flat out tell him to leave me alone. As long as I’m wishy-washy, I may be sending him the msg that there’s still a chance at this relationship.
I’m such a people pleaser and never want to hurt anybody’s feelings!🙄🌷🙋🏼♀️
Wow Lori, Such awareness you have here, which is wonderful! It doesn't have to change all at once but having that awareness is going to help you take steps in the right direction. How did you go with the no contact period?
That’s me too!! 😢
@Lori Schellenberg how have things been since you posted? I can't imagine having to work in the same place as someone you are detoxing from!
Build your own future. Try doing that with a man who’s not in a committed relationship with his wife. He’s a back stabber or he wouldn’t be cheating on his wife. He’d be doing you every now and then and he’s doing his wife all the time (probably tells you he’s not). So you’re being used and you two adulterers are ripping his soul bond with his wife all to hell. Statistics show that men usually don’t leave their wives and if they do and join the adulteress fling partner it doesn’t work out the vast majority of the time. Your wasting time getting used and all the while ruining other people’s relationships. The man wins. He gets to eat his wife and his whoredog too. Protect yourself. Respect yourself and respect other women. Don’t entertain an affair. You will get hurt deeply. Everyone will. If he’s cheating on his wife then he’ll cheat on you too because he’d already be cheating on you with his wife! You just believe the dickhead and think he’s not. 😂
Wish we could chat . I have made the break . Thank you sweet lady 💔
Hi Tanna, That's a big step💕 I would love to connect with you. Here is a link to my calendar. calendly.com/katelondon/call
I’d love a one on one. 🙏🏼
Hi Julie, I would love to connect. Here is a link to my calendar. calendly.com/katelondon/call
Has anyone of you considered the WIFE? As a Betrayed spouse I have been devastated by his and his affair partner relationship.
How selfish to another human.
ch
It is very devasting being the wife. I’m medicated and dealing with trauma affects. Please think of the other family your destroying due to there selfishness. We were so innocent to this damage.I was a good wife didn’t deserve this
@@susanpaquin1631 Susan it is PTSD TRAUMA.
Reach out if you'd like to talk.
Blame your husband. Your husband is the one that took the vow. Not the other woman.
We do blame the husband but the affair partner should respect a marriage too and think about how they would feel being lied to
@@mightyfineanderson
Of course I blame my husband. And I blame the other woman ,as she also is married. Disrespectful on both fronts.
How would you like it to happen to you?
I would like a one on one. How can we make this happen?
Hi @shenequakimbro5146,
You can book a free 15-minute call with me using the link below to discuss this further. calendly.com/katelondon/call
I look forward to connecting.
Kate
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What do you do with the prevalent feeling that karma will charge you for this in the future?
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You need to come talk to my wife!