Most people think that the "other women" are a bad women... no one thinks that these women are humans with feelings that just felt in love with the wrong person , and they are suffering from being the other women too ,thats why the other women have no one to talk to about what they are going through because every one will judj them and tears them apart, so thank you for this conversation ladies , it s ease the heart and put you in the right track its explains everything, and for any woman who will bash other woman for that always remember that shit happens in life and its could be you one day you are just have not been in that situation and circumstances that these women faced
The other woman in my case knew he was married for over forty years, but chased after him non stop until he relented willingly. She terrorized me, got him drunk and stoned, then would get him so angry at me and send him home to beat me, I with cancer and chemo and loosing my mother. So in my case the other woman was the devil herself. My husband on the other hand was as evil as they come.
They are bad women because they crossed a line with a married man. The wives are humans with feelings you did not care about so when people have no empathy for the other woman it is the mirror she’s looking into
@@DeeMBee123you're wrong that we don't care about the wife and her feelings. Most of us feel awful and try to end it over and over. But trust me I feel awful which is why I've never told his wife even when I wanted to because I wanted her to leave him so I could have him I still would not hurt her by telling her. I didn't want to hurt his wife or kids so I just suffered alone in silence.
@@SusieQ1971 when you found out he was married you continued to do what you wanted. You did not think of the wife. You have low self esteem and decided that being #2 was more important than having empathy and integrity. If you can’t accept that you were part of the problem you will never heal. Answer this question - if you didn’t want to hurt the wife then how in the world did you sleep with him in the first place? You think having sex with someone’s husband is acceptable and doesn’t hurt the wife but telling them the truth does? Does that not sound like effed up thinking? The saddest thing to me is that you all know that if you told the wife the married man would dump you so fast and tend to the woman he wanted all along. That’s why you don’t tell the wife because you know you’d be faced with the reality that you won’t ever be chosen…. You’ll be settled for. Men show off what they are proud of. They show the car, the house, the wife and family, the job. But the other woman is hidden away. Why do you think that is so?
@@DeeMBee123For someone whos never met me you sure make a lot of assumptions and allegations as to what I feel and am thinking, and none of your comments are helpful they are simply condeming and judgmental. This channel is for helping women like us not condemning them. Women who need help dont seek help because of people like you. When I met him he was filing for divorce, that is what he told me. I didn't purposefully seek out a married man and seduce him. There is far more to the story but I didnt refrain from telling his wife out of fear I would lose him, thats an assumption youre making. I didnt want to destroy his family. He decided to work things out with her and get back with her and dumped me to do so. So telling her would not have caused him to leave me. I contemplated telling her but then felt it would just hurt her and his kids and ruin their lives and I would feel horrible. He has the commitment to her I don't. I never said what we did isnt hurting her. But to this day she knows nothing about it and I couldve taken revenge and told her but cared about not hurting or breaking up a family. He pursued me and led me to believe their marriage was over. Lesson learned Ill never get with a supposedly "separated" man again. I never had before that nor since. But I have had men lie and say they were divorced when they weren't. Women like you are so quick to judge and blame other women rather than blame the man who said the vows to his wife in the first place. Also I never said I wasnt part of the problem. And it wasnt low self esteem that led me into a relationship with a married man. It was the connection we had and the belief he was leaving his wife. He always tries to come back and Ive told him no. But its still very painful since I fell for him. We arent the evil bad people with no morals or integrity. Very few women intentionally set out to destroy marriages or get men to cheat on their partners.
This video was very helpful, I am actually a gay man who is the "other woman" to a married man, who is still married to his wife. I have never been so in love and yet so destroyed mentally, emotionally and physically from the affair. So many hours spent waiting around, watching over your shoulder, and worse knowing that you can never trust them because the reason they can see you is that they lie all the time. It is truly an addictive relationship, every time I try to leave, he calls me and I end up back in it all over again. The problem I am finding is that he is a good man doing a bad thing, and worse if I leave what would I feel if he moved on and left his wife and ended up with someone else because I couldn't be patient... So yes nothing is ever simple in life
Hi Michael, Thankyou so much for sharing. You are not alone in this. There are other gay men in relationships with married men in this community that I have spoken to. If you are open to connecting 1-1 I would love to hear more about your experience and how we can best support you (and other gay men in affairs) as it's so challenging to find any support out there in these types of situations. Here's my calendar link if you are open to connecting. calendly.com/katelondon/call
Please turn your life over to Jesus Christ. Salvation is a matter of repentance and calling on the name of Jesus. Receiving Christ into your heart. Check out Becket Cooke testimony on how the Lord delivered him from gay lifestyle. It's remarkable. Love you, brother. I am praying for you. Jesus loves you even more and has a beautiful plan, beautiful life for you.
I’m sure he love bombed you, told you all his secrets, made you feel no one else existed on the planet, he made you feel sorry for him with his stories, the pain you feel is real. Men rarely ever leave their wives, if he was serious about leaving he would and nothing would stop him. If it ever happens he will move on to someone else. Don’t waste your time.
@@danilaroche1156 I hear your heart and agree 100 % but please know my adulterous affair is just as damaging and sinful as his sexuality. We both need Christ. It's not easy but we need to choose take up our cross every day
Try to exercise, positive things. These married people are chronic liars and cheaters. We all have to move on. Cut it off. They will never loose their security.
That quote doesn’t really fit (be careful of anything that has a never…cognitive distortion lens)…for some things. I don’t want to have others see me go to the bathroom, or have sex, or throw up, etc… so those things I don’t want seen. Doesn’t mean they are “wrong”. Part of the reasons cliches and quotes, used globally, can fail.
Sorry to those that are deeply effected by the "actions of the Other Woman". When you're in love, nothing else matters. Falling in love is unexplainable. Have you ever considered maybe, you're bitter that you've never experienced selfless love? . Instead being upset about your past trauma - why not focus on the positives? We all are humans at the end of the day, not God lol. Learn to be happy for others without judgement. Live & Let Live. 💞🐼We all just want love.
@@DeeMBee123agreed people love to use the word lust but this toxic attachment to unavailable men isn't love at all,someone who has low self worth and barely loves themselves how can they love an unavailable man it's lust on both sides not love
No disrespect but sometimes the brain can confuse lust with love...love is that soulmate grandparents who stay together until 90 and die from heartbreak when the other partner dies that's love,our generation is driven by lust and self gratification that's why most of the time the mistress could care less about the damage done to these people's children
Thank you very much for the video. I was not on an affair with a married man but in my stomach I was having butterflies for almost 8 months, just like a teenager but I am 34. Still not sure was it lust or I just fell in love with this guy's great character.
@Fritz722, Exactly true! Well said. Don’t choose Attraction but you certainly chose your response. I hate that people say they “fell in love” . No, they choose to turn away from their spouse to another outside their marriage deliberately Investing in another when should be putting all, building up their own relationship. Loving is a choice.
Falling in love is a CHOICE. Attraction is natural. You don’t *choose to be attracted to someone. You either are or you aren’t. You make the *choice to take the attraction further. I have no sympathy for any OW (or OM). She is NOT a victim! She took part in the destruction of a marriage and family. He was never hers to begin with! She was bait from the enemy and they both fell for it. I understand that if it wasn’t her, then it would’ve been somebody else. But don’t be a participant. You have that choice!
I feel the same and then I be thinkin, I didn’t know my husband was a cheater and this way and then I thank the mistress in my head for saving me and my children. It’s been 3 years and he still with that hoe. Guess he can’t find anyone else so he stuck with her.😅
Kate i have just found your channel. I have a story to tell.I was very young. Over 43 years ago. However the lessons and affect that relationship had on me is still with me now at 61.I was 17 he was 24.i was single. He was " separated ".
@janefriel6895 Hi Jane, it's lovely to connect with you here. If you would like to share more about your story I would love to hear more about what you went through. My email is kate@katelondon.com.au
I am past the affair and divorce and his marriage to the young woman. She was 19 he was 53. My son one day asked where his father was and she said at a neighbors house (single woman) fixing something. He asked how long has he been gone she said a few hours. My son said it doesnt take a few hours to fix a door knob. He maybe cheating. She giggled and looked him square in the eyes and said Your father will never cheat ON me he likes me to much!😮 I understand common sense is not so common.
I have no sympathy for the other woman. She is not a victim. If you know a man is married and still sleep with him you are not a victim. My father cheated with a willing other woman and it destroyed our family. Yes my father is at fault- but the truth is that if it wasn’t the other woman it was it would have been another- it didn’t have to be the woman it was SHE HAD A CHOICE.
I am sorry for that but maybe you should recognize that your father allowed it, even pursued it. She is no victim but he is worse because he had every opportunity to stop it before it escalated by placing more value on his family and vows instead of his pleasure. People who are prone to seek immediate pleasure are not the love types. They just want the image of family and fear being alone.
@@matinaki1644 Both people involved in an affair have 50% of the culpability. The A.P. is HALF the equation. You sound like the typical mistress trying to shirk responsibility. 💕
I'm confused by your comment. Are you talking about a man you are married to, and he is liking social media posts from an affair partner? Or you're the mistress and he is liking his wife's posts?
No sympathy. Her actions were deplorable and so was the husband's. When her own son wanted to call her a monster, that should have indicated the relationship that was most important. There are too many men in the world to begin a relationship with one who is already married.
This lady is really not coming full circle yet with the pain she causes, as the person that was betrayed there are noticeable effects on the relationship. There is lying, gaslighting, and removal of intimacy. To think that you can remove the two is absurd and I wonder why she wasn't challenged more, what an absolute waste of time.
Hi Elizabeth, you can book a connection call with me here: calendly.com/katelondon/call You can find out more about my services on my website katelondon.com.au/
The "other" person has to be okay with ending the affair. The married person is not going to end their marriage. Break up with the married person just like you break any bad relationship. Stop seeing them and try to met someone better (available).
1. Go no contact. 2. If you work together, change jobs or departments. 3. Don’t seek the A.P. out - avoid them as much as possible. 4. No personal ‘chit chat.’ 5. No being ALONE together in ANY context. Lunch out? No thank you - you’re better off starving that day! 6. Block / Delete apps you two used. 7. Close down any email account you used. 8. Delete him out of your phone. That includes all of his lovey dovey texts that you want to cling onto. Remember he is first and foremost a LIAR. Stop lying to yourself and do what it takes to cut this off for good. 9. Write a list of all the reasons he isn’t the one for you. Read it whenever you miss him & feel weak. 10. Start new activities to keep yourself distracted. Adopt a new pet. Join a gym or make some friends at a new church. 11. Don’t dwell forever on the memories and ‘hopeium.’ Grieve & be done with it. 12. Trash all the gifts he gave you. Sell the pricey stuff for cash. 13. DON’T answer his desperate bids for connection. Do not pick up the phone. Don’t respond to his messages. 14. Know that ‘closure’ doesn’t exist. Resist the urge to have the ‘last talk’ (unless you want to start things up again.) 15. Remember it was never personal. He was just using you to make himself feel better. 💕
One thing about these relationships - the wife likely really knows about the relationship if it is long term. How could you not put 2 and 2 together after years of clues? Many wives look the other way, and do not bring it up, and are in fact are ok with the man having his own extracurricular activities (she may have actually done the same at some point in her life). Such relationships are very common in wealthy families (where the many can easily afford to have more than one woman), yet no one really discusses these things openly.
@@RosasResources - Certainly not blaming the wife at all. But, lets understand the reality of these relationships. Often the wife knows and is not opposed to them.
@@TM-tw1pyagree. The mind set of the stay at home wife, kids flew the nest already. She has no job other than cleaning the house, cooks. She looks the other way bc she is used to her easy way of life. Why upset everything and have to start over?
@@SaystheTruth3Cooking and cleaning are not easy. If the housework is done by his housekeeper, the same man will pay a salary for that work. But when the wife does the same housework for the same man, people say it's easy. Also, the unpaid wife is available to him sexually, unlike the housekeeper who gets paid.
There are no winners when you are the other it is only a losing side. Have you for one second stopped and thought about the agony you have put the woman that is supposed to be with her spouse partner????? You selfish human beings you are getting everything you deserve. When the money dries up it's not much fun anymore???? Did you stop and think about the consequences put on the children. Vengeance is mine says the Lord Jesus Amen
@Michelle - spewing this hate while speaking the name of Jesus … wtf ? … That is wrong .. Jesus isn’t about vengeance and hate … he is forgiveness & love 🙏
@jodaisy113 you had better wake up my dear. If you think for one minute that we as human can sin against someone else and get away with it you have another thing coming. I have been disciplined and everyone will have to face it in their lives. I am standing up for women that have had the wrong done to them . Unless you are reacting in such a way because you have done it to another woman and their family????
@@michellemazzon7981 … You are “standing up for women that have had the wrong done to them” ?? … Passing judgement and projecting pain onto me, (though you know nothing about me), is misguided self righteousness … I don’t practice religion .. but I am certainly a spiritual girl who now often thinks, “what would Jesus do” in any given situation ?? … I’ve no ill will towards you .. clearly you are in pain .. I too have been deeply betrayed in a long standing relationship … not dealing with the pain of his betrayal, and my insecurities eventually led me into a long distance emotional affair with a longtime close friend, separated from his spouse due to her infidelity … and for a time we believed we had found the perfect way to numb our pain thru each other’s … until we realized we was only hurting each other .. and I was inflicting more pain onto myself .. it was only then that I learned how healing comes by processing thru the grief .. and my greatest lesson thru the healing … is learning to love myself 💕
@@jodaisy113 ‘Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay," says the Lord. - Romans 12:19
Most people think that the "other women" are a bad women... no one thinks that these women are humans with feelings that just felt in love with the wrong person , and they are suffering from being the other women too ,thats why the other women have no one to talk to about what they are going through because every one will judj them and tears them apart, so thank you for this conversation ladies , it s ease the heart and put you in the right track its explains everything, and for any woman who will bash other woman for that always remember that shit happens in life and its could be you one day you are just have not been in that situation and circumstances that these women faced
The other woman in my case knew he was married for over forty years, but chased after him non stop until he relented willingly. She terrorized me, got him drunk and stoned, then would get him so angry at me and send him home to beat me, I with cancer and chemo and loosing my mother. So in my case the other woman was the devil herself. My husband on the other hand was as evil as they come.
They are bad women because they crossed a line with a married man. The wives are humans with feelings you did not care about so when people have no empathy for the other woman it is the mirror she’s looking into
@@DeeMBee123you're wrong that we don't care about the wife and her feelings. Most of us feel awful and try to end it over and over. But trust me I feel awful which is why I've never told his wife even when I wanted to because I wanted her to leave him so I could have him I still would not hurt her by telling her. I didn't want to hurt his wife or kids so I just suffered alone in silence.
@@SusieQ1971 when you found out he was married you continued to do what you wanted. You did not think of the wife. You have low self esteem and decided that being #2 was more important than having empathy and integrity. If you can’t accept that you were part of the problem you will never heal.
Answer this question - if you didn’t want to hurt the wife then how in the world did you sleep with him in the first place? You think having sex with someone’s husband is acceptable and doesn’t hurt the wife but telling them the truth does? Does that not sound like effed up thinking?
The saddest thing to me is that you all know that if you told the wife the married man would dump you so fast and tend to the woman he wanted all along. That’s why you don’t tell the wife because you know you’d be faced with the reality that you won’t ever be chosen…. You’ll be settled for. Men show off what they are proud of. They show the car, the house, the wife and family, the job.
But the other woman is hidden away. Why do you think that is so?
@@DeeMBee123For someone whos never met me you sure make a lot of assumptions and allegations as to what I feel and am thinking, and none of your comments are helpful they are simply condeming and judgmental. This channel is for helping women like us not condemning them. Women who need help dont seek help because of people like you. When I met him he was filing for divorce, that is what he told me. I didn't purposefully seek out a married man and seduce him. There is far more to the story but I didnt refrain from telling his wife out of fear I would lose him, thats an assumption youre making. I didnt want to destroy his family. He decided to work things out with her and get back with her and dumped me to do so. So telling her would not have caused him to leave me. I contemplated telling her but then felt it would just hurt her and his kids and ruin their lives and I would feel horrible. He has the commitment to her I don't. I never said what we did isnt hurting her. But to this day she knows nothing about it and I couldve taken revenge and told her but cared about not hurting or breaking up a family. He pursued me and led me to believe their marriage was over. Lesson learned Ill never get with a supposedly "separated" man again. I never had before that nor since. But I have had men lie and say they were divorced when they weren't. Women like you are so quick to judge and blame other women rather than blame the man who said the vows to his wife in the first place. Also I never said I wasnt part of the problem. And it wasnt low self esteem that led me into a relationship with a married man. It was the connection we had and the belief he was leaving his wife. He always tries to come back and Ive told him no. But its still very painful since I fell for him. We arent the evil bad people with no morals or integrity. Very few women intentionally set out to destroy marriages or get men to cheat on their partners.
This video was very helpful, I am actually a gay man who is the "other woman" to a married man, who is still married to his wife. I have never been so in love and yet so destroyed mentally, emotionally and physically from the affair. So many hours spent waiting around, watching over your shoulder, and worse knowing that you can never trust them because the reason they can see you is that they lie all the time. It is truly an addictive relationship, every time I try to leave, he calls me and I end up back in it all over again. The problem I am finding is that he is a good man doing a bad thing, and worse if I leave what would I feel if he moved on and left his wife and ended up with someone else because I couldn't be patient... So yes nothing is ever simple in life
Hi Michael, Thankyou so much for sharing. You are not alone in this. There are other gay men in relationships with married men in this community that I have spoken to. If you are open to connecting 1-1 I would love to hear more about your experience and how we can best support you (and other gay men in affairs) as it's so challenging to find any support out there in these types of situations. Here's my calendar link if you are open to connecting. calendly.com/katelondon/call
Please turn your life over to Jesus Christ. Salvation is a matter of repentance and calling on the name of Jesus. Receiving Christ into your heart. Check out Becket Cooke testimony on how the Lord delivered him from gay lifestyle. It's remarkable. Love you, brother. I am praying for you. Jesus loves you even more and has a beautiful plan, beautiful life for you.
I’m sure he love bombed you, told you all his secrets, made you feel no one else existed on the planet, he made you feel sorry for him with his stories, the pain you feel is real. Men rarely ever leave their wives, if he was serious about leaving he would and nothing would stop him. If it ever happens he will move on to someone else. Don’t waste your time.
@@danilaroche1156 I hear your heart and agree 100 % but please know my adulterous affair is just as damaging and sinful as his sexuality. We both need Christ. It's not easy but we need to choose take up our cross every day
Try to exercise, positive things.
These married people are chronic liars and cheaters. We all have to move on. Cut it off. They will never loose their security.
Mother said “Never do in the Dark that you don’t want seen in the Light!
Yess! Incredible quote! Thank you for sharing!
That quote doesn’t really fit (be careful of anything that has a never…cognitive distortion lens)…for some things.
I don’t want to have others see me go to the bathroom, or have sex, or throw up, etc… so those things I don’t want seen. Doesn’t mean they are “wrong”.
Part of the reasons cliches and quotes, used globally, can fail.
There is nothing hidden that won’t be revealed, and there is nothing secret that won’t become known and come to light. - Luke 8:17
Sorry to those that are deeply effected by the "actions of the Other Woman". When you're in love, nothing else matters. Falling in love is unexplainable. Have you ever considered maybe, you're bitter that you've never experienced selfless love? . Instead being upset about your past trauma - why not focus on the positives? We all are humans at the end of the day, not God lol.
Learn to be happy for others without judgement. Live & Let Live. 💞🐼We all just want love.
It’s not actually love though.
@@DeeMBee123agreed people love to use the word lust but this toxic attachment to unavailable men isn't love at all,someone who has low self worth and barely loves themselves how can they love an unavailable man it's lust on both sides not love
No disrespect but sometimes the brain can confuse lust with love...love is that soulmate grandparents who stay together until 90 and die from heartbreak when the other partner dies that's love,our generation is driven by lust and self gratification that's why most of the time the mistress could care less about the damage done to these people's children
And if it's love is selfish love not selfless love
Selfless? 😂
Thank you very much for the video. I was not on an affair with a married man but in my stomach I was having butterflies for almost 8 months, just like a teenager but I am 34. Still not sure was it lust or I just fell in love with this guy's great character.
@Fritz722, Exactly true! Well said. Don’t choose Attraction but you certainly chose your response. I hate that people say they “fell in love” . No, they choose to turn away from their spouse to another outside their marriage deliberately Investing in another when should be putting all, building up their own relationship. Loving is a choice.
Powerful testimony. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and lessons and for your work for empowering women. 💗
Thanks @dm It was our pleasure to be here for you all💕
Thank you d m 🙏.
This is so good and so true.Thank you for sharing🙏
Thankyou @candacemoore3310 🤍
What a great video, it helped me heaps
Thanks Theresa. I’m so glad to hear that it helped you🙏
Falling in love is a CHOICE. Attraction is natural. You don’t *choose to be attracted to someone. You either are or you aren’t. You make the *choice to take the attraction further. I have no sympathy for any OW (or OM). She is NOT a victim! She took part in the destruction of a marriage and family. He was never hers to begin with! She was bait from the enemy and they both fell for it. I understand that if it wasn’t her, then it would’ve been somebody else. But don’t be a participant. You have that choice!
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I feel the same and then I be thinkin, I didn’t know my husband was a cheater and this way and then I thank the mistress in my head for saving me and my children. It’s been 3 years and he still with that hoe. Guess he can’t find anyone else so he stuck with her.😅
Remind yourself how amazing you are! ❤ This made me tear up.
Thankyou Hershey Concepcion. It means so much to me that you are finding value and support here ❤️
Kate i have just found your channel. I have a story to tell.I was very young. Over 43 years ago. However the lessons and affect that relationship had on me is still with me now at 61.I was 17 he was 24.i was single. He was " separated ".
@janefriel6895 Hi Jane, it's lovely to connect with you here. If you would like to share more about your story I would love to hear more about what you went through. My email is kate@katelondon.com.au
The chocolate cake analogy. Exactly.
I am past the affair and divorce and his marriage to the young woman. She was 19 he was 53. My son one day asked where his father was and she said at a neighbors house (single woman) fixing something. He asked how long has he been gone she said a few hours. My son said it doesnt take a few hours to fix a door knob. He maybe cheating. She giggled and looked him square in the eyes and said Your father will never cheat ON me he likes me to much!😮 I understand common sense is not so common.
I have no sympathy for the other woman. She is not a victim. If you know a man is married and still sleep with him you are not a victim. My father cheated with a willing other woman and it destroyed our family. Yes my father is at fault- but the truth is that if it wasn’t the other woman it was it would have been another- it didn’t have to be the woman it was SHE HAD A CHOICE.
I’m sorry you had to witness that as a child.
I am sorry for that but maybe you should recognize that your father allowed it, even pursued it. She is no victim but he is worse because he had every opportunity to stop it before it escalated by placing more value on his family and vows instead of his pleasure. People who are prone to seek immediate pleasure are not the love types. They just want the image of family and fear being alone.
In many cases, the male has been cheating since before the marriage took place.
@@matinaki1644
Both people involved in an affair have 50% of the culpability.
The A.P. is HALF the equation.
You sound like the typical mistress trying to shirk responsibility.
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@@Lauren-i8i and you sound like the scorned wife who puts the blame on an irrelevant woman whom her husband has made relevant 😂
Thank you very much...love from India
Thankyou @sumaiyakhan9368 💕 ❤️
He still likes her Facebook posts- and she thinks that’s a badge of honor and legitimizes what she did.
I'm confused by your comment. Are you talking about a man you are married to, and he is liking social media posts from an affair partner? Or you're the mistress and he is liking his wife's posts?
@@Nicana68she is talking about what she just watched.
I am talking about the video above @capdan7512
No sympathy. Her actions were deplorable and so was the husband's. When her own son wanted to call her a monster, that should have indicated the relationship that was most important. There are too many men in the world to begin a relationship with one who is already married.
I knooooow right. That lady still dumb and said she would probably do it again and that she doesn’t know.
This lady is really not coming full circle yet with the pain she causes, as the person that was betrayed there are noticeable effects on the relationship. There is lying, gaslighting, and removal of intimacy. To think that you can remove the two is absurd and I wonder why she wasn't challenged more, what an absolute waste of time.
How do I reach out to you privately??
Hi Elizabeth, you can book a connection call with me here: calendly.com/katelondon/call
You can find out more about my services on my website katelondon.com.au/
How do you end it if your person isn’t ok with ending the relationship?
The "other" person has to be okay with ending the affair. The married person is not going to end their marriage. Break up with the married person just like you break any bad relationship. Stop seeing them and try to met someone better (available).
1. Go no contact.
2. If you work together, change jobs or departments.
3. Don’t seek the A.P. out - avoid them as much as possible.
4. No personal ‘chit chat.’
5. No being ALONE together in ANY context. Lunch out? No thank you - you’re better off starving that day!
6. Block / Delete apps you two used.
7. Close down any email account you used.
8. Delete him out of your phone.
That includes all of his lovey dovey texts that you want to cling onto.
Remember he is first and foremost a LIAR.
Stop lying to yourself and do what it takes to cut this off for good.
9. Write a list of all the reasons he isn’t the one for you. Read it whenever you miss him & feel weak.
10. Start new activities to keep yourself distracted.
Adopt a new pet.
Join a gym or make some friends at a new church.
11. Don’t dwell forever on the memories and ‘hopeium.’ Grieve & be done with it.
12. Trash all the gifts he gave you.
Sell the pricey stuff for cash.
13. DON’T answer his desperate bids for connection.
Do not pick up the phone.
Don’t respond to his messages.
14. Know that ‘closure’ doesn’t exist. Resist the urge to have the ‘last talk’ (unless you want to start things up again.)
15. Remember it was never personal.
He was just using you to make himself feel better.
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One thing about these relationships - the wife likely really knows about the relationship if it is long term. How could you not put 2 and 2 together after years of clues? Many wives look the other way, and do not bring it up, and are in fact are ok with the man having his own extracurricular activities (she may have actually done the same at some point in her life). Such relationships are very common in wealthy families (where the many can easily afford to have more than one woman), yet no one really discusses these things openly.
Why are you blaming the wife? Something wives don't know about the affair until the end of the relationship.
@@RosasResources - Certainly not blaming the wife at all. But, lets understand the reality of these relationships. Often the wife knows and is not opposed to them.
@@TM-tw1pyagree. The mind set of the stay at home wife, kids flew the nest already. She has no job other than cleaning the house, cooks. She looks the other way bc she is used to her easy way of life. Why upset everything and have to start over?
@@SaystheTruth3Cooking and cleaning are not easy. If the housework is done by his housekeeper, the same man will pay a salary for that work. But when the wife does the same housework for the same man, people say it's easy. Also, the unpaid wife is available to him sexually, unlike the housekeeper who gets paid.
@@TM-tw1pyWhere did you get your data? This sounds like your own personal opinion.
Thank you so much.
There are no winners when you are the other it is only a losing side. Have you for one second stopped and thought about the agony you have put the woman that is supposed to be with her spouse partner????? You selfish human beings you are getting everything you deserve. When the money dries up it's not much fun anymore???? Did you stop and think about the consequences put on the children. Vengeance is mine says the Lord Jesus Amen
@Michelle - spewing this hate while speaking the name of Jesus … wtf ? … That is wrong .. Jesus isn’t about vengeance and hate … he is forgiveness & love 🙏
@jodaisy113 you had better wake up my dear. If you think for one minute that we as human can sin against someone else and get away with it you have another thing coming. I have been disciplined and everyone will have to face it in their lives. I am standing up for women that have had the wrong done to them . Unless you are reacting in such a way because you have done it to another woman and their family????
@@michellemazzon7981 … You are “standing up for women that have had the wrong done to them” ?? …
Passing judgement and projecting pain onto me, (though you know nothing about me), is misguided self righteousness … I don’t practice religion .. but I am certainly a spiritual girl who now often thinks, “what would Jesus do” in any given situation ?? …
I’ve no ill will towards you .. clearly you are in pain .. I too have been deeply betrayed in a long standing relationship … not dealing with the pain of his betrayal, and my insecurities eventually led me into a long distance emotional affair with a longtime close friend, separated from his spouse due to her infidelity … and for a time we believed we had found the perfect way to numb our pain thru each other’s … until we realized we was only hurting each other .. and I was inflicting more pain onto myself .. it was only then that I learned how healing comes by processing thru the grief .. and my greatest lesson thru the healing … is learning to love myself 💕
Women typically leave their husbands when the money dries up.
@@jodaisy113 ‘Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay," says the Lord. - Romans 12:19